The School of Greatness
How To Believe You Are Worthy Of The Love You Desire | Jillian Turecki
Mon, 3 Mar 2025
I'm going on tour! Come see The School of Greatness LIVE in person!Get my new book Make Money Easy here!Relationship expert Jillian Turecki delivers a masterclass in authentic love that challenges conventional wisdom about partnership in today's divisive world. Through vulnerable personal stories, including her own experience in an abusive relationship, Jillian illuminates why it's impossible to build a healthy connection with someone who isn't genuinely invested in your growth and wellbeing. Her transformative insights reveal how relationships mirror our self-worth - making the journey toward wholeness essential for finding lasting love. Whether you're dating, rebuilding after heartbreak, or seeking to strengthen an existing relationship, this episode provides the blueprint for creating partnerships based on mutual healing rather than mutual wounding.Get Jillian’s new book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your LifeIn this episode you will learn:Why you cannot build a relationship with someone who isn't invested in your wellbeing, and the telltale signs to recognize early onHow to distinguish between normal relationship friction and problematic behaviors that signal deeper compatibility issuesThe psychological reasons people stay in relationships where they're consistently mistreated and undervaluedThree essential tools every couple should implement to create resilient, fulfilling relationshipsWhy self-sabotaging behaviors emerge in relationships and how to recognize when your past wounds are threatening your present happinessFor more information go to https://www.lewishowes.com/1740For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960More SOG episodes we think you’ll love:Dr. Tara Swart – greatness.lnk.to/1629SCEsther Perel – greatness.lnk.to/1686SCLiz Gilbert – greatness.lnk.to/1681SC Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX
Chapter 1: Why is self-worth crucial in relationships?
Hey, my friend, welcome back to another episode of the School of Greatness. I'm excited for this episode because so many people struggle around relationships. I have been one of those individuals. For most of my life, I struggled. And I think I was in five or six kind of long-term relationships from my late teens to my late 30s.
So for 20 years, I was in multiple long-term relationships and I just, man, I struggled. And I thought I figured it out after every breakup what to do and that it wasn't my fault and it was someone else's problem. man, was I wrong?
And it took me a lot of sadness, a lot of suffering, a lot of pain, a lot of harsh lessons through all these different relationships on what I needed to start shifting to attract harmonious love, to attract someone who was the right match for me and really to become the person who was the right match for myself. So it was not even actually about finding someone else who was right for me first.
It was really about me becoming the person I needed to be in order to create healthy boundaries, in order to speak my truth, in order to feel safe. And then from that space, I feel like I really attracted an incredible person who understood me, who accepted me, and who saw me. But I wasn't even seeing myself in all my deficiencies until I started to do a lot of the work.
And today I'm sitting down with a powerful relationship coach and author, Jillian Turecki, for a conversation about love relationships and personal growth. And she's got a new book out called It Begins With You. And in this episode, we dive deep into the incredible takeaways from her book, as well as her life experiences.
Because Jillian brings unique insights from both her professional expertise and personal journey, which is something that I love. including her experience with divorce and healing her relationship with her father that caused her a lot of pain in intimate relationships with men.
We dive deep into the difference between lust and love and why you can't convince someone to love you and how to develop the self-awareness needed for healthy relationships. This was something I wish I had 20 years ago because it would have saved me a lot of pain.
uh and a lot of stress but we all learn lessons exactly when we need to learn them so unfortunately i didn't have this podcast 20 years ago or this this content wasn't out there for me so if you're here and you're going through a breakup or you just went through a breakup or you struggled in relationships then I want you to know you are in the exact place you need to be.
This is a synchronicity and a sign and a signal from the universe that you are in the right place. And I want you to get out of bed of paper and take some notes. She's also going to talk about the critical importance of speaking your truth in relationships, even when it feels uncomfortable and risky. And man, do I wish I had this power. for two decades.
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Chapter 2: How can you tell if someone is invested in your relationship?
Yeah.
I don't want to generalize it.
I think it's different.
Is that from like a young girl in childhood, like testing their parents or what is that?
No, I think so for women, it's are you safe? It's really what most women are really looking for, particularly. Are you safe? So in other words, like, are you just going to drop me when you see that I'm not perfect? Because there's a lot of.
cultural, particularly in this country, it's not in all countries, there's a lot of societal pressure on women to be perfect, to look perfect, to act perfect, to not rock the boat. And so if you see that actually, like, if you see my crazy, if you see that I'm flawed, And this is unconscious. Women aren't doing this consciously.
I'm trying to help them to see that it's conscious and to not do that because it's not polite. We shouldn't be doing it, right? It's just not healthy. But we do that because on an unconscious level, because we want to see like, are you still going to love me? Are you still going to protect me when I'm not perfect?
Why don't men do that as much?
Well, men don't have the pressure that women do to be perfect.
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