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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
What is it about the dual diagnosis or DHD that someone like yourself who's worked so closely with it still doesn't make sense to you? Um...
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
If you want to stay ahead of the competition, then the visual planning Teemo app is specifically designed to help your structuring, organizing, focusing, and goal setting. It has a visual timer providing a tangible and visual representation of time to help users pace themselves so you never miss a deadline ever again.
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
It also has an efficient lock screen reminder service to alert those of you who are very out of sight, out of mind with your chores and afraid you might forget them. It brilliantly centers all of your tasks in one place to streamline your overflowing schedules and make them much more digestible and a lot less intimidating.
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
And for those who find big tasks too overwhelming to even start, Timo breaks them down into more manageable subtasks to get the ball rolling. Right, now I need to go and change my trousers. Back to the episode. It's so interesting. I guess there's quite a lot of knock-on effects of living a life that's not in line with who you really are underneath, or not understanding why you feel different.
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
I mean, if you feel different, right, you're probably going to put in so much effort into trying to be quote-unquote normal.
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
masking and therefore you're going to be hanging out with people that might not be good for you or you're going to be getting into relationships that might not be a good fit or starting a hobby that isn't aligned with who you really are because you don't know who you are and if you're doing that you're going to quit the hobby you're going to leave that job you're going to end that relationship and all of this this cycle of sort of starting and stopping things abandoning stuff it's just going to perpetuate that inner critic
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
that says that you don't belong or you're broken or useless. These horrible things that the community purport to think about themselves. And as soon as you, the earliest, you can recognize that you are who you are. You're not broken, that you're just different. You can peel back that mask and stop a lot of that damage from happening.
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
You said something a moment ago that really made me think. You said you avoid uncomfortable feelings. And I think so many people in the community spend too long doing that. Like you're so terrified of getting triggered by a rejection or a criticism or not being perfect. And that means that you don't know how to put boundaries in place. You say yes to everything. You people please.
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
You put everyone else's needs ahead of yours because you're so fearful of somebody looking at you as less than perfect because you intrinsically feel that you're not. Therefore, you put so much effort into appearing so. And the thought of someone seeing through that camouflage is so terrifying that you just, you don't know how to say no to things.
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
You don't know how to, you can get into vulnerable situations, particularly as a woman, I imagine.
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
It's such a brilliant moment. I remember when I got my diagnosis age 34, you know, lots of emotion. You must have been in front of lots of women when you've told them, I imagine in some cases, finally, you know, after so many years that they are all DHD and the emotional reactions that you might see in those moments. Do any stand out? Mm-hmm.
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
Yeah, gosh, school can be a trauma factory, can't it, for neurodivergent children?
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
does justice sensitivity come come into this conversation in terms of you get a diagnosis for the people who are slightly later and say they're in 30s 40s 50s 60s 70 years old and they get this diagnosis can they get really angry at the fact that they haven't been picked up sooner
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
I mean, the injustice of it all is massive, isn't it? Do you think that there is a contributing factor behind why so many women have been missed for so long?
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
I can just imagine, you know, the sort of young girl, say, who might feel that need to move, want to move, desire to be more active, but stop fidgeting, sit still. And so they keep it inside and that hyperactivity quite quickly works its way to their head, to the thinking, to the brain. Those highly caffeinated squirrels come back and the anxiety comes back.
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
And then you get misdiagnosed with an anxiety disorder when you're 15, 16, because you were told that moving is wrong and impolite. And that's not how young girls should behave.
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
Speaking of trauma factories at school, like I think it was from, you know, so many people I've spoken to on this podcast, it was really high school for those reasons we've just mentioned and many others just feeling different. And how does trauma interlink with all DHD and is a child that is all DHD more susceptible to experiencing trauma?
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
Is there anything that you might see in an assessment? Like someone comes to you, you're going through the assessment for, say, autism or ADHD, and they'll say that they do a particular thing and that rings all ADHD bells to you?
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
So in terms of experiences that could look like a child is presenting as all-DHD compared to how a child might be presenting in response to a trauma, are those two presentations similar?
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
With a specialized interest in modernizing the assessment for ADHD women.
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
sometimes can't diagnose in those situations and say let's see how things go and come back we'd have to have a full assessment again we can kind of review because potentially it might be there how important is it to have i suppose like a healthy family dynamic if you are an audi hd child i suppose what what would your definition be of a healthy family dynamic and why why would why is it so important um
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
It's really interesting because you would hope as a child, if you are already HD and you're struggling at school, masking, super exhausted, you kind of look forward to going home because that's your safe space. That's where you're going to get respite from that anxiety, that need to mask because it's your safe environment.
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
There must be situations where, say, you have an ADHD child and the concept of thinking differently and it just isn't accepted in the family. Maybe even the parents are undiagnosed ADHD or DHD, but they just have an unwillingness to confront that. That lack of openness and... willingness to confront and accept neurodiversity. How could that impact the healthy family balance?
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
Yeah, gosh, no, it's so interesting. I've heard it so many times on this podcast. An adult, a late diagnosed woman, has eventually been diagnosed because their child got diagnosed. And that child kind of said, look, mummy, You're the same as me. And there was reluctance at first.
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
I think the parent or the mum kind of can feel bad because they have this unhelpful, inaccurate stereotype of what these things mean. And therefore they start going, oh my God, what have I done to cause that? This unhelpful narrative. And then they go on that journey together. And it's a really nice thing to see.
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
Very much like that internal conflict, like a tug of war, one pulling them in a different direction. Yeah. Through your career, has the diagnostic criteria process changed for autism and ADHD?
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
This has been so insightful, Dr. Becky. I want to reveal your ADHD item, which is underneath that cloth. I ask all my guests to bring in an item that most represents ADHD, or maybe this is all ADHD actually today, but we'll find out.
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
This is all ADHD. Fantastic. Your all ADHD item is some tomatoes. I'm going to hand those to you. All right. And yeah, be careful they don't explode. Why does tomatoes represent all DHD? I'm fascinated.
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
Controversial, but I like it.
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
Yeah.
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
Oh, we could, yeah. Or yellow. You're not a melon, you're a tomato. Absolutely, yeah. This has been so insightful, Dr. Becky.
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
angry and um outbursts you know it's a really really difficult um thing to for for children and parents to kind of manage and that's a really key or dhd thing i think at that super young age that you're describing the child might be contending with this internal tug of war like but they don't have the verbal skills yet to articulate that how might that frustration show before they have the ability to verbalize those feelings
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
Is it possible for the two conditions, the ADHD and the autism, to mask each other? They almost cancel each other out and therefore you get missed, you don't get picked up, you don't get diagnosed until you're an adult? Yeah, that definitely happens a lot.
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
I suppose it must be quite hard if you've got these sort of predisposed stereotypes of what ADHD and autism are or is to be those two. Because you might think, well, my opinion of ADHD is like the naughty boy, very energetic, very chaotic, impulsive, disorganized. If you're also ordered and organized, but you are impulsive sometimes.
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
You might think, well, I don't relate to the stereotypical view that I have of ADHD, or I don't relate to the stereotypical view that I have of autism. Therefore, I can't be both. And that must just compound this feeling of confusion and not belonging. Yes. I mean, it comes up so many times on this podcast, this feeling of being broken and feeling misunderstood. Mm-hmm.
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
And I suppose it all comes back to years and years and years of not understanding why and not having that context and reason for your behaviors that to you just seemed such in contrast to what you've been taught is normal. So I suppose how important is it for someone to get diagnosed with all DHD? as early as possible.
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5 Signs You Have Autism AND ADHD + how to spot it EARLY in children | Dr Becky Quicke
And what are the sort of consequential effects on the developing brain of someone who is made to feel broken and confused or misunderstood in their early years?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
trip over yeah try to organize the doom pile of clothes quick brain teaser for you all a question only those with an iq above 200 can answer we're seven minutes in so what time is it Yes, that's right. It's Timo app time. The award-winning Timo app is the perfect life hacking tool to help your time management and kick you up the bum when you need it most.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
If you want to stay ahead of the competition, then the visual planning Timo app is specifically designed to help your structuring, organizing, focusing, and goal setting. For those who struggle to initiate tasks or find big tasks too overwhelming to even start, Timo AI Planning Assistant transforms a single prompt into a structured plan to get the ball rolling.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
It has a visual timer providing a tangible, visual, and colorful representation of time to help users pace themselves so you never miss a deadline ever again. It also offers lock and home screen widgets to keep your tasks in view for those of you who are very out of sight, out of mind with your chores and afraid you might forget them.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
It brilliantly centers all your tasks in one place to streamline your overflowing schedules and make them much more digestible and a lot less intimidating. Why choose a chaotic life when you can easily download Timo app to help get things done? Back to the episode. Anyway, I digress. I've heard you talk about positive psychology. Yes.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
What is positive psychology and what are the benefits to ADHD women?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
What is your mission in terms of the ADHD community and mental health?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Yeah, being great and calm in a crisis. Often everyone's running around panicking, but you're switched on in that adrenaline that makes you see the solution and you go for it. I think it's so interesting. I think, sadly, a lot of people get an ADHD diagnosis and they go into, all right, problem-solving mode. How can I become a neurotypical? That's what I feel like I need to do.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
How can I fix myself? And I think that energy is misplaced. I think it could be better placed in, okay, how can I figure out who I actually am and do very basic self-awareness exercises like the knee-jerk reaction exercises, like asking very basic questions to yourself. You know, what did I do today that made me happy? What did I do today that made me sad? What did I do today that I found easy?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
What did I do today that I struggled with? Really basic questions, but you have to be honest, you know, with those answers because sometimes that's,
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
the mask is so entrenched you can actually dishonestly answer those and then therefore it's not a useful exercise but if you're honest with those very basic questions you can build up an arsenal of self-awareness that will i truly believe enable you to make better choices and say yes to things that are a better alignment with your core and when you do that you're gonna stick at that relationship you're gonna become the world's best person at that new hobby
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
You're going to be amazing in that job. You're not going to abandon. You're not going to quit. You're not going to break up. Therefore, you're not going to have the shame associated with a history of abandonment will be massively reduced.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Do you think it helps to also, I suppose this comes as a consequence of working on your self-awareness, you begin to recognise what your, and they'll be very individual to everyone, but what your personal early signs of burnout are?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
It's fascinating. Becoming aware of what mine are. So, and you know, if I'm ordering more takeaway food,
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
um if i it sounds ridiculous if i'm like walking into things no that's not that's um dyspraxia developmental coordination disorder do you know about that link based but a little bit yeah i mean i i i've noticed recently i've i've had a very busy week it's neurodiversity celebration week a few weeks ago um absolutely love it you know but things went up to sort of gear five um loads of work on
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
I was stubbing my toes. I'm walking into the corner of the coffee table. Because I was so, like, in the zone, things that were also important, like taking care of myself, just got forgotten about. I started eating crap, like stubbing my toe, missing my runs.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
And for me, it was like those little signs that, okay, you're skipping the really important stuff that is really going to be detrimental to the important stuff, the other important stuff, if that gets skipped. Yeah.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Yeah, no, it's amazing. I see so many people in the community, particularly women. I'm sure you're familiar with it. They have that light bulb moment and suddenly so much makes sense.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Gosh, yeah, the more you learn about it, the more you start seeing this sort of Venn diagram of, well, I thought I just had ADHD, but actually a fair bit of that and a fair bit of autism maybe.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
I read on your website that your special interest is women's mental health. Yep. So I suppose, have you noticed any trends in your work in perhaps, if you are a female with undiagnosed ADHD, what particular struggles there might be for that person?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
You describe yourself as a natural psychiatrist.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
What's the difference between a natural psychiatrist and a psychiatrist?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
I read on your website, Judith, you said education can be as powerful as medication for treating ADHD in adults. I guess that's what you're talking about. It's kind of understanding what are the natural ways you can get out, move, listen to music, raise certain chemicals rather than medication.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
But what would you say is like the top five or three tips, things people could do that would boost their mood and focus?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Exercise has been such a game changer for me. I mean, I get out every morning, I walk my dog, I try and get a run in. The trajectory of my day, if I skip that run, is significant. And if I can't get outside, if I'm just feeling a bit or the weather's rubbish, I just do like 20 star jumps in the mirror. And even that, you know, I keep it going throughout the day.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
And the trajectory of how that impacts my focus throughout the day is significant. Super interestingly, I read on your website, just following on from that, you said, our training improved stress mindset immediately with greater improvements at four weeks. How can you measure this? And what techniques do you use that could help in the ADHD community?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
So interesting. I've always suspected that I'm massively driven by stress. And listening to you describe that, I think, confirms it. But I always question whether my stress is almost like coming from a natural place or if it's coming from an internal feeling of not being good enough.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
I wonder if that is of higher density within the ADHD community, this intrinsic feeling of not being enough sometimes. Do we therefore have a higher level of stress and is the way we deal with that stress unique?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Yeah, no, true. Good way of reframing it. Yeah, very much. When I find something, again, that has connected with my core, like this podcast, before it was social media, and still very much is, you could argue this podcast, well, it is built on social media. But when that got taken away from me in my previous career, it triggered a big court case.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Like my obsession got stolen from me and my knee jerk was alcohol. I think having that awareness, and that nearly killed me. You know, I went to hospital and I've told this story. So I think it's so important for, do you think it's quite risky territory when someone with ADHD kind of finds their thing, that thing that they're just going full steam towards, being really good at,
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
But if they have that taken away, pulled away, and then they're sort of left in this void, directionless, do you think that's a very vulnerable position for someone with ADHD to be in?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Yeah, it cost her intuition massively. I remember that day I signed that bit of paper. My intuition, which I now know is so strong with ADHD people, was screaming at me. I sensed that they were not on my side, but I didn't listen to it. And it nearly cost me my life through getting screwed over in business.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Do you think it's a bit of an internal contradiction or a tug of war? Because yes, we have amazing intuition and we can sense when someone is trying to screw us over or might be toxic or is not a good fit for us, particularly at an early start of a relationship, like sometimes we can see someone's true character. But we might not have the internal confidence to actually listen to it.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
So we get into that relationship regardless of that inner intuition telling us that it's not a good idea.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Yes, the break between the ask and your response.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
So, yeah. We see it so often in the workplace, you know, sadly, I speak in companies and one of the biggest struggles that I hear is that they know that they don't have the capacity, they know that
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
that person that is asking them to do that new project might not have their best interests at heart like they see it they're not silly but it's that internal bug of war contradiction that the people pleaser within them just says yes so they say yes to that project they say yes to that demand on their time and then before they know it they've said yes to too much they've over committed and then they're lying in bed they can't sleep because they're so anxious how much work they've taken on
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Yep. Do you see ADHD, neurodivergent conditions, as well as the intuition, do you see it showing up in the workplace? I want to talk about the positives, but at first, do you see like, what struggles do you see it creating in the workplace?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
We have amazing positives, but we also struggle with certain things. I think it's a lot of the shame that comes with those struggles that can stop someone asking for help. If someone's listening and they have ADHD or another neurodivergent condition and they know that their anxiety, the bits that they struggle with, are stopping them from being able to do the job that they're
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
being paid to do they're able to do but there's something there's something in the work environment that's blocking them how would you advise that person to ask for help like how can they ask for help because when i speak in companies the question i get a lot is i want to ask for help but i'm scared that it's going to be met with stigma bullying discrimination
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
being worked out of the company in the worst case scenario. And I've spoken to people who have taken that claims to court and all that. It's another conversation. But in that moment where you need to ask for help, but you don't know how to approach your boss or your line manager, how do you approach that? How do you even start that conversation?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Oh, totally. I mean, how many people have had, you know, by bosses, by partners, drastic mood swings?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
it's so true I think it is like everyone has different needs so like you said I hear people quite often on LinkedIn or something just put out quite blanket a list of adjustments that might be beneficial for some but are quite sort of stereotypical like well we'll just normalize the use of fidget toys And I have one in my hand all the time. It helps me, but for many, they'll need different needs.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
So I think it's about creating an environment of psychological safety. And you need to put signals out to make it clear that the environment is safe for someone to ask for help.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
it's not going to be met with discrimination because everyone's needs will be different and you need to make people feel safe that if they do ask then it will be met with with care and empathy how do you think you because you can you can do various things you can put a policy on your website you can bring in neurodivergent speakers you can
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
you can send an email out to the company wide to say, please submit. We want to help. We want to know how. How do you think you can create a culture of psychological safety within a company where if someone has ADHD, they can feel comfortable to ask for help? So...
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Dr. Judith Mooring is a Cambridge-educated psychiatrist. Medical professional and expert in all things ADHD. Specializing in women's mental health. Her mission is to help ADHD women understand themselves better.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
people with adhd are the world's best problem solvers i truly believe that because we've had to solve problems our entire lives in order to survive we have had to find unique solutions to really really challenging problems from a really early age because we are a little bit different and that's fine but as a consequence of that we've had to adapt and we've had to look at things in a new way and
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
and think outside the box in order to find solutions. And I think that's a huge benefit in the workforce, having a diverse pool of brain talent in the office. So when a problem does come into the company, you haven't got just one, you haven't got two, you've got 15 complex, original solutions to that problem.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Your competitor, who might not be adopting neurodiverse conditions, they won't have that advantage. I think it's so important to really appeal to the bottom line. Unfortunately for some people, you know, you have to. 80% of neurodivergent employees will leave within, I think it's three or four months if their accommodations aren't met.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
And of course, while there's a retraining, rehiring cost there, Sometimes you have to attack it from that angle. Yeah, that's so fascinating. I've heard you as well talk about vicarious trauma. Yeah. What is vicarious trauma and how can that affect someone?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Do you think someone with ADHD, therefore, could potentially be more susceptible to experiencing this type of trauma? And I suppose, where would that be coming from?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Fast forward a bit, someone gets a diagnosis or they become aware that they might have ADHD. Do you notice that their struggles might shift a little bit from that ebbs and flow you were just talking about to perhaps a new territory, a new area of frustration? Why am I just finding out now? Do you see a new sort of type of struggle pop up after diagnosis?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Do you think that's related to the fact that the wellness industry and the self-help industry is in such a boom at the moment? What do you think that says about society that there is this deep, huge demand for finding inner peace?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Yes, I think people with ADHD, again, that intuition can probably protect you in spotting the grifter or the person who might not be truly as righteous as they're portraying and selling something maybe for their own financial gain rather than actually wanting to help the community.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
you hope so i do hope so yeah yeah that would be nice to think wouldn't it sorry to interrupt with an ad read i know it can ignite rage but a brief word from our sponsor you'll hate slow talkers like i do so i'll keep this snappy if you've ever wanted the specialized support of a highly qualified world-renowned harvard educated adhd psychiatrist right there with you at all times now's your chance the one and only dr ned hallowell
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
The app is available for the tablet or smartphone. 10% off if you use the link in the bio. Back to the episode. Just finally, Judith, this has been truly, truly fascinating. Or penultimately, what moves you the most when helping ADHD women and guiding them through their struggles?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Absolutely. Wow. I think you've really just really so accurately summarized the experience of so many of our listeners. So thank you so, so much.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
I want to talk about your ADHD item finally, Judith. Oh, yes. I've been patiently waiting underneath that cloth for our entire conversation. I ask all my guests to bring in an item that most represents ADHD. It ends up on the shelves behind us, but for now, yours is underneath this cloth. I'm going to reveal it before the explanation. Oh, he's fallen over. Oh, the dog. It's a puppy. Is it a puppy?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
It's a dog.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
It's so fascinating and I'm going to remember that because I have a dog. I'm going to firstly dog D, default network, but my dog went off the path two days ago and came back covered in horse poo. So I will very much remember that. Judith, truly fascinating. Thank you so much.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
I want to finally do the ADHD agony aunt section, which is called the washing machine of woes because my ADHD item is this washing machine. That's fabulous. Is it a toy? It is. I think it actually works. I think it's got the plumbing. If you actually want to connect it to a water source, you can put in the detergent or whatever, the powder in here. And they claimed it worked. I don't believe them.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
It doesn't look like it works. It looks like it will definitely leak.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
So I love that you're using it, the washing machine of woe. That is a really good connection, actually. My connection is a lot more basic than that, and that's only because I just always leave my clothes in the machine after every cycle.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Yeah, I'm using the Timo app now, which is the sponsor, and I'm getting better.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
How are you at your laundry memory, getting it out of the machine?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Well, good. Well, we're collectively making the audience feel less alone. So that is also quite a common issue. This week, Judith, in the washing machine of woes, somebody has written in and asked, Gosh, this is a big one this week.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Someone's asked, I never hold down a job for too long because my seniors misunderstand my neurodivergence for incompetence, but I need stable work just to survive, and it's really hard and terrifying. Do you have any advice for someone like me who is struggling to integrate into a workforce for long periods of time?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Massively helpful, so helpful. You've hit the nail on the head. It's about really being clear to the person you're asking for help to, but also to yourself, like what are my struggles? What do I need help with? And really being honest. Thank you so much on behalf of the listener who wrote that.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
just finally Judith one more thing I need to deliver you a letter oh a letter that was written by the previous guest okay posted in that post box right the previous guest Judith wrote three rules to live by and I'm going to deliver the letter to you and if you could kindly open it and read their three rules
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Really useful. Really, really useful. And we'll kindly ask you to write your three rules after this conversation.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
You can write whatever you like. And I'm fascinated to know what you're going to write, but I'll save it for the next reveal.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Judith, again, thank you so, so much. It's been a true privilege to chat to you today.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
in a particular it has run in particular patterns because of who you are in the world with coming out do you think what are the reasons somebody might not feel comfortable coming out and i mean in reference perhaps in the workplace or even within your family or friendship unit are there particular points of fear that might stop somebody from coming out
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
adapt the businesses around our neurodiversity but if you are a junior in a business saying would you mind adapting to me is a big ask so there's loads of those are reasons it's tricky to come out a question i'm asked quite a lot is is what are some of the biggest myths that are surrounding adhd and how could that impact someone's comfortability in wanting to come out and i think it's like you know some a lot of people still think that only boys can have adhd the
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
ADHD is only physical hyperactivity. And it's quite easy to debunk those. But one of the biggest hurdles I find with speaking to people in the community, the biggest barrier stopping them from comfortably disclosing to their family or to their boss is that they don't think that person thinks ADHD is real. What would you say to someone who didn't think ADHD was real?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
So, yeah. 85%, in fact, I think it might be closer to 90% now. 90% of people that listen to this podcast or watch it are women. Yep. I think that they watch it and they tune in because they have felt lost, forgotten, misunderstood for years and years and years and they're seeking answers.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
What do you think the toll of feeling lost, forgotten, misunderstood, what does that do to someone's mental health over time?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
What do you think the toll of feeling lost, forgotten, misunderstood, what does that do to someone's mental health over time? Loyal listeners and viewers, I can't thank you enough for tuning in. If you've ever felt broken or different, I hope this helps in your search for answers and community. And do you know what would really help me in return?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Yes, yeah, I mean, new imagery with the pretzel, yeah.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Yeah, no, so true. I think people with ADHD, we're the world's best actors. If there was an Academy Award for playing a character called Normal, we'd be on stage accepting it. We're experts. We're chameleons. We're so good at copying, masking, mirroring other behaviours.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
essentially putting everyone else's needs ahead of yours and the the knock-on effects of what that does to your self-esteem i think can be really detrimental yes it's so interesting the self-awareness piece you mentioned because i truly i haven't spoken to 300 amazing people on this podcast thousands of people in the community i truly don't believe adhd is a deficit of attention i think when we
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
find something that captivates us and is a true alignment with our core, we have an abundance of attention, like there's no stopping us. I think ADHD is more along the lines of a deficit of a self-awareness because of what you've mentioned, all of those years of changing, adapting, switching up your interests to please someone else other than yourself.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Do you think that ADHD could be more of a deficit of self-awareness and what steps could someone take to flex that muscle of self-awareness?
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
yes so true i think it's often hard to distinguish between what you and who you really are and what is the mask and i think it's so important to pay attention to your knee-jerk emotional reactions and what i mean by that is say you're reading a newspaper and you see an advert for a musical theater role and you think that's amazing and you fill up with genuine intrinsic excitement for auditioning for that character
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
That's your knee-jerk reaction. But then you remember, oh, my parents wanted me to be a doctor. And you suppress that excitement and you go back to medical school. Some people's whole career, some people's whole marriage, so much of their existence can be a mask and they don't realize it.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
I think it's those knee-jerk reactions to things in our life that can be your inner child screaming out, trying to remind you of what you actually care about and what you want to do.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Yes, the metaphorical idea shelf. Yes. Yeah.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
Oh, amazing. Love it.
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Cambridge Educated Psychiatrist Shares New ADHD Treatment | Dr Judith Mohring
I have three baskets at home, actually. One's for washing, actually. It's like, I can wear this again, or this needs washing, or this definitely needs washing. Love it. The sniff test kind of distinguishes which one it goes into. It's like,
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
And out of the thousands of neurodivergent couples that you've seen, what are some of those common problems that they come to you with?
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
you're someone who is struggling with rsd and you are triggered and you you either do what you're you're advised to do which is to take a pause remove yourself from the situation regulate calm down re-approach it with a calmer mind or the impulsivity in that moment wins the the rage the impulsivity takes over and you say something nasty but whatever the
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
at that fork in the road, whichever way you go, you're still left with the reality of you're an adult who is struggling to manage their emotions and there's a certain degree of shame that comes with that.
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
Is there a preferred or optimal way to communicate with your partner around these sensitive topics?
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
A topic that comes up again is this concept of boom and bust and tying that into relationships. You see people with ADHD sometimes get very excited about something in the early stages of when that thing comes into their life. And that could be a new hobby or a new job. And that person will hyperfixate, become completely enraptured within that thing. But
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
you have to be careful because sometimes that obsession, that excitement is short-lived.
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
Do you see that boom and bust cycle appear in neurodivergent couples or particularly when there's ADHD in the picture?
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
I'm just thinking about like at that super early stage in a relationship, because I've had guests on here that have proposed in the first couple of weeks when they're in that boom.
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
And then they go through the bust and they have to sort of come back with their tail between their legs and they're not interested. Do you think it's important or...
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
Do you think there is like a victim here, though, sometimes? If the...
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
ADHD person or someone who is is perhaps going through that boom phase yes you could almost love bomb the person who's on the other side yes not intentionally but from the point of view of that other person because they could they'll receive this boom this this 10 out of 10 energy this this hyper obsession from you and that sets the expectation that you're super serious and you're going to be in it for the long term but then a month two months later you're
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
The mood's shifted considerably because they're in the bust, but you're still in the traditional neurotypical trajectory of a normal relationship, and that can come as a massive shock to you. For that person, is that a potential for almost... feeling like massive confusion, not understanding.
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
And because I'm just thinking people with ADHD and in the community, we're very like, because we've had to find unique solutions to various challenges, I think people with ADHD are very good at problem solving.
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
And you specialise in neurodivergent couples?
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
I just wonder if you're in a relationship and for whatever reason things have gone sour, but the person goes into problem solving mode and thinks, well, let's have a child to bring a shared focus into this. Is that a good idea?
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
How many couples do you think you've seen? Oh, thousands.
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
And if a child does come into the equation, but the couple, ND or NT or whatever mix up that is, but they haven't worked on the root, they haven't worked on the issues, the dysfunction within their relationship, but they brought a child into the situation, as a result of not working on the root and not working on the dysregulation, could there be some negative traits passed on to that child?
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
Do you think some people are just not destined to be together, no matter how hard that they might want to try and be genuinely nice people? Are there times when some people come to you and you say, this is game over?
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
Are there any success stories, couples, neurodivergent couples that have come to you and they're genuinely on the rocks, like they are at true crisis point and they've come to you desperate and they've gone away, they've done the work and things have been okay?
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
In terms of people coming to you that...
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
What about how neurodiversity is represented in society in general and the media? Because I hear a lot of I do a lot of work in businesses raising awareness around how to sort of accommodate yourself in society. in the workforce and it's often met with discrimination and bullying and stigma. If a person becomes aware that they are neurodivergent and they're worried about
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
their partner having a different view or maybe their partner has read something in in the paper or in the media and they think that adhd isn't real or is or it's met with an eye roll does that cause issues in the counseling room and what sort of issues might that cause if there's not like a mutual understanding around the seriousness of these neurodivergent conditions
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
I think many people listening will love to hear more about this. I think managing any relationship is a challenge, but I suspect that a relationship when there is an ADHDer, someone with ADHD in the relationship, there might be some unique challenges. Do you think there are different challenges when there is an ADHD person in a relationship?
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
Neurodivergence in a couple, in all its brilliance, what do you think the positives are that ADHD brings to a romantic relationship?
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
Just like I mentioned earlier, I think ADHD people are tremendous problem solvers because they've had to solve problems their entire life in order to survive. ADHD is a disability, though, and it's very much synonymous with that word. Do you think that is inflammatory to the community? And how might that show up in relationships?
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
the app is available for the tablet or smartphone 10 off if you use the link in the bio back to the episode karen just finally as a couple counselor what does unity mean to you and why is that so important in relationships within where there is a neurodiverse person involved
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
I want to talk about your ADHD item, Karen. It's been patiently waiting underneath that cloth on the table. I ask all my guests to bring in an item that, for them, represents ADHD. And your item is...
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
I think that's a cat. It is a cat.
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
Why does a cat represent?
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
The item that snaps their memory back to a good time, that time, can that be a really early memory of say when they're in that boom phase or super excitement phase or does it need to be sort of after the excitement settled in that more consistent phase?
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
Just penultimately, Karen, I want to do the ADHD agony art section, which is called The Washing Machine. Did we do this last time you were here? No. No. I did not do it this last time. That's great. It's called The Washing Machine of Woes, the ADHD agony art section, because my ADHD item is a washing machine because I always leave my clothes in the machine after the cycle's finished.
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
I do ask everyone, do you leave your clothes in the machine? No.
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
I have been using the Timo app there, which means I'm a little bit better at remembering. This week, Karen, in the washing machine of woes, somebody has written in and asked, I have ADHD and my partner just thinks I'm useless, forgetful and annoying. How can I get him to understand me without shouting?
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
How important is it to always lead with the positive and sort of layer a foundation of positivity and praise before you go into the sort of serious stuff in any conversation?
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
A topic that comes up time and time again on this podcast is the sort of tendency to be triggered and to say you're having a great day and something happens and you have a mood swing and it triggers you and you can go from zero to seeing red quite quickly.
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
I suppose the opposite of RSD is like a euphoria in response to praise. Yes. So if you sort of start with that, then if there are some challenging comments or conversations coming after that, at least you're going to go a long way to dilute the impact.
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
Really fascinating, Karen. Just finally, I want to do the letter from the previous guest. Every week I ask my guest to write down three rules to live by and they post it in that post office down there.
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
And I deliver it to my guest today, which is you, and ask you kindly to read out the previous guest's three rules to live by.
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
Now, I suppose from the perspective of a neurotypical partner, one of your clients, have you ever heard them describe their ADHD partner as being completely different on one day than they might be to the next?
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
Yes. I love her. She's fantastic.
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
Absolutely. Yeah. You have to ring fence your own well-being. Right. In order to have any chance of a dual relationship working.
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
Absolutely. Thank you. Truly fascinating. Karen, thank you so much.
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
How important is compatibility to this conversation? In other words, if someone is very regimented and in need of routine, but they're with someone who perhaps is the opposite, is that going to cause some issues?
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
you know, play to your strengths. And out of the thousands of neurodivergent couples that you've seen, what are some of those common problems that they come to you with?
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
You mentioned RSD there. I think it seems to be such a common point of pain in relationships. It's this rejection-sensitive dysphoria, this instant, visceral, physiological response to a real or a perceived criticism. And I imagine, I mean, having spoken to so many people in the community, I know how much damage it causes in relationships.
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
If you are someone who experiences this horrible thing called RSD, can that make you feel like you're unlovable?
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
I've spoken to people in the community and their sort of feedback is that they've been told so many times by people that there's something wrong with them. Not necessarily in their current relationship, but just generally in their life. They've grown up feeling different, intrinsically broken is the feedback that I get. And as a result of that, that leads to...
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
people-pleasing, perfectionism, over-committing in order to put other people's needs ahead of theirs because they're so scared of encountering a rejection or a criticism. And therefore, they feel that they're putting on this mask in order to change and present a version that is different to who they think they are underneath because they feel that that person underneath is unlovable.
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
You're in a relationship and for whatever reason, things have gone sour. The person goes into problem solving mode and thinks, let's have a child. Is that a good idea? This episode is dedicated to anyone who has ever been in a relationship and didn't feel heard. Karen, thank you so much for joining us again.
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
And I suppose the question is, if someone does feel like that, what effect can that have on a relationship? Can they push that person away if that other person is contradicting that internal critic?
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
Is it a form of self-sabotage or at least sabotaging the relationship, this kind of pushing your partner away because they're contradicting that feeling of not being enough? Are there some subtle signs that someone might be doing that, that they might not even see in a subconscious way?
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
I suppose it's quite a foundational question to start with, Karen. What's your mission? What do you... aim to achieve with the work that you're doing.
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
Do you think if you're with someone for long enough, you can know them so well that you can see when they're triggered, perhaps even before they know that they are?
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ADHD & Relationship Issues - 17 Ways To Fix Them | Karen Doherty
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It has a visual timer providing a tangible, visual, and colorful representation of time to help users pace themselves so you never miss a deadline ever again. It also offers lock and home screen widgets to keep your tasks in view for those of you who are very out of sight, out of mind with your chores and afraid you might forget them.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
So women were taking ADHD medication on the advice of their doctor and not recognizing why one week it was kind of working, one week it was making them feel terrible. Yeah. Because it wasn't studied. No. I know. Is there a... I mean, how much of that do you see in your field of work, the injustice with women just not getting the light in studies?
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
No, obviously not. Like I said, travesty is not a word I use often, but it generally is. The injustice and the sort of sensitivity to injustice, it's felt so strongly in the community. And it comes up often on this podcast. Females not... The frustration and the, you know, they're grappling for understanding, but they're being let down by the people that they're going to advice for.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
Taking this into account, all of what we've just spoken, is there a particular time of the month when someone's ADHD might be most manageable? And how does that correlate to the hormone cycle?
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
Dr. Louise Newson, what an absolute honor to have you grace the ADHD chat studio.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
Being a late diagnosed woman, I mean, it's confusing enough trying to grapple with this understanding of how you operate and coming to terms that you've gone through so many years not understanding why. And how important do you think it is for a late diagnosed woman
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
woman who has had so many years of feeling misunderstood both by others and herself to Go on this journey to understand the impact that hormones are having on her behavior.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
They are comfy, aren't they? Really comfy. The risk of falling asleep is there, but no, thank you so much. I want to start with a bit of a blunt question, I suppose, and that's why should somebody watching or listening stick around for the next 50 minutes or so? What can you teach them and how is that going to help them?
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
You mentioned young women are given contraception and it affects their... What contraception are you talking about?
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
Have you noticed a correlation between a woman who starts experiencing menopause symptoms and as a consequence of that, they really start to struggle? And I suppose you could... The feedback I've heard is life gets too much. Yeah. And the menopause has been the trigger.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
And then that is what led to an ADHD assessment. Have you noticed the correlation there?
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
Gosh, yeah. Have you got any advice? If someone's listening and they're thinking, this is coming. I haven't got to menopause yet. At the moment, I feel I've got my ADHD under control.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
But this is scary, what you're saying. I know it's coming.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
You got any advice for someone? How do they sort of weather that? Yeah.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
Okay. What is an example of a way that they could affect the brain that the sort of layman might not have thought about before?
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
is it possible therefore that someone who's going through the menopause and therefore they life gets really hard as a consequence of that and then they get an adhd diagnosis in response to that hardship do you see a correlation in those chain of events yeah there's a lot of people that are i think misdiagnosed and like in medicine you just want to
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
Dr. Louise Newsome is an award-winning physician. Sunday Times bestselling author and leading menopause specialist. Today, she speaks about her one mission. Spreading awareness of women's ADHD. Hormones and the negative impact they can have on menopause and perimenopause.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
I've spoken to lots of psychiatrists and doctors and psychologists on this podcast, and so many of them are advocating and pushing for the emotional dysregulation aspect of ADHD to be included in the assessment process. And some people think, as we mentioned earlier, with different contexts, there's a travesty that it's not. However, do you think that...
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
Emotional dysregulation, which is rife in the ADHD community.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
But that can be connected to menopause.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
Right. Okay. And you're obviously a menopause specialist. Yeah. So what does a specialist such as yourself know more about someone who is just aware of menopause? What makes you a specialist?
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
Yes. Yeah, it does, yeah. I suppose, where do you draw the line? When do you need hormone therapy or when do you just need therapy?
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
I guess one is trying to dig deep into something that might have happened in your early years and one is a natural response to a physiological issue now. Yeah.
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The app is available for the tablet or smartphone, 10% off if you use the link in the bio. Back to the episode. In terms of, there's a big topic at the moment in this community that is of high interest, and that's ADHD, which is the dual diagnosis of ADHD and autism.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
Is there a light at the end of the tunnel for neurodivergent women going through menopause? What's the beacon of hope that you would like to tell to that group?
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
Just finally, or penultimately, I should say, I want to draw attention back to your ADHD item that's been patiently waiting underneath that cloth.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
I ask all my guests to tell me an item that most represents ADHD for them.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
I'm going to reveal yours underneath this cloth now. Aha. Right, that is... Well, it looks like a diary.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
Don't open it. Oh, you can. Can I open it? Yeah, of course. Yeah, yeah, if you're happy.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
No, it's similar. I've tried the notebook strategy, but lots of notebooks. You're sort of in the shop and you truly think that one's going to be the one that solves all your problems. But I write stuff down and then it gets closed. I forget it exists. But my solution is to have these big whiteboards in my flat. I write one in every room of my flat.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
And when an idea comes into my mind, it gets written down. And it doesn't get closed. It doesn't get put away. It doesn't get forgotten. It's similar, but slightly different methods.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
Yes, massively, and try to remind yourself to bring things that are important into your present.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
What I mean by that is if I need to... I've got a meeting tomorrow at 12 or I need to text a friend, like I'll put something on my fridge saying text Dave tomorrow because otherwise that isn't in my present and I'll forget about it. Because I walk past the fridge, I'll see the sticky note and it's a simple thing, but very much out of sight, out of mind is a real thing for me.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
And if I don't do those little things, then I'll just... You get a text saying, where are you?
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
Louise, I want to do the ADHD agony art section, which is called The Washing Machine of Woes because my ADHD item is a washing machine. Okay. Because I'll explain. I explain this every episode, but I never get bored of saying it. I always forget my laundry when I do my washing. I put the cycle on and then it just goes into a different dimension that has no connection to my memory.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
And then I remember obviously the next day and it's damp and I have to restart the cycle. I do ask everyone, do you have that problem?
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
That's fascinating. Yeah. I have got a bit better because I'm using the Timo app, which is the sponsor of the show. It's a productivity app that gives me a little reminder.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
It says empty the machine, Alex. So a little bit better since that. But this week, Louise, someone has written in or the washing machine, and they have asked, My daughter, who has ADHD, is going through adolescence and the mood swings that come with it. What can I expect from the next few years, and how can I better understand her hormonal changes and her ADHD?
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
Just after that period? Just before.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
And that alone almost summarises our entire conversation, how much hormones affects cognitive ability.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
Right. Okay. Quite clearly a specialist.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
Truly fascinating, Dr. Louise. Thank you so much.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
Just finally, I'm going to deliver to you a letter that was written by the previous guest.
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The previous guest wrote three rules to live by. They put it in this envelope and they posted it in that post office. I'm going to deliver it to you. If you could kindly read out the three rules.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
So obviously I was fascinated to chat to you about the link here between menopause, hormones and ADHD. Just from a human level, having a hormone cycle, how does that impact how one's ADHD might show up?
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
That's interesting. I kind of agree with the second point. What would you think is an example of something that isn't figureoutable?
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
Like the extreme criminals.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
Who's mean? What are they saying?
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
Meanness coming from men?
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
Envy, maybe, disguised. Yeah, maybe. Peace, your success, and thank you so much.
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
So do you think it is a bit of a travesty that the conversation of hormones isn't even mentioned when a woman is going for an ADHD assessment?
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
So following on from that, if someone, a woman gets a diagnosis of ADHD or they suspect that they are ADHD and they're reading they need to take X, Y or Z medication, they need to exercise more to combat the executive function challenges, you're saying they should consider other options first. And what might those be?
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
A woman gets a diagnosis of ADHD and they're reading they need to exercise more to combat the executive function challenges. You're saying they should consider other options first. And what might those be?
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How Hormones and Menopause Impact ADHD Women | Dr. Louise Newson
Just sort of continuing on that theme, how in the dark have women been kept still in relation to how much they're, despite all of the scientific research that's come out still, how much have they been kept in the dark about how much hormones affect their mood?
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I think, firstly, it's so interesting. I think one of the biggest injustices that I've come across since starting this podcast is that the first study on how ADHD medication affected or how hormones affected the response to ADHD medication in women was done last year. Yeah. Only last year in 2024. It's awful, isn't it?
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If you're an ADHD child, Ned, and with everything that comes with that, like the stubbornness, maybe the justice sensitivity, and you see this evil or this wrong in your parents, do you still seek their approval?
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So interesting.
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No, it's fascinating. And I mean, I like to think that everyone would agree that animal cruelty is... I don't understand. Social media is awful because it serves you videos that you don't want to see sometimes. And occasionally I'm scrolling Instagram and for some reason it decides to show me the most horrendous video. And you scroll on. But it's a little reminder that there is of the evil...
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that is out there um yeah if i can't imagine if someone got if someone tried to do something to my milo i uh yeah i might be one of the adhd people who ends up in jail i'll tell you what ned i think um
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Going back to the finding support elsewhere outside of your family unit, if you are a child who's going elsewhere, an ADHD child going out into the world trying to find support elsewhere, what sort of comments do you think that that child could encounter from a neurotypical who doesn't emphasise with the neurodivergent brain? And how might that stifle that kid's development?
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I was keen to talk about childhood trauma, Ned, briefly. I've heard that if you experience a trauma, a little part of you that the trauma affects stays at that age. I don't know if you think that's true. And does a trauma keep a part of you stuck in a particular point in time?
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Yeah, I mean, it's quite emotional hearing you say that because it's such an echo of my experience and so many people I've spoken to on this podcast. You kind of go through years and years and years of not knowing why your behavior is the way it is. And I suppose with that lack of understanding comes a feeling of being different.
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Do you think having people constantly doubting you or seeing your eccentricities as faults, does that kind of feedback impact your self-esteem and then inflict on your ability to feel shame?
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Shame is such a big topic. It's I always hear that word From every guest on my podcast, but and it encompasses so much but I'll be fascinated to know what your How would you define that word? And do you think that feeling?
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Why do you think people with ADHD are so scared of putting boundaries in place and saying no to things that aren't a good fit for themselves? Why do you think there is so much shame in this community?
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More internally, I mean, for example, if you've got a project during a week, but you haven't got structure, you haven't got a work schedule, so you don't do it, you procrastinate. But then it gets to the night before the project's due, and suddenly the structure is forced on you because it's due tomorrow. So you do it.
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And I know we spoke last time that the adrenaline kicks in, it's the last minute rush and you get it done. But is there an element of structure coming in here? You're forcing structure, you're putting it in the picture and therefore it creates the compulsion to start?
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What about impulsiveness, Ned?
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Absolutely. I think impulsivity has got a bad reputation generally, but I think it can be a massive strength. I started this podcast impulsively. I started Ladbible impulsively 15 years ago. It's now one of the biggest social media brands in the world. Wonderful. Wow. All of those things which at the time people around me were saying, you're crazy.
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That is a ridiculous like think on it, sleep on it. And I was just there buying the domain. No, no, I'm going to do it.
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The struggle, I suppose, is like because, yes, Lab Bible, big success. This podcast, love it. It's going really well. But they're like 5% of the things I have impulsively started. The other 95% I've started have. And then I've lost interest and abandoned. And I wonder why the 5% I stuck at and the 95% I abandoned.
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And I always ask myself, when I start something, when I have that initial excitement... am I acting on short-term dopamine or is this thing a true interest that is connected to my core? Because when it gets hard, which it will, whether that's a new business or a new relationship or a new job, if it's not, then I will quit.
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And I think that's so interesting because I reflect on my own experience and the more I think about ADHD, it's like I don't think it's a deficit of attention because when I...
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become interested in something there's so much attention towards that thing it's for me it's more of a deficit of self-awareness and the more I try and flex that because of all those years of pretending to be someone that I'm not and you know wearing the mask I didn't know who Alex was so when an opportunity came into my now a new job a new relationship a new hobby I I jumped on that opportunity.
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I bought the domain. I got into that new job. But then the honeymoon period passed. And that's when I quickly found out whether it was a true alignment with my core interests and values. And 95% of the time it wasn't.
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So I guess my question is, in that really early stage of excitement, because I think so many people, that's where a lot of shame and self-esteem issues come in, because you start a new project, you jump into it, and you tell a lot of people during that early stage that this is going to be your new thing, this is your new business, this is your new...
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life's purpose and then like you almost hide from people because you don't want to update them that oh it's another business that i've abandoned um you know i'm a useless piece of and you just feel so in that early stage how can someone tell if it's a true alignment to their core interests and values rather than just short-term excitement i think you have to give yourself
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Yeah, no, it's such good advice. I think I'm also so intentional about always reminding myself of why I started the thing that I'm doing, because I think we spoke last time you came on that about object permanence. And we either you brilliantly said that people with ADHD
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have a unique perspective of time we're either in the now or the not now and and you know friendships ideas can come and go and they're brilliant we can focus on them but then they they float off and they cease to exist and i think the same can apply with our reason for starting something and our connection to that.
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So I'm so intentional about keeping the reason why I started this podcast front and center and in my now all the time. So when there is a particular day where things are really hard, and that happens a lot, I can really intentionally remind myself why I started. Because I think many people with ADHD, we can lose touch with
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things objects obviously there's a lot of stereotyping there but i think also with thoughts and ideas and feelings and motivations and i think if you if you lose touch with the motivation as to why you started something then that's that's a really risky territory for an adhd person who's starting a business totally so so so true i think you you want to stay aware of in touch with what i call your vision of greatness
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
it's not the ship we imagined yeah yeah that's such a good visual and yeah it's so true i think you can really forget about motivations but also achievements because you can do amazing things we're all capable of doing amazing things but because some of us are so fast to move on to the next thing because we're so excited and enthusiastic we don't
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We don't intentionally store the feeling and the memory of that achievement. We don't build that evidence in our subconscious that we can and we are able to do the thing. So when the opportunity comes to do the thing again, we don't have that evidence base to draw on. And we think that we're not qualified.
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Or we think that we're the wrong person, they've asked the wrong person, this is terrifying, and call it imposter syndrome. But I think intentionally, and I suppose, do you have any advice on how somebody might intentionally celebrate those wins when they come?
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I think it's so, I guess also to celebrate the fact that you've started, right? I mean, the fact that you're doing it means you've probably conquered that fear of, or not conquered, but you've really not let that fear of criticism and fear of letting someone down or rejection win. You've pushed through, you've done that first step towards starting something.
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I remember when you came in, Ned, to the studio a few months ago and you told the story of, being on stage at Harvard and you did a talk and you got a standing ovation. But there was everyone clapping, cheering. And you were I think you said you were in the taxi home and your wife asked you what was wrong. And you said there was one lady at the back scowling, one lady.
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And that that that really got to you. And you thought you had done terribly. And, you know, I'm referring to RSD, this horrible thing called rejection sensitive dysphoria. Do you think it's a curse to suffer from RSD or can it be a blessing to feel emotion so deeply?
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So many people who listen to this, watch this show, Ned, they're late diagnosed ADHDers or they're coming to terms that they might have ADHD or certainly being neurodivergent in their 30s, 40s, 50s, and they spend an entire life
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masking and shape-shifting their whole personality to be more likeable palatable for whoever they're standing in front of on any given day copying mirroring people's entire personality sometimes do you think other than fitting in does masking serve a purpose marking you mean conforming or
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Can people mask if they suffer from RSD? Can people mask because they don't want their true self to be rejected?
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What would you say, Ned, to the female community? 85% of people who listen to this podcast are women. Really? 85%, yeah. I mean, it's a community coming to terms with... who they are, diagnosed later in life, struggling to feel connected to their true self, and they're feeling resentful for those who have misunderstood them in their past. What would you say to that community?
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keep trying to show us men the way you know what would you say to what would you say to the same women ned who have been told that they're too much in past relationships by a partner who couldn't manage their impulsiveness or thought that they were too much what would you say to someone who's experienced that run the other way you know don't spend your life trying to tone it down unless you're
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Women have been massively let down, I'm sure you'll agree, by the medical community, particularly when it comes to ADHD. So many women were just missed. Totally.
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Exactly. I mean, the injustice, it's a travesty what's happened. The whole lost generation coming forward now, having that amazing moment you mentioned with the phoenix rising. But do you think this built up, pent up feeling of misunderstood... getting a diagnosis later in life, can that manifest into anger and hatred?
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In other words, can you blame women if they are reacting to a diagnosis with visceral anger?
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Gosh, that's so funny, Ned. Have you ever experienced people with ADHD in your practice that are so overwhelmed that they just can't function? And if so, is it usually entirely the ADHD or are there other things at play?
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
So interesting. I think when I'm doing a talk and someone asks me, what is ADHD? I say, well, it depends who's asking or it depends who you're asking. If you're asking a doctor or a psychologist, they'll say that it's a neurodevelopmental disorder characterized by traits of impulsivity and forgetfulness and disorganization.
ADHD Chatter
Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
But if you are someone who's actually lived with it, then ADHD is a lifetime of being told that you're too much and you're too sensitive or that you're not enough.
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
not understanding why you're so sensitive to rejection not understanding why everyone else seems to just be gliding past and making progress with ease but for you things are so tough i think the dsm-5 is doesn't account for so many of the emotional knock-on effects of the executive function challenges that we can face totally people come to you ned and do you
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
just off the top of your head, and I know it's not an easy question, but have you got like a list of behaviours, eccentric behaviours, that if there are some undiagnosed people listening and watching, it might help them put two and two together and seek an assessment?
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
Hmm. So interesting, Ned. I am so interested in this podcast. So I've spent the morning preparing the questions and looking forward to it, setting up my studio. I normally film in London, but I'm filming at home for this one. But I'm not interested in the coffee table. When I walked in here just before I met you today, I stubbed my toe on the coffee table. And it's so true.
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
I'm not interested in the location of the coffee table. And I hit my toe into it.
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
It's fine now, yeah, but in the moment it was agony for about 30 seconds.
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
I want to focus on some of the positives, Ned. I mean, we've covered a lot. This has been so interesting. The many positives of neurodivergence. What are some of the most positive things about ADHD that you've encountered on your ADHD journey?
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
Yes, it's so interesting. Being super aware of the surroundings and other people's intentions, you can spot someone's true judge of character. You can spot someone's true intentions before many other people.
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
It's a little thicker of the micro facial expressions that so many people miss, but we pick up on. It doesn't go over our heads. No, no.
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
It's a big lesson. When I was 15 years ago, Ned, I started a company which was going really well and I actually needed help. So I got into business with these two people. And I remember the day I met them to sign the paperwork. My intuition was screaming at me saying, these two guys are not on your side. Don't sign this bit of paper. But I didn't listen to it. I didn't trust my gut.
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
I got kicked out of the business. It started a five-year court case that nearly killed me through drinking alcohol. I've told this story on other podcasts. But it's such a big example of that intuition, that judge of character is there. You just have to be brave enough to trust it and listen to it, especially in situations like that where...
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
The people-pleasing versus the internal ability to spot that that person's a wrong-in. On that day, I should have listened to it and I should have said no. But because I was such a people-pleaser and so scared of confrontation, I didn't say no. I signed the bit of paper that I shouldn't have signed. And it triggered a massive legal battle for me that nearly cost me my life.
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
All because I didn't have this awareness that I was living with ADHD at the time.
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
I spoke to your friend, Ned, recently, a brilliant, brilliant man. You know him well, Winford Daw. Oh, yes. Yeah, yeah. Fantastic. He came on the podcast, as did you, in London. Very lucky to have him in the studio as well. And he wants to reframe ADHD to become vast.
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
Yes. Yeah. Could you remind me what VAST stands for?
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
Yes, I remember now. I think ADHD is such a wrong acronym.
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
Absolutely. It's such a competitive world though, Ned. And I'm thinking like, you know, across the board, such a competitive world. And how can we use our neurodivergence to beat competition?
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
This has been truly fascinating, Ned. I want to ask you one final question. One final question before we wrap up. And that is, if someone's listening or watching and they're thinking that they've got... They're thinking, I wish I didn't have this ADHD thing. In just two minutes, explain to them why they should thank God that they do have it.
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
Yeah. Yeah. Wow. That is truly amazing and such a nice tone to end on. As always, Ned, as before, thank you. Thank you, Alex.
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
Precious your time is. Absolute honor to have you back on the podcast. And thank you so much.
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
You mentioned the word us there a lot, and we're in relation to people with ADHD. And I very much relate to that. I very much, since my diagnosis, feel like part of this tribe, part of this community of late diagnosed ADHDers,
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
I want to, your first episode did incredibly well, and I really wanted to follow on from there. And I suppose a foundational question to sort of set the tone for the whole episode. What do you think are some common tough patches that you notice in people that you've treated with ADHD?
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
coming to terms grappling to understand their past and everything that comes with that but on a more general psychological level why is it important to fit into a pack how important is it to find your tribe and what can be the like the knock-on effects of someone's self-esteem if they don't find their tribe well if we don't and remember it's a very diverse tribe because one of the things we we we recoil against is being
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
Totally agree. I've always had dogs. I've got a French Bulldog now, Milo. Wonderful. Wonderful. My whole world.
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. He's my boy. He's six. And yeah, a great deal of joy comes from walking him and just being with him.
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
If we go back in time, Ned, in someone's journey, I suppose, back in time to childhood, in a person's upbringing, how important is it to have the understanding and support of one's parents?
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
Do you see a common theme in there? I'm going to use the word blind spots, like a common theme in their blind spots, or to put it another way, are there shared behaviors within the ADHD community that confuse that same community until they hear others are doing the same, and then suddenly it makes a lot of sense to them?
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Bonus | The No.1 ADHD Expert: How To Level Up Your ADHD | Dr Ned Hallowell
You know, it's very high stakes poker. So true. From the point of view of that child who is kind of wanting to go their own way, could be quite stubborn. Evolutionarily speaking, what effect does our parents' opinion have on us that is specific to that parental relationship? In other words, why do we seek our parents' approval? Oh.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Schulz's WWE Appearance, Israel’s PR Problem, & Sam Seder’s 20 v 1
You're telling me that this doesn't induce excitement in the crowd?
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Schulz's WWE Appearance, Israel’s PR Problem, & Sam Seder’s 20 v 1
It doesn't make noise, but it felt like it. It got the fans into it, though.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Schulz's WWE Appearance, Israel’s PR Problem, & Sam Seder’s 20 v 1
It got us into it.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Schulz's WWE Appearance, Israel’s PR Problem, & Sam Seder’s 20 v 1
Jim.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Schulz's WWE Appearance, Israel’s PR Problem, & Sam Seder’s 20 v 1
but you're lying on the stand how can you prove that i'm lying
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Schulz's WWE Appearance, Israel’s PR Problem, & Sam Seder’s 20 v 1
I understand.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Schulz's WWE Appearance, Israel’s PR Problem, & Sam Seder’s 20 v 1
Wow.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Schulz's WWE Appearance, Israel’s PR Problem, & Sam Seder’s 20 v 1
Yeah, okay.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Schulz's WWE Appearance, Israel’s PR Problem, & Sam Seder’s 20 v 1
I was at studio 151 on 10th and C. It's crazy. He Ubered to me and I stood up and he's like, you fucking.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Schulz's WWE Appearance, Israel’s PR Problem, & Sam Seder’s 20 v 1
Yeah, that's some dirty gay shit right there, bro.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Schulz's WWE Appearance, Israel’s PR Problem, & Sam Seder’s 20 v 1
Oh, that's not true.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Schulz's WWE Appearance, Israel’s PR Problem, & Sam Seder’s 20 v 1
No, no.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Schulz's WWE Appearance, Israel’s PR Problem, & Sam Seder’s 20 v 1
Turn that shit into a hookah.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Schulz's WWE Appearance, Israel’s PR Problem, & Sam Seder’s 20 v 1
Ash Monday through Sunday.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Schulz's WWE Appearance, Israel’s PR Problem, & Sam Seder’s 20 v 1
The Jews!
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Schulz's WWE Appearance, Israel’s PR Problem, & Sam Seder’s 20 v 1
Ads man.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Schulz's WWE Appearance, Israel’s PR Problem, & Sam Seder’s 20 v 1
That's a nickname in a bedroom.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Schulz's WWE Appearance, Israel’s PR Problem, & Sam Seder’s 20 v 1
You little ass Wednesday. What the hell? You're a little smeggy ass Wednesday, bro. Smite this man.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Schulz's WWE Appearance, Israel’s PR Problem, & Sam Seder’s 20 v 1
We're under serious threat.
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Schulz's WWE Appearance, Israel’s PR Problem, & Sam Seder’s 20 v 1
What the hell is going on?
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Schulz's WWE Appearance, Israel’s PR Problem, & Sam Seder’s 20 v 1
I'm like, what do you want for Christmas?
Andrew Schulz's Flagrant with Akaash Singh
Schulz's WWE Appearance, Israel’s PR Problem, & Sam Seder’s 20 v 1
There's a fence.
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
I think that's what's probably so confusing, even hearing you talk about this. Like, I think a lot of people would assume because you're Dennis Rodman's daughter, money wasn't an issue for you growing up. But that obviously wasn't the case. Do you know why after the divorce, like, he would not pay child support?
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
I know you said like you were sleeping in a bed with your mom. Like what was one of the worst circumstances living wise that you and your siblings had to go through during your childhood?
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
How long do you think you lived, you lived in a car for?
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Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
And I also think that's such a testament to your mom, right? Because I think as you get older and you start to recognize, like, the reality of life, The fact that you guys were able to see those moments as just genuinely so joyful, like your mom was protecting you in such a beautiful way and you had these like awesome memories. That's such a testament to your mother.
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
But it's just weird. Do you think you were like you never found yourself ever resentful of your situation? No. That's amazing.
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
When I was doing research, I was looking like when you were nine years old, your dad was getting inducted into the Hall of Fame. And when I'm listening to you talk right now, I'm like, OK, you're nine. So many things happened. It's crazy. Right. Like I'm like, hold on. This man is on a stage getting inducted into the Hall of Fame. And where are you when you're nine? No.
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
So at that point in your life, just to try to get an understanding throughout, like I would say your first like 15 years of life, let's say, how often would you see your dad?
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Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
Yeah, because it's just like... Do I believe him?
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Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
Casual, just gold medal sitting somewhere random. What is your pregame ritual? Do you have any superstitions?
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
know yeah like what a horrible situation where you're like wait no dad like we yes we're coming to you for money because we're literally living in a fucking car but we also want you but he's so paranoid of whatever's going on in his life that he can't like accept what you guys are trying to give him and so it's like this cat and mouse game where you guys feel like you're constantly being rejected but you're coming with the best intentions
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
Yeah, but I feel like hearing you say this, like I've had people sit in that exact chair and it's like fucked up dynamics with parents is so complicated because at the end of the day, they're still your parent. And there's like almost a brainwash you experience of like you still want their love. You still want their validation. You still want them to like you.
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
You still want him to like come to your games and think you're great and like see how great you're doing. But at the same time, you also want to be like, fuck you. You've never done anything for us. And it's like this battle of I get why I wouldn't expect anything other than you sitting here and going back and forth of like trying to protect him because you've never spoken about this.
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
So I want to give you grace also like you're doing great because you are doing a really great job of explaining this like hard push and pull you have because it's your dad.
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
That's what I was going to say. I went and looked at that Instagram post and my heart sunk for you because obviously I knew somewhat of the conversation we were going to have today, but I had obviously no idea of the gravity of it. And it's so...
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
disheartening because you're right like you walking over to him in that moment it was all about the cameras you couldn't have a normal reaction to be like where the fuck have you been and like you saying you're on the field angry and then you don't get to have a normal moment with your father where a normal person could go up and be like what the fuck instead it's like everyone smile for the cameras and be happy and then before you even get to have like a debrief the next day like he's gone
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
Can you talk to me about like, didn't he like always change his phone numbers?
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
Why is he always changing his phone number?
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
Of him calling you in moments throughout your life and those moments where you're like, sometimes I have the patience, sometimes I don't. Is there any time he called you that you remember and it really fucked with you?
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
No, the locker room before games is feral. And there are some people that are so chill and quiet. And then there are the people that are rowdy. Are you rowdy? Do you want to answer that?
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
Whether you were about to go into a specific event in your life or you were in a specific situation and he calls and you were like, this completely fucked me up and ruined my day, kind of like the game.
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
Well, that's what but you saying that. And I feel like there's a lot of people listening that can probably relate to having someone in their life that struggles with alcohol or substance abuse. And it's like the point you just hit on, which I think is so debilitating.
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
And it keeps you kind of like a captive because it's like you're held captive to your dad because the thought is, is this his last moment? And he's calling me and he wants to hear my voice. So there's a world where you're going to pick up every fucking time because you're so fucking scared for somebody else.
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
Have you have you figured out any form of boundaries that you has worked or no?
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
with your father of like a heart to heart somewhat scratching the surface of like this is why he is the way he is like has he ever spoken about his struggle with alcohol to you and tried to explain his behavior no but i think not with the alcohol with loving people he's talked to me and my mom about of just the lack of love that he's received from his parents or his dad relationships
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
And I think like we would all, I agree with you when you're talking about the LeBron and Bronny situation, but like, I think we would all be idiots if we didn't think to ourselves, like, damn, that's fucking hard for that kid. Like that looks great, but even that is so fucking hard. So imagine your brother. And I'm not, yeah, I did not mean to make that sound like a walk in the park.
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
No, I'm validating what you're saying of like, it looks like, wow, look how great that is. But it's like, even that.
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
one can imagine how difficult that is of like being the son of lebron james you're like no damn this is hard and like but the fact that lebron is embracing his kid being like come with me let you show you around it's like your brother and i agree like not to speak for him but i can only imagine the hurt it feels to have a passion that is essentially like constantly stripped of you because you're being constantly compared to your dad when what your guys are really talking about you're like i don't want to be fucking compared to him
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
Were you hesitant to talk about the real situation with your dad because of the hype around the Rodman name? Like, do you think people are going to still like not not believe what you're saying today, but do you think people will still downplay it? Because it's like because I also think people look at us like, oh, poor, poor me.
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
You don't want me to just talk about kicking a ball around the field?
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Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
No, I was the same way. Like I would be the person just like talking and I wouldn't shut the fuck up. And everyone would be like, Cooper, go sit in your fucking locker room. And I'm like, I don't want to sit in my locker. And what? Like, think about what's about to happen? I'd rather not. Manifest?
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Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
Yeah. It almost feels like people are like frustrated that you speaking about what he was like as a dad is going to threaten his legacy as a basketball player, which is so fucked. Yeah. How do you think talking about this today is going to affect you and like impact the way you approach interviews moving forward?
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Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
I can imagine moments like this where you are having this like Olympic run and your name is everywhere. And yes, you're sitting there and people are asking you like, oh, is your dad going to come? And is your dad going to see the game? And it's like, why can't I just be enough? How has your relationship with your dad affected your love life?
