Lewis Howes
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On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
When you have lack, how do we rewire our brain to create abundance when you have nothing and you don't know how to earn more money? The first thing I think you need to be aware of is that your beliefs dictate your behaviors.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
So if you believe that money is bad or people who make a lot of money are bad and take advantage of others, and therefore me having lack right now means I'm a good person and I don't want to become a bad person. then that belief is going to dictate your behaviors and you're going to stay in lack.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
You're going to stay in scarcity and you're going to see opportunities that only give you just enough as opposed to opportunities that could create incredible wealth for yourself financially, but also an emotional wealth that you've never had before. So that's one of the things you want to understand is first that your beliefs dictate your behaviors.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
That's huge.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Because your belief got you to a place of, I am impacting hundreds of millions of people from these videos that I created with my talents. Yes. But I don't know how to make money with them. And I don't know if I actually should, because then I could be bad and wrong, or people could perceive me as I did something bad to make this money. And I'm a spiritual person. I'm a monk.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
I've done all these things. I don't want to have that life. But I want to make an impact, and I don't want to be poor. So I think a lot of people are struggling with that mindset.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
The biggest shift that will create abundance in your life is a mindset habit in unlocking wealth for yourself. And one of the big lies or one of the big blocks that holds people back from financial opportunity is that I cannot be generous with my time, my wisdom, my knowledge, or my secrets to others, because if I am, they will take it and run with it, and I will be left with nothing.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
So therefore, I'm going to hoard my energy, I'm going to hoard my time, my knowledge, and only keep it to me so that others don't have good ideas or have my help.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And from all the different billionaires and millionaires and financial leaders in the world that I've interviewed, I know you've interviewed a lot of them, there is a question I would always ask individuals who've made incredible amounts of money. And that keeps helping them create more wealth year after year. And they all say the same thing.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Those who have had a sustainably good heart in the process is that you have to have a generous mindset. So the mindset habit is the first thing that you have to think about when creating abundance with your money, but also feeling abundant internally. And it's coming with generosity.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
So if you feel like you're stuck right now, if you feel like you have nothing, this was what you were at eight years ago when I met you. This was where I was at 15 years ago when I was on my sister's couch. I had no money. I was in student loan debt, was sleeping on her couch. I didn't think I had any skills. I didn't have a college degree yet.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
I was like, how am I going to make money if I don't know how to make money and I don't have any talent or skill and I'm in debt? It didn't understand it. It felt impossible. And the thing that I shifted when I started meeting money mentors is I needed to learn the first habit, which is the mindset habit, which is a habit of generosity and gratitude. So what did that look like then?
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
What was the practical step? What it looks like was, how do I meet money people, people that have money, people who have success, people who can teach me knowledge? I needed to come with a sense of energy, of curiosity, of possibilities, and of joy. I literally wrote a list down of all these different things that I thought were my talents. I go, how can I make money? I don't have any skills.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
irrelevant of whether you have money or not. When you are poor, when you're broke, when you're struggling financially, it feels really hard to feel abundant and rich. But in order to get out of it, it's not feeling worse about it. It's starting to feel better about me, better about my values, my character, my kindness, my generosity, and seeing how can I add value to others?
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
I played football, and now I'm injured. What can I do for people? But I was like, well, I'm really curious. Maybe I can just ask people questions. And never did I think in a million years that I could have a 12-year-old podcast just asking questions and make millions of dollars a year. I never thought that was possible. I was in my early 20s. And I was like, you know what?
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
I've got a lot of energy. I've got a lot of passion. So let me bring passion and energy to other people and excitement. And that energy was infectious. And there's a currency that's tied to that energy of passion, joy, excitement, curiosity. That currency may not look like money.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
But for those who are older, who have no more passion, they're burnt out, they're exhausted, it is the highest form of currency. They want that. They crave that energy. They've burnt themselves out for decades. They want to feel young again. They want to feel curious again. They want to feel excited again. And when you come to someone with that energy, you are bringing a different mindset.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
So the mindset of curiosity, joy, passion, pride, presence, like just connecting with someone and asking them a question, is such a valuable currency. So we have to look into these untapped skills, talents, currencies inside of us that are hidden to others, but inside of us, they can create magic.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
That's one of them. Another one is just being generous with your time, with your resources, with your ideas, and helping others succeed.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Exactly. I didn't know who you were until I saw, hey, I can get you on a billboard on Times Square. I go, that's value to me right now.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
How can I get into a richness inside of me to serve and take care of me at the same time?
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And most people think when I have nothing, I need to take from someone else. Yes. I don't have anything, so I can't give anything if I don't have it. So I need someone to give me money right now because I'm broke, I'm poor, I'm stuck, I'm stressed, I'm anxious. I can't think out of myself. And this first habit is really gratitude and generosity is the gateway to abundance.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And it may not mean you're going to make money right away. You didn't make money by having me on the show right away. But we became friends. I helped you. You helped me. Over time, we helped each other create more abundance together, not only financially, which we've done together, but a type of richness that isn't about money.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And this book, again, it's a money book, but it's really like it doesn't matter how much money you have if you don't feel like you have a rich life inside of you.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
It does not matter how much is in your bank account, how big your net worth is, if you don't feel like you have an abundant life, if you're stressed, if you're overwhelmed, if you're anxious, if you're constantly in drama. That is not abundance. A high net worth does not mean you are free.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And the goal is for us to feel free every moment of our lives as often as possible and allow money to be a tool to create incredible opportunities, memories, moments, where you can be generous with it, with the people you care about, the causes you care about, the institutions you care about to serve more people and feel good about doing it, not feel bad about doing it.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And that's part of this process. Most people, when they lack money, they want to take from others. They want someone to help them. And you need to flip it on its head and say, how can I help others? Even when I have nothing, that is the time to be more generous in more gratitude and say, thank you for this opportunity. Even if you have to just lie to yourself for a moment and say, I'm stuck.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
I'm on my sister's couch. I have no money. I'm four months. In four months, I'm going to be out of an apartment, and I don't know where the money's coming. Just say, thank you, God. Thank you, universe, for this opportunity to learn, this opportunity to grow. Because I'll never be here again. I don't know if you've had Ken Honda on, but he wrote- I know, Happy Money. Happy Money.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
But I haven't had him on. Dude, he's so cool. I love this approach to this. And he's talking similar style about how do you just live a rich life? Irrelevant of whether you have money or not. And again, this is what I want people to get to. When you are poor, when you're broke, when you're struggling financially, it feels really hard to feel abundant and rich.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And we want to start shifting our thoughts or emotions and our energy on- OK, I know I'm in this financial situation. It doesn't feel good. But in order to get out of it, it's not feeling worse about it. It's starting to feel better about me, better about my values, my character, my kindness, my generosity, and seeing how can I add value to others.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And that's the first thing we need to be thinking about. How can I get into a richness inside of me to serve others? and take care of me at the same time. And one of the practices or these social experiments or exercises similar to you that Ken has is that whenever money comes to him, whether it's a check, whether it's a Venmo payment, whatever it might be, he just says thank you to that money.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
He looks at that number. If it's a penny, if it's a million dollars, if it's your normal check you get coming in the mail every two weeks, he looks at it and says thank you and literally opens his heart and loves that money that comes to him. He says, thank you. Where do you want to go? Do you want to go to my bank account? Do you want to go to my savings? Do you want to go to investments?
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Do you want to go towards paying off debt? Do you want me to give you away? And it might be a weird kind of like exercise, but I love this approach to just being mindful of money when it comes. Say thank you. And then when you pay bills, when you pay off debt, say thank you as well. Thank you for allowing me to pay off this debt.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Thank you for paying my cell phone bill so I can call my friends and family that I love. Thank you for the ability to live a richer life. And when we start to approach money in that way, It doesn't mean money's going to fall from the sky and come to us abundantly. But we're going to start to feel more rich and abundant internally, which that energy is what will attract more opportunities.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Those opportunities could lead to millions. This hostess that came to you, she brought that thankful energy, that present energy, that loving, joyful, curious energy, and it created an abundance of opportunities and connection.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
She didn't have any other, she didn't have, it didn't matter about her college degree. We didn't even know her resume. We hadn't even looked at it. It doesn't matter what skill, other skills you have. If you have energy, passion, and a curiosity to care about someone, you can go so far in that potential relationships.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Speaking about hostess or waiters or waitresses, there were studies that psychologists did around tipping and waiters. And I don't know the exact statistic. I know it was over a certain amount, but I don't know the exact percentage. But there are three things that you can do as a waiter to make more money.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Getting higher tips based on psychology and these studies. One is just introducing yourself and saying your name. My name is Lewis Howes. What's your name? Thanks for being here today. Saying your name creates a deeper connection.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Making a recommendation of something. You said she was making recommendations. Making a recommendation, hey, I really recommend this if you're into this, or these are the best two options I would recommend. gets you a higher chance of getting a better tip. And complimenting the person on their food choice, I'll have the burger or the vegan burger, that's a great choice.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Those three things will increase your ability to earn more tips. And it's not like you had some other skill. You just created connection with someone, and you were trying to bring that energy to them. And money is an energy. And how we think and how we feel will dictate the energy we have towards it. And also, you create money through your energy.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And so she had a certain energy with you, and you're like, man, this is amazing. You're recommending it to millions of people about this person that you just met for the first time. It's like you could create so many opportunities for not only financial abundance, but spiritual abundance by bringing generosity, curiosity, energy, joy, and love to someone's life. And it doesn't have to take hours.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
This was five minutes of this person's time. She got three job offers over that night. She could have had a different energy and said, OK, here's your table, sit down. And she would have had nothing, but she could have went to Harvard and had all these other skills. And none of that would have mattered without the energy she brought.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Yeah.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And again, Going back to what we said before, when you have no money, when you're broke, when you feel stressed out, overwhelmed, burnt out, you lost your job, you feel like you need help. And you may need help. And the best way to create abundance is to go from helplessness to helpfulness.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
So instead of saying, I feel helpless, I don't know what to do, you've got to flip it and say, how can I be helpful? How can I help myself, but by also helping someone else? How can I shift out of this negative energy into an energy of abundance, which is so hard to do when you have nothing?
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
I remember for a year and a half feeling trapped on my sister's couch with no money, thinking, how am I going to do this? And there just has to be a decision where you say, I'm going to get up and I'm going to get out of this funk, out of this energy, and choose and decide to bring energy to someone else without asking for anything in return. And when you do that, you'll start to build momentum.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Step one is you need awareness. And again, you probably say this so often and people probably heard this so frequently, but if you don't have awareness on your attachment style towards money and how your nervous system is when you receive money or when money leaves you, when you have to pay your bills or give money away.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And that's what's going to help you get to the next level.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
But the season of life.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Yeah, and like you said, the seasonal side of things, like when I was just getting started making money, this was in 2008, 2009, 2010, I was using LinkedIn as a platform and a tool to meet CEOs, executives, and business leaders. And I was helping them originally with their LinkedIn profile. And I was just saying, hey, how can I help you optimize your profile?
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
I want people to create just a scenario of awareness around how you feel and how you think when you receive money, when you pay money, when you look at your bank account, when you open your purse or your wallet, and just notice, how do I feel? Do I have shallow breathing? Do I feel relaxed? Do I feel anxious? Do I feel scarce? Do I feel abundant?
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
I see that it's missing some things here. I'll do it for free. And I did this to build relationships with them. And through that, they just all wanted to help me and give back to me. And then eventually someone said, hey, I'll pay you for this. This is really helpful. Then I was like, oh, I can make money on LinkedIn. It's not what I wanted to do, but I had a skill to do it right then.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
So I did that for a few years. And once I had that foundation, I used that money to launch the School of Greatness as well, because I had a couple of years of runway now. And I didn't want to do that forever, but I did it for the season. I got skills. I made money. And I created a sense of freedom for myself to do what I really wanted to do later.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Do you agree with that idea? It's an interesting story. I was in New York last week, and I said to myself, and I have a lot of these different exercises and games in the book, to just give people as social experiments. I think it's really powerful to give yourself experiment, because I think when you experiment, you allow yourself to explore possibilities.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And when you create an experiment for yourself, you allow for the idea of magic to enter your life. So I want you to just, as you're watching or listening, I want you to say, I allow for magic and abundance to manifest in my life. I'm going to create a possibility that this can happen in my life.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
a moment a synchronicity someone might call me out of the blue someone might hand me money randomly i'm going to allow for this moment to happen and this magic to happen so i said to myself i want to follow my own practices right and i went to see our friend mel robbins in boston and i was in new york for a few days and i just said to myself money comes to me abundantly and freely in it i see it everywhere i just said this to myself every morning when i woke up and when i went out of the hotel i said money comes to me abundantly and freely and i see it everywhere
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And I'm a magnet for money. I'm a magnet for money. I just kept saying this energy. I'm a magnet for money. I was just playful, this social experiment. And when I was at Mel's, a penny dropped on the floor. Someone was carrying a box and a penny fell. And I said, oh, look, money comes to me. I see it everywhere. It was a penny.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And there's a point to this story. And I pick it up and I say, Mel, do you want this? And she goes, no, it's yours. And I go, thank you, I receive. Because when I relax, I receive. And I'm a magnet for money. Even if it was a penny, I could notice it. And I was like, all right, it came to me. See, here's a win. Here's a little win. Let me do this again. The next day, I go to New York City.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And I'm in the subway. It's freezing right now in New York. It's like 15 degrees. And I'm just saying this to myself in the subway. And as I get off the subway, I go up the stairs. And it's frickin' filthy in the New York subway, right? And the stairs are dirty. And I see a penny heads up. And I thought to myself, this is filthy. This is dirty. It's not valuable. It's not enough money.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
I don't need to pick this up. But I was like, no, I'm doing this experiment. Money comes to me abundantly and freely. I'm a magnet for money. And I'm going to manifest money, right? And so I see it's heads up. I pick it up, put it in my pocket. And I just say, thank you, money, for coming to me. The next day, I put it on my bedside table. I don't think anything of it.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
The next day, I wake up and I look at this penny. And I said, because I'm doing this experiment every day. I'm a magnet for money. Money comes to me abundantly and freely. And I look at it as a reminder, these two pennies. Look, this is a reminder that money came to me. Maybe it's not thousands of dollars or millions of dollars. It's not something that's magically right here.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
But it's a reminder that something is possible. And I flipped over this one penny. Oh, no, I looked at the penny because it was heads up. And I noticed something. I go, oh, that's really interesting. It said 1945 on this penny. That's an 80-year-old penny. And I go, huh, that's unique. I haven't seen a penny that old in a long time. And I flip it over, and I notice something.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Just step one is have awareness on, how do I feel and how do I think about my money? The money I have, the money that's coming in, and the money that's going out. That's step one. And when you can just have awareness around it, you can start to say, is my relationship the one that I want to be having? Do I feel really secure around money? If not, OK, what's something I can think about?
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And I get chills thinking about it. I notice it's a wheat penny. I don't know if you know what a wheat penny is. No, I don't. So a wheat penny looks different than a normal penny. It's got like two stalks of wheat on the outside of the penny. It's this old penny. And I look it up and I Google 1945 wheat penny value. And one just sold. I kid you not. I get chills thinking about it.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
No way. Online. One sold for $4,000. Now, it's all based on the condition and all these different things. Like, who knows? Maybe it's worth $20. Maybe it's worth $5,000. Maybe it's worth $100. But the idea is that there was more value inside of that penny than what met the eye originally. Yeah. And the experiment of, let me be... opened up possibilities for money to come to me.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And what I thought was two pennies might be $2,000. And all I had to do was be willing to look for it, be willing to pick it up and say, I receive, thank you. If I didn't look for it, if I didn't set that intention, if I didn't see the possibilities in front of me, I may not have received that penny that could be worth thousands. And it's the same thing in life.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
We may not see the opportunity in front of us right now. We may not reach out to the people we already know and say, hey, this is what I'm looking to create in my life. I have these skills. I have these talents. Is there anything that you need right now that I can be of service for you with?
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And that's, for that first year, how you created multiple six figures in that first year when you had nothing was reaching out to hundreds of people. That was you either setting the intention, seeing that there might be possibilities, and doing the work to manifest hundreds of thousands that first six months.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
So by doing that effort, setting the intention by saying, I'm open to possibilities, I'm open to receiving opportunities that come to me, but I have to be willing to look for them. I have to be willing to ask for them. I have to be willing to put myself out there. and receive and say, yes, thank you. I will do this work. And that's what I think people need to be thinking about.
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Can you manifest millions? Yes. If you're willing to set a clear intention, if you're willing to reach out and say, here's what I'm willing to offer and add value in, I want to help you achieve these goals, you're creating more potential to manifest money.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Yeah, it's like Lakshmi.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
First, let me think about my money story, the story of my life around money. We grow up as kids, and we watch our parents in their relationship. We tend to develop the relationship style of our parents unless we learn how to heal as a teenager and have some type of breakthrough. We're creating some type of attachment style based on what we see with our parents.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Imagine you're, you know, Roddy for the next month, you never say thank you. You never look her in the eyes. You never speak to her. You avoid her constantly. Imagine your relationship's going to suffer. I'm sure you guys will figure it out, but imagine that's a lifetime of a relationship. It cannot survive.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And here's a great question that I want everyone to ask themselves and another exercise that I want everyone to think about right now, whether you're watching or listening. I want you to comment on the YouTube below what opened up for you during this moment. And I'm going to give you the exercise, Jay. So imagine this door opens. And it's a person. And this person is money. It's the idea of money.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
It's a person that walks in, right? Is money. And could you, as an example for people to imagine this as well, what does that person look like when they come in? What would you do? What would you say or not say? Could you share kind of what that would be like for you? Money, a person walks in, they are money. They are the representation of your relationship with money.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
How would you show up and react?
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Like a generous host.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
That's cool.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
That's beautiful. And I've been asking a lot of people this. And so I love to hear people's responses. And be honest in the YouTube comments below of your relationship with money. I asked someone close to me, someone younger, probably in their late 20s, I asked them, if money walked in and you were at a party, how would you respond? And they said, I would run to the bar.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
I would not make eye contact. I would gossip behind their back to other people there about money. I would look down at them, but then I would use them and abuse them because I would really need money. And I would ghost them afterwards. And I go, wow. And they were like, yeah, I know. It's really bad. But they were being honest. So I want people to be honest.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Like, what is your relationship with money? And just imagine if you were money and someone treated you that way, if they wouldn't look at you, they would avoid you, they speak poorly behind your back, they would use you and abuse you when they wanted you, and then they'd ghost you when they didn't want to talk to you.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Do you think money would want to keep showing up in your life if they were a person?
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
If they were a person, would they want to be in your life? Would they feel, this isn't a good relationship for me? And your show is all about helping people get healed, healthy, and whole. And if you want to create a richer, more abundant life, you have to create a healthy relationship with money in your life. And look at it as if this was a love of my life.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
But think about all the conversations your parents had around money. And if your parents didn't have a secure relationship, if they fought, did they fight about money? Were you involved in the conversation about how expensive things were, about your school or sports or programs that they had to pay for they couldn't afford? Did they argue? Did they have challenges? Did they get divorced?
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Not in a worshiping, like I worship it no matter what, but more of like, this is a person that I love, and I want to treat them with care. I want to be a great host. How can I show up? And it doesn't mean it's always going to be perfect, but how can I show up and be generous, be kind, be patient, listen, be aware, and be of service to it?
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
I'm not saying you haven't had a beautiful, abundant, peaceful life as well with money, but I would bet to say that you've also experienced stress and overwhelm with money more than having no money. And a lot of people get blocked because they know that like, oh, more money, more problems is another like money lie, right? Or money like wound that people might have.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Like, I don't want to make more money because I see people who do have money, they're constantly stressed. They're not generous with it. They're stingy. They don't even tip at all. They're even more stingy with it. And they have it. So what's the point of having it if they're not generous? I don't want to be like that.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And there can be money traps or money wounds when you have money if you haven't learned how to heal that relationship. And so it's learning how to heal the relationship so that when you grow your net worth, you also increase your self-worth
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
inside and feel peaceful about it you expand your nervous system your container to receive abundantly so it's not scary it's not stressful you can receive more and you can give more because you know that the more you relax the more you receive and when you give it's going to come back in some way i struggled with that my first six seven eight years of making money i hoarded money because i was afraid to go broke again
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And it limited me in certain ways. And it made me feel stressful. And it made me feel like people were trying to take advantage of me and take my money. It doesn't feel rich having money and living in scarcity still.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
money is one of the biggest reasons people get divorced it's one of the biggest arguments in marriage as well so just notice is my nervous system is my body is my energy or my thoughts stressed out around money do i feel scarce or do i feel abundant that's kind of step one and then step two is understanding your money story because when you can reflect on your money story you can see what your money personality style is today
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
You know, my dad was a lot like that, too. He had strangers knocking on the door that somehow convinced him to stay with us for, like, three months in the summer. And he just opened his doors and said, yes. Like, okay. And so... he was just like, like your parents, like, okay, you need a place to stay for a week, a month, two months. Cool. We'll figure it out. We'll feed you. We'll do this.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
As long as we feel like you're doing something good and we're trying to support you. And I think it's, it don't have to give money to feel rich.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
You can be very generous with your time, with your, resources in other ways with your food. It's like you can give in other ways and create a richness of life. And that's the key is to feel rich and abundant and free. And if you feel that when you start making money, you're going to continue to feel free.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
The biggest trap is when you feel scarce and you start making money and you still feel trapped. You still don't feel free. That is an even greater prison in my mind that you're living in scarcity when you have money.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Well, I think when you can live beneath your means and feel abundant, you've won. So when you live beneath your means and you don't need extra stuff, you've won. I just watched The Count of Monte Cristo the other night. It's an incredible movie of a guy who has nothing, who was born...
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
by you know back in the i don't know 1700s or something it's a period piece he was born of like a clerk a guy who makes no money and his friend was born of like some general who had a lot of money or something and this poor kid that grew up friends didn't have anything but he had the world. He had no money, no possessions, but he just approached life.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
It was like, man, but here's a piece of string. Here's a rock that I can play with. Like I can just imagine the beauty of the world. And he appreciated everything, even though he had no money. And I think in some ways, it's so hard to look at that when we see Instagram and TikTok where everyone has things. That's the hard part, yeah.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And for many years, and we can talk about both of us thinking about our past, for many years, I didn't understand money growing up. We didn't have a lot growing up. We weren't completely poor, but I wasn't as well off as the other kids in my class. So I always felt a little bit beneath everyone else. And so my belief system was around that. I'm just a little bit under everyone else.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
When you see everyone else having fun with money and going on that trip with their girlfriends or buying that expensive car to show off to their guy friends or getting the nice watches or having the cool shoes and you thinking, oh, if I could really have money, then I could have these things that would make me feel cool or feel better.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
But if we can approach life and just be like, man, life is so good with what I have, that is true wealth. That is true abundance and happiness. And it doesn't mean you shouldn't strive to create more if you want more. If you want to have nice shoes or a nice watch, cool. You've got to learn how to make money. And you want to learn how to make money easy, not make money hard.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And that is a process in developing these skills, these talents within you, and seeing how you can monetize those skills. And I'm not saying don't splurge on certain things if you want to, but you have to understand the consequences.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
If you're going to splurge on something to have fun with friends or go on trips and spend this money that you maybe don't have, just know there might be a consequence to that later. If you have to use a credit card, you have to pay that debt with interest later. So just know there's a cost to splurging or spending when you don't have it.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
I'm a big fan of saving and investing so that you can have freedom in the future and feel rich continually and not needing to buy things to feel richer.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
I've got money wounds and it's because I wanted to make easy money in my past, not make money easy. And I don't know anyone that doesn't want to make easy money. Like our ego wants it to come to us now. And when we find the quick hack or the quick investment, that's got a 10 X in two months. Sure. There's always outliers that figure out a way to do that.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
But every time I've tried to do that, I've lost my money and it's been painful. And I'm like, okay, I think I've learned that lesson, but there's this new, like quick, easy money opportunity. And every time I do it again, I'm like, what was I thinking? Yeah. You see that others act like there's a way to do it so easy.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
If you just invest in crypto, if you just invest in this, if you just do this thing, you're going to make quick and easy money. I don't know anyone who's made hundreds of millions, millions, or billions who's lived that way. They might have invested and gone all in on one business and created generational wealth.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Or maybe they went all in on investing in one main stock that ended up 10 or 20 X-ing over time. But going the quick, make easy money way doesn't usually work. And it's painful lessons you have to live afterwards. So I don't know. Have you ever made quick, easy money?
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Everyone else is doing a little bit better than us. Sure, we have a home, and I'm going to school. But everyone's got rollerblades. I'm in sneakers. People have Nintendo. I don't have one. I'm reading a book. Whatever it is, it was like I was a little bit beneath. And that started to shape my story and my personality style. So I felt very insecure around money.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
I didn't know. That also wouldn't have been quick. It would have taken 10 years. It would have taken 10, 15 years. That's the thing. It's like we could always look back and say, oh, our friend told us to invest in this thing 10 years ago. And if I imagine if I did it 10 years, yeah, just like any stock. If you invest in it and wait 10 years, It should go up if the company continues to do well.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
You actually have made easy money after putting in a decade plus of work, a decade of developing skills, of monetizing your skills, and following the seven habits we talk about in this book, which is, yeah, you can make easy money now. You can get paid hundreds of thousands of dollars to speak for 60 minutes because you've added so much value in the world for the past decade plus.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
and even a decade before that of spiritual practice, before you even learned how to make money. So two decades of how do I develop skills within me to serve people, whether it be one-on-one, one to 10, one to 10,000, how do I develop those skills to serve and give generously? You have followed this mindset perfectly, which is a mindset of generosity and gratitude.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And that's all you did for essentially the last two decades. How can I learn how to become a better human? How can I give generously? And how can I be appreciative and grateful for the life that I have? And you had no money for almost four years as a monk. But I would bet that you lived a beautifully rich life. You didn't need the money to feel rich. You felt provided for. You had nature.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
You had community. You were learning. You got to be on purpose. You got to serve. And what a beautiful gift to receive. And you had no money in your bank account, but you were probably one of the richest people that you knew. And that is beautiful. Yeah. That is abundant.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
If I have no money right now, how can I get to a place where you were at, where I had the richest, most abundant life? Because I was working on me. I was a giver. I was generous with my time and my energy and my resources, whatever I had.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And then how can I start to earn more money, make money easy by feeling effortless internally, expanding my nervous system so that it can receive more and feel safe? That is a rich, abundant life.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And me and you both know people who have hundreds of million dollars that they've exited companies and they're not happy. It doesn't mean having more money equals happiness. You still have to learn how to heal you and have a healthy relationship with yourself and money, even when you have it.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And when I got it, I got really excited, but I didn't know what to do with it. So I was also afraid, I was insecure, and I was just unsure of it. And it really started to shape my personality style. Now, when I was in my teen years, my dad started to make more money and started to teach me a little bit. But I was still just, I want to be a teenager. I don't want to think about this stuff.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Yes.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
I'm glad you said this because a week ago, someone literally asked me if I have $1,000 right now to invest, where should I invest it? And everyone says, put it in crypto, put it in real estate funds, put it in all these things. Don't listen to any of that. When I had no money, there was two things that I needed to create more of a currency within me. And that was courage and confidence.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
I lacked the courage to develop certain skills. When I had courage to go all in on learning public speaking or learning how to write, I didn't know those skills. I actually lacked those skills, and I was afraid to be a failure at those things by trying them.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
But by having the courage to invest my time and energy in a public speaking class, in a writing coach, I didn't have the skills, but I developed the courage. That courage created the actions to create confidence. That confidence created a currency within me of belief. That belief dictated my behaviors to start charging more, to go out there and ask for more, to put myself out there in bigger ways.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And so if you have $1,000 or $5,000 right now and you want to figure out where to invest it, invest it in courage to learn new skills that will give you confidence. That will be an incredible currency that you'll have forever.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
It seems confusing. I just want to have fun. In my 20s, when I got done playing football, I went to go pursue football, got injured. I was on my sister's couch for a year and a half, and I had no money. And I just felt like, how am I going to make this work? How am I going to make money? I don't know what my skills are. I don't know what my talents are.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
I tell a story in the book about, I used to live in an apartment building here in LA. It was really sad. There's a lot of wealthy people in this building that I lived in. A lot of celebrities and-
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
billionaires, I was the poorest person there, which is another lesson, which is to put yourself in rooms where you can mastermind with people and be around proximity of people who have more so you can learn from them. But I was on a trip and I came back from a trip driving back into the valet of my building. And there was a tent in the valet, like in the driveway.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And I kind of jokingly said to the valet attendant as I pulled into the building, I said, someone didn't jump, did they? Kind of like jokingly. And the guy looked at me with a serious face like, yeah, it just happened like 30 minutes ago. And I was like, this can't be real. It was like, what? There's billionaires in here. There's millionaires in here. There's celebrities in here.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
I was like, why would anyone in this building take their own life? And it was kind of like just this shock to me because I learned later who this person was. Someone did jump off the building right before I came back. And he was worth hundreds of millions of dollars, net worth. We just Googled his name. And I was just thinking, why would someone worth so much money take their life?
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And I don't want to assume what really happened, but it doesn't mean having all the money in the world is going to solve all your problems and you're going to feel like you can love and accept yourself, that you have self-worth. So like you said, you may learn how to make a lot of money, but if you haven't learned how to heal your relationship with you,
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
then all the money in the world can't save your life and can't make you feel rich, can't make you feel abundant, can't make you have beautiful relationships with friends, family, colleagues. And that's where the real wealth comes in life when you have deep, meaningful relationships.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And something I want to acknowledge that you do really well is you follow this first habit, the mindset habit, so well, which is how can I be generous with my time, my energy, my love for friends, family, colleagues, your community? This community feels it. Everyone listening and watching right now feel your generosity, your giving hearts, and your gratitude for them, whether it be individually or
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Collectively, they feel it. And most people, they want to make more money, but they don't have that generosity, that grateful spirit. And they want the quick fix. They want to make easy money quick, not make money easy. And the billionaires that I know you know and the millionaires that we know we've interviewed, and I'll ask them this question.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
What do you think the key to creating more financial abundance year after year is for you? Every billionaire or mega millionaire will say giving more. I make more when I give more that year.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
This is in 2008 when the economy was crashing. So it kind of felt like it is right now with inflation going up so much right now and people worried about money in the future. I didn't understand. And I needed to find money mentors to start teaching me how to learn about how I can receive money and spend it in a more efficient way. And that was kind of the journey of me starting to figure this out.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
whether it be giving more to charities, whether it be giving to people in my life, whether it be giving back to my community, giving back to my employees, my business, finding ways to give more and almost give where it feels a little uncomfortable. Like, oh, that was a big check I just wrote. Oh man, I care about this cause, this charity.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
I feel safe giving this amount, but what really would make it uncomfortable? Or I go to church every week and I typically give this, but what would make me feel a little uncomfortable? Most of these people say the more they give, when it's the most uncomfortable, somehow they just keep earning more. And I'm not saying you should give all your money away and you're going to earn more back.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
But having that mindset of generosity, and you do this very well, where you give to your community. Whenever there's some type of breakdown in the world, you're one of the first people to say, how can we give? How can we rally the troops? You give first. You rally the troops. Say, let's give back. The fires happened. Stuff happened in India a couple years ago. Stuff's always happening.
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And you say, we're going to give. I don't know if that seems something conscious you think about. Like, oh, by giving more every year, it helps me make more. But also, I feel richer. And when you do that with everyone in your life, whether you're the hostess and you give curiosity, love, passion, fun, playfulness, you're giving something in that moment.
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If you can write a check for something that is a cause and you give, it's because you can and you do it generously it's just going to make you richer inside. And you're creating an energy of abundance to attract more.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Yeah.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
They probably felt rich in that. For sure. Generosity.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
But if we don't have the tools or the money knowledge, then we're always going to be stuck in our money story as our money personality style. And so it's getting to understand awareness. How does it feel when I receive money and I spend money? What is the history of the story around money for me? Did my parents fight? Did I feel anxious around money?
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
Appreciate it, brother.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
I used to steal a lot when I was a kid, so I had some wounds around money. I had people steal from me as well. So I just had all these different wounds that I had to address and get clear on. And I had to learn how to start healing those money wounds. And again, I know this is the place to come to create more wholeness, to be healthier in your life, and to become more healed.
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And that's what I want for people is to start to reflect on their money story. Write down some of these things so you have awareness, first off, on why you think and feel the way you do around money. Then you can start to see how your personality style towards money now is either helping you create more abundance or keeping you in scarcity and lack.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And from there, we can start to have some breakthroughs.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And it's never. I'm never making enough. And also, I've got $100,000 in student loan debt. I have this other credit card because I wanted to go on a trip, or I had a medical expense that was unexpected that came up. So many people are struggling to be figuring out how to get out of debt.
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They have this weight that's carrying them back, but they still want to feel like they're free to live a life of their dreams. They want to be able to go on a trip with a friend a few times a year. They want to go to those expensive concerts. They want to have fun still. But they're unfortunately in a lot of debt. So there's something that's pulling them back as they're trying to go forward.
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And they feel like there's no way to break free. They think about the rising costs of eggs, the inflation, how everything is just constant. You can't afford a home anymore. All these things seem impossible to break through. But people want to feel free, but they don't feel emotionally free because of all the baggage they have in their life.
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And that's what I want people to start to feel is how can you feel emotionally free so that your money can come to you effortlessly? And when it leaves you, it's not a bad thing. And the more we relax, the more we can receive. And so if I'm tight and I'm always anxious or I'm not willing to look at my bank account because I'm afraid of what's in there,
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
How are we able to receive more and spend more freely? And I think for many years, I learned how to make money but I didn't learn how to spend money. And so I just hoarded it because I was afraid to go back being broke on my sister's couch. I didn't wanna go be broke again. So I just stashed it away into my bank account and just like, okay, I'm gonna just wait for it to grow so I feel safe.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
But that was almost like a prison in a sense, emotionally, because I didn't feel free to spend it. I was still sleeping on friends' couches, I had a million dollars in the bank, and I was sleeping on friends' couches. I was sitting in the middle seat, the cheapest seat I could on buses or on planes. And I'd always be like, man, I'm so uncomfortable the next day. My back hurts.
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
I'm not feeling free because I was afraid. I was anxious to lose money. And that is not emotional freedom. That is not healing. And I remember thinking to myself, God, I'm starting to make money. It was like years into my business. I was like, I'm financially free, but I'm still trapped. What is holding me back?
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Lewis Howes: The Scarcity Belief That’s Blocking You from Making Money & How to Feel Rich Even When You’re Broke
And I realized a lot of it was my money story and my money personality style that I needed to start working on. And I don't know if it's the thing that you ever like, I've arrived and I'm perfect. And now I'm like this Zen master at money. It's a constant back to awareness. It's a constant practice of awareness and breaking through those limitations. Yeah.
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Per street.
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Right, right, you must be hurting people to make money.
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Taking advantage of.
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I met you at this time.
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So you didn't want to be bad. You don't want to have a lot of money and associate, I have a lot of money and now I'm bad. Correct. I'm bad and wrong and I'm hurting others in order to help myself. Correct.
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And that was based on a belief system that you developed.
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Well, it's so powerful that you said that. And I remember this vividly because I met you on Halloween 2017, right? Eight years ago, yeah. And I said, like, cancel the day. Let's just hang out all day.
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I had a book that came out that day on Halloween, which is called The Mask of Masculinity. Anyways, how do we rewire our brain around money to create more abundance?
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There are two big things happening at one time that I've never done before. I'm going on a book tour for my new book, Make Money Easy, and I'm doing a podcast tour at the same time. It is going to be big and I'm going to seven cities in 10 days. Get your friends, get your family, bring everyone you know to these cities. I'm coming to Austin, Texas, New York, Boston. We're going to Nashville.
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What's the percentage?
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It's going to be like a sprint within 10 days for me bopping around city to city. And make sure you go check out lewishouse.com slash tour right now to see if I'm coming to one of your cities or fly into one of the cities that I'm coming to and get your tickets right now because we're going to do something really powerful. I've got a book coming out.
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And we're going to be talking about the book Make Money Easy, which is all about your path to peace, freedom, and financial abundance. So if you've been struggling with your financial abundance in your life or if you feel like you're blocked, you haven't been on a breakthrough financially, this is all about how to unlock the energy within you to attract more wealth to you. And from...
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People have an abundance in general. People have an abundance of food options. They have an abundance of shelter in general. They have an abundance of opportunities for success or jobs or careers or jobs. Choices, right? You have options in general.
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No, but the government has funding for food stamps and government housing.
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Because what's the obesity levels today versus 30 to 50 years ago?
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And type 2 diabetes.
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12 years of interviews with some of the biggest billionaires, influencers in the money and financial space, but also healers. This is a different type of a book because it's about helping you heal your relationship to money so that you can attract it as opposed to having to work hard to go make it. I'm very excited because in every city, we're going to be having a massive surprise guest as well.
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That makes me sad. When I see kids like that, it makes me sad. Because it's so hard to reverse it. It's so hard. I know how hard it is to lose weight. It's so hard. But if you're starting young and you're already gaining all that weight, I just feel like it's challenging. Unless maybe when you're like 16, you hit puberty and it's like maybe metabolism like magically works better.
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But if you keep consuming the same way, without being conscious of how is this gonna impact my life? How's it gonna impact my overall health of my brain, my heart, my muscles, my everything? It's so hard to reverse that. And for people that are, from my experience or my witnessing it, it's hard for people once they are overweight to like, first off, lose it, because it might take years.
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It might take years depending on how much you've gained. That is a daunting task for someone who's already not feeling good. They might be feeling shame or guilt or depression already because of their weight or their body image, right? It is daunting to try to take it on for most people and therefore they don't take it on.
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They try and then they fall back and then they go back to old patterns of consuming things that keep them stuck. And it's the cycle, it's the loop, it's so hard. And that's why I get sad when I see it with kids. And I can imagine it's got to be tough to be a parent. I'm not a parent. So I can imagine it's tough when your kids are screaming and they want ice cream every day or whatever it is.
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I can imagine it's got to be really challenging.
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Yeah, and you're tired and you've worked all day and you don't have the energy to be patient. I get it. It's got to be challenging.
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Or I hate you. Yeah, I hate you.
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For moms or parents, moms and dads watching right now, parents watching right now, as someone who has studied this for three decades, what is the link between nutrition and mental health?
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So it's going to be me speaking, but also we're going to be doing a live podcast tour during this with some of the biggest names in those cities. It is going to be a fun evening of greatness and a celebration during the launch of my book, live podcast, talking about creating abundance in our lives. And if you have been to the summit of greatness, or if you haven't been, The community is on fire.
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Sure.
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And what is the link? And then what is the research and science saying about the link between mental health and nutrition?
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What is the... percentage or number of like when someone reaches obesity level, what is the likelihood that they'll also have a mental health disorder or condition? Is there like you're 20% more likely, you're 80% more likely to have some type of mental health challenge?
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Just linked to obesity.
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It's electric. It is so much joy and passion and so many innovative thinkers and creative entrepreneurs and artists that come to the summit of greatness. So I believe it's going to feel like the same energy of community that will be there at the book tour as well. So make sure to go to lewishouse.com slash tour right now, or you can click the link at the top of the description of the podcast.
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Because a lot of people say, well, mental health, illness is like genetic, right? It's like a genetic thing or it was in my family or my grandfather or something, but is that true or is it more, well, if they were obese and you also were obese as a child, it's just kind of linked because that was your environment and that was the habits that your parents did and so you took on those habits.
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Like is it truly genetic or is it more an environmental pass down?
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And if you have a weaker genetic metabolic health symptoms or conditions, Are you able to reverse that and improve that, even if it was linked in your genes from your family?
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Is that a belief, or is there science or research backing the belief?
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But based on your practice.
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Yes. Not a cycle of chemical changing or blocking or disrupting.
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Episode where you're listening right now on Apple or Spotify to get that as well. I hope to see you at one of these cities coming up here very soon. And also today we have a big guest again, Dr. Chris Palmer. He's going to share shocking statistics about the rise in mental health disorders from anxiety and depression to ADHD and bipolar disorder today.
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It kind of gives them an out, right? It's like, oh, it's not my fault. And there's nothing I can do about it.
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And you're going to be on medication for the rest of your life.
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You know, it's interesting, Chris. I'm reflecting on my childhood, and I think there's one thing that saved my life because I had extreme learning disability. I was never diagnosed or anything like that, but I was in the bottom of my class. I had to cheat my way through on homeworks and tests just to pass class because it was so challenging for me to
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hear something and retain the information, comprehend it. No matter how much I read a book, the page, I couldn't remember what was on the page. It was just challenging. Learning from sitting down and eight hours a day in a desk being told complicated things and trying to remember them, it was daunting every day. I couldn't wait to be done with school. So my whole childhood,
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all the way through high school and college, I did not enjoy sitting in a classroom and being taught in that manner. I love to learn, but being taught in that manner didn't work for me. I was never diagnosed with anything, but I know I had dyslexia or something because I still struggle today reading. And I would just wait for the clock to end every day. And
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and makes a compelling case for why integrating physical and mental health treatment could be the key to helping millions recover. He's got to share so many powerful insights today. I hope you get out your pen and paper or take notes in your phone app. Make sure to share this with one friend that you want to see continue to improve in their life.
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eat bad food during lunch, during dinner. And my parents didn't know, we didn't really know about nutrition back in the late 80s, early 90s like we do now, more of it, right? So I just got what I got. I ate what I ate, I got what I got. And there was one thing that saved my life, I think. And that was, playing a lot on the playground and playing sports a lot.
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Because I was moving my body so much after class, outdoors, running, sprinting, jumping, playing, I think that saved my life. Because otherwise, if I didn't have that, there's no way I'd be able to stay in shape. And there's no way I'd be able to function with my brain because I was already struggling so much from consuming the food and having kind of a learning disability, I guess.
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It was just daunting every day in class. And I don't think I would have made it if I didn't have the ability to play and be active as well. I think that mitigated a lot of the bad foods and candy and chips and 12 Dr. Peppers a day I was drinking or whatever I was doing. It was just like, it mitigated some of that where my body was able to process some of that sugar somehow so I could function.
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And without that, I think I'd have been hard. And I think kids nowadays are working out less and less. They're less physically active. and it's gonna really harm them in their adulthood. And you're seeing the link to it already based on your research. So I don't know how people do it today. Like, I feel like I was lucky enough that I was able to work out to just kind of save my life.
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Which makes you want to eat more and just, you know.
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If you know someone who maybe is struggling at times,
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Then we're going to Los Angeles, San Diego, and San Francisco. Make sure to get your tickets right now. Go to lewishouse.com slash tour. Again, bring everyone you know if you're looking to create more financial freedom and abundance to your life and you want to see a massive guest live on the School of Greatness show, Get your tickets. I can't wait to see you there.
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I was just going to ask you this because this is probably the most controversial thing that you'll talk about.
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mentally or their health, you really care about them, you want to have them with the right science, with the right research, with the right expert, giving the wisdom and the tools to support them in improving day after day, then just text the link of this podcast episode right now to a few friends and ask them what their biggest takeaway was from this episode.
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How scary is it for you as a psychiatrist and someone who treats mental health disorders on a daily basis?
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Because you were trained a certain way.
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I'm so grateful you're here on the School of Greatness. Now let's dive in. Welcome back, everyone, to the School of Greatness. Very excited about our guest. We have the inspiring Dr. Chris Palmer in the house. Thank you so much for being here. Thank you for inviting me.
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Very excited about this because you have incredible credentials, Harvard psychiatrist, trained researcher, and you are helping people overcome one of the biggest challenges in the world right now, which is understanding mental health, anxiety, PTSD, all these different things that are related around mental health. And it seems like the rise of mental health
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what i'm here to say is we can do better yes those people should not have to go through life like that those people should be thriving and we should help them thrive 100 and you mentioned something about kind of body acceptance it seems like when i was growing up in the 90s or whatever it was about the media portrayed extreme skinny in women as beautiful
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And then now it seems like a different extreme. It's like obesity is beautiful and the media portrays that and body acceptance. And I think there's a good intention behind it, but as a psychiatrist, what is the fear that you have when people are being celebrated for obesity versus thinking about a holistic health approach to life?
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Accept yourself, yeah.
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Symptoms have exponentially grown in the last decade, and it seems like people are more medicated than ever before, and it's making them sicker, not better. and as a Harvard-trained researcher and psychiatrist who also has prescribed people medication over the years, it seems to me like you've found new ways to help heal mental health disorders. Is that correct? That is not related to medication.
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It wasn't ultra-processed.
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That is correct.
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And you think the main cause of all these things is linked to nutrition and your ability to move your body?
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What would you say then is the root cause of mental disease? And is that the correct way to say it? Is it a mental disease or mental disorder, mental health condition? What is the correct... That...
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Chronic stress. Yes. Chronic stress is linked to trauma, unresolved trauma, pressures, all these different things as well. Yes. So when we can learn to...
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start the healing journey of past traumas, psychologically, emotionally, physical, sexual traumas, if we can start the healing journey of that and do these other things you're talking about from the physical side, from sleep, from minimizing screens, from nutrition, movement, all these different things, it sounds like you'll be able to set yourself up for more mental peace and therefore greater success as a human being. 100%.
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And it doesn't have to affect my self-worth anymore. It doesn't have to affect my ability to feel good about myself. It's okay, yeah.
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100%, yeah.
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but not stay on it forever.
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That's beautiful.
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that's beautiful i've got a couple final questions for you because i think uh this has been a really powerful starter we'll have to have you back on and talk more extensively but if people want more from dr chris palmer leave a comment below if you're on youtube or or message us and let us know if you want to hear more what question you really want answered but i think this is a great start for people because we could talk for hours right now but i think this is a lot for people to digest and to reflect on because so many people have different things
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that they've been struggling with. There's a couple of final questions I want to ask you. It seems like lately I've heard more people say they've been diagnosed with ADHD. As a psychiatrist, what is the root cause of ADHD and also what is the best way to start healing or reversing ADHD?
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intervention, not using medication, but intervention of, I'm gonna prescribe you eight hours of sleep, whole food, diet, movement, moving your body. And have you seen them be able to reverse ADHD? A hundred percent. Really? So it's a reversible thing.
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And it's all connected.
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But you can be in a community of your friends and family, but if you're eating all the wrong things, it's gonna affect your brain and your mental health as well.
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I think I want to finish with this one final question. Cause I want you to come back on and we can talk more. And I don't want to, I want to, I want to keep it at this for a great starter for people. And then I want us to come back on in the future and do more. This is the question. I don't know why this came up for me during this conversation. I'm not an expert in this. You know,
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I don't know if it's good or bad, but I know a lot of women in the world take the pill. I don't know if you have any research on this or if this is something that psychiatrists study. But how much does the pill affect women's mental health? It definitely affects women's mental health. Does it improve it? Does it hurt it? Because it seems like a lot of women are on the pill.
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And whatever your preference is, it doesn't matter to me if that's what you're doing. But it doesn't seem to be natural to be blocking hormones that are supposed to be within a human being on a monthly cycle. For me, it just doesn't seem natural. Even though it's been conditioned that this is a good thing or a lot of people can take it and it's gonna help prevent a lot of things, I get that.
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But how much is the pill hurting women more than they actually know?
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But there's a price you pay for everything.
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Really? Three times higher.
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I mean, but people go through breakups all the time.
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It's huge. Of women under 20 who are taking birth control versus women who are not taking birth control. What does birth control do to the brain of a woman when they're on it every single day?
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But the kids spot one area of the body.
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What is the main thing that is driving depression, anxiety, ADHD, bipolar? What is the main root cause of those things?
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I guess the thing I'm taking away from this, I want Again, I'm not an expert in this, and we're not women, so I can't speak into the experience of a woman. But what I'm hearing you say, the research and the data and the science is saying that if a woman is on birth control, it is three times more likely they will have suicide thoughts or suicidal. Is that what you said?
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And so I just want people to be aware of that. And maybe there's a bigger benefit to you. And maybe you can manage that in other ways where it doesn't affect you. But it sounds like there's a massive risk to it. And I just want women to be aware of what they're taking on if they choose that option.
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Yeah, don't take more pills for the symptoms of the pill. You know what I mean? It's like... Well, that's the challenge is that... Stay on the birth control, but here's something else to get in.
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Helps you sleep, helps you deal with anxiety.
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Now the boyfriend dumps her. And now what? Now there's more medication to deal with the trauma and stress.
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And unfortunately then at that point, I've seen lives ruined from that point on because it's- Some people might say, well, if I'm 18 and if I'm not on the pill and if I'm having sex, because that's my choice and I want to, and I want to have connection or pleasure. And if we get pregnant, well, then my life is over because I'm 18 and I haven't lived my life and I have a child now at 18.
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And so someone might say, well, I don't want my life to be over because I have a child too early or what I think is too early based on society's standards.
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Welcome back, my friend, to the School of Greatness. Today, we have a groundbreaking conversation as I sit down with Harvard psychiatrist Dr. Chris Palmer to explore the revolutionary connection between mental health and metabolism. Drawing from his 29 years of clinical experience, Dr. Palmer is going to reveal how our current mental health crisis is deeply linked to
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What's the other solution then to not getting pregnant besides being on the pill?
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Or condom or don't have sex or whatever.
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I just don't think there's any benefit to that.
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Oh man, there's a lot we uncovered here today. There's three things I want people to do. If you're watching on YouTube, I want you to leave a comment of the biggest aha moment or takeaway that you heard or watched during this conversation because there's a lot of information here. But again, you've got three decades of...
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being a clinical practitioner, but also a researcher, a teacher, all these different things. And you study it from the top experts in the world. So you're seeing the data and you're seeing real patients in real time. And you've seen the rise of these things, these mental health disorders or illnesses over the last three decades at astronomical rates.
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And there is a direct link to physical and mental health. There's a direct link to nutrition, the way you move, for the lack of movement, to your mental health as well. So I want people to leave a comment on the YouTube of their biggest takeaway, aha moment, et cetera.
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Second thing I want people to do, if you're listening or watching, I want you to share this with one friend who maybe has been struggling. Maybe they don't have some extreme bipolar disorder or something, but maybe they've just been, mentally going through a hard time, whether it's overwhelm, anxiety, stress, whatever it might be, send them this link and ask them their biggest takeaway as well.
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I think a great way to be a friend to someone is to pass them on good information and good content that could hopefully open their minds to what's possible for their personal growth as well. So send this to one friend as well.
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Third thing I want people to do is I want them to get your book because you've got a book that dives in deep on all these different things called Brain Energy, A Revolutionary Breakthrough in Understanding Mental Health and Improving Treatment for Anxiety, Depression, OCD, PTSD and more. And again, a lot of people are feeling these
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these symptoms or these conditions these days, or they have early stage symptoms of these things. And I want people to get the information and have the solution to reversing these things because you're not hopeless. It's not hopeless. You give a lot of people the tools on how to reverse a lot of these things.
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And yes, like you've said, there are extreme cases that may need extreme medical interventions. And we're not talking about that. We're talking about the other 90, 95% of people
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who are developing anxiety, overwhelm, stress, PTSD, ADHD, who are having these things that are starting to take over their life, but sounds to me like a lot of them are reversible or manageable to not be consuming one's life. So I want people to get your book. I want them to follow you, brainenergy.com, chrispalmermd.com, also chrispalmermd on X and Instagram.
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and and really send people this conversation in your life your friends your family members and and say hey i just was thinking about you and wanted to see if there's anything that you took away from this conversation i think that's the best way people can support their friends and family as well is there anything else we can do to be of service to you chris
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But how are you really doing?
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Yes, 100%. And I wanna finish with this, Chris, because I wanna acknowledge you for, again, three decades of research. And I love this in your book. You dedicate your book to your mother. I'm gonna read it for people. I think it's beautiful. To my mother, my futile attempts to save you from the ravages of mental illness lit a fire in me that burns to this day.
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I'm sorry that I didn't figure this out in time to help you. May you rest in peace. And I just think that's a beautiful mission and purpose that you are living. Even though your mother, you weren't able to be a stand for her, but to be able to
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in her memory, be of service to other people who have family members and friends who are struggling with extreme mental health disorders and feel like there's no hope. And so I really acknowledge you for being a stand for research, being a stand for science, to give people tools and putting yourself out there to hopefully save a lot more lives that are struggling and feel like there's no hope.
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So I'm really, really grateful for you, Chris, for being here today. Thank you. Thank you, Lewis, for having me. Appreciate it. I have a brand new book called Make Money Easy.
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And if you're looking to create more financial freedom in your life, you want abundance in your life, and you want to stop making money hard in your life, but you want to make it easier, you want to make it flow, you want to feel abundant, then make sure to go to Make Money Easy book. dot com right now and get yourself a copy.
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I really think this is going to help you transform your relationship with money this moment moving forward. We have some big guests and content coming up. Make sure you're following and stay tuned to the next episode on the School of Greatness. I hope you enjoyed today's episode and it inspired you on your journey towards greatness.
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And now it's time to go out there and do something great.
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So if your biology is bad or off, your mental health is probably going to be off as well.
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What do you mean? As a Harvard researcher, psychiatrist, you're supposed to be studying the brain or the mind, right? You're not supposed to be studying or thoughts. You're not supposed to be studying the body, right?
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A psychiatrist is either... Don't think about the rest of the body. Just the mind or the brain or the thoughts.
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The body doesn't work modularly. It works as a unified system, right? It sure does. It sure does. You can't treat one element of the body or the brain by itself without hopefully treating the holistic part of the human being, correct?
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to something very specific that so many of us are struggling with. Before we dive into this, I just want to say thank you. So many of you have been supporting me over the last week as we made this announcement with my first ever national book tour coming up. In just a few short weeks, if you didn't see, we're going to seven cities around the country in 10 days.
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That side effects may include weight gain, diabetes, cardiovascular risk. So people know that these side effects are most likely going to happen and they take it anyways.
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And they probably have lived in a lot of pain and suffering for so long that they want some relief also.
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Yes. I'm curious, how long have you been a psychiatrist for now? 29 years. Almost 30 years, almost three decades. You've probably seen a lot of changes over the last three decades. How many, in your opinion, how many people in America or in the world who you think are on
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mental health drugs some type of mental health related drug actually don't need to be on them if they take other intervention approaches through the things that you're talking about the the health and wellness the the right foods the right sleep how many people would you think don't need to be on those drugs if they intervene in a different way Is it 10% that don't need them? Is it 90%?
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The stuff that Dave loves talking about the most, the feelings. You know, that's what we talked about earlier. Dave's big on feelings.
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Yeah, because, you know, you guys are the money experts. I was just coming to this approach of like, I see so many people struggling with money, trying to understand it. I didn't understand it growing up and I was afraid of it. So I was like, how do I have a better, healthier relationship with the idea of money when I receive it, when I spend it, when I give it, all these different things.
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It was very messy for me. I learned how to make it but I almost felt trapped by it still. I still felt like I was living in kind of an anxiety, a stress, an emotional scarcity around it, even though I had a lot of it in the bank. So what made it easy? Well, getting in touch with my feelings, as weird as that sounds, but kind of going back into the past and assessing my money story.
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And I grew up at a time in the 80s when my parents didn't have a lot. They got married very young. They worked very hard trying to make ends meet. Four kids. I was the youngest. And essentially, I didn't have a good belief system around money. And there was different moments and memories that I created meaning around these money stories that was like, okay, I'm not good at making it.
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I don't understand it. There's a lot of stress involved around money with my parents. It starts to feel like it's for someone else. Yeah. And it was like scary. And I was like, how can I receive it if I don't understand it? And as I started making it, it was out of survival to get off my sister's couch. I was living on her couch for about a year and a half when I was 23 to 25.
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And I just wanted to feel like I could take care of my own life. And so I started finding many mentors, started watching some of your stuff, learning from people locally in Ohio. And I started making it, but I didn't feel safe with it, and I hoarded it. So I was like, what's the point of all this money if I still don't feel good, if I still feel like something's off inside of me?
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And so it's really been a journey over the last decade of, okay, I've got financial peace, but I have a lack of emotional peace still. And that feels... Really scary.
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Yeah. And it was the absolute opposite. That's a lie. Money didn't solve my problems. That's right. It helped me have an apartment to live in and buy things, but it didn't make me feel emotionally safe. And so I was like, what's the point of all this then if I can't feel safe with the money I have? And I also feel like it's triggering so much more of my –
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what do we want to call it, wounds or scarcity where I felt like people were taking advantage of me and they were hurting me. They just wanted to be around me because I was making money. So I felt unvalued even with the money I had. I was like, what's the point of all of this?
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Exactly. Because every time someone poked my emotional wounds, I would react in bigger ways. And I think the money just made me feel even more scarce around it. So it was really going back into the money story and healing a lot of these parts of me where I felt broken and feeling more emotionally whole. So again, I could truly have the financial peace.
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And that's where I've seen a lot of people kind of sabotage the money they have because they're like, it didn't solve the problem. Let me spend it all and just go back to being broke.
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To numb the emotions, right? And Dave's favorite thing to talk about is feelings here. Yes, yes. And so it's really getting to a place. I had interviewed Dave earlier, and we had a joke about feelings. But for me, it was getting to a place, I just want to feel more at peace. And having financial peace is one part of the picture, but it amplified my lack of inner peace.
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Everything. It affected all my relationships, business partnerships, friends, family. I had some stuff with family I had to deal with because now I'm the youngest and I'm making the most. And it felt, I just didn't know how to create boundaries. I didn't know how to have courageous conversations. I didn't want to upset people. I wanted everyone to like me.
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So let me just give them what everyone's asking for. But then I feel taken advantage of. Now I resent people. Now I resent. All these emotions were swirling around me, the center of money.
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Yeah, for me, it was... I really appreciate every time I get to talk to you, Dave, because I feel like I get to ask you these questions every now and then, and I don't hear you talk about them that much.
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And I'm always like, I'm worried about asking a weird question to Dave around spirituality or relationships or feelings, but I get so much value out of it, so I appreciate you for sharing these things and opening up when I talk to you about it. But for me, I got to a place where I was always making more money in my business, and then one year I made less.
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And I remember the last time I talked to you, you were like, we made less in the last year. It was still a ton of money, but you were like, It wasn't as much as the year before. And when that happened to me, it kind of broke me psychologically. I mean, it didn't ruin my life, but I was like, I was trying to grasp like air, because I couldn't control me not making more money this year or something.
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Like some things happen, shifts, and it messed with me. And I had to get to a place of really connecting more with God and faith that like, money's gonna come and money's gonna go. Whether I get way more money this year or next year, I'm going to be okay. If I make less, I'm going to be okay.
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As long as I live in the values that you guys talk about, which is we're here to serve, I'm going to keep showing up and giving my best, I'm going to live with generosity, and I'm also to keep reflecting on how I can improve and shift things and not just be a victim to what's happening, make decisions, make changes, but I'm here to serve. And I think living in that state makes – Not such a free –
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And I was ego-driven, not always, but it was like, I need to make more, and it needs to look good, and what if the followers are down, and what if they're ready? Totally. And I just said, screw all that. Let me serve. Let me add value, and good things are
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And you talk about this, our beliefs influence our behavior. So if we believe we're not worthy, we're probably going to not create an experience or the working environment or opportunities that add more to our life. If we believe we're unworthy of love, or if we believe we're worthy, then we're going to step into things naturally and behave in accordance and alignment with that belief.
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I have a brand new book called Make Money Easy. And if you're looking to create more financial freedom in your life, you want abundance in your life, and you want to stop making money hard in your life, but you want to make it easier, you want to make it flow, you want to feel abundant, then make sure to go to makemoneyeasybook.com right now and get yourself a copy.
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So for a lot of people who are watching or listening, they probably have struggled in relationships and they're not sure on how to make theirs the best possible they can right now. Or maybe they're going through a challenge right now. And it seems like we've got single phase, dating phase, committed dating phase, And then a choice to be married and committed, hopefully long-term phase.
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And it wasn't until I started to do deeper reflection, deeper healing work, and start creating a relationship with myself from a place of peace and wholeness, when I was able to create and attract a relationship in my life of the same mirror image. In this episode, we are talking with an inspiring guy named Steven Chandler, who's going to talk about
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And then marriage, right? What would be the step-by-step process then from being single to getting into a relationship that will lead to a beautiful, loving marriage?
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In terms of what, just dating, the dating phase?
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But what if, I wanna push back and ask you about this. What if, man, you can have fun with this person, but you haven't asked the tough questions until three, six, eight months in. And you realize, oh, our values are not aligned. Like we can go out and have great dinner and go bowling and go travel. And, man, we have great conversation and same interests. But, oh, they actually don't want kids.
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Oh, they're actually in debt 100 grand. And that scares me. Oh, actually, they got to talk about that thing. Oh, they actually don't want to, you know, raise our kids in this way. Yeah. They you know, their in-laws are so intertwined in the relationship that it's to whatever it is, you know. How can we ask questions that make sure they fit the picture without interrogating them too much?
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Or they may say, I want to have a kid with you. Yeah. And they may change their opinion. You know what's interesting? As I reflect back on all the challenging relationships that didn't work out, but that taught me beautiful lessons. Yeah. I don't blame any of these individuals. I was equally a part of them.
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the process of dating and staying in a healthy relationship. We dive deep into why the only destination for dating should be marriage, which is something that I never thought about. I was actually like, maybe this will happen, but let's see. And let me just get to know you first and this and this. It was never thinking, okay, are we really in alignment early on? Are we really...
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There's something, you asked me before we started the conversation, and you said something around the fact of like, how did you know she was the one for me, Martha? And I didn't really give you the clearest answer, but I knew she could be the one when I realized that
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she was resourceful enough to take care of our future kids if we had them and something happened to me where I died, where I was no longer able to provide. I trusted that she was a resourceful woman, that she was a spiritual woman, that she was able to do things where she could provide and value in so many other ways to children if we decided to have them.
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And if we decided to get married, all these different things a few months in. And I was like, this is a woman. And I was always dating girls where I felt like I had to rescue or they weren't resourceful, but this person I can trust with my kids. And that made me feel like, oh, this is, maybe she's not the one, but she could be the one. It was like a feeling.
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Why, maybe I'll just speak for myself in my 20s, but why do so many of us choose people with sexual connection over friendship to be in relationships of like attraction? Yeah. Wow. We have a great connection or they're a great kisser. They look so good. Or we're like compelled by the physical versus the spiritual or the friendship.
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on the right path or are we just attracted to each other physically and we have fun and we like each other. So we're going to start investing all this time and energy and realize that we're actually not in alignment. We don't have the same values of the vision and we have a lot of friction actually. And I'm not saying you're never going to have friction, but it shouldn't be friction every day.
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I always think about this. I don't know how people get married in their 20s. Because for me, I just feel like I would have been married and divorced. Or I just had a really challenging time if I'd have gotten married the way that I know I thought in my 20s. Or just my ability to manage my emotions or just all that stuff. I would have really struggled.
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Do you think people should wait longer to get married? Or getting married young is a good thing? Absolutely not get married young.
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I know, man. It's so hard. Pays off. Yeah. If you can get through it together. If you can get through it together. But if you can't, it's going to be five, 10 years of stress.
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I mean, it's exhausting when you have that. So we dive deep on all these things and how to identify red flags versus yellow flags versus green flags and why having a clear vision is essential before bringing someone into your life. Because, man, I brought a lot of people into my life in the past and it caused a lot of pain and a lot of problems and a lot of setbacks and all these different things.
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When you were working on the writing of this book, Relationship Roadmap, what was something that you realized that you believe in, maybe you preach at your church frequently, and you know really works well in a marriage that you went against or struggled with earlier in your marriage?
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Or was it a challenge for you to fully embrace in your journey?
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And I also... So you were pushing and driving and trying to accomplish or create or let's do this.
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All you think about is marriage. The thing you say is the first two steps in your roadmap is have a clear vision, like the picture in mind, and don't waste your time essentially on anyone who can't fit that picture. But if you have that same approach towards goal accomplishment, This is the end result. We got to go do this. You're not enjoying the moments in the present.
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So that was something you did early on? Oh, yeah. Really? Oh, yeah. When did you wake up to it and say, okay, I just need to create memories and moments and be present day by day, even if it's not pushing towards my timeline of this goal? Well, I think there was a couple of factors.
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And once I got clear, once I was able to go on the healing journey and create wholeness within me, that's when I was able to create wholeness outside of me. So if you are stuck or struggling in a relationship in your life or you feel like your relationship with yourself is not where it needs to be, then this is the episode for you. And I hope you enjoy it. I'm excited for you to be here.
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For some people. For some people, it's like, what's next? What's next? It's not enough.
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Really? So you accomplished a lot of your big goals and dreams earlier than you expected. Absolutely. Yeah. And then you realize I need to take some pauses or take some breaks or be more present. you realize there's more to life than just the next goal.
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It's interesting you say that because Michael Todd, when he was on here, he said early on he had a mentor when he was getting into his, you know, becoming a pastor and learning how about how to be an effective leader. He said he had a mentor who told him, you need to take a month off every year.
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No matter how successful, how busy, how many people want your time and attention, how many opportunities, you need to schedule a month off. Otherwise, it's going to trap you. And you're going to burn out. And he said he always does that every year. I think he does it every year. But he even said, one of his last books that came out was a New York Times bestseller for like 16 weeks in a row.
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He goes, I had all these opportunities to go do more press, but I had this scheduled in for this month. And the week I left to stop doing press, the book came off the New York Times bestseller list. But I'm at peace with that because I know I'm in this for the long term and not just trying to grab everything right now. Yeah.
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And so it sounds like you have a similar approach to making sure you either have days, weeks or time where you reflect, recover and relax.
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Thank you. Thank you.
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I really think this is going to help you transform your relationship with money this moment moving forward. We have some big guests and content coming up. Make sure you're following and stay tuned to this episode on the School of Greatness. It is a blessed and beautiful day, and I hope you're feeling blessed and grateful for all that you have in your life right now.
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Thank you.
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How do you phrase that though?
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Thank you.
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Thank you.
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was I was like, listen, I'm never gonna get upset at you. I'm gonna be maybe frustrated or maybe we're gonna have like disagreements, but I'm never gonna be angry at you for your way of being or who you are because I feel like I've gotten to know you. I feel like I've seen your personality. We've had all this time together.
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And I'm choosing to get into this relationship accepting you for who you are. And because I'm gonna accept you, I shouldn't try to change you. I know you have a growth mindset, so you're going to be growing on your own. I know you want coaching and therapy because you're already doing it. So you're in a mindset of like, how can I reflect and improve and grow?
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So me trying to change you doesn't work. And I have one condition. Don't try to change me. Accept me as well. This is who I am and I'm going to grow and I do coaching and I have mentors, things like that. But as long as we can accept each other, I think it could be a beautiful relationship. That's when things get in trouble.
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Did you have a good foundation or training when you were growing up as a young boy developing in your teens and early 20s? Did you have a foundation of what healthy, conscious marriage looks like? Cool. Yes and no.
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And that's what I dealt with in my past was like, I always felt like I had to change to make someone happy. And that's exhausting.
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Run. This is going to be a controversial question or conversation we're about to talk about. I'm here for it. What is the difference between a man's role in a marriage, a woman's role in a marriage, and God's role in a marriage? Okay.
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Where we can't both dribble at the same time?
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And what are the best use of the roles for men and women in marriage? All right, you go pin me in the corner.
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Yeah, I call that purpose. Yeah. What's the purpose you're meant to do to solve that problem, to help fix this thing?
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What if she's like, oh... My man's not able to provide in the same way that all my girlfriend's men provide. And so we live in a way that is not as enjoyable as them. I can't go and do certain things with my friends because we don't have the means because my man isn't providing for me. So I'm going to have to step up and go make my own money because he can't provide. Well, that's real.
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But that's tricky, though. 10, 20 years, you might have a new vision. You might have a new vision for life. You might have different goals, different seasons. We've been walking through it.
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They'll be growing and earning more.
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I know. That's the challenge. But, okay, Stephen, at 22, you're not making squat. You're making 10, 12 bucks an hour. You're not providing. You can't even afford rent. You're still at home. Yeah, yeah. How are you going to marry someone who can't provide when you're that young getting married?
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Yeah, you weren't just sleeping on your parents' couch trying to figure out life, just being a charmer. You were working, you were devoted, you were committed, you had a vision for your life, you were developing your skills. And so someone can sense and feel that.
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It's kind of like what beauty and looks are for men and women. Money is to women and men. It's like you could see the person with a lot of money and can be very seductive and attractive. Oh, this person can provide for me. But do they have a good character, good values? Do they have good relationships?
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Yeah. But also, sometimes a great model isn't always the right roadmap. Right? They may not be giving you the direction. They may be showing something. Here's a beautiful destination. But how do you get there? So I had a great model.
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Or are they just going to, you know, be abusive in some way because they feel like they have money or power?
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I will say. What about the women watching or listening to say, I don't want to put my security in a man until he can prove he's trustworthy. So I'm just going to always have this, create the security for myself and be in control of my own life.
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But then when you're getting committed or in a marriage, you just surrender all trust. And here's why I say that.
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It's I don't trust them with my heart. So why get married to the person if you don't trust them with your heart? Because none of us think that deeply.
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So the man's role, I'm hearing you say, is protect and provide. Is there any other role that the man should have in marriage?
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Let me push back on this then. For the men that say, I've tried to lead, but she just keeps taking over control. She won't listen. She keeps pushing back on me. She won't either submit, surrender, relax in my leadership, whatever you want to call the word. And so I've just stopped because it's exhausting because I'm leading, but then she's pushing back constantly and pushing against my vision.
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So I just let her do what she wants to do and be in control.
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I can. That's true. Come on. I don't like that. You know what I'm like, this is my vision. And when you question me, it doesn't feel good.
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It's a lot. It's a lot. So pick the right person. Pick the right person for you.
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And not a lot of good ones for you. For you. Yeah.
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So what is the role of a woman in a marriage then? So
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What you do with God and who you choose to spend the rest of your life with. Those are the two most important decisions.
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Do you think people can have a healthy, loving, abundant relationship if they do not have God at the center of the relationship?
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Wow. What do you think people struggle with hearing the most about their roles getting into a marriage, both men and women?
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I've got a couple of final questions for you, but this is a powerful book called Relationship Roadmap, Step-by-Step Directions to Finding Your Spouse. And again, most people are struggling and challenged with relationships in their life. And this is going to give you the tools on how to set you up with more success. So make sure you guys get a copy or two.
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Give it to a friend who might be struggling in the relationship as well. Someone who's been married 12, almost 13 years now, but also been around a lot of individuals who've been married for a long time. You have great married mentors, and I'm assuming you've counseled many people in their marriages as well.
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As I get into my newly married season of life, what would be three pieces of advice you'd give me that either you followed when you were getting married or you wish you would have followed as well? Well, first of all, congrats.
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It wasn't worth fighting or arguing about. Yeah. Okay. So that's your first piece of advice.
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You got two more?
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I'm getting the chills the whole time you're talking about this because that's another thing, now that I'm thinking about it, where I realized that Martha was the one. Early in the relationship, just service is a big part of my life. Being of service, however that might look.
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It might be donating to a cause I really care about or just impacting the person that came up to me on the street that says hello. And being of service in that moment in a small way or a big way, but thinking about service as part of my mission to life. And when I realized that she wanted to make a big difference as well in the world and that she cared about
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You know, how could we as a couple also do something to serve people that either give us something in return or don't? Like, just how can we give and make a difference? And having a partner on my team that wants that same mission, that's when I realized, oh, I'm not going to be the only one thinking about service in a relationship. Because that's tiring as well. It's just you.
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But two people coming together, finding a purpose to serve either your friends, your family, your community, or whatever you can is a beautiful thing. Let me brag on my wife, Zai, for a second.
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And if you're feeling stuck or trapped or overwhelmed in some area of your life, trust me, I know the pain. I've been there for many different years off and on, and it is a journey to creating peace, healing, and wholeness inside of you. And if you are feeling overwhelmed in a relationship
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It's almost like you're taking money out of an account. That you're not depositing in. That you're not depositing in and is running dry maybe. Absolutely.
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Relationship roadmap is what we're talking about today. A couple of final questions for you, but people can follow you. Where's the best place to follow you on social media to see your content and get the book?
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Steven with a PH. This is a question I ask everyone towards the end. It's called the three truths. Imagine a hypothetical scenario. You live as long as you want, but it's your last day on earth. So you're as old as you want to be, but you've got to turn the lights off. Go to the next place. And you've accomplished everything you want in this journey. Your roadmap is complete.
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You got to the destination. Faithful servant. And you're reflecting back on all the memories that you made.
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For whatever reason in this hypothetical scenario, you can't leave anything behind that you've created. This conversation, this book, everything you've shared before is gone. But you get to leave behind three lessons that you've learned. Three truths. What would those three truths be for you?
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That's beautiful. Beautiful truths, man. I want to acknowledge you, Stephen, for this is the first time we've met, but I've heard about you from mutual friends. I've seen your content. I want to acknowledge you for
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your authenticity, because I think a lot of people struggle talking about some of these things, fully authentically owning what they believe, because they're afraid of, like you said, getting in trouble, but it's beautiful to see that you've been living your life on purpose,
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to values you believe in that have been serving you and communities and multiplying the fruit of that value within your relationships, your marriage, your family, your communities, because you live by them. And they may not be for everyone, but they're for you. And I acknowledge you for that authenticity and for sharing your truth here, man. I appreciate it.
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The work you're doing is amazing. Thanks, brother. Final question. What's your definition of greatness?
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Steven, my man. Thanks for being here, brother. I'm grateful. Powerful, man. I hope you enjoyed today's episode and it inspired you on your journey towards greatness. Make sure to check out the show notes in the description for a full rundown of today's episode with all the important links.
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I mean, you could also say, people watching or listening might say, well, I know people that are religious or believe in God or go to church together, but they have miserable marriages. They have challenging relationships. And either they have God at the center or it seems like they do. But why are they divorced? Why are they struggling? Why is there infidelity? Why is there deceit?
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Why is this still happening to these individuals? And I'm sure you've seen people struggle in your church as well.
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Yeah. So you could have God at the center of your life, but lack the skills, the tools, the self-awareness on how to be a good partner. Absolutely. And that's going to hurt a relationship. It will. Every single time. So we need the skills that it sounds like the roadmap. you learn the skills along the way with the roadmap to get you to the destination.
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But what I'm hearing you say also is we should not, unless you're like in high school or something, or it's just like a fling, you shouldn't be getting into a committed relationship unless you see the possibility of wanting to marry.
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I'm sure those people would say that about me too. Absolutely. And it doesn't mean we were bad people and we didn't have good intentions, but if we're not thinking of that in mind, and it's like, it's not a distraction, because I feel like every relationship is also an experience that educates us, that also gives to us, and hopefully we give to the other person.
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If you're feeling like you don't have a good relationship with yourself or with others, then this is going to be a powerful episode because this is all about how to create that beautiful relationship with intention and purpose and how to challenge modern assumptions about relationships.
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But it's just, you're taking a detour still if you're not intending for it to go there. And the longer you stay in that relationship, the longer it takes for you to then find the person you're going to be with.
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And it takes time to heal and kind of let go of that old identity.
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Yeah, and move on. And not think about that person.
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What is the problem with having sex in a relationship before marriage? Oh, it messes your head up.
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Gosh, this is it clouds your judgment so much when you create that chemical bonding, that sexual intimacy. And something that I think about is if you're in a relationship or you're dating someone, if you weren't having sex with them, would you want to spend 10 years with them, 20 years with them if there was no sex? Do you enjoy their company, their conversation? Do you have the similar values?
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If you've been struggling in a relationship, I've had five, six, maybe seven long-term relationships that all struggled for me, that were all hard, that all were up and down, emotional roller coasters, that were all just like, why can't we just make this work? Why is it so challenging? Why is there so much stress and friction and sabotage?
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Are you going in the same direction? And would you want to be with them if that wasn't there, if that was off the table? A lot of people wouldn't.
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They're not going to like to hear that. No, they don't want to hear that, man. Especially in the modern world, people don't want to think about not having sex before marriage because it seems like, what's the point?
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What do you mean by that? What do you mean it makes us decide faster? I think... If we're having it or not having it?
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That's interesting. So if men or women take sex off the table, how much happier do you think they would be in the dating phase or in the relationship phase before marriage?
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If you've ever been worried about how certain activities in your life, how they might be affecting your brain and how it might be causing long-term damage in the future, then this is the episode for you because we have a powerful conversation with neuroscientist and author T.J. Power, who is revealing some eye-opening information around the brain and
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So you could have a lot of dopamine hits throughout the day, but still feel numb.
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What are the things that cause the most pain and suffering in a human based on neuroscience? Is it the addiction to pornography, the addiction to alcohol, drugs, vaping, or social media? Out of that list. What hurts a human being and their brain and their mood and their energy the most?
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And sugar.
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I've been deep in this work for 12 years, and I'm constantly looking for the best experts to just give me that little edge to continue to either remind me of what I need to keep doing or Or give me a new tool to unlock what I can do at this season of life where maybe I haven't faced this challenge yet. So we're all on this journey together. I hope you're gaining value out of this.
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What is harder to break, alcohol, pornography, or phone addiction? That's such a good question. What's been the hardest for you?
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Yeah, you smell the grass and you'd be like, okay, what are they doing? Yeah.
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Do you feel like it's got the greatest high in our brain chemistry over short-form videos, vaping, and alcohol?
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And again, I hope to see you on my book tour. That's right. I'm going on tour here March 15th through March 25th. 10 days, seven cities all around the country for the Make Money Easy book tour. And if you're looking to create financial freedom and live a richer life and really unlock abundance, then make sure to pre-order a copy of my new book right now.
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Interesting. And what happens when you have a false sense of procreation on a consistent basis through pornography?
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That's interesting. How hard is it going to be for society to stop engaging in pornography? Puff. Because it seems like it's just everywhere, especially with young men, right? It's part of the culture. It seems like it's accessible. I'm assuming there's a lot of shame still, but it's more acceptable, I guess, for younger men. I don't know what it's like. I don't think that's part of it.
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Because you're in your late 20s, right? Late 20s. So what are men in their teens and 20s that you work with, what are they saying about it?
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And it's important. As a neuroscientist, what is the best way, what is the best evening routine to set you up to have the most productive next day?
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Go outside.
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TV on. A different screen.
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You could at least get away from- Make yourself dinner or whatever it might be, like do an activity, right?
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Without further ado, let's dive into this episode right now. Welcome back, everyone, to the School of Greatness. Very excited about our guest. We have the inspiring TJ Power in the house. Good to see you, sir, and thank you for being here, man. Thanks for having me. Very excited about this. You've got a lot of incredible content online. You're a neuroscientist.
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It's not a quick scrolling. At least you're engaging in a storytelling or something slower, hopefully, right?
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TV is so boring now. It's too slow. So it's like, let me scroll and watch. Yeah.
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Like this is too slow of a movie where like most people, it's their top 10 movie of all time. It's like...
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10, 3, and 8.
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What is the benefit of having strategic boredom time every single day?
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You've got a book called The Dose Effect, which is about small habits to boost your brain chemistry. And the first thing I asked you off-camera was, what is the biggest struggle that humanity is really faced with right now in this season of life? And you said ADHD. The lack of attention to really life and being able to be present, focused on their lives, being distracted a lot.
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100%.
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Focusing on dopamine. Yeah.
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So as a neuroscientist, then what is the greatest morning routine to get our dopamine in check?
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how our modern lifestyle is disrupting it, and the chemistry in the brain and what we can do about it.
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What do you think is the main cause of ADHD right now? And also what is the superpower that people with ADHD have if they lean into it?
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Wow. Okay. So do something effortful will actually help your dopamine levels in the morning.
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As opposed to something that gives you quick dopamine right away.
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Yeah, and I think it's something that I've been doing for a long time. And I noticed you did in your book, which I really like, is at the beginning of every chapter, it's kind of like you have an assessment from one to 10. And I always ask the scale from one to 10, how much joy, fulfillment, happiness, peace are you feeling right now?
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If it's a five, you've got to evaluate every area of your life that's causing you to feel... You know, under an eight. Now, why am I at a lower level energies? Why do I feel depression? Why do I feel sadness? Why do I feel hurt, anxious, scared? Why? You have to look at that. You have to take an assessment, a personal assessment and start saying, okay, well, let me look at every part of my day.
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Maybe i'm eating all day. Maybe i'm just having sugar. Maybe i'm drinking alcohol. Maybe i'm watching porn. Maybe i'm Disconnecting on my phone all day. You just have to assess it not make it good or bad right or wrong You just have to assess it and say is this serving me feeling better? Is it helping me is the quick service of making me feel high?
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Helping me feel overall better every single day definitely and You may not like the answer and it's going to be really hard to change and make different choices every single day to support you in going from a three, four, or five on the scale of one to 10 to a six, seven, eight. And it's going to be challenging. But like you said, And Jocko Willink says, you know, discipline equals freedom.
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And if we want to feel free, we've got to create our own boundaries and discipline in our life. And I went to a private boarding school for five years. So I lived in a dorm and we had to wake up at 6 a.m. We had an hour of Bible study. Then we had to make our bed, clean our room. Then we had someone come and check and score us based on the cleanliness of a room.
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So it was like an accountability scoring and there was discipline if we did not clean our rooms at the end of the week. It was a dress code. It wasn't a military school, but it was like a Christian, like strict school. So we had a dress code. You would get like suspended if you didn't wear a belt or if your hair got too long or if you had facial hair, like all these things.
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And it felt restrictive, right? It felt like, ah, you want to rebel against this. But it's so interesting, like the more I got into it, the more I appreciated and respected it years into it. Because I was like, wow, it's actually helping me accomplish my goals. I actually can focus my energy towards my sports goals.
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And that discipline, those boundaries gave me focused attention to becoming better at my goals. And I would see results. And I was like, oh, okay. Now, I still was like, ah, it'd be nice to be a sloppy every now and then, right? Which I rebelled after school. It was like, I'm never cleaning my bed. And I'm like, whatever. I'm not picking up after myself. I'll wear whatever I want. Screw you guys.
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In my early 20s.
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But then something switched in my mid-20s to late 20s. I was like, man, I'm feeling like I'm staying up really late, working hard nonstop. Like I'm getting certain results, but I'm gaining a lot of weight. I'm not feeling good. My mood is down. Let me try this discipline thing again.
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I started going to bed early. I started waking up and making my bed every single day. It was a non-negotiable. Every day, make my bed in my late 20s and 30s.
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And I was like, oh man, dang it. There is something to this make your bed thing.
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Like there is something like just getting up and doing something you don't want to do. Yeah. Even if it takes two minutes, like I don't want to do it. But you're like, oh, I look at it. Oh, I just accomplished this thing. And I'm pretty proud of like how I made my bed look. Let me go like brush my teeth and organize my bathroom and make that look clean. Right. Okay. Let me do the next.
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Let me like put a nice shirt on and like do my hair and like, okay. Like I'm feeling good about myself as opposed to quick dopamine hits or lazy laziness.
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And that discipline started to create more freedom in my life and started to create more self-love, self-worth, appreciation of self and be like, oh, okay, I can do these things. And look what I created. When I come home at night, I can appreciate the work I put in in the morning. Oh, I have a nice bed to open up and go into, right? It's like, thank you, you know.
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10 hours ago, for putting in the work to create an environment of peace at night, as opposed to chaos and messiness. And it created a viral loop of positivity and gratitude and peace and harmony. And it didn't make everything perfect, but that discipline actually created a lot more freedom than people think.
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Pleasure is not the best. It's not.
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Very addictive. And it's very hard to break the addiction of pleasure.
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Really? Yeah. It's like making that your addiction.
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Wow. What's the biggest struggle you face today as a neuroscientist personally? with all the research and information you have, what's the hardest thing for you still to manage?
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How do you navigate in your brain chemistry if results are going down, if you're not getting the growth that you've seen in the past for a period of time or financially you're not making as much or the following isn't working or something is changing? How do you navigate that in your brain?
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If someone feels like they can't focus, maybe they've been diagnosed with ADHD or maybe they feel like, maybe I have it, maybe I don't, but I just know something's off energetically and I can't stay focused or I feel a little more depressive at times. Is there... a positive side to having ADHD? Is there a benefit to having it if someone's able to learn how to harness their ADHD?
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What does the research in neuroscience talk about when someone has a relationship with God versus not having a relationship with God?
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We're going to be talking about the shocking truth about how social media affects your brain chemistry, similar to addictive substances, why quick dopamine activities make you feel increasingly numb to life's real pleasures and what those pleasures are, and also a practical three times daily method to to break phone addiction that actually works when nothing else does.
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This is interesting because you have a whole program called the Dose, is it the Dose Method? The Dose Effect. Dose Effect, which is kind of like a curriculum to help people get their dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, endorphins in a healthy balance, I would say, right? Is that what it is? Like a healthier balance of those things?
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What is each one? Dopamine equals what?
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Oxytocin equals?
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Serotonin?
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Endorphins.
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And if they're all off, if you have the ability to focus on regulating dopamine, will all the others start to rebalance?
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You talked about, what is endorphins again?
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Yeah. And you said if you have low endorphin levels, there's four causes of low endorphins. The first cause is a lack of hard physical exercise. The second key cause is a sedentary lifestyle, which is kind of like a complication of that. Third is... a lack of laughter. And the fourth is a final cause is chronic stress, constantly just being in stress all day long.
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It's interesting because this is just most of society, I feel like. Most people don't have a hard sense of physical exercise every day. They want to have a more relaxed lifestyle, more sedentary lifestyle. And those two things are interconnected. That's half of the causes of low endorphins, not having a physical exertion exercise routine. uh, sitting all day or laying all day.
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And, and I think the third one is actually really interesting because I was asking someone this morning, I was texting with someone this morning. It's the, I was saying, what are the biggest lessons of the year for you? And they were sharing their big lessons. One of them was actually stress is like learning how to minimize stress because they had some physical problems occur from chronic stress.
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And as I was telling them, they were like, what's one of your lessons? They were asking me in return, what's one of your lessons? And I was like, bringing joy back into everything. And I think the antidote of stress is laughter and joy. It's like, okay, this is a stressful moment or season or things are struggling right now.
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But how do I just find ways to bring play into my day, even for like five, 10 minutes? How do I bring joy, play? And I'm not talking about bringing laughter in every sad, sensitive moment. Yeah. Being, you know, having a lack of like awareness of the moment. For sure. Bringing it into your life. Having playful moments when you can. Having fun. Just whatever you can to laugh. It's important.
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It is massive. And the research is showing that as well based on what you have in your book. So I think that's really interesting, these four causes.
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Wow. This is powerful, man. I'm excited about this book and all the things that you're creating. Make sure you guys pick up a copy of The Dose Effect, Small Habits to Boost Your Brain Chemistry by TJ Power. Powerful research, content and information to support you improving the quality of your life. I've got a couple of final questions for you, TJ.
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But before I ask them, where can people go to follow you and support you beyond the book as well?
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Check all that out. I love it, man. Um, I want to acknowledge you, TJ, for your courage to talk openly today. I think I felt something in your heart that you wanted to share more of this stuff, so I'm glad you were able to talk about it openly.
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And I'm glad that you, as a neuroscientist, have also tapped into the spiritual laws of the universe to support you in your constant personal growth, healing,
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eliminating certain distractions or addictive habits that might not serve you and finding something to replace that can serve you and your mission and a greater level so i acknowledge you for it's probably not easy being in your mid-20s and not being easy at any age but in your mid-20s when your your peers of that age are pushing against the thing that you're leaning into yeah it's
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and are normalizing addictive behaviors that don't support you for quick dopamine. And that's been how you were raised through culture, society, communities, things like that. So for you to go against the grain and lean in the curiosity to find more peace and harmony within yourself, I acknowledge you for that and for opening up about it and starting to talk about it.
