Heidi
Appearances
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
Hi. You know, a lot of people, when they got on here, say they can't believe it's real until they see you. And I never understood that until this exact moment. I was convinced that some hacker named Emma really had me fooled for 48 hours.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
No, we don't want a fake name. I've actually gone back and forth with that a lot for the last 24 hours. I have faith that my armchair community is not going to throw me under the bus because I don't think my mother-in-law is aware of podcasts. Okay.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
I, last year, was very pregnant. I gave birth in January of this year.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
Oh, thank you. This is my husband and I's first baby. Baby boy, born in January. We were doing great as new parents who knew nothing of what they were doing.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
My only complaint was that I am a very type A person and I hadn't slept in a while. And so it was about a week after giving birth. And I noticed that my mother-in-law, who is usually very active on social media, hadn't posted anything about the baby being born. And I should have just let it go. Not a big deal at social media.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
But there was some little person inside of me saying, we need to investigate. So... I talked to my husband and he gave her a call. So both sets of parents, we were lucky enough to have them at the hospital when the baby was born.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
And he had mentioned to everyone who are loving to take a lot of photos with their cell phone cameras, like, please don't post anything on social media until we've had a chance to tell our friends and family. So that way they're not finding out on Facebook that he's been born. So again, it had been over a week at this point. And so when he called to check in about why she hadn't posted, she said...
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
Well, like I know you had said at the hospital that this was something that you didn't want us doing. And I just feel like I've been put in Facebook jail. And my husband was like, well, I'm so sorry for the miscommunication. We really just meant like the first 24 hours. Please, this is your debut to let everyone know that you have a grandbaby. You know, got off the phone, told me about that.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
I had honestly kind of forgotten about it. And later that evening, my husband encouraged me to like go take a nap. That first week you are awake with them, like, especially as the mom feeding every two hours schedule. And so I had not gotten more than, I'm not exaggerating, probably 45 minutes of sleep at a time for like that full week.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
And so he was like, we've got milk stored up, go put on one of your podcasts, go to sleep. So I wake up two hours later, I had put my phone on airplane mode so that no one could wake me up. I was like, I'm going to mentally rest. And I wake up, I turn it off like airplane mode.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
texts and missed calls from my sister and my best friend saying, Heidi, I don't know how to tell you this, but your mother-in-law has posted a topless photo of you on her Facebook.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
Was like, Shirley, this is a nightmare. This is like, I'm hallucinating. Like I officially lost the amount of sleep where like I am crossed over to the other side. So I run downstairs and I tell my husband, she didn't mean to do this, but this is the situation that we're in. Please call her. Please have her take this down immediately. And I was like, and don't tell her that I know about it.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
I don't want to embarrass her. Honestly, at this point, I was very calm about everything. Like we all make mistakes. I was feeling very maternal about the whole thing. And so he calls and lets her know, we love the photos you've posted. Unfortunately, you slipped one in there. It was one of those nice video montages that your Apple phone will like create for you.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
And the second slide with really nice classical music to it was just me completely bare breast. Oh, God. I was a double A before this experience. I am now like a triple D. It's insane. My nipples were massive. And this wasn't like a tasteful nude that was something that I would be proud to show my husband's friends and family.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
This was like I'm staring off into the abyss looking like I have questioned every life decision at this point and exhausted. No makeup, hair a mess. I don't even recognize myself. And her response is, there's no way I've done that. And he's like, no, you did. And I need you to go on Facebook right now and take it down. So hangs up the phone.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
I'm like refreshing her page over and over and over again. And sure enough, 30 seconds later, it's gone. And again, it's funny at this point, we all make mistakes. And she ends up calling back five minutes later, I'm assuming to apologize. And when my Like, I can't believe I'm being censored like this. Oh, my God.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
He's starting to get defensive, like on my behalf. I'm starting to get angry. And then the line, look, I'm going to be honest. I've sent that video to all of my friends and all of our family, and no one has said anything about it. And in my head, I'm like, well, of course they haven't said anything about it. They're trying to figure out how to tell you what they've just seen.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
So in my head, I'm just picturing like my husband's uncle sitting there opening up this lovely video of the new baby in the family. And it's just, there's Heidi. He ended up hanging up. I wish I could say that there was like some sort of resolution. I don't think she knows. I even know that this happened to this day. We had no apology in true mom fashion. Yeah. But it did get taken down.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
I can laugh about it now. And knowing that it brought me to you guys, it makes the pill a little easier.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
I think that that is what was triggering for me, too, because your autonomy when you have a baby, my body wasn't my own. I didn't recognize myself. The one thing I could hold on to is that there were some intimate parts of myself that only I knew.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
The video also, I wish I could say that it was cinematic genius, but it was a lot of blurry photos. Like I wish that one was just a little blurrier, but that one was Chris.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
Thank you all so much for having me. I can't tell you how much this means to me. I have been an armchairie since literally day one. Very sim. But I happened to hear about what a podcast was the same week that you all launched. Oh, my God.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
And so I decided I would try and give yours a chance. And I've listened to every single episode since.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
And I was wondering, is it okay if I show you?