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
No, never. So I pretend I'm, like, about to, like, go out for a fun night. Like, I'm not thinking straight. Because then the people that are meditating, you're like, my God, you have, like, a really strong brain. And I don't want to be a part of that energy.
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
OK, wait, did you have any relationships where you started to be like, fuck, I need to figure my shit out in the past? Because like we've all had fucked up relationships romantically. Like, did you see any of your family trauma seeping into your relationships that you can share with people maybe that have similar situation to you?
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
Obviously, yeah. especially during the Olympics, like the entire world was talking about you. Everyone knows your name. And I think aside from your talent, I think a lot of people in media press on social media, a lot of people wanted to hear you talk about and wanted to ask you, um, about your dad. For those of the daddy gang that don't know in my audience, your father... What's a dad?
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Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
Well, I was going to say too, I feel like a big theme throughout our conversation of like talking about your... growing up and talking about your relationship with your father like there has been a lot of instability in the way that he communicates with you and his actions like you even saying like the drinking problem like I remember I wrote down like at one point your dad
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
made really had a lot of controversial moments obviously but like the one where he befriended a dictator in North Korea and like you know it's really not funny but like we can laugh but like you having to read that about your dad that is a lot of like one day you don't hear from him one day you're reading something on the news like yeah it that's very like destabilizing to like your reality of like your everyday this person pops in or you hear this on the news that your dad is making friends with a dictator in North Korea like
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
Yeah. But again, I think it's like I think if I'm taking anything from this, it's also like it's still a work in progress of like he is your biological father. A part of you is there is parts of him. Right. And so like you love this person in ways that you can't describe. And as much as he hurts you, there's those push and pull moments where you're like, fuck, dad, why do you have to be like this?
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
And then I also think it's really inspiring to hear you talk about like how you're like, no, I am carving my own path. And now can we just talk about like you as your own career? Like you are so fucking successful. You fucking crush it. You have a fucking gold medal on your nightstand that you're like, I forgot where it is. Where is it again? Where is it?
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Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
Winning and succeeding and being so successful and having sponsors and being a woman in sports in general is so fucking hard to do. How do you fucking enjoy it for yourself and don't let this bullshit get to you some days? Who do you celebrate with? Who do you talk to about your success, individual of your dad?
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
Daddy gang, let me know. What's a dad? Cut that, cut that. What's a dad? Yeah, let's just kick it right off. You're like... What is a father? Let me know. Your dad is Dennis Rodman. He's one of the most famous basketball players of all time. He played alongside Michael Jordan. He had a very controversial career.
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Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
No, but I think that's really fucking relatable. I think that's not just you. I think that if you ask a lot of people when they have such intense success, I think it's so hard to try to grasp what's happening in the moment because that would mean you have to stop. And I think you need time to process as a human being. And I feel like it sucks in one way.
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Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
But you also, especially as athletes, it's like you got to keep fucking going because even when you win, like you said, what did you say to me at the beginning of this? You said, oh, I didn't even have time to celebrate the gold because what did you go do?
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Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
I think women are obviously so scrutinized in general, but sports specifically, I think has been like a huge topic recently in a great way. But what do you think is the hardest part about being a female athlete?
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
He was known for crazy partying, hooking up with women, getting in trouble on and off the court. And you have never really talked about what was going on in your family behind the scenes. And today we're going to get into it. What made you feel ready?
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Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
We're just here to feel something. We're dead sober. We've had like half of a cocktail. I'm like drinking Red Bull the whole time. Okay. No, but I get what you're saying. It's like the double standard of like why can't. And it again, though, like it hasn't changed, though, I guess is what we're also saying. It's like your dad was known for.
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Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
I watched the Michael Jordan doc on like the whatever the fuck the last something. Sorry. Oh, my God. All the last dance. Yeah. The last dance.
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Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
I do know that fact. The last dance and he's on a flight to Vegas and he comes back and he shows up in the middle and he's ready for the game. And it's like if women behaved the same way that men did, it just you wouldn't be in the position you're in because we are expected to act differently. and to speak differently in media and to present ourselves differently. And it's exhausting.
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Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
And especially when you're getting to see men act a certain way and get bigger paychecks. Like, it fucking sucks. It sucks. Yeah, it does, definitely.
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Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
No, but can I say, I do really respect you for sitting down with me today for a numerous amount of reasons. But when talking about... the women in sports I feel like something that as someone that used to play but doesn't play anymore and is now in media like I think something that can contribute to the sports growing is this is the athletes
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
becoming more well known for who they are individual of the sport because sports are fucking amazing we love sports but who is trinity rodman outside of being on the field and like i think that's what gets people so fucking excited and incentivized on top of being a great big sports lover like
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
There may be some people I remember doing my show and people were like, oh, fuck, I like watched soccer games and I've never watched a soccer game in my life. But I just like tuned in because like I listen to Call Her Daddy and like now I kind of love it.
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
And it's like whatever we can do to get people to tune in, I think is so important because like women do deserve the recognition that they don't get. So I appreciate you fucking speaking up, even if it's about something that you didn't want to talk about.
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
That, that. Trinity. Life's too short. Thank you so much for coming on Call Her Daddy. You crushed. Yeah. Thanks for listening to me. Thank you.
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
that, yes, whether you love or you don't or whatever your dynamic is, it's your dad. And everyone has a very specific idea of your father, but none of us are his children, right?
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
We have an idea of what we saw on a Netflix special and what we watched back in the day if you're watching his games, but you have a lived, breathed experience of this man as your father that people are looking, I think, in a glamorized way for you to talk like, what's it like? Dennis Rodman's your dad. This is so cool. And you're literally like, Next question.
Call Her Daddy
Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
So I think it's fair for you to talk about your life in a realistic way because you are also a public figure and you are famous in your own right now. And so you're allowed to speak about your experience. Let's go back to the beginning. We're going to go back to the beginning. Where did you grow up and what was your hometown like?
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Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
I love how I say that. And you're like, okay, I actually have a story. No, stop. You're like, I have a story. Can this take up an hour? You're going to be fine today. Okay. I've got you. First of all, I do just have to say, I'm so fucking happy that I'm meeting you because I had a show on Peacock during the Olympics and I was, you're not, you saw? Okay. I saw you going crazy.
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Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
Trinity Rodman, welcome to Call Her Daddy. Hey, thanks for having me. Oh my gosh, so happy to be here. No, Trinity, you just walked in here and you go, what did you just say? You're like, I only talk about soccer.
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Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
people that aren't obviously from california but i feel like you hear about it or even you like watch the show the oc and orange county and newport like there's such extreme wealth how do you think you growing up and not having money impacted you like as a kid in your personality like were you shy were you reserved were you loud like how what what kind of kid were you um
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Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
Bitch, I cried when you won. OK, so I was I got there and they were like, oh, we're going to have you cover all the sports. And I was like, please let me just cover soccer with a little bit of gymnastics because I know soccer. And they were like, maybe, maybe. And then they saw me talk about soccer and they're like, OK, Jesus Christ, you have to stay. You have to stay.
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Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
But do you think you weren't making friends because you were just trying to like hide? Like it's not or were people literally not liking you because they knew of your socioeconomic status?
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Do you remember, like, how did you see that affect your mom of, like, this divorce dragging on for so many years?
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Trinity Rodman: The Truth about My Family
And when you guys won gold, I cried. Same. Okay. Oh, fuck. Obviously. Um, can you, we're going to start with some easy ones. Okay. How did you celebrate winning gold?
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When you say that your mom would, you kind of knew that like that ship had sailed, like your mom had been dealing with so much. Like how did your mom talk about your dad and his absence to you and your siblings?
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Do you have any recollection of like watching them fight in front of each other, like in front of you? Yeah.
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It's L-D-U-Y-N. I'm starting to figure out why Alex is getting picked on when people pronounce his name like that. Are you trying to pronounce Van Doon? Dude, I'm pretty sure it's Doin. Doin. Doin.
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Why can't you recycle liquid if you can recycle wood and cardboard and plastic and all that?
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What we're actually, actually looking at is some of the most brilliant McDonald's marketing of all time.
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Two points. The wheel has put me on the podium. This is totally the meme where I'm like biting on my metal, popping off the champagne.
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we are in the front yard a regular episode today when we're in the front yard is the grass really green and it's warm outside and we just watch the neighbors walk by and those people watching it's nice yeah very peaceful happy you might see a dog or two kid on a bike good vibes i like that hi everyone and uh we are all here together Look at the gang all back together.
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He'll be responsible for them this summer, which low-key adds to my anxiety. I know these are just things and messes can be cleaned, but I've worked hard for the stuff in my space and I just want him to care for it the way I would. This isn't about micromanaging. It's just about finding a way to communicate that this really matters to me. And I want to feel like it matters to him too.
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Thank you so much for reading this. I really appreciate it.
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Yeah. The phrase, the bar is low, means that the standard or expectation for something is not very high.
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I really, oh, the things I would do for a time machine and to see with this one. I don't think he's going to step up. And I'll tell you why I'm getting that vibe. You guys have only been living together for six months. And when you ask him to do something, first of all, you have to ask. He's not just helping clean. He's not doing his weight as a roommate, as a partner. You have to prompt him.
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Okay, yeah. So, you know, where's the bar? We're going to find out today, guys. You know, I might think the bar's low, but you might say it's fine and average, and that's what it takes here, a village, to come through for these people.
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And you've only been living together for six months and he you've had issues with him peeing the bed or the couch, spilling wine on the furniture, damaging appliances and not cleaning up messes unless prompted. And you you you again and again, you say, I don't want to sound controlling. I don't want to be a micromanager. you're not, but also at the same time, you're acting like his mom.
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He is portraying weaponized incompetence where he does something bad if you do ask him to do it so he doesn't have to do it again. How is he, in six months, how has he done all this? And 30 plants? I mean, I think... I think those plants, I think you're going to come back and they're going to be dead. I really hope not. I really, I would love, love, love, love, love for me to be wrong.
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But I don't think you're going to get someone who cares about your space as much as you or even have as much as you when there's no investment from him in it. The furniture is yours. It's not his. So if he pees on it, no big deal.
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He is only paying 500 a month for rent and you pay 3000, but yet you're his maid. You're asking him to clean versus just, Hey, like, can we be a little more balanced here? It's hard because I get with you, you're like, everything else is perfect. It's just this. But he didn't care about his own space, his living arrangement before. You said it was disgusting.
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And he moves into your nice place and he's making a pigsty out of a palace. He needs to grow up and you're not his mom. So quit prompting. Honestly, this would be one of those things where I would let it get bad. I would let it get so bad and it would be painful. But I think that is going to be the true testament of will he notice? Will he finally step up?
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Because otherwise, this is going to be a lifelong battle for you guys. And I don't know how many times you can ask him or prompt him. I'd say one last really good conversation and maybe the trip and your two and a half month internship is the test. And if you come back and your plants are dead, there's your answer.
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No, Justin, I've never asked him to unload the dishwasher. I've never asked him to clean up after himself. I've never asked him to take out trash. Like we both, if we see it, we do it. Like it is a team. I don't ask Justin like, oh, can you like wipe the fridge or can you clean the counters? Well, he just does that.
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Yeah. Or, you know, maybe their bar's too high.
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But if I asked him to do something, I would never have to redo it because he did it so bad. Something so basic.
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And I don't know, maybe that's unfair. Like maybe you guys listening out there, like maybe you have partners that didn't learn how to clean. Maybe they went from their mom's house to your house and maybe you did have to teach them how to clean and do their laundry. So maybe there's other people out there that have experience and can help her. But for me, I think there's some warning signs.
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We're all going to find out. Let's do it.
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So if he really doesn't step up, you need to stop picking up his slack unless you want to forever.
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If the plants are really adding to your anxiety, you shouldn't have to pay for a plant sitter when you have a partner that you're living with and carrying a lot of the team with as far as rent. But you could do a plant sitter. You could bring the plants to your friend's place. Lauren, when Lauren went to Argentina for a couple of months, guess who watched her plants?
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I mean, you can FaceTime regularly, as I'm sure you guys will do.
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I would. I'd say, show me my plants. They're my children.
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You can lower the bar. You can forget about the bar.
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Okay, we're moving to the next one. What was up with the underwear comment?
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Moving on. But update us. I need an update. I will not sleep well until I get one. So congratulations on your internship, though. John Hopkins.
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That's insane. Congrats. Do not stress about this. It'll all work out. It really, really will. One way or another, it will work out.
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It's going to be great. It's going to be so great.
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Hi, Morgan, Jerry, and Justin. I need your advice.
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My 25 female husband, 27 male, hasn't been treating me how he used to. When my husband and I started dating five years ago, I felt so special. He would handwrite me cards—we were long distance the first three years—surprise me with flowers, plan dates, and just make me feel so loved through his actions. Flash forward to recently. A lot of things have gone away.
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He's constantly telling me how lucky he is and how much he loves me, but my love language isn't words of affirmation. Because of this, we had a conversation where I told him I wanted to be dated and surprised, even if it's just a movie night at home. I just want some effort on his end. Well, we got married in February, but decided to wait six weeks before taking our honeymoon to Southeast Asia.
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We left end of March and were there through April 11th. My husband mentioned how he wanted to help plan and plan something for my birthday, which was halfway through the trip. I was super excited and said, yeah, of course. For context, we have a shared Excel to plan out the trip so we could both see the timelines of our plans.
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I constantly asked for his advice and what he wanted to do on the trip, but I never got a response other than, quote, I'm watching a YouTube to do research. After our wedding, about two weeks before we left, I saw nothing getting planned. No activity, no dinner, nothing. He's never really been abroad before, so I offered to help him with planning, but he said no, that he could do it.
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Well, fast forward to the week before we leave and I asked him if he put the birthday plans in the calendar and he said no. He thought about it, but never did. My husband is great, but he does have ADD and can be forgetful. So I mentioned helping and he again said no. The day before we left, I asked him again where he again said that he hadn't done it.
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At this point, I was frustrated because he hadn't done any planning at all for the trip or my birthday. I told him it didn't need to be anything crazy, but even a card on my birthday and dinner plans would be nice. I brought up wanting to feel special and not having to do everything. He apologized and after our conversation, he left for the store and got a card. Forgot about that too.
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Then when we came back, said we had a reservation. Well, on the day of my birthday, he gave me the card and we went to dinner. Now this is the part I'm struggling with. He didn't get a gift or plan anything that wasn't deliberately asked by me. I asked for a card. I got a card. I asked for dinner. I got dinner. but nothing seems to come from him.
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So again, not wanting to harbor my feelings, I told him. He started beating himself up about it and said he would do better, but we've had this conversation before and nothing has made it better. I'm not sure what to do or if there is anything to do, but I'm really struggling with this. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Ideal outcome, I want my husband to want to make me feel special without me having to prompt him. Additional info, I can tell he cared because he beats himself up about it a lot, but it still doesn't change the fact that nothing has changed.
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I don't know. It is really interesting to go from writing cards, surprising with flowers, planning dates to just nothing, like the bare minimum now. And maybe marriage changed that. Maybe for him, he's like, ah, we're married now. I don't have to work so hard. We're not courting anymore. Yeah.
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To me, they seem very disconnected. I also think with sometimes with people... you do have to let them fail. Like you do have to get to a point where you're on this trip, your honeymoon, and you get there and he doesn't plan anything. He doesn't have a card even because you didn't prompt him. You do have to sometimes let people fail. for them to check back in.
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But why is he not checked in already? I don't know. You know, there is things like the five-year slump. And I was like, I wanted to make sure I was on point with that because there's all those different things. Five-year slump, seven-year itch. You know, there's those relationship idioms. Idioms? I don't know.
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I, 32 female, have been with my boyfriend, 29 male, for two years now, and each of us brought kids into the relationship. Prior to dating him, I had been married and then divorced, and he had never been married. At the beginning of our relationship, he would tell me he wanted to marry me or say things like, "...when we get married, getting married again is something I've always wanted."
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But the five-year slump or five-year fizzle refers to a period in relationships, often around the five-year mark, where couples may experience a decline in intimacy and a sense of disconnection, often attributed to common relationship challenges like money worries, mental health issues, trust problems, and a loss of excitement.
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So maybe, hey, we're married. We can be chill. There doesn't need to be all this extra effort. You know, it could be, it could just be that, but that's not sustainable for a long lasting, happy, healthy marriage.
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Yeah. I mean, Justin and I have had, we were like talking about it in the car on the way back from like bopping around today. And we're like, oh my gosh, like it's going to be seven years this December. And we were just like, no, no.
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No itching over here. We're good. But we were talking about it and we're like, yeah, like it is something like we especially like right now we are in such a busy period of our life. that we do need to remember to make these conscious like date nights and putting in effort. Like, yeah, you can sit home and watch TV and that's quality time.
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But like, you also need to go do something, whether it's going and having a picnic or going to a movie or going to dinner out of your house where you guys don't cook, you still need those active dates and that consideration towards the other person. And I think that is really important in a relationship to keep it alive. And yeah,
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I mean, she's telling him, like she's telling him, like, I want this. My love language is gifts, not words of affirmation. And you can't force someone to check in, but therapy might, it might be a good bet. What are your thoughts?
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I know. And I don't... Obviously, no ultimatums and no, like, actual threats. Like, I'm going to leave you if you don't give me gifts. Like, that's us joking over here. But I think you can be very articulative with your feelings of... I feel like you don't necessarily appreciate me or whatever you're feeling when you don't really show up for my birthday. It feels like I'm an afterthought.
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And this was supposed to be really exciting. We were on our honeymoon celebrating our love. And my birthday was a great opportunity to do something really fun or special. And I just felt like I was an afterthought.
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My wedding from my first marriage had bad memories, and I want to get married and have something that lasts. Within the last year, when we've talked about it, my boyfriend has gone from, quote, we will when I'm ready to seemingly not wanting to ever get married. He said he doesn't understand it and it's just a piece of paper and it's a headache if you divorce.
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Yeah, I think honestly, putting it back in his court, that feels like a good idea to me.
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Yeah. I know we have some therapists out there in this community. I'd love to hear your advice. I'd love to hear maybe anyone that's been through this. How did you re-inspire your person? How did you reconnect? Because maybe it is both of you. Maybe you're checked out too and you're not even realizing, but you're noticing what he's not doing. So maybe it's both of you, but
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If you've gone through this, please put it in the comments on YouTube because I'd love to know. This person would probably love to know. We'd all love to know.
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Four. I, 30 female, married my now husband, 25 male, six months ago. After a string of horrible dating experiences, he came into my life to bring happiness and hope for a future when I had given up. A month into our marriage, we got pregnant and are now expecting twin baby girls. When I met him, he had a drinking problem and he smoked weed every day.
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I had nothing against what he did, but was not wanting that for my future partner, and I told him that. About two months ago, he started drinking again and smoking. I'd forgiven him for his relapse because I believed marriage is a constant work in progress. Unfortunately, I don't think he can give it up, and I'm afraid that he will only get better at hiding things from me.
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If Morgan came to you, Jerry, with this problem, what would your advice be to her? Ideal outcome, do what is best for my babies.
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Now he's basically saying he doesn't think he'll ever want marriage. I'm hurt for a few reasons. One, at the beginning, he told me he wanted to marry me and now it's something he may never want. Two, it's something I've always imagined for myself. I don't know if it's a deal breaker because I truly love him, but it hurts when I know it may be something I'll never have.
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Yeah, there is a little additional info too. He is the sole provider for us at the moment. I have no family in the States to take care of me when I go out of the hospital. My mom lives in another country, but due to my twins being high risk, I can't take the risk of giving birth in a country that doesn't have the technology to make sure my girls are taken care of.
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He refuses to go to therapy or any type of AA meetings.
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I may think still you proceed with, as you guys have said, our lives, if this is, if that's the course you want are not intertwined, we will co-parent, you know, if you have to live under the same roof for a while to get on your feet and get working and be able to support them, you know, your twins and put them in daycare and whatever you got to do, like that might be what you have to do.
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And that's the thing. You can get a job, child support from him, and daycare, and there's options for you to sustain yourself outside of him. But it might be abide your time right now because of the position you're in. And that's just how it is.
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That's cool. You can, but I'm not going to be your wife anymore.
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And that's tricky. Going through a divorce, it's tricky, but you don't have to stay with someone who is not going to be healthy.
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How do I deal with the feelings I have that this may never happen for me? Ideal outcome, to not carry the weight of this. Additional info, we already live together.
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I think about five months, given the context of the story. But there's a lot of remote work and things like that. So maybe there's something you can do. while you're at home and then you don't need daycare and you know, there's, there's options, but it's definitely not, it's going to be an uphill battle for you.
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It's, it's going to be a little tricky, but you can do it and you will be a lot healthier and happier for it.
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I know. We've got a couple people out there that have really made moves for themselves lately. I'm thinking of our friend Amanda from our group T. She has just fought tooth and nail to get out and make sure she is good and her kids are good. So there are some of you out there who could chime in for sure.
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So I, 33 female, started dating Charlie, 36 male, on Christmas Day of 2024. We were work partners that took advantage of a Christmas break to form a relationship. We've now been in a relationship for about five months. We are now planning our wedding day for March 28th, 2026. The thing is, I am in my area that I currently live in because I got sober here.
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I've been living on my own for almost a year after being in a Christian program for four years. I feel like if I come clean to my community that I'm living with my partner while still being sober, I feel like I will be ostracized for it. Should I keep it a secret or should I be more open about it?
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Ideal outcome, me still being a person that someone looks up to even though I'm living with my partner before marriage. I don't want to be cast out from my group for living in sin. Should I be forthcoming of me living with my boyfriend to my authorities? I'm living in sin, but I feel like I would connect to more common relationships that are now apparent these days.
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Additional info, I live in Oklahoma, the Bible Belt. I feel like I'll either have to quit my faith altogether just because I'm living in sin because I choose to live with my boyfriend before marriage. Truth be told, I don't know if I would ever marry anyone before I lived with them.
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I think you have to live with people before you marry them.
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Absolutely. And it's struggling with it.
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Yeah, I think that's a great solution. I think I picked this one because I think you, Ryder, need to think more highly of yourself. You've been sober now for how many years? You found an amazing partner. You're planning a wedding over the next year. You're doing great. And you shouldn't let something...
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Something that's making you happy and you're enjoying doing and you're getting to spend time with this other person and get closer to them and learn more about them. You shouldn't let something you enjoy doing make you feel bad.
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Yeah, I think if you get shamed or ostracized from your group for telling them and being honest with them, because thou shall not lie either. If that were to happen for you doing the right thing and being honest. That is a control tactic. It's a manipulation tactic. And you don't need that. You don't need that. I just looked. Living with a spouse before marriage, sin. I'm Googling.
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I'm enlightening myself. And you have some pastors and gospels on here coming out and saying, well, technically, you can cohabitate together as long as you're not sleeping together. Then you're Gucci. That's what a lot of these pastors are saying. So... You might be Gucci.
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There's so many different interpretations of faith and what people believe in and what they feel connects them to God and what living a good life is. Find your flock. Find your people. Just because this one helped you get to a great place doesn't mean you owe them forever.
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You can find the church down the road that maybe even still has a group that keeps you sober and has a community there, but more so aligns with who you are today.
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Number six today. I'm a 31 year old male who has been in a situation with a woman I love dearly. We met a few years ago and the timing didn't work out. She got with a different guy and blocked me and I moved on. About a year ago, we came back into each other's lives, and we started to date. But things got toxic fast, and she brought out a bad side of me, and we would fight and argue a lot.
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We have a connection that I have never had with anyone before, and my feelings are conflicted. I'm a single dad and the weeks that I have my daughter, I'm more distant and she gets hurt because I don't call her much because I'm busy with my daughter. She tells me that my daughter isn't a problem, but it feels as if she is a problem.
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I want to be happy and healthy with this woman, but I don't know if it's possible. Ideal outcome, just to know if I should give up and take some space apart or what the next move is.
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When your body is stressed, especially as a male, like the male love hormone is released by stress. And so you might have to rewire your brain a little bit on this one because it might feel good. It might be like a drug, as you're saying, but it might not be healthy. And you do recognize it, as you're saying, so you might have to rewire a little bit.
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Yeah, I honestly think individual counseling for you would be super helpful. I think it's hard if you haven't been in the best relationships to determine what's a good, healthy relationship. But it's the fact that you do say, like, we started to date and it got toxic fast. When you have a kid too, you do need to take into consideration who you're dating.
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You don't want your daughter to be around you and her fighting or things getting bad. It's not healthy for a kid. It's not fair for a kid. And if it's that bad after a year... I mean, it's tough, but I do think you might have to rewire your brain a little bit and really figure out what good, healthy love is.
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But it also seems like, you know, and you just don't want to let her go, but your person will be out there. You'll have the passion. You'll have the fun. You'll have the spark and it won't come with the toxic side.
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It would be great. I, you know, that is a parent's choice when to bring someone they're dating into their kid's life. You know, kiddo could be three and it's like, you don't want to bring a new girlfriend in that things are toxic fast and then your kid gets attached. So, That is really respectable. I get it.
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And that is such a good thing because you don't want your kids to get attached to all these people and have issues. So I do think that's really great. But yeah, I mean, it can cause resentment on her part and all of these feelings, which necessarily isn't fair, but counseling could hammer it all out for you. I think so.
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Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. But keep us posted. Everyone today, keep us posted. I think we've sent it. I think we've sent it after everyone. There's a separate link in the description. It's a separate form. You just go to that and hit update. And yeah, that's all I got.
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You got great socks. What are those, pickles?
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167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
What does it say on the bottom? I'm kind of a big dill.
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
They say the same thing. Jesus. You don't read your socks before you put them on? No. You're wild.
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
That's a wrap. Thank you so, so, so much for being here.
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
Yeah. But that's bullshit. It is. And here's where our writer really needs to decide. Was this love bombing? Was this early on, oh, I want to marry you. I've been telling everyone about you. I see you as my soulmate. There's phrases, love bombers, and people that use language like that to hook others. That's their go-to. I want to marry you. Was it that or Or did he truly mean it?
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
Well, as we just went to Costco and got some guests, I put together a little theme for us.
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
And now that he has gotten down the line, is he over it? He just doesn't want to get married anymore. He's scared about it. Or is it option three?
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
He did mean it, but he's just happy and complacent and doesn't want to change the status quo and maybe doesn't want to go through a divorce and lose half and all these things. Like you have to get to a point of determining his intentions. Is he ever going to get married? Does he want that? And if he doesn't want that, are you then willing to sacrifice what you want? And what's his integrity? Yeah.
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
I think people are allowed to change their minds. Well, then she's allowed to change her mind about being with him, too. Absolutely. I mean, if marriage is something our writer really wants and hasn't said here, I don't know if it's a deal breaker yet. I don't know. If marriage is something you really, really want. You're only two years in. Like that is a long time, but not the longest time.
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
So if you want to find someone that is on the marriage, you know, dating to marry mindset, they're on the same boat as you. the time would be now to start dating.
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
Where's the bar? Is the bar low? Does it need to be raised? Raise the bar? Lower the bar? Hit the bar? Where's the bar?
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
Yeah, no, I think that's totally fair. I would have a conversation. I would say, you know, this is something that's really important to me. It's hard because a lot of people feel a lot of different ways about drawing a boundary versus giving someone an ultimatum. And you don't want to give someone an ultimatum. You don't want to.
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
No, but it could be a boundary. Right. Like you either propose in the next month or I'm done. That would feel like an ultimatum versus getting married is really important to me. So if you determine that you don't want to get married anymore, I would appreciate knowing. So then I can make whatever decision I'm going to make. Yes.
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
There's differences in how you do it, but you don't want to give someone an ultimatum in regards to marrying you. You want it to come from a good place.
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
Mm-hmm. Yeah, and I think this writer will determine that. I mean, it is interesting. He said things, I want to marry you when we get married, and then kind of giving the excuse like, we will when I'm ready, which... Two years. I think it's fair to be like, well, when do you think? What timeline are you on?
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
he wanted to marry me or say things like when we get married, it's giving love bombing. So you, yeah.
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
You got to determine where your bar is, but you don't have to lower it if you don't want to. That's what I wanted to hear.
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
I know, I know. I mean, it is an interesting age for him. He's 29. I will say like Justin and I, we started really talking about marriage. Year three, I would say. And then I was kind of like, you know, I really want to be engaged.
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
If we're together after, you know, five years and we're still not engaged, like that is something that would bother me because there's certain things I want to accomplish in my life. And... You know, that's just something to be considerate of. And I didn't feel like that was ever an ultimatum. It felt like that was just us talking. But Justin had a lot of feelings around marriage.
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
He was really scared about proposing and marriage just because of the relationships he's seen in his life. So that, you know, maybe he's got some feelings there. But a conversation will surely sort this.
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
Moving on to number two, but keep us posted. We want an update from you.
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
I, 26 female, have been with my boyfriend, 29 male, for three years, and we've been living together for about six months now. He's truly my best friend and my favorite person. I've never felt more supported, loved, or at ease in a relationship. We click on so many levels and really bring out the best in each other, except when it comes to cleanliness.
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
He moved into my apartment, which I decorated and furnished myself. I've worked hard to make it feel like home, and it's something I take a lot of pride in. With grad school, two jobs, and supervision hours, my life is basically nonstop chaos. And having a clean, calm space is one of the few things that keeps me sane.
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
While he's happy to help if I ask, it usually ends with me redoing things or feeling like I'm the only one actively keeping the place in order. This summer, I'll be moving to Baltimore for a two-and-a-half-month internship at John Hopkins. He'll be staying in the apartment while I'm gone, and honestly, I'm nervous. He can get really careless, especially when drinking.
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
We've had issues with him peeing the bed or couch, spilling wine on the furniture, damaging appliances, and not cleaning up messes unless prompted. I don't want to sound controlling, but I also don't want to come back to a destroyed apartment or feel like all the work I've put into creating a space I love went out the window while I was gone. Ideal outcome?
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
Yeah, no, in this context, if the bar is low, your standards might not be very good. You might be doing yourself a disservice.
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
I want to come back to a home that still feels like a home. Not perfect, not spotless, just respected. I want to trust that my stuff, especially the furniture and houseplants I love, won't be neglected or ruined. I want to express this to him without sounding like I'm being controlling or treating him like a child.
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
I don't want to give him a chore list or rules, but I do want to be clear about my expectations. We have a really healthy, loving relationship, and I don't want this to create tension. But I also know that if I come home and everything's in disarray, it'll be really hard to not feel hurt or disrespected. And I honestly don't know if I'd be able to look past it.
Father Knows Something
167: Father Knows: Where's the Bar?!
Additional info, I pay the majority of the rent and bills, around $3,000 a month, and he contributes $500, which I'm fine with. When we started dating, he lived in an apartment that was genuinely disgusting. He would agree. I think a lot of his current cleaning habits only exist because I've been around to model and prompt them. I have about 30 houseplants that I adore.
First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show
To Catch A Cheater - Is Bruce Cheating Cheating on Karla with The Girl From Their Threesome?
I just think he's being a little distant. Okay. Is this the first time in the eight years you guys have been together that you've felt that maybe he's stepping out?
First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show
To Catch A Cheater - Is Bruce Cheating Cheating on Karla with The Girl From Their Threesome?
But like fetish. Oh, yeah. OK. So you went to that life.
First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show
To Catch A Cheater - Is Bruce Cheating Cheating on Karla with The Girl From Their Threesome?
He spent more time with Madeline.
First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show
To Catch A Cheater - Is Bruce Cheating Cheating on Karla with The Girl From Their Threesome?
Is it, though? Isn't that crossing a boundary? I guess it's up to you guys, whatever the boundaries are that you created, but...
First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show
To Catch A Cheater - Is Bruce Cheating Cheating on Karla with The Girl From Their Threesome?
That's understandable. Yeah.
First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show
To Catch A Cheater - Is Bruce Cheating Cheating on Karla with The Girl From Their Threesome?
I know. Without boundaries and out those conversations, it's like more of the times you are with somebody, you almost give yourself permission to be with that person anyway. It's like, well, we did it anyway. Yeah.
First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show
To Catch A Cheater - Is Bruce Cheating Cheating on Karla with The Girl From Their Threesome?
Yeah, we're all here, bro. My name's Nina. Yeah, I'm Victoria.
First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show
To Catch A Cheater - Is Bruce Cheating Cheating on Karla with The Girl From Their Threesome?
Bye. What just happened?
First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show
To Catch A Cheater - Is Bruce Cheating Cheating on Karla with The Girl From Their Threesome?
Okay. Thanks. Whoa.
First Date Follow Up - The Jubal Show
To Catch A Cheater - Is Bruce Cheating Cheating on Karla with The Girl From Their Threesome?
how are you going to be cheating on your person and want to try to catch them cheating isn't that like projection or whatever and then it being right i have no idea at this point i feel like i'm cheating and i'm not even in a relationship i feel super dirty the jubile shows to catch a cheater hey what's up y'all this is eric andre well i made a podcast called bombing about absolutely tanking on stage
Ninjas Are Butterflies
125 - Bankrupting Zuckerberg, Ancient Map Mystery & Finding Atlantis
And I'll tell. I'll tell everyone. I'll tell everyone to go to SundayCool.com to start the order today. And who's going to believe you? I can't keep living like this, Richard. I need something more. I need to leave.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
125 - Bankrupting Zuckerberg, Ancient Map Mystery & Finding Atlantis
Your life, Richard? What about my life? I should have been a dancer. I could have seen the world. But yet, I'm stuck in an infinite cycle of heartache. To a murderer. What did you call me?
Ninjas Are Butterflies
123 - Area 51 Secrets, Elvis' FBI Conspiracy, & Wild 2025 Predictions
No, you're crazy. You're crazy.
Ninjas Are Butterflies
123 - Area 51 Secrets, Elvis' FBI Conspiracy, & Wild 2025 Predictions
No, I did really mean it. And you know what? I'll say this as well. I think we should tax poor people the most. Really? Are you kidding me? What are you doing?
Ninjas Are Butterflies
123 - Area 51 Secrets, Elvis' FBI Conspiracy, & Wild 2025 Predictions
To absolutely no one.
Planet Money
Trade war dispatch from Canada
A number of customers reached out to us and said they no longer wanted to purchase anything from the U.S. So it's this retaliatory thing. It's like, well, if they're going to charge tariffs for us, we're not going to purchase anything coming out of the U.S.
Planet Money
Trade war dispatch from Canada
The land that her pecans are growing on, like it's land that is designated that it can only ever be growing these pecans.
Planet Money
Trade war dispatch from Canada
I'm holding like thousands of pounds worth of nuts. And people are saying, well, I don't want to buy these because they're coming from the U.S.
Planet Money
Trade war dispatch from Canada
If we boycott people whose values are aligned with ours and who are struggling in the same way as we are, then nobody wins. You know, like, what's the point?
Planet Money
Trade war dispatch from Canada
Honestly, when we sent out the newsletter, we had the largest amount of unsubscribes we've ever had. Ooh.
Planet Money
Trade war dispatch from Canada
Oh, yeah. Yeah, yeah. Absolutely. Like, almost immediately we noticed that. I was like, really?
Planet Money
Trade war dispatch from Canada
I have to give you a tour. There you go, that is our shop.
Planet Money
Trade war dispatch from Canada
My name is Alex, Alex Rodrigues, and I have a small business here in Vancouver, Canada called Nut Hut.
Planet Money
Trade war dispatch from Canada
I know with Shirley, every single time we've bought from her, the quality is exceptional. And she has the paperwork done within like hours. So like just finding the people that you can count on.
Planet Money
Trade war dispatch from Canada
Some of the farmers, they're the same people I've been working with from the beginning. And I've just kept building relationships with them, which is why the current situation right now of heading into tariffs, I find it really, like, it's concerning as one thing and potentially affecting my business, you know. These are all things that deeply concern me, but, like, I love our farmers.
Planet Money
Trade war dispatch from Canada
Oh, I don't. I had years of thinking, I should change the name. This is ridiculous. We have a physical location, and this is probably TMI, but we have a physical location with the big word Nut Hut. And there are instances of guys showing up in front of our building and posing in front of the sign and taking selfies.
Planet Money
Trade war dispatch from Canada
The only nuts that grow in Canada in quantities large enough for us, say, are hazelnuts. Walnuts grow here, but not in large enough quantities for us. So that's it for Canada.
Planet Money
Trade war dispatch from Canada
I just asked Raymond. And Raymond is the guy who like, boom, he's back with an answer in minutes.
Planet Money
Trade war dispatch from Canada
Ashley, my husband is right now at the bank. We're like dipping into our own personal funds to come up with enough money because I've purchased three extra pallets from my walnut farmer. Because even though right now there's no tariff on walnuts, I don't know how this is going to go.
Planet Money
Trade war dispatch from Canada
And our farmers say nuts like to be cold. All nuts like to be cold. All nuts like to be cold, so I should be keeping nuts in the fridge.
Planet Money
Trade war dispatch from Canada
Like pistachios are already an expensive nut. And then having to pay another 25 percent, it's just... Of course, she could raise prices, but... So her ideal would be to stockpile pistachios, too, just in case. But... So for nearly two months, she had been, in her words...
Planet Money
Trade war dispatch from Canada
I've been kind of like, hey, Brad, how's it going? Hey, Brad, are they ready yet? And he's like, it just, it's taking longer.
Planet Money
Trade war dispatch from Canada
I just kind of hopped into speed mode with Shirley. So I'm glad that I got at least my pecans for the year.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
846. Andy & DJ CTI: Joy Reid Show Canceled, Apple To Invest $500 Billion in U.S. & Trump Issues Dire WWIII Warning
What goes through your mind when you see this? You're here, you're now seeing it up close.
REAL AF with Andy Frisella
846. Andy & DJ CTI: Joy Reid Show Canceled, Apple To Invest $500 Billion in U.S. & Trump Issues Dire WWIII Warning
Attorney General Pam Bondi is now vowing to release the bombshell Jeffrey Epstein document. She says it's sitting on her desk. Lena, do you have any insight on what's coming?
Something Was Wrong
S22 E10: Indiana Delvey
I think it was honestly to keep up appearances. For her, the Tesla is a sign of success and of wealth. I'm a car person. I used to work at a motorsport museum. My parents were drivers in British community rally circuits. I grew up around cars. I want to know how on earth she was able to get this because I drive a Chevy Bolt, which is an electric car. I know how much my car costs.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E10: Indiana Delvey
And I'm also looking at this Tesla, which I think it was like 75 grand new. How is this making any sense? So I decided that we need to get down to the bottom of this because this has to statistically be an instance where she's taking advantage of somebody else because there's no way, shape or form she's able to afford this and the insurance.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E10: Indiana Delvey
The thing that surprised me the most was that under the lien holder in the document, it was Stephen's name. And I thought that was really interesting because for me, I had just bought a car and the lien holder is my bank. And so I thought that was very odd that the lien holder was a person as opposed to a bank.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E10: Indiana Delvey
So going through Megan's ex and looking through the history and when she had mentioned the Tesla, she had said that she was picking up her new Tesla in Utah. There's a few things that could possibly be going on here. Stephen, in fact, like was the holder and he had no idea what was going on.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E10: Indiana Delvey
Or she was scamming this person because there's no way she was leasing a car from this person in good faith. So I found Stephen's Facebook and the cover photo was the same exact photo that Megan had shared on X saying that that was the car that she was going to go pick up in Utah. And it was a blue Tesla on the Salt Flats in Utah. And I was like, okay, this is our guy. I have found him.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E10: Indiana Delvey
But I knew that if I reached out to him on Facebook, because we had nothing in common, my message was going to fall into spam and he would never see it. I figured that if he was a business owner, he probably had a LinkedIn account. But I couldn't message him because I didn't have LinkedIn Premium. So I paid the whatever amount it was to activate LinkedIn Premium.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E10: Indiana Delvey
And I message him and I say, hey, we don't know each other, but I believe that we might have a mutual acquaintance. Does the name Megan Stoner ring a bell for you? He messaged back pretty soon after and said, yes, I've actually hired a lawyer to discuss this matter. And it was being very vague about it for valid reason. I came back and said, I'm really sorry that you're going through this.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E10: Indiana Delvey
This is my ex thread on my story with Megan. There's this age old, old mystery that we're trying to solve of how on earth she has these Teslas. And he explained to me that he has not received the insurance payout for the Tesla of hers that she crashed. And we established the Tesla she had crashed was the blue one, which didn't answer the question about the white Tesla.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E10: Indiana Delvey
But that did answer the question that the documentation that she provided to the courts said that the Tesla was blue and the VIN number was incorrect. That document that she provided to the court saying that this is my updated information was completely and utterly false.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E10: Indiana Delvey
Stephen then mentions that he was growing concerned because Megan's friend leased a car from him and she had fallen behind on payments. And from there, we were able to establish by cross-checking some documentation, you know, she had just been pulled over. And so we had the VIN number from that incident and said, is this the Tesla that you're concerned about? And it was in fact the white Tesla.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E10: Indiana Delvey
In that moment, we established that Megan used false information and stole somebody's identity to lease the white Tesla. That was horrible because that meant that there was, at this point, two people involved in her scam. I said, listen, like, she's been driving it around. It's not her friend. Here's the documentation. Here's the photo. Here's her being pulled over. Use this and get your car back.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E10: Indiana Delvey
So he was able to use Tesla's app in which he could disable the car. And so he disabled it, flew to Indiana, picked the car up and drove it back to Utah. He was able to at least recover his white Tesla. But that also means that he's probably sitting with a heck of a lot of cosmetic damage on that car.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E10: Indiana Delvey
Somebody else probably has a really negative impact on their credit score because of her just trying to keep up her appearances.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E10: Indiana Delvey
Sort of the biggest mystery is how she got these Teslas and where these Teslas came from. There was things leading up to pulling the records that were quite alarming. There was an accident that she had where she had a really huge hematoma on her hip that she posted and then again posted the wound open. quite graphic and disgusting detail.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E10: Indiana Delvey
I mean, there was like a literal hole in her hip and it was awful to look at. And I watch a lot of Grey's Anatomy, but that was a lot. And there was just something about it all that didn't add up. October of 2022, my husband and I were T-boned in a car accident. I remember my injuries. I remember my husband's injuries. I remember the science of it all.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E10: Indiana Delvey
I was working with a physical therapist and worked with a few doctors who explained it to me. So I knew some things about car accidents and injuries. But the thing that didn't make any sense was that Megan's injuries were on the right side of her body. And she said that she was driving and the damage that she showed in the car was on the left side.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E10: Indiana Delvey
And I just remember thinking in my head, there's something about this that isn't adding up. She's probably trying to scam somebody with this. But we didn't have anything to go off of at that point. There was nothing. Flash forward, she had had her license suspended and was pulled over while driving on a suspended license and speeding and doing all of these things.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E10: Indiana Delvey
I believe it was for the DWI case where she had the car accident. She says that she had cough medicine with coating in it on the front seat, and that's what she was arrested with. And I believe it was in that case that she had to prove that she had insurance and that she was in good standing. Through a FOIA request, we took a look at the documents.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E10: Indiana Delvey
And it was the spouse of a member in the group who I believe either works with insurance or is...
Something Was Wrong
S22 E10: Indiana Delvey
in some way shape or form very familiar with what these documents are supposed to look like she said this looks very incorrect this looks like it had been edited in some way shape or form through photoshop or something along those lines we knew there was a lot about this that wasn't correct the amount of money that she said she was paying every month according to this document
Something Was Wrong
S22 E10: Indiana Delvey
she did not have the income to support. And we knew that. So that had to have meant that this was a forged document or that she was continuing to scam or that is what she paid at one point and that she's no longer in standing with this insurance company.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E8: We Got Her!
Tell me what's going on. I'm not a judgmental person. You know this. And they said, we created a fake Yoni account. And Megan has messaged us. I needed to get up from my desk and go into a conference room to bust out laughing. I mean, that was the funniest, most out of left field thing I'd ever heard in my life. I know their hearts and I know their values.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E8: We Got Her!
Amanda is not somebody who would like even talk about relationships or dating. Hearing the fact that she was involved in that is hilarious. And that Justin was driving that conversation was somehow even funnier. And they said, we just needed to tell somebody. And I was like, of course. If there's anything I can do to support you, I'm here.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E8: We Got Her!
If we need to bring other people into the conversation, let's do it. I was given the green light to discuss with Kyle and Mike. They thought it was hilarious and they were like, okay, this is a great opportunity to get her. And then we all had a group chat together. We added Alyssa in as well because she had had that experience, that first attempt to try to get Megan.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E8: We Got Her!
So she was able to share a lot more perspective of this is what worked and this is what didn't.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E8: We Got Her!
Here's Spice Girl Alex again. I had taken my mom to a Lego convention as a delayed Mother's Day present. It was the best day of my life. We went out to breakfast and we were at this Lego event and we were just living our best girly lives. The weather was phenomenal. And I found out she was arrested.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E8: We Got Her!
my mom and i participated in a build your lego race car and send it down this ramp drag strip and i think if you won you got like a sticker or something and i was filming the race and my car was winning to note so this is how glorious this moment was for me my car wins and crosses the finish line i was one sticker richer in my life
Something Was Wrong
S22 E8: We Got Her!
And right as it crossed the finish line, the notification pops up on the top bar of the screen saying, we got her. And we got her officially this time. And it was the most incredible moment, second most incredible moment of my life besides marrying my husband. We got her for good this time. We were so relieved that she was in jail at that point.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E8: We Got Her!
There were days where I couldn't fall asleep at night because I was like, she's hurting somebody right now and I just know it. And there's nothing anybody can do about it. I felt very lost because there's a lot of big differences between how we do things in Oregon versus how they do things in Indiana.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E8: We Got Her!
I'm learning with other people, you know, a whole different civil justice system and how things work there. And I felt a huge loss. huge sense of duty to do right and to do something about this and also do it correctly so knowing that the world and specifically that community in Indiana was just that much more safer was a huge huge relief for not only myself but for everybody else as well
Something Was Wrong
S22 E8: We Got Her!
I was at work and I get a text message from Justin, Amanda in a group chat.
Something Was Wrong
S22 E8: We Got Her!
And they said, Alex, we have to tell you something. We've done something really bad. And I'm sitting there and I'm thinking, okay, there's a scale of bad for me. And there's a scale of bad for them. What version am I going to get? I was like, okay, what's going on? And Amanda's texting me. She's like, I'm so embarrassed. I cannot believe I've done this. And I'm like, girl, it's okay.
The Basement Yard
#499 - How Is No One Talking About This?
I don't. If it takes five of them to turn into a ball and turn me to snow, snow stone, I think we could take them. It takes five for it to work?
The Basement Yard
#499 - How Is No One Talking About This?
You want to guess the price they're selling this toothpaste at?
The Basement Yard
#499 - How Is No One Talking About This?
I figured. This is sold out. Electric. Also, I think it is $72, by the way. They just call it the dental kit. But the lightning? That's energy drink flavored?
The Basement Yard
#499 - How Is No One Talking About This?
You want to get a couple? I am back. Wait, I think it is $13. You guys are right. I got to say. Look at that. Wait, it's okay. So, all right, we were right in the middle. So they're cheap?
The Basement Yard
#499 - How Is No One Talking About This?
It's very sweet. Oh, okay. They're okay. Gotcha. These are sold out. Okay.
The Basement Yard
#499 - How Is No One Talking About This?
So how can you say that? I didn't think you guys would.
The Basement Yard
#499 - How Is No One Talking About This?
What the fuck? Yeah. So this one looks like a donut. This one looks like a donut. And this one looks like a donut.
The Basement Yard
#499 - How Is No One Talking About This?
I thought you were going as, like, a little sexual experience kind of thing.
The Basement Yard
#499 - How Is No One Talking About This?
Like, you clean first, then it tastes good. Sure.
The Basement Yard
#499 - How Is No One Talking About This?
It's the worst thing in the world. Yeah. Did it taste like cheese? It tastes like you threw up Doritos.
The Basement Yard
#499 - How Is No One Talking About This?
I don't even know how to unpack that. What is that? Is that like a song from Little Richard? Yeah. Strawberry topped pancakes with syrup and bacon flavored chips.
The Brett Cooper Show
Why Hollywood Turned on the Trans Mexican Cartel Movie | Episode 9
This is Alex. You're watching Brett in the Wild devouring her favorite post-filming snack, an American-raised steak from Good Ranchers.
The Brett Cooper Show
Why Hollywood Turned on the Trans Mexican Cartel Movie | Episode 9
Brett doesn't know this, but she's actually doing one of the best ads ever for Good Ranchers and offering the best deal they have ever done. This could be you if you go to goodranchers.com and use promo code BRETT at checkout for a year of free meat and $40 off your order, which again is literally the best deal they have ever run.
The Dan Le Batard Show with Stugotz
Postgame Show: Tony's Bad Mood
Are you surprised by how little video game time you have now?
The Dan Le Batard Show with Stugotz
Postgame Show: Tony's Bad Mood
Nein, du denkst, dass sie etwas machen wird und ich muss eine Quick-30 machen. Und dann, boom, du spielst eine Quick-Game und du bist in der zweiten Woche.
The Dan Le Batard Show with Stugotz
Postgame Show: Tony's Bad Mood
Das ist ein Lied, das mich glücklich macht.
The Dan Le Batard Show with Stugotz
Postgame Show: Tony's Bad Mood
Was ist dein glücklichstes Lied? Ich weiß es nicht. Ich suche immer noch Glück.
The Dan Le Batard Show with Stugotz
Postgame Show: Tony's Bad Mood
Wie fühlt ihr euch, Leute, ich meine, das ist mehr für euch, keine Entschuldigung für alle anderen im Raum, aber wie fühlt ihr euch, wenn ihr jetzt eure Lieblingsaktien sehen könnt, bei Dingen, die ihr macht? Du hast TLC erwähnt, ich war bei Universal Studios und ich habe gesehen, oh, TLC spielt heute Abend ein Konzert.
The Dan Le Batard Show with Stugotz
Postgame Show: Tony's Bad Mood
Bei Universal Studios. Was? Ich war nicht da, aber TLC spielt heute Abend ein Konzert.
The Dan Le Batard Show with Stugotz
Postgame Show: Tony's Bad Mood
Ja, TLC war da. Teil ihrer Mardi Gras Konzertserie. Chili? Ja, Chili war da. Nicht Left Eye, aber. Nein, nein, sie konnte es nicht machen. Ich war ein Chili-Typ. Ja. Aber wie fühlst du dich? Weil ich sicher bin, Boys to Men ist auch auf diesem Kreis. Du könntest Boys to Men wahrscheinlich bei Busch Gardens sehen, wenn du willst. Oder bei Universal. Ja, das ist großartig. Das ist so entschuldigend.
The Dan Le Batard Show with Stugotz
Postgame Show: Tony's Bad Mood
Ich bin so froh, dass du die Ying Yang Twins erwähnt hast, weil das immer bei den Marlins-Games passiert ist, wo es immer die Saturday-Konzert wäre und es war immer so, Willi Torino. Casey and the Sunshine Band. Steve Miller Band. Es gab immer alte Sachen. Als ich als Teenager gesehen habe, wie diese alten Sachen herauskommen, dachte ich mir, man, die Ying Yang Tims sind ziemlich wild.
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Postgame Show: Tony's Bad Mood
Ich weiß nicht, wenn ich in meinen 60ern und 50ern bin, werde ich mit meinem 20-jährigen Kind kommen und die Ying Yang Tims erklären. Wir werden das singen, wenn ich 50 Jahre alt bin? Die Musik ist ein bisschen wild. Ich weiß nicht, wie das in den Oldies aufwächst.
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Postgame Show: Tony's Bad Mood
Ich habe das schon ein paar Mal gesagt, aber ich habe die YingYang Twins in New Orleans gesehen, die in einem Casino anwesend waren. Und dann waren sie einfach in der Lobby und wir haben ein Bild mit den Yin-Yang Twins gemacht. Wir haben nur einen Yin-Yang Twin für ein Bild gefragt und der andere Yin-Yang Twin kam und hat das Bild mitgebracht.
The Dan Le Batard Show with Stugotz
Postgame Show: Tony's Bad Mood
Er war da und er hat das gemacht. Ja. In dem Fall, dass ihr euch fragt, ist die Song Run Around Sue von Dion, die 1961 veröffentlicht wurde.
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Postgame Show: Tony's Bad Mood
That's a steep fine for an assistant coach.
The Dan Le Batard Show with Stugotz
Postgame Show: Tony's Bad Mood
But that's a lot of money. It's a huge part. Zaz, I don't know how you felt when you were having your children. So... Right before he had his children, his daughter, before he had his daughter, NCAA came out. And the baby's coming and he's like, I'm gonna have so much video game time when this baby's born. And we're like, Tony, not how that one works.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
I'm not liking your games, guys.
The Dan Le Batard Show with Stugotz
Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
I would say probably AJ Foyt.
The Dan Le Batard Show with Stugotz
Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
I haven't had much time to go over the phone and all the messages. Honestly, it's been nonstop. But I heard there was Pau Gasol that used to be in the Lakers that he won. He's been following me lately, I think, because he knows that obviously I'm from Spain and I'm racing here in U.S. So similar to him. Then I had I received a letter from the kings of Spain, which that's pretty cool.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
I mean, it's not every day that you you receive a letter from them. So, yeah, I cannot wait to go and scroll all over the messages.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
but also also stunning that you just simply haven't had time to listen or look at your messages have you slept at all i slept yeah i would say like four hours after the race and then another four or five hours uh last night um we went to the banquet celebration last night uh in indianapolis and uh we got to new york at about 1 a.m so um yeah it's been uh
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
It's been nonstop, but honestly, it's been amazing. Like, I'm enjoying every second of it. I'm very tired, but I'm loving.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
No, absolutely not. Wow. Is that what he did? I mean...
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
Yeah, honestly, it's been an amazing start of the season for us. Chip Ganassi Racing and the 10 car, like we've won five of the first six races. I've never experienced it, anything like that. But the team has done an amazing job on IndyCar. giving us a really fast car every single weekend. Where do we go from here? Detroit.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
I mean, this weekend, we have a great opportunity to try and win at Detroit, try and do our best there. It's going to be tough. Like, I cannot have the best preparation that we normally have being on the media tour, but it'll be fun. And then trying to win the championship this year would be super cool too.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
Yeah, that was back in 2018. I didn't know if I was going to have a real chance. I was not a professional back then. I was racing all over the world, but it was tough to get a real contract for years. didn't think or I didn't know if I was going to have a career. So we were like, you know what, let's do something together with my wife. So we opened a coffee shop.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
We ran it for two years and then we moved to America as soon as I moved to IndyCar. So we sold it. It was fun. We learned a lot. And I'm glad that
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
my racing career went uh better than my uh coffee shop career well you were terrible you were terrible at it right you were doing all of the work you were cleaning tables but you were a terrible coffee shop owner were you not i was not doing everything but i i did clean a lot of tables and i did uh make a lot of coffees um i i thought i was decent i was working my ass off every single day there because uh it was our business but uh it was fun it was a huge
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
Oh, yeah, absolutely. It was great. Like, honestly, it was on this little town in Spain called Girona. It's like an hour away from Barcelona, a lovely town. And yeah, it was going really well. Then COVID hit us. We were still doing great. But yeah, I think it would have been a good business.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
Absolutely not. Like my goal back then was to hopefully one day be part of IndyCar. When I say be part, it's just like have a contract of like one year and be able to make all the races and have fun and hopefully get a win or something. But yeah, it was not what we have today. This is a wild dream that I'm living on. And yeah, it's insane.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
Well, it was the first time we had the hybrids at the Speedway. It just added a little bit of weight, a little bit of stress to the tires. Then the conditions were not amazing. It was super cold. I think it was the coldest Indy 500 we had in the past 10 or 15 years. So it was tough to get the tires into temperature. It was easy to make mistakes. And at the same time,
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
The field is so close that you need to go super aggressive nowadays since Lab 1 just to try and move yourself up front and have a chance at the end to fight for the win. It was tough to get into a rhythm with so many yellows at the beginning, but I'm glad everything worked out for us.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
Um, no, no, no, never, never until today. Never. Um, Connor did. I know some drivers did, but, um, yeah, I was close. Actually. I was close. We had the rain delay, um, uh, at the beginning of the race, we're sitting in the car for like 35 minutes. Um, there was nothing going on.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
Thank you guys for having me in the show, but it's been crazy. I mean, as you can see, I lost my voice. There's been a lot of screaming and celebrating with the team, with the family.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
Just think that we try and hydrate as much as possible before the race, because it's going to be a long two and a half, three hours. And you know, you're going to sweat a lot. So being serious,
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
uh sitting in the car for like 35 minutes without doing anything um your mind started being like okay alex you need to be you need to be you need to be um so yeah i think that's what happened to connor that's what he said but i'm glad they didn't have to make it can you explain
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
I would say we lose about four or five pounds of just pure, pure sweat. Just think that it's a 500-mile race. Although we're going really fast, it's still 500 miles that you're sitting and strapped in that racing car. The suspension is made for performance, not for being comfortable. We don't have power steering. We don't have power brakes. So it's quite physical.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
And then just the mental stress of like,
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
not being able to relax for two and a half hours you you need to constantly know what you're doing uh look for any accidents around you and try and avoid any any scenarios so um yeah it's fun it's fun what we do but for sure it's uh it's exhausting how often will you have drifting thoughts where you're like uh just thinking you know i really enjoyed that ham sandwich in portugal that time i was there or like how often do you have thoughts that aren't about racing while racing
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
And there's, I mean, during the race, uh, it happens sometimes, sometimes it happens that you're like, oh, wow, that, that coffee man, or I need a coffee or, or you start thinking about stuff, but, um, it's, uh, it's important to refocus super quick. It's that's, I think that's a key. It's normal to have like thoughts that are from the outset that are not related to racing. Uh, we don't have it.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
At least I don't have it very often, but, but, but sometimes happens during the race. Any chance of you going to F1? No, I tried. Like, I tried three years ago. I did some testing with it, but didn't really have a full-time rider. So it was better to focus on IndyCar, trying to get as many wins and championships as possible. So, yeah, man, now I think I'm in a...
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
in a perfect scenario with the team, with the 10-card EHL, with us. We have an amazing group of people and there's not many places that I would rather go than where I am. And actually, it would be really, really tough to leave
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
Yes, I would say the milk. I mean, the milk is the biggest tradition, right? And it's the biggest difference to all other races instead of champagne is milk. And that milk tasted so good. I loved it every second of it. But I would say the victory lap we did at the end. So basically I went over a pickup truck and I did a lap after the race was complete, just saying hello to the fans and thank you.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
Oh, it was great. It was huge for us, honestly. Kyle is an amazing driver. Not only is he good, but also how he carries the sport and how he talks about it. It's amazing. He's an amazing driver.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
um i think it's just very um it's it's a very long two weeks for for indycar like we are there the pressure is on um you're there like every single day at the track um it's long days and then combining that with something else it has to be um very demanding physically and emotionally mentally everything so i think it has to be very very tough i would say that
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
Nowadays, it's easier for a NASCAR driver to come to IndyCar because we have so much testing. While if there's an IndyCar driver that wants to go to NASCAR for the double, you don't really have much testing. So you don't really have the opportunity to learn about the car, the team, and just to get comfortable with it.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
Although I would love to do it if I had the opportunity, the good opportunity one day. Why not? I love racing cars. I think I would
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
get in trouble there like uh these guys know how to race on ovals uh very well and their style of racing it's a little more more aggressive than what we have in indycar but uh still would be would be fun to when they try it the ntt indycar series continues this sunday june 1st on the streets of downtown detroit 12 30 p.m eastern on fox the fox sports app and indycar radio network alex you went to the nick pacers game after winning the indy 500 i'm wondering courtside seats
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
No. So I actually entered a court when I think they were about tight. Then they were up 20. The energy was super high and I stayed until the end. And yes, the energy at the end wasn't great.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
I would still have gone. Honestly, I just wanted to celebrate a little with more people to get the vibe. I mean, the energy at the city right now, it's amazing. But yeah, it was my second time being courtside. It's amazing. You need to be also like all the time in alert because like these guys that are like, I don't know how tall and they just come aggressive at you. So, yeah, it was a fun time.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
It was a fun night. And yeah, I was glad to be able to experience it once again.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
Muy bien, muy bien.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
Okay, I'll try my best. These are usually dirty, though.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
So that it was the first time that I was able to experience so many fans and to celebrate with them. There was a lot of people that stayed with us to celebrate at the end. So that was probably one of the highlights.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
Me Cago en la Leche. Jesus. That would be like, I mean, do I need to translate it or the meaning of the phrase? Because if I translate it, I'm going to. shit on that milk, but it has a different meaning. That is right.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
I'm not liking this game. I'm not liking this game.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
Yeah, it makes no sense, but it's more like saying, dang it, or some words that I prefer not to say here.
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Hour 1: Me Cago En La Leche (feat. Alex Palou)
it's huge it's amazing it's unbelievable to be in this position to represent the speedway to represent the 500 miles um and i would say motorsport in general um it was a dream of mine uh to one day be here but um honestly like it's not it's not only an important race for the motorsport community it's also important for everybody that it's not normally following motorsport they learn about it they hear about it and and we had like eight point
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Hour 2: Jeremy Corbell and the UFO Revolution
This is the best time to argue they know how to win because I don't think we've ever seen a team, I guess it was a Lakers team that really coasted through the regular season and as a five seed learned to turn it on. And remember when the Heat really stumbled in their defense year in 07, we just kept referencing, well, Shaq has done this before. But the Chiefs have the bona fides.
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The Chiefs have been there. The Chiefs are always there. They're omnipresent in this conversation. We've seen them win. So they're not met with the same skepticism that other flawed teams might be, even though this Chiefs team is flawed because we've seen them do it before. And we know if there is a drive with...
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Hour 2: Jeremy Corbell and the UFO Revolution
90 seconds or less on the clock, we are all terrified if we're opposing Patrick Mahomes.
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Hour 2: Jeremy Corbell and the UFO Revolution
I don't actually think so. I look at the talent that Buffalo lost this offseason, and yeah, in the trenches it's not sexy, but I love that offensive line, and I love that defensive line. Greg Rousseau might end up being the highest paid player on defense. It's a lot of great stories.
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Hour 2: Jeremy Corbell and the UFO Revolution
Thank you for pointing that out. And I think he played seven snaps against Florida. Thank you, Manny Diaz. But I think that this is really Josh Allen's year. And he went through the other guy that he's neck and neck in the MVP race. And we have never in recorded history seen a quarterback in the postseason go 0 for his first four against another quarterback.
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Hour 2: Jeremy Corbell and the UFO Revolution
If the Chiefs win this, it'd be the first time that has ever happened. And it's another 0 for 4 that the Bills would have to their name. I love that he's in this position because he has to go through both those guys in order to get to the ultimate legendary status, somehow even surpassing Jim Kelly in that market, which was thought impossible.
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In that 2019 AFC Championship game between Tom Brady's Patriots and Patrick Mahomes' Chiefs, the Patriots were actually three-point dogs headed into that game and won outright.
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You have the added juice of even though the Bills haven't got the better of them in the postseason, they almost did in one of the greatest games of all time. They beat them this year. They were the defeat in their record, really the lone real defeat because I'm not counting that Broncos one with – Them resting all their starters.
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Hour 2: Jeremy Corbell and the UFO Revolution
This one has so much juice to it that I do think he gets up for this. And it's his contemporary. It's a guy that everyone is pointing to saying that guy's probably MVP, had a much better season than Patrick Mahomes. So he's going up against the best version of Josh Allen and the perceived weakest version of himself. I think he gets up for it.