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And I hope to see it in some of your content as well in the future. Um, this question I ask everyone towards the end, it's called the three truths. Imagine a hypothetical scenario. You get to live as long as you want, but it's your last day on earth. You get to create and accomplish everything that you dream of. But for whatever reason on this last day, you have to take all of your work with you.
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It can't stay in this world. Your books are gone. Your content it's erased. This conversation's gone. Everything's gone. But in the last day, you get to leave three truths behind, three things you know to be true from all of your experiences and the lessons you would leave behind to others. This is all we would have of your content. What would be those three truths for you?
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It's beautiful, man. I love those. And TJ, what's your definition of greatness?
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Hopefully it wasn't too boring for you.
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TJ Power, my man. Thanks for being here, brother. Thank you for having me. Powerful. I have a brand new book called Make Money Easy.
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And if you are looking to create more financial freedom in your life, you want abundance in your life, and you want to stop making money hard in your life, but you wanna make it easier, you wanna make it flow, you wanna feel abundant, then make sure to go to MakeMoneyEasyBook.com right now and get yourself a copy.
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It's interesting because I relate to that. I mean, I just hated school. I was just like, get me out of here. Watching the clock all day long, like hoping for the bell to ring. It just felt like it took forever. And anything the teacher said, I just feel like I have no idea what they're saying. And I can't comprehend. And reading, I have to reread the page over and over again.
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I still don't understand. And just feeling defeated every day in class. Like, I'm never going to get this stuff. Me too. And because it was so hard and I wasn't excited about it, I checked out. I had a lack of attention. But once I found something that I was excited about, it was hard, but it gave me more of a purpose. I'm excited about this.
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I'm willing to do the hard work because I'm seeing improvement. I'm learning something. I'm liking what I'm learning. I'm seeing results. Something's exciting. And I have a goal or a dream that I can work towards that excites me. So I was able to use that energy or that lack of energy I had from school and put it towards sports, most likely. And eventually evolve into what I'm doing now.
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So it was figuring out a way to use that lack of attention and feeling of ADHD into, well, find something you're curious about. It may be hard to learn how to do it, but at least you're curious enough and have the excitement enough to go work on it over and over again until you get better at it. Definitely. And it made me kind of obsessive on mastering things that I was curious about.
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There's so much scientifically-backed information in this episode that I believe you are going to love this. And please share this with one friend. If you know anyone who might be struggling with kind of like brain fog or just feels like their mood has been kind of, well, moody off and on consistently and they haven't figured out how to unlock that feeling
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Like you said, becoming the best hunter-gatherer or whatever. It's like, okay, I suck at everything else and I have no attention for these things, but this one thing is really exciting. Let me go all in. And it's like, now I have hyper-focus and super attention to detail for these things. So it's interesting how that... you know, kryptonite, you can turn it into a superpower.
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I was like, man, who's your designer? I like that.
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Wow, that's interesting, man. Now, what are the... What are the things that are causing us the most amount of lack of energy, low mood, and a struggle to focus? What is the things that's causing that the most for our society?
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What is a healthy relationship with social media?
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One time. and then it was done.
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Wow. As a neuroscience based on science and research, what is the benefit of delayed gratification, of creating boundaries or barriers to either check your phone or do something that's going to create gratification for you versus having instant gratification whenever you want of that thing?
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This show, The School of Greatness, is all about supporting each other, this community of individuals who've been listening for over 12 years. It's all about supporting each other and just improving the things where we feel stuck or we feel challenged with. And in no way have I figured everything out in life.
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There are two big things happening at one time that I've never done before. I'm going on a book tour for my new book, Make Money Easy, and I'm doing a podcast tour at the same time. It is going to be big and I'm going to seven cities in 10 days. Get your friends, get your family, bring everyone you know to these cities. I'm coming to Austin, Texas, New York, Boston. We're going to Nashville.
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And you're like, this is crazy.
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My friend.
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Unless I show up at 9 because I get paid at 9.
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He's going to share intimate details about his journey, including a powerful story on how hitting rock bottom led him to rediscover his faith and joy. There are so many moments where Robert had to pause and think and really reflect about the questions and the conversation we were talking about because he hadn't. been asked some of these questions ever.
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I mean, those two, I guess, mentors and people you worked for, they both have billion dollar brands now, right? Multiple billion dollar brands? Yes. That's kind of rare that when you're in your teens, early 20s, you randomly, how do you, is it a random thing or do you just know, oh, this guy could be something one day? That's pretty impressive. I just... You could have worked anywhere.
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I could have worked anywhere. You could have worked at a local restaurant or a barbershop that wouldn't have been this mega-billion-dollar business, but you worked for these two jobs.
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Interesting. So you've, the lie I've been telling yourself is you've made it. but what is making it? When have you made it? If someone looks at you or watches this and they're like, if Robert doesn't think he's made it with all the money he has, all the success from multiple industries, from TV to personal brand to social media, everything you touch has blown up.
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If he doesn't think he's made it, I have no chance of making it. That's such a great question because you think about that.
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So it was fun to have this conversation with him where a lot of these individuals who are on TV or doing a lot of interviews, usually get asked the same questions. But as you guys know, I like to go off script a lot and ask things that I'm feeling based on how someone's energy is, how their heart is, and how our connection is before the interview actually starts.
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You have a series on social media that's about the lessons you've learned from billionaires. And you've been around a lot of billionaires. And people can go on your Instagram and TikTok and YouTube and watch all these videos. I think they're really interesting lessons. But if you could share the top three lessons you've learned from billionaires, what would those three lessons be?
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And he reveals game-changing insights about the difference between hard work and smart work, why real wealth requires more than just passion, and how to maintain joy while pursuing ambitious goals. He's shared so many cool stories right off the bat that I think you're really going to love. So make sure to take notes. Share this with one friend.
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Here's a question for you that I think a lot of people, because I have a lot of fit people in my audience, a lot of fitness professionals and people in the health and wellness industry, who struggle at making money. They're really good at taking care of their health and they're jacked or they're fit or they eat all the right foods, but they haven't unlocked how to create financial abundance.
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So if someone is healthy physically, emotionally, spiritually, but financially hasn't cracked that code yet, what is missing from them to create that financial abundance?
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I think because they're used to be following the rules and taking orders probably and saying, what do I need to do to make sure that my... boss is happy and staying in line with the team. That's part of it.
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Because you can't break the military mold of how things are done. This is the way it's done. We're not going to change because you have a different opinion about how to run our unit. So I said the same thing.
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Just copy and paste the link on Apple or Spotify and share it with a friend. and if you're looking to really create a path to peace freedom and financial abundance i am going on tour very soon that's right i'm doing a book tour and podcast tour merged into one to one epic seven city 10-day tour around America.
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Interesting. Have you ever had a point in your life where you tied your self-worth with your net worth? Wow.
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But yeah, I think in my 20s, I was very... How does someone today not tie their self-worth with their net worth? Maybe they're not making a lot of money right now. How do they not let it affect their identity or their core of who they are and the way they feel about themselves because they're not making $100,000 or millions or these things? Well, I...
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And if you haven't got your tickets yet, go to lewishouse.com slash tour right now while you're listening to this episode. You can just click the link in the description of this podcast episode while you're listening. Open it up and see what city I am coming to because we are going to have massive names that I'm going to do a live interview on stage at each city and
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You want to see my Ferrari?
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Now, here's an interesting thing I think everyone needs to pay attention to and and be mindful of what you're about to say. Because I think what you're about to say from this question I ask you is going to break everyone's minds open. Because a lot of people are thinking, I work 15, 18, 20 hour days already and for years I've been working hard at a job.
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And I'm not getting the exponential growth I'd like. Barely making incremental growth. And I don't see a way, I can't work any harder to create more wealth for myself. What is the thing that you learned then in that moment about hard work versus creating wealth?
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Because yes, you need to work hard, but what is the thing that broke you open from saying, I'm going to work a different way that's going to unlock wealth? That's such a great question.
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And you do not want to miss who I'm going to have. Some of them I might announce. Some of them are going to be big surprises. So go to lewishouse.com slash tour. If you want to have an evening of greatness with a community of like-minded individuals who want to continually elevate their mind and their power in their purpose every single day.
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So what did you learn from going to hard work to smart work to create more financial abundance? Value.
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Really?
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If you want to be around that type of a community, go to lewishouse.com slash tour and get your tickets now. Bring your friends, bring the whole family. It's going to be a party, a celebration. We've got a book tour. We've got a podcast tour all in one. Get ready for an evening of greatness at lewishouse.com slash tour.
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Can you give an example of what that slogan or line of marketing material might look like or if someone's speaking about it to a potential customer? You're not selling tech or cyber technology, right? Or cybersecurity software or tech. What are you then selling?
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And again, I am very excited and I appreciate all of you who are supporting on this journey of greatness. And again, big thank you to everyone who is just showing up for yourselves as well. during these episodes, taking this information in, diving in deep, sharing with your friends. I appreciate you. I am grateful for you. And you deserve great things in your life.
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Then we're going to Los Angeles, San Diego, and San Francisco. Make sure to get your tickets right now. Go to lewishouse.com slash tour. Again, bring everyone you know. If you're looking to create more financial freedom and abundance in your life, and you want to see a massive guest live on the School of Greatness show, Get your tickets. I can't wait to see you there.
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That's beautiful. Yeah, especially like in a whole tech world, like how can you humanize it or make a feeling come from that type of a product or a service? where it may not seem like it's supposed to make it.
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This has been fascinating, Robert. I'm so glad you're opening up. I've got a handful of questions left for you. There's so many things I would like to talk about, but there's a few things I want to make sure we get to. One is faith. How much has...
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faith in god or in religion or in the universe played in your life from childhood to now and how much do you put awareness around your faith and also into what you're going to create for the future of your life
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What was the season of time where you were feeling that was a rough season for you? 2014.
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Is this emotionally? Is this like alcohol or drugs? Or is this just like, you know, panic attacks? Is this just anxiety, depression?
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Being in service for a month to the homeless in that city.
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17 years on Shark Tank. We have many mutual friends that... that you're buddies with that I've had on the show as well. And you just have an inspiring story and an inspiring life. And I'm glad we got to connect a little bit before this because...
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how does someone learn to know they are valuable? Like, you got to a place where you were broken, right? You were broken, but you had, I don't know, hundreds of millions of dollars, private jet, you had success, you're on TV, you're doing these things that people would dream of having.
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How does someone learn to know that they are valuable, whether they have lots of money or don't have lots of money?
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You've been inspiring young and old entrepreneurs for many years to learn about how to grow their business, how to launch a product, how to package and position their product. And, I mean, your story is pretty fascinating because you're an immigrant. You're an immigrant family. I think you came to Canada when you were eight. Mm-hmm. But you didn't have anything. Your dad didn't have any money.
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What do you ask God for today?
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Why do you think so many people tie wealthy people with stingy, mean people? And why do they, you know, a lot of people will say, you know, they want wealth, but they're also afraid of wealth because they've seen how some people who are super wealthy maybe treat people poorly or are angry or whatever it might be, or stingy, not generous with their wealth.
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If you could go back a year before 2014, a decade back, a year before you're about to go through your darkness, the sadness, the depression, the divorce, the horrible feelings you're feeling.
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And if you were who you are now, and you could speak to that younger version of you 11 years earlier, and only gave him three pieces of advice, with everything you know he was about to go through, what three things would you say to that version of you right before you went through your darkest times?
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You guys were living in extreme poverty. So how do you learn to go from, I guess, a poverty situation and turn it into an abundance mindset? When does that learn switch for you of like, we're in poverty, whether you knew it or not, but you had a poverty mindset, or maybe you didn't, but you're experiencing poverty. When does that switch on to abundance of wealth mindset? It's a great question.
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That's beautiful. Again, there's a lot of things I'd love to ask you, but I want to be respectful of our time, Robert. I have two final questions for you before I ask them.
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I want people to follow you on all of our social media and your YouTube because you, in the last few months, have been starting to share these stories that I don't feel like people have been able to see unless they watch Shark Tank. And they edit that stuff down into 30-second moments, and there's six of you, and so they don't get all of you.
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But the wisdom you're sharing here, I feel like it's just scratching the surface about what you've been sharing online. So I want people to follow you on YouTube. I want people to follow you on Instagram. It's your name. We'll have it all linked up. But how else can we be of service or support to you today?
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Cool. This question I ask everyone, there's two final questions. This one is called the three truths. Imagine you get to live as long as you want to live in this world, but it's your last day eventually in the future. And you get to create and accomplish all of your dreams from this moment until that last day.
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But on this last day, for whatever reason, hypothetically, you've got to take all of your content with you. So all of your social media content, this interview, your books that you've written, it's all gone. So no one has access to your information anymore.
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But on the last day, you get to leave behind three truths, three things you know to be true, kind of the three lessons you leave behind for everyone. And that's all we would have to remember your content by.
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Millions of people. Millions of people. Before I ask the final question, Robert, I want to acknowledge you for the joy you brought today. Oh, thank you. I think there's... You know, I think a lot of people can learn from you, not from the lessons you share, but by the energy you bring. And I've heard the word joy and written it down and highlighted it multiple times from this conversation.
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And for me, that's what I feel like what you embody is joy. And I believe it's probably one of the main reasons you've been successful in your TV career, in your business career, is because you've brought the joy consistently.
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maybe i need to be more miserable because mark is pretty miserable and he's worth more money than i am no i'm joking yeah but is he living a fulfilled life you know probably you're like dang it he can wear whatever he wants yeah but i want to acknowledge you for for you know overcoming the pain and creating great perspective and i feel like you're living a life of extreme purpose by sharing your knowledge now in a bigger way i know we talked off camera about how
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you know, is it even worth doing this social media stuff? And it's like, I can't really quantify, like, is there money here? You know, is there opportunities for business? You never know how much of an impact you can make on someone when you share a story. And you are incredible at sharing stories, whether it be on TV, here, but also in your social media.
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And the people will remember the feeling of the stories you share for a long time. And so I acknowledge you for diving into this chapter, whether you do it for years or a few more months of social media. But sharing your knowledge for free is an incredible gift that you're giving to the world. And I acknowledge you for that. And I acknowledge you for bringing the joy when you share. Thank you.
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Of course. My final question, Robert, what's your definition of greatness? Wow.
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I'm trying to see if it's different than what I had a couple of years ago. For me, it is to discover your unique talents and gifts that you've been given and pursue those gifts to live your dreams. And in the pursuit of those dreams, make the maximum impact on the people around you. Wow. Yeah. Because we've all been given different talents and gifts that we need to learn to cultivate.
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And then we are, I think we're given cues, feelings of what dreams we might have. There's a curiosity. There's something that pulls us into an idea for a potential dream. Something. Whether it's God or an intuition or a feeling that's pulling us or making us think about something. I'd like to create that. I'd like to build that. I'd like to overcome that. I'd like to help this thing.
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I'd like to make this thing. Something that pulls us. And then we need to cultivate the talents and gifts within us to pursue that dream. And in that pursuit, I think it's doesn't have to be changing the world, but it needs to be changing the world around you, impacting the world in a positive way around you. And if that's five people, your family, that's beautiful.
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So I think that's what your mom and dad did. They impacted you and the people in their community because that was their reach. And you've been given different gifts and talents that you've cultivated and maximized to this level. And you feel like you've got to maximize more to the next level. And in that pursuit of the new dream, how will you impact people around you?
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The people closest to you, but also the platform you've been building, how will you impact those individuals as well?
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We have, I mean, we have some similarities in life. I mean, obviously you're much more successful than me, but when I was sleeping on my sister's couch, I would watch that show. Dancing with the Sturgs. And I was like, I was living in Columbus, Ohio, and I was like broke, and I was like, but I loved to salsa dance.
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I started learning how to salsa dance after our, you know, when I was on my sister's couch. This is one of the things I was talking about beforehand. I learned public speaking and salsa dancing because they were big fears of mine. And so I'd watch this show and I traveled the world eventually salsa dancing in clubs, like social salsa dancing, not ballroom. Not joking you.
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For like 18 years I've been traveling the world. You must be the biggest salsa dancer in the world. Biggest gringo salsa dancer ever, right? And I remember thinking, gosh, I wanted to be amazing to be on the show one day. I wasn't famous, you know, I had no money, but I was like, you need to become famous in order to get on this show.
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And that was like, since I've been in LA for 12 years, I've always wanted to be on that show. I've always wanted to be on the show. So maybe one day I'll fulfill that as well. I'll introduce you to their producers. Do the cats, right? Yeah, exactly. I've met her. I've tried to pitch and stuff myself. I'm there. Many years I've tried. I mean, obviously, greatest experience I've ever had.
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And the hardest experience. I can imagine. People don't realize how hard it is. Eight hours a day of training and the whole thing. I know a lot of the dancers as well, and they're friends of mine. I love the show. It's a great experience. But one day, maybe I'll be there. If it's still on air, maybe I'll make it one day.
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Exactly. Robert, this has been powerful. I appreciate you so much for coming on. Appreciate you. Thank you. Thank you. Amazing. Thank you so much for listening to this episode. If you enjoyed this and if you found value, make sure to share this with one friend. Just copy and paste the link and text a friend where you feel would be truly inspired by this episode as well.
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And now it's time to go out there and do something great.
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Welcome back, my friend, to the School of Greatness. If you are like me and you love business and entrepreneurship, if you love how to turn creative ideas in your mind into a reality, into the physical world, to be of service to other people, then this is going to be the episode for you. And for years... years, I have been watching a show called Shark Tank.
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Wow. So what is a poverty or poor mindset versus a wealth or abundance mindset? What do they both encompass?
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I just had to get out of the situation. So how do you learn then to get out of a situation of, I guess, poverty or not having a lot? How do you learn? Is it a skill? Is it a shift of energy? Is it a shift in thinking that allows you to get out of that situation? Is it a shift of I need to act in a different way? I need to become something different in order to create abundance?
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What does that shift look like? Yeah, that's a great question too. And how old were you when you were like, okay, I'm not poor personally, but I'm in an environment that isn't thriving.
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And we've interviewed many of the sharks on this podcast over the years, some of my friends who we've had on here, who have helped invest in small entrepreneurs and business owners for years on Shark Tank and also just inspired people through educating and informing them how to really grow a business.
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Do you feel like you've gotten out of that cycle at this season of your life? Because now as you start to generate wealth, you're around people that have a million dollars, then a hundred million dollars, then billions. And you're like... Do you find yourselves kind of still in that at some times?
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Right. So when was that switch then for you? You're 12, you start to become aware that, okay, we're moving around, but I'm still in this poor environment compared to everyone else around me. Was it an energy shift, a thinking shift, or an action shift that allowed you to say, I'm now creating abundance in my life? Yeah, that's a great question.
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And today I get to interview Robert Herjavec, who I've always been inspired by he's kind of like one of the nicest sharks, it seems like on Shark Tank. And I've always been inspired by his insight and his generosity. And he is a powerful business leader, entrepreneur. And today we're talking about how to explore the deeper dimensions of building wealth and living a life of purpose.
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So what did you start learning to support you from going to poor to abundance mindset?
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What was the first lesson you learned in sales or the first sale you ever made in life?
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My friend today is a great day because we have Greg Braden in the house. And Greg is a five time New York Times bestselling author. And we're about to explore humanity's untapped potential and the battle for our divinity. Greg has been a requested guest on the show for many years. I'm about to talk about what we're going to cover here in a moment. Before I do, I have a couple announcements.
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I'm also going on tour. That's right. I'm going to be going on Seven City Book Tour and Podcast Tour in March. So make sure to go to that link as well, MakeMoneyEasyBook.com. Or you can just go to the link in the description at the top of this podcast. to learn more about the tour because it is going to be fun and I'm going to seven cities throughout the U.S. in the month of March.
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So get ready for that. It will be a powerful tour if you can make it out to one of those cities. I hope you can. But today we've got Greg Braden and he shares groundbreaking insights about the technological threats to our humanity by 2030. The scientific evidence of our body's incredible capabilities and how to reclaim our innate power. He is is going to really share some powerful things today.
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I want you to take some notes. Some things might seem a little confusing at moments, but most of you who have been here for a while know that we like to tap into the surreal. We like to tap into the fifth dimension, how to really tap into the inner world within us so that the outer world can expand.
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Push a button and I can be on a video call from you from around the world in a second.
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But you didn't accept your parents' views of you.
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We can have more peace, harmony, abundance, and love like we are meant to and deserve to feel and experience on a our temptations, our envy, our jealousy, our greed to take over. And it's time we go back to our true essence, our true nature, and that is love and divinity. And when we continue to remember who we are and live in that space, man, can we create some powerful things around us?
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How does someone unresolve their grief?
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If someone is experiencing symptoms, whether it be heart palpitations or they don't know if it's grief or not, or they're feeling anxiety, maybe panic attacks, maybe ADHD, maybe, you know, just depressive thoughts, things like that.
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What happens when someone who is experiencing some type of mental or emotional altercation in their body, what happens when someone decides to go the medical route versus the healing somatic route?
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And can we shock the people around us with love and with genuine authenticity on divinity? who we are, our way of being, so that they ripple with that energy and how they show up in the world as well. It's all about making a difference, being a blessing every single day. And sometimes it's hard to do that when you feel stressed and overwhelmed. And that's why we need these reminders.
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because I wasn't when I was a child. Even though you were in your late 60s at that point and you were an adult and you could logically say, well, I have resources, I have protection, I have a home, I have money, I have safety. But the little boy in you didn't feel safe.
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I need this reminder. And that's why 12 years in, I keep doing the School of Greatness for me. I'm selfish to continue this process because without it, I would struggle. I definitely would struggle. And this is a reminder for me to continue to remember who I am. I am, and for you to remember who you are. I'm so grateful for you, and let's go ahead and dive in to this episode right now.
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Processing.
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Number one, I am getting married soon. Can you believe it? I am getting married to an incredible human being. And it's been a powerful journey of growth, learning, healing, and definitely tapping into our divinity. I feel like I've grown stronger in my spiritual journey over the last three and a half years in my relationship than ever before.
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Entanglement is what it's called. What is this field that we're living in?
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Welcome back, everyone, to the School of Greatness. Very excited about our guest and the conversation we're about to have. We have the five-time New York Times bestselling author, Greg Braden, in the house, who's also an amazing pioneer in emerging paradigm, bridging science and human potential.
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And there's so many topics that I want to dive into, but there's a quote that you have that I want to start with. And the quote is that you've said, by the year 2030, we will either have awakened to the truth of our untapped human potential, or we will be locked into a society of hybrid humans that is engineered away from our powers of creativity, emotion, empathy, and intuition.
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No controls.
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Bicycles in the backyard, yeah, yeah.
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And my first question for you is, is what is our true untapped human potential? What is it that we haven't even had access to that ancient humans had access to?
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Yeah, the easy question. What is that untapped human potential that we have no clue how to tap into that the ancients knew how to? And how can we start tapping into it?
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I mean, this is... This is great context for people. And I can already tell people wanting to follow up with a question in their mind. So I think this is great context to give people, you know, a small percentage of all the information you're talking about here to give us context. There's a couple quotes I want to read that kind of back what you've been talking about that you shared before.
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Quote from you. Expressing our divinity frees us from the fear that keeps us small, insignificant, and powerless, allowing us to triumph over life's challenges.
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Okay. The next quote you said is, "'Awakening your divinity begins with the way you think of yourself, your story.'"
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And then one more quote to tie into this you said the language we use the words we choose to describe ourselves And share our thoughts feelings emotions and beliefs forms the framework for the unity or Separation that we experience when we think and solve the problems of everyday life and Did I write that this is what you wrote, you know, i'm laughing because this is a new book
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Sure, sure.
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But my question is for you then, you know, you're talking about our human DNA, I heard you say, is a fractional antenna.
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Fractal antenna, meaning we're receiving all different types of information from all over the place. So I'm curious then, we're getting information from the outside world, whether it be media, parents, friends, peers, whatever it might be, advertising, all coming to us. We're also getting what I heard you say, our most powerful environment is our emotional environment. So we're getting
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information from our emotional environment constantly. How important then is our inner self talk and the stories we tell ourselves in how we either create and attract what we want in terms of abundance or have more of a miserable type of a life? Sure. Well, you nailed it.
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How does one, Greg, start to believe they are worthy and deserving of healing? Incredible love, abundance, health. We're doing this right now. Yeah.
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Even if they had a horrible backstory, even if their parents had abandoned them, abused them, if they had been cheated on, lied to, stolen from, physically, sexually, emotionally abused, over and over again, when their reality was something that was painful and suffering. How can they believe I'm worthy? Look at all the bad stuff that's happened to me.
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It doesn't mean anything to them.
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So you need story plus the belief of that story.
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Your body is your subconscious mind. Is your subconscious mind. So that means what you think and believe about yourself. Consciously and subconsciously. You create within your body.
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Wow.
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So we're expressing a frequency based on the words we use, the sounds we use, and then every other person is receiving that frequency as well.
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What is the frequency of our words and how it supports or harms us? It's not so much the words themselves.
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So it's the interpretation of the words.
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You talked about this story in the beginning where, you know, you and your brother grew up in the same environment, same parents, same schooling, essentially, but you have different lives. You interpreted things differently. How can one learn to break an interpretation that they've lived a life of pain, sadness, and suffering?
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Not deny the experience that happened to them, but not define them moving forward and holding them back from the abundance that they want to create in their life.
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So again, if someone- That makes sense if I say- It makes sense to me, of course. But if someone's watching, listening, and they're thinking, you know, I've just had a rough life. Sure. I've just had a tough life. I'm sure you can think of someone in your life who has been holding on to that story. And maybe it's validated, right? Like they can validate that and they have had it really challenging.
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Sure. If we can try to simplify the steps, maybe the actions and the practice might take a lot of time and energy and conscious effort. But if we could simplify the steps, if someone is feeling completely stuck or broken in their relationships, their financial situation, their career path, and they just feel like energetically things are not working for me, I'm not able to create the life I want.
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I'm hearing you say we're supposed to protect and preserve our bodies, but I'm taking drugs because it's helping me deal with all this stress. I'm using alcohol, porn, addiction because I'm exhausted.
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What would be the practical steps that they could start to apply in their life to go from a story and a past of suffering or sadness and transform it into peace, freedom, and financial and emotional abundance in their life?
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Step one, know you have a choice.
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Are we okay? We still got time, yeah. To wrap up that thought real quick, the first step is to know you have a choice. Knowledge is power.
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You have to know that you've got the choice. I think the second thing you said was the need to be willing to tap into your divinity and humanity.
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The chambers.
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And I'm so grateful that I have a partner in Martha who is committed to spiritual growth, who is committed to diving deeper, tapping into her soul, making sure that we're in alignment, tapping into our souls together to just continue to grow. Now, that doesn't mean we have a perfect life and there's never breakdowns or challenges or disagreements.
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So first release it physically.
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Because they don't understand why someone could do something so bad to you.
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Screaming, the whole thing.
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Man, it's so incredible.
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It happens fast. When you can learn to release the trauma physically, you feel like a brand new person. Now, what I'm hearing you say is first you need to learn how to, in order to heal, you need to learn how to understand it, but also you need to release it and free it chemically and physically. But then how do you emotionally link it together so that the emotions don't come back?
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Like Viktor Frankl. Exactly. Man serves for meaning.
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But if our past has continued to define us and we have created the belief that we are unworthy because of everything that has happened, how do we then... After decades of thinking something, start to believe, actually, I'm not unworthy the way my parents told me or that this ex told me or that my teachers told me or my friends or my older siblings. I'm not unworthy. I am worthy.
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How do we actually believe that after decades of programming and blocking our divinity and our freedom?
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The chemicals.
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Or a deep wound.
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Emotionally, physically, you know.
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Yeah, and I think a lot of people that are watching or listening, they want to figure out how to go from a place in their life that they're unhappy or unfulfilled with.
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And you didn't see that 40 years ago.
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You didn't see obese people in that town. No. Necessarily, yeah.
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So these, how are we doing on our list? Is this helping? This is powerful. And I want to, you know, I have a couple of final questions for you before we have to wrap up. I want to honor, I realize I did a lot of talking and I want to stop and allow my host to ask. Of course. No, this is beautiful. I want you to speak for more hours. I mean, this is, I feel like we're just scratching the surface.
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to actualizing their potential, their dreams, their desires, but they don't know how to go from where they are currently to manifesting or creating that reality, that untapped reality in the future. And they don't know how to draw it to themselves faster. How do I bring this idea into the world and make it happen?
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But I have a few final questions before I ask them. I want people to get a copy of your book. It's called Pure Human, The Hidden Truth of Our Divinity, Power, and Destiny by Greg Braden. Make sure you guys get a copy, a few copies of this book if you want to learn more about your divinity and your power and how to unlock your power for abundance, peace, and prosperity in your life.
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Extremely powerful. And if you are loving this, if you're on YouTube or if you're listening on audio on Apple or Spotify, leave a comment in the YouTube of your biggest insight or takeaway that you've heard so far. And if you want more with me and Greg, let me know in the comments below. And maybe we can get Greg out here in the future again to talk more about this.
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I feel like we just scratched the surface. Lewis and Greg's big fun podcast part two. Exactly, exactly. So let us know if you want more of that. Like it, I'll leave a comment. Um, I've got a few kind of final questions and we'll see if we can keep these tighter to be respectful. We'll do the lightning round. Lightning round.
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I don't know how fast you're about to make this one, but a 40 plus years of work, research, dedication, uh, acquiring knowledge and also teaching. What is the biggest thing at this season of your life that is blocking your abundance?
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That's beautiful. Work is love made visible. I love that. Khalil Gibran. I love that. Here's a question I ask everyone at the end. So I have two final questions for you. But again, I want people to sit down. This sounds big. But again, I want people to get this book, Pure Human, The Hidden Truth of Our Divinity, Power and Destiny. Make sure you get this. We'll link it up.
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And follow Greg online as well. What's the best place to support and follow you? Is it gregbrayden.com? Yeah, it's gregbrayden.
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Oh, there you go.
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It's just Greg. It's not an abbreviation. Plain old Greg.
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And you're still leading workshops and retreats and all these different things. So all that will be linked up there. A little bit fewer, but, and we're doing more domestic, but yeah, all the live events are listed on the website. There you go. And again, if you want a part two, make sure to comment below. Here's a question I ask everyone towards the end.
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It's called the three truths, hypothetical question and scenario. You said before we jumped on here, you want to live to 200, correct, I think?
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200-year plan, which we'll talk about next time what that looks like. But imagine it is the year 200 for you. You're 200 years young. And for whatever reason, that's the end in this world. And imagine you get to create everything you want from this moment. You're 70 for another 130 years. And you get to live the life of your dreams from this moment until then.
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But for whatever reason, you have to take all of your work with you. This book, every book you've created, this interview, it's all gone, hypothetical scenario. But on the last day, you get to leave behind three things you know to be true, three lessons about life, the world, whatever it may be. And that's all we have to remember you by. What would those three truths be for you?
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Wow, that's beautiful, Greg. That's beautiful, Greg.
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uh greg i want to acknowledge you before i ask the final question i would acknowledge you greg for being a conscious leader in the world that struggles with divinity spirituality and pure love and you've been doing this work for over four decades being a vessel of service and truth and knowledge and wisdom and i would acknowledge you for being a leader in this
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space where i feel like it just seems to be getting harder and harder for the youth i mean for adults as well it's harder and harder for people and over the next five years as the forces of evil try to capture people's hearts and souls i'm grateful and appreciative of you
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being an interruption for people with wisdom, knowledge, and practical lessons to take back and reclaim our own power to have some type of transcendence over it all. So I acknowledge you for being a leader in the Thank you.
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It means a lot to me for you to say that to me. Of course, Greg. Of course. I'm excited to do more in the future. But my final question, what's your definition of greatness?
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Greg Brayden, thanks for being here. I appreciate it. Thank you very much. Powerful, man. I have a brand new book called Make Money Easy.
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And if you're looking to create more financial freedom in your life, you want abundance in your life, and you want to stop making money hard in your life, but you want to make it easier, you want to make it flow, you want to feel abundant, then make sure to go to makemoneyeasybook.com. dot com right now and get yourself a copy.
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I really think this is going to help you transform your relationship with money this moment moving forward. We have some big guests and content coming up. Make sure you're following and stay tuned to the next episode on the School of Greatness. I hope you enjoyed today's episode and it inspired you on your journey towards greatness.
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And now it's time to go out there and do something great.
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But with those challenges in life, it allows us to reconnect to our divinity. And I'm so grateful for that journey. And I appreciate all of you who are listeners of this show who've been a supporter of the show for a long time. We just reached our 12 year anniversary. And I'm just grateful for it all. So I want to thank you again for being here for showing up.
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And what's that cycle?
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The billionaires? Yeah, yeah.
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What are a couple of them?
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I took it as I'm not good enough as a person. And I took it as an offense. And I know now it's because I was very wounded and I was very insecure and I was afraid of people not thinking I was good enough or something like that. Sure. But it's interesting that I was able to do it in one domain, but in the other, it was the hardest thing to overcome, getting feedback.
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And I think growing up, I didn't really have any friends. And I felt like I didn't feel like I had anyone who had my best interest. Besides like, you know, parents or siblings or whatever. But I was the youngest. And they were always kind of off with their friends. So I always felt like I'm left behind. At least that was the story I told myself.
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Whether it was actually true is what I felt, my interpretation.
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And did you do that in social settings or only written settings?
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Oh, okay. I gave you that extra few weeks. Okay. But it's amazing what you've created, number one New York Times bestseller multiple times. And I love seeing your journey.
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What is that about? You know, what do you think that was in about you where you had the confidence or the courage to do something, I guess, online, but in person, you struggled?
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Interesting. Because you could also package your thoughts and make something compelling and you'd get results that way. So you knew what to do there. I think I'm just better in writing than in person.
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Isn't that interesting? Yeah. But I think this is interesting because I don't think most people talk about feedback and receiving feedback. I think it's really valuable to get it. as consistent as you can. And also, I look at a lot of my comments on whatever, YouTube or social media, not in a sense of like, I'm worried what people are saying, but more as feedback.
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Because if there is one person or two people saying, I didn't like how you did this. Like, okay, is this true for me? And is there a place I can improve? Or is it just something they didn't enjoy?
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yeah what were you saying i was i was gonna say this is my fourth time on the show or time let's go baby has anybody been on more i can i be the greatest school of greatness i have had a guest on i think over 10 times actually who is a coach that has come on and coached a bunch of times but as an individual kind of guest like this i think three might be the max i'm trying to think
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Whereas if I see a bunch of common themes around people saying, hey, you're interrupting too much or you're doing this too much or whatever. Then I'm like, okay, here's a theme of different perspectives giving me feedback.
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Don't take it personally, but see how can I improve this? If I want to.
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If I don't care or, you know, about what they think, then I'll do whatever I want. But if I'm trying to get better, if I'm trying to serve better, if I'm trying to be a better interviewer, things like that, then let me take the feedback without taking it personally and try to notice next time. And that's been helpful.
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Because you don't have to, right? Yeah, just because someone said they don't like something you're doing doesn't mean they're the best opinion to listen to for your advice. That's interesting. I like that a lot. It's kind of like when you get a negative review as an author,
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I don't know if you feel this way, but whenever I see a negative review, I'm like, this person is not a writer who's leaving a nasty review on Amazon. Because I don't know if I've ever left a bad review since writing a book for anyone else. Totally. Because you know the pain, the time, the energy, and just putting a book out, even if it's bad.
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I could give some feedback, but not like one star, I hated it. No one writing books are leaving negative reviews for anyone else writing books.
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No. Okay.
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And I was like, yeah, he gets it. It's the same exact. It reminds me of Google hunting. Do you know the scene in the bar where there's a guy who's like philosophizing? And then whatever.
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But thank you for pointing that out because it means I'm on the right track. Yeah, that's cool.
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I think maybe three times. Maybe four is kind of like only a few people. All right. So that's good. It's good to be back. We're making it happen. You've been diving in. You've had a lot of experience on a lot of different topics over 15 years since you've been creating content. But for the last few years, you really dove into creating more psychologically challenging
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40. If you could see everything you've created, which are not you, but you could see it, and you know all of your dreams over the next 3, 5, 10 years, and where you want to go in your health and your relationships or your spiritual journey or financial opportunities, what feedback would you give yourself? Oh, this is a tough question, man. I'm thinking about your mom. Oh. Why? Why?
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Because you told me the last time that came on, your mom really enjoyed the questions. Oh, God. Yeah. Okay. You said your mom watched. She really liked the questions and she really liked the responses that you had because she hadn't heard you say these things. Ah, yeah. Yeah. And I'm curious. So. If you could coach yourself, what feedback would you give yourself?
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I've noticed it in the last couple of years. We're not best friends hanging out all the time, but you've reached out a couple of times. Yes. Whereas before, you never did.
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You know, I was like, so I was like, huh? Is he changing something about himself? I'm trying, man. I'm trying, man. I'm not expecting a text from you every month or something. But the fact that you're just like, hey, just checking in. Let's go for a hike sometime or whatever every once in a while. I'm like, it's noticeable because you never did it before. Yes.
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And so I'm seeing that you're taking those actions and I'm sure you're doing with others too.
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What if they're busy? What if they reject me?
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I think it's a skill. Yeah. I think it's a skill because that's something... It's interesting. I almost have the opposite feedback for myself, which in the last... And maybe we talked about this last time we hung out, but I was connected with everyone too frequently. I had built my kind of business in building relationships.
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And I felt like I was spreading myself too thin.
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And I felt the opposite of like, I'm just pouring into everyone else and I don't feel like... people are as invested in me. And I was starting to feel resentful or frustrated or just like, oh, I'm drained. So I was like, let me reclaim my energy. And I had to, in the last year and a half, say no to people, create boundaries with people.
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like deeper psychological videos on your YouTube, which I think are really fascinating around human behavior and kind of these psychological skills that we can overcome or we can master to help us create deeper relationships, to help us create healthier lives, more inner peace and more abundance. So I wanted to ask you about
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It was more the fear of hurting their feelings if I need to create a boundary or just say no to them. They wanted to spend time together. They wanted something. They wanted to come on the show, whatever it is. And I just had to say, no, I can't do this. and be okay with disappointing them, letting them down, thinking they're judging me, which was my greatest challenge.
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That is a skill. I didn't have that skill. You probably had that skill. I have no problem saying no to people. You're like, screw you. I don't care. And that was a skill that I'm still learning. I haven't mastered it. It's still like a... It's a muscle I'm building where I'm just like, okay, I have to learn how to be okay with not upsetting someone.
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Do you feel like an internal resistance when that situation comes up? Or I remember for like, you know, I need to take a deep breath or what if they react or that's how it was. I'm a lot better now. I feel like I've done it a ton this year.
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I've like immersed myself in like boundaries and no's everywhere in my life. Friends, family, like not in a negative way, but just you need to show up for me.
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And not in an aggressive way, like screw you, but just like doing the action of no or setting a boundary.
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Removing myself from certain, you know, text groups or things like this that are just, ah, I feel out of alignment with certain things. I need to say no.
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Gosh, people please.
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Would you say? I think the first step is what you said, which is self-awareness. Yeah. For me, because I was feeling it for years, but I was afraid of upsetting people. Afraid of hurting the relationships. And then I would resent the relationship when they would reach out and ask for something from me, but they wouldn't just check in on me.
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And I'd be like, and I would do it anyways. And then I resent myself for doing something for someone else when I was frustrated that it didn't just say, Hey, what's going on? How are you doing? Or just texting like, Hey, hope you're doing well.
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But it was only when they reach out when they wanted something. And I would reach out just to be like, Hey, I saw you doing something cool. Congratulations. And not, you know? Yeah. So that would bug me.
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Cause I, maybe I would just assume everyone does what I do, which is like thinking of them, wishing the best of them, like checking in when they do something cool online and I'm like, Hey, congrats. What can I help with?
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In the content you've been making, the research you've been doing, because you're really great at researching and getting the best information, what are a few of the psychological skills that humans should master if they want more peace and abundance in their life?
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It's so interesting, right? But it's so hard. We have the opposite wound or something. I don't know. That's so interesting. With our powers combined. I know.
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That's so interesting. Well, I think a lot of people struggle with these social skills. And I think it is either emotional or psychological wounds that, or just a lack of self-awareness on how to develop this skill. And that's why I think this is what sets people free. Like I have so much more peace in the last year and a half. Now, The first six months of this, I didn't feel peace.
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I felt like, ah, this is hard. But now on the other side of developing this skill, let's say I'm level three or four out of 10 maybe of this skill, I feel so much more peace and freedom. being able to create a boundary, say no, or just not go to someone's party or event and be okay with them being upset with me.
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Yes. I had to say no to people and I had to... Literally, there's a few people that I... had to create a boundary with over text. Then I've been on a phone call and just being like, here's why you're not a good friend. And that was like trembling inside. It was like, I had to have the ultimate courage to be like, you haven't made a good friend. This is why. This doesn't feel good to me.
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I don't appreciate the way you're treating me. And that was the hardest thing. Because I didn't want to upset anyone ever. And I did that over and over again in the last year and a half.
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And I've also realized the skill of not needing lots of friends. You know all this. You're like, yeah, I have four friends and I don't need everyone to like me. I'm always trying to get people to hate me or whatever. It's like... That's how you built your business, right?
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It's funny because you said you grew up kind of feeling bullied and not having a lot of friends. I felt the same way. And I went into, well, let me be friends with everyone. Right. Let me try to get that approval in my 20s.
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And have everyone like me and be the nice guy and over-deliver of value so that people see my worth.
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Thank you.
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Thank you.
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Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
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Let's do it. Look at you now. I know, right? Speaking of psychology and the self-help world, what is the advice in the self-help world right now that you think people should ignore? nor like what's out there in the world that you're seeing people speaking about or content or people saying, ah, you should do this, but you actually shouldn't do that.
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Yeah. I knew you were going to say this because I just feel like I literally knew you were going to say this. I was going to say it before you but I want to miss it because I feel like that's all people talk about.
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For probably every relationship I was in until this one, I used to think I was right in a lot of things. And maybe I was in some of it, but I'm sure that I wasn't a lot of the time. Where in your relationship have you had to question your own assumptions of being right about something?
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Man, that's interesting. Okay, so that's something you feel like is getting either overblown up or overrated in terms of... Where is that? Is there any other self-help or personal development advice you're seeing in the world that you feel like, I don't know if that's actually the best approach? Maybe not a person who's saying something, but a... A concept. Yeah, a concept.
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Where you had to say, I need to have my own medicine and step into self-awareness and realize, oh, maybe actually she's right. Where has that been in your relationship that you've seen?
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That's interesting. No, I like this approach, though, because there are certain people that will just say, oh, if you just think about it, it comes to you or whatever. The universe is conspiring in your favor, and when you set an intention, it all floods your way. which whether you believe that or not, what you said is actually what a lot of people talk about with manifestation.
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These things are already out there. Yes. And when you put your intention on a goal, a vision, a dream, whatever you want to create, then you can go find that thing through daily actions. Yes. And the more clear your intention and the more active you're thinking about that thing and acting on it, the closer you're going to find it, the quicker you're going to find it.
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You call that cognitive bias, not manifestation.
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Whatever it is you believe, if you're taking the actions around, whether you call it a confirmation buy-in or anything else. It's the intention and the action. That's it. That's it. There you go. Okay, perfect. So we agree on that. I agree on that, yeah. So it's the way certain people explain it when they don't add those things. That's what frustrates me.
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Sure, sure, sure. It makes sense. Being 40 now, what is the skill you think you're going to need to learn to master for the next four years of your life?
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Cause you've created so much, you've accomplished so much. You've got, you know, probably every type of goal you want to accomplish. You've done it a million times over with the amount of books you sold and all the things you've created and the lives you've impacted and being married for eight plus years now and all these different things. But for the next 40, what's the skill you need to master?
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To feel happy or abundant or joyful or, you know... I feel happy and abundant and joyful.
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Because you're peaceful and you're happy.
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And so... So maybe it's letting go of something or, yeah, I don't know.
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It's like... That's what I would say is... not having to fricking prove yourself or do the next big thing. That would be the skill. That's interesting.
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Yeah, I think that is And there's a season for that skill. Because I think when you're 22 and you're broke and you're trying to like- You shouldn't have it. Develop talents and skills where you can add value to people in society. You've got to, well, hustle is the right word, but you've got to work hard. You've got to overcome challenges. You've got to deliver value.
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Really?
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You've got to figure out what your path is. But I come back to this quote that Jim Carrey said. a few years ago when he was like retiring. Although I just saw that he's got his, I think his final movie's coming out right now. The interview, someone interviewed him. He's like, yeah, I think I'm done with, with like acting. Yeah. And the interviewer was really sad.
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And he said, why you can't, you're like so great and amazing. And he goes, well, I'm going to tell you something that I don't think any celebrity would ever tell you. And that is that I have enough. I am enough. I have enough. I've done enough. And I am enough. Yeah. And he's like, I don't think any celebrity will ever tell you that. Yeah.
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But at Jim Carrey's age and success, like he's got like three, four decades of fricking wins, right? And like unlimited wealth and fame. So maybe at that level, he felt like, yes, But he didn't feel that 20 years prior. Yeah. But he looked peaceful knowing that he doesn't have to go do more to fulfill something for himself to feel enough. And I think that's a very powerful skill.
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And even if you're in your 20s or 30s and you're like, well, I still want to do more.
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It's how can you do it from a place of I am enough no matter what the outcome is. Right. That's the key. That is power. That's the key. And it's... It's hard, though, because, like, what if you would have never sold this many copies or never been a New York Times bestseller or never... Yeah. Would you still be like, oh, I got to prove something. I got to become better to, like, do this thing.
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I've won already. You've won big, man. And I think having peace with where you're at, because a lot of people, I think suffering is not being happy with what you have. Yes. And it's like there are people that we know who have a lot that aren't happy, or they still feel like they need more in order to fulfill something.
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And that doesn't seem like peace to me.
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And I don't know, even if I feel like, oh, gosh, I've got all the money in the world or whatever it might be, I feel like I'm still going to want to pursue things, but not out of like proving people wrong or proving that I can do something, but just because it's going to serve people and it's going to serve me and I'm going to enjoy it. And I think that's where hopefully people can get that.
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I think the service thing is the key.
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Well, you're doing that in a big way with your YouTube series that you have. And you do a lot of kind of docu-style videos on psychological skills and mindsets and things like that where people can learn. I want people to follow you on YouTube. What's the best place we can go follow you there or your site?
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That's it, man. Every bookstore, every website, everywhere. It's great, man. Yeah, if you haven't checked out Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*** Yet, check it out. If you're trying to learn how to stop people-pleasing, And To Create Boundaries, that's a great book. It's a good book for it, yeah. So check that out, markmanson.net.
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You're doing a lot of long-form content in your podcast as well right now. You're diving deeper into subjects. People can check that out. Is it I Am Mark Manson on YouTube or is it Mark Manson? Just Mark Manson. Mark Manson on YouTube. And everyone on social media. Where's your main platform? Is it Instagram or X or where do you like to share the most bite-sized content?
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Mark Manson over there. Mark, appreciate you as always, man. Thanks for giving us these kind of skills that I think will help us improve the quality of our life. Always my pleasure. I'm excited now. Thank you. I hope you enjoyed today's episode and it inspired you on your journey towards greatness.
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And now it's time to go out there and do something great.
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Or just because you're afraid or something. Totally.
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And you ruin a good relationship. Right. And so you've been married how long now? 10 plus years?
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Eight years. Yeah. What are the psychological skills or emotional skills that you... have now learned or improved upon eight years later that you didn't have at the beginning of the marriage that has helped you become closer, that has helped you feel more harmonious in the marriage, giving you more freedom, whatever it might be within the marriage?
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Did you try to change her early on?
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And if someone doesn't learn the skill of self-awareness, what is available on the other side if they don't learn that skill?
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Sold over 10 million copies... The Subtle Art of Not Giving a... I'm really trying not to say the word.
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If someone feels like, but I know I might, and they're wrong, and I know this is correct and this is not true, in whatever dynamic, relationship dynamic, what is something that someone could ask themself or some steps they could take to say, am I truly being self-aware or am I just being a jerk? What are those skills or steps to creating self-awareness?
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That's interesting. So kind of remove yourself from the scenario and look at it from a different perspective, an unbiased perspective, I guess, of like you being in the situation. Totally. That's interesting. Okay. So that's one thing to creating self-awareness. Is there another?
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Interesting. And if you're in the wrong relationship intimately, your partner might be saying, you're bad at this and bad at this. They may be... Not giving you the best feedback, too, depending if they don't have your best interest in mind. If they have their interest in mind and not yours.
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You know what's interesting about feedback is I felt like as an athlete growing up, I was really good at receiving coaching and feedback when it was around sports.
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And then in my 20s... I, and I got into the real world, I didn't like feedback. Like in my business and intimate relationships and like friends, I didn't like it because it felt like it was critical of me as a person rather than me as a skillset in a sport. And I didn't take things personally when a coach was like, you dropped the ball, here's what you need to do. I was like, okay, tell me more.
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How do we get better at this skill? But when I would get feedback in my twenties from whatever girlfriends or friends or whatever business people, it was like, I took it so personally. It was like, I'm bad and wrong because I'm getting feedback. And I didn't know how to do, I would like, push people away, I was like, defend myself every time I got feedback.
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And I realized that really hurt me from personally growing and developing skills. And it wasn't until I was about 30 where I went to a workshop where it was like a whole day was around people giving you feedback in the workshop.
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Like literally they would circle around you and they'd say, you show up to me as this, you show up to me as a jerk, you show up to me as entitled, you show up to me as whatever. And the whole thing was like receiving the feedback and say, give me more feedback. Give me more. You know, give me more. Tell me more. And everyone being... This was after like days of people getting to experience you.
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Yeah. Even if you were like the best person there, what's the feedback you can give them? And that... I don't know if it was like the healthiest thing, but it was definitely helpful for me because I was so against getting feedback about me.
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And it was the greatest gift that I got in my early 30s because I think I just would have been... you know, right and wrong, good and bad, and just unable to receive feedback at any moment. I'd have been judgmental, you know, all these things. It's scary, man. Feedback is scary.
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Welcome back, everyone, to the School of Greatness. Very excited about our guest. We have my friend Mark Manson in the house, who's been on the New York Times bestseller list for, I think, six years now. Is that right? About six years off and on, 360 weeks?
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Isn't that interesting? Or at work, they're like the boss, but then they come home and they're like a baby or whatever it is. Totally. But in my sports experience, I was like, give me the best coach who can give me feedback all day long. I was like, tell me what to do. How can I get better? How can I improve? But in my personal life, I took it as criticism.
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My friend, welcome back. If you are looking to create abundance in your life, then you are in for a treat today. We have Anthony O'Neill, who is here to explore what it truly means to take control of your finances and live authentically.
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in seven cities in 10 days so go to lewishouse.com tour to check out the book please pre-order your copy asap and get a ticket bring your friends to one of the cities where we are going to around the country and i am so excited to see people i'm going to be out on tour i just got married me and martha had a beautiful wedding been posting about it on social media and i'm excited to get out there and promote this message and this book because
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What would you say is the number one piece of financial advice you're seeing online that people should ignore?
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For the first part of the year, I was planning a wedding. And now that that's complete, I can go out in the world and see all of you. So I'm very excited, very grateful, very blessed. I hope you're feeling blessed today as well. And without further ado, let's dive into this episode right now. Welcome back, everyone. School of Greatness. Very excited about our guest.
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Through candid stories and practical advice, he's going to share with you why true wealth isn't about credit scores or appearances, but about creating a life of abundance on your own terms. Anthony provides a clear roadmap to reclaiming your power and building genuine wealth that can be passed down for generations.
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I was like, Lewis, does he know he a private?
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We have the inspiring Anthony O'Neill in the house. My man. What's up, man?
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Yeah, it's interesting. I mean, I can definitely relate to that. And for me, I've learned that regulating the emotions, like allowing yourself to feel it but not act on them necessarily until you regulate and understand them, gives you more sense of freedom, gives you more sense of power and peace in the decision. And it doesn't mean you're always going to feel good.
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And you're going to have to go through uncomfortable situations. But when you can learn to regulate them, you can have more peace in the decisions you make after you feel the emotions. And one of the challenges, you know, some people spend their money on things when they feel overwhelmed or excited or stressed. Yeah, I was more of an emotional eater where it was like I would just go eat food.
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I didn't need things. I wasn't like, let me go buy the shiny thing to feel good or window shop or go on Amazon. That was never my thing. But it was like. Let me get the ice cream, let me get the pizza to comfort me. So whatever your advice is of comfort, luckily I wasn't a spender of things to go into debt, which takes years to get out of, right?
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Is this my water?
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But I was a spender of food that created physical debt. It created physical weight that I then had to carry with me constantly.
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So whatever the weight is you're carrying or whatever the thing that you're spending to add more weight into your financial pocket or to your physical bucket, whatever it might be, or your weight might be like, oh, I'm going to go to sleep with a bunch of women because I want to just feel good because I don't feel good right now.
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We are at the table. You got a new book called Take Your Seat at the Table, Live an Authentic Life of Abundance, Wellness, and Freedom. Yes, sir. Most people are not free today. They are living in a lot of debt. They're living in a lot of stress and a lot of anxiety. the main things that cause anxiety, stress, overwhelm, and a lack of freedom for people.
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You're picking up that relational baggage, whatever it might be, or spiritual baggage from being in all those relationships. It's just learning how to regulate it better so we can have more abundance, wellness, and freedom like you talk about in your book, Take Your Seat at the Table. And I think that's a big challenge for people. When you talk about, you know,
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If you're in debt $100,000, $100,000, $200,000 from student loans and other two cars, it might seem daunting. You talked about this, okay, get clear on a 12-month, 3-year, 5-year vision and understand why you want that vision in these 12 months, 3 years, and 5 years. Some people might say, oh, man, I have to cut all of my fun out of my life for the next 5 years.
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I have to live so below my means and cut all – All the food I'm going out, all the fun, all the activities and trips, I have to cut it all out because of the financial baggage and debt that I'm in in order to, in five, seven years, be debt-free. And that seems exhausting.
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Most people don't have the discipline emotionally, mentally, or financially to go so below their means when they've gone into debt for years and they've created an identity of debt and spending. How does someone wrap their head around that
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complete death of an identity on who they have been to say, oh, in order to be debt free, I'm going to take five years of my life to be so below my means, cut out everything, and then I can finally be free.
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I would ask them, how are you feeling right now? Probably trapped, probably stressed, anxious, avoidant. They probably don't even know how much depth they're in because they don't want to keep looking at it because it doesn't feel good. It's like when you gain weight, you don't want to jump on the scale because you're like, I don't want to look at that. But... Well, I got to say this respectfully.
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Would you say that people being in debt and not knowing how to get out of debt is one of the biggest things that causes them stress around money? And if so, how do people start to get out of debt when they just feel overwhelmed by it?
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It seems like forever, but when you're there, it's like, man, what happened the last two years?
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What's the biggest financial mistake you made in the last year? In the last year?
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This guy has done it and does it well. Yeah, and he knows his worth. He knows his worth. For his experience and his product. He told me it will take me two weeks. He told me I'll have it done in three days. Oh my gosh. The guy for $7,500 said three days? Louis. Oh, man.
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Exactly.
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Curious about two-part question. What is your definition of abundance? And what is blocking you and most people from abundance?
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Powerful. Speaking of authentic money, and we might have time for one or two more questions, then we got to get you to the airport. I'm curious your thoughts or beliefs around the spiritual path to being able to steward money.
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and your beliefs around or what you've been taught around, what you think God or the universe wants us to become in order to be good stewards of money so we can receive an abundance and overflow of it. Amen.
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That's beautiful, man. And when your next book comes out around money, we'll have to do a whole thing about how –
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engaged couples should be how they should merge spiritually and financially their asset together so that'll be the next conversation we gotta do it but for now i want people to get a copy of your book take your seat at the table live an authentic life of abundance wellness and freedom by anthony o'neill also on social media youtube anthony o'neill make sure to check out his channel his show and all the good things uh any final thing on your harder mind that you would like to to finish before we gotta
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Jump you out of here. Hey, man.
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Appreciate you, sir. Thank you so much for listening to this episode. If you enjoyed this and if you found value, make sure to share this with one friend. Just copy and paste the link and text a friend where you feel would be truly inspired by this episode as well.
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And now it's time to go out there and do something great.
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So debt is one of the big things that holds people back. What do you think is the number one thing that's stopping most people then from becoming debt free?
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He's got to talk about all the mistakes that so many people make today around money, and it is going to blow you away. If you're enjoying this at any time, please share this with a friend that you want to see succeed in their abundance, in their mindset, and in their thinking around money so they can actually behave in new ways to support them in their financial growth.
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People care about that that much? What is your credit score? No way. Yes, Lewis. Women are asking you what's your credit score? Absolutely. Come on. Lewis, I'm going to be real. You, my brother, I can say this. In my community and culture.
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You could be like, well, I got $100,000 in the bank still.
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I was going to ask you a question about the credit score thing. I thought this was interesting. I mean, maybe I, I don't know. No one's ever asked me, like, what's your credit score? But that's interesting. So your fiance's never asked you that question? No, because I have money. It's like, but I've made money and I've saved my money.
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And speaking of financial growth and abundance, we have a new book coming out very soon. March 18th, it drops. You can preorder it right now. It's called Make Money Easy, Create Financial Freedom and Live a Richer Life. This has been a 10-year journey of research.
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But I remember talking in like the first, maybe it's weird, but either the first night I met her or within the first couple days of like hanging out, I was just talking about money more openly. Not like, oh, I have all this money and let me spend it on all these things. But I was just speaking about it in a way where it wasn't taboo. I was speaking about it in a way where
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it was more open, I was just like, oh, you do projects, you're an actor, like, oh, that must be awesome. What are most actors making these days? Not like, what are you making directly, but like, how is the industry, what is it going on? Here's what I'm doing in podcasting, and here's what I was when I started out, broke on my sister's couch. Here's what I've kind of created over the last 15 years.
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So it was more of an open conversation about it. of where I was to where I am now. Not like, oh, open my bank account, here's my money. But I think because I came from that space, I don't know, maybe she's Mexican and they don't, that culture, they don't ask about credit score. I don't know.
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But I'm interested, when a woman asks someone about their credit score, and say it's an 800 credit score that the guy has, And the woman thinks to himself, oh, that's good. He's got a high credit score. What does she learn about the man with that high credit score or low credit score? And what does she not know about that man based on a higher or lower credit score?
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and putting together some of the top millionaires and billionaires advice in the world to break down how to unlock financial freedom for your life, but more importantly, live a richer life because there are some people who have lots of money, but who are also not free because they haven't figured out how to create richness in their life with their money.
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And that's not good. If you're buying consumer stuff. If you're not using it to invest in smart assets or something, yeah.
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We make it so hard because it is hard if we're not educated. Facts. And it feels scary and overwhelming if we don't have the information, the education like you're talking about. Yeah. And I think debt feels daunting for a lot of people.
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And if you were broke today, and if you were in debt, let's say, let's say you made a bunch of challenging financial decisions, you made all, you know, your mistake journal is filled up to the brim, and you're broke and in a lot of debt. What is the exact process you would take then from going from broken in debt to creating a financially free life? Woo!
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And that's what this is all about, creating that inner richness so you can have a rich outer life. Go to lewishouse.com slash tour. You can pre-order your copy and also see the cities that I'm going to on book tour and podcast tour. It's going to be a two for one.
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Alex Hormozi: How To Invest In YOURSELF To Become A Self-Made Millionaire
My friend, welcome back to the School of Greatness. Today, we've got an incredibly successful entrepreneur that this audience loves every time he is on, and I'm excited to bring you another episode with him. His name is Alex Hermozy, and he's one of the most brutally honest, explosive minds on the internet today.
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So it's like, okay, if I'm gonna become more disciplined over here, that means less time over here. or less travel and just free time during this season of my life. And it's really just understanding what season of your life you're in and what you wanna create.
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They're making money.
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This is the fear for most people is, okay, what if I make that $200,000 investment in the person, half a million dollars, and it doesn't work out. And they're lazy, they're entitled, they're this or that, and I just invested six months of my life recruiting all this money, all these things, and they're not delivering what I either expected or hoped they would. I think you'll love this.
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And again, with this trademark brutal honesty of his, he's gonna break down why most entrepreneurs fail to scale and he reveals the three critical mindset changes that transform his business approach. So whether you're just starting out or you're looking to take your business to the next level, Alex's insights on prioritization
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Yeah, exactly. What would be the third thing then? Is the third and then a bonus?
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investing in top talent and playing the long game will fundamentally change how you think about success. I'm so excited for you to dive into this episode. If this is your first time here, we have been doing this show for 12 years now on The School of Greatness. It's crazy to think this is 12 years, every single week for 12 years. That's something that I feel like
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And... It's kind of changing the perceived value within the... Oh, 100%. Yeah, yeah.
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Crushing it.
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So what are the three biggest moves you'll make this year to invest in branding that won't get you the return you want now, but will bring astronomical results later?
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When people ask me, Lewis, what's your key to success in your podcast? A little bit about what Alex talked about today is I have played the long game. I mean, I don't know many people that do anything every single week for 12 years except for breathe, eat, and sleep, but I have been showing up consistently for 12 years every single week and put out an episode
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So is it more content or is it more promoting a book
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So you had to let go of a lot of people too. Yeah. Yeah.
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Sure, sure, sure.
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So the three big mindset shifts for you this year have been focus more on the main thing, not everything. Find intelligent, hardworking people and really invest in that talent and be willing to risk losing or not working out also. And the third thing is branding. I'm betting big on brand. Really betting big on more content, higher quality content, books, things like that.
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That's cool, man. If you could go back to yourself before you started making money, what would be the mindset shift that you would have needed to have to go from more lack or scarcity into abundance?
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What were you thinking about?
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And we sit down and uncover the mindset shifts that have fueled his extraordinary success. And I had Alex on, I think it was almost two years ago, before He really kind of took off on the internet and online and I think that was one of the first kind of long form episodes he did.
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two episodes, three episodes for the last eight, nine years now, every week. And it's just been consistency. And I'm not always perfect, and I make mistakes, and I've got things I gotta continue to still learn and grow. But I played the long game. No one can deny that. And I think about brand. And that's one of the key things that have helped me succeed long term.
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What would you say then for those that don't have money right now is the frequency or the energy that money is attracted to?
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What would you think if money was trying to go somewhere? Money is out there. It's in the middle of the table. Sure. Sure. What is money attracted to? What type of a person is money attracted to?
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So a person who takes action.
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And there have been massive growth spurts, and there have been setbacks, and there have been declines in the business, in the podcast, all these different things. It's gone through phases and seasons. But I keep showing up. And if you keep showing up in your life, beautiful things are bound to happen if you're willing to set new standards.
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If you don't have money, use your time.
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Yeah. You were saying before we got started that your thoughts on manifestation, what are your thoughts on manifestation?
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And if you're looking to create more financial abundance in your life, I've got a brand new book coming out very soon. I would love for you to pre-order copy. If you found any value from my show, It would mean the world to me if you went to the link in the description of this show right now. It'll be at the top of the description. It's called Make Money Easy.
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How has your relationship with money changed then over the last few years, since selling a company to then growing your companies? Do you have a different relationship with it?
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Peanut butter mood. That's right. Let's go, man.
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It's all about creating financial freedom and living a richer life. And if you want to truly unlock your financial abundance in 2025 and beyond, then go get a copy right now It's coming out very soon and I want you to be one of the first to get it in your hands. Make money easy. You deserve to have a financial peace and freedom with the money in your life and I want you to have it.
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And it's cheaper than hiring him for two months. Totally.
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Okay, my friends. Thank you so much for being here. I'm grateful for you. Let's dive into this episode with the one and only Alex Hermozy. Welcome back, everyone, to the School of Greatness. Very excited about our guests. My man, Alex Hermozy, is in the house. Good to see you, brother. I am honored to be here. Very excited.
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What's the number one skill that people should be investing in to earn more? Promotion.
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One of the things that you just talked about before we got started was the biggest mindset shift that you've made this year that has helped you unlock more money and financial abundance. Yeah. What is that big mindset shift that's helped you go from where you were a couple of years ago when you launched, sold your company, I think around the 40-ish million mark to now over 100 million in EBITDA?
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If someone only has a few thousand dollars a year extra to spend on something, what's more important for them, to invest it in the stock market or real estate or to invest in themselves?
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Say that again?
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What has been that mindset shift for you?
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If someone has skills, but they have a bad relationship with money, or they have money wounds, or they have money beliefs that they live in fear around whenever they receive money, are they able to earn and make a lot with those money wounds?
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How do people learn how to behave with money?
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You spend less than you make. What if people have never had money and then all of a sudden, oh, I got $1,000. And they get excited or they get scared or they get worried. How do you manage the energy that money brings to you?
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Skills.
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Not Zoom, right?
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What's the most you've spent on one-on-one time?
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An hour?
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With who?
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What was the biggest lesson he taught you in that one hour? He said, protect your reputation with your life. Did you need to spend $350,000 for that?
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Protect your reputation with your life. What does that look like? And how does one do that? When anyone can speak about them negatively online and say what they want and make stuff up or...
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Not sleeping with women.
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And the longer people know you for one set of characteristics, the longer it's going to take for them to unlearn that.
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It got millions of views and he just became a machine of media and content and really built his own team of just putting out tons of content and has exploded his audience since then. We talk about some of the things that you might already know about. He talks about, you know, in the beginning, selling his first company for $40 million to now generating over $100 million in acquired businesses.
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You need to spend two or three years with them now to show up as you are, not two days.
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Which is why I don't have any childhood friends anymore. Of course.
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They didn't want to hang out, or when we hung out, they didn't really understand me, and they were kind of judging me, and it felt like, why are they always talking weird about me behind my back? Why am I not invited anymore to stuff? It's kind of hurtful, right? Totally.
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But at the same time, those, I guess, childhood friends that I maybe do have or I talked to once in a blue moon, they've chosen to accept the person I've become and appreciate who I still am, not expect me to be who they once knew. And I can respect them for that and not judge them on their journey and just accept them for being a friend.
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He's not judging you. He's like, you're amazing. And you keep him in his life, in your life.
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Speaking of young men and ourselves when we were younger, what would you say are three brutal truths that young men need to hear in order to become more successful in life?
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Because fulfillment is winning for you. For me. That's your hobby. Your hobby is winning. Where some people have hobbies for joy and fulfillment, you have hobbies which are to win.
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What would it take? Or she's gonna say, you need to make this much, you need to do this, you need this, and she's gonna give you the answers.
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And then do you wanna pay that price? Exactly.
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Can we do it today?
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Then what do you think are the most toxic traits that young men have today that are holding them back?
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Why do so many people have that belief?
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Mm-hmm. Does it bend to your will, though?
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So what's the main focus for you then?
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But if you do a set set of actions, it starts to bend.
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But it bends to your will once you do the actions that it wants you to create for you to get the results you want.
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But because of the actions you took over the last 20 years, you were able to create extraordinary results.
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Yes. What was it this year and what will it be for the next year?
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Deal flow?
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Exposure therapy.
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Yeah. That's it. And you get the results you want. More likely get those results you want.
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Speaking about good decision making, you've talked about this a lot, the Solomon Paradise, where you have conversation with your 85-year-old self. Here's a question for you. We're getting close to the end here. How often do you have this conversation with your 85-year-old self?
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And so it's not... How many times in the last year would you say?
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Okay. Let's say the next time you talk to your 85-year-old self, you ask him, hey, I want to make this decision, and he gives you the advice that you need to hear subjectively outside of yourself and saying, ah, just do this, this, this, and boom, it's done.
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When you become 85 and you win at everything, everything that you do and you touch, you win at, you accomplish way more than you fail, all these things happen. What do you think will be the biggest price you pay that you'll look back on and say, I wish I would have told you to do something else. We won a ton. We wanted everything. Everything we wanted, we won.
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There was a price we paid somewhere that maybe at 85, I wish you would have taken a different choice and not looked at winning, but looked at doing something differently. Is there anything that your 85-year-old self would tell you what that could be?
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Yeah.
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Does that mean you sold your equity stake in those?
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All right, I'll keep going.
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People used to work every day.
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You had to get up and work on the farm and take care of everything. Yeah.
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And so... Did you need to do those 12 deals first, though, to see where you were?
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I guess if you're unhealthy or you're exhausted or you're drained, you'll take the time to sleep and recover. Yeah. You're not going to burn yourself out every day.
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You can't just do one deal a year to start out. You need to have some losses and...
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and i'm sure there's one that's fine with it i'm glad you're in my life i appreciate you you've got a you've got a you've got two best-selling books that have sold over a million copies each 100 million offers 100 million leads we'll link those both up you've got another book that you have coming out here in the future we'll we'll we'll announce that when you're allowed to announce it you've got a free 100 million dollar scaling course which i think is pretty cool where can people go to get that
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Wow. So that's acquisition.com for that.
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Exactly. How many pieces of content are you putting out a day on all social media now?
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So if you want 65 pieces of content a day, go follow you at Alex Hermozy on YouTube, Instagram, Hermozy, Facebook, Twitter, all the places. This has been powerful, man. I'm grateful for you for always sharing your heart. I'm glad to see that every year since two and a half years ago, there's been this...
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you know, new insights that pop up for you as you keep expanding and growing and learning and failing and winning mostly, you continue to learn more and share more here. So we appreciate you here. We're grateful for you. We acknowledge you for constantly evolving. You know, it's like the last time I saw you, you were 50 pounds heavier of just mass.
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Now you're leaning because you're focused on longevity, which I think is really cool. But either way, man, we're grateful for you here. We appreciate you. And we're excited to see what's next. Is there any final thing you want to share before we wrap up? Yeah, never give up. My man, appreciate you. Appreciate you. Thanks for having me, man. It's great, brother.
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And now it's time to go out there and do something great.
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So only one company, once you started the farm company, made it to the top four. Right.
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He shares his evolved understanding of focus, talent acquisition, and brand building. And he's one of the most brilliant brand builders today. More specifically, he talks about why true focus means the quality and quantity of things you say no to, and how to ruthlessly prioritize every level of your business. And this is something
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So it's like an incubator weekend. Exactly. Not a full-time incubator.
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How many of those workshops did you do?
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25 things. It's a lot of tasks.
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that I've been implementing more and more over these last couple months actually, not just in business, but in life, and really prioritizing the most important things in life, health, relationships, and business career slash money, and just planning those things and saying no to as many other things as possible. And again, with every decision you make, there's a trade-off, right?
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I have a brand new book called Make Money Easy. And if you're looking to create more financial freedom in your life, you want abundance in your life, and you want to stop making money hard in your life, but you want to make it easier, you want to make it flow, you want to feel abundant, then make sure to go to makemoneyeasybook.com right now and get yourself a copy.
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I mean, you've interviewed a lot of, I think you've interviewed some people in the royal family, right? I'm sorry? Have you interviewed some people in the royal family? Yeah. In Dubai? Correct. And what is the difference between those who grow up in wealth versus those that don't grow up with money?
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Because a lot of people in the royal family or the children of the royal family, they grew up in wealth. It's just around them. Is there a difference in the way they think, the way they act, the way they move? Do they have an entitlement? Are they more humble? What is the difference between growing up in wealth versus not?
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That's when everything shifted. And I just want to remind you before we jump in today's episode with my friend Anas, that you are loved and you are worthy beyond measure. It is immeasurable on how worthy and loved you are. But sometimes you just need that constant reminder.
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For someone, though, watching or listening that's saying, well, it's easy to have conviction when your parents are wealthy and you grew up in wealth. But if I didn't grow up in wealth or I have a more of a modest upbringing like us, how do I create a conviction inside of me that I feel comfortable around money and I feel comfortable money is coming to me if I don't know how to handle it?
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And I'm so grateful that you're here, part of the School of Greatness community, because this is a place where you can be constantly reminded of your worth. You matter. You are loved. You are accepted. But it starts with you. And if you're not willing to create that inner harmony and inner abundance within yourself by taking yourself
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It's interesting because I was looking at an office building a couple months ago. And... one of the units I was looking at to rent out, the broker, I was like, ah, I feel like it needs some upgrades or whatever. Would the owner put money to invest to upgrade it? And she was like, whatever you need done, she will do because she has owner's guilt. And I go, what do you mean? She goes, well,
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She got handed this building, this big building, and she's got a portfolio of like massive real estate portfolio that she didn't create. It was like her father passed away and gave her all the properties. So the broker was like, whatever you need, she's going to do it because she feels guilty. And so she'll invest in like just making it nice for you.
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Not trying to make the most money from it, but just like I'm already making so much that I didn't create. It's imposter syndrome. It's kind of just like, yeah, I'll do whatever just to make people happy type of thing. Do you notice that as well in Dubai with like children of the royal family who've been handed a lot of money?
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Do they have this kind of guilt for receiving it or they have a different level of confidence?
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on that journey of healing, peace and prosperity, then you'll always feel stuck. You'll always feel like something's off and like you're never enough. And so this is your reminder. And I just want to say thank you for always showing up for you and being here a part of the School of Greatness. And if you haven't heard yet,
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That takes extreme vision for someone like that to say, okay, we are in a plot of sand. There's nothing here. There's no infrastructure. There's no plumbing. There's no roads. There's no nothing. It's just sand, desert, and heat. And Dubai is hot, man. It's hard to freaking live there.
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So how is the conversation around money today there? Are people talking about it openly or is it still taboo in conversation?
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So when you're around the royal family or you see them, they're very sophisticated. They're very well traveled. What else do they have? They're very well educated.
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The new book that we launched a week ago, Make Money Easy, Create Financial Freedom, and Live a Richer Life, became an instant New York Times bestseller. And I want to say thank you and acknowledge you for your support in buying the book and getting copies for your friends and coming out to see me on tour and all the different things in your support of this journey. It means a lot to me.
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How important is marriage and family in Dubai or in the UAE? It's huge. Why? Why are they investing in people getting married?
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But if he's not competent and someone else is.
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Wow. It's tough.
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Thank you.
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Thank you.
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I really think this is going to help you transform your relationship with money this moment moving forward. We have some big guests and content coming up. Make sure you're following and stay tuned to this episode on the School of Greatness. Thank you so much for being here on the School of Greatness. I want to remind you that you are a blessed human being.
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Thank you. Thank you.
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You live in Dubai, a city of wealth and of extreme luxury, but you also grew up in America. So you have a mixture of American values and Dubai culture that you live in and you are surrounded by and have interviewed some of the wealthiest people in the world. And I'm curious, what is the difference that you've learned from
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Thank you.
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Americans and those who live in America who think about money versus business and those who think about money in Dubai? What is the difference in the mindset?
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Did you feel shame or some type of trauma when you went through the divorce based on cultural norms? Was there anything there or did you feel at peace about it?
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That's scary. Have you started to tap into your vulnerability and open your heart more since then? yeah in the latest years in the last two years maybe the first eight years no no all service all control make sure everything's safe for you really yeah how did that feel versus opening your heart more in the last couple years
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So it's more like single-minded, competitive, I'm going to get mine, I'm going to compete against you, that type of thing?
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What do you think it will take for you to fully be intimate and allow for yourself to open your heart and be deeply in love?
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What's the inner work you've been looking at that you've been most afraid to address?
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He showed me the symmetry. What's the similarities in how you approach business and relationships?
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What's the biggest lesson that you've learned about yourself in therapy?
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What do you think is your biggest block from allowing you to love deeper and feel freer that you haven't yet figured out through therapy?
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It's hard for you. But you have a show that's all about vulnerability.
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It's easy to ask the questions and hear someone else, but not be it. Interesting.
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I watched a movie a few months ago and I cried like three times. And I'm like, people next to me must be thinking I'm crazy. Man. That's interesting. And I will look forward to you being a dad. I know, I'm excited. I think you'd be a great dad. I feel like I would have been terrified in my 20s. I think I would have... I just don't think I would have done a good job.
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I mean, maybe I would have stepped to the occasion, but... I didn't have any money, I didn't have a job. I think I would've just been terrified. I wanted to be a good husband. Maybe I'd have been a good dad, but I wouldn't have been a good husband, I think, because I'd be out trying to make money and then coming home and thinking about the kids.
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100%.
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Yeah, exactly. And they're going to resent you and be frustrated the whole time. Yeah. So I think that's the key in finding a... I don't know what it is. Do you know who Cesar Millan is, the dog whisperer? No. He's at a big TV show in America where he trains. He's a dog trainer. Okay. But his whole thing is he doesn't train dogs. He trains humans.
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So it's all about kind of rehabilitating humans on how to be a better leader in their life so they can lead their dog, right? Because most dogs lead the human. They're leading the way. They're pulling them.
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What is the, for a lot of people who've never been there, they think of like it's, maybe it's superficial or maybe those who have visited, it's very superficial. There's luxury everywhere. It's an excess of money. It just seems like it's just unlimited. Like it just keeps coming. Does that help or hurt values within the communities there by having that much money?
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That's what he does. Yeah. He's got to train you on how to be more confident, more assertive, all those things, right? Better relationship with yourself so that the dogs are going to look up to you and say, oh, he's a leader, not me. Yes. Anyways, he said, you know, in America, we have it all wrong. In American families, when he's training mothers and fathers, right?
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And he said, he usually goes, the priority is, you know, mom first, then dad. then kids, then husband. And the husband is like, you know, what's in this for me? If I'm the last person here and I'm always, and I'm out hunting and provider, I'm working my butt for this family and, She's putting the dog ahead of me.
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And I'm sure the woman probably feels last in some cases too, but he was explaining how you've got to have the parents first priority, then the children, then the dog.
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What do you think it's going to take from you to be able to create that in a relationship in your life in the future? Because you've lived a life now of 10 years of Singleness of, in a way, selfishness of not having to obviously show up for your ex-wife in certain ways, but it's not as invested in a partnership that you would have right now. Correct.
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You show up for your kids, all these things, but you're not in an intimate relationship where you're committed. What do you think it's going to take from you to be able to fully commit in a relationship and go all in and keep winning her over every day for years? Man, I like your questions, Lewis. Because it's probably been a pretty good life over the last decade. Freedom.
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I don't have to, surface level, I can have fun with people. I don't have to fully commit. I don't have to open my heart. I don't get hurt. I'm in control. I end it when I'm done.
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Or what does that do to values or communities?
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This one, man. I've got two final questions for you. Okay. But I want to make sure people go follow you over on Instagram. You've got millions of followers on Instagram. You've got a massive YouTube show as well. Where should we connect with you the most? Where are you the most? Is it YouTube? Is it Instagram? Is it...
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It's the same name, Anas Bokash, on YouTube and Instagram. We'll have that linked up. We'll check that out there. How else can we be of service to you today?
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and i like people like that yeah you know very similar yeah we are yeah so uh i don't want anything i think your company is nice uh and you're a good person so it's nice to bugger good to see you brother i got two final questions for you before i ask my own acknowledge you also for your evolution i think uh being a successful business entrepreneur leader you know you have a massive following i think you talking about hey
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I've lived a pretty good life, but I've also been holding back in my heart in certain ways that could expand me emotionally and help me evolve as a human. I think it's powerful for people to hear because living in Dubai, you could have anything you want at any time, you know?
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whether girls or whether it be food or, you know, opportunities, like you can have it all, it seems like, which can be fun and tempting, but also, is it always fulfilling? Is it gonna allow you to fully dive in and expand your inner world in that lifestyle? So you talking about this and you diving in with a therapist finally, I think it's a good thing, and I acknowledge you for taking that on.
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And I'm excited to see what you create with your heart moving forward. You deserve to feel the expansive love of feeling fully emotionally safe within a relationship.
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I feel like I wouldn't get married if I didn't feel that way at this age. I would just stay single forever unless I felt emotional safety.
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Hard as that. That's beautiful, man. I want that for you. Final question, my man. What's your definition of greatness?
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And if anyone ever tries to discount you, I want you to remember that you are worthier than you think. You have more value than you think. You are deserving of love and peace more than you think. And sometimes we forget that. I know for most of my life, I didn't believe I had worth. based on the experiences I went through and based on the meaning that I interpreted around those events in my life.
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So that's greatness. Thank you, man. Appreciate you, brother. You too. Thanks, man. I hope you enjoyed today's episode and it inspired you on your journey towards greatness. Make sure to check out the show notes in the description for a full rundown of today's episode with all the important links.
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What is the mindset about how to generate wealth? How is it different with people in Dubai then versus in America from your experience? How do they think about money differently? Is it scary? Is it something they're anxious about? Are they holding on to it? Or are they thinking, I'll spend it, invest it, because I'm going to create more of it?
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Really? Yeah. Is there, do people talk about money differently though? Is it like an open conversation? Because I feel like a lot of people live in fear around money or it's taboo to talk about sometimes, or it's hard to get in America sometimes. They see a few people, the 1% getting it and they're like, okay, maybe it's possible for them, but not for me.
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How's the conversation around abundance and money different in Dubai?
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How did you, I mean, when you grew up here, though, what was your perspective around money growing up in the States? Did your parents talk about it openly? Was it a free-flowing conversation? Was it, hey, we don't have a lot of it, so don't go spend this. We can't buy this. What was that conversation like? And did it shift when you started to go to Dubai more?
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And in fact, for many years, I thought I was unworthy and unlovable. And so I had to prove myself. I had to over accomplish. I had to overcompensate. I had to, you know, boost my ego to feel like I mattered.
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And when I lived in Boston... That was when you were in Boston.
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When did you start to think about money differently? Because it sounds like you grew up where it wasn't talked about, your parents didn't talk about it, and you weren't allowed to have open conversations. So when did the shift happen for you where you said, I need to learn about money differently to be able to run my business or to be able to raise the kids I have or whatever it might be?
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And for whatever reason, the more I chased accomplishments and success from a place of a wound and the more I ran away from my past pain instead of healing and creating integrating relationship with myself. creating boundaries in life with others, making sure I was going away from people pleasing and living in true alignment service rather than trying to please to try to be accepted or seen.
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What year is that? And when did it start to unlock where money flowed to you?
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There are two big things happening at one time that I've never done before. I'm going on a book tour for my new book, Make Money Easy, and I'm doing a podcast tour at the same time. It is going to be big and I'm going to seven cities in 10 days. Get your friends, get your family, bring everyone you know to these cities. I'm coming to Austin, Texas, New York, Boston. We're going to Nashville.
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I don't know. Why is it so hard as adult children to break the family trance, though, of conditioning from parents guilting or you need to come visit me more or why don't you call me more or you're not doing this more or whatever? Yeah.
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It's the fantasy that holds us back.
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Stop looking for what? A beautiful childhood or whatever?
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What are the warning signs then that show up in adult children of narcissistic parents? Let's then take a look at that. Welcome back everyone to the School of Greatness. Very excited about our guest today. We have the inspiring Jerry Wise in the house. And a quick bio about Jerry. He's the leading expert in healing from family and relationship dysfunction through self differentiation.
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So they just judge me.
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So what should adult children stop trying to do with their parents? Stop needing them as parents. Really?
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Is it supposed to end, though, at 18 for everyone?
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That's the goal.
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But some people live with their parents until they're 30.
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It's interesting because the people watching and listening right now, if you're listening, if you're watching this right now, I want you to leave a comment below and say if you had a happy, like if your parents loved you, supported you, approved of you, most of the time, comment below, happy childhood.
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If you feel like your parent, you could never get the approval of your parents, they were never satisfied with you, they're always judging and critical of you, type in challenging childhood in the comments below. And I'm curious, what is the pro and con of having a healthy relationship with your parents
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versus an unhealthy relationship with your parents, wanting them to approve and love you as adults.
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Even if they do apologize, it still may not solve the problem. Yeah, you'll have to fix it still.
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Yeah, yeah.
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You've been doing this work for over 45 years. as a therapist and a coach, and you've helped thousands of people worldwide break free from dysfunctional family patterns and discover their true selves. And this could possibly be one of the most powerful conversations we have here.
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You know, it's interesting that you say that. I was sexually abused when I was five by a man that I didn't know. And I've talked about it openly on this show many times. But for those that are here the first time, it was something that haunted me for 25 years. For 25 years, I held onto it. I felt shame. I felt sadness. I felt anger, rage, all these different things.
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And it was a movie that played in my mind over and over again for 25 years. And it drove me without even knowing it, unconsciously, to protect myself, to defend myself, to... Not trust? Yeah, not trust. If someone's trying to take advantage of me, I'm going to, you know, get big and strong and all these different things. And I need to be right and I need to win.
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And in some ways, it helped me accomplish certain goals, but left me feeling very empty as well.
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All. But sorry to interrupt. And I got to a point... when I was 30, so 25 years later, where it was too much. It was too much and it all kind of came out, right? It came out at one point after about a year of just breakdowns continuing to happen, where it forced me to look within and stop blaming everyone else of like, why is these things happening in my life?
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And it got to a point where I said, okay, I'm actually gonna dive deeper and start working on myself. and start unpacking things from childhood and start really reflecting on these things. And I went to workshops, all the therapy, coaching, all the different things. And I got to a point where I finally, opened up and talked about it in a safe environment.
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And then I started talking about it and letting my family know, some of my friends, and started talking about it publicly. And I don't think everyone should talk about their stuff publicly, but I had a platform I felt the need to, I felt pulled to, I felt like inspired to. And there came to a point where maybe it was a couple years after I started to process and heal that journey, and...
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self-regulate the memory and self differentiate from that wound. where I was like, do I need to confront this person? And I don't even know where the person is. I don't know where the person is or if they're alive or not. But I was like, what's that going to do for me? I got to a point where I was like, I don't need to, and I'm at peace with it. But what should I do about that?
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Yeah, but I didn't feel like I need to confront this to finish the job of my healing. I was like, this is my work to do. And no matter what this person would say, it's not going to help me.
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I'm not just saying that, even though we've done this show for 12 years, because in my mind, we've talked a lot about narcissism and relationships and narcissism, but we haven't covered if you have experienced life with a narcissistic parent and the clear signs of if your parents were narcissistic or on the spectrum in any ways and how that impacts you for everything in your life.
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Unless it's a family member that you want to talk about something.
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Some ongoing relationship or something. This is something interesting you said. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. If we had a horrible childhood and we're in our 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, and we just think, man, my childhood was miserable. It was challenging. I don't have many good memories. How can you have a good childhood as an adult if all you had is bad memories as a child?
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When you become a parent, when you grow up, when you... Remove yourself from the parent.
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By you becoming the parent to yourself.
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I saw a clip of an interview online of someone, a really successful billionaire entrepreneur, probably in his 70s. And he said the key to success in life was having adult children that still want to hang out with you, not because of your money or your success.
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Yeah, exactly.
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Wow. What I'm hearing you say is that the key to setting up your family legacy to have the best or the healthiest lives they can have, is to start by healing the child within you.
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Okay, let's break down both of those. Going on. What would be the... And healing the child within you is not an overnight thing. What would be the keys to whether someone says, ah, I don't need to work on my inner child. That seems like baloney or just it's not for me. I do a lot of my own work already. I don't need to dive deeper into this stuff. It seems like whatever.
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And so I'm curious if we could start, Jerry, with what are the clear signs that you could start reflecting and asking yourself if one of your parents were narcissistic in any way?
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But if they were like, let me listen to this and just see what he's talking about, what would be the first three keys or steps to addressing how to heal the inner child within us?
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So when we are in conflict with ourselves or hypercritical of ourselves, whether it be our adult or inner child self, how is that hurting us or helping us?
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Yeah, of course.
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What's always been done doesn't mean it's the best way that you can live your life.