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
This is Giovanni. He turned nine months yesterday. Oh, happy birthday.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
He's a chunky guy. He's nine months. These are 18-month clothes.
Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard
Armchair Anonymous: Mother-in-Law
But I also wanted to tell you in true Sim fashion, it was really, really funny to get the email from Emma because I also got an invitation this evening to drive up to D.C., and meet Auntie Anne of Auntie Anne's Pretzels. Oh, something is weird in my simulation.
Dark Valley
Chapter 15 | Megan's Story
Mrs. Korber, I don't know if that's the way I should start this, but I don't want to say, dear journal, dear Abby, or whatever. And this is no diary.
Dark Valley
Chapter 15 | Megan's Story
March 2nd, 1984. I'm listening to the radio right now. The top 40, in fact. Now they're playing the number one song, 99 Red Balloons. Gosh, I've learned so many new songs today.
Dark Valley
Chapter 15 | Megan's Story
Miss Korber, you've got to help me. I'm so confused. I got another note from Mark. What am I going to do? I wish I was the type of person who could just say, bug off, but I can't do that.
Dark Valley
Chapter 15 | Megan's Story
Whenever I talk with you, I'm always afraid I'll say the wrong thing and you might get the wrong idea. You may think I'm quite strange. I'm really sorry I bothered you.
Dark Valley
Chapter 15 | Megan's Story
The reason I had come in was to ask you something else. It had to do with the comment you wrote last time, which read... Anything you have to say is important to me. My question is, why? Why is anything I say important to you? I'm just some stupid kid that's in your four to five period English class and will occasionally come in after school to talk with you.
Dark Valley
Chapter 15 | Megan's Story
I now know that you're not bothered by my presence, but I can't understand why anything I say could possibly matter to you. It's not as if I have connections with the president or anything. I hope you don't mind me asking, but I'd really like to know.
Dark Valley
Chapter 15 | Megan's Story
May 7th, 1984. Miss Korver. I didn't know how to say it during third period, and I'm really not sure how to write it now. I guess it's that I just feel so bad about what I've done and what I'm doing to you and everyone else, but most importantly, you. May 8th, 1984. I couldn't get sleep at all last night, the reason, you will think, was that of a youngster, not someone worthy of the age 16.
Dark Valley
Chapter 15 | Megan's Story
Yesterday you asked me if things hadn't been going well as of late, and I'm like, as of late, nothing ever goes well. But it's just that now it's all starting to get to me. I don't know how much more I can take. I still feel really bad, and even more so now about skipping English.
Dark Valley
Chapter 15 | Megan's Story
I can't believe I did that, but I guess in a way I can, because I've been doing a lot of other strange things since getting back from vacation. I really am truly sorry, but even saying sorry or writing it thousands of times would never release even half of the guilt I feel. Last night, I desperately tried to get some sleep, but because I was thinking of this, I could not.
Dark Valley
Chapter 15 | Megan's Story
You know, if I was you, I would never speak to me again. But you do, and that confuses me. I'm also sorry about how bad I've been doing in your class. I don't know what's wrong. I just, I don't know. Just when I thought things were getting as bad as they could get, they got worse. Snowy, the one I've been taking care of for the past week, died.
Dark Valley
Chapter 15 | Megan's Story
I really felt bad about it, but I suppose I should have known it would happen. Everything I love dies. Strawberry, Molly, and a friend. Kelly are dead because I loved them. Last night I was thinking of this and I became afraid for you. What if something bad happens to you? What if something did happen to you? How would I ever be able to live with myself knowing that in part I was the cause?