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Hour 2: Jeremy Corbell and the UFO Revolution
This doesn't happen, really. Patrick Mahomes being a home dog or slight fave all that often. But it did happen in 2021. The Chiefs were really struggling out the gates, and they hosted Buffalo, which was a one-point favorite on the road. Revenge playing a big factor in that game after one of the all-timers.
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Hour 2: Jeremy Corbell and the UFO Revolution
Yeah, I believe so. You're asking a lot of questions. You're really testing my chat GPT today.
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Hour 2: Jeremy Corbell and the UFO Revolution
This is why we watch sports, dude. This is legacy-making stuff on the line. It's why I wanted the path of Lamar versus Josh Allen, because you would have that no matter what going into the AFC Championship game, provided that they handled their business against Houston. And thank goodness that they did, because this is the drama that will draw everybody.
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Hour 2: Jeremy Corbell and the UFO Revolution
everybody in they've had such marquee games that have been so highly rated that casual tangential fans girlfriends or boyfriends of people that follow this sport avidly know this storyline going into it and they know all the baggage that is attached to the buffalo pills ahead of this game the smallest spread that the chiefs had had in a home playoff game was against the bangles in the afc championship game that was one and a half josh allen is the mvp favorite
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a certain team going through this game and then winning the additional game. But whoever wins this game will indeed be favored in the Super Bowl.
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Hour 2: Jeremy Corbell and the UFO Revolution
Wait. Wouldn't that run counter to the Bengals stat that we just read off, though? Because he did lose that game to the Bengals. No, he didn't. The Bengals beat them in the AFC Championship.
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Hour 2: Jeremy Corbell and the UFO Revolution
We got down to the bottom of the confusion. There were two AFC championships between the Bengals and the Chiefs. The one that the Bengals actually won, the Chiefs were bigger favorites in that game. They were minus seven.
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Well, you're the one that's just fallen in love with your new chat GPT toy via me. And you're just putting me in a really tough spot here.
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Hour 2: Jeremy Corbell and the UFO Revolution
He's gotten taller since he got to Notre Dame.
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That's what happens when you stand on the shoulders of giants.
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Hey, howdy, listener. Why don't you sit down here next to me? Let's have a fireside conversation in the winter. This is all theater of the mind anyways. The weather outside is a little chilly. Let's warm up. Let's cozy up. Not just to each other, but also to that beautiful white can of Miller Lite. That's right.
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Make these moments even better with Miller Lite, the great tasting light beer for people who love beer. A new year is a perfect time for friends, family, and great tasting light beer. Tastes like Miller time. You know, as the football games get bigger, everybody's talking about hosting parties. It's always difficult. Everyone's got an opinion.
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Why don't you just bring out a nice cooler of Miller lights and make everybody happy? You could be on opposite sides of the big game, but you still know that you are brought together by Miller time. Miller Lite is a great unifier. Miller Lite is brewed for taste. It hits different than other Lite beers. The original Lite beer since 1975 and still the very best one. Miller Lite. Great taste.
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96 calories. Go to MillerLite.com slash Dan. Find delivery options near you. Or you can pick up some Miller Lite pretty much anywhere they sell beer. Tastes like Miller time. Celebrate responsibly. Miller Brewing Company, Milwaukee, Wisconsin. 96 calories and 3.2 carbs per 12 ounces.
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Worth it. That was certainly my favorite part.
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Hour 2: Jeremy Corbell and the UFO Revolution
The mother of all football weekends.
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There is so much staggering evidence out there, and yet when you bring this up in the mainstream, people will, I'm sure you've been called a kook before, people will attack this as some sort of crazy conspiracy theory. And one of the prevailing theories as to why that is, is because the existence of some other life form, and I know there's a separation. UFOs are not necessarily alien life.
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And that's one of the big mysteries here. But just merely addressing this and giving it credence challenges a lot of the theologies, pretty much all of them, on this planet. So I guess this is a very roundabout way to ask you this. Is it easier to just... cover the whole thing up and just treat it like this can't possibly exist. So we ignore it.
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Is that an easier coverup than what if the actual coverup is what you actually know is possible on this planet about technology or military advancements is pretty much just the tip of the iceberg. And the real secret here is what our capabilities are.
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Not to turn this into a political discussion, but the current president has gone on podcasts and has been asked about aliens and he's shown a genuine interest to declassify everything that there is out there. And he's certainly now dealing with big tech and a lot of billionaires that have gone into space.
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Are we now more likely than ever with this administration to get more clarity, more transparency around this stuff?
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Hello, Kyle. People love that, by the way.
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Well, we are not bound by FCC rules.
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I'm not even sure the FCC is around anymore.
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6'2", 190, and my car's got broken into at my home. I'm not that big of a guy. Are we victim-shaming?
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You show me a picture of him standing next to Kyle Hamilton and he's an inch shorter.
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He was also listed 6'3 in his playing games.
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He's a tall guy. And I'm beyond the free membership of ChatGPT now at this point. I have to go to a paid model. I'm not quite ready to do that.
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Hour 2: Jeremy Corbell and the UFO Revolution
Hey, howdy, listener. Why don't you sit down here next to me? Let's have a fireside conversation in the winter. This is all theater of the mind anyways. The weather outside is a little chilly. Let's warm up. Let's cozy up. Not just to each other, but also to that beautiful white can of Miller Lite. That's right.
The Dan Le Batard Show with Stugotz
Hour 2: Jeremy Corbell and the UFO Revolution
Make these moments even better with Miller Lite, the great tasting light beer for people who love beer. A new year is a perfect time for friends, family, and great tasting light beer. Tastes like Miller time. You know, as the football games get bigger, everybody's talking about hosting parties. It's always difficult. Everyone's got an opinion.
The Dan Le Batard Show with Stugotz
Hour 2: Jeremy Corbell and the UFO Revolution
Why don't you just bring out a nice cooler of Miller lights and make everybody happy? You could be on opposite sides of the big game, but you still know that you are brought together. By Miller Time. Miller Lite is a great unifier. Miller Lite is brewed for taste. It hits different than other light beers. The original light beer since 1975 and still the very best one. Miller Lite. Great taste.
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Hour 2: Jeremy Corbell and the UFO Revolution
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No, Scary Terry's great. I mean... I love Scary Terry. He's a great player. He's had a great season. I mean, he's had a great season because the quarterback's finally there. He's had a couple of great seasons without a good quarterback.
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Well, let's frame this historically, because Greg said some of these quarterbacks tend to flame out. This has actually happened quite a bit. It's a fairly new phenomenon, but rookie quarterbacks making the championship game has happened five times previously, most recently Brock Purdy as a Mr. Irrelevant. It's kind of crazy that we forgot about that one already.
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In terms of rookie quarterbacks to win two road playoff games, Mark Sanchez did that. He got to this point to the mixed bag POV. Joe Flacco in his rookie season made it to the AFC championship game. Ben Roethlisberger made it to the AFC championship game his rookie season, and so did Sean King for the Tampa Bay Bucs. He was the first to do that. So a bit of a mixed bag there.
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None of those rookie quarterbacks –
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ended up going to the super bowl jaden daniels would be the first one and if you look at the list that i provided none of those quarterbacks were the singular reason their teams found themselves in that spot they were pretty loaded teams some most of these built on their defenses jaden daniels i think we can reach consensus is the reason the washington commanders are in this spot if he makes it to the super bowl and is the first rookie quarterback to do that
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We are in all-time territory. That is the greatest rookie season, I think, when you not only take into account individual accomplishments, but team, that's whole new ground that we're breaking.
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I've never minded the Kansas City Chiefs throughout their entire run, even as the Taylor Swift thing was going on. And I understand how that rubbed people the wrong way because she's a woman. But this year it's gotten to me because of how they're doing it. You look at their numbers, you look at their point differential, you look at the fact that they haven't scored more than 30 points like it's.
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They can't keep getting away with this. They're getting away with things that flawed teams do, yet you know that we still haven't seen the best Patrick Mahomes. It's a huge weekend for football. The mother of all football weekends. All these tickets are so in demand. It's hard to get in that building. Diana Rossini's husband can't even get in that building.
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Well, guess what, Diana Rossini's husband? What? Why don't you download the Game Time app, create an account, and use the code DAN for $20 off your first purchase, Diana Rossini's husband. Terms apply. Diana Rossini's husband. What time is it? Game time! You're married. Incredible.
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One stat here on the Jaden Daniels thing, because we mentioned that the other rookie quarterbacks that have found themselves in this position were carried by their defenses. I undersold it, Jeremy.
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Hour 2: The Sphere of Ignorance (feat. Amin Elhassan and Felipe Esparza)
Republicans who have voted against, consistently, against the Violence Against Women Act, who have taken away the right of all women to choose and have control over their own body, who, as women, are bleeding out in parking lots across the country, standing there, allowing us to die, now want to pretend today that they care about women. And why?
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To open up gender and, yes, genital examinations into little girls in this country in the so-called name of attacking trans girls. And to that, today, what we have to say are two words, not today. Trans girls are girls. And for all the folks that are so concerned, thank you for your concern about women for the first time that I've seen. I don't know about y'all.
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I don't know who's been to gym class lately, but girls, even if you only believe in two genders, I've played co-ed sports all the time.
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#BecauseMiami: Follow the Money
And then they communicated until, you know, that was on a Friday and they communicated until she got the wired five million dollars into her dark money organization's bank account on Friday. you know, Tuesday, October 22nd. And so that's captured in images now. And that's in our story. And it's going to go on. There's going to be another hearing. You know, on Thursday, there was a board meeting.
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There's going to be a board meeting on this coming Thursday, which I think by the time this airs is yesterday. And we just got there at 990. So we're going through them. They're kind of like a who's who of state contractors. So, you know, the documents are coming now. That's the stage of where we are.
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Thanks for having us, Billy. Thanks.
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Still have no idea why this was justified. I have very strong beliefs that this was not legal.
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It looks like a creative way to try and, without oversight, send $10 million of taxpayer funds to Hope Florida.
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Chair Alex Andrade has serious concerns, thinking the funneling of funds could rise to the level of money laundering or wire fraud. He said he'll now seek testimony from the foundation's attorney, Jeff Aaron, the heads of the two nonprofits that moved the money, and maybe Attorney General James Uthmeyer himself.
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If they do not provide that information in a timely manner, we may be required to obtain that information with the use of subpoenas.
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Your point's well taken, but I think the circumstances are a little bit different, right? It's squishier to say that PSAs with a slant, you know, being purchased by a public agency are demonstrably, you know, criminal or anything like that. In this circumstance, what we have is the executive office of the governor, his chief of staff, James Uthmeyer,
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involving himself in a settlement agreement for $67 million, shaving off $10 million of that, directing it to Casey DeSantis' charity, Hope Florida Foundation, and immediately getting two dark money groups to go ask for $5 million apiece. And the second they get that money, they send it to his PAC. So there's the distinction there of we have this path of Medicaid money ending up in a
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And so that's the big distinction. I mean, we're now facing the potential for fines from the federal government for misuse of Medicaid money. And we have at this point information that tends to show that our attorney general committed money laundering and wire fraud.
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Well, when James Uthmeyer involved himself in the settlement with Centene and he directed that $10 million go to a 501c3, and then he immediately, personally, we have text messages and phone call records showing that he personally reached out to these two dark money groups, told them to ask for this money.
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and the second those two groups got the money wired to them it ended up in his pack so he's been he's involved at every step of the way in this process and and that's where you get into this kind of conspiracy he knew it was medicaid money when it was part of the settlement he knew it was a tax deductible donation to a charity when it went to the charity
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And then he knew that the second these two dark money groups would receive the money, they would send it to him and his pack. Shoot, if if he was acting in a, you know, above board manner, he would have raised red flags, said, hey, literally last week I told you guys to ask for millions of dollars from this charity. Now you're sending me money. Please tell me it's not the same money.
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He didn't do that. In fact, he's he's proud of it. He gave statements today saying essentially the ends justify the means. And, you know, he's fighting for kids because he fought against Amendment 3.
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It's been a black hole. So they've never filed a Form 990 as a charity, meaning they've never reported to the IRS how much money they've raised or how much money they've distributed. Based on information that we now have, other than this $10 million dark money Medicaid fund transfer fund,
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They'd only raised about $2 million in total, and they'd doled out about $500,000 to charities in the form of like $10,000, $20,000, and $30,000 grants to charities around the state. So those donations, those $20,000, $30,000, $40,000 donations, those went through a process at the Florida Department of Children and Families.
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The state agency had to review those grant applications, had to sign off on them, make sure that they were above board and everything like that. In the instance of the $10 million that went to these two dark money groups and then both of those dark money groups sending it to James's PAC, there was no review by DCF.
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We found out yesterday that DCF wasn't even told that this $10 million was going into this bank account. It's shocking to me that the state's attorney general couldn't even cover his tracks better. Yeah.
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I would say there's nothing necessarily untoward about contractors wanting to curry favor with the governor's office, right? It's probably in their best financial interest to try and develop a good relationship with the governor's office however they can. I mean, we have state contractor vendors that make campaign donations to campaign accounts all the time.
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The issue here is that, yeah, I have heard reports, a lot of reports, about pressure on people to make donations and pressure on vendors of the state to make contributions to the Florida Foundation. And depending on how that message was conveyed and how much pressure was applied, that would be a problem. But I don't have the information right now to say whether or not that happened.
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governor sands has been acting more kind of manic and emotional and erratic as the weeks progress um it's almost tough not to feel sorry for him i mean yeah he did he scheduled his press conference in my district to start at the exact same time as my committee meeting yesterday um and in fact i tried to pull up the press conference and have it on mute on the big screens in our committee room but we have rules about using props and committee um but no i'm glad governor santa's visited my district it's always nice when the governor visits
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I just wish he didn't try and equate fighting against fraud, waste, abuse, money laundering, and wire fraud as somehow a liberal tendency. I thought he loves that line that he claims he was Doge before Doge was cool. Well, dude, get your own house in order.
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The same agency that transferred this $10 million, directed this $10 million donation that ended up in his chief of staff's PAC just happened to lose $160 million that we discovered a few weeks ago. They just misplaced it. Like, we gave them money a couple years ago to pay a federal fine, $160 million worth. They put it in the wrong bank account, and they used it for cash flow.
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So now we as the state have to pay that $160 million fine twice because his own agency keeps screwing it up. At the end of the day, like right now, unfortunately for DeSantis, like he's exposing himself like he's a he's a great congressman. He's welcome to run for the Florida House of Representatives when he gets done as governor, if he thinks he can do this job better.
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But he's exposing himself as a great, great legislator, but a terrible manager.
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So I got a copy of Meeting Minutes from October, 2024. And this is a charity sanctioned by the state in state law. So the Meeting Minutes are supposed to be public, but they haven't been. So when I saw the Meeting Minutes, I was really intrigued. And what the Meeting Minutes said was that there was a $10 million allocation
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I don't know if that even requires a response. I mean, like, yeah, they're trying to say that I'm, you know, doing the bidding of John Morgan at Morgan & Morgan and doing the bidding of Trulieve and Big Weed. One, yeah, I voted for Amendment 3, as did the majority of Floridians, as did President Trump. That doesn't mean I cared that much about it.
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I happen to have issues with the fact that it didn't have home grow in it as well. Like, I filed a bill this year for home grow as kind of like a thumb in the eye to, like, Trulieve's kind of
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mistake on that part of their amendment but the plaintiffs bar hates me the plaintiffs lawyers in in Florida at least the on the advocacy lobbying side they've despised me just because of the positions I've taken the legislature so when I say like I don't know if it requires like it requires me to respond it's just it's such a weird stupid attack
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And if you can't address the argument, like his boss directed $10 million in Medicaid money that ended up in his own PAC. If they can't address that, they're going to go attack people. And I guess because they can't address that, they're just attacking people.
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Yeah, they hired the PACS lawyer, this charity that shoveled this money into James' PAC. They hired the PACS lawyer to fix their charitable documents, their charity compliance documents. We've invited another lawyer at the center of this named Jeff Aaron, who was the attorney for the Hope Florida Foundation, to come next week and explain himself.
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And we invited those two dark money groups, the Secure Florida's Future and Save Our Society from Drugs, to come next week and explain themselves to the committee. I've also requested a ton of documentation from the state agencies and from these groups. If I don't get them in the next few days, we'll probably send subpoenas next week just to require the documents to be produced.
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Yeah, one fun, unique thing about the Florida legislature is while we are in session, we don't need a judge to enforce a subpoena. We can send our own sergeant at arms to go enforce the subpoena. So we don't need prior judicial authorization. So there's really very little they can do to contest it if we do it while we're in session.
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So we have about three weeks left of session, maybe two weeks after this one. So, yeah, we might do some of that work before we're done.
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I think that the U.S. attorney for the Northern District of Florida should be concerned about the misuse of Medicaid money and the wire fraud and money laundering that's been uncovered. If I'm a federal prosecutor, I'm building a RICO case right now. And James Uthmeyer and the other attorney, Jeff Aaron, are at the center of it.
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to the foundation due to a longstanding dispute between what eventually came out was the State Agency for Healthcare Administration and the state's largest Medicaid contractor, Centene, which had been overbilling the state for prescription drugs, essentially. And they were settling over it.
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I mean, I haven't really mentioned Casey because I didn't see her personally reaching out to these dark money groups and telling them to ask for $5 million apiece and then telling them to give them to my PAC.
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As far as I'm concerned, the only issue for Casey is that she's held up this Florida Foundation as a campaign platform, and she hasn't really spent much time making sure that they're complying with any of the statutes that they're required to comply with. And she really hasn't spent a lot of time making sure the program is actually doing what it's supposed to do.
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Like I shared with you before we started talking, the executive director for the Hope Florida Operation Alarm resigned today after the committee yesterday. Yeah, I anticipate more of these press conferences, and I've always equated Governor DeSantis' accent as like New Jersey mixed with toddler. But I'll be subjected to more of those.
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But he went to my district yesterday, and I had a bunch of people call me. Not a single person called me in agreement with the governor. They all called me and encouraged me to keep doing what I was doing and get to the bottom of where this money went and how it was used and misappropriated. So, no, I mean, he's still a Republican governor.
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I share his philosophical views on how a government is supposed to run. We still need to get a balanced budget passed the next few weeks. We need to send that to the governor for his signature. He's inevitably going to veto a ton of stuff out of our budget to be petty and retributive. And then we'll have to decide if we're going to override all of his vetoes.
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dylan beck wasn't implicated in any wrongdoing uh as far as i'm concerned the people implicated the most are our attorney general james uthmeyer and this other attorney which by the way jeff aaron is santa's personal attorney um the only two people i've seen who are directly implicated in wrongdoing and wouldn't wouldn't be associated just by virtue of like part of a rico conspiracy type thing the people that actually did wrong
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were Jeff Aaron and James Uthmeyer. So the only way for DeSantis and Casey DeSantis to scapegoat anybody is for James Uthmeyer to resign as the Attorney General or take responsibility for what happened and subject himself to prosecution. So we'll see what happens. I really couldn't tell you. I'm not a prosecutor, but I'll tell you, if I was the Northern District Attorney, the U.S.
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Attorney for the Northern District of Florida, I'd be paying attention to this because it's a pretty clear-cut case of, like I said, money laundering, wire fraud, and Medicaid fraud.
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Well, I'd much rather be focused on achieve savings rebates and making sure our HEDIS measures and healthcare outcomes for Medicaid individuals in Florida are improving. But unfortunately, because of the bad acts of a few bad apples, we're having to focus on this.
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You know, we didn't know everything when we got those minutes, but we knew that the foundation was getting $10 million. And that was the first donation that we knew about to the foundation because everything has been so secretive.
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The donation was a secret. We didn't discover exactly what the details were until there was a hearing in the House last week where the chairman of the committee said that he had gotten a copy of the settlement between the Medicaid contractor Centene and the state agency. And we got a copy of the settlement and it showed that as part of that settlement, Centene
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would make the donation to the charity but the company clarified on the record that you know they were directed to do this as part of the settlement agreement so this is medicaid money it's highly regulated money 57 of it belongs to the federal government any settlement has to go back to state coffers so
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And and the state acknowledged that they or at least the chair said the state acknowledged that they did send the money back to the federal government of the fifty seven million. So, you know, this ten million dollars has been in dispute and the origin of it was a mystery until we were able to piece it together and report it. I mean, all of this was hidden from the public.
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Well, first of all, if this is Medicaid money and it appears that it is Medicaid money, it seems very unlikely that it can go anywhere other than back to the state for purposes of Medicaid and back to the federal government for purposes of Medicaid. So that's just like out the gate, like this is money that is highly, highly regulated.
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And then regarding the foundation, I mean, OK, so the foundation is a strange creature called a direct support organization that the legislature passed, I think, in 2023 to allow state agencies which are chronically underfunded to fundraise. And it supports the mission of those state agencies. And one of those state agencies is the Department of Children and Families, always strapped for cash. And
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This organization, the Hope Florida Foundation, is supposed to be supporting the Department of Children and Families mission, which it says in its articles of incorporation, something like protecting children, you know, helping children. And so can a political committee that is fighting recreational marijuana say that it's their protecting children and the mission of supporting children? I mean,
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That's, I guess, for the public and the prosecutors to decide, you know. But what they said in the committee, what, you know, Department of Children and Families Secretary Taylor Hatch said in the committee is that she wasn't even aware of the, you know, transfer to...
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the foundation to these organizations and because she hadn't been on the job because she and another agency secretary switched places recently and over this whole thing i'm sure and so she didn't she didn't even know about it and she said that according to their grant applications which were only a few pages long that she took it as they were supporting people in addiction recovery and therefore that met the mission i mean
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Cash quickly went out the door to two nonprofits for $5 million grants and promises that the money would be used to further hope Florida's mission, not politics.
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But those nonprofits later gave millions to a political committee fighting and defeating last year's recreational weed amendment, Keep Florida Clean, a group chaired by former DeSantis Chief of Staff turned Attorney General James Uthmeyer.
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No. I mean, the people who are responsible for Hope Florida are the DeSantis's. I mean, this is a vision of Casey DeSantis. She wrote an op-ed in the Wall Street Journal about it. And, you know, Eric Dellenbeck, however, has been very central to their mission, which is to essentially integrate church and state. You know, there's an office of
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Faith counsel that they're trying to enshrine into law, and he has been the liaison from DeSantis to the faith community essentially since he assumed office. The fact that he is gone now is pretty significant, I think.
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Well, we just updated our story yesterday with images of text messages that were given to us late Tuesday evening by Representative Alex Andrade, which he said were, you know, part like delivered on behalf of the executive director for one of the dark money groups as part of his request on Tuesday to all members involved for documents. So, you know, that's getting a lot of eyeballs.
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It shows that, you know, then Chief of Staff James Uthmeyer actually reached out to the executive director of the Dark Money Group and wanted to talk to her around the time that she reached out and got the grant and
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And and when she applied for the grant, the foundation attorney, Jeff Aaron, was, you know, coordinating with her, telling her to email him the grant and that he would send it on to the board. And then he immediately, as soon as she sent it, asked for her wire instructions.
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Baby, I'm so glad that you're mine.
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I was having a conversation with a famous YouTuber who is known for sacrificing all of his time and doing everything like monk mode, no girlfriend. And he called me up and he was like, you can maintain your muscle mass without working out that much. Why do you work out so much? Shouldn't you be taking all that extra time and working more on getting to a billion dollars? The answer is no.
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Under that same assumption, okay, well then having kids is something that's going to make you poorer. But with most people, if you have kids, you make more money. Part of that is because you have more mouths to feed. So you force yourself to make more money.
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The other reason is that if you think all the way at the top of the wealth pyramid, look at Bezos, look at Musk, look at Bill Gates, look at Warren Buffett. Every single one of them not only have one kid, but multiple children.
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If it were true that having kids or working out were something that were going to cost you wealth in the long term, then the people who are at the top of the pyramid wouldn't have those things, which means the premise is false. You do have to work to a certain point.
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And then after you have a certain amount of work that you are able to put in, the leverage or how much you get out of the work that you put in becomes the big multiplier.
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No, I was actually commenting on... Keillor made a pretty bad joke yesterday, and I was just commenting on it.
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Should I Quit Trying to Involve My Ex in Our Daughter’s Life?
It was just a bad dad joke. It wasn't like a bad joke.
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Should I Quit Trying to Involve My Ex in Our Daughter’s Life?
He's probably right about that.
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Should I Quit Trying to Involve My Ex in Our Daughter’s Life?
All right, so for those that have listened to the show that's right below this one in the feed, we had a caller who was struggling with his girlfriend's boyfriend. Her previous boyfriend had died by suicide.
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And he was struggling by comparing himself to her.
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Uh, well for us, it just happened yesterday, but that's, but that's still, I remember this call. Yeah. Um, so he sent in a lovely email and I wanted to read it.
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Yeah. He sent this to Taylor and Gina.
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So it says, John, even though we had a short conversation on the show today and I was extremely nervous, the advice you gave me was life changing in two particular, uh, two particular things. Uh, Mm-hmm. After you said that, I instantly felt a sense of relief and almost happiness. It showed me that I am capable of being loved.
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Second, you talked about how this really has nothing to do with her late boyfriend and more or less has to do with my fear of vulnerability, which I will step into. Our conversation has lifted what felt like shackles that I had around me. And afterwards, I feel as if a deep-rooted belief of not being worthy of love has been broken.
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And every time she tells me she loves me, I will take your advice and say to myself, I believe you. I tried to put these words together the best I can. Altogether, thank you. You are a role model for me and your understanding of life's problems and their solutions is incredible.
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I Had an Affair in the First Year of Marriage
So I've got a question for you, and if it's okay, I'll ask my question first, and I can give you a little bit of background. Sure thing. Go for it. So my question is, how can my husband and I best navigate honesty and transparency with our oldest son, who is biologically mine but has been adopted by my husband, about his background while keeping him safe from feeling alienated from his siblings.
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So, um, when I was 22, I was raped and as a result, got pregnant with my now, um, six year old. Yeah. Uh, it's a nightmare. Oh, go ahead. Yeah, it was. But, um, through a lot of healing, I've managed to kind of cope with that. And so that's, And as far as where I stand with all that, it's all good and well. But where I'm struggling is my husband and I, my husband's amazing.
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I Had an Affair in the First Year of Marriage
He adopted my son not long after we got married. That was like our second order of business.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Had an Affair in the First Year of Marriage
When we got married, he was three. Okay. So he remembers our wedding.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Had an Affair in the First Year of Marriage
He has never been around, never wanted to be around, and to be honest with you, I've never wanted him around.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Had an Affair in the First Year of Marriage
No. We went through a really lengthy legal battle to get adoption of my son. Sorry, I'm stuttering. I'm a little nervous.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Had an Affair in the First Year of Marriage
You're good. And this whole situation is a little stressful.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Had an Affair in the First Year of Marriage
Yeah, so we... We could have prosecuted him. I chose not to. Okay. That was totally my choice. And I don't... You know, that's a different call. Yeah. But he did sign over his rights and has no access to my son. And my son has been legally adopted by my husband. We all have the same last name. Okay. So we have since had twins. So I have one-year-old twins as well. And we want to...
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Had an Affair in the First Year of Marriage
do the best that we can by our son, by being honest and transparent with him. He knows that he's adopted and he has very positive memories around like our final court hearing and the way that we've um, framed it to him is actually language I've taken from you listening to your show.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Had an Affair in the First Year of Marriage
We've always explained it to him that my husband chose him and was so excited to be his dad because he's so special. But as far as, um, his biological dad, he doesn't know anything about any of that yet. And I want to be honest with him, but I want to do it at the right time in the right way. And I don't want him to feel different from our other two children.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Had an Affair in the First Year of Marriage
No, he doesn't understand that, like, on an anatomical, like, biological level. He doesn't understand that. He knows that when he was born, it was just me and him, and that I met his dad, my husband, when he was a toddler. But he doesn't know anything beyond that at this point.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Had an Affair in the First Year of Marriage
That's kind of what I assumed. Way, way.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Had an Affair in the First Year of Marriage
Sure. Yeah. Yeah, absolutely.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Had an Affair in the First Year of Marriage
I was just going to, you go ahead.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Had an Affair in the First Year of Marriage
No. So he was with a, um, a group of friends that I was also with. I have, I had never met him before and he kind of sought me out and, um, put something in my drink. I was young and stupid and I haven't seen him again since.
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Had an Affair in the First Year of Marriage
Yeah, and so I think what I was going to say is I think my biggest fear, because I've heard you talk before on your show and just from other people I know that have been adopted, I think I've always just gotten the message that secrets, they'll destroy families. And so what my fear is I don't want my son to be an adult one day and feel like I lied to him or...
The Dr. John Delony Show
I Had an Affair in the First Year of Marriage
You know, if he doesn't have a clear picture of the situation that I kept him from his biological dad or anything like that.
The LOL Podcast
Telling My Friends He Cheated!
Yeah. I mean... Yeah. Yeah, we were there till like... Yeah, yeah, we were there.
The LOL Podcast
Telling My Friends He Cheated!
I think. Yeah, yeah, I think. I mean, I crashed, so yeah.
The LOL Podcast
Telling My Friends He Cheated!
I work. Michael. That was for a video, man. It's not, you know, I'll do it stupid.
The LOL Podcast
Telling My Friends He Cheated!
For a video, so I was like, okay, I have to play along, but she started sounding like serious. I was like, oh,
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
She looks like literally older every time I see her.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Maverick, you have to shine the light. Hold on. Hold on. Nobody freak out. I'm getting it all worked out. All right.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
I can hardly see it in the camera. Wait. Why is it doing this? Get closer.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Is it hiding? Is it hiding or something? I feel like a test monkey. This one is way more clean.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Should I pop the blackhead? Yeah, pop the blackhead. All right.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Ew. That's honestly concerning. I mean, I don't know what's grosser, the pimple or my nails.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Michael, do not cut that. Maybe we should leave it and then just say, do you guys like that, or would you rather have us cut that?
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
That's so cute. He's cleaning my ears and we're matching. Isn't that so romantic?
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
That was so uncalled for, Matt. I didn't do it. She did it. No, I didn't. Breaking cold. Wait, you think I threw water? No, I know that you told her to throw the water so I didn't get mad at her. Yes. Thank you. Thank you. Watch your back, Matt. I'm going to get you back.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Okay, I... Stop moving. It's coming out. If we were going to kick someone off the podcast right now, who would you all pick?
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Can I ask a question that may be a little bit too personal and maybe it's too fresh and we can't talk about it yet? And if we can't talk about it, we'll move on. What?
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Is it to Harper? No, it's to the boys. Oh, really? It is to me. Yeah. What is it? I was gone this weekend and I heard that there was a... Yes, I did go to the casino.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
What? Okay, the little birdie behind the mic is laughing. So I would like to know what happened because I still haven't heard what happened. You're going to get them heated. Sure.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Yeah, because I feel like he's going to leave stuff out. Why don't we call someone that was there the whole time? Alex was there. I was there the whole time.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Unfortunately, a wife is just too biased. If I were there, I'd be too biased towards cash.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Please, nobody wants to hear your side. We just want to hear Alex.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
If anyone clicked off. Hey girls! I've literally, you guys started too early. I was mid posting an ad and now I have to finish and I have to text it to you so that you don't lose your mind.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
$500 fine. You'll owe Judge Keith $500. I'll be the judge then.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
I'm saying I'll be quiet. Hey, be quiet. Suspect. Hey, suspect. Cash won't stop coughing on me.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Okay, okay. As Judge Kate, I'm going to tell you what I suspect happened based off of the witness. They were at Pickleball. Maverick and Kinsey are playing Michael and Alex. Michael and Alex are beating Mav and Kinsey, but Maverick and Kinsey are upset because they feel that Michael and Alex are cheating. They feel that the game is not being played fair. Therefore, Maverick gets slightly upset.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
So he decides, I'm not going to play with people that are cheating. Were they cheating? That's the big question. No. No.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
I think Maverick was stupid in parts too. Okay. If you're being, if you will, I think I will be able to tell if you're being biased. I am unbiased. Okay. I will tell you if she's being biased. I am Judge Kate. I make the rules.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
I will say, due to previous experiences, I could see Maverick being irritated that he lost. I beat him so bad at pickle one day. Maverick was so irritated he wanted to keep playing. I beat Maverick. I beat Maverick so bad at pickleball one day.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
It's my turn to talk. It is my turn to talk. You don't win.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
I'm being so serious. Actually, I should not have asked you guys because I think you guys are genuinely just arguing and it doesn't make any sense. You just need to let somebody talk and tell the story.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Where was I? Mav told you to leave. Mav was slightly irritated.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
I said, I said, oh, this is going to be a bad day. I've experienced Mavericks moving this one too many times and I feel like that had to be the truth.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
You know like the security guards on a golf course that have like a power trip? I feel like you're having that right now. Yes.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
what the sigma man stop last night wait i'm posting a tick tock i'm sick hold on we're literally
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
I bought that. I was with her when she got that. And I was like, I did it because it would be full of candy and you don't need that much sugar. You're right.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Yeah. I know my friends are on Ozympic. Your friends are not.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
You don't have anybody on Ozympic. My coach is. Maybe your coach, but not kids. Okay, let me tell you what's in his little tackle box.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
No, she's saying that instead of the pretzels and that box, now there's Doritos.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
She bought the box and then put all the snacks together.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
He wants to know if it fits his head. So I can get him one. It will because it has this little strap here.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Well, this one is special. Did you get it from Amazon?
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
I was like so caught in the middle. No, I'll get you one.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Oh, good job. I did come home to him vacuuming, but why would you leave your clothes?
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Wait, why would you leave your clothes all around the house? They were just jackets.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Are you lying? No, I'm kidding. It's because she's pretty. I would believe you. You're lying. Every boy was like... No, there was a guy who gave her flowers.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
You can't do that. Thank you. She thinks you're going to kill her when you do that. You have to stop.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
I'm not blonde now. You were blonde for the longest.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
That's not, no, you're not chopped because you have red hair.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
He's like, she's not cute, she's chopped. First of all, actually, I discussed this new term this weekend. And that was the guy I told you to block on the podcast account. Oh, I know. Oh, you did text me something, and I meant to text you back, but I didn't.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
I lost my lip liner. Please, I lose it every Valentine's Day. You gave it to me. Oh, my gosh.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Wait, so just to be clear, you were at the outdoor shopping mall walking around. And let's say his name is Harris. No. Stanley. Whoa, Stanley. I'm so sorry. I did not mean it. Let's say it's Stanley. You're walking around going, Stanley!
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
but there's gonna be a guy who will go to a different country to see you and not ask for a dime yeah i had i had this one you know he would drive down to see me and then the one night he was like i can drive down to texas and then he was like no i can't he just drove to missouri to see some other girls that were a little bit closer okay well that's not a good representation other than that anyway it was great mistakes were made
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
If you want to leave, we would make it without you.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
How many feastables can help me? Here we go. Ready?
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
No, nobody says we're starting. You say we're starting. Look at me. Every episode.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Nope. Oh! Oh, she ate the glass. She ate the glass.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Newton's law of motion is that an object of motion will stay in motion unless something stops it.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Could you get me a bottle of water? Yeah. Thank you so much. Teachers thinking that they come up with something new.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
You knew an idiot. Look at that. Yeah. Nothing. You knew an idiot. Nothing.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
You got an answer from the one person who's not on camera. That doesn't mean anything.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
It's a gamble. I'm going to take a guess first. My first guess would be bedroom.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
He said, Kinsey cares about the aesthetic behind her, but you know what aesthetic she doesn't care about? Uh-oh. Car? Car?
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
I'm saying that if Alex says it's to go, it doesn't mean anything because he's not on camera. Wow. If Alex says ready to go, it doesn't mean anything.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Alex, I love you so much. Stop shaking your head at me like that.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Why is your nose so flexible like that? No, he does. Cash tries to get me to do that. I'm like, no, thank you.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Dude, you do it the normal way. You don't have to crush your nose. My way's very efficient.
The LOL Podcast
I Got Blocked On Valentine’s Day!
Yeah, we could make the choice to debrief that, or we could just keep going. Okay, let's keep going.
The LOL Podcast
Harper’s Quitting School!
I'm trying to think, like. It's obviously not a D or A in front. If there's an A in it.
The LOL Podcast
Harper’s Quitting School!
We might as well just go through it. I just want to do the wordle. What's the wordle? The wordle. Do wordle. What is the wordle today? Oh, look, I was already on it. No, I did this before. Which is wordle. Oh, wait. Okay. Look, wordle. Wordle.
The LOL Podcast
Reacting To Each Others Liked TikTok’s
You should. I can't believe I did that. I should refilm it. I should refilm it and have poop going through it.
The LOL Podcast
Reacting To Each Others Liked TikTok’s
I think he was just mid-cry. He was doing it like this.
The LOL Podcast
Reacting To Each Others Liked TikTok’s
I just thought I'd point that out. This is crazy.
The LOL Podcast
Reacting To Each Others Liked TikTok’s
Here, I guarantee I make it this time. Ready?
The LOL Podcast
Reacting To Each Others Liked TikTok’s
Oh, they're the LOL Podcast M&M's? They're good.
The LOL Podcast
Reacting To Each Others Liked TikTok’s
I'll be honest, my expectations were here, but it was good. We are rolling.
The LOL Podcast
Reacting To Each Others Liked TikTok’s
That sounds so good. I'll be honest. My expectations were here, but it was good.
The LOL Podcast
Reacting To Each Others Liked TikTok’s
Alright, Kenzie's TikToks are... It's just all of y'all. I just like y'all's stuff.
The LOL Podcast
Reacting To Each Others Liked TikTok’s
Oh my goodness, what's on Kate's phone? You got to tell us.
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
That's so bad. Or like the manslaughter method. Oh, I have something to show you guys.
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
That's what actually ends up killing you. Wait, has more people been crucified besides Jesus? Yeah. Is that a normal thing to do? Well, not anymore.
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
Do y'all know that one meme? It's like the go, go. Yes. Oh. Do you be the person who's like asking me about Minnesota and be like, why don't you like Minnesota? Are you sure you know what you're talking about?
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
I promise I can. Tell me what to ask. So be like, so first I'm going to say, I don't really care. I'll be like, why don't you care about this?
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
It's a TikTok. Why don't you care about Minnesota? No, I don't care about your question. And then just keep like being like, no, but Minnesota. And I'll be like, go.
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
That's not even bad. It's literally brain rot, right? No. Yeah, I know.
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
Why don't you like Minnesota? No, I don't care about your question.
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
Who am I? Bleep. Harper? Yeah. Okay. That was really charades, but I don't know if she understands the game. Kate. No, no.
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
No, please, please put your legs behind your head. Stop your pressuring him.
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
You do look pretty stupid. I can't. I can't. It has not been. Try it again. No!
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
What are you doing? I'm barely reaching. Is that it? No, I did this. He doesn't clip his toenails. Wait, I forgot what I did.
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
Do you try the string test? No, you can't eat, Mav. The string test? Mav, please.
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
okay what if it's not good let's see you have to go slowly surely
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
Yeah, you're right. What the? What you doing on your phone over there, Harper? I'm stealing information. It's so hard to think of bad things about people. Have you ever stolen information? Yes.
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
Yeah, I've been stolen from multiple times, but I'm not going to bring it up.
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
Well, Sonic isn't really known for their, like, stringy cheese. Well, I had mozzarella sticks today, and they's pretty stringy-looking. Oh, really?
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
You're done for. And if my best friend was getting attacked by a bear, I would get out of my tent and help her.
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
He thinks it's the funniest thing in the world. I mean, that was crazy.
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
He closed it faster than I could ever, like, see him close anything.
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
I pulled my friend's pants off. What? What did she say? No, no, no. And then I got, never mind. I think we were told not to talk about that.
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
You might know part of the podcast anyway. Did you get those from Sheen? Yes? How did you know?
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
Oh I'm sorry. These are the ugliest pants I own but I dare. No I think they're cute. I feel like they're too dark. But are you sure you don't mind if I go get a water?
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
Wait, wait, my friend's calling me. Let's see if she passed her driving test.
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
Hey, Brooke, we're on the podcast. Did you pass it? Guess who's a licensed driver? Yay! That would have been so embarrassing if she didn't. All right, bye. I have to go. I'm on the pod. Okay, I'm taking you to school tomorrow, though. Bye. Do not get in that car. The fact that 16-year-old
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
No, mustard's killing you. And I'm not hiding anything, okay? You're not hiding... I'm not. Stop looking at me. I'm different than the other girls. She just got a water, nothing else. Yeah, nothing else. I'm not disrespectful like that. Is it actually an lollipop? No. I wouldn't do that to y'all. No, I wouldn't take y'all's lollipops. I took y'all's puppies.
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
I don't know what it's called, actually. Oh, the culture pops? Yeah. Yeah, you can have one. I don't care. I know. I just don't want you to hate me.
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
Maverick's the type of guy to say bottoms up. Yeah, that's what I said literally two seconds ago. You know me so well.
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
The fact that little boys who drink can get their license. What?
The LOL Podcast
Our House Was Robbed!
We have water that you brought up. We do have sprite, actually. I think we should.
The LOL Podcast
I Bought My Dream Car!
It actually is going pretty fast. Oh, this isn't even road. Slow down, slow down, slow down. I like that noise.
The LOL Podcast
I Bought My Dream Car!
Oh, why did you slam on the brakes? Hey, at least they're good.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Oh, here's the video. Ready, ready, ready. Just big cups. One video. My elbow popping.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
No, I wasn't busy. I'm busy Thursday. No, you're busy. You were busy yesterday. I didn't want to be busy today because I have church. Yeah, well, and you were busy yesterday because you had cheer banquet. Sounds like he just thinks the war is over. I had a cheer banquet today because I have cheer banquet on Thursday. And you had something yesterday because your mom told me.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
I said, do we not shoot on Wednesdays so I can go to my church?
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Dude, no, the thing is, we should have just shot yesterday.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Well, I mean, for cheer tryouts, I got dropped many times.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Heck no. No, and we already did our stunt section. Do you get a chance to do your stunts with?
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
All right, here we go. Ready? I'm short. My legs don't go high.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
I don't know. I mean, I just kind of wanted to carry it. Yeah, but when did you get it?
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Competing, competing. Yeah. I was like, oh, anyway. People are going to ask like what it was. No, just let them imagine. No, they're gonna think I, like, look a bad thing. No, it's nothing bad.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
It was something very, very funny. Almost life-threatening funny. Yeah, it was, like, funny. It's one of those things that, you know, they're funny, but not funny. No, it was definitely not funny. I almost threw up.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Should we talk about... Well, I've been trying to ask you... Saw your neck?
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
If Kinsey had to, she would. Oh, we have to do it to ourselves?
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Sorry, sorry, sorry. Sorry, sorry, sorry. Hold on. Sorry. What? I'm sorry.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Why did he just say, like, whoever you are. Whoa, I'm sorry. Is he, like, your dad or something?
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Just because you turned 22 doesn't mean... You're right.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
That's what I said the first time. And then he said Incineroar because he's stupid.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Kiss yourself? Kiss definitely the type of guy to kiss himself every morning in the mirror and be like, you're so handsome.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
You're definitely the type of guy every morning to kiss yourself in the mirror and be like, you're so handsome. Wait, what does Matt say to you in the morning when he rolls over and wakes up? Get out of bed.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
But are you going to be able to eat food? No. Ten years?
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
You have the most time left to live. I can work on my songs.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Could I have, like, every, like, ten days, like, a new item to play around with in the box?
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Y'all think y'all know why you fell for that? You fell for that. Oh, no, no. I know. Feathers because it doesn't weigh anything. She really doesn't get it. That is insane. She has no idea. You don't get it? Feathers because it doesn't weigh anything.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Now that I got that one wrong, feathers. No. Yo, the audience doesn't even get it. What do you mean they don't get it?
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Outside of the vacuum chamber. Nobody knows what a vacuum chamber is.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
They're the same size box, and they both have the same exact weight in it, so they would hit the ground at the same time.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
I think they're both going to hit the same time. Same time. I think Gerald's hitting first. Go.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
you guys were all wrong dang it he got us I can't believe you guys fell for that one well if we dropped like cash from the ceiling and Harper from the ceiling same time no I'm not dropping because I'm grabbing the ceiling okay well if you didn't grab the ceiling I'm glad you outsmarted us cash yeah what what's it called if you ever drop a penny from the Eiffel Tower or something and somebody's standing under it it feels like a gunshot to the head and you die no that you would not die
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Yeah. I'm sorry if I really do. Now, now. No, I, if you drop a penny.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
But a penny dropping from a high mount or it's like spit. It feels like a rock hitting your head. If you spit from like an Eiffel Tower and it... I'm sorry.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
No, my Bronco's not going to get dented because it has a hard top.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
You're telling me that the hood of her car couldn't get dented?
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Oh, yeah, the hood, yeah. But no, when you're tubing, you know the dark feeling when you open your eye? Oh, I don't tube. When you did? I don't. Oh, okay. So you didn't have a childhood.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
I have done it, and I'm like, okay, I'm done. Well, that's fun, too. It's fun to watch.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Yeah, I know, but besides traveling and going all over the place. I know, but besides doing that, how much alone time will I have?
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Like alone time? Well, you'll get to go to sleep at night time. What do you mean? Well, yeah, but like home time.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Oh, Monday through Thursday you'll be home. But you said we're filming.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Yeah. So like every single day. No, like twice a week. You're over here about twice a week.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
what's wrong you're not wait wait you're not like filming here no i do it's fun oh yeah it's amazing man no no well in the summertime you can bring your friends yes well they never want to come anymore oh why because they say it's boring oh well probably because they're just sitting there sitting you're like i don't want to come anymore i was like oh okay it's basically like they're here but they're not allowed to participate in the conversation we're like yeah shut up
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Hey, can you put Gerald back up here so we have a little something something? You know when you're tubing and the water hits your eyes super hard? You're still thinking about that? Because you got fighting on me all night. But you know when you're... I mean, this is just fantastic.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Let me tell you something. Let me tell you something. Okay, tell me something. Okay, you know when you're tubing?
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
And water hits your eyes hard? Yes. That's the exact same feeling. It's like a rock hitting you, right?
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Yes, when you spit from the Eiffel Tower and somebody's sitting under you and you spit all the way down there and it hits your head. It's like a rock hits you.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
No, no, no. And it'll feel the same. No, spit on Maverick.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Because it... Because God made it not to hurt you. What? That doesn't even make no sense. Yeah, it does. Listen.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
I would hope it's all recycled. Or I hope it's not recycled.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Anyone? Oh, I mean, I have one downstairs. What's my next gift? I have one downstairs.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
I'll take a closer look. If you put it in water, it expands. It's crazy. Yeah, see? She don't like it either.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Yeah, wait, yeah. Can I show you something? Wait, wait, wait. You push it, right? Yeah.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
You guys are being such babies. Like it's a shot, like a doctor shot. You guys are being such babies.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
No, like if you want to, you can shoot it with your thumb into your ear. It's like a rocket ship.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
You'd be like, I know what that... Y'all have seen a tampon before.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
You just throw that part away. Ew. I still have two on it. No! Oh wait, before anything though. No, no, no. Wait, what?
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
I don't like this. I won't say that again. Yeah, you shouldn't.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
no you better not give him any of my stuff better be his money birthday gift oh wow someone say i've already opened this baggage did you buy the same like wrapping paper yeah we did oh cool whoa that's mean that's good stuff deodorant why are you not happy That's good.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Harper, you have a birthday coming up. I know. It's in 14 days. Wow, wow.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
i'm trying to think of what i should do so basically my it's also my birthday soon do you want to have a birthday in two weeks let me enjoy my birthday okay well do you want to i'm okay ready so for my birthday party i'm gonna do a um a little uh no way a lunch in south lake hey uh so if y'all want to pull up Ooh. Not the boys, but the girls. What day is it? I don't know.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Maybe the 22nd. So I'm going to have a lunch in South Lake. After that, go shopping. Then have two friends.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
No. Why only two friends? So I have to pay to go to your birthday? You're not even going.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
No, the invitation is for Kate and Kinsey. That's very kind.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Oh, well, let me see. So we're gonna go to Southlake, and then we're gonna go shopping, and then I'm gonna have my two friends go to a hotel in Dallas with me.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
No, no, no. Because I, uh... I can't really pay for the rest. I'm broke. Oh. So... Well...
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
March 5th. Really? And you know what else is crazy? What day is it today, then? Don't look at your phone. Is that the day we flew back?
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
You go to the tanning beds? Yes. He goes to the tanning beds. Mav goes, you go to the tanning beds?
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Yo, yo, yo, you're literally 22. What you gonna do? You gotta put your birthday hat on.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
Yo, yo, yo, you're 22. What you gonna do? I'm 22. Everything will be all right. That's why we brought a band.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
My friends do tanning beds, but you have to be 18 to do tanning beds.
The LOL Podcast
Are Boys Scared Of Tampons?
I know. I told you. Why are you doing them? Me? Why are you doing them and skipping the gym?
The LOL Podcast
Kate Raged and Slapped Kenzie!
Cash, don't grab all this with the drywall. You know, you could really just... You really could just use the ladder to the attic.
The LOL Podcast
Kate Raged and Slapped Kenzie!
There goes the lights. Oh, man. Cash. Imagine he electrocuted himself. Oh, the lights are back on.
The LOL Podcast
Kate Raged and Slapped Kenzie!
There's more than one Gerald? I think that's it. Now, does that not scream weird kid to you?
The LOL Podcast
Kate Raged and Slapped Kenzie!
I had to move all my stuff out of the attic so he could have space for his gerunds.
The LOL Podcast
Kate Raged and Slapped Kenzie!
Hey, Kate, it's not even moving. Look at it. I'm not opening it.
The LOL Podcast
Kate Raged and Slapped Kenzie!
make people go down instead of trash you know what you should do yep i have an idea no way i'm jumping down a tube into water now i have a great idea for cash oh what's your idea kenzie the two deodorant that too that is a good idea but the tube should go from that hole to that hole and you should make another hole in that room that goes on top of your bedroom ceiling so you can go through the side and land in bed
The LOL Podcast
Kate Raged and Slapped Kenzie!
Well, I'm mad that Cash had to fall through the ceiling and make this big mess.
The LOL Podcast
Kate Raged and Slapped Kenzie!
You ripped the carpet. Guys, the thing is, the carpet, it's ripped. You ripped it.
The LOL Podcast
Kate Raged and Slapped Kenzie!
We had to get new ones. We just covered up. We had to get new ones.
The LOL Podcast
Kate Raged and Slapped Kenzie!
I said I don't think we'll actually ever talk about it. Then don't talk about it. Whatever. You guys stop being so annoying. I feel like I've talked about it a lot, and it just never, nothing ever happens about it.
The LOL Podcast
Kate Raged and Slapped Kenzie!
Well, we can start with the hole that your husband put in the ceiling, which it is what it is. I guess it's going to get fixed. But then the 20,000 Geralds that came flying out of there. Yeah, that was kind of crazy. When I moved all of my stuff out of the attic, so that way I guess Cash could put his... Gerald's. Gerald's up there.
The LOL Podcast
Kate Raged and Slapped Kenzie!
There's nothing scary in it. You just put your legs back down.
The LOL Podcast
Kate Raged and Slapped Kenzie!
I was talking to Maverick earlier this morning about the jet skis downstairs, and I was like, well, why don't they just go get a storage unit? And Matt was like, oh, they don't want to go pay for a storage unit when they have the garage.
The LOL Podcast
Kate Raged and Slapped Kenzie!
I don't know if your husband is actually trying to figure something out.
The LOL Podcast
Kate Raged and Slapped Kenzie!
Why are you laughing so hard, Mav? I don't see it. It, like, keeps making noises. Why is it wet?
The LOL Podcast
Kate Raged and Slapped Kenzie!
me nominate me you're telling me i actually nominate kate she needs a gift right now no i'm not you wasted space in the attic what do you mean I took all my stuff out of the attic and put it into storage so that way there would be space in the attic.
The LOL Podcast
Kate Raged and Slapped Kenzie!
It's probably behind all the other junk you put up there.
The LOL Podcast
Kate Raged and Slapped Kenzie!
Let's make Cash move all his junk to his storage unit. Yeah, how about that? Yeah, how about that?
The LOL Podcast
Kate Raged and Slapped Kenzie!
Yeah, he's got to be from Texas if his name is Joe Don. Joe Don Baker.
The LOL Podcast
Kate Raged and Slapped Kenzie!
How did that happen? Do you not know you're supposed to walk on the beams and not touch the drywall? Yeah, I know.
The LOL Podcast
Harper Hits On Maverick And Kenzie Rages!
Yeah, dandelion flowers are interesting, man. They just like fuzz.
The LOL Podcast
Harper Hits On Maverick And Kenzie Rages!
We're already five minutes past it. Everyone's watching it right now.
The LOL Podcast
Harper Hits On Maverick And Kenzie Rages!
Let's see what Kate does to defend my honor.
The LOL Podcast
Harper Hits On Maverick And Kenzie Rages!
And she was real nice. Real nice lady. Dude, I'm not kidding.
The Lore Lads
What Happened To Missing 411? | Podcast Episode 163
Is that a pattern-seeking thing? Let me check.
The Matt Walsh Show
Ep. 1540 - Girlbossing the Airline Industry… Straight Into the Ground
I'm going to go to Ghana, which I know you've said was a mistake now. But I just am curious on the thought process behind it, because we know that there was warnings about the weather before you went and you still went. What was the thought process behind going to Ghana?
The Matt Walsh Show
Ep. 1540 - Girlbossing the Airline Industry… Straight Into the Ground
But what do you mean there were warnings you weren't aware of? Because I know we were talking about it on the news. A lot of people were talking about the problems, warning that this was going to be a huge deal.
The Matt Walsh Show
Ep. 1579 - Family Of Karmelo Anthony Hosted The Most Disgusting Press Conference I’ve Ever Seen
And he raised more than $2 million publicly, and nobody said anything. So since they tried to come for us, I call for the community's overwhelming support for this fund. The disinformation that was put out was literally deliberate to prevent you from helping this family.
The Matt Walsh Show
Ep. 1579 - Family Of Karmelo Anthony Hosted The Most Disgusting Press Conference I’ve Ever Seen
Just stay close, okay?
The Matt Walsh Show
Ep. 1579 - Family Of Karmelo Anthony Hosted The Most Disgusting Press Conference I’ve Ever Seen
Excuse me, excuse me, excuse me.
The Matt Walsh Show
Ep. 1579 - Family Of Karmelo Anthony Hosted The Most Disgusting Press Conference I’ve Ever Seen
I'm going to say this again, and this is for everybody. Black people in America, while the current occupant sits at 1600 Pennsylvania. Black people in America don't have to pull the race card. It's what we live as a reality every day. It's what we have to teach our children. We don't want to, but we have to.
The Matt Walsh Show
Ep. 1579 - Family Of Karmelo Anthony Hosted The Most Disgusting Press Conference I’ve Ever Seen
Next Generation Action Network from the beginning has respected the loss of life. No matter our opinion of it, we have kept our opinion closed. We have not attacked, we have not shared the information that was shared with us about Austin Metcalfe. Because we respect the dignity of life and loss. And all I'm going to say, so it don't be asked later,
The Matt Walsh Show
Ep. 1579 - Family Of Karmelo Anthony Hosted The Most Disgusting Press Conference I’ve Ever Seen
as that was disrespectful and just shows you all the character who is not invited, he knows that it's inappropriate to be near this family.
The Matt Walsh Show
Ep. 1579 - Family Of Karmelo Anthony Hosted The Most Disgusting Press Conference I’ve Ever Seen
I want to start off this press conference to say something as a deep note. A deep note that I can tell America What we've seen at the beginning of this press conference, of the father being at this press conference, these are my words, don't quote anybody, is a disrespect to the dignity of his son.
The Matt Walsh Show
Ep. 1579 - Family Of Karmelo Anthony Hosted The Most Disgusting Press Conference I’ve Ever Seen
I'm trying to find how many of y'all have asked the superintendent or one single board of trustee, why didn't you cancel or postpone with weather in that magnitude? You couldn't have a track meet in rain or thunderstorm or clouds. Y'all are the media. Ask your journalists, your weather journalists, how the weather was that day and that time. Y'all do that research.
The Matt Walsh Show
Ep. 1579 - Family Of Karmelo Anthony Hosted The Most Disgusting Press Conference I’ve Ever Seen
Because as a person who is the administrator of your children, you are responsible for the safety of the children. And so it seems as if Frisco ISD is trying to push this off.
The Matt Walsh Show
Ep. 1579 - Family Of Karmelo Anthony Hosted The Most Disgusting Press Conference I’ve Ever Seen
We've asked that Frisco do not make a decision in this situation. But Frisco ISD has notified of their intent to expel Carmelo Anthony from school one month before his high school graduation. That just shows me that Frisco ISD is trying to push off the blame.
The Matt Walsh Show
Ep. 1579 - Family Of Karmelo Anthony Hosted The Most Disgusting Press Conference I’ve Ever Seen
The Next Generation Action Network, outside of the legal process, will be going through different avenues regarding to ensure that we fight for the rights of Carmelo Anthony, okay? So in the next coming days, we will be announcing to the public, we will do direct action outside of Frisco ISD administration office Because this is outright wrong.
The Matt Walsh Show
Ep. 1579 - Family Of Karmelo Anthony Hosted The Most Disgusting Press Conference I’ve Ever Seen
You are getting involved in a process that even the legal process has asked us to respect.
The Matt Walsh Show
Ep. 1579 - Family Of Karmelo Anthony Hosted The Most Disgusting Press Conference I’ve Ever Seen
tried to prevent us from standing up for our baby, our boy. He should be afforded the same rights that Cal Rittenhouse had Daniel Pena and all of the people who have claimed whatever their defense was He should be afforded the same right. Nobody in the public media has one video camera, but we got the video of Cal Rittenhouse with an AK-47 shooting three people in the back. We got that.
The Mel Robbins Podcast
Stop Doubting Yourself: 5 Tips to Boost Your Confidence
Hey Mel, it's Alex here. Can you talk about how to thrive around high achievers when you're not naturally an extrovert or someone with great confidence? I'm trying to succeed at university and this is something I find super challenging.
The Ramsey Show
Small Changes Now Mean Big Wins Later
It is $700,000 in my emergency fund and my retirement savings and my kids' college savings. And then $200,000 in home equity and about $150,000 in vehicles and other assets and toys.
The Ramsey Show
Small Changes Now Mean Big Wins Later
Nothing. My parents did help me out with college, but that's about it.
The Ramsey Show
You Can Still Escape the Debt Spiral Before It’s Too Late
Hi, thank you so much for taking my call, first of all. I'm in not a bit of a pickle, a big pickle. In 2022, I had to go on short-term disability for some kidney illnesses and so on. I was on that for three to six months and had to end up quitting. And in that time frame, my grandfather ended up getting a blood cancer and
The Ramsey Show
You Can Still Escape the Debt Spiral Before It’s Too Late
So I ended up moving. I know. So I ended up moving from California to Utah to help take care of him. He did beat it. He's in remission. Awesome. So that's great. Yeah, and then he actually got colon cancer, but he's in remission from that now, too. My goodness. I know.
The Ramsey Show
You Can Still Escape the Debt Spiral Before It’s Too Late
And in that time frame, my grandmother ended up getting sick, and I had to become her full-time caretaker, and she went to the hospice and unfortunately passed away. Oh, my.
The Ramsey Show
You Can Still Escape the Debt Spiral Before It’s Too Late
Sorry if I got a little bit. No, you're okay.
The Ramsey Show
You Can Still Escape the Debt Spiral Before It’s Too Late
I didn't take it on all by myself. I had, um, um, my, my grandparents, basically my parents, I, um, My parents are not helpful. They have their own problems with drugs and alcohol. So that's not been a helpful situation. My uncle, who I've lived with and have had a great relationship, has stepped in. And that's my uncle. That's his father, who is my grandfather.
The Ramsey Show
You Can Still Escape the Debt Spiral Before It’s Too Late
So they've helped out financially and so on. But I was the main person who moved here and was with them 24-7 and things like that. How have you eaten and paid your bills since then? Credit cards.
The Ramsey Show
You Can Still Escape the Debt Spiral Before It’s Too Late
Yeah, $42,000. Okay. Do you have any other debt? No, it's just in credit cards.
The Ramsey Show
You Can Still Escape the Debt Spiral Before It’s Too Late
Yes, so I'm in the midst of getting diagnosed with lupus, so they're trying to figure out that, and I also have rheumatoid arthritis, and there's a couple other autoimmune disease that I'm trying to figure out. Are you able to work? Not at this current time, no. I'm in the midst of going to doctor's appointments myself.
The Ramsey Show
You Can Still Escape the Debt Spiral Before It’s Too Late
So I'm hoping in the next six months I can get treatment for the diagnosis. I have been diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis. I have tested positive for lupus, but it's a symptom-based disease. So we're trying to limit what is and what's not.
The Ramsey Show
You Can Still Escape the Debt Spiral Before It’s Too Late
No, not really. The waiting time to get into specialists is pretty hard. I've been on waiting lists to get into neurologists and different rheumatologists, different GPs.
The Ramsey Show
You Can Still Escape the Debt Spiral Before It’s Too Late
As of right now, what I'm looking at is trying different things. I'm trying to see if I can do some part-time marketing. I'm also looking to see if I can do some part-time dog watching or dog sitting just to bring in some type of money. I'm hoping in the next six months I can get a diagnosis and get some semblance of my life back.
The Ramsey Show
You Can Still Escape the Debt Spiral Before It’s Too Late
No, I know that. But I think an answer would help.
The Ramsey Show
If You Want To Be a Millionaire, Do What Millionaires Do
I'm doing good. How about you?
The Ramsey Show
If You Want To Be a Millionaire, Do What Millionaires Do
So we are on, my wife and I are on baby step two, and I was wondering, according to the baby steps, when should we purchase a house?
The Ramsey Show
If You Want To Be a Millionaire, Do What Millionaires Do
Okay, that makes sense. We are sadly about to have to go back into step one because of car repairs. But then after that, we're going to be back to step two. And so we're thinking about the future and trying to look at the market and see when we can save up for a down payment.
The Ramsey Show
If You Want To Be a Millionaire, Do What Millionaires Do
It's still a lot. Right now, I want to say it totals to $109,000 with all the student loans, all my student loans, and then we both have two car loans, and then we have one personal loan.
The Ramsey Show
If You Want To Be a Millionaire, Do What Millionaires Do
Together, we make about $120,000 a year after taxes. Cool. What's the most expensive car loan? That would be my truck at $26,000. Okay. All right.
The Ramsey Show
If You Want To Be a Millionaire, Do What Millionaires Do
I've been considering it. I've really been considering it. Right now it's been giving me a lot of problems. I have a friend who says the one thing that's worse, than either parts or payments is having parts and payments when it comes to a vehicle. That's a good saying. Yes, you can thank Robert Looney for that one.
The Ramsey Show
If You Want To Be a Millionaire, Do What Millionaires Do
He's told me parts and payments are unfortunately one of the worst things you can have, and right now my truck... has been giving me both problems, and I've been really debating about getting rid of it.
The Ramsey Show
If You Want To Be a Millionaire, Do What Millionaires Do
Yes, sir. I was doing some... the kind of estimation on every dollar. And it looks like after all the bills and other things that my wife and I are about to cut out, because we're deciding we really don't need, we have about $3,500 left over. Yeah, it's about a three-year plan. Yeah. So we're going to start really cutting things out and try to get that close to $5,000 left over every month.