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Yeah, you may not be doing this to others, but you're doing it to you.
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Yeah, it helps me be driven.
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What do you think it is, if our inner child was able to speak authentically 100% of the time and say what our inner child truly wants and desires, and they had a voice, what would our inner child be saying all the time?
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Interesting.
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How does someone learn how to get the family out of them, the family dysfunction out of them, while also being a part of the family?
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Yes, which I think a lot of people struggle with, with their parents or family.
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Interesting. We do.
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Interesting.
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That's so interesting you say this, Jerry, because for those that are listening and not watching and not able to see the hand gestures, you had your hands together enmeshed versus far apart and then closer together but not touching. It's interesting because I left home at 13. And I begged my parents to send me away to a private boarding school that was about seven hours away.
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Begged them for a summer, and they did not want me to leave. But I knew my parents loved me, but I didn't feel emotionally safe in the house because of their relationship. My father was there for me, my mother was there for me at different times, but they weren't there for each other. My, you know, again, I was sexually abused by a man that I didn't know when I was five.
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It wasn't anyone in the family, thankfully. And then my brother went to prison when I was eight for four and a half years, my older brother, 11 years older. So that was just a challenging season of life that the family dynamic faced. And my parents just weren't, they shouldn't have been married, essentially. They were just not happy in their marriage.
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They did their best, they tried, but they weren't, they eventually got divorced when I was a teenager.
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But as a 12-and-a-half-year-old, I wanted out. Get me out of here. I want to be around better environment, better friends, better everything. And I went from enmeshed to, you know, as far away as I could be. And over the years, I've had to relearn how to get closer, but not, you know, not too far, but not enmeshed, but closer because I would go months without talking.
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And I felt safe being alone because I felt unsafe being enmeshed. And again, I knew my parents loved me and they showed up for me and they went to my games and they did the best they could. Right, they did. Right.
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But it was just like with the life experience I had, I didn't know how to navigate the emotional unsafety that I felt from their lack of love with each other and the chaos it felt like it was having. And so it was years of unlearning, of healing, of all these different things to...
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self-differentiate from my childhood and from certain people in my family so that I could love myself and love them for who they are.
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Really?
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Yeah, the impossible goal.
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So instead of trying to change our parent or change our spouse for what we don't like about them, what should we be trying to do instead to create a healthier relationship with them?
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Really? Even though you were in the practice?
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You're the youngest.
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Ooh, rough on the feathers over here.
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And then everyone's waiting to eat. The food is out.
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So you started to break the cycle a little bit and create a shift.
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Right.
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So your mom, did she get upset with you when you didn't do this? Did she give you a stare?
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How old were you at this time? Do you remember roughly? Probably in my 20s. Oh, wow. Okay. And you were the youngest of... And I was the youngest of three. Wow.
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Sometimes maybe you do, sometimes you don't, right?
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It was so hard. Oh, it was just. When did you, did you finally say no or no?
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Wow. So it sounds like what I'm hearing you say is you can't expect to change your parents, you can't expect to change your spouse or your partner, but you can change the dynamic you have with your parents or your spouse. Exactly. And when you start to do that, you're self-differentiating from a dynamic that once was into a new dynamic.
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Can we change to accept him?
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Now, here's an interesting question for you. As someone who has worked with individuals and dysfunctional families for 45 plus years, coaching, therapy, all these different things, helping them heal and self-differentiate, I hope to be a parent one day.
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And for those watching or listening who are parents, what's the best way they can set up their family to be as healthy as possible for their children to thrive and also love and accept each other and have a healthy family dynamic? Or if someone's got some older kids and they realize, oh, maybe I've done some stuff. And many have. I have too. And they're in their teens now.
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How can I start to change the family dynamic so that my kids feel empowered to be themselves within the family as well?
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Can you give some examples?
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Yeah. You need the messenger to be in alignment with the message. Exactly. Exactly. Now, so it sounds like step one, if you want to be a great parent, start reparenting yourself and healing the inner child. Step two, learn self-differentiation from your own family as well. Absolutely. But self-differentiation, it starts with like these small courageous steps, it sounds like.
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You're just dysfunctional. You're just dysfunctional.
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It doesn't have to be, I'm going to explode the family dynamic overnight. But it's like, mom wants me to do this. and she's been wanting me to do it my whole life, and I've always done it, and I'm not gonna do it anymore. Dad wants me to do this, and I'm gonna say, hey, that doesn't work for me anymore. Whatever it is, it's the small resistances.
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Yeah, because one of the challenges I felt like I lived with, and I think a lot of people probably lived with when they had dysfunctional families, is trying to keep the peace. It's trying to not upset mom or upset dad or upset your siblings. It's like, do what you need to in your role to keep the peace.
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But don't we need roles, too? In, like, relationships, aren't there supposed to be roles in, like, how to support one another or agreements?
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Not a pseudo-self.
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To seek approval? Is it to survival?
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How do you reduce the chronic anxiety of a family dynamic?
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Two. Right. In self-differentiation.
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Barely change. Barely. Maybe they shift the role a little bit.
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Yeah, it's interesting. You talked about inheriting the family enmeshment. Until we are self-aware, learn to self-regulate and self-differentiate, we're going to inherit this family dynamic, this dysfunction, it sounds like. Here's a scary question. Can you inherit narcissism from a parent if you have a narcissistic parent?
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What's the worst thing a parent could do then to their kids over and over again that will... almost surely make them dysfunctional as an adult? Is it never apologizing to them when they- That's too symptomatic.
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With all of your work as a therapist, a family therapist, and a family dysfunctional dynamics that you've experienced and studied and supported for the last 45 years, if you were to design a narcissistic kid to grow up and be narcissistic, What would be the elements?
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Not that you would do this, but if you're like, hey, if you do these things and this and this and this, you might create a narcissist. Well, there's some classic thing we think about,
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Get whatever you want.
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No consequences.
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I think one that I want to ask you is, how can someone with narcissistic parents set healthy boundaries as an adult where they stay connected to their parent, but they're not enmeshed with that parent anymore? And they don't play the role that they've been playing for a long time.
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But these are your parents. They've given you so much. They've supported you your whole life.
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Right. Then you don't owe them anything else.
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I guess 18. I don't know. Is that what you're saying? Is that the age? I don't know. Do we ever owe them anything?
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That's the thing we should say.
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And I didn't. But it seems like there's this unspoken agreement or expectation that the child is supposed to take care of. Look at all I've done for you. All I've done for you.
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But you owe me your life. I don't know.
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Now you need to take care of me because I took care of you. Right.
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Otherwise, you're just continuing the cycle of enmeshment, generational trauma, and you're showing the next generation how to treat each other. And on a billboard, yes. Gosh, but it just seems so hard for people because they're like, well, this is how it's always been.
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So bringing the generational trauma onward.
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And they're in control. They're pressuring you or judging you.
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For yourself. Yeah, yeah.
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Really?
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Even if it went every day for months, it was still never enough. It would never be enough. But you have to create inner boundaries first.
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Right. Not because she's guilting me.
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And you have to stop caring about that.
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And so I'm okay with being the bad son. You've accepted that your mother's perception of you was you were not good enough or not being the good son. And you learned to accept her perspective or perception of you. You didn't have to agree with it.
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He shows up every week for you.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Yeah, such a tough life, yeah. Sorry. But what if she keeps shaming you and making you wrong constantly? So you would like me to visit you less? Yeah. Is that what you're asking? Isn't it interesting, the more you appreciate anyone, whether it's a parent, child, sibling, relationship, whatever, the more you appreciate someone, typically that relationship appreciates in value.
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It grows in value because it feels appreciated. When you shame, belittle, make wrong, it diminishes in value. It diminishes. Right? It's like you don't want to be around that anymore. Right? Or you don't feel good when you are around it. You're regretting having to show up. You're like resistant to it.
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That's a symptom of something.
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That's powerful.
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Yeah. Self-differentiation. That's powerful. Jerry, this has been powerful. And I want people to follow you over on YouTube slash Jerry Wise and everywhere else, jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com. You've got a free training on your site as well, where people can go through more of your systems and your processes for understanding how to navigate change.
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dysfunctional family relationships, how to start healing, how to start becoming more self-aware, self-regulated, differentiated, all these different things. I want people to go to your website and check this out. You're all over social media as well. Again, Jerry Wise.
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And you've got just a wealth of information on how to navigate probably one of the most challenging things, which is family dynamics and the dynamic you have with your inner child and self. And so I wanna acknowledge you for the decades of service you've had towards understanding, researching and helping human beings find more peace and harmony in their relationships. Because like you said,
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I think the most important thing in the world is the family units and having families be healthy and happy and individualistic as well within a family so they can be authentic and not a pseudo self. So I wanna acknowledge you for the work, the journey and the commitment you have to helping families heal. in a world where it seems like there's a lot of stress and chaos in families.
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And there's two final questions I have for you. This one is a hypothetical question I ask everyone at the end of our conversations. It's called the three truths. So imagine you get to live as long as you want, Jerry, but it's the last day in the future for you. And you get to accomplish everything you want and see the people in your life flourish and everything else all comes true.
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But on the last day for you, you have to take all of your work with you. So this conversation is gone. All the content you've ever put out there, no one has access to your content anymore. But on the last day, you get to leave behind three final lessons. And we would have access to this information. What would be those three lessons to the world or three truths?
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That's beautiful.
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Beautiful. And final question, Jerry, what's your definition of greatness?
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The origin family.
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Jerry Wise, thanks so much for being here. I appreciate it.
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But that's the underlying important dynamic. And if we don't break the trance of the family, the origin family of ours, if we don't break that trance, then we're just going to relive that pattern in our adult relationships as well.
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Family Therapist: The #1 Sign You Were Raised by Narcissistic Parents
And now it's time to go out there and do something great.
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Family Therapist: The #1 Sign You Were Raised by Narcissistic Parents
Interesting. Here's the real question then. If we start to think about, oh, maybe my parents had some narcissistic tendencies and I'm starting to think about it and I'm starting to evaluate my childhood and realize, oh, I thought this was just normal because it's the only thing I knew. How many families did we grow up in? Yeah, right?
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Family Therapist: The #1 Sign You Were Raised by Narcissistic Parents
And it wasn't as bad as that family, so I got to be grateful for this. Yeah, and we should. And my parents were loving at times, and they gave us, and they were doing the best they could. So I can't think of them as narcissistic, but we start to internalize that. What are the warning signs then that show up in adult children of narcissistic parents?
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And so as adult children, What should we be thinking about if we felt like we had a dysfunctional childhood? Should we be thinking about how do I get myself to be self-differentiated from my parents and my family? How do I block my family completely? How do I heal the past?
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Family Therapist: The #1 Sign You Were Raised by Narcissistic Parents
Like, what should we be thinking about as we come into awareness as adult children of dysfunctional childhoods or narcissistic parents?
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Really?
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And then I'll try to overcompensate or approval or whatever.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
There are two big things happening at one time that I've never done before. I'm going on a book tour for my new book, Make Money Easy, and I'm doing a podcast tour at the same time. It is going to be big and I'm going to seven cities in 10 days. Get your friends, get your family, bring everyone you know to these cities. I'm coming to Austin, Texas, New York, Boston. We're going to Nashville.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Why is it though that some extremely successful business leaders or wealthy individuals have a lot of anxiety that they can't get rid of?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Don't tell him.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
But what you're going to hear today is probably something you'll never hear from any of other of her content unless she starts talking about it again, because she got very open, very vulnerable and very raw in a way that I've never seen her emotionally. And it's it shocked me a little bit because there is so much about her when you peel back the layers.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Clearing the energy.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Yeah. When was the time when you started to make some serious money? How old were you when you started to make? Because I know you guys had no money at one point. Yeah. I think you might have slept in like your guy's car or something or was like, didn't you guys sleep in a car for a bit?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Okay, cool. Maybe he slept in his car at one point. I can't remember if he said that. We had a car for sure. Okay, anyways. But there's a point in your life where you weren't making any money. Yeah. Right? And then there was a point in your life where you started to make some money and then a lot more money. Yeah. Did you always feel like you were worthy and deserving of making money? No.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
When did that start to change that you felt like I'm worthy of making money? I don't think I'm worthy of making money. Still? You don't think you're worthy?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Do you feel like you're deserving of making the money that you have or the money that you have now you're worthy of having it?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
I think that's worthy then.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Really?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
What shifted for you to believe you were capable of making money? I made money.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
about her that makes her unique from her past, from her story, and all the challenges that she faced, where she had to overcome so much to develop certain skills that are essential for business today. And if you've gone through any challenges in your life, you have developed certain skills as well, whether you're aware of it or not.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Like I was like, when's it all going away or stopping?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
And now- So you needed to see it in order to believe it. I needed to do it, yeah. Do it and then see the results of doing it.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
What would shake your competence today? Like if you lost a bunch of money or if you hired, stole money from you and then you had to fire them over and over again or if bad things happened in business or whatever like would it shake your competence or would it not affect you?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
And I was like... Look at all the gains.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Plus time, energy. Yeah. Pulling you away from other things.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
And hopefully this interview with Layla will support you in figuring out just what those skills are, because you are unique and talented. And maybe you just haven't uncovered or peeled back the layers yet on what those skills and talents are to create the abundance in your life. And speaking of abundance, I have a brand new book coming out called Make Money Easy.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Sometimes you're going to miss. The process stays the same, or maybe you learn a lesson from the process of why it didn't work, and you tweak it for the next process. You upgrade the process. The outcome is not always going to be the way you want.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Yeah. Because you could have the same process and one company crush and the other one go bankrupt, right? Yeah. Because you can't control human factors or if the CEO quits or whatever it is, like the product doesn't work anymore or something like that.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
What is the biggest lesson you've learned about winning so much over the last couple of years that you didn't expect you would learn? Winning never feels good in the moment.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
And it's all about creating financial freedom and living a richer life. Most people are not living in abundance. They don't feel like they have a rich life externally, and they don't have a rich life or inner peace internally. And this book is all about giving you the exact steps in the entire framework for creating your path to peace, freedom, and a financial abundance.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
What are the things that your future self has that you don't have right now? Or what is she able to overcome or create or generate?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
So she learns to become more flexible than you are today.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
When you have losses and wins, And negative thoughts creep up. How do you start to reframe those negative thoughts to actually fuel you for success in the future rather than limit you?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Negative thoughts, doubts, doubting myself. How often do you have negative thoughts? More often than positive ones. Really? Yeah.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Yeah. What are these negative thoughts that you have? What are they thinking or what are you thinking and saying in your mind?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
And it starts with the inner work. It starts with understanding your money story. your money wounds, and your money style. Once you're aware of those, we talk about how to get that clarity on what those are for you through certain assessments in the book. Then we talk about the seven habits, the seven money mindset habits to unlock abundance in your life.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Really? Yeah. And how frequent are those stories? Daily. Really?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
So how do you use them then to get the success you want?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
And it's almost like, is this a helpful thought in helping me accomplish my goals?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Is it useful?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Right. Right. Exactly.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
What would you say then is the biggest thing that is holding back young female entrepreneurs today?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
You know what's funny? I wasn't going to say female because I knew you were going to say this. I swear to God, I wasn't going to say this. But I'm thinking the only reason I said female, and it's so funny you said that because the only reason I'm thinking that is because I feel like some women are going to say that they really relate to you and how you...
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
worry about how people judge you or something, right? And so I was thinking, is that the thing that females have over male entrepreneurs? Because I don't think Alex is thinking about, oh, people judge the way I look. I don't think he's worried about that in running a business. You know what I mean?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
So I knew you were going to say this, but I feel like women need to know, or I feel like you would have a pulse on what maybe women are... are experiencing and what's holding them back from being a successful entrepreneur or from the ability to make more money or whatever it might be. So I'm glad you said that at response, but hopefully you have another answer as well.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Okay. So the biggest thing that's holding female entrepreneurs back?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
We break those down and all the lessons, the exercises, and the examples you need to to unlock the blocks of abundance for you. Again, you can go to MakeMoneyEasyBook.com. You can pre-order your copy there. And I'm also going on tour. That's right.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
For real.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
In just a couple of weeks, I'm going to be in Austin, Texas, New York City, Boston, Massachusetts, Nashville, Los Angeles, San Francisco, and San Diego. So if you go to makemoneyeasybook.com or you just go to the description of this podcast at the top there, you'll see a link to go pre-order the book right now and to get your ticket to come see me live.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
It doesn't change my life. Sure. From your experience then, from the challenges you had growing up to where you are now, what would you say are three truths that young women need to know about what's holding them back in life in general?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Then we're going to Los Angeles, San Diego, and San Francisco. Make sure to get your tickets right now. Go to lewishouse.com slash tour. Again, bring everyone you know. If you're looking to create more financial freedom and abundance in your life, and you wanna see a massive guest live on the School of Greatness show, Get your tickets. I can't wait to see you there. Welcome back, my friend.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Really?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Right, right, right. They need to respect you.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
But what if, Layla, people are saying, you know, that seems very unapproachable because my body is expressing itself to me or I just feel like the world is throwing so much chaos on me that it's impossible to regulate emotions. She's out of touch. She's got money. She's got people that help her with things. I don't have that help or that money. So it's exhausting to regulate emotions.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
What would you say to that?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
And we're doing a live special guest in every city as well. for a podcast tour at the same time. So we're doing a book tour and a podcast tour at the same time. You're getting a two-for-one, baby. Let's go. I'm super excited about this, and I hope to see you there. If you're coming, bring your friends, bring your family. It's going to be a fun evening in one of those cities.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
you realize you can achieve your dreams because you learned how to do this. You become someone new.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
In that process. Yeah.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
And so that's the first, that's the first truth that you'd say.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
What's the second thing that holds women back? Fear of judgment.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
And they still judge yourself though.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Right. And the third thing?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Third truth for women.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
But I am excited for what you're about to experience right now. Again, a side of Leila Hormozy that I've never seen before that I'm not sure if you'll ever experience again. So make sure to pay attention, take notes, share this with one or two friends that you think will be inspired by this as well. And let's dive in with the one and only Leila Hormozy.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Right. You weren't being authentic to yourself. No.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Let's say you got a billion dollars in the bank, cash in the bank. What is the best use of that money for you? What will bring you the most joy and the greatest impact if you're able to generate that much money in the bank?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
when you've accomplished all these big goals.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Yeah.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Welcome back, everyone, to the School of Greatness. Very excited about our guest. We have the inspiring, incredible business leader, Leila Hormozy. Good to see you. Nice to meet you. Thanks for being here. Thanks for having me. We met a few years ago. Yeah. And you and your husband, Alex, just sold a company, and you were looking to launch acquisitions.com.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Yeah. More community. Yeah. Yeah. You a hypothetical scenario if you were able to be a psychologist detached from yourself But you were looking at yourself as a psychologist and You were able to analyze your entire life since you know you everything you've been through all the ups and downs every thought every emotion every heartbreak every joy and You're the psychologist
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
What would you say are the three main things that have built you into becoming the successful person that you are? What are the drivers?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
And gullible enough to be like, ah, I can make it happen. Yeah, yeah.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
What's the question you wish more people asked you that they never ask?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Yeah.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
What's the thing that you have now that your 20-year-old self didn't have?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Yeah.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
So you wish people would ask less about Alex and more about you.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
You didn't have that in your 20s, teens? No. What did it look like back then? Because didn't I read you went to jail a bunch of times and had a really chaotic...
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Yeah. What's he like in the gym? Yeah. What's he do? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Yeah. I'm just like, this isn't valuable. What's the, uh, you know, not to speak about him, but I just did interview him before you. He says he has this more of a reference to what he's talked about. He has a thing called the Solomon Paradox or whatever, where he has a conversation with himself at 85.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
He said it's been about five times this year he's had this conversation with his 85-year-old hypothetical self.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Do you ever have a conversation with your older self and ask what do I need to do or what lesson do I need to learn right now to help me get to where I want to be at 85?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
It's almost like what are your values demand of you doing?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
But I'm like, this founder just comes up with my values.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
When did you discover your values and what are those core values for you now?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Competitive greatness.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Sincere candor, unimpeachable character, competitive greatness.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Yeah.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
That's great.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Yeah.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
But you don't have a book yourself yet. No. Are you thinking of writing one in the future or you're not sure? I really want to write one. Really don't think. It's a lot of work though.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Yeah, it's a lot.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
That's cool. Yeah. You guys crushed it. But are you a part of, did you help create the, uh, scaling course also the free hundred million dollar scaling course?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
That's both of us. Okay, cool. Is that the main thing we'd want to send people to today? Or is there something else besides following you on social media everywhere that we'd want to send people to?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
I would say the scaling course or my podcast is probably fine.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Yeah. What's the what's your podcast? Where can people find it?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Build, Layla Hormozy Build. I don't know. Is there a link? Apple, Spotify, YouTube. Apple, Spotify, YouTube, Layla Hormozy Build. That's where I would send it.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
So people can check out your podcast, Build with Layla Hormozy. Social media, Layla Hormozy everywhere. YouTube, Instagram, et cetera. Acquisition.com if people are interested in learning more about what you guys are up to there. That's where they can get the course also, the free $100 million scaling course. Alex said there's a link there somewhere for it.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
So I'm assuming it'll be on there at acquisition.com. Anything else we can do to be of service to you today?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
I appreciate it. I got two final questions. This is a question I ask everyone at the end. It's called the three truths. So imagine a hypothetical scenario. You get to live as long as you want on this earth, but it's the last day. And you get to accomplish all of your wildest dreams. These 10-year goals and you blow through those in the next 20 or 50-year goals, they all happen.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
But for whatever reason in this hypothetical scenario, all of your rants on your podcast are deleted. This content is gone. Every piece of content you've ever put out, we don't have access to. So we don't have your information anymore of what you've shared. But on the last day, Layla, you get to leave behind three lessons to the world. And this is all we would have to remember you by your content.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
What would those three lessons be for you?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Was this before she attempted to kill herself?
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
I just don't think I've seen this type of content from you. And I wanna acknowledge you for leaning into this and expressing in this way, because I think it's actually gonna help a lot more people than you think. And whether millions of people watch this or hundreds of people, the people that watch and listen are gonna be deeply impacted for a long time because of what you said today.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
Because I think people see you or perceive you in a certain way. And what you shared today just, You showed people a different side of you. I think that is gonna give people a lot more hope in order to overcome certain pains and challenges they have in their life right now.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
and hopefully just getting into taking the actions, the successful actions, so they can become more successful and not allowing their negative thoughts or their emotions to consume their life and think they're not worthy of accomplishing what they want. So I want to acknowledge you for opening up and sharing and also for being on your own journey at 32, I think you said.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
I think you were allowed to talk about your age, but at 32. Just being able to navigate and manage it all.
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How CEO Leila Hormozi Went From Broke, Anxious & Arrested 6 Times To $100M Net Worth
um thank you harmoniously all the the business the judgment the pressure the media it's like you got a lot going on and seeing you navigate it imperfectly but smoothly at the same time it's really beautiful to watch so i acknowledge you for that and um i'm excited to see what you create not only in the next few years but these 10-year goals that i've got written down so i want to keep in track and see what happens um my final question layla what's your definition of greatness
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Child services or whatever. So this is when you're like 13 through 15?
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She'd be gone for a week at a time?
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And so... Your parents were divorced before then?
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And now it's time to go out there and do something great.
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And so then... So you were with your mom alone most of the time then?
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Yeah.
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Wow.
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What is that like getting arrested six times?
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Wow. Yeah. I don't know. I mean, I've never been arrested. I hope it never happens because I just don't know. what state you need to be in to keep getting arrested. So I can only assume that you were in a,
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I have got a special guest today. Leila Hormozy is in the house. Most people know of Alex Hormozy. We've had him on here a few different times, and he has blown up our content. People love it. People can't stop watching and listening to it, and they're sharing it all over the place. But I said, you know what? I want to hear what the real brains behind that business is all about.
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So what would it look like if you're feeling anxious now versus anxious back then? How does that look? Are you having a conversation with yourself? Are you talking to the anxiety part of you? Did you used to shame yourself when that happened? Like what are you doing now versus then that allows you to feel more joyful and peaceful versus stressful and crappy?
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Yeah. You still weren't addressing it though.
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That's interesting because it sounds like first when you'd feel a negative emotion, you would react to it with a negative response.
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Yeah.
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Drugs, alcohol, whatever, numbing, some numbing mechanism. Yeah. Then you... said, okay, this doesn't feel good anymore and I'm getting bad results by doing this. So let me try to do something productive when I feel stressed. So you reacted with working harder, working out, trying to eat better, whatever it might be, but you still felt the stress and anxiety. Totally.
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But at least there was a better result, but not better external result, but not internal result. Now you face it and you feel it and kind of reflect in the moment, give yourself a pause and then you get back into something productive.
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And I'm half joking here. But Leila Hermosi, Alex's wife, he will say she is the brains. She's the one operating the business. She's coordinating, hiring, getting great talent, all these different things. She is the one that's kind of keeping it all together while Alex is the face and he's creating content and he's doing lead gen and marketing. But she's...
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Was there a moment in your life like where someone taught you this or you had someone confront you or coach you or mentor you that said, hey, I see you doing these things and it's not helping. Here's another approach. Or was this just an internal reflection?
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You're like, something's wrong with me. I shouldn't have these feelings or these emotions.
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creating the operations and she's running the business in a big way. And what makes this conversation special is Layla's vulnerable exploration of her mental and emotional skills that drive true success far beyond just business tactics. I've seen other content of her that's kind of talking right into analytics, right into tactics, right into here are the steps.
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My friend, welcome back to another episode on the School of Greatness with a standout guest in 2024. In fact, his episode got over a million views on our YouTube and over half a million plays on Apple Podcasts in just the first couple months. And I brought him back. His name is David Guillem.
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Because a lot of people watching and listening right now are saying to themselves, of course I want more money, right? Of course I want to make more money. That might be only a percentage of their beliefs or their desires, but you're telling me that there's other beliefs that don't support that desire. Correct.
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You saw that they were broken.
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You're like, I don't want I want peace. I want harmony. I want, you know, calm in my life. I want to feel healthy children. Yeah, exactly.
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Because some people have made a lot of money, but then they lose it quickly because their beliefs bring them back down. He also shares a profound mindset shift around deservingness and abundance transformed his financial reality when he started to learn this ability of deservingness. Because for 15 years he was making no money. He was living in service, in spiritual service.
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So what's the biggest belief then that holds people back from making more money? Let's go through the list.
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It was such a subconscious thing. She didn't want to make her sister feel bad that she was married and happy and she's older and she's not married. Correct. Interesting.
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And he started to shift this to create financial abundance. Now he's got a massive billion dollar brand that he is the co-founder of after nearly 15 years of having no money. And it's crazy how he was able to shift his mindset from just service to a spiritual platform to, okay, I want to convert this into financial abundance.
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Do you remember the moment where you went from scarcity to abundance around money for yourself? Do you remember being like, oh, I'm no longer, I don't know, sleeping on couches? Like for me, it was like I was sleeping on couches even when I made money. Yeah. And I was – I didn't want to pay for hotels. I was like taking the bus as opposed to a plane.
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I was sitting in the middle seats in the back still, the cheapest seat I could get. Even though I was making money, I was kind of – scared to spend it, to invest it in myself or my comforts or whatever it might be. And then I remember it started to switch where I was like, oh, okay, I have money in the bank.
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I can get like a nice business class ticket if I want to, even though it didn't make sense financially. I was like, why am I spending, $800 when I can spend $200 and get to the same place, right? Why? It didn't make sense in my kind of like late 20s, early 30s. Why am I spending $1,000 on this when I could buy a new iPhone for this and a hotel room doesn't make sense?
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I can just sleep on someone's couch. It was still kind of limiting me from investing or spending for my benefit and my comfort, right?
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And what makes this conversation particularly fascinating is David's unique perspective on how our relationship with money is deeply intertwined with our spiritual vessel and our belief system. And if you haven't heard yet, I have a brand new book called Make Money Easy. create financial freedom and live a richer life. You can get it right now.
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So your gut changes. Your whole body chemistry changes. Isn't that interesting? So it's almost like you're taking on the belief system and the energy of a person when you kiss them. That is true too.
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And in this episode, we're diving deep on the topic of money, specifically manifesting the money you want in your life. And get ready. This is a masterclass. So I want you to have a pen and paper out and take notes. And please share this with a friend that you want to see become financially free in 2025 and beyond.
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The link is in my bio here on Apple or Spotify or in the description, or you can go to lewishouse.com slash easy. It'll take you right to Amazon to pre-order or get your copy. As this book is coming out very soon, I want you to get a copy because it's going to teach you how to understand your money history, your money personality style, and how this directly correlates to your money belief system.
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Who are successful, who have an abundance mindset. And so when was the moment for you then? Because it sounds like for years you were questioning her abundance mindset. You were like, we can't do this. Or why are we doing this? It's too much money. Or we can't move. We can't invest in this. So when was the moment you started to switch your belief system around money?
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So I'm 40 now.
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Really?
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Yeah, so he was trying to figure out how to master this.
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And if you're looking to create financial peace and financial abundance in 2025 and beyond, then I want you to pre-order a copy of this book, Make Money Easy. Again, the link is right here in the description on Apple or Spotify or wherever you're listening.
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and get this book because it's going to give you the frameworks, the teaching, and the process to create harmony with your money so you can have financial peace and abundance in the future. Make sure to get your copy right now. And I'm so excited about this episode. So without further ado, let's dive in with the one and only David Guillaume. Welcome back everyone to the School of Greatness.
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Yeah. And then the new energy comes in. So what are the things you say to yourself on a daily basis then? Either the prayers or the mantras or the thoughts or the internal things that you say, the external things you say to keep you in an abundance mindset? When things go wrong. When you made an investment in something and it doesn't pay off. When you hired someone and they weren't the right fit.
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When whatever. Whatever might be going wrong or something that's a breakdown. And you're like, oh, I spent this money and I lost the money. What's the mantra to keep you on track of either the vibration or frequency of abundance instead of saying, oh, I made a mistake or what a dumb thing. Why did I do that? That was stupid. Pause.
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I'm excited for today's guest because we are talking about a topic that so many people want to know about. I'm here with David Guillaume, who is a spiritual teacher. And for many years, you made no money. And in the last 10 years, you transformed your mindset and your beliefs around how you can be of service in the world, but also manifest the money you want and believe you're deserving of having.
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And you've built a billion dollar brand with your co-founder, Mary Ruth. And today I wanna talk about how people can manifest money, how they can transform their beliefs into creating abundance in their life around money. That's what this is gonna be out. And the first thing I wanna ask you,
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Yes.
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What was the part of you that was...
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Oh, the wealthy guy. The wealthy guy. Do you remember this story? Yeah, yeah. I can't remember the ending. But yes, I remember telling this. Yes. So Joe's like. He lost like a billion dollars or something crazy.
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Because you have a very interesting story from having no money and dedicating your life to being of service spiritually to then also doing that while building a business. And so you kind of had a limiting belief yourself of like, I'm not supposed to make money or if I want to be a good person, I just have to serve and I have to donate my time and my money and I'm going to live poor, essentially.
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You can only cleanse what comes up to the surface. And so how do you cleanse it though? When you've had something for so long and some big breakdown happens, what's the process of cleansing the limiting belief so that you can step into certainty that you are wealthy even if you don't have wealth?
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Spiritually speaking.
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Then something flipped, you got married, started having kids, and you realized, oh, I have to show up and be responsible in other areas of my life. And you transformed that kind of broke mindset into an abundance mindset. So what has been the exact formula spiritually that you have used to attract and manifest more money in your life?
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So don't wish for, yeah, it's not like take my whole business, take everything off my back right now. But it's more I wish that everything needs to happen is happening for me to get to the next level.
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If that's what's required of me to get to the next level, do whatever is necessary. Isn't the goal the next level? Wow.
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So what is holding people back from transforming then in order to get what they really want? Just knowing what we just said.
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But shouldn't you try to fix the problem? So how did you fix the problem then? Like what happened? Well, here's the thing. So wait, let me recap this first. Because once this happened, you have all your money, not all your money, but over a million dollars stolen from you.
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your whole body takes over and shut down in scarcity mode and anger and rage and frustration and betrayal and all these different things. You pause and your spiritual background Reminds me that this is an opportunity. Reminds you this is an opportunity. You start saying in your mind. I've wanted this since a time of creation. So you're reminding yourself internally.
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It's not working, so you're saying it out loud. Then you're walking around, you're moving your body, you're dancing, you're singing, you're shifting your energy. And saying the things that, thank you so much, creator. I'm grateful for you. Take more if you need more for me to transform. I appreciate this. I love this. I love you.
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And I believe that you're creating this for me to become better and get to the next level. Everything that I asked for 30 days ago. Correct. And then what happened next?
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Yes.
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If you care about your friends, your family, anyone, your spouse, whatever it might be, Copy and paste the link to this from either Apple Podcasts or Spotify or wherever you're listening. Text it to them right now and say, hey, let's work on this together because I want you to manifest more money and I want to see you thrive and succeed. Text them that link right now.
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Yes.
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This is now. This is two weeks ago.
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Something new. So why can't we do it again next year?
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There's still a little bit of a disagreement about where to go. Sure, sure. Wow. I want to recap this real quick because this is really powerful. We're talking about how to create abundance, financial prosperity, and manifest more wealth.
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And what I'm hearing you say, and what we've talked about in a few different episodes now, is that our whole purpose in life should be to create a clean vessel and continue to expand and update that vessel to receive more. And in let go of certain things, break through certain things, and generate new beliefs that support us to receiving more.
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If we don't believe we're deserving of receiving more, it's not going to happen. Or if it happens, we're going to melt down. We don't have enough wattage to take on the new energy that is coming to us. And this is where you see people with depression, drug abuse, challenges, and other addictions when they haven't cleansed themselves of their vessel.
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And when we want to get to the next level, or we're in a breakdown, or we feel stuck, or we feel blocked, there's a process that you've talked about to manifesting more and getting to the next level. Number one, pause. And I think that's beautiful. Pause, as opposed to like running around and doing more of the same that's keeping you stuck.
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Pause and say to God, the creator, the energy of the world, what a pleasure. I agree with this. I agree with this. I agree with this. I'm aligning with you. I'm aligning with you. And you may be screaming at the creator saying, why is this happening to me? Why is this? Why did this person die in my life? Why am I sick? Why am I broke? Why did I get fired?
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Instead of saying, why is this happening to me? Say, I agree with this. I agree. I don't understand it.
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People will understand and appreciate. Yes. But if you first appreciate and agree, then you'll understand. Interesting. So I agree with this. What a pleasure. Then understand that this test is from the creator. Correct. When you understand this is a test from the creator, it's designed for you. It's specifically designed for you.
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The second step is how do I go deeper into my soul to see what my soul correction is. Yes. Show me how to expand my vessel. Why is this in my movie? Step three. Step four, show me my limiting beliefs. What are my limiting beliefs? What are the things that I'm saying, thinking, acting that are keeping me in this situation?
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Oh, okay. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh, the first talk.
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Wow, okay. The next step you say is to clear yourself of negativity. And then the step after that is to remind yourself that, well, we talked about I am wealth. I am abundance. I am unlimited power. I am all these things. And kind of reminding yourself these things. These are all qualities of the creator. The creator is wealth. The creator is abundance.
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Yes. And you said if you're still unable to get through the negative feeling is to create this mantra to help you break through the limiting belief. Yes. If you're feeling it in your body, you can say, walk around, run, sing, dance. What a pleasure. I love you, Creator. Thank you for bringing this in my life. Thank you for helping me expand my vessel. And I think that's really powerful.
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And you mentioned also the distinction to run into the pain and fear, not try to fix the problem right away.
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Run into the pain and fear. Feel the pain. And let go of the attachment to your small vessel so you can get to the bigger vessel. Right.
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This is powerful. And there's a big question I want to ask. There's two big questions I want to ask you. Because I think a lot of people watching and listening... are saying to themselves, gosh, I'm really burnt out. I work so hard and I'm not making more money. Like how come other people, it just seems effortless. It seems like they don't have to work.
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It just seems like they're relaxed about everything and just things come to them. It's so easy for them. And I'm over here grinding eight, 10, 12, 16 hour days. And I'm just like behind on my bills and I'm not able to get ahead. And I'm just... My question is, does hard work relate to making more money and abundance? And I want you to answer it in the next episode that we do.
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So we're going to get to that in the next episode about money. And I want you to walk through the step-by-step process from you going broke to becoming a millionaire and what the practical steps are. This episode, we talked about the energy, the beliefs around manifesting. And this next episode, I want to talk about does hard work...
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relate to making more money and the exact steps from going broke to millionaire. For those watching and listening, share below your biggest takeaway on this episode. What opened up for you? What helped you? What's the thing that you need to go run and start doing right now? And take action from this episode.
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I think it's extremely important to take notes during this process, to go re-watch and re-listen to this as many times as you need to so you can embody this belief and this understanding because The more you can do this and the more you can feel it, you'll be reminded when you feel breakdown and pain because you're going to feel it. People are going to feel it at different times in life.
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So share this with a friend, someone that you think could be inspired by this. And in the next interview around money, we're going to talk about the things that keep you broke and how to go from broke to millionaire, the step-by-step process. And so much more. David Guillem, I appreciate you. People can follow you at davidgeillem.com. You're on Instagram, you're on social media.
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They can learn more about Kabbalah as well at your website. There's courses people can go get from there. And we're exploring doing a lot more together. So stay tuned for that as well on how you can continue to unlock your mindset and your opportunities for abundance. Appreciate you, man. Thank you. Appreciate you. Thank you so much for watching this video. I hope you got a lot of value.
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What a lot of people do is they assume the future. They dream also about a lot of different things like, oh, I want to do this or I want to do this project. I want to try this thing. They have all these different passions and ideas and they don't do any of them. Correct.
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In this episode, David talks about how your beliefs about receiving wealth directly impact your ability to manifest and maintain financial abundance.
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You're in judgment. You're in judgment mode. And so every question should be asking yourself, is this act, is this thought, is this relationship in service to my vessel bringing more light into the world? Beautiful.
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So what is the biggest thing that blocks people from expanding their capacity to attract and manifest more money?
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So if your beliefs around money are, you know, wealthy people are mean and negative and stingy, or you have to have some type of skill, or I had to be born in some, you know, home or environment or country in order to make money, whatever your beliefs are, they might be directly blocking you. your ability to manifest or maintain financial abundance.
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4 Steps To Manifest Miracles & Abundance | David Ghiyam
Today on the School of Greatness, we are here to be of service to you to help you create true wealth in your life. And if you feel like you've been blocked emotionally or spiritually or mentally around creating more financial opportunities in your life, True financial wealth, not only externally, but internally. This is the episode for you.
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That would be a miracle to get to San Diego in two hours. In two hours, okay. So let's give it three.
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We're going to be talking about a few of these different concepts that most of us have maybe never heard about. and really trying to shift the inner perspective to create more external financial success in your life. He's also going to talk about the counterintuitive reason that receiving too much wealth too quickly without proper preparation can create chaos in your life.
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So this is a spiritual quadrant. Four keys.
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And so when someone is in doubt or is not certain about something, then they're blocking their abundance. They're blocking their ability to be creative or meet the right people at the right time or take action or move into awareness or whatever they need to do in order to create the money opportunities for themselves.
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Yeah, but broke people say, hey, someone give me a million dollars right now, I'll enjoy it. I'm broke. That's not enjoyable. You know, I'm suffering. I'm in debt, you know. Yeah. If someone gave you, I've won the lottery, I'd enjoy it.
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And there's a moment in the book of my new book called Make Money Easy that is out in one week from today. Make Money Easy says, create financial freedom and live a richer life.
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Yeah, because what happens is now that you have more energy around you, more money... Everyone's trying to take and people are trying to... Negative forces...
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And money amplifies things. So if you have a lot of problems, it will amplify a lot of the problems. It might solve some temporarily, but if you haven't changed the... the doubt or the uncertainty within you, that's gonna amplify into greater uncertainty and doubt with money, and making you kind of step into scarcity, holding it back, frustration, anger, all these different things as well.
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This is true, and we have to understand why.
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There was a moment in the book where I talk about this, this relationship with money and early on in my kind of business journey and, and trying to figure out who I was in my early mid twenties, I had a mentor that would go on walks with me every single week that I would ask questions to about business and marketing and all these different things.
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No one's thinking this way. Now I'm going to go learn financial literacy. Now I'm going to understand how to use it. Now I'm going to understand the tax codes and all these things. You don't know all that stuff.
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So you actually bring all this energy in, but nowhere do you change your own vessel. I guarantee you 99% of people watching and listening are saying, but I still would love to have $5 million just handed to me. Okay.
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And you need the certainty to figure it out. But if you don't have certainty, there's a process to creating certainty as well. Correct.
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Good. Yeah. It feels good now.
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And I was struggling after like six months, I wasn't making any money. I was really struggling trying to figure out my way. And I remember saying to him, man, I'm struggling right now. I could really use some money. And he told me, money comes to you when you're ready for it. And on that walk, I said, well, I'm pretty ready to receive some money. I'm broke. I'm living on my sister's couch.
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Here's also the thing people watching and listening, I already know they're going to be saying and thinking is, I don't know which direction to go. I have all these options laid out. I have my mom or my spouse or my friend telling me what I should do around my career, this...
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17 passion projects that I want to work on all at the same time, and I don't know which decision to make, how does someone get certainty when there's so many options and people telling them what to do? That's a great question.
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I could really receive some money right now. And that stuck with me. Money comes to you when you're ready for it. And if wealth comes too quickly without proper preparation, it can create chaos in your life. And you see this all the time with pro athletes who go bankrupt two years after they retire because they weren't ready for it. You hear this from lottery winners.
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So if you pray... What's the difference between spirituality and prayer?
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David Guillaume is back and he spent over a decade of his life focused on serving spiritually to communities around the world. Then he shifted his mindset and said, how can I serve spiritually but also financially create abundance in my life? And he has gone on with his wife, Mary Ruth, to build a billion-dollar brand called Mary Ruth's.
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How do you say it? Creator. Creator.
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who lose all their money and have extreme depression within a couple of years after winning lottery. You hear this sometimes from children of wealthy parents who were handed down a ton of money without being ready for it. If they weren't prepared for it financially and spiritually, then it might create more chaos in their life.
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How often are you praying on a daily basis? So I have learned that...
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Okay. So that's prayer. And then the fourth part is physical.
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You see this with child stars who have tons of fame and wealth, all these different things. We're going to be talking about this and so much more in today's episode. And if you have not got a copy of the book, which talks about healing the relationship with money in your life so you can break free from the financial blocks that you have, make sure to get your copy of Make Money Easy right now.
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So you could work really hard, spend tons of time, but not feel like you're getting a lot of results, or feel like the results are coming very slowly, or for others it becomes more effortless, but for you it's harder, and maybe you've been doing it for years.
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It's because you're not focusing on all four quadrants to improve the quality of them, or maybe you're not doing one of them or two of them or whatever it might be. And so you should be assessing, okay, within these four areas of my life, spiritual, certainty, prayer, and physical, Do I have any blocks?
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4 Steps To Manifest Miracles & Abundance | David Ghiyam
Yeah, spiritual is number one, right? Number two, certainty. Number three, prayer. Number four, physical. Do I have any blocks? Am I paying attention to this area of my life or am I neglecting it? If I'm neglecting it, how can I improve it? All these different things. And making it a daily practice to try to Improve all four of them.
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What's the area... Which key do you struggle with the most in your life right now? Spiritual, certainty, physical, or prayer or physical? Which one is blocking you from the next level?
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You can go to the link in the description of this episode or go to Amazon and type in Make Money Easy. Get your copy right now. Get a couple copies for your friends as well. This will give you the tools to unlock that relationship that's blocking you from the abundance in your life. And there are so many... strategies, and tools to support you in your growth. It'd mean a lot to me.
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I love that you started this when we talked about going from kind of broke to millionaire today. If you had to restart this process or teach this process to someone who's struggling financially, that's trying to earn a lot of money. Yeah. That you don't give some, you know, go register a business domain or start an LLC or, you know, buy this book and learn these kind of financial strategies.
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The book is out in one week, but you can pre-order it today. I'm also going on tour. If you go to lewishouse.com slash tour, I will be on the road in Austin, Texas, New York City, Boston, Nashville, Los Angeles, San Francisco, and San Diego starting March 15th through March 25th. Make sure to get your ticket right now. Bring your friends and family along. lewishowes.com slash tour.
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You're not teaching that first. You're saying, understand your spiritual vessel and take an assessment of where you are in the four areas of life. Spiritual, your level of certainty and belief in God. Yourself, your prayer, your level of prayer and how that looks for you and your physical world. Because I think a lot of people get ahead of themselves on how do I make money?
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What do I need to create? I need to come up with some good idea and then execute this idea. They get ahead of themselves on the product, the process, who they need to hire before assessing themselves. Correct. Creating self-awareness on their life. Correct. And these are the, like you said, this is the soil for you to expand and grow. Correct.
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And without having fertile soil, without having the assessment of these kind of four areas, you will ultimately fail or be stressed or be overwhelmed or burdened with something else and be brought back to these four areas. That's correct.
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So you might be getting ahead of yourself and be successful on the outside, but suffer on the inside without applying these four keys and constantly being reminded of them. Correct. So that is the first, I don't know if that's the first four steps for you then, but would there be other steps after that?
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Once you were like, okay, I'm gonna get into a spiritual practice and ask God to show me what my soul needs right now to expand my vessel. I'm going to have certainty that this is everything that everything that's happening for me is happening for my good, for my benefit, for growth. I'm certain this is working out. I'm certain this is for me. Thank you so much.
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Appreciating what you're creating right now to into prayer. Give me the certainty. I have certainty. I am certainty. I am wealth. Like saying these things over and over again.
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anything. Yes. And then making sure that the body is taking care of itself, that you are taking care of your body. You're moving, you're sweating, you're sleeping. You're intentional about what you're eating and how you're consuming all these different things. Once you've got that foundation and you still got to go make money now, what are you doing next?
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I would love to see you because we got some great things happening on that tour that you do not want to miss my friend. Okay. Thank you again for your support as always for being here on this show, the school of greatness. Without further ado, let's dive into the episode right now. Welcome back everyone to the school of greatness. Excited about today's episode with David Guillen.
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Wow. So... It is very... Because you don't want to be criticized or you don't want someone to say you're not living up to the standard that you're preaching or something like that.
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Intentionally. It's not authentic. It's a disconnection. What is the biggest fear for you then? We've heard the... The thing that you maybe, I mean, I guess, again, you're doing all these four things at a high level, but you're saying the spiritual aspect is the thing that's speaking to you that you need to continue to step into. Yeah.
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Even though it's not like you've erased the spiritual aspect, but you're like, okay, I need to refocus on this at another level. Yeah. But what is the biggest fear you face in your life right now? Because you have this billion-dollar-plus brand. You have a growing audience of communities that are inspired by you. You're the healthiest you've ever been. You know, your kids are starting to grow up.
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We are talking about the step-by-step process from growing a Broke to Millionaire and what that would look like. And also how to make... making money easier in your life. Because I think a lot of people struggle with making money or they feel like they have to work hard to make money.
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What is your biggest fear? You have spiritual wisdom that you've been teaching and serving for a long time. You know, what's the big fear for you?
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Interesting. But you've been teaching workshops for 20 years. I have. To big audiences, to massive celebrities, billionaires, like they all come to you and say, teach me, coach me, help me.
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And I want to get into that in a little bit about, you know, do you need to work hard all the time or is it sometimes in order to make money? What does that look like? But you have, you've been on the show now many times and people love our conversations around this. In the last episode around money, we talked about the energy around manifesting money. Yes.
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Now that they're telling you the whole life story for three hours and you're trying to be present and serve and you're like, okay, now I'm exhausted. Correct.
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And you, in my mind, are a money-manifesting expert. You went from spiritual teacher for many years making no money to manifesting an abundance of money, having a billion-dollar brand and business with Mary Ruth's Organics. And I wanted to ask you the first question. If you were broke today...
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But isn't the whole point of life to receive? Yes. So how... We're creating something to serve. That's a very deep question. We're creating because we want to serve, and the whole point is to receive all of our life's desires and dreams and manifestations and abundance, right? So do we just create and not receive anything?
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So what does that look like specifically for you right now or for someone watching right now? Maybe they do something, maybe it's with a good intention, but unconsciously, or they still want that validation, or they still want someone to acknowledge them, or they still want someone to appreciate how hard they're showing up for them or whatever.
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Maybe it's an employee and they want that from their boss consistently. Maybe it's your romantic partnership. You do something for your partner and they're not thanking me or appreciating me enough. I'm guilty of all those things. Yeah. So what would the process look like for anyone or for yourself to going from a linear vessel of I'm going to do something and I hope to get something.
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And then I got to do it all over again. And then I got to keep showing up every day. And the minute somebody doesn't give you a validation, you're depressed for three, four days. You're resentful. You're frustrated. You're, you know, whatever. You're negative. You're negative thought process. So how do we get out of this linear loop that holds us back from needing something consistently? Yeah.
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when we still need things to live and survive also in the physical realm to getting into a circular place where you don't care about receiving something, but you still give and then you receive abundantly.
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All of the money was gone and you had to create a step-by-step process from going to broke to millionaire and beyond. What in practical terms would that look like for you? And would it be hard?
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So what does that look like? You do something for someone else. You give a speech. You do this podcast and a thousand people message you. You're amazing, David. That was incredible. You blew my mind. Thank you for your wisdom and you're changing my life. How do you invoice the Creator instead of people validating it?
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We should. And you don't want to bypass and say, oh, it's all the creator. You don't want to bypass it either. Don't say, it's not me, it's the creators.
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A lot of people don't like his story, but yeah. A lot of people don't like it. I'm not here to paint it. Yeah, of course. Yeah, yeah. But there's a very powerful. He freaking exploded and this massive unicorn got huge investment, but then it all crumbled. We Crash was the documentary. I was in it. You were in it? Well, they took a part of my. Oh, wait.
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Actually, I. They took an interview clip of mine and recreated it.
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Because I had the only interview with Rebecca.
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And so they kind of recreated that clip of me and even say like School of Greatness, but it was some actor.
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I've always kept them by myself. I went to the school that she created and I thought it was a fascinating concept and I was there and I was watching. I was like, these kids are playing music in the morning and they're running around and it's creative learning.
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So that it doesn't happen.
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Personal brand. Yeah. So that's interesting. So how do you build a personal brand? Because people need to hear from a messenger. They need to hear from people that they can connect with or relate to from their story, their backstory. And so how do you or how does anyone build a personal brand without losing themselves in the desire to be validated constantly from their community or audience?
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Because the personal brand is going to help you probably get to the next level of reaching people. They need to know about you if you want to impact 100 million people.
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But how do you not let that take over your soul of like, oh, I'm the man or I have all this attention or people love me? Yeah. So, I don't know.
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They've put the highest high, all the attention, all the investors, all the money, all the press, and then boom.
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Let's say, let's say if that's something that you desire to reach hundreds of millions of people and spread a message of light, energy, love, and wholeness to the world. Yeah. And people want to acknowledge you to spread this message on the cover of magazines, on podcasts or whatever it might be, billboards or whatever, everything. It's like, you're out there, your face.
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the man, the man who brings the message to the mass. You know, it's like, how will you approach that to say, Oh yes, I desire this also to bring it. And this is a consequence of me spreading this truth, spreading this message. And I'm going to be on the cover of things and things are going to happen for me. And millions of people are going to see these things. How,
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how will you set your future self up now? What seed are you planting now to set yourself up so that you don't lose yourself, your ego in the linear vessel and you go into the circular vessel of, I'm just pouring this back into the creator, back into light, energy, and redoing those four keys in my life and making sure I have the foundation and putting in circular, not linear.
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What's the seed you need to plant now for that to happen? So when you're on the cover of Forbes, when you're on the cover of whatever, It doesn't get to you.
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And today, David's going to reveal that true wealth creation begins not with business strategies but with spiritual alignment. And some of you might be thinking, well, I just need more tactics and I need the right strategies to create income and to invest and all these different things. But that's true.
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Because it's coming. If you desire it. Yes. It will happen.
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So if the creator is speaking to you right now. and saying, this is exactly what you need to do in order for you to receive all the blessings and to be able to share my message with the world and to serve humanity at the highest level, to bring them light, to expand their vessel so they are able to remind themselves that they are made of pure love and wholeness.
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What does the creator need to say to you so that your ego doesn't think you were the one doing this when the fame, the success, the magazine covers come your way?
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Because you have so much momentum, so many opportunities. Oh, this is all these blessings are coming to me. And my whole purpose is to receive them. Right. So I'm receiving, I'm receiving.
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So it's getting away from those four keys. Yes. It's like, it's just because you have so much going on that all your day is stacked that you kind of forget about the four keys.
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You know, it's interesting. I had a pastor on a couple of years ago named Michael Todd and Christian pastor. And he had a book come out that was on the New York Times list. I can't remember the exact, I think it was like three months, every week in a row for like three months, something like this.
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And early on in his pastor mentorship with like the pastor that taught him how to be a pastor and the person he was being mentored under, his pastor mentor said, before you get into this, I want to remind you that I take a month every year to recharge. And every year, it doesn't matter if everything's going well, everything's going wrong, I take a month every year to reset, and I do no work.
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No work for a month, no preaching, nothing. I'm with my family, I'm recovering, etc. And He had been doing this every year for, I don't know, seven or eight years, as long as he's been doing his church. And his church just took off, like crushing. Like he saw him everywhere, his audience, his platform, the church. Everything is crushing. The New York Times bestselling book. And...
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The week it went off, he was on the New York Times bestseller list for every week for three months or something or five months. The week it stopped being on the New York Times bestseller list was the first week of his month of that year of his taking off time. And I go, why would you stop the momentum?
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And he goes, because I made a commitment and my pastor mentor told me early on that great things are going to happen. But if I don't take time for me and my health and my relationships with my wife, my kids, like I'll eventually fall.
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And he had a transformation with his own physical health over the last couple of years. And it's like... I think there's something to that. There's a scary thing of blocking your momentum and stopping it.
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Cause you're like, but this opportunity and this thing and this thing, but it's like, if you're not willing to take care of these other things and stop yourself to pause, it doesn't mean you have to block the flow of abundance coming to you, but take time to really recharge. And it might have to be in the middle of the greatest like momentum you've ever had. So hard. It's really hard.
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Into being circular, not a start and end. That's right. And so that it doesn't like end and you have to restart all this momentum because you have a big crash.
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You know, going back to the WeWork founders is like, they're fine. I mean, they've got tons of money still, but... Have they really rebuilt something again? You know, it's like the bigger the crash is probably like it takes more time to build momentum up again, right? You've got to let the dust settle. You've got to recalibrate your own personal life, all these different things, right?
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And maybe they've got so much money it doesn't matter anymore. But it's like there's still a recovery phase that happens when you crash. Correct. To course correct, to get back on track, to heal, mend, whatever you need to mend. And so it's just something to think about.
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4 Steps To Manifest Miracles & Abundance | David Ghiyam
Yeah. So it's just something to think about, but I mean, so that's your, that's your biggest fear.
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4 Steps To Manifest Miracles & Abundance | David Ghiyam
Man, how to go from broke to millionaire. It's all about the foundational stuff. And this is really kind of the mindset stuff behind it because you know a lot of people have made a lot of money and lost it all. And so it's like, what's the point of doing it unless you have the wholeness and the peace and the certainty within you that you are creating from a place of not needing the validation?
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4 Steps To Manifest Miracles & Abundance | David Ghiyam
Yeah. receiving the blessings that come to you and creating meaningful relationships with people, but not doing it because you need the validation, but doing it because you want to give from a place of service and from a place of, I guess, giving it all up to the Creator.
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4 Steps To Manifest Miracles & Abundance | David Ghiyam
And what did you say, taking receipts from the creator? Invoicing the creator?
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4 Steps To Manifest Miracles & Abundance | David Ghiyam
What does that mean, invoicing the creator?
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4 Steps To Manifest Miracles & Abundance | David Ghiyam
Because you trust the creator is going to bring you everything you need.
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Yeah, and how much. And how much. I did this much energy. Pay me a billion dollars now. Yeah, it's not going to happen.
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4 Steps To Manifest Miracles & Abundance | David Ghiyam
And resentful. Man, that's been one of the biggest challenges for me. It's like, it's funny because I took this test or this like online quiz of like, who's your Disney character? I don't know if you've ever like, you know what I'm talking about? Like it's a BuzzFeed or something or it's like of like the thousand Disney characters. It's like your personality test of like who you are, right?
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And mine was Maui. And Maui feels like he does all these things for all these people and no one appreciates him. Oh my God. And I was like, yeah, that's probably me. You know, it's a, yeah. And so it was just a good reminder to be like, okay, I need to stop needing the appreciation of people. And I used to be an extreme people pleaser where like, I'm just going to give, give, give, give, give.
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And they didn't, people didn't, you know, acknowledge it or whatever. Right. And I'm like, mother effers, you know, like what's going on? I'm like putting all this energy into this and they're taking it, but not even a thank you or whatever. Right. That's the whole Maui's thing. It's like, he says, thank you. You're welcome or whatever. Right. So.
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4 Steps To Manifest Miracles & Abundance | David Ghiyam
He's like, I brought the moon down for you, and you didn't even say thank me. I brought the freaking land up. He didn't say thank you. All these different things in the songs. Wow. I was like, yeah, I can relate to that. That makes sense. And it speaks true to me what you're saying.
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4 Steps To Manifest Miracles & Abundance | David Ghiyam
Instead of needing the acknowledgement from people or needing someone to thank you or needing someone to give you something in return or whatever it might be, if I'm wanting to truly be of service— then all I should be thinking of is gratitude from the creator, not gratitude from people.
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4 Steps To Manifest Miracles & Abundance | David Ghiyam
Now, I think it'd be nice to have some type of decency of just a simple thank you because, I don't know, I feel like there's something there in exchange of energy with people still.
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4 Steps To Manifest Miracles & Abundance | David Ghiyam
That's interesting. So it's cool. Don't look for validation from people. invoice God or the creator to pay you for your services. And it may show up in people providing clients or opportunities or jobs or whatever it might be.
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4 Steps To Manifest Miracles & Abundance | David Ghiyam
Wow. That's beautiful, man. Well, I appreciate you, David Thieme, in the house. This has been a powerful episode. Again, for people watching or listening, leave your biggest takeaway from this episode. What opened up for you? What spoke to you? What resonated? What is the one thing you needed to hear today?
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We need to feel pain to then bring attention to it to start focusing on how to improve it.
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And what's the one action step you're going to take to support you in the four keys of your life, spiritual, certainty, prayer, and physical? And also, what action step are you going to take to go from a linear vessel into a circular vessel in your life? Share this with a friend. Let us know, even though we don't need the validation. Let us know what is speaking to you, what is resonating to you.
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4 Steps To Manifest Miracles & Abundance | David Ghiyam
Don't worry, we won't hold on to all the validation. We'll bring it in and let it go. We'll help each other. But we appreciate all of your comments in the previous videos and episodes and everyone sharing this with people.
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4 Steps To Manifest Miracles & Abundance | David Ghiyam
I appreciate you, David, for being a channel of inspiration, of hope, of wisdom from our ancestors and wise individuals before us and being able to communicate in a way that people can understand it and communicating the message in a way where people can resonate and connect with it. exactly where they're at in their life.
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And I hope everyone watching and listening hears exactly what they need to hear and they act on that thing in the next step. I'm not expecting people to understand all of it and try to apply it all at once. It's a lot. But if there's one thing that's speaking to you,
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that thing that hits you in your heart or your chest and something you're like, oh yeah, I know I need to work on that or oh, that spoke to me or I can relate to that. Move into that fear, move into that pain, say thank you, what a blessing, what a pleasure and lean into it. So David, thank you so much for being here. davidgeam.com, your social media, davidgeam as well.
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You've got masterclasses on this wisdom. It goes extensively on your website as well. And I'm excited to keep creating together, my man. Appreciate you. Thank you so much. I have a brand new book called Make Money Easy.
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And if you're looking to create more financial freedom in your life, you want abundance in your life, and you want to stop making money hard in your life, but you want to make it easier, you want to make it flow, you want to feel abundant, then make sure to go to makemoneyeasybook.com. dot com right now and get yourself a copy.
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I really think this is going to help you transform your relationship with money this moment moving forward. We have some big guests and content coming up. Make sure you're following and stay tuned to the next episode on the School of Greatness. I hope you enjoyed today's episode and it inspired you on your journey towards greatness.
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And now it's time to go out there and do something great.
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You could have those strategies and tactics and all these kind of things, tools that could help you increase the processes in your career or your business. But so often there are mental, physical, or spiritual limitations that hold us back from believing we are worthy and deserving of creating more true financial abundance.
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4 Steps To Manifest Miracles & Abundance | David Ghiyam
What's a common fear you hear around people who say, I'm trying to make more money or I'm struggling making more money or I'm in debt and it's, I don't know what to do to make more money. And you ask them, what's your fear? What's the common response?
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4 Steps To Manifest Miracles & Abundance | David Ghiyam
And in this episode, we're going to talk about why doubt is the greatest blocker to abundance and how certainty is your VIP access to the miracle zone in financial opportunities. We're also going to talk about how to shift from creating a linear vessel inside of you that constantly needs external validation to creating a circular vessel that can receive endlessly.
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So if someone doesn't feel like they are whole or complete right now, and if they don't trust that they are in the right position in this moment where they need to be from the Creator, from God, from the Creator, What's going to happen to them if they don't believe they are whole and they don't have certainty around that?
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
There are two big things happening at one time that I've never done before. I'm going on a book tour for my new book, Make Money Easy, and I'm doing a podcast tour at the same time. It is going to be big and I'm going to seven cities in 10 days. Get your friends, get your family, bring everyone you know to these cities. I'm coming to Austin, Texas, New York, Boston. We're going to Nashville.
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So you elevate your destiny.
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So there's an infinite amount of destinies.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
And you could live. you know, the greatest version of yourself, destiny, or you could stay stuck until the end of your life.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
And they might be your parents, they might be your siblings, they might be like the closest people to you at birth.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
They're doing this to me.
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Now, this is interesting. What happens when a woman who has been hurt by men over and over again say, I'm swearing off all men. I'm never going to date another man again. I don't trust men. They've all hurt me. They've all been liars and cheaters, and they break my heart every time. I'm off men. I'm only going to focus on being with women now. Or being alone.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
What happens to that woman when they make that declaration, that commitment, and they swear off? Okay. men and say, I'm either going to be single the rest of my life because I don't want to deal with the BS or the pain or the lies of men, or I'm just going to find a woman that I can be happy with.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
Without further ado, let's dive in. Welcome back everyone to the School of Greatness. Very excited about our guest. We have the inspiring David Guillaume back in the house. Good to see you, man. Thank you for having me. Very excited about this.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
It'll come back around. You've got to face it.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
Our first interview that we did has over a million views on YouTube and has spread like wildfire in people's hearts in a way that really resonates with people. You're a spiritual wisdom teacher for many years, but you've also created a billion-dollar business with Mary Ruth, with your founder, Mary Ruth.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
And influence, yeah, yeah.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
Really?
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
Oh, yeah. I want him to do something back for me.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
And you've done a lot of powerful things in the business world, but also in the spiritual world. And in your workshops and classes, you teach a lot about relationships. Our first episode, which we'll link up for people as well, go watch that. That was really a one-on-one on manifesting. Yeah, it was more about manifestation.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
But in humanity, we still have to deliver value and get results, and otherwise we won't survive. So there has to be some level of like, Receiving, but not needing.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
Interesting.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
For example, if- What does that look like? Yeah.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
I don't want the favor if they're expecting something else in return. Like I'm going to give you this. I'm like, okay, what are you going to ask for? That's part of it.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
Yeah, yeah. Because you don't want to block gifts either, right? You don't want to block gifts. If someone's going to give you something and you say, no, thank you for thinking of me and this generous gift, but I'm okay. It's so painful to the giver.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
Interesting. What's been the biggest challenge you've faced in relationships? Personally? The thing that your soul came, that it's had to grow through or it's still learning how to grow through?
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
It was a one-on-one on how to really set up and align your life to manifest more of anything you want. Yeah. This one where we're going over is how to really manifest a powerful, committed relationship and stop getting in toxic relationships because I can speak for myself. I got in relationship after relationship that felt exciting in the beginning, but then turned
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
But all you were doing is kind of going against it by being the most altruistic service person you could be. Correct.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
How has that shown up for you then in intimate relationships in your 20s and I guess being married as well and now separated? Well, I'll tell you something.
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I don't know if I would say toxic, but turned stressful. How do people define toxic? I just think if there's always a breakdown. That's how I would think about it. Maybe it's a relationship that's just in breakdown mode constantly. I think toxic is more of man, this is like scary, like scary where it's like aggressive, abusive. I feel like that's toxic.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
Celebrities and beautiful women. All the time. People going through like heartbreak or going through tragedy that are coming to you and see you as a spiritual teacher.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
How did you know on day one you met her that she was the one? But also, she's not the one anymore. In an intimate sexual relationship.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
So you're still soulmates in a certain way, but you just have transformed the intimate relationship.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
I think I was more in just broken relationships. You know, we just weren't aligned, all of them. And I take responsibility for creating them and the space I brought into those relationships and the intention, all these different things. But I guess my first question for you is, is it possible to manifest love, healthy love?
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
You feel betrayed or you feel this or you feel whatever.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
And also, what is the biggest mistake that people are making when they try to manifest healthy love?
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
I mean, so much pain, so much suffering, so much depression, so much agony, what's the point?
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Then we're going to Los Angeles, San Diego, and San Francisco. Make sure to get your tickets right now. Go to lewishouse.com slash tour. Again, bring everyone you know if you're looking to create more financial freedom and abundance in your life and you want to see a massive guest live on the School of Greatness show. Get your tickets. I can't wait to see you there. Welcome back, my friend.
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I feel like I've only asked one question and we've already been going so deep on this. And I want to bring it back to a grounded thing that you talked about towards the beginning that
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
We as human beings, and we're talking about relationships, but we as human beings, from your perspective, from your beliefs, from these principles and these laws, our entire mission is, should be thinking about how do I build my spiritual soul's vessel? How do I build a greater vessel within my soul so that I have the capacity to take on greater challenges and greater abundance.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
Would that be a correct statement for you? That would be correct. So it's about, we should be focusing on our soul's vessel, not how do I meet the guy, how do I meet the girl to give me love, to make me feel loved, to make me look good on social media, to have fun with. We shouldn't be thinking about that when trying to create a relationship or get into a relationship.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
And again, this whole topic is about really how to manifest a committed relationship and stop attracting toxic partners, stop attracting relationships that feel like, gosh, they're great for the first six months, and then there's just breakdown and problem and breakdown, but then I'm already chemically and emotionally entangled and sexually entangled, and then the parents, and I already planned out the wedding and all these things, and how do I get out of this now?
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
And then I repeat the cycle over and over again. And what I'm hearing you say through all this is that most people are thinking that way as opposed to, how do I build my soul and my spiritual vessel to be its greatest it can be? And then from that place, start dating. Beautiful. Start having conversations. Beautiful. Flirt with someone. Hey, let's go get a coffee. Let's go for a hike.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
Let's go walk. Let's do an activity together. And just start having conversations from a place of, What it sounds like, a healing journey, a journey of wanting to expand, a journey of how can I make this moment great? How can I be of service in this moment? Not how can I get something from someone or how can I gain pleasure or feel good about myself? How can I create that within?
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
How can I know that I am the one for me? I don't need someone else to be the one. And when I become the vessel for myself that is needed to serve my highest purpose in this moment, in this day,
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
then i will be able to see people that i feel like are more in alignment with that vision as well that they are more in alignment with creating a spiritual vessel within themselves and then we can start to have conversations do we align spiritually with our life's mission is there alignment as opposed to When are we going to have sex? When can I get a kiss from this person?
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
When are they going to buy me something? Is he the one? Is he the one? I don't know. What do my girlfriends think? What do they think? Do they like him? We're asking the wrong questions. Complete distraction. They're all distractions. Why are we so distracted when we're dating and looking at all the wrong things? Why is that happening for so many people?
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
He was horrible. She was horrible. And they wasted my life. And they stole time from me. And my best years are beyond me. And all these things. All of these things.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
And if someone has sexually abused you or harmed you or been emotionally abusive or controlled and done some horrible things, What do you say to maybe a man or a woman who's like, no, this person was just horrible. Like it wasn't just, oh, they were emotionally abusive here and there. And it was like a waste of like four years of my life. But they beat me. They sexually abused me.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
They freaking, you know, cheated on me with my best friend behind my back for years and lied about it. Like what if they did some really bad things? How do you bless and want the best for someone who has really hurt you?
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
So it's almost like if you don't believe that you had a soul contract, coming to this world, if you don't have a foundational belief of like, okay, you were here with this type of wound or with this type of, whatever, soul contract that you needed to heal, that you needed to, you actually need this challenge to become the greatest version of you.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
And you were putting your energy towards good. You were being in service. So what parents are going to say, stop helping people? You were focusing your energy on something positive as opposed to, I'm going to go... just travel the world and take drugs all day or something. You weren't like, I don't know what I'm gonna do. I'm just gonna figure it out for five or 10 years.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
You were like, I'm on a mission. I'm here to serve. I'm here to learn. I'm here to help humanity.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
Right, right, right, yeah.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
Now, here's a question I think everyone is asking, which is how do we get on the vibration of love to be able to receive the love we want?
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
Why do people think they deserve to be in an abusive relationship?
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
And without it, you won't be able to fulfill your life's mission. You almost need to believe that in order to say, okay, this is all actually beautiful. The toxic relationships I've had, the abusive partners, the people that lied or cheated on me, or the things that I did to other people that were out of integrity, this is actually... meant to happen for you. Correct.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
Or I'm trapped, or if I'm committed, then I'm going to miss out on something else or whatever it might be.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
Whether it's for our nights or weeks or months or years.
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Over and over again.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
Now, I want to ask you a very important question. What is the difference between what men want and what women want in a healthy long-term relationship? And before you answer it, For anyone watching and listening right now, leave a comment below of the biggest takeaway so far that this episode has supported you with.
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So if you're watching on YouTube, leave a comment below, like this video, share with a friend. If you're listening on Apple, Spotify, wherever it might be, share this with someone and ask them their biggest takeaway on this episode. And the question is, what on a soul level do men and women really want and are there differences?
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And before you answer, I want to let people know that they have to follow and subscribe in order to get the answer because we're going to go into part two on relationships with this question. So again, what men and women really want on a soul level, we're gonna do a full second episode on this topic right now that will come out soon. So make sure to follow this, subscribe.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
I think there's a lot here to get people started with. I wanna recap a few things.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
Yeah, look at this, did you see this? People are coming up to us left and right and saying, oh, the first episode, we'll have the first episode also linked up so you can go through that. And I think that'll be important if this is the first time you're hearing about this or someone sent you this, go watch the first episode we did.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
But there's a few things here, and again, we're gonna go into a part two in a second, but there's a few things here I wanna recap. The whole thing should be figuring out how do I build my vessel on a spiritual and soul level and expand it for healthy, abundant, harmonious, aligned love.
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The #1 Cause of Breakups & The Spiritual Secret To Attracting Healthy Love | David Ghiyam
I think a lot of people who are single or struggling in relationships are trying to figure out how do I make this work? How do I find the right partner? How do I find my soulmate, which is what we're going to go into? What do men and women really want? How do I think like them? You know. I'm done with men. I'm done with women. All these things, right?
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And we're talking about in this episode is how do I build my spiritual soul's vessel?
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My parents did this, and then this person was a bad partner, and then... Correct.
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Interesting. But one of the things that you said here that I think really resonated with me, that I think a lot of people, if they can learn how to do this, which I want to actually go into in the second episode, is how do we build the belief that we are deserving of the love we want? Which I don't think we, we didn't talk about how to shift the belief.
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of how to believe differently that we are deserving. So I wanna talk about that as well in this second part and understanding how you need to be the one, not finding the one as well. And how do we build that up? We're gonna be talking about that in episode two on relationships. So again, make sure to like this, leave a comment below. What are some of the questions that you have?
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What's your biggest takeaway? Share this with one friend and we're going to learn more on the second episode. So David, thank you so much for being here. And we'll have everything linked up as well with the previous episode and what you're working on. But I'm very excited for what people are going to learn in the second episode.
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I hope you enjoyed today's episode and it inspired you on your journey towards greatness. Make sure to check out the show notes in the description for a full rundown of today's episode with all the important links.
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I really love hearing feedback from you and it helps us figure out how we can support and serve you moving forward. And I want to remind you if no one has told you lately that you are loved, you are worthy, and you matter. And now it's time to go out there and do something great.
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Lewis Howes here, and I am so excited about this episode. David Guillaume has been on the show multiple times now, and this is all about love and relationships.
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So if you feel like you've struggled or you've had some toxic patterns that you have been jumping in relationship after relationship that hasn't worked for you, David's going to reveal and share the transformational wisdom about how our souls choose specific challenges to help us grow. And sometimes this is the worst and it hurts the most in intimate relationships and in love.
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And a very expensive gift within the first month of knowing a person.
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And you're creating a standard that you're going to have to live up to for the length of this relationship. If you're doing this much in the first few months and then you stop doing it, you think she's going to be happy with that? She's going to say, oh, you were creating a standard for me. Now I expect $10,000 credit card every month and a new watch every month and shoes.
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And the way you're wowing me in the first month, You think a woman's going to be happy if you just cut it all off and say, I'm going to give you a lot less now. That's not going to go well in the relationship.
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But a lot of women watching or listening might say, that sounds like a dream man. He's just going to take me out, and he's going to pay for everything, and he's going to take me on expensive trips. He's in his masculine.
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He's going to provide for me right away the way I feel like I deserve. A man should treat me.
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And also why focusing on building your spiritual vessel is more important than searching for the perfect partner. You may not want to hear that, but some powerful insights are about to come. Also, we've got a new book called Make Money Easy that is coming out very soon.
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Should you avoid it?
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Make sure to get your copy because it's about healing your relationship to money and also about how relationships in our lives and money, when they mix without having some of these principles in place, will really hurt your relationships as well. So make sure to get your copy of this to support you on your journey to becoming financially free within your relationships as well.
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My friend, thank you so much for being here today. And I have a massive announcement, super big, something I've been doing behind the scenes for the last two years. But really, it's been 12 years in the making since I started the School of Greatness show. And if you are looking to create financial freedom in your life, if you're looking to create financial peace, if you want more abundance and
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And those gifts that I thought were pointless, I didn't even think they were useful. It's everything that I use for for the School of Greatness show now, which is one of the biggest shows in the world. But I didn't know how to uncover those gifts. We talk about how to do that to appreciate your value, uncover those hidden gifts so you can earn more.
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Then we talk about something that, man, has changed my life around business and money. And that is how to discover and develop money mentors in your life to help you from... minimizing the risks and the losses around your financial journey and helping you maximize the gains. When I started to learn about money mentors, it changed everything for me.
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One thing a money mentor could say to you could help you earn so much more or help you save from losing a lot as well. We talk about all these principles in the book and I give you the money mentors that I've interviewed in their greatest tips in Make Money Easy as well.
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All the best people that I've interviewed, I got them to mentor me and also I got them to mentor you and I share their best practices in Make Money Easy. We talk about all these things and more because this isn't just another book about finances or investing. That's not what this is about. This is everything you need to own your worth so you can earn more and create the abundance you desire.
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And in this book, you discover the seven money habits to unlock financial peace and freedom. And these seven habits are crucial. Again, 12 years of interviews on the School of Greatness with some of the top leaders in the world, financial experts in the world, money masters. And here are seven habits that you need to unlock to create financial abundance and peace in your life.
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First is the mindset habit. This is key. So many people try to get ahead of the mindset habit. And by doing so, you might make more, but you feel more scarce, you feel more chaotic, you feel more anxious around money. The mindset habit is key and is the first thing that we talk about in making money easy. Then we talk about the mapping habit, how to map your
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vision for the money you want in your life. We talk about the monetizing habit, how to monetize your skill sets for true abundance. Then we go into the mastermind habit. Man, when I learned this principle, it's almost like I tripled and quadrupled my earnings within six months when I developed and understood the mastermind habit. Then we go into the mobility habit.
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One of the biggest causes of divorce are around money problems. People fight with friends and family around money problems. This is such a big topic. Again, the biggest episodes we do are around money and how to unlock more abundance in your life.
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This is really how you scale your wealth to the next level. by understanding how to maximize your time and delegating the things that you don't need to do. Then we go into the magnetic habit. Ooh, life is a game of enrollment, my friend. And there's a powerful question you can ask. What's the chance? What's the chance? What's the chance?
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There's so many things you can do that we talk about in this book to enroll people in your dreams and your goals and in your vision. And that comes with the magnetic habit. Then we've got the mastery habit. The seventh and final habit around this book is mastery. This is going to be powerful. And again, if money has been a struggle for you,
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or if you feel anxious or avoidant or emotionally overwhelmed with your financial situation, now is the time for a change. Now is the time. I want you to feel secure with money. I want you to step into a room and money be right in front of you and you have a beautiful relationship with money. that person called money. I want you to be able to look money in the eyes.
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I want you to feel relaxed and comfortable, feel expansive. I want you to feel like you have all the skills to be able to have a courageous conversation with money. I want you to feel like, hey, money, I'm gonna give you money, I'm gonna receive money, I'm gonna spend it and feel like it's all good, it flows.
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I want you to be like a river of abundance flowing to you and through you money where you can spend it how you choose, you can save it, you can invest it, you can do whatever you want without feeling anxious, without feeling avoidant, without feeling insecure. I want you to feel attached with your money relationship. And that's what this book, Make Money Easy, is all about.
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Because when you focus on who you are and the unique value you bring to the world, your energy and actions will invite more money to you, my friend. That's what this is all about. And you've been blocking your abundance. You've been blocking it. Maybe you've been able to get to a certain level, but you've been stuck there.
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And again, if that's you, if you feel like I haven't been able to break through on the money I've been making, I've been kind of stuck at this level for a few years, and I just feel like I'm not sure of myself on how to get to the next level, then let me know. If you're watching on YouTube, leave a comment below.
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If you feel like you've been blocked and you're not sure what to do, if you're listening on Apple or Spotify or wherever you're listening, Let me know, message me over on Instagram or post it on YouTube if you feel blocked by getting to the next level because I want you to feel financially free. By the actions and the energy you show up with, you will start to invite more money to you.
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And if you are ready, to live a richer life and create financial peace. Now is the moment, and this is your key to unlock the seven money habits to make money easy. And again, I want you to get this book right now. I want you to pre-order this book. I want you to buy this for yourself.
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And I thought to myself a few years ago, after writing The Greatest Mindset, that becoming a big New York Times bestseller, I said, what is the thing that people need the most? I asked you. I did polls. I did questions out on social media to our email list. I said, what is your biggest pain point and problem? And you responded with money. So money it is. And my goal is to help you make money easy.
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I want you to buy this for a family member or a friend, someone that you know is maybe blocked by their financial situation right now. Maybe they're struggling. This is the book I wish I had when I was broke and on my sister's couch.
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If someone would have had this book and given it to me, it would have given me so much more peace because I learned how to make money around 25, 26, 27, I started to make money. But man, I had a lot of stress and anxiety around it. And I would stack my money in the bank I would just save it and stack it and I was afraid to lose any of it.
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I was afraid like if it went down in my bank account, it would mess me up. It was like my mindset was messed up. I had the skills to earn. I didn't have the emotional mindset to understand how to navigate it though and how to feel at peace about it. So I kept making more and feeling more and more anxious and stressed. And that is like financial prison.
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Having money but feeling like you're a prisoner to it is not enjoyable. Now, being broken on your sister's couch is not enjoyable either. They're both not fun. But when you have the ability to earn more and you have the ability to feel peace and harmony around it and be in a secure relationship with money, man, life just unfolds in a beautiful way. Life feels relaxed.
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You feel like, whoo, I feel light. I feel emotionally light. I feel physically light. I feel spiritually whole. And that's what I want for you. And what you can do right now, if you are struggling or maybe you're making a lot of money, but you feel like, why do I stress about it still? Then you can go to lewishouse.com slash money right now and pre-order a copy of this book.
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It would be a big favor to me if you go get a copy right now. lewishouse.com slash money. And here's what I'm going to do for you. I'm going to give you something in return. I'm going to do a... make money masterclass that is all about the money mindset that you need to create abundance in your life. So we're going to create a money mindset masterclass for you.
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It's only going to be for people that get the book right now. So when you purchase the book, you're going to get a receipt and we'll give you instructions on where to upload that receipt so you can get access to the money mindset masterclass. And we're going to do it around my birthday, which is March 16th, right around when the book will actually be coming out on March 18th.
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But it would be a huge favor for me if I've ever added any value in your life, if you've gotten value from this show, if this...
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show has given you any tools or tips or inspiration to support you, to help you grow in any way, then it would mean a lot to me if you go to lewishouse.com slash money right now, pre-order a copy, heck, pre-order two or five or 10 if you wanna give it to your friends and family. If you know more than one person that has struggled with money,
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then get a few copies right now because they'll ship to your door on the day it comes out on March 18th. So again, I want you to think about how you can show up and give in a way that brings that joy, that brings smile, that shifts someone's energy today like my dad used to do when he would tip in twos. And this is a gift that he passed down to me
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where I've been able to bring so much joy to people just by handing them a $2 bill. And when you can give generously with your heart, the amount of richness that your life has is far more than money. You get an experience, you get a memory, you get a moment with someone when you have a mindset of generosity. And generosity is the gateway to abundance along with gratitude.
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So I wanna express my gratitude for my father who is no longer with us, who gave me this gift. who showed me this mindset every single day of his life. He showed me this generous gift. And I wanna thank you for your generosity, for always showing up and listening and watching and being a part of this show.
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And again, we have a brand new book and I want you to pre-order it today because I'm going to give you a very special money masterclass when you do. I'm going to share more details on that in a second. But first, I want to share a few stories that I think are going to be powerful for you today. Whether you get this book or not, I want you to understand a very important principle around money.
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It's been such a beautiful 12 years and I'm so grateful for the entire greatness team who has helped bring this book to life because it has been two years behind the scenes, a lot of work to simplify money. When in a world for a lot of people, money is hard, we want to make it easy for you. Again, make sure to go to lewishouse.com slash money. I cannot wait for you to get this book.
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This is the book that I wish I had growing up when I was broke on my sister's couch. And it's the book I wish I had a couple of years ago because I still had a lot of anxiety and stress around money. I was making more, but it was kind of like... I still hadn't mastered it. And trust me, I have no way mastered it.
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I need this book now for myself more than ever as a reminder to keep in harmony with money, to have a beautiful relationship with money, to continue to heal and mend my relationship with money so that I feel financially peaceful and abundant every single day. Get your copy. The link will be right down below, pinned in the comment, in the description. Check it out. Pre-order today.
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Please grab a few copies for your friends as well. And I can't wait to see you in the Money Mastermind class that we're going to be doing, the Money Mindset Masterclass coming soon as well. You'll get that when you get a copy. You'll upload your receipt. We'll send instructions on what to do there. Thank you again. And make sure to get your copy of Make Money Easy. today.
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I hope you enjoyed today's episode and it inspired you on your journey towards greatness. Make sure to check out the show notes in the description for a full rundown of today's episode with all the important links. And if you want weekly exclusive bonus episodes with me personally, as well as ad free listening, then make sure to subscribe to our greatness plus channel exclusively on Apple podcasts.
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share this with a friend on social media and leave us a review on apple podcast as well let me know what you enjoyed about this episode in that review i really love hearing feedback from you and it helps us figure out how we can support and serve you moving forward and i want to remind you if no one has told you lately that you are loved you are worthy and you matter and now it's time to go out there and do something great
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And again, I've had the fortune of interviewing some of the wealthiest people in the world, billionaires, mega billionaires, multimillionaires, people who have exited hundreds of millions and billions dollars worth of companies. And I've asked poor people questions about what keeps them stuck. I've asked wealthy people questions about what unlocks the keys to freedom in their finances.
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And it's been fascinating over the last 12 years, the research, the science, the practical tips and lessons I've been able to gain from interviewing all these individuals. Plus, in the book, I share so many stories about my own money problems.
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Yes, if this is your first time coming to me or you're new to this show, about, what was it, 15 years ago, I was broke on my sister's couch for a year and a half, making almost nothing, barely scrapping by. One point in my life, I was a truck driver making $250 a week, driving a truck six hours a day from Columbus, Ohio to Cincinnati, Ohio, and back every day, five days a week.
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And if you're looking to go from where you are at your financial situation to creating way more, then I have a special surprise for you. Because for the last couple of years, I've been working behind the scenes, deep research, a lot of work on a brand new book that I'm announcing to you today. And it is coming out very soon. It is called... Make Money Easy.
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I bounced on the weekends for, you know, 10 bucks an hour and trying to get some tips at a nightclub. And I played arena football where I got paid $250 a week as well back in 2007. So I had many different seasons of life where I had no money, I was broke, and I had no clue how I was going to make money.
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I didn't have a college degree when kind of the housing crisis crashed and the economy crashed in 2008, 2009. People weren't hiring during that time with those individuals that had bachelor's degrees and master's, let alone people like me who were sleeping on their sister's couch after getting an injury playing football. And I really just didn't have a lot of the tools.
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Now, I was lucky enough that my dad instilled some principles in me early on. And unfortunately, when I turned 22, my dad got into a pretty tragic car accident. He was in a coma for many months, and for 17 years, he never was able to work again. So I learned some lessons from him early on about the mindset of making money, and I watched him work so hard. Early on, we didn't have a lot of money.
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Then when I turned about 16, his business finally started to take off after 25 years of hard work. He started to make a little bit more money for five to seven years before his accident. And then he just wasn't himself. He wasn't able to work anymore. He lost his memory a lot and his personality shifted where he wasn't able to do much without the care of others for 17 years until he passed.
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But there was a big thing that he taught me early on. Not necessarily by what he said, but what he did. And I want to share this with you because I think it's really important. And I'm going to talk about kind of these principles in the book and how you can start to apply them in your life now so you don't have to just wait until the book comes out. But there was one thing he did early on.
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Every time we went out to dinner or to a restaurant or, you know, he would take me out after a baseball game to buy ice cream with a local dairy point in Delaware, Ohio, small town in Ohio. And he would always do something that would just make people smile, bring so much joy to people's life for a moment. And it would give people a story. And something he did is he would always tip in $2 bills.
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he would tip in $2 bills and it was like, it was like a magic trick every time he did this because I would see him tip or he'd put it in, you know, kind of the, the restaurant receipt thing where you put your money in and you fold it up when the waiter would open it up and they would see $2 bill tip or multiple $2 bills. They would just light up. It was like,
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If they were having a horrible day, their energy shifted. It was literally like a magic trick. If you wanted to make someone smile, they would rather take a $2 bill than three, four, or five single dollar bills. It was like they would take less in money, but the experience... the joy that people would gain from a $2 bill was magic. And there was a mindset that he taught me.
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It's how can you be generous with your time? How can you be generous with your money? And a lot of the billionaires, a lot of the mega millionaires, there are some of them who are unhappy that stress out a lot. But there are others who just seem like they keep earning and they have a richness to their life. And when I ask them, like, what is the secret to being rich and happy?
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Because not all millionaires are happy. They might have money, but it doesn't make them rich in life. Can I ask the happy ones, the ones who are... fulfilled in their purpose, the ones who have healthy, intact families still. And I'd ask them, you know, what's the key? And so many of them will tell me, be generous. Be generous with your money. Be generous in how you tip. Tip big.
