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Chapter 1: Why do I compare myself to other men?
No.
And I can give more context.
No. Okay. I can tell by your call. You don't want to. Why don't you want to... Forget the money part. You don't want to live by them. I could tell by how you asked that question.
I feel like there's so much that goes into it. But basically, my husband and I have been married for a couple of years. We want to start a family soon. And we like the area that we're in now. But my family is hundreds of miles away in a higher cost living area that we don't necessarily like as much. But we would have so much more help with kids. And so...
It's just a lot because I don't know if it's better for me to sacrifice my own time so I would have to work more so I could afford it. But I also just hear constantly how difficult it is. And so it's just been going on in my mind. And my husband has the same thoughts of not knowing what's best for our family.
Okay. You've made this about money, but I don't think it is.
Yeah, I think it goes beyond that.
Tell me about the great beyond.
Um, I don't know. I think I love the area that I'm in again, but. Stop.
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Chapter 2: What struggles has Chris faced with mental health?
Yeah. I mean, it's not having kids that ruins marriages. It's a lack of intentionality. And honestly, loneliness is tough. So tell me about your friends and where you live right now.
Yeah, so we've been here for a couple of years. And I would say we've made a ton of effort to make really great friends. And we do have a good community down here.
Do you have a community? So here's the thing I saw in real time. I've heard about this, but I saw it and it was amazing. When my wife got pregnant with Hank, she texted three of her friends, three amazing women who already had kids. And she said, I'm going to text y'all at 2 a.m., 8 a.m., whenever. Y'all are like my help me outs. Y'all are my come overs any times.
And I'm telling you what, they were amazing.
and like they would show up they would take the kid they would do all like it was about intentionality yeah and so i got to see that ringside that was pretty amazing it was less so when josephine came around because there weren't all those like how do we do this questions or is this rational kind of questions um and it was it was more challenging because i think it was less about the question answering and more about you've heard me say this a million times like um
The idea that a woman's supposed to come home from the hospital and just sit at her house for two months or four months or six months or forever if she chooses to stay at home all alone by herself is insane, right? And not sleep and not eat and not have human contact. Like that's madness. We just made that up here in this culture and it's insane.
And so finding people intentionally that you're going to be around – I think it just comes down to intentionality and you choosing to go be weird.
Okay. Okay. Yeah, because I feel like I've heard from you a couple of times, like a woman shouldn't be alone with a crying baby. And to me, I'm like, oh, well, I don't have my family here to help me. But it doesn't have to be family. You can be other people. But I think it's hard for me to ask for help. That's what I was going to ask you. Yeah.
It's like my family's the one group of people where I don't care what I'm asking them. Cause I, I know I would do anything for them, but I also would do anything for my friends here too. So I just need to get past that.
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