The Ramsey Show
If You Want To Be a Millionaire, Do What Millionaires Do
That'd be great. Or at least $4,000 and then really start paying things to make it a two-and-a-half to three-year plan. Yeah, and the truck payment is how much? The truck payment is $712.07. It's like a 3.9% interest rate.
The Ramsey Show
Attack Your Debt Instead of Letting It Attack You
Yeah, you guys have a little bit of a different definition of a snowstorm than we do.
The Ramsey Show
Attack Your Debt Instead of Letting It Attack You
You are pretty much right there. Okay.
The Ramsey Show
Attack Your Debt Instead of Letting It Attack You
Yeah, we called it our first mortgage. That'll do it.
The Ramsey Show
Attack Your Debt Instead of Letting It Attack You
Oh, my gosh. Yep, not so bad. Yep.
The Ramsey Show
Attack Your Debt Instead of Letting It Attack You
Well, I mean, he had mentioned it multiple times before, but I feel like, you know, I hear a lot of people say, like, kind of, I was a little Dave-ish. Like, I wanted to, oh, I went to school for so long. I deserve to live my life and all that kind of stuff. And then, you know, I had that moment where I sat down and
The Ramsey Show
Attack Your Debt Instead of Letting It Attack You
added up all the loans and i'm doing income-based repayment and the interest is just making the total number go up and up and you're gonna be 84 when you get up i'm like this absolutely ridiculous so you know i got mad at it we got the course and just kind of Game on. Took it from there.
The Ramsey Show
Attack Your Debt Instead of Letting It Attack You
You know, I always say that like that that anger and I put I feel like I put a lot of the blame, I guess, on myself and the responsibility of it, of not not wanting to run from it and just owning it, that like I made this decision to like take this money out and I wanted it gone from my life. You know, we faced a lot of life along the way too. Sure.
The Ramsey Show
Attack Your Debt Instead of Letting It Attack You
You know, you start this process and then a year later there's a global pandemic, you know. Oh, yeah. So, you know, we faced job loss. We faced... Wheels literally falling off our cars. Yeah, we replaced three vehicles. That's why I was saying we should have added up how much we cash flowed during this time too, like the amount of money between three cars.
The Ramsey Show
Attack Your Debt Instead of Letting It Attack You
um we were blessed with you know we had grew our family we had two kids so just all of these things like you know we were so fortunate to be able to keep like our four walls during this whole time um but there was a lot of stuff that slowed it down um and did kind of feel like a mountain that was really hard to climb but i i leaned a lot on our faith you know i had been absent from the church
The Ramsey Show
Attack Your Debt Instead of Letting It Attack You
quite a bit um and you know like before we got married and then so we leaned into to that and that support group and um knowing that um you know sometimes your your problems lead to the goodness at the end i guess so that's beautiful so what was the hardest sacrifice lifestyle wise you guys had to make for that period of time
The Ramsey Show
Attack Your Debt Instead of Letting It Attack You
I think just resisting like the normal of what people find to be normal, you know, like where like the vehicles is a good example, I think. And just like how you want to make upgrades to the home or whatever. buy newer and nicer things or like with the kids, like they need this or that. Those kids don't need anything besides like to be loved, right?
The Ramsey Show
Attack Your Debt Instead of Letting It Attack You
You know, they don't care that they're just sleeping in a crib that I got a Facebook marketplace. So I think like, just like those things, like really like,
The Ramsey Show
Attack Your Debt Instead of Letting It Attack You
knowing that we had everything um we needed and most of what we wanted i think you redefined the word need in your household yes yeah i think you know it's huge yeah yeah a lot of just giving up the wants i think you know we've often taught that contentment is the most powerful financial principle and you were functioning in that's what you're saying yeah we just don't have a very shit i'm sorry we just don't have a very very big like material chase like material things are not
The Ramsey Show
Attack Your Debt Instead of Letting It Attack You
Um, well, I mean, I think everybody was really supportive, you know, our family, our friends, um, uh, coworkers. Um, so, you know, there's a lot of people, uh, hopefully kind of watching cheers on today back at home. I want to say hi to our kids, Finley and Max. They're with Grandma and Grandpa, and we get to be away from them for the first time, really, since they were born.
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
Um, I did a complete baby step number one, working on number two. Um, my mom also mentioned that she thinks I should file for bankruptcy. I'm not sure if that's the best solution, but I just wanted to get your guys's thought on that.
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
The car is only worth about $25,000. Did you roll negative equity? I might be able to. No, did you?
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
The interest on it is 25%. Oh, my goodness. When I bought the car, it was during COVID. I needed a new car. Didn't have much credit. And they would only approve me for a brand new car. I could not get approved for a used car.
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
I was a payroll manager for an IT company. And then I was an assistant manager for a retail store.
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
The retail store ended up closing down and I wasn't able to get relocated. And the IT firm also shut down.
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
I work in IT still on like the administrative side.
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
Where are you living? Uh, Cleveland. Okay. Are you living alone? Renting? Uh, rent, uh, with a roommate, um, 1300 split between the two of us.
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
Kelly Blue Book and a couple other like just like browsing, seeing like what similar. But it's not trade in value. That's private party value. Yes. Private party.
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
Yeah, and that's kind of my thought process, too. Trust me, I know this was probably the worst financial decision I've ever made. But, yeah, I'd rather drive a hoopty at this point than, you know, drive this up.
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
No, I'm slowly paying that off, thankfully. Okay.
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
No, I haven't tried. I kind of wanted to search all my options beforehand.
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
Hi, thanks. How are you guys doing today?
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
Uh, so I am 23 years old. Um, I roughly have about 90,000 in debt. Um, 47 of that is, uh, a car loan. My payment per month is $1,200.
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
Um, when I bought the car, I was making roughly 150 per year. Um, lost both those jobs and now I make about 60 per year. And, um, Just wondering, should I voluntarily surrender my car? Um, I really can't afford it anymore with, um, between rent and cost of living. Um, I have 47 on the car, about 37 in student loans and 6,000 on credit cards.
The Ramsey Show
It’s Time To Cut Debt out of Your Life!
I'm alive and healthy, so just working on the wealthy.
The Ramsey Show
It’s Time To Cut Debt out of Your Life!
Okay, so I'm in debt, and I want to get out of debt. And I have options. I'm currently in the life insurance industry, and I have two jobs that I can choose from because I'm looking at changing industries. Okay. And I was just wondering which one is the smarter way to go to help me get out of debt. Okay, give me A and B. So A is working with my father.
The Ramsey Show
It’s Time To Cut Debt out of Your Life!
So my dad works, and he's a very successful person. And if you're working for him as an employee, I'd be getting $2,500 at first in draws. I'd be a sales rep. I don't like that option too much because I don't want to owe my dad money.
The Ramsey Show
It’s Time To Cut Debt out of Your Life!
B is going and doing door-to-door pest control sales. I used to do it for a long time, and I stopped last year, and then I was considering getting back in because I was offered a good opportunity.
The Ramsey Show
It’s Time To Cut Debt out of Your Life!
So my first year with a worse offer, I made $40,000 in four months. This offer, if being realistic, I think I can make at least $45,000 to $50,000 in four months. It's just hard work, obviously.
The Ramsey Show
It’s Time To Cut Debt out of Your Life!
That's just how the pest control industry works. You go and work in knock doors for four or five months at most, and then you go home and they pay you all your money.
The Ramsey Show
It’s Time To Cut Debt out of Your Life!
Well, the eight months of the year, that's what I was considering. I could either continue and work and recruit and build my team, or I could get another job in that time. And that's kind of how it would go.
The Ramsey Show
It’s Time To Cut Debt out of Your Life!
So I actually have it written out here. I took time to do that. I have about $14,000 in debt.
The Ramsey Show
It’s Time To Cut Debt out of Your Life!
To an extent. So to be super clear about what I would do with my dad, I'd be kind of starting something new with him. It's selling life insurance again, but corporate life insurance. So the payout really just depends on how I perform, but I don't know how I would perform on that. And it could be anywhere between six months to a year before I get my first sale.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Watching the Market—Start Building Wealth
Hi. So I was calling mostly because I needed some kind of coaching and advice. I've just been in this country since 2022, so I don't know much about the credit. That being said, I do have a credit card debt of $2,000, and I have my car loan that I'm still paying. And I'm currently in school. So I, I have about, I think not, I think it's 8,000 on student loan.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Watching the Market—Start Building Wealth
And right now I was working to see how I can manage it. So it doesn't go out of hand cause already it's quite a lot. Um, I, I can make payments on my credit card. However, I came across national debt relief and after I heard, you know, spoke with one of their consultants, they said they can negotiate that. And, um, bring it down to 50%, and obviously I'm going to have to pay their fees.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Watching the Market—Start Building Wealth
In total, instead of paying $12,000, I'm going to pay $8,400. Now, it all sounds good, but I have no idea for anyone to tell me how that affects me. If I should just go ahead and pay off the card myself, or if I can work with them on that.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Watching the Market—Start Building Wealth
Well, yes. Yes, I can. I definitely can because I already use their EveryDollar.com. The only part is I always feel like I'm on the edge of not being able to get other personal items or let's say I run out of something during the week. I'm like, I don't know if I have enough. for next. So I was trying to see how I can not live on that edge.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Watching the Market—Start Building Wealth
I can definitely work towards the minimum payments.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Watching the Market—Start Building Wealth
I currently have $3,697 after taxes every month.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Watching the Market—Start Building Wealth
I have not started it, but I started putting out about $21 to see if I can save with those. I just have it in a savings account for now just because... Like I said, I'm always living on the edge, so it's like maybe I can just put whatever small I can find.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Watching the Market—Start Building Wealth
The smallest one would definitely be the credit card. It's supposed to be school loans, but they're not due yet. and I'm still in school. I have $8,000, so I have not contacted them on how to pay it back.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Watching the Market—Start Building Wealth
So whatever I have to pay right now is just my credit card, and it's one credit card that I... Are you still using that credit card? No, I have not used it in the last two months.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Watching the Market—Start Building Wealth
I've been working with my own, because I'm trying to see what is possible, and that's where I'm at right now.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Watching the Market—Start Building Wealth
Well, it's quite tight. I work full-time, and I go to school full-time. I go to school online, and then I'm working full-time because I do not want to have to do everything on credit.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Watching the Market—Start Building Wealth
Well, bachelor's, master's in psychology. I'm trying to be a behavior analyst.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Watching the Market—Start Building Wealth
Um... one and a half to two years, depending if I don't have any gap.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Let me just be completely honest here. I struggled like I cried an awful lot of tears Saturday night.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
So really Saturday and Sunday were just kind of dedicated to me walking her around. Like I was holding her and walking her around unless she was napping and I felt a bit trapped.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
It's like having dinner with your parent friends. It's like the babies are down for their nap.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Harrison called me. I was taking her – I was trying to take her on a walk. She didn't want to go on a walk. And he called me and he was talking to me. While he was on the bachelor party, you went and met a guy. You went to like a meeting. It was like 30 minutes away. He calls me afterwards and he's like, okay, I want to tell you about the meeting. And I was like, I got to stop you because –
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
I'm glad you did the meeting. I'm so glad you went on the bachelor party, but I'm having such a hard time right now that I can't even listen to you. I was like, it has nothing to do with you. I love you to death. I'm so excited for you to be home, but I'm not in the headspace to hear about this really fun meeting right now.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Like I was in, I was in like a tornado, like I was in like a funnel looking down and it was really the second you walked in the door, I felt a weight lifted off of me. And all of this, if you're, if you're a mom, you know, and I'm about to say, and it's an unnecessary disclaimer, but we all put it on air anyways. Like I love that little baby more than anything.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
You've cracked open, I don't know, a cold one, maybe a Michelob Ultra if you're you, an Aperol Spritz if you're me, and you're sitting around the table and you're talking about – this is why we do the brain break part of this, which is think of our neighbor friends that are also parents, okay, that their baby's two weeks older than ours, younger than ours.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
And none of this, I wouldn't trade it for the world. I love my, she's my heart outside of my chest. She's my favorite thing on the planet. But there is a sense of identity shift and identity loss with it that I experienced this weekend for the first time. And I think I experienced it because I had a lot of alone time. You're very good at keeping us busy.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
And we do really fun things when you're around and you are a true 50, 50 parent with me. Like you helped me so much with her that I think, listen, I'm lucky. It took me four months to experience this, but I was looking at it like, Oh my gosh, A lot has changed. You guys know I love cashmere, but I don't always love the price tag.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
And that's why I have been wearing this one quince cashmere sweater that starts at $50. And it is my brand. It's my new staple in my closet. I also have a pair of their shoes that look like Birkenstocks, but they're much more high end. And I don't love wearing the Birkenstocks because we all know that Birkenstocks made them and they're very rinse and repeat. These quince loafers are so dang cute.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
They also have the cutest activewear, and there's nothing more inspiring to work out than cute activewear. But what I really want to harp on is the cashmere for half the price. And the way they're able to do that is they still use the same fabric as all the other guys. It's the high-end fabric, and they use ethical suppliers.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
They just cut out the middleman, which is how they're able to pass on the discount to you guys. Upgrade your closet this year without the upgraded price tag. Go to quince.com slash alex for 365-day returns, plus free shipping on your order. That's quince, Q-U-I-N-C-E dot com slash alex to get free shipping on 365-day returns. quince.com slash alex.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
But I know I'm not trapped. It was a feeling I felt and it was a finite amount of time and I knew that.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
You will be. We have two months left. Here's my takeaways from having the weekend by myself. And it wasn't just the weekend. I think we have to remember he took three trips in 10 days because he was gone for work and then he was gone for the bachelor party. But we have two months left of this time.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
We talk about real life stuff with them, which is the brain break. It has nothing to do with kids. It can be any situation. I don't know. Today we're talking about Girl Scout cookies and whether or not that's a scam. But then we also talk a lot about our kids. And so this podcast is that.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
And when she's four or five years old, I'm going to look back and think, I miss that sweet newborn phase. And I know I will. Number two is next time you leave, I'm going to have somebody come down. Like, I don't want to do it. That's a really fun time for me to have somebody come.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
So it was, like, nice to learn that. I was like, oh, next time this happens, I'm not going to do it by myself. I found it incredibly depressing. Like, I was bored. She was bored and I was bored.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
I, like, couldn't figure it out, like, logistically. I don't know what my problem was, but, like, I don't know. I, like...
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
You know what I thought? I thought I wanted to do a lot of reading, podcast listening, and just chilling. And then that's just not what happened. So yeah, I learned a big lesson. I want to move it along here, though, because we'll talk about her being bored and the meat and the bones. We just kind of did the meat and the bones first, as one does, because it was natural. But...
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Let's go to what we DM'd each other.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Let me see if I can find it.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Okay. What is it?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
It is the most... The way he said... I like audibly laughed out loud when you sent it to me. The way he said... He used to just crash into the back of cars and... I will be driving and I'll be like, stop or crosswalk. And you're just like, yeah, I survived up until now. Like I'm 35 years old, Alex. 33 years of my life, I made it. It's like I don't need you to come in now.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
It is like it's having this baby. Driving home from the hospital with her, I was having this anxiety that every car was going to hit us and a semi was going to crunch the whole car.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
And things we DM'd each other. And bachelor parties. And anything that comes to mind. But I like the structure of this podcast because it's a beautiful blend of parenting, but also like parenting's on our whole identity. You and I, like we both work. We both read a lot. So this is everything wrapped into one.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
When we got on that highway, we only got on for a second. We quickly learned we were going to take the side roads. We were driving so carefully that we were causing problems. We couldn't merge. We were just in the right-hand lane going 30 miles per hour, just both of us sitting in there like, look around, look around, look around. We just had this precious little baby in the back seat.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
But I very much so was like, whoa, am I ever going to be able to do anything again?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
We had the music paused. It was dead silent. And then I remember when we got home after that drive, we walked in the house and just stared at each other and were like, what do we do with this baby? Where do we set her? Aww.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
That was, it's, I still get like, even last night driving back from Costco, I was driving and pumping and Harrison was sitting in the back with her and like I needed to hand him the milk and she was crying and it was like, I can't hand you the milk because that's not safe. And like we're driving with her is truly the safest I ever want to be in my whole life.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
I don't want anything to happen to her and her little Duna.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Yes. What is it?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Oh, you don't.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
You can't see people. You just walk around like you're the only one walking.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
I watched you. We went to Trader Joe's and Whole Foods yesterday and I just watched you cut people off left, right, and center.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
I was in shock.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
You don't yield when somebody else is walking. You just also walk. You're more apt to run into somebody.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
You have.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
You've run into people.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
I think I yield too much.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
I think I'm too polite and I think you're too abrupt. I'm perfect. I started to learn a little from you, but I'm a massive yielder and you're a massive like, no, we can all fit here.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
yes yes and I think we both drive each other crazy but like the way you walked was almost a deal breaker for me like I just used to be like Harrison let them go but then I no like I have the right of way yeah but then I let them go too much yes like I'm about to walk through the door and you'll be like wait three and a half minutes for them to like get through like they haven't even gotten into the room yet no sometimes though I don't think you see people like you have stood with your back in front of people which can be perceived as rude
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
but i don't think you see them well next time i do it you can pull out your your phone and record what um what did you dm me okay oh i actually never i didn't i found this this morning and i never pressed send on it because i wanted to read it to you irl okay and all because it's on the topic of us trying for a second baby and the meme says we're trying for a baby oh so you're just raw dogging it every night and you're telling everybody at the dinner table including your grandma
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
What do you think about that? I never thought about it that way.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
No, I would say it's the same. All of our segments are the same.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
What's the move?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
I know why you don't have a view on it, but keep going. I'll say it later.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Oh, that's really nice.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Exactly.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Okay. All right.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
okay wait i'm sorry so the wife was pregnant with one and then 60 days later on purpose the surrogate had the other i i don't know the details of i mean i assume it was surrogate first and then she conceived second 60 days later either way they've got they did two kids and they have one surrogate and one uh i guess the other not surrogate wow do you like love this idea
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
There we go.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
No, because I heard recently, look, I love the idea. Yes. But what I didn't understand was the process of surrogacy takes like three years and you have to go through IVF, which I also know can be really painful. So like IVF. And then once you have your eggs, you get matched with the surrogate and it can take up to eight months to do the paperwork.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
You're a seasoned host. Today, the meat and the bones that we're going to get into, guys, is mourning your old life.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
And then you have like 11, so it can be a really long process.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
No, no, no, you could, I think you could plan it. But what I thought with the surrogacy was like- But didn't you want to do a surrogate? Yes. Until I read this. So Lynn, like I wanted to do a surrogate, not on, if we had four, I would have done it on the fourth maybe. But I don't know why I thought with a surrogacy, like on a Monday you picked it and then on a Friday you did it.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
That's what I thought was happening with surrogacy.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
oh that's that's a hot take do you know how do you know about Canada surrogacies though you can't be paid to be a surrogate in Canada you have to just like volunteer out of the kindness of your heart yeah so like a family member somebody said like I want to carry that baby for you but you can't pay them and like you can't under the table pay them you can't ironically Barbara cannot buy Kay a boat you know a year later or something it's like it's got to be has to be like clean yeah no we know people that went through it in Canada and somebody volunteered yeah twice
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
and grief of your personal identity but before that we're going to start with the IRL stuff which is Harrison went oh you've just been a little travel guy your airline miles have got to be through the roof you went on a bachelor party and how was it how was being away from the tater tot I'm going to pivot okay
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
I love that. I think that's really special. I would absolutely carry a baby for somebody that couldn't, that was close to me. I would love to out of the kindness of my heart because I do think that that's a special thing to do. So that's really nice of them.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
OK, so now we're going to go back to that. We're going to segue back into the meat and the bones. But we did that a little off the top. So this is a light meat and bones. This is like one rib. And we had a couple ribs earlier for this rib. We're going to talk about I don't like ribs.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
What do you think is the best barbecue item? Brisket. I totally agree with you. I actually love ribs and brisket. Oh, gosh, now it sounds good for dinner. Okay, so I think Tate is a little bit bored. And apparently at four to five months, it's natural for them to be bored because they're not in the newborn phase anymore, right? Because newborn is zero to three months.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
So four months, she can track items. She can recognize herself in the mirror. She can coo. But she starts to get a little bit bored if you leave her in one place for too long.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
So, okay, have you heard of secure attachment?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Okay, so basically it's like her knowing she can explore and try new things, but she also feels really safe knowing we're nearby to help her. So- bored, like babies being bored is a good thing. So when she's laying on the ground, she feels this sense of secure attachment, which is she can try to roll, for example, roll over.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
And she also knows if she does her hips and doesn't get all the way over that mom and dad will come and help her, but we're not supposed to intervene ahead of time. So we're supposed to let her be there because a bored baby equals a creative baby. That's where they start to do their learning and their creativity.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Exactly. And also when they're bored, that's when they form independence. So there's a fine line of like not bored too much. Right. But there are good times where you can set them down for 20 minutes and like walk off and let her explore. Like yesterday when you and I were upstairs and she was out on our play mat and I came and I got you and we stood on the stairs and watched her.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
She was like trying to roll and do her hips and things and she was spinning around and it's like she wouldn't do that if she had constant stimulation.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
So bored is good to a certain extent. I am. Now, this new thing I'm going to try, though, is tying bows on her feet. I have it. It arrived off Amazon. It's a big tool and you tie it on her feet. And so when she's in like her baby fetal position, she can tug on her feet. Isn't that cute? Also, you can take a whisk and you can stuff like rags or stuffed animals in it.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
These are at home things to do with four months old off Pinterest. And she can pull the rags out of the whisk.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
And then the last one we can do is we can get little magnets and then we can get a cooking sheet and she can move the magnets around. And I also ordered red sponges because she likes Diet Coke cans and the contrast of the red is like her favorite, I've noticed. I'm going to cut up the sponges and put them in a thing of water and she can move them around.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
$37.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Okay. All we needed was magnets.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Magnets, tools, and sponges. We have everything else. Just like at-home things. It's not very hard to shove a dish towel in a whisk. Is it wisp or whisk? Whisk. What time is it?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
I love her so much. She's the best. All right. So now let's move on to... parenting confessions this one will be fast this week because I this this confession lives rent free in my head it's not a parenting confession it's a just a drunk person confession but I thought it would be funny but basically I saw somebody post they were like It was a very drunk girl and it was a meme account.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
And it was like, tell us your drunken stories to make this girl feel better about her night last night. And the first comment was, I watched the Titanic on mute and cried all night because I thought I was deaf. It had like 70,000 likes and I read that and I audibly laughed out loud.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
I think it could be true.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
They just said drunk. I mean, how funny is that? Imagine you have it on mute and you just think you're deaf.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
What do you think is the best barbecue item? Brisket. I totally agree with you. I actually love ribs and brisket. Oh gosh, now it sounds good for dinner. I mean, how funny is that?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Oh my God, in the Titanic of all movies. You could probably still cry if you watch the Titanic on mute.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Oh, I do not know how you don't think this is as funny as I do. I mean, that is hilarious.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
It is. It doesn't matter if it is or isn't real. The fact that somebody thought of that is so funny. Okay. No. Oh my God. Tough crowd. Tough crowd. I think what we should do is see if anybody in the comments can top it.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Okay.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Can top that comment. Even if it's fake. How about that? You've permission to say fake things. So I don't care if it's fake or real. I thought it was so funny. All right. Our brain break today, you guys, is Girl Scout cookies. So a Girl Scout came to the door the other day and we bought one of each flavor. There was no Samoas in the cart. Apparently those have rebranded.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
The most notable thing to take away from the conversation was Harrison has never had a Girl Scout cookie, nor has he experienced Girl Scouts coming to his doors. Kind of sounded like strippers right there when I said that, but that was weird. But you did. So then you sent some data.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
They used to be mouth-watering unbelievable. I could not stop eating them. I don't know if they've switched manufacturers. I don't know what's happened, but I found them to be underwhelming as well. And it's too bad. Still buying them.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Of course.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Oh my gosh, is that like IT services, like wink-wink, or is that like IT services?
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Pun intended. I think somebody, the IT services is obviously like just a front that they're paying it to. 8 million out of 192? Yeah.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
I'm saying this with very little information, but they can't have these little girls out there selling these cookies and then all the money is going to like a corporation. That's like... Child labor kind of.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
So... It was allegedly. You just say allegedly.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
And actually, I think you can say anything if you just throw an allegedly on it. It's like allegedly, so I'm not actually sure.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
190 of it went to chapters. I hope so too because I think I need to check.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Me too. I love the idea of it and I want to support it.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
And I want to support something like that. Oh, that's too bad.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Wow. Really sad. Well, hopefully it's not true. I totally agree. It's a great brain break. Everyone should... You should think about that with the Girl Scout cookies. Or just pay in cash. Just give them to a cash. But I think they track those cookies. I think they're tracking every dollar in, every dollar out. Ours were $4 a box, right?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
I thought you said $118 million.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Still, I mean, $500,000 on IT services is absurd.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
It's not... There's not even any... There was no technology.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
There was no technology involved in our transaction. No. What is it?
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
What is it? Tell us.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Okay. Let's do the listener question. When do you move... When are you guys going to move Baby Tate out of your room? Because... Let me... Okay. The real listener question, let me actually pull it up, is... Cause I kind of paraphrased it. Hi, my baby's three months old and sleeping in our room.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
I was wondering at what age you're going to move Tate out of your room because some of my friends have already started doing it, but some of mine are trying to go six months. So I wasn't sure.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Well, we don't know yet because we hear a lot of different things. So we're actually experiencing the same thing that the listener is experiencing. We're four months. She's still in our room. We love her in our room because it's so sweet. But we'll transition her to her crib. Whenever she starts to dislike the snooze, we'll put her in the marshmallow suit and we'll put her in her crib in her room.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
But when is she ever going to sleep in our room again? So right now we're loving it.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Sometimes you're so smart, and then sometimes you just miss. Sometimes you just want the easy way out. That's what you want.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Yeah, she's in her little snoo and she rocks side to side and we put her to bed and it's great.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Yeah, doing babas with dadas, holding her hands like this. Yeah, it's really sweet. So she's in the room with us.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Every single day like this and she drinks the bottle in dad's arms. It's the cutest thing on the planet. Okay, well, you guys, we love you all. Thank you for listening and we will see you next week.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Sometimes you just want.
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No, no, no, no, no.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Those are amateur numbers.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Let me explain it to you. It's the easiest thing on the planet to log in. It tracks your airline miles for you. It's not a waste of time. You just log in and then whenever you book a flight, they give you points. Once you accumulate enough points, you can use those points to fly somewhere for free. It's the best gig on the planet. Whoever thought of it's a genius.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
You just want to use it to skip the line and be upgraded to first, but you only have 130,000 miles. People have millions of miles, right?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
People that travel for work a lot. Me, I have 400,000. I'm just a regular old person over here. And you need to pick one airline and you need to fly it and you really need to get a credit card also with that airline and then you can really rack them up. I usually get upgraded. If I need to call American Airlines, I have a different line to call.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
And that's not because I did anything special other than I picked one airline, I logged into my account, and I dedicated my life to it. And I picked it because they fly to Oklahoma City more than any other airline.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Welcome back to another episode of, I guess I can't say just Alex. You guys, welcome to the Two Parents in a Podcast podcast featuring me and my baby daddy. Hi.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Oh, yeah. No, no, no. You could die on that cross. Die on that airline miles suck. Don't log in.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
You don't log in and I will log in.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
I mean, you're alone on that.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
You're on an island alone.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
You are so clearly speaking from a point of someone with 130,000 miles. I mean, you just are.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
If you want elevated results, you need to elevate your effort.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Yeah, that's just... 16 on the wait list.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Well, guess what? The other 15 people in front of you, guess what they did? They started logging in five years ago. Yeah, and now they're reaping the benefits.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
It's a long game, not a short game. Okay, so how was the bachelor party?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
You know what you do on airlines? I know why you're mad. You never actually book them on the actual airline.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Okay. There's a lot of flaws in your system with that. How was the bachelor party? Did you miss Tate? How was it being away from her?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
It seemed like you had a blast. You called me at one point. You FaceTimed me at one point, and you said, this is the kind of bachelor party I like to be on because the parents were there. You were smoking cigars. You had a fat stogie. Is that what it's called? Is it called a stogie?
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Love that. Love a mom attending.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Yeah.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
I have the best mom tool for you that we use every single morning because Tate wakes up with like stuffy little nose. And you guys know when their their noses are so little, you can't get in there to pull out the little boogers. or to pull out whatever's got her stopped up. So enter Novage Baby. They have the aspirator and they have the inhaler. We use the aspirator every morning.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Do you like the name? To be honest, I don't even want to be this dramatic about the new name. Like, I just kind of want... Just Alex was always... Like, we knew I was pregnant when we started Just Alex, okay? But you guys didn't know, but we knew. And so it was always going to turn into something, but we didn't know what it was going to be. And now it's two parents and a podcast.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
It's a device that looks like an old school thermometer and it goes up her nose. And the tip of it is, it's like squishy, okay? So it doesn't hurt her at all and she doesn't cry. and it like perfectly extracts whatever's congesting her, and she feels so much better.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
And you guys, the baby inhaler, it lasts 50% longer than other top-selling inhalers, and it's so important when you're using it daily, and it's quiet, and it has a mist of drug-free sterile saline solution and it breaks down the congestion and it moisturizes the pathway.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
So your baby feels so much better because right now you guys, these little babies are so congested and there's so much going around. And so I know you're like me and the least you can do is get these tools in your house that can make them feel better. So Get easy relief for your little ones. Order the Navage Baby aspirator and inhaler today. You can find Navage Baby at Walmart or at walmart.com.
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Or you can order directly and get full product details from my special URL, navage.com. Again, navagebaby at walmart or walmart.com. Or through my URL, navage.com. And I was like – I wanted you to go, right? Because I obviously can't get very far away from her right now because I produce just enough milk. I don't have like a freezer stash now.
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And so like I'm kind – I'm not chained to her but I am chained within four hours of her always. And – but like there's no reason that just because I am doesn't mean you should be. So I like really wanted you to go and have fun and I felt like you had a blast because But I did want to ask you this parent guilt. Is that because now life is just bigger than us?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
I think that's going to be a theme throughout this episode. Is it used to be? No?
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Why?
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
everyone said, oh, you're not going to live near family. And we were like, oh, yeah, no. And I do see the power of just having one of our moms or somebody be able just to pop over. We don't have that. But wait, I want to clarify your guilt a little bit. So you're not feeling guilty that you're away from her.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
You're not, you're feeling guilty that you're leaving the tasks to me.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Okay. That's so interesting because.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
But does it, does any part of you also think though, like time is fleeting with her? Like she's only this age for so long. Do you think about that? Because like, I don't want to miss a second of it. And that really weighs on me. I have nanny guilt and that's hours a day.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
I think it's a natural fit. I think it's a natural evolution of what we felt. And so I think we just I think we just glide right into the episode. We have our segments this week.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
That's like a level of peace though. I think it must be really different for moms and dads on this because as a mom, like one thing I really feel is guilt when I'm away from her, but guilt that my own heart's going to miss her or miss something or be mad at myself later on that I missed that stage. But for you, what you're saying is your guilt is leaving the tasks to me when you were gone.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
The thing about you missing her rolling over though, is that is just goes to show things happen in an instant with these kids. Like you blink and they'd have their first rollover. They have their first word.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
And I think at the time, that's a really good point because it feels so monumental to miss the first, but I love your approach of like, but I saw her do it and not to be so hard on yourself about that because like I have anxiety around that.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Okay, let me just be completely honest here. I struggled. I cried an awful lot of tears Saturday night. And the reason I was crying then was because... Let me put myself back there. I really want to paint this picture and just be obviously honest about what it was. I felt trapped. Trapped.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
So then I did a lot of thinking about how I used to be able to wake up and go to a workout class if I wanted to. I think it's so different for moms and dads. Like my body's different. My mind is different. And I produce her milk. Therefore, I can't go on a bachelorette party right now. And I know if you're listening, you think, or you could feed her formula.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Exactly. So I think like I think it's very natural to fit into our lives.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
Harrison and I don't want to do that yet. So just like when you're listening, put yourself in our shoes of like, we're going for the breast milk until six months, okay? And we're four months in. So I've got two months left on my finish line. And that's just like my choice. And if you're doing formula, I think that's awesome. A fed baby is a happy baby. But just hear me through that lens.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
So I think that... I think that things are for me became my weekend had nothing to do with me. Does that make sense?
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
No, I know, but you shouldn't feel bad. But what's so interesting about it is like I haven't had a weekend yet where it was just her and I. I think if you were gone during the weekdays, that would be a lot easier. But I really just thought like people call it mourning your old life.
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Grieving your pre-baby life, parental identify shift & backseat drivers
I don't feel as though I'm mourning my old life because there are parts from my old life that I feel like are here present with me today and they're like part of who I am with her. But I very much so was like, whoa, am I ever going to be able to do anything again? Like I was at, I couldn't hand her to anyone and she's at that phase where she really wants to be held.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
Okay. I think that was the rec we got in the group chat.
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Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
Shout out Hayley and her nanny thing.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
Oh, so by the way, I think the hotel recommended that and we had two friend recommend that service.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
Yeah. I, I was mentally prepared for you to go to two of the three nights.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
I think you wouldn't have gone to all three nights.
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Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
if like nights one and two night two was a block and a half from our hotel right night one was a three-minute car ride from our hotel so and obviously like i felt like you were gonna go to the wedding so like i think that part of also what gave a lot of comfort was we were so close like we were it was so easy for us to get back home if anything would have you know been uncomfortable
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I actually want to do something right now. Yes.
Two Parents & A Podcast
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Thank you very much for taking the lead on the booking of the nanny situation and the overall management of it.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
I haven't. I don't think I'd like fully thank you for handling that from A to Z.
Two Parents & A Podcast
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Yeah. I just thought that knowing how we typically do things that nanny while traveling would have fallen on me.
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Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
Different neighborhood, though.
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Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
So we're so far apart, I'd like to give you a kiss. But then if I went to give you a kiss, you'd get mad. You'd be like, Julie doesn't want to see lippers.
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Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
Yes.
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Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
And yeah, it was a, it was a really like, yes, sorry. I don't want to catch up.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
And there was one very unique dynamic of what happened. So we were supposed to leave at 1 o'clock. And as you said, it was getting delayed every hour. But then it got to a point where it said we were departing at 8.30 p.m. But it said the incoming flight wasn't landing until 11 p.m. Because it has that in the American app.
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So I'm just like, if this plane is landing at 11 and it also keeps getting delayed, it really doesn't feel like we're going to get out of here tonight. Yeah.
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And he's outside bundled up. Yeah. Wearing, wearing his tuque. Like he like, yeah, so much, so much respect for him and his work ethic, but also him just going above and beyond and.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
And I was like, oh, my God. Such a nice guy. So I guess in terms of like what.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
Well, like I want to do something nice for Trevor.
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Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
Okay.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
Okay. And do we think Trevor could get in trouble for doing that and helping us?
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Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
Okay.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
Okay. Perfect. Yeah. I agree.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
Yeah, he was just such a nice gentleman.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
Oh, can we do something for his daughter?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
We'll send her some stuff. We know some amazing baby brands that we can work with to do something cool.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
It looked like it was out of an architecture magazine. But we also like if we were to get that house, we would have had to really, really, really, really stretch, which is something that you and I like needed to get comfortable with, would need to get comfortable with.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
Yes. I actually think there's something more to unpack here.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
Like our house. Yeah. I think there's something to unpack here on the gifting and yeah. Okay. Maybe we'll save it for another time.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
Flight attendants randomly picking and choosing what rules to enforce or just making up rules altogether is a number one pet peeve.
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Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
And you also can't argue with a flight attendant. You cannot. Because they have the ultimate card of reporting you and getting you escorted off and banned. So what they say goes. And I've always been okay with the rule changing. So to me, I feel like the most obvious rule change with airlines is... The carry-on luggage. We're like half the time, they're like, sir, that carry-on won't fit.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
It's like, I've flown this flight before on this plane, on this type of plane. Like, I know my carry-on fits. Number two is when you're sitting in the bulkhead or the front row. the rules that they make on what you can have or not have. So sometimes they'll let you put your laptop in the front. Other times they won't. Like sometimes they'll let you have some things in your area.
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Other times they won't. But like, I'll always let it go because whatever, to each their own. When it starts affecting the baby, it's just like, come on, not letting us
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pace and i feel like i'm like going on a rant here and it feels like you're really quiet um is am i doing okay you're doing okay i just i do want to preface like because i don't think i don't think you're you don't mean to complain like you it's just no i i i'm i think i'm down to complain about about uh flight attendants changing the rules
Two Parents & A Podcast
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Yeah. Historically it was just like, whatever. One of the annoyances of flying. But when you're doing something that like is causing mass inconvenience, which is not letting a baby not cry, like the baby's in the seat and the baby's crying. So everyone around you is hearing the baby cry.
Two Parents & A Podcast
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And like when you're creating a rule that then is like negatively affecting so many people and the baby, that's when I was just like, come on. Like all the other stuff is just like annoying, but whatever. This to me was like... No, I agree.
Two Parents & A Podcast
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And then the other thing, she wouldn't let me stand in like that communal area. Yeah. so when it's a full flight, I like to stand in that communal area. That way you're totally out of people's ways. It was just like, uh, yeah, it was, it was, it was frustrating. Cause like, but this, I guess this, this was like, it was, it was upsetting.
Two Parents & A Podcast
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Cause like Tate was, Tate's never cried that much on a flight.
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Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
And, and, and we had a way to, we had a way to reduce it. That would have made it a better experience for everyone around us, but we couldn't do it. And, and that felt very frustrating for her and everyone around us. Yep.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
And what do you think of kids on planes?
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Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
And people getting annoyed of babies on planes. Sorry. What do you think of babies on planes and getting annoyed with? People getting annoyed with babies on planes and their behavior.
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Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
So I, this all started when I was in Hong Kong and I was doing those long, like across the world flights. And like I once had a bad experience where I sat beside a baby and it drove me crazy, ruined, you know, the whole 15, 16 hour flight. And obviously you couldn't get mad at the baby or the parent. And so it was like, you know what?
Two Parents & A Podcast
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If I'm going to be able to get so annoyed by something like I need to take action and solve it. So I was like, I'll buy noise canceling headphones. And ever since then, it's like I haven't had a problem with it. It's like if you have a problem with it and you're the type of person that's going to have a problem with it, then yes, I think go and buy some noise-canceling headphones.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
What matters more to you? A playroom or a big closet in the main bedroom?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
By the way, that guy who sat beside us yesterday.
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because he spent the entire flight just shooting dirty looks at me i'm not sure if you noticed that i did notice it he was it was like dude what do you want us to do right now well we the problem with him though the guy with the dog we had him on the way there he was in the he was right in front of us he was very well behaved on the way there but on the way back he was right beside us yeah and while his dog was very well behaved i i wasn't into his vibe
Two Parents & A Podcast
Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
Just dirty looks.
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Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
I could not believe it. That wasn't my guy.
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Yes.
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Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
I'm trying to see what else is on the subject.
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I also love the approach here of there's way too much nickel and diming that goes on with airlines. I feel like we've just completely over-indexed on it. And let's start giving it back to the consumer and making things a better experience. And I feel like that will result in better loyalty and potentially even more traveling.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
We need the playroom.
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Being the “default parent” (+ moving into a hotel & crying babies on planes)
Yeah, but I think it speaks to how brutal so many of these airline experiences are.
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Well, yeah. So it's semi different, but what I'm waiting for an airline to do is for every hour you're, you're delayed beyond the first hour, a hundred dollar credit for future travel. But it's not the, think about how that would change the vibe of delays.
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Yeah. But, but it, I want the airlines to start giving us some love. But yeah, so what happened with United is a plane did a U-turn two hours in because the pilot forgot his passport.
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$15? I think the pilot should deal with the same consequences as if a passenger... force the plane to turn around. So if you do something on a plane that forces the plane to turn around, I think there's consequences, right? Like you get in a lot of trouble, which I think if you make a plane turn around because of whatever, bad behavior, those consequences make sense.
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Yeah, I actually think it should, ideally it's located in a totally separate room and that way, like, the mess can be contained.
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I think the pilot should be subject to that.
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You could.
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Yeah, that needs to be a full refund for every passenger on that plane.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Yeah. Airlines are one of the worst experiences out there right now.
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How are you feeling about the episode?
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I'd give you an 8.7 and me like a 6.3. Okay.
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You know what, Harrison? You're doing great.
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Oh, thank you.
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I can't see the sign.
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Oh, I DM do those amazing TikTok videos where the kids are taught about sharing and they get given like one parent gets one snack. They get two snacks and then the other parent gets zero snacks. And then the kid with two gives one of them to the parent that doesn't have the food. It is amazing.
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Maybe we'll put up a photo of it. Maybe we won't. I'm not sure if we're allowed to do that.
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Yeah. That this is the type of like kid focused content that I love. Like I love uplifting kid content. I'm super anti like content that, that is making fun of kids. And so I think that like, like just, yeah. Showing that like really genuine positive side of, um, of, um, of kids is amazing.
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Oh, I didn't catch that.
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No.
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Yeah. Instead of saying... I just caught her being like, watch out. I said, you watch out, kid. You watch out.
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Oh, really? I thought it was... I actually thought her saying it was like really cute. No. I thought she was saying it in a fun, playful way because she was like zipping by and had her little bells ringing.
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Yeah, I didn't see that.
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Yeah, like that.
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Really? Yeah. Yeah. See, to me, that is not the content that I'm down with.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, but hopefully they then learn and then we can celebrate their learning with the sharing video versus profiling the kid not doing good. I never had a view on this, but now that Tate is so much of our life and content as well, I think one thing that's really important to me is that what we're doing and what we're saying is lifting her up rather than putting her down.
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Please share.
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Yeah.
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Why?
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That's really cool.
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I think we're learning like an outsized amount of things on parenting from the comment section.
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Yeah. Is this not the perfect segue into our new test segment of responding to the comments?
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Okay. So I guess we'll put the comment on the screen. What was the comment, Julie?
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Okay. Do you have the comment, Alex? I can't find it.
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I did not know that either.
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Are you, I would love to be a part of that process if she wanted me to be a part of that process. But I do love this idea of me buying her a dress every year for her birthday or an outfit being a tradition. And like I want to relock into traditions. I feel like that when she first came, like we had a lot. Like I would take her out for dinner every week.
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But now that's kind of stopped because she doesn't really like going for dinners. So now we're just kind of at like kind of infrequent walks. You have a tradition. Well, like four or five walks a week. But it's not like a tradition.
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Oh, babas with taras.
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Babas with taras.
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Okay.
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Okay.
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But that to me... That's a bottle with that in bed. ...is a tradition that is like kind of transactional versus a tradition where like I'm going out of my way to do something with and for her. And so that's why I like love... Um, I love this, this birthday thing, but I want to add like one or two more.
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Yeah, so we want to build traditions around the holidays, around her birthday. But I'm more so talking about the day-to-day life. And I feel like I want to mix in one new thing. I'm figuring this out on the fly. But as I read that, I was like, you know what? One, I love the idea. But two, I feel like I can mix in another tradition or two.
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Father-daughter animal day on every other Saturday. Oh boy. But... That could be a fun one.
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It's a really weird scenario because one, there's like nothing for rent that we like right now. Like I can't believe the lack of rental options on the market. Very surprising. And then secondarily, it feels like there's like a bucket of stuff that we do like for sale and all is in a similar price range, but none of it's moving, implying things are still pretty overpriced.
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I feel like the internet will have really good ideas. The boat.
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That's with us. Yeah. But that's more activities versus traditions.
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Like the walks that we do are activities.
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Tradition is like something that we carve out specifically on a recurring basis.
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Yeah. I still do that multiple times a week, but it's not like, I don't know. I'll come back to this.
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Okay.
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Do you want to define what a default parent is?
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Well, one, that is very nice of you.
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Two, where I need to push back is I don't think it can be equal because there are certain things that you can do that I can't do. And so inherently, like I can, if, you know, whatever, I'm traveling or busy, like I can allocate responsibilities to you versus the responsibility of breastfeeding, you can't allocate to me. And both in feeding, but also calming her.
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Like, I think what I thought of on the plane last night where I was so proud of you, like we're flying, like she was losing her mind. And I feel like normally when she loses her mind, like I'll typically take her and try and calm her down. But I could not. Well, shout out for the flight attendant who didn't let me walk. So what calmed her down? You putting her on the boob.
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And it's just like your ability to have this... One, you inherently are always going to carry more responsibility than I am. And so that's why what I always try to do is look at the areas that I... Or look at those areas that you can't control and figure out how to support them.
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And so I think the question is, can we get those people to come down where we can also make the numbers work much better for us? Because everything right now feels like a stretch.
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Inherently, you do so much that I can't. And so the areas that I can't help and I can't support, I want to do everything I can to step up. So this morning I called Julie. I was like, what does she have going on? And she said you could...
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And so I was really happy to go and take Tate and bring you your pumping stuff for when you did get up and take her to the coffee shop and do all the sweet things.
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Is that not just like interest? Like, does the parent want to know the teacher's name? Like, I feel like different parents just allocate responsibilities differently. And, you know, a lot of our friends have decided to allocate those responsibilities pretty evenly. And I feel like those responsibilities get allocated evenly because like there's mutual interest in being involved.
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And I think in situations where there isn't mutual interest, that's just where things skew the wrong way. Does that make sense? Yeah.
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I guess, I don't know. I'm semi-loss, but I think what I'm kind of like digesting on this whole thing as I reflect on it is like every relationship is different and different things work for different people. And I think for us, we take a lot of pride in mutual involvement and trust. I also, I understand why that works for people. I also understand why that wouldn't work for people.
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And I don't coming into it. If you would have asked me five years ago, I would have thought that the mother, that my partner would have been the default parent. I would not have expected to have cared about the level of detail of her life that I do and want to have the involvement that I do. And that's just ultimately how it's shaken up for us. And I think, as you said, in the areas that
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I've been blind. You've been really good at communicating. And so thank you. And I always do want to do better because I still know that, you know, there's a lot of areas that still do default to you.
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Yeah.
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Thank you. Because I feel like we're not. I feel like we're like running around.
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It all depends on how motivated the sellers are.
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For sure. But we do allocate responsibilities as well. There are certain things that you do and there are certain things that I do. I put her to bed every single night.
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You, funny enough, despite what you just said, you do track her milk. I don't track her milk.
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Like, I know she's supposed to drink 25 ounces a day, but you're the one who's monitoring it and monitoring the hours.
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Yeah, and a lot of people we saw, we're seeing a lot of homes that were for sale last year come back on this year.
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And I am so excited to do that.
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Yeah, we haven't discussed that, but I would love if you took the lead on that, but obviously no happy to. And the only thing that I don't fully love about this conversation is I feel like it's very much, I don't want it to come off as like, we have it all figured out because we sure as hell don't. And we disagree on stuff all the time.
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But like, I am, I'm really proud of how you're owning motherhood and all you're taking on. And, um, hopefully I'm doing, uh, as good of a job to, to be a, uh, supporting and involved dad.
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The numbers do not reflect that they are much better. They're better at all. They actually reflect the opposite. So it's tough because you don't want to get too cute with it. Like this is where we're going to live. But we also need to make sure that we're responsible with the decision that we make.
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Thank you for communicating it the way you did.
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Totally.
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And I think one thing that you've done really well that's resonated with me is bringing those things up like pumping, not in the heat of the moment, but when you weren't actually, when you didn't actually need the help at that second. But during the day saying, hey, I'm going to need to pump tonight. It would be of huge help for me if at 9 p.m.
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when I went to pump, the materials were beside the bed and clean. Okay. versus at nine o'clock being like, why aren't they here? You don't do anything. Then it would have created a really high conflict dynamic.
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So thank you for communicating. Of course.
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That's really cool.
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Amazing text I got from my sister. I don't know if I'm allowed to share this, so hopefully it doesn't get cut, but we'll ask. It was, dad called me because he didn't know how to follow Alex, so he asked me for directions. He goes, do I follow her on Facebook? It was actually so cute. He really likes the videos of Tate. They just have all these screenshots on their phone.
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I guess someone clearly must have said something to him about the videos. Obviously, they were just here, but we don't talk about that type of stuff with them. We don't ever, ever talk about content. We talk about day-to-day life. I would have loved... I'll call him today and ask him, like, what was the series of events that, like, led him to actually asking for that information?
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Oh, totally.
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Totally.
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Yeah, my dad's just not a social media guy. So like, I love that he's, you may be the only person he follows now.
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Really?
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Okay.
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Thank you for listening.
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I can't believe you didn't just like walk out of there and be like, we got to do it.
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I feel like I'm the one that can be molded on this. I feel like you're going to take the lead as to where we actually like pull the trigger.
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But I also think like I've lived in a lot of different types of homes and a lot of different types of neighborhoods. And so like I can kind of like adjust my perspective to like love the situation that I'm in. If that makes sense.
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For sure. That's probably a top of the list right now outside of making sure that the core home checks the boxes that we're looking for.
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Yes.
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Well, I really applaud how you're handling the uncertainty until we find the right home for our family.
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Love it.
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Don't enforce it.
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I mean, that's just going to come off terribly.
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I'm very surprised that that's your core takeaway from our time there.
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I do think that the girls of Aspen had very good drip. I thought the guys of Aspen needed to work on the drip. I felt like the girls of Aspen had it pulled together. And I felt like a lot of the guys from Aspen was just like, well, you just look like you're wearing a bunch of expensive shit.
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It'd be like taking that print and putting it on a bag and then putting a pink strap on it.
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You know I'm not a bad guy, so I want to keep this train on the Aspen tracks. What do you think of Aspen?
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It is one of the most charming places I've ever been when I look at that village and how that village just looks out onto the mountains and the architecture of the village.
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Yes, but it is, that charm is then wrapped in ridiculousness.
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And I was just like... What was that? LMFAO.
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I didn't know you could find a handbag that expensive. I thought the most expensive handbag you could get would be like $4,500, maybe $5,000. I thought that was like if we were... Doing it very unique. And then this one we saw, which to be clear, this handbag, it wasn't like behind anything. It was sitting there just like in the open for people to like touch and hold and take $36,500.
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I'm torn. I'm torn.
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And that was the small one. Four bag and it was small. Couldn't even fit your lunch in it.
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I did. TikToker now.
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Yeah, but to me that wasn't like Aspen specific. And I don't want this to turn into like an Aspen. I think Aspen is like one of the coolest places.
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But you can't charge $50 for a Caesar salad. No matter where you are in the world, a Caesar salad. So I just feel like there's some crazy pricing dynamics of that town.
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Let's go. Let's roll.
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I found it was all over the place. I felt like there's a lot of New York pricing, and then there was a new bucket, which was Aspen pricing.
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I thought they nailed it. I thought that was really, really fun.
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Thank you.
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Yeah, I think that we're two people that, like, have gone with the mindset of, like, we kind of bring our kid everywhere. And, like, finding the line of, like, where's better to not have your kid. And weddings feel like the number one place so far of, like, not a place to bring your baby.
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I, like, I'm – it was, one, like, so fun to, you know, have mom and dad's night out around those festivities. And I think it's, like, that's a great call that I'm totally behind. Yeah.
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Jeopardy.
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Okay, wedding.
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But we wanted to take her to the movie theater Sunday night.
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Oh, no, Family Feud.
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That's the game. I don't know. I like bringing her everywhere.
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I'm like, I don't even have this. Like, I like bringing her to the bar. I like bringing her to restaurants.
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I think bringing her to a nightclub would be fun if she had her headphones on.
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Unless we put the headphones on.
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I love bringing her everywhere. Like, I know it's ridiculous to say. Like, everywhere we go, I like bringing her. And just, I carry her.
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Like a football.
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Oh, yeah. Definitely know a hair salon. workout class. Okay.
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Yeah.
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And hopes were so high for both homes. And I think they're both out of contention, which is very disappointing. Yeah.
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Okay. From no to cooking class. Grab a knife. Yeah. And she's in her grabbing era.
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No, do you?
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Yeah, I think one of my favorite parts of parenting is, is all the experiences we have with her outside of the house.
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Who told you about AspenNannies.com?
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And so when you just like, if you were just to look at a interest only 30 year loan or an interest only 10 year loan, then that's where I got that $5,000 more a month from. Now there's some tax breaks on those interest payments. So it's more probably like, you know, 3,500 plus minus, but the same way when you rent, you throw money away. When you own, you also do throw a lot of money away.
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The core difference is you do own the underlying asset. And if that asset goes up, then you in theory can sell it and make money, but you're also putting a lot of money down on that house.
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And who's to say that the Austin real estate market, if you take that money that you're going to put in, in the real estate market is going to do any better or worse than if you put it into, you know, one of the ETFs I'm always talking about.
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Yeah, exactly. We have $5,000 more a month. Let's just call it $3,500. We have $3,500 more a month that we can use to invest in whatever we have the appetite for and also just like spend on fun stuff.
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Two idiots in a pod. Two idiots. We're back.
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Yeah. I mean, that's, I, I obviously, as you know, I do a lot of saving.
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Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Yep. And have some fun. Totally. Living without some fun.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
I think with this specific house, it does not make sense to buy. And so I think that what the game plan should be is we go out to market and we look at both renting and buying. And I think there's a certain price range of buying where the numbers can make sense and we can find something we love in that price range. Great. And if not, then buying may, sorry, then renting may make the most sense.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
where my mind has changed so much on renting over the past chunk of time is like you, I'd almost like been taught not owning was a bad thing. But there's just like a lot of benefits to renting over owning. Like one, most of the time it's a benefit to cashflow. Two, the flexibility, like right now,
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
The neighborhood that we've discussed living in in five years is very different than the neighborhoods we want to live in right now. And so the ability to hop from neighborhood to neighborhood and not deal with the friction cost of selling. And then the third is like a lot of stuff breaks, like tons of broke is broken in this house. The heat's been broken. There's been leaks and damage.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
The responsibility of fixing that hasn't been on us like as a parent dealing with that, both in time and cost has been like really nice to not have on our plate. So I think when what my preference is, is like, I don't know. But I think if we do buy, it's going to be an emotional decision over financial decision.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Well, I didn't know I was going to be asked that question. And the honest answer, also, I feel like people that say like, let me be honest with you, I feel like people that say that are liars.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
I'm with you. I am with you. Like I want us to love our home. I want Tate to have an amazing home. And emotionally, in theory, I want us to own the home. It'll just be interesting if that's the path that we go. I know.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
You're like almost taught to feel like ashamed of renting, not buying.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Yeah. And that's obviously the big drawbacks is you don't make it your own. You don't invest in it. And you also don't appreciate or take part in the appreciation of the house if you don't own it.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
I think if we do buy, it's going to be an emotional decision over financial decision. When I look back at my childhood memories, they are in Egypt. They are in Hawaii. They are... How old were you?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
So what, you're telling me a lie otherwise?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Yeah, well, it makes sense. It's a lot harder to buy a home today than than back then. I think if you looked at housing affordability, right, so like cost of a home relative to the your average salary, it's gone up quite a bit.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Where my mind would naturally go is like work is just back in the swing of things.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
So to clarify, you're asking why real estate pricing has increased at an accelerated rate over salaries?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
There's been a massive driver of that over the past five years has been COVID. And so when interest rates got really low, it was really easy to, or the cost of borrowing money was cheap. So you could go and you could, you know, buy a big fancy house and the cost of owning that house or the cost of maintaining that house was significantly lower than it had been in any history of time. Right.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
So like the cost of a mortgage on it.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Yeah. And I think another driver of that is you had, and I actually haven't seen the data that like overly supports us, but that you hear a lot about is like a lot of institutional capital has come in and started buying residential real estate, which has, has, which has complicated things.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
I think that when these questions are asked and they're so far out, it's really easy to have an answer today, but it's really hard to... No, how you'll truly be feeling at the time. And, and so like at face value, of course, I'm going to want to say, I'm going to want to spend as much time with her and we're going to want her to go to school down the street.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
But I think that inherently, like we will come up with a game plan and then we'll adjust that game plan accordingly.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
accordingly based off of our kids specific needs and so you know i don't really see a world in which uh as of today she wouldn't go to one of the schools in the neighborhood because so many of them are great and i see a world in which we'd leave her behind but like maybe there's a specific situation where like that makes the most sense for her and that makes her the happiest and like what i care most about with her is is just her her happiness but i want to spend as much time with this little kid
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
as, as I can. And hopefully that she feels the same and hopefully, you know, that doesn't, that doesn't change.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Like the way that you're asking the question is like, Like, let... And if that's what she wanted... Right, then of course you would do it.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Like, I really want to empower her to, you know, make...
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
big and I know it's like who knows how all this changes over time but like I want to empower her to like make the decisions that feel true to her and are best for her life I feel like you know growing up there were a lot of expectations I don't want to be careful with my words here because my parents were amazing but like you know I feel like there were certain paths that one would have been pushed down and
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
It's a convention center. It's a big trade show for food brands, beverage brands, consumer products brands as a whole.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Okay, so thank you for the rundown. What would you like to hear from me on that rundown?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
If I understand it all correctly, I think like leaving a state because you now need to pay your child would be a wild thing to do.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
There's a line that, I heard someone say once, which is if you're making your life decisions based off of tax rates, then you're playing the wrong game of life. And that's always really resonated with me. When I lived in Hong Kong, there's a massive, massive mass like that. When I lived in Hong Kong, taxes are incredibly low. So tons of tax advantages to being out there.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
I think 250,000 people come through the expo. And just like every brand is giving away free samples. And so we have two booths. One is for our flock chicken skin business. And then the other, we're debuting some innovation, a new brand.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
And a lot of people stayed out there for so long because of the tax breaks. And that was when I really first put that mindset into play of like, I don't want to live somewhere just for money. to make some more money. And so that's the mindset that I would apply to this situation, assuming it was true.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
If it isn't true, then and it's the dynamic that we were kind of talking about before we're like, they needed to move to Tennessee for reasons and the daughter wanted to stay like I hope that, you know, that that will work out for their family and and everyone's collectively happy. As as weird as it may seem now with our four month old, obviously times are going to change.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Yeah, I think that if something like that comes up, we'll assess it on a live basis.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
I would, I would love to understand why. And I would love to present her with all the reasons why it could be viewed as a good decision or bad decision. And, and hopefully she makes a great decision that that will support and I get it's easier to say this in theory, versus reality, but I really hope we can empower our children to make their own decisions.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Yeah, it's easier said than done.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
No, we'll talk about it a little later.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
I'm reading a book on all this right now.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
It's an extension of Flock, so it sits within that family with giving some... It's also in the meat. It's another meat product.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
I'll pull it up.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
H. It is called Sovereign Child.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
It's about like rule-less parenting.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Rule-less. Like no rule parenting. Rule L-E-S-S. Where you give your kids all of the facts and then you trust them to make the best decision. It's very controversial.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
There's a great line. One second.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
That's one of the examples that they use in the book. If they want to eat a million Oreos, let them eat a million Oreos and let them get sick and learn that that isn't best for them.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Is that same context?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
I love the book in theory, but obviously there are certain lines that you need to draw. If your kid wants to come to you and do hard drugs, you can't let that happen. So the effects of these are... And it speaks to it in a sense of pretty open.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
um this is this is new segment called what we dm'd each other that we didn't watch but i dm'd you uh a clip and it was of a study where 90 percent of childhood memories uh are tied to family vacations we must go travel do you know i always think about will she remember this will she not i know right now she won't remember anything
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
And when I look back at my childhood memories, they are in Egypt. They are in Hawaii. They are.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Yeah, we saw the pyramids.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
That is ridiculous.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
They made out of stone. Oh.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Every night there's all the banks host events, all the investors host events. And so you're running around from A to Z and it's definitely boondoggle, but...
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
There's all the conspiracy theories on how heavy the rocks or the stones are and how they could get them up and did they have another form of technology? We're not going to go down conspiracy theory alley here, but no. That's probably what kids make at the beach, Alex.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Julie, do you know what she's talking about?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
I don't think so.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
The way you say things like does make me doubt myself a lot. Like I want to be like, absolutely not. But like, I was like, wait, where is she getting this? Like it isn't always wrong.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Yeah. I remember, I remember a couple of funny moments in that trip.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Oh, that I couldn't tell you, but really young, like definitely elementary school.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
We can ask my mom.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Young. I just don't know, so you can keep asking, but I'm just still not going to know.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Yeah. What were memories? Memories were of the markets. Those are really cool. Of this, I remember we got really, really sick on this cruise that we did. Ooh. And then after the cruise, we went and stayed at like the coolest hotel ever. And it was like the nicest thing. I remember going and getting, going to different perfume shops. Perfume's big out there. I remember, oh, this is a funny one.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
The King Tut's condom. It was like a condom from like... Hundreds or thousands. Yeah. And we can maybe Google it. That King Tut's a real guy. But like, I remember King Tut condom and going to the museum. I remember that they kept trying to buy my sister with goats. My dad's response would always be two and a half goats because you can't sell a dead goat. Just like a bunch of random things.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
I would assume maybe I was seven or eight.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Uh, I, not off the top of my head. Went to Ethiopia, Israel, a whole bunch of places.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
You were there last year and thank you very much for coming. And I obviously want you to come again. I really want her there. I really just want her to be a thing that every year she's been there from she's never missed one from when she was in the belly to year one.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Yeah. Phenomenal memories. What about you?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
I was wondering where you're going with that.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
One of the things the study did say is it doesn't need to be, an example of a trip could be camping in your area, or it doesn't need to be these crazy things. It's like memories outside of the home.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Because I just remembered a really funny – I was kind of going back to different memories and what are memories I have in my house. You're always smirking. And I remember a memory in grade 8 of my grade 8 girlfriend breaking up with me.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
And I remember she broke up with me and I was on, I was on like the household phone. Yeah, her name was Kelsey.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
She called me and she broke up with me. And I remember I was like so confused.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
It was like the way she broke up. I don't remember the details of the conversation, but I remember it was like a softball breakup.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
and um it's not you it's me i need to focus on my studies and like we had a good mutual friend and i remember i like was so mad at the mutual friend i felt they they broke my trust and yeah because did they know um that you were gonna get broken up with i think i don't remember the details of the breakup i just remember being in the house oh and they she broke up with you
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
I remember, I actually have a memory in the house. I was very young. We had a bird and the bird went missing. Oh. And I was accused of letting the bird go. And I never let the bird go. And like 15 years later, we were talking about it and they like still thought I let the bird go. I was like, I would have told you if I let the bird go.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
So I was definitely young at that one, but I don't know. Most of my memories are outside the house, for sure.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Maybe 15 minutes.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
We're not talking about this.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
We're not talking about this.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
I'm not mentally ready to go down that path.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
So was I. And that is this week's episode.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
What's our brain break?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
This new iPhone update is the worst. What is going on at Apple?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
It's actually misleading.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
I had one today and it came in. The summary was reschedule meeting. And it was actually the guy saying I'm running late.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Yeah, it's like a swing and a miss. First, it was the photo albums, the way the photo albums are doing. And now it's this text summary. I want to undo it.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
I don't know. Whatever it's doing needs to stop. We need Steve Jobs back.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Um, so she said, I went to Penn and you, you said, oh, I went to, um, oh, I love Penn State.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
You know Steve Jobs is dead, right? Yes.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
I did throw that little bait out there, but whatever.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Oh, because they dress the same.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Yeah, because she dressed like him. Sorry.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Yeah, no. Steve is the guy.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
I think I saw a headline today, which is that her appeal was lost and she's locked up for another 11 years.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Yep. Yep, yep, yep. It's not good to do. Anything else we want?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Thank you for listening.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Okay. Thank you.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Okay. And then she was definitely just kind of like, yeah, that isn't the one, but she's just so nice that I don't think she said anything. I think I, I jumped in there and was like, yeah, different one, but...