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And I cannot wait to get this book in your hands. Now, again, it's called Make Money Easy because for most of us, we make money hard. And if you want to create financial freedom and live a richer life, this is the book for you. And there's a few things I want to share with you today.
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And I think what my dad taught me early on is something that I still do today. I carry on his legacy in my wallet. I have $2 bills. I tip with $2 bills. I've been doing it for a long time since his accident. And the joy that this brings people is priceless. You don't have to spend a ton of money to be generous, but you can do it in a generous way to create a moment for people.
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So again, the $2 bill tip strategy is one of the coolest things that you can do, something I've been doing since my early 20s. You don't need a ton of money to tip in twos. but it'll make someone's day much happier and richer in that moment. And you have the power to shift someone's energy by how you show up with your positive attitude, but also with just a creative act of generosity.
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So keep that in mind. It's one of the principles in this book, Make Money Easy. I'm gonna talk about what that is. There's another thing I wanna share with you. I was having a conversation with a friend the other day, and I asked them a simple question. If money was a person in your life, how would your relationship be with money? Now, I want you to think about this.
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When I asked this question to a friend, they said, well, if I was walking into a room and money was there as a person, I would not look at money. I would avoid it. I would ghost it if it tried to text me. I wouldn't reply to it, but I would use and abuse it. And I sat there and I just said, hmm. How do you think money feels if you use it in that way?
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If you ghost it, if you avoid it, if you don't look it in the eyes, if you don't talk about it, but when it's there, you're going to use it and abuse it. If you had a friend in your life that you treated that way, do you think that friend would enjoy that feeling? Probably not. And I want to ask you again, Leave a comment if you're watching on YouTube. Message me on Instagram.
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Let me know if money were a person, how would your relationship be with money? Tell me what your relationship is. And I just want you to think about that because money is energy. And the way you interact with money, how you interpret it, the way you feel about it when you see it,
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when it comes to you, when you have to pay it, when you look in your bank account, maybe you don't look in your bank account, how you think about it, when you talk about it, the energy, you either attract more of it or you're repelling it from you and causing more stress in your financial situation. So I want you to think about what your relationship is with money.
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How To Align Your Mindset To Attract Financial Abundance + A HUGE Announcement
And when you change your mindset around money, your entire life becomes richer. Again, we're talking about my book, Make Money Easy. This is not a book about investing. This is not a book about stock market. That's not what this is about. There are tons of books and resources out there. This is about developing a powerful, energetic relationship with money
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How To Align Your Mindset To Attract Financial Abundance + A HUGE Announcement
to cover around the book, but also the mindset shift that you need to change in order to unlock prosperity and abundance for your life. And some of the biggest interviews that we've done on the School of Greatness are around money. Why? Because money is such a big topic in our lives. And so many people feel the stress, they feel the strain, they feel the constraints of their money situation.
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So you feel peaceful when you talk about money, when you have money, when you don't have money, when you spend money, all these different things. So I want to read you a few things that I think will be extremely important for you to know as you're getting this book.
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Because I believe it doesn't matter what skills or what stock trades you know or where to invest your money or how to make more money in terms of like, I'm going to get more money from my job. Like, all that is fine. But if you don't change your relationship with money, you're gonna create more stress when you have more money.
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How To Align Your Mindset To Attract Financial Abundance + A HUGE Announcement
And I've talked to a lot of millionaires who have lost it all, who have ruined their relationships, who have got extreme anxiety when they've created more money because they haven't done the most important thing first with money, which is change their relationship to it. And if you're tired of living paycheck to paycheck, I'm going to read a little bit of this right now for you.
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If you're tired of living paycheck to paycheck, or if you feel trapped by your monthly expenses, or if you wonder how some people enjoy financial freedom while you seem stuck, your relationship with money begins with having the right mindset because most of us don't have it. Until you heal your relationship with money, nothing can change for the better.
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Because if you don't care for your money, your money won't care for you. In this book, Make Money Easy, I'm gonna show you how to identify your money style, which is a key to understanding why you are lacking abundance. Most of us have a money style, but we're just not aware of it. And your money style It stems from your money story.
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How To Align Your Mindset To Attract Financial Abundance + A HUGE Announcement
We have a history of money in our lives, from what our parents talked about it, from how we used it in school. If we, our friends had more money than us, we had a story about money. And that story shapes our lives today with our money style. And so we're going to identify your money style so you can create a future money history that allows you to create more abundance in your life.
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Wouldn't that be awesome? Wouldn't it be great if we could understand our style so that we can shift it to create more? It's also going to teach you how to develop a powerful money mindset so that you can earn more. Most of us aren't thinking in ways of abundance. We're not thinking in terms of our self-worth being good enough to earn more money. We're just afraid of money.
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I asked another friend recently, they said they don't want to make more money because they'd be afraid they would turn into a bad person. And I said, why would you turn into a bad person? Well, because people that I know who have money, they're just stingy. They're not good with their money. They don't treat people well.
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And I don't want to become out of integrity with money and do that to other people. And so again, this money mindset is keeping you trapped. and holding you to a certain ceiling of how much you're able to make right now.
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And once you can break through that money mindset, which a whole book is about, once you can break through that, then you can start to create an enormous amount of financial peace in your life And live in generosity. You don't have to be out of integrity. You don't have to be stingy when you make money. You don't have to be a bad person. Money is energy. And money amplifies who you are.
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So if you're a stingy, selfish person now, when you make more money, you're going to become more of that. If you're a generous, kind, joyful person now, you're going to amplify that energy into the world when you have more money. So it's about shifting our money perspective, our money mindset. But first you have to understand your money story, the history of your money.
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Then you have to understand your money style. Most of us don't know this. I cover everything about that in this book. Then you can create a powerful money mindset so you can earn more. But if you don't follow the steps, you're not going to be able to get to the next level. You always fall back behind if you don't follow these steps.
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Then we talked about how to create a money map to reach clear financial goals. Most people aren't clear on how much they want to make on a yearly basis. If you're not clear, why would you create more? If you just say, well, I just want to make millions. Well, Why? Why do you want to make those millions? How many millions? If you want to make a hundred grand, why do you want to make that?
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A lot of people are in debt so much from student loans still, where they've used their credit cards to the max and they feel this complexity. constant month to month, am I able to get out of this debt? In fact, our whole nation is in trillions of dollars of debt. It's kind of a mindset of getting the debt, getting the debt to get ahead. But for a lot of people, it doesn't turn out well.
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When do you want to make it by? You've got to clearly define your money map in order to reach your financial goals. We have it all in the book, Make Money Easy. Then we talk about how to appreciate your value and discover your hidden skills and gifts for greater earning potential. You know, when I was broke, I didn't think I had any skills.
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I was just like, there's no way I'm going to learn how to make money. I don't understand it. I didn't go to school for it. I don't know anything about taxes or interest or investments and just like what skills do I have that I can go get a job with? I thought I had nothing. I was just a football player who got injured. I didn't have any skills. I was in the bottom of my class in school.
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So I was terrified around money because I didn't understand it. But when you learn to appreciate your own value and tap into these hidden gifts, we talk about how to find those hidden gifts for extreme earning potential. I didn't know the gifts that I had would make me a millionaire, but they did. They did many times over.
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Happy New Year. Welcome to 2025. You made it. The last five years. It is almost five years since COVID happened, if you can believe it. It was March 16th. on my birthday, 2020, when it seemed like the world shut down. I remember because we were doing a party in my office and we had to send everyone home before they actually came because the world shut down.
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And if you want to learn how to actually rewire your limiting beliefs right now and say, I'm drawing a sand in the line. I'm putting my foot down. And everything that was holding me back is staying behind me. And moving forward, I am actually going to be committed and consistent with a new belief. And I'm going to keep reminding myself to live into this belief.
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They don't have the tools either to teach us.
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Right.
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Yeah.
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Exiled parts.
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Right. So we have we and does everyone build these defense mechanisms?
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It's just they look different for each person.
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It is going to be 12 years of the School of Greatness podcast this month. And so many people ask me, Lewis, do you learn anything new after 1500 or 1700 episodes will be done, whatever, how many number episodes we've done? Do you still learn new things? And I say yes, I do. But I also hear a lot of the same things over and over again. And I'm okay with that.
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Exhausting.
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Yes, curiosity, compassion, calmness, clarity, creativity, connectedness, courage, and confidence.
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There you go.
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So everyone has an inner parent.
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Because I need these reminders, guys, I can easily go in my ego and my negativity and my limiting beliefs, I could go back to those places. where I felt wounded as a child at any moment.
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Yes, of course.
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And how we release the blocks is how.
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Is that through the core beliefs of like understanding core beliefs?
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It's a four-step practice. Okay.
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So for me, I do this show for myself as a reminder to constantly stay committed to these types of frequencies, to these types of beliefs, to these types of ideas, so that I can stay in a state of goodness, a state of abundance, a state of positivity. And that is the key. And I want you to go on this journey with me today
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Right. And you created a four-step process for us.
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Yes.
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IFS approved.
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Okay.
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Yeah, I'm ready to go.
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Well, there's something you said in chapter three about core beliefs, because I think a lot of people hear about their behaviors and beliefs and that we have this a block based on our beliefs, whether that's a childhood belief or a current belief as an adult.
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And you say that the hard truth is that although we can make surface level adjustments to our actions, true change can only happen when we heal from within and address the core beliefs that block us from manifesting the life we desire. So I guess, would this four-step process help us address the core beliefs that are blocking us in manifesting what we want?
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And if so, then what is that process?
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So you're connecting higher self currently to the self that was destructive or harmed or the manager.
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and every week this year on the School of Greatness because I am committed to bringing you the most powerful, valuable, insightful information that I can each and every episode this year. I am going to step up my game. My team is stepping up its game to make sure we are in service at the highest level possible. And I want you on this journey more committed than ever because you deserve
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The parts. Yeah. The manager or firefighter parts of you. That's correct, baby. That cause stress or anxiety or control or perfectionism or whatever it might be.
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Gabby Bernstein: The 4 Step Process To Manifest Anything & Heal Your Deepest Wounds
So it's almost like we have multiple personalities or memories or people in us, which is weird to say.
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Multiple parts of who we are. Yeah. And there are some parts that are wounded that we get to heal. And the more of those parts that we can have a higher relationship with, a more harmonious relationship with, if you can create a harmonious relationship from the higher self of you to the wounded self parts of you, then things are going to start to flow better in your life.
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In every area.
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It's been like, what, 13, 14 years?
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15 years, maybe, since I've known you. 2008, I met you.
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Yeah, you still get results in life.
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Interesting. So the parts that were wounded are still inside of you.
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Took action. Got things done.
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She's not forcing.
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Yeah, right, right. Chaos. So these parts of us that once controlled us or hurt us to try to protect us because they all had an intention to serve us, but they didn't help the self. really at our highest self.
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Their blocking self, but they're an attempt to try to protect us. Totally. These parts of us, when we can have a relationship, a harmonious relationship with them through healing and mending those wounds, then we can use them for good.
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And it sounds like we could, you know, by doing this self-help work and by following this four-step process that we're going to cover in a second and just going through the book, it sounds like when we can start to have a different relationship with these parts of us that have caused us pain and suffering but also try to protect us, if we can start to have a new relationship by mending those relationships, it can get a lot better.
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But it doesn't mean... Those things can come back at some point if we don't keep having a relationship with them in a healthy way. So you might be six months, I feel better, but then something triggers you and you go back to the wounded part of you that says, I don't feel safe. You need to control this. You need to protect this.
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You need to be a perfectionist in this moment, whatever it is, hypervigilance. And so it's a constant relationship and a conversation of checking in, it sounds like.
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All right, here we go.
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to feel the greatness that is inside of you. You deserve to feel the love that you want to receive. You deserve to experience financial peace and freedom. You deserve to know what your purpose is and how to pursue that purpose. And you're also going to experience challenges and obstacles at different seasons of life along the way.
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Gabby Bernstein: The 4 Step Process To Manifest Anything & Heal Your Deepest Wounds
Give me a specific example in your life that may be a part of you that comes up sometimes that causes you anxiety or stress.
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Yeah, your team are like, oh, Gabby's in that mode. Part of her is coming out in this moment. They're watching right now.
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She's being a perfectionist or she's over-controlling or she's done whatever it is.
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So whatever that part is for you that maybe has tended to come up a lot in the past, can you give me an example of how you could use this while you're sharing what these four steps are?
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Zing.
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So is that the adult self choosing to check in or is that the child self choosing to check in?
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So it's like what you said with your son, if he's not willing to reciprocate, like saying, let's talk about what's going on. And he's like, no, screw you, mommy, or whatever he's saying, then that's not a check-in. Both parts need to check in.
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Willingness to receive or talk.
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Got it, okay. Not that your son would say, screw you, mommy, but I'm just saying. You never know.
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And these challenges are designed specifically to help you overcome the parts of yourself that have been holding you back.
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Why is this happening?
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And so we don't want them to always happen, but when they're happening, just know they're happening for you and they're in your favor if you're willing to lean into them, if you're willing to go all into your fears until those fears disappear and transform yourself into something like your greatest self would be proud of. Again, I am pumped.
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To make your hair like look perfect.
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The one that you're remembering now, confidence.
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Yes.
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Because if you're not starting step one, then you're just going to stay in fight or flight, you know, control freak anxiety or whatever your manager is saying.
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Interesting. Because otherwise you are those parts in that moment.
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So you can reflect. You just take a nap.
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You're out of the environment.
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This year is time to fully step in to the best version of you. And that's going to rely on all of you to stay committed when there are adversities and challenges. And we have an incredible gift today with the inspiring Gabby Bernstein. Do me a favor. If you've listened to this show for years, or if this is your first time here, we are almost 12 years in the anniversary.
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Yeah, you're staring at a wall or something.
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And you have survived and hopefully you have thrived in the last five years. It hasn't been easy for anyone. There have been challenges. There's been health issues, there's been death, there has been struggles, there has been so many different challenges. But I am telling you, if you can
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Compassionate.
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Yes. You talk about, in one of your books, becoming a super attractor. How can we become a super attractor by applying this method?
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Because it sounds like you applied the method and you wouldn't have been able to figure this out if you were in stress and control and manager freaked out, control freak mode, you know, that little part of you is back in that, like it needs to be a perfect pigtails or whatever. So how can you attract abundantly without managing the parts of us that are wounded?
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You can't manage the managers.
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You won't be able to break through certain levels.
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Effortless.
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That's true. And isn't it amazing? And I'm sure people watching or listening right now, I've had those moments. I'm sure everyone has had those moments where like, God, I feel it's just like things aren't working and I'm frustrated, but then you get centered.
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Maybe you didn't know you were doing some of these steps, but you get re-centered and you say in a world of possibilities, what can I create? And you call a friend and you say, I'm struggling with this thing. And it's like, who do we know that could help with this? Let's start brainstorming. You start to get creative.
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You don't even know you're doing these steps where you start to say, like, we need to find a solution. Who do we know? What can we, who can we call? Who can do this for us? Who can support us? And you kind of naturally do these things, right?
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Some, I feel like everyone watching or listening has probably had those moments where it's like, wow, a synchronicity came up or the idea to call this person like you did came up and everything fell into place. Yes. And I think the goal with this book, which I'm understanding, is to give people the tools on how to do that every single day.
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That family member or friend that you care about that you want to see thrive this year. Text them this link right now. Just copy and paste. Text it to them right now because Gabby Bernstein is about to blow your mind. And let's go ahead and dive in right now. Welcome back, everyone, to the School of Greatness. Very excited about our guest.
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The norm. Not like this happened like twice a year.
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You know, for most people it's like once a year maybe.
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Here's something that I've realized, which most of my life that you've known me through I was like working my butt off to create and to generate results. That was getting them right. And New York time bestseller and all these different things happen just like you. It's like we're able to build businesses and launch stuff and do things.
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But I remember feeling like I was a six or a seven out of a 10, like internally, you know, consistently, I was like living my, and sometimes it's like four, you know, three or four. And I was like, I don't know how I'm able to get these results.
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Feeling so emotionally drained, feeling disconnected at times, feeling frustrated or anxious or obsessive or whatever the feelings I was feeling, the parts of me that were coming out. And I remember just thinking, God, I wonder what life would be like if I was at like an eight, nine or 10 consistently internally. Yeah.
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With self, but also in relationship with, you know, an intimate partner, which I never had really a healthy relationship with. And I'm not here to talk about previous relationships or blame anyone. It was more my work that I needed to do.
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Yeah, that attracted certain people, that stayed in relationships, that was afraid to get out. Acting out in that pattern. Yeah.
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But the thing that I've noticed that, man, life has gotten so good when you can create that self-help for self and you can blend it with another person who's also doing that work. It is magic.
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I don't know, a magical potion that you just... There isn't a day that goes by where Martha and I don't look at each other or we look at each other where we say, God, life is incredible. It's almost daily. Now, there is still life that's happening. She's gone through some extreme challenges earlier this year. You know, family members having some different pains and issues.
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sicknesses and diseases, and there's still life that's happening. There's still bad things that are happening and grief and sadness and loss and anxieties. But for the most part, we're able to bring it back to the higher self, even while being in those emotions of sadness and fear and anxiety that happen in life and frustrations in business or whatever it might be.
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But we're able to bring it back to self individually and And together. And when you can blend it in a relationship, from my experience, what I've noticed, just you're super, you're two super attractors that are attracting and manifesting together. It is unbelievable. And life feels like anything is possible. And it's also like anything is possible and I don't need anything else. That's right.
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We have my dear friend, my sister, Gabby Bernstein, in the house. So good to see you. Thanks for being here in my basement of greatness, in my home.
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It's like more is coming. And if it doesn't come, I'm so happy without it.
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And you can create.
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Yes.
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Consistently. I'll give an example. Recently, I had my event, Summit of Greatness, recently. And Esther Perel, I'm interviewing Esther on stage at one point. And we had a massive mess up in terms of the production. This has never happened to me in seven or eight years of doing this event. And we have this whole introduction. You've spoken at my event.
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The fire and the smoke and the video of the person on screen. They're supposed to come out. And we played the video and Esther wasn't ready. So the whole video, people are screaming for her, cheering. And Matt backstage is like, she's not ready.
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Exactly. Martha.
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And there was a part of me, I go back and I look at that while everyone's standing ovation, there's no one on stage. And I just think to myself, well, it's an opportunity. I go, the show must go on. And how can I show up? You know, how can I show up as a higher self and not a frustrated part of me, right? How can I show up and make the most of this?
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And so I go out on stage and I go, hey, guys, you know, I made a mistake. And, you know, I'm Mr. Perel. I kind of made a joke. I go, I'm Mr. Perel. I made a mistake. Esther's not ready. So we're going to do this all over again in a little bit when she comes back. Yeah, yeah, yeah, exactly. And just to let you guys know that life doesn't always happen perfectly.
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I saw this online and I was like, there's a whole story around manifesting this. There you go. Which I think is really interesting. We were, Martha and I were looking for homes for like a year, right? Just kind of like initially just curious, but then we were like, okay, let's get serious about thinking of buying a home. And I saw this one on Zillow, but it was like so expensive. It was absurd.
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And there's certain things that are under your control. And you just try to own the moment and make the most of it.
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And even though it felt like this massive breakdown, and it was in terms of what we wanted to create, I know that I could go into my wounded part of me that is frustrated that someone on my team didn't get the right cue or we messed up the timing or someone wasn't paying attention or I wasn't doing the right thing, whatever it is.
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I could have gone right into blame, frustration, anger, perfectionism, like it needs to look a certain way. embarrassment, shame, like, oh no, Esther's going to feel angry at me. I don't know. Whatever these younger parts of me that felt wounded. But quickly I was just like, how can we manage this the best way possible? And how can I serve people?
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And so I went back on stage and I said, I'm here to serve. And we did like a 10 minute Q and A until I got the cue that she was ready. And we did it all over again. It was fun. And Esther on stage when we were doing the interview, she didn't really know this was happening. She was in her green room.
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But on stage, she was like, what is a part of you that is, you know, evolved or that used to be something that would affect someone in a relationship with you that would be maybe unbearable or something? And I said, well, this all happened just now. And there was also like noise happening in the background behind stage was very distracting.
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Like, I don't know who it was, but people were like making noise and things were slamming while we're on stage during this interview. And I said, the old part of me would have probably stopped this interview in front of 4,000 plus people and like screamed at people in the back. They're like, guys, what are you doing? Shut up. You know, we're in the middle of this, like be quiet.
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Like five, eight years ago, the old me. I would have freaked out on people for like messing things up behind the scenes, whatever it is. The old part of me would have done that. But the new part of me is just like managing it in my mind and just saying, it's all going to be okay. You know, there's some disturbance. They're going to handle it. Don't try to control it all. Be as present as I can be.
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It's not exactly the way I want it to be, but be as present as I can be and serve. It just went back into service. How can I serve even though it's not perfect, even though it's uncomfortable, even though there's disturbances, even though it didn't flow the right way, how can I get back to service? And I felt myself very calm. I didn't feel like angry or frustrated.
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I was like annoyed, but I didn't go back into the wounded part of me that would freak out.
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And it feels, you know, again, in those moments, they're stressful moments that you're like, oh, I don't like this.
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But you don't have to react to it.
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Emotional adult, yeah.
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I was like, this would be... Five years away, seven years away to be able to buy something like this with the price tag that it had on Zillow. But it had everything. I was like, I want a basketball court. I want the salt. I want everything, right? It had a movie theater. It had a basement, which doesn't happen in LA.
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A teaching moment or whatever it is.
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Yeah.
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I think that's really interesting what you said, because we're all human beings. We're going to have human moments. It's when someone is willing to take accountability. That's when you have more respect for that person and trust for that person.
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You know, and hopefully we can catch ourselves within five to 20 minutes or whatever. Listen, I had a freak out moment. That's right. I own it. I apologize. It's not about you guys. I was doing my own stuff. And when you can do that, you can mend those relationships faster.
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Exactly.
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How does that look?
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And I was like, if I'm going to buy a home, I want the home for the next 10, 15 years. I don't want to buy something that's almost what I want. I want to get what I want. Otherwise, I'll just stay in an apartment for the next few years and wait. And then this thing went off the market and I was like, oh, it's sold. Okay, I guess it wasn't for us. Six months later, it comes back, but way cheaper.
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I'm trying to get clarity here. Yeah.
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That's true. It's so interesting you said that because it brought something up for me. I have so many memories from childhood in my teen years where kind of mentors and leaders that I was around, coaches, teachers, speakers when I went to events. I don't remember a lot of things they said, but I remember the energy, right? The energy they brought to me.
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I think Maya Angelou talks about like- You'll remember how they make you feel, yeah. Exactly. And there's a specific moment I've said this every time I met with Tony Robbins. My dad bought two tickets to one of his events for me and my mom when I was 16. And it was a big arena tour. It was like 15,000 people. It wasn't his main UPW. It was like a three-day multi-speaker thing that he used to do.
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He no longer does. And my dad got us seats. Imagine like a basketball arena, like a big NBA arena. But we're sitting kind of on the court with seats, like tons of rows in the court. And I'm sitting... you know, in the half court and the stage is over by the end of the arena. And he gets off stage and walks down and he's getting closer to me.
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And this is the first time I've ever been to a Tony Robbins event. I really even knew anything about him. 16 years old. He walks down and he stops like right next to me in the aisle. And I'm like looking up at Tony and it was like this massive presence. I still, to this day, I don't remember what he said, but like he spoke to the audience for maybe 60 seconds. And his energy was so magnetic.
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It was so in self. He was in the flow. That's right. He was in his creative force. The energy he was bringing, the connectedness he was to each person. It was like he was speaking to everyone. Look in your eyes, but to 15,000 people. Really landing his points. And I remember just thinking, I want to have that energy. I want to bring that energy to life in my sports at the time.
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I was a high school athlete. And I want to bring that level of service to people. And it's like a moment. It was like a memory is a moment that like, if that wouldn't have happened, maybe I wouldn't be doing what I'm doing. Totally. Maybe I wanted to be creating the way I'm creating to serve and find tools and strategies to help people. So, and interviewing people like yourself.
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It was still more than what the budget was, but it was like, I was like, oh, maybe there's a chance. And what if we negotiated and really tried to work through it? And we got it exactly the price that I was like willing to pay. So it all came together. I just had to be patient. I had to keep setting the intention. And also it was not settling for something that I didn't want.
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And I have that with coaches that was like moments where they like stopped us in the court and like said something, but it wasn't what they said. It's how they connected with us. That's right. Yeah.
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And I remember being like, wow, I really feel that presence, that trust, that respect of that individual, that they care, that they want us to improve, that they're trying to be there for what they're sacrificing. Teachers stepping up for me after class when I'm struggling and being their presence, their energy. Sure, they helped me how to read and write better, but it was like their caringness.
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Absolutely. Something I wanted that I was like, wow, that's really cool.
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The energy, yes.
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Isn't that crazy?
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I was just thinking about, yeah, and when we bring self-help and start to heal the parts of ourselves, we're not going to have that chaos in the world. If every person is doing this work and tending to the parts of us that feel traumatized or wounded, we don't need managers and firefighters to protect us. Nope. And we have the courage to communicate differently.
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We have the courage to love differently and to have compassion for someone else's point of view and say, okay, that's not what I agree with or believe with, but let's find a way where we can come together somehow, as opposed to let's fight and I'm going to win and you're going to lose. On all sides, right?
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I still remember these moments.
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That's true.
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In the book, again, we're talking about this book here, Self-Help. Make sure you guys grab a copy. In this book, you say, those terrifying moments in life are the catalyst for our greatest awakening and transformation. They are the moments that crack us open to the possibility of believing something new. They are the moments when we surrender enough to let self help.
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This self-impact training, which I don't know if you knew this, is sit. Oh, cool.
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Sit your ass down. It's essentially you need to sit down and surrender, it sounds like. Because a lot of people are in stress and chaos and they feel like they need to control and like take action on something. But sometimes we need to stop taking action if it's a wounded action and we start sitting, surrendering and going through these steps in the process.
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Yes. But I'm an impatient person by nature. So it's like, I want this thing now. I want it yesterday. Right. You're probably similar in a sense. We have to teach ourselves how to allow the patience to come into our lives.
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Yes.
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Yeah.
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When someone is going through addiction or someone is addicted to something, you're addicted to drugs mostly or cocaine.
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Cocaine and alcohol. But when someone is addicted to drugs, alcohol, sex, porn, whatever it is, lying, stealing.
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Right, right. People, whatever it might be. But if someone is addicted to anything and has an extreme addiction to that thing, what... Is that saying about them or the parts of them?
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believe that it's all happening for you if you can even just put that thought out into the universe right now and say this all happened for me even if there was some horrible stuff that happened and if you can start to believe that this all happened for me and it's setting me up for an incredible next year and next five years of this decade then I'm telling you magic is going to flood into your life but it starts with the belief that
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Interesting.
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How hard is it to end an extreme addiction?
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That's amazing. Congrats.
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You do. Is there ever a time you get really frustrated where you're like, the thing that I've been intending and wanting and desiring is not even coming close to fruition?
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It's almost like you have to commit your whole life to being sober, clean, like breaking the addiction. You have to almost commit, I'm willing to do whatever it takes to set myself free. And that might be painful to look at the parts of you in other ways.
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Absolutely.
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Yeah, better than momentum. Speaking of the new year, we're, you know, we're in the new year. If people are watching or listening to this now, if you could give people, there's a lot of things that have happened in the last few years, a lot of chaos in the world for people.
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There's a lot of financial up and down, social up and down, relational up and down, health up and down, political up and down. But if someone is watching or listening right now and they're saying, I just really want to create a new baseline for myself to start manifesting in 2025 in a beautiful way, in a way that I've never done it before.
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And if they're watching this and they're thinking, what's the best way to manifest after all the crap that we've been through in life, them individually, or the crap that the world has been through, what's the best way that they can start manifesting in 2025 and beyond?
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Really? Like what?
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That's it. That's the process. The book is self-help. This is your chance to change your life like every Bernstein. Make sure you guys pick up a few copies. I love this because it's simple. It is short. So for me, it feels very manageable when I'm reading it. It's like it's easy to read. So make sure you guys check this out.
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the four-step check-in process to transform the patterns that have held you back. And you mentioned this before that we always hear about these limiting beliefs that are blocking us, that are holding us back. But a lot of times people don't talk about these steps on how to break through those limiting beliefs. And I really love the approach to the IFS
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approach because it's looking within at the parts of us that are holding us back. And these parts of us are blocking us and limiting us to break free in what we want, whether it's creating a better relationship or manifesting something in our career or business, whatever it might be. And so those are the things that are limiting us.
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The things that have been trying to protect us for so long are actually helpful in certain ways, but not every way. So we need to have a new relationship from a place of
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capital self, higher self within us and start tending to those parts of us that have been holding us back, that have been limiting us and incorporating a new healthy whole relationship with them so that they can support and elevate all of you. And I think when you can follow Gabby's process and It is going to make it seem more relatable.
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It's going to make it feel more simplified and less confusing and daunting because some of these things in therapy can extreme can be extremely daunting to like just even sitting down with someone for an hour and hearing some terminology. It's like I'm exhausted already. Let me just get back to my life and being addicted because that's what I know. Yeah.
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And so allow yourself to start sitting, start checking in with yourself, start reflecting and following these four steps in this book. And it'll really help you transform your life. So Gabby, thank you so much for doing this. This is amazing. I'm excited for everyone to get this. And again, make sure you guys get a few copies, give it to friends. It's great to start off the year 2025.
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If you have anyone in your life, who maybe feels blocked in any way, give them a copy of the book so that they can be supported as well. Any final thoughts for you guys?
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I appreciate it. Thanks, Gabby.
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Appreciate it.
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Love you too. I appreciate it. Get the book. Follow Gabby everywhere online. You've got an amazing podcast as well. What else can we do to support you? How can we support you?
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Gabby, love you. Thanks for being here. Appreciate it. I love you.
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And now it's time to go out there and do something great.
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It is. It always seems like it's a go time, but specifically this time, it feels like it's even more with what's happening in the world. This book is really exciting. I'm excited to talk about it. It's called self-help. This is your chance to change your life. Make sure you guys pick this up, but in the forward Dick Schwartz, who's the founder of IFF.
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I F S internal family systems says that you illustrate the ability to show compassion and love to all parts of you, even the ones that have ruined your life and to do it in a very specific way that allows them to transform. How do we manifest something that we really want or desire in our life when there are parts of us that have completely traumatized and ruined our lives?
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Is there an ability to create the life we desire and want without healing or transforming traumas and pain that ruins us and cripples us still?
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Mm-hmm.
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So if we believe that we are not worthy of something, what are we saying about ourselves and what's possible for us?
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It starts with understanding how to believe. And I'm so excited that we get to kick off the new year with my good friend, Gabby Bernstein, who is a force of nature when it comes to manifesting your dreams. And she's going to be talking about the number one secret to manifesting today, which is going to be exactly what you need to hear going into 2025 to building out your dream year.
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That's interesting.
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It sounds like every human being is kind of schizophrenic or has multiple personality types.
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Which sounds crazy to think about.
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Yeah, of course. That impatience is a part, right?
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They haven't grown up yet.
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And where do these parts of us live?
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How many parts of us does each individual have?
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So you just had like a pain in your back and you were just kind of like sore for a while?
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Tell me what it is.
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Mmm, and the person was like tingling numbness then it became pain. Yes within like weeks months years It within a year Uh-huh and then it and then it kept going downward after that and then the pain is just like you start slouching You start like you don't want to walk you're stiff kind of all those symptoms that come with it. Yeah, it was nerve pain uh-huh because
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That doesn't mean that there's not things to clean up, that we don't still have to cleanse things in our internal world or in our external world. I'm going through transitions. I just moved offices. There's a lot of junk.
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100%.
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So is the pain that you had in your body or the condition you had in your body, the nerve pain, the tumor, do you think that was caused from the way you were thinking your entire life or was that just some freak thing that happened over time based on environment or conditions or chance?
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20.
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20. And so for, you know, 20 plus years, you're in pain, but you're also building businesses, you're making money, you're grinding 60, 80 hours a week. Hyper successful. Yeah, you're like, accomplish, accomplish, win, achieve. Ignore, ignore. Yeah, yeah, and just stuff the pain, keep thriving so I can feel some type of validation or...
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in the office that we have to get rid of and clean up and organize and it's not all perfect right now it's not all smooth there's a lot of hurry up and wait and sometimes it's just nice when there are clouds because it makes me reflect and say okay
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All my attention.
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Put all my worth into this success.
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Yeah, I think a lot of people can relate to that. If you can, feel free to leave a comment below and let me know how that shows up in your life or where you've been trapped emotionally or physically by putting all your attention in one area where good things happen and trying to stuff or hide the other areas that you've been afraid of or ashamed of or whatever you don't feel good enough.
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So when you started learning hypnotherapy and really diving into it deeper, What was the thing that was a big aha moment for you that gave you more healing and freedom in your body and in your mind?
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If someone has never experienced hypnosis or therapeutic hypnosis to support their minds and their body get into an energetic state of peace and calm and quieting the critical mind into the more, I guess, positive mind or into a more way of being that serves the mind and body for expansion and abundance,
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I've done a lot of things right now, it's time to reflect and cleanse, clean up, and start organizing my life internally, so that my environment externally matches. And if you feel like something's off right now, I just want to let you know that it's all going to be good. And I want you to start reflecting more. breathing more, and being more.
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And if someone wanted to tap into a method or a mantra or a process that would allow them to do this for a minute a day of self-hypnosis and they wanted to simplify it, what would that 30-second, one-minute self-hypnosis technique look like for them?
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Yeah. Yeah, the first three I am's that I thought of are I am loved, I am whole, I am peace. Yeah. Yeah.
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Because the critical mind keeps us in what type of state if we're always in criticizing, not evaluating.
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A lot of times we're trying to do do do to get the results we want in life. And we're trying to just act, act, act, which there's a season for that. But if you're not taking moments every day to be to reflect, to breathe, then it can feel like burnout is just overwhelming you and you could feel exhausted, your nervous system is going to feel drained. And
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And the first thing that came to mind is I'm enough, but I am love, I am joy, I am abundance, I am expansion, all these things here.
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But if we're in the critical mind consistently throughout the day or for many hours, it's going to put us into a more state of stress, it sounds like, or a more state of concern, or I don't know if lack is the right word, but less of an abundant, joyful, playful state. 100%.
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It's interesting because when I think back on my childhood, I used to think internally or say to myself internally and say externally a lot of I am negative sentences. I am horrible student, I'm bad, I'm this, I'm dumb, I'm stupid, whatever it might be. I'm not good enough, all those different things. Or I'm slow, I'm a slow learner, or I can't do that, or whatever this is.
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These, I guess you'd say spells or, you know. Mantras. Yeah, mantras that I would say, either cautiously or unconsciously, I was then creating. So what you're saying, what you're thinking, you're starting to create. It doesn't mean it's who you are, but it's what you're manifesting.
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And today's episode is all about how to really develop the powerful insights on breaking free from the mind traps in our life, like the negativity bias and the confirmation bias that holds us back from peace and abundance. Because you are abundant. You are peace. You are love. And sometimes we need the clouds to cleanse, to reflect, to remind us
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What would you say then is the difference between the law of attraction versus the law of assumption?
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Let us say, you know, I really struggled in school, right? And all of my confirmations proved that I struggled in school based on the test results, based on how long it took for me to study every single night and still not understand the concepts all through, you know, kindergarten until college. And so let's say that all I saw was evidence that I was a slow learner and I struggled in school.
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It was an assumption, right? It was an assumption, but I was like, but it might be true. You know, there's some truth to it because of the results I'm getting as well. How do I not lie to myself and say, actually, I'm a great learner and this is easy for me.
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How do I start to reprogram myself without lying based on evidence that's shown actually you haven't been good at this or you have been in bad relationship after relationship or all these guys did leave you or these girls did screw you over or whatever it is.
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Thank you.
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that we are out of alignment in some places or that some things just need cleaning up. You know, my office is a little messy right now and it's taking the time, taking a couple hours every week to organize, to clean, to process things, to integrate the new space.
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Thank you.
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I really think this is gonna help you transform your relationship with money this moment moving forward. We have some big guests and content coming up. Make sure you're following and stay tuned to this episode on the School of Greatness. It's a beautiful day right now to be with you, sharing this moment with you. And I'm so blessed and grateful that you're listening to this right now.
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Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
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and wherever you're at in your life whatever you're going through if it's a sunny day if it's a cold day or cloudy day i want you to pause reflect and be grateful i want you to be grateful for where you're at i want you to be grateful for getting yourself to this moment getting yourself to this space it doesn't mean it's a perfect space it doesn't mean it's doesn't have opportunity for growth but sometimes we just need to pause to reflect
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And I want to acknowledge you for being here today. And I'm so grateful for you. I'm grateful for you being a part of this journey with me on the School of Greatness. I'm grateful for you listening and showing up on a consistent basis for yourself. I'm grateful for you growing on this journey of life the way that I'm trying to constantly grow myself.
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And I feel like the moment I stop learning is the moment I start to slowly fade off. And I feel more frustrated at life. I'm always going to be learning. And I appreciate you being here on the journey with me today.
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what's going on in their lives or what they're consuming the content or they're judging and assessing whether they're in criticism mode or they're in envy mode or they're in self-loathing mode. So if someone is feeling stressed and anxious consistently, what's a way that they can raise their frequency to start to feel better on a daily basis?
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We've got a powerful episode with Jim Curtis, who's going to be talking about the practical techniques for a simple self-hypnosis that anyone can use daily to quiet the critical mind program and start building positive beliefs so that you can access deeper states of consciousness where true healing becomes possible. I'm so excited for this episode. I hope you enjoy it.
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Why is something challenging or bad happening for us?
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49. So almost three decades of... pain or a challenge that you've been working to overcome and get back into wholeness and healing, it sounds like, right? Yeah. And it's a lot of pain. Like every day, I'm assuming you woke up with pain and you struggled to walk and you had doubts or challenges, at least in the first couple of decades, it sounds like.
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In the last 10 years, it sounds like you've really transformed your thinking and your energy and you started to really heal and create wholeness from the inside out, right? Yeah. But that's hard when you have chronic pain like that, specifically in your back. It feels like debilitating, right? It just feels like you can only, you're limited to what you can do.
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Physically, emotionally, you can only move at a certain speed. It feels limiting, right? Would you take it back?
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Thank you for being on the journey. And let's go ahead and dive in. Welcome back everyone to the School of Greatness. Very excited about our guest. We have the inspiring Jim Curtis in the house, who is a master hypnotherapist, NLP trainer, and coach to many. Thanks so much for being here. I'm so happy to be here. Very excited about this.
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Because in a sense, I mean, it's your mind interpreting the pain of the body. Isn't that correct? Like the pain is really just the mind or the brain sending a signal of like, oh, there is pain in this joint or this muscle or this bone area, whatever it might be, this part of your body. It's the mind that's perceiving that, correct? Yeah.
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And so if you can calm the minds and almost get out of your body or above your body or Through that pain with calm mind, you almost don't feel the pain anymore.
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I'm already feeling the energy of our superpowers combining to really how we can be of service to the maximum amount of people watching and listening right now. And there's something we were talking about beforehand that I really liked that I wanted to ask you about first, and it's mind traps. The world is, a lot of people in the world are suffering.
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But again, a lot of people live in pain and then they stress and have anxiety around having the pain and trying to find solutions to get out of it, which causes more stress or more sense of control or consuming energy around what do I do to get out of this or I'm not good enough or I'm not lovable enough. So how do we tell the difference between our intuition and our anxiety speaking to us?
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Have you ever done it? Yeah, of course. It's so interesting you say that because I remember my senior year playing college football. The second game of the season, My dad left to go on a vacation with his girlfriend at the time. My parents were divorced many years before that. And he got into a car accident that left him in a coma for almost three months. Oh my God. In New Zealand.
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So I'm in Ohio, in Columbus, Ohio. I'm 22, I'm a senior, and he gets into this car accident. And I get a call at like 10 or 11 o'clock a night before a game on Saturday morning. So Friday night before the game. And we don't know if my dad is alive or dead. We just know like he was in an accident, he's in a coma, and it's all the way on the other side of the world. This was in 2005.
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A lot of people are suffering financially, physically, emotionally, and in relationships. And you mentioned something really interesting that I thought might help people to get started with. And it's one, the mind traps that people are stuck in. So I wanna ask you about what are mind traps and how people can get out of them to create more abundance and peace and freedom in their lives.
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And so it was a lot of uncertainty and anxiety. The next day, I'm like, do I play in this game? Do I get on a plane and go to New Zealand right now, which is gonna take 24 hours to get there? What do I do? Is my dad alive? Is he dead? It was just this uncertainty. And it was a lot of stress getting, going to that game. The second to last play of the game, I break three ribs.
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We lose the game in the last minute. I break three ribs and I feel like, oh, my season's over. I don't know if my dad's alive or dead right now. And this is really sad. All of this is sad. Because it was my dream to play professionally and I broke three ribs. And I'd broken the same three ribs the year before in a football game.
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So I was out for the whole season the year before recovering from these broken ribs. And it took me like months to recover. And the same three broke again. Someone hit me from the side as I caught a ball and speared me. and I could hear their cracks. And so I'm just, all this pain and stress and anxiety and overwhelm is in my mind right now of like, my season is over again.
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I don't know if my dad is alive or dead. What am I gonna do? And my sisters ended up going to New Zealand. I stayed back because this pain was like throbbing. And to get on a flight for 24 hours with like broken ribs, I was like, I need to wait anyways if I'm gonna do this. So I stayed back and they got there and he's in a coma for this first week while I'm in pain. And I just made a decision.
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I go, I'm going to heal my body. I'm going to come back and I'm going to play the rest of this season, whatever it takes. And I'm going to do it in service of my father. And energetically, I'm gonna send him love and inspiration while he's in a coma. I get chills thinking about it. Because within two weeks, I heal my ribs. It's kind of like this miraculous thing.
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Now, I put a pad over it, so I'm not just like, I keep hitting it over and over. I put a pad over it, but I'm able to run, jump, catch everything, move how I need to. And I'd get back on the field, I missed two games, and I'd come back. And every day in practice and every game, I would put tape around my wrists and on my cleats and just put, For Dad, and I'd put his name.
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So I was playing for something bigger than myself. I was playing to send energy so that he would heal or recover or get out of this coma. And by playing for something bigger than me, I felt like it made me heal faster. It made me stronger. And the crazy thing, a Thanksgiving week, he woke up. So a couple months later, he woke up.
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Now, he had a very long, he never fully recovered, and he struggled for 17 years after that until he passed. But it was a powerful way to think beyond the pain and beyond the brokenness physically. or spiritually that I was experiencing with my father, where I wasn't sure if he was going to live or not.
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And it gave me a sense of energy to get out of myself, something greater than the sadness I was facing, the anxiety, the worry that I was facing, the loss that I might be facing. And it allowed me to put my energy and attention towards healing and sending love.
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through the journey of how I'm going to show up every single day, how I'm going to practice with love and joy, how I'm going to come back and do my best to help the team win. And I had the best season of my life, missing two games with three broken ribs. Wow. That gave me chills. Yeah. It was powerful. But I could have easily gone into, why did this happen to me? My dream is over.
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Part two of this question, is how can we use directives versus questions to serve us in our life better? So what are the mind traps that hold us back from peace and abundance? And how can we use directives over questions to set us free?
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All these things are over. And it did do that for a few days until I made a decision. And a lot of it was just directing myself, like you said, and creating new mantras, new beliefs and reprogramming. No, I am going to create a healing for myself. I am going to show up every single day in appreciation and gratitude, even though I may have lost my dad. And I'm going to do the best that I can do.
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And it was a powerful two, three month journey while there was so much uncertainty with if he was going to live or die and if I could play, but it was a powerful for me for that season of life when I was 22, just trying to figure out what to do with my life at that time.
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Mm-hmm. One of the things that I like around having a mission and a vision, like you said there, is creating a season of life within that mission and vision. I had a three month window. It was a season. It wasn't like, okay, the next 10 years I have to do this thing. It was, this season is over in three months. What can I do within this season? What is my mission right now?
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To heal, to recover, to be the best I can in practice every day, to play my best in the games, and finish this season the best I can within the next three months. I think sometimes people... I'm not saying you always need a timeline of things, but I think having a season of life knowing this is what I'm up to right now.
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It may not be forever, but this is what I'm creating for this year, this six months, this month, to get me out of this rut and into this process. Achievable. Yeah, something in a season timeline. I got a couple final questions for you, Jerry. One of them is, what's the difference between creating results by focusing on the outcome you want versus the outcomes you don't want?
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They take your appendix out or something else?
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Right then.
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Yeah, you struggle walking some days, but you were skipping out of there. You're like, I'm jumping out of it.
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What are your favorite affirmations for abundance then that people can say to themselves every single day?
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And just repeating that at any moment throughout the day.
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You knew how to do it. Yeah, you're resourceful. You're this, you're that. You got this job. You did this thing when you showed up this way. So keep doing more of that. Exactly right. You've got great content on social media. Jim Curtis won, I believe it is, right? On Instagram. Jim Curtis won. Jim Curtis won everywhere.
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And there was a video you talked about, which are the top four signs someone is living in a high vibrational state. Can you share what those four signs are?
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Calmly and just like loving. Yeah.
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caught up in your aura they're like staring at you yeah if it was an adult it'd be a creep but since it's a cute baby you're like i keep staring for like five minutes into my soul yeah and you're staring back yeah those are some really easy ways to tell that if it was an adult you'd be in jail you know but if the baby is different yeah yeah yeah yeah those are some ways just to show that like you have a higher frequency that you're off you're resonating at a higher frequency
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So if animals like you, friends, family ask for your counsel, babies stare at you.
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It's like you have luck all the time.
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Yeah. That's good. And why do you think animals and babies or people can intuitively sense when someone is in a high energy state Like, what is that? What is that energy, that aura, that essence? Is it a belief that someone is living within? Is it a calm, is it a relaxed state? Is it, you know, can you trick them?
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Can you trick animals or babies to like, hey, I'm this charismatic human, but really be negative inside?
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It's so interesting because I feel like I've always, you know, I struggled with not feeling like I had the smarts or the skills from school to be useful for people in life because I was in the bottom of my class all through school. So I had this belief like, ah, I'm not good in school. Can I be useful in life?
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But as I started to play sports and I started to learn human dynamics of teamwork, of being coachable, of coaching others, of just like in a dynamic of we're setting up for a goal, we're practicing, we're going through challenges and overcoming them together and we're accomplishing goals or we're failing at them, but we're learning lessons together and kind of enduring this season of sports.
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I started to understand people better. And I said, oh, okay, maybe I don't have skills or smarts here from school subjects and like memorizing stuff for tests, but when it comes to sports and mobilizing a goal and trying to accomplish that within groups of people, I can excel. And I'm actually really good. And I'm very talented in this side of life.
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But I remember going into, you know, after my sports, career was over and I was like, how do I make money? Like, and everyone's asking about your resume and about the college degree and like, what was your GPA? This was back in like 2007, eight. I was like, uh, I can't show them any of those things cause I didn't have any skills from that world. Right.
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But I don't know if this sports stuff would translate into a career or business. So I was really concerned about it. I was like, will I ever make money? I have no idea. Early on, I started attending these kind of like social media meetups. And I just went in there with like curiosity and joy. And so I was just going in for fun. I was meeting people, I was asking questions.
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I was like, man, what you're doing is so cool over here. And I was just curious the whole time. And by doing that and asking questions and kind of bringing that energy, People just wanted to help me.
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And so I always started to, so I started to go to a lot of events and I started to build relationships and I just brought energy and joy and positivity to these events, knowing that I couldn't bring like some skill from a work career because I didn't have a work career, but I had energy. I had passion. I had curiosity.
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I had like a sense of like wonder and love for what people were doing and what they overcame. And I always found that people just wanted me to like, they wanted to invite me to the next thing. And they wanted to introduce me to this person. And that led to something. Because you made them feel in a different way. They don't care what you know. It's how you feel. It's it. It's it.
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And so I just really leaned into that. And anytime I felt self-cautious, like, man, I don't, I have nothing to offer these individuals. Like everyone here is smarter than me, way more talented. I was like, but when I enter this room, I can...
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i can stand up a little taller i can smile and i can ask questions and be curious and i can bring joy to what people are talking about and i felt like that was one of the greatest skills that i brought for many years and probably still bring because i still don't feel like i'm the smartest person ever in any room but i can bring positive energy and joy and curiosity
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And I think people are craving that. So you got to look at what are the resources you can bring to a situation that raises your frequency and raises the energy in any room to be of service to those individuals.
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Survival. Survival. Because I was like, you know, the housing market crashed and the economy was down at this time. And I was like, how do I get the job? I don't know. I was living on my sister's couch for a year and a half.
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I think because I didn't have the skill from school. I didn't have like a, you know, a high GPA or like skills. from school. So it was survival. It was like, how do I get into a room? How do I get a seat at the table? How do I meet these people? Let me show up at the event and let me ask questions because I can't say something like I know what I'm talking about. So I just,
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Most people focus on the negative.
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didn't speak about anything I knew. I just asked questions and said, what do you know? And guess what? People like to be asked questions. They love it. They love it. And they were like, I would ask questions. I wouldn't say anything about myself. And at the end of the night, people were like, this is the most interesting guy in the room. And no one knew anything about me. Right. Yeah.
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But I was just like fascinated with people. I was like, man, how did you do this? Man, tell me more. This is incredible. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
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And in Los Angeles, at the recording of this right now, it's cloudy. It's been raining over the last couple nights. It's cloudy during the day the last couple days. And sometimes we go through seasons where the weather is bad, literally, in life, but also our life is going through bad weather where it just feels a little gloomy. It feels a little cloudy.
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Thank you.
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What's a big confirmation bias that most people in the world today are stuck in and that's holding them back around money or relationships?
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You find people that continue to confirm that you're not lovable.
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Interesting. Yeah. Yeah. You have to reprogram yourself that boring is not boring. Right. It's like it's not boring if there's if it's healthy.
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You know, just because it's up and down, hot and cold doesn't mean it's good for you.
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Yeah. Uncertainty. Yeah. You needed your nervous system to be completely out of whack, unhealthy, for you to feel like this is love.
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Well, the thing with that also is like you can actually expand. You can create true abundance from that place. When you're in constant hot, cold, like you said, or your nervous system is on edge constantly because you don't know what the person's going to do or if they're going to give you the silent treatment or if they're going to be love bombing you all day or if you're somewhere in between.
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You can't expand from that place. For two decades, I was in different relationships where it just seemed chaotic in a lot of them. And I'm not blaming the other people. It's like I was part of the problem too. But it wasn't until I was able to start healing my nervous system to create more stability in a relationship where I felt like I was able to expand everything around me
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because internally I was expanding and healing. And I think a lot of people get stuck in not healing their body, their mind, their nervous system around their programming, like you said. and your programming equals your reality. You're just gonna stay stuck in that loop that's gonna keep you feeling trapped, suffering, like why isn't this working in that type of relationship?
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So I like that you said that. That's another mind trap. That's another one of the mind traps. So we got negativity bias, we got confirmation bias,
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It feels a little like not as so much sunshine in our internal world. And sometimes the external world can reflect that for us. But whenever I see the clouds, I actually feel peace. And I know that it's cleansing something. It's creating awareness for me. Okay, where is there in my life and my internal world that I get to clean up? And it also makes me reflect on all the growth I've had.
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Let me just keep suffering and like in pain in this process, trying to make it work.
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Master Hypnotist Reveals The Manifestation Formula That’s MORE Powerful Than The Law of Attraction | Jim Curtis
Wow. Yeah. And you just stay stuck in that. Now what's, I mean, as a master hypnotist, hypnotherapist. Yeah. What have you learned over the last few years that you realize you were in the backfire effect for yourself for a long time? You were believing something to be true.
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You were programming yourself that this was a true way of being that in the last few years you had to wake up and question and start seeing it differently.
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And what was the pain or the condition that you had that was holding you down physically?
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Really?
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We just had the first quarter of the year. You know, I got married. I had a beautiful celebration with friends and family. We had a book come out, Make Money Easy, that hit the New York Times bestseller list. We got to do a tour and see so many people around the country. And there's so much good that's happening.
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Did you have a physical injury or an accident that caused this, or was it just over time this manifested?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
I have a brand new book called Make Money Easy. And if you're looking to create more financial freedom in your life, you want abundance in your life, and you want to stop making money hard in your life, but you wanna make it easier, you wanna make it flow, you wanna feel abundant, then make sure to go to makemoneyeasybook.com right now and get yourself a copy.
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I guess, where are our dreams then? What dimension are our dreams when we sleep?
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Wow.
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You have so much content online that I've seen. We talk about these aliens and pyramids and all these different things, different dimensions. But I think the stuff that I like the most that you talk about, and I think that my audience resonates with the most, is around manifesting their dream reality.
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They have an idea in their mind of what they want to create, a business, a relationship, get their health to a certain level. They want to achieve an accomplishment in a sport or musical or a success, whatever it might be. They want to take something they have in their mind and alchemize it into the real world that we're in, if this is real, right? But they want to create it in this reality. Yes.
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And I'm curious, with all your studies, because you've been studying this for decades about kind of ancient wisdom, forbidden wisdom. Yeah. But also you've been studying modern philosophy and modern science as well. Oh, yeah. So what does the ancient wisdom you've researched and modern science taught you about manifesting?
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You got to be thinking about how can I serve more because that will help me create greater value within me when I'm adding value outside of me. And again, I just want to say thank you because I just got back from a two-week book launch tour and School of Greatness live tour. We went to seven cities. We did tons of press interviews. And I got to see so many of you live in person.
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Yeah. And then I guess the next the follow up question around that is a lot of people don't even know what their dreams are or they have a loose idea. I want to make a million dollars. I want to lose weight or whatever it is. It's not fully clear. It's like they have a desire or they have a. a pleasure is outcome that they see others have that they want, but they're not clear.
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You can talk about the ancients used to have, I guess, whether it was a real crystal ball or just their, their metaphors of like, Hey, we could see it in our minds and a crystal ball in our mind, seven different outcomes of how our life could play out if we wanted it, if we went this path and this path. And then, uh,
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You talk about the conscious thought and the action, the consistent action to go manifest and alchemize that idea and collapse time and space until reality meets that thought. So how important, when wanting to manifest your goals and dreams, Are our thoughts, our words, and our actions? Should we be loosey-goosey with our thoughts and words to others, to ourselves? Is it act once in a while?
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Is it obsession? How important are thoughts, words, and actions in manifesting our dreams?
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I just want to say thank you. Thank you for showing up on our tour. For those that were coming up to the meet and greet afterwards with me and I was signing books, I just loved interacting with you. I loved connecting with you and hearing what your stories are about. hearing how you've loved the School of Greatness for so many years as well. So I appreciate each and every one of you who came out.
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What are the words we should never say about ourselves?
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Really?
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Holy cow, man.
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We could have rescheduled this.
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It's like you're commanding against yourself.
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I suck. I'm horrible. I'm not good enough. I'm not worthy. I'm a horrible person. Like, yeah, I don't want to say that and just put it out there. But as an example, we're saying it. Well, it's it's the sad thing is I used to say that to myself all the time as a kid. Yeah, I was guilty myself to others about me for like the first 20 years of my life. Yeah.
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And I want to say thank you. If you weren't able to make it out, I want to say thank you for listening to the School of Greatness, for being a contribution here in our mission to serve humanity at the highest level. And so many of you bought a copy of our new book, Make Money Easy, Create Financial Freedom and Live a Richer Life. And I big announcement.
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Maybe more consistently at times than others. And so I feel bad for the younger version of me that I treated myself that way. And I was blocking peace, freedom, opportunities. And I still was quote unquote successful and accomplishing a lot. And I'm always like, man, I wonder what I could have done had I been kinder to myself. Had I spoken differently about myself.
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And had I viewed myself differently? And I think people get mixed up and thinking, well, I want to make sure I'm humble and I don't want to speak like I have this God or I have this big ego or something like that or I'm untouchable.
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And so it's figuring out a balance of how to communicate with self in a loving, compassionate way without being like, I'm the best in the world and no one's better than me or whatever it is. It's like there's a fine line to that.
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If someone does not believe in themselves, in their dreams coming true, what is going to happen?
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Gosh, a perfect example, you know, it was a year and a half ago. I did this exact exercise. And my fiance, Martha, she told me to do it. And I was kind of like, nah, this is kind of silly or whatever. But I actually, I was in so much pain for three months. I had, when I was 16, I had eight teeth removed. Four here, then four wisdom.
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So four wisdom, but then four others, because when I was a teenager, My teeth were kind of crowded or whatever. And that was what they did back then. They removed all your teeth and you were supposed to have, I didn't get braces afterwards. I was supposed to. And so my jaw kind of grew in and collapsed where my back teeth never touched. They still barely touch today. Wow.
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And so I waited 20 years until I got, I put those four teeth back in with implants.
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And I had to do bone grafts. And it was just a painful process. And one of the implants ejected.
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If you didn't see on Instagram or our newsletter, we became an instant New York Times bestselling book, all thanks to you. And I want to acknowledge you and appreciate you for your support. So many of you bought a copy. So many of you have been posting about it and sharing about it with your friends and buying copies for friends.
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After a month. So it was in my bone. It just wasn't healing. And it came out one night. God. So they had to do it again. Oh, man. Six months later. All this stuff, right? And my head was throbbing for months. It was on like... Medicine, which I never take medicine, but it was in so much pain.
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That's too much. I had to. It was like throbbing constantly right here. And after months, she goes, you need to look in the mirror and you need to forgive yourself. You need to forgive yourself for what you did to yourself 20 years ago. You need to forgive yourself for doing this now, even though it's bettering you. But you need to love and accept yourself for what you've been through and forgive.
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And she was like, I want you to walk into the bathroom right now and don't come out until you follow the entire process that you just said. Wow. And I kid you not, I cannot make this up. I was in throbbing pain for months. Within moments after having this conversation, the pain was gone. I get chills just saying it because I was just like, I don't know many people.
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It's very vulnerable to look yourself in the eyes in the mirror and say, I love you. I forgive you. You matter. You're enough. You're deserving of peace, freedom, health, love. And I forgive you for everything you've done. It is so powerful. So I'm glad you said this because I have a personal experience to it that got an instant result.
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I'm not saying it's going to be instant for everyone, but I felt an instant relief of pain into freedom by forgiving myself, which was the first step that you talked about. So I think... A lot of people, they always hold on to the past. They never forgive. Right.
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And so that's part of your, I guess, formula for manifesting what you want or for creating the life that you want to create is starting with forgiveness. What if you've done horrible things?
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So thank you for supporting this mission, for continuing to grow your inner abundance so that you're able to create the external abundance that you want.
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So on a scientific level, what is our body made of then?
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Really?
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How does it break through the skull, the bone?
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And if you haven't got a copy yet, go on Amazon, buy a copy right now, get a couple for your friends, or go to your local bookstore and get Make Money Easy or ask them to buy some copies for the store if they do not have it or if they're already sold out. And again, big thank you for all your support.
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Thank you.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
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I really think this is gonna help you transform your relationship with money this moment moving forward. We have some big guests and content coming up. Make sure you're following and stay tuned to this episode on the School of Greatness.
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We are here to continue to find the people, the insights, the stories, the research, the science, the tools to support you on amplifying Your life at the highest level. And figuring out how do you get unstuck? How do you take things to the next level? How do you continue to be abundant on the inside so you can create abundance on the outside? That's what this is all about.
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Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
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I'm so blessed and grateful that you're here constantly showing up. And we have a big episode for you today. I hope you enjoy this episode with Billy Carson. We're going to share a lot more about these things around creating abundance in your life. So stay tuned. Make sure to follow. Share this out with a friend. And here we go. Welcome back, everyone, to the School of Greatness.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Very excited about our guest, the inspiring Billy Carson is in the house. Good to see you, man.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
My man, I'm excited. I've been seeing your content just kind of blow up online. So I want to make an easy three-part question to start with. Yeah. The first one is, what is the universe? And are we living in a matrix? OK. What dimension are we in right now? And how many dimensions are there? And what is our purpose as human beings?
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It's so much. When there's two givers together, it's like exponential.
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Man, so I... The affirmation that you say to yourself is I'm worthy of abundance. I'm worthy of love, of happiness, of a healthy relationship. And I am the creator of my destiny, essentially. I think that's what you say.
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I'm the architect of my life.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
of your success is related to the principle of affirmations, would you say?
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I love this and I believe in this because I do this as well, but I can already see people are watching and listening and saying, okay, I'm going to command that I make a million dollars in the next month because I see this reality and I'm going to take the actions and, but it's not happening. I've been commanding it for years and these things aren't happening. I'm still stuck. So,
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How can you command the reality you want to manifest while also not being attached if it doesn't happen and the timeline that you want?
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Or it might happen and then you sabotage it or you're unhealthy or you're not happy with it or something bad happens.
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100%. And being of service, adding value. Right. This is something I wanted to follow up with on the previous question. Around... Well, I'm not sure where this ties in, but this came to me and I wanted to mention it. Actually, I do know. Your affirmation of, I'm the creator... What is it again?
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And you were mentioning before that how... I'm not a victim in needing other people to provide for me, or needing other people to save me or rescue me. It's more I'm the architect. This is probably going to piss off a lot of people because I don't watch news, but I do see people sending me clips of content here and there, and I know what's happening in the world.
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There seems to be in the last five years a heightened race war, a heightened gender war, and a political war where it's someone or someones or groups have more power than others, have more rights than others, and I'm not here to justify who has what or whatnot, but there always seems to be groups of people that say, you're not giving me what I want or what I deserve or what I need.
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And it's your fault. And you need to give me these rights or this type of understanding or this type of benefits, whatever it might be. Right. What happens for people that come from that space? Is there power in that race war, political war, gender war, whatever it might be, if someone's coming from that space?
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People that are complaining about the situation. Or saying like, I'm a victim to this situation, whatever it might be.
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Yes, and you need to change to give me more of this. You need to change for me to have more, to be accepted more, to be whatever, have more rights, whatever it might be.
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Yeah, I mean, I guess there's a price you pay for any decision you make, right? Like there's a consequence and there's a benefit to any decision you might make.
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100%.
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So we've got these, I'm just kind of walking through these steps right now. Forgive yourself, speak positive affirmations, and really own that you are the architect of your life. Is there any other steps that you would add to this to having a formula for manifestation?
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Yeah. And I think a lot of people think about abundance in the external world, but they don't work on the abundance in the inner world.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
In which everything is the inner game.
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This world is about mastering the inner world first. And the more that we master it, and I don't know if we ever fully master the inner world that has 13.5 billion bits of information in the history of the world. I mean, it's like so much to master, but the more we can understand, again, and Be on a healing journey of our past and at least accepting and forgiving those things, right?
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To clear space energetically throughout our body and our mind's consciousness. Right. The more we can start
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reprogramming ourselves to speak positively, whether it be affirmations or just conscious words into the world, the more we can have powerful intentions with our actions to being consistent with those actions to get us out of the place where we feel stuck or trapped into a new field of possibility. Right.
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And visualizing this end result that you talk about, meditating on it consistently, this entire journey together of working on the inner world and seeing what we want to come to reality, I feel like that's when you collapse time and you manifest faster. But if you're just thinking, I need more, I want more, you know, I'm only working external as opposed to internal, it's going to be stressful.
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It's going to be harder. It's going to take longer. You might still get it. It's just going to take more time.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
When someone has a mindset of I'm chasing after my goal versus attracting it, what happens?
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Yeah, it's powerful. Amazing. Is there any other elements to this process that you would add?
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And I would say, you know, just to add to that, and maybe it's the last thing, and you probably already have this in your process as well, is when you receive, really express gratitude. Oh, it is so important. When you get a baby step in progress, I'm so grateful for this process and the progress that I'm making every single day.
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Even though it doesn't feel like a lot, I know it's so much farther than where I once was.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
And being grateful for how far you're coming.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
It's never going to feel like it's happening fast enough.
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It's never always been, I wish it could happen faster, right? And I think you're just resisting the flow, like you said, when you're ungrateful for the growth.
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And even a setback is growth if you're taking consistent action. You might have to break certain patterns and you might have to like disconnect with certain people or leave a job or you might lose money or opportunities at first to then move forward. And it might feel like, oh, this is even harder now.
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But know that if you're taking the actions, that setback might be the ultimate growth that you needed. And so when you gain, you're consistent with your word on a daily basis, and you are your word consistently with what your actions are going to be, and you do it, you follow through like you said, receive the gratitude. Receive the fruits of the consistent that you've been doing on a daily basis.
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If you're like, I'm wanting to write a book, and I'm like, I'm writing one page a day. Okay, receive that. I took action. I did this step today. And receive that gratitude.
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Welcome back to another day of your life, a day of your life where you get to create possibilities, you get to grow, you get to experience, you get to use your talents and gifts to make a difference around the people that you're interacting with, around your dreams, your goals.
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Yeah. That's good, man. I love this a lot. This stuff is powerful for me. There's a question I want to ask you about time. What is time and is it an illusion?
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How does that happen? How does science discover that or claim that to be true?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Adinkra codes.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Right. You couldn't even go back there, I guess.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
So how do we bend time to manifest our dreams faster?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
So when we're thinking of thought, who is thinking that thought? Where does the thought come from? How does that process work?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
That's the universe.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
So it could be a thousand people who said, oh, I had that same idea. I just didn't actualize it.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
How many dimensions are in this universe?
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You know what's interesting about that? What's coming up for me right now is sports, playing sports. And there's a great, gosh, what's the quote? I think it was Gretzky. Maybe it was like, I'm always where the puck is going to be or something like that, you know?
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When I was playing basketball or football, I was never the best athlete on the field. But I always had a sense, like a feeling of like, it's going to be there in that space at this time. Let me go there. It's almost like I could predict where the ball was going to be thrown.
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Where I needed to pass the ball for the person to get in that space in the next three seconds. Like... And I developed that through sports. And I could always see kind of the future in sports. And that skill set of the vision of time and space allowed me to be better in sports. Exactly. And the same thing with business. It's probably the same thing with your business as well.
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I see this trend happening. This is... The world is moving into this place. I'm going to be there as well.
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What do you think that is within someone like a Jordan or someone who's just at the top of their game? Because Jordan had his own demons. He had traumas. He had challenges. He had conflicts. He had... legal stuff happening. He had relationship issues. He had team issues with whatever it might be. He had stresses in life. Sure. Billionaires have challenges. Yeah.
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But what is it that separates people in the top 1% to get in the flow and ride the wave of the frequency on the universe better than everyone else?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
There's a story. I was in eighth grade. And the high school, there was this senior who was the most gifted athlete I've ever seen playing basketball. And I would play with the upperclassmen sometimes in eighth grade because I was 6'4". And I was more talented than eighth graders at the time. So they would let me practice with them sometimes.
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They were better than me, but this one guy was a freak athlete. He looked godlike, chiseled, perfect body, jumped 44 inches, 360 dunk it in practice, effortless, so smooth. But in the game, was average at best. And I never understood it. And I would ask people later, I was like, what was it about him? Because when he practiced, it was unstoppable. And he could just do anything he wanted.
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And they said he had a lot of self-doubt. That's it. And I was like, I had a fraction of that talent, but I learned how to believe in myself and it got me certain results. And it didn't look as pretty, but I got results, right? And I learned how to believe.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
And it all starts in your mind.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
So how can someone who has a pattern of falling into self-sabotage, how can they switch it off and get back into self-belief?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Thank you.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Thank you.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
We haven't figured out how to do it yet.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Is this kind of like, if you could give an example for someone that they might be listening or watching right now thinking, I'm already lost. Is this kind of like an interstellar when McConaughey's character goes through the black hole and there's like kind of different vast dimensions of time and space? Correct.
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Thank you.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Thank you.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
And if you feel stuck, trapped, or if you feel just like you're a little bit off in life right now, I want you to get out of your own mind and out of your own thoughts that are holding you back and just say, how can I bring a smile and a joyful moment to someone else today?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Yes. Any dimension higher?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
So would that state be joy, love, excitement, passion, adventure, curiosity? Would that be more of the higher frequency state?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
So when you were, you know, a decade ago, when you were more robotic, in your words, and I guess analytical and stoic, were you allowing yourself to express at the highest frequencies possible?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Well, the child Billy came out.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
What's the thing you love about your wife the most?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
It's a blessing. Something to receive and be grateful for every day. Of all the ancient wisdom that you've studied and researched and gone down rabbit holes for decades on this topic, What is the ancient truth or wisdom that most people don't know about that you think is the most powerful thing we should be aware of?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
So Interstellar, kind of the movie itself, was it kind of made up sci-fi or is it based on scientific evidence we have today?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Thousands of years away.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Wow. What do you think is keeping humanity from living in peace?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Is it possible to break the traumas of our ancestors?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
So it's a collaboration over competition. Did you always have a collaborative mindset growing up or were you more into competition? You had to break that cycle.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
There's a... Ego, fun feeling of competing and beating someone. There's a feeling to that too. Yeah, absolutely. That's more of like a darker side, I guess. Unless it's in sports, like there's a spirit of competition where you can also have a spirit of sportsmanship. Right. Which is can you compete and then shake each other's hands afterwards. Exactly. In the spirit of the game. Exactly.
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Of competition. Thank you for helping me elevate my skills to this new level. Facts. Maybe I lost the game, but you helped me grow. And when both teams or individuals can do that in the spirit of sportsmanship and kind of collaboration of raising the frequency within each other, that's a win-win.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Even if someone loses, you can create a win-win.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Facts. If you interpret it differently. So I had to learn that in my 20s because I was all about competition. Yeah. I need to be number one and win. I need to be able to rewrite. And, man, it's exhausting.
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I had to learn how to be collaborative in my 30s and realize that's the true key to getting success is like helping others win, serving others, being of value. And knowing that it's not always going to be them that help you win also. Exactly. It's not always going to be that.
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But I was just telling this to my brother this morning for like the last, I don't know, 12 years of doing this show, but also just kind of 16, 17 years of being in business and stuff. I've just tried to be a giver. I guess me and you are givers, and that's why in a wounded place, you attract a taker in relationships where you have an emotional wound of intimacy.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
That's what the universe is.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
But in life, I just try to be a giver. And I was telling him this morning, I was like, not every person I gave to has given me something of equal value or greater value in return to what I gave them. But I live in a beautiful home. I have a sanctuary. I have an opportunity to make a difference. I have a big platform. Life has given me so much. Yes.
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And I believe it's because I keep showing up consistently, not perfectly, but consistently to try to find value and give that value to other people. Yes. And by being of service, I believe that you will be rewarded eventually. It may not happen right away, but you will gain something.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
incredible gifts and it's going to look different than everyone else but it's like i receive and appreciate and i'm grateful for what i have and i think that is also an element to manifesting more yeah is really living in the frequency of gratitude for what i do have yeah And you can want and create more, but also, like, if I don't have more, I'm happy.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
That's beautiful.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Yeah.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Yeah, man.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
I have nothing to complain about. That's beautiful, man. Even with all the traumas and all the challenges and relationships and everything.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
That's beautiful, man. Yeah. Do you have a spiritual practice today?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
That's beautiful, man. I love that. Yeah, whenever I'm feeling down or maybe sick or something like that or something like cold coming on or whatever it might be, I imagine... Flowing stream of like golden water. Yeah. Flowing from the top of my head, like through my body, cleansing myself. Yes. And just visualizing this like golden river flowing through my body. Right. Out my toes. Right.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
And whether it's placebo or whatever it is, it seems to always make an impact. Yeah. Yeah. By thought.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
It's not actually happening. Yeah. But I'm imagining that it's happening.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
We're not our thoughts. We are the observer of our thoughts. What is the biggest illusion that people have?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Well, it's also a community aspect. If your community or family or friends have a belief system and you're questioning their beliefs, you're questioning them, they start to get upset with you. You don't want to be kicked out of the tribe or the church or the community. You want to have love and family. So it's a... Delicate situation.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
It's challenging because you, I think we should be questioning things. Shouldn't just accept everything that is told to us as 100% truth and fact. I think you can ask questions about it and that's a good thing. And maybe you come to a belief, you come to an agreement of like, oh, this belief system works for me. Yes. It benefits me. Right. It gives me value.
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It brings me more harmony and alignment in my life. And this, set of values when I live up to them, I create a better reality for myself. That's it. I feel more peace. I feel more free. I feel more abundant. Or does this set of values, do I need to adjust some of them or question them? Or were they pushed on me? And maybe they do work, but maybe they don't work for me right now.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
You know, it's like you have to question things like that.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
What was the program that you had to decode and reprogram that was the hardest for you?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Like late 90s or something?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Send a few text messages to friends, smile at a stranger, compliment a coworker, whatever it is, get out of that stressed out feeling and get into impact, service, contribution, acknowledgement, generosity. because gratitude and generosity are the gateway to abundance. And if you haven't been doing that consistently, this is your reminder.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
688 pages. I don't know if you could do this in a short answer, but what is money?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
What is the frequency of money to get on?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
So it's kind of like seeing where is money's frequency at and then putting your energy on that same frequency level. Yeah. There's going to be money in the dot com, whatever this thing is. I don't know. Let me go understand it and learn about how to use it. Exactly. Be involved in it and then get because there's going to be money flowing there.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
I've got a couple final questions for you, Billy. This has been powerful, and we'll have to have you come back on for another episode in the future. But I want people to follow you, ForbiddenKnowledge.com, ForbiddenKnowledge.tv. That's for the four. You've got an amazing – this is a newer book right here, right?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Newer book called Fractal Holographic Universe. The Matrix Code Revealed, if you guys want to learn about – More about everything we've talked about here, it's all in this book. You can check it out on your website, forbiddenknowledge.com. Also, this seems pretty interesting. Woke doesn't mean broke. And this is a thick book. This is all about money.
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100%.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Woke doesn't mean broke. I love this. Thank you. Anywhere else we should send people to to support you today? You've got these different places to go to.
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That's beautiful, man. Thank you. We'll link it all up and send people there. Appreciate it. I want to acknowledge you, Billy, before I ask the final two questions for your ability to transform over the last five to 10 years. Again, it sounds like you were very analytical, you know, in a certain mode.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Even if something's dead, it's still alive?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
And I think that when people allow the child to come out of them through healing the inner child and through the journey of healing and forgiveness and It sets us free. And when we are free emotionally, spiritually, mentally, I feel like we make a bigger impact on the people around us. We have a greater potential to actualize our best selves. So I want to acknowledge you for that transformation.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
And for showing up the way you do. I know you get criticized and attacked online for stuff. And I appreciate that you're just constantly trying to find wisdom that relates to you and you're trying to share what you're learning.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
And I think you're doing a great job, so I want to acknowledge you for that, Billy.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
And if people want Billy to come back on, leave a comment below, share the biggest takeaway from today, and we'll get Billy back on in the future. But this is a question I ask everyone at the end called the three truths.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
So imagine a hypothetical scenario. You live as long as you want in this realm, but it's the last day on Earth. You accomplish and manifest all your dreams. Everything you want to happen happens. Right. But in the last day, you've got to take all of your work with you. So the books are gone. The TV network is gone. Anything you create, gone. Hypothetical. Yeah.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
But you get to leave behind three lessons that you've learned from life. And that's all we would have from your content. What would those three truths be for you?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Yeah, that's beautiful, man. And the final question, Billy, what's your definition of greatness?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Appreciate you, man. Powerful stuff. I hope you enjoyed today's episode and it inspired you on your journey towards greatness. Make sure to check out the show notes in the description for a full rundown of today's episode with all the important links.
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I really love hearing feedback from you and it helps us figure out how we can support and serve you moving forward. And I want to remind you if no one has told you lately that you are loved, you are worthy, and you matter. And now it's time to go out there and do something great.
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So would you say the universe then has its own set of consciousness or its own consciousness and its friends are the planets, the stars, beings, trees, water, and it's sending data to the universe?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Yes, correct.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Wow. Yeah. Okay, so we're in the 3D right now.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
What is the difference between the 3D and the 5D?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Interesting.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
So is it possible for humans to get out of the third dimension into a higher dimension?
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
Wow.
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How To Break The Matrix & Manifest Anything With The Secret Laws Of The Universe | Billy Carson
This is your wake up call, you deserve to have peace and abundance in your life. And that starts with gratitude and generosity and just doing it in a moment throughout the day. And I know sometimes you can feel overwhelmed financially, or like your purpose is not there or your relationships are off, but you've got to shift the negative thinking and step into generosity and gratitude.
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How To Believe You Are Worthy Of The Love You Desire | Jillian Turecki
Hey, my friend, welcome back to another episode of the School of Greatness. I'm excited for this episode because so many people struggle around relationships. I have been one of those individuals. For most of my life, I struggled. And I think I was in five or six kind of long-term relationships from my late teens to my late 30s.
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Because Jillian brings unique insights from both her professional expertise and personal journey, which is something that I love. including her experience with divorce and healing her relationship with her father that caused her a lot of pain in intimate relationships with men.
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How To Believe You Are Worthy Of The Love You Desire | Jillian Turecki
And they're not perfect.
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How To Believe You Are Worthy Of The Love You Desire | Jillian Turecki
They have the expectation for someone else to live up to, but they're not living up to half that standard.
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How To Believe You Are Worthy Of The Love You Desire | Jillian Turecki
Yeah. And without calling me out on my imperfections.
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How To Believe You Are Worthy Of The Love You Desire | Jillian Turecki
We dive deep into the difference between lust and love and why you can't convince someone to love you and how to develop the self-awareness needed for healthy relationships. This was something I wish I had 20 years ago because it would have saved me a lot of pain.
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How To Believe You Are Worthy Of The Love You Desire | Jillian Turecki
Blaming themselves.
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How To Believe You Are Worthy Of The Love You Desire | Jillian Turecki
Interesting.
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How To Believe You Are Worthy Of The Love You Desire | Jillian Turecki
When were you the lowest self-worth in a relationship in your past?
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How To Believe You Are Worthy Of The Love You Desire | Jillian Turecki
How long were you in that?
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How To Believe You Are Worthy Of The Love You Desire | Jillian Turecki
One year of that abuse happening?
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How To Believe You Are Worthy Of The Love You Desire | Jillian Turecki
You're like, I love it. I'm going to solve this.
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How To Believe You Are Worthy Of The Love You Desire | Jillian Turecki
Why do some women love to take on a challenge with a man that they're starting to date when they see a man that maybe has some charm or has some good qualities, but also has a lot of complexities? Yes. A lot of brokenness, a lot of... poor behaviors, a lot of wounds.
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uh and a lot of stress but we all learn lessons exactly when we need to learn them so unfortunately i didn't have this podcast 20 years ago or this this content wasn't out there for me so if you're here and you're going through a breakup or you just went through a breakup or you struggled in relationships then I want you to know you are in the exact place you need to be.
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How To Believe You Are Worthy Of The Love You Desire | Jillian Turecki
Why do some women say, I'm excited to take on this challenge and fix him or solve this problem and be the one to essentially rescue him? Why do some women take that on?
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How To Believe You Are Worthy Of The Love You Desire | Jillian Turecki
But why do some women do that?
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How To Believe You Are Worthy Of The Love You Desire | Jillian Turecki
But is that, is that movie?
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How To Believe You Are Worthy Of The Love You Desire | Jillian Turecki
Or is that something like chemically inside of us? Well, it's also... What if you didn't watch any movies ever growing up and you never saw that? Would you still have that?
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How To Believe You Are Worthy Of The Love You Desire | Jillian Turecki
False masculinity.
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How To Believe You Are Worthy Of The Love You Desire | Jillian Turecki
He's got tattoos. Maybe he's young.
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How To Believe You Are Worthy Of The Love You Desire | Jillian Turecki
He'll give false sense of protection in the outside world, but intimately, he'll take from her.
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How To Believe You Are Worthy Of The Love You Desire | Jillian Turecki
But what is that within a woman who wants to rehabilitate a man and get into a relationship with a broken man? What is that?
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How To Believe You Are Worthy Of The Love You Desire | Jillian Turecki
This man will need me.
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How To Believe You Are Worthy Of The Love You Desire | Jillian Turecki
This is a synchronicity and a sign and a signal from the universe that you are in the right place. And I want you to get out of bed of paper and take some notes. She's also going to talk about the critical importance of speaking your truth in relationships, even when it feels uncomfortable and risky. And man, do I wish I had this power. for two decades.
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The challenges with that.
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I mean, I speak from my own experience. The challenge with that, what I've experienced in the past, is that It has never worked where, you know, person I've been with, I've tried to pour into them as much as I can. They've never been able to kind of overcome their level of self-worth or whatever it might be. And so you're always going to be let down to thinking, oh, I can help this person grow.
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You might see a little bump. But the more you pull her in, they have to want it so bad. They have to want to improve and heal and change and transform personally. If you're pouring into them and they barely do a little bit, but then they go back and they stay back, you're going to be exhausted. You're going to be emotionally exhausted.
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And then you're going to be resentful, which is what I've experienced. It's like... I'm pouring in this person. They don't want it. I'm half the problem. I'm the one who's choosing this.
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Exactly. As opposed to choosing someone who's a partner, not a project, right?
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It's a big difference having a partner in your life. where it's high engagement, low attachment.
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And you go into it highly engaged and, you know, investing all those things you said at the beginning, like invested, curious, caring, thoughtful, you know, all those different things and being your best self and pouring into someone, investing them, but being very low attachment to if this is going to work out.
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Like you want it to, but if their behaviors are all wrong, if our values are all off, if it's certain things are completely off, you can't be high attachment to how it's supposed to turn out, which is the hardest thing when you're investing in someone.
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You got to accept it.
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Or don't be with them.
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I was not able to speak my truth and it was a massive cause of a lot of breakdowns. Then she's going to talk about the essential truths that can transform how we approach love and connection. So if you've ever struggled in relationships and you want to build stronger ones this year and beyond, This episode will give you the tools and the wisdom to create lasting change.
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If someone has a low self-worth, we were mentioning like the cases of women who love too much. If there's a woman, extreme case, that finds a broken man in prison, you know, or sees like, oh, a case of this man who like murdered people or whatever they did, And then starts writing them love letters and then starts visiting them and then starts getting a relationship, which has happened many times.
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and starts a relationship with a man in prison at their lowest, most wounded place, essentially, right?
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If you could guess on a scale of 1 to 10 of a self-worth scale, 10 being those women who make those decisions, have a high level of self-worth, 10, or 1, a low level of self-worth, where would most of those women be in that scale range of choosing to be with a man who is the most broken man, essentially, they can find?
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Sure. Anything in life. Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Something that's coming up for me right now as we're talking about this is, even just reflecting on my own life, is that I believe our self-worth is connected to our sense of wholeness and our healing journey. Yeah.
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Because I can reflect back and see my level of self-worth, even though I had a false sense of confidence in a lot of areas, but my true inner self-worth was a lot lower than I projected.
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And my behaviors matched my lower sense of self-worth when there was a trigger and I didn't know how to emotionally regulate my nervous system. And as I've learned how to create more wholeness internally, my level of self-worth has continued to increase and my level of detachment, like being fully engaged in something I'm committed to or value, but being less attached to the outcome
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has been able to expand, that range has been able to expand more.
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And it goes back to what you said earlier. It's like two healthy people coming together or two people working on increasing their level of inner health.
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But again, to recap that, I believe that when we feel more whole, our sense of self-worth will increase. And we feel more whole when we start to heal.
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But most people are not committed to the healing journey. They might say, no, they're not. I'm committed to the healing journey.
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But your actions, like where in your calendar are you putting in time to heal?
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Show me the actions, whether it's, it doesn't have to be therapy, but like what are the actions you're committed to on a consistent basis? And what are the results you're gaining? Are you able to reflect on that journey?
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Yes, and that takes courage.
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So for 20 years, I was in multiple long-term relationships and I just, man, I struggled. And I thought I figured it out after every breakup what to do and that it wasn't my fault and it was someone else's problem. man, was I wrong?
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but most people are judgmental in general. So how do you become less judgmental as a human being?
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And I'm excited to dive into this episode. But also, big announcement, if you haven't heard yet, my new book, Make Money Easy, Create Financial Freedom and Live a Richer Life, is coming out very soon. I'd love for you to order it, pre-order right now. The link will be in the description below on Apple Spotify. or wherever you're listening to this, just click on that link.
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What's a sign of someone being not emotionally available?
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What would you say are three tools then that all relationships should be investing in developing in order to have more success in their relationship?
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The people in it. What tools should the people in it be investing in to set up their relationship for more success?
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Success meaning peace, harmony, joy, fulfillment, adventure, all the things that they want in the relationship.
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It'll take you right to Amazon. Would love for you to get a copy of my book because one of the biggest problems that people have in relationships is around money. So if you want to create a harmonious relationship with money and have better, healthier conversations with money,
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Three tools that each individual should be investing in to have more success.
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But you got to practice it. You got to practice it and practice it.
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And what is better communication in your mind?
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I'd put that at number one still.
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Communication in all forms.
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What you're saying, what you're not saying.
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Energy, all that. Yeah, yeah.
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You've dissected it.
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And what's the third tool?
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with the people you're with, friends, family, and intimate partners, this book will give you the tools and the teaching you need to feel financially free and harmonious in your relationship with money. Make sure to check it out. It's called Make Money Easy, Create Financial Freedom, and Live a Richer Life. Without further ado, let's dive into this episode right now.
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I mean, here's the thing. I'm hearing these three things, these three tools that I got to set up a relationship for success. But someone watching and listening might say, I don't have any time to do any of that. I've got, you know, it's a career. He's got his career. We've got kids. We've got responsibilities. We're exhausted. How can I learn to communicate better?
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How can I learn when I don't have the time for myself? How can I learn to master the other person when they've changed so much over the last five, 10 years?
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And how can I, you know, we don't have time to do couples therapy or workshops or things like that. This just seems like too hard.
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Exhausting.
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You're single.
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And you're a relationship coach.
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Teacher, educator, coach.
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You've been in some beautiful relationships, some challenging relationships. What is your biggest fear at this age of your life being a single woman and a relationship coach? And what do you, I guess, what's your hope for your relationship in your future?
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It scares me around like, are there enough good men out there? Is there anyone for me? Is there, you know?
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Okay.
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Welcome back everyone to the School of Greatness. Very excited about our guests. We have the inspiring Jillian Turecki in the house. So good to have you back and congrats on the new book. It begins with you, the nine hard truths about love that will change your life. You've got an amazing podcast as well. This book is coming out very soon.
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The challenging thing is when you're single for a long enough time and you've got an amazing life and you've experienced a bad relationship in the past. It's like you don't want anyone in. It's like, why would you want a relationship when you can do anything you want at any time and life is freaking amazing? an adventure daily. And you have the things you like the way you like it. Yes.
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No one telling you what to do. No one making any special requests. You don't have to deal with anything outside of your world. Yes. It can get very tempting to want to stay single for a long time.
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What's the vision that you have for yourself in a future relationship? What are the values that you want in a relationship? What's the vision and the lifestyle that you want to create in that?
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As a teacher?
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Not in a class, but teaching the class.
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A man should worship me and put me on a pedestal.
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You're more messed up in a relationship.
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Well, you assess them.
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And you have been on just a tear over the last couple of years of helping people figure out about relationships and love. And it seems like the world is struggling more than ever to find harmony between people. There's a lot of divisiveness in the world in general, but two people coming together, it just seems like it's really challenging to find peace within love.
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You're making sure they're like not toxic in their behaviors.
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But I want to see you getting into a relationship with a guy who can't add value to the relationship.
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In the marriage?
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But why get married when you started to see this before?
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High engagement, low attachment. Yeah, yeah.