Dark Valley
Chapter 15 | Megan's Story
Sunday before work, I was sitting under a covered bridge a mile from my house. I don't know what happened to me. I found myself thinking, I could just walk across that rock. Then, just like the guys in the movies, I could take in a large breath, and in a matter of seconds, it would be over. I even stood up as though I was going to. I was so scared. I don't even understand myself anymore.
Dark Valley
Chapter 15 | Megan's Story
The only thing I can use to hold myself together is to keep saying to myself that I've only got two years left, just two years. One question, what is life? Are we just living to die? What is the purpose of all this? What is the purpose? Love always.
Dark Valley
Chapter 15 | Megan's Story
You may say you're twice my age, and maybe in reality you are, but as in physical appearance and ability, you are as young as you allow yourself to be. Sometimes I'm so afraid of myself. I don't even hardly know you, but yet from you I keep no secrets.
KILL TONY
#708 - H. FOLEY + KEVIN RYAN
Yeah, just one thing at a time, please. A lot of Dostoevsky philosophical books.
KILL TONY
#708 - H. FOLEY + KEVIN RYAN
Yes. I like the language. I love the language. I love the voices.
KILL TONY
#694 - SHAWN GARDINI + TOMMY POPE
You're very welcome. Your make-a-wish has come true. He won. He won. Keep it going.
KILL TONY
#694 - SHAWN GARDINI + TOMMY POPE
You probably always take the hookers and fuck them in the car, too.
Sword and Scale
Episode 283
My mom's husband called me and told me that my mom was headed to the hospital, and I went ahead and got in my vehicle and started driving to Hannibal. I didn't know what was going on. I was standing at the hospital waiting, and then they took me to the family waiting room, and then handed me her jewelry and said that it will be some time.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Wife and I Don’t Agree on Our Son’s Education
Hi, Dr. John. How are you doing?
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Wife and I Don’t Agree on Our Son’s Education
I'm doing well. Thank you.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Wife and I Don’t Agree on Our Son’s Education
Well, I'm looking for some advice. Okay. One of my, well, okay. My question is, how do I support my grieving best friend while celebrating my own accomplishments?
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Wife and I Don’t Agree on Our Son’s Education
So a little bit of context, me and my best friend and her husband, my husband, we're more like brothers and sisters than best friends. And we had really similar short-term, long-term life goals. We were on track to reaching those goals soon, like buying a house, having kids. And then she called me one day screaming that her husband had just been killed in a car accident. Wow.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Wife and I Don’t Agree on Our Son’s Education
And so we went through, you know, sat in the mud with her, got through those days, those weeks, those months. And now the hard thing is she, like her life came to a screeching halt. Yeah. But me and my husband were still moving on. We're reaching those goals that we were going to reach like at the same time. And I feel stuck.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Wife and I Don’t Agree on Our Son’s Education
because I still sit in the mud with her and go through the hard times with her, talk on the phone whenever she needs me. And then I hang up with her and my husband's home. And then suddenly it's like, oh, hey, this is great. We just bought a house and we're reaching these goals. And I feel like I'm emotionally flip-flopping a lot. And I'm just not sure how to continue to support her long-term.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Wife and I Don’t Agree on Our Son’s Education
Yeah, I guess that's kind of where I'm sitting.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Wife and I Don’t Agree on Our Son’s Education
Lots of plans. Yeah, we were like, oh, we were those friends that were going to build houses and have them like conjoin.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Wife and I Don’t Agree on Our Son’s Education
Because, you know, we just want to live our lives together in a sense.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Wife and I Don’t Agree on Our Son’s Education
Yeah, that was kind of hard for the first little while because I felt like I didn't know if I needed to almost not hide it from her, but she's going through the worst part of her life. And I'm like, hey, we just bought our dream house.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Wife and I Don’t Agree on Our Son’s Education
It doesn't really seem like an appropriate thing to say. But then at the same time, not sharing it with her also felt like I was betraying her. Well, it feels like you're lying, right?
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Wife and I Don’t Agree on Our Son’s Education
Well, I'm glad I wouldn't be the only one.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Wife and I Don’t Agree on Our Son’s Education
Yeah, I think that's definitely where I was at first, in those first weeks and months even. But then it was, at first I was like, I don't want to lose another friend. And like you said earlier, I had already lost her. And so coming to almost relearn who she is now and who she still will become in the months and years.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Wife and I Don’t Agree on Our Son’s Education
A hundred percent. Every time.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Wife and I Don’t Agree on Our Son’s Education
That's true. I hadn't thought about that.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Wife and I Don’t Agree on Our Son’s Education
Yeah. It's, There's, you know, the grief and there's a lot of other factors like, you know, he didn't have life insurance and that and all those things that came tumbling down. And yeah, yeah, it's just it's a lot.