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
And swimming. She was swimming there.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Okay, we don't need to throw shade at Penn State here.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
It's a very good school. I know like there's a program that we typically follow and I know that we haven't followed any of it through this episode. So I'm going to keep on this theme because I have a question for you.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
I think one of your superpowers is you remember everyone's name you meet and you also remember their baby's names. How are you so good at remembering names?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Yeah, I do that. And it doesn't work.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
like unless you have a unique name or a name that like resonates, I typically forget it. And I like intentionally try all the time. Like to me, the difference between like you being named Kevin or Dan, I will never know. Like that's, they sound the same to me.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
So I'll typically never remember Matt, but our lawyer's name is Matt. And so I can remember us like lawyer, done. But if I don't have that connection, I'm toast.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
But one thing I do do is if I don't remember a name, I will address it. I will be like, hey man, apologies. Do you mind reminding me your name? I'm Harrison. Okay.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Yeah, you crush it. I'm jealous. It's a superpower.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Well, that's how I felt today. I felt like when she was sleeping on there, I was just nervous that like she'd suck in some hairs and then she'd start coughing. So I went and put a shirt on.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
So to kind of view this in a semi-different direction, can we talk about how crazy your TikTok is going right now?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Yeah, it's been wild to see.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Do you want to set the stage?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Do you want to set the stage of what we're talking about or no?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
The first time I remember you telling Tate what was going on was the night before we went to New York. That was the first time I actually saw you talking to her. Yeah. And you're like, we're going to wake up tomorrow morning. We're going to get on a plane. The plane's going to go in the air. We're going to this place called New York. It's where your dad and I used to live.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
It is cool to see like other people recognizing just like what an awesome mom you are.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
And you gave her the whole rundown on why we were going and what we were going to do. And I was like, this is such a really cute special moment.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
That's really cute. yeah um well one thing for me and i feel like you're gonna make me cut this is like it is i'm so proud of you as a mother and like i think you're such an amazing mom and so it's it is cool to see like other people recognizing just like what an awesome mom you are because and and i know like that you you find that awkward i love it i'm proud of you and
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
It's a good challenge. What you've showed me is, and I think it's like another one of your superpowers, just like how quickly you can make content, shoot something, get it up, your camera roll, I don't think is like full of 10, 15 takes of videos. It's one done up and you really don't let it consume your life.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Yeah, I didn't even think that was an irrational thought. I went, yeah, I don't know.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
And that was a really big concern of mine when we first started dating was that you'd be like,
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Yeah, when I Instagrammed a ton probably like 10 years ago, I did find that. Like I would go to a concert or a game and I'd be so focused on getting the perfect image. And that's like a large reason of why I stopped doing it. And so I applaud your ability to just – Did we know you were doing a lot of grams back in the day? Yeah. I mean, go look at my page.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Traveling the world and capturing the moments. A lot of big – You put up my gorilla pic, Julie.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Yeah, so our lease ends April 15th and our house is on the market or is going to be coming on the market.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Yeah, so I think like the larger thematic is we need to move on April 15th and now we're deciding do we buy a place or do we rent a place? Is that like not what's going on? And is that place where we're living or is it somewhere else?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
When it comes to this specific place, one thing that's crazy is we ran the math on where her price is. And if we want to buy the house, then it will cost us $5,000 more a month. If we want to buy this place, it'll cost us $5,000 more a month in cash flow than our current rent today.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
American dream.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
Glad you caught it right away.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Talking to babies, buying a house & paying your kid for content
There's two pieces to that equation. The first is like when you own a home, and I know a lot of people do know this, there's a lot of money that is a fixed cost of owning the home that doesn't go towards the actual, that doesn't go towards owning equity in that home. And so like that's the actual interests on the loan that you take out. That's the property tax. That's the homeowner's insurance.
Two Parents & A Podcast
New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I have a question for you.
Two Parents & A Podcast
New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Maybe you have the answer to them. Jules, maybe you have the answer. Why does iced coffee taste so different between coffee shops? Like I get a cold brew and some cold brews I love and others I hate.
Two Parents & A Podcast
New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I think this is a number one pet peeve that guys deal with with girls. And I wouldn't be surprised if this is like an internet meme already. But like girls saying, I don't care where we eat. And then the guy suggests a type of food. And then the girl says, I'm not in the mood for that. And I made a request. And the request was...
Two Parents & A Podcast
New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
If you're going to say you don't care, then you then can't care when I make a suggestion. And if you do care, just give me those outlines. Give me the guidance. Because you don't like to pick. One, if you want to pick, I'm all for you picking. But often you don't want to pick. But if you have limitations, I request that those limitations are voiced.
Two Parents & A Podcast
New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Or else I will pick barbecue every time in this situation. I picked barbecue. You said, I'll eat anything. So I went barbecue.
Two Parents & A Podcast
New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah, I really don't like talking negatively about things or people. But it wasn't good. It wasn't good. It wasn't good.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
The funniest part of it for me was we sat down and then the guy sat down beside us because we were at the bar. And like within, it must have been three and a half minutes, his food was there. And you turned to me and you're like, how did his food get there so fast? And I'm just like, well, it is barbecue, so it can't come up fast. But yeah, I hate talking negatively about this.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
It was so good. I think if I just pull it up, I'll just pull up the office address.
Two Parents & A Podcast
New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
So I may request that we move on.
Two Parents & A Podcast
New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I think if people want to know the name of the restaurant, maybe they can just DM us and we can tell them.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Because I also don't want to be sending people to bad places.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
You know what it wasn't? It wasn't Terry Black's. Terry Black's never misses. They never miss. We should only barbecue at Terry Black's.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Do you want to go first or do you want me to?
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah, to me, the first part of it is like, Obviously, as a couple, we have our down days. We were in a very big fight this morning.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
The fight?
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I'm happy to. I'm happy to, but why don't you take the lead?
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Little Lunch.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I don't know. Like the way I would... rephrase that potentially was because I don't think it was fully clear and so I do want to know because Julie's now learning about this fight for the first time if this is fully clear you woke up and there was something on your mind there was a problem on your mind And I sensed that there was a problem on your mind.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
And so, yes, I was asking questions and trying to problem solve it for you. You did not want to problem solve it, one, at the time, or two, potentially with me. And that was fine. But then where I got... So you started asking more questions. And then I thought you were very, very rude to me.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
back my response yes i was and i apologize for that and i'm very sorry and i felt you unnecessarily lost your temper i feel like we're like no but we're recording all the way through um no no i think it's good though because sorry i'm kind of i'm semi lost okay so i think it was good i think that um and then we worked through it but but we definitely like had um i don't know when we went to berries we didn't talk to each other through the whole class
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Great question. I have no idea. But we walk the canals.
Two Parents & A Podcast
New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
So it's a really good question.
Two Parents & A Podcast
New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
So my mindset was... You being rude to me, because initially I wasn't going to go to Barry's and only you were going to go to Barry's.
Two Parents & A Podcast
New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah, but then you were rude.
Two Parents & A Podcast
New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
You being rude to me shouldn't prevent me from getting my workout in.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
The reason why I moved was because we did get to class late, not because we were fighting, because we were running behind. And I wanted to do the time on the tread, and I missed a lot of the first tread session. So I didn't move because of you, because that's who I wanted to be. If it wasn't where I wanted to be, would I have moved? Maybe.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
yeah but i think like the the important part here is like is when you got a question like i was like we do like have like we do have lows and we do have have fights and big fights sometimes um and we're just normal we're human and i do want that side to be on this podcast and our content more
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Um, cause it, it isn't all just flowers, but the part of the question was to kind of bring the train back on the tracks was if we give the impression we've been together for a while.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I think the Venice canals are really, really cool.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
And I think the reason why we can, why we give that impression is because like we were thrust into a real sink or some environment and we very much learn like, all right, are we going to step up to the plate together and work through things together and
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
and you know and adapt our uh you know lean into the areas where we um you know see eye to eye and the areas we don't see eye to eye are we going to get off our lines and meet in the middle and by get i mean we need to discuss get off your line get off your line is like your your toes are in the sand somewhere on this is how we handle it his toes are on the sand somewhere else
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah, exactly. And it may be the way we want to do things, the way we want to handle a tough situation. And so I think that we went through a lot. Like we went through a fuck ton. And I'm sure at a point in the future, we'll talk about some of the stuff we went through. But we went through a ton. And I think that us going through all of that,
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah. Venice has a really great run club too. It's like massive. Maybe we can find a video that we can put up. The run club starts by running through the canals. And you like take over the canals. The cars can't move. It's like really awesome.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
really was the ultimate deterrent of is it going to push us together and make us closer and almost like season us as a couple or is it going to push us apart and even though it's only been a year and a half is it coming up two years yeah we're about a year and a half november 4th yeah um i feel like we've lived out five years in that year and a half with all the fucking shit we've dealt with
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah. A hundred percent when I knew I knew, but I don't think knowing was enough in the sense where I felt, I felt that, that Like, I don't think us knowing is what led to giving the vibe that we've been together for so long.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I think giving the vibe that we've been together for so long is how much we went through in such a shorter period of time and how much we had to grow together to navigate all of those waters.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
And other things.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Totally.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
And self-reflect on the situations that have occurred and look at how could we have handled those better.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Check our egos. And on that, I do feel like I want to throw in the last caveat. I don't think our relationship is perfect in any ways. We have a lot of down days, but I am really proud of our relationship. And I'm proud of how much we've grown together and how much we work on it. And I think that's a big point. We do work a lot on our relationship.
Two Parents & A Podcast
New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
The look we're getting from Julie is that we probably need to not have... So we record in our basement, you guys, and Maria's above us.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah. Yeah. But I would argue back on that, that I think that all things considered, we do have the perfect relationship.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Even though relationship can't be perfect.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Thank you. Our version.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Is this like... Was that like good, bad? Was that... We're getting a thumbs up from the... Okay. Yeah. I don't know. When we talk about us, I can get cringy because I don't want to like...
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Let's hear it.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
No, no, not a chance. Because the decision, I think, was emotional versus financial.
Two Parents & A Podcast
New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I think the reason why we bought the house was driven by emotion over finances.
Two Parents & A Podcast
New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Okay, elaborate. So if we were just looking at what's the best return on our capital, I would argue that there's much better places to get a return on your investment than the Austin real estate market.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I think if we're strictly looking at like wealth generation, yes.
Two Parents & A Podcast
New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
With where interest rates are, with how much housing prices have ripped over the past couple of years, even though Austin's come in, like... buying a house is expensive and like the numbers don't add up relative to renting in a lot of ways. And I think that, you know, when we talked about, Pitts uses this term of like, I'm sure it's a common term, of like nesting.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
And there's this component of like when you become you know, when you're building your family, you really want to build your, your base and your nest. Um, and ownership like of the home really strikes, um, strikes into that. And so, um, I think it was just, you and I, we'd still be living on the road and living freely. And the focus wouldn't be on nesting.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
The focus would be on, on other, um, on other Ways of growth, if that's not the word I was looking for. So yeah, I don't know. Did that elaborate on it?
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah. And it's also like, you know, it's the, they call it like the American dream, right? Like, and, um, now if we're going to get a little more technical, okay. Had the renting market looked a little different, um,
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Maybe we would have rented, but like the renting market here in the neighborhoods we were looking at was non-existent.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
So it's not more, it's not $5,000 more to buy than it is to rent a month, but it is still more expensive to buy than it would be to rent. And the reason why it's not 5,000, because we bought it lower than the list price. So yeah, like we are paying more than we are renting, not by much, but we do own the asset, which is great. But we're also putting up a lot of capital to own the asset.
Two Parents & A Podcast
New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
So like, once again, it's, you know, gun to head, why are you making the decision?
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
So is that what it is?
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I just had the paranoia hit in. We don't close till Friday.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Disclaimer. Now, we've gone through all the steps that hopefully things should close. But you never know. So... Okay. There's a part of me that hates that we're filming this before we actually have closed.
Two Parents & A Podcast
New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
So maybe we're emancipating this. What are we doing?
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
We're manifesting.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
We're manifesting.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
We're emancipating our house. What does emancipating mean, Jules?
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Look at that history major.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I think that's decapitate.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I do have a question speaking of closing because I did look at my phone and so we have the option. We can close by either we can sign the docs in person or we can sign the docs via DocuSign. Do you want to go in person? What time? Would 2.30 tomorrow work?
Two Parents & A Podcast
New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah. Sorry, Friday. 2.30 Friday.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
All right.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Okay. Amazing. I love it.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
This is like a mega moment for our family. And this is something I've thought about for such a long time.
Two Parents & A Podcast
New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Did we really ever doubt what Jules has to say?
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Oh, I don't know who that is.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Oh, my God. You know, quick little Lori or Nori?
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah, we kissed a lot of frogs.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah, it felt like we went out and dated a bunch of homes.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
We love them. There is a form of gaslighting that I did to myself throughout this process. When the numbers didn't work on this house, I convinced myself that this house was not right. I convinced myself about other neighborhoods. It's crazy. The tricks your mind will play on itself out of an element of
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Nori Minich. Quick little Nori Minich story. Yeah. Nori Minich got us a house gift when we moved in. Do you remember what it was?
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I don't know if it's self-preservation or just like – like I really like – I really had convinced myself. Well, when this house – But like I'm – and now that we're like getting to the finish line, like I'm so happy. Like I feel like I'm a kid waiting for like summer camp to begin. Like I just want this to close so bad. Oh my god.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I'm so confused that we're talking about the stairs. What is our concern with the stairs?
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
So what does that mean?
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Okay, you're gonna... Jules is gonna... I call them death stairs.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
It was a great pepper.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
She could fall through?
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Okay, so are we going to put in like bars?
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I use that pepper every day. And every day I think of your mom, Jules. How? Every single day. Because I use her pepper. It's great pepper.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah, I mean, we can't be having kids falling through the stairs.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
That's a no.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I'm down for kids to not fall through stairs. So whatever needs to be done on that, I don't like, I got to need to revisualize this and like, I'll show you.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Oh my God. Ginny fell through the stairs. Ginny came to our house. Ginny did good.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
She's invited back.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
But things that are more cosmetic in nature versus like structural in nature. But we'll see.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I feel like this is one of those things that is going to be – like that will come across a lot more interesting like kind of in video form like showing people the process as it happens versus like kind of describing it where I think as like a listener, it may be hard to follow. Yeah.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Oh, she's back.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah, I'm having a lot of fun with it. And just because I don't shut up about AI, like... Being able to mock up the vision with AI is... And maybe we'll just put up one image of how we're thinking about things, Jules. It allows you to take your vision and take your ideas and actually put them on...
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
And I show it to him. Oh, whoa. Like, you know, technology nowadays, unbelievable. And you could just see like the wheels turning his head. And I just look at him like, Hey, you know, one thing AI is never going to be able to do. It looks to me, line that fence.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Shout out Nori.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
know what ai is not taking his job yeah it's actually amazing like when you look at like the shift of where you know kids and teenagers get pushed from an education perspective and how many of those traditional jobs are being disrupted right now lawyers accountants etc and when you look at uh so many of the jobs that um are going nowhere
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
their uh manual labor their man yeah like it's it's stuff like the the fencing guy and new roof they're no they're not going anywhere yeah i ain't doing our roof so no we are self-driving though we are doing self-driving cars yeah i i just i swear to god i'm all like yelling at those self-driving cars every time they go they go by me they just they just they're infuriating they're so safe i love them i need to get in one and
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
yeah and that's what it is to do that it's just like wanting you and tate and our future children to just like have a place of comfort and warmth and um yeah i'm i'm really excited about it well i think easter made that special too because it was like our first holiday in our house It's still not our house. I feel like I'm getting like the heebie-jeebies here.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
So there's the, you, you put in the, um, like the offer contract. Okay. And that's what got signed. Okay. That's what got signed like six days ago, the night before the last week's episode.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
And then there's a period of time before the house closes. And normally in that period, you're doing things like inspections, running title, and a couple other matters. We did all that beforehand.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
So a lot of those steps were removed. We did our research or our diligence beforehand.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Um, yes. And then, so the close is actually, yes, the money getting wired and then the closing docs getting, getting signed and like things feel as good as they can. But like, you know, you, you always get the same thing in running business, like until things are signed, sealed and delivered and money's wired, like the deal ain't done. So I, you know, I always operate under, under that mindset.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
She thought I talked too much.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
The loan payments will be split. The renovation you're doing.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
So I need to start clarifying, is it iced coffee or is it cold brew? And maybe I don't like cold brew and I only like iced coffee.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Exactly. Exactly.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yes. I mean, it feels like, and that's obviously, we're talking like the doomsday scenario, which obviously.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
We're not. Oh, wow. I like that.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I think that part of this is like an ode to one of our earlier finance episodes. And I think that one of the pieces of comments or feedback that we got from that episode, and Josie can remind me if this is true or not, was like, people are like, you guys are way too structured with it and it's all going to become one.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
And I think those people deserve their flowers where things have so much become one in that.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah. I don't think there's any rocket science here behind what we did. Like, yes, we took out a loan. Most people take out a loan when they buy homes.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
We put down, uh, more than normal. And, um, there's, there's not much method to it other than, you know, wanting to have a, there's our monthly payments. I wanted to keep them in, in a certain range. Uh, And obviously I wanted to make sure that we were still optimizing for the tax benefits of a mortgage.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah. So like in theory, you should always be running a $750,000 mortgage if you can, because there's tax benefits to it.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Not financial advice.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Pay the insurance.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Property tax, yeah. Up to $10,000 of that is... Tax deductible?
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
So there are tax benefits which like help the grand scheme of the numbers. But yeah, so once again, like renting feels like the more financially responsible decision at this point.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I've tried. What are some words you've tried? Well, I'm invested in this restaurant called Giada. Also have a Venice location. And these guys, they're just like the epitome of cool. When I talk to them, I feel like an ultra nerd. And their vocabulary is as...
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah. Like I think that back to my point on like gaslighting the view of the home, I think that like we convinced ourselves of these things because like we couldn't really have it. And, um, I could see us being in here for a long time.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I don't, I like don't have a view on that other than like, I'm really happy for the foreseeable future. And, um, I don't know what the deal breakers will be, but yeah, I'm, I'm, I think we can, I think we can have a pretty good run in this house.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Thank you.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I felt like we were towards the end there getting a little like kind of.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Young and hip. Whatever way I would describe it would make me seem lame and they'd have a different way to describe it. But every time we talk to them, I try and incorporate the word cap into the conversation. I just don't know how to do it. So now I've been signing off on my emails with them where I'll just write cap at the end. Oh, no, not cap. It's not cap. It's one of the other ones.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
And what's your take on this?
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I totally agree. And I always thought about this from the brand's perspective and not as much from the creator's perspective. But now looking at you and looking at the trust that you built
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
with your community yes i think it is so critical for them to know when you are being paid and when you are not being paid and then i think like very importantly when you're being paid or when when you're using like when you use the brands that you're being paid to use in your real life and like one example i think we talked about last week is like is doordash right like
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Neither of us were really big door-to-door shooters before Bubba. True? False?
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Now we are massive door dashers.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
And so when I see those ads come through, I think it's one, great that when you partner with brands like that. And two, I think important when you're communicating. Then three, when you're actually using it and not, making sure that they're getting their flowers outside of... you know, the paid, the paid integration.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Um, and yeah, I, I think I, I'm a, I'm a huge supporter of very, very clear, um, communication with, with community.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
It's a really interesting perspective to look at it from. Like the company's doing math on what are we going to generate and then viewing that lawsuit as like part of the cost of the campaign. And my assumption is that that lawsuit will likely be covered in large part by insurance.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Um, so like I see it from the company perspective on why they'd want it. and why they'd want to make it seem like um there's a bunch of organic uh consumption of of what they're doing but like yeah i think this is a great example of like the ftc stepping in and doing their jobs because like it's an example of a company that is being like predatory towards understanding consumer behavior um
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Oh, bet. Bet. They always say bet. I'm like, dude, what the fuck? We're not betting. We're not betting. We're talking sandwiches. Yeah, they're the coolest. Also make the best sandwich in L.A. And to be fully, you know, in the business of disclosure, yes.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah, I think just like with this stuff, you got to be transparent. And I think that over the long run, it'll pay for the brands to be transparent. And over the long run, it'll pay for creators to be transparent. And so you never want to see a lawsuit financially. Or it sucks. You hope that the punishment fits the crime in this. But yeah, I'm team disclosure on this one.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
And I think it does... Yeah, I think that the reach with... Yeah, I think the benefits to creators on when they're being transparent or what their real relationship with the brand is, whether they're an owner, whether they're an investor, whether they're an ad partner is critical to keeping the authenticity of what they do.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I didn't DM it to you, but I flagged it as a DM. Okay. And because I wanted to hear your reaction to it. Here we go. And so basically we should put up the thing. But it was a thing called. There's a thing from Reddit. It said my husband started reading to me before bed and I'm the happiest I've ever been. After 13 years of marriage, I'm the happiest I've ever been with my husband.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
We got married very young and I have two boys under three years old. I'm finally out of my postpartum haze feeling like myself again. My husband has always been so supportive and helpful as a dad and husband and we got a lot closer after having kids. Recently, he started reading to me before bed. I asked him about the book he was reading and he asked if I wanted him to read it to me.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
It has been one of the most intimate and special things he's done for me. I look forward to this every night now and already have the next book picked. I don't have this feeling to ever end. What do you think of this?
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Transparency.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
So I don't, I don't know if this is going to work for us. Well, because I'm not a reader.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Which we are going to speak about today.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
The reason why this jumped out to me is because it spurred the thought process of as time goes on and your relationship grows, there's always the focus on finding new ways to bring you together as a couple.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
And so I'm all about trying this. Gun to head, I don't think this one lasts. But I do think we'll find our own version of this.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Like, maybe. Cooking?
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah, cooking. Like, I loved cooking last night.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
But I don't... The show thing is like... I don't like... Like, I think the show thing is passing life by.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Then we're going to talk about the revolve thing.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
And I think that it's about more intentional action. Um...
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah, maybe we'll ask ChatGPT for some ideas, but I... Jules didn't laugh. How did you not laugh, Jules? That was funny.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
No, no, no, no, no. Yeah. I don't have any ideas, but like it got my wheels turning of like, I like this and I want to, I'm sure I want to keep it top of mind to be thinking about new ways to bring us together.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah. And that may be part of it is like go get the change in the change in action. There is like leaving the phone at home. And that really drives like it's so it's so easy to respond to an email, respond to text, doom, scroll, whatever. So, yeah, I don't know.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah, I just can't believe that we're missing Alex Warren on Saturday.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
If we're going to get real for a second, I think that these guys have the ability to go and become the next Jersey Mike's. Their sandwiches are unbelievable. I think the way Sweetgreen built their brand around salads, I think they have that same opportunity in sandwiches. And it's a great experience. It's a great sandwich. They're building it behind a strong product, a really good brand.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Well that Emo's venue I did not like.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Oh my god.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
They moved it. They moved dates.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
And they moved venues to an unbelievable venue, one of my favorites.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Stubbs Outdoor Amphitheater, June 10th.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Oh, my goodness. Huge.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Austin has a couple amazing outdoor theaters. I love Stubbs.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
And what's the other one I really like? Scoot In. Scoot In. Amazing. Yeah. Oh, that's a huge one. We saw Miles Smith at Stubbs.
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Okay. Because I really like the Swedish Hill iced coffee slash cold brew, whatever they sell. But like this is from Two Hands and it just tastes like extremely bitter.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
And I'm happy to be a very, very, very, very, very small supporter of what they're doing.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Bet. Cap is lie. We're not lying. We're betting.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Cap means you're lying.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah, we're betting. We're bettors.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I've never heard them say period. Oh, my God. Excuse female. They call me Brody.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
No, like instead of Brody. Oh, my God. It's so good. These guys are amazing.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah. Ah, Brody.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah, they're the best. But they let me know that I am not in it anymore.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I'm sure they call me like Unk or something.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Well, I'm not like a black hot coffee drinker, so I didn't actually know there was variants.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Interesting.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yes, but I think your perspective I find interesting.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah. I think that when you look at Giada, what makes them so unique is when you look at that sandwich, you can just see the quality. It looks good in real life. It photographs incredibly well. And then most importantly, the taste is... It's the best sandwich I've ever had. So that's like... Yeah. So it feels very different because I think the quality is just...
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
head and shoulders above what Jersey Mike's is. They're doing a great job at scaling.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah, I think they're opening up more and more restaurants. Yeah, they're great guys.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Brodies.
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What are we talking about today?
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That feels on brand for you.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah, I – so Easter is like – somehow I didn't know Easter was a thing.
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Yeah, but this was, I think, a big year for the Fugman family collectively.
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Everyone bought into Easter this year. It's like we woke up and realized the rest of the world's been playing this game that we just haven't paid attention to. So they did a massive Easter thing in Vancouver. But yeah, what?
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Yeah, I didn't realize it was a great holiday. But I also didn't know how it worked.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
So the fact that the Easter egg hunt was at 9 a.m.
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Very, like, shocker. I would have thought that's a 5 p.m. activity.
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So sorry, I'm going to fix my mic. So shocked. I didn't feel any guilt because she got there and she got her outfit on and she was an active participant in the festivities, even though she didn't do the hunt. So I'm surprised that you felt guilt because she got there.
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Yeah, but we forgot. You know me. I'm the worst multitasker in the world, and I think that some of that's revving off on you. We just didn't talk about Easter because we were so focused on getting things done with the house.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
And so, yeah, I didn't really pay attention. But she was there, and I thought it was good, and I thought it was fun.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Shout out resurrection.
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Good. When, when we had our office on Venice, I would go to this coffee shop. Um, it was beside our office. Our office was 11 Brooks Ave. One of my favorites offices that we've ever had. And the coffee shop there was amazing. Oh, I'd love to shut them out, but I forget.
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It was awesome. I want to do it bigger next year.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Well, it's funny because the first like kind of Easter thing I ever did was your uncle Jimmy.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Who hosts like this unbelievable barbecue.
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And this barbecue was like 10 out of 10. So many people. Unbelievable vibes last year.
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I guess this year was canceled.
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But last year, I just thought he was like hosting a barbecue. I didn't realize it was like an Easter barbecue. I thought it was like, oh, like, you know, this is something that Uncle Jimmy does.
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But it was the coolest. Like, that barbecue was fucking awesome.
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
You were in the thick of your, I don't know, do you call it a pregnancy battle?
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
You were in the thick of pregnancy.
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Yeah. Do you think your second pregnancy is going to be as hard as your first one?
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
Are we going to do Q&A first or do you want to do things we DM'd each other?
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New House Q&A: Buying before marriage, splitting costs & what’s next
I'm completely indifferent.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Do you guys actually get baby fever?
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Um, That's when I thought I just really wish I would have bought one or five.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Which means what?
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Oh, because it's house money.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Fugman. Wouldn't you spell that F-O-O-G? Yeah. Foo Fighters. Yeah, ridiculous. Fug Tug. I think it would be Fugman.
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House money is a side – it's a side bet in blackjack. It's the winnings. Yeah. House money. You're paying with your winnings.
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Wegovi and Ozempic are not compounded. actual price depends on product and plan purchased. So let me tell you how seriously we don't take it is yesterday we're doing bath time. We're starting bath time. Harrison's like, I need your laptop and I need your phone and I need 30 minutes of uninterrupted time. And I'm like, what?
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So I give him my laptop and my phone to be as both laptops open uninterrupted. both phones and he's trying to log on to buy some meme coin I think you got that one done and then fast forward to the day we're walking into Barry's and he's like I gotta take my phone and I need to take the bench that's closer to the door in case something happens and I need to leave But we don't take it seriously.
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You're like loving it.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
I actually think it's a real – I was kind of knocking it at first. I got to say I actually think it's really cool that you do it because you're also like an early adopter. Like not everyone is trading meme coins and like sometimes people don't even understand them. And like you're doing it and you're actually making money on it. So I think it's a cool hobby.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Um, yeah, no, I think it's a cool, you're having fun with it. And listen, we're saying this right now because you're up, right. That's not lost on us, but I think it's exciting that you're trying to go down.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
I think Smith is just like.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Yeah, exactly. And one thing you always say is if the smart people are talking about something, you might as well pay attention.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Oh, my God, you guys. The degens. I bet nobody can guess what that word means.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
This morning, he's like, I was kind of in degen mode last night. And I was like, what's degen? He's like, you know, degenerate. And I was like, oh, my gosh.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
So not going to lie, this is the part of you that I've always loved. You are... Like you're into things. You get super into things. Like you were into your fantasy league. You work really hard, okay? So like you really work hard at your job and like you always say you love your job and you work a lot of Sundays and blah, blah, blah. But you also, you don't piddle a lot.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
So like if you're not working, then you're on your fantasy league or you're reading about something or now you're into this crypto stuff or you're always like doing something or you want to go taste some new barbecue or whatever.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Yeah, you're a doer. You're never just sitting rotting watching a TV show.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Activity guy. Big activity guy. Yeah. So, honestly, I like it about you.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
We do. And what I DM'd you was, do guys get baby fever? Yeah. because I saw this video and it was a dad making, like he was saying his wife gets baby fever for like these cute reasons. And he's like, but I get baby fever thinking about training like a D one football player, which I think he was joking, but it did lead me to think, do you guys actually get baby fever?
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
You're in the club showing them your baby and your baby mama.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Like, have you ever gotten baby fever?
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Well, I think Hodges is a great first name.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
I can recap it for you in a very concise way.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Oh, well, I'll recap it for everyone listening. Do you know what baby fever is?
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Yeah, but like really wanting a baby.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Well, okay, but hold on. I'll just do a real quick recap. He was saying like, my wife gets baby fever... Should we not play the clip on the thing? I think that it's going to translate better if I just tell you.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
I think we could really play it as a first name one day. Okay, so I was joking at the beginning, but you gained yourself some followers. What are you at, 11.5? What happened to you?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
He basically was like, my wife gets baby fever, but I get baby fever thinking about my little two-year-old who instead of going on spring break, I'm going to take him to the track and let him run sprints. He's joking. He's doing a bit. And he did a really good job and it was funny. But what I took away from it was the thought of like, wait, do guys actually get baby fever?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
So it's funny that you didn't actually watch it because it made me think. Like you want a second kid, right?
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Yeah, I actually think you do have baby fever.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
You have like, do you know what you have?
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
You kind of have family fever. You don't so much have like, I want a little baby. Girls will also say like, oh, my ovaries are tingling, which I've heard people say as like an ode of like, oh, I really want to have another baby. You don't so much want like the little baby as much as you want to like have a family. But that's also baby fever.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Yeah, sorry.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
And now that I'm thinking about it, I know plenty of couples where the guy's like, I would love to have a baby. I would love to start a family and the girls aren't as into it. So I actually think guys 100% get baby fever.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Do you agree with that? Yes. Okay. So now speaking of baby fever, we're going to talk about friends with babies, specifically the dinner party we had this past weekend, which were all like parent friends, right? Well, actually, so the thing about the dinner party was none of them knew each other. None of the other couples knew each other. What we all had in common was kids around the same age.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Yeah, and the purpose of it was just because like some people DM'd me about it and making parent friends. And one specific person DM'd me saying like we were late bloomer parents and how do you go about making parent friends because it can feel lonely. And I think one of the best things to do is invite over a bunch of people that have babies your age. So like ours, Tate's four months old.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
I think it could be. People are saying your Instagram stories are funny. Also, guys, I am going to just say this really quickly. If Tater does cry because she's always in the room with us and we podcast, we are going to stop. And I'll tell you why we're going to stop. Because a mom DM'd and said her milk dropped. And that's the most real thing on the planet.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
So she's not like walking around or running around, but she is like laying and cooing and sort of like playing with things. And so if you just put a bunch of babies on the ground to do that and then like you guys have fun, like have some wine, have a good meal, like watch football, that makes parenting so fun.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
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And what do you think about like our friend dynamic as a couple finding parent friends? What would you say about it? Cause I would say right now, like we're definitely in the market for like we have, we have some good parent friends forming and that's like one thing that we're looking for. Cause it's always on our mind.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Any type of elaboration you want to make around us making parent friends. Oh, by the way, I love making parent friends. It makes it so fun.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Do you think I take the lead or you take the lead? Cause I think naturally one person takes the lead more on parent or on friends.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
See, I kind of thought you did, but why do you think it's me?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Like if you're breastfeeding and you hear any baby cry, your milk does drop. So we will. For the moms, we'll do a pause.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
You're not going to get in trouble.
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No, I think it's fine if you want to say, do you think I'm pickier? I'm okay with that. Like, because do you actually want to know what I think it is?
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
I think I'm probably more selective with my time right now. So what used to happen in New York per se, I would go out to dinner five nights a week if I wanted to. I would stack a happy hour into a dinner with two different groups of people. So like the amount of people I could contact touch in a week was way bigger than it is now. Now I'll probably go out one night a week to dinner.
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Do you think that's because of the lab-grown ones?
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
So like I am a bit more selective with who that is. And right now I primarily want it to be people that like push me mentally, like make me feel good or they're a parent. Because that's just kind of the area I'm in, like the area of life I'm in. Like I'm really interested in people that have some riz to them.
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Like, I've lived in, this is my fourth city, and so it's like I've made friends, and so my friends here I really want to be intentional about. Like, I actually feel excited about that. Why am I, Julie and I are wondering why Harrison is falling silent. Hello? Hello?
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She's finding her voice.
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Well, no, this, this isn't now, this is a truthful podcast. So what I, if I'm a listener, what I interpreted, you just said, because we can't beat around the bush here. It's like you, did you introduce me to any parent friends? Like I'm trying to think, but I guess like you're kind of saying without saying that you did and I didn't like them. I don't think that's it.
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Cause I can't really leave people here that I've met that I don't like.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
But I'm also like on Instagram and like going to events and things like I'm also meeting people, I guess. So yeah, I guess I am. Like I invited the people over on Saturday. Is that what you mean? If there's something else that you mean, you should say it because if I'm listening to this, I think I'm wondering. H, if you've got something to say, you can say it. I can take it.
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You grew your social following. You went above 10K. You ran right past it.
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Think that... Your silence is deafening.
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I think that you should say it.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Do you get more opinionated with friends?
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
I might be. We can talk through that if you want to. Like, do you think that or no?
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Oh, well, the listener question was, we're late bloomer parents. How do you go about finding parent friends? So I asked you, who do you think takes the lead on finding parent friends, me or you?
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But what was that thing you wanted to say?
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quince.com slash alex, Q-U-I-N-C-E. Okay, I've actually now, so the person that also submitted this specific listener question said, I don't know how to take my nerdy attorney husband places. Do you know what I responded back and I said?
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That's what I said. I said, Harrison would love your husband.
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Okay. What do I always tell you? Number one, who has thicker skin than me? Not many people. Number two, hit the nail on the head. So finally, ladies and gentlemen, we got it. I'm pickier, but Harrison's more dynamic. So you can put Harrison in any situation. And you will thrive. And do you know that, again, it is another thing. Why am I complimenting you so much on this podcast?
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I get it. I get it. But let me go. You truly, truly, there have been times where topics have been brought up that I've thought I need to Google that. And you're like, oh, yeah, I just read like seven articles about that. And you know about it. Honestly, do you know actually the person that you don't get along with? Like a boring person that doesn't have much to say.
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You don't. There's not a lot of people. I'm trying to think. Yeah, you have like the most interesting roster of friends on the planet. You have some like real sports guys, some like crypto tech, some longevity, some business law to entrepreneurs. You also love people with polarizing opinions, like different opinions than you. You love that.
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Okay, all right. You do understand that I'm okay... I don't know that I'm necessary. I think I'm picky kind of. I think I really get along with a lot of people. Like I really just do think that. And I like a lot of people. I am more selective with my time right now. So I am being pickier with who we do hang out with. I can get behind that.
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This is not a kiss each other's ass moment.
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Well, no.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Well, no, I don't actually think that's a fair assessment.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Here's my problem. I don't know if this is accurate or maybe I just feel it because I'm being hypersensitive to it. But I don't think I'm hard on people when I meet them.
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But in New York and in L.A., that wasn't the case at all because I had so much more time. So like I'm kind of okay with this. I just want to really preface that like I'm not hard on the interactions that we're having.
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I think every single person I've actually met in Austin I have sincerely liked.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Cause I'm not going like, you know what I mean? Like right now, if I'm going, I'm taking Tate and that's, that's like a tough thing to do.
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Yeah.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Well, I would like one, I would like to say something. Yeah. Speaking of friends, you are, I'm literally developing mastitis in my left boob. So like this, this episode is actually going to be like, not it's, we're going to rant. We're going to, we're going to, What's it called? Close it out here soon.
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But I really want to talk to you about... Friends, you're going on a bachelor party this weekend. And I wanted to ask you what you thought about going on a bachelor party as a dad. As a dadder.
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I got out of a workout class and I checked Instagram and Harrison, you had just dropped a bottle on the floor and shattered it. And here's the thing. Like I don't produce. too much breast milk. I produce just enough breast milk. If I go to a two hour event, I've prepped and I leave you with one bottle. So my heart shattered, pun intended, when I saw that milk. I was like, oh, no.
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Basically, it's nice you got it out of your system.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
At one point. It's nice to go on these things knowing you got it out of your system, I think.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Do you also know that I guys trips? I think it's nice becoming a dad having gotten it out of your system. And by it, I mean just like all those wild times because you were so ready for this chapter as was I. Yeah, that's the summation.
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Yeah. That's fair. And I think that naturally happens when you get married in your 30s, which I think is really nice. Do you know the perfect parlay right here? Yeah. The next chapter segment is brain break. And brain break today is diamond. Speaking of weddings, the cost of diamonds is down 27%. Okay, we're getting a pause. We're getting a hold.
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46%, not 27.
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A well-prepared man.
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Do you think that's because of the lab-grown ones?
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
I thought his question to me was going to be, which one do you want? I think I want a real one. I don't actually know that I care. I haven't really researched it too terribly much. So what do I think of lab grown diamonds? I don't know. I need to see them side by side. Because here's the thing. I think diamonds are a classic thing. I think they are timeless. I think they are beautiful.
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I think that the clarity of them, I think all those things are like precious. I want to pass it down to Tate, X, Y, Z. So I'm inclined to say I go real diamond there. But I do feel very strongly about this, to each their own on these things. Like, I really think if you want a lab-grown – you get that lab-grown diamond. Like, and it's beautiful.
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Because I also think the symbol of somebody giving you a diamond for, like, those purposes is really sweet as well, no matter what it is.
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Yeah, I'm really for whatever fits you.
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I think I'm a real diamond girl. Welcome back to another episode of Just Alex. I'm in the presence of greatness. I'm in the presence of a world-renowned influencer. Thank you for being here today, Harrison. I cannot believe with your busy new schedule as a talent, just a talent, that you were able to carve out time to be on my podcast. I really appreciate it. Thank you for the bottom of my heart.
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Good. I think I'm with you. I'm a real diamond girl.
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Depends on what?
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
What does it depend upon? I'm kidding. All right. Well, my boob was like... The left side is actually leaking.
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You had a surprise brain break topic. Would you like to surprise us?
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Well, we had two, so now what?
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What gift?
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Oh.
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Me too, because... I mean, why are you unhappy?
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They don't fit. So now we're doing city boots.
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It's so funny. A lot of times you and I are on the exact same wavelength because I had this thought yesterday when you put on those white tennis shoes and I was like, what are those shoes? Because I got you those white tennis shoes but I'm returning them.
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No, actually that's what I have in the car. I have the label and everything.
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You also like gifted me Miraval. And I'm like, when are we going to do that? This is what I was thinking about. Like, are we ever actually going to buy those boots again? You know, like, are we going to follow through with it?
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It's not that I didn't like them because I picked them. Like I said, I love these boots. They don't fit right.
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They don't fit right.
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I totally agree. Well, no, no, no. I don't want to do it all together. I love like presents under the tree. We're not going to go do it together. That really removes the magic. I know how you'd want to do it.
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I know what you do.
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Because you're a logistics guy. You would rather me go to the store, pick it out with you, and you would wrap it. I don't want to know what's under the tree.
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I know, except for... Oh, you liked your Alo's workout stuff.
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You don't think they're comfy but you like them.
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But I told you that they were.
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Oh. Yeah, listen, we ended up going to Deer Valley and the gifts part got like, they went amiss.
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What?
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I'm just hearing about this now.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
He's doing this thing where he does on Instagram where he tells me he did a problem on Instagram. Now you're using the podcast to tell me you didn't like my Christmas presents.
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I just think you're cuter than the workout gear you're wearing right now. Harrison wears Fabletics, which no hate to Fabletics, but I do think we can do better.
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He has matching Fabletics outfits. It was time for an upgrade. So listen, I think you have good legs and I wanted you to wear the shorter shorts. So I got them for you.
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Well, we can go back and get you something different. As long as they're the five-inch shorts. I like those on you.
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No, not at all.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
I mean, the thing, it's actually funny you bring it up because, like, I did wonder when we were going to get the boots, if we were going to get the boots, and then I, like, felt bad bringing it up. But I would love my boots. They're sick.
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They didn't fit. Like that's the real world.
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No, no, no.
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Well, there are things I do want. Like, I don't think, I actually don't think I'm hard to shop for. It's the irony of it all.
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Really?
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Well, I mean, I could think of, I could tell you a couple things I need. Not need, but love.
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I'll give you a hint. Let's see if you can get it. Yeah. A lot of weddings coming up.
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No.
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Yeah. Evening bag.
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I need a I do need I'm going to get a wedding guest bag, you know, like an evening bag that matches winter and summer.
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Oh, it's so cute. It's black. But no, that's not an evening bag. I mean, that's not a wedding bag. Yeah, I'm proving his point. Okay, I'll get the bag. I'm going to take care of it myself. Thank you. I know what I'm getting you for Valentine's Day.
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Well, my favorite part about having a baby with you is that I really want to get you something and I already got it.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
so now tate she gets whatever she wants but she also can't say what she likes and not like she just wants milky do you know how upsetting it was for you not to not like those boots but you guys listen to me please listen to me if you're listening obviously you're listening i love these boots i kept telling you i love these boots i have a really high arch i could not get my foot in them
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No, no, no. I love the boots. I can't get my foot in them.
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Well, because, listen, I have a pair of Lou Casey's, and they're the short pair, and I know how they fit, and I know the taller pair, they're not going to fit.
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I love them, though. It was really sweet of you to get them. Like, it was very, like, that's not lost on me.
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But way to make lemonade out of lemons with the bottle drop. You said, I can't tell Alex I dropped the bottle. I can't text her a photo of this. But what I can do is Instagram it.
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Well, that's what these sales associates should realize. It's always the most unassuming guy in the store.
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all right how those boobs doing they're really hurting and we do have a listener question and please submit your listener questions i'm just gonna the i just i can't i love you guys but this this left boob if you know you know it hurts and so we're gonna sign off um love you guys the rebrand i'm a i'm a broken record on this it'll be one day but only until it's perfect so stay tuned for the rebrand love you guys thanks for listening
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And then I had fun messing with you. Just being like, he's taking a photo for his new followers. Because you're kind of in on your own joke, but kind of not.
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So you basically bet that it would not get banned.
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What kind of handbag?
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Like a Birkin bag?
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Brutal. What would you have won?
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So the odds were 10 to 1?
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And what's crazy about it, it wasn't even off that long.
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Are people, like, is anybody mad that bet like you? Like it was only, it was like gone for what, 12, 13 hours? What do you mean?
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Yeah.
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And is there anything they could do about that though if enough people like wrote in or caused an uproar?
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Welcome to the Just Alex podcast. Ladies and gentlemen, give it up for Harrison Bugman. Leave me alone. It's funny because you hate it. You kind of hate it.
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I don't want to beat a dead horse, but I couldn't believe it actually got banned. Additionally, it was like a fake ban. It was just like, hi. You could just totally tell they were going to be right back.
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It was like a BRB.
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It was like an away status for a second. I just opened it. I was like, you will totally be back. By Tuesday was what I thought.
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I wanted to ask you what you thought about going on a bachelor party as a dad.
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They should have just held on to it a little longer. Like they didn't.
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I didn't like it on Reels for that moment. It was too crowded. My algorithm on Reels was just instantly fucked up. My reels, like my TikTok knows me and it knows what I want to see. My reels, I was like, have we met? What are these videos?
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They were serving me these videos that I, it was like I had just created a username. Like I'm a pretty active reels scroller. And I was getting served like lips, like these like really weird lips on a person doing like infected lips.
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That's just not my algorithm. Then I got on big truck TikTok. This guy that drives like a, not TikTok, oh my gosh, big truck reels, like this guy that drives like a massive truck. And I just thought, I think that they got so overcrowded they just started giving random people.
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What was your algorithm?
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Babies? Dads? Did you run the dad algorithm?
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Yeah, Harrison's like still says error.
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That's honestly kind of nice though.
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A crypto thing?
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No.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Yeah. I'm sorry. It's really bad time. But with a baby, time is precious. So we got to do this and then feed. I know. I'm really sorry. Okay.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
All right. So speaking of you getting a text, now we're going to go into my favorite segment, things we DM'd each other. First up to bat is you bought a... Like a meme coin. And Trump and Melania made meme coins. And you bought them. I don't really want to dive so much.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Well, I'll give you guys an example. Say Toyota.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
You DMed me a meme coin.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
The Donald made himself a meme coin.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
The story that I want to tell about it.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Exactly. There it is right there. There you go. So we have we get it.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Sorry.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Right. Yep. So I want you to tell the story about the time that you bought your first meme coin. Okay. Your ROI was absurd.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
What's your disclaimer?
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Cabo, Mexico.
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Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Okay, because you buy one and then you see what happens with it.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
Yeah, that night.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
I'm only going to say this to you once.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
She is a ticking time bomb. And so am I today. Because now my tits hurt. And I'm starving. So I'm not fucking with you on these redos in the middle of this.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
So you can retell your story, but it's your only one. Okay, no, do not cut that. That's fine. We can leave that in. Do not cut that. Let's keep going. We won't cut that.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
My tits hurt.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Friendships after parenthood, lab grown diamonds & do guys get baby fever?!
You didn't know if Tate was hungry?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Okay.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
You were watching that show last night. Ready? Okay.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
I agree. Like, I'm not a good builder. I agree with that. But, like, I like project management.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
No, I'm not building it myself. Okay. i i'm taking the dimensions and i'm giving them to pro source who is building it for us harrison you told me you were gonna do it well that's what you meant by you were gonna do it kind of yeah it's not doing it
Two Parents & A Podcast
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And he's like, oh, I didn't think that you were dairy-free because when you were here on Saturday night, because we were there three nights earlier, you ordered the chicken, which is absolutely covered in butter or dosed in butter. One of the two things. Yeah.
Two Parents & A Podcast
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Yeah, I think it's kind of fair. I think initially I thought like maybe I was actually going to scope it out, but then I was at ProSource and I was like, if I give you the dimensions... Can you do it? Like, can you build it? Like, yeah, like easily. So I think the difference of what's happening...
Two Parents & A Podcast
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is right now i think a lot of people like bring on a general contractor and then the general contractor like coordinates with all the trades people and what i've been doing is doing it all direct and i'm like serving as the de facto gc where rich okay proceed I think we should try it this way. And if it works, we should keep doing it this way. And if not, we'll bring in the GC to do it.
Two Parents & A Podcast
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It is so much cheaper to do it this way. Our floor quote. Okay. So let's run through it. So I had a contractor quote out a bunch of the different things. And for that cabinet upstairs, the storage cabinet, they quoted me $5,500. Okay. Okay. By going direct, $700.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah, so $4,000.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Well, it comes fully built.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
They're going to ship it as fully built and we'll just push it right in. In theory. In reality, it may not work out that way.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
The floors, yeah, I'm dealing with the color matching. I'm doing it all. Okay. I don't know if I'm doing it right, but I'm doing it all. The floors, do we give the price on the floors or not give the price on the floors?
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Okay. We are quoted $25,000 for our floors upstairs by working direct with our floor man. And I'm going to call him out. His name is Royce the Floor Guy.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah. Yeah.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
You know what? Let's say $12,500 for that.
Two Parents & A Podcast
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Because I want to like bump it up so that way if people go to Royce, he makes a little more margin.
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Yeah.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
So long story short, like things are 50 to 75% cheaper and yeah.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
But I thank you. But we don't know yet. I think we got to look at how do the floors go and how does the cabinet go? And then I think if things go well there, then I can proceed with. the wall in the basement, the bar and wine cellar and all that stuff. So I don't want to commit to too much.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
I like learning things. I really like learning things and this is just... You're having fun doing it. Yeah, and I think that... what this will ultimately tell me and us is like for, what we buy next, right? We talk all about like we want to get a vacation home eventually.
Two Parents & A Podcast
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When we buy a vacation home, do we want to buy something where there's some work to be done because we actually like the process? Or do we want to buy something that's totally done where there's zero back and forth? Because I think a big part of this is going to be like, what is our dynamic through it? Like, do you like how it turns out? Do you hate how it turns out?
Two Parents & A Podcast
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Do you like or hate how I'm doing things? And so like, I think it's a really good just kind of testing ground for the future of like what our kind of home and real estate situation looks like.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
I'm very excited to flash forward four weeks to see how did the floors come in and how did the cabinets come in.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
And are they done in four weeks or are we so off? Which reminds me, I need to email the cabinet dimensions.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Okay.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah. Joe. Joe. Joe. Joe the electrician.
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And I listened to you because you're like, the first thing I want done is this electrician stuff. And what do we do right away?
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We're working.
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Yeah. So big point for the non-dairy free.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Well, I'm a pro alcohol guy.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah.
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Burr.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah. Um, I just wonder if what we're, what we need to get to right now is like, all right, what happened? What was the conversation and where are we at today?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
So, um, I guess it was, was it? Yeah. I think it was Wednesday of last week. You alluded to it, but you were just like, I really think that we should start drinking less. And you, as you'd alluded to, you'd been on that path for a while. I hadn't because like we had the whole Miami thing and, which rolled right into my mom coming into town.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
And so we were, we were out, um, you know, we were out having dinners probably like eight or nine out of straight days, minus maybe one or two nights in. Um, and it, it landed like when you brought it up, it landed. I felt like we'd over swung on, um, On the balance side of the spectrum.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
I don't think cooked butter is a thing, but I will not.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
And it's time to cut back and put a little more structure behind things and set some goals and limitations on how much we are drinking. So you brought it up. You didn't bring it up in an attacking way. right? Which I think is really important. Like I didn't feel defensive. Um, and yeah, I think we needed more balance around alcohol.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
It's cold in here. That was a great movie.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
I think you've actually delivered on that balance and have been delivering on that balance. And now I'm, I'm starting to, to deliver on it.
Two Parents & A Podcast
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No, but there was, between the Miami trip to my mom coming into town, we were probably out for dinner eight out of ten nights in a row.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Okay. And home by nine 30.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
So not out late, but like we were, we were having a lot of dinners out.
Two Parents & A Podcast
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Yeah.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Okay, I actually think that there's something very, very key that you did.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
You said, I think we should start drinking less, and you didn't say, I think you should start drinking less.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
I think if you said, I think you should start drinking less, I would have felt attacked. And the reality is that when we started talking about it, I clued in like, hey, you've actually cut it back a lot.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah, so... Yeah, props to you for just like not, yeah, for delivering it in a very friendly way. And I don't want this to come off like I have a drinking problem. Is it? Okay, good.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
I just like to drink.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
But I think it is actually a good parlay into what the game plan is right now, which I don't think is a question, but I think we're kind of talking all about, hey, we're pairing it back. What does that mean? And so the target, right?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
So you want to keep on your current path, which is?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Or apple sprints.
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Okay.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
And are you trying to limit how many nights in the week you're drinking?
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Okay.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
I'm trying to do two nights a week, but within those two nights, like I'm not, I don't want to put limits on myself as much as it feels right.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
But the parameter that I'm trying to put on myself is nights of the week. And that's two.
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But it was a different type of fun.
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And it was a type of fun of, it was like a very Yumi Tate weekend and, um, very home centric and, and I loved it.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
I think it has a good effect on our relationship. I think that when we drink, it opens up a different type of conversation that we have. And I love our conversations like we had today at Meteor. And I love our conversations when we go for dinner.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
That is fair. So I love the conversations that we have when we go somewhere and I do conference calls the whole time.
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And I'm hammered. Talk to myself. No. No, but you get what I was saying. Like, I think that I love, I think that it has a positive effect on our relationship. To me, it's actually like the other parts in life, which is why, which is, which is why I want to pair it back. And that's like quality of sleep when we get up in the morning, like productivity and efficiency.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
So to me, cutting it actually doesn't have to do with our relationship.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
It has to do with the other facets of life. I love being drunk with you.
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Yes. Yes.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah. I think we're just on the same page here.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah, I've taken over night duty sober after a few drinks. And like very happy to. You owned it at the beginning. And obviously, I think as we'd said, because you were breastfeeding in the middle of the night. And so I would take over in the mornings. But now also in the mornings, we used to do bottle feeds. And now you're doing breastfeeds in the morning.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
And I've actually noticed something about your breastfeeds in the morning.
Two Parents & A Podcast
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I've noticed that Kate's connection to you. So you've been doing morning breastfeeds, what, for the past month? I've noticed that her connection to you has increased over that month.
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I think that she has a significant preference to you over me right now. And I think beforehand, it was a lot closer. If we really need to calm her now, I think that she needs to go right to you. When I look at where's her attention being paid to in the room...
Two Parents & A Podcast
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Well, there's a lot of great compartments in the car. So I think that we should have the front compartment like in the passenger seat.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
there's a like there's an attention and a focus to you and like the the pivotal thing that i noticed it may or may not be true or when the change occurred was when you started breastfeeding her in the mornings maybe i'm totally making that up but fascinating though that you know like that you you um drew that conclusion but what does she what what does she keep saying dad dad dad dad yeah but she doesn't know she's saying it yeah she does she knows it's you when i point at you and say dada she smiles
Two Parents & A Podcast
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But I'm attentive to what she's doing and how she's interacting with me and the people around her. So her relationship with Maria, for example, is very different today than it was four to six weeks ago.
Two Parents & A Podcast
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yeah and she like you know she really like leans into her now versus in the early days like if you were i would come in the room there was definitely like a bit of a no question an inclination yeah or like when we leave the room right when we leave the room she would get sad but now i know it's good um and that's not a shot at marie at all that's just like her you know in her developmental process or whatever
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
The glove box. Thank you. I think the glove box at the bottom, there's a bottom section and a top section. I think the bottom section should be all diapers and wipes for Bubbers. And then I think the top section should be toys and passies for Bubber.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
The way I'm thinking about it now is, would the experience that we're going to be exponentially more fun if we're drinking? And if the answer is yes, then that is when I want to drink. So like we have this concert coming up next Thursday.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
I think that will be more fun with us being drunk. I am very excited for that night. But like last night at dinner on a Monday night, there's just no need. So I'm kind of looking at it on an event or a moment-by-moment basis.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah. And one thing we held back from the pot at the time is we put an offer in on that house and And we didn't want to say that we were putting offers in on other houses because we didn't, I think.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
There was some rumor that the person selling the house was listening to the podcast.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Who we love. The seller we love. Yeah. Oh my God, now I feel bad. But there was some shakiness to the deal and we needed a backup plan.
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She would get it.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
She's a businesswoman. She gets it. So there were two other homes that we put offers in on. Two? Two. And when push came to shove on the other homes, that was the delineating answer of why we didn't budge and why we pushed through to make this work. Okay. I'm just like running through my brain right now. Like, is there anything that we could get in trouble with?
Two Parents & A Podcast
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And that way, because I find so often we get in the car and we're like, where are your toys? And we forget them. And that way she'll have toys for like, she'll have dedicated car toys.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
And like, no, like we're fully closed. Oh, we also closed on the extra land.
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Yeah. So that's exciting too.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
I think I just talked. did i like what you have to say um okay how do you how do you and harrison maintain a social life drinking and being parents did that affect any of your friendships well don't let me stop you i think making new friends sober is very hard oh i think that like dinner last night with the neighbors completely sober non-event i think if that was someone we like hadn't met before
Two Parents & A Podcast
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little icebreaker get things loose and flow in it's better night why why it's just a question why are we laughing at me oh we're just laughing it's just funny um okay but jules jules you just stared me dead in the face while you said it yeah why did i i didn't mean to because i'm sober and i have no friends
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Jules is swimming with her friends.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
I still haven't been to Barton Springs. Did you go to Barton Springs again?
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Okay.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Let's hear.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Oh, she loves remote controls.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah, I think that inherently like if my friends were the activities are more drinking oriented, you'll inherently see less versus your friends that like the activities are less drinking oriented. Yeah. I have a sauna friend where the last eight times we've hung out, we've done saunas. You have a walking friend. I have a walking friend.
Two Parents & A Podcast
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She's probably my number one walking friend. Most of my walks are just with Bubba.
Two Parents & A Podcast
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Yeah, I love a walk and talk.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah. It's all about balance and making sure your partner is getting what they want. So...
Two Parents & A Podcast
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Yeah. And I would say if that situation was reversed and you came to me and I think your messaging to me would be super important to how I reacted.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
I think that... if you came up to me and you said, Hey, I think that we should, when we go out balance things, 50, 50, where some nights, um, where half the nights, you know, I take the lead on responsibility and half nights, you take the lead on responsibility. I'm like, yeah, that makes a lot of sense. And it sounds like a great idea versus if you came to me,
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And you're like, you know, it's been six months. And for the past six months, all you've done is when we go out, you drink and I have to sit there and take care of the kids.
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I would just like, I'd feel, I'd feel attacked.
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Yeah.
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And I don't know what that says about me, but like how I'd like to hear things. Cause I do want to hear it direct, but I don't want to feel attacked.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
A great Tom Pitts line is like you never want – he always says you never want to take the wind out of someone's sails. Love that.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah. So that's my reaction to that.
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Not Ginny. Ginny doesn't watch TV. Yeah, Ginny doesn't do remotes. Ginny doesn't do screen time, okay?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Well, I'm going to let you go because I added something to talk about at the top of the episode.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Tate doesn't do screen time. It's bad for her mental health.
Two Parents & A Podcast
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You're the host.
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And are they are they the largest lobbyer? Of this? Or they're one of the largest, apparently?
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Okay.
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Yeah.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
If this is true, it is so fucked up. It's so... You're just so fucked up.
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And I can't believe that a company would plant their stake in the ground on something that has such a negative effect on women. And I think that one of my biggest takeaways watching you go through the postpartum experience was like three months in,
Two Parents & A Podcast
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I'm very proud of you for buying the car.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
being like this is when the standard maternity leave would end and being like in what world are our women expected to go back into the office just after this short 90-day period and it feels like as a society maternity leave needs to be significantly longer and we also need to
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I would think have like an adjusted, like have it not be so black and white where like your maternity leave ends and you're expected to be right back in the office. Like one of our friends who just had a kid, they're expected after 90 days to be back in. And like, how are we not something later, like six plus months?
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And then how do we not have like a flexible return to work program where for the then following six months up until 12, you're working from home um, or in the office as, as you see fit. So like, I think that this is, I was thinking historically, like the way we, the societies, um, expectations around maternity leave are fucked up and they're way too short.
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And to find out that there's corporations like Nestle that are apparently putting money into this, um, That, to me, is as wrong as it gets just to support their products. And I'm surprised in today's day and age with how much information or how easy it is to get information out there that this hasn't come to light in a larger way.
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Yeah.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah, well, I look at what you went through and the other mothers that I know gone through. Obviously, it's different for everyone. Of course. But like that 90-day period seems so upside down. I never understood how we got there. And if it's because there's big corporations lobbying for that 90 days to be the expectation – then there needs to be a level of accountability that they hold.
Two Parents & A Podcast
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And I'd love to... Let's hold them to it.
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What do you mean? What do you mean pull a list?
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
And who's lobbying for shorter maternity leave?
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah, and I don't give a fuck that Nestle's maternity leave is long. That to me even makes it more twisted because they know what they're doing is fucked up.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Okay, theirs is good. And I also want to know, is it publicly disclosed how much money they put towards this?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
I feel like this is a time where the internet can do some investigative work and help us get to the bottom of these tactics.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Maybe some ex-Nestle employees. Curious to learn more.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
I just... I look at how much like time and effort and energy you put into motherhood and like... you always hear like it's a full-time job and I didn't understand it until you actually see it. And yeah, I hope that we can... Yeah, it's unfair.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Niter, my brother-in-law, he's got a whole method for car negotiation and he really wanted us to do it. He was very upset that we didn't do it. And so the way that he says the best way to get a great deal on a car is you go and you find every dealership in the state and in the surrounding states.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah, we did. I don't know my take on this.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah, I don't know my take on this.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
But then, so the counterpoint to it would be, I feel like not during those times, if there wasn't anything good on, you'd end up just watching a bunch of garbage.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Friends on Thursdays, 6 p.m.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
It's my favorite.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
I think. Moments. Yeah. The Rugrats.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Rugrats was a classic.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Loved Friends, loved Magic School Bus.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
But I do like, man, I kind of like the setup right now. I like how there's some shows online that you can just binge watch through and through. I love how some of the networks are doing the Friday drops. No, but you like it as an adult.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
I don't know. You could like buy them via VHS. I don't know if I agree with this take.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
The thought of how great that setup was.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Well, curfew. Did you have to be home before dark?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
I don't think I had a firm curfew until like the later years of high school. And then I think I needed to be home at like 11 or 1130 or something.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
I think my parents knew where I was at that point.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Jules, help me.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah, we didn't.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
We, like, didn't really play with our neighbors. Like, we were, like, at home or on playdates.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Like, I didn't, like, go, like, wandering around the neighborhood. Like, that wasn't a thing.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
And you email the dealerships the exact specs, the exact car that you're looking for, and you ask them for their best price. And then you take the lowest price that you get and you shop it to every other dealer. Yeah. And then they price match. And then when you get that lowest price, you just keep trading down and trading down. And eventually you find your floor.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah. Like I think that this neighborhood we live in now is going to be much more that vibe where like Bubba just kind of like goes and needs to be back. But for us, like, yeah, we didn't play with anyone really directly that lived by us. So if I was at a friend's house, I'd probably need a car to get there. And so my parents would like know where I was.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
okay okay this is making a lot more sense yeah so they would drive you so then they would come and get you yeah or like if i had a friend over yes like we'd come in for dinner or the friend parent would pick them up at a certain time so okay that's cool that was probably a boring explanation of things well let's expedite it right now to what you dm'd me which is a night song what did i dm you i don't even know yes you do what did i dm you about your night song that you want to start
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Ooh, yes. So why don't you explain what I DM'd you?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Okay, I DM'd you a video of a mom that talked about how every night before bed she plays a song to her kid and now that song has turned into a natural sleeping pill for the kid. And we have done nothing like this for Tate. And I would love to start it.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Well, kind of a bit, a little bit of an obvious tip, but something that we just, but no, it's not obvious.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Oh, like rage against the machine.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Do you want, can you play Jules?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Rage against the machine. I feel like that's how it goes.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
PG version, Jules. This is a parenting podcast.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
My, the, the best, uh, like intense metal song was, uh, do Haas by Ramstein. That's what we would get pumped. Uh, that's where we get pumped up in the hockey dressing room.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Do you know? Do Haas. That was amazing. All right. This, I feel like this is the point in the, uh, episode that we wrap things.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Thank you for listening.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
And once you find your floor, you go to your local shop and you have them do it. And now you can walk out with it on the spot.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
I'm not going to talk about how I think it's now in our routine of restaurants.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah. He was so upset with me that I didn't do it.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
I liked our guy.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Do they really?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
They were great. They were all great.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
I'm not going to talk about that because of how good their chicken and fries is. I'm going to talk about what happened last night at dinner.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah. I just, I think what's really cool about the process is like you've wanted this for so long and you worked hard for it. And, um, And it was just great to see you get something that you talk so much about. You would talk so much about and you like so much.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
And I'm not a car person, but you're turning me into a car person a little bit.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
It is. It is.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
And I'm going to do something that you hate when I do. And Julie hates when I do. And P hates when I do. But I have a bit of a car secret that I'm not going to tell today. Yep. I have a car secret.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
No, you actually know it, but we're not going to talk about it yet.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
No. Oh, that. I do want to put pink on the car.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah. I want a little ode to Bubber on the car. So we'll pretend that that was it and then we'll move on.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
No, but there's something in development. Wow. We'll say that. We'll say that.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Is that my hint? We'll say that.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Whatever. We're good. It served its purpose.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
So... I don't know if I like that we're starting in this angle, but I guess I'm the one who put it here. So last night we go for dinner with the neighbors and my sister who's in town. And the guy comes and he's like, any allergies? There's kind of some jokes that are made and whatever. And then everyone orders and Alex gets a fish and the fish is covered in some sauce.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah. I'd really love another iced coffee right now. It's really too bad that I drank that one so fast.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
I just, we finally got that brand I like. Le Cologne does the good canned ones.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Really?