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And it's maybe someone's tendency is to be like, I need some space for a minute. Like I need to, I don't know what to say, but I'm going to be back in a few hours and we can talk about it. I'm totally cool with that. Hey, I'm shutting down because of the trigger and I don't want to talk about it right now, but I'll come back and talk about it later.
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Yeah. I need some space for a moment or I need an hour.
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And I'm curious, I saw something that you talked about recently about why it's really hard to create a relationship with someone who's not invested in you. And I'm curious, what are the signs that you can tell whether someone is invested in you or not? And why can you not build a relationship with someone who's not showing you these signs of investment?
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It's probably the most important decision you'll make ever in your life is the person you want to partner with long term.
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Yeah, it becomes your mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, and sexual environment.
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And that environment is going to dictate your level of happiness in a lot of ways.
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Do you think love is enough?
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Create your own fulfillment first.
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I mean, even just this last week, I've been traveling. I had a big event a month ago. And then I've been on the road for like a whole month. I've barely been in L.A. And I've been traveling multiple trips every week. And every weekend I've been gone. And I was feeling, even just last night, I was just like, man, I feel a little off. You know, I feel like I've gained some weight in the last month.
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I've been eating poorly. I haven't been in my routine. I haven't been able to work out the way I like to. Like, it's just been like sleeping in all these different beds. It's like, it's disorienting.
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And even when I feel like I... you know, and maybe because I, I feel like I have a high standard for myself with my routine and my nutrition and my sleep and my environment. Um, I'm still fine. I'm still doing good, but it's like, I can feel it even being off for like a month. Right. and trying to get back to that environment, that space that brings me fulfillment.
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And it doesn't mean I'm not fulfilled. I'm fulfilled, but it's just like I can feel a little off, right?
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Yeah, I mean, yeah.
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I mean, I don't hold on to suffering. And I go back quickly to, man, I have a beautiful, blessed life. I'm grateful for everything.
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But I could feel emotionally and physically like, oh, I just feel a little off.
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But I know what that's like being off all the time.
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And having, you know, and feeling wounded consistently and feeling like, and then making poor decisions because of my lack of self-worth. And then reacting out of fear or anger or resentment versus centered wholeness.
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And it compounds over time.
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And it can really impact a relationship in a negative way if two people are living in that space.
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Yeah, it's your ability to tolerate more of the things that are uncomfortable but not tolerating poor behavior of someone in the relationship.
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Yeah, yeah.
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What would you say then do you think are the three biggest killers of a relationship? Like the three things that when you're coaching or working with people that, oh, this relationship is done unless they decide to change these three things.
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And it took me a lot of sadness, a lot of suffering, a lot of pain, a lot of harsh lessons through all these different relationships on what I needed to start shifting to attract harmonious love, to attract someone who was the right match for me and really to become the person who was the right match for myself. So it was not even actually about finding someone else who was right for me first.
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No, that's the worst thing.
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Yeah. It's the expectation that someone's supposed to do something without appreciating it, for me, is something that I resent. Yeah, of course.
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And it's just like, oh, well, you're my boyfriend or you're my partner. You're supposed to do this. Yes. And so I'm not even going to acknowledge anything good about it.
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You know, whether you're paying for something or showing up in this way or doing these things, whatever it is. And not just saying a simple thank you. Just showing, you know, putting your arm around them and just like hugging them. And like when they do something nice for you, just showing the sign of appreciation. Right.
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You don't have to say thank you all day long to someone like you're, but it's the lack of that is the loudest thing for me.
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100%. Please and thank you. Yeah, they're a gift, not a given. I like that a lot. So the killer relationship, resentment, stress, and taking someone for granted.
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Why do certain people, when they're starting a relationship, and the other person, man, they're really showing up. They're doing all the things you talked about. They're really investing. They're showing they care. They're not ghosting them. They're getting back to them within a reasonable time and texting them. They're... You know, saying, hey, let's do more of these things.
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They're going to hang out with their friends and willing to be with their family early on and really showing up for the other person. And they're showing all the signs of like, man, this is a quality, healthy human being. Why does someone might be attracted to that for a while, but then start to sabotage it? And then start to say, this is maybe too good to be true.
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Or they start getting angry at the person or trying to pick a fight or trying to test them in some way. Why do, I don't want to say women are the only ones that do this, but this is my experience. Why do some women try to, or some men try to like, oh, they're too good. And start to sabotage and start to like pick fights and start to get mean and start to disrespect them.
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Why do people do that in the beginning stage of relationships?
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Why do women do that? I don't think men do that as much.
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I don't want to generalize it.
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Is that from like a young girl in childhood, like testing their parents or what is that?
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Why don't men do that as much?
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Oh, no. Men have a different level of pressure.
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They're expected to make six figures and be a certain height and make me laugh every day and be emotionally intelligent.
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Yeah.
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I mean, the level of pressure I feel like is you have to be sensitive. You can't be a man. You have to be sensitive more than what you're used to. You know, all those different things.
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I love men. Men also feel like they're not enough.
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100%.
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They won't sabotage it. They won't try to sabotage it right away.
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Okay.
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I don't think I've tried to test Martha with anything without it being, just being very direct.
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And just communicating.
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I don't think I tested any. I'm sure I did. Yeah, I know. I'm not going to say I didn't test anything.
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Because I'm still thinking about a woman I dated that after three months, she started just like sabotaging it. And I was like, what is going on? Like, nothing just happened. You're getting angry at me.
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Of course. Right?
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What is that within women that they're getting into a relationship sometimes and things are good. And then they just want to start... I don't know, attacking the guy they're with or just... Nothing happened, but all of a sudden it's like, okay, I'm going to push you and press you and see... Yeah, and see if you're strong enough to... Yeah.
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Well, okay, so some women will... And the whole, you know, if he can't love me at my worst, he doesn't deserve me at my best thing. I'm like... Does that mean you're just going to be watching your worst the whole time?
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So I could be a monster out of control, but you have to be strong enough to take it.
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You have to be strong enough to handle it. But then I need you to be emotionally sensitive enough and have such an extreme range of safety for me.
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no matter how much safety we create for someone, if they don't feel safe or integrated, they're still gonna feel unsafe.
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Sure, 100%.
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They don't have it.
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Exactly. It goes back to two people who are working on a healthy journey.
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Individually and together.
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I think I mentioned this the last time we talked where, you know, I've been in, I don't know, five kind of longer-term relationships, you know, from whatever, 18 to... For 20 years, I was in like five different long-term relationships. And... They all ended in therapy, right? But I wanted to do the therapy.
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Each partner didn't want to do therapy.
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It's usually the reverse. I go, every woman wouldn't be begging for their man to go to therapy. Like, what is this? And then I realized after the fifth time, I was like, Well, I'm the common denominator. I'm choosing these women who don't want to do this work. So something is off within me.
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By attracting and choosing these type of women.
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Staying in these relationships, trying to make them work and all these different things.
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An athlete. Exactly. I'm going to make it work. I'm going to do whatever it takes. I want to show you I'm here. I'm committed. I'm safe. You know, whatever it is.
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And so one of the things that I, I guess, going back to your other question, which like, how do you test someone in a relationship, right? I wouldn't say it was a test. It was more like, I'm just going to be completely honest about what I want. And you can either take it or leave it. And so I guess it was a test.
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But early on in the relationship with Martha, as we were just dating and weren't committed yet, I said, the next relationship I get committed to with someone is someone that's willing to go to couples therapy at the start.
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Not because something's wrong, but because I want to create, make sure we have shared values, a shared vision and shared agreements and make sure we have alignment. And if we don't, why are we going to spend two years and then start talking about that when things start going bad?
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And we go to the gym, you know, preventatively as well to stay in shape, to stay healthy. And that makes us feel better than going when we're sick.
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It's a lot harder to repair when you're sick. Absolutely. It takes a lot longer to get healthy.
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Then when you're healthy or healthy enough, you continue to prevent and stay healthy by actively pursuing it. Absolutely. And why do we, if the relationship, if our, if our intimate partner that we choose. and want to stay with for a long time is the most important we will ever make in our life. And we don't choose to preventively or invest in the health of that relationship.
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We're setting ourselves up for a disaster.
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And I was like, I'm going to be, I don't care if you think I'm crazy. And I'm not saying everyone needs to do this. Yes. But I spent 20 years, five different relationships, that I suffered in, you know, not the whole time, but there was suffering, there was sadness, there was exhaustion. It was, I'm sure for my partners too, you know, it was a lot, we weren't right.
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There wasn't, there was good times, but it was also like, man, it was a lot, a lot of energy wasted. And I'm not here to blame them. It's like, I take responsibility.
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But it's like, man, I, I look back and I wonder what could I have done with my life in terms of with more peace, more harmony with choosing differently and them as well. You know, what could have they done? What could we done? And, um, And it wasn't like I had like bad intentions and it wasn't because I wasn't willing to do the work. It was just, I guess I wasn't ready.
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I wasn't healing yet to be able to choose and have the courage to communicate. That's what I think it is like learning the communication skills. I was a good listener, but I lacked the courage to upset someone with my truth. Yes. And so I, I, when I would start to tell them my truth and like, here's what I want. And they would start to react emotionally.
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Well, okay. How'd I make you happy?
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But that's why I think you shouldn't, you know, be sexually intimate until you get to see more of the person. Because when you're chemically bonded early, And that rush or that high or that drug feeling is in your nervous system. And all you want to do is get back to that. It's really hard to disrupt that once you've experienced it.
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And that is where I think a lot of people get themselves tied up in a web that they cannot get out of, or it's much harder. And so if we can wait longer, which is the hardest thing to do right now, if you can wait longer before you enter a relationship... which is so hard to do, especially if you're having fun and you're connecting, you're going on these magical adventures together.
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You have sexual needs.
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I'm telling you, it is one of the best things I ever did.
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It's like we're, you know... And they, like, it blows their mind to realize how long I waited. That you waited, yeah. They're like, that's not possible.
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You know, I go back to the whole, I don't know if Esther Perel originally said this, but it's like, you need to be thinking of, could I have 10,000 meals with this person without having sex with them? If I wasn't having sex with this person, could I have 10,000 shared meals with them?
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You have to like them.
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And you have to respect them without sex.
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Most people use sex as a tool to repair and get back to feeling good again.
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And then they go back in a cycle over and over.
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It's exhausting.
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And it doesn't mean it's going to work out.
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That's the whole thing. I'm just trying to say to set yourself up. I felt like I was able to be more creative. This was my testing. If you're asking like, how did I test someone?
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But it wasn't about testing. It was more just like, I'm going to be- You weren't testing her.
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Yeah. And it was, how can I remove chemical distraction?
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so that i can have ultimate courage with my voice and say my truth 100 and see how this person reacts or responds in front of me and based on that response i'm not chemically bonded to where i can say oh that's interesting this person is acting hysterical right now and if they're hysterical there's history that they have not tended to yes and they have not healed their history because they're hysterical for me just saying these are my values this is my vision this is what i'm up to in my life
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And if you're freaking out over that, okay, we're probably not the right fit.
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Yeah, we're not the right fit.
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And I'm glad we got to have some friendship and fun and connect, but we didn't chemically bond. And therefore, I'm not confused of saying, well, can I make this work because the sex is amazing? Well, just let that slide. You know, and that has been, that was a massive, it created so much more peace in my decision making. And to say, and Martha is incredible.
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And she was like, yes, I'm willing to go to couples therapy at the beginning. Yes, I'm working on myself and I have my own friends and my family and my own fulfillment. I don't need you to make me feel better.
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And yes, I'm doing, you know, it's like, it made me feel safer to have the courage to speak up. And another way I tested was telling her all about my stuff from the past, early on. Like, here's the relationships I've done. Here's the things I've done that I'm not proud of.
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Here's the thing, like... How early on did you... I mean, maybe like... I mean, well, some stuff within the first, like, night of meeting her. Oh, really? You know, it's like... Because the conversation allowed for the space of vulnerability.
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It was a very, like, you know, we had some... I was like, oh, okay, she's opening this conversation. Let me go a little farther. Yeah. But within the first month, you know, and we spent a lot of time together. And I think it was just like, I'd rather know quickly if we want to continue to hang out, why spend six months together before I open up? Why not just share within the first few weeks?
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And if she's scared of my past, I can't change my past.
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You can't hold someone against their past.
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Yeah, I guess so. Yeah. And it's like all of it. You can't hold it against them. You have to be able to accept the person for everything they've been through, where they're at now. Yeah. Otherwise, don't be with them.
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And there's not things that I like about her past. It doesn't mean you have to love everything that's happened. And she probably doesn't like or love the things that I've done, you know.
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But you also say, oh, that's also made you who you are today. And you're more loving and compassionate and willing to grow because of this stuff.
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You know, vice versa. Absolutely. Yeah, if you can't accept a person's past, it's going to be very challenging. I have a brand new book called Make Money Easy.
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And now it's time to go out there and do something great.
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You mentioned something that, you know, and a lot of people put their best foot forward in the beginning stages of dating, but then they'll start behaving differently, you know, two years after the honeymoon phase or something. And you said something about- Three months. Yeah, maybe three months.
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And you mentioned something about having, you know, a relationship is only as strong as two healthy people in it or how healthy the individuals are in it. Is that correct?
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It was really about me becoming the person I needed to be in order to create healthy boundaries, in order to speak my truth, in order to feel safe. And then from that space, I feel like I really attracted an incredible person who understood me, who accepted me, and who saw me. But I wasn't even seeing myself in all my deficiencies until I started to do a lot of the work.
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Why do people start behaving poorly after they're in a relationship?
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Well, so- And why do people stay in a relationship once their partner starts consistently behaving poorly?
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We want to close the deal.
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Yeah, yeah.
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And today I'm sitting down with a powerful relationship coach and author, Jillian Turecki, for a conversation about love relationships and personal growth. And she's got a new book out called It Begins With You. And in this episode, we dive deep into the incredible takeaways from her book, as well as her life experiences.
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So, you know, if a behavior is good in the beginning of a relationship, hopefully, and you get into it because the person is kind and caring and thoughtful and curious and investing time and all these signs that you talked about, but then, whatever, six months, six years later... their behaviors start to change. And they're not living up to that standard from the beginning.
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Why do people stay when a standard drops significantly in relationships?
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Yeah, and it's hard to disconnect.
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And how amazing it's been the first three months.
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It's devastating.
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welcome back to the school of greatness my friend today i'm excited for you to be not only inspired and motivated to take action in your life but really to feel empowered to step into the ultimate man that you've always wanted to be and for ladies listening this may be more powerful for women to listen to because you're going to understand how to understand the men in your life whether it be men in your family
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Wow. Yeah. So not that long ago, actually. No, oh no, no. So before 46. Would you say you were more of a one-sided, lesser range of emotions type of man?
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And if this is your first time here, do me a favor and click the follow button over on Apple Podcasts or Spotify right now and leave a review on your biggest insight or takeaway from this episode so I can stay connected to you and hear what you're truly learning. I want to hear from the men out there listening. What is it that you learned?
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Wow. So around 46, you made a decision that just being a protector and a provider was not all you wanted to do anymore.
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Is there some myth that you saw as being dismantled, that you grew up in a certain way thinking you needed to live a certain way? I know I thought I needed to live a certain way as a man. And in some ways, those beliefs served me to a point, but in a lot of ways, they didn't serve me in relationships or in my business and in other areas.
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So she had peace because she wasn't holding on to the memory. Yes. If you don't have the memory, if you let go of the memory, now you have the peace. You're like an empty vessel that can experience joy and love and harmony again.
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Do you know any men today, either unknown or successful, influential men, who have zero relationship with God, that live a harmonious, peaceful, and successful life?
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And if you're a woman, I want you to leave a review with a comment on your biggest insight and takeaway on the myths and the beliefs that you feel like you need to question and maybe are dismantled as well from this conversation. I believe you deserve to feel the most authentic, comprehensive version of yourself.
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Still doesn't have peace. It's almost worse in a sense, because I did everything I thought was going to give me peace. It didn't. Now what? There you go. Now something is really wrong.
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When there's a trial.
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And sometimes modern society tries to hold us back and put us into stereotypes as men and women in modern relationships. And in some ways they serve us and in other ways they hold us back and cause pain and suffering. And one of the biggest challenges in modern relationships today is I think the men and women in relationships are not being fully authentic and they're not healing.
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As we told you, you said four years, right?
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What should a man put their identity in if it's not their work, their success, their money, their relationship, who's in their circle, who they know? What should they put their identity in to have more harmony?
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Where do you feel like you struggled the most as a man?
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If I do this, I will receive. If I don't do it, it's not going to be there.
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So when you enter into a relationship where you're living in past trauma, you bring that trauma and wounds into your relationship. And it's hard to grow if someone's constantly living in the past.
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Oh, my gosh. Yeah. Which of the 10 characteristics of a comprehensive man are you the most limited still? Do you feel is still something that has more effort and harder to actually embrace and comprehend?
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They just said they have multiple, you know, women.
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And if you're not being authentic or saying what's on your heart and your mind because you're worried of upsetting your partner or you're worried that they're not going to like you or they're going to react in some way and you people please them, then you're not being your most comprehensive and authentic individual in the relationship either.
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Why do you think it's so hard for men to commit in an intimate relationship?
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With being accepted. I'm just a human being, man. Do you think men fear commitment more because they lack the ability to be emotionally transparent and to be received for their range of emotions? Or are men afraid to commit to one woman because they don't want to just only be with one woman for the rest of their life?
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And one of the biggest problems that people have in relationships is around money conversations and money struggles. And I've got a brand new book coming out. It's called Make Money Easy, Create Financial Freedom and Live a Richer Life. And this is going to help you understand your money history, also your money personality style today.
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What's your thoughts on hip hop and hip hop culture and music? Is it helping men and women in any positive way or is it only a lower level frequency that is really keeping men and women subject to hurt, harm and sadness?
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Yeah.
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You've got an amazing exercise in your book, The Man the Moment Demands, about looking in the mirror, about spending more time in the mirror. And actually, when I saw that, I was like, huh, wouldn't that reinforce people's egos to like stare at themselves and say, oh, look at me, I look so good. Because I think a lot of people actually spend too much time in the mirror
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And it's going to give you the tools to unlock freedom for abundance and have a more healed relationship to money in your life so you can have a healthier relationship with the man or the woman in your life around money so it doesn't cause you problems. friction in your relationship as well. I want you to create peace in your life. I want you to feel free.
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checking themselves out or selfie, looking at themselves, making sure they look good or have the right makeup on for women, whatever it might be. I actually think they're too self-absorbed looking. But you have an exercise about looking in the mirror for what reason?
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Most men can never look themselves in the eyes to another man for more than a few seconds without shimmying around or, you know, it's hard for a man. One of the reasons why I chose to do this show in this style is to be completely across from someone. Not that it's bad or wrong if someone's not across from them, but a lot of people sit kind of catty corner. That's true.
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You know, it's like you sit next to each other, kind of facing each other in like TV set, which again, nothing wrong with it. Right. but it doesn't force you to reflect and see how you're showing up. Like in there, you can kind of, I can look here. You're sitting here, but you're over there, right? Got you.
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So I can just kind of wander off and kind of talk and, you know, connect to the audience, which I get it's a different setting. It's a different context. but you can hide a little bit. You know what I mean? Again, nothing wrong with it, but I believe that if you truly want to understand someone, you've got to face them. I agree. And you've got to face, oh, does this make me feel uncomfortable?
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What is it about them that's making me feel uncomfortable? Why am I struggling to resonate with this person? Why am I struggling to look at this person in the eyes and really feel them in this specific way? And if I want to be more comprehensive... I can't just listen to their words. I have to listen to what they're not saying.
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men who are friends of yours, men in the careers that you're in, and the men you're in relationship with. I sit down with my friend Jason Wilson, who is a best-selling author, founder of the Cave of Adullam Transformational Training Academy, and he is an author of a new book called The Man the Moment Demands.
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And if I'm looking off here and just kind of answering questions or talking, my energy isn't connected to your heart. It's out this way, and my head is looking at you, but not my heart facing and embodying all of you. And I think energy doesn't lie. But if you're out here, you can hide a little bit. Doesn't mean you can't have a great conversation. Absolutely, yes. Doesn't mean it's bad.
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It's just... I wanted to force myself to be like, okay, let me embrace all of this. If I'm nervous, if I'm excited or whatever, like, let me feel it.
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Is it harder for you to stare into a man's eyes or your wife's eyes?
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text this, just copy and paste the link where you're listening to this episode, text it to one friend and ask them the biggest takeaway they learned from this episode as well and have a open conversation with them. If you're in a relationship, send this to your partner and say, hey, what do you think about this? What do you think about Jason and Luis's insights?
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It's almost like your wife does to you what you do to young men. Exactly. That's funny. She'll say, why are you? Like, she'll kiss me. Now, this is funny. She'll say, give me a hug. She'll go to kiss me. This is what I do seriously sometimes. So she's right here. I do this.
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You know what's also interesting? Probably if she stopped asking you, why do you do that? Or why don't you look at me more? I bet if she stopped kind of like pressuring you in that way, you might feel more comfortable to do it also at some point. Or I may not do it. But if she stops doing it, you might say, oh, she accepts me for who I am. That's possible. Let me lean into it now.
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I feel more accepted. I'm going to tell her to watch. You know what I mean? And then maybe in like six months, if you're not like new, she can reflect and bring it back. But almost when Martha, I think Martha's really smart in how she approaches me in certain things. Cause I, I don't know. I, nothing comes off the top of my mind, but like, but I'm sure I do stuff like that in my life with her.
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Not like this perfect man with her, you know? Absolutely. she does a really great job. I don't know how she learned this, but I'm like, gosh, she's got like a whole nother level of psychology inside of her because she'll like, she'll know that maybe I'm resistant to something energetically or she's not the intuition around it. And she'll just accept me. And maybe she'll mention a few times.
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I'm like, ah, I don't like that or whatever it is. And then she'll stop pressuring or pushing. And she'll kind of let it go and just love and accept me for who I am. All my inefficiencies, whatever it is. And I'm like, I appreciate that she's not doing this to me so that I want to give it to her. You know, it's like I'm more open to wanting to try whatever that thing is.
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Not that it's coming to mind.
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Again, this is about opening the conversation for more expansion and possibilities for growth and love. And that's what you deserve. And that's what I want for you. So excited. So let's dive into this episode with the one and only Jason Wilson. Welcome back, everyone, to the School of Greatness. Very excited about our guest today is my good friend, Jason Wilson in the house. Good to see you.
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Did you used to argue a lot in the beginning of your marriage?
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That was our relationship. What is it when you see married couples fighting, yelling, arguing, holding on to these arguments for long periods of times? What are they saying to you? What is it that they're doing or not doing or they need to step into in order to evolve? And when people say, well, every marriage has arguments and all people, all healthy marriages fight.
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What are your thoughts on that?
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Man, it probably never ended.
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Always good to be here, man. Excited that you're back. You've got an amazing new book out called The Man the Moment Demands, How to Master the 10 Characteristics of a Comprehensive Man. And I wanted to start this. You're a bestselling author. You've got an amazing school for young kids and also fathers.
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Oh, it set her a sense of freedom by releasing it.
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She may take time eventually.
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Yeah. So this this one of the activities in your book, I think it's really powerful that we talked about already. It's called Mirror Time. And I just want to walk people through the exercise. I think it's really cool. Take out your mirror or stand in front of your mirror and silently gaze into the eyes of the man reflected in it.
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Which again, I think just doing that for 10 seconds, most men are unable to do to really look in their own eyes. Especially after reading that chapter. Yeah. Of unpacking the things that they've been holding on. Absolutely. But I think men struggle looking themselves in the eyes without looking at their ego. Yeah.
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With that look, I have to read how they look or shaved or my hair look good or my... Nothing wrong with putting yourself together, but the exercise of staring into your soul...
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Yeah. They don't want to see themselves.
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When they look, they see shame, they see not enoughness, all these things.
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So look yourself silently in the eyes of the mirror of the man reflected in it. Don't look away for 60 seconds. That alone is an amazing exercise. But what you have people go through is the next thing is big. Then affirm that man with the following statements. One, I am not an alpha male. I am a comprehensive man. I will practice chivalry in the lives of the women I love and encounter.
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on how to become better men and how to be leaders of their own lives and how to be leaders in their community and their families and step into the characteristics, the distinctions of leadership for authentic, comprehensive men.
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I am worth the effort it takes to look good. I am smart and capable enough to master the rules needed to impressively and successively participate in any social function. I think people doing that What if they don't believe they're worth, they're worthy, they're smart enough, they're capable enough?
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You know, what if they don't believe they're a comprehensive man because they haven't proven it to themselves up to that moment?
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You've been doing this for decades in Detroit, but also you have a documentary and an ESPN that is spread around the world and your social media following is massive as well. And I'm curious, there seems to be a deficiency of... comprehensive men in the world and specifically in America seems to be that way.
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Interesting.
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You talk about a few things in this book. Protecting and providing is part of the comprehensive man, correct? Yes, sir. Yes. part of the ingredients of becoming a comprehensive man. And what it sounds like from the generation you came from, that's all men knew what to do, was project and provide and kind of nothing else, right? It was kind of what they leaned on, right?
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I'm a protector, I'm a provider. Even now still to some extent. Really? I feel like the younger generation... has lost the, of men. Okay, yes. The teens and young 20s has lost the art of providing and protection. I agree. And maybe have swung more into the other elements of the comprehensive men.
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I don't know.
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If a man does not know how to protect and provide, what type of woman will he attract?
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I don't know if there's a combination of social media that is hurting men or if it's gender roles being confusing from where it once was and now it's shifting and so men don't know how to step into their masculinity in a comprehensive, authentic way.
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Even harder.
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in dynamic with their parents with women with other men with work the idea of being successful and making money and having a material things and kind of that drive from where they are to where they want to be if that's confusing men but it seems to be a lot of confusion for men on who men are supposed to be in the world how they can have a peaceful harmonious life while also prosper and have a beautiful relationship
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Yeah, and also not to say anything.
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He didn't respond physically or verbally. Maybe there was some shock or some, oh, the show must go on.
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You may leave that job in six months, or you may create a different decision, but yeah.
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Everything could have been lost. Is there anything you'd go to jail for?
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And get married and build a family and all these different things. It just seems confusing for men. What is the root cause of the confusion for men to be who they're meant to be?
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So, you know, if you see someone harming your family and you go into protector mode and... you would do whatever to defend them, even knowing if it sets you in jail for the rest of your life?
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It was Detroit, Metro Detroit. I pull up. So you're at home. She calls you. There's a guy following me. You say, where? Boom. Gun's in. I'm locked and loaded. I'm there. Truck's freaking driving. Ten minutes. Pull up in the gas station.
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Wow.
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I'm like, so move. John, wake up in here.
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That's scary.
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Oh my gosh.
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Yeah, push you or say something.
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However... Like in jiu-jitsu, you're taught not to fight, right? It's like almost... No, you're taught to fight. But it's almost like you're taught to not engage in the fight if you don't have to. That's every martial arts shit. It's like, defuse the situation, get away.
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Yeah, of course. I mean, luckily I didn't have guns on me, but yeah. Because I don't know if I would have.
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But you don't need a gun.
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To end someone's life or hurt someone badly enough to go to jail forever. Yeah, one punch.
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If a man doesn't have the qualities, the characteristics of a comprehensive man to protect and provide, and he tries to enter in a relationship with a woman and get into a serious committed relationship,
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In your perspective, in your experience of working with so many men, what will typically happen if a man never learns to protect and provide, whether it be physically, financially, spiritually, emotionally, whatever it might be, what will happen to that relationship for the woman? It won't make it.
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But what about women that are like, you know what? I'm making good money. I've got a high paying salary. I can provide for myself and for both of us. So I don't need him to provide because he gives me other things. He's kind to me. He's nice to me. He's considerate. He's a gentleman. He's thoughtful. He's the lover. He brings all these amazing, he's good to me and my family.
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What about that situation?
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We tap into something extremely powerful today, a conversation about what it truly means to be not a masculine man, but a comprehensive man. And in his new book, he explores the 10 vital characteristics that men need to master to show up fully in their lives, and we discuss them throughout this episode.
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I know some... You're like, I want to be a stay-at-home dad and I want to just... be there for my kids, and she's got an amazing job, so she can go make money all day.
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Do you think most women can accept that if their man isn't financially providing?
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But if the woman is in protector and provider mode. If she's in it and he is not in stepping into his comprehensive protector provider mode, not masculine, but comprehensive protector provider mode. Have you seen a relationship work where the woman is in protector provider and the man is not?
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Why are men lazy today? Not all men, obviously, but why does this feel like a society of more lazy men than more hardworking men?
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Gotcha. What do you think is the number one thing that holds men back from being their most authentic, highest versions of themselves? Fear of how they'll be perceived. Really?
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Man, it's so hard for people, though. Because in a world of people-pleasing, that's really hard to do.
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You have one son, right? Yes. What's your biggest fear as a father with your son?
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One fast reaction.
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And getting shot at, getting, you know, whatever.
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All the dead bodies they see.
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And you probably just see the worst of society as a police officer, which has got to be traumatizing every day. You're probably on guard. Even when you do a routine stop, you know.
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Yeah.
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What do you think is your ultimate purpose in this life from this moment until the moment you die?
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I can do it too. For the women watching right now who maybe are watching or maybe a friend of them sent this video or this audio because they said, hey, you should listen to these two guys talk about this.
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Maybe they've been more closed off emotionally, or maybe they've struggled being vulnerable in front of the man in their life, or the man in their father, their husband, their boyfriend, the man in their life that they're the closest with. they've struggled letting go and surrendering those emotions. It sounds like Nicole had kind of anger emotions as well.
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Really?
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She wasn't as able to receive you being vulnerable or being open, I guess, right?
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She wasn't able to see your heart fully open up and have a range of transparency, like you said, right? And if there's women watching or listening that... are used to the paradigm of men need to protect and provide and not show those emotions in front of me. What is available on the other side if that woman or those women can start to allow their man to fully be open?
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Because sometimes women will say, I wish he would show his emotions. I wish he would be more vulnerable. I wish he would cry. I wish he would express himself. But then when they see that side of the man, they're like, what are you doing? And they're like, oh, that's not a turn on. That's a turn off. Or it looks a little weak.
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I know I'm supposed to like this, but I don't like it because I've been conditioned for my life. that my dad didn't do that, or I don't know anyone who shows their emotions that way. What's available for women who accept the man to be transparent with his emotions in front of her consistently? What's available on the other side?
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Here's the real question then. For women who have been hurt by men in their lives over and over again, their father, ex-boyfriends, and let down by men consistently, lied to, cheated on, manipulated,
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promised something and then under delivered the men in their lives have hurt them and let them down over and over again how can women who have been hurt that much by men learn to love men again learn to trust men again learn to trust themselves when they're with men when they've been let down consistently over and over by their father or the previous men they've been with and they've never really found a good man you know
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Yeah.
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For anyone watching or listening right now, I want you to share this with one man or one woman in your life that you care about, that you think could just have an interesting conversation with. Send this to them and say, hey, what opened up to you? What inspired you? What resonated? What didn't resonate? Let's talk about it. Let's have a discussion about this.
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Because I think the way we can just all improve is to have these types of conversations and hear different perspectives. So share this with one person and then ask them to share back with you their biggest takeaway from this conversation with Jason Wilson. The man the moment demands. Master the 10 characteristics of a comprehensive man.
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Again, if you're a woman watching and you're in a relationship with a man, get them this book and send them this video. Have them connect with what I think are two masculine looking guys. And maybe they'll resonate with us based on what we've accomplished, our success and the way we look.
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And hopefully this will resonate in some way because we both suffered emotionally, physically, spiritually and financially in our lives. And I would say that we both found peace and freedom on the other side of going through the fire of all the crap and finding healing.
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Because at the core of all this is finding healing. And you talk about the tree of emotions, the tree of trauma. And, you know, if you want to become free, you have to heal the trauma. And no one wants to talk about that. I mean, people, we hear it a lot. I talk about it all the time. But no one wants to get to the root of it. the pain because it's so painful. Absolutely.
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You have to uproot the tree. It's not enjoyable. It's not an enjoyable process.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, and become strong. And people don't, it's not easy, but it's worth it. And so I want people to get the book. It's very powerful. Follow Jason Wilson as well. He's the director of the Cave of a Dullam Transformational Training Academy, which is inspiring. Make sure to check that out. You're also on social media, Mr. Jason Wilson, all over Facebook, Instagram, social media, mrjasonwilson.com.
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And the book is out right now at the moment of this being out there. So make sure you guys get a copy. Give it to the men in your life. If you're a woman, you're going to want to read this as well because you're going to want to understand, hmm, is my man actually living up to these things or not? Yes. Or what is the things that I really want in a partner if I'm single, if I'm a single woman?
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the characteristics and start assessing the men that you're going on dates with oh is is he to live is he embodying this or on the journey there's not many men are going to be perfect at all ten of these let me know that's possible but hey is he on the journey of this see do i see that he's working on these things is he living into this not does he have the potential but is he on the journey of living this already absolutely because i think you've got to yes
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You know, men have potential to become greater at all times. But if you're meeting a man at the first moment and he doesn't want to grow, it's hard to just hope that he's going to live into his potential in the near future. That's true. That's very good. He's got to be on that journey right now. You can't just say, well, I know he has the potential, so it's going to happen one day.
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It may never happen the time you want it, right? It's like we all have the opportunity to do it, but it takes timing for some. It's got to be the right timing, the right triggers, traumas for others, breakdowns. Like things got to happen sometimes. Restaurantees, the right mentors. All of it. All of it.
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You know, the funny thing is I wrote The Mask of Masculinity for men, but more women read it. But the men that do read it, it's like transformational for them, right? It's like, wow, I am realizing all the things where I was wounded and I'm healing and growing and all these things. But you always hear these things about like women having this list for when they're single.
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And they write down a list of like all the things they want in a man. I want him to be tall and make money and successful and make me laugh. Like all these kind of things of a list. If you want the real list, write down these 10 characteristics. If you want to have a thriving relationship, not a superficial, good-looking relationship on social media where you think he looks good on paper.
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You want to have him living up to these 10 characteristics. Make a list of these 10. Then you can add, yeah, he's a funny personality or he's outgoing or he likes to travel and he likes adventure and he likes dogs, whatever. But he likes all those things, but he lacks the ability to provide. He lacks the ability to protect. He lacks the ability to be a lover, a friend, father, a son.
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If he lacks the ability to step into those things, because that's not what he wants. then you are going to struggle in that relationship. After a few years, you're going to say, why is he not stepping into this? Why is he not living into this embodiment of a comprehensive man? The man that I dream of being with as a woman, right?
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And if you can write down that as your list, and when you're going on dates, start asking yourself, is he living into this? Is he being a gentleman? Is he being chivalrous? Is he being his word? Is he living into these characteristics?
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You will live a much more harmonious and joyful relationship than a fun, chemically bonded relationship that has great sex or looks good on social media but suffers silently in the background. So write these down, ladies, as your list when you go out there and look for the guy you want to date. You see what I'm saying?
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I'm just trying to be the man the moment demands, you know? You're doing it. Try to be that. You're doing it. Not always perfect, but try to. It's about perfection. It's about just practicing it. Appreciate it.
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Thanks for being here. For sure.
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Yeah, man. I've asked you this before. about the three truths in the previous interview. So I'm going to have people go watch our previous episode to get that answer. But I want to ask you your definition of greatness one more time to see if it's different from the last time. You probably don't remember. I don't remember, but... I was just kind of curious where you're at after writing this book.
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Through this raw and honest discussion, we dive deep into why so many men struggle with emotional expression, the difference between being masculine and being comprehensive, and how to authentically heal from past trauma.
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And before I do, Jason, I want to acknowledge you, man, for constantly being of service. You know, I was at Mass this last weekend with Martha and the, I don't know, what do they call it at Mass? I'm new to Mass, but I don't know if it's a preacher or a pastor. I'm not a Catholic. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's more Martha's thing, but I go to support her. But there's great wisdom there and great messages.
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Yeah. Preacher, the pastor, I don't know what you call it at Mass, but person giving the messages of the day. He said, you know, a lot of people in life today are trying to understand their purpose and they don't know what their purpose is. And they're living in fear or they're depressed or these different things because they're not clear on what their purpose is.
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And he said, there are some individuals in this church who I am not going to ask the question because I know that they know. But I'm going to ask these two kind of teenage kids that was sitting next to him, near him, to come up and answer, what is our purpose? So we had these kids come and teach the congregation. He said, OK, what is your purpose?
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And they said, to know God, to love God, and to serve God. And I want to acknowledge you for living into that purpose fully, for embracing it and for knowing God, loving God, and being of service, and mentoring so many people in the world who need a messenger and a mentor that they can believe in, that they can trust, and that they can live up to the message of.
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So I acknowledge you for stepping into that. And I continue to encourage and nudge you into your greatest fears and God, I believe what you're possible for the next phase as well. So I appreciate it, brother. But final question, what's your definition of greatness?
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Do you think women can fully embrace a fully comprehensive man? Absolutely.
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Why Men Suffer In Silence: How To Embrace Vulnerability To Create Healthy Love | Jason Wilson
And I guess to follow up with that, what is, if people aren't intentionally living a life of service, What is happening to those individuals if they're not thinking, I'm here to serve? Whether it's through their gifts and talents or their art or sport, if they're not thinking service mentality and they're thinking self mentality, what are they creating for themselves?
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Why Men Suffer In Silence: How To Embrace Vulnerability To Create Healthy Love | Jason Wilson
And now it's time to go out there and do something great.
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Why Men Suffer In Silence: How To Embrace Vulnerability To Create Healthy Love | Jason Wilson
But what if his woman isn't accepting him for his comprehensive emotion, his range of emotion? It's his blessing. She's like, what are you doing? That's not attractive to me. That's a turnoff. Like, don't act weak around me. She just confirmed that she's not the right one for you.
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Passive aggressive or just... It would just explode.
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Yeah, yeah. So when I was able to do that... She didn't understand the language of composure.
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Why Men Suffer In Silence: How To Embrace Vulnerability To Create Healthy Love | Jason Wilson
Jason's going to share valuable stories from his own journey of transformation, including how his marriage evolved when he learned to express his full range of emotions when his marriage was almost to the point of failure and ending.
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Why Men Suffer In Silence: How To Embrace Vulnerability To Create Healthy Love | Jason Wilson
Really?
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So I'm sitting in the car. That doesn't feel good. No, oh, it was.
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Why Men Suffer In Silence: How To Embrace Vulnerability To Create Healthy Love | Jason Wilson
Why did you stay on it and not return to the... single-minded man that you once were, you know, without the range of expression?
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Why Men Suffer In Silence: How To Embrace Vulnerability To Create Healthy Love | Jason Wilson
And whether you're a man wanting to step more fully into your authentic self or a woman seeking to understand the men in your life, this episode offers game changing insights on modern masculinity.
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Why Men Suffer In Silence: How To Embrace Vulnerability To Create Healthy Love | Jason Wilson
54.
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No, at the car. Oh, at the car? What age range was this?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
There are two big things happening at one time that I've never done before. I'm going on a book tour for my new book, Make Money Easy, and I'm doing a podcast tour at the same time. It is going to be big and I'm going to seven cities in 10 days. Get your friends, get your family, bring everyone you know to these cities. I'm coming to Austin, Texas, New York, Boston. We're going to Nashville.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Yeah, you save a lot of money.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Welcome back everyone to the School of Greatness. Very excited about our guest. We have an extremely inspiring human being. His name is Mark Pentecost. And we're gonna be talking about the seven steps to achieve your wildest dreams. Because like you said before we jumped in here, a lot of people feel stuck, they feel trapped, they feel overwhelmed on the stresses of life.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
This is fascinating. So what do you think, again, you said, what would it look like to buy a golf course? And what, what was the year around this when this happened? We moved down, would have been like 20, 2010, 2012. Okay, so 15 years ago, right? Yeah, yeah, yeah. So you have this idea, I'm going to move out of this state, I'm going to go to Florida, and I'm also going to buy a golf course. Yeah.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
And I'm going to move the whole company, I'm going to do this. I have this crazy dream, this vision. Yeah. And you're really trying to enroll yourself. You're asking other people, but you're enrolling you in the vision. Yeah. And something you've known your whole life, I'm in Michigan, and this is what I know, but what would it look like?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
if we bought a golf course, if we moved to Florida, if it's warm, you know, 24 seven, if it's, and also you're like, how do I take my business to the next level financially? How much did taking that risk of moving the whole company to Florida, buying a golf course, spending money on all these different things, how much did that unlock new levels of financial success for you and your business?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
And they don't know if their dreams are even possible. They don't know how to dream, how to take action on their dreams. And you have this fascinating story. You went from being a high school teacher and a coach for over a decade and a half to becoming a millionaire, then a billionaire entrepreneur, a nationally recognized philanthropist, a world-renowned thought leader.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
And no one had that, so you had to build it. Yeah. You had to create it yourself, essentially. Yeah. Yeah. We're talking about your book, which is really inspiring, Life of Your Dreams, How to Take Your Family, Fund, and Financial Freedom to a Whole Nother Level.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
By Mark Pentecost. And your story is fascinating. Just how you have transformed the American dream into a reality and created so many dreams for others is really inspiring. And you have a seven-step process for creating and accomplishing your dreams. Mm-hmm. Can you walk through what those seven steps are? Yeah.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
aren't dreaming or maybe their dreams are just like so far out there that they're not even willing to start taking steps towards them. It seems so far away. And I like the idea. You're like, how can I just make an extra $500 a month? That would be life changing right now. Yeah. And maybe your dream is to be a millionaire one day.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
And so you can have that dream and that thought, but really like, how do I get to 500 extra dollars a month now?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
I remember. I grew up in the 80s. Thank you.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
And throughout your life, you've learned from past experiences and being the founder of It Works, which is a wellness company across more than 20 countries. You generated over $750 million in one year with this business, and you're doing so much good in the world.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
And now... I'm a math teacher. I'm a teacher. I can see myself like him. If he could do it, maybe I could do it.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Yeah, exactly. She's like, this is what I want. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So it works. Wow. Yeah. It's powerful. Okay. So we got say it and see it. Yep. Can you ever say something too much about a dream and to where you might have the feeling of it and then not want to take the actions? Yeah. Or can you not say it enough about your dream to people?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
And for many years, you were a teacher and a coach, probably making a teacher's salary and a coach's salary, which isn't that much, back in the, I'm assuming, 80s, 70s, 80s, 90s, things like that. Then you have a dream, a dream to do something different with your life. Yeah. And this is at a time when technology wasn't the easiest like it is today. It was hard to get the message out back then.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
You couldn't see that far ahead. No, exactly. So you needed to go from 500 to then 1,000 to 10,000 and see like, oh, how do I just get to that level before I go to having a ranch and an island and a golf course and a billion dollar business?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
What was the biggest risk that you took that you feel was actually, you knew it was the wrong action to take, but you said, well, I'm just winning anyways. I'm going to do it. It's going to work out. But you're like, ah, I didn't trust my gut or I didn't trust my team or I tried to go against what I knew I should have done.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Was there a risk that was too big that you were like, ah, my ego got in the way? Yeah.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
And you started building something in the Midwest. Unfortunately, this was Michigan. I'm from Ohio. But even if you could do it from Michigan, you know?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
And you might like someone in that starting five that's not performing and they're not being encouraging and they've got a negative attitude and they're going to have to sit on the bench. Yeah, exactly. And it's painful.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
I know that feeling. Too many lessons I've had. I still need to learn that lesson, but that's interesting. Okay, so living on the offense, playing to win, not playing on defense all the time. And maybe there are seasons where you need to play defense, but you've got to get back to playing on offense. What would be number four then?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
You did something incredible. And you overcame so many odds. And I want to ask you... You know, if you could go back to that time when you were a teacher and a coach and you started dreaming differently, what was the biggest fear you had then that you had to overcome? Because I think a lot of people have this fear, insecurity or self-doubt. And I'm assuming you had some as well.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Go play nine holes.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
That's amazing. What were you thinking about when you were experiencing extreme levels of stress, whether it be family, personal stress, or business stress? How did you learn to mentally or emotionally navigate stress and So that you weren't playing on defense, but you could still stay in a leadership, visionary mind and play on offense.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Because a lot of people, when they feel stressed, they feel stuck, they contract, they freeze, and you're unable to... be like this joyful energy that's like creative and thinking. So how did you get to that mindset during times of stress?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
What was the biggest fear and how did you overcome it?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Thank you.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Thank you.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Thank you. Thank you.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Then we're going to Los Angeles, San Diego, and San Francisco. Make sure to get your tickets right now. Go to lewishouse.com slash tour. Again, bring everyone you know. If you're looking to create more financial freedom and abundance to your life, and you want to see a massive guest live on the School of Greatness show, Get your tickets. I can't wait to see you there.
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So then, so the, the big fear, how are you able to overcome the fear? Because again, you knew something for so long. You knew how to be a teacher and a coach. You knew how to overcome the fear of motivating young kids probably to overcome their challenges, but launching a business, you didn't know how to do that. Right. Let alone getting it to a billion dollars.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
It sounds like your greatest, your darkest moments and the scariest moments and you overcoming them and giving, and it's almost like your cancer diagnosis and the challenge of that, you've had to go all in on finding like how to recover and how to overcome it, that you've invested in different therapies that other people, you're saving people's literal lives and
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
because of some of the biggest challenges that you've been through.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
So not only are you able to impact people's life financially with freedom, with the ability to dream more, to get out of debt and all the things you do through your business and give people healthy products to improve their life, all that stuff, but also as sucky as it sounds and as horrible as it is, you going through this situation is also making an impact on people's lives based on how you respond to it.
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And so again, I'm, I'm really sad you're going through this and it's extremely unfortunate, but I'm also glad to know your mindset is I'm going to, I'm going to overcome this. I'm going to find solutions and I'm going to help other people that are going through something like this. I think that's the only mindset we can have.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Like what was the biggest anxiety and fear and how did you overcome it? Or were you just so naive that you're like, I'm just going to figure it out and I'm not afraid of anything.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
We're talking about Life of Your Dreams, your book. Again, it's really powerful lessons and steps that we're talking about here. And really, there's seven kind of key steps to achieving your dreams. What would you say? We talked about Get Back Up, which is number four. What would be number five on this process?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
And really making sure you're finding people, the ultimate level of finding someone as someone who's encouraging, who's also done something before that you need that support with. Yeah. At least find someone encouraging who hasn't done it.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
But if they've done it and they're encouraging, you want them on your team.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
I can relate to that a lot because playing sports, every time I would win a game, it'd be on to the next. It was never like, not even a moment. Maybe in the locker room, we're like, okay, good game. Like, let's get ready for the next one. Or you're thinking. You're thinking it, right? And the same thing in business. I translated it to business as like, just wanted to create more.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Okay, now we're on the momentum. Let's just keep going. But it was never like... You know, it's a Friday night, man. We had a great week. Let's look, let's go to dinner. Let's go watch a game. Let's go bowl. Let's do something. It doesn't have to be like, it's so extravagant. It can be free, but also just celebrating the moment and really acknowledging and reflecting, man, what was that?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Like, again, I just got married last weekend and all week we have been celebrating and like reliving it. Yeah. I've really tried to soak it in and be like asking people, what was your favorite moment? And just looking at videos and yeah. As opposed to, okay, on to the next thing. You know, it's like, let's enjoy this celebration.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
One day, you'll be like, yeah, that's amazing. Okay, so celebrate your wins. I think a lot of people, again, when you don't have... When you can't even have the ability to dream, you're living in survival or stuck mode. You're probably not celebrating survival mode, right? You're probably not celebrating, I'm stressed out at work. I've got no money to pay my bills.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
There's nothing to celebrate in life. If someone's watching or listening right now that feels stuck in debt, they're not getting the momentum. They're not feeling like they're alive. Mm-hmm. how can they celebrate their life when they're in that state of being?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Okay. Did we miss step seven? Did I miss it?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Yeah. Interesting. Okay. So you said there's an extra step, an extra credit step. What's the secret sauce?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
This is interesting. I ask a lot of billionaires and people who have exited hundreds of millions of dollars of companies and things like that. I ask a lot of wealthy people. uh, this question and I'm curious your response.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
I think I know the answer based on how you're already speaking about it, but how impactful is the growth of your business year after year based on how much you give to either charities, churches, people, causes, do you see a direct impact on how much you give or the energy in which you give and the growth of your business?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
How does someone get into that giving or generosity mindset when they have no money, when they're struggling, they're living paycheck to paycheck, they're in student loans, they're... working two to three jobs, their kids are, you know, constantly crying and they can't seem to get people to like relax and they got no time for themselves. How do they give in that state?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
What is the, you know, you are a coach for many years to students, but also to athletes. You're still a coach. You still coach basketball, I think today, is that right? Yeah. And you coach your, you know, your executive team, your sales team, like you coach the people in your business. You've always been a coach, essentially. You coach your kids, all this stuff. Yeah.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Who was the greatest coach you had and what was the biggest lesson they taught you growing up?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
So different seasons of life, different mentors, the right teachers, you know. When the student is ready, the teacher appears, right? That's what I was saying? Yes. Who's your greatest teacher today?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Who's the pastor? Jensen. Jensen? Yeah. What's the biggest lesson he's been teaching you?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Yeah. We're talking about the life of your dreams, your book, and I want everyone to get this book, but there's something I'm learning in the last few years, and I'm already getting kind of emotional just thinking about it, that I feel like you've experienced.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
And I'm just assuming here, because this is the first time we're meeting and I don't know your full life story, but I'm assuming the person you chose to be your life partner, your wife has been a massive impact in your life and has supported you in pursuing your dreams. And it's the number one person you need on your team is your spouse.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Were you asking him questions? You could see the mistakes he made. He was saying, hey, don't do this. Right. Double down here. Save your money here. He was giving you some of that coaching.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
That could be your dream supporter or your biggest cheerleader or your dream killer.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
A lot of people have dream killers of their spouse, but they still love fully and they've got to overcome that. What is the thing about your wife that you love the most and the greatest lesson she's given you?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Interesting. Yeah. Yeah. No, definitely. Okay, so having the model and the mentor really supported you early on.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Oh, cause then she's going to say, go out every night.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Like keep doing the love language. Don't do it a few times and say, Oh, now I'm good.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
So what's the secret after 47 years of marriage and going from a high school teacher and a coach to building a billion dollar empire and having healthy kids that still want to be around you as adults. What's the three keys to having a healthy marriage for 47 plus years?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
That's beautiful. I love that. You've got so much wisdom. I don't know about that. You've got so much wisdom, so much life experience, and you share so much of it in your book, Life of Your Dreams, How to Take Your Family, Fun, and Financial Freedom to a Whole Nother Level by Mark Pentecost. I want everyone to get this right now.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Because, um, again, I'm always a fan of the reason I love doing this show, the school of greatest and interviewing people like yourself is that I can always learn from someone on how to model something that I want, you know? And this for me is like, I get free mentorship, you know, it's like I get to mentorship, but then I get to give that to the world where most people don't have access to you.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
There's not many interviews of you online. This is a book that has all your life's knowledge in one place that people can have access to.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
And people don't understand how powerful that is, to have the wisdom, the knowledge, the lessons of someone who's gone through extreme adversity, someone who's built incredible life, massive business, and someone who lived like most of the country as a teacher, as a coach, making 40 grand a year, and was able to get out of that. And create a whole nother life for themselves.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
So I want people to get this book. I want people to share this book with a friend. If you know someone in your life that could resonate with this message, send them this link and say, hey, what was the biggest takeaway you got from what Mark was sharing here? And have a conversation and dialogue about your own dream. Yep. And say, what is a dream that has been lost for you?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
What is the dream that you're afraid to talk about? What is the saying again? The dream the most proud is the one you're afraid to say out loud. Like, I would love for you to text that message to one friend right now in your life that you know, maybe they've just been struggling or they got a good life, but it's not an extraordinary one. They're not leaving it all on the field right now.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
That's so interesting because I was just telling you before we got started that I just got married a week ago. Congratulations.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
They're not taking those moves that are a little scary. Yeah. And you can be that accountability partner for your friend, your family member, someone on your team, and text them this quote right now. What's the dream you're most proud that you're afraid to say out loud? Literally just text them that with a link to this episode.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Say, I want you to listen or watch this and tell me what that dream is afterwards. I think it's a great conversation starter with the people in your life. Yeah. And also follow up by getting a copy of this book, Life of Your Dreams, so that you can go through these seven steps in detail because you have exercises and lessons and stories in the book where people can...
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
follow the steps and start going through their own dream cycle. Yeah. And I think that's the key. Step one is just allowing yourself to dream and then re-dream. Not with the real dream.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Not like, ah, but what's the thing that, ooh, that?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
And we did like a first dance, but it was kind of like something different and it was salsa dancing. And I started salsa dancing, believe it or not, 20 years ago. It's been 20 years since I've been salsa dancing. So I'm actually a pretty decent salsa dancer. But it's funny you say this because back then I was horrible and terrified to learn salsa because it was something that was so foreign to me.
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That feels different when I say it. Yeah. And I think this would be an amazing exercise for everyone watching or listening to text one friend and leave a comment below on YouTube here if you're watching on the video as well on what your biggest takeaway is from this episode. What resonated the most? What stood out the most? Leave a comment, your biggest takeaway with Mark here.
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I've got a couple of final questions for you before we wrap up, Mark. This has been powerful. And I've got tons of other questions here that I'm unable to get to. But I think this has been a beautiful place to talk about right now. You have a virtual summit coming up where you're going to be inspiring people to reawaken their dreams even more. Can you share more a little about this summit?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
And also, you do a lot of charity and giving back. Can you share a little bit about that as well?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
I was a basketball player.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Exciting. We'll have, if you're watching this, we'll have the link up on the screen and we'll put it in the description below where you guys can go watch this. And I believe it's a free summit. Isn't that right? It's free. So you can click, you can sign up. It'll be in the description, in the audio or the video, wherever you're listening to this.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
And what about the charity work that you're a part of right now? I know you give back a lot to research, to things like that for cancer, but how can people learn more about that as well?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
I think I heard that all the proceeds from the book sales are going towards cancer research.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
So again, guys, if you buy a book right now, just knowing that your impact of buying a book to support your life and dreaming bigger, or if you buy a book for yourself and a friend, the proceeds are going to go towards cancer research, which is extremely powerful. So it's a big, big thing that you're doing.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
The music, how people moved. I was just like this tall white jock guy. I was like, how am I going to do this? But I saw a guy, a Latin guy dancing on the dance floor. And I was like, I want to dance like him. So I had a model and then I hired him to do group lessons and private lessons. So then I had a mentor as well. And every time I'd see him out dancing, I was like, show me this move.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
So again, get a copy of Life of Your Dreams, How to Take Your Family, Fund, and Financial Freedom to a whole nother level. You're going to be inspiring your life and the people in your life. You're going to be a model for someone in your life as well about how to live your dreams bigger. And you're going to be helping kids who are struggling with cancer with the proceeds from this book.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
So go get it right now on Amazon or Barnes & Noble or wherever you get your books. I want to acknowledge you, Mark, for an incredible journey that you've lived, but one that you're going to continue to be living for a long time. And acknowledge you for having so much joy in your life and giving back as much as you do. Because a lot of people who could be a millionaire, a billionaire...
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
could just make it about them. They could just buy all the fun toys and the gadgets and have more and more and more and have more status and not be as generous as you are. So I want to acknowledge you for your generosity and your playful childlike heart. Because I really think people lose the ability to dream as adults and they forget how to be like childlike energy when they are adults.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
And I acknowledge you for that. And I think that's one of the reasons why you are so successful externally is because internally you have childlike spirit and energy. And it's a beautiful thing to witness. And I acknowledge you for the consistency of showing up for you, your family, your friends, and your community your entire life. It's a beautiful thing to watch.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
And hopefully I'll get to come down to the ranch or the island or the moon, whatever you buy next. Whatever your dream is to buy next and come down and ride some horses or do some fun stuff with you sometime. This is a question I ask everyone at the end. It's called the three truths. So imagine a hypothetical scenario. You get to live as long as you want to live on this earth. Okay.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Many years in the future, but it's the last day for you. And you get to accomplish all of your wildest dreams. They all come true. Anything you dream and then re-dream and re-dream, it all comes true. Okay. But for whatever reason on this hypothetical scenario on your last day, you have to take all of your message, your content, this book, this interview, it all has to go somewhere else.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
So no one, when you leave this earth, no one has access to your content. Ooh. So just hypothetically, let's just imagine they don't have this book. They don't have any video online of you. You know, we just don't have your content.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
But on the final day, you get to leave a message to the world that we do get to keep. And it's the three lessons that you have. And this is all we would get to keep from you. What would be those three truths for you?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
What do I do here? And so you had a model and a mentor to give you the process.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
That's big. That's beautiful. And Mark, final question for you. What's your definition of greatness?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Mark, appreciate you being here, man.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
And now it's time to go out there and do something great.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
that speaks to me right now in my life.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
A lot of people might be stuck in a job that they don't, they can't see themselves growing in. Maybe they enjoy the job. It sounds like you enjoy being a teacher and a coach, but making $40,000 a year, you're not creating financial freedom. And you're probably working 60, 80 hours a week doing both. Right.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
And you got kids, you got a family, you got your church, you want to show up in your community. Yeah. So there's not a lot of extra time. Right. And not a lot of extra money. So how did you get out of the mindset of that kind of like, this is what I know. This is what I'm good at. This is what I'm comfortable with.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
How did you get out of the mindset to say, but I've got to give one extra night a week to this side hustle that maybe it works out. Right. And really allow yourself to dream bigger and be more risk-taking and creative because a lot of people don't have that ability. So how did you create that mindset shift to act different than what you knew for 16 plus years?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
The visionary behind it works.
The School of Greatness
7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
What did Gretzky say? You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
And so if you're always playing on defense, like you said, you're never going to have any shots at goal. You never get any shots at the basket. You can't go for the end zone, nothing. So nothing great is going to happen if you're always playing defense in your life. That's a beautiful perspective.
The School of Greatness
7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
So you were playing defense for 16 years to try to make sure that you had enough to get by, but you weren't thriving.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
So what were the three things you eliminated from your life when you started going on offense to create the new life of your dreams with the business? Was one of them surrounding yourself with new people? What were those three things you eliminated?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
Interesting. So when you're coming up with ideas for getting yourself out of a stuck situation or breakthrough idea, You'll have, well, you'll just kind of ping ideas off your friends or people in your life, but you're looking for not a good idea, but a whole nother level idea. Yeah. When do you know it's just a good idea versus a whole nother level idea?
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
It's cold.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
You walk through a seven-step process for creating and accomplishing your dreams.
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7 Steps To Achieve Your Wildest Dreams (No Matter How Stuck You Feel)
How would I do this?
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
Welcome back, my friend. Today is a blessed day. And I'm so grateful that you're here listening to this episode. And if you're looking for the keys to navigating challenging discussions, speaking with control, speaking with confidence, building connections so that you can really elevate your relationships to a whole nother level.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
What's the best way to create a win-win from an argument?
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
But if they're yelling or raising their voice or getting frustrated.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
And how can someone communicate with someone else to get exactly what they want without being manipulative?
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
I need a miracle right now.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
That's great.
The School of Greatness
The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
They want to be the hero. Yeah. And that's when I, you know, when I said that, it was, I feel like these three words are the most powerful words to get anything you want besides I love you. And that's what's the chance. Like we talked about what's the chance. And the more you can come from a mindset of what's the chance you can help me out with this?
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
What's the chance I can get an upgrade on this hotel? What's the chance you can get me to first class? What's the chance I can get a discount on this right now? What's the chance you can give me half off? You may not get exactly what you want, but you're creating a playful, open connection with someone. Like you said, what's a chance or I need a miracle.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
Can you help give me a spoon right now so I can eat this ice cream with my kid? You're creating an open heart and a playful way of being to allow for goodness to come to your life. It's not being manipulative, but it's creating an opening for miracles to occur. Even those little mini miracles that just make life enjoyable.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
And if you can say, what's the chance? Or I need a miracle. Can you help me out?
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
So let's go ahead and dive in right now. Welcome back, everyone, to the School of Greatness. Excited about our guest. He is back, Jefferson Fisher in the house with a new book called The Next Conversation, Argue Less, Talk More. Very excited about this, man. Welcome back to the show. Thanks for having me back, Lewis. Yeah, man.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
Man, you're setting yourself up for success.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
It's not demanding something.
The School of Greatness
The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
You know what Chris Boss told me after this? What's that? I said, say what's the chance? And I go, what else should I say? And Chris Boss said a really interesting one that's like, it could be a little manipulative. Like it could be like, ah, you're like teetering with manipulation. But it is extremely effective as a next step is saying, what's the chance you can get me 10% off this right now?
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
If you're at a store, Target, Starbucks, whatever. Can you give me 10% off? What's the chance? If they say no, this is what Chris Boss told me. He said, you can reply with a follow-up. So you're telling me you're powerless? So it's a little, I don't know if it's manipulative or what, but it's like, so you're telling me you're powerless right now and helping me? Yeah.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
And it's kind of like, because he said no. Yeah. No one wants to say... I am powerless. Yeah, yeah.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
But it's almost like another level of, okay, we created playfulness. Now this is like, you're putting pressure on the playfulness.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
From what's the chance or I need a miracle to, if you really need something, you're putting that pressure on.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
You're saying, so you're telling me you're powerless right now? then the person behind the counter is like, am I powerless or am I powerful?
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
But it's like, it's interesting though, because if you try it, I don't know if you'd want to try this, but if you try it, so you tell me you're powerless right now, it's interesting the responses you'll hear from people because people do not want to be powerless. They want to feel powerful and empowered.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
Playful, that's better.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
Shout out to Chris Voss, man. It was a good one. This is another question I want to ask you. I feel like I've probably been in more arguments than I wish in my life. Where I needed to apologize afterwards, where it's like an hour or a day later, I was like, ah, man, I was a jerk. Or I reacted or I overreacted, right?
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
I let my childhood wounds get the best of me and I responded from a fight or flight. So what's the best way to apologize to someone after you said something that you really didn't mean in the heat of the moment? Hmm.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
You are a leading voice as a trial lawyer, but also speaker and authoritative figure on how to really effectively communicate better. And a lot of people struggle specifically in intimate relationships. And when I mean intimate, I'm not only talking romantic, but family and friends, I feel like are also intimate relationships.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
You know what I like to do instead? It might be a little workaround.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
No, no. Because anytime you add but, like you said, it kind of eliminates the apology or your acknowledgement of their feelings. And so I started to say my workaround.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
was, I'm sorry, and I also want to talk about... Just putting and? Yeah.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
It's better.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
I'm sorry. I acknowledge it. And I also want to bring this up as well.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
You know, it's like, how can you... It's kind of a workaround.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
No, I think that's great. It's not eliminating something. It's acknowledging and including something else.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
Wait, like 30 seconds?
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
Water you down. And what should we do or say when someone gives us an insincere or inauthentic apology? I think you should call it out every single time.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
And I just feel like there's a lot of conflict where people have lost the ability and the art to open their heart, listen to someone with a different opinion or a different belief, not get triggered emotionally and be able to respond calmly when they disagree with someone.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
It doesn't feel good.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
I don't know if this is like a pushback to you or anything, but it's more of like, I feel there are some people in the world who have very thin skin and everything triggers them, even when they're not trying to trigger them. And they almost become victims saying, you hurt me, you hurt me every single day or week or something that was said or not said.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
And everything is an attack where it can become exhausting for a friend, a family member, or a loved one to feel like, gosh, this person has such thin skin. I'm always needing to apologize. Yeah. And most people would never take this personally. And I'm not intending to hurt someone. Right.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
So what if you're dealing with someone who is a victim and always trying to get you to apologize for something when you didn't really do anything? Yeah, there's... I'm not talking about the intentional leads were really hurtful. You said something nasty to me, but just the weak, vulnerable, thin-skinned person who just likes the attention of making someone else need to apologize to them.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
Get your attention.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
And you have seemed to educate and teach people on how to do this so effectively in your content and the way you share these messages online and in your book. And I guess my first question for you is, it just seems impossible for people to navigate these arguments.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
Don't get it. What is it? The emotional sand trap? Is that what you call it? Yeah. That's a tricky one. And you can get caught up with either childhood friends or an intimate relationship you're in for...
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
then this is the episode for you because we've got Jefferson's Fisher back, who's about to dive deep into the art of effective communication during difficult conversations. We're going to reveal so many powerful key lessons in here. And I would love for you to share this with one friend that you want to see continue to elevate in their life.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
Or you can keep spinning around by yourself. Exactly. I'm removing myself. Yeah. Yeah. That's now you got it. Where have you fallen short in the last couple of years with. not using your own advice in having control, competence, or the ability to connect with someone. Where have you gotten flustered and been like, oh man, I really said the wrong thing. Or I really like wasn't listening.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
Or I hurt this relationship by how I reacted. Is there anywhere? Or are you just kind of like the perfect communicator?
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
You feel like they've hurt you. Exactly.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
And it's almost like I either have to give in to keep the peace when someone has a different belief, I don't wanna speak up to rock the boat, or I have to speak up and then have this conflict with someone I care about. How can we start to navigate with intimate relationships, loved ones, friends, family, our partner, when we have different beliefs without rocking the boat?
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
Really? Yeah. So how does that work in a, if you're a, you know, a lawyer in court, in trial, when one lawyer is getting defensive, what is that saying to the entire room?
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
That's when you're defensive, you're taking something personally. Yes. And when you take something personally and you respond from that way of being, what typically happens in a conversation or an argument or a debate?
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
Have you lost in the mix? That brought up a story for me. of childhood, you know, people said hurtful things, but when you said that, I remember a different memory, not what someone said, but what someone did that I held onto for almost like 20 years.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
And it was like a, I don't know, it was like a movie playing in my head where I had a, I was playing a character role for 20 years of my life when I felt in fight or flight, or when I felt like I needed to get defensive. It's almost like that energy from childhood was my go-to until I was able to recognize and heal that energy. And that story is, it's a story I told maybe 10 years ago.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
But I don't think I've told her that in a long time. But when I was in elementary school, we was in third grade. The teacher had us go out for recess during lunch on the playground. For whatever reason this day, he said, okay, class, there's probably like 20 or excuse me, about 40 of us in the classroom. He said, okay, class, I'm going to have two captains and we're going to play dodgeball.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
and he had two boys in the class pick teams, one and one. And I remember being really excited. I was like, okay, hopefully I get on this team, right? And they're picking one by one all the boys in the class first, these two pickers, right? And it comes down to me and another kid who I didn't think was that athletic, right? But they picked him over me.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
So I was gonna be the last boy picked, but then they skipped me and they started picking all the girls. all the way down to me and one girl and they picked her and I was the last kid picked in the whole class. And I remember feeling so angry and so like attacked. They didn't say like, oh, you're stupid or you're dumb or whatever, but their actions said it.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
And for probably 20 years without thinking, I wasn't thinking this story every day, but I was like, People are trying to take advantage of me. People are trying to like pick on me. People are making fun of me. It was kind of like a script playing in my nervous system, right? I was living life trying to win and prove people wrong.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
And it got me incredible results, but it left me feeling very empty and sad and resentful and angry because I was carrying what someone did, not what someone said. And it wasn't until, I don't know, 12 years ago when I finally let that go and started living from a space of how do I, not in a perfect way, but how do I create a win-win experience in life, not a win-lose? Yes.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
Of course, man.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
And how do I come from a place of, trying to lift others up rather than get back at people that like made fun of me or did something to hurt me. Right. And it was interesting how my entire life started to change when I let go of that harmful act and I'd stopped taking it personally. Right.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
But most of us hold onto these things for a long time, whether it's something that was said to us or something that was not said to us or done to us. And we take it personally. And then we are triggered in conversations where maybe it's not meant to hurt us. but we're triggered easily.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
So it sounds like we almost need to learn how to heal the stories we were told or the traumas we were received growing up that cause us to be reactive in uncomfortable conversations as well.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
Oh yeah.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
What does that do when you speak that you're getting defensive in an argument?
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
What if they start to hold that against you? And they're like, oh, I've got them. Let me just dig in even farther.
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The #1 Method To Defuse Any Argument & Have Hard Conversations That Will Change Your Life w/ Trial Lawyer Jefferson Fisher
Yeah, yeah. I need a timeout. You remove yourself.
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I have a theory, and I want you to let me know if you think this is accurate or not. poke holes with this theory.
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The key to any successful relationship comes down to agreements because arguments and more stress is the, the lack of agreements equals the lack of agreements. That's all I think arguments are, are not having clear agreements in place and not sticking to them. And I think your grandparents, speak true to this. How long have they been married for? One time. 40, 50 years or something? Yeah.
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50 years. And they seem pretty happy. Is that right?
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And what you said, I think holds the theory true, unless there's more to this. is that every year they come together at some point and say, are our agreements still working for us, right? And here's what I'd like to add to my agreement of how I'm gonna show up and what I want you to support with and vice versa. Can we agree to this, sign it, whether it be physically or spiritually,
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and then live up to those agreements throughout the year. I feel like when agreements or a lack of roles and responsibilities aren't clearly communicated and held up to in any relationship, intimately, friends, family, co-working, then That's when there's stress, resentment, frustration, or dis-ease in the relationship.
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But harmony happens, not perfection, but harmony happens when clear agreements are in place, which means having challenging conversations sometimes and learning to come together with your three C's, confidence, control, and connection. But coming into a relationship with
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with a lack of agreements or undefined agreements, just assuming someone else agrees with you based on societal norms or based on whatever it might be, cultural norms, these uncommunicated agreements, but then they're not met and they're not communicated. That's when I think there's a lack of harmony or more friction.
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It doesn't mean it can't work or can't be a good relationship, but I feel like there's more harmony and love and peace and abundance and joy in relationships when there are clear agreements and each party lives up to those agreements. Yeah, I love that. And I think that theory holds true.
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Way more powerful.
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Certainly not in year 50. And seasons change, right? It's like you have kids, you don't have kids, you have money, you have challenges, you have whatever.
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If individuals getting into relationships could get out of assumptions and into agreements, they would have a lot less arguments.
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Let's just co-author that book. But it's true though. I feel like, but why is it so hard to communicate the agreements we want and get out of, oh, I'm, you know, a guy and she's a girl. And so this is, we're just going to assume that this is the way a relationship is supposed to be.
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We assume that the guy is going to do this, the girl's going to do this, and we're just, we're going to love each other this way. as opposed to just having an uncomfortable conversation, doesn't even have to be uncomfortable. It could just be a curious conversation about, hey, this is my intention and how I want to show up. This is who I am.
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And I want to be accepted in my relationship and I want to accept you for who you are. Right. Can we come to an agreement? on how we're gonna show up for each other if we get into a relationship, as opposed to just assume that you're supposed to be a certain way, I'm supposed to be a way, around everything, around money, kids, religion, career, travel, living, all these different things.
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The more clarity we can get around agreements in relationships, the more harmony and peace we will have. Absolutely. Let's go. Let's go. That's why people need to read your book. There you go. That's exactly right. The next conversation, argue less, talk more.
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Yeah, it's the unspoken... What is it? The unspoken assumptions or expectations, right? It's just like you expect someone to be a certain way. Why do people expect someone to be a certain way as opposed to just asking them what they're going to be like and say, you know... Yeah, it's much easier to assume they're going to be exactly who they were and what they are in your head.
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What would you say is the key to any conflict resolution then?
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and can i get your agreement on i'm not looking to do x y and z that's how you can have it you have mastered a lot of these communication skills through being a lawyer being a communication coach a speaker a content creator an author a facilitator you have practiced these things you've studied them for masters as well
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But where is the area that you struggle with the most when it comes to having conversations?
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controlling an outcome or wanting to control it?
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You're struggling with that too, huh? You seem very patient though, very calm, very cool, southern charm. For the most part, yes. You know, I can sit here all day and listen to you complain. That's right, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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Yeah, just complain all day to me. I'm here. Got some sweet tea. Yeah, let's go. Yeah, sit down. Tell me more. Yeah, exactly. Speaking of, you know, sitting there all day and being in an argument or someone complaining, if you cry in an argument or someone else is crying or starts to cry at some point, what's the best way to respond?
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When you're having an argument or a difficult conversation and all of a sudden you start to cry or the person you're arguing with starts to cry. Oh, okay. What's the best way to respond if you cry or they cry?
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It's okay. Keep going. Yeah.
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Speaking of emotions, I recently had someone close to me lose someone who was close to them. And they're experiencing, you know, grief and sadness and loss. And how can we... What's the best way to show up for someone who is grieving? Anything, a loss of a friend, a family member, a pet, a health condition, something, a home, everything.
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If they're grieving, what's the best way to show up for someone?
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Like they check the box of checking in with someone to say, hey, I checked in with you and I offered support, but I didn't, I wasn't specific about the support. So I'm going to make you think harder now. And I've probably done that many times in my past, you know, but the way you speak that is,
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It makes me think differently as opposed to, you know, I actually think I saw you post about that, I don't know, like a month ago because the fires were happening in LA and I saw you talk about that. And I remember this person who was going through the grieving process. Instead of saying, reaching out to them and saying, what can I do for you? Like, let me know if you need any support.
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Who are you talking to?
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I'm here for you. I think it's good intention to be like, hey, I'm here for you, whatever you need. It's like, whatever you need, I'm here for you. Instead, I just sent Postmates with coffee because I knew their family was going to be like exhausted and not sleeping. Instead, I sent meals throughout the lunchtime because I knew they weren't thinking about cooking for themselves.
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I just Postmates food to them. And just for the week, just to be like, This probably isn't going to be everything you need. It's not going to help with everything, but it's one less thing you need to think about during this week of sadness, loss, grief, overwhelm, and not taking care of yourself. How can I just add a little bit extra and then keep adding more as I see where I can help?
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Yeah, because you don't want to overstep.
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So just say, I'm sorry for what you're going through and leave it at that.
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And I'd say even three is- Because also before you go to three, when someone's grieving something, it's like you go through many stages of grief. There's shock, there's sadness, there's a ton of emotion, there's a lot of tears. The last thing you want to do is ask for help. Yeah. You don't want to say, my house just burned down. Can you give me some money? Yeah.
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you're in sadness you're in breakdown you're like yeah hey can you come over here and clean this up for me like you don't want to ask for something because you already feel an an overwhelm of emotion and sadness yeah and like asking for help maybe it doesn't feel empowering right well and especially when it has to do with loss and because if you say let me know if you need anything it's like well the thing i need you cannot give me yeah and it's so it's uh it's just a um
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The next conversation, Are You Less? Talk More by Jefferson Fisher. Make sure you guys get a copy if you want to learn why you should never win an argument, how to assert yourself and communicate with intention, how to set clear boundaries and frame conversations that will empower you. why saying less is often more and how to overcome conflict with connection, then this is the book for you.
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Make sure to get a few copies, give them to your friends, give them to the person in your life who also constantly cries to guilt you in every conversation. I'm just teasing, not that person. They won't receive it. They'll be triggered if they get this.
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Exactly. I'm sorry. Here's this book. Get some copies, guys. Make sure to support Jefferson. He's got... pretty much daily content as well on social media you can follow him on social media powerful stuff we'll have it all linked up below get this book it's going to be a big seller um this year so make sure to check it out and jefferson thanks so much for being here man
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That's so hard though, when you're stressed out or you're overwhelmed and someone is like triggered and reactive or defensive or coming back at you and you're just like, I'm just trying to communicate calmly, but this person's acting like a five-year-old child.
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When they're an adult, they're grown up, they're a grown man, a grown woman, they shouldn't be acting this way, especially a loved one when you're thinking like, I'm pouring into you all the time, I'm sacrificing my life for you and all you gotta do is react to me.
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It's hard to be like, okay, settle down. I know this isn't who you are. It's hard when you're exhausted, right?
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What are the three most powerful questions you should ask when someone is overreactive, stressed out, or overwhelmed in an argument or conversation?
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Should you say, what is that reason? Or just let it sit? Usually if you let it sit, they'll say, yeah. Yeah.
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I'm feeling frustrated. I'm feeling overwhelmed. I'm feeling stressed. Yeah. Whatever it is.
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You've got to have such extreme patience to be able to use that because it could go for hours.
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You know, it's interesting if people could learn the art, cause I think it's an art of tell me more. They will have some of the most powerful relationships in their life with the people they can use that with.
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When I'm in a good state and I'm not feeling defensive and Martha's having some type of overwhelming moment or something's going on, when I'm able to be there for her and just say, what's going on? Tell me more. And continue to tell me more. Is there anything else? Is there anything else you'd like to say? Right. Tell me more about how that makes you feel.
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What else? What about this? Tell me more. until she's able to get it all out. And if I can be present and patient, there's so much power in the connection afterwards. And for weeks of just like being able to be there for someone and listen, not trying to fix, not trying to coach, not trying to guide, but just listen and say, tell me more. What else is going on?
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Is there anything else you want to say? Are you sure? What else? It is so powerful. It will change your relationship for the better. And the hardest part for me is to get out of myself when I'm feeling defensive to be able to do that for someone else. Cause I feel like I'm not speaking about Martha, but just in general, I don't feel, I don't feel like they're doing that for me.
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Or not doing it, you know, it's hard to do it when you're upset or you're exhausted or you're angry or you're feeling your emotions. If you're acting like a five-year-old, you know?
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That's interesting, man. What do you think is the biggest mistake you see people making today when it comes to having challenging conversations?
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like control, confidence?
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Exactly.
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What do you think for women is the most attractive thing in a man and their ability to communicate?
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You can pray for something, but you gotta act on it too. You gotta create. You can't just say, give it to me. You gotta create. You gotta learn the skill yourself.
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Yeah.
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Yeah. You gotta act on it. A lot of people don't like losing in life. They don't like losing games. They don't like losing- Anything. Anything, right? And they don't like losing an argument. But you say in chapter one to never win an argument. Why is that?
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Man, your ego feels freaking like a zing.
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Oh, you're just home run.
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Welcome back, my friend, to the School of Greatness. My name is Lewis Howes. I'm your host. And this has been a 12-year journey on the School of Greatness. 12 years we've been doing the School of Greatness every single week, here to be of service to you, to help you improve the quality of your life, the quality of your health,
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What's the hardest boundary you've had to set for yourself this year?
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That's wise, man. Even with this interview, we were supposed to do it, I think on Halloween for whatever reason was scheduled then.
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Absolutely. And I respect, I wasn't like mad about it, but it's like the people, when you set a boundary, you know, people can either be offended or they can understand it.
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You know, I understood it. I was like, yeah, of course I was excited to do it, but I, oh, we're going to reschedule. It'll happen when it's supposed to happen.
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If it's supposed to, it'll happen, you know?
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And when I hear someone like Big Sean talking about his spiritual journey and his spiritual awakening as a big reason why, you're going to hear why because his story is fascinating. He shares intimate details about overcoming depression, finding inner peace, and his transformation from success to significance thanks to this shift in his spiritual way of thinking.
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He said that early on when you guys were in your teens. Yeah. Back in Detroit, that there was a group called Finally Famous. Yes. And it was like five or seven dudes.
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11 dudes, right? 11 of you guys just kind of hanging out, making music in the basement or people's garages or whatever and rooms.
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Yeah, of course. a lot of them have successful careers mostly because of you in some way, shape, or form. And Mike Posner said that you were the one that welcomed him in the group. He came later. And you launched a lot of people in some way down the line to having some type of success in their life through your influence. And I like the first quote that I talked about.
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You were searching for people in your life that could add value to you, but also where you could add value to them.
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And it sounds like from what he said, this group you guys were always talking about manifesting, like here's the dream we want with our music. Yeah. And your first album was called the same thing as the group, right? That's right. Isn't that interesting that you manifested and you created the thing that you were always creating from that group?
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He also talks about how to shift from scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset by changing your relationship with money and setting healthy boundaries with people around you. And boy, if I wish I knew this about how to create healthy boundaries in my 20s and 30s with friends, with family members, with employees, with business partners, my life would have created so much more peace.
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Spiritual experience. I love that.
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Coachella and Ohio State, spiritual experience. There's another great quote that I saw this, you know, as you started to kind of build your career in chapter eight of your book called Hitting a Wall. And the five strategies are accepting, strategizing, trying, trusting and manifesting.
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But at the start of this chapter, I think you share a story that everyone needs to hear because most people don't know what it's like being on top or accomplishing all of their wildest dreams. And you say the most depressed I ever got was in 2017. Essentially. but nothing ever felt like enough. And you talk about the pain of this situation. And I think there's a great quote by Jim Carrey.
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I've always wanted to interview him. So I love this quote where he's like, I wish everyone would get rich and famous and realize it's not the key to happiness. Kind of paraphrasing it. Yeah. But you were that. You had accomplished kind of like, you got to work with every artist. You were doing music with everyone. You probably sold 100 million records by then. You were crushing it.
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But you weren't happy.
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Why? And then part two, everyone thinks they're going to be happy and fulfilled when they become rich and famous. But that didn't seem like it's the case.
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But I lacked the courage. I lacked the wisdom. I will act a lot of things. I was afraid of how I would be perceived. I was afraid of people not liking me. And so if that's something that you've struggled with, I'm letting you know you are not alone. I have dealt with that. Someone like Big Sean has dealt with that. And so many other people that we've had on this show.
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But this show is here to support you in overcoming that, in becoming the greater version of you, in becoming the healthier, happier individual that deserves healing, peace, and prosperity. We dive deep into his new book, Go Higher, where he reveals the five practices that changed his life and career forever.
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No. Yeah. But that's a lot of power, too.
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Did you ever have a scarcity mindset? And if so, how did you learn to switch it into an abundance mindset?
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From manifesting techniques to setting boundaries, Sean's got to share wisdom that goes far beyond his musical achievements, showing a side of himself that fans have never seen before. I'm so excited about this. Again, if you find any value in this, please like the show, follow the show on Twitter. Apple podcast on Spotify, and leave us a review of your biggest takeaway. I read these reviews.
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the quality of your relationship to money, the quality of relationship to others, intimately, friends, career. We are here to be of service to you. And I hope you've enjoyed the journey with us. Whether this is your first episode, welcome, or if you've been on this journey with us for 12 years,
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I love this, man. Everything you're saying is resonating with me, and there's so many questions I want to ask you about that. But before I do, in Chapter 4, again, we're talking about your book, going higher, this is a game changer, make sure you guys get a copy. In chapter four, you talk about the fluidity, fluidity of fortune, and how you had to really unlearn some of these things about money.
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I'm curious, then, how did you learn to reprogram your subconscious mind to manifest money more when you weren't taught that those things early on?
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Such a good book.
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When did you learn this? How old were you?
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And when did you first put it into practice? You learned this new concept. It was something completely new. Money's all around me, right?
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And how did you put it into practice where you said, oh, it's actually real what this means?
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I love seeing them and I'm grateful for every one of them. Also, big announcement. I have a new book coming out in about a month's time from the release of this episode. It's called Make Money Easy. And again, one of the biggest things that Big Sean talks about is his relationship to money shifting.
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So when you get money now, and when money comes in and when money comes out, how does it feel for you emotionally when you receive and spend money?
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and how it helped him unlock abundance in his life once he shifted that relationship and created new boundaries.
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There's an amazing book called Happy Money by Ken Honda. I think you'll like it, where he says it's about the Japanese art around money. And when I had him on the show, it really helped me fortify my abundance mindset around money. And he said, when money comes to me, I don't care if it's a penny or a million dollars or anywhere in between, I say thank you to that money.
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thank you to the dollar thank you to the 20 thank you to the money i found in the streets thank you to the million dollar check thank you yeah and i say thank you where do you want to go and it says where do you want to go now do you want to go to my bank account and sit there for a while do you want to go into the stock market do you want to go into this business deal do should i give this to someone for free like where do you want to go and he says when we look at his energy and his abundance
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And my new book called Make Money Easy, Create Financial Freedom and Live a Richer Life is all about creating those boundaries in your life, understanding your money personality style based on your money history and how to unlock new ways of financial prosperity in your life from that inner journey that we all get to take. And when you can tap into the inner journey of money,
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And we are appreciating it. It appreciates in value.
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And we don't hold on to it, but we say, where do you want to go? Because I know more is coming to me.
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What's the best investment you've made in yourself?
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What's the best investment you can make in yourself today that you haven't spent the money on yet?
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the outer journey of money becomes an unbelievable experience. So go to the description in this podcast. At the top, you'll see a link where you can just go on Amazon and search Make Money Easy. You'll see my book and pre-order a copy right now because it's coming out and I want you to get it the day it releases, coming very soon.
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You mentioned a little bit earlier about how when you had everything, but you also felt... I don't want to say everything.
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Okay, when you had everything that probably your 18-year-old self had dreamed of.
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Rich, famous, on tour, working with every big artist that you were looked up to, all that stuff.
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um all the money you could ever dream of you know it's like everything playing in front of sold-out arenas and you weren't feeling good you mentioned how you were doing you know drugs alcohol weed things like this and people and people made it seem regular but yeah go ahead you know that's not regular where do you feel like your frequency was when you were doing drugs alcohol weed versus when you're not doing that i don't really get like blasted anymore so i'm trying to remember
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I've never been drunk or high in my life.
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Amazing. And I played college football, so I was always at like the frat party type of stuff. And so I never knew what that's like to be drunk or high.
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But every time I'd go to the parties, Everyone was like, you have to drink, you have to drink. It was very forceful. You have to drink. And I was like, I can get high on life. I don't need this. Or I can have a Sprite or whatever.
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But I feel like it's the natural high of just, I love my life. I'm grateful to be here, all these different things. I can get to that space. So I never felt like I needed the alcohol or something to get there. So I don't know what it's like. But is the frequency different when you're high or drunk?
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Okay, I'm excited about this episode with the one and only Big Sean. Welcome back, everyone, to the School of Greatness. Very excited about our guest. We have the inspiring Big Sean in the house. My man.
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I would also say it affects your soul.
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And you have to tap into something deeper to create it. Exactly. You have to tap into that ultimate power within you to create it.
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Enjoy. Oh, man. I like that. Do you smoke or drink a lot right now?
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Not at all?
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No Adderall, no... No. No drug, no weed, not even... Why did you decide, you know, when you were making money and doing drugs and everything was working out, why did you decide now not to be on drugs or alcohol?
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So excited that you're here.
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Midwest. It's too bad you're from that state up north, but it's okay. Detroit doesn't feel like Michigan to me, though. Detroit is its own thing.
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Did you ever make agreements with God?
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Trust me. Oh, no. Okay, it's too bad. This year, it's happening. We're coming back this year.
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It's all a miracle. It's all a miracle. It's all a miracle. Yeah.
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Why was it one of the best shows ever? Was it like a spiritual vibe or what?
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There's two things we were talking about. One, you heard God's voice a couple of times. When you heard God speak to you, did something in your life start to change? Did you do things differently? Did you make other agreements with yourself on how you're going to live your life or did it just remind you about what you're supposed to do next?
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They go hard, man.
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It's not much else to do in the Midwest, though. You like go hard. When you love someone coming to your town, you're like, ah. I know. They're screaming for you.
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It's all synchronicities, man.
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You don't have to tell me or us, but yeah. Yeah. It wasn't like the deepest thing.
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Yeah. But more like what did it tell you without telling us what it said, but what, what did you feel you were meant to do with that information?
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Yeah.
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So when was this?
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After your.
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Yeah man, thanks brother, thanks man. Yeah, congrats. You are a multi-platinum artist, over 185 million records sold is what you just told me. That is insane. Yeah, it's pretty crazy. How many records sold that is.
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I was asking your dad beforehand when you left the room for a minute, and I was like, what's the thing that you're inspired by the most about your son?