The Dr. John Delony Show
My Wife and I Don’t Agree on Our Son’s Education
Yeah, that would be more than fair. I could understand that.
The Ramsey Show
Your Financial Journey Is a Marathon, Not a Sprint
It is exactly student loans. It's all student loans.
The Ramsey Show
Your Financial Journey Is a Marathon, Not a Sprint
So six years ago, we actually went through financial peace university with one of our older churches. And then we moved to the Indianapolis area and got involved with our church now and decided that after Phil was done with school, that we were just going to pay it off and just get it done and be rid of it.
The Ramsey Show
Your Financial Journey Is a Marathon, Not a Sprint
And through lots and lots of hard work, we started with the envelope system and then went to the every dollar app.
The Ramsey Show
Your Financial Journey Is a Marathon, Not a Sprint
So we just in little bit by little bit and we got it done. Yeah.
The Ramsey Show
Your Financial Journey Is a Marathon, Not a Sprint
We started off with little thermometers that we made because, you know, I was raised by two teachers, so I need very visual aid kind of person. And so we started having these thermometers of like coloring in. And after six pages of thermometers, we stopped that. It was a little overwhelming.
The Ramsey Show
Your Financial Journey Is a Marathon, Not a Sprint
And you know, it was funny. Like our oldest is six, surprisingly. We started hanging off. It's like, oh, hey, we're pregnant. Our oldest is six and our youngest is three. And both of them started out lives with a little bit of medical debt. They're great now. Everything's wonderful.
The Ramsey Show
Your Financial Journey Is a Marathon, Not a Sprint
But keeping tithing, keeping everything, saving, but also paying off debt as fast as we could, making sure they were okay. Those were some hard times of making sure that we stayed within budget, but still were able to connect with the boys, but also connect each other and pay off debt as fast as we could was a huge priority. So the two walls were amazing. We love the walls.
The Ramsey Show
Your Financial Journey Is a Marathon, Not a Sprint
I think the other thing to remember is the phrase, live like no one else so you can live like no one else, and knowing that this is temporary. $300,000 is overwhelming when you look at it on six different paperworks of thermometers, but that little bit by little bit, keeping each one that's slowly paid off, slowly paid off, it really does build that momentum of, oh, we're so close.
The Ramsey Show
Your Financial Journey Is a Marathon, Not a Sprint
It sounds silly, but even going under $100,000, we're like, oh, oh, we're under a hundred thousand. That's so close. Almost like a half marathon or when they're like mile 10, you're almost done. You're like, no, I'm not. So it was like that under that a hundred thousand mark was, is definitely a huge moment of, oh, we can, oh, we're so close. We are so close.
The Ramsey Show
Your Financial Journey Is a Marathon, Not a Sprint
So yeah, I think just knowing that building little momentums and having those little victories and we have such a great support system with our families and our friends and you know, just the ton of support was huge with us.
The Ramsey Show
Your Financial Journey Is a Marathon, Not a Sprint
Absolutely. We laugh. We're like, we've been like out of the my nervous phase for, you know, like a month of, you know, not everyone can breathe again. And our three-year-old can be absolutely feral again and break any bone he wants. But, you know, it's... It's one of those things where, you know, someone else like, what are you going to do now? And it's like, breathe.
The Ramsey Show
Your Financial Journey Is a Marathon, Not a Sprint
We're just going to breathe for a minute knowing that we can be done and start dreaming fun things again. So, yeah. And then now looking at our mortgage, it's like, oh yeah, we can do that. Because it was less than three months.
The Ramsey Show
Your Financial Journey Is a Marathon, Not a Sprint
Are the boys here? They are not. No, they would be running around the studio probably hitting every corner that they could find. So especially our three-year-old.
The Ramsey Show
Your Financial Journey Is a Marathon, Not a Sprint
It is funny. Our six-year-old will say, you know, like, do we have, do we have the, do we have, we call it the fun money. You know, like, do we have the fun money this month to be able to do this? Because we would still do little things. But yeah, he would be like, do we have the fun money this month? It's like, maybe next month.