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Okay, I'm going to run really fast.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
So I'll just... I'm only doing this because my energy in the episode will be better.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yes, here we are.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Thank you.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Well, to be very specific about what happened, I didn't ask for the discount at the dealership. I would have felt awkward doing that. What I did is when he gave us the price and we knew everything was in stock, I left and I texted him.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Ready.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
And I was like, hey, what's the best price you can do? And he's like, I'll knock down X. And then I said, all right, if you can do that minus Y, we got a deal done. And he said, done. So there was a lot of negotiation beyond that, which makes me think like there was more room to go. I think so too. But it is what it is. And we were in there three times.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
And I think that I really think that they worked like he worked for it. So I think the commission was well-deserved.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Okay. I'm not even sure if we're allowed to talk about this.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah. So what we do is we typically partner with restaurants that have cult-like followings and we have them do the seasonings for flock. And so our barbecue flavor is done by Terry Black's. That is not why I think it's the best barbecue in the world.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Our spicy hot Nashville is done by Hattie B's. Okay. That is not why I think it is the best spicy hot chicken in the world. I actually want to tell the stories of those two. I actually think it could be interesting.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
So I was in Nash. It all started. I was in Nashville and I was in line at Hattie B's. And like the vibe was amazing. And I was like so excited to try it. And I sat in and I took a bite of the chicken burger. I was like, this thing is amazing. And I sent while I was sitting in the restaurant, I sent a message to to the guy who runs it. And I was like, hey, I'm sitting in your restaurant right now.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
I love everything about it. I love the vibe. I love the food. Our customers have been asking us for a spicy yacht in Nashville. I would love to partner and collaborate. So we sent them the flock and they loved it and they've been an amazing multi-year partner. And then it was probably three or six months after I was on a trip in Austin and I was in Terry Black's and exact same thing.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Like wait in line, go through it, sit down. Like this place is marvelous.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
and sent them the exact same message of like i'm sitting here in your restaurant and like i love it and i think there's a there's a great partnership to be done here and sent it they they enjoyed enjoyed flock and uh they've also been a great a great multi-year partner And so that is kind of what set it off.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
And she says, you know, hey, like, I think there's dairy. She calls the waiter. I was like, hey, unfortunately, I think there's dairy in the sauce. I think it's a butter-based sauce.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
And then we get a lot of feedback from our customers because we have a pretty sizable part of our business is e-commerce. And so we do a lot of surveying on what flavors people want. And Buffalo is one of our most requested flavors. And we're brainstorming on who to do our Buffalo flavor. And there's a bar in Buffalo called Anchor Bar and they created the Buffalo Wing.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
No, they created the Buffalo Wing, not the Wild Wing. Buffalo Wild Wing is a restaurant.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yes. And funny enough, during the Super Bowl last year, I ordered, because Anchor Bar you can get off Gold Belly.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
I ordered Anchor Bar to your house.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah. And so Anchor Bar. Oh, you've always loved this. We're launching a flock Buffalo flavor with Anchor Bar. So we're really excited about that. We're going to go up to Buffalo. We're going to do a big launch party around one of the Bills games. So.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah. We'll bring you in Bubber.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
Yeah. I like these ones because it.
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Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
um no we don't have it we're in product development now amazing so like the deal is done but the ink is dry the ink is dry and now we got to get the flavor right so cool but i'm confident in in the teams working together and making it taste amazing okay i'm smelling wings for some reason we could do that for dinner all right now let's talk about the house
Two Parents & A Podcast
Alcohol in our relationship, maternity leave scandal & we bought a car
The guy goes, are you dairy-free? And she goes, yeah.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking parenting “rules” (+ making an offer on a house & double date dynamics)
Okay.
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Breaking parenting “rules” (+ making an offer on a house & double date dynamics)
Are you seriously not feeling good again?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking parenting “rules” (+ making an offer on a house & double date dynamics)
Yeah, I really am feeling awful.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking parenting “rules” (+ making an offer on a house & double date dynamics)
Okay. You were at work all day yesterday. You were at work all day the day before. You don't have time for this. What doesn't feel good?
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Breaking parenting “rules” (+ making an offer on a house & double date dynamics)
Scale of one to ten. How much is it pounding? Twelve. No, no. I've birthed three kids, okay? What's the real pain scale here? One to ten, how bad is your head hurt? A twelve. Not enough.
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Breaking parenting “rules” (+ making an offer on a house & double date dynamics)
hi alex and harrison i love your guys's podcast i was just wanting to know what your guys's opinions are and if you have any advice on long distance relationships i'm 22 years old and i'm graduating college in may my boyfriend's in a master's program so he still has two more years because he's a year younger and i know that you guys had a little bit of distance at the beginning of your relationship i just wanted to hear how that went what that was like what you expected from each other
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking parenting “rules” (+ making an offer on a house & double date dynamics)
It's not worth it. Okay.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
When I was pregnant, the thought of breastfeeding grossed me out.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
gross i'm gonna so much sugar yeah so there's my transition point speaking of ingesting things we're going to talk about what our little girl ingests which is milky aren't we doing things we damned each other we're gonna i was gonna do that actually after we did this okay let's ride and so what are we talking about sorry so today's episode is around milk milky
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
and breastfeeding versus formula feeding versus combo feeding versus pumping.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Because every time I put up a question box, It's the most asked question besides sex and intimacy, which we already did an episode on, which you can refer back to if you want to after baby, which. And then that second thing is like, what's your pumping schedule? How are you handling the mental health struggles of pumping and breastfeeding?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
So I thought timely to do an episode on it because our goal is six months of breastfeeding. and we're at five, so we're almost there. And boy, has it been tough. And boy, did I not see that coming. So I thought we would talk about it. And then choosing a formula.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
But now.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Well, this is parent with you, not at you. We are never an expert. as we were making these decisions you on the fly 100 but i'll be i will as always be very clear about that when i answer the questions okay love it um so let's dive in all right so the first question is um all right how did you choose to breastfeed verse formula feed you know
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
So I went outside and the car wasn't there.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Bubbers. Sometimes you call me Bubbers. Not really.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
I, when I was pregnant, the thought of breastfeeding grossed me out. Remember, I would walk around and I'd be like, I can't have milk come out of my boobs. Yeah, it totally weirded me out. And then I did some research on the difference between breast milk and formula to make my decision.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
And what I found was if I had her and I felt inclined, like I felt that I could breastfeed, I wanted to try that because of the antibodies it would give her and the bond between mother daughter that would happen. But mainly the antibodies, because when you put formula verse breast milk, like Tate sheds my hormones still like sometimes in her diapers, there's like some white stuff.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Yeah. Yeah. Jules confirmation from Jules. Yeah. Okay. Um, all right. So we went and worked out together today. Big berries family over here. And what was your, what'd you say when we left? Tell the class.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
And the doctor says like that is mom's hormones coming out of her. So if she had my breast milk, she would have my direct antibodies, which are the best fit for her. And I found that to be very interesting. Even if she got one bottle of breast milk her whole life, like that is something that I wanted to try and give her. But we went and we bought formula before we had her.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
I didn't know if I'd be able to produce milk. And I didn't know if it would be something that like I would be able to stomach doing. And the moment I had her, I just, my instincts were like, oh, I would really love to try to like breastfeed this baby. And I just, I can't describe it any other way besides instincts. And so I started breastfeeding her. She latched well. I was lucky.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
My milk did come in. And so I was kind of off to the races. So it was really something that I just relied on my instincts with. Now,
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
I will experience share like other conversations I've had with people which is some people have their baby and they're just like breastfeeding does not feel like it's for me no problem they go right to formula the baby's happy healthy and they're off to the races as well but my experience was I felt I don't want to say called but like I felt inclined to breastfeed and it's and it's worked out now it's been hard as hell but it's worked out for me
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
So that's how I chose it. But I didn't know anything about the – I didn't know what formula was. I didn't know what breast milk was. I didn't know the benefits and I really had to research it. I had no idea.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Picking?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
This was funny.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Parents, if you're like me, you love magnetic me because changing a newborn is like changing a cat. Almost impossible. And when it goes to changing their diaper, all you want is these magnets that make it so easy. I cannot handle buttons. If somebody gives me a button outfit, I'm like, thank you so much. And I kindly don't use it. Magnetic Me has completely changed the game.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
They have outfits that are so cute. The prints are so cute. Tate has a countless number of them. And guess who else has them? Me. Because when it comes to breastfeeding, the magnets, it's literally imagine buttons, but they're magnets and you just pop them right on.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
And so I cannot tell you how much we've been recommending magnetic me to everyone that I actually just made a video about it for must haves for newborns, zero to three months old. And that's the same thing for three to six months old and so on and so forth. I cannot believe how much time I spent getting Tate dressed and Magnetic Me completely changed the game. So do what we did.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Make changing time easier for you and your baby so you can spend more time on the things you love. Order Magnetic Me today for yourself and as a great gift for any parent. Go to magneticme.com. New customers will get 15% off their first order. Don't wait. That's magneticme.com. Yeah. And that's a big one. Like there's this thing online.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
I don't even know if you know about it, but people will like formula shame where they're like breast milk shame. And I'm like, feed the baby, feed the baby. It doesn't matter how you feed it. And a happy mom, like sometimes it's so mentally taxing on the mom to breastfeed that you should do formula. Like, I wish it was a more open conversation for me. Like, There's no shame either way.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
I'm just obviously sharing my experience. But I do want to say one thing that was funny yesterday. Do you remember I was like, hey, I keep forgetting to order more bottles. I had like a list of things I needed to order. I was like, I want Diet Coke because I want more bottles, blah, blah, blah. And you were like, I can't do it right now. I'm really busy. And I was like, ugh, I'm also busy.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
So neither of us did it. And then the nanny called me and was like, Tate's really hungry. And so I had to run over to the neighbor's house to feed her. And then Harrison texted me and was like, everything's ordered. Because I think that there's this, like, element for the guy. When the mom – I was, like, walking back and I saw the text and I just smirked. And I said, thank you.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
And you said, no, thank you. Because there's this element of, like, you change all the diapers right now. You'll bring me my pump parts. Because it's like I'm in this – Milk jail kind of.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Thank you. No, no, that's good.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Yeah. Listen, we're going to try to do the six months. We're going to try to introduce the solids like mashed, but not mashed potatoes, avocado, bananas, berries, things like that. Um, and then maybe combo feed, maybe supplement, but there's what we're going to talk about is how we, how we're choosing a formula eventually.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
But yeah, it's been a tough, okay, let's, let's go to the next question cause it's a good segue. Okay. So the second question is what, talk about the mental struggles of breastfeeding and pumping. You guys, it is so much harder than I thought. I used to see moms and they'd be like, yeah, I'm still breastfeeding. And I was like, oh great. Like, I didn't really know what that means.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Like the equivalent of like making a coffee in the kitchen. And now I understand like if a mom says she's breastfeeding or pumping, like nine times out of 10, I would say there's some mental struggle happening with her because number one, when you have a baby, you already go through an identity shift and you know,
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
already your world comes from revolving around you to revolving completely around somebody else. And then you add in there having to pump or feed for 30 to 45 minutes every three hours. And so then you have two free hours a day and like that, that's mentally taxing on you. And then add in your boobs fill up. So like if you go work out, there's like the leaking component.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
There's like you need new sports bras. You need more support. Your boobs hurt. And then add in if you don't – you're starving, right? Because like you can't eat enough because you're producing enough food to feed somebody else. And you're like – you have these mental like sugar crashes I call them. Like I just wanted to eat straight cookie dough.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
And so it's, it's mentally very taxing on you because you had the baby and you want to get back to some sense of normalcy, but you can't because you're, you know, you're constantly feeding.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
My Valentine's Day present went over like a lead balloon.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
No, what you said was, this is like date night. You and I get to work out together. I was like, we don't talk in workout class.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Yeah, I don't know if I'll try to go six months. But I'm really, I just know it's not forever. Just like pregnancy. You know, pregnancy wasn't easy on me, but it wasn't forever. And so I can do that again. And listen, I don't know if it'll, I don't know what Tate would be like if she was on formula. Maybe she would have gotten sick at some point. I think the antibodies are really helpful for her.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
But in some capacity, maybe we will combo feed from the beginning. You know, I won't be pressed to feed the next baby every bottle. But I would like to do three months of it. Maybe I'll like to do six months of it. I'll have to see how I feel. But one thing I have enjoyed for me personally is setting the six months goal knowing I'll make it.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
I think a lot of people decrease with each kid because, number one, you've got another baby in the equation.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
I don't know that I'll even try. But right now, the reason that I'm so invested in making it, I did set the goal and I would like to hit it. It'd be like if I was training for a marathon. I just would be like, yeah, I'd like to do it. But the one piece I want to talk about again, too, is this demer.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
I hate the demer. But I think it's interesting because demer is when your milk drops.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Demer. I have demer. It's when your milk drops and your body releases the oxytocin. And so your dopamine just like stops. And women will get like really depressed or sad or angry. Or anxious. Some people get homesick randomly when the demer happens. For me, it only lasts two to three minutes. But for some women, it lasts the whole time they're pumping.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
So imagine for 30 minutes of just like anger and sadness and irritability. Like if I had that, I would have stopped probably immediately. Like how crazy is that?
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Yeah. So if that, if that was happening to me, you guys, I wouldn't do it. And I know that they say it gets, if you have postpartum depression, you're more likely to struggle with teamer. And it's like, kick me while I'm down. You know, like that's a very real thing to quit because I love the saying happy mom, happy baby.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
We've gone on one date night, and it was in Whistler.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
And like, if the feeding component is too mentally taxing on the mom, like then there's no point for me. I wouldn't, I really wouldn't do that. So I think I'm at a,
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
as good of a place as i can be with the feeding journey but it's definitely hard and one thing i did read on the deemer i want to say this really quick is they say i was researching it earlier they say if you can distract yourself that's better so i read while i pump and that that definitely helps getting your mind off of it it makes the time go by quicker But I've also had to quit.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
And then like this weekend we have... Great restaurant, Wild Blue.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
You know, you made me quit pumping in the middle of the night. You were like, no, go through the night. And that's when my postpartum depression lifted. Pumping in the middle of the night was really hard on me.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
His sister. Yeah, it's a really good idea that she had. It like saved me. That's when I turned a corner because imagine you're up in the middle of the night.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
From them?
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
I actually appreciate the way you did it. I saw a video of a girl talking about how she was pumping in the middle of the night and she was crying. And her husband got up and he walked in and he took away the pump and he was like, we're going to formula. You can have no guilt, but I'm going to help you. And she was so thankful he did that.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
It was so... It was like a really fun date night too. And then this weekend we're going to like two events, but not just us. Maybe we'll go to dinner before one of them or something.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
And what you did to me in Hawaii was you were like, I need you to sleep through the night tonight. Because number one, you're waking up, you're not getting your full sleep. Number two, you're putting pressure on yourself in the middle of the night. And number three, like you're having the dimmer in the middle of the night. Like this is, this is hurting you mentally.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
When I woke up in the morning, I produced the same amount of milk and I had a good night's sleep. So I was really glad.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
I had no idea either.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
So, yeah, I do think that's actually a really good tip. So when I started doing that, things got a lot better. So the mental struggles, though, now if I see a mom that's breastfeeding or pumping, like, oof. Somebody did ask me this question.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
So yes. It's what I say in my head a lot. Behind every new mom is a mom – no. That's not what it is. It's behind every newborn baby is a mom who's struggling with something. And if they're breastfeeding or if they're pumping, they're probably struggling with that. They could be struggling with postpartum depression. They're definitely sleep deprived. And I used to see people or something else.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
And I, I used to see people that had a new baby and I'd be like, Oh, congratulations. Like, how's it going? And then I would move on. But it's like now at a coffee shop, when I see a mom with like a Duna, I'm just like, Oh, like, bless you. You know, because like, there's so much going on. Don't you agree? Yeah.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
That'd be nice. Yeah. Saturday starts at five, so I don't really know that we're going to get that in.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Okay, let's see. Oh, somebody asked me this. They said, I'm exclusively pumping because my baby won't latch. Does that count as breastfeeding? And I never thought about that, but... I know she's referring to the fact that she's not having like the, like the.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
That's what I thought too.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
But I think the reason she asked the question was because of the bond component of like the baby being on you. But to me, I thought if they're getting breast milk, they're breastfed.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Yeah. Wasn't that funny? But to me, I think like if you're pumping, like, yeah, that's great.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
No shame. There's just, here's the thing. If the baby's fed, there's no shame. There's just no shame. I want to really make that clear. OK, so the next question, it's kind of like the next and last question is and this is going to be a bit because it's interesting. OK, so it's how are you choosing your formula brand? The European options seem way better than the USA. I'm going to... You go.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
It does. So there goes the date night.
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We'll hang out.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
I... So this week, little tater totter, she's just not sleeping very well. So we're going through a bit of a sleep regression or she's teething. I don't know. But anyways, we haven't slept. And I think a result of not sleeping was Harrison was going to sauna with his friend, Tim. The other day, he's like walking out the doors like six, six o'clock in the evening. He turns around.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Yeah. Okay.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Wait, what do they leave out?
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
And what do the HMOs do?
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
And that's what a lot of formulas leave out.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Yeah. Okay, and most formulas leave that out. Interesting.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
He's like, the car got stolen. The car's gone. And I was like, what? So I went outside and the car wasn't there. And I was just like, this is it. Like that the car is stolen.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Love it.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Can't get divorced if we're not married.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Mm-hmm.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Makes total sense. OK, does it have now? What did you ask it? So keep us going, because I think so what you were doing was you were trying to get to what formula we were going to order because you ordered one.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Totally. And was it a USA or European based formula that it recommended?
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Okay. Yeah. And that's what you ordered.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
You did.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
You texted Tim and you're like, I can't come. The car got stolen. And I was like, shit, because I thought it was my fault. Because we listen and we don't judge, okay? I have a key in the car and it's like missing, right? And this isn't the first time I've done this with cars. But it's like wedged in the seat somewhere. So I don't actually have to have a key right now when I get in it.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Yeah, and I think it being a European one – is Jovi a European one that you ordered?
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
So you can order them and get them here? Yeah.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
In America.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
On that expensive note, I did the math on if we used ByHeart. Because I think the ByHeart one looks really good and we have it upstairs. So if we used ByHeart for a month, it would be $240. And then I did the math on if I fed myself what I need to pump and make my own breast milk. So the protein bars.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Exactly. So coconut water. protein bars and my protein shakes that I'm having every day. And the total of that per month was $278, which is really funny. So it was actually more expensive to feed me to make the milk than it was to order the by heart formula. But I also know like there's other ways to get your protein. I'm just choosing to add these things in, but it does help with my milk supply.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
what i want people to do because like not perfect analysis chat gbt but just like getting more education than we could from our pediatrician yeah that's the thing like you need a source and you need one that and i i do trust chat gbt you know of course it it ignores the human element right of like giving it to the baby because you can give a baby some formula and
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
you know, they might be allergic to lactose X, Y, Z. So of course there's that. But one thing I want you guys to do if you're listening is like, tell us how you chose your formula that you use because we're still students of the game over here. Like we're trying to figure it out in real time. And like, I'm all for the formula. I just want to know which one we should pick.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
And so you can comment on Spotify now and you can comment on YouTube or you can DM me and just tell me what formula you used and why and like your experience with it so we can try some.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
And so these European regulations versus the USA ones, maybe somebody knows something differently that we don't know. Like y'all let us know. Cause I do, they do say build your village and you guys are our village. So let us know. Help us help us if you can. So the next thing is we're not doing parenting confessions this week. It might be a dead in the water segment. We can't decide.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Harrison just never thinks they're interesting. And I think they're really funny. Can I just give you one really quickly? Please, really quickly.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Okay, somebody said that they told their kids that the ice cream truck only played music when it was out of ice cream. Come on, that's funny. That's funny.
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Smart parenting right there.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Pros and cons.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
That's actually a good point. They will be like, Mommy, there's no ice cream. And then there really isn't any ice cream. But? But what? What does Tom Pitts say? You're never, like, if you can't enjoy an ice cream cone, you can't enjoy life.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Welcome to Two Parents in a Podcast. Hey Harrison.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
I don't know if you've caught on to this. So I thought, oh no, it's my fault. Because I went to the proper hotel the other day and I was like valet parking in there like, we need your key. And I was like, oh, I don't have a key. But it's in here somewhere. Ugh. So just park the car and then bring it back.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
I agree. My parents just never had cash. I bet they take Venmo now.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
I'm sure they're taking Venmo now. Speaking of which, do you know the most used app to transfer money?
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
It's Zelle. Zelle has more users than Venmo and Cash App combined.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Yeah. What's that new podcast I'm listening to?
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
No. What's the new podcast, Jules? the best one yet. I listened to it yesterday and that's what they were talking about. Yeah. Yeah. So, um, all right. So we're going to do things. We DM each other and I DM to you that people are saying the parking spot beside where you return the shopping cart should be reserved for mothers. Now, before I had a baby, I'd be like, that's stupid. But now I get it.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
They should be handicapped and then there should be pregnant women or young children because like people, you know, and then... Yeah, sorry, pregnant and mothers with children under, I don't know, two or three.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
No, no, no, no. I think the handicapped, they get their own, absolutely. And I think they take precedent. And then I think the pregnant people. Or they or if you have young kids like in Oklahoma City.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
I'm not sure either. But I think that I think that.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Well, a lot of people if they have like a knee brace or something, they can get a handicap parking hanger and then they'll give it to like a family member or something. Like I've encountered some people in life that like think it's a flex to have a handicap parking deal in their car and they're not handicapped. And like I've actually never agreed with that.
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And they're like, no, ma'am, you need to actually give us a key because we need to lock it reliable for it. I was like, we're good. Don't worry about it. Park it where you can see it. I can't find the key, but it's wedged in a seat.
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No, I completely agree.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
It is not the flex you think it is. Like a lot of people truly need.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
I'm telling you, people are like, oh, I have a handicap parking tag. And it's like, that's not cool, like to park up front. It's really not because people need that.
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There's this shopping center in Oklahoma City that I can think of that has an expecting moms. It says expecting moms or young kids, and it's a parking spot, and it's beside the handicap ones, that organic squeeze. I think you all know what I'm talking about. And I always thought, oh, that's kind of silly. Until I was pregnant, and it was tough for me.
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I was like, oh my gosh, I would love an upfront parking spot. Or if you're taking the baby in and out, it really is nice. And what I love about it furthermore is not crossing a lot of the cars with the young kids. If you are up front, then you don't have to walk through the parking lot, which I think can be really dangerous. So I do think there's a lot of good to it.
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That's right. And then you DMed me, and we're going to do this pretty quickly, you guys, because as parents, a podcast by parents for parents, you get it. I got to go pump. But you DMed me that... I had no idea. We don't know who founded Bitcoin.
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That's so cool. And well, he's a great candidate for it to be him. If he did Twitter and square, he, he thinks of Bitcoin and, And then he does it anonymously. Like he would go right to my immediate answer of who would you have dinner with? If you could have some dinner with somebody dead or alive, I'd be like Jack Dorsey every time. But my new answer is going to be Satoshi.
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Don't know who it is, but he's got to meet me for dinner. Genius.
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Great answer. Don't take that as my answer now. Wow.
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Yes, I did.
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Um, we unfortunately don't have time, my dear, but we do.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Okay. What's the brain break? Canada hockey.
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These boobs are leaking.
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Give it. You got one minute. Go.
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Thursday night.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Okay, and I'm going to just raise you one and then we're done. Ready?
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
And you have to take this. If the USA wins, I return my purse and I get a new purse and you have to go with me and gifts are back on the table. If Canada wins, I return the purse. I pay the difference if I get a new purse and you can stay in retirement for the gifts, okay?
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Okay, great. Deal. Ladies and gentlemen, we love you. Tell them we love them. My tits are leaking.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
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Well, I thought about filing the police report. Okay. And, Them asking, how did they get the car?
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
No, it's criminal. I was like trying to bait you right there. You, Harrison calls me Alex and I feel like I'm in trouble.
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Oh, yes. You can't lie to a police officer if I know. Because then what if they backtrack my steps and they talk to the valet guys at the proper hotel and the valet guys are like, no, she knows there's a key in there.
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I'd have to tell them. I'm very supportive of that. But here's the thing I would tell them too. It's not illegal for me to leave my keys in my car. I'm allowed to do that. It's illegal to take somebody else's car. So they're still at fault. But no, there was no hot wiring. Because here's what happened. Like we live in a very urban area.
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Two lawyers in a podcast.
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Okay, so anyways, yeah, we're now in this ravel. So then we're like pacing around for three minutes and I look at him because I know it's you, not me. And I say, retrace your steps for today. And Harrison's like, the car's at the taco shop.
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I was messing with you to see how you felt and you just like felt so normal about it.
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The stooge. Where you forgot was you forgot at the taco. It wasn't like you drove to the taco shop and then wanted to walk home and go get the car later. You had forgotten by the time you ate that you even drove to the taco shop.
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That actually makes it a lot better. You didn't walk by the car and not notice.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
You, um, you never drive either. You always Uber like you're an urban man.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
You hate driving. Very rare that you drive by yourself.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
And the other notable thing that's happened in the household here, because the tagline of this podcast is welcome to our house. Sorry. It's so messy. Is my Valentine's day present went over like a lead balloon. Do you know what that means? Put lead in the balloon and it won't float, which means it didn't go over well. Bad, bad news.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
But I'm your baby mama, girlfriend. Like, I don't know, like, I'm your... Alex. No, you cannot call me Alex. It sounds like I'm in trouble.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
So listen, I was making a, you know, a tick talk as a good little content creator would about my outfit of the night on Valentine's day and Harrison sweetest thing on the planet was like, what bag are you carrying? And then he brought me a little Louis Vuitton bag. That's like every girl's dream. That's like so nice. Okay. I was so thankful that he did this.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
He took the time to go to the store, pick out a bag. I was so excited. And listen, I just thought if we were going to spend so much money on a bag, maybe we would get one that I loved.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Can't get divorced if we're not married.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Gut-wrenching.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
So then I changed my tune because I made a video and I was like, it's so nice you got me this gift. I don't want to come off tone deaf that I'm not thankful for this very expensive purse, okay? Because we're not the kind here where we're giving each other, we don't walk by, we don't go to the mall on a Saturday to buy me things. That is not what's happening here.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
So I was really thankful that you gave it to me. It was a two-part Valentine's gift. It was thanks for milking, thanks for, you know, being alive kind of gift.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
No, we were out the other day and he was like, hey, Alex, can you pass that? Everyone was like, whoa, why are you calling her Alex? Alex. You don't like pet names. I love pet names. I love it. Nope, not happening from you.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Yeah. No. And listen, I love it. I love the idea of it.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
I just would have got something different. I don't know. I don't know what to say.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
You can come out of retirement like Tom Brady. He also retired and then he came back. And he made a splash when he came back.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
You can come out of retirement. We'll think of a couple ways to do that. A lot of people suggest a notes app. Just some ideas on there. I don't want to give you links, though, and really spell it out for you because I like what you pick out. Maybe I don't, though. Maybe I don't like what you pick out, I guess, as I say that. Maybe I like the principle of that idea.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Anyways, that's how the Valentine's Day went. So we're still toying with maybe we do a group return together. Maybe not. Maybe Alex keeps the bag.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Retired with the corona. What is it? Life's a beach? What's the corona tagline? Find your beach. Find your beach. What beach are you on? Cabo?
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
No one knows where that's at.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
I've been to Honduras.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Sylvester Stallone's house. Why don't you take taters and I?
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
It's kind of cool though.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Yeah. Did they put the gun to you?
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
So we have a baby together and then I get a pet name.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Was there any money exchanged in the process of this?
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Is that a yes?
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
They're not going to come and get you. Did you pay them?
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Pesos or dollars?
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Makes you thankful.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
He used to call me whenever Tate was in my stomach and we were going to name her. Tate was a top contender and we would call her Taters. He would call me Taters. And I liked that. He would say Taters and I'd be like, me? Because we were one, you know?
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Did you have any money left for the bar?
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
Have you ever seen We Are The Millers?
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Where they get held up and the only way that they get off is... The cop in Mexico wants a blow job. So that's where my mind's at. So this is your last opportunity to tell us if you gave them money. There were no blow jobs given. Was there cash? I wonder how much you had to pay them. You're not going to get like, no, you want me to move on? Just give me a wink if you paid money.
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Did you have to pay? Okay. Did you not pay? Okay. We're taking your silence as a confession. Say a word if it was over $500. Okay. Oh, a cough. A cough. All right.
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Breastfeeding + formula Q&A, a sleep-deprived mistake & no more gifts
That is your ideal bar. That is your ideal food.
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Posting kids online, stocks for christmas presents & this time last year
Okay.
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Why?
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Wow.
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Right.
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Right.
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All right.
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We bought our first home
It is. We're also doing army exercises. So I... The internet's going to murder us for this. No, they're not.
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what okay well set the stage of what happened we've got 20 off and free shipping worldwide from bomba's socks you guys i'm wearing the bomba socks right now because my sock drawer was a mess and then harrison started using my sock drawers his sock drawer none of the socks matched none of them were good quality I was getting them off of Amazon. They were cheap. It was a mess.
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I couldn't wear them very many times. Then I ordered off of Bombas and I got some tall socks, right? Because I like to wear the cute scrunchie ones whenever I wear my joggers with my leggings. And then I got some ankle no-show socks and I absolutely love them for everyday errands. head-to-toe comfort when I work out and when I'm just running around town.
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That's B-O-M-B-A-S dot com slash two parents. Code two parents for 20 percent off your first purchase. Bombas dot com slash two parents and use code two parents. So, yeah, OK, I'll go. So we had an occupational therapist come by and we were just doing like all of this. I had just been seeing her around Austin and she'll go by and like just do a whole one fail swoop.
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And one thing she said was Tate's back's really strong. And so you should work on her arm strength too, so they can catch up to be the same speed and that will help with the rolling and things. And so she would put, she puts her in the butterfly position position and we put her armies down on the ground in like a, just a straight position and she leans forward and she loves it.
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She like laughs while we do it, but it's strengthening her arms so she can push up more. Um, And she said, if you do it with her a few days in a row, you'll be surprised at the progress they make so fast because babies develop strength really quickly. So we do these army planks. I call them army planks for literally 10 seconds.
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And so we'll do it for like 10 seconds. And it's made such a big difference. And I think that's attributed to her rolling. And also, do not see me every night that I'm rolling her.
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I think it's the cutest thing ever. I did a video of her doing her rolls. We were practicing at night.
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And every time she rolls on her stomach, she giggles. She thinks it's really fun when she gets there. So she, I think all of that is attributed to the sleep. So the five, 10, 15, I think definitely helped. And then her being able to get on her stomach definitely helped. And then her knowing once she was on her stomach, if she wanted to roll back over that she could do it.
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And then I don't know, like, I'm just, I'm just so thankful that you did it. Like it really, now we're sleeping.
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It was just, and I think too, because I was nervous to transition her out of the SNU and then we put her in the Merlin suit and she was only in the Merlin suit for like three or four days. And then we went straight to the sleep sack and I was nervous about all these transitions, but I'm happy that we have her in the sleep sack in the crib. And yeah, I mean, yeah, we definitely had the regression.
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We definitely had three weeks of like not great sleep, but I'm really happy that we figured out something and we did it. Yeah. We got to the other side. Yeah. So we are sleeping again and hopefully we stay sleeping again in this house.
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And what did he tell her about the fact that we weren't going to see the unicorn on the TV?
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Rory McIlroy with a unicorn. Yeah. Okay. That's a good example.
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I don't agree at all. I think people like the culture around it. I'm never going to watch it, but I do love the whole like the club sandwiches cutting little triangles. Great.
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Yeah, but I would love to be invited to like a master's party. I would go to that.
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You know, like I like the theme. I like the theme of the whole vibe.
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But as far as it goes of like sitting down and watching the actual event, I think it's fun to see who's, yeah, you know what? I'm here for it.
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You've met with architects. You've met with HVAC people because we got to do a lot to the upstairs.
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I think it's a lottery ticket. I got to say this, though. I knew a lot of people that went. I was shocked on my Instagram feed. I was like, oh my gosh, you went, you went, you went. It was like 10 to 12 people.
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Are you going to call them today? Yeah. Okay, cool. Okay, well, it reminds me, the giving of the unicorn reminds me of the fairy situation of like a tooth fairy or I heard about a pacifier fairy. You know, you put the, and so then I was seeing how how fairy should be additive, not subtractive. So they shouldn't come in to take things. They should just come in to give you new things.
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Which I kind of think is a cool concept. I'm down for the tooth fairy. I love the idea of you lose a tooth, you get to put it under your pillow.
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No, you need to give her the physical. But you've got to give her the physical money because it's so fun to open up your pillow and they left you something.
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Like you, this has been a full time job. Like I'm excited to have some of your attention back. Yeah. Yeah. Cause it's just been, I'm dealing with the housing thing and then it's like, okay. And you've done such a good job. I'm really proud of you. We, do we want to talk about the lot next door?
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You know what I got? I got dollar circles. The old school coins.
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Okay. And then we can give her like pesos sometimes and we can say like that could be a really good exercise. Okay. I love it. Okay. Great thought. But what was I going to... Oh, do you know what shocks me about the tooth fairy? Is that I never was woken up. Like, I never felt my parents, like, lifting my pillow or putting their hand under there.
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Same. I was like, I got to stay awake so I can see the magic come under my pillow.
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I guess time will tell. Yeah. All right. So let's go to the, I know we don't have, this episode's like a fun riffing episode. So we're going to things we DM'd each other. And ladies and gentlemen, is it called Artipope? That's the baby carrier. Okay.
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I think it's Artipope. I'm pretty sure it's Artipope. And so we have a carrier from there. It's like the cloud print. The carriers in and of themselves are expensive. I think that that one is like $380. That's expensive for a carrier. Artipoke dropped a carrier. I think it's cashmere for $3,800 and a wrap, a wrap deal for $8,000.
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I saw something that was like you can either buy the dip or the new Artipope carrier. And I was like $3,800. Buy a couple ETH?
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Checking that email. Come on. Yeah, so I just think it poses the question of like, is buying something like that for the baby or is it for the parent?
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But this carrier, like I looked at the print, it's not like it says Balenciaga on it.
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Yeah, but they all do. I don't know that you would necessarily know this was kind of like a brown caramely print.
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I've seen reviews on it saying it's worth it and that people truly love it. Some people love it, the carrier by itself. And I think that's fair.
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Well, I like it because her legs, it's more like she's standing up. It doesn't put her hips out to the side.
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Well, I think technically less supportive, but you're still able to carry her. She's 16 pounds on your chest.
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But I think we were a little – what does ambiguous mean? Does it mean vague?
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So are you going to rock a dad bod or are you going to try to whip it back?
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So how do you feel doing rocking the dad bod? I love the dad bod.
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Yeah, but we were ambiguous last week, and so I just want to clarify. We want this house. We want to stay in this house. We're trying to, but there were so many moving parts to stay in this house that we didn't know if it was going to become possible or not. So hopefully it is. Hopefully higher heads prevail and that we can sign and move on and live here. Yes.
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Yeah, but here's the thing that I want to say to you about the dad bod. Yeah. I... You have been juggling so much. And also, like, I get it because the gym, for both of us, like, it's last on the chopping block. If everything goes right that day, then we get to go. But, like, most of the time, we don't.
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I would say Sunday through Thursday, we're healthy.
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I think we go out to eat two nights a week. And, oh my gosh, now we can go out to eat more because we used a high chair for the first time.
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I could not believe. Okay, so we were like- Bubba in the high chair. Bubba went in the high chair. We were done with eating out because we had the plate pick up and then we dropped it. And it's not her fault by any means because she's just having fun. But we were like, eating out is going to be off the table for us right now. And then we thought, wait, she can sit up in a high chair.
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So we went to eat on Sunday night and we put her in a high chair and she had a blast.
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she really just wants to sit at the table with us though she's a fomo baby yeah and like it's not fair that we get to sit down and eat and she doesn't and so now it's nice because she also gets to have her seat oh but she's like miniature you know because like her seat's up higher but her head's down lower than ours because she's little oh my goodness and her little hands oh
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Vacation season is nearly among us, you guys. And I love quints. You know, I was obsessed with the cashmere sweaters over the winter. And now I'm obsessed with the lightweight European linen styles from $30 and the washable silk tops. You guys, this stuff is so affordable, but it is so premium. And cashmere sweaters and linen and silk, they should not be expensive.
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And the way that quints is able to do this is they cut out the middleman and they partner directly with factories. So they're able to pass along the discounts to us. And I love that because we don't compromise on quality. We keep the quality, but we do compromise on the price. And what we all want is a discount.
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Yeah, which is lovely. So there. Okay. Moving right along to the weekend where we went on a date that AI planned for us. Harrison said to chat GPT. I would say GBT. GPT.
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No, it wasn't. I just have realized with the things we DMed, like I didn't even say who DMed who what. I DMed you the Artipope carrier. You DMed me Coachella.
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I don't have a better memory than you. And I would like to say that I used to and I've really lost my memory. Yeah, you go on Coachella. I have some thoughts.
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This year it was back. I don't know why. I thought that the past three or four years it had a down year. This year it had a full-blown resurgence, at least for me on my For You page. And my takeaway from it, I thought that the content was really good. I was enjoying every bit of it. I was enjoying people vlogging, staying in their tents.
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Like this one guy had a rack in his tent with his outfits hung up on it. And then they go to the showers where you wait in line and you have a five-minute cap on your showers. They said the water pressure was great, but you need to wear shower shoes. And you take your shower caddy, which is giving camp. Right? Like it's very much so giving camp. And I loved it.
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And then I liked that Kylie Jenner was there. You know, like I want to see some real celebs.
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And Timothy showed up too. And I loved, let me say this about what she did, okay? So when Travis Scott went on, her and Timothy left, but she still let Stormi go and Kendall took Stormi. And I thought that is like so great.
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I thought it was awesome and like I loved that Kendall and Kylie went. I loved that there were so many videos of them. I loved that people, Alex Earl had a great take. She was like, Cotella, what you got to do is you got to take your group of friends.
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And you got to not go out there and go party hopping and like always be looking for the next best thing, but really commit to your friend group, commit to going to the concerts and have fun. Cause a lot of people go and they're like, do you have access to this? Do you have access to this?
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And like, if you're not access hopping and you're just like really having fun at what it is, I do think it would be a blast.
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Okay. Well, I think that people did a really good job creating content around Coachella.
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And one thing, okay, so Jules and I, we actually had a call earlier with DoorDash because I'm going to do some social with them on around their Mother's Day campaign. And whenever I get the green light that I can actually say what it is, I'm going to talk to you about it because I thought it's a genius marketing tool.
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Okay. What did we do before we could order on DoorDash or order on like what?
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Because you haven't been able to log into that. Yeah. So you are, they are.
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I am dead. Okay, wait. So hold on. How much was it?
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So AI was not able to call the restaurant. It gave you options of the voice that was like, do you want to use this voice to call the restaurant? Or do you want to use this voice?
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Well, of course we're going to take Bubbers. Is that where they do the subways too? And it's very organized entering and exiting the subway?
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What was the verdict? I don't know. What do you mean?
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We've been working through the edits for about three, four weeks, five weeks.
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We gotta stop learning this lesson, though. We're not done until the John Hancocks are on there.
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Okay, and we're back. We did end it there earlier, but you guys, some good news. H, do you want to tell them?
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We got the house. A round of applause. Harrison actually can't do a round of applause. And if you're wondering why the video is staying on me, it's because tater tot. Um, so right now it's what time is it? Seven, eight o'clock on the dot, eight o'clock on the dot. So Tate's with us now. Um, and Harrison's holding her, but so he's off camera and I'm on camera.
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Hold on. I want to go back really quick to the date because the robots recommended the robots. And so you go to this place and like, it's, it's a fun, it's a cute restaurant. I think that it would be more fun for kids. Like when tater is five or six years old, taking her there because it's like a conveyor belt and the robot comes over to you and it's like beep bop.
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Um, but we got the house, you guys, and we wanted to come back on and tell you. So we're recording IRL. Um, and. P's upstairs editing. Jules is down here. And we're just doing an IRL update.
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Yeah, we have a lot to tell you guys. Like we want to do, there's a lot of work we want to do to the house. We have some of the land next door that can be our yard.
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Harrison's got this idea for the attic that's going to turn into a man cave or a playroom and he had these people come over and check beforehand if it could work so we're going to do some renovations and we can't wait and we love this community and so we're so happy that we landed here so happy that we were able to get aligned on everything and Tater Tot is the most happy because she's got the nanny share I mean she's got so much going on on the street she can't leave she can't move
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Okay. We haven't closed yet, but it's exciting that we're going. She's like grabbing his eye.
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We got the house. That's what we'll say. We got the house. And hopefully we take it fully over the finish line now. Okay, you guys. Well, exciting little tidbit to pop back in here and say, and we love you all.
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And then it lights up green, stops at your table, opens up and you take your Coke out of it. Like,
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And I did not. So you had to call and book it. Yes. Good job. Yeah.
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Yeah. You just you're like, if I have to go on a date, I'll call and make that reservation. OK, so we went on a double date last night.
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Totally agree. I thought at first I wasn't sure how I felt about it because I was like, oh my gosh, we're not all talking, but it was more nice for you. I think because like her and I, I knew we would get along. We've been like DMing, like, and we just had so much to talk about. I think it's harder for guys to get along than girls to get along on double dates.
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Welcome to two parents and a podcast. How's it going? H town. Can I call you hot? Yeah.
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He was the definition of it. Let's talk about skims as I am currently wearing one of my favorite skims bras. But today we're gonna talk about the fits everybody thong, you guys, because I've been wearing a lot of skirts and I'm not a big underwear girl, but their underwear feels like you are wearing nothing. So it's essentially the same thing as wearing no underwear.
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but you get all the benefits of wearing underwear. And I tried their fits. Everybody thong and skims has completely converted me back to wearing the underwear. I'm feeling like no other underwear I've worn before the thongs. You guys, they used to bother me. These thongs do not. I promise you they are absolutely incredible. They also have these like boy shorts that I got.
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Um, and they are also so comfortable and I've been sleeping in them. Um, And then the triangle bralette. That's another one of my favorites. So I wear them with like the cashmere sweaters and I also wear them with t-shirts. So ladies and gentlemen, get in on the skims. I've been talking about it nonstop for two, three years now.
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what in my head i call you hache i just wanted to let and i tested it out for the first time when when i was down here and i needed you to come down and i said hache and then what i think i don't know i think it's h in spanish no just no i'll ask maria if that's the name that you want do you not like it hache i've had worse nicknames so like what ah another time
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So shop skims fits everybody collection at skims.com and in skim stores.
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available from extra extra small to 4x and after you place your order be sure to let them know we sent you select podcast in the survey and be sure to select our show in the drop down menu that follows i just went to the austin um domain skim store it's beautiful so go out there you guys check them out in real life i think i think we got to give them their flowers so it was nick and stephanie barr b-a-r-e and he is like a running guy he's on youtube
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And Instagram and TikTok, all those things. But he had a fitness nutrition brand.
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Yeah. And then he also is a content creator. She's a content creator. She does home-cooked meals, family meals, just cute content. I have always loved her online and really enjoyed DMing her. And then meeting them in person, I agree. Like, They just they were super dynamic. Like he was telling us about a book he read and defining like his goals. And it was just like they were fascinating.
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Yeah, because he's like a very successful guy that could have an ego.
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In a dynamic amount of ways. I mean, sorry, multifaceted.
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This is a Nick Barstam podcast. But yeah, no, he was great. But do you think it's harder for guys or girls to get along on double dates?
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She was phenomenal. I mean, I absolutely loved her. I just, I knew that we were going to get along, so it was great. But do you, can you answer my question separate from them?
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And when you can't do anymore, you drop out. So the last man running the loop wins. That's right.
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But he. Oh, my gosh. I just lost my train of thought. He thinks that the first person out will be at 12 miles. He thinks that everyone will run loop or lap one, two, and then three, and then they'll be out. Yeah. That's crazy to me.
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You're not going to do it or you are going to do it?
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I like it. Yeah. Okay, so that date was great. I just, you're not going to answer my question if you think it's harder for girls or guys to bond on dates. I'm just going to say I think, I typically think it's harder for the guys, I think.
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So if the guys have the relationship ahead of time or if it's the girls?
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I'll just ask you one more time and then pass that and I won't ask you.
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Because then you can find your areas that you overlap.
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I think that's actually a really good idea. I think girls get to know them, get to know each other faster, quicker. I think we know exactly how to just to go rifle through the things like, what are you interested in? Do you have kids? Um, where do you work out? Things like that. Like girls do it really quickly. Whereas I think guys, it's a little bit harder to be like sharing a lot.
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I think there's a chance that guys could have a deeper bond, but I think girls can find the bond faster.
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I agree with that. I don't want to do a mass generalized statement. I do just think... Well, I think both parties get a compliment in that generalized statement.
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Okay, so speaking of AI, doing the date planning, what AI also mastered is, it was a combination of AI and Harrison. I think you single-handedly, with AI, sleep-trained Tate. Like the sleep training that you got off chat GBT worked.
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All right. Fugdaddies, but I hear a lot of people call you and that's not a bad name.
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She was waking up every two and a half hours, and then it truly took you three nights of the 5-10-15 method, and you slept in the guest bedroom, and you totally put the team on your back, and you did it, and you talked to chat GBT, and they walked you through it very empathetically, and then boom, she has slept through the night every night.
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bug daddy's a good one um okay we just need to talk about our housing update because tensions are high tensions have been high for months on end um we're hoping during while we're recording because we're recording this literally wednesday night like the last second we possibly can record it before we have to edit it and put it out and so we're hoping we get a housing update while we're recording because you've signed
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a parent that like would like i don't know i feel weird now but go no so what we started doing also before bed was i would just roll her over i would hold her hands and i would flip her back and forth and we made it really fun and we like giggled but we were working on rolling back and forth so she felt safe when she was in bed if she didn't want to roll on her stomach because sometimes she would get stuck on her stomach
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I was glad she wasn't buckled in and I was glad we did.
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Do you fasten your seatbelt when turbulence goes on?
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Whoa, whoa, whoa. You don't have your seatbelts on during takeoff and landing?
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Okay, I need to do this. But they yell at you if you don't. Who has your seatbelt on in this room, five people, who puts their seatbelt on during takeoff and landing?
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I totally think you're lying. I totally think you're lying. So let's do it this way. If Tate isn't there, do you have your seatbelt on for takeoff and landing?
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Okay. So I'm glad we're in group consensus. It needs to be on. Do you know why you have it on during takeoff? Why you're supposed to?
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Because if they need to abort the landing, abort the takeoff and stop immediately with how fast you're going and how fast they'd stop, you'd smash into the seat in front of you and just like crank your face open.
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But now turbulence, we're going. We're going turbulence. Boom. And no one here wears it during turbulence.
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Well, I've watched some memories that you have. I was so young and it was with my dad and we were in the den and it was talking about some airplane and like there's like a hole in the airplane and some dude got sucked out of it. A bunch of people got sucked out of it. And the people that survived are the people wearing their seatbelts. Yeah.
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We got to be a real, we got to be honest here. I'm a real hypocrite. Cause I, I, I didn't answer the question.
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If I'm not on a highway and, If we're just doing local neighborhood driving, I do not wear a seatbelt in a car.
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Yeah, we need the source on that.
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Yeah, well, you should wear it during turbulence.
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I'm like, oh, this is going to be great. Served you your chicken parm.
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He gave me every single one.
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Yeah, she shows that little...
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A 60 minutes interview.
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I wasn't comfortable.
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Truly at a great line. What was the line?
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Okay, you don't want to talk about Mother's Day first?
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How would you grade my Mother's Day performance?
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I think that that is a very generous answer. 8? I don't think you were very happy with the Mother's Day.
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But you hit, I feel like we got to take accountability.
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I feel like, and I kind of alluded to this on the last episode, I feel like I didn't come through with like what the cherry on top was. I feel like it was missing that truly make it special day. Like it was, I think there was a good base that was built, but I miss like the cherry on top. That's my take. I think it could have been better.
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Yes, six and a half, seven.
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Well, I walked to Swedish Hill and got you coffee and pastries. Coffee and pastries.
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It was very good. But before I talk about how good it was, there was one very weird thing that they did.
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Bubba handed you the card, yeah. And then we did pancake breakfast.
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Mother's Day brunch with the neighbors. Mm-hmm. Hung out.
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And then the big grand finale feast.
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I think that there was maybe some, there was like a lack of pre-prep.
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That could have gone in there.
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Like I did for Valentine's Day.
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Something like that.
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I do love how I, oh my God, we didn't.
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Yeah, I did get like a good five or six videos that I'm happy that were captured from the birthday.
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So I didn't actually DM you what I wanted to talk about.
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They had this band play for like 20 minutes before the show started. May have been more than 20 minutes. And it was like you're going to a pizza restaurant and they bring you sashimi as an appetizer.
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Have you heard about the baby killing scandal?
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Well, where? I just got like a big look. So I'll pull it up now.
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It's literally, I'm looking at it now, the baby killer scandal. That's what, at least the article or the tweet that I'm looking at.
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So I guess in the 70s, Nestle was apparently killing 580 babies a day in developing countries. And so... How? What was going on is... Developing countries had accelerating birth rates. And so they saw that as a big opportunity for formula sales.
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And what they were doing is they were having salespeople dress up as nurses and go around and giving the locals two weeks or X amount of weeks of free formula. and marketing it as like new better than breast milk. Then they were giving them just enough formula for their milk supply to dry up. This is really fucked up.
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Then once their milk supply dried up, they'd have to go back and buy the formula. But what was happening is because these are developing nations and, and countries that have, um, where the people aren't in as financially of a strong place, they were diluting. They buy the formula, but it was so expensive. They were diluting the formula down with a bunch of milk. So with a bunch of water, sorry.
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So the babies weren't getting enough of nutrients that they needed. Plus the water that they were putting in wasn't the cleanest water.
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So babies were dying.
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Yeah. I mean, I saw it online.
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Yeah, it's tragic. So pulling up the tweet here, which summarizes a lot of this, and let's definitely link it. So in 1977, there was a boycott against,
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against nestle and it was called the nestle kills babies campaign and then 1981 the world health organization created the international code of marketing of breast milk substitutes to regulate formula marketing and the the number on the desk comes from the national bureau of economic research and they were the one that that estimated i guess 580 a day which i think is uh i guess it says here 212 000 um
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infant deaths per year among mothers without clean water access at the peak of the Nestle controversy in 1981. And approximately 10.9 million infant deaths between 1960 and 2015.
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Yeah, it was like, I'm not here...
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Yeah, it's really, really sad and scary. I just don't understand how a company like that can survive a scandal like that.
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for music i'm here for comedy so even if the music's really good like my appetite isn't for music right now now i didn't really have like it was one of those bands that like doesn't really sing so it's just about the music background music but it was really loud but is the alternate like alternate option here that you're at the pizza restaurant and there is no appetizer
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Yeah, and I want to take it with a, like, I've read this summary through a tweet. So, I don't know, like... Well, but, yeah. I encourage everyone... You're just reporting. Yeah. Well, yeah, it's, I guess you could, this is a good time to say.
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Do we want to say allegedly?
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Is this fact or is this not fact?
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Yeah. I do feel like shitty sometimes about like not having done the full research on these matters, but, um. It seems pretty legit and pretty fucking scary and pretty... Well, it's just really messed up. Yeah.
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Yeah. So that was... Okay. What I was going to DM you, but I didn't.
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Okay. I don't know about your feed, but half of my feed... Your algorithm feed? Your algorithm feed. Okay. Is... like all about the death of alcohol, right?
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Hot people are drinking less. And I think I saw, I think Bloomberg came out last week and they said that they believe alcohol consumption is now in permanent economic or is now in permanent decline.
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and then i saw a really interesting chart which showed that and we'll put the chart up when you adjust for the covid alcohol bump so when covid hit alcohol sales went booming because people were staying in and that was all there was to do that we've now actually nor like the decline is just a normalization of the current trend.
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And sales are still up and trending up significantly to pre COVID levels.
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So then everyone... So we're down from COVID.
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But if COVID didn't happen, we're up from where we would have been in 22.
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Yeah, but the counterpoint is... Okay, I love a counterpoint. Please supply. When you look at the polling and studies on Gen Z alcohol consumption, that's where it really falls off a cliff. And that's where people get... very concerned. So, um, and, and there are endless amounts of shitty businesses that get launched where people are just kind of like following the crowd.
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And I do agree, I think- Because you can look at the numbers in a variety of ways. Yeah, I think- But in the absolute, I think that's what's actually important. The absolute size of the categories is massive still.
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If you have to have something, is sushi fine? Normally comedy shows, they warm you up with openers, right? And so the openers are the appetizers.
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Jules, what are we looking at?
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Harrison, get off your phone.
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I'm kidding. I'm kidding.
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Sorry, what were you saying?
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On the topic of Caesar salad.
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I'm not sure if I'm going to be allowed to do this, but I'm going to go with it.
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Anything else to note at these luncheons? I feel like the posture is really good at the luncheons.
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We're at the luncheon.
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No. Oh. I wrote down on this topic of are you dairy free or aren't you dairy free?
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In Miami, I wrote down all of the dairy that you ate.
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That's the one everyone loves to talk about right now.
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Yeah, I think that schools that focus on developing different life skills and interests and challenge the traditional norms are super interesting, to use your words. I think to... Bring it back to where we're at, if that's appropriate. Sure. We're definitely debating right now, what do we think is the best path for Tate?
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So first ever guest viewer.
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And I think we have reached some element of conclusion, at least for 12 months.
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And that is the game plan of skipping daycare, because the game plan was always at 12 months, you'd go to daycare. And we'll do a little mini school between our house and the neighbors. And we're going to loop in anywhere between two and four more kids. So I have a class of four to six and they will be taught and cared after by Maria.
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I actually made a note section because it got so excessive that if we're going to keep, like, I'm good with you saying you don't like dairy. It's this, I'm like allergic to dairy claim, but I'm going to go eat a chicken parm.
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But to clarify, the babies are always together. It's one day at our house, one day at their house.
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Yeah, it also cuts the price in half.
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Like you said, it's like a nanny shares a nanny. And it seems like such an obvious concept. But yeah, it doesn't seem like it's something that a lot of people we know do.
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Yeah. Even like the photos being shared of like you're not just receiving a photo of like. If you were at home and I was working and you're sending me a photo of Tate, that's just the one-on-one interaction. But because it's a photo of both the girls, it goes into the group text and everyone's interacting back and forth. And then, yeah, it's created a really fun dynamic.
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Are we going to call it a school? No.
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Okay. I like that a lot.
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What does she teach? I would love to do curriculum.
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Oh, he'll, he'll want activities.
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Oh, I love, yeah, I'm completely aligned.
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Part of what I just like, don't know is like, is how kids track developmentally from 12 to 24 months.
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Yeah, and it's not going to be very hard to figure out. But very excited to be bringing this in-house.
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There's no cheese left on the plate.
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so this girl though this girl wrote down so one thing i want is this girl named carla she commented on tick tock and i thought this was good she says because we were talking about homeschooling versus public school and she said before we go here i feel like we have missed oh where our head is at right which is like yeah for the long term for the long term like we thought hey the is is the best long-term solution this kind of mini school
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So a hybrid between homeschool of one kid and whatever traditional public or private school. And so by doing this for 12 months, doing the daycare home for 12 months, it's a great testing ground for us to decide, do we like it for the kids? Do we think the kids are developing and getting as much out of it as they would other options out there? And if we'd like it, then we can keep going.
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And if we don't like it, then we can do a more traditional path or whatever.
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So where did you put the cheese?
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It was my chicken parm. I cut you half and I was serving you the bites because you had Tate. Yeah, but there was a very nice guy me serving her the bites.
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Yes, and it's and I think that we'd want to add the way we'd set this up is we want to address a lot of what she's saying and And I think that one really tricky piece of this is going to be identifying who are the other four kids.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Because obviously you want to bring in kids that have like-minded values and interests, but you also want to surround yourself with both people and your children, surround your children with people that are going to push them and challenge them. And show different perspectives.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
So we'll see how that ultimately shakes out.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
So to me, there's a couple of pieces to it. I think it's critical that they are at different locations. And so whether we do like the Monday, Wednesday, Friday, Tuesday, Thursday thing, or we have it between three locations, I think that's very, very important. And I think that the way that we would set this up is they will...
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Definitely. You feel additional presence in the room. Yeah. I have a camera in front of her so I can't see her, which is making it a little, um, I want to use the right word.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
From an activity perspective, they will be out of the house significantly more than they otherwise would at a traditional daycare. They'll be doing activities. They'll be going to the park. They'll be going to the zoo. They'll be going to swimming and all that stuff.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Yeah, I would love them to go on a field trip every single day.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Much nicer of you to hold Tate than me to give you the bites. Okay. So I knew what you were, like, it was very clear. Like you were, there was no like hiding what was going on. There was no, the cheese was 50 50.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
I think we talked about this on the podcast.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Yeah, we can even do, I think what you're saying kind of before that was a play and like, but that's the point is like this young, they can't, they're going to be limited by what they can do and what they can comprehend.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Oh yeah. We got to make it a fun little experience.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
We're going to need an app.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Yeah. What else do we got?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
okay i i'm i was gonna go i i i'm i'm gonna give the city of austin flowers right now i can't i just the the the the lean in amongst the city for parents and community building around parents i don't know if it happens like this in every city but it just feels like like even what was going on friday night at zed's like it was a just a family fest.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Okay. So Caesar salad.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
So it just feels like there's a great cadence of families getting together and with open arms and inviting different people in, especially people that like just moved here.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
We love them and we're excited for the baby membership.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
We got Jules laughing.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Yeah, they're great.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Sorry. Caesar salad at, um, at the hotel.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
No, at our hotel for lunch.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
They clarified that there was butter in it.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
You had butter. You put butter on the bread that they brought.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
At surf club. The butter and the cool thing. You literally put the butter on.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
I got to find the list here. Hold on.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
I mean, the chicken parm is like enough.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
But where did the cheese go?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
That's just not what happened.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
But you had it all tripped. But I didn't.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Our steak at Sonny's. Butter. Drenched in butter.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
It was drenched in butter.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
The foie gras at Sonny's.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
It was like a chicken pate thing that they clarified had dairy in it. And he said, it's no big deal.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
So this is what we call a gaslight.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Okay, Jules is messaging us to move on. So we're going to move on.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
But back to Kill Tony.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
I think that there are certain things that when they get a lot of hype, it's really hard for them to live up to the hype. I think it exceeded the hype.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
So I want to go back, and I'm kicking myself because I could have got a second show.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Yeah. Like tonight? In like two months, and I didn't pull the trigger on it. Big mistake.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Now it's sold out. These things sell out like that. But it was worth the hype. Other than them serving sushi as an appetizer at a pizza restaurant.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Of course. Everyone gets nervous. I just don't remember the last time I got nervous.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Yeah, the show probably ended at 1045. We walked home, went to Don's Depot.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
And went to Don's Depot for a couple nightcaps.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
uh it looked like there was a corporate function going on but it was pretty full the singer was actually really good my mom didn't really notice the singer but the singer was very good i could tell you didn't notice don't worry did you notice the singer she noticed the singer sure yeah of course you notice the singer i'm sorry mom yeah so okay okay so where was he from she didn't notice where was he from did he did he say where he was from
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Oh, I was nervous. Last time I was nervous was during Tate's birth. I was very nervous during the birth.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
We're going to have to cut this because I don't want it to look like I'm giving my mom a hard time.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Did he have an accent? He was very clearly from a place.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
He was very clearly from a place.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
He had a very funny accent.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
It was like an Irish type accent.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Yeah. He gave me Ed Sheeran vibes. I thought he was like shockingly good. That's amazing. But it was also 12.45 on a Monday.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Before we move on, I want to give my mom her flowers.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Because I feel like that wasn't a good me calling her out for not recognizing her.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
He had a funky accent. That's all I was going for. Thank you very much for coming to Austin and your continued support throughout my entire life, and particularly the past few years. I had a very nice time with you. And I think it was very nice because she came in, she landed late on Mother's Day.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
So she got to do Mother's Day in Vancouver with my sister and that part of the family, brother-in-law, my dad. And she flew here and then we landed and we cooked her favorite meal, which was ribs and lobster.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
And then we did Kill Tony and you were, it was a phenomenal night. I heard you laughing quite a bit. She sang 10 out of 10. And thank you very much for coming and all of your support. And happy belated Mother's Day.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Now that said, you did not notice the musician at the bar last night. We were in deep chat. We were in deep chat. No, I'm kidding. That's okay. I love you.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Yes, it's cool. What are we talking about today?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Really? That's what we're talking about?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
It was very scary. And whoever, who gave us the recommendation to take the choking and CPR class?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
I think I may want to give Haley the credit.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
My brain was just thinking of how much time Tate spent trapped during the 36-hour labor.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Like, that was... It was so scary. And I just, like, wouldn't have known... Do you want to explain? I don't want to get into too much of the details.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Yeah, just glad we took that class and very keen to take it again because that was traumatic. And just like re-upping on exactly the do and don't foods that you should be giving here.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Home school, formula scandal & the “decline” of alcohol
Yeah, I wish that we'd taken it, like a long time had gone in between us taking it and the moment. But Harrison, you did it and you got it. I know, but I want to re-up on it frequently.