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And he said that you treat everyone as if they're special, whether they're someone or they're nobody, you treat everyone with kindness, respect, generosity, and you have a big heart and you want to serve people. And I thought that was really cool to have your dad say that about you. What's the thing that inspires you the most about your dad?
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And you have this new book out that I'm fascinated by because I wouldn't think of you writing this type of book. If I just heard some of your earlier music, I wouldn't be thinking that you'd be writing this book called Go Higher, Five Practices for Purpose, Success, and Inner Peace, which I wanna dive into. But there's a quote that you talk about,
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I saw an interview online, I don't know who this was, but I saw a clip of an older man who had billions of dollars, successful entrepreneur. And someone asked him like what his definition of success was. He's probably in his seventies. And he said, my adult children wanted to hang out with me today.
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Exactly. But like my adult kids wanted to spend time with me, not for my money, but they genuinely loved me and they wanted to hang out. And it sounds like, it seems that way. I just met you guys both recently, but it seems like, you know, you guys are hanging out together and that's got to feel good for both of you, you know?
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And a lot of people don't have good relationships with their parents and there's, you know, traumas and challenges. So, and I'm not saying you guys have a perfect relationship, but it seems like.
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Why do you like that practice? Why do you recommend people making three agreements with the universe?
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in the book on page 24 that says, I visualized being on a cliff. My higher self was saying to me that there was an invisible bridge in front of me that was gonna take me to the other side. Took a lot of faith to walk over that bridge, but that's what I did. It took four years, but during that time, I never lost faith and I kept writing.
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It's making it a stronger bond with energy, God, the universe, with your destiny.
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Something I did in my early 20s was when I was broke, I was living on my sister's couch in Columbus, Ohio. Columbus. Columbus, CBUS, baby. The greatest performance of your life was in Columbus. I like that.
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But I was at a dark phase for about a year and a half and I was trying to figure out how to develop self-worth. I was playing arena football and I was chasing the NFL dream. I got injured and I was never good enough to make it, but I lived my dream in terms of getting paid 250 bucks a week to catch a football. and play in front of audiences. For me, that was like part of the dream as a kid.
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I got injured on my sister's couch for a year and a half, and I realized my ego was much bigger than my self-worth. And I thought I had things figured out, but I really had no skills. besides catching a football. And I was actually a scared little boy inside. And I remember thinking of these things. I was like, what is the goal and the dream I want to accomplish?
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I would write these things down and I would create a certificate of achievement. I would write the goal down with the date I wanted to accomplish it. And I would sign it and frame it and hang it on my wall. And that gave me something to look at every single day and I said, who's the man I need to become in order to accomplish this? I have low self-worth. I'm in a lot of self-doubt and fears.
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I need to go conquer these fears and develop these skills to accomplish this dream. Has there ever been a time in your life where you felt low self-worth? And if so, how did you learn to develop more worthiness for yourself?
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We're always looking to find incredible conversations and incredible guests with stories, research and science to support your success and your inner and outer greatness. And I just want to say I'm grateful for you for being here. Again, whether this is your first time being here, or you've been here for 12 years with me, I'm deeply grateful.
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So when my next shot came around, I was ready and I had a ton of songs. I was asking the universe at that time to provide me with the people who could help me get to where I needed to be, as well as people who I could find a way to help as well. I wanted it to be mutually beneficial. This is powerful. And I wanted to start here because The thing you say is I visualized being on a cliff.
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In your book, we're talking about Go Higher, which is a powerful book. You mentioned that some of the early books that you got into, The Four Agreements, The Secret. I got to interview Rhonda Byrne, the creator of The Secret, a couple of times. And it was really powerful. She talked about the law of attraction, manifestation.
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I'm curious, what is your formula for manifestation and the law of attraction for you? Is there a definition for you? Is there a code for you on how to manifest better?
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185 million records is kind of unrealistic to think about.
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But it feels realistic to me, though. You made it real. Yeah. But if you're 18 and thinking, I'm going to sell almost 200 million records, like, is that realistic? It's kind of an unrealistic thought.
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It is, I guess. At that time of life. But then, oh, I sold $100 million.
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I visualized. And this is a time where you'd gotten signed, but nothing was happening for years.
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Going back to Posner, uh, I said, what else about Bashan that, that really inspired you? And he said during that time, uh, when he was glowing, he talked about a book called ask and it is given.
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I love all those books. What did that book, though, teach you or what did it say for you about your life? Ask and it is given.
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So you're excited. Something is big. I just got signed. I'm going to make it big. The next thing I do, it's going to happen. But four years, essentially, nothing's happening.
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So I like something out there that you want to create.
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This is really interesting you're saying this because I think a lot of people, I think we need to talk about this for a moment because Words matter. Words do matter. And how you desire or want something puts you on a different frequency level. It does.
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So if you say, I'm lacking something, so therefore I want it, based on how I'm interpreting you're saying this, you feel more separate from that thing that you want to create and draw closer to you.
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It's just a matter of when. Yeah, it's a matter of when. So it puts you into more of an abundance frequency versus scarcity or lack frequency.
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And I'm curious, how did you learn to trust yourself? in the universe that you would manifest something when there's nothing happening for years? How did you continue to trust the invisible bridge that would take you from where you are to where you want to be?
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How do you balance taking action to create what you want versus attracting and allowing it to come to you?
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Uh-huh.
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It's hard to trust, though.
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If you want to create it now and when you feel a lack, you feel separate, you're like, how do I make it happen now?
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I'm saying for some people it's hard.
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What's the thing that you've desired the most that took you the longest to attract or actualize or create in your life that you had to trust the longest?
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And putting it out in the universe.
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You got a whole chapter in your book about therapy. I'm curious, what is the thing that therapy taught you the most? And what is the healing that you've created for yourself that has given you the most peace and freedom?
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Removed it.
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Wow. That's powerful, man. That's a good kind of like mantra to reinforce with yourself. What would you say is the biggest mental block that you've had to let go of to create more abundance in your life?
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How do people who feel very anxious, depressed, stressed out, overwhelmed, life's just not going their way, going through a breakup, going through trauma, they feel like everything is against them. How do they learn that everything is actually in their favor and that they're deserving of abundance?
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Yeah. And it's kind of like what Posner said. It's like you were kind of down and out for a while or in more of like a lower state. And then all of a sudden he sees you a few months later and you're glowing. So you change something within you. Yeah. You didn't take a pill and make you feel better. You change something within you. You transform the way you think.
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And then you create it from a space of joy and possibilities and freedom.
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And I think your inner words also, even if you don't speak it out, but you're thinking it, also has the effect. you're just thinking, I suck, I'm nobody, but you're not saying it, it's still going to impact you.
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In your book, you have a couple questions for people. And the question is, what are you avoiding in your life? Is it possible that this thing might serve you in your development? What's the best thing that could happen from it? Curious for you, Sean, what are you avoiding in your life right now?
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What's the thing you're avoiding the most right now that when you address it, it's going to really help you unlock that next level of abundance and freedom?
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Well, you got it in your book.
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Yeah, of course, man. What do you need to make peace with? These are questions that you have in your book for us, which I think are powerful. You're a deep, wise human being, and I appreciate how you challenge anyone who's getting this book. Again, get the book, go higher. But one of the questions is, what do you need to make peace with?
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What do you need to make peace with? Yeah.
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Not holding on to it.
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What's the next three steps you need to make after this conversation to support you in getting to a peace with that conflict?
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Wasting our time or whatever, yeah.
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That's beautiful, man. I'm going to follow up with you in a couple weeks. I would love to. We got to do like a part two of this. I'm down, man. I'm down, man. I've got a few final questions for you. I don't want to respect your time. What's the thing you are most proud of that most people don't know about you? We know you've got, you know, multi-platinum, 185 million records.
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You know, you've collaborated with every big artist in the world. You're, you know, a superstar. But what's the thing that you're proud of most people don't know about you?
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Yeah. Does that make sense? Of course. A hundred percent. I mean, you've collaborated with some of the, you know, most iconic artists of our generation and I'm sure you've learned incredible lessons from each one of them and have inspiring stories from each one of them. Yeah. But which one of those names,
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really taught you something that just blew you away of those artists that you got to work with, whether through interacting with them, seeing how they created art, just being in their presence, how they, you know, performed on stage. Like what was the lesson one of them taught you that really inspired you?
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What was that like being a Detroit kid? Yeah, crazy. And Eminem's the king.
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In Detroit. Crazy. What was that like?
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I got two final questions for you. I've got a dozen still on here, but I want to respect our time here. But I want people to get your book before I ask the final questions. It's called Go Higher, Five Practices for Purpose, Success, and Inner Peace.
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This is a game changer, and you wouldn't expect a lot of things you're going to read out of this from a guy like Big Sean, but it's extremely deep, wise, spiritual, and profound. And I want to acknowledge you, Sean, for... putting yourself out there like this. I know you do this in your art, in your music, and there's undertones of this as well in your music.
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Absolutely. I was just talking about before we jumped on our mutual friend, Mike Posner. I was just FaceTiming him and I said, tell me something about Big Sean that most people don't know.
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But you really went all in on this book. And I think it's one of your greatest pieces of art because of the impact it will continue to have for generations and how it's truly feeding the soul for so many people when they dive in and start consuming and capturing some of this. So I want to acknowledge you for...
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taking the the leap of faith to put this out there to put your heart and soul into something like this and to be willing to talk about all these concepts that i don't really hear a lot of artists like you talking about i don't hear people talking about manifestation and setting a frequency and letting go of the past you know you hear about holding grudges and getting back at people and all these different things you're you're you're speaking about
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boundaries, learning about how to love yourself, self-worth therapy, um, you know, recreating bonds with your parents, loving your child, being a great dad, being proud of being a father, being there for yourself, like all these things. It's just not typical conversation, I think with that industry. And I, maybe I'm wrong, but that's what I think a lot of people might, might be thinking.
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So I want to acknowledge you for using your heart again, what you said, Using your heart to be of service. And I think that's the greatest gift that every person can give to the world is whatever's in their heart, use it to be of service for others. And I acknowledge you for doing that with this book, my man. Thank you so much, man. Two final questions for you.
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I want people to go get the book, follow you on social media. Where else can we be of service to you today besides getting a couple copies of the book?
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Exactly, yeah. He said you changed his life, and you're the one who brought him into spirituality and God. He said he wasn't into God or spirituality until... He wasn't, actually. He wasn't. No, he was not. Until you. And he said there were a couple of moments that you...
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This is a question I ask everyone at the end, these last two questions. It's called the three truths. So it's a hypothetical scenario. Imagine you get to live as long as you want to live on this earth, but it's the last day. could be 100 200 years old, whatever it is, you get to live and you get to accomplish and manifest all your dreams from this moment till then.
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But you got to turn the lights off and go somewhere else. Your life is over. On this last day, you have to take all of your work with you. So no one has access to your music, your art, your book. This conversation is gone. Hypothetical. Okay. But you get to leave behind three final lessons. I call it three truths. And we would have access to these three lessons.
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What would those three truths be for you?
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100%, man. Final question, what's your definition of greatness?
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I have a brand new book called Make Money Easy. And if you were looking to... create more financial freedom in your life, you want abundance in your life, and you want to stop making money hard in your life, but you wanna make it easier, you wanna make it flow, you wanna feel abundant, then make sure to go to MakeMoneyEasyBook.com right now and get yourself a copy.
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I really think this is gonna help you transform your relationship with money this moment moving forward. We have some big guests and content coming up. Make sure you're following and stay tuned to the next episode on the School of Greatness. I hope you enjoyed today's episode and it inspired you on your journey towards greatness.
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brought him this and it was the moment when after years of you being signed but nothing was happening, he said there was like a six month window where it was dark for you. It was pretty dark. That's right. And he thought, I don't know what's gonna happen with this guy. And then he saw you maybe six months later and you were glowing. And he said, I want whatever this guy has. What does he have?
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And now it's time to go out there and do something great.
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What is he doing? What is the thing that he did to transform from going to the darkness and into this glowing energy? And what was that for you? Do you know what?
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How did you learn how to separate them when most people, they have a bad day, they have a bad month, a bad year. It dictates their happiness, their joy, and their peace. How did you separate things not working out for you to it not affecting you emotionally and your joy?
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It should be in the top right corner if you're listening on Apple or Spotify. And leave us a review. Leave us a review on your biggest takeaway from today's episode. The thing you learned the most from today's episode with Big Sean. Because we had a massive, powerful conversation with you from multi-platinum recording artist,
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Yeah. Do you think you can manifest your dreams from a depressed state energetically?
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Yes.
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Yeah. Or it's also we were talking off camera about how. If you're feeling depressed or if you're feeling overwhelmed, you may need to look to where you need to create boundaries in your life. Because when you are giving your energy to so many people without the boundary, it's going to make you feel like you don't have anything left to give.
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Boundaries, baby.
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When did you learn about boundaries in your life? Did you ever feel like you were a people pleaser growing up or when you started kind of in your career feeling like you had to do everything for everyone?
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Nice guy.
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Big Sean, who opens up about his journey of lasting success, crediting his spiritual awakening as a big reason why. And I want to continue to remind you that the journey to success is never outward. It's always inward.
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You're changing. Who are you?
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4 Money Mindset Secrets to ATTRACTING Wealth & Abundance
If you are looking to understand the mindsets that will help you create wealth and abundance in your life, then this is for you. So buckle up right now. I have interviewed hundreds of the world's top money experts and the wealthiest people who have not only created massive abundance in their lives, but also cultivated, powerful inner peace.
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Well, most people make $1,000 and they spend 1,500. Yeah. They use their credit card to spend more than what they have because they think, well, I'll be able to pay this off next month because I have another $1,000 coming in. Exactly. And then they get into more and more debt because they're over consuming.
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I'll spend a certain amount on the things I like, but I'm not going to overspend. Or I like it where you just say, I'm going to reinvest a certain amount of my money every single month of the money that's coming in, whether it's a paycheck or your business. I'm going to take that money. This much is going every month into my investments, whatever that might be.
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And then if I want to spend the rest on a vacation or... you know, extra guacamole or whatever it is. Cool. Enjoy your life as well. Right. You don't have to live the most frugal life as well. You don't have to be so extreme, but I think first take your money to invest.
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Then spend on some activities and events and go to concerts. Cool. I get it.
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I'm a big fan. of Jasprit. He has incredible content and every time we have him on, it just takes off and people love it. And I want to remind you, you don't have to figure everything out on your own. The key is really finding mentors who have models that are successful that you can mimic. People who have already walked the path that you want to take. Don't try to do it all on your own.
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Reach out to some people who are even just a little bit farther than you who can support you. Surround yourself with people who are where you want to be financially. Their mindset will influence you. And again, that's one of the reasons why we have so many powerful financial leaders and experts on this show is to give you and provide you free resources and content to help you
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even if you don't have access to those individuals in your own city or in your own community. So feel free to come back and check out more of our content with these wealth experts at any time. And every month, ask yourself, how am I using money to invest in my future? Am I wasting money in my life or am I using it to learn new skills, to overcome challenges, to improve something in my life?
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Because if you believe rich people are evil, you don't wanna become that belief of evil.
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Ask yourself this and make sure you're surrounding yourself with the right money mentors. And speaking of many mentors, this next guest, Ken Honda, is a money mentor for me. And he's sharing how to align with abundance and let go of scarcity thinking. Because so many of us have been in stages of life or seasons of life where we felt scarce.
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And that feeling, that energy of scarcity does not attract or create abundance. So let's hear from one of my money mentors, Ken Honda, right now.
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So how does someone know where their seat is and know how to sit in it and be happy with their seat?
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Do you have a meditation or affirmation process for someone on how they can trust their heart, listen to their heart deeper, to know they're on the right path? Right. Do you have something that you use yourself or that other people can use? Mm-hmm.
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What happens when your heart is not excited. Let's say you have a project you're working on. I'm assuming all of your books you're excited about, but maybe there's an event you're supposed to go to or something that you said yes to. And you realize your heart is not excited about this. What do you do then? Do you do it, but then you don't repeat it the next time?
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Or what do you, how do you navigate that?
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I think a lot of people don't understand the power of a daily affirmation or a daily check-in with yourself, just like you talked about for two minutes. For someone that doesn't believe in affirmations,
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What are the beliefs that most people have around money that are holding them back then? Is it that money's bad or people with money are takers or what is it?
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And can you tell me how we can think about money as energy? In the book also, I saw you writing about how money is energy and sometimes people try to make it and hold on to it. They want to hold on to it. They want to stack it in their bank as high as they can go and they don't want to spend it. Sometimes it happens.
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What happens when we hoard money, when we keep it and we don't let it come and go as energy?
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Thank you for being here, go bless the world, come back as quick as possible with more friends.
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So how should people be thinking about this so they have enough safety and security, they have enough in the bank for if something goes bad in the economy, they've saved enough, but also they're not just overspending as well. Some people who have the personality where they just spend, spend, spend, then they go into debt, right? So how do we...
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balance money so that we have enough for the future and we're not in debt.
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I know people like that. So what should people be spending their money on? So they don't feel like I'm just blowing money and wasting it.
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And today we're diving into four of the most powerful money mindset takeaways from some incredible guests we've had on the School of Greatness. Now, these insights will completely shift how you think about wealth, about abundance and financial success.
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What happens with your clients when you say, okay, go spend a few hundred dollars a day or leave money out on the table for someone to pick it up and you do these experiments? What do these individuals say? afterwards, a month later, a year later about giving their money or spending it, not all of it, but some of it in these experiments.
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You have experiences, life memories.
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if you don't spend the money you don't get all the fun memories right again ken talks about letting your heart guide to where you're supposed to be let your heart guide you where you're supposed to be and sometimes when we feel anxious around money when we feel scarce around money it traps our hearts we need to learn to calm that so we can be guided
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and make sure we're in alignment of doing the right things that work for us around our money instead of doing things that are harmful around our money. The daily affirmations that you share with yourself matter. You're telling yourself a story about money every day. Why not make it a positive one? Start speaking positive affirmations internally or externally.
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Start writing things that are positive and communicating things to other people that are positive as well. Money isn't just about numbers. Money is energy. And if you're constantly stressed about it, that energy repels abundance and constantly creates more of that scarce feeling. So trust that when you let go of scarcity thinking, money finds its way back to you.
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In this next moment, we have Rob Dial, who's going to be sharing about the power of writing an empowering story to attract more in your life. If someone's broke and they want more money, how can they create a story, a narrative, a script, or a story that will empower them to attract more?
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Dude, it's so funny you say this. Isn't that crazy? It's so funny you say this because I still don't really buy myself anything. I mean, I bought a nice home. Yeah, you bought a beautiful home. I'm buying like... You know, I'm not buying things to like show off that I have money though. Like I don't showcase my home. I'm not like taking photos of it and posting it online and like, look at me.
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What do you think causes people to stay in procrastination mode for long periods of time? What is that reason they stay in procrastination?
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Yeah, and I think you gotta have the why that's strong enough is the main thing because whether it's a million dollars or a hundred thousand or whatever the number is, You know, first off, do you want that thing bad enough and why do you want it? If it's the million dollars as an example, why do you need that? And why can't you be happy with where you're at? Or, you know, whatever it might be.
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And do you need that to impress people? Or is it because you have a greater purpose you want to use that money for, right? Because you want to build a company, you want to empower people, you want to donate it. So you have to understand why you want something and be clear that it's not just serving ego, but it's serving something greater than you. I think that's when the river opens up. Yep.
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My friend got me a Rolex for my 40th birthday last year. I think I've worn it like seven times. Cause part of me is still kind of like, should I be wearing this? Talk to me about that. You know, it's well, part of it is not my style. You know, I don't like to, you know, part of it's like, I just wear the same black thing. Just like you're wearing a black t-shirt. Exactly. So that's part of it.
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And it widens and all the boulders go away when you say, I want this thing for me, but also so I can serve or empower others. For sure. Then it's like the Mississippi, you know, it's like, it's wide. This is the biggest river there is. But when it's only for you, I feel like later down the line, you're going to hit a dam. Of course you are.
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You might attract what you want, but then eventually get blocked up because it's all about you as opposed to about others, including you.
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The other part of it is, is. know i don't want to reject money coming my way by by not wearing it but it's also like how are people going to are they going to judge me or they don't want more from me are they going to be thinking i should be doing more it's just like do you also do i want to attract some type of judgment that is unnecessary i don't know it's like it's kind of a lot of that
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This is following up with the previous clip. It's something I appreciate so much that Rob shares about, which is your language dictates your reality as well. We talked about our beliefs, the way we think earlier in this episode, how these beliefs change. influence our behaviors. But the things you say, the things you speak into existence, they have a presence. They have a power.
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They have an energy. They influence your beliefs as well. And your language dictates your reality. To take action on your goals, Rob says to start today by saying, today I am committed to the action that will make me successful. And sometimes people think like there's so many big actions I need to take that just seems so daunting. Start with the action today.
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What is one thing that you can improve upon today to support you in your growth around money or really around anything in your life to create more peace in your life? It might be a hard conversation you need to have. It might be sticking to your word by getting up at a certain time. It might be moving your body. It might be resting. But whatever it is that you need,
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Listen to your needs and live in accordance with that today. It will help you for tomorrow. Speak in a way that reinforces action and a presence. And when you affirm your commitment to wealth, you naturally start taking steps towards that commitment. So again, This is something you can do right now.
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I hope you've enjoyed these four guests who have shared some life-changing insights on wealth and mindset. Make sure to leave a comment below on what part of this episode resonate with you the most because your beliefs about money dictate your financial reality. So make sure they're serving you and not holding you back.
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And again, if this episode resonated with you in any way, please share it with one friend, someone in your life who maybe already does well with money or someone who's wanting to create more. Send this to them right now and leave a comment below on your biggest takeaway, your biggest aha moment.
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And if you're looking to create financial freedom and you want to have more abundance within you and also have a richer life around you, you want to have richer relationships, you want to have a richer environment, then make sure to grab a copy right now of my new book, Make Money Easy. The link is in the description right below. You can go on Amazon right now and get a copy as well.
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Get a couple copies for friends because this will give you the tools to really support you in healing the relationship that you have with money so your relationship with money is an empowering one for you instead of one that you're afraid of or you don't understand. If you want those tools, they're all in the book along with the seven habits to unlock abundance within money in your life.
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I really love hearing feedback from you and it helps us figure out how we can support and serve you moving forward. And I want to remind you if no one has told you lately that you are loved, you are worthy, and you matter. And now it's time to go out there and do something great.
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I'm not afraid of the rise and fall because I'm in the bottom.
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And if you're looking to create financial freedom and live a richer life, then make sure to dive in deeper into my new book, Make Money Easy, which will give you the tools to unlocking abundance in your life. let's jump into this first moment with Dan Martell. And when we had Dan on, it took over. This episode really blew up for so many people.
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What do most ultra rich people say around why they can't own that they're uber wealthy by speaking about it?
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Who are the wealthiest people that you know, that you respect based on how they live their life? And what are the things that they do that you respect the most about them?
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Yeah, I mean, Gary's- What are the characteristics about the wealthy like Gary that you respect?
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And in this clip, he's gonna be talking about are your beliefs keeping you broke? And again, our beliefs influence our behaviors in life. And if your results around your money are not where you want them to be right now, we need to start with our beliefs. So let's dive in. What are the belief systems that keep people bankrupt or broke?
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Again, such a powerful moment with Dan Martell and our beliefs shape our reality. Again, you hear Joe Dispenza say, our personality is our personal reality. And again, our beliefs shape are behaviors which create our environment and our reality.
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And so many of us have negative money beliefs without even realizing it because we haven't really been aware of it and reflected on these beliefs in the past. For example, if you think rich people are evil, you're already setting yourself up to reject wealth subconsciously.
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Feeling guilty about money or success in your life, that guilt holds you back from achieving more and also feeling good about what you've created, what you've worked so hard for. So that's something you need to be mindful of and reflecting on. Are your beliefs blocking you from your abundance?
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In this next moment, we have the inspiring Jaspreet Singh, who is a wealth teacher and educator who's going to be sharing about the number one shift you can make to build wealth. So let's dive in.
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How does someone who has been conditioned for decades around certain money beliefs all of a sudden educate themselves, get the tools, get the information and say, no, everything I've been taught for the last 20, 30 years of my life is a lie around money. And therefore, you know, have I been living a lie myself? Am I a fraud? Are these people that I've been telling me this, can I trust them?
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My parents, like your whole world blows up essentially. It does. It blows up. And so how does someone navigate the emotions of, oh, all these things my parents who I love, who are well-intended have taught me around money, have kind of been holding me back. And I understand they try to protect me, but it's really limited me. How do we deal with that?
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And then start educating ourselves to break free of money limits, of money scarcity, of money insecurity, so that we can have more financial peace and emotional peace around money.
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Well, a broke person on how to make money.
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Both. I get the coffee before the exercise. That coffee sounds pretty good when you're tired. So how long will that positive effect last for? If you're sleep deprived the night before, you wake up, you got a lot going on, but you're tired, you got to wake up and get started. You do a 10, 15 minute HIIT style workout. How long will that make you feel awake?
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or feel sharp and clear, like how long would that last for?
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And then you're gonna, you're exhausting yourself, then you're exhausted, yeah.
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And how long do you think that would last? Like if you're going from LA to Florida one day, you sleep four or five hours a night, you gotta wake up early. you work out, you got your speech, like how, could you go till dinner pretty sharp? Or is it really gonna last for like three hours? That's sharpness, before it starts to fade.
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Like, all right, I did this HIIT workout, now I can go another 24 hours sleep deprived and still be on.
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Yep. Speaking of naps, how important are naps? Are they helpful or hurtful for a human in their circadian rhythm in their sleep process?
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Right. Wind it back up.
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And try to go to bed a little earlier that night maybe if you can.
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With a rest or no? No rest?
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You just keep going?
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Non-stop?
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Really?
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Will that generate lactate also?
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And where do you feel that?
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You're creating it.
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What does it feel like to have lactate in the body?
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Very excited about our guest. We have the inspiring Dr. Rhonda Patrick in the house. So good to see you. Thank you for being here. First time in person on the show, but second time on the show, right?
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Sprinting.
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You're not just taking them walking the stairs.
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They're running as fast as they can up the stairs.
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and it's it's it's kind of eye-opening that even just doing two to six minutes now when i gave you those statistics that was the six minute that was the upper end so the six minutes a day but six minutes a day who doesn't have six minutes a day i mean why does it seem like when sometimes i hear people say oh i'm gonna i'm gonna try this once every two hours or set an alarm every hour at my desk and i'm gonna get up and i'm gonna do 10 push-ups right or or 20 sit-ups or whatever it might be or 10 air squats
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I'm so excited that you're here. I've been a fan of your content for a long time. You've been serving humanity to help people improve their life by giving them the exact scientific peer reviewed protocols. and continually updating and optimizing these protocols over time for many years. Your podcast, your YouTube channel, your guides, your newsletter, they all add a lot of value to so many people.
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And yeah, it seems so easy to do it for 60 seconds, five times a day, right? Five minutes, 60 seconds, five times a day. Why is it that so few people do it consistently? They might try it for a day or two, but then they just stop. to do five minutes, 60 seconds five times a day. Why does it seem so hard for people to be consistent with this style of movement?
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When did it become a priority for you?
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But never lifting, huh?
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When did you feel like, though, you needed to get into resistance training? Because you've been studying, you know, the body health for a long time. I mean, you're the expert in this. You took it to your mid 40s to say, oh, I'm actually gonna lift weights and do resistance and get into this. Why did you resist getting into resistance training sooner?
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I mean, you start to- You can't just get away with it now.
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So I'm grateful that you're here. And there was something that we were talking about before we jumped on camera, which was around sleep. And I have a statistic, a couple stats that I saw online about sleep, and I want to have you reflect and share on this. because you have so many different levels of expertise around sleep, nutrition, supplements, food, training, and really optimizing the body.
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Slow it down once you get big. Yeah. You're not going to get big overnight. Yeah.
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But weren't you learning about this, you know, 5, 10, 15, 20 years ago as well? Like seeing the resistance training and building muscles helpful for longevity and helpful for recovery and all these different things as well?
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Restrict protein?
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Interesting.
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Huh. But I'm hearing different now though, right?
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So you were hearing this 20 years ago as an anti-aging research.
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They're not getting COVID.
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But at this season of your life, I think we were talking about beforehand, sleep is something that people need to think about and their ability to work out and to physically build muscle and strength and aerobic exercise. But I saw a survey, a WebMD survey found that an average American sleeps 5.7 hours a night. I'm not sure how accurate that is, but 5.7 hours a night.
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But if you're doing a lot of physical activity and you're not eating protein, what's going to happen?
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That's good to know. Part of me was worried like if you're training too hard, does that make you die younger?
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And I also saw the National Institutes of Health says that six or seven hours of sleep is not enough and can lead to chronic sleep deprivation. I'm curious. Simple question. How many hours of sleep a night do you think humans actually do need to function at a high level? And if we don't sleep that much, what does that mean, this chronic sleep deprivation?
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Sure. What do you consider as sedentary? What is a sedentary lifestyle?
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They get up, they go to take a shower, they walk to get food, whatever. But they go to their school or they go to their office, but that's it.
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They're getting like maybe 1,000 steps a day, 2,000 steps a day maybe. What is that like?
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It's not a brisk walk. It's not like a speed walk.
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Because it's not a brisk, it's not an intense activity.
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Not 10,000 steps.
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What does that actually do to the body if we don't sleep enough?
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They must have got paid a lot of money for that. I don't know. That's...
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Three weeks. Three weeks. Couldn't even get up to go to the bathroom.
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Oh, my gosh. That's crazy.
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How often are you studying? I've actually never tested my VO2 max.
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So do you put the mask on?
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And what do you get? You get the distance, the time, and then what?
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And then the equation tells you your VO2 max.
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Based on your height and weight or is this like?
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But you should be doing how much HIIT training a week?
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That's a disease, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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They probably transformed... They didn't even look like the same person.
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They can function with less, but is it optimizing their body and their mind with less?
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50.
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What's been the biggest thing that you've noticed kind of going all in on this high intensity interval training, VO2 max, optimization over the last year, year and a half? What's the big thing you've seen in yourself personally?
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Very hard.
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And a lot of the talk that's been in the health world or just in the atmosphere lately has been about glucose spikes. When you lose sleep, what happens to your glucose spikes, I guess, in the body? And also when you're high intensity training, what happens to your glucose levels?
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Is that like 1% of the population?
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And the way around that really- Is that with sedentary, with being sedentary or with having too much sugar consistently?
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Does that mean when they eat, processed or sugary foods, they have a high glucose spike. And then if they don't move, they can't process it better.
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And that consistently every day over the years.
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After a meal. So you enjoy a meal out with friends. You know you're going to eat poorly. You're having a celebration. You're eating desserts. You're having all the fats, all the things. when should you do this vigorous workout? Like right after you finish or like 30 minutes after?
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It was a dream.
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Yeah, yeah, I can function on five hours, and I'm good, and I'm easy. Yeah, but how, maybe you can function now, but can you function in 20, 30 years?
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You're eating a squatting right at the same time.
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How long are you doing it for? Are you doing like 10 minutes right then? Or are you doing like...
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You just five minutes.
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How much benefit would that actually give you? Let's say you have a bucket of ice cream. You eat and then you have, not a bucket, but three scoops of ice cream. You have a lot of ice cream after you eat, big meal, you're having cheese, you're having the breads, you're having everything. Then you got your ice cream. I mean, it's like a glucose spike, right?
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how much can just five minutes of air squats actually help?
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And will that affect your body later because you sleep deprived now?
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As one of the leading anti-aging experts in the world, you've been studying this for a long time, right? 20 plus years you've been studying anti-aging, right?
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But you've been doing this for two decades of anti-aging studying, right? You've been diving deep into this research. As someone who's been studying this for two decades plus,
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What has been the biggest shock for you in the last few years around how to live longer and anti-aging that you thought 20 years ago, this is the way, but actually you're starting to wake up and see new research or studies or personal strategies that you're like, oh, that's not the way, this is actually the way.
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Like chronological aging versus biological aging.
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It's kind of fascinating, isn't it?
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So how do we reset it within ourselves?
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And like, what, reverse o'clock 10 years overnight or something?
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Really? Yeah. Come on. How far away are we from this?
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Are you testing any of this stuff on yourself? Are you doing any stem cell injections or like going to these labs and trying these things? Or are you just researching and noticing?
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Because even on your speech that you had with Dr. Valtolongo, he was saying people thought it was 16 hours. Now it's actually more 12-hour time-restricted. Is that right? I don't know if that's the new research.
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We have an inspiring guest, Dr. Rhonda Patrick, who has been on before, but it's been a few years. And I wanted to really get clarity because she has so much research. She does so much great content that I wanted to try to simplify some of the things that are happening right now in the health and fitness space. There's so many different opinions.
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When you sleep.
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So when should you stop eating before you go to sleep? Like how much time should you have before you go to sleep?
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But isn't it good to sleep cold? Isn't that like dark room, cold?
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When your bones cold.
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Another blanket won't help me.
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I mean, you know, food plays a big part in it. What would you say would be a few foods that you would recommend to help with optimal sleep. With optimal sleep? Like what three to five foods should we be eating to support us in sleeping better and what should we remove to help us sleep better?
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So... So the cold doesn't keep him awake, right?
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Sure, yeah, yeah, yeah. Now, if you could create an optimal day protocol, let's just say you have all things perfect in life and you can wake up, go to sleep at a certain time, eat what you want, train the way you want, do hot, do cold, like you have a perfect day all the time in the world. How would you set up your perfect day protocol with sleep, food and workouts?
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For yeah, optimal human protocol for longevity, for optimal strength currently. Like what would that perfect day look like for you? What would you eat? When would you wake up?
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How would you train? Would you do any like heat, cold, you know, any of that stuff? Would you do a...
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So I'll have... So a little bit of food before the workout, then more after.
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There you go.
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Just water, blend it in or mix it in. Right. Okay.
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Jog, fast jog.
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Where do you think you'd be without taking supplements? You think you'd still be as healthy and optimal as you are? Or is it just more of a psychological boost for you?
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And the only way you can get omega-3, is that from fish?
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There are a lot of fish in there.
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What was happening?
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And that's just connected to fish?
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But you can't eat too much fish because of mercury, right?
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Do you have a list on your site anywhere of all the supplements you take?
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Really? I want your list then. That's what I want.
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That's the thing. It's like what you took two years ago is different than this year.
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You know, you need an updateable list.
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If you could only take three supplements a day, and you're only allowed three right now, what would you take consistently?
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Okay. To simplify it for people. If they're like, I can't take these 30 supplements and I don't know, you know.
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Which brands are good? Which ones are not good?
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So magnesium.
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Right, right. But then you'd be focusing on the magnesium-based foods.
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Okay, top five supplements. What if you could only get five supplements a day? What would those top five be?
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Okay. That seems more reasonable.
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I like broccoli sprouts, yeah, yeah.
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Okay. Amazing. Was this, I don't know if I interrupted you for your perfect day, but that would be the, would there be anything else?
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A couple times a day would be great for you.
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Wow.
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This is amazing. I'm so glad that you came back on the show. I want to tell people what they can get your stuff because you've got a lot of great reports, podcasts, everything. So if people aren't following you yet, we're going to have all this linked up.
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But is it more audio that you want to send people to or the YouTube is where you focus on more for your podcast because you have an amazing resource that I want people to get.
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But they can listen on audio as well, but YouTube's kind of where you put more focus right now.
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We'll link up the YouTube. It's Found My Fitness, Dr. Rhonda Patrick's show over there. But make sure you guys subscribe. Make sure you listen to it, watch it. It's amazing content. And you only put it out once in a while when you've really done research on a subject where you go deep on something. So...
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It's important to be watching, listening, and subscribed to it when it comes out because it's all great stuff. And this stuff is evolving. You know, the research, the science seems like it's evolving. So you're getting the latest stuff, you're implementing it, and then you're sharing it with everyone, right?
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I saw the, I saw the how to train one and it can go, it's a free guide.
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How to train.com.
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how to train guide.com. You've got a few other guys as well, but that one is really like I watched it and breaks down everything from every muscle group on how to do exactly what you need to do to optimize it. Right.
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For all the training from aerobic to lifting, to hit all that stuff based on the experts, based on the science. Um, the other one you have is, uh,
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Okay. So if you want to learn the best supplements, it's there.
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Okay, perfect. So we'll have that one linked up, fmfomega3guide.com. And then you've got one more, Protocol for Improving Cognitive Memory, which is huge.
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Interesting.
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Yeah, I'm not a fan of blueberries, like the taste and the flavor. So the cocoa via powder, I'm going to try that for sure.
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Interesting.
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And is the about the same amount as a couple of blueberries or something or that would give you the.
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Yeah, it's like, okay.
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So they can get all these protocols there. We'll link it up as well. And I'm assuming they're on your website as well, correct? Foundmyfitness.com or... Foundmyfitness.com.
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We'll link them up for people. You're on social media as well, everywhere, FoundMyFitness. What's your main social media space right now? Is it mostly on YouTube? Are you on Instagram?
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There's a lot. There's a lot. You should get on there though. I think it'd be good to have someone post your content there for sure. A couple of final questions for you. Before I ask Rhonda, I want to acknowledge you for the 20 years of consistency and saying, and also constantly researching and questioning your current beliefs or your previous beliefs and saying, how can I improve these beliefs?
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How can I not hold onto these? If there's something new, I'm willing to try that and share that with people as well. And I think that's really important that you're willing to do that. So I want to acknowledge you for constantly being in this mission to serve humanity, to help people learn this information, learn easier because it does seem so confusing.
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There's so much content out there teaching stuff and You know, I feel like I have so many different leading experts on and I'm still confused sometimes. So I appreciate you for breaking down like an optimal day and explaining it step by step and also trying to simplify some of these things because it can seem so overwhelming. And a lot of people don't have your brain.
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So I appreciate you creating guides for people. Like here's the step-by-step approach. And I'm just grateful that you are alive today because we need people like you to help us be better. So I'm grateful that you're constantly diving the research and helping people. So thank you for what you do and for being here and for sharing this on my show. It means a lot.
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It's been four years, so I'm glad you're back. And I want to acknowledge you for... implementing this in your life. You seem like you're, I told you before when I saw you a few weeks ago and today I was like, man, you look really healthy, really fit, strong, like younger.
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So you're applying this to yourself and I'm glad you're implementing it because sometimes there's experts that teach, but they don't do it themselves. So I'm grateful you're doing it for yourself and seeing the benefits. It seems like it's really working. So congrats on everything.
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We'll make it happen, for sure. I think I asked you this question. I have two final questions. I think I asked you this before. But I'm curious if there's going to be a different answer. It's called the three truths. So imagine a hypothetical scenario. You get to live as long as you want, but it's your last day on earth. And you get to live as long as you want, 100, 200, whatever you want.
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But eventually you've got to die. You get to accomplish everything you want in this life. All your dreams come true. But for whatever reason, you have to take all of your work with you. So everything you've created in this life, you got to take it somewhere else. Whether you die, it's just got to erase, or it's just not here for the world. So this conversation's gone.
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All your content you've made in your podcast, gone. Books, it's all gone. Hypothetical. But on the last day, you get to leave behind three truths. And this is all we would have of your content. Three lessons. What would those three truths be for you?
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Just from like, the only three things you can leave behind, these lessons, what would those three things be?
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And I like to get the best expert with the best research that can help us optimize the different parts of our life where we're struggling in all areas of life. And in this episode, she really shares some surprising things, especially the surprising connection between resistance training, lactate production, and brain health, which I want you to pay attention to when we get into it.
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Yeah, okay. So exercise daily, social connections, and focus on the food and vitamins you need.
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To optimize it, yeah. That's beautiful, I love those truths. Simple. Final question, what's your definition of greatness?
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It's powerful.
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Yeah, and you have a quote on this that I saw online that said, even one hour of sleep less per night for three nights can disrupt how your body processes sugar and lead to mild insulin resistance. But some good news here, HIIT can almost reverse it. So can you go with less sleep but then train hard and reverse the negative effects?
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Where are they getting that glucose from?
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Also, how to time your workouts and meals for optimal glucose regulation and cognitive performance. And she talks about one main supplement that I thought I was applying to my nutritional intake on a daily basis, but I'm not doing it enough. And she talks about the critical role of omega-3 fatty acids in longevity and why supplementation matters. I always go back and forth on supplementation.
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But is it pulling it from like visceral fat or more from the food that you just intake?
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So if I know I'm going to get less sleep tonight, Is it useful to say, let me do a hard, high intensity interval training workout six hours before or in the morning and really push myself kind of hard for these 30 to 45 minutes, knowing I'm gonna get less sleep and I'm gonna need to be on the next day.
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Like I've got a lot of meetings and I'm running around and I'm traveling and I'm gonna be, you know, jet lagged. What will that do for your mind or your body the next day?
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Really? So you wake up sleep deprived. You should go do it then?
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Really?
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But you're already exhausted.
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I forgot my keys. I got to go back. I'm like, I'm going to sleep right now.
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How To Prevent & REVERSE Disease With THESE FOODS To Live Longer | Dr. William Li
Welcome back, my friend to the school of greatness. It is a beautiful day. It's a blessed day. And I'm grateful for another opportunity to live on purpose. I hope you're doing well today. I've gotten so many messages lately from so many of you. who have just been so grateful for the content we've been providing, for the interviews, for the guests.
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And so what is the main things that you've been able to observe then about the gut and how it relates to people that live over 100?
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Did he have the energy to blow all the candles out?
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And people are studying their gut bacteria.
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And we all want to live healthier with the current days and years that we have. His practical approach proves that optimizing your longevity isn't about expensive biohacking, but about working with your body's natural healing systems. And he's going to share the four specific gut bacteria that stand out in people who live beyond 100 years and which foods help them flourish.
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Does that mean there are four bacteria in people that live 100 and beyond in their gut bacteria that people... Under 100 don't have?
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70% of your immune system lives in the gut.
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So the immune system is kind of like the insulation in a house. Is that right? In the walling of the house?
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So it's kind of like the insulation or whatever inside the drywall.
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And whatever's in the house is the bacteria. Exactly. The people, the dogs, the cats, all moving around.
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And impacts our brain. And then it impacts our brain. How much of what we eat impacts our brain?
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Like either giving us clarity and focus versus cloudiness, giving us... You know, that's what I'm working on right now.
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This is going to be so powerful. Please share this with one friend. And really send this out to a friend that you think could improve the quality of their health or maybe their mind's been a little bit foggy or they've been feeling stressed or anxious. There is so much that's connected to the gut, what we eat, and our mood and our brain health and our brain function.
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Yeah. It's like Wolverine. So you become Wolverine. Without the claws. So it just, there's a probiotic that you can drink as a human now also?
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Now- And this isn't a drug.
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100% breastfeed. Don't go right to a bottle or formula or something like that.
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So unless there's some reason the mother is unable to do it.
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Oh, yeah. What are the key foods that we can eat to cultivate the best bacteria to help us live longer?
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So fascinating. So it seems like how much disease stems from the gut? More than we think.
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Cancers are from the gut.
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Because the society is talking a lot in the last few years about mental health. It seems like there's a lot more anxiety, depression. ADHD and these types of mental health conditions or diseases that are accelerating in mass numbers.
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But based on what I'm hearing you talk about, it almost sounds like if we stop thinking about mental health, not stop thinking about it, but focus more on gut health, it sounds like it connects to the brain and the mind and it'll create more alignment in ease versus dis-ease.
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Because there's a, who is the doctor? Dr. Emeryn Mayer, I think it is. I don't know if he's got a book called Gut-Brain Connection. I think somebody that's talking about these things as well. And it seems like a lot of the things that are stemming from the brain disease or challenges is in the gut.
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And it's also linked to longevity, it sounds like as well.
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We have the inspiring Dr. William Lee in the house. So good to see you. Thank you for being here.
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And it means a lot to me every time I get a message from someone on social media or when someone comes up to me on the street and just says hello and their biggest takeaway from the show, it really means a lot to me. And I was traveling the last couple weeks doing some press for the new book that's coming out called Make Money Easy. It's coming out very, very soon.
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Yeah, 100%. And seeing what's in front of you, not just only focusing on how do I make it to 100 or 110, just enjoying the moment. The rise is important, but honestly, like, so is what's directly in front of you. Sure. If someone watching or listening has... maybe neglected their health for many years. And they're now living in excess weight or maybe even obesity.
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Very excited about this because you've been on the show a couple of times and you've been a researcher, a scientist, a physician for many years. mostly helping people figure out about how to cure cancer. That's kind of where your background is around the cancer world, but you've also gone in different places around medicine and science and research.
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And they've been on a pattern and a routine of eating poorly, drinking a lot of excess alcohol, whatever it might be, and just not taking care of their health. And you were to prescribe just a 90-day game plan. to reset their metabolism and try to get the right things going again, what would you prescribe that individual?
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And how much do you think they could actually recover and start to heal from years of not taking care of their health?
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Maybe it's not that extreme, but maybe it's, you know, 20 to 40 pounds overweight.
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Before you go to the next point, can you make a distinction, if you can explain to people, because I don't think people truly understand, when you eat one processed meal, what is happening with a processed food, whether it's ultra processed or just processed and not it's complete whole food that you cook, what happens when it enters the mouth of ultra processed food or something that's processed?
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It goes through the gut and out. What is happening to your body with that versus just single ingredient whole foods cooked and in the system?
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And currently you're diving in deep into the longevity topic, which is really interesting. We were just talking off camera about a new approach to what you're seeing that the you know, supercentarians, I guess, are experiencing. And a lot of people want to know right now how to live longer, but also how to live healthy longer, how to have a good health span as well.
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Okay. So the difference between something minimally processed versus ultra-processed, what happens to the gut? the bacteria in your gut and the body and the immune system with having those different options.
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Because it's not fun if you live to 100, but for 25 years, you're on machines, you can't walk, you can't move, and you're not healthy. And so I think that's what a lot of people want. So the first question I wanna ask you is, why do you think people care so much about being immortal or living for as long as they can? And what are some of the new things that you're seeing in the longevity world?
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And you'll start to feel the effects, or at least your body will feel the effects within 24 hours.
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Yes.
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Wow, that's what processed foods do, ultra-processed. What are other things that ruin the gut bacteria, then, besides ultra-processed foods?
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What about vaping?
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So vaping or smoking or cigars, that doesn't help the gut bacteria.
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Does it impact it in a negative way?
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How much of a block, if someone is smoking every day or vaping or doing cigars or pipes every day, or they're inhaling some type of smoke, how much of a dam are they creating in the flow of health throughout their nervous system, their bloodstream, their... I don't have the number for you, but it's pretty significant.
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The smoke, you mean?
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The grease and everything coming up.
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Oh, man.
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Okay. So number one, I think I took you off track for a second. Number one is eat more plant-based whole foods. And less ultra processed.
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Was there more to this? Was there more steps to this?
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Eat the excess too.
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We got to overeat, overeat fiber, overeat like the healthiest.
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Wouldn't that be amazing if it did?
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Yeah, if we had a clicker and it said, okay, you've eaten all you need to fill your tank today, stop eating.
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Well, also when I eat ultra-processed foods, I never feel full. It's like I can have two pizzas and candy and I'm still hungry.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah. And so the clicker doesn't turn on with ultra-processed foods like it would with whole foods where you feel like, oh, I got a lot of good fiber in me. I got some good grains. I got some, you know, meat or beans or vegetables. Like... I feel satisfied.
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Exactly.
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Third thing?
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I've heard it, but what does it do?
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Because you've kept those toxins in. Wow. If someone, say, has one glass of wine or one drink of alcohol before they go to sleep, and they say to themselves, that's not that much. It's just one glass or one drink. How much is that impacting the brain? to not be able to recover, flush out those toxins, and feel fully rested? Different for everybody. Okay.
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So again, these four bacteria that are in the gut of people that are living well beyond 100, we talked about those before. You gave a few different foods that can support you in, I guess, the fourth one.
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What I mean, what are the things that are blocking us beyond the processed foods, beyond smoking, alcohol? Here's actually a question I have for you about this. If you're eating all the right foods, but you say take a Tylenol once a day or take ibuprofen once a day or take some type of...
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Chemical compound that is a drug, even if it seems like it's safe over the counter, what does that do to the gut microbiome when you take a Tylenol Advil, ibuprofen, or some type of pain killer?
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Yeah. Interesting. I guess I'm curious if there's side effects that would also hurt. Maybe they'd help in some way, but then hurt in some other way, I'm not sure.
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How To Prevent & REVERSE Disease With THESE FOODS To Live Longer | Dr. William Li
If you haven't got your copy yet, make sure to go to Amazon right now and get your copy of Make Money Easy. Create financial freedom and live a richer life. But so many people have just been coming up to me lately and really thanking me for the show. So it means a lot to me. If you see me out on the streets anytime in L.A. or if you are coming to one of the book tour stops recently,
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This may sound a little woo-woo, this question, but how much do our thoughts and our mindset impact our gut, but also our overall health?
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How To Prevent & REVERSE Disease With THESE FOODS To Live Longer | Dr. William Li
So stress, overwhelm, anxiety, depression, bad thoughts.
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How To Prevent & REVERSE Disease With THESE FOODS To Live Longer | Dr. William Li
Yeah. It almost sounds like if you're eating unhealthy foods, ultra-processed foods, it's more than likely going to have an impact on the way you think. Because you're going to feel a certain thing, or maybe the signals are sending something up of, this is not enough. I need more nutrients. I need something else.
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And therefore, it's going to create some type of fogginess in your thinking or in your mind. And if your thinking or mind is... a lower energy, a lower frequency, thinking, tired, it's gonna send it back to the gut. It seems like it's kind of connecting at the same time. So when you eat something healthy, hopefully it's impacting your mind or your brain to think better.
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How To Prevent & REVERSE Disease With THESE FOODS To Live Longer | Dr. William Li
And if you're thinking better, hopefully your gut is being impacted in a better way also.
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100%.
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How To Prevent & REVERSE Disease With THESE FOODS To Live Longer | Dr. William Li
And if you could, I've got a couple final questions for you, but if you were to focus on a few supplements you think people should be taking to just non-negotiables that you think is going to help their gut, their lifespan, everything, what would those few supplements be?
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How To Prevent & REVERSE Disease With THESE FOODS To Live Longer | Dr. William Li
You take these every day?
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How To Prevent & REVERSE Disease With THESE FOODS To Live Longer | Dr. William Li
So what is that one called? The Acromantia?
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How To Prevent & REVERSE Disease With THESE FOODS To Live Longer | Dr. William Li
So those four things are the main that you take, vitamin D, omega-3, and these two probiotics.
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How To Prevent & REVERSE Disease With THESE FOODS To Live Longer | Dr. William Li
You might throw some other stuff in there, but those are the main.
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How To Prevent & REVERSE Disease With THESE FOODS To Live Longer | Dr. William Li
You've got some amazing books, Eat to Beat Disease and Eat to Beat Your Diet, that cover all the research that you've done and give people way more tips than what we've talked about here. This is a great starter. And you're on YouTube every week. People can check out YouTube. slash Dr. William Lee to see your content where you dive into the research and you share more.
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And you're doing it, what, two, three times a week right now?
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How To Prevent & REVERSE Disease With THESE FOODS To Live Longer | Dr. William Li
What's the biggest pain that people are facing around their health today that you've been answering?
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How To Prevent & REVERSE Disease With THESE FOODS To Live Longer | Dr. William Li
This is powerful. I want people to go subscribe to your YouTube, check you out, all your books, drwilliamlee.com. You're going to be updating people there. You have a newsletter, all these different things people can check out. Also, I'm going to get a link or a list of all the supplements you talked about and add it to the show notes.
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How To Prevent & REVERSE Disease With THESE FOODS To Live Longer | Dr. William Li
So I'll get that from you later and I'll add it to the show notes on YouTube and all the different audio platforms. But this has been very powerful. I appreciate you for revealing some of the new research that you're discovering and you're seeing that I haven't heard anyone talk about, which is kind of understanding the gut bacteria connection to longer-term health and longevity.
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How To Prevent & REVERSE Disease With THESE FOODS To Live Longer | Dr. William Li
And I think it's really important that we need to start exploring more of this. And I'm assuming over the coming years, you're going to be talking more about this on your YouTube channel, about what you're discovering and sharing the research and the science that people can have for themselves.
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How To Prevent & REVERSE Disease With THESE FOODS To Live Longer | Dr. William Li
Dr. William Lee, thank you so much for being here. I appreciate it.
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How To Prevent & REVERSE Disease With THESE FOODS To Live Longer | Dr. William Li
Again, powerful. I have a brand new book called Make Money Easy. And if you're looking to create more financial freedom in your life, you want abundance in your life, and you want to stop making money hard in your life, but you want to make it easier, you want to make it flow, you want to feel abundant, then make sure to go to makemoneyeasybook.com. dot com right now and get yourself a copy.
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I really think this is going to help you transform your relationship with money this moment moving forward. We have some big guests and content coming up. Make sure you're following and stay tuned to the next episode on the School of Greatness. I hope you enjoyed today's episode and it inspired you on your journey towards greatness.
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Make sure to check out the show notes in the description for a full rundown of today's episode with all the important links. And if you want weekly exclusive bonus episodes with me personally, as well as ad free listening, then make sure to subscribe to our greatness plus channel exclusively on Apple podcasts.
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Share this with a friend on social media and leave us a review on Apple Podcasts as well. Let me know what you enjoyed about this episode in that review. I really love hearing feedback from you and it helps us figure out how we can support and serve you moving forward. And I want to remind you if no one has told you lately that you are loved, you are worthy, and you matter.
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And now it's time to go out there and do something great.
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Yeah, he has a number of different things, which is community and your activity level and the foods you eat and having a purpose and kind of these things. He's into beans. Beans, big into beans, right? Yeah. But that may not necessarily, I guess, be the only solution, right? If you follow these kind of core tenets that he has from the blue zones.
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And we're also seeing that some of those blue zones are no longer blue zones, I think, or they're diminishing in their blue zones because of the way people are changing their food intake or things like that, I think, right? Like the place in Japan. And there may be more blue zones that haven't been discovered yet. Interesting.
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And so what are the new things that you're observing that most people aren't noticing about people that live well into their hundreds?
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That's right, I'm going on tour, seven cities. We're going to Austin, Texas, New York City, Boston, Massachusetts, Nashville, Tennessee, Los Angeles, San Francisco, and San Diego. Just let me know your favorite part of the show. What's really resonated with you? How it supported you in your life? That's what this show is all about. It's to help you improve the quality of your life.
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How To Prevent & REVERSE Disease With THESE FOODS To Live Longer | Dr. William Li
Wow. And how the gut impacts the brain.
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How To Prevent & REVERSE Disease With THESE FOODS To Live Longer | Dr. William Li
And get the lab details on the bacteria, right?
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How To Prevent & REVERSE Disease With THESE FOODS To Live Longer | Dr. William Li
Wow. Gingivitis. All right. So, okay. So it sounds like it starts with the mouth and then it's the gut. Because what you put in the mouth is going to be in the gut as well.
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How To Prevent & REVERSE Disease With THESE FOODS To Live Longer | Dr. William Li
And I hope this episode does that for you. We have got a big one. His name is Dr. William Lee. He's a physician, a scientist, and a researcher. And we had him on the show before. It got millions of views over on YouTube and the audio. But he is back.
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How To Prevent & REVERSE Disease With THESE FOODS To Live Longer | Dr. William Li
Is that what it is? Yeah.
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How To Prevent & REVERSE Disease With THESE FOODS To Live Longer | Dr. William Li
So they're connected. We believe so. Because we used to, I mean, correct me if I'm wrong, but we used to treat Alzheimer's and dementia as focusing on the brain, correct? Like, let's look at the brain and see what's wrong or what's off and try to treat the brain. Yeah. Versus now you're saying...
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How To Prevent & REVERSE Disease With THESE FOODS To Live Longer | Dr. William Li
Well, it's the gut, it's the whole body that's connected to the brain, so we have to look at everything.
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How To Prevent & REVERSE Disease With THESE FOODS To Live Longer | Dr. William Li
And Dr. Lee reveals how our gut bacteria communicates with our brain, our immune system, and overall health in ways that we are just beginning to understand. He's going to share some simple changes to our diet and lifestyle that you haven't heard before on any other show on how it can nurture beneficial gut bacteria and potentially adding healthy years to our lives. We all want to live longer.
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We still don't know how to reverse Alzheimer's or prevent it, I guess?
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How To Manifest Love & Deep Connection With Your Words & Frequency | Erwin McManus
There are two big things happening at one time that I've never done before. I'm going on a book tour for my new book, Make Money Easy, and I'm doing a podcast tour at the same time. It is going to be big, and I'm going to seven cities in 10 days. Get your friends, get your family, bring everyone you know to these cities. I'm coming to Austin, Texas, New York, Boston, We're going to Nashville.
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Yeah, I told you once a year. Every year at Christmas, I tell you.
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What is it that people are missing that would make them... exceptional communicators in every area of their life if they learn how to do this one thing around what you're saying.
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How do you do this in a marriage after 40 years when, you know, you have memories and, I don't know, you're... similarities of the same things and events happening over and over? How do you continue to tap into the frequency that is needed for your partner to feel seen, loved and heard and accepted, as opposed to leaning into a dominant frequency where they don't feel as appreciated?
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That's all about improving the relationship to money so you can be financially free. Make sure to get your copy right now. The link is below as well in the description. Without further ado, let's dive in. Welcome back, everyone, to the School of Greatness. Very excited about our guest. We have my good friend Erwin McManus in the house. So good to see you. Man, I am so glad to see you. I'm pumped.
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How To Manifest Love & Deep Connection With Your Words & Frequency | Erwin McManus
Was it a good pick for me?
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For someone who's been through a devastating breakup in a relationship, or maybe they've had just kind of heartbreak after heartbreak in relationships, how can someone use what you've created here and use their words and frequencies to manifest love and even if they've experienced so much pain and disappointment in relationships?
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What does that mean?
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So when someone, I mean, you can use me as an example. I was in many relationships that I felt they were right, maybe, or it felt like maybe a potential, and I stayed in them for a long time, tried to make them work, but then they wouldn't work out and it'd be a lot of pain. Then I'd repeat the cycle, you know, kind of all through my 20s and 30s, right? Right.
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if someone has gone through kind of breakup after breakup, what is it inside of them that's missing for them to be able to really create that harmonious match in someone else, where it is more in alignment, where it is more...
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and the right, I don't know, the right vision for what they want to create in a relationship so they don't have to go through the same pattern of breakup and pain over and over again.
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The last time you came on, we talked about your new book, The Seven Frequencies of Communication, and we walked through kind of these, each one specifically. There's a powerful episode and I want people to watch that in tandem with this. And what I want to do with this episode is to see, we're going to talk about my core frequencies. Oh, that's going to be fun.
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Yeah, I feel different.
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How To Manifest Love & Deep Connection With Your Words & Frequency | Erwin McManus
Yeah.
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How To Manifest Love & Deep Connection With Your Words & Frequency | Erwin McManus
Yeah, 100%.
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How To Manifest Love & Deep Connection With Your Words & Frequency | Erwin McManus
Does that make sense? 100%, yeah.
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How To Manifest Love & Deep Connection With Your Words & Frequency | Erwin McManus
It's so interesting because when I was in these experiences of pain and breakup and doubts, you know, should I be in this relationship? Should I not be in this relationship in the past? And, you know, months of being single in between relationships and just like, ah, what's going on in my life? I wasn't thinking consciously like, am I worthy? But looking back, I see how unworthy I was.
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Unconsciously, I guess, and how I was attracting relationships, because I guess I didn't really believe I was. I wanted something beautiful and great, but I didn't think I was either ready or deserving of it right at that moment. Right.
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It is, and it doesn't expose you. Right. And hopefully your shadow's not as dark as them, so you're a little more light.
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How To Manifest Love & Deep Connection With Your Words & Frequency | Erwin McManus
Yeah, it's true.
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How To Manifest Love & Deep Connection With Your Words & Frequency | Erwin McManus
Because I took your assessment, which I'll tell people how they can do this. But the goal of this episode is to give people the tools on how to use their words and understand their frequencies that are within them on how to really manifest and attract people.
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Absolutely. It's almost like I needed to, I don't know if kill is the right word, but I needed to mend and heal the old version of me to alchemize into someone new internally. Whether that's letting go of an old version or alchemizing and healing the old version to the new, however I want to talk about it. But it was like, I definitely had to step into a new identity.
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And either... heal the old identity into an upgraded version, letting it go, whatever it might be. I needed to do that in order to attract a relationship where I felt peaceful because I never felt peace. And I think a lot of people listening or watching who have been struggling in relationships, they feel like anxiety in their relationship.
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So how can we learn to, I guess, the first part of that question, how can we learn to anchor ourselves to be more empowered to both speak with people power with the actual words, but then speak with frequency, energy, and marry the two?
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How can we start to believe we are either deserving or confident or wise enough to be able to marry the two at the highest level of frequency in relationship, but also in all relationships?
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How To Manifest Love & Deep Connection With Your Words & Frequency | Erwin McManus
When you see someone who's an angry person towards others, what do you see in them? A person who hates themselves.
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How To Manifest Love & Deep Connection With Your Words & Frequency | Erwin McManus
Yeah. So true. And what do they need to transform that? they actually need to forgive themselves. Because they've been, what, blaming or shaming or feeling guilty about something?
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the loving relationship that they want in their life, or just powerful relationships in general, whether it's their soulmate, a loving partner, or the right partners in their life to elevate what they want in life. That's the direction I want to take with this because I feel like
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How To Manifest Love & Deep Connection With Your Words & Frequency | Erwin McManus
When did you get to that place? Like, how old were you or what season of life?
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How To Manifest Love & Deep Connection With Your Words & Frequency | Erwin McManus
You have such a wealth of experience, wisdom, and knowledge from what you teach, what you write about, but also life experience, being married for, what is it? 40 years. Four decades. Yeah. Which we talked about this in previous episodes as well, but really marrying these frequencies to love and relationships, I think, will be an interesting thing. You have this on page 148 of the book.
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So true. I mean, it doesn't mean there's not challenges or adversities that I face from time to time. Even before you were here today, I was going through some challenges with business stuff and some frustrations. But I wake up and I walk outside and I just put my arms up and I say, thank you, God, for this beautiful day and everything you've given me. I'm so grateful and blessed.
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I'm just like, man, it's like such a gift. Yeah. And I think about this stat that 150,000 people die every day in the world. But we're not one of them today. Today, we're not one of them. And that alone is a gift. Like, that's a reason to find joy. Even if... things aren't going well.
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Even if you're going through a horrible breakup, even if you're not happy with the government, even if someone cheated on you, lied to you, stole from you, hurt you, abandoned you, abused you, what a gift to be alive. It's not enjoyable. I'm not saying stay in that space, but still, man, what a gift and opportunity. And should we feel guilty?
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How To Manifest Love & Deep Connection With Your Words & Frequency | Erwin McManus
Like you said, should you feel guilty to be grateful like the things that we get at this day to be alive?
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How To Manifest Love & Deep Connection With Your Words & Frequency | Erwin McManus
If God created us to be good, why does every negative emotion come easily and being good or experiencing joy takes work?
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Depends on someone's definition. You know, just for some people's definition of greatness, it might be, you know, being alive and living a decent life, right? It's like just being here is greatness. It depends on someone's definition. But for my definition, I don't think there is. I think you've got to be willing to overcome yourself constantly. And that's hard work.
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How To Manifest Love & Deep Connection With Your Words & Frequency | Erwin McManus
You've got to be willing to make better decisions every day than the temptations. That might seem easy.
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How To Manifest Love & Deep Connection With Your Words & Frequency | Erwin McManus
It takes intention. It takes effort. It takes focus.
The School of Greatness
How To Manifest Love & Deep Connection With Your Words & Frequency | Erwin McManus
Again, this book's really powerful. I want people to get it. It's called The Seven Frequencies of Communication. the hidden language of human connection. On page 148, you say that your sound waves do not simply send out your thoughts and ideas, but your sound waves are an extension of you.
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Thank you.
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Then we're going to Los Angeles, San Diego, and San Francisco. Make sure to get your tickets right now. Go to lewishouse.com slash tour. Again, bring everyone you know if you're looking to create more financial freedom and abundance in your life and you want to see a massive guest live on the School of Greatness show. Get your tickets. I can't wait to see you there.
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Thank you.
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How To Manifest Love & Deep Connection With Your Words & Frequency | Erwin McManus
You should be leaning into that.
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How To Manifest Love & Deep Connection With Your Words & Frequency | Erwin McManus
Courageously, yeah. How does someone have faith, though, in a future they can't see that is not here yet?
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How To Manifest Love & Deep Connection With Your Words & Frequency | Erwin McManus
Yes. And there's cellular memory also.
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How To Manifest Love & Deep Connection With Your Words & Frequency | Erwin McManus
That's beautiful, yeah. So much good stuff here, but I know you've got to catch a plane here, so I want to be mindful of this. I want people to get the book, Seven Frequencies of Communication, The Hidden Language of Human Connection. And again, we're speaking about in this book, people are going to learn about what their core frequency is.
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Yes. And so you'll learn what your frequency is. We'll have a link up to the assessment as well in the show notes. You can learn what your frequencies are. what the shadow side is for you and also how to overcome that and step into the more light version of your frequency and also how to tap into the different frequencies.
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So you can really, the more you can master all of them, the more you can impact people around you and understand them and have the empathy, like you said, and be more authentic, like you said, which it was needed to have a greater impact and connection with someone. Absolutely. So you'll learn that through this process. Very powerful. Again, you'll find out which one you are.
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Motivator, challenger, commander, healer, professor, seer, and what Erwin is, the maven. Should be maverick, you know? Is it kind of similar to like a maverick or no?
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So make sure you guys get a copy of the book. Get a few for your friends as well. ErwinMcManus.com is where you can get a lot of the other stuff and that'll be linked up to the book and everything else. Um, if you're in LA, go to, uh, the church, it's an amazing church was a check it out.
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And, um, if you want to have more inspiration, community connection, you can check that out on Sundays, or you can watch the live stream also, wherever you are in the world, where do people go to watch that live stream?
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Okay, cool. And this church is also in different locations.
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How To Manifest Love & Deep Connection With Your Words & Frequency | Erwin McManus
Okay, very cool. But also the main, there's a live stream also of the main church here in LA. From Hollywood, yeah. All over the place. So check that out. That'll be linked up as well at Mosaic. How else can we be of service to you, Erwin?
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Awesome. We had another interview we did, I think it was like a year and a half ago, maybe, where we talked about each one of these frequencies.
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And so you guys will have that linked up as well. You guys can check that out. And you talk about your three truths and your definition of greatness there. So I'll have people go listen and watch there to get that answer. But I'm curious if you could go 10 years in the future, you say you're 66 now, if you can go 10 years in the future,
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and your 76-year-old self was sitting in front of you and he could give you one piece of advice on what you need to do from this moment until the next 10 years, if you could see into the future what you're able to do, what is the message that your 76-year-old self would tell you?
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Oh, man, I just got chills. That's beautiful. You belong. Appreciate you. Love you, my brother. Love you too. Thank you very much.
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I have a brand new book called Make Money Easy. And if you are looking to create more financial freedom in your life, you want abundance in your life, and you want to stop making money hard in your life, but you want to make it easier, you want to make it flow, you want to feel abundant, then make sure to go to makemoneyeasybook.com. right now and get yourself a copy.
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I really think this is going to help you transform your relationship with money this moment moving forward. We have some big guests and content coming up. Make sure you're following and stay tuned to the next episode on the School of Greatness. I hope you enjoyed today's episode and it inspired you on your journey towards greatness.
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Make sure to check out the show notes in the description for a full rundown of today's episode with all the important links. And if you want weekly exclusive bonus episodes with me personally, as well as ad free listening, then make sure to subscribe to our Greatness Plus channel exclusively on Apple Podcasts.
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And also, I guess, the words and the sound or the tone of our words. That's right. It's the combination. It's the word and the frequency of the word, the sound. Yeah. can connect us, but also you could take that and it could connect you to others through someone else, right?
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It's like if you're transmuting something into someone else, speaking life into them as God did to us, that person, you could be the ripple where they could speak it into others too.
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How can we start to anchor ourselves to speak with more positive frequency? And do the words we say matter or how we say the words matter more?
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Hey guys, Lewis Howes here, and thank you so much for being here. I am excited about this. I'm a big fan of Erwin McManus, and this episode is going to provide practical wisdom for anyone looking to improve their ability to connect with other people and attract more fulfilling relationships in your life.
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Yeah, something about the way he looked at you or the way he like... I wasn't even looking at him.
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Yeah. The interpretation of it was different.
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Interesting.
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Yeah. There's a few things that you talk about that I think are really interesting. And I want to share a few of these things. But you talk about words and frequency. And there was a line somewhere that you said, words are as close to alchemy as we could ever come. And words are magic. And I'm curious.
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What does that mean when it comes to figuring out how to attract someone we care about, we're interested in, we want to build a relationship, how to use words and frequency that we have with our voice to attract a quality relationship?
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And the interesting thing is we tend to attract relationships that match our level of self-worth. And this is the key. We need to break that pattern so we can create different relationships that unlock abundance in our life, that unlock peace, that unlock joy, more love, more freedom. And I want that for you. I want you to feel free in every area of your life.
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Yes, yes. Ma'am, that's probably, yeah. So you're saying that if Kim, you wouldn't have made it if you were only listening to her words. Is that what you said? That's right. And so words have a frequency from my understanding.
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And also there's a frequency that's underneath the words as well, right?
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Why is that? I mean, why is that? And how do we tap into a frequency within us that has a greater impact on ourselves when we speak, but also on others when we speak?
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And they won't go through those emotional changes.
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Is this available now for women?
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What is the most interesting thing you've learned In the last year while working on your book and working with women who have gone through all these different complicated, you know, emotions.
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Let's go.
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Wow. All right. I like that.
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That's exciting.
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Wow. What are you most excited about in your life?
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I mean, I've heard you talk about the loss of your three brothers who you've lost, right? What is that? How do you navigate being a mom when you lost three siblings in your current family and then you have kids?
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How do you just navigate life with the loss but also the love that you have?
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You think he died of a broken heart?
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So why do we do it?
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Right, right, right, right, right.
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Do you have any advice for people who are grieving a loss of life on how to also take care of themselves so they don't decline?
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And so. Try to push through it.
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Yeah. So don't lose yourself in the grieving process.
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Wow. I'm curious in a moment for you to share the biggest thing that's opened up for you or the most important thing from this conversation that you want people to take away from. For me, it was how men can be educated and informed more. And so that when the time comes, Even if they don't know how to navigate it, at least they can say, I'm here for you.
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I'm here for you. I'm going to learn the best I can. And I'm going to do my best to be here for you. And I think if a woman sees their partner, their male partner, even do that, it should help them feel a little more safe.
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They may not understand everything.
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And they're never going to because they're not going to experience it.
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Yes.
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So women watching, send this to your men so they can understand the gist saying, I understand you're going through something and I'm going to do my best. It's a good start.
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The next thing is the five keys to kind of taking care of your health pre-menopause and during it so that you can optimize the experience and you don't have to suffer as much and hopefully not suffer at all through these different kind of five keys that you laid out. And then I would also say like just the, I think sex is really important in keeping a relationship healthy.
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So doing the things sexually, specifically with like the creams and other things, that could be an easy relief for making it still work for you.
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So those would be kind of three things that stuck away from me. But what would you say is the number one takeaway for you that you share that you want everyone to be reminded of?
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That's great, that's beautiful. As someone who's been studying this for two decades plus, what has been the biggest shock for you in the last few years around
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how to live longer and anti-aging that you thought 20 years ago, this is the way, but actually you're starting to wake up and see new research or studies or personal strategies that you're like, oh, that's not the way, this is actually the way.
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Like chronological aging versus biological aging.
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Blood work, is that what it is?
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Isn't that interesting?
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How is that possible?
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It's kind of fascinating, isn't it? It's very fascinating. So how do we reset it within ourselves?
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It would just be like a blob, right? Right. It's just, you know.
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Like what, reverse o'clock 10 years overnight or something?
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Really? Yeah. Come on. How far away are we from this?
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Are you testing any of this stuff on yourself? Are you doing any stem cell injections or like going to these labs and trying these things? Or are you just researching and noticing?
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Food, exercise, sleep.
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Because even on your speech that you had with Dr. Valtolongo, he was saying people thought it was 16 hours. Now it's actually more 12-hour time-restricted. Is that right? I don't know if that's the new research.
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When you sleep.
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Oh, man.
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So when should you stop eating before you go to sleep? Like how much time should you have before you go to sleep?
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Is that no, like, treats, not even a little snack, a couple of nuts?
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You can drink water or whatever is fine.
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You don't sleep well.
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But isn't it good to sleep cold? Isn't that like dark room, cold?
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When your bones cold. It's your bones cold.
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It's eternal cold.
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Another blanket won't help me.
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I mean, you know, food plays a big part in it. What would you say would be a few foods that you would recommend to help with optimal sleep? or with optimal sleep. Like what three to five foods should we be eating to support us in sleeping better and what should we remove to help us sleep better?
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And one of the biggest, I guess, risk factors for disease with menopause?
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Wow. So-
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Yeah, it's hot and cold.
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Sure. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Now, if you could create an optimal day protocol, let's just say you have all things perfect in life and you can wake up, go to sleep at a certain time, eat what you want, train the way you want, do hot, do cold, like you have a perfect day all the time in the world. How would you set up your perfect day protocol with sleep, food and workouts?
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For, yeah, optimal human protocol for longevity, for optimal strength currently. Like what would that perfect day look like for you? What would you eat? When would you wake up?
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How would you train? Would you do any like heat, cold, you know, any of that stuff? Would you do a... Oxygen chamber. All the time. Anything you can do.
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No alarm, though.
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So I'll have... So a little bit of food before the workout, then more after.
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Yeah. Gives you more energy too.
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Cocovia?
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Really? Yeah. So it's like a cocoa powder.
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There you go.
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Just water, blend it in or mix it in. Right. Okay.
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Hormone therapy. What's the art? Replacement. Hormone replacement therapy. What if women don't like the idea of taking drugs or therapies?
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Okay.
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Okay.
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Fast jog.
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Where do you think you'd be without taking supplements? You think you'd still be as healthy and optimal as you are? Or is it just more of a psychological boost for you?
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So you can still prevent the increases of disease by doing the other things correctly.
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Come on, really? Wow.
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And the only way you can get omega-3, is that from fish?
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There are a lot of fish in their diet.
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And that's just connected to fish?
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Wow. But you can't eat too much fish because of mercury, right?
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Oh, not HRT.
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Do you have a list on your site anywhere of all the supplements you take?
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Everyone's got a list, right?
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Really? I want your list then. That's what I want.
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Interesting.
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Okay. Simplify it for people. If they're like, I can't take these 30 supplements and I don't know, you know.
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What happens when you give a woman experiencing menopause an antidepressant?
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Which brands are good? Which ones are not good?
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So magnesium.
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Right, right. But then you'd be focusing on the magnesium-based foods.
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Okay, top five supplements. What if you could only get five supplements a day? What would those top five be?
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Okay. That seems more reasonable.
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Do you feel like there, I mean, is there such a thing as a chemical imbalance in some people? You know, when they say, oh, I have a depression, it's a disease, or bipolar, or I have this mental health disease, or I have a chemical imbalance, I was treated with this, don't try to say I don't, because this is who I am. Is that, do some people have that? Or is that...
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You're experiencing something.
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Right, right. There's side effects.
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It's also like if HRT, if it sounds like it could be right for you, it doesn't mean you should stop eating fiber and sleeping well and stop moving.
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Oh, man. This is powerful. Gosh. I want to go back to what you said when you were experiencing this traumatic event in the family you had recently where you were wearing a glucose monitor. And you mentioned that there was a process. You realized the monitor went through the roof.
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Heart palpitations, stress, you could feel your physical, your body changing into this stress response, this protection, tightness, whatever it was. Fear, anxiety, all these things you were experiencing in the moment. What was the process that you broke down to bring it back to more normal levels for yourself of feeling more peace, groundedness, calm?
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And those Frosties are good though.
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I think I saw one of your videos on Instagram that was like, this is my daily menopause routine. But it was like 17 different things. It was like a cream and pills and this and that. I was like, that can seem daunting.
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Would that be considered like fight or flight, whether it's someone cutting you off in front of you on the street in the car or someone yelling at you or someone, whatever, an event happening, which is causing you to react in fight or flight, whether it's a massive T trauma or little T trauma, right?
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Sure.
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So what are those four things?
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What's a metacog?
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Wow. But I mean, a hundred years ago, women didn't have these options.
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It seems like the medical world has failed women.
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How can men who lack potentially the emotional agility to navigate anyone else's emotions beyond theirs? Yeah. Let alone, you know, once a few days out of a month, like they're maybe used to with the partner they're with to now what could be any day of the week for years of emotional uncertainty. How can a man, you know, how can a woman send this to a man in their life and say, I'm not crazy.
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I'm just going through this season of life. I'm trying to do everything I can to navigate and manage it and balance everything. But what would you say to men who maybe don't have the tools, don't have the experience, don't have the emotional capacity within themselves to look at emotions? Be there for the women that they love.
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Without... you know, making them wrong, shaming them, telling them like, figure your life out. I can't help you. Like, what can a man do with their capabilities without telling them to go learn a million things? I don't know. Like they still have their lives, their responsibilities, their stresses as well. What can men do to help women in menopause?
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Yeah. Wow. It's probably a journey for men too.
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In this phase. What, what do you think is the biggest challenge that men go through in terms of watching the see the woman transform into something different. What is the biggest challenge that men go through after, I guess, postmenopause?
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Yeah. Yeah. Wow.
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It's either way, whether you like it or not, it's happening.
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So be along for the ride.
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Is that more of a mindset? Like approaching it with a positive mindset or an attitude of like, hey.
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But overall, they do better.
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What is the age again for premenopause to menopause?
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What is the, I guess, what is the oldest woman who had menopause? Do we know? And is there a way to prolong menopause? This is a great question.
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Yeah, yeah, I got it.
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But having the period still.
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Nine. Wow.
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Nine years earlier.
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Come on.
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What would life look like for a woman that never had menopause and lived until they died?
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He knew the original story, the story before the story.
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you know, show him that he is loved and held by you and also by God, right? You're loved and held by us. And the world is loving you and holding you high. It sounds like- And the river. And the river, right? It sounds like step two, you know, understanding we're all guided. It sounds like he was able to remember that he was loved and held and be guided into like having the answers within him
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for when his friend was telling him, no, that's not true. This is you were adopted or whatever it is he was saying. And it sounds like he had the inner strength to feel guided in that moment. And I'm curious, what have you learned as a psychologist about the
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Well, I mean, I've probably told it out here a few times already, but I mean, there was just too many synchronicities that were just like, oh, this is, it was weird. It was weird synchronicities. I was like, okay, this is, and let me keep exploring. And these synchronicities were so weird that I was like, I felt like I was on the right path. I was like, let's keep hanging out another few days.
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Let's keep hanging out. You know, I didn't wanna not hang out there, but I was like, I need to keep exploring these conversations with you to see what unfolds. But the first day, you know, within the first five minutes where I knew something was different, I went to pick her up. I was visiting a buddy of mine in Mexico and near Tulum, and she was actually in Tulum at that time.
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And we had never met, but we connected online. And I just happened to respond to something that she posted online, right? She was posting something in nature actually. And I replied to that and I said, it looks beautiful there. That was it. I wasn't like hitting on her or anything. I just replied to what she was posting about.
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So nature was the first thing that I replied to within her interacting online. And then she replied, hello, my friend. How are you? Are you ever in my country? And I don't think she knew I was in Mexico, but I was in Mexico at that time. And I was assuming she met Mexico. So I said, yeah, I'm actually here with a friend right now in Playa del Carmen. And it's like an hour from Tulum.
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She goes, oh, I'm in Tulum. Let's hang out if you have time. So we ended up just getting together. When I picked her up, I had my buddy's Jeep and I had my phone, picked her up for dinner. I had my phone in the middle of the Jeep, in the middle of the seats in the front. And it was dark out because I was picking her up for dinner.
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And so my phone screen kind of turned on as I set it down, like the screen turned on and you could see my screensaver. And it was a photo of a boy, a little boy. And I could see that she looked at the phone because the screen popped up. You see this image of a little boy. And so I kind of looked at her and go, oh, don't worry, I don't have a son or anything. You know, it's our first time meeting.
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So I was like, oh, don't worry, I don't have a kid or anything. And she goes, I know what that is. She goes, that's you and you're healing your inner child. And I was like, I get chills just thinking about it. I was like, yeah. And she took her phone. She goes, here's a photo of me. I've been doing the same journey when she was five. I get chills thinking about it. And I'm just like,
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Oh, something's different right away. She understood the journey of healing that I was already on. And that had been up there for, I don't know, eight months on my phone, right? So I've had it for a while. And she was like, yeah, this is something I was doing like in the last year. And I'd been healing and transforming and...
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you know, probably getting out of a depressed state that was like a reawakening to seeing the world differently. And so even just in that moment, like that unlocked the conversation, the whole conversation was spiritual from the first moment. There was no surface. I can't do service anyways with anyone. We talk right away and I'm like, tell me about this, tell me about that.
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And so the whole conversation was spiritual. And the whole first few months was that, like every time. And some people might say, oh, that's too deep when you're like going on a date or you shouldn't be like going so deep so quickly or having spiritual conversations. But I think why wait to have those conversations? And they can be fun and lighthearted. They don't have to be deep and heavy.
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It can be like, wow, fascinating. You can get to learn about someone's soul sooner rather than six months down the line have those conversations. So for me, that was a synchronicity that said, oh, hang out again. And every time we hung out, there was just things like that that just kept happening. That was like, oh, there's some force that's more powerful pulling us to keep exploring.
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And I think I allowed myself to be open and stay in it without rushing to, this is the person I'm meant to be with forever because of one synchronicity. And I think I wanted to continue to not rush a lot of things, but just dive deeper spiritually, which created safety. It created a sense of safety and feeling at home within me and her feeling at home within her.
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So it made us feel more at home together. That was a powerful, you know, again, I would... I wish I would have learned this 20 years ago, but it happened at the right time. And I needed the painful moments, I think, to awaken to where I'm at today.
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And what happens when the bonding network engages in the brain? What happens to the body?
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Yeah, and understanding if we believe that we are guided, that's what I was like doing. I go, okay, God, just show me the way. Let me just explore this a little more. Let's go hang out another day. Let's have more conversation. Let's just be guided into the possibility. Whether it works out or not, I'm just going to lean into this without rushing to conclusions.
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So what did you then learn from the research of the science of synchronicities and spirituality together?
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It sounds like you don't want to stuff the emotions, but you don't want to stay in the emotions. You got to learn to let it out in some healthy, conscious way, hopefully not hurting someone else in the process of your anger or resentment or frustration or whatever it might be. but you can't stay there also. So you can't spiritually bypass the emotion and just say, that didn't affect me.
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If it did, let it out and don't stay there. Don't keep reliving the trauma for years to come.
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I'm thinking John McElroy, the tennis player.
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Yeah, and I mean, the difference is freedom, it's peace. I think you're a prisoner of the past. when you don't forgive. And there's, there's, um, there's a reward for that as well. Like you get to be righteous, you get to be justice, you get to be right and then wrong.
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You get to be, you get validation from people having sympathy for you and understanding and understanding how something is not okay. And that was horrible with that person did and all these different things. You get rewards. But I just feel like the reward of forgiveness and setting yourself free is far greater than any other reward you could get by holding your grudge.
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And holding a grudge and being angry at someone or an event or the government or the world or the weather, whatever for ruining something in your life or hurting something in your life or causing a disruption in your life. And however, drastic or small it might be, holding a grudge onto that. That's a cost. There's a big cost. There's a big price you'll pay. There's a big price you'll pay.
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I really think this is going to help you transform your relationship with money This moment moving forward. We have some big guests and content coming up. Make sure you're following and stay tuned to this episode on the School of Greatness. What do the MRIs say from a brain that is connected to God or has a spiritual practice versus a brain that doesn't have a spiritual practice?
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Like taking your cat's paw and like rubbing it on you or just.
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I was going to say, I was going to get my cat tonight and just.
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So there's been a, there have been reports on lots of different dreams, right? There's been like people documenting their dreams and there's studies around that.
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So everyone has that in us, but we need to be practicing and believing it in order to experience it. Yes. What happens if we don't practice and believe that we are loved and held, we are guided and we are all one. We are never alone.
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Now, what if people, that's powerful. I'm glad you shared that. And what if people are listening or watching say, well, I can't remember any of my dreams and I don't think I dream at all because I can't remember them. So what's wrong with me and should I be worried if I don't have dreams?
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And as a clinical psychologist doing this research for a long time and doing all the MRI studies and working with individuals who have experienced this, is there any other way to get out of pain and suffering than seeking a spiritual practice?
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Okay, there's so many questions I want to ask here. Let's do it. There's different types of dreams. There's nightmares, there's erotic dreams, there's weird, crazy dreams, there's sleep paralysis. And I think I know what that is because I think I've had that a few different times.
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So I'd love to start there because this is something I can relate to where I've woken up but not been able to move or speak. Yeah. And I feel like I'm screaming but nothing's coming out. Yeah. What is that? Yeah.
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But you're a psychologist. Aren't there medicines that people can take that are gonna fix them or solve them? Aren't there drugs that people should be doing? And isn't this clinically proven that if you're depressed and you have mental health diseases that the medicine will set you free? Isn't that why we have medication?
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I've had it a couple times at night, like in the beginning of sleeping also, where I've like fallen asleep, But 30 minutes later, I've like woken up. It's almost I'm not asleep yet. That's my favorite time. I am for a minute. And so my fiance says, I mean, this is just from her theories.
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But she says, you know, that's you entering a lucid dreaming, like allowing that to happen, allowing that sleep paralysis to happen because you're half awake, half asleep. And if you stay there and you don't freak out and scream, I try to scream. You could actually enter. She says that's what happens for her. And she enters the most incredible lucid dreams that are vivid in memories for her.
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She's not wrong. And so it's more of just like surrendering to, ah, I can't move.
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What's the gift that we're all given that most of us never use?
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But why do so many of us reject God or a relationship with a higher power?
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What we consume, what we're putting in our physical space, the people in our environment, the conversations that we're hearing and listening to and having, all that stuff, right?
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It's offensive. Yeah, it's all offensive.
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To not be offensive or feeling exclusive if they don't have the similar belief. Is that right?
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Okay. If they have a different belief, we don't want to force something on them or talk about it if they feel uncomfortable or...
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Something that you said in one of your books called The Spiritual Child, I believe this one is. It talks about that you... talk about the next big idea in psychology, which is the science and the power of spirituality.
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And you're explaining the clear scientific link between spirituality and health and shows that children who have a positive active relationships to spirituality are 40% less likely to use and abuse substances, are 60% less likely to be depressed as teenagers, are 80% less likely to have dangerous or unprotected sex,
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and have significantly more positive markers for thriving, including an increased sense of meaning and purpose and high levels of academic success. Why do kids lack spiritual connection in a spiritual relationship today? Why is it parents aren't willing to encourage their kids? Do the parents not have the spiritual relationship? Why do you think that is in kids today?
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And what are the brains that are spiritually connected versus a lack of spiritual connection?
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Kids are like a portal. They're already a spiritual portal.
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It's your job not to throw on material animal magnetism types of thinking or thoughts or energy to diminish their spiritual power.
