Dr. John Delony

I hope to God he's not your role model.

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Let's go out to Philadelphia and talk to B-I-double-L.

What's up, Bill?

How are you, Dr. John?

I'm good, brother.

How are you, man?

Um, I think you have to get to the motivation behind what you're seeking.

I hope to God he's not your role model.

There you go.

And that's my point is often we have this feeling, this sense that we're going to have this big confrontation.

You've probably dressed a hearse to this conversation a thousand times, probably 10,000 times.

gonna say this he's gonna bow his head and be like i'm so sorry and you're gonna like be heard and be said there's gonna be this cathartic moment for both of you and then it will clear the deck for this future relationship almost zero percent chance that happens yeah and so then you have to ask yourself have i grieved the fact that i anchored into a man who was not who he said he was

And deal with the onion that is layer by layer what I anchored into was never real in the first place.

Or parts of it were real.