Two Parents & A Podcast
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I would love to know what you have to say to that.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Can friendships survive kids?! (+ supporting your partner & living a more spontaneous life)
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Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
I would just say financially you're absorbing more.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Well, I think that we've got a lot of things towards – like once we're done with this correcting what we said back in the past, I do think we have things figured out pretty well moving forward for like daycare, things like that. So we'll get into it. So the next thing we said was we're going to split meals 80-20. I actually think we're doing that.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Yeah, you get dinners and I get coffees and as you put it earlier, cheaper brunches.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
The minute you add a bagel and a lox in there, it's going to Harrison.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Do you want to know why my tone has changed to been on this whole thing?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Like when we had our first episode, I very much was like wanting to pull my weight. Yeah.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
And I, what I feel has happened after birthing the child, I've found that, and I think you and I talk about this, but there's areas where you've wanted to like step up more financially because like I'm literally milking my boobs.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Yeah, no, I just, I think that last time I very much so had this kind of like, I was almost like defensive about it, I felt like, because I very much so wanted it to appear 50-50 when it comes to the finances. But I think what we've realized is you do absorb much more financially now.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
And brand deals. I think, like, that's a big one too for me. I just think, like, in terms of brand deals, like, I... And in terms of growing, like, personal accounts, like, I couldn't function for...
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
six months I would say so I feel like I'm back now working but I very much so like to get these brand deals up like it took everything in me you know so now I'm more in the swing of things but I definitely saw how many you were passing on and yeah I was passing on a ton to like it was almost like I actually did take more of a maternity leave than I thought you know like we were recording episodes and things but none of this is really relevant I would just say financially you're absorbing more all right do you agree
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Okay, number four that you said on the episode was Alex needs financial accountability. And if I was grading myself, I would give me a B minus to an A plus since we last talked.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Your words, not mine.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Yeah, I don't hardly buy... I don't buy much at all anymore, actually.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
It's created a lot of space in my brain. I don't get on to shop to get things.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
No, you don't need it at all. And you've taught me to just like, well, I always knew staple items, but I loved like a big, like fun jacket or something. And now I'm just, no, I, but what I still love to do on a Saturday, I love to go walk around and look at what all, look at the new bags people put out, look at the new shoes, the new dunk colors. I love looking at it all, but just don't get it.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Don't buy it anymore.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Maybe, maybe not. We'll see.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Well, on that note, so somebody DMed and they said, what would be one thing that you would do the moment you turn 30? And you said?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
What's one tip you would give somebody who just turned 30 for their finances?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Yeah. And you said open up a Robinhood account and turn on auto deposits.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
No, but he did. I woke up and it was 10 o'clock in the morning and he had made breakfast and put it beside me in the bed like he had taken Tate. And he had packed the whole car. And I kept saying to you, I was so thankful.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Let me ask you this. What's one thing that's cost more as a parent than you that you didn't expect?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Yeah, but it, yeah.
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Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
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We did. We literally forgot the entire pump parts, all of them. So that made it interesting. Now my milk supply is down. I also think altitude had a lot to do with it. But also, losing the AirPod was frustrating. Okay, back in the day, if I was flying and I lost one single AirPod, I think I would just be annoyed at myself.
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Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
And then next time you see them, open it up with them sitting there like Harrison and I did it at brunch in Dallas together. make your first investment, figure it out, and then make it like a fun game where you can text screenshots to each other and things like that and ask the questions. But I do agree just getting in the game. Like I wish when I was 21 that I would have started doing $5 a week.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
I wish I would have like that would have been, I didn't start paying attention to any of this stuff till I was like 28. And so I think it's really good advice, but guess what? Now I'm 31 and I don't want to be 41 saying I just wish I would have started at 31. Like start now.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
You would literally say, hi, like, hi, I want to start a Robin Hood account. I have no idea how to do this. I don't know where to begin. I don't know what how to allocate my money. And I only want to do five dollars a month. Where should I start? Where do I even begin?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Yeah, this is clear to me, but you can pick like Harrison asked me, he's like, do you want to do Amazon? You want to do Disney? Like what do you want your first one to be? And I did Amazon.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
yeah yes it is what i did like amazon and so then it's like it's fun you can get into it that way so i just i do think though like starting somewhere is is good but i i want to move on from this because i do find it like a little boring like it's not it's it's good to do but it is just like hurt a bit um and then the last one on our current or our previous episode was prenup we haven't done it um so we'll keep posted i think we will
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
But I'm not that annoyed at myself today because it's like I had a baby in my lap. Like the AirPod was just – I remember looking at you and being like, I can't find my AirPod. And you're like, get over it. Get over it.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Yeah, well, I think we definitely will. We just haven't. The update there is there is no update. Okay, so now let's go into current things, costs, etc. The first one we're going to do is how much is a nanny versus how much is daycare with a burp. So we have our nanny share. Okay. And a lot of questions are, how did you even find your nanny? We found our nanny.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
We probably interviewed eight to 10 nannies through a nanny scouting service. Um, here it was called. We didn't find one through that. We ended up finding her through a daycare that was closing down. Our neighbor down the street had some resumes from there and we found Maria through that. And Maria is like reading her a book right now. We got a video earlier in Spanish and I absolutely love it.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
So our neighbors have a baby that's two weeks younger than ours. We do the nanny Monday, Wednesday, Friday here. Tuesdays and Thursdays, they go over to their house and we split the cost directly down the middle. So she's $30 an hour. So $15 an hour per family. And we have her from eight to four. So we have her eight hours a day, five days a week. So I know it's $7,200 every three months.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
So it's $28,000 a year. Each. Each, yeah. Okay, so that's how much the nanny is for the nanny share. Now, daycares around here, did you know the average cost of daycare in America is $300 a week?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Well, you also lost an AirPod.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
I thought so too. But that's what I said.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
That's just what I said, the average cost. I was like reading about it. So the daycares that we've looked at around here in Austin, the one that Tate can start... she'll be a baby shark when she's one years old. We looked at a Montessori, which was $15,000. We're not doing that one. We looked at, it's just like a private nonprofit school.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
It's $6,000 a year, so that's obviously a lot cheaper than the nanny is. And so there's different ways, though. You can look at it. But the reason we wanted to do the nanny share was we wanted her home the first year. But the good news about the nanny share is she's still around our neighbor's baby. She still gets out of the house two days a week, and she's here three days a week.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
We each have one AirPod. But I did the Apple delivery this morning. I woke up. I said, I'm not going to let that keep me down. I said, Harrison, you want some new AirPods or not? And he said, no. He's giving me the move it along. I think it's interesting. Okay, fine. We went to a Jewish wedding. It was my first Jewish wedding ever. Mazel Tov. Break the glass.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
But Harrison and I can still see her whenever we want. So I think this nanny share is the best-case scenario.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
So people were genuinely wondering how much are we paying a nanny, how much is a nanny, and how much are the daycares we've looked at.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
The nanny's share over ourselves.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
We're having a blast. We send photos back and forth all day.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
We're going to do an episode on public school versus private school versus homeschool. And so Maria, who is our nanny, the school that closed down was actually a school at home. The family moved to Florida that hosted it. And so she is actually used to running something like that. So like it is an option. It's just.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Yes.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Yeah. She did a school.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
No, no, no. There is... I don't know what you call it. But yeah, no. You're not the inventor of that. What?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Oh, I was like, no. People have been doing that. It's funny.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
You can't say that.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Juliet that I used to play volleyball with, she was fabulous. Yep.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
You cannot be on here calling home.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Were you really? Oh my God, Priscilla was homeschooled? See, now that's a class of example I would have never known.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
He's kidding. I'm shocked.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Juliet and Priscilla, I guess now.
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Here's the thing about it. This is my takeaway here. I'm like a hard no. So initially when Harrison brought it up, I was like, no, no way. But then I thought I have to be open to new ideas. And so I would consider this, but you'd have to make a really good case for it because I love the idea of dropping her off a little backpack.
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We'll see. We'll, we'll play with it.
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I'm down for that.
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No school.
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It's not my first Jewish wedding, actually, now that I'm thinking about breaking the glass. I think I've been to two.
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Yeah, been to two. Never paid attention to the glass breaking, though. Shatters into a million different pieces, and the whole point is you're never going to be able to put it back together.
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So the other way to skin the cat, which I'm going to now say dice the onion because I don't like saying skin the cat anymore because I look at it. I'm an emotional mom. So you dice the onion and that is nanny versus not nanny where the mom or the dad stays home. And so what do you think about that? What are your thoughts on that?
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What a PR answer. It is.
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Well, no, I think it boils down to, I honestly think you think I should only answer it because I'm the girl. And it's like when it came because nanny versus not nanny, I'm going to opt for childcare because I love working. And listen, the nanny share ended up being a godsend because it cut the cost in half.
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And it's great too because I can do brand deals around the house. There's nothing more than I love working from home, doing a brand deal, and then the little girls are just over there. So it is a dream set up because I get to be home and then they're here with us. Yeah. So I think there's a lot of ways to think about it.
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But when it came, I will say this though, when it came to nanny versus stay home, that one was easy for me. I knew I wanted to do nanny. When it came to daycare versus nanny, I wanted nanny because I wanted them around the house. Wow. Because we're at home.
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Okay. Now let's what?
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Oh, I'd love to, but that would be the same thing with daycare.
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You know, I love, I love, I've been loving getting the heart rate going. Um, okay. So on the, the topic of, you know, how much does a kid cost? Let's do hospital bill.
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So the hospital bill came back and it was $2,900. That was after insurance covered it. But what surprised me the most was the epidural bill. Like I didn't know you got a separate bill for epidural. Furthermore, let us recall, my epidural didn't work.
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You were thinking like, you were starting to think this baby was going to be like 50 grand.
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No, but did you know you can call your hospital and negotiate your bill? Because all you have to ask is, are there any available discounts? And most of the time the answer is yes.
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Oh.
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I read a lot about online how it is. You can negotiate your hospital bill.
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$290 total?
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That's great. Where'd you get that number?
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I didn't know if he couldn't see it.
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So the epidural bill pre, and to be honest, this is bad because I actually haven't gone in and paid the epidural bill yet. But the epidural bill pre-insurance that I got was $8,000. So there's two things I need to check on. One, did they charge me for two epidurals because they came back and re-administered it? And two, what is it post-insurance?
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Because what I did when I got the bill was I went in and I applied my insurance, but I haven't gotten the updated cost back.
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Well, no, not nice. I'm not paying $8,000 for something that didn't work.
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Literally, listen. Literally, guys, he took a phone break. No. The bill for having the baby was $2,900. Then I got my epidural bill separate from that, which was $8,000, which my two questions are, did they bill me twice?
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Well, I am. The thing that's crazy, though, is we got the hospital bill to our door. They mailed it to us. Right. And they texted it to me. But then I only got a text about this epidural bill separately. Maybe it's a scam. I need to sit and figure it out.
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Anesthesiologists are both pulling a fast one on me. But what I did do before we had the baby, which is how I knew how much money the baby was going to be, was I called them and I asked them, how much is it? And then they ask you, what percent does your insurance cover? And then they'll tell you what the cost of the baby should be, having it. And that's for like standard.
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Well, no, we weren't until you said that.
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So this was two nights in the hospital. No, one night in the hospital room and then two nights postpartum. So they'll explain it all to you. But like call these hospital lines. Our girl was so helpful and she just hung up and. Done. All right. Let's see. Let's go now to things we've done for Tate financial planning wise that we have set up for her future.
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How much does that cost?
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To be honest, I don't know and I know that you know. So would you tell us?
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No, we won't go down that path, but we wouldn't have even known that about that guy.
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A lot of people were asking if those are still worth it. Those are a thing.
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Totally.
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Okay.
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You told us.
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Could he not see the glass, though, because his stomach was so big? Like a rugby player?
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And then now isn't the new thing too that we should be paying her?
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Wow. Which that I think is something that's very important to take advantage of if you can.
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So if I did a brand deal, you know, with insert brand here, and Tater happened to be in that video, would that count?
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I'm going to ask them.
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Yeah.
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He just couldn't coordinate stepping on the glass? He just missed it, yeah. That's really too bad. So what I liked about this wedding was there was no dancing. And the reason I liked that was because the groom doesn't like dancing. And so he just had this wedding that was so special. And like we all chilled at the tables and like ate and talked. And I thought that was really fun and unique.
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I think we said we wanted to do all of these things. OK, we had like big dreams and aspirations when she was born. And then and then these babies are born and you blink and they're four months old. And so, yeah, you've done three things like you do, like even having your crypto wallet. But I think if people pick one thing like I feel you're taking the lead on this completely.
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But I feel better knowing she has the 529 open.
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But I think that a lot of people were asking advice on it, and we're not pros on it, okay? But one thing we will say we're doing is we're doing it. We're getting skin in the game, shots on the net. And hopefully when we wake up when she's 10 years old, there's compounding, not interest, but compounding funds that have occurred.
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To add to it. Okay. Let me ask you this. What's one thing that's cost more as a parent than you that you didn't expect? One sneaky cost.
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So we were crunching some numbers earlier. The night nurse for three months is the cost of a nanny for a year.
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How about that? How about them apples? The night nurse was the night nurse. I would say is our one splurge. That's our splurge so far. Yeah. What about you? Well, you know, I was going to say diapers. So we weren't paying, we weren't buying any diapers. They were all being sent to us. And then we're like changing diapers more now.
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So we've been buying more diapers and like, I'm just a Huggies girl. I know everyone loves these Coterie diapers, the Pampers things. Listen, H-E-B has Huggies. So like I just added to the order. She loves the diapers. Like she doesn't fuss about it. So we use Huggies diapers. So I was doing the math on it. If you change the diaper 12 times a day, The diaper cost for a year is $1,500.
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That just wasn't the number I was thinking. I was thinking it was going to be like $5,000 a year.
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$1,500 a year?
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I know, but I just thought the number was going to be so much bigger because every time I buy them, I just think this is exhausting. It has to be adding up to some crazy number.
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So I'm missing something on this coterie thing because I went and price checked theirs. And it came at $700 a year.
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were you checking the right quantities yeah i was but i think i was getting the subscription price i think if you because they have the subscription that gets delivered to your door but they're saying you're only changing the diaper six times a day so i don't really know there's some flaws in the system so i guess actually they might be the same exact price girl mother Yeah.
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I would swap to the Coteries though if they were the same price for principal. But no, my thing that cost more that I was shocked about was the epidural. I just thought the epidural was included with the hospital. I guess not. I don't think people know when you get the epidural that it costs. It's an added cost. I don't think people know that.
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Well, how much does that cost in you?
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You can't be making fun of people with hormones like that. You can't be doing it. It's not going to fare well for you on the internet. I can take it, but some people, they get, they get upset about it.
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Thank you. You can only make fun of me and make those jokes because you're crushing it. I'm good. I don't need the accolades. You're an incredible father as well. An incredible father who almost got ground turkey through at him this morning.
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From one person, from one hormonal postpartum mother to a loving, caring father.
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And the issue was the issue at hand was Tate is over at our neighbors today and I'm pumping the milk. We're going bottle for bottle. We're not even going bottle for bottle. We're going ounce for ounce. And I wanted Harrison to take it over to the neighbor's house.
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Did you not want me to tell that story? You were kind of pawing it down.
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Is anyone noticing the irony here? He wanted me to not tell the story about the Valentine's Day card, but he didn't want to.
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No, you told me you'd take the bottle until 1220 and at 1227 you said you were busy. Okay.
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I didn't even do the laundry on those.
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All right. I don't even think that we're going to skip parenting confession.
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I love it. I love it so much. I love it.
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What?
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Do you want to do things we DM'd each other? Yes or no?
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Welcome to Two Parents in a Podcast. Ladies and gentlemen, we are back for what?
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All right. You DM'd me that Coke and cigarettes kill you. I'm going to drink my Coke for this one.
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I said agreed.
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What do you mean?
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You down?
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This is a no-cocaine household.
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12 minutes. 12 minutes confirmed.
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That's on facts.
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That's a nice subtle plug right there. I think that I'm just wondering, what are they counting backwards from? Like, how can they make such a blanket statement? Are they assuming we all live to 100 and then they're counting down from there?
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What's the point?
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What's the point of depriving yourself of diet Coke? If you love diet, but this was Coke, not diet Coke, just to get hit by a car at 70, you know, like why, why collect the time if you love it so much?
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You don't agree.
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Well, everyone's allowed to have their take.
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It was an absolute blast and I thought you had a good wedding move, which was you went and got cigars for the guys, for the group chat. And then at one point you all went outside and you smoked cigars and you came back in and you guys shared memories and I thought it was a really good thing you can take to a wedding.
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Does anyone... What on earth kind of a response is that?
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Oh, now he's just keeping off. Okay, I messaged you about surrogates. They just, here's the thing. Like, I feel like we have been on this episode forever. And so I don't want to go through the surrogates right now. I'm going to talk about it next week. And I might not even talk about it next week, listeners. I might forget about it. The point is, in short, they're more expensive than I thought.
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They take longer than I thought. You have to get lawyers. You have to go through IVF. You have to get matched with the person. And then you have to go through a system to get matched.
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Okay. Well, I'm just explaining in short. In long. Okay. All right. And let's wrap up with, for the third time, we're going to give the Girl Scouts some publicity.
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So one thing that I learned was, because I was saying that the Girl Scout cookies aren't good anymore, and everyone was DMing me that there's different manufacturers and different, depending on what area you're in, which might be why they taste different. The Girl Scout cookies we got, plain and simple, they were bad. But then you're reading that they have like tar in them.
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They're bringing in $192 million and they're giving $8 million to the chapters.
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Glyphosate. Glyphosate.
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Like plant killer.
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Not a good month. I mean, we've been after them. I just want justice, but we have a little girl. So if she's going to be a Girl Scout.
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All of it.
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Just leave it to us out here. Why am I yawning?
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We got to go because we actually have to pick up the baby like immediately.
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Which is plastic straws. Just give it to us. Why are they bringing the plastic straws back?
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No. Well, the environment. Everyone says that they're bad for the environment.
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They're awful. They need another alternative.
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Yes, I just think straws in general are bad for lip lines. So it's better to avoid them in general.
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Welcome to our home. Sorry, it's so messy. That's our tagline. All right. We love you guys. We seriously must go retrieve our child.
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I really liked the Maria, the mother of the groom speech too, because she shouted each of you out individually, but she mixed in like humor, but it was also sentimental, but it was also impressive that like, cause going up there and, you know, naming people off and saying something witty about them is no easy feat. So I thought that was very good public speaking skills.
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Yeah, it was awesome. It was a really great wedding. And Tate's first trip to Canada, he used her passport. So this cute little girl boarded the airplane. So Harrison and I have this new thing with Tate where we drive her around because she can't pick where she goes.
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Have you ever just looked at babies and they're just being held and they're just being driven around by whoever's picked them up that day? And so we always, Harrison drove her around the airport and she just sits in like a little sidecar, like a little kangaroo in a little pouch.
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Well, it is based off of the popular name two peas in a pod. But then we modernized it by saying parents and a pod cast.
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She's a FOMO baby.
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Wrap yourself in luxury, especially when it starts with your sheets. You guys, Bowl and Branch sent us sheets, and we've been putting them on our bed. They are... unbelievable because right now self-care is everything to me because the little time I get to myself and the amount of sleep that I get is what makes me a better mom because time is limited right now.
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They feel breathable, buttery soft, and get even softer with every wash, which is incredible because they don't start to pill. They just get better. The signature handmade, sorry, the signature hemmed sheet sets. They're designed and they have colors from every bedroom style and mattress size.
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These all season sheets have breathable unmatched softness to start and get softer with every single wash. You can try bowl and branch sheets for an entire month. Seriously, you can wash style and feel the difference for yourself risk-free. If they don't change the way you sleep, You can send them back for a full refund. I love when people put their money where their mouth is.
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Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
I want to talk about the Valentine's Day card we found in your side drawer. Please. It's so funny. It's so funny. Okay, so we're in Harrison's room and his family has a cabin in Whistler and we're in Harrison's room. And me and Parker, who's his niece, we're in there like playing. And she opens up the bedside table and shakes out this card. And she's like, what's this? And I'm like, it's a card.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Yeah. It's a play on words. No, I get that.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
She's like, who's it from? And so I open it up and I start reading it. I'm like, oh, it's from Harrison's ex. And it's a Valentine's. Oh, man. She had described her present to Harrison. for valentine's day with some detail okay what would you like to say something i think the most awkward part about it is it's so funny we closed the car we put it back in the door
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
It was.
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Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Well, like I put it back. And so the best part was we were laughing about it and we were talking to Dave, who's Harrison's brother-in-law. And I was like, oh my gosh, Parker found a card. And Dave was like, oh, I've read that card. Like he knew what the card was and he could like recite what the card said.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
He also put the card back in the bedside table. And when we left, I was laughing because I was like, I also put the card back in the bedside table. And Harrison was like, I threw the card away. So the card's been thrown away. I just thought it was so funny that she found it.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Yeah, well.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Julie and Priscilla told us that we were choogy if we did pod. So here we are with podcast.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Like, no, I cannot care about a card your ex-girlfriend wrote you.
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Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
I was not mad... Why do you do this to me? Like, I cannot be mad about the card. Do you not think that I wrote cards to my exes?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
What's one tip you would give somebody who just turned 30 for their finances?
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Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
I'm literally not mad. I just brought it up on the podcast. So you promise you...
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Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Correct. I did not get mad at you.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
I get mad at you because you do this to me and you tell me that I'm mad. It's like, I'm not mad about the car.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Well, okay. The one part that I was mad at.
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Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
I don't know whether or not.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Do you want me... Okay, what?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
I was mad because... About...
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
The card... Nope, sorry. No, you want to make your bed, you're going to sleep in it, okay? No, here you go. We need to respect her.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
You don't want to.
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Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
This is insanity. I was not mad about the card. I could care less about the card. A million people have written their ex-girlfriend and boyfriends. I was married. I wrote cards, okay? What I was mad about was the present she gave you in the card was something that you didn't like. Just saying. That's what I thought was a little ironic. Relax.
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Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
I don't know if I should have pushed back or not, but nonetheless. All right. Well, here we are. Here we are. We got steamrolled. You guys, today is... the finance episode where we're going to talk about our finances, nanny versus daycare costs, future planning, things we've done for Tate investment wise.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
No, one man-whore in a pod. That's what it is. Relax.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Sounds like a cigar. Oh, man. All right, so we're going to jump into, well, what would you like to do first? Do you want to do our finances now? Or do you want to do things we DM'd each other? I think let's do our finances. I'm feeling finances. All right, so guys, we did an episode. So we're in episode like 40 of Two Parents and a Pod. And back, what?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Okay, that's a really good clarification. We are on episode three of Two Parents and a Pod. Back when it was just Alex, episode 10, we did a finance episode between Harrison and I. We're going to do some callbacks to that right now.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
We're going to do some updates, some edits, and then we're going to get into how much is an ante cost, how much is a hospital bill cost, how much are we putting towards Tate's College, things like that. Now, the first thing we said last time was 10% of each of our bank accounts should go... No, not 10%. Let me re-say that. 10% of each of our salaries should go into a shared bank account.
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Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
People on the internet were like, you two are overcomplicating it. And can I say, I side with the internet. I agree. We are completely overcomplicating it. I would just rather use your card.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Never did that.
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Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Did you hear me say I would just rather use your card?
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Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Just now.
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Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
No, I do. I've plugged it into the HEB grocery supply.
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Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Smart.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
So we'll get into all that and whether or not, you know, Harrison and I do actually have a joint bank account and put 10% into a joint card or not. But first, we just got back from Canada. And let me tell you what, there were some casualties from this trip. Like my, like I left my whole pumping set.
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Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
Well, I didn't steal it. You gave it to me one time to put in and it said, would you like to save this card? And I accidentally clicked yes. I said, oh my God, what happened? And then from there, I just never checked whose card it was. But I knew it was the reason I always pick HEB for my grocery delivery. Okay. And I pay to have it delivered, $13.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Breaking down our joint finances, childcare & college fund (our "money talk" pt. 2)
I could do it for free tomorrow or you could get it within a couple hours. I clicked that option. All righty. thank you for stocking the fridge all right so we had said we'll put 10 of each of our paychecks into a shared account the reality of the situation is one that is over complicating it too we haven't even opened up a shared account yet no who has the time do you have the time
Two Parents & A Podcast
Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
I'm not gonna be mad if I get a happy new year the third week. I'm not gonna be mad.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Did the waitress, was the waitress like, whoa?
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Well, I'm not gonna be focused on the new year.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Comp the entire meal and it is not close.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
And there's no questions. Did you eat any of the chicken? Yes, you had bites of the chicken.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
The meal needs to be immediately comped.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
No, they brought dessert? No. Okay, did you say something?
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
I don't care if you had a $3,000 bottle of wine. The meal gets comped. You ate raw chicken.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
I think that people, I think that Thanksgiving to me is not in part of the happy holidays. But I do think when you start saying happy holidays, you're also saying I'm shutting my laptop. I think they very much so go hand in hand. Like, Have you seen those memes where people are like, happy holidays and we'll touch base after the new year? That vibe? I think that starts around Thanksgiving.
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Wow. Yeah, so alright, I agree. Especially because of the caliber of the restaurant. Because they have Frank Sinatra above, it's obviously a place that cares a lot about their identity and I think their reputation, I mean. And so I think you just, of course, you comp the meal. Die ganze Mahlzeit.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Du hattest kein Gefühl an dem rauen Kuchen?
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Nein, ich meine, der Manager kommt her und sagt, Leute, sorry für die Unabhängigkeit. Ich kann nicht glauben, dass ihr einen roten Kuchen getrunken habt. Wir haben eure ganze Mahlzeit komplett entschärft. Und bitte kommen Sie zurück und sehen uns.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Nein. Was ich... Hast du Füße verpestet?
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Let's talk about a new brand, Quince, that I am so obsessed with, you guys. I just got in these, they're these shoes and they're Birkenstock lookalikes, but they look more high quality and they are so comfortable. I am obsessed with them. Also, I have two of their cashmere sweaters. The quality is unbelievable and the price is incredible.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
There's like two corner booths, right? And it's almost like they could work for one large party, you know, but like we were at one and then there was a family at another. Well, it wasn't a family. It was a mom and she had taken out her daughter and then a daughter's friend for what seemed like a birthday dinner. And the mom started making like this, like commotion.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
And the manager came over and she was like, there was a hair in my plate and I want the whole meal comped. And the manager was like... Ja. Ja. Ja. Ja. Ja. Ja. Ja. Ja. Und ich erinnere mich, dass ich wirklich traurig wurde. Auf jeden Fall, der Manager endete tatsächlich, sie zu bitten, einfach zu gehen. Weil er eigentlich sagte, ich muss das Haar sehen, wenn du das sagst.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Und es war eine sehr traurige Situation. Ich erinnere mich nur, wir sitzen nebenbei und sagen, was passiert? Aber im Grunde genommen, er hat nicht gedacht. I think he thought she asked way too soon for the entire meal to be comped.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Jetzt ist es hier, wo ich denke, es ist nuanced, wie du es sagst. Also, das Haar könnte von der Person sein, die das Gericht bestellt hat, ohne dass ich einen langen, schwarzen Haar gefunden habe.
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Du weißt eigentlich nicht, was du zu einem Blonden sagst, wenn du das sagst. Es ist offensiv.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
I guess. Or the week of Thanksgiving. Listen, I don't start throwing happy holidays around until December.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Yeah, Priscilla said you just broke a cardinal rule. What's the rule? Just, like, don't say that to blondes.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Yeah, she does that.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
That's the equivalent of saying, like... Was ist das, was ich sagen kann? Ich kann nichts mehr denken. Ich denke, dein Haar sieht gut aus. Danke, ich mag mein Haar. Okay, aber hier ist der Punkt. Ich denke, dass es Zeiten gibt, wo das Haar in der Mahlzeit gekocht wird. Ich überlege mir, dass du Curry hast und es in der Mahlzeit gekocht wird.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Das ist, wo ich denke, du kannst den Manager überhören und sagen, hier ist das Haar und zeig es. Ich denke, du kannst definitiv sagen, ob es deins oder deines war. Mein Punkt ist, dass du in einem schönen Restaurant das Gericht kumpfst und sie ein neues machen.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
But to request right out of the gates without evidence of the hair that the whole meal will be comped, I don't know, it seems a little fishy.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Let's talk about StoryWorth because you guys know I'm obsessed with this gift. I gave it to my dad last year. Harrison gave it to his dad last year before StoryWorth was even a sponsor. So you guys know I like truly am obsessed with this product. It's such a good Christmas gift. So
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
That's StoryWorth.com slash Alex and save $10 on your first purchase. And pro tip, this can be a last-minute gift, so don't sleep on StoryWorth. I have a hard time getting over a hair. Because have you ever swallowed a hair? Have you ever?
Two Parents & A Podcast
Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Oh man, because I've had one like halfway.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Yeah, it can be bad and you pull it out. It's awful. So, another story.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
What happens when we pass IHOP? I explain to Harrison why I'm not going to IHOP. Because one time we went to IHOP after... I think we used to have this thing where you could spend the night out on the baseball fields in tents, okay? And we did that. And the next morning we went to IHOP and one of my friends...
Two Parents & A Podcast
Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
That's a meal comp and I think a gift card. And a voucher, for sure. A voucher.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
That's a voucher. But listen, I never went back. And I'm telling people about the story.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Okay, also wenn er da ist und fünf Waffeln isst, hat er 29... 19 Stunden? 18 Stunden noch.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Ja. Nein, also, wenn er... Ich glaube, er muss da sitzen. Ja. For 24 hours? Yeah. They'll be open.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
I don't think you get to do that.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Have you had a Waffle House Waffle?
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Ich hatte früher ein ernsthaftes Waffelhaus, weil es das einzige Restaurant war, das wir gehen konnten. Das Haus, in dem wir zwölf Jahre lang gelebt haben. Sydney und ich würden oft gehen und den All-Star-Frühstück trinken. Das ist der Waffel mit Toast, Eier, Bacon und Grits.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Aber Waffle House, und Waffle House für mich ist ein nostalgischer und phänomenaler Einrichtung. Und ich würde es sehr empfehlen. Das Butter, es schmerzt deinen Stomach zu einem Niveau, das nicht passieren sollte.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
And there's 24 waffles and there's 24 Waffle House waffles.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Oh, no. Someone that eats for taste, a Waffle House waffle is a bad recipe. Oh, I'm excited.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
And if anyone breaks any of those rules, are you mad or?
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
What do you want to talk about next?
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Let's talk about magnetic me. Because you guys, changing a newborn is like changing a cat. And it is incredibly hard. And when it comes to zippers and when it comes to those buttons, they'll become your, they'll truly become your worst enemy. So Harrison and I are constantly changing Tate into these magnetic me pajamas because they just quite literally magnet up. It's genius.
Two Parents & A Podcast
Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Oh gosh, I don't agree. Not around the holidays.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
And I even got a pair of pajamas for myself because whenever I'm breastfeeding or pumping, the magnets are so convenient. And as a little, as a mom of a little one, let me tell you, I love magnetic me. No wonder so many other moms gave me the gift of magnetic me pajamas for Tate because they are truly so easy and convenient. And they have the cutest prints ever.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
We just got this pink one with like little white birds on it. It is adorable. They have a variety of prints. There's something for every kid and they have matching outfits for parents and kids. So the whole family can be in on it. And the fabric is so soft and they just look adorable in them.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
So do what I did and make changing time easier for you and your baby so you can spend more time on the things you love. Order Magnetic Me today for yourself or as a great gift for any parent. Go to magneticme.com. New customers will get 15% off their first order. Don't wait. That's magneticme.com. Your buddy's been pulling it off?
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
How did I find out about what?
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Wo hat er sich gesetzt?
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Aber sind da keine gesicherten Stühle auf dem Boden?
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
No, I don't think so. One bit. I think it's all fluid. I'm good with whatever you want to say. I don't care. I don't care when you start saying it. Listen, I'm down to start saying happy holidays around October when Halloween hits because it's also a holiday.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Also, wenn du einen Sicherheitsgürtel findest, den du bezahlen kannst, der 100 Dollar kostet, kann er dich runternehmen.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Aber du musst den richtigen Mann finden, der es akzeptiert.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Ja, und dann, besonders wenn es einer ist, wo es nicht die Sitzung ist. Was ist das? Generelle Aufmerksamkeit auf dem Boden. Ja. Ja, das ist, wo es ein echter Banger ist. Und dann kriegst du die Brustbande. Ja. So you gotta go early. And you gotta be down to wait it out. Which is fine because it's such good people watching people come into a concert. It's a really brilliant tip.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Yeah, I've not done that. It's a really good tip.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
No, not a chance. Why? Because like I You're a ticket snob. I think you just need to say that.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Ich mag den Komfort eines Assigned Seats, wenn ich weiß, dass es mir okay ist, dort zu sitzen.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Ich mag es, dass du uns in der letzten Episode ein paar Geschichten aus dem Ausland erzählt hast. Hast du jemals zu einem Konzert im Ausland gegangen?
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Ich glaube ich habe ein Bild auf Instagram. Leute vergessen das... Nr. 1 ist Justin Bieber super talentiert. Aber zweitens, er hatte eine schwierige Zeit. Wenn du immer an deinem Telefon schaust, was ich dir schon mehrere Male gesagt habe, ich kann nicht fokussieren.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Aber Harrison, ich habe auch die Agenda beobachtet. Aber ich glaube nicht, dass du mich beobachten siehst. Du beobachtest Instagram, deine Textmessage und dann die Agenda und nennst es Agenda beobachten. Es ist nicht lustig, mit mir zu sprechen.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
No, because she knows I'm right. Okay. You're not even checking the agenda. Open your phone. Show it to me. Yeah, uh-huh. Okay, exactly. Text messages, email. You're not even on the notes. The notes app is the Instagram. You asshole. Yeah, the notes app is not even... I didn't even see what the third one was, like Slack or something. Your fantasy league, I'll bet.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Nein, ich weiß gar nicht, was ich gerade gesagt habe, weil du etwas beobachtest.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Ich habe neue Augenbrauen.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Besonders wenn du weißt, dass sie neue Augenbrauen-Creme bekommen haben. Nun, hier ist mein Tipp für euch Mädchen, das ich letztens bemerkt habe. Also gestern waren wir bei unserem Freundeshaus und machten ein paar Sachen. Aber Tate brauchte eine Schüssel. Aber wir hatten auch einen Geburtstagskuchen und der Geburtstagskuchen musste geschnitten werden.
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Yeah, because I'm a jolly lady. Oh, and I've watched two Christmas movies. I'm in the spirit. Guys, the house is a mess. The wheels have fallen off here.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Also wollte ich Tate nicht die Schüssel geben. So I offered up a worse job. So basically, Tate started crying and I said, oh, I'll give her the bottle. And then I said, but Harrison, you got to cut the birthday cake, knowing he would trade me. And then he said, I'll give her the bottle, you cut the birthday cake.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
So if you offer up something else that needs to be done, like, I'll give her the bottle, but you sweep the floors. He'll be like, no, I'll give her the bottle. Yeah, you got me. You totally got me.
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Life with no nanny, moving abroad & the raw chicken incident
Du gibst ihm den Löffel, aber dann musst du den Kühlschrank sauber machen. Er wird dich swappen.
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Ja, jedes Mal. Das ist mein neues Ding. Wir ändern die Schuhe. Nein. Erinnere dich. Hast du schon die Schuhe verändert?
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Frau. Männer. Sag es mit mir. Frau. Männer.
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So before me, did you ever change your sheets?
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Well, how often is enough?
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Like what? Like once every three months?
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Okay, so like once a month? Once a week?
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That's a lot for a guy. Yeah. And did you change pillowcases?
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Why do I have a feeling that you just ordered new sheets and didn't like wash them and re... Did you have two pairs of sheets that you would use?
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Das ist eigentlich eine Menge für einen Mann. Überraschend. Gut gemacht. Danke. Okay. Können wir über die neue Sache sprechen, die wir gelernt haben?
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Traumfühlen. Traumfühlen. Wie wussten wir das nicht? Ich glaube, wir wussten es einfach nicht.
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Oh nein, ich glaube, dass Drehbetriebe völlig erlaubt werden, weil es keine Grund ist, dass es nicht sein würde.
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Es ist im Grunde genommen, dass Drehbetriebe um 10 Uhr, wenn man das Baby aufwachen muss, um sie zu füllen, damit sie es durch die Nacht machen, während sie noch schlafen, bevor sie aufwachen, weinen und hungrig sind, du nimmst den Bottle in ihren Mund und sie trinken es, während sie schlafen. Ja. Ja, das Internet scheint vollständig für das Tränen zu sein.
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She's a newborn.
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Im Grunde genommen gibt es ihnen einen längeren Schlafstreifen, ohne sie aufzuwachen. Ich liebe es.
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Ja, wir haben es einmal gemacht und wir werden es machen.
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Ja, das Tränen, glaube ich, ist eine wirklich gute Sache. Ich weiß nicht, es gibt so viele Dinge in der Parenting, die man einfach missen kann. Wir haben uns nicht vor dem Passivier in den ersten drei Wochen vorgenommen. Do you know what I mean?
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I don't sound like that.
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But here's the thing that we're trying to do. Because the nanny, so we had a temp nanny who was filling in until we found our permanent nanny. And when she started filling in, it was two months ago. And we said to ourselves, we'll definitely have a nanny in place by December 1st. And we just didn't interview anybody. And so now the nanny's done. She was lovely, but it is nice.
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Well, I asked my mom's group on Instagram, like, do we tip babysitters? And I got a lot of DMs and they were saying, overall, no, you don't tip the babysitter. You do tip the babysitter if they're through an agency where they don't get 100% of the money. Also a girl DMed me saying, I am a babysitter and I often do work around the house while the babies sleep, like clean up.
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So I appreciate the tip.
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Yeah, it seems so.
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No, I actually tipped the first two.
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Yeah, yeah, the first one. Yeah, they got tips. They got good tips, actually. We tried to go to a bar and they wouldn't let Bubba in. They wouldn't let her in because they said it's 21 and over. And we were just looking at them like, she can't talk. Like, what do you think about that? Is that a way of just saying we don't want kids crying?
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I'm actually good with it. She was like dead asleep and she's clearly a newborn. So I did just think like, let's let the baby in. But yeah, it's happened to us twice now. Okay, lasst uns dann die Hörerfrage machen. Okay. Und dann könnt ihr essen, denn wisst ihr, wer sonst hungrig ist? Bubs. Unser kleiner Mädchen. Er isst heute viel. Okay, also jemand hat mir diese Hörerfrage ge-emt.
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Und ich möchte eigentlich, dass Leute anfangen, solche Fragen zu machen. Und wir machen sie auf dem Podium. Also, hi, ich bin ein erstes Mal Mama und ich fühle mich wirklich isoliert zu Hause. Ich will rausgehen und Dinge machen, die mich produktiv fühlen. Etwas wie in den Supermarkt gehen, während mein Mann am Arbeitstag ist. I'd love to hear what you think about this. I think...
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You know, you always say, don't share advice, share experiences, which I think is really applicable here. Because like, there's a lot of opinions coming at you on the Internet, like we see all the time, right? And then a lot of family and friends have opinions. And I think the first thing that you and I decided on was like, we'll make the decisions on the babe, right?
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When it comes to Tater, like you and I will ultimately make the decisions. But we're open-minded skeptics with advice that people give us. So like happy to pull the audience and see what people think and then filter it through our own systems and be like, okay, this is what's best for her.
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So for me, when it came to taking her out and about, there were places I was comfortable taking her and there were places I wasn't. So like the store for me, I was fine going with her because we walked to the grocery store and then I don't feel like we're sitting in one spot with her. So that to me felt pretty germ friendly and like I was good with it. But that was my own gut check.
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I just love having Tater for December. It's the holidays. I want to dress her in Christmas stuff. I just want to hold her. And with that, the house has completely fallen apart. And for the first time in my life, like I, my goal is to clean it tonight. But usually the house being this messy would stress me out. And I'm really detached from it. I'm really just like embracing it.
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And she has an active airway. Yes, an active airway. And onlines have the exact same things. And then you look up hip development, her legs need to be in an M. So like, we polled a couple people and then we feel really good about what we decided to do with that. You know? So it's like, don't just take... We don't take one person's piece of advice as like Bible.
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We do throw a few in the mixing bowl and then we make our own salad out of it. Yeah.
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Yeah, like we needed, we didn't need to go to LA, but we needed to go to LA. And so we're like, this is worth it and we'll do it. But like, would we go to Nashville right now for fun? No, because traveling is, it's hard with her. Exactly. Okay, so yeah, feel free to DM the JustAlexPod account if you guys have more questions, because we'd love to go through them.
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Do you know what that means? Because I fear you've never heard the term.
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Do you know this line? Say grace. Who's grace? The blessing. Do you know what movie that's from?
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Hast du nie einen Weihnachtsabend gesehen?
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Hast du den Grinch oder den Weihnachtsabend gesehen?
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Du denkst, Weihnachtsabend ist ein Schnitzelfest?
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She's a newborn.
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Hast du vor Weihnachten mit Vince Vaughn gesehen?
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If your visa didn't get renewed, we'd stay here in America and you'd go back to Canada.
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Ich kann den Family Stone nicht abschließen, weil es so schmerzhaft wird, wenn ich davon ausstehe. Also habe ich wahrscheinlich 70 Prozent davon gesehen. Aber ich weiß, dass es ein Klassiker ist, aber ich werde es nicht abschließen. Okay. Was haben wir vorher darüber geredet? Nicht vorher, bevor wir an diesem Thema geredet haben. The house being messy, this house, yes. It's just a pigsty.
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But we're just embracing that. And giving ourselves grace, yes. And just loving this time with Tater. Because this is what I said to Harrison yesterday. I'm not going to look back at this time and think, oh, the house was so clean. Oh, I got to go on my walks every day. No, I'm going to look back on it and be like, wow, we had so much fun, the three of us as a family, while she was a newborn.
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A moment for you, a round of applause. Harrison's big, big, big news. So we were riding in the car on the way to the airport. I was dropping you off. No, we were Ubering to the airport.
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Comp the entire meal and it is not close. Welcome back to another episode of Just Alex. Happy holidays. So you transition to happy new year?
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And he says to me that he's got huge news that impacts me. And I'm like, oh, like, what is it? And he makes me guess. And what were my guesses? I was guessing subjects.
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Well, I got it though. Okay, you did, I'm wrong. I take that back. Yeah.
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And the news was Harrison's visa has been renewed. Now, that might sound like an easy feat to us that are just spoiled and live in America and think, what did you like, paperclip and staple and like it got approved. But no, it's very hard to get your visa approved and to stay here. What a privilege to work in America.
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The American dream.
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What could go wrong there?
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Wir erklären uns die Visas. Welche Optionen gibt es? Studenten-Visa?
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Also für drei mehr Jahre bist du sicher?
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Und dann, wenn wir nicht erneuert werden, Harrison und ich, er fragte mich, was passieren würde. Und ich sagte, natürlich, Tater und ich, wir bleiben hier in Amerika und du gehst zurück nach Kanada.
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Ja, wir würden sie einfach zurück und forth schicken. Ich würde in Austin bleiben. Er lebt in Vancouver.
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Okay. So, we would have just moved somewhere together as a family.
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Warte mal, ein Moment für Vancouver. Ich weiß nicht, ob das wahr ist. Ich liebe Vancouver.
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That's interesting. I just trust you. I'll just lean on you on that. Because I always told you I would live in Vancouver. But I said, if we move to Vancouver, it's going to be because you said that's the move.
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Which I still very much want to do.
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I'd love to do it.
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Ich denke, dass unsere drei Monate Sommer hier sehr anders werden werden. Was denken Sie, was wir tun werden? Hör auf, unser Plan war es, dass wir gehen wollten, weil Tate klein ist. Wir gehen mit ihr oft raus. Wir nehmen sie zu Restaurants und Kaffeeshops und so. Denn meistens schläft sie, wenn man sie mit ihren Füßen zeitet.
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Wir wollten also in Paris oder London für zwei Monate nächstes Jahr gehen.
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Ich denke, es wird großartig.
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Yeah. Okay, because we went to LA. And it's so much easier. It's so funny. It's like sometimes you just got to do these things once and then you got a handle on it.
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I think you say happy new year all of January.
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I've gotten some messages from some people asking, okay, how do you travel with bottles? What's the sanitizing process? XYZ. And it was trial and error, right? Like I didn't read up on how to do it. I just sort of figured out.
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And the thing that works the best is take like a mason jar of milk and then take three or four bottles and just get like you use a clean bottle each time, get the bottles dirty, get to the hotel room, get soap, wash them off. Ein Kettel von heißem Wasser. Sanitieren sie alle. Weißt du, was ich meine? Ja.
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Ja, ich fühle mich nur in Bezug auf ihre Milky. Wir nennen sie Miss Milky. Das ist das wichtigste. Und ich fühle mich wirklich in Bezug auf den gesamten Prozess, um sie gefedert zu machen.
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Or at least like the first week or two.
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Harrison, learning the term, save it for the pod.
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What did you guys do in Morocco?
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The universe was mad at you.
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If it's like an, if it's a weighted.
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If there's a, yeah, I mean a volcano exploded. If there's like a weighted equation of like.
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What did you do in Marrakesh? So 34 hours. No.
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No, we're going to get into it. We'll talk about sleep regression and crying it out versus not and all that later. But the first thing that I would like to tackle is that our little girl, she's eating solids, left, right, and center. And she eats them twice a day. So Maria feeds her during the day whatever we give her, right? Today it was liquid beef. Sometimes it's a banana.
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Now explain this though. What did you guys do in Marrakesh that was so bad that the volcano erupted and you had to take a bus for 34 hours?
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That's a good question. Who were you with?
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How old were you? Oh, you were on exchange. So you were in college. What grade did you go on exchange?
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Your phone?
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Is that karma?
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What will you say to Bubba if she runs into karma?
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Not enough trouble to not allow you to come back to America.
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Well, I guess you were in Canada.
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How would Canada handle that if you were a hostage?
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What's going on over there?
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Of course. Okay. But, okay. All right. So, let's talk about some good karma.
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I think that, so we had this little incident on this weekend where we went to dinner. And Harrison and I love to just use Apple Pay. I would say eight or nine times out of ten, we don't have our wallets. Would you agree?
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And if, yeah, we never have our wallets.
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Okay, that's fair. It was Bartlett's, which is not like a nice restaurant. Like we were in sweats.
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It is nice. I agree. It's very, it's a, so it's a Houston's and it's the Charleston's and it's a. I think it's tied to that family. What's the one in New York? Hillstone.
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It's that vibe of a restaurant. Sue me. And we love it. So we went on Saturday night and we go to pay and Harrison's like, do you take tap to pay? And Patrick, our server's like, no. And we're like, oh, even if we get up and come over to the register, we can't tap to pay. And he's like, no, it has to be a physical card. And Harrison looks at me. He's like, tell me you have your wallet.
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Yesterday it was a banana. Sometimes it was an avocado. And then at night, you feed her.
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And I'm like, nope, don't have it. So I was like, you got to go talk to the manager. So you're saying you get up and he talks to the manager. And what did Eric say?
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And Julie and I were kind of discussing earlier and we were like trying to draw some comparisons between the two. And it was, it was the craziest thing. Yesterday we watched her give Tate a banana and then just pops Tate right out. She was clean as could be. And I was watching you last night, and this food is all over her face. It's ingrained in her clothes.
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Well, yeah, we'll definitely go back and pay. I, your, your mom taught me about keeping the money in the back of my phone case and you spent mine.
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Do you remember when I had the hundred in the back of my phone and it was on Thanksgiving and it was after the turkey trot and we walked by that homeless person and we like got like 15 steps ahead of him and Harrison was just like, I gotta, I gotta get that person money. And I was like, I have the money.
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And so then you, and I haven't replaced it and I need to replace it because I don't know how much that meal was, but I feel like our one 50 could have covered it.
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It wasn't a sign.
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No, I don't think you can buy your karma like that though. Do you know what I mean?
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um and so that that was our dumb thing well then we then we actually go out you guys probably saw i made a video about this but then we go out to the car and the car was on and all this to say like harrison and i have not we haven't been sleeping a ton because we're going through a sleep regression and oh my god wait what happened with you and your phone oh that was amazing What did you do?
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I wasn't with you.
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We're doing a like brisket night.
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Your phone's in a shopping cart?
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Only when she's with you.
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And there, there was your phone.
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That's hilarious.
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Well, I got to give it to you because last night you, okay, we'll, we'll, we'll dive into the sleep regression situation now. Cry it out versus not cry it out. So what happened was we transitioned her out of the SNU and the first night remind, did it go well?
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And then from there, every night we've been waking up. And so we noticed she started sleeping on her sides. We were like, maybe she wants her sleep sack. So we've moved her into a sleep sack now. And she's like rolling over some, not rolling over some, like really trying to figure it out in there. But the point, like every two and a half hours, she's just waking up crying. Poor thing.
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She loves them. She eats the whole thing. But what I can't figure out is like people said food is fun under one. That's the saying.
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And not happy. She's not happy. Yeah, she's scared.
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Um, and last night I told Harrison, like my brain, I can tell when I start when I'm like, yes, she could hardly function. So I was like, I need a good night's sleep. And he's like, I got this. So we put her to bed last night. We've tried all these nighttime routines to like, let her know it's, it's night, night time. Um, and she just wakes up hysterical.
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So last night, Harrison turned on my sound machine, shut the door and he slept in the guest bedroom and went back and forth between her room. And you tried this new method, which to be clear here, um, I'm not, I can't do a cry it out.
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Aspen was three weeks ago and it started there.
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And we Googled it. And a bottle of breast milk is – five ounces of breast milk is 98 calories. So they're pretty comparable. But the thing about it is after she had the liquid beef packet, she still wanted her milky.
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Yeah, so the sleep coach, I contacted her today, and she's ready to go when we're ready if we want to. I do love that you do want to try and figure it out yourself. So what I'm worried about with Cry It Out.
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Is I was reading this thing about how it makes them defensively independent, right? So like they, they say, okay, no one's coming to get me. And at the end of crying it out, if you just leave them crying it out for, let's say an hour and they fall asleep, it's not that it worked. It's not that, oh, I got her to fall asleep. It's that they gave up.
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That they decided their emotional security was abandoned. And so they're like, no one's coming to get me. So then they go to bed and it makes them independent in a defense kind of way.
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Yeah. So I we we haven't talked about this yet today. So I'm glad we're doing it now in the first the first round here live on the pod, because I was also seeing when they're in the state of crying for an hour, they can be hypervigilant or like their cortisol, their cortisol will spike. Right. And that's not good for a baby. And that's in the cry it out phase. So I like this 5, 10, 15.
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It feels like a middle ground of like you are going in there, but they are learning and not taking you out of the crib. Like I'm feeling good about this the way you're describing it.
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She's so cute. She knows she's eating with you and she looks at you like she'll take a bite and she's so proud of herself. Then she'll look at you like, did you see that bite? And it's like, yeah, I gave it to you. But she loves eating with you.
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What'd they say? Were they empathetic towards her?
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Oh, Okay, so you don't have them.
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Is it hard for you when she is in there crying?
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Well, there was the night that I put her on her stomach and she slept.
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I'm just glad she's liking it, you know, because you got to take your wins where you get them. Like we're going to get into it later. She doesn't like to sleep.
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Okay, but she can roll front to back and back to front. Um, but it still says you shouldn't.
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Very helpful. So all night long you were just chadgy. You had a friend.
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Um, what did it say? Is there a limit?
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So one thing I want to try that the neighbors – we went with the neighbors last night to eat at a neighborhood joint, which I ordered Mexican – no, I ordered French fries at a Mexican joint. And neighbor boy took one of the French fries and he wetted it with his mouth and then gave it to her. I think we should try that.
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So she was de-escalating.
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Okay. Fascinating night you had. So overall, you slept from what?
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I'm surprised you're a Kill Tony watcher.
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Not going to Austin?
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You're DMing him?
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You're telling him?
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Okay, I mean, I couldn't pick him out of a lineup, but I'm so happy that you love him. Yeah, he's good. I would love to go see him with you.
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Yeah, shoot him a DM, but just tell us what you say out loud.
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You should definitely email him and just make it thoughtful. Well, it's not him.
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Just let his manager know, like, comedy's big here in Austin.
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Well, can we just get a date?
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Just at least tell him just to respond with the date of the mothership with a wink wink so we can just get tickets.
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It's getting harder to eat out with Bubba. She picked up a plate the other day and just dropped it, dropped it on the floor.
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It shattered everywhere. And we just were like, oh my gosh, because I used to look at parents and see their kids like throwing stuff on the floor. And I would just be like, are they serious? They're going to let their kid do that. Now I've realized she has no control. It's not her fault. She can't hold on to it for long.
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I know we always bring toys these days. Crazy. I know.
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we can do toys yeah we need to get the high chair and then we need to give her like she loves her little cups in her bowls and she sucks on them so we just need to we need to remember to take that it's like crucial i mean we can't remember our wallets to a restaurant how are we going to remember the toys for our kid that's a good point i maybe we should set a uh well we should set a pile of toys on a pile but a couple cups in the car done um okay what you dm'd me
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It was that laptops, uh, are bad to have them in your proximity. Laptops shouldn't sit on your lap. That's what it is.
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They are. There's – if you go into your like settings and you go into the disclaimers, there's this thing called RF exposure, which is like your radio frequency. And the iPhone and the laptop tell you that it's like high. So what Julie was telling me earlier is –
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They don't care if they say, hey, this is this is going to cause all this harm. No one's going to buy it.
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Can I tell you this?
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It suggests that you use third-party electronics like headphones or the speaker function. Apple literally says, we don't suggest you do this. You don't put it up to you. We suggest you use the speaker and leave it away from you.
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But it won't be passed because it's in there. Technically, they say they told you. And I guarantee you the waiver you sign when you get a new iPhone says you click the box and you sign your signature. It's a big corporation.
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How much radiation does it put on?
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Are they doing those?
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So the phone puts out more radiation. Yes. Much higher than the laptop.
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Yeah, we need to get the phones away from us.
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But they say that they can because you signed the waiver when you sign up for the iPhone.
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We need to hold them more accountable. Yes. Starting with this podcast. Yes. We're on the early stages. Don't throw it towards me.
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No, no, leave them there. Um, okay. So that's what you DM to me. Very interesting. And now typically we would roll into brain break, except as so Harrison had a great brain break. Only problem is neither of us can remember what it was.
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I would say the theme of the comments.
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There was something from the comments. See? Oops. Now he's reaching back to his phone, which is the radiation.
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The theme of the comments is that I don't know how to make spaghetti. That would be the main theme, I would say, is that I posted this. So I love food in a solo cup. Always have. If I'm on the go, like I'll put eggs or ground turkey in a cup. Last night I put spaghetti because we were walking to the elementary school nearby, checking out their, what was it? Multicultural today?
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The Multicultural Fest, I think. And yeah, the internet was like, that's not real spaghetti. And it's not because I ran out of vodka pasta sauce, which is sad for me. But I go through about a jar every month. Have you found it yet? I can only talk to myself for so long. I actually can talk to myself for a pretty long time. But in this instance, I'm hungry and my boobs are filling up with milk.
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H, what was the comment? Harrison. Harrison.
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Have you ever seen Ferris Bueller's Day Off? Yeah, but I don't remember it. Bueller. Bueller. Bugman. Bugman. He has the glasses on.
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This is like the definition of our lives right now. You had such a good brain break and you're like, this is what I want to do for brain break. And neither of us wrote it down. And if we don't write it down, then we don't have it. So I'll just ask you this. Are you watching any good shows? You're watching adolescence. What do you think of it? So is your mom. What do you think of it?
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Oh, I saw it up the other day. You know, they did it all in one take, which is what's fascinating about it.
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She's really liking it.
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Okay. Sicario.
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Um, I would love to go to the theater soon. It's just tough though.
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It's, I don't think it's the best form.
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I think that there's a lot of other places to take babies. I don't, I think right now she would do some, ah, ooh, in the middle, which could be tough because technically you can't tell her not to do that. Yep. So I don't think, and here's the thing, I don't want to get a babysitter to go to a movie. Do you?
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I know it is too bad, but I think we'll just wrap it up here because it was a great episode. Sleep regression.
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Harrison still wants to go to Paris. I have cold feet about the situation. I said the max I could go is two weeks. So we'll see how it all shakes out. There's a lot of unknowns. Okay. Well, we love you guys.
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That is so cute.
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Cause she's learning like what you put in your mouth, then she can put stuff in her mouth too. Um, Terry Blacks, it was crazy. We finished the 10 K and we were like five steps away from Terry Blacks, which I guess must open at 11.
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Cause we got there at 10 53 and the line was, I mean, that was like a moment for you. Like I was like happy for you.
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But I had that brisket in the car because I was so hungry. I don't know if I've ever had their brisket. It was unbelievable.
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Oh, yum. All right, let's do the housing update because, you guys, it's top of mind over here. We are quite literally, for when we're recording this, we're supposed to move out in a week.
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I think you should just take it away. Well, one thing I will say about this whole housing situation, you take it away, me, I'll talk, is you really don't, for some reason, I'm sorry that I keep doing this to you, but I keep like defaulting for you to kind of handle it.
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And you keep like scheduling these times with me, like today at 1030, you were like, we have to sit down and you're not allowed to get up from the table because I really need to talk to you about the housing situation. And you said your number one thing is like, you don't make the decision alone.
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It's just, it's a really hard decision.
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And I don't think I'm helping you enough and so I would like to publicly say sorry.
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I'm trying to.
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well it's such a it's such it's literally the biggest decision we can make and for some reason i just want to like close my eyes and have you make it and me open them and see where we land but i need to like i need to partake in the decision with you it's because i'm gonna live there yeah thank you yeah i don't know why i'm just like you you'd let me know what we do and it's like no it's not fair
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Okay, but let's explain. Well, do you know why it is? It's because it's like hard-earned money.
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It's also just not that simple with this house, right? There's this thing called permeated coverage or something, which is the amount you're allowed to build.
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Impervious coverage. You're not allowed to just be like, we could probably add a master downstairs. It's like, no, you either can or you can't if you're maxed on this impervious covered situation.
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And you looked in the back because what happened was after the marathon, we took everything out of the stroller and put it in the back.
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What's a seller disclosure report?
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And legally they have to disclose it.
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So an inspector comes and inspects and says, oh my God, the water's not up to code. And then when the seller sells it, they have to disclose that.
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It's 10K. All right, ready? Are we rolling? Okay. Okay. Welcome to Two Parents and a podcast. We are two parents who, well, I slept last night thanks to you, but you didn't sleep. Like how many hours do you think you slept?
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And they have to disclose it.
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Right. So I would think that that's kind of a big gray area.
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Well, I just think you got to rely on karma there. Yeah. These seller disclosures. Yeah. Because I could see, you know, and there was mold, but maybe not saying it. And that's so messed up.
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No. When did it?
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Oh, okay. Keep going. So you would do something bad like what?
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Broke rules.
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Okay, like you skipped a class.
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Like what? Yeah. We need an example. This is a family podcast.
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I'm sorry. I'm really and I want to respect you here. I do. But if it's not skipping class, sneaking out.
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Having some beers before class.
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cheating like could you give would you i won't press you any further than this moment right here but imagine if you're the listener what rule could you break yeah i mean this is stealing a muffin this is a cliffhanger um a cliffhanger episode that they're not gonna get and i don't know maybe we'll launch a patreon and we can talk all about the rules that we're breaking no we're not gonna launch a patreon and talk about rules you broke i'm kidding okay so then you would go to the airport and like your flight would be canceled yeah
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You'd be going through security. And they'd say, nope.
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Unless you behaved.
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Okay, so you and your buddies would be at the airport and be like, oh, travel karma. So you started noticing a correlation. The bad things, the rules you would break would equal...
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Are we going to be sitting here in 20 years explaining to Tate, okay, your dad's from Canada, which I know is a state, but it used to be a different country.
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No, because every year I make a resolution, I forget it by the middle of the year, the middle of February. Now, was it Priscilla showing me David Dobrik yesterday? Because he, this man's in shape, and he did it all year. He started in January, and now this January he's got a six-pack. Like, good for him.
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I mean, that's karma delivered on a serving platter.
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It's immediate karma. So in Canada, you don't donate sperm ever? I have no idea. Oh, it's not a thing. It's probably just as much as a thing there as it is here.
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Speaking of donating, no, not donating sperm. Speaking of Canada, what you DMed me was, do you think Canada is going to become the 51st state of America?
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Are we going to be sitting here in 20 years explaining to Tate, okay, your dad's from Canada, which I know is a state, but it used to be a different country.
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What are some other things people are betting on?
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Did people bet on Harry and Meghan leaving the UK? Was that something people bet on back in the day?
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I don't think people know about this betting.
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So do you bet a lot on these things?
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Were the betting markets right on the election?
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So if you went on there and bet $1,000 that Trump would win, What were his odds?
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Have you ever donated your sperm?
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So they knew. The markets knew.
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That's wild. I didn't know you could bet on just anything.
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I don't care. He stuck to it for a year.
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Eastern Time. All right, well, this was kind of a brain break, but we can do the brain break section now. Don't know what we're talking about there. Let me just pull her right on up with our handy dandy. Did you ever watch Blue's Clues? The notepad? Oh, when he had the notepad? What was the Blue's Clues? What did he say? Yes, handy dandy notebook.
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No, I just care that somebody did something for one year.
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And I wanted one so bad because what it was – you never saw this. It was a notebook that he would open up and he would write something on it with a black pen. And then they made one and they had it at a Toys R Us. But it was a Toys R Us that was like an hour away. And I made my parents drive and go get it because I had to have the notebook. Just like, what was his name? Not Cliff.
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Clifford was the dog. Steve. Didn't fare well for Steve, though. I think Steve got in some trouble later in life.
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Didn't ask if, oh, if Steve was a bad guy?
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I was just telling you about Steve.
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It's because of the handy dandy notepad.
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So if your New Year's resolution was to drink a glass of wine once a day, I would be proud of you if you did that.
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That's what I'm explaining to you. I just explained what the notepad was.
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Because I said I'm going to go to my handy dandy note app.
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No, no, no. The brain break hasn't happened yet. Okay.
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I believe I have the Blue Jay. I also believe I have the Princess Diana one. Now, one interesting thing about Princess Diana, besides the fact that her and I share a birthday, is that you randomly said to me on like our fifth date, you go, just going to take a stab here that you like Princess Diana. Why did you say that?
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Oh, come on. You have to remember saying that.
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Well, and she totally had an edge to her. I really loved her. Same birthday. Big cancer girl, her.
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It's kind of a window into what it would be like to have twins, which I would love.
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Just give us one goal for 2025. Well... Here's where I'll give it to you. You write them down on some, I think it's Notion. You put them somewhere where you actually go back and access them.
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Don't have to know her. Just had to love her.
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I think that would be the.
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If you had to equate her to somebody today, who would it be?
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Great call, P. Great call, P. So you're taking Priscilla's answer and then asking me mine?
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Same. So what's yours? See what I did there?
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Meghan Markle. The other one. Kate Middleton. Yeah. No, I think it's... Man, Taylor Swift is a really good answer. I'm not so sure we can top that. Who's a beloved gal in the news? With a little bit of spice and an edge. No one's coming to mind. I would love to know people's answer to this.
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Yeah. That's a really – man, that's – okay. That's a brain breaker. That's a good – that's actually a good brain break right there. The brain break we were going to do is the guy that – the Loom founder and how he had just sold Loom for like a bunch of money and he wrote – what would you call what he wrote? It's not a memoir. What is that?