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When a child asks a question like, does God love bad people? Does God love evil people? Whatever, any question. And a parent says, yes. man, I think I know the answer, but I really don't know the answer. What should a parent do in that moment when a child asks a difficult spiritual question that the parent doesn't know the answer to?
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I love that, man. Well, here's the thing why I think a lot of people might stay stuck is they... They allow their feelings to keep them in place of frustration. You have this great example that you say execution should be fact-based, not feeling-based. But people feel the overwhelm of the economy or the government or their parents or their partner or whatever the responsibilities of the world.
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They feel anxious, avoiding, overwhelmed, burnt out. like doubtful, insecure, and they allow feelings to consume their inaction. So what's an example of how someone can shift from being driven by emotions into fact-based actions towards their goals? It was what you teach, man, the meditation thing.
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Again, if we're. We're talking about really developing kind of a bulletproof mindset when the last five years for a lot of people has been a lot of stress, overwhelming anxiety. In order to have a more powerful, resilient mindset, how important is it for not just me and you, because I already know the answer for me and you. How important is it for everyone to have mentors in their life?
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It's everything, man.
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You know what I'm saying?
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After Jordan, after Jordan, everyone is first championship. He didn't say, I think I've got it figured out on my own. I don't need a coach. He said, let me find Tim to train me. Let me find the mindset coach, the recovery coach, you know, make sure we're getting to the next level.
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It's amazing, man. Bro, 40, a 40 chicken dunking on 20-year-olds.
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Yeah. And it's also being around other people who are in that mindset, who are pushing and you're seeing them grow and it's influencing you to grow. And you're yeah. So the community aspect of we're getting coached together, we're growing together, we're working our goals together, all that stuff. You've got an amazing challenge coming up.
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It's u2025.com where you're going to put people through a lot of what we've been talking about and more. 21 days. 21 days. Every day.
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Yeah, that's beautiful, man. So they can go to you 2025.com to register for that. That's powerful, man. I feel like I could talk to you for a long time on this, but I wanted to ask you a couple more questions before we wrap up.
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Again, we're going back to the 12 year old you who's down and out figuring about your dad's not your biological dad in your life, your mom lied, you know, challenges in life. And we're talking about where you're at now. Where do you think you'd be without a spiritual relationship with God in your life over the last 30-plus years with all the ups and downs?
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Where would you be in life right now, the ETU, with no spiritual relationship?
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You're a very driven person. You've shown that over your whole career, right? In your life. Overcome a lot of different challenges and adversities in the first time in so many different ways. When someone is going through a dark time,
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and however that looks for them, a breakup, a death, a letdown, any type of dark time in their life, is it possible to keep being driven in your career and your goals and your dreams when you're going through sadness and darkness and grief and loss without also being able to heal on the process? Can you heal and be driven at the same time
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Or is it only, you can be driven because you're masking the pain and the suffering and you're not actually addressing it. Is it possible to do both, be driven in the darkness?
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Instead of taking it one day at a time, what should we do?
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No one fully understands your life experiences. They might be able to relate to some things, but they don't fully understand and comprehend everything.
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Right, exactly.
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I really think this is going to help you transform your relationship with money and this moment moving forward. We have some big guests and content coming up. Make sure you're following and stay tuned to this episode on the School of Greatness. Do you think anyone can have a beautiful, amazing life if they live in a blaming mindset?
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Well, it's interesting you say that, because I've got an emotional coach that I work with, I was telling you about, pretty much every two weeks. She says like, healing is a journey. It's not like a destination where you're like, okay, now I'm healed. It's okay, now I've come to an awareness about the things. Now I've started processing it. Now I'm integrating the lessons.
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Now, oh, now I went back two steps because I triggered again. Now I reintegrate and I process it some more and time helps, but it may not heal all. You know what I mean? So it's our constant awareness of it. constant grace in the process of being a human being. You know what I mean?
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Yeah, I think it's inspiring when we have the courage to do the next thing and be aware that we're on a healing journey. I'm never gonna be fully healed, but I'm in the process of it. I'm working on it, I'm doing this and I'm gonna do it anyways.
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Yeah, exactly.
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that's why i think it's really cool because in this off season that you're having in this last year you're filling up your cup of your health and wellness you're filling up your relationship cups you're filling up your adventure and travel cups you know your relaxation cup you're filling those up but you're emptying your cup of career and success and this to see the space of what can come in next that's right to see where you can grow into next yeah
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So I think it's a great analogy is like, you know, fill your fill another cup, you know? Yeah. But that cup, you got to empty it out. Yeah, exactly.
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But you look like you're in your best health and wellness phase of your, you know, since I've known you. Not that you were not in great shape before or emotionally in a good place, but you feel energetically peaceful. I see you training. I see you like getting healthy in even better ways.
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I see you with photos with your daughter and things like this and just like enjoying life together, traveling and bringing her in your life more and those trips. I'm sure you did that before too. And so you're able to experience things in a different way to allow for things to open up, which I think is great.
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You worked out in a different country.
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That's pretty cool.
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That's awesome.
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That's cool.
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You spent 20 years building your career and you're, you know, stacking your income and saving and investing so that you have the opportunity after 20 years to do that.
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And enjoy it.
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And have an urgency around it.
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So there's this, you know, I love your story about you were satisfied at 20 something years old in the back of the, you know, the cab or the black car, and you're satisfied now.
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And I think a lot of people hear this concept of never be satisfied, but we were just talking about how, you know, be satisfied with where you are, but also be striving for your purpose, your mission and stepping into that. And what are your thoughts on the idea of never be satisfied?
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Be satisfied even if you're just starting out as an assistant getting coffee, if you're the CEO, if you're anywhere in between, if you're in an off season.
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Yeah, it's okay. I'm a big fan of the title of the book, The Urgent Life. And when I saw this, I was just thinking to myself, yes, right away, because we have like similar, completely different experiences, but similar feelings probably from experiences we've had. So my father got in an accident. He had a traumatic brain injury and was in a coma for three months when I was 21.
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What would steps two and three be for setting people up for their ultimate life? What would that beginning process? Is it get clear on a goal? Is it start with motivation, start with discipline, like change your habits? What would the next couple steps be to set up the mindset for success?
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And I remember, we didn't know if he was gonna live or die, but he eventually woke up after three months. and he was a completely different person. Like he was physically alive, but emotionally and mentally kind of gone. It took him a while to like learn how to talk again. He wasn't able to work anymore. He had amnesia. So when I'd see him, he'd be like, what's your name again?
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It was just a different type of relationship, right? I had to learn to love my father for who he was and start to grieve the man that he once was before, right? And I remember thinking he was in his early 50s when this happened. He had worked so hard for 30 years as a life insurance salesman where he finally was starting to make money where he could travel and have some freedom in his life.
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And he was starting to feel like he was happy for the first time, fully happy. And then this accident happened. And I remember being really angry at life that my dad didn't get to go live the rest of his life the way he wanted to. And I felt like I had so much urgency to go pursue everything I wanted. Like from that moment on. I was like, I'm not gonna let any fear or insecurity hold me back.
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It might still be there, but I'm at least gonna take the actions on my goals, my dreams and live urgently because what if this happens to me? What if I get in a car accident tomorrow? And something like that happens to me, I'd be sad that I didn't at least go try.
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And this, you know, again, completely different experience you had, but it created a feeling of urgency in your life with your ex husband. Right.
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And which was almost ten years ago.
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And can you explain the story about what had happened with your husband around wanting to get divorced and then cancer situation and how this how being at a very dark, sad, challenging time, sad time, wanted you to create urgency at the same time and live into your best self during sadness.
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Is that what he was saying?
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You know, you think that like- Unmet expectations, everything, yeah.
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Love is not enough.
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What were you motivated by before then?
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You know? Moments of that might happen.
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The majority of the time it's probably like cleaning diapers and feeding and pumping and all the things that moms have to do.
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Wow. What was the biggest lesson during that time you feel like you learned about his regrets, about him not doing the things that he wanted to do? What opened up for you during that time that shifted, if anything did shift for you?
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Like just scheduling it in the calendar.
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Interesting.
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Right. It doesn't make sense logically.
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Allow wonder and synchronicity to enter your life.
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And what would have happened if you would have listened to everyone else's fears and not made the jump?
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What are the three biggest reasons why people fail in a relationship? Why they end up getting divorced, end up getting separated, breaking up? Why do you think the... What are those three things that cause that?
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Do you think women really think that way when they see a guy who maybe is of hypothetical less quality or seeming less quality than the woman that they're with, that they start to be more attracted to that guy?
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It seems like women don't have ethics or don't have integrity as opposed to saying, hey, I appreciate and I'm happy for you too. Why is it that some women want to get in there and try to, quote unquote, steal the man or influence the man to stray?
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leaves the person he's with for you, is that woman then going to be confident that he wouldn't do it again?
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You talked about attraction and sorry to get you off track. You talked about attraction. What do you think is more important, sexual attraction or spiritual attraction for a woman?
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Wow, what would you say for any guy listening or watching if they wanted to attract the woman of their dreams or essentially any woman that they really desired, if they wanted to attract that, who would they need to become in order to set themselves up to attract an incredible, lifelong, loving partner who gave them a fulfilling, joyful life?
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What if there's a man who is extremely masculine but lacks confidence? What type of partner does he attract typically?
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that's kind of like the safe man, right? So the safe man is not always the right man is what I think I heard you say, right? Typically, but doesn't a woman want to feel safe in an environment with their man?
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But essentially, it sounds like that's a space where you don't have to fully open up and be vulnerable. It's a space where you probably know you're in control, where you're probably have more value to offer. This person is desiring you way more than you desire them.
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the person I've chosen really doesn't step into his confidence or his masculine energy. He'll do anything I want him to do at all times. He stops his dreams from my dreams, whatever it is. What is typically, the women you've worked with, what do they say about that? What do they feel about that? And what is their struggle? Is it they want to leave? Is it they just feel bad?
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They don't feel the connection anymore? What is it that they feel?
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There's drama and stress. Yeah. So, what I heard you say for a man to attract the you know,
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joyful loving partner that they really desire and have someone that they really are inspired by for you know a long term I'm hearing you say that that man needs to step into their self-esteem their confidence and their their masculinity yeah you gotta step into that leadership masculinity quality right yeah that essence if a woman really wants to attract the right healthy man someone that is
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safe in terms of they can trust, but where they have to fully, they have to feel a little vulnerable to really dive in and they really care about this man in a big way. What does a woman need to do in order to attract that ideal partner for themselves?
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I really think this is gonna help you transform your relationship with money this moment moving forward. We have some big guests and content coming up. Make sure you're following and stay tuned to the next episode on the School of Greatness. I hope you enjoyed today's episode and it inspired you on your journey towards greatness.
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I've heard you talk about a concept I want to share in a second. But I feel like there's a group of people we've been talking to, you've been talking to that are the people that have maybe don't have the opportunities they want, they don't have a life they want, they feel like people are holding them down. That's one group.
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Then there's another group of people, which I feel like is a majority of people that have a good life. It's okay, it's good, but they're not living a great life for themselves. Maybe they got a good job and they're pretty healthy, got a decent relationship, but there's something missing.
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I think if that resonates with anyone listening or watching, comment below or leave a like if you feel like, yeah, my life is good, but I feel like something's off. You have this great concept called creating a mental rock bottom to push yourself towards your goals.
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Can you share more about kind of some practical steps of creating your own mental rock bottom so that you can go to the next level in your life?
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Welcome to this special masterclass. We've brought some of the top experts in the world to help you unlock the power of your life through this specific theme today. It's going to be powerful, so let's go ahead and dive in. What do most people misunderstand about success in general? You're around the most successful people, you train them. What do people misunderstand about success?
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What does that mean?
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All of it. All of it. Wow. What was the three greatest lessons that Kobe taught you? We heard competing, accountability, and winning at all levels. For Michael, what about Kobe? The three big lessons he taught you.
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What is the mindset of winning? They both had that. Obviously, they both had a lot of things. But what is the mindset of winning? When someone adopts that mentality, what does that do for them? As opposed to the mindset of, well, whatever result I get is fine, or it's okay if I have this, and I'm okay with that.
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Yeah. The hardest thing is doing it over and over. It's not easy to win. Right. But it's easy to win and then never win again. I mean, it's so hard to do it over and over consistently. And then there's people that win at winning. They win at winning. Yes.
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For decades, he's been doing this.
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Yeah, or weeks.
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So you put more pressure on yourself.
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Do you feel like people are going to be struggling with overcoming these fears more because of the internet and social media? Or how can they continue to navigate that fear of the tribe in person, not just online?
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I mean, since starting this, it's been over eight years, but the journey before then, it was, you know, decades to build myself, to prepare myself for this. And now I feel like I'm just getting started. Right, exactly.
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right and that's not absolutely yeah yeah what about the just the the anxiety of putting yourself out there whether it be going into a store and just interacting with people whether it be going giving a speech online putting up you know something human interaction in person and feeling embarrassed or rejected or made fun of yeah how do we learn to overcome that anxiety or stress about it
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Is it as simple as just you gotta practice it and just know that you're alive?
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Not being embarrassed.
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I'm all about social, like, creating social challenges for yourself.
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Right, right. But do something consistently.
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Checking you out.
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Absolutely. This is something you've been studying for, I guess, decades now, which is just mastering confidence, body language, overcoming these challenges. What's been the biggest challenge for you in the last 10 years that you've had to overcome knowing the research and practicing these things and talking about these things yourself? what's been the challenge for you?
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Whether career or personal or?
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Full time.
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Even though it was a popular, well-respected TED Talk.
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But because she had some success.
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Were you able to... implement and integrate some of your own practices and teachings when those things happen to you? When you were getting, whether it be criticism or bullying or any of the stuff you were facing, were you able to actually integrate the body language for yourself?
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Should we frequently be in an expansive postural state when we're kind of nine to five-ish out in the world doing our activities?
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I think Ted Lasso was saying she goes to the bathroom and does that, right?
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I was like, oh, my God. Well, it's so cool that you, Brene Brown, and Esther Perel, who I've had both of them on as well, were all featured in there. And I'm just like, that's amazing.
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It's the obstacles. You know, Ryan Holiday says the obstacle is the way. Do you think that anyone can become a winner? Your book is about winning the unforgiving race to greatness. Do you think anyone can become a winner?
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We're talking to ourselves, though.
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And it's probably, you know, even if you were doing a meditative breathing technique, if you're closing your body off and breathing, you're still probably limiting yourself. So you can be breathing and trying to relax the nervous system, but you're closing your body off, it's hard to feel like more alive and confident and calm, I'm assuming, right?
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How long should we be in an expansive postural states for?
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Yeah, the tighter you are, the probably less likely that you're gonna perform relaxed. And in football training before games and in practices, they would always tell us to be loose, to move our body, to be flexible, to be expansive, but in a loose state of mind and a loose body, not like rigid or you can't catch the ball if you're like too tight.
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So it's how can you be expansive, confident, and relaxed at the same time. And practicing that in life with the power poses, I think is great. And Ted Lasso, she did it great. She was like a monster pose or something.
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It's amazing.
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She was great. She was great. Was there ever a time where you didn't implement this strategy and you realized, oh, I could have done better had I done this, but I just thought I'd had to figure it out?
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What makes you nervous?
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What does it look like?
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I don't- Isn't that interesting, like five or 10 people, I feel the same way.
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Final question is what's your definition of greatness?
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Why is it so hard for us to get started once we know, okay, now it's time to make the change, but it's still hard to actually get started in doing that. What holds us back from that starting step?
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Birthday, New Year's. Yeah.
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An anniversary, a graduation.
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A new city. Yeah.
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Right. It's easy to procrastinate or kind of feel lazy, which is part of your process as well. It's easy to feel that when things are okay. And when things are like good, but they're not like, it's not a big enough pain for you to be like, I need the motive. Now I have motivation to make a change.
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Do we need a bigger pain or is it possible to create exponential change or transformation when things are okay or really good in your thought?
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For those who don't know, what does that mean for those who don't?
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Academic world.
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We trust you.
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Identity is something that is interesting to me. How important is the way we shape our own identity or view our identity in terms of where we are to where we will be. Like if we stay stuck in old identities, how do we shed identities? How do we create a new identity even though we've never actually lived it? Will that help us get there?
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Can you share more just about identity in general on how it hurts us or helps us?
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Sounds like a freaking Amish show.
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You're burning a thousand calories or you're getting whatever, like you're...
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So if belief supports you getting those results you want or making the transformation or the change you want, how would you suggest that we learn to believe in ourselves more from a scientific point of view?
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Like what's the data suggest on, okay, if you say these affirmations, if you look in the mirror and do this exercise, if you just smile at people and you'll create more reflection of joy, like what is the thing that you've seen in data that helps increase belief in oneself?
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Really?
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Really? I think this is true, and I also love the examples of...
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some of the great athletes who've accomplished so much that were doubted over and over growing up and kind of have this chip on their shoulder, like no one believed in them and they said, I'm gonna go prove them wrong type of mentality, which I think can get you extremely far in terms of success and results, but never feeling this fulfillment inside.
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It's not the best environment.
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So you think surrounding yourself with the right people, the right environment of people, the right community, what should those people be like? What should their attitude, their energy, their communication style be like with you? If people were reflecting on their five to 10 people in their inner circle, what should they reflect on?
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They should have these qualities, they should say these things, or here's some red flags. If your best friend tells you you shouldn't do this, or your best friend says, eh, I don't think you look good doing it, whatever it is, what are those flags and what are those, I guess, positive signs?
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So he's good at instilling belief in other people.
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Confidence, belief.
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And actually, literally... How would you coach someone else?
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He more facilitated the experience for you to learn and create the answer within yourself, I guess, by helping others.
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What would you say are the top three or five things that a coach can do to instill belief in someone else that you witnessed from him or that you've also seen with your peer group?
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Positive feedback, social structure, supporting the team.
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I think you, yeah, you said he believed in you. He treated you like family, mentoring circles. Yeah.
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And now it's time to go out there and do something great.
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So how do we learn how to not let the doubt stay in us? How do we remove it? How do we turn doubt into fear and action towards greatness as opposed to staying in it?
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Is that the only way to get rid of doubt, you think, is by working, obsessing over something and proving something so you don't doubt?
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And here's what I'll say around that. I think that's beautifully said because most of my life until I was about 30, I was living to prove others wrong. Yes. And it was the second most powerful fuel and energy that I think humans have is like, I'm angry, I'm hurt, I'm frustrated. I'm going to go prove these people wrong about me.
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And it drove me to be obsessed around winning, around achieving, around accomplishing my goals. And I did, I accomplished them. But it left me feeling very unfulfilled, lonely, insecure, doubting myself even more. Why am I not feeling what I wanna feel? Why am I not still getting what I want inside because I was driven by the wrong things to prove other people doubting me wrong.
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And you hear that a lot by like, people will say, prove them wrong. But I think it's prove yourself right. Prove yourself right. And like you said, I love that you're saying this because you'll prove others wrong by proving yourself right. So you don't need to go prove them wrong. Just do your best.
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Yeah.
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And you don't need to say, I told you so.
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So when doubt creeps in and we start to believe the doubt.
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go back into proving yourself right, go back into obsessing over the craft, doing it for the right reasons, not to prove others wrong, not to look good in front of a crowd or whatever, but doing it because you love the art of it, the expression of it, the creation of it, the vision of the thing you want to work on, not to validate something that's lacking, right?
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Speaking of one-on-one, how many times did you get to play one-on-one against MJ or Kobe? Often it never turned out well. Did you ever score a point against either of them?
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Really? What was that?
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Or when you got the ball and he was just swatted away.
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Speak the poison out of your body. Get it out, talk about it. It becomes less scary. It doesn't have as much power over you if it's inside.
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A lot of women love being posted on Instagram. Why is that?
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What is the biggest risk of a woman wanting their man to post about them consistently on Instagram?
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If there's a woman coming to you asking for advice, saying, you know, I've been in a relationship for six months with this guy, and he hasn't posted about me yet on social media, on Instagram, and I really want him to, what should I say to get him to post about me? Or how can I do it to get him to post about me? What advice would you give that woman about this conversation?
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Yeah, and just because someone looks good on paper doesn't mean they're good for you.
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You said one of the things is poor conflict resolution is one of the things that causes people to break up. You added to that as well, Matthew. Why do you think people struggle with emotional regulation, not just in life, but even heightened more in relationships? And how can someone learn to regulate their emotions in a relationship where
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if they've been so used to reacting in fight or flight mode for so long? What do you think is a process they can start? I'll have you start and then we'll have you add to Asadio.
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Why do we select that person more?
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What is this quote? I'm sure you both have heard this. If they can't accept me at my worst, they don't deserve me at my best. What do you guys think about that saying in relationships?
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So I can't emotionally punch on them all day long and then say, well, you have to deal with my emotions.
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Yeah, you should be able to... I mean, you're worst as a child. I'm assuming you're going to scream and throw tantrums constantly. But then hopefully you learn how to develop your emotions and navigate your emotions so that you can be frustrated or have a breakdown, but not... trash on someone. Yeah, not punish someone. Not punish someone and say, you're doing this to me, right?
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It's like learning how to, you know, maybe you need to step away or maybe you're going to get loud for a moment, but you're not going to attack someone.
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Why is it so hard to leave a relationship when... after many years, when someone treats you poorly or they have dysregulation frequently, let's call it on a weekly basis or every other day, it seems like dysregulation or this type of emotional, I don't know if you wanna call it abuse or- Rollercoaster. Rollercoaster emotions, lack of respect. Why would you say, Matthew,
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Um, it's so hard to leave a relationship The relationship is failing. It's not healthy, but people tend to stay uh in your Work that you do with a lot of women Why do women stay so long? Maybe there's kids or not kids involved, but why do women stay? And how can they start to shift to make it healthier or get out of it in a healthy way?
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Why does it seem like it's easier as a girlfriend or a guy friend of a person in a struggling relationship? Why is it easy for them to see, man, this has been two years you've been in this pattern, this loop of up and down emotional rollercoaster that doesn't seem healthy, when it's so hard for the person in the relationship to, Thank you.
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I really think this is going to help you transform your relationship with money This moment moving forward. We have some big guests and content coming up. Make sure you're following and stay tuned to this episode on the School of Greatness. a lot of the things you've done in reality TV, right?
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Good laughter? Yes. Yeah. So it's having the community with flexibility. Yes. Where it's not like you have to do what I tell you to do or otherwise we're not going to love it.
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Sure. And what about the single people who have maybe struggled in previous relationships or who maybe took time for themselves, but now they want to attract and create a healthy relationship? How can they do the work for themselves so that they can really see when a person is in front of them that, oh, this is a healthy human being. Let me explore this and not just get into old similar patterns.
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Fundamental what? Attribution error. Fundamental attribution error.
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That's beautiful. This is why me and Martha have one of the electronic robo cat cleaning litters. So no one has to clean the litter, yeah. It self-cleans, it's amazing.
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The cat robot, you guys know what I'm talking about. You guys got one? Yeah, those are good, right? No one's got to clean it, it's self-cleaning. They don't have that for dogs. You just gotta walk them still, you know, so. I wanna ask you a, we got a few minutes left with Esther, and I wanna ask you a personal question. I always like to do this with you.
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We'll see if you wanna receive it or not, but you've done a lot of work coaching others for a long time. And you've got amazing podcasts. Your podcast, Where Should We Begin, is incredible. I don't know if anyone's ever heard this. Where Should We Begin is incredible. You've got amazing books, which we have your books out in the bookstore.
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If people haven't gotten them yet, we've got your books here. You've got this game that'll help you. Where Should We Begin? Anyone have this yet? This Where Should We Begin? This is an amazing game of stories by Esther Perel where you can really connect with your partner on ideas and things like that. You've got an eroticism course as well.
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We'll have a link for you guys. We'll show you that in a second. For anyone that wants to be more sexually connected in that playful way, you'll be able to tap into that. But I'm curious, with all the research and all the work you've done to help others, what in the last five years have you received for yourself or had to overcome personally in intimacy, relationships?
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Again, you help and serve so many people, but sometimes as the coach, You don't get the opportunity to always self-reflect and get coached and work through things personally. I'm curious, is there anything in the last five years that you've seen a breakthrough personally with your life?
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You don't gingerly do the eroticism with asking for help.
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You're like, give me the help, let's go.
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Wow, that's beautiful. And what has been the breakthrough of the lesson for you two and a half years later now?
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Wow. That's a beautiful experience. I'm so glad you shared that. Thank you for sharing that.
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Part of me, I'm just trying to be present with the whole experience, part of me I've discovered That the part of me I've discovered that I knew it didn't exist.
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And I think it's been a journey of receiving it. Thank you. But I feel like For most of my life, and I don't know if anyone can relate, it was about, I felt loved by people, but I also, I think the traumas outweighed the memories of the love. So the traumas were bigger memories of fear, anxiety, and pain, and like, you know, Dan, you're safe, you're loved, you're free.
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And it's not like there was one person or people, it was just a series of events over time of all the different series of events. Sexual abuse is one of the first memories I have as a human being. And again, that kind of imprints you until you reprogram it, until you create new meaning with it and allow it to – and say, how can I use this for good, right? And how can I – this doesn't define me.
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It's a thing that happened, and I feel at peace about it. But as a child, you know, that was there. You know, my parents had their struggles. They just really – Struggled my dad was a difficult human being as much as I loved him He was very difficult and emotionally up and down so there was not emotional stability from him so therefore there was challenge with them and
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And my brother was in prison for four and a half years when I was eight years old. So there was just shame and trauma within the family dynamic that, oh, my older brother, who's my hero, is in prison. I love him. Is he a bad guy? Is he a good guy? I feel like he's a good guy. Why is he here?
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Every weekend we would go for hours in the visiting room and be around 20, 30 convicts and their families every week for four and a half years. And so there's traumas there. It's just the picking on, the bullying, the being dyslexic, not being able to read, unable to speak in front of an audience without being terrified. Just all the series of events, I focused more on the traumas than the love.
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There was a lot of love, but I couldn't feel them. And so learning how to regulate my nervous system and my heart and my body and learn how to breathe with all of it, the chaos of the world, relationship challenges from the past, and learning how to say, oh, I am safe no matter what's happening around me. Whether I'm going through a disagreement, it doesn't mean my life is at risk.
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Whether someone doesn't like me, it doesn't mean I have to give in to what they're requesting. You know? If I don't feel good right now, that's okay. I know I can transform it and feel good tomorrow. So learning the skills, learning the tools, and doing the deeper healing work has allowed me to feel loved.
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And really I think one of the biggest fears was I lacked the courage to end relationships so I would stay for way longer than I knew intuitively I shouldn't be in this. But I was afraid to be alone. I didn't know how to fully be alone and love myself alone. And I really learned how to do that to where I don't feel like I have to give in to anyone.
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I'm like, I love myself if I'm alone and I know that God will provide me in the right direction with what I need. It's not what I want, but I know I'll be provided that. And having that... Having that clarity and that inner peace of I'm going to be okay no matter what happens lets me be free to be me and feel loved. I can give myself love and I can receive it from others also.
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Even if I'm not getting it from others in a moment, if I need it, I know how to give it to me. in a, you know, in a spiritual way, not like a selfish, oh, I'm loving myself way. And so I think learning that process while healing and creating meaning from all these memories of the past, it just gives me a lot of peace and freedom. And I never had that until really the last four years, so.
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Yeah, of course, thank you. Thank you.
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I really love hearing feedback from you and it helps us figure out how we can support and serve you moving forward. And I want to remind you if no one has told you lately that you are loved, you are worthy, and you matter. And now it's time to go out there and do something great.
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Bachelorette, Bachelor, now your podcast is a top podcast, really sharing like modern dating wisdom from the mistakes you've made and the lessons you've learned and all this different stuff. If you could go back to, you know, 20-year-old you, when you were a star track athlete in college and high school and things like that, and you could give him three pieces of advice. That's a great question.
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I'm curious, what would you say are a few key things that anyone going through a horrible breakup can do to overcome that with more grace?
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on how to really become a great man and to attract a great partner for yourself, what would you say to him with that advice?
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What would you say to yourself when you were like eight months in deep, when you're like, I can't control my feelings and I'll never get over this and no one understands me? If you were coaching yourself, what would you say?
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What's the best relationship advice you've ever received?
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What's your thoughts on if people should be public with their relationship or they should be posting that they're getting in a relationship with this person and all the date nights they're doing and all the conversations they're having and should they be doing it on TV and doing it on social media? Do you think that creates a healthy long-term relationship or is that setting up a disaster?
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There are two big things happening at one time that I've never done before. I'm going on a book tour for my new book, Make Money Easy, and I'm doing a podcast tour at the same time. It is going to be big, and I'm going to seven cities in 10 days. Get your friends, get your family, bring everyone you know to these cities. I'm coming to Austin, Texas, New York, Boston, We're going to Nashville.
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Or you tell you to work harder or whatever it might be.
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Oh, yeah. You tell shame and guilt.
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On a scale of 1 to 10, in terms of a parent-child relationship that you had, or even marriage relationship, 10 being the ultimate level of control, wanting to control either your kids or your partner, where were you on that scale?
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Is it like not accepting your kids to be themselves, or they want to do something and you say, no, you can't do that, or here's what you need to do, or how does that look?
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Because you've got to discipline kids, too.
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They haven't been taught it either.
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But if someone is treating you poorly or disrespecting you or has a lack of manners and just decency in life, not saying they're stealing 100 grand from you, not saying they're cheating on you.
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It is. Other things that are like, that doesn't feel good. Yeah. How do you let them, but then also create a boundary with them or communicate to them, hey, this doesn't work for me anymore. I'm going to let you do this, but also this doesn't work in this relationship for me. Correct. How can we do that in a way- You just explained it.
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That is not angry and mean towards them or reacting emotionally. You're just creating a healthy, conscious communication.
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that sounds like part two where you're letting me you're taking your power back and you're saying now i want to communicate how you can treat me yes like these behaviors don't work right if you want to do that i'm going to let you do it but not with me bingo right see here's the thing who is the power in a narcissistic relationship i guess the narcissist if the other person's allowing it to happen
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And there's a moment of like some goodness or something happening.
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You want that to happen all the time.
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Well, I once heard someone say that if you're not changing it, you're choosing it. If you're not changing the situation or changing your relationship within the situation or changing your environment, you're choosing that environment, you're choosing that relationship, you're choosing that job, whatever it might be.
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And you can speak up and you can communicate, hey, this is something that I would like to create within this relationship, within this career, within this job. AND I'M NOT HAPPY WITH MY CURRENT SITUATION OR THIS IS WHAT'S WORKING FOR ME BUT THIS ISN'T WORKING FOR ME, HOW CAN WE EVOLVE THIS RELATIONSHIP? SO I THINK YOU SHOULD HAVE THE CONVERSATIONS.
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DON'T JUST SAY SCREW THIS PERSON AND I'M GONE. communicating with courage, with consciousness of like, here's what I do appreciate about you. Here's all the good that is happening. And here's some things that I would like to improve on. Can we improve in this situation, in my relationship or my career or whatever it might be, our friendship? If not, okay, it's information.
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Maybe I'll stay as invested with you. Maybe I won't. Correct. Maybe I'll stay in this job. Maybe I'll look for a new job and try to find some other situation. But if you're not changing it, you're choosing it. Yes. Yes. And when you're choosing it, you've got to accept it. If you don't accept it, you've got to start having a conscious conversation to change.
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Clean. Organized. No, I know, because this is my bathroom. I'm clean, you're organized. And when Martha puts something on, I'm like, you have a whole other separate counter. We're not sharing a counter. We have two sinks for a reason. And yours is three times the size of mine for a reason. You don't have to put your brush on my side. I like it clean.
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What if there's an example of like, okay, someone in your company steals $100,000 from you or takes something from you or does something that you're like, do I just let it go?
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Yeah, if you scream at someone or scold them or shame them, you're not going to get a good response. Correct. But if you sit down consciously when things are calm, not in that moment, but just say, hey, in a loving way, I love you. I appreciate you. I appreciate all the good that you do for us and our relationship. We have a beautiful home. We have three amazing children.
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Yeah, exactly. And there's just one thing that I would love to create an agreement with.
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Can we create this agreement together?
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And what support would you need in order for us to have this agreement work?
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Do I just let them take whatever they want? Do I just let them crap all over me all day long?
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Let them and then what?
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Because if he sits you down and says, this really matters to me. Cardboard boxes. But it's more about feeling disrespected.
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Choose what?
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Or they say they will, but then they don't.
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But also people could say, well, he could also just look at it and say, don't take it personally and just, who cares? Accept that there you are. She's not going to do the boxes and just let it go. It doesn't matter.
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Yeah, of course. You get a little drip of dopamine every once in a while. You're like, oh, I wish I could get that more frequently.
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What is that like psychologically when you're like, okay, I just ate too much or I just want to look skinnier and need to lose weight, but I'm numbing myself by eating because I am protecting myself. I feel ashamed of past or I feel whatever. I'm anxious, so I'm numbing myself by eating. But now I feel shameful and guilty that I ate, so I need to purge it.
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Really? But you were looked good on the outside.
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But you're good at hiding it, though, right? You're going to be like, very good. It's noon the next day. I'm put together. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. Fine. I'm happy. Yes.
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So you're in your mid twenties, you have, I guess, you know, a darkness that continues for months or years until there's a moment where you're like, okay, there's two roads I can take. I've had a few of those moments in my life. So I know that feeling of having to make a decision. And, you know, I grew up when I was eight, my brother went to prison.
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So every weekend for four and a half years, we would go as a family to visit, you know, during visiting hours. And I saw my life starting to go down that as well. When I was 13, I had to make a decision. And I remember saying, do I want to end up in prison? You know, because if I keep doing these things, which were not massive at the time, but will build. It builds. It'll build. And.
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you're going to keep getting in trouble and bad things are going to happen. Bad things are going to happen. And do I want to live that life and deal with that pain and shame? And I just saw what that will, you know, and I saw all the other convicts in the, and I got to know them and the traumas and the pain that they caused their families from bad decisions.
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And it was just like, do I want that or not? And I, and so you had this in your mid twenties, um,
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Well, it doesn't feel safe to be in a safe space because you're not familiar with it. Don't even know what that... So harmony doesn't feel safe.
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Peace doesn't feel safe.
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Because you're like, wait.
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Something's about to happen.
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Where's the chaos?
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You're always looking for it because you're so used to it. It's familiar. So when safe isn't safe and you don't know how to feel calm... In harmony, you're always looking to recreate chaos, whether it be in a relationship or whether it be in your own life or addictions or whatever it might be.
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Isn't that interesting?
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What is the first thought that comes to you on a daily basis when you wake up or on a typical day? Where does that dark thought go to?
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So when you started, you know, kind of waking up from doing destructive things into creating a more healthy lifestyle for yourself 15, 17 years ago. Yeah. And you went down that journey and you started these healthy practices. You said, okay, I'm going to reach out for support. I'm going to find a therapist, even though I'm still lying to my therapist.
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I'm doing the steps, though, and I'm, like, in the work. And then what else did you start doing to develop a healthy practice for yourself? Yes. Were you still nightclubs and, you know, modeling and doing these things that weren't supporting you? Or were you removing yourself as well from environments?
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It's exhausting.
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Did you feel like you were getting results? When you looked in the mirror, were you like, oh, this is working though? Or were you like, I'm still not getting the results I want?
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You didn't feel healthy.
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How old are you now? Roughly.
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So you started meditating.
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Wow. How much on a scale of one to 10 before this, What was your self-love scale? Ten being like you really loved yourself from an authentic, conscious place. One being you hated yourself. Like where were you on that scale?
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You were out of alignment with yourself.
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The thing that I'm hearing you say, which I really love is that when you started to, it sounds like your seven year old self was screaming at you during your adult life, when you were doing things out of alignment with what she wanted, right? When you weren't protecting her, when you weren't showing up for her, she was screaming at you in different ways. She was like,
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You know, the acne was coming out. You're, you know, going, you're going against your body by by binge eating or binge drinking or, you know, late nights, all these different things. And she didn't feel safe with you as an adult trying to take care of her because you weren't taking care of her. And so she felt unsafe. Right. And when and when you treat your inner child poorly as an adult,
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bad things happen in your life. Or you don't feel good, right? And you're not attracting abundance. You're not setting yourself up to be able to manifest your vision. You're not bringing the right relationships in your life necessarily. And things feel off. You feel out of alignment because you're not taking care of the inner being inside of you that needs cared for.
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And what it sounds like, I'm hearing you say, is when you said, okay, these two paths I can take, continued destruction or, you know, reconnecting to self and doing better choices. That's when when you started and you started to really be present with yourself and take time to listen to the still small voice, which is God, I think, and also your inner child.
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It's almost like the voices of both combining and saying, what does the inner child need and what is God directing me to do?
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And when you are able to meditate for a minute or 20 minutes a day, or however long you do on a daily basis, you can hear the decisions you need to take today. And you can be guided on what you need to do in the next step. Even though you don't know what's to come, or you feel, I'm uncertain, or what's the future going to bring?
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when you can listen to yourself and where you're guided, you can take action on what is needed today. And it sounds like you've been doing that for now 10, 15 years. And by doing so and continuing to be in alignment with your intuition, by serving your inner child and by serving the higher power for yourself, abundance and manifestation becomes easy, easier.
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And you just said, like, I didn't even have 10,000 followers. I just started taking these actions and doing what felt right to me and being consistent for 10, 15 years. And because of that consistent action, integrated, authentic actions, it's like manifesting everything. I'm on the cover of these magazines and this is growing and audiences and wow, these things are just happening for me. Right.
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But if you were going down destructive paths, this wouldn't be happening.
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You're like my team when they're watching.
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What do you mean? Like you're not taking on new projects? You're not like launching new stuff or what?
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Yeah, and trusting the timing of things.
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You know, I tell my fiance, Martha. I love her. She's always like, I wish we would have met like 10 years ago. Like we would have had such a life. Like our life would have been so much better and we wouldn't have been through so much pain and relationship breakups and stuff like that. And I'm like, I wouldn't have looked at you the same way 10 years ago because I wasn't ready for you.
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I wasn't ready to be in a loving, peaceful relationship. Like I wasn't ready. I would have been like, oh, you're like an attractive, like beautiful girl who's really talented, but you don't have enough wounds for me. You know, it's like, you're not a something, you're not a project I need to like help out or something, right? And I wasn't attracted to that. I wasn't attracted to peace.
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So I would have created, you know, I would have hurt you probably. You know, I'd have probably done something wrong or I'd have been like, you know, whatever. I just wouldn't have been ready.
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And I needed to go through my own healing journey to feel ready for peace because I didn't have peace inside of me still. And so I needed to be peace before I could have peace in my environment. And she's like, oh, that makes sense. But timing is everything.
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And, you know, until sometimes we have breakdowns, unfortunately, like you had a big breakdown when you're in your mid-20s, then you were ready for a breakthrough, right? And unfortunately, it wasn't sooner. You know, we all wish it was like we had peace and less pain and sadness and things we did poorly sooner. But time is everything when you can trust in a higher power. So do you believe in God?
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Yeah. And – Where was your life when you weren't believing in a higher power versus where you do now?
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Never good enough, right?
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You're in a room and they're, like, fitting, like, the jeans and the shirts to you and all that stuff.
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So you don't have to, like, be on for photography to, like, be in the world stage. It's actually... Not like runway modeling. You're just like, I get to hang out and the designers are just, like, fitting to me.
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And I'm getting good money.
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We need to invest in it.
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Live off this.
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What was missing?
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For moms or women who want to be moms, but also want to have their careers or have a dream that they want to pursue their art or their music or whatever it might be, what do you say to them before they become a mom? It's got to be one of the hardest things, to be a mom full time and then have the energy and the thought capacity to create beyond being a mom.
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And just life experience in general.
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But how do you have the energy and the capacity to create? You might have ideas and it might flow when you have energy and time, but when you're a full-time mom and even if your kids are in school or you have daycare or nanny support every now and then, or babysitters for a few hours a day, you're still thinking about your kids all day long.
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Your body's still responding to healing after the first few years. You're still... need energy you're well you're up all night because your child what's the better they sleep with you and they're kicking you all night whatever it is it's beautiful but it's also challenging yeah like how do you have energy during the day to be a full-time mom a full-time creator and and
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bringing the money to support the family.
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But for women that just want to generate money, they want to make money also as well as being moms.
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But this is a season of life.
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You're all in.
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What do you think is the difference between putting all the weight and pressure on you to do a good job and perform versus allowing God in your life to deliver?
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When did you start this practice of giving it up to God?
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A couple years ago?
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Did you have a relationship to God before then?
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What is the number one thing you hear from everyone in the world that only you have a unique perspective on?
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What were you afraid of?
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Yeah, I do. I didn't always, though. I mean, growing up, I felt very insecure. Me too. Very alone.
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I used to go to the principal's office all the time in elementary school and just say, I wish I were dead. I wish I were dead over and over again because I felt like no one cared. Obviously, my parents were there for me.
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Obviously, like, you know, my siblings. But it's just, you know, I just felt alone. And it didn't probably matter how much someone loved me. I didn't know how to receive the love probably also. Exactly. And so for years, it wasn't until maybe 10, 11 years ago when I started my healing journey where I felt a deeper sense of love for self and love for God.
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you for sharing that of course yeah but it's i know that it's challenging i know the feeling and so everything for me was driving you know i can relate to you because i was driven for so long to succeed to feel loved and accepted exactly but then it never felt like enough it never felt like oh i'm not getting what i truly want so let me go get more right and keep accomplishing exactly and things started to shift for me 10 years ago where i said um
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I want to create my life based on a vision that I have to serve people. Yes. And... If I have a dream to write a book or something else and I can still go for goals, but it needs to be in the service of others.
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So when you're on your knees screaming mercy at 2 a.m. in the back of your house.
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I'm curious, like, did you feel a connection to God then?
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Was it like the first time you really felt a connection? And if so, what did you hear or experience or notice?
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Like the words are coming to you.
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A musical orgasm.
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You created freedom.
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Right, right.
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But you played it live or you recorded it live?
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I don't know if you like recorded on your iPhone real quick.
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Do you think we have to suffer to create something great?
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Sometimes you hear people saying they create like a love song out of just like, yeah, I love beauty.
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The Beatles seem to create stuff.
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That moment created a song though.
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Interesting. Wow. Okay. So since that happened, you feel like you've had a different relationship to God?
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And what is that relationship now, two years later?
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So you feel like you have a direct channel to God. You don't have to go to someone else.
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Well, she's asked me to write one.
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Why aren't you doing it?
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I didn't turn it down. I said, yes, I'll do it.
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I saw yours. I saw the newsletter that she sent out with yours. Really powerful.
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Right, exactly. You shared it, you put it out there.
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I have it in my inbox for me to do. I've just been traveling.
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I have a brand new book called Make Money Easy. And if you are looking to create more financial freedom in your life, you want abundance in your life, and you want to stop making money hard in your life, but you wanna make it easier, you wanna make it flow, you wanna feel abundant, then make sure to go to makemoneyeasybook.com right now and get yourself a copy.
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I really think this is gonna help you transform your relationship with money this moment moving forward. We have some big guests and content coming up. Make sure you're following and stay tuned to the next episode on the School of Greatness. I hope you enjoyed today's episode and it inspired you on your journey towards greatness.
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Share this with a friend on social media and leave us a review on Apple Podcasts as well. Let me know what you enjoyed about this episode in that review. I really love hearing feedback from you and it helps us figure out how we can support and serve you moving forward. And I want to remind you, if no one has told you lately that you are loved, you are worthy, and you matter.
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And now it's time to go out there and do something great.
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Very cool. So this was kind of an awakening with your son and your daughter.
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When you were able to have this kind of awakening a couple years ago, how much of these things were you doing that were holding you back?
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Why do you think you had anxiety then? Or why do you think anxiety was showing up for you in your life?
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My friend, thank you so much for being here today. And I have a massive announcement, super big, something I've been doing behind the scenes for the last two years, but really it's been 12 years in the making since I started the School of Greatness show. And if you are looking to create a financial freedom in your life,
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And those gifts that I thought were pointless, I didn't even think they were useful. It's everything that I use for the School of Greatness show now, which is one of the biggest shows in the world. But I didn't know how to uncover those gifts. We talk about how to do that to appreciate your value, uncover those hidden gifts so you can earn more.
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Then we talk about something that, man, has changed my life around business and money. And that is how to discover and develop money mentors in your life to help you from... minimizing the risks and the losses around your financial journey and helping you maximize the gains. When I started to learn about money mentors, it changed everything for me.
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One thing a money mentor could say to you could help you earn so much more or help you save from losing a lot as well. We talk about all these principles in the book And I give you the money mentors that I've interviewed in their greatest tips in Make Money Easy as well.
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All the best people that I've interviewed, I got them to mentor me and also I got them to mentor you and I share their best practices in Make Money Easy. We talk about all these things and more because this isn't just another book about finances or investing. That's not what this is about. This is everything you need to own your worth so you can earn more and create the abundance you desire.
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And in this book, you discover the seven money habits to unlock financial peace and freedom. And these seven habits are crucial. Again, 12 years of interviews on the School of Greatness with some of the top leaders in the world, financial experts in the world, money masters. And here are seven habits that you need to unlock to create financial abundance and peace in your life.
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First is the mindset habit. This is key. So many people try to get ahead of the mindset habit, and by doing so, you might make more, but you feel more scarce, you feel more chaotic, you feel more anxious around money. The mindset habit is key and is the first thing that we talk about in Make Money Easy.
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One of the biggest causes of divorce are around money problems. People fight with friends and family around money problems. This is such a big topic. Again, the biggest episodes we do are around money and how to unlock more abundance in your life.
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Then we talk about the mapping habit, how to map your vision for the money you want in your life. We talk about the monetizing habit, how to monetize your skill sets for true abundance. Then we go into the mastermind habit. Man, when I learned this principle, It's almost like I tripled and quadrupled my earnings within six months when I developed and understood the mastermind habit.
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Then we go into the mobility habit. This is really how you scale your wealth to the next level by understanding how to maximize your time and delegating the things that you don't need to do. Then we go into the magnetic habit. Ooh! Life is a game of enrollment, my friend. And there's a powerful question you can ask. What's the chance? What's the chance? What's the chance?
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There's so many things you can do that we talk about in this book to enroll people in your dreams and your goals and in your vision. And that comes with the magnetic habit. Then we've got the mastery habit. The seventh and final habit around this book is mastery. This is going to be powerful.
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And again, if money has been a struggle for you, or if you feel anxious or avoidant or emotionally overwhelmed with your financial situation, now is the time for a change. Now is the time. I want you to feel secure with money. I want you to step into a room and money be right in front of you and you have a beautiful relationship with that person called money.
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I want you to be able to look money in the eyes. I want you to feel relaxed and comfortable, feel expansive. I want you to feel like you have all the skills to be able to have a courageous conversation with money. I want you to feel like, hey, money,
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i'm gonna give you money i'm gonna receive money i'm gonna spend it and feel like it's all good it flows i want you to be like a river of abundance flowing to you and through you money where you can spend it how you choose you can save it you can invest it you can do whatever you want without feeling anxious without feeling avoidant without feeling insecure i want you to feel attached
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with your money relationship. And that's what this book, Make Money Easy, is all about. Because when you focus on who you are and the unique value you bring to the world, your energy and actions will invite more money to you, my friend. That's what this is all about. And you've been blocking your abundance. You've been blocking it.
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Maybe you've been able to get to a certain level, but you've been stuck there. And again, if that's you, if you feel like I haven't been able to break through on the money I've been making, I've been kind of stuck at this level for a few years, and I just feel like I'm not sure of myself on how to get to the next level, then let me know. If you're watching on YouTube, leave a comment below.
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If you feel like you've been blocked and you're not sure what to do, if you're listening on Apple or Spotify or wherever you're listening, let me know, message me over on Instagram or post it on YouTube if you feel blocked by getting to the next level because I want you to feel financially free. By the actions and the energy you show up with, you will start to invite more money to you.
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And I thought to myself a few years ago, after writing The Greatest Mindset, that becoming a big New York Times bestseller, I said, what is the thing that people need the most? I asked you. I did polls. I did questions out on social media to our email list. I said, what is your biggest pain point and problem? And you responded with money. So money it is.
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And if you are ready to live a richer life and create financial peace. Now is the moment and this is your key to unlock the seven money habits to make money easy. And again, I want you to get this book right now. I want you to order this book. I want you to buy this for yourself.
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I want you to buy this for a family member or a friend, someone that you know is maybe blocked by their financial situation right now. Maybe they're struggling. This is the book I wish I had when I was broke and on my sister's couch.
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If someone would have had this book and given it to me, it would have given me so much more peace because I learned how to make money around 25, 26, 27, I started to make money. But man, I had a lot of stress and anxiety around it. And I would stack my money in the bank I would just save it and stack it. And I was afraid to lose any of it.
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I was afraid like if it went down in my bank account, it would mess me up. It was like my mindset was messed up. I had the skills to earn. I didn't have the emotional mindset to understand how to navigate it though and how to feel at peace about it. So I kept making more and feeling more and more anxious and stressed. And that is like financial prison.
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Having money but feeling like you're a prisoner to it is not enjoyable. Now, being broken on your sister's couch is not enjoyable either. They're both not fun. But when you have the ability to earn more and you have the ability to feel peace and harmony around it and be in a secure relationship with money, man, life just unfolds in a beautiful way. Life feels relaxed.
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You feel like, ooh, I feel light. I feel emotionally light. I feel physically light. I feel spiritually whole. And that's what I want for you. And what you can do right now, if you are struggling or maybe you're making a lot of money, but you feel like, why do I stress about it still? Then you can go to lewishouse.com slash money right now and order a copy of this book.
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It would be a big favor to me if you go get a copy right now. lewishouse.com slash money. And here's what I'm going to do for you. I'm going to give you something in return. I'm going to do a... Make Money Masterclass that is all about the money mindset that you need to create abundance in your life. So we're gonna create a Money Mindset Masterclass for you.
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It's only gonna be for people that get the book right now. So when you purchase the book, you're gonna get a receipt and we'll give you instructions on where to upload that receipt so you can get access to the Money Mindset Masterclass.
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If I've ever added any value in your life, if you've gotten value from this show, if this show has given you any tools or tips or inspiration to support you, to help you grow in any way, then it would mean a lot to me if you go to lewishouse.com slash money right now, order a copy, heck, order two or five or 10 if you want to give it to your friends and family.
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If you know more than one person that has struggled with money, Then get a few copies right now because they'll ship to your door. So again, I want you to think about how you can show up and give in a way that brings that joy, that brings smile, that shifts someone's energy today like my dad used to do when he would tip in twos.
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And my goal is to help you make money easy. And again, we have a brand new book and I want you to order it today because I'm going to give you a very special money masterclass when you do. I'm going to share more details on that in a second. But first, I want to share a few stories that I think are going to be powerful for you today, whether you get this book or not.
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And this is a gift that he passed down to me where I've been able to bring so much joy to people just by handing them a $2 bill. And when you can give generously with your heart, the amount of richness that your life has is far more than money. You get an experience, you get a memory, you get a moment with someone when you have a mindset of generosity.
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And generosity is the gateway to abundance along with gratitude. So I wanna express my gratitude for my father who is no longer with us, who gave me this gift who showed me this mindset every single day of his life. He showed me this generous gift. And I wanna thank you for your generosity, for always showing up and listening and watching and being a part of this show.
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It's been such a beautiful 12 years and I'm so grateful for the entire greatness team who has helped bring this book to life because it has been two years behind the scenes, a lot of work to simplify money. When in a world, for a lot of people, money is hard, we want to make it easy for you. Again, make sure to go to lewishouse.com slash money. I cannot wait for you to get this book.
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This is the book that I wish I had growing up when I was broke on my sister's couch. And it's the book I wish I had a couple of years ago because I still had a lot of anxiety and stress around money. I was making more, but it was kind of like... I still hadn't mastered it. And trust me, I have no way mastered it.
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I need this book now for myself more than ever as a reminder to keep in harmony with money, to have a beautiful relationship with money, to continue to heal and mend my relationship with money so that I feel financially peaceful and abundant every single day. Get your copy. The link will be right down below, pinned in the comment, in the description. Check it out.
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Please grab a few copies for your friends as well. And I can't wait to see you in the Money Mastermind class that we're going to be doing, the Money Mindset Masterclass. You'll get that when you get a copy. You'll upload your receipt. We'll send instructions on what to do there. Thank you again. And make sure to get your copy of Make Money Easy today.
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I hope you enjoyed today's episode and it inspired you on your journey towards greatness. Make sure to check out the show notes in the description for a full rundown of today's episode with all the important links.
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I really love hearing feedback from you and it helps us figure out how we can support and serve you moving forward. And I want to remind you if no one has told you lately that you are loved, you are worthy, and you matter. And now it's time to go out there and do something great.
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I want you to understand a very important principle around money. And again, I've had the fortune of interviewing some of the wealthiest people in the world, billionaires, mega billionaires, multimillionaires, people who have exited hundreds of millions and billions dollars worth of companies. And I've asked poor people questions about what keeps them stuck.
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if you're looking to create financial peace, if you want more abundance, and if you're looking to go from where you are at your financial situation to creating way more, then I have a special surprise for you. Because for the last couple of years, I've been working behind the scenes, deep research, a lot of work on a brand new book that I'm announcing to you today. It is called Make Money Easy.
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I've asked wealthy people questions about what unlocks the keys to freedom in their finances. And it's been fascinating over the last 12 years, the research, the science, the practical tips and lessons I've been able to gain from interviewing all these individuals. Plus, in the book, I share so many stories about my own money problems.
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Yes, if this is your first time coming to me or you're new to this show, about, what was it, 15 years ago, I was broke on my sister's couch for a year and a half, making almost nothing, barely scrapping by. One point in my life, I was a truck driver making $250 a week, driving a truck six hours a day from Columbus, Ohio to Cincinnati, Ohio and back every day, five days a week.
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I bounced on the weekends for, you know, 10 bucks an hour and trying to get some tips at a nightclub. And I played arena football where I got paid $250 a week as well back in 2007. So I had many different seasons of life where I had no money, I was broke, and I had no clue how I was gonna make money.
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I didn't have a college degree when kind of the housing crisis crashed and the economy crashed in 2008, 2009. People weren't hiring during that time with those individuals that had bachelor's degrees and master's, let alone people like me who were sleeping on their sister's couch after getting an injury playing football. And I really just didn't have a lot of the tools.
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Now, I was lucky enough that my dad instilled some principles in me early on. And unfortunately, when I turned 22, my dad got into a pretty tragic car accident. He was in a coma for many months. And for 17 years, he never was able to work again. So I learned some lessons from him early on about the mindset of making money. And I watched him work so hard. Early on, we didn't have a lot of money.
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Then when I turned about 16, his business finally started to take off after 25 years of hard work. He started to make a little bit more money for five to seven years before his accident. And then he just wasn't himself. He wasn't able to work anymore. He lost his memory a lot and his personality shifted where he wasn't able to do much without the care of others for 17 years until he passed.
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But there was a big thing that he taught me early on. Not necessarily by what he said, but what he did. And I wanna share this with you because I think it's really important. And I'm gonna talk about kind of these principles in the book and how you can start to apply them in your life now so you don't have to just wait until the book comes out. But there was one thing he did early on
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Every time we went out to dinner or to a restaurant or, you know, he would take me out after a baseball game to buy ice cream with a local dairy point in Delaware, Ohio, small town in Ohio. And he would always do something that would just make people smile, bring so much joy to people's life for a moment. And it would give people a story. And something he did is he would always tip in $2 bills.
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He would tip in $2 bills. And it was like... It was like a magic trick every time he did this because I would see him tip or he'd put it in, you know, kind of the restaurant receipt thing where you put your money in and you fold it up. When the waiter would open it up and they would see $2 bill tip or multiple $2 bills, they would just light up. It was like...
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If they were having a horrible day, their energy shifted. It was literally like a magic trick. If you wanted to make someone smile, they would rather take a $2 bill than three, four, or five single dollar bills. It was like they would take less in money, but the experience... the joy that people would gain from a $2 bill was magic. And there was a mindset that he taught me.
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It's how can you be generous with your time? How can you be generous with your money? And a lot of the billionaires, a lot of the mega millionaires, there are some of them who are unhappy that stress out a lot. but there are others who just seem like they keep earning and they have a richness to their life. And when I asked them like, what is the secret to being rich and happy?
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And I cannot wait to get this book in your hands. Now, again, it's called Make Money Easy because for most of us, we make money hard. And if you want to create financial freedom and live a richer life, this is the book for you. And there's a few things I want to share with you today
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Because not all millionaires are happy. They might have money, but it doesn't make them rich in life. Can I ask the happy ones, the ones who are fulfilled in their purpose, the ones who have healthy, intact families still. And I'd ask them, you know, what's the key? And so many of them will tell me, be generous. Be generous with your money. Be generous in how you tip. Tip big.
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And I think what my dad taught me early on is something that I still do today. I carry on his legacy in my wallet. I have $2 bills. I tip with $2 bills. I've been doing it for a long time since his accident. And the joy that this brings people is priceless. You don't have to spend a ton of money to be generous, but you can do it in a generous way to create a moment for people.
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So again, the $2 bill tip strategy is one of the coolest things that you can do, something I've been doing since my early 20s. You don't need a ton of money to tip in twos, but it'll make someone's day much happier and richer in that moment. And you have the power to shift someone's energy by how you show up with your positive attitude, but also with just a creative act of generosity.
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So keep that in mind. It's one of the principles in this book, Make Money Easy. I'm going to talk about what that is. There's another thing I want to share with you. I was having a conversation with a friend the other day, and I asked him a simple question. If money was a person in your life, how would your relationship be with money? Now, I want you to think about this.
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When I asked this question to a friend, they said, well, if I was walking into a room and money was there as a person, I would not look at money. I would avoid it. I would ghost it if it tried to text me. I wouldn't reply to it, but I would use and abuse it. And I sat there and I just said, hmm. How do you think money feels if you use it in that way?
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If you ghost it, if you avoid it, if you don't look it in the eyes, if you don't talk about it, but when it's there, you're going to use it and abuse it. If you had a friend in your life that you treated that way, do you think that friend would enjoy that feeling? Probably not. And I want to ask you again, Leave a comment. If you're watching on YouTube, message me on Instagram.
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Let me know if money were a person, how would your relationship be with money? Tell me what your relationship is. And I just want you to think about that because money is energy. And the way you interact with money, how you interpret it, the way you feel about it when you see it,
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when it comes to you, when you have to pay it, when you look in your bank account, maybe you don't look in your bank account, how you think about it, when you talk about it, the energy, you either attract more of it or you're repelling it from you and causing more stress in your financial situation. So I want you to think about what your relationship is with money.
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And when you change your mindset around money, your entire life becomes richer. Again, we're talking about my book, Make Money Easy. This is not a book about investing. This is not a book about stock market. That's not what this is about. There are tons of books and resources out there. This is about developing a powerful, energetic relationship with money
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to cover around the book, but also the mindset shift that you need to change in order to unlock prosperity and abundance for your life. And some of the biggest interviews that we've done on the School of Greatness are around money. Why? Because money is such a big topic in our lives. And so many people feel the stress, they feel the strain, they feel the constraints of their money situation.
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5 Mindset Shifts To Manifest Money
so you feel peaceful when you talk about money, when you have money, when you don't have money, when you spend money, all these different things.
The School of Greatness
5 Mindset Shifts To Manifest Money
So I wanna read you a few things that I think will be extremely important for you to know as you're getting this book, because I believe it doesn't matter what skills or what stock trades you know or where to invest your money or how to make more money in terms of like, I'm gonna get more money from my job, like all that is fine.
The School of Greatness
5 Mindset Shifts To Manifest Money
But if you don't change your relationship with money, you're gonna create more stress when you have more money. And I've talked to a lot of millionaires who have lost it all, who have ruined their relationships, who have got extreme anxiety when they've created more money because they haven't done the most important thing first with money, which is change their relationship to it.
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5 Mindset Shifts To Manifest Money
And if you're tired of living paycheck to paycheck, I'm going to read a little bit of this right now for you. If you're tired of living paycheck to paycheck, or if you feel trapped by your monthly expenses, or if you wonder how some people enjoy financial freedom while you seem stuck, your relationship with money begins with having the right mindset because most of us don't have it.
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5 Mindset Shifts To Manifest Money
Until you heal your relationship with money, nothing can change for the better. Because if you don't care for your money, your money won't care for you. In this book, Make Money Easy, I'm going to show you how to identify your money style, which is a key to understanding why you are lacking abundance. Most of us have a money style, but we're just not aware of it.
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5 Mindset Shifts To Manifest Money
And your money style, it stems from your money story. We have a history of money in our lives, from what our parents talked about it, from how we used it in school. If our friends had more money than us, we had a story about money. And that story shapes our lives today with our money style.
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5 Mindset Shifts To Manifest Money
And so we're going to identify your money style so you can create a future money history that allows you to create more abundance in your life. Wouldn't that be awesome? Wouldn't it be great if we could understand our style so that we can shift it to create more? It's also going to teach you how to develop a powerful money mindset so that you can earn more.
The School of Greatness
5 Mindset Shifts To Manifest Money
Most of us aren't thinking in ways of abundance. We're not thinking in terms of our self-worth being good enough to earn more money. We're just afraid of money. I asked another friend recently, they said they don't want to make more money because they'd be afraid they would turn into a bad person. And I said, why would you turn into a bad person?
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5 Mindset Shifts To Manifest Money
Well, because people that I know who have money, they're just stingy. They're not good with their money. They don't treat people well. And I don't wanna become out of integrity with money and do that to other people. And so again, this money mindset is keeping you trapped and holding you to a certain ceiling of how much you're able to make right now.
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5 Mindset Shifts To Manifest Money
And once you can break through that money mindset, which a whole book is about, once you can break through that, then you can start to create an enormous amount of financial peace in your life, And live in generosity. You don't have to be out of integrity. You don't have to be stingy when you make money. You don't have to be a bad person. Money is energy. And money amplifies who you are.
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5 Mindset Shifts To Manifest Money
So if you're a stingy, selfish person now, when you make more money, you're going to become more of that. If you're a generous, kind, joyful person now, you're going to amplify that energy into the world when you have more money. So it's about shifting our money perspective, our money mindset. But first you have to understand your money story, the history of your money.
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5 Mindset Shifts To Manifest Money
Then you have to understand your money style. Most of us don't know this. I cover everything about that in this book. Then you can create a powerful money mindset so you can earn more. But if you don't follow the steps, you're not gonna be able to get to the next level. You always fall back behind if you don't follow these steps.
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5 Mindset Shifts To Manifest Money
A lot of people are in debt so much from student loans still, where they've used their credit cards to the max and they feel this constant month to month, am I able to get out of this debt? In fact, our whole nation is in trillions of dollars of debt. It's kind of a mindset of getting the debt, getting the debt to get ahead, but For a lot of people, it doesn't turn out well.
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5 Mindset Shifts To Manifest Money
Then we talked about how to create a money map to reach clear financial goals. Most people aren't clear on how much they wanna make on a yearly basis. If you're not clear, why would you create more? If you just say, well, I just wanna make millions, well, Why? Why do you want to make those millions? How many millions? If you want to make a hundred grand, why do you want to make that?
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5 Mindset Shifts To Manifest Money
When do you want to make it by? You've got to clearly define your money map in order to reach your financial goals. We have it all in the book, Make Money Easy. Then we talk about how to appreciate your value and discover your hidden skills and gifts for greater earning potential. You know, when I was broke, I didn't think I had any skills.
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5 Mindset Shifts To Manifest Money
I was just like, there's no way I'm going to learn how to make money. I don't understand it. I didn't go to school for it. I don't know anything about taxes or interest or investments and just like what skills do I have that I can go get a job with? I thought I had nothing. I was just a football player who got injured. I didn't have any skills. I was in the bottom of my class in school.
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5 Mindset Shifts To Manifest Money
So I was terrified around money because I didn't understand it. But when you learn to appreciate your own value and tap into these hidden gifts, we talk about how to find those hidden gifts for extreme earning potential. I didn't know the gifts that I had would make me a millionaire, but they did. They did many times over.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
There are two big things happening at one time that I've never done before. I'm going on a book tour for my new book, Make Money Easy, and I'm doing a podcast tour at the same time. It is going to be big, and I'm going to seven cities in 10 days. Get your friends, get your family, bring everyone you know to these cities. I'm coming to Austin, Texas, New York, Boston, We're going to Nashville.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
That's fascinating. I, you know, when I decided, because it was a choice to get into a relationship with Martha. And when we got into a relationship, I told her kind of like a lot of these things that we're talking about where I was just like, listen. I've never made good decisions in previous relationships.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
And then I didn't have the courage to get out of them because I was afraid and I didn't want to hurt someone. So I stayed in things that weren't good for me. And it was just never good. And it doesn't mean they were bad people. We just weren't the right people together. And so I told her like, I want to take our time if we're going to do this.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
We're not going to sleep together, you know, which is not something that I'd done in the past. It was like kind of quick to rush to that. And that was one of the best things I did for like the kids in me.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
Was not sleeping with someone that I was dating, but trying my best to get to know all the parts of her. Her family life, her when she's happy, her when she's going through a challenge, you know, traveling together, all these different things as opposed to rushing into chemical bonding.
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Exactly, and I remember like... you know, and listen, we're only three and a half years into this. So it's like, we've got a long time ahead with our relationship with hopefully it's all good and it's all like smooth, but there's going to be challenges that we have to face.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
But I wanted to set myself up for the most harmony possible, knowing that life is going to throw challenges at us individually and together. How can we create a relationship of harmony and peace where we both have nervous systems that are calm, nervous systems that are okay, independent of each other and stronger together, hopefully.
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but I'm not reliant on her for my happiness, which I think I never had before. I was always reliant on the other people to like me or accept me and people pleasing them. And it feels so freeing to experience for the first time after 20 years of painful relationships, peace and freedom in a relationship. Like I didn't even, I didn't think it was possible. I didn't know it was possible.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
And it feels amazing to, at least up in this point, have experienced this for a number of years. So I'm very grateful for that.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
Thank you. Thank you. But I remember thinking to myself, I don't need to be in a relationship. Like I'm not going to jump in a relationship until I feel that consistently from a dating phase without sexual intimacy.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
that was it's hard i mean i'm like you know my young guy it's like it's hard to say no to those things but by creating that boundary for me it's like i've built respect for myself and about trust within my nervous system and the parts of me and it has allowed me to trust myself in the relationship more than ever before oh it's wonderful and i feel like it sounds like that's what you've been doing the last five years is reclaiming trust yeah within yourself
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
that you're not going to abandon yourself. And when you do get into another relationship you're not going to abandon or people-please who you are. And it doesn't mean you're going to be avoidant either. Like you're going to be securely connected to the person because you're securely connected to you. That's what it sounds like you're building.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
Yeah, it didn't work.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
Wow. When did you bring God in your life?
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
Is God in 12-step recovery or is it more? Oh, yeah.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
And you don't have God in your life as like the faith or the trust or the knowingness of it. Then you find everything else to be your God, I guess, or to fill that void. Yeah.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
Wow. Do you feel a lot more peace now with God in your life?
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
Yeah. I mean, you've talked publicly about kind of your love life and your relationships and books and, you know, talks and everything. You said you were married and divorced twice. What did you learn after the first marriage into the second marriage?
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
Yeah, not being afraid constantly. Oh, my God.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
That's good. So 40, 45 kind of intimate loving relationships or sexual relationships.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
Yeah, yeah, yeah. How many of these relationships... I love myself. No judgment here. No, I don't feel it. How many of the relationships you've been in had God at the core or the center?
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How many... In the future, do you feel like God will be... In the relationship in some way?
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That's a beautiful life. Isn't it? With every relationship like that. Because then you're not feeling judged or you don't have to people please, you don't have to impress. You know, obviously you got to create boundaries and you have to communicate and you have to, you know, stand up for yourself, but you don't have to worry about what happens when God is at the center.
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God is going to have your back no matter what.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
When do we make a decision that I'm going to choose to love this person? We don't make a decision.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
What would you say are three or four things that individuals could do today to enter a relationship in the best way possible to give them a chance for happy, healthy, long-term love? How much time do we have?
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
Yeah, and if you want to jackhammer it two years in the future because you don't like the way it's laid down, that's going to cause real damage. And it's hard to mend that. It's not like the Japanese saying where they break a bowl and it's like golden. Kintsugi, that's Kintsugi. It's not that.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
This is like you're breaking a road and you're breaking a path and you have to almost create a bridge once you break it two years later. And that person has to want to go over that bridge every time. And that's for each thing. Yeah.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
This is interesting. I'm so glad you're saying this because we've known each other for how long? Eight years maybe or something like that? I don't know. Eight, nine years. And we're not super close talking all the time, but you've seen me go through three different relationships in the last eight years.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
And you've seen me kind of show up differently in this relationship based on what we've talked about. And there are things that I did differently, I think, because... One, a lot of the wisdom I gained from you and other different therapists and psychologists that came on that I was able to learn from.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
Two, I was doing a lot of my own healing work in the practice every week with someone that was helping guide me to heal in my last relationship and going to this new one.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
And three, because I was just sick and tired of experiencing so much pain and sadness and suffering in relationships, like the pattern that I was choosing, that I was like, I need to do something completely different than I've always done. Whether this works out or not, I have to just try something completely different. And I felt like what I've done has really worked well for me.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
I don't know if it'll work well from everyone, but it sounds like I'm doing what you're saying people should be doing, which is entering a relationship in a way that is going to lay the cement and the foundation for the whole relationship and really doing it early on, not waiting.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
So a few things that I did with Martha and we did together is when we started dating, I said, listen, I'm going to be... We're going to date each other, but I'm not going to have sex with you. That's one of the first things I said. It's not happening. Where, you know, that wasn't the case in previous relationships. So that's the first thing.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
I was like, I want to get to know someone without chemical interference. You know, without sexual chemical interference. That was always blurring me, you know, in the past. That was the first thing. And it's almost like we got to know each other as friends. And you kind of hear people who are married a long time or happy. They're like, yeah, we were friends early on.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
Or like we were just in a friendship first. And then it grew into something because we really loved each other, right? You hear that a lot. Not that that's always the case. But that was what we did. And I think that was really helpful for me to see all the parts of her and say, do I accept all the parts of her? And maybe I don't have to like all the parts, but can I accept it?
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
Because she's not going to change who she is. Maybe. But this is pretty much who she is. And I was able to see clearly, I accept all the parts of her to get into a committed relationship after a few months, right? Of us spending a lot of time together, traveling together, seeing her family. All the things we did early on, I was like, I put myself in those situations.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
Friends, family, travel before getting committed. And that was really helpful. It was kind of like a year cycle and a few months. The next thing that I did was, is I told her the truth about everything. And from my past, what I've done in my past, things I was proud of, not proud of, everything. And I told her my vision for my future.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
And I said, this is the man I am now, this is the man I'm growing into, and this is the man I wanna be in my vision for my life, my career, my family, everything. And I'm not gonna change it for one person to make one person happy. You've got to accept this part of me, and I want to know what your vision is for your life and see if we're in alignment.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
Obviously, things might change and evolve, but if that's what you want, I want to be accepting of your vision for your life and you accepting of mine. And that was really helpful. And then we also did a values exercise. I never created a values exercise in any relationship before. It was like, oh, we like each other and you're beautiful and you like me and whatever. We're having fun.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
Let's just be together. But we went on a trip and I said, I want to do a values exercise and get clear on what you really value around family, friendships, money, time, everything, raising kids. Like, what are the values in your life that you have? And we wrote them separately and then looked at them together. There wasn't any influence. And we were in alignment on our values, which was helpful.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
And so having that clarity of kind of like no chemical interference around sexual acts to values to this is a vision of my life. This is my lifestyle. This is what I want to create. Do you accept it? Because if you don't, I'm not changing for you. And we were able to get an alignment. And that doesn't mean it's all going to be perfect and it's like it's going to work out.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
But that created a foundation, the pavement you were talking about, where we were like, okay, let's cement this. Let's start to mold it and start to let it dry now that we are in agreement of these things with each other. And there was one other thing that we did that I'd always wanted to do. because I'd always ended every relationship in therapy and then it ended.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
And I said, I want to start my next relationship in therapy. If that's with you or someone else, like I'm not getting in a relationship unless someone else is willing to agree to have a session once every six weeks with someone where we can get clarity on agreements, because there was never agreements and relationships that were clear and that people stuck to.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
And I was like, I want agreements so that if there's a disturbance, we can create an agreement quickly so there's less disturbances. And she was like, yeah, sounds great. I'm in. Those things that we created from the beginning have given me so much peace. You asked me, like, how are you feeling before the interview? I was like, I felt pretty peaceful.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
And it's because I've never been in a relationship where I feel fully accepted for me. And I feel that. So I have the energy to go out in life and tackle what I want. And it's been really beneficial. But I went through, you know, 20-something years of pain and suffering in choosing relationships without having the courage to do these kind of activities early on.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
And I don't know if that's something that you would recommend for all people. It took a lot of work. It takes time. It's like you can't rush into something. But it's given me a lot more peace in this relationship. So...
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
Yeah. I mean... What is the big mistake that people are making today then in relationships by entering the relationship? Is it they haven't healed from the previous one? And can you enter a new relationship while being wounded from the previous one? Or do you need to be on some type of healing journey to set yourself up for a better opportunity, do you think?
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
That's true. Dry, peaceful land. Abundant, fertile land that you're just like, ah. No, it doesn't mean there's not going to be challenges and life's going to throw things at you. But I think if you're in it together and you're able to create agreements early on, then it just doesn't mean you have to have a lot of disturbances within the relationship.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
There might be things coming at the relationship that you need to handle together. But when we're in disagreement constantly about each other or what's wrong with the other person and what they didn't do or what they didn't do for me. then it's just going to be a weaker foundation, I think, when you don't have agreements.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
And there was nothing wrong in the relationship early on. It does not have to be to learn good habits. I know, it was amazing. But it takes time and investment. I told her, I was like, I don't think I'd have been ready for you if I'd met you 10 years ago. I wouldn't have seen you the same way. I wouldn't have been... I didn't have the tools or the skills to deal with my emotions.
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I was still healing. I was still growing. And I was doing my interview show and I had resources. But I think a lot of people don't have the tools or the skills to have the courage to speak up for what they want, to navigate challenges in a relationship when they feel their button is pushed and they're just reactive. They don't know how to respond calmly because they're in fight or flight.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
I've been there many times in the past. It's a massive problem for people. They don't have the tools. How do you see the younger generation, people in their 20s or 30s, being able to get into relationships and have these tools if they've never been trained. It took me a long time to have a lot of pain to be like, okay, I need to learn something different.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
Yeah. I mean, you can't just be disrespectful and say, well, this is who I am. Accept me for being disrespectful to you.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
And I think it's also important to know like, hey, before you get into a relationship, make sure you find out. If this is the way they are and they're not going to change that, maybe they're not for you.
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No, I think it's really important. I think I probably over communicated more in the first year, probably out of... trauma from the past of like, okay, this is really who I am. And this is my truth. And I just want to make sure you're okay with this. Yeah.
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About 20 times. She's like, you were really traumatized in the past. I'm like, I just want to make sure you know who I am. All my flaws, all my past, where I'm at, where I'm going, this is what I want. You sure you're good. It's like kind of mile markers, right? You got to lay the cement. It's like every mile marker. Okay, you're still on the same path.
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Make sure you're in alignment because it's not worth me being like... I'm invested. And then you want me to change who I am. So I think you got to be willing to accept the person and make sure you figure out all their behaviors or as much as you can within the first six to 12 months before you take the long road with them and say, all right, am I down for this journey?
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
If it's a little bumpy, am I cool with it? Or don't choose the person. If they have bad behavior over and over, you don't have to choose them. If they're not going to change, like you either accept it and that's it. But you had this on your, I think this is on your website as well, a quote from you that said, mental health is about diagnosable conditions like depression and anxiety.
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Emotional health is about common experiences like loneliness, failure, and heartbreak, the non-diagnosable stuff. And you also mentioned that you grew up, another quote from you is you said, I grew up with my identical twin, which of course made me an expert in spotting favoritism.
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So when I became a psychologist, it didn't take me long to recognize how much we favor our physical health over our emotional health. For example, if we get a cut on our arm, we can just tell by looking at it whether we need a badge, a stitch, or an ambulance. But when we sustain an emotional wound like rejection, failure, we have no idea how to gauge whether the wound is deep or
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or whether it requires emotional first aid. And a few of us would know how to treat it ourselves if we did. And as a psychologist, you find that unacceptable. You said, our physical health and our emotional health are the twins of our general well-being. And as such, we should treat them equally. How can we start to self-diagnose the emotional wounds that we deal with?
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And how can we know when we are having a symptom of an emotional wound that is worthy of a deeper look rather than just a quick rub it off or a band-aid?
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
So for feeling, what would that nagging feeling look like for someone if it's an emotional wound? Is it a physical sensation internally? Is it like their chest is tight or their... It's a preoccupation, probably, and it's a mood, probably.
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
What's an exercise that someone can do if they feel rejected or feel like someone hurt them, whether it was intentional or not? Right.
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It is, but that's the problem. When we think about a memory of trauma that we have yet to heal, and we relive that in our mind, is it almost just like we're living that moment all over again?
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Why do so many people take it personally when they get rejected in a dating situation or relationship?
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It almost sounds like before you start dating or getting into a relationship, one of the best things that you can do for yourself is build your self-esteem, is what it sounds like. Because when you have a quality or high level of self-esteem, you're not going to get into a relationship that's not good for you.
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You're not going to stay in one where someone's treating you poorly or not respecting your boundaries, or you're not going to take the scraps of something because you're just lonely, right? So building self-esteem sounds like a great... foundation for the individual before even getting into a relationship? It is doing.
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Give me an example for yourself. For me? Yeah, what's a good quality that comes with a downside?
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When they're sad and like, yeah, whatever. Yeah.
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What was the solution?
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Why do you think people struggle with emotional regulation, not just in life, but even heightened more in relationships? And how can someone learn to regulate their emotions in a relationship if they've been so used to reacting in fight or flight mode for so long? What do you think is a process they can start? I'll have you start and then we'll have you add to it, Sadia.
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Why do we select that person more?
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What is this quote? I'm sure you both have heard this. If they can't accept me at my worst, they don't deserve me at my best. What do you guys think about that saying in relationships?
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How To Let Go Of Toxic Love & Attract A Healthy Relationship
So I can't emotionally punch on them all day long and then say, well, you have to deal with my emotions.
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You should be able to. I mean, you're worst as a child. I'm assuming you're going to scream and throw tantrums constantly. But then hopefully you learn how to develop your emotions and navigate your emotions so that you can be frustrated or have a breakdown, but not. trash on someone. Yeah, not punish someone. Not punish someone and say, you're doing this to me, right?
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It's like learning how to, you know, maybe you need to step away or maybe you're going to get loud for a moment, but you're not going to attack someone else.
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Right now, yeah. Yeah, right now I would. I mean, I'm good right now, but yeah. I would tolerate me. In my past, maybe not.
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Why is it so hard to leave a relationship when... after many years, when someone treats you poorly or they have dysregulation frequently, let's call it on a weekly basis or every other day, it seems like dysregulation or this type of emotional, I don't know if you wanna call it abuse or- Rollercoaster. Rollercoaster emotions, lack of respect. Why would you say, Matthew,
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it's so hard to leave a relationship. The relationship is failing. It's not healthy, but people tend to stay. In your work that you do with a lot of women, why do women stay so long? Maybe there's kids or not kids involved, but why do women stay and how can they start to shift to make it healthier or get out of it in a healthy way?
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Or was in the beginning.
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Why does it seem like it's easier as a girlfriend or a guy friend of a person in a struggling relationship? Why is it easy for them to see, man, this has been two years you've been in this pattern, this loop of up and down emotional rollercoaster and it doesn't seem healthy when it's so hard for the person in the relationship to... Realize man, this is broken.
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This is not working, but I'm gonna keep trying to make it work I'm gonna keep trying to get that clock to hit the right time every minute Why do why is it so hard for people to understand they're in a broken relationship?
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What do you think are the things, and we're talking about why relationships fail, but what do you think are the things that people don't do before committing to the relationship that end up causing it to be just a rocky foundation to start with, which is destined to fail? What are the things that women do or men do that you think set up a rocky foundation? I'll let you start.
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What are some examples of deal breakers that people don't communicate?
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And what do you think are the biggest deal breakers for people? Would you say it's sex or topics around sex, money and topics around money, family, kids, religion, or something else? God, I suppose it could be anything depending on the person.
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Or is it just literally like we could have three things that are right, but if we have two that are off, like eventually it's gonna be harder to make it work? Like, what do you think?
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Why do we not communicate deal breakers and things that are actually really important before committing to the relationship?
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And then you resent the person for not giving you what you need, that you haven't communicated it.
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From the group? No, no, no.
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Sure, sure. How do you then, let's say you go through, you accept that you're a love addict, right? And maybe someone watching and listening is like, maybe I have some of these tendencies, right? And I've heard you talk about in the beginning of this conversation about how, you know, there's this love that you're connecting with every single day and asking it, what would you want of me?
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What would you have me know today?
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And you have this new relationship with love, right? but a lot of people feel undeserving of receiving love. So if you don't feel like you're deserving of having love or being loved or receiving it, how do you have a new relationship with it where you can let it into your life?
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Or you just see bad things in the world and you say, how could this be? If God is all love, how do these bad things happen? You'll question that.
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That's funny. I still ask my mom, why questions? And she says she stopped answering why questions.
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So I'm like, why'd you do this, mom? And she goes, I stopped answering your why questions. I'm not accepting your question. Ask me a different question.
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What is the best thing you've heard from God over the last four years?
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Don't try to rush it or try to know right now.
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Those that were only thinking about themselves, not helping others, had more physical pain and ailments based on the stressful environment. Whereas those who were focusing out, that started to go away. And for me, that says something about how service is truly important in our lives. How about number four? is a big one, something I do all the time, is to express gratitude and appreciation.
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This may seem like so basic. This may seem like the dumbest thing because it's so simple, but it will transform and change your life. And when we appreciate everything that we already have, not focusing on all the things that we don't have, but appreciate the things we already have, it puts us in a mindset of abundance, rather than scarcity.
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And this is huge because gratitude drowns out negativity and it brings positivity into our lives. It puts us into perspective in the moment of what is meaningful, what we have created, what we have, the people in our life right now. And we can channel that positive energy into everything we're doing and we can shift that positive energy into our vision and our mission.
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And I can't speak for everyone, but gratitude has been life-changing for me. It's something, again, that I do every day. It's non-negotiable. When I wake up, it's on my voicemail. When someone calls me, I say, tell me what you're grateful for and I'll get back to you. In our team meetings, we talk about it. When we start a meeting, what are you grateful for today?
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It's just something when I go to bed at night, I express three things I'm grateful for. All these things help me continue to stay in the present moment, not focused on the past of what I did or how mistakes I made, not worry about the future, but really be present. And that's the key to being happy is focusing on what you have right now and the people in your life.
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And many of the psychologists that I've interviewed on this show tell me that gratitude is proven to create a happier life. This isn't just some fluffy woo-woo, you know, personal development thing. This is now science. It's been researched. It's been studied and proven that gratitude decreases depression, increases happiness in people's lives.
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So don't let gratitude be something you just do from time to time or once in a while or on a holiday or Thanksgiving. You need to find time and place to do it every single day. And the more you do it, the more frequently you do it, the happier you healthier, more fulfilled you will be. And it'll put your life in perspective.
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It'll get you out of the things you don't have and focus on things you do have. The simplest way to do that is just to add gratitude to the start of something you're already doing. We talked about this, what will I do? We do it before team meetings. You could do it while you're making coffee. You could do it right before you eat every meal. You could do it
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What we think, what we speak about, the actions we take, and the cycle continues every single day. And whatever we think, speak, and the actions we do on a daily basis, that becomes our habits, whether we're conscious or unconscious. And going into 2025, I want you to live a conscious life. I want you to think in a conscious way. I want you to speak in a way that
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When you wake up, when you go to bed, whatever you're about to start something, have a moment. It could be five seconds. I'm grateful for this moment. I'm grateful for this thing. I'm grateful I have this. And really be intentional on that. Spend a few minutes and use that time wisely to express gratitude. For me, again, I wake up every morning. I express the things that I'm grateful for.
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I really just wake up and say thank you. Thank you for another day. Thank you for my health. Thank you for the people in my life. Thank you for the challenging times that have helped me grow and improve myself. I try to just say thank you for it all. And that really supports me in the day. And you'll be able to love deeper. You'll create more light for other people.
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And you'll appreciate the little things around you more than ever. I'm telling you, a ritual of gratitude will change your life. Again, it seems so basic. It might seem like so, you know, this is not some crazy life hack or some thing, some app or something that's going to switch something on in your brain. This is just going back to the basics to help you improve your happiness.
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Habit number five is to create healthy relationships with boundaries. I didn't know what a boundary was until really a few years ago in certain areas of my life. And personal boundaries are essential in healthy relationships because they provide the foundation for your expectations, behavior, and how you communicate with others.
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Sometimes setting the limits can be challenging and difficult, especially if you want everyone to be happy around you. Now raise your hands if you are a recovering people pleaser like me and you want everyone to like you, you want everyone to be happy around you, you don't want anyone to ever be mad at you for anything.
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That's been me pretty much my entire life up until recently when I learned how to create healthy boundaries and know that I'm going to disappoint people. But the most important person that I'm not going to disappoint is myself. And I was always abandoning myself to try to please others, and I was hurting myself in the process. And you should never hurt yourself.
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You obviously don't want to hurt others, but you should never hurt yourself. And we often react differently when we don't get what we want or when what is happening around us isn't what we expected, when that expectation kind of hangover happens to us. Results in frustration or hurt feelings. I know. I know the feeling. You expect someone to say something or do something. They don't do it.
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You get let down, it hurts. That's why communication is so important. And whether it's an intimate relationship, a family member, a business relationship, when the boundaries we have set are not met, we feel violated. Or for myself, I felt abused, taken advantage of, and all these different things. And that doesn't feel good. I understand those. feelings. They don't feel good.
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So when you create a standard, create a boundary, you've got to communicate and talk about your expectations in that communication process. Sometimes this can be extremely challenging and difficult conversations, especially if you've never done in the past. And oftentimes boundaries are not discussed and that can cause bitterness and resentment.
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And to take the proactive approach by discussing boundaries with your partner You can avoid a lot of that pain and stress and disaster. So I highly encourage you to be willing to be uncomfortable in those boundary conversations. And I loved this moment that I had when I interviewed Nedra Tawwab. And she said she was she's like the boundary expert.
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And she said, when we think about boundaries, we think about them as something with someone else. But a boundary could be a morning routine. A boundary could be having some quiet time after lunch. It's not just all these things that we need other people to do. It's also what we need to do with ourselves. And I think it's... so important for us to reflect on.
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unlocks possibilities for you and creates opportunities as opposed to breakdowns and barriers. And then I want you to act in accordance with your highest self. Now, this doesn't mean you've got to be perfect every single moment of every day. You've got to cut out every vice you have or any fun experience that brings you joy and live up to some ultimate perfection habit formula.
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What are the boundaries we're keeping with ourselves? Not about significant others or family or friends. What are the boundaries of integrity you're keeping with yourself? So think about that for yourself and the boundaries you want to set in the specific relationships in your life. And really, are any of them being crossed already?
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What are the places in your life where you feel like boundaries are already being crossed? Make a list. Write these down. And are you not respecting the boundaries yourself? Are you crossing boundaries that you shouldn't be crossing with someone else in your life? It's a difficult thing to do, especially if you've never really thought about them.
