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Chapter 1: What should we consider when choosing between homeschooling and public school?
I'm trying to figure out how my wife and I can agree on whether or not to homeschool our son. He's two right now, and the reason we're talking about this is because it will determine whether he goes to preschool or not.
We can talk about the merits and all that of homeschooling versus public school and private school. We can talk about all that, but... What in the world is going on? This is John with the Dr. John Deloney Show. man, I hope you're doing well. Talking about your relationships, your mental and emotional health. I hope, I hope you're doing well. And on this show, here's the deal.
Um, I hope you're doing well, but I know for many of us, just a tough season, man. And things are hard and things are up and they're down. And that's what this show is about. Sitting with people, trying to figure out what's the next right move. Um, I would love to have you on this show. So if you want to join us, man, give me a buzz at 1-844-693-3291 or go to johndeloney.com slash ask.
And I feel like I got to shout it out. There's this rad dude who came out in the lobby. It may be four degrees outside. It's February when we're recording this show. And he is just straight up like a gangster wearing cargo pants. Shorts. Cargo shorts the way Limp Bizkit designed them. Well done, my brother. Well done.
There's another guy here dressed respectable, like with a button-up shirt, like he has a job and everything. But homies got straight-up rocking cargos. And, dude, man after my own heart, I got some new origin pants that are like four sizes too big, and I feel like I'm back in high school again. And everything in the world is right, except for the way Kelly looks at me with disdain.
All right, let's go out to Manchester and talk to Ben. What's up, Ben? Hey, John. How are you? Dude, I'm doing great, brother.
How are you, man? Good. I want you to know that you do have friends in New Hampshire, and I am one of them.
Dude, I've got one in New Hampshire. That's fantastic. I used to teach high school geography, and I don't know that I could point out New Hampshire on the map. That's embarrassing, Kelly. See, she goes with her judgy face. I know it's up there. I know it's up that-a-way.
Yes. Yep, it is. And I also wanted to say thank you. I know you get a lot of generalized thank yous, but I want to thank you specifically for the Carlos Whitaker interview and for telling people that holding your newborn may be different than the way people say it should feel. And my wife and I now have a joke that I've loved my son since
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Chapter 2: How can parents navigate differing opinions on education?
Yeah, it's kind of both. I feel like I am a good dad.
I feel like I do the things that I... You go through the motions in an amazing way for someone who's been through what you've been through. Thank you. But I think it's what – I think – is it Brene Brown also? She said the sucky thing about like psychotropic medication is that joy and pain are on the same switch. That's a scary thought. It is.
That's what – I can turn your hurt off, but I'm going to turn off the highs too. I'm going to turn off the good stuff. I'm going to turn off the – We're not having sex. We're just sitting by my wife watching TV, and we watch an old episode of Matlock, and it's super lame. And my heart rate just goes down another 10 beats a minute because I'm at peace. It's joy, right? Yeah.
It's getting fired and being pissed off or being frustrated, but not thinking I'm a pathetic loser. And see, I told you so. I think the path forward, brother, is A, don't beat yourself up for looking at a three and a one-year-old and being like, ugh. You're not crazy. That's a hard season. That's a house that's messy. Yes, it is a mess.
If connection has been purely through sex, which is very common for guys in your situation, of course that diminishes a lot with two kids under three running around the house. If you are now opening up your eyes and it's kind of like in retrospect and you're feeling and seeing, oh, I haven't really felt anything for a long time. I'm great at going through the motions.
The practice for you and your counselor is not just to sit there and talk about and talk about and talk about what happened. But I want to begin to practice feeling good stuff, anxious stuff, scary stuff, bad stuff. Here's some ways you do that. It's stuff I talk about on the show a lot, but I don't go into all the clinical detail just because I don't want to bore people.
But that's why I have people write a letter and read it to somebody else. Because I want you to feel that stuff that's still there. That's why I want people to have somebody they can call and say, hey, I just got promoted. And there's nowhere in our modern ecology that allows us to share good news. Because everyone goes, oh, it must be nice.
Or, oh, it's just because of, and they insert some privileged position or whatever. There's no place to celebrate. Yeah. But for you, you're going to have to tiptoe your body into being able to feel again. Because it knows. Dude. We buried our mom when we were 11. And I don't ever want to feel that again. And I don't know, dude, kids have a very refining fire way of seeing right through you.
But I would sit down with you. I think the place to start would be to sit down with the therapist. I'm so proud of you for going, man. But to sit down and begin to practice, I want to begin walking towards how do I feel stuff? And there will be a mindful practice there. I'm going to send you my book, Building a Non-Anxious Life, just as a gift. This isn't about anxiety, but it is about presence.
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