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But when I began setting boundaries in my life, as well as started to hear about the importance of them from different therapists and psychologists that we've interviewed on the show, it made a huge difference. in my emotional, mental, physical wellbeing as well.
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Because really, when you think about boundaries, you know, when an emotional, mental, spiritual boundary feels crossed, you almost feel it in your body. I know I did. I would feel tightness, tension. I would have like eczema flare-ups when a boundary was crossed, and I didn't know how to handle it. And you feel the boundary being crossed emotionally and it physically manifests.
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So this will continue to help you be happier and physically healthier when you create boundaries. Which leads me into habit number six, which is to take care of your physical health. Work out, eat clean, physical and mental health. The emotional and mental stress can...
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can really lean into the physical damage if we don't have a clean, healthy relationship with the mental and emotional side of ourselves, creating boundaries and all that other stuff. But taking care of your body consistently, moving your body, exercising is so important for your overall physical and mental health.
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We've had so many different experts come on and talk about the research and the science of how physical movement increases happiness, increases dopamine, makes you feel more confident, all these things. Being stagnant for two weeks and not moving your body will make you feel less and less confident, make you feel weak, and all those different feelings will create stress and anxiety in your life.
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When you don't exercise, you're not giving your body the clarity it needs. It's not cleansing itself. It's not moving. And you've got to move in order to get you closer towards your desired goals as well. So you've got to think about these things. What does your body need? It's something that I've started talking about more and more as I've started to integrate this more and more in my life.
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And I started taking boxing lessons online. a couple times a week, six months ago, and it's transformed my physical and mental health. You might have to reassess, like, are the physical activities I'm doing right now supporting me? Or do I need to mix it up? Do I need to try something new? Do I need a new challenge? That's what I did with boxing. I've been able to lift and run and
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and play sports my whole life, but I felt like I needed something to shift me physically, and boxing was something I'd never done, something that was challenging, it's mental, it's emotional and physical, and it's one of the hardest workouts I've ever done.
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So I go early in the morning and I do that because that's been huge for me because it means I can take care of the most important and often the hardest things first, which set up the rest of my day for success. And when I finish a workout early in the morning, And I realized, wow, there's still a lot of people that are asleep who haven't gotten up, who haven't done anything.
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That's not what I'm talking about because that's not the way I live my life. But I do know that there is a price to pay for every decision I make with the way I think, how I speak, and the actions I take. There is a consequence to everything. And that could be a benefit or a side effect of a negativity based on those things as well.
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And I'm finishing one of the hardest things of the day for me that brings me joy, that makes me a better human, that makes me feel more confident, makes me feel happier, that detoxes things that I need to let go of. When I do that, I feel like, wow, what's next? What is there that I need to do? I can do anything. Bring it to me. I will take on the world today.
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And when you start the day with that momentum, I really support you with your overall happiness. Now, if you're not often physically active, don't overwhelm yourself and say, I'm going to do two hours a day of activity and I'm going to go crazy here and I'm going to sign up for all these classes because you'll burn out quick or you'll hurt yourself.
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You can start as small as just going for a 10, 20 minute walk around the block. five days a week, and really get started. Just get yourself moving on the process of consistency. And even if you're making small progress, that progress is signaling your brain of the changes that you are wanting to make.
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And again, five, 10, 20 minutes a day will eventually be 30 or 60 minutes a day, and it'll continue to build and compound over time. So don't overwhelm yourself by thinking you have to go extremely crazy right off the bat, and I'm going to eat perfect seven days a week, I'm going to train like a machine, and
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I'm going to get 12 hours of sleep and all these things, you're probably not going to be able to sustain that within two weeks. But getting started and being consistent is the key. So anything is better than nothing when it comes to moving your body. And the next thing is really to focus on your diet.
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I know when I'm not eating clean consistently, I kind of take the 80-20 approach for nutrition and food. 80% of the time, I try to eat as clean and healthy and organic as possible. 20% of the time, I'm traveling the weekends. I have more sugar and desserts and things that I know aren't the best for fuel for my body. But they taste good, and I give myself that balance.
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And you can work out all you want, but you can't outwork your mouth. That's for sure. You cannot outwork your mouth. You can train for an hour, and then if you're having all this cakes and cookies, it's not going to do anything for you. you're actually not doing any favors for yourself. You might be maintaining, but you're not really improving.
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And our guests all the time talk about eating things like... I've asked so many different scientists, doctors, and nutritionists about the top food you should be eating. And they all consistently say blueberries, foods that are high in omega-3 fatty acids like salmon and walnuts and avocado oil, dark chocolate. The list goes on and on from there. Leafy greens, all that stuff. But...
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Eating more of those things, adding more of those things into your body will support you. And you don't want to put in so much effort in your workout routine and then just go have alcohol and sugar and pizza every night. That's not going to really support your growth.
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You can have cheat meals in moderation, or you can just call it balanced meals in moderation if you don't want to call it cheat meals. I do the balanced 80-20 kind of percent rule.
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And you just got to ask yourself, are you happy with the life you have right now? Are you happy with how you've created it? And if you're looking to take back full power in your life, then you must be responsible for the conscious decisions you're making and the unconscious decisions you're making because you have an opportunity to evaluate every single day. Hey, was that thinking process?
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And having a clean diet will not, but having a clean diet will not only serve you physically and your health, but also in your mental health, because we've talked about so many different experts who have come on and share that the foods that actually increase your mental health and affect your mood. We've had a lot of these different doctors and nutritionists come on and talk about that.
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And when you're eating poorly, it can increase the feelings of depression, anxiety, and stress. And I believe we're starting to really understand more about how much our diet really affects us, how much food really can either hurt us or heal us.
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So for your future self, it's best if you focus not only on putting your body through the workouts, but also giving your body the cleanest foods possible to eat. Which brings me to habit number seven, the power of breathing. This is something that I really started to practice in sports.
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but didn't start to really learn how to, I wouldn't say I call myself a master at this, but I really didn't start to learn how to master breathing until five years ago when I went to India to study for two weeks meditation and then becoming a meditation instructor.
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And then from there, meeting with Wim Hof and doing the Wim Hof breathing techniques, then interviewing James Nestor, talking about breathing, Andrew Huberman, The famous neuroscientist from Stanford who talks about breathing in the brain and how it connects to the brain and the body connection.
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And really, the deeper I've gone down this rabbit hole of learning about the mastery of breathing and applying it to myself, I've noticed incredible results. And it's like I'm noticing it quicker and quicker. So it's been really helping me improve my peace, improve my mental health, improve my mood just with breathing. And that is a powerful tool. You don't need...
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Anything you don't need to buy anything. You don't need to Eat anything. You don't need to do anything different in a few moments. You can change the way you feel through your breath and breathing is the number one way to give your mind a reset and and to get you back into a balanced, peaceful state.
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When you're nervous, stressed out, feeling overwhelmed, or catching yourself overthinking something or over-analyzing, breathing exercises can help you get back to calm and control. And that's what this is all about. The power of breath is that it lets you steer your energy. It lets you get back onto habit number one, your vision, as opposed to being distracted, stressed, and overwhelmed.
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And I did this as an athlete. I would do this going up for big moments in a game in football. Breathe slowly. You know, I had different sports psychologists come on and talk about how in practice you want to actually get yourself up and practice like it's a game. And when you're in a game time situation, you want to slow down because you have so much adrenaline. You want to calm and slow down.
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So I do that as an athlete before I get on stage. Right before, I really tried to think about how do I slow it down because I know when the lights turn on, when the music gets on, I'm gonna be hyped, I'm gonna be pumped. But how do I slow down so I can communicate my message effectively as opposed to being all anxious and excited about it?
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Was that speaking process? Was those actions actually helping me today or not? Did that serve me? Or did it give me anger and upset and lower my energy? And so every day you have an opportunity to reflect. And when you reflect, and even just do a simple scale, one out of 10, how did I show up today? Am I happy with the day? And if not, then what can I do to improve?
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So I wanna share three steps to properly help yourself incorporate breathing into your day today. Number one is to bring awareness to your breath. So really just think about it and bring awareness. And when we're breathing all the time, All day long we're breathing, but we're rarely paying attention to it. We hardly really think about it.
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But when we think about it by taking a moment to bring your awareness to your breath, just as it is, you can get out of your head and into the present moment. So when you're focused on breathing, and that's all you focus on, and see how it feels in your body, see how it feels in your mind and your heart and see how it's naturally calming your heart rate.
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You can actually feel your heart rate go down and you put your attention on that activity for 60 seconds. You can eliminate other distractions by putting attention on that and get back into a rhythm that will help you in that moment. And this habit is great for when you catch yourself Over analyzing things, stressed, anxious, worried, uncertain about the future.
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Just turn your focus back to your breath and temporarily let go of any other stress. The second part is to focus on and lengthen your exhale. This is something I learned in India when I went there five years ago. They take inhales through the nose. And whatever the time amount through the nose, they teach you to practice twice as long exhale out of the nose.
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So if you're taking an inhale for two counts in the nose, four counts out of the nose. And by repeating that process, it'll calm your heart rate. It'll calm your mind and get you back into a peaceful state. And you just repeat that process over and over again. Or it could be four inhale and eight out, three inhale, six out. The exhale is just as important, if not more important than your inhale.
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So drawing out your exhale will slow your heart rate down and again bring you into a calmer state of mind. And number three is to use a deliberate sigh. So Dr. Andrew Huberman, who is a neuroscientist from Stanford who's been on the show a couple of times, showed me an exercise that involves breathing with a double intake and an extended exhale.
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So still the same extended exhale, but a double intake. And by doing this exercise for just two or three cycles can really help you calm down. And it also expands the oxygen level in your body as well. And I urge you to try it a few times during the day when you feel overwhelmed. I've been doing this a lot since he taught me. It's simply you breathe through the nose with a double inhale like this.
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So a double inhale. and twice in a long exhale that way. By doing that a few times, it really opens up the oxygen level, calms you at the same time, so practice that a couple times throughout the day. Habit number eight, this is huge. Again, this is no secret, this is no crazy hack, It's just sleep more. Sleep more. Recover.
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These 11 habits will set you up to create health and happiness and abundance. And the first step is really figuring out what is it that I want? What is my vision? What is the day that I want to have? What is the month? And what is the year that I want to have? And when you can get clear on this vision, then you can start mastering the art of breathing.
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11 Habits To Transform Your Life In 2025
Your body is going through so much every single day, especially in the last 20 years with all the data and information we are consuming from our smartphones, from computers. We're getting so many data points every day. The body needs more rest. We're working harder. We're trying to be more productive. We're trying to squeeze the juice out of life more, whether it's play, work.
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relationships we're squeezing more juice out of life and we need proper sleep to recover and we're staying up till 2 or 3 a.m and feeling exhausted from the day and anxious about tomorrow then we're going to be in a a sleep deficit and we need to get back on track with that with our sleep so here's a few ways to start getting better sleep Number one, stick to a sleep schedule as often as you can.
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Now this can be hard if you're traveling, I get it, but as often as you can, try to go to bed at the same time. Proper sleep recovers and refreshes your mind so the next day can be stress-free.
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But it's important to say, okay, I'm gonna be in bed by 10 every night or 11 every night or whatever that time is for you so you have a schedule so you know you're gonna get the certain amount of hours you need. Number two, pay attention to your diet that day. Try not to have big heavy meals before sleeping and also try to limit your caffeine intake after I would say 10 a.m. to noon.
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You don't really wanna have caffeine after that. The research has shown it's gonna make it harder for you to go to sleep at night. So number three is creating a peaceful environment for your sleep is crucial. My friend Shawn Stevenson talks about this in his book, Sleep Smarter, that you wanna create a sleep sanctuary.
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You wanna make sure that your bedroom where you sleep is a sanctuary for you to shut off and go to sleep. And that can be hard for some of us as we work from home, we sleep at home, we work, we've got a lot of activities happening in the same place.
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It's hard to really shut it off when you're used to picking up your phone in the morning or being on your phone at night, watching TV in bed, or doing all these other things in your sleeping space. But you want to create a sleep sanctuary. You want to create a routine that helps you separate yourself from the other areas of your life
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like taking a bath it'll help you rest and recover better so what is the routine what is the sanctuary that you're going to create the environment of peaceful restful sleep it's one of the most important things you can do and as an athlete i used to sleep a ton i knew the importance of sleep because your body would be so sore we would take naps we would sleep as much as we could i used to sleep in as long as i could to get that quality sleep as a business leader when i'm traveling
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I know now I'm not 21 anymore. I know the importance of my sleep. Even if I get two or three hours less sleep than I'm used to, it will affect me. I'll need more caffeine. There'll be other things you'll need to supplement.
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So it's important to know that if you are living a high-performance life, if you are trying to squeeze the juice out of life, if that's the season of life you're in right now, you've got to make sleep a huge priority for yourself so you have the energy, the focus, and the clarity to move towards your vision. Habit number nine, oh, this is a big one.
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It's a big one, because a lot of people don't like to do this, is to take responsibility for yourself, for your actions, and keep yourself accountable. Now, it's easy to be the victim. It's easy to say, make excuses for yourself, and say, well, I didn't want to do this, I wasn't feeling this, or this thing happened, or this circumstance happened.
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but you cannot negotiate your dreams and your goals. You cannot negotiate with your goals through circumstances or excuses. That will make you unhappy. It's up to you to take responsibility for your life, and you have to decide today that you're going to get in shape, that you're gonna start that side hustle or that business, that you're gonna take on a new hobby.
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You can start mastering the art of incorporating these habits in a powerful way. And I'm going to share personal stories and give scientific insights about how these practices have shaped my journey and my happiness.
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Whatever it may be for you, you've gotta decide, and only you can decide to take that first step, and then, most importantly, be consistent on those steps day after day, week after week, year after year. But the next step that matters just as much is being held accountable for the goals in front of you. That is important. The accountability is so key.
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And you need to create a habit of checking in with someone on a daily or weekly basis that can hold you accountable and call you out if you're falling short. An accountability partner could be a friend for you, could be a family member, could be a coworker, Could be a coach that you hire. Could just be someone you pay as an accountability person to check on you daily.
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Whatever it is for you, accountability is key. And the effects of accountability are strongest when you and your partner have similar goals so you can grow together with them. It's huge when you guys have that common goal. Just having one accountability partner can do wonders for you. Just one person to hold you accountable, to give you checks and balances.
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But you can also consider surrounding yourself with a team, a community of people who inspire you and hold you accountable. I hire lots of coaches. And personally, I try to find the experts in every area of my life, hire them to hold me accountable for what is important to me. Only what is important to me, I have them do.
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If it's not important and it's not part of your vision, it's not part of your overall life plan, then you don't have to do it. But for me, what's important, I hire people, I have accountability in those areas of my life. Fitness, relationships, spirituality, business, mental health. Financial health. I mean, I hire people in every category.
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And I understand you may not be at a point right now where you can do that, where you can afford that. But find friends, find mentors, find people that can hold each other accountable. And if you want to improve... Your fitness, one of the best things you can do is surround yourself with fitness-minded people.
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So if you're tired of waiting for happiness to find you and you're actually ready to create it intentionally, this episode provides the actionable strategies backed by research and real world experiences. So if you're tired of waiting for happiness to find you and you're ready to create it intentionally, this episode provides actionable strategies backed by research and real world experience.
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So if you're hanging out with people that are lazy and on the couch and aren't working out ever, then start spending more quality time with people that are getting up at 6 a.m. and doing joint runs together. There's run groups in every city around the world. There's different things you can do to support you.
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So think about the accountability in your life, what's important to improve right now, find those people to support you, and move forward. Habit number 10, learn to cope with tragedy and let go of regret, anger, and resentment. Holding on to our past trauma is one of the most painful things we can do for ourselves.
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I am speaking for myself here that I held on to trauma and resentment and anger and frustration forever. 25 years, if not more, in different parts of my life. And that is a recipe for suffering, reaction, stress, painful moments, all these different things.
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So, you know, the therapist who's been on who reminded me of this, Guy Winch, talks about, you know, the ruminating of our past wounds and holding on to these past wounds and how to heal the broken heart. We've got that episode that you can dive in more, and so many different therapists have come on and talked about this.
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But I try to really look for the positives and what I can learn from these events and feelings and channel those feelings into growth as a person and really how can I serve others who might be going through something similar in that situation. I remember hearing a story from Tony Robbins. He said, you know, When I was a kid, my mom used to beat me.
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She used to pour soap down my mouth because she thought I was lying. She used to do all these things that caused a lot of pain and trauma for me. But I loved my mother because she gave me the capacity, the expanded heart to want to help other people rid themselves from their suffering. So he used the painful moment not as resentment to hold on to,
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you know, being angry at his mom, but say, you know, I love my mom for this. You know, she didn't know any better in these times. She was doing her best. She was also loving in other ways. But those moments, I'm not going to hold on to them and suffer. I'm going to use them to end suffering for those around me. And I think that's really powerful.
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So really think about how you can let go of the emotional traumas. This might take some work for a lot of people. For me, it took a long time to really learn how to do that. It's one of the reasons why I started School of Greatness, because I wanted to interview these experts to teach me. But it's created so much freedom and peace in my life and happiness in the process.
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And habit number 11 is to eliminate things that don't make you happy and focus on what does make you happy. So I asked Matthew McConaughey this, and when I interviewed him, I said, you know, what are five things that we should be eliminating in our life? And he mentioned this list of these five things. Number one, we should be eliminating bad people.
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Eliminate people that don't promote your growth and that don't bring you joy. We often cling onto these toxic relationships for people because they validate us in the short term, but they're very harmful in the long term. So eliminate those people, or at least distance yourself. Distance yourself and start spending more quality time with people that bring you joy.
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Number two to eliminate is bad places. Stop going to places that encourage unhealthy lifestyle behaviors, like bars or fast food restaurants, et cetera. Again, don't go to these places if you know you don't feel good when you're there or afterwards. And if a certain place continually makes you feel bad, do whatever you can to eliminate or distance yourself or go there less.
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And I'm gonna break down each habit with practical examples and implementation tips that you can start using today. Now again, the end of 2024 is here. I want you to reflect and ask yourself by the end of this episode, which of these habits do I have in place?
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Our environment can really impact our mood in a big way. It's hard to not notice that. So create those environments for yourself that are healthier. Number three, you got to eliminate the comparison to others. Stop comparing yourself to others and eliminate jealousy because what is it, the quote, comparison is the thief of joy.
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I think Einstein said that, you know, when we're constantly comparing yourself to yourself of what you think you should be or whatever, it's like always in comparison mode is not going to do anything good for your happiness. Number four, overthinking your failures. Instead of dissecting all your problems, start dissecting all your success, all the things you've done to overcome the challenges.
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And ask yourself, how can I replicate my successes rather than how can I stop my failures? And number five to eliminate is instant gratification. This is a big one. Fight the cravings for instant pleasure and results and be okay with delayed gratification.
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Knowing that you're going to be doing the work consistently and your future self is going to be grateful for your current self and the consistent effort you're putting in. You're going to reap way bigger rewards in the future if you can delay that gratification. There you have it. These are the 11 healthy, happy habits to increase the overall joy of your life and set you up for a better life.
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If you can commit to implementing these in small ways over the next couple of months, I'd be curious about what would happen in your life. What do you think you could create and transform in your life just by implementing a few of these things consistently for a couple months? Leave a comment below.
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of one or two that you enjoy the most or one or two that you know you need to improve on in your life. Which one impacted you? Which one, ooh, that resonated. I've got to do that more. Or this one has been working wonders for me for years. Leave a comment below on YouTube and let me know. I'd love to hear your thoughts on that.
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And if you're not happy, if you don't feel like you're creating the life you want, then it's time to consider start implementing some of these habits. You don't have to do all 11, but I want you to start implementing some of them because now is the time to set yourself up for success in 2025. Start with this episode. Let me know.
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Subscribe to this podcast over on YouTube or on the audio on Apple podcast and let us know your thoughts. Thanks so much for being here. I have a brand new book called Make Money Easy.
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And if you are looking to create more financial freedom in your life, you want abundance in your life, and you want to stop making money hard in your life, but you want to make it easier, you want to make it flow, you want to feel abundant, then make sure to go to makemoneyeasybook.com. dot com right now and get yourself a copy.
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I really think this is going to help you transform your relationship with money this moment moving forward. We have some big guests and content coming up. Make sure you're following and stay tuned to the next episode on the School of Greatness. I hope you enjoyed today's episode and it inspired you on your journey towards greatness.
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Share this with a friend on social media and leave us a review on Apple Podcasts as well. Let me know what you enjoyed about this episode in that review. I really love hearing feedback from you and it helps us figure out how we can support and serve you moving forward. And I want to remind you if no one has told you lately that you are loved, you are worthy, and you matter.
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And now it's time to go out there and do something great.
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Send me a DM on Instagram or on social media, your biggest takeaway, and share this episode with one friend that you're with this holiday, that you're connecting with, a family member, a friend, and say, hey, are you doing any of these habits? And if so, let's take on one of these habits together, just one episode.
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It doesn't have to be all 11 and go crazy, but what's one thing we can do and hold each other accountable for and reflect on by the end of the month? I am so excited for you. It's a half of a decade is over. We're going into 2025 and so many people make new year's resolutions and they quit within the first couple of weeks. I'm not asking you to make new year's resolution here.
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What I'm asking you to do is to evaluate the lifestyle you have and to see if you can add one habit from these 11 habits to set you up for more joy, more happiness, so you can live a healthier life in the back half of this decade, starting in 2025. You are deserving and worthy to feel loved, to feel joy, and to feel happy. But it's not going to happen by default. It needs to happen by design.
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And this is your opportunity to step into the design of the life that you want to live by taking on this episode today and implementing consistently some of these habits. I believe in you. I know you're worthy and joy and happiness is moments away. If you're willing to commit to making a switch, it doesn't mean everything's going to work out perfectly. That's not what this is about.
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It doesn't mean you're not going to have any challenges in your life or breakdowns. Life would not be interesting if you didn't have any challenges. What this is, is going to demand you letting go of the old version of you that's been holding you back.
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It's going to demand a new way of being, a new level of commitment, a new level of consistency that you've never had before in order to create and get what you want right now. So if you're ready to step up, this is the episode for you. This is the moment for you to lean into that future vision of yourself that you want to create. No longer time to live in playing small.
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This is your moment to step up and lean into playing the biggest life you've ever had this year going forward. You are ready for this moment. And this is your moment to live into it. So without further ado, let's dive into this episode on the happy and healthy habits. Habit number one is to create a vision and life-fulfilling goals. Now, this is something that I talk about in my book.
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It's one of the first principles in the School of Greatness is really creating a clear intentional vision. And without a clear vision, you'll end up running in multiple different directions instead of staying focused on what truly matters in your life.
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relationships your health and your business and this can lead to your success being delayed a lot longer than it needs to be and so you really want to get clear and intentional and you can have a different vision at every different stage of your life when you're 10 years old or when you're 50 years old but it's important to have a clear vision without that you'll just be kind of wandering around.
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And when we're wandering, we feel aimless. And when we feel aimless, we feel like, what's the point? What's the purpose? What's the intention for me being here? And that causes a lot of stress and anxiety when we have those thoughts. So in my life, when I wasn't clear on my vision, I was really running around and stressed out a lot. I was like, what should I be doing? I don't know.
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I don't feel good enough. I don't feel worthy. I don't feel like I matter. And those thoughts really don't help me improve the quality of my life. And a question someone had asked me is, what was your life like when you didn't have a clear vision versus when you created one for the school of greatness? And for me, I remember different moments in my life.
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It was mostly in transition when one goal was finished, when one dream had ended, whether it be, you know, a sports dreams or business ended. It's kind of like the transition period where I was like, well, what do I do next? And it's that discovery phase of the transition where you get to get clear. Start doing the things that you really love.
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Do the hobbies, hang out with people you love to spend time with, travel. Do the things you've always wanted to do and do them to the best of your ability. When you do that, you'll start to spark ideas. Things will start to come to you naturally. And that's what I really did in between transitioning before the School of Greatness into the School of Greatness. I was living my life.
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I was playing sports. I was being active with friends. And that process, I remember going through transition thinking, you know, I wish there was more tools when I was growing up that would help me overcome the different challenges that I would face with my life. I wish there was a school of greatness that could teach me about all these different things.
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And one of the biggest things that I've seen for so many people over the last year, as we get closer to the end of the year, is they've struggled with just finding out how to be happy. And I've had so many different people that I've known that said they have some type of mental health condition or disorder. ADHD is on the rise, depression, anxiety, or just overwhelming stress.
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And that was the spark in the transition from one business to the next on why I created the School of Greatness. And the mission now is to serve 100 million lives weekly to help them improve the quality of their life. And we do that through a lot of the things that we do in the School of Greatness. But I'm very clear on the vision and on the mission. It's very intentional.
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I wake up every day thinking about it. And I act based on vision. Without that vision, I would act based on, well, what am I supposed to do? I'm not sure. I don't feel good about myself. I have no direction. And again, when we have no direction, we're just kind of wandering around in a circle. And that doesn't help us move forward. It doesn't help us grow. So have a clear vision.
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I don't care if the vision is for one month or for 20 years. Have something you're working towards that will help increase the happiness and the quality of your life. Habit number two. This is something I learned in sports early on is to have a positive attitude when things go bad. Now,
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The world is filled with a lot of different negativity, drama, stress, and sometimes it's hard not to fall victim to joining in on the negativity. This is one of the reasons why my father growing up would not let us watch the news. He would not let us watch commercials that talked about a lot of harmful things.
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or the news because he didn't want us to be susceptible to hearing about things that maybe are happening in a micro level that are blown out of proportion that seem like it's happening all over the world, but it's really only happening in a small level. He didn't want us to emphasize on all this negative energy and this negative attitude.
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So he eliminated those thoughts from our mind to support us in the positive. In sports as well, I would also have coaches that, you know, things wouldn't always go our way. And I used to be so negative. I used to be so reactive. When I missed a shot, when I dropped the ball, when I messed up, when something that I did was wrong or was a mistake, I used to beat myself up so much.
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Or when we'd lose, I was such a sore loser. I'd have such a bad negative attitude. And our coaches over the years would really teach me, like, that isn't helping you. That isn't supporting you or your teammates around you. But having a positive attitude when things go wrong will lift your teammates up, will lift you up to help you improve for the next play and the next moment.
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It's really all about having that positive attitude. Because the negative doesn't usually serve us for anything ever. There are times, absolutely, to speak up and be a stand for when bad things are happening to you or happening to other people or around you. But that's not what I'm talking about. I'm not talking about that specific person.
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moment in time i'm talking about spending hours of your day thinking about yourself negatively and thinking about the world negatively around you just ruminating on how negative everything is that prevents you from showing up as the best version of yourself and i believe you're robbing yourself and your loved ones and the world of your gifts and who you truly are when you sit in that negative state so when i begin to shift
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into having a positive attitude, it really helped me in every area of my life. And negative things or things that I don't like happen around me all the time. But it's a practice, even today. And when I'm hit with these adversities or these obstacles, I try to ask myself, how could it possibly serve me in the future?
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And every time I hear about this and I tell people, hey, if you could do this just one habit every single day for 30 days and let me know how you feel afterwards. and they actually implement this one habit, everything starts to shift. They're like, oh, my mental health is so much better and I feel more peaceful and joyful and abundant and all these different things.
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Or if it's worth putting so much energy into it around a negative attitude, is it really worth it? Is it helping me in my health? Is it helping me in my joy and my love for others and my love for myself by holding on to this negative energy? It's usually not worth the energy. So why do we do it so frequently?
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You know, there's this book called Don't Sweat the Small Stuff because it's all small stuff. You know, obviously there's adversity and there's challenges, but when you can have the attitude around it, it really shifts your life and the people around you. So you've got to do the work to develop that awareness, to realize that for yourself. This isn't easy. This took me a long time.
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And having a positive attitude is important. in my opinion, one of the most important things to manifesting, to attracting, to feeling better about yourself. But one thing that I've learned from the different guests and the experts on the show in the last few years is that what's most important is getting to the root of what's causing you the stress, the pain, the anxiety.
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the negative feelings that you're having. Because positive affirmations can only get you so far if you're not also doing the deep work on what's really going on, what's underneath the trigger, the anxiety, the fear. Dr. Caroline Leaf has been on the show a couple of times. I really love her message and her expertise.
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She said, it's like putting a bandaid on a bullet wound when you're just trying to have a positive affirmation without actually going to the root cause of what that trigger and negativity is.
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But if you're able to get to the roots of some of the things causing you so much pain and suffering and the negative attitude that you have and then begin working to stay positive and having an abundance mindset, that's when you can really start to create real change and start to see and notice the feelings of positivity, notice the feelings of happiness forever.
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flood into your heart, into your body, into your soul. And that's what this is all about. So habit number three is an important one. It's all about giving back, volunteering your time, helping others, mentoring, coaching, being of service in any way possible that you can. And you might have heard me share this before, but If you're going to be addicted to anything in life, be addicted to service.
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I believe it's, you know, not addicted in the negative sense, but if you're going to be committed to doing something and living an intentional practice, be intentional on the act of serving other people. And in whatever way that works for you, whatever you have to do, do that for you.
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It's been my mission since the beginning of this show, and every single day I aim to show up and give back to you, to people watching, to people listening. my friends and family, my team members, and anyone possible that I can. And it's very important for me. And it also brings me a lot of joy when I can know that something I did caused a positive impact on someone else's life.
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whether it be a piece of content, someone I interviewed, something they said, something I said, a way we put it out there that connected with people, that brings me so much joy. It brings me so much happiness knowing that my life has had meaning on one person's life. And it continues to feed and fuel my fulfillment and my soul every day.
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And so we wanted to put together this episode of 11 different fundamental healthy habits that have transformed my life and that I know When other people do it, even just one of these habits, it transforms their mental health, their physical health, their inner peace, their joy, their abundance, and everything else starts to fall into place. And we are accumulation of our habits.
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And that's why I continue to be committed to habit number one, which is the vision and staying true to that vision. And in a New York Times article by Tara Parker Pope, she wrote that several studies suggest that supporting others helps buffer our bodies against the detrimental effects of stress.
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And a five-year study of 846 people in Detroit found that stressful life events appeared to take a greater toll on people who were less helpful to others, while helping others seemed to erase the detrimental physical effects of stressful experiences. Now for me, that is crazy to think that those who were more self-centered, who weren't focusing outward and trying to help other people,
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I have a brand new book called Make Money Easy. And if you're looking to create more financial freedom in your life, you want abundance in your life, and you want to stop making money hard in your life, but you want to make it easier, you want to make it flow, you want to feel abundant, then make sure to go to makemoneyeasybook.com right now and get yourself a copy.
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Why do you think people struggle so much to have peaceful power in an intimate relationship in today?
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Like fear of being out of control.
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Can you feel safe if you're controlling someone else?
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So how does someone feel safe in a relationship with someone else that they're sharing their heart with, they're being vulnerable and open with? How can they feel safe if someone else has the ability to hurt them?
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I know a lot of women reach out to you and ask you questions about relationships. Based on your experience or interpretation of your community, where do you feel like women are at today in relationships? What's the percentage of women do you feel like are safe emotionally in the relationships they're in? And is it about...
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the men they're with or the relationship they're in, or is it more about they haven't learned the skills of emotional safety or regulation yet?
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Wow. Yeah. I mean, as long as you guys are coming together and in alignment on it, that's all that matters.
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What would you say are, you know, you've been married, what, 10 years now?
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10 years now. And I was asking you some marriage advice before. Yeah, because you're going. I'm engaged and, you know, going to be getting married sometime soon.
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If someone was looking to get engaged or married to their partner that they're with right now, what would you say are three mandatory questions they should ask their partner before marriage? to make sure that their answers are in alignment. And if they're not, then you should probably reconsider being in the relationship.
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So it's not just the same beliefs. It's the same shared expression of the belief.
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That's interesting because he could be like, yeah, I believe in God, but I'm an angry person.
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I'm just trying to tear the world down.
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Wow. OK, so one more time. Say it again.
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That is so powerful because if people have not healed the wounds of the past and they drag them into the present, they'll keep happening in the future and it's going to affect the person you're with.
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Yeah, that's interesting. Because if someone's replying and saying, well, I didn't really have anything and they're just dismissing it. Or if it is a big thing, but they're not willing to address it. It's like it's going to impact you.
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The person you're with. For sure. They might be avoidant or reactive or explosive or aggressive. You don't know.
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That's a good one. Great question.
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Do you think the world is in more pain now than when you were a teenager?
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We would see maybe newspapers or.
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It does. You incorporate prayer in your life a lot. What is the prayer that you think the world needs to hear right now?
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Yeah. I can't remember if this is like a quote or just an analogy, and I can't remember who said this, but something like, if you want to go change the world, start with your own house, start with your own family. I can't remember who said that. But it seems like so many people are trying to fix problems outside of their own life. Yeah. Like they're...
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shouting about this cause and this problem and this thing in the world that's unjust and this war and this thing, you know, changing these policies. And I get it. I understand that. But it also seems like they're just not happy with their own life. And they probably have challenges at home that they can be taken care of first.
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Why do you think so many people try to fix outside problems as opposed to focus on how they can improve their health, their relationships, their past, their traumas? their family situation, why do you think we as society try to fix outside versus first fixing inside?
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But I also think that there are some people who... But if they have broken relationships and they're, you know, sick or they're not taking care of that first, that's, I guess, what's... I mean, because it's just so much easier to sweep around someone else's front porch.
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What do you say to people that are really struggling, that really want love, really want intimacy and connection and just deep compassion with someone else, but they're afraid to do the healing work because the trauma is so scary?
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I'm assuming, you know, I don't want to put words in your mouth, but I'm assuming that when you met her, you weren't... I was a boy. You weren't on the healing journey yet.
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You had traumas, you had challenges, you were struggling. And I'm assuming when you got married, you still had a lot of traumas and challenges, right?
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So how do you... heal in relationship. If you've made a commitment to someone already and you realize, oh, you know what? I still got my wounds and traumas and I'm still kind of messing up in certain ways. And maybe she is too. But we've been together for three, four, five, six, seven years now.
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Now we got kids and we're realizing we've been trauma bonding or reacting or triggering each other or hurting each other unintentionally or I've been hurting myself. Is it too late to heal and repair because of the baggage of someone in a relationship? Yeah. Or can you still heal and mend and recreate a new relationship in a broken relationship? I'm not saying yours was broken.
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So identifying it first, facing it.
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And that's something you've been doing in your health journey over the last year now, year and a half?
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Two years. Because when I saw you, I think it was about two years ago when I saw you last.
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I had a little extra weight on me. You had some extra love on you.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah. but what allowed you to make a decision with your health to optimize health because it's been a two-year journey you've been disciplined on this journey of health Was there a trauma holding you back? Was there an old pattern holding you back? Was it just life was good?
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Food. Where do you think you would be in five to 10 years had you not taken care of the the commitment to the decision to being disciplined with your health, but you're still on the rise, you're still serving, you're getting all this real estate, you're impacting people, millions of people are following you. Where would you be in five to 10 years?
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Wow. Okay. I love this. So when you identify it and you face it, as opposed to, I guess, running away from it or just allowing it to consume you, What would be the next step? How do we move that power into a direction that supports and serves and empowers us?
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This is a powerful story, man. And in your book, On page 49, you have a quote that says, our fruit is always connected to the root. Yes, sir. So when you thought back to your 12 year old self, where was the fruit that was in the root of your pain?
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Right. It helped you get to a certain level.
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But just like the same thing that helped Mike Tyson get to world champion status is also the thing that destroyed him.
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What do you think is missing for most people in order to reach some type of depth and joy?
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Do you feel like there's anything in your life where you suffer?
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I mean, you've got a nice home. You've got a great family.
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Yeah, right, right, right. I can almost see my house from this place, by the way. You've got things done well, but we all have our own inner battles.
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And what are yours if you have any?
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Yeah. You've been on a journey over the last, I think, like four to six months where you've been surfing almost every day. Is that right? Quite a bit, yeah. Pretty much like four or five days a week or what?
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Dolphins were going right there.
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Now, what are the biggest lessons you've learned in the last, I guess, six months? Since you've been doing this pretty much daily, I know we had a conversation.
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You're going there like all day until like a certain time and you're not, no phone.
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You just kind of like take your journal. Yeah, yeah. What's the big lessons you've learned about doing this every single day as opposed to just jumping in kind of like the rat race of like be on your phone and like working all day?
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And what's the big thing you've learned about this journey?
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Sounds nice for you, but most men are probably thinking like, oh, my wife would never let me do that. You know, just go to the beach for all day.
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You obviously have, you know, resources now and flexibility and freedom with what you've created for the last 20 years in your life. So you have those options.
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be at be at the best so that we can do what we need to do yeah if there was a if you were the author of a new book called the bible of today right and all the writers of these poems and letters and lectures and stories said rob we want there to be a new bible and we want you to write it And we want you to do your best.
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Or hit a boundary or say, no, that doesn't work for me right now.
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Obviously, this is your interpretation, but we feel like you have the keys to the kingdom to be able to write something that would help a lot of people in this world, no matter what religion, what they believe, what they don't believe. But this would be the new Bible. What do you think you would cover? What would I cover? Yeah, what would you write about? What would you cover?
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How long would it be to get the message across? And what would you want really people to feel at the end of reading this?
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As opposed to just going along with what your past identity would always do, I guess. For sure. So it's almost like create a rehearsal and practice with yourself first. Once you identify and you're aware of it, I'm hearing you say like, How would you reflect on something you would have done earlier that day that you wish you had the power to do?
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When are you going to start writing it?
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And start practicing it on your own.
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this is like the 10th or 11th 10th or 11th who's counting three New York time bestsellers tours speaking everywhere on tour with Oprah all that good stuff documentaries uh This is, let's say, 100 years is the last day for you, right? You live for another 100 years plus whatever, as long as you want to live. And you achieve everything that you set out to do.
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All your dreams, you create it, you do whatever you want. You make it come true. But for whatever reason, all your work is erased. And it's not available for people to learn or read or watch anymore. But you have a piece of paper and a pen and you get to write down three truths. The three things you know to be true, the lessons that you would pass on to the people after you're gone.
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For the whole world, this is all they see, these three lines or lessons. What would your three truths be?
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For someone that thinks that they've never been enough, that they don't believe they're enough, or they don't believe they're worthy or deserving of their own power, what are three things that you think, maybe from your book, Power Moves, that they could start to apply today to feel more enough and more powerful?
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What's the biggest power move you need to make in your life right now? The biggest change that's on your heart or mind or in your world that you know you're still...
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Marinating and need to activate.
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Are you not being authentic in certain areas or you're not?
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Wow. So that's what you're working on?
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Yeah, yeah. Interesting. But you weren't an expert when you started speaking on stage either, were you? I was not. Did it stop you from putting yourself out there?
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Sharing a message authentically and imperfectly. And it served and moved people. I see what you did there, a little sprinkle. What is the prayer you need to hear right now for yourself?
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Yeah, this is interesting. I just wrote down kind of what you were sharing there. I put calling on top and then success versus service.
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And it sounded like you started sharing your story to be of service to people that were asking, hey, share your story.
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And you realize, oh, this was helping individuals, a handful of people, and then hundreds and thousands and millions. And you gain success as well through that process of just sharing your story and being of service. And then it sounds like it's moved you into a calling. It's what it's sounding like, right? But... How do we learn how to know when we're going after success versus service? Yeah.
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And how do we know, well, this is an amazing opportunity and here's this cool thing I could do with this person and this experience and here's a lot of money over here and this project and this deal. How do we know when we're taking on success and it is truly service versus success by itself?
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How does someone learn how to do that, though, when there's so much pressure from, you know, their survival, making money, their approval, the pressures of a publisher potentially telling you you need to do this or your community letting people down? How does someone let go of the pressure? need for something to be successful and be an obedient servant to their calling and message instead.
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In a material world when we got to survive and pay bills.
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Speaking of power moves, someone could look at this and think, like, is this a relationship book about power moves and relationships? You're speaking about your husband. Yeah. It seems to me like a lot of people are struggling in relationships. Like there's. Power dynamics where there's just fights happening all the time in intimate relationships where people are dating or married.
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So I think it's being a lawyer of your life.
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That's great, that's fun. What do you think is the difference between a rich mindset and a poor mindset?
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Of that belief system.
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Which is something you understand.
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You know, more excited, passionate, abundant feeling, energetic, and that energy attracts opportunities.
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So do the things that bring you joy.
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Why do we lack the perspective? You know, it's...
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you know and that creates more space for abundance in your life so that's cool and what would you say the biggest insecurities or challenges you face now at your stage after I guess, 13 years in business now, you know, crossing 100,000, crossing the seven figure mark and beyond. What's the challenge for the next level for you?
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You've never had this much money before.
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So what do I do with this much money?
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Which investments should I be spending it in? Am I spending it the right, wrong places? Interesting.
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Can you give an example?
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She was there the whole summer.
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Of course. Was this Florida or where is this?
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But the value in it was really like... A rich life, a rich feeling.
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Which probably allows you to think bigger and expansiveness in your business.
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Your family is, you know, feeling joy and love.
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They're too conservative.
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Yeah, it's true. What was the, what was the mindset shift for you from going seven figures to eight figures? Like what did it take?
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Is it tactical? Is it mindset? Is it a team? Is it systems, processes? What was that?
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I think debt feels daunting for a lot of people. And if you were broke today, and if you were in debt, let's say. Let's say you made a bunch of challenging financial decisions. Your mistake journal is filled up to the brim. And you're broke and in a lot of debt. What is the exact process you would take then from going from broken in debt to creating a financially free life? Woo!
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Right. I think it's to know your worth in general.
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And that's applied to everything in life. Like know your worth with your friends, with your family, in your partnership, with your relationship.
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Don't sell yourself short in any area of your life. And you've got to learn to believe in yourself to do that, which goes back to step one for you. Exactly. Surround yourself with people who've done it and then learn to believe in yourself.
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What would you say is the number one piece of financial advice you're seeing online that people should ignore?
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How can people start to shift out of a scarcity mindset into abundance thinking when they're just fight or flight survival mode daily?
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What if someone doesn't want to pay it? They say, okay, I recognize the value, but that's not the value I'm willing to pay for because I don't want that value or it's not a need in my business or whatever it might be.
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There's another thing that you mentioned just before this was, you know, there's kind of two different mindsets. Your grandfather, who worked in the coal mines, who worked really hard, it sounds like on a daily basis, but didn't understand how to create more value, whether in his coal mine or somewhere else, and therefore was given what he received, correct? Yeah.
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Versus your dad, where it sounds like How did your dad break that mindset from his father, who he saw probably miserable or unhappy in the minds of dirty every night and sick and coughing? How did he say, I want to change this without a model of someone showing him abundance?
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That makes sense. And how does someone learn to feel worthy when they're broke?
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and entrepreneurism. Yeah. So you mentioned money demons. What are money demons? And do we all have them?
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How do you believe that?
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When the bank account and the relationship accounts don't show that value.
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So how does that look like in your mind? How do you kill off the old limiting belief or the demons that keep you small or holding back?
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You advise how many different, I guess, advisors would you say? Roughly 500. 500, and they're managing portfolios of what type of range?
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But you have this part of the book, page 73, called the destructive cycle of wealth. And you say, yes, it's cliche that money can't make you happy. Songs have been written about it. But why can't money make you happy? Shouldn't it make you a little bit happier if you suddenly stumble into, say, $100 million?
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You say the answer is no, and it sounds counterintuitive, but I firmly believe that to be true. And if money isn't making us any happier and most of us have much more than what we need, why do we work so hard to make more of it? Why do we spend so much of our lives thinking about money without even realizing it?
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We are stuck in the destructive cycle of wealth and learning about this cycle can help you better understand some of your decisions about money. And you say it has five phases beginning with our most basic human needs. Can you talk about what this destructive cycle of wealth is, why it's important for us to understand it and what we can do to make sure we don't stay in it? Yeah.
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It's about survival. So if I'm getting this right, we go through the cycle and you know, a lot of people who are mega millionaires, maybe even billionaires who are unhappy still. Yep. Would you say the majority of millionaires or billionaires are unhappy, the ones that you've been around or experienced?
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Really? It becomes empty. It's so empty. I need more money, more money, more money for what? It's an addiction of itself. So it sounds like the greater the purpose you have, the more fulfilled you'll be with or without money. Absolutely.
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Well, because they feel taken care of by the community or they know they're going to be provided for. They're happy with whatever they receive each day.
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I love this. And you mentioned early on that people have these screens. And just so I'm clear, is a screen kind of like a framework? It's kind of like a framework of thinking towards money or towards life? Is that your definition of a screen? It is.
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I love that approach is surrounding yourself with people that will hype you up or that inspiring that have already done that. And I've also heard people say, when I'm in those rooms, I feel like an imposter. I feel like all these incredible women, you know, if I was a woman in these rooms of women for this example, but these women have done incredible things.
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So can you give me an example? If you were doing this exercise for yourself, and I'm assuming you've done this a bunch of times, or you have an example of something, a story that you had, a money story or a moment or memory that caused a belief within your screen that...
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Or you could have said, see, there is no God because I'm divorced. Half my money is gone. My business is gone. My kids don't like me. Right? You could have also gone and stayed in that belief.
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How am I be able to, why should I, I shouldn't be in this room because they're all amazing. You know, starting to downplay my talents because they're all at a different level or have more experience or have their careers or financially successful.
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oh my gosh that was his first thing that was the first thing out of his mouth geez his screen his framework his mindset when he saw something he said you did something wrong to get this yep there's no way you could have done something good to be able to afford something that's right man and i know my dad wanted to be proud of him
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How old were you during that time? About 13. Wow. I mean, that's a memory that is still alive in you today. I'll never forget that day. 47, 48 years ago, right? That was a memory that your grandfather had with your father and your family. What...
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How does someone get over the imposter syndrome of being in the room when they are the whatever label they want to call it, the least successful financially, the least intelligent, the least experienced, whatever they want to say to themselves.
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psychological screen did you create in that moment that stuck with you that benefited you and one that didn't benefit you yeah well because money essentially that you know your dad tried to break a model of his father's to do something good but it hurt the relationship with his father that's right it caused him maybe he could think it caused him to die
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maybe maybe not but it could be like it was so bad that he died alone because he had no family and he didn't want to be around me whatever he made up in his mind so what was the benefit from you and seeing that experience versus you know a negative benefit the benefit in that was that dad stood up for his family well it's powerful and stood up to his values and what he believed about America
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I shouldn't be here.
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What would you say are – Some things people should talk about before getting married about money conversations. What questions should you ask your partner before getting married to make sure that you're at least setting yourself up on the right track of a healthy, successful marriage?
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Because I don't have X. How can they overcome the imposter syndrome?
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And if she wasn't working, she was thinking, I'm not valuable.
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Now, I guess she might think I'm not valuable for myself, but also the fear could be, well, if I'm not working, he met me when I was working and providing for myself and independent. That's what turned him on potentially. So if I'm not doing that, will he still be turned on?
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I mean, it's a real fear though, right? It's a real fear. So she has to have a lot of trust in you that, okay, I'm going to leave my job and you're not going to leave me. Yeah. Yeah. How does a woman trust a man in that position who's already been divorced and been wounded, who's already been abandoned, who wants to make sure that doesn't happen again, who wants to provide for their family?
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How does a woman trust and have faith? What can she say to the man to feel safe?
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And probably your actions matching your words consistently for her, right? Most of our therapy had to do around the kids, I'm sure.
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It takes a long time when you have that many players involved. No, but also when you got divorced, I'm assuming it affected your financial situation or your business. You had to either split or give up a large portion, I'm assuming. Unless I'm wrong, let me know. But how did you manage that money demon of, man, I worked so hard for this, and now I've got to give up half or whatever it was? Yeah.
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How did you overcome that? And how did you, instead of being a victim to that situation, how did you start to shift and say, and use it for good, that screening?
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Because you could just stop running the company.
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But you gave up a lot of your other assets and cash. A ton. Yeah. How did that make you feel, though, that screen? Did you say, you know what, this is creating freedom and peace for me and I'm okay with this?
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So I think if someone's in the room and they're there, they're going to remember this conversation that you share here. And they're about to be in a room with a bunch of powerhouse whatever individuals. Yes. That they want to be around. and they're like, this is the first time I've been around this group of people, I'm terrified, I'm nervous.
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If someone wasn't raised around the language of money and they weren't in an environment or a household that spoke about it in a good way, maybe they said money, you know, rich people are mean or bad people, or their parents always got angry when they saw someone who had money on TV and associated wealth with... a bad person.
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What can they remind themselves in that moment when the Oprah of their industry is talking to them and they are potentially a nobody in that space, they're on their way up or whatever, what can they remind themselves?
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What did that do for you?
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How do they break that mindset that not all wealthy people are bad people?
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Yeah. Have you met a lot of millionaires who are unhappy?
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I'm driving a scooter. Scoot down the street with a smile on my face. Wave at the guys in the Ferrari. Like... I want what that guy has, you know, it's like.
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I think you want something because you want it, not because you're trying to impress someone else or show off or keep up. Or you think you should want it. Yeah, or because your friends have it, you're supposed to buy it.
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You have four kids, right?
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Four kids. What are the main themes that you teach your kids about money from all these different age ranges? You know, if you could share three things that you teach them consistently at home.
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whether it be a simple or profound principle, what are those three things that you talk about on a consistent basis with all of them?
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Am I complaining in my mind? I wish she would do this. I wish she would do this. But without saying it, that's still like creating this rumination inside of you. I love that audit. We are here talking about eight rules of love, how to find it, how to keep it, and how to let it go. If you guys haven't got a copy yet, make sure to get 10 copies right now. You mentioned this a little bit before.
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about conscious love, having agreements, principles, boundaries, and rules, which I think is a great thing. Most people don't have that. They just have assumptions and expectations. That goes more into toxic love. A friend of mine, Ryan Holmes, told me this years ago when he got married. I was like, what has made this a healthy relationship for you?
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He was like, we created a, what did he call it, like a family vision. we actually sat down and we created like a family crest, like a sign, a symbol of what we wanted to mold together to build our family. Something like we used to do in England like 500 years ago.
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And he said, doing that allowed us to get clear on our principles, what we wanted to really step into, how we wanted to serve each other and our communities, our families, and the world.
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i thought that's cool is there anything that you have around building kind of like a relationship motto uh you know crest uh vision is there anything you talk about around that yeah i i talk a lot about how there's there's three things you've got liking someone's personality you've got
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Liking their personality is what you said first, right? If you don't like someone's personality, you're going to spend 10,000 meals with them. You better enjoy their personality.
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With no distractions. With no distractions. You and the other person, you know, I heard this, I think it was a year ago, about like you're going to spend 10,000 meals with someone if you're with them forever, you know? Can you sit across the table and have 10,000 meals and enjoy the meals for the most part? So I love this liking personality, respecting values.
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I think with Martha, I got so clear on my values and communicating it effectively. And she asked me early on, I've told you this before. She asked me early on, what are your priorities, Lewis? Question. I don't know, maybe a month into dating. What are your real priorities in life, right? That every man fears answering.
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And I said, ooh, do I step into courage here, or do I shy back to keep it comfortable and not stir the boat? And I remember saying, well, I wanna be very honest and authentic with you, but I don't know if you're gonna like it, and I don't know if you're gonna wanna hang out in this way anymore. She was thinking that I'm going to say something horrible.
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And I was like, do you want me to be fully honest? And she looked at me and said, yes. I said, are you sure? Because I've been honest in the past and people don't like it. Yeah. Are you sure? And she said, yes. Take a deep breath. I'm like, okay, I got to have this courage. Because I just know that I thought that she wouldn't like what I was about to say.
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And I said, okay, here are my three main values in order in life. Number one is I value my health. And that needs to be like my top priority. Because if I'm sick, I can't do really anything. So I need to take care of health first and you need to support me in making sure that I use my energy to do that on a consistent basis.
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You can't pull me away from my health or healthy activities or make me feel bad for going to the gym or whatever it is. Number one. Number two, priority number two is my purpose, my mission.
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Like in the season of life, the mission that I have right now, and that's being all in, focused on that and not feeling bad about it, not taking time away from it, you know, not being resentful of it, any of those things. That's priority number two. And I was like, no woman wants to hear from their man or potential man that they're not their number one or number two priority.
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And I said then number three would be my relationship. You know, if we're going to end up dating together, it would be us. Yeah. And And I said, that doesn't mean you want to be like, I would never have time for you.
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But I need to make sure those first two priorities are set in stone so that I can actually give to you more so that I can be more present with you so I can give you fully abundantly and we can do all the things you want to do. You're gonna feel like number one, but you need to know that number one and two, I have to do these first. And you will feel like the most important person in the world.
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But if I don't feel healthy, if I'm being pulled away from my purpose and my mission, I'm not gonna be good for you. And she looked at me, she goes, this is amazing. And she goes, that's amazing. I love this. And I go, really?
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Because I'm thinking like, I've experienced and I've heard other people experience that if you're not making your woman your number one priority, if you don't put me first over everything, then it's like a stressful experience. And for me, that goes back into toxic love. And it's not about you aren't my top priority. It's prioritizing health and purpose and service first.
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whether you want to call it the same level or just above it so that you have the energy to be present uh to your relationship at least that's for me what i feel like a man needs to be in their relationship they're on they got to be on purpose right and she told me I love it because I've never been with a man who had a purpose. They always made me their purpose.
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And after a while, it doesn't feel good. You're like, go out and do the thing you want to do in life. I don't care if you want to serve two people a day, but go do something that you're excited about, not just make it about me.
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yeah and so give me your thoughts on this you know yeah this this idea or this philosophy um if you think that's in alignment with your eight rules of love or if you think that's i'm crazy and i just got a lucky one who just accepts me for that i love it so it's really interesting you say you did that because inside my book eight rules of love i actually talk about how i gave a client that same exercise so i asked them to rank their top three priorities in order and i was coaching the couple
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Like he was... Go ahead. No, go ahead. This is funny because I want to unpack this because I went to Cesar Millan, the dog whisperer, and I took my team to do like a full day of leadership training, which you got to take your team one day. So cool. I'm always scared Cesar's going to give me a dog. That's why I don't go. I know, right? I'm so scared.
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And he talks about the dynamics, at least in America, of married couples who... where if you if he asked most women what's the priorities in the relationship it's it's like mom kids dog then the husband this is what he says a lot of women say it's like the husband is last because they get this unconditional love from the dog but that's after the kids oh my gosh and then husband
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And he's like, we've got it all backwards.
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We need to be, the parents need to be leading the pack together, side by side.
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I love that. That's a beautiful point. Yeah. So you said he had one thing, which was her, the kids, and then himself. And she had herself, the kids, and then the man.
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And so what happened from that dynamic? And what happens when you enter or are in a relationship like that?
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How is it not the kids?
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And being lazy about everything else.
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Speaking of priorities, I'm curious your thoughts on... What is more triggering and harder to talk about in intimacy, which will lead to marriage? Is it around money or how to raise kids? Or are they kind of equal on their triggering?
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Why are so many people holding on to resentment of what someone did in a relationship in their past versus allowing them to find forgiveness and peace about it? Maybe not agreeing that it was okay what they did, but why do people hold on to resentment for so long or anger about a past?
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It's an explosion of love.
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What's the difference?
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What is the thing that you see them do extremely well versus? Oh, yeah. They forgive each other.
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What happens if we don't forgive something that our partner or in a relationship does? If it hurts us or they said something and they did something, maybe it was really bad or just.
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And if you're holding a grudge of the past, it's going to predict that in the future.
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Yes. You mentioned about survival mode. When we're in survival mode, we're feeling stressed. And when we're feeling stressed, we're unable to feel that kind of self-love, love for self. Well, when you're in stress, you're altered. You're altered.
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You're shaken. You're not feeling whole. You've moved from love. Right. Yeah. And when we enter a relationship from survival or stress... or lack of worthiness or neediness. I need someone to make me feel more love because I don't have it myself. What do we usually attract and create when we're attracting from neediness, survival, and a lack of wholeness?
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I love your definition of toxic love versus conscious love. And when I was hearing you say this, I was thinking that conscious love is also wanting to take emotional responsibility and accountability for emotions, as opposed to saying, you made me feel this way. You said this, you didn't do this, and it made me explode on you.
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And when I think you're more awake in your heart and your brain, you start to attract more great opportunities and you start to see is this person in alignment with
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it's having the emotional responsibility to to manage it and if you aren't good at managing it saying i take full accountability and i'm working on that healing journey and i think that responsibility and accountability adds to the potential growth for conscious love
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Yes. what is the main thing you would recommend people work on themselves whether in transition of relationships or in a relationship is there one thing that they could always be working on to improve themselves to be better for other relationships if their entire story about the relationship that just ended is about what the other person did wrong to them
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It gives me what I need.
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How are you going to add value?
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Yeah. And if someone's like, you know what, they listen to you, Esther, they really want to have an amazing relationship. They want to have a rich life, knowing it's not going to be perfect, but they want to create beauty and adventure and play and go through life through the sadness and the adversities and all the things that happen in life.
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And they're thinking to themselves, how much should I pour into myself for my dreams, my health, my friends and family? How much should I pour into the other person, into their life that I'm creating a partnership with? And how much should I pour into the relationship itself? What would you say to that?
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Not physically alive, but...
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How often are you playing in your relationship?
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Some people may be resisting the humor. They want to hold on to the seriousness. Yes.
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I want to ask you a few more questions, then I want us to play your game for a little bit. Over the last two years, was there anything that came up for you personally in your own inner world that you noticed, oh, there's something, like we talked about it, it created a lot of pressure for people if there were things that came out.
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Was there anything for you that you were like, huh, there's something I still need to work on myself or...
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Wow, talk about humor.
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No one can come here within 1,000 yards of us. No, no.
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get your tickets i can't wait to see you there i'm curious what is the difference between toxic love and conscious love because i feel like a lot of people get into relationships based on a wound and it causes you know toxic chemicals that might feel like love but then they unwind after six months, a year, two years, and it feels like then it's not conscious love.
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It's one of the key things in a relationship and in life is what I'm hearing you say.
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that are actually the most harm. Not like he cheated or she's lied to me or he's watching porn or whatever that is. But what are actually the things that most people think, that's not really that big a deal. That actually you do it year after year after year is a big deal breaker in ruining relationships. Maybe it's the little things, maybe it's the whatever it might be.
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Is there anything you can think of?
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Or at least not during their season of being driven. Correct. Maybe in 20, 30 years, it'll change, but you can't expect it to change.
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Okay, so that's number one, the idea of control.
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They got into it from a chemical romance, wounded, as opposed to conscious healing, integrating that into a relationship. What is the difference between toxic love and conscious love?
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That is the bottom line. That's it. And you do that week after week, year after year. You're like, I'm never enough for this person. What do I need to do? So they start celebrating what we're doing, not what everyone else is doing.
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And that goes back into your third agreement of love.
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It was criticism. Like diminishing them.
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I think this is a beautiful audit and probably a lot of people aren't even aware they're doing it.
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It's such a pattern and an unconscious reaction to seeing something. And even if you don't do it verbally, I would ask yourself to audit it internally. That's what I'm saying. Am I criticizing? Am I comparing? We're not even saying it. Maybe I keep the peace and I don't say what I really think, but are you thinking it? Yeah, you're scrolling on social media. Yeah, yeah. Am I comparing?
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Storytelling is something you're really passionate about. What's a story...
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So challenging. Yeah.
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Why do you think so many people struggle with self-confidence and self-belief today? Is it social media, outside influences? Is it people just don't think they're good enough? How come you were able to drink the Kool-Aid and stay in that environment and not let outside forces creep in?
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Really?
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Really? Yeah.
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What was so uncomfortable about it? Was it doing something you've never done before, like getting out of your comfort zone and asking to raise money for something that maybe you're new at? Is that what it was?
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Yeah. Who was more influential for you, your father or mother?
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Yeah, wow. What do you think was the greatest skill that you developed in your training on the court and as an athlete that you're able to translate into these moments of raising money for a business?
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Wow. Have you ever been afraid of failure or have you just been confident? Yeah. Really? Yeah.
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What's the thing? Speaking of holding on to things, what's the thing that you in your life held on to for the longest period that once you let go of it, allowed you to step up in a greater way as an athlete or a human or, you know, in business? What was that thing?
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So the letting go of the letting go of, oh, I should have invested in this. I should have taken this action and beating yourself up. You let that part of you go for that.
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so that's good that's good i know you weren't expecting that answer but no whatever's on your heart and mind what do you think regret what do you think has been the uh the emotion that you've had that you held on to for too long in your life that when you let go uh allowed you to be a better human being a better athlete a better you know person in your family really um
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What would you say, you know, your parents, obviously, I think a lot of people know about your parents making a big impact in your life. You speak about them a lot. What would you say was the greatest lesson that each of your parents taught you growing up that you still hold on to today and implement today in your life?
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You're playing against other 10, 11-year-olds? You didn't score once? Not one. Were you in the game? I was in the game. How did you not score? Because I was terrible.
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What is your weakness that you think you could improve on?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
It's me.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Do you feel like you're just overly generous and you're not thinking, oh, is this person just taking advantage or just maybe they weren't thinking about contributing?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Sure. I'm curious about your mindset. Again, with someone like yourself who's accomplished so much at the highest level in the world of what you do, can you break down a little bit on how you think before entering a big moment in your life, in your sport, or in the business you're building? Is there a process that you think about when you're going to enter the arena of whatever you're working on?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Um, is there a mantra, a process? Do you visualize something? Do you, do you release something? Can you just walk through a little bit about that process?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
I love that. How do you train to stay strong mentally? Personally.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Doing the work.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Absolutely. I think a lot of people want to win at whatever game they're playing in life or their career or their business or their sport. They want to be more successful. They want to win. And it seems like more than ever, society, at least in America, American society, it seems like everyone, Laura, lots of people want to become more famous, wealthy, and successful.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
And the more people I interview and ask about this who have fame, wealth and success, they talk about, you know, the pressures that come with that. Can you share a little bit about how you were? Did you feel like you were mentally and emotionally prepared?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
When you became a world icon in your sport and you started to gain popularity, fame, success, money, did you feel you were mentally and emotionally prepared? Or was that a challenge? Or was it a lot of pressure at first?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Is that when you think the mentality of hard work started to come in for you at that age when you failed so miserably, I guess, that summer?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Wow. Did you ever feel like you got punished after a loss?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Yeah. And not holding on to it for like days or weeks of, you know, a loss.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Absolutely.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Absolutely. The younger generation might have today or the confusion around how to build confidence. Can you share, and I think this speaks into building a confident identity, can you share your passion for really starting to shift the conversation from appearance to capability and your own personal journey given the insights in this issue?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
How did you learn to build confidence during a time of maybe not feeling that confident growing up?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Really?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
This will determine the rest of your life.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Where you go to school and college and everything else.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
And then you'd be like, I've got my jump shot from 15. I've got my- Yeah, I got my jump shot from 15.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
12, 13.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Really?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
At 17.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
There wasn't opportunities for women to really be stars back then when you started.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Why not? Why can't you plan it?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Interesting. How long did you... And them wanting... Wanting you for who you are.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
So how long did you transform into someone you think they would want? How long was that process for?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
And then your athleticism, once you have the fundamentals, the hard work, the mindset, and you tack on the athleticism, it's game over.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Okay.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
What was your routine and ritual like after every game? Would you watch almost every game over or certain games?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
How did you value yourself then?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Every game you watch?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
And so you were wrestling. You were pursuing professional wrestling, I guess, at the time.
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The whole game?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Then you quit to be a flight attendant?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
How old were you when you shook it?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Is this in London now or where is this?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Oh, it's in Dublin, yeah, yeah.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
When you're doing the acting?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Where did you feel like you were not connecting with in that first year? Was it the story aspect? The story part was what helped me. That's what saved my job. That's what kept you in it.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Was unique.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Interesting. Is it like six days a week training?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Gosh, that would have been so fun. Watching the matches? Just, I mean, that whole experience. Just like being a full-time athlete. Training, watching, testing, trying, just like...
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Right. In hindsight, great.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
You could be cut like every week.
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subsided then you could enjoy it more sure but when you were scared that you were going to get fired every other day not enjoyable not enjoyable at all so when did you feel like i'm making it like when did you feel like okay i'm actually making it i don't know in my sport in society culturally financially when was the moment from 10 years ago to like i'm arriving
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
You tried to dance.
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You tried to do the Irish dance.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
You dominated.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
You're having fun.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Big WWE fan, Rick Rubin, we had on the show. I love Rick. And he talks about what you just said, making art for you. And writing in your journal, in your diary, the things that are meaningful for you, your art, not worrying what people are going to think about it, but having the courage to put it out there and allowing others to see it as well. That's like part of the process.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
And he's a big fan, isn't he?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Yeah, yeah.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Have you read it? Yeah, it's so good. Yes.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Yeah, he's great.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Universe, tell me. Yeah.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Have you ever not felt like you were prepared before going live and having to come up with something on the spot? a million times. Really?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
As you're going out. Yes. You have to evolve what you're going to say. Yeah.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
It's scary but exciting at the same time.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Yeah.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
It's just in the moment. It's the ultimate yes and experience.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Someone's going to say something and hit someone and go on to the next person.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
They'll throw you out there. You just figure it out. Yeah.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Wow, that's exciting. I told you I've never been to a show, so I got to come and watch you. You got to come.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
I'm curious, when is there a moment, and you've had so many different matches over the last 10, 15 years, when was the match or the moment that you were in the most flow, that you felt like 100% authentic to you, that the words were flowing, the movement was flowing, like it was all connecting and the audience was connected to you.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Really? Yeah, yeah, yeah. What year is this? It's 2018. 2018, okay. I want people to get your book. It's beautiful stories, lessons about someone from, you know, really a small town, small country who was able to become one of the biggest stars in the world and all the different life lessons and stories along the way which are really inspiring. So I want people to get a copy of
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Your book, The Man, Not Your Average Average Girl. Make sure you guys check this out by Rebecca Quinn. Really inspiring stuff and just some really cool stories in here that I think people will like, whether you're into WWE or not. Again, I've never been to a match, but I thought all this stuff was fascinating. So I'm coming one of these days. I'm going to be there.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
I have three final questions for you, Rebecca. The first one is called The Three Truths. It's a hypothetical question. So I'd like you to imagine, if you can, a moment, that you get to live as long as you want in this world, but it's your last day, many years away. You get to pick as old as you wanna be, but eventually you gotta turn the lights off for yourself.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
And in this hypothetical world, you have to take everything with you. So no one has access to this book, our conversation, any piece of content that's ever been out, anything you create from this moment moving forward, it has to go with you when you leave.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
But on the last day, you get to leave behind three lessons to the world, three things you know to be true, and that's all you would ever be able to leave behind to everyone else. What would be those three truths for you?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
seeing it before it happens. Yeah. We, you know, in football, we'd watch it once a week, game film, but not, you know, after every game, it was only one game a week. You got like three, three weeks. Yeah. Yeah.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
It's contained. It's contained.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
That's beautiful. I hope you enjoyed today's episode and it inspired you on your journey towards greatness. Make sure to check out the show notes in the description for a full rundown of today's episode with all the important links.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
I don't know. Tom Brady's obsessive over game film as well. I mean, watching his show that came out, Tom versus time was all about him just in there studying even months after the game he's studying to prepare. Right. It's just like, he's not stopped. And that's one of the keys, you think.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
It's like if you're not watching film, whether it be as a speaker on stage or a performer and a musician, if you're not watching yourself back. You've got to learn, man.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
So let's go ahead and dive in. The thing I love the most about you is that you really care about other human beings. Your heart is so big, even though you've been known for this focus mentality that is just almost psycho in some ways, but you care deeply about human beings. And I think that's why so many people love you as well.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Now, did you have your teammates also follow on this obsessiveness that you had as well, or did you just encourage them or what was the.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
So you'll show them the game from a little bit here and there.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Let's do it. Yeah, yeah. What about season 16, 17, 18? Are you still watching every game film as obsessively as the first 10 years?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
How do I lift everyone else up? It's tough. I mean, you were so dominant in your whole career. one of the greatest of all time, was there a weakness that you had? Or did you, because obviously you're always trying to master your weaknesses so they became strengths, but at the end, or towards the end, did you ever feel like, gosh, I still haven't mastered this one part of the game?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Do you feel like you never really had the compassion you wish you would have had? Like until the last maybe couple years?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Yeah. Wow. What are you most proud of from your 20 seasons?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
So I want to acknowledge you for your kindness and your generosity towards humanity. My first question for you is I'm curious about Who was your greatest teacher growing up? Because you had an interesting childhood being in Italy for a while, coming back to Philadelphia, I think it was. Who was the greatest teacher for you in those early days?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Wow. What do you think the biggest challenge is for most athletes after they retire?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
At any time when you were playing, you mean? Yeah.
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Wow. That was that. What was the vision for you afterwards then? Was it to do what you're doing now? Did you have other ideas or what is what's the vision?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
Was it more money thinking or?
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How To Turn Self-Doubt Into Your Superpower - The Mindset of Champions
And I remember going for- Didn't you launch a fund or something?
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People also need perspective. I think you gain a mindset when you experience a perspective that wakes you up. We were just talking about, you know- Indian culture, I've been to India, I've been to Guatemala five times, I go to Mexico all the time, even in wealthy areas of Mexico.
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The thing that breaks my heart the most and gives me a lot of perspective and a lot of appreciation for my life is when I see seven-year-old girls walking in the street, nine-year-old boys, four-year-old girls walking by themselves with little candies
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working all day and all night to survive that day because their parents don't have money and their parents are out working as well, selling whatever they can sell. And you see a girl trying to get 20 pesos for a little piece of gum or something or a little candy. And that is her life every day. She's walking the streets in Mexico or Guatemala or India or whatever it might be to survive that day.
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And it puts your mindset in perspective. Yeah. When you're eating at a nice restaurant and you're getting your cup of coffee and you're spending $8 for coffee and you see a child working 12 hours a day because she needs to support the parents to live that day. It puts your life in perspective and makes you realize, okay- Maybe I can be more fulfilled with what I have.
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Maybe I can make some different choices. Maybe I can appreciate where I'm working right now, or I can appreciate what I've created for myself far. Maybe I don't have to be so jealous of everyone else around me of what they're buying and consuming or where they're going on their trips. I can value my life in a different way. And I think perspective like that wakes you up in a big way.
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5 Money Beliefs To Rewire Your Mind For Wealth
What is the personality type do you think that is for starting or buying a business versus a personality type that is not for owning a business?
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Can you say those one more time?
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5 Money Beliefs To Rewire Your Mind For Wealth
Working 80-hour weeks for years, probably.
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And that was an employee job. You were an employee. You were making a lot of money as an employee, but that was what it took to put in the time, to have a skill set at the right business, to deliver results, to get that type of income. It took you 78 hours a week.
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So you can't do it with like 40 hours a week, just kind of casually showing up and expect like multiple six figures. I don't think so. Do you know any business that's paying someone to just do the bare minimum?
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How valuable do you need to be? How much do you need to be earning for that business, like bringing in for that business?
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So if you're not a personality type that doesn't like risk, you shouldn't be a business owner.
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How many hours do you put in a week on average as a business owner versus when you're an employee?
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And you couldn't pay him the salary where he's making it in a big company?
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He's not managing payroll. He's not having to hire and fire people necessarily, or maybe that's his job, but he's not. dealing with having to bring in all the money constantly to keep the business running.
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So you go five years making no money, essentially.
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5 Money Beliefs To Rewire Your Mind For Wealth
Working more hours than as an employee. Right. What's the benefit then if you spend a half a decade of your life where most likely you're going to fail?
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It doesn't seem exciting then.
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Everyone thinks it's the best idea ever. You're going to sell millions.
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What are the main reason people are selling their profitable businesses then? If a business has been profitable for five or 10 years and it's so hard to be successful, why sell the business?
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I got him connected. He's lost a lot of weight in the last year because I got him set up with my trainers. No way. Yeah, so he's been just transforming his health. He's been doing great.
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I really think this is going to help you transform your relationship with money this moment moving forward. We have some big guests and content coming up. Make sure you're following and stay tuned to this episode on the School of Greatness.
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Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
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So your mind and your words and your actions need to be in congruency and alignment.
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What would you say are five things people should look for when finding a great deal or an investment in real estate?
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Really? Oh. What's the ego mean when they invest in ego?
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Unless you're living in it, maybe.
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When did you really learn about how to manifest in your life? Was there a time or a season or a decade where you started to think a certain way when it came to either attracting the right clientele as a realtor in terms of attracting the right homes that you wanted to buy and invest in, in terms of business deals that you wanted to do?
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Was there a season or a time that you learned about manifestation?
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Mm hmm. What would you say are the three most painful mistakes in business that you've made over the last 30 plus years that really taught you an important lesson?
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Really? Yeah. Because. You mean people you knew or people you didn't know?
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What type of distractions over the last 30 years did you find?
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People pleasing, trying to fit in, doing whatever others do.
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I know that feeling. And you felt like you only had worth based on who you were with, it sounded like. Yeah. Or who you were friends with or who you were dating or who you were married to.
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What made you think that? And what made you realize and actually start to believe that?
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Yeah, right. You got more out of it than he did, probably.
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That's beautiful. Yeah. I hope you enjoyed today's episode and it inspired you on your journey towards greatness. Make sure to check out the show notes in the description for a full rundown of today's episode with all the important links.
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In a moment of time when it seems like inflation is rising higher than ever, it seems like people are more in debt than ever, and it seems like we don't know who to trust. The government seems like some of them could be lying to us potentially about the economy. There are so many wars that are causing transfers of money that we're not sure where the money is going.
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Judging people who have money.
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So when you say then... That the government is designed to keep people poor unless they're willing to invest in financial literacy and education and make the right choices to get them into creating more wealth.
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People that are making under $100,000? People that are making it from $100,000 to $500,000 a year? Or people that are making $500,000 to $1 million a year? Over the next few years, with the elections, the economy, wars, inflation, who is at the biggest risk financially?
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I'm confused, and I feel like a lot of people are confused around money. Can you give us any insights on how we should first emotionally navigate the money troubles that millions of people are dealing with today.
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And you're not living out of your means. So you've figured out how to have a comfortable lifestyle, a lifestyle that suits you, that aligns with your financial income, and you're not choosing to overspend. And I've met a lot of people who rent, who have great relationships, who have good family ties and community that are able to use their time without having to spend money to have fun. Yeah.
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To enjoy their life. Yeah. Beyond, obviously, you've got to buy food and you've got to pay rent and bills and expenses, but they don't need to overspend. They can go in nature. They can go on walks. They can be with their dog or their friends or family and do things and activities that stimulate more fulfillment and joy than spending on watches and clothes.
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The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
I have a brand new book called Make Money Easy. And if you're looking to create more financial freedom in your life, you want abundance in your life, and you want to stop making money hard in your life, but you want to make it easier, you want to make it flow, you want to feel abundant, then make sure to go to makemoneyeasybook.com right now and get yourself a copy.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
start to develop some of those instincts or a game plan and what what financial advice would you give to millennials who who don't have these these tools yet besides obviously getting your book and starting to practice some of these things but i feel like millennials are overspending more than ever they're uneducated on finances and personal finances what what advice would you have there pay attention to the feedback you get from the realities you encounter yeah okay i mean
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
do you think it's you have the wealthiest friends in the world you're friends with uh some of the wealthiest people in the world do you think it's easier to uh get wealthy wealthy or stay wealthy which one is harder to do get there or stay there stay there is definitely harder to do than get there getting there can also be like has a certain element of luck you know um
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Yeah. When you doubt a decision or maybe just a moment in your life, personal or business related, doesn't matter when you, when you're in doubt of something, what is your personal mantra to get you back to a kind of a centered aligned place where you can make a better decisions?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
where you go hanged around a little bit is okay yeah right so how do you have confidence when you're doubting yourself and you're like i think this is going to do well based on all the math and historical evidence and feelings how do you have confidence when you you know
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
You mentioned a team going through the jungle with you and supporting you, whether it be mentors or hiring. How have you learned to bring together this great team that you've assembled? where people are gonna disagree with you. It sounds like people would have different thoughts and be able to free to disagree with you on certain things. How do you know when the disagreement becomes toxic?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
When you can look at it from the point of view of like, okay, I need this disagreeing thought, but when does it become toxic where you actually need to let go of that person in your life or on your team?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
And how have you personally learned how to disassociate the maybe personal attack against your ideas or your position on an on a stance of whatever? between someone personally attacking you and just, oh, this is a curious idea that they have. Let me ask them more about it. How have you learned how to do that? And what advice would you have for others?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Right. So you stop thinking, okay, my way is the way you start basing it based on data and scorecards results.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Yeah. But did you at one point in your life for a period of time, Were you committed to your way and thinking that you had the answers?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
That's it. So first, having the ability to have delayed gratification, then obviously diving in, researching, testing and trying different things. But the more and more you can say you don't want something now for greater later is the essential key.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Yeah. What is thoughtful disagreement in your mind? And how important is that in this moment, especially with the, this political unrest and economic unrest and just everything, how do people have thoughtful disagreement as opposed to kind of toxic disagreement?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
When it's escalating, when people are yelling at each other.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
That's why I love your principles and protocols. What happens if we don't speak about money in a healthy way?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
You wrote like a love letter to money.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
This is a topic that I've been fascinated about for decades because I didn't have money at one point. Also, I was living on my sister's couch for a year and a half. I couldn't pay for the rent. I didn't buy food. I was just like living off of her for a year and a half while I was recovering from a surgery, a wrist that I broke playing football. And I was afraid of it.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Yeah. Cause there's lots of places to put it for investments. There's real estate, there's stocks, there's building your own company. There's different places to invest. What have you found are the top places that people should be investing?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
My father also got into a pretty bad car accident a year prior to me getting injured, where he was kind of that, like, lifeline for me, where he'd give me $100 when I needed it and paid for things and just said, hey, you know, go live your dreams. And when you're done, we'll figure out what you're going to do with the job. He got in a car accident.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
He had extreme head trauma, was in a coma for three months. Oh, my God. Ended up surviving, but wasn't able to work anymore. So he was physically alive, emotionally and mentally kind of not here.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
So he passed, but it was 17 years of him struggling, right, to try to recover. So I had this, you know, father backup to support me financially in a sense. I mean, just give me 20 or 100 bucks here and there.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
And he was no longer able to do that. Wow. So I remember being fascinated by this conversation 20 years ago because I was like, I don't understand it. I don't know how to make it. I don't know why anyone would give me money. You know, where does my value come from? Like, how am I going to ask someone for money when I don't even know what skills or values I have? Right, right, right.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
And early on, I started to learn from these mentors and coaches teaching me about money. And one of them was around the way we speak about money. Because if we are essentially saying this is bad and evil or I'm not good enough for this, then why would that thing come to us if we think it's bad and evil? We're going to be rejecting it.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Or if we don't think we're deserving of it, why would we receive it? Why would we bring it into us? Right. And so I had to really shift this conversation 20 years ago around money. And do what you talk about, which is just having more open conversations.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Not talking about it like it's this hush-hush thing, but just being more open and conversational and not being so emotionally heightened when you talk about it. And learn from a peaceful place of talking about it. So I love that you have this write a letter to money. Yeah. And really, I tell people, like... If you want your money to appreciate, you must appreciate it. Exactly. Yes.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
And treat it like you're the greatest lover of your life. Right. Yes. Treat it like if you want your partner to be investing in you and to be giving you words of affirmation and physical touch and like gifts. If you want all these love languages, then you've got to pour into it. Appreciate the partner you're with.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Tell them how grateful you are every day. Tell them what you love about them, what you see in them. And when you appreciate a person, like you said, or if you appreciate money, it can appreciate in value and come to you in return.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
So now when you write a statement or a mantra that you're wanting to step into, but you don't believe it yet. Mm-hmm. Is that lying to yourself or how do we overcome this thing that, okay, this is what I want and this is what I'm stepping into and the feelings I want to experience, but I don't have it yet. And that's not actually true yet.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
I really think this is going to help you transform your relationship with money and This moment moving forward. We have some big guests and content coming up. Make sure you're following and stay tuned to this episode on the School of Greatness.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Do you feel like, okay, you said you're around 40 years young when this kind of happened. Was there something in your life that was like, I'm just sick and tired of feeling this way after two decades or... Like, I just want to see what's possible for me in this next decade. Or is there something around that time that made you say, all right, this hasn't worked for 40 years of my life. Yeah.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Now I want to try something different.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
My friend, Dean Graciosi says, we pay attention to what we pay for. Do you think you making this investment in a coach made you pay attention more to, okay, now we're going to make my money back and I'm going to make more than my money back. So I'm going to focus, I'm going to do all the painful things that she tells me to do And I'm going to be the best student I can be.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Is that what your thought was because you invested?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Because you can decide to invest, but you're still not committed to taking the action and doing whatever it takes.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Before you weren't committed.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Because you had the emotional blocks that were just half
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
I've read it hundreds of times.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Yeah. What was the biggest takeaway from that book?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Wow. So how do we know that we are in harmony and congruency with our desires? that it's for something not just selfish and self-serving by itself or ego driven, but more, I don't know, driven by something greater.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
You know, because if someone says, well, I want to make a lot of money or I want to make $100,000 in a year or $500,000 or whatever it is or millions, how do we line up our desires with our authentic selves so that we don't hurt ourselves in the process of making money or it become overwhelming, daunting, or draining?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
And does it give me meaning? Yeah. And is it meaningful? Yeah. Is it meaningful? Yeah. I like that. Yeah. And where were you at 39 doing things that weren't fun? They drained your energy and they didn't give you meaning?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Or at least start working towards it because you may not be able to at this season, but you got to focus on it. Can I get one?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
When was the biggest aha moment for you then? Like, was it after you made a certain amount of money or a client paid you something? Or was it just a feeling you had, like releasing all of it in the process of working? Like, when was that moment where you're like, I'm actually emotionally and mentally free around the idea of money? Oh, interesting. Um, maybe I'm not.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Money is currency and currency is energy.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
You're like, I should have been 15.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Well, here's the thing. It's not like he would charge you 12 hours on an hour. Obviously, you created a position and a packaging of services that would over-deliver, that would serve him a big way.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Yeah, yeah, yeah. So it's not like, I'm just going to charge some number and give very little.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
You made sure that the value was there. Totally. How did you learn to package and position your value to be able to charge for what you wanted?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Because you pay attention to what you pay for.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
You'll rise to the occasion. Like I got to focus.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
I got to show up on time. I'm going to deliver the results on time. Absolutely. Give my best here. Yep. Interesting. So now here's, I'm curious about the next thing. Was that everything to the story first off? I want to make sure I get it.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Not, not real estate, not stocks, not the market.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Okay. Money is currency and currency is energy. I'm curious about the next thing. So once this happened and you sold a $12,000 package and you were like, this is crazy and this is more money than I've ever made in my life essentially in two days, did you fall back at any point or did you stay focused?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Oh, sure. And they decided and then, well, I tried it again and it didn't work. So maybe this is a fluke. Maybe this is a one time. Right. The thermometer goes back down to what they're comfortable and familiar with.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
100 grand for like a year of coaching? Wow.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
You feel comfortable at this level, but if you want to break through- Exactly.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
You do something you've never done, it means you've got to have a different frequency still, right?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Do you feel like you're kind of at like a block right now? Because again, you've sold, I don't know, five or 10 million copies of your books. You've got a coaching program. You've got all these success, financial freedom, all these different things. But is there like a level you've reached that you feel like, okay, well, can I break through that?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
This is so much now and I feel abundant, but could you break through?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
What's your biggest, what's your biggest fear or insecurity around money right now?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Well, you're being honest about it, I think.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
There's one thing about speaking it out loud so it doesn't happen, but another thing about saying it so it doesn't have power over you.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
If you're afraid of it, like you're afraid to have the conversation around money, I'm all a believer, like don't speak into something that exists because you don't want that to happen. But I think when I started talking about my fears and my shame and my insecurity, it actually felt like the poison was coming out of me.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
And now I can see it outside of me or I could have a conversation with it as opposed to it being in me and afraid to talk about. Right. And then I could get coaching about it. With all the tools and all the distractions and all the social media and all the apps and all the responsibilities that we have in our life, is there a way to multiply time and to become more productive?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
No matter how many hours you didn't sleep, you felt tired and you were working sluggish and trying to get it all done, everything.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
When you mean linear way, do you mean focusing on our priorities?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Right. How do you know which actions to focus on urgently that will have impact over the long haul?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
When you've got everything significant.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
What would you say is the mindset that wealthy people have around making it and growing their money for them versus the mindset of people that stay stuck in not making it?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
What do we feel most guilty about? We feel most guilty about not doing something that we want to do, about delaying something, about wasting our time.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
So give me an example of your life or someone's business or career or whatever it might be.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Which took 20 hours of their life.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
But if you're saying you're too busy and overwhelmed, check to where you're spending your time the most.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
If it's six hours on Instagram a day and you're not creating something of significance and you're just browsing, or if you're 20 hours a week on TV and I'm overwhelmed and tired and exhausted, then just look at where you're spending your time.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
27 hours a week. How much is that a day?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Even if you just cut half of that down and you watch two hours a day of TV and you spend two hours on your side hustle or something else, your health, your relationships, imagine the benefits you would have down the line.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Especially when you get to a certain level of success where there's a lot of opportunities and cool things and exciting things and new shiny objects. We want to do lots of things. High achievers, people that have gotten out of the weeds of their life and they have different problems, which are opportunity problems. Again, first world problems.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
It's how do you focus your time and energy and making the decisions that you want to focus on now?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
for your future and that is a challenge in just making decisions decision fatigue is a thing for people and learning how to place importance on the things that you want to spend your time on is going to be key for you totally and a lot of people the decision fatigue what happens is they it it it does wear on you and so a lot of people
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
So what happens is... They make what, emotional decisions, reaction decisions?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
What if everything matters to you?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
What do you think they'd say? It takes too much time. It takes too much time. It's easier to do it myself right now, just a couple minutes every day, as opposed to figuring out the system, figuring out the software, learning it, going through the training, hiring someone, teaching them all the time and energy. I might as well just do it myself right now.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
Because if you did do automate, you would save time or you'd multiply time and you'd earn more money from your time doing something else.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
I have a brand new book called Make Money Easy. And if you are looking to create more financial freedom in your life, you want abundance in your life, and you want to stop making money hard in your life, but you want to make it easier, you want to make it flow, you want to feel abundant, then make sure to go to makemoneyeasybook.com. dot com right now and get yourself a copy.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
I really think this is going to help you transform your relationship with money this moment moving forward. We have some big guests and content coming up. Make sure you're following and stay tuned to the next episode on the School of Greatness. I hope you enjoyed today's episode and it inspired you on your journey towards greatness.
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The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
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The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
And now it's time to go out there and do something great.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
You're a very philanthropic individual, you and your wife, uh, your foundation, your company, you give back in a lot of ways. Some might be through donations, like computers, some might be through financial Some might be through just your work and your content on LinkedIn, which is amazing. I recommend everyone subscribe to on LinkedIn. The content there is amazing.
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
You're giving back in lots of ways. I'm curious, what's the greatest gift a rich person or someone with money can give someone who doesn't have money?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
What would you say then are the three greatest skills that people that aren't financially abundant or that are struggling financially, should learn to master in order to be in a better position financially, three skills, what would you say they should learn?
The School of Greatness
The Practical Guide To Making More Money in 2025
I love that you talk about the sports analogy, the Olympics. You're speaking my language now as a former football player. Some of the greatest quarterbacks seem to get not too high. They get excited, but not too excited and not too low when things go good or bad. How important is that skill to be emotionally resilient on both levels, high and low, for you? How important is that skill?