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Okay, so he wrote a blog post saying how money really can't buy happiness because he's got a lot of money now and he feels pretty empty. And he's not complaining. The way he wrote it was really beautiful. But he's like, I'm not complaining. Of course, I got a lot of money. That's great. But I just want to let you guys know I don't feel super fulfilled.
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Yeah. I think a lot of people have that theme though, where they, once they like hit their goal, they really missed the time going to get the goal.
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And I have actually seen you do that. So you're somebody who I would put a lot of faith in if you did set a goal. So give us one. Give us a goal. Share it with the class.
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Yeah, yeah. So that was going to be the brain break section, but I much prefer that Princess Diana brain break.
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I thought that was really fruitful.
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Here we are. All right, so our listener question for today has to do with flying with a kid. Okay. And it is, what's it like flying with a three-month-old? And it is... Lovely, because I think that they think the noise on the plane is their sound machine, and they conk out. The most important thing, feed her for takeoff and feed her for landing, so her ears pop.
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And these little babes, you get to cuddle with them when they sleep.
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I think eight. Well, 10, actually, if you count because we connected from Oklahoma City back to Austin.
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That the connections were very hard. So if we've had her on 10 flights, nine out of 10, she's been phenomenal on. And the 10th one, we were delayed so late. So she was flying at midnight. She was so sleepy. She just was out of sorts.
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The flight to Hawaii was the easiest one we've been on because it was so long that she got settled. She slept the entire time. It was easy for me to pump. We just fed her on the way up, on the way down. Once in the middle, it was simple. That's easier to me than getting her – trying to feed her after an hour when she's not hungry but she needs it for her ears.
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So don't be afraid of the long flights. But the flying with them, it's precious because her snuggles. Okay. So the next thing – the next and the last thing – I like can't talk today. Next final and last thing to chat with you guys about is – We are doing a little rebrand on Just Alex. It's not done yet, though. So I don't want to be like something big coming because it's like we're working on it.
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It's not something big. It's a rebrand. And whenever we're done with it, obviously we'll release it. But I don't want to give us a deadline because then I don't want to be constrained to that deadline. So I do just want to let you know that we are working on a little facelift, if you will. And so we'll keep you posted on that. But that's all we know so far.
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Other than that, we've got chilly upstairs. It's cold. Our heat's working again. And we've got just a cozy little household here with two working out parents. It's the biggest update I have. You agree, H?
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Okay. All right. Well, we love you guys, and we will see you next week.
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Oh, that does your BMI?
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Well, tell us what your, do you want to tell us your goal or no?
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Welcome back to another episode of Just Alex. Wow. do you think what do i think about what everything happy 2025. you only have i think this is the last week you can say it well i noticed today in our workout class subtle plug that i went to a workout class um he said happy new year and i very much felt the energy of happy new year in that class although it was a very half full berries class
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Okay. But you like goals.
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yeah i am not now i do love a refreshed mindset i'm very like i while i don't set goals i'm feeling the vibes of the new year and i'm loving it me too yeah and because we let it i let it go at the end of last year well i totally let it go but here's what happened it's funny like our our birth pregnancy situation was very much the whole 2024 right some people get pregnant in march
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And then their fourth trimester goes till March. We were the calendar year. So got pregnant in January and then hit three months in December. So we're kind of coming up for air right now. While it is happening during the new year, I think this would be happening to us anyways.
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Yeah, but we were super active in Hawaii. That felt good. That was a really nice precursor to getting back here. I was so ready. We went to bed early last night. I took my shower. I lit the candles. It's what I call the spa time. Really, I'm feeling it.
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Yeah, we have a couple of juicy things to talk about. We have a really good episode planned, which I'm excited to get into. But before that, let's talk about the nanny share situation. So with our new year, new us, new nanny, what we've done with our beloved neighbors is who, by the way, we just group texted all day, every day while we got where we were away. They were in Colorado.
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We were in Park City in Hawaii. And, like, we have a nanny now, okay? She comes over at 8 a.m. and she watches both babies. And it is the cutest, happiest thing on the planet. They're both in there in their little pods. They nap together. Then they do their diaper changes. Then they get their bottles. Like, it is the sweetest situation on the planet up there. And I love hearing them coo.
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If I'm around the house, if I'm in our room doing something and I hear coo, I love it. I melt.
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Oh, it's literally half the price.
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They walk here. It is a two-minute walk. It's four houses down. They drop off the little babes.
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Harrison was gone until about 2 p.m. And the second he walked in this house, he just walked right up those stairs and looked at them. They are – it's so cute. If I just need like a little second, I go in there and I hold one of them. It's kind of a window into what it would be like to have twins, which I would love.
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Yeah, it really truly would be. All right, so let's dive into our first segment, which is things we DM'd each other.
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I DM'd you, and it's a matter of if you watched it or not, the video talking about how men should really get their lifestyle in check the nine months prior to to having a kid because so many um like okay let me like try to rephrase this but like so many like health problems that happen while you're pregnant have to do with the sperm. For example, morning sickness, they attribute to the sperm.
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So it's saying if men cleaned up their diet ahead of time, then it could really help the women. So one girl commented on the video and was like, my husband ate so clean and like cut out alcohol or something leading up to my pregnancy and I never had morning sickness. She's like, I don't know if that has anything to do with it, but then an OB commented and she said, this is true.
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I've been an OB for 15 years.
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is my favorite thing to talk about. Our family, we rely on the Novage baby aspirator and inhaler. I just used the aspirator today. Our nanny, she came in, she said, Tate's got a stuffy nose. I said, I've got just the thing. I pulled the aspirator out of the drawer. Tate's cooing right now as I'm talking about it. I turned it up to three.
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I put the little suction up her nose, you guys, and it withdrew her little snot and she doesn't even cry anymore. We were laughing. She smiles through the whole thing because the tip of the aspirator, it's so little. It goes right in there, and it's like gel, so it's so soft.
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Navage dot com slash Alex. But I find it funny, like, I don't know the ins and outs of it, but I would just think your little sperm swims, and then all the rest of it has to do with, like, my body. But I guess not.
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Yeah, I thought you were in phenomenal shape.
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So I love a full gym at the beginning of the year. I am all about that community workout situation. And one of the trainers that I used to go to, Chelsea in Oklahoma City, love her.
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Okay, well, I think the other thing, I think what I do have a take on this is, have you understood or seen, we ran into a friend that was doing this, but sometimes if the woman can't, you rubbed off on me, can't get pregnant, sometimes it's the sperm that's the issue.
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But see, that I never knew. I don't think a lot of people know that. I think that they always say that it's like the female's the problem, but sometimes it can be the sperm.
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Really? So people get the, have you had a lot of friends that get their sperms tested?
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Yeah. Would you have gotten your sperm tested? Of course. At what point, at what point would you have?
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Okay, so Priscilla told us about the CEO of what company? Telegram. Telegram, who he was donating his sperm. And I guess he has like 100 kids now. And that, to me, was wild to think about. Like, the fact that... I actually don't really understand how it works, but he was just going somewhere and he was donating his sperm and now there's a hundred people that have part of his DNA running around.
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Like imagine if two of them got together, they started dating, but they didn't know. It could be a real liability.
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She posted something that was like, I know the gyms are more full now than they used to be and we should really love and support those people because all it is is a sign of people that are wanting to be their best self. And I loved that post. Like what a good mentality of just like, yeah, cheer the people on at the gym. Like who cares if people are signing up for their memberships now?
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I would think that there would be, or there's not like a tracking policy on it. Have you ever donated your sperm? I assume not. Have you? Have you donated your sperm? We're taking your silence as a no or as a yes.
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And did you ever do it?
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Oh, so you haven't donated your sperm. I really wanted to get it out of you. Yeah. Thank God because I – I can't believe how chill you are.
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A true trained professional. I'm – okay, because I was thinking about – Adding to a list of questions that people should ask somebody on a first date is have you ever donated your sperm?
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Yeah, of course it is.
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Not only like people are always asking, do you have kids? It also needs to be, have you ever donated your sperm?
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And if you do donate your sperm, can you track where your sperm goes?
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Okay, well, that's fair. But, like, what if there was a guy named Tom and he had donated his sperm to two people and you were one and I was the other? That's got to be horrible. And then you and I are together. But we don't know. Like, aren't we, like, half siblings? Isn't that the way it works?
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Could be a huge problem. But they ran some DNA tests on us. But they weren't running for overlap. Because they probably assumed we would know if we were cousins.
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No, because you're, no, we're actually, your mom even said this. We're a phenomenal case because you're by way of Canada and I'm by way of Oklahoma. So the odds are slim that we have any relation whatsoever. You ever know anybody that are two cousins that dated?
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It always starts at that band camp.
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And I'm all for it. I totally agree.
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Yep. I'm going to call it gut feeling in my hairdresser, at least in New York. Whenever I told her I was pregnant, she said to me, oh, I get it. There is just no feeling like knowing you want to start a family with somebody and you can't describe it until you feel it. And I was like, oh, thank you. That was so simply put. And that's exactly what I felt.
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No question.
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There was, and this is a very little thing, but there was, I was going, I was going home for a funeral and we were in New York and I had a very early flight and I was like running late. And then I was like, I got a call to Uber and you're like, I called it. And I was like, thank you. This was, we'd been dating for like three weeks. Like I called it. I was like, okay, I got to go.
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And then you're like, you walked out with me. We got in the elevator because we were at my apartment building. And then we went down to the ground floor. You grabbed my bag from me. You put it in the back. You like talked to the driver for a second. I got in. You shut the door and you were like, see ya. And it was a very minimal thing.
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But I cannot tell you how much it spoke volumes to me because I was like, oh, wow, you can't teach that. I'm so glad he knew and like took care of me. And there was little things like that that I really was watching for and loved about you.
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The first flight?
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Yeah, like a coffee stain on white is too much. But if you had spilled Sprite on there, that's agreeable.
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But not easy to get to Tulsa, Oklahoma from New York when you have a funeral the same day. I had to fly through somewhere, D.C. I lay over in D.C. That was wild. And then I flew into Oklahoma City and my parents got me and we drove up. And I was going to fly direct into Tulsa. But nonetheless, you got me there.
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It was just fine because I made it there, I think, with time to spare. We went to lunch, so it must have been fine. Yeah, so I think we'll call that one a gut feeling. Let me ask you this off of that. Did you ever question your decision? Because I did. At the very early on, I got scared.
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When I first found out I was pregnant, I felt very safe with you, but there was a part of me month one probably that was like, I'm either the smartest person I know and this is the best thing I ever did or maybe I'm crazy. I will say I had that moment and all I know of That was just me, like, fear. That was just, like, fear creeping in, and none of it was ever real.
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Yeah, we can agree to like that. Okay, so speaking of when we were first dating... We're in, I love this studio. We're in this studio in Miami. And fun fact, ladies and gentlemen listening, Harrison and I have been here before. And the reason we've been here before is because, well, one, we love Miami. And so we came here pre-tate after we'd been dating for two months.
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And I love sitting here today reflecting on that, being like, your gut instinct was right.
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And we talked about it openly. Because one thing about you is...
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you are like the most open honest direct communicator you and your whole family are and I remember you were like do you ever have any doubts about this and I was like oh my god I can't say yes and then I was like I mean sometimes you're like yeah same and then we would like lay them out it was so healthy so healthy of you to do a good job yeah and I think you're making that probably sound a little more extreme than it was but very much like hey like we're doing like you know we've spent four straight weeks together like
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Yes. The thing is there's no one size fits all though. That's the thing about textbooks. They can't apply to everybody.
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Ooh, textbook is a great transition to a second question.
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Which I'll give you a layup here. Okay, I know you're supposed to read the second. No, I'm supposed to read them all. It's something about fighting. Let me just scroll. Have there been any parenting style disagreements yet?
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Except for this morning, like she wants to eat the forks and you think she's going to stab herself in the eye and I don't. And that's funny because usually I think she's going to stab herself in the eye. But Harrison's really confused about these forks.
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Like well-rounded?
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I was going to say you want to do a mini school at home.
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Yeah. And where I'll counter you there is I think that like I love school. I always I know. Crazy. But I always loved I loved when I was in pre-K. I still remember it. I loved daycare. Like I know that you don't think I remember it, but I do remember some of it. Like I have these thoughts. And they were really sweet memories and it was great.
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And what we did was we came to the studio because we wanted to document Like Harrison was like, what's it like podcasting? And I was like, you know what? I love this studio. Let's go and we'll document our love story. Just either we'll be crazy or it'll be a digital scrapbook we'll love to have forever. And it turns out we'll love to have it forever.
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But I do always want to be an open minded skeptic about the situation and say, like, is there a different way to do things? Do I just need to blindly follow the way that my parents did things or is there another way that like still could fit? So we'll see. I'm definitely like listening to you as you're reading a book right now.
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Dumbing it down. I'm in the information gathering phase where I'm just like, okay, what are your points? What are your points? Because listen, I think school's fabulous. And I think kids love it. I watch kids. They love school. And they're really happy. So I don't know. We'll see.
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I'm good either way on it, honestly. As long as she's loving it and learning, I'm happy. Whatever that looks like. Guys, we have 40% off of Hungry Root, plus you get a free item for life in every box. You guys, food cannot take a backseat because in our house, everyone is always hungry, but everybody is always busy.
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off your first box and a free item of your choice for life um okay so I think a good one to go from there speaking of you taking the lead on schools is here who handles the planning of activities and social things because I like the way we divide and conquer okay um and for this one I would say for some reason I handle social but you handle planning
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See, I don't know if I agree with that because the other day you got invited to that dinner and you're like, I want to go. And so I put it on the calendar. Baby's dinner canceled. But I'll say 80% yes.
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And when we got here, Carlos opened the door and he was like, you two have a kid now. And we were like, that's right.
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Do you? Oh, I said great.
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We need to see your friends more. yeah it was like oh wow yes I realize like you haven't kind of you never asked me to do anything in terms of socializing and so unless it's with the neighbors you do you're all like that one is 50-50 that one's probably 90-10 in my books
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really we just are always going to the name that's something we both that's who i'm with most of the time at this point yeah yeah yeah i think that's who we're with um but yeah i would say that that's accurate okay that's kind of a throwaway question like here's the more in-depth question um it is maybe i'll suggest one right now Oh, no, it's right here.
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As a mom, I feel like I do much more for the baby than dad does. How do you split the workload? Speaking of splitting the workload. This one to me, we did not know what we were going to do because initially before she was born, we said we would split diaper duty 50-50, for example. Now that she's out, we do diaper duty 90-10. Dad does 90 of them. I do 10% of them.
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And the way we came to it was just naturally like all food, Harrison handles. You're on food duty. I handle routine and milky. I'm on full milk duty. I also for this trip, for example, I do the babysitter coordinating, but you do all of our social and reservations and all that booking.
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Yeah, it was like December 16th when we came. I love this place.
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You love the plain pink one. But the other thing you do is like I feed her in the morning, but I put her on the boob every morning at six. So when she wakes up and cries, Harrison gets her and hands her to me. And then whenever we're done and she's falling back asleep, I get him and he gets her. Because whenever she's eating, you can't fall back asleep.
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And that's something that's been really crucial. There was a lot of questions, though. Around the 50-50 split and a couple of mom feeling like the default parent. And so I'm going to throw it to you here of why do you do as much as you do? And thank you also. I didn't know how much there was going to be to do and I didn't know how much you would take on. But you like really...
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We're also very verbal about this, like on the flight, Harrison, when we landed, Harrison was like, thank you. You took the lead on the flight. And it was just like, I just did. And I don't know why. And then there'll be on the there's always a time like this morning today, the whole morning you took the lead. And we don't really discuss who's taking the lead.
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One of us just kind of naturally does it. Do you notice that?
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You just want to do it. You love being involved.
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Yeah, I think it boils down to that we both want to be equally involved. And that was something we had in common from the beginning. Like, she's our baby. You know, I think the... I guess, I don't know, the old school norm way of thinking is, like, mom does do more, but you always said, like, you wanted to be just as involved in her life. And you, like, listen, I wouldn't take her swimming.
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I just wouldn't. And you do. Like, you wanted to get down there this morning and get that girl in the pool. And that's just, like, you can't coach that. It just kind of came from within you. Thank you. Okay. Let's move on to... Oh! Hmm, here's a fun one to slide in. For eight, should you have any hesitation dating Alex so soon after divorce? There's a right turn for you.
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Same. Well, let's listen to it back.
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I think, yeah, I think the stars aligned on that one.
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Okay. How are you deciding when you're ready for baby number two? My husband is ready, but I'm not.
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Yeah. That's so funny. Harrison was also ready so fast. Month one. Be like, and when did you think? And I was like, oh, everything hurts. Day one. Day one. So I understand your husband being ready and you not being ready. It's funny because... It was like with working out. It changes in a second. You are not ready. You are not ready.
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And then, boom, one day you wake up and you're just like, I would love to go on a long walk. Like, I feel ready. That's how postpartum's been for me. And I very much, so I always knew, because we talk openly about this, we're like, we want three or four kids. And I know don't ever say that until you have the second one. But that's, you know, the goal right now. And I wasn't ready. I wasn't ready.
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Cause we were just like, we like had some wine and we were just like chatting and we're like, we'll just record it and see. Cause you got to remember guys, we fell very hard, very fast for each other. And so we're like, we'll record that. Now that's why we decided that this week was going to be our relationship episode because we're like, what a full circle moment. Okay, let's do our relationship.
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I wasn't ready. And now, finally, the other day, I was like, oh, I could do it. Not that I could. I want to do it because I want to do it one day. And I didn't love being pregnant. So it's not something that like I get thrilled to think about. Right. But I'm at the point where I'm like, my body can handle it because your body tells you.
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So we have a bunch of questions from you guys. I'm very excited about them. Um, but before we do that, I would like to talk about how the only transition I have right here is the alarms on at our house. Um,
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Does marriage seem more or less important now that you have a house and a baby?
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funny because you know when you thought when I found that I was pregnant we were pregnant then it's like okay pregnancy then we moved to Austin and it's like we got to figure out the housing situation and everyone always asked me in these messages they were asking how did you guys decide on Tate's last name and I decided on it I decided that it would be Harrison's last name because I always knew he would get married one day and so marriage has been always been on the mind right
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But does it seem more or less important now that we have those two things out of the way? Not. No.
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OK, it seems. Those two things seemed way more important. So marriage to me seems like the least important of the three. Yes.
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I very much so agree with that. I very much agree with that.
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Why wouldn't you have just had that solidified, like that sign seal delivered? Yeah. Take it over the finish line. But what do you think about like the social norms of marriage? Like, what do you think about like, do you think it has to happen?
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I agree. I agree with that. I don't love saying I, you should not care one bit. If I was like, he's my boyfriend, baby daddy, whatever. But it's like, we're very much so a family and that does involve the marriage component. So I, I agree with you there that, It's just like I'm more so listen, I wanted Bubba and I wanted a place to live. And that to me feels like the main two important things.
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Marriage, more or less a formality. But it'll happen one day. Do you agree with that? Yes. Not not that I know you agree with the marriage part, but do you agree with the formality?
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And there's a last name thing like Bubba has a different last name. Totally. That part's hard. But yeah, we'll solve it all. And I know I keep I know I always say all in due time and like truly all in due time. But the thing that it was was truly have Bubba first get settled first. And now we'll start to organize the rest of it.
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All right. That is. Parenting styles. Oh, last one. Last one. Okay, I like this one. You acknowledge different communication styles. Was it hard at the beginning? Tips? We definitely have different communication styles.
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We also have different problem-solving styles.
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And one thing I would say for communication, what I would do when I communicated was I assumed you just communicated the exact same way I did. And you have to like see the other person. So I learned with you, especially having Bubba in the mix, right? So we'd expedite, like learn communication styles, learn how to work with each other really well. And one way...
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We're just tough for you because you're pro-stain. You don't mind a stain. You don't care.
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If you have something to say, I'm thinking.
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Yes. Well, and I would say to you, I'm not a business email. I'm a colleague.
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I have to preface this for a second because that was a little bit of a jump moment that we just took. We're moving back to Austin. We're moving our brains back to Austin to our housing update. Okay. That's what we're talking about.
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We saw one of my friends.
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So the feedback was Harrison just didn't seem super present in the combo. I didn't think you were very present, right? Yeah. And you agree. And I was like, and there was a lot of factors like we were delayed, blah, blah, blah. Like he didn't sleep. There were so many. And I was like, hey, you weren't very like present. And like she's my friend from back home. Like what?
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And the way I chose to deliver it to you was the exact way you used to used to deliver things to me.
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So I was like, this isn't how I would want it delivered to me. But this is exactly how I know he wants it to deliver to him. One thing I had to learn with you, though, is like you can't read my mind. So just say it.
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Yes. Totally agree. Sorry. That cough break. Okay. So we're going to go on. We're going to move because we've done the questions part. And let's go to things we DM'd each other. Okay. And I DM'd you about cake. It's called Cake Body.
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And basically, they're running a campaign where... Not a campaign. Not a campaign, a policy where new moms get 36... New parents get $36,000 to put towards their kid per year. And I love that. As being new parents, I think that that is something that's invaluable. And I'm sure they're getting a lot of applications right now. And actually... Okay, so...
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That was not a marketing campaign that they did, but it did make the news, so it kind of became a marketing campaign, which I think is genius. Another marketing campaign that I love that I've been talking about recently.
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Okay. I like that proposal. The housing update is alarm systems on and Harrison, you've been-
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Yeah, I was talking to a founder the other day actually and she said for Christmas they were going to do an extravagant Christmas party and instead they gave everybody, they added to their bonus because they were just like why would we go spend so much money on a Christmas party when like people need, they would rather go buy gifts for their families with this as opposed to like one extravagant night.
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Yeah. That was just a really good point.
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Totally. Totally. Another good campaign that I want to talk about is I'm working with DoorDash for Mother's Day. And they are rebranding to DoorDad, which I think is brilliant. I love when a company just nails it, especially around a holiday or an activation. And... Obviously on Mother's Day, what's your number one goal you want to give me?
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Okay, the people that did our alarm system, they came, and I thought they were just going to give us a quote. He got there at 10. He didn't leave until 7 p.m., called another guy to come over, and they installed the whole thing. It was crazy. Where is Fort Knox besides at our house? Where else is it now? Is it a military base? Is that San Diego?
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You want me to relax and you want me to take a break. And so it's like, don't ask mom. You ask door dad. You ask door dash. And how often do we order off of door dash? We did it here when we got here.
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And I ordered again today. And so I love this idea of give mom a break and call it door dad.
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So you guys, just so you know, if you order flowers from DoorDad, then you can get up to $75 to use towards credits and it can be like um, a spa mask, a face mask, a spa credit, something like that. So it's a really cool, like order mom, her flowers, and then you can get one more thing to help mom relax. So it's a great, it's a great campaign. I love it. I'm very happy to be working with them.
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It's the ninth through the 11th. So order mom flowers and get those credits.
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And okay. Yes. Yeah. And what did you DM me? Oh, I love what you DM to me.
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Saying please and thank you.
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So basically, don't be polite. Because I'm always like, hi, can you please...
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They're so polite back. Yeah. They're like, hi. No, you sleep train. Don't forget you sleep train Bubber on AI. And they were like, they were so empathetic to you that you don't want to not say thank you back.
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Yeah. So that was, that was, that one was funny to me. Yeah. Okay, sir. We have a dinner as we have a date tonight.
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We got to go. Where are we going to dinner? we're going to Sonny's Sonny's okay and you're excited about this one it's a new one we haven't been here we actually oh no I went with Alex oh I thought you were going to say I was like whoa other Alex Alex number one I'm Alex number two and that's okay with me that is just if there's anybody I got a false second to I'm glad it's him all right
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No response there from Harrison.
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And he's very hungry. All right, we love you guys.
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Relationship Q&A: Marriage, Baby #2 & Parenting Style Differences
Which one's outside of San Diego?
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What's the one in San Diego? Camp something.
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Camp Pendleton, yeah. Okay, very good. So when I used to drive from Orange County to San Diego, there would be all these military training things happening, and it was awesome. Fun fact. But yeah, our house is just locked and loaded.
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Harrison has been getting the flooring guy came by the roof guy came by the stair guy came by the pool guy came by you got a lot of people that have come by and the architects came by a lot of good ideas out of that one and now you're waiting on the quotes to roll in is that right quotes we're doing quotes I love it. I love it. Okay. Do you want to hop into the questions now?
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Is there anything else you'd like to say? Oh, other than what we learned on the way here.
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I do kind of want to touch on this. Let's do this. So the flight, we were delayed on the way here and we couldn't get on the plane because there was lightning. And so once we got on the plane, we also sat on the tarmac for three more hours. And the flight attendant, a lot of people were giving her a hard time. And we heard her say in passing,
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She was like, guys, I didn't get paid while we were all sitting on the ground during the delay. Like I was, I was sitting there too. And Harrison and I were like, wait, come here. You don't get paid on layovers. Flight attendants don't get paid on layovers. They don't get paid until the door shuts on the airplane. So while we were grounded for three hours, she was also sitting there not paid.
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This is how I realized you were pro-stain. So we went on, whenever we were newly dating, I went to L.A. and you were like, bring a, it was a cocktail attire outfit for the Magic Castle, which is a date night you can go on out there, which is, it was so much fun. You go and you watch magic shows. And Bill Nye the Science Guy was there.
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And then we were grounded three more hours on the tarmac, but she does get paid during that. I had no idea.
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And then so we were like, how many hours? Because they're not allowed to fly if they hit their max amount of hours, right? Pilots and flight attendants. And she said around 15 hours, give or take. So she might be in the air for 15 hours, but she could be awake for 30 if there was delays. Isn't that kind of crazy?
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Relationship Q&A: Marriage, Baby #2 & Parenting Style Differences
It should be a paid 15 hours, though, then.
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I completely agree. Okay.
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I know, but it was weather dependent.
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Relationship Q&A: Marriage, Baby #2 & Parenting Style Differences
Yeah, it was, oh man, it was. The good news was, okay, so Harrison and I, we got a life hack because, not a life hack, it's probably an obvious hack, but our flight wasn't full and Harrison saw that when we were booking it. And so he went to the gate agent and he's like, can we have an empty row? So Bubber had a seat in the middle of us. It was so cute.
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Relationship Q&A: Marriage, Baby #2 & Parenting Style Differences
He was in the row in front of us.
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Relationship Q&A: Marriage, Baby #2 & Parenting Style Differences
That saved us though. Because otherwise we'd be passing her back and forth. But she just sat there and played with toys.
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She had her face, we should put up the photo, just pressed so hard and she was cooing at the clouds for 30 minutes.
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Yeah, that was really cool. So you wear this cocktail outfits and you go... Okay, so we're at the Magic... Why do I keep forgetting? Kingdom?
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Relationship Q&A: Marriage, Baby #2 & Parenting Style Differences
When she saw the ground and we went out of the clouds down to the bottom land, her eyes, you said she looked like she was on drugs. They were so big. I know we don't want to say that about her. Obviously, she wasn't. Sorry. No disrespect to the tater tot.
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Her eyes were as wide as seeing the sun for the first time.
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Did she tell you?
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Oh, okay. Yes, she texted us. She said, I remember a different Tate story. And I would like to know what that is.
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What her name, what her name, remember.
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Great pun. But the thing about transitions is you can't assume the other part. You have to give it to them. You can't assume I'm going to catch it.
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Castle. Magic Castle, not Disneyland. And I had brought a white pantsuit and a black cocktail dress. And I was like... Oh, I would love to wear this white pantsuit, but there's a stain on it. And Harrison said, I'm pro stain. You should wear it. Because they weren't like, it wasn't like a black coffee stain on it. It was just like a light, like a wine stain. And then I was like, oh my God.
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We are co-hosts. Oh, my gosh. OK. Yes. It is a bit weird for me to bring up Mother's Day being the mother.
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Well, I don't want to talk about my Mother's Day plans as much as I want to say happy Mother's Day to the mothers that listen.
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You guys are incredible. It is a hard job. It's a hard job and I'm proud of you. If no one tells you today that they're proud of you and they're thankful for you, I'm proud of you and I'm thankful for you and so is your little baby. Yeah, but what are the plans?
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Thank you. Better than the what?
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Exactly. No shot there. I don't think that would have been perceived as a shot.
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Wait, no, no. What are the Mother's Day plans? Do tell us.
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Speaking of a cherry on top.
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I am on a kick. I'll give you a hint right here, something I would love more than anything.
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Angel food kick. I'm on a whipped cream, strawberries, and angel food kick. So I would love, no matter what we do during the day, some version of angel food cake to happen.
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And specifically the Trader Joe's coconut whipped cream, because that's the only dairy-free whipped cream I've found that works.
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No, I would like to go. I know you have a lot of reservations because I think that the most eaten out day of the year is number one Valentine's Day, maybe number two Mother's Day. I would love to go out to eat. So I know you have a lot of reservations. I don't know where they are. I know that you are very good at that. So I'm confident in that. That sounds fun to me.
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Relationship Q&A: Marriage, Baby #2 & Parenting Style Differences
An angel food cake sounds fun to me. So I'm pretty content past that.
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And I love cards. So that's no. I love. I love. You know what I would like. Either pancakes or a French toast would be really fun.
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And that happened.
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My parents, I mean, they'll multiple card you up. Oh, yeah. And there's not a lot written on them. It's just we like to read the outsides of these cards, too. And so we'll just find cards along the way.
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Well, yeah, everything is a thing if you make it one. Yeah. Okay, do you want to do the Q&A?
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Also, there's so many things that I haven't worn that have a light stain on them. Silk blazers in particular, all of them are stained because if liquid hits it, it's staining. And it's like, I don't need to not wear them.
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Only problem with Google Home is I have 35 notifications from them because we live in a very walkable area, so a lot of people walking by. All right, ready? Question number one. Do you want me to read them all or do you want to go question for question?
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How were you so confident in the decision to have a kid when you knew each other so little? Why don't you go first? The beauty of me reading the questions is you have to respond first.
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Thank you, Haley. He does do that.
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How about this? We'll just make it agree right now. I'm going to read the question. You take it first. I'll go second. Okay.
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This is the problem, you guys. He's like, and we will not offer it. And then I'll be like, it's good for this price. He's like, I totally agree. What?
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There's a lot of different paths you could take.
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But I've loved this house since the moment I walked in it.
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I'm very into it.
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Location, location, location.
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You've got a sunscreen war happening in your TikTok. And what is it about?
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A lot of people are very happy we have her in a life jacket. Not only a life jacket, you guys. It is a Coast Guard approved life jacket. We're a safety first family. Life jacket doesn't come off. That is our most precious asset.
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It's okay.
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She loves the life jacket too. At first she didn't and now she's learned to like it and she coos.
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Absolutely. But there's no email. There's no social media.
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Okay, but Define learned. You read them in the comment section?
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I've told you that a thousand times. You did not learn that just now. That's why she doesn't wear sunscreen yet.
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We do keep her out of the sun because she can't wear sunscreen because she's under six months old.
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No, this is designed to be a kid watch. And so you can make like the, I think that if the backgrounds are kid friendly, like it's a very kid-esque watch.
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So I know like aloe is good for your face and the natural version of aloe you could buy at the store and it's an aloe plant. But what is nature's form of sunblock in its truest form? What is it? What do you put on?
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Zinc. Okay, I thought so. The white zinc.
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I'm okay with her putting zinc on eventually. Okay.
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Yeah, I think you got a body wash problem then.
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Are you? Yeah. Well, that's so exciting.
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Well, you might need to work on a sunscreen. Although I think that things in their purest form is good. So I think zinc works. Although it's a bit white, but it's fine. I was watching Landman and she gets the Cisco oil and puts that on her to fry.
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It's not a spoiler. All right. So this week's episode is a bit fun. Do you know why? Why? We have voicemails we're going to listen to. Two voicemails from listeners. So what we did was we put on the Instagram story and we were like, guys, give us voicemails. And it's, think about it like this. Table topics.
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So you're sitting at the dinner table with your parent friends and these are the things we talk about. It could be relationships, personal finance, parenting topics, pop culture, whatever you want to ask us about. So we've chosen to listen to today.
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What do you think? So basically she now wants kids. Would, would no kids for you be a deal breaker?
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Well, I say this now having a kid, if you even have the slightest desire to have one, um, I could see how if you didn't, you would wake up in 10, 20 years and be really sad about that. Now, if you knew you never wanted kids and you were firm on that, then I think it's no problem.
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Cause I got to blow up your spot here.
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But if you have even the slightest itch starting and somebody else is holding you back from that, I could see how resentment would really grow. Now, I'll say this on my marriage. There's a little similarity in the sense of and I don't I don't want to get like too deep into this, but we were never going to move back to Oklahoma was was a discussed point. And then one day he wanted to.
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You have that app that's supposed to like, like limit your time. Yeah. Just turn it off all the time. It's just an extra step. Just delete the app.
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And this is similar in terms of like minds changing. And here's the thing about it. him moving back to Oklahoma was what was going to make him happy. And I didn't want to stop that. Right. And so I do think when you get married young, you can have a change of heart later in life and there, and it can be on things that are deal breakers. Now, moving cities wasn't our only problem, right?
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But I think kids could be a massive deal breaker because we've seen how that fully changes your life and the trajectory of your life and how much happiness it can bring you. And so if I wanted kids and you didn't, I think that would be so tough.
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But why do you think that changed?
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Because what you had said to your family when you guys when you became single was you didn't want kids. You were like, leave me alone. Not that you didn't want kids, but you were like, you guys leave me alone on the kid front for five years.
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Oh my God. Yeah. Oh, I've never one time seen that like time saver pop up and be like, you've been on TikTok too long. And then you proceed to get off TikTok.
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But then we met and it just like changed.
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I do think too, it makes sense if she's watching her friends. Did she say her friends and her sister become moms? That to me makes a lot of sense. You watch that and I think that gives you clarity. Like I do want that or I don't. Like you have your friends that are dads and I think you could say that that's something I can see myself doing or not.
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So what do you think you would say to this girl? Luckily, she asked you I would say This is a tough one because divorce can be a very, very, very scary thing. I remember how scared I was. It didn't even feel like a real option. But what's also scary is waking up, you know, when you're 70 and not having had kids because you wanted them.
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And I think you're going to have to weigh which one's more important to you. Does that seem fair?
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But I think there's a difference. You can say, okay, we need to change our communication styles. Are we both down to work on that? Yes. You can't change wanting a kid.
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Yeah, I think it could be. Or it sounds like a deal breaker. Yeah, I do see... I can't think of anything. Okay. There's a, there's a couple of things I could think of that would be this life altering, but kids is just like a number one thing. And maybe he'll soften his views on it a bit, but maybe he says, absolutely not. You know, like the, I do think like, don't be afraid to bring it up to him.
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I also say, I would say this, take it or leave it, but don't be afraid to like have a change of heart. Like don't suppress your change of heart. I think that if we were married for 10 years and we never wanted kids but then one day I started to want them, I think that it would be really good for me to tell you and not just suppress that.
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Yeah. And I think another important thing is asking yourself, do you want kids? Do you want kids with this person? You know, because if the answer is like, yes, I want kids. I don't know if this is the person. Yeah, that's definitely it.
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That is so spot on.
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The nanny share? The neighbor.
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The neighbor babysitting.
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I'll say this about it. I used to never even want photos of kids, and now I want every photo of every kid.
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I want to hold them. Like, oh, I just think babies are so sweet. They occupy so much of my brain.
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You love some of them.
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You're always just like, look at this one.
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That's so funny.
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I do.
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I do know who you're talking about.
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Aw, Tate and that baby?
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I'd love to.
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Five.
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Yeah.
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Honestly, seven's also fine. I do think the eight, nine, 10 range, it needs to be off.
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That's the thing. It'll always be there. You know, I wonder, did she say how old she was? This girl? No. I do wonder how old she is because what?
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I agree. I would love to know this person's age because I do think it's tough to move. If you didn't go to college out of state and then to pick up and move, you're removing your safety nets, you're removing your comfort zone. It's a daunting idea. But I will tell you, the more you do it, the more fun it gets.
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And there is something about getting out of your comfort zone that really lets you find you in your most true form, I think. It's the only way I've been able to find myself was to move and, you know, because then you have to show up and you meet people and you're like your most raw self. They don't know your parents. They don't know your family. All they know is you.
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Sure, let's put them in a locker and they have to be turned in. Okay. And there's a very large penalty if you don't turn it in.
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And that can be a really empowering thing. And it helps you form your confidence. It helps you form your people skills of talking to people. And you have to talk about things other than other people. Because you don't know any of the other people. And so you're forced to say, okay, what are some other topics that I find interesting? And I really love that. I crave that type of conversation.
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So I would say... basically her question was, here's, here's what I think. It's tough. She loves it. She's caught up in the mix and she wants to get out of it. I say move. That's what I would tell her. I say jump. Cause you only live once. And, and it's like Harrison said, if you move, you can always go back home.
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Would you say try to give it a year, though? Everyone always told me a year. Austin, I found to be faster than a year, but...
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I think it's a great idea.
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Speaking of penalties, do you want to talk about your penalty today? No. Should the clock strike midnight? No. And those clothes aren't put up?
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I think that's really good advice. I really would urge this person to try it. I think if you feel caught up in the same cycle and if your friends are starting to have families XYZ and you crave more, now is the time. There's no time like the present. So yeah, I would really urge her to go try it.
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Harrison made me a bet, one that I welcomed with open arms.
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There are, but those were the chosen ones. And so you guys, we're going to put up the link and that you can call on the Instagram stories and I'm going to put it on TikTok. We'll sprinkle it around a couple of places, but call us and leave us your voice notes, voicemails. It's like a voice note, I guess.
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Okay. Now let's do move on to the one and only things we DM'd each other. Harrison, you DM'd me about the airplanes timely because we're flying tomorrow.
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Yes.
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I think you'd like it, but I think he's giving you a deadline.
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Okay. Let's talk about neighborhood sitting. Neighbor sitting. Here's the thing. We went on a date night last week. And because Harrison sent me a calendar invite for a date, I was very excited about it. We went to dinner, tried this new steakhouse near our house, and then we went to a concert. And it was lovely.
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infinitely, it seems like.
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What?
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That's, I don't even know how that's possible. I feel like it's all over my feed.
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I guess I find it a bit comforting. I don't know, I just think every week I open up my phone and it's just like, oh my gosh, another plane crash.
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It's so sad. Okay, well, that's a nice, that's a good stat, I guess. It's in the right direction.
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Yeah. Okay, what I DM'd you was that Katy Perry's going to space.
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Okay, so Blue Origin, Bezos deal. Yeah. They're doing a trip to space. Basically, it's like 11 minutes. I think it said it's 11 minutes. Is that really going to space then? Yeah. Yeah, they're going to space. It's the first all-female, what do you call it, rocket?
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passengers aside from in like 1968 there was another all female but there's only one female like it was a solo trip okay and so but the person that's put this one together is Lauren Sanchez who's Bezos fiance yeah didn't know she was a pilot I was reading this she's the pilot no she's not the pilot but I was reading on BBC and they were like Lauren Sanchez journalist and pilot and I was like what well
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We'll need a journalist. She is. She's got her a helicopter license.
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I went and Googled it. Anyway, she picked the crew. So it's Gail King. Who's the news reporter, Katy Perry. And then there's a scientist.
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I think it's cool.
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Yes. Really? No questions asked. They've had a lot of successful trips though. So now I would go.
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That's tough because now I got Tate. I'm pretty risk adverse at the moment for the rest of my life.
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No, I think they're 11 minutes over the barrier of... No, so let me go here because...
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So if you had a 10 hour layover and you left and went and saw the Eiffel Tower and then left, does that count?
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But the thing is, Harrison did something very smart where he started the trend with our neighbors where we watch each other's babies on date night. Because these sitters are getting expensive. He was like 175 the other night.
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I really like that.
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I agree.
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I think that they are leaving the solar.
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Katy Perry flight.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah. What can the crew expect? During the 11-minute journey, astronauts soar past the Karman Line, the internationally recognized boundary of space, experiencing several minutes of weightlessness and witnessing life-changing views of Earth.
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I think it's pretty cool stuff, though.
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I saw Gail say that she was scared. I get that. I understand being scared. I understand accepting, but also being scared. Gail. Gail. Gail King. Isn't Oprah's best friend named Gail?
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No, I think Oprah and Gail. I'm pretty sure her best friend's name is Gail.
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Oprah. All right. Brain break. Waymo. I'm not so sure everyone listening knows what Waymo is. Is it just an Austin thing? I'm sure they have it in San Francisco.
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You can't leave the house without seeing a Waymo. And they are the self-driving cars with the little things, the black things on all corners spinning in circles. The camera's on top. They're Jaguar F-Paces, I think. And they're Waymos. And there's nobody driving them. And now I've seen a Waymo stumped a couple times. Flashing red light. It did not know what to do there.
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And in the Whole Foods parking lot, I saw a stuck Waymo. And I laugh every time I see a Waymo. I just think, oh, there's the Waymo. Waymo-ing around.
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I love the house. What do I think of the location? I don't know. What do you think of the housing? The house is a 10 out of 10.
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Listen, I would assume, and I don't know, they are probably safer than human drivers.
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And they're darn sure not texting and driving.
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And I like that. And they're not looking over there at that car, that new paint color. They're paying full attention. But anyways, well, what do you think of them? Have you ridden in one?
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You're also an early adopter.
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Why?
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Oh, they're doing the best they can. Yeah.
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They're just doing so good.
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Why? You know... Get a driver in the car! No.
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But then you would want to yell at the driver.
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It's just trying to help society.
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function in theory in theory i should love it in reality you know i wasn't sure i hadn't really fully formed my thoughts until this conversation and now i'd really like to make a case for the waymo i think that they're trying to to have safer drivers i think they're safer for everyone that's literally what it is yeah yeah i'm for it so i i am technically for it in reality i see them and my blood boils
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But doesn't your blood boil when you see a driver that's just like texting and driving and stuck at a green light holding it all up? Doesn't that make you more mad?
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Yeah, no, I think I get it. I do understand. I just I can't help but feel sorry for the Waymo. So the purpose of this is the brain break is Jules sent us a video of a scooter guy. He was scootering and he fell in front of a Waymo and the Waymo swerved and missed him. And scientists were saying humans wouldn't have the reaction time to swerve around him and they would have hit this guy.
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But the Waymo, because of the technology, swerved around it. which is pretty incredible.
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Not even Tesla.
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Self-driving vehicles in general, if the technology is done correctly. Listen, I do think removing human error is probably a good thing in terms of driving.
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I'm for it. I just want to defend the cloud. It's just like a hard worker. Think about it that way.
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That's less good. But there's probably people at the Waymo factory working.
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You like them more than me.
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I'm just defending them. Okay. Well, that was a lovely episode. I like the Collins. Good. Okay. Well, guys, if you're listening to this, we were at Expo West or at it right now, hanging out in Orange County, California, and we will see you guys next week.
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I thought it did go great. But my issue with it is I don't think – I felt guilty the whole time. Like when you're paying a babysitter, you know you're slotted till 10. With the neighbors, I just felt... I don't know why. And I know it's like a people pleaser problem. But I was just like, oh, we should go back and get them. Because I know that their baby goes to bed earlier.
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I have to go drive it again. I love the inside, but you know the three L's of real estate.
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Ours was probably still up. And I just had this guilt.
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But my thing with the babysitters is – I just, I don't think we, we just haven't found our girl yet. Once we find her, it will be off to the races. That's all it is. We just need to find our person.
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Location, location, location.
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Me too, but it's not for every night.
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Yeah, me too. Okay, so the other thing that I would like to talk about is I saw this video talking about how some husband and wife, they don't even have like assigned cars. They just have you go outside in whoever's car's parked in the back. That's the one you take. And then some people don't even have a sign sides of the bed. They just, whoever gets in bed first gets on the other side.
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And I just want to let you know, I would never sleep on your side of the bed.
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your pillow your bedside table like my aquaphor is on my side but you do a psycho move where you you mix up our pillows way too often no i never mix up our pillows you think you don't wash your face which is no problem but your your face your pillow is not touching my face i have not washed my face in 20 years and so do you think i'm 15 to 20 years you think i'm swapping our pillows i don't get zits but i would never i think washing your face gets you more zits
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Ready?
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Listen, I just think objectively, if we had a skin test, if people wanted your skin or my skin, I think they'd pick mine. I just do.
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You had a zit yesterday, and I pointed it out to you, and you said, you need to have more fun.
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You told me, I said, you got a zit.
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And he said, Alex, you need to have more fun. And I was like, fun? Yeah. what does that have to do with it yeah i don't know nonsense coming out of my mouth we were going somewhere and i was like well it's a crazy move bottom line to what not to not have a side of the bed oh also on the account of like your feet because like what if you like tracked dirt in the bed
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Yeah. I like things to be clean. Really clean.
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This is a great time for that.
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No, that's false. It's gotta be way more than that.
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Okay.
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Okay.
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I believe it.
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Yeah.
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That we love.
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Me.
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I just downloaded Zillow last week.
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I'm very good at it. It's not about how long you spend on the app, it's how efficient you are when you're on it.
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Yeah, it didn't take me long.
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But I'm a lot more decisive in terms of houses. Like, I can just filter through, like, yes, no, maybe, and then, like.
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You're also, like, a dreamer, too. Like, you'll kind of, like, bring me a house. I'm like, this is probably it. If I had a dollar for every time I said, this is it, I'd have, like, $20. You'll bring me a house and be like, this is it. Now, hear me out. It's a thousand square feet, but it's on a lot of land. It's a big lot size. We could add on to it.
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And I'm like, I don't want to add on to a house with a five month old. But I did tell you I would do it. It would be fun project with you.
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And for the OGs listening, you guys know that I worked for Jennifer Wells Interior Design, and I do understand the power of a remodel.
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Oh, it's a great idea. You can call on it, you can track the Apple Watch, and you can Apple Pay on it, but there's no TikTok, there's no Instagram, there's no scroll on the interwide web. It's a great idea.
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I do. I do more than you.
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I just marble slabs, you know, and you just get in there and it always costs more than you think it's going to. Maybe I'm wrong. I think I'm right.
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There was something I was going to say about houses. Oh, Harrison's got this new thing going on where, let's say, our lease... Well, our lease does end April 15th, okay? But what if we don't have a house that we love until June 15th? He's proposing we go live in Paris... For that time. Which you guys know.
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Julie's not saying anything.
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Julie said, I can't believe that.
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Sure. Julie and Pete can both come to Paris. We could do a whole party over there. But the thing is, it's funny because that is on my level of spontaneity. I love it.
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I just like have, we have a five month old. She'll be six months old at that time.
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It would be fun. I think Paris would be fun. I just like... No, what I asked you... No, no, I'm not mad at you for this. You have to understand, I love that you proposed this. That is so much fun. Like, that is the kind of stuff I love.
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Yeah, best idea ever.
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So basically, it's a kid-friendly watch. And the idea is these parents that don't want to have social media on their kids' phones, but they want their kids to be safe and they want them to have a way to call them. Also a form of payment. Also a way to track them. All of that's on this Apple Watch.
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That's like what I don't understand is like, if you can get that house for X. Okay. I mean, I'll live there with you. I love that house. You guys let's talk about hungry route because we are all busy, but one thing's for sure. We all need to be fed and we do not want to have bad meals. We want to have good meals, but we want them to be easy and convenient. Enter Hungry Root.
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Well, no, it's just genetics, I think. Do you have plaque on your teeth? Like, not that you can see the plaque, obviously, but is that... Well, I mean, there's a reason why I go.
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I know my arch. I don't want to go up a size. I know what size I am in Lucchesi's. I know that these were too tall, and I know my foot doesn't fit in.
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I wear the Aloe sweatsuit all the time.
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It's like a crop. I was pregnant. So like, bear with me. It's like so cropped. It's a crop sweatsuit. Like, when? When am I ever going to wear that again?
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Do you want me to pretend to like $1,000 boots?
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Yeah, you do. You keep them... Would you get your teeth whitened?
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I don't want to tell you what to get me, though. That takes the fun out of it.
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Why do I have to get drunk? I mean, I know things that I want.
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Well, I got to go scroll the internet and decide what I want.
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No, no, no. I don't think you should be hard on yourself around this though because like we love hanging out with her at night. Like we went to a hockey game on Friday night and like we just took her.
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I would rather be with her when we're away from her. We're just on our phone looking at photos of her. I do think, though, I would like one night where we just, like, throw on sweatpants, walk to a restaurant in here, and, like, you and I can sit and talk to each other for an hour.
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I mean, you just can't be hard on yourself around it, though. Like, we're doing the best we can. Now, I'm going to read. Now, let's get into our questions, though, because this first one is, like, a seamless integration. I would like to read a disclaimer, though, before. Okay. That a very sweet girl messaged me. And I actually got a couple DMs like this.
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So we're going to talk about romance and sex postpartum. Now, we're going to talk about it in a very respectful, respectfully manner. And I like this DM. This is what actually pushed us over the edge on doing it. She says, her name is Grace. I know Harrison said he didn't want to discuss this type of thing because he wanted your daughter to be able to listen one day.
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A lot of people have a problem eating alone. Like, have you heard about this? Well, females have a problem eating alone. Do males? Do you guys care? I love it. Like, I prefer to eat alone. I love sitting at a bar. Like, not at a bar that's a bar, but at the bar at a restaurant, right?
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But I think there is an appropriate way to discuss that she could hear down the line. Discussing sex lives as parents is important because I feel it shows When we become moms, that that part of us doesn't die. Sometimes there's a narrative that the adult part of us has to go by the wayside, and that is actually a very harmful message.
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A sex life is so important for a thriving marriage and partnership. I would love your thoughts with your boundaries, of course.
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Okay, so the question is, what is your secret to keeping your romance alive after having a baby? Thoughts on sex life while breastfeeding.
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Okay, so here's the thing. Harrison and I collectively have made the decision that we don't want to talk about sex on this podcast, okay? But I do want to answer this question.
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Yes, correct. Our sex lives on this podcast. I do find it important to answer this question because it was the most asked question by girls who I think are just like me. And it was something that I was curious about. So the middle ground that we've come to is I'm not going to share our experience.
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I'm going to share a little bit of our experience combined with people I've talked to, combined with friends I've talked to, combined with all that I've asked, and combined with things I've read online. And so what I want to say about it is sex after having a baby looks different for everybody. Some people that I've talked to, they're not breastfeeding. And they didn't have a big tear.
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They didn't have a second degree tear or a third degree tear or a C-section. Okay. They like popped out their baby, you know, in, in a 13 hour labor, had a minimal tear and they're not breastfeeding and their libidos fire and left, right and center. And when they got cleared after the six week mark, their sex lives was buried, was back to normal.
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Um, and then there's the other extreme of that, which is like, you are breastfeeding. You did tear for me all. So I will share here. Like my body felt like it was on fire for the first three months. I felt very tender and like my boobs were producing milk and I just felt fragile. Um, And so there's also when you're breastfeeding, this is very important, but your body, I'm going to look it up.
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I mean, I had it written down, so I do want to read this. Breastfeeding causes a decrease in estrogen, a hormone crucial for sexual desire and increases. I'm going to start that over. We can just keep this rolling. But breastfeeding causes a decrease in estrogen, a hormone crucial for sexual desire, and an increase in prolactin, a hormone responsible for milk production, which can suppress libido.
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It doesn't suppress everybody's libido. But what that's saying is when you're still having the hormone rush through your body and when you're producing milk... there's a massive side effect of that which can be a decrease in libido, sexual desire, sexual drive. And so there's been a lot of people I talk to that have had that.
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And it's like you can't be mad at yourself for that because that's just something that's happening within your body. And so the thing is timelines are different for everybody. And the other reason I don't want to experience share on here –
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While I know it's important to Harrison and I, I also don't want you guys to compare what we're doing to what you should be doing, what you think you should be doing. I think there's a lot of different ways to skin this cat. And I think no matter what's happening with you, you just had a baby. So the number one takeaway I want to have is like, I gave myself a lot of grace and
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I am saying for myself personally, like, it is a 48-hour notice policy.
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and continue to do so today, and so I hope you do the same thing. I will, and I'll leave you with this. I know Harrison has said he finds me more attractive now than ever, and who can blame him? I'm just kidding. But it's because while I don't feel like my old self, one thing that I experienced right away was I was just like, oh my gosh, does he even think I'm pretty?
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So you had a real sensory experience with your Terry Blacks.
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And he's like, try that I think you're more attractive now than ever, because birth is such a beautiful experience, and it's something that we went through together, and so... there's days where I'm like, there's no way that's true, but he reminds me every day that it is true. And I find that to be very comforting and sweet.
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Um, and so if you're thinking like you're not attractive or something, I bet your partner or husband finds you more attractive now than ever. And in terms of your timeline with sex, it's just different for everyone, depending on what your birth, like depending on the hormones. I mean, that's a scientific fact. And so that's what I have to say about it.
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So you went and got your teeth cleaned and then went and got the barbecue?
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I hope you're okay with me sharing this, but I remember back like month two, I found myself because like we, there's something really beautiful about like bringing a baby into this world, doing it together. And My body was so – I could not believe the aftermath of having a baby, like the physical effect it has on you. I'm shocked by it. I remember thinking my body will never recover.
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I'll never be the same person again. There's no possible way that this pain I'm feeling can somehow go away. And it does, obviously. I feel a lot better today than I did back then. But I wanted romance with you in different ways. Like I wanted to hold your hand. I wanted to cuddle with you when my body felt like it was on fire.
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So that just might be something that helps people is like there were ways that I think energy can always be reconfigured, not destroyed. And like that was very much so where I put that energy with you.
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Well, I was going to say your role was very, I think it was confusing for you because you can't see hormones.
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I just want to say it's why I wanted to answer the question, though, is because there's a reason it's the most asked. I think everyone deals with this, and I don't think any of us know how to handle it. And I think we're all looking at each other being like, are you having sex yet? I think that's the low-key kind of eye thing. You look side to side, and you were the one –
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that encouraged me you were like talk to your friends about it like ask them because it's not like we're in college anymore being like did you have sex with them it's like it's like what are you doing postpartum how are you like handling this and i think that that's an area where it's very good to experience share with your friends and have like have that call like it's it's awkward it's an awkward phone call i didn't want to do it but once i did it i felt a lot better um and then do you want to talk about the romance part of the question
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I think our romance a lot comes from like looking at her, knowing that we made her. That's where I get my romance with you.
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Yeah, it's a little softballed. So here's how I'm going to push you on it. Cause there was more, more people had submitted questions and one of them, she used the term roommate. She was like, how do you avoid falling into the roommate phase postpartum? Which I can see how people would do that because you get into this routine where like all of our attention is Goes towards this baby.
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Is it chess not checkers or checkers not chess?
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When we like, I don't know if this is going to hit with you or not, but the compliments that we'll give each other of like, I love watching you be a dad. And when you say like, I think you're a really good mom, things like that, I find take us out of the roommate phase and kind of like into the present. Does that make sense? Yeah.
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Because let me ask you, can you see how it, I could see how the relationship could totally go to the side. I really understand how people are saying that.
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So now on to pumping. Now I'm getting all of this from the inter wide web. But the question is, how's your anxiety around milk supply? How do you cope with your milk supply from a fellow just-enougher? And can you talk to us about your pumping routine? I'm glad you asked because it's been tough on me mentally lately. And I've realized why. Deemer is what it's called.
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Dysphoric milk ejection reflex. I had no idea it was actually a thing and it's exactly what I have, which is the flood of negative emotions before a milk letdown. Oxytocin is the hormone that triggers the flow of ejection of milk, but it suppresses dopamine, which is why I feel this every time I realize it's time to pump.
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And I have like a letdown and a letdown is when your milk literally like lets down. You can feel it. Okay. And I will get so overwhelmed and sad and sometimes angry. And I've realized that that is a thing that's happening inside my body.
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But at that moment when the letdown happens, like there'll be times where the letdown will happen and you've heard me multiple times. I'll be like, ah, like I, I have to pump.
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And it's just like, and it only lasts a couple minutes. And by the time you're actually pumping, it goes away. But I can't tell you the happiness when we were programming this episode that I experienced when I Googled that. I was like, oh my gosh, this is like a thing.
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You guys, we were sitting upstairs earlier. Tate got hungry 30 minutes before her three hour mark. I was sitting in the bed pumping. Harrison was walking back and forth between the nursery and our room. Every ounce I pumped, giving it to the nanny and we were feeding her. Like we are... We are just pumping, I mean, to the bottle right now.
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And as I said last time, my goal is six months to do the pumping thing, which is why you'd be like, just get formula. It'll give you a lot of mental relief. I'm not there yet. I wanted to do my six months. That's the goal right now. Things change. I'll let you know.
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We can do that on another episode. We can totally do that. I do want to say though on this anxiety around pumping supply, I have it. Oh my gosh. I see it. So I was at this hockey game with a pump in my bag. We are responsible for feeding this baby.
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And pumping schedule is every three hours. But as I just said, like it would be so nice if there was an extra bottle in the fridge. And at one point there was, but she's now drinking like – She's just drinking a lot of milk, as she should. And I'm proud of her and I'm happy for her for that. But she's drinking me dry over here. I'm proud of you. Thank you. So did we answer that basically?
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Like how do you deal with it? It's tough. I'm dealing with it day by day, one foot in front of the other. And basically the only good news is this isn't lasting for three years. My goal is six months. I think – here's my one tip. Set a goal.
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take the responsibility of feeding give them the guys give them the bottle yeah you pump dad feeds um that's i've seen that work for us yeah because if mom feeds like then mom it takes her full hour whereas if we do it at the same time we can be round trip about 25 minutes which is a lot nicer um so yeah pumping's tough but it's really like incredible what our bodies are able to do
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So just know you're not alone. All right. So the next question is we're going to take a little trip back in time. Really struggling with the pregnancy process. Is there any tips you have to enjoy it?
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Do I have any tips to enjoy pregnancy?
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But. Yeah, that's a good point. I just wanted to know if you had any – like I do want to know from your point of view if there was anything you thought I could do differently.
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I guess that's a good tip. But she's asking any tips to enjoy because she's struggling with it. And I was going to say, I think it's really hard because you don't know what you're going for. I didn't know what I was doing that miserable. I was so miserable pregnant. Anybody that tells you they feel connected to their body, that's great for them. And I do believe that some people feel that.
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I didn't feel it. Um, when I started, when I started walking a little bit, I felt a bit better than, um, I felt terrible every day. Like this is really hard to answer. Um, well, Oh, I know one. What? I wonder if we just thought of the same thing after you find anyone else that's having a hard time being pregnant. And just, it was for me, it was my best friend, Claire. We talked all day, every day.
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And she saved me. It was the best thing on the planet. Find a support group if you don't have a friend that's pregnant with you. A friend that's pregnant having the same experience. And just talk to them.
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Yeah. We were two weeks apart. Like even if you don't know them super well, find somebody on like Instagram, start DMing them because here's the thing about it. If they're also not having the most lovely pregnancy, they're desperate for somebody to talk to about it too. And the amount of times we would text each other and be like, oh my gosh, same. Like I'm also still in bed. I'm also XYZ.
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It was so comforting. She is like the highlight of my pregnancy. So that would be my tip. Okay, last question. How do you manage to take Tate everywhere? For example, the hockey game in Dallas. I want to use this to talk about our scheduling with her.
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how we because everyone's always like what's your schedule with her are you sleep training is she honest is she super regimented no the only thing we monitor is the amount of ounces of milk she drinks a day so if she hits her 25 ounces which she does then she can go to bed as far as bottles she drinks them every three hours as far as naps she takes them when she wants to and you can tell when she starts to get tired
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Yeah, we can talk about that in a second. But I think what we should also talk about is like if Harrison and I aren't the... Like you have to put parents in the position to succeed. So if you tied you and I to a schedule, we'd hate it. Then she'd hate it. And then if she was ever off her schedule, I would be... That would be like some weird amount of pressure I'd have on the schedule.
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So I think the way you and I parent is very true to ourselves, which is just like it's kind of run and gun. She needs her milk. We need to have milk on us. If we know we're going to be gone for four hours, she's going to get hungry on the third hour.
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I will pump on the go. Like I just didn't want this whole schedule thing to affect our lives. And so there was a bunch of books people recommended, a bunch of schedules. Honestly, I figured it out on my own.
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I got in trouble for always putting a disclaimer on the sleep regression. So I would always say, she's sleeping eight to nine hours, but I know that can change at any moment. And I got a lot of DMs saying, stop assuming a sleep regression is going to happen. You could just have a baby that always sleeps. And we could. Yeah.
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You've said that twice in the episode. I don't think we come off like that at all. We very much so are just sharing.
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Oh, I can give you some ammo. You want me to give you some things to make fun of?
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Well, it would be more of like ragging on you. Like I think you should heat her bottles up in the morning. That's one area that I'd love to discuss.
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I think she does. See, this is kind of an example of like, we don't know it all. I think she likes her milky warm. He thinks that she doesn't care. I think that's a good example.
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That's what I think is like a good... What else do we got?
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Let's do it. Oh, I DM'd you. I don't know if you're going to like this.
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The slutty pumping thing. It's called slutty pumping.
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It's where if you have sex and then pump, apparently you pump more milk. People are saying it's true. This one girl tried it.
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don't so no comment if you were listening and pumping though very good to know just know just take it for what it is very good to know listen from for all my you know just enoughers out there i would assume you'll try anything try anything once no comment Fair enough. Okay. So parenting confessions.
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Welcome to Two Parents and a Podcast. Today we have a really fun episode. We put up a question box and you guys let her rip. So we're going to have lots of things about romance. postpartum pumping anxiety and taking our baby everywhere, what that's like. But before we get into that, Harrison took a trip to the dentist for the fifth time. You go to the dentist with anybody I know.
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There was this video where a mom and a dad were sitting in the front seat with their toddlers in the back and the mom and dad were cracking up like they were biting their tongues laughing. And the caption was like, how are we supposed to parent these little comedians when they say such funny lines, but those funny lines aren't okay. Right. So they're like, we're supposed to get our kid in trouble.
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Yeah. But what they said, it was actually funny. The comment section that, All of these comments that I'm about to read to you have over 150,000 likes.
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Each individual comment. So Jennifer says, I told my daughter her shoes were on the wrong feet and she said those were the only feet she had. That is so funny.
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I told my daughter, who do you think you're talking to? She looked around the room and responded, but mom, you're the only one in the room. I was so mad at how good of an accurate comeback it was.
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No. I told my daughter to read the room once I was so stressed out and she said, well, I don't know how to read and I don't have a book. That one has 600,000 likes.
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My three-year-old told me, I don't like your hair, mommy. And I said, that's not nice. You need to be nice. He replied, okay, I don't like your hair, mommy, please.
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And I say, be nice. You say, please. I thought that was... That one has 275,000 likes. People are thinking these are funny. It's not just me. Yesterday, my four-year-old said, calm down, Mr. Mustache. I think that's funny. No?
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The please is hilarious. Those are all of them. Oh, I thought they were so funny. They're not parenting fails, but I thought they were parenting humor. Oh.
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You've always said dentists are running a scam.
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I'm going to get a fail one time that you think is funny.
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Yeah. And I guess I'm into that humor now. So we didn't obviously do a question of the week because this was the questions episode. And so without further ado, ladies and gentlemen, enjoy the Super Bowl. We're in Whistler. And we love you guys. We'll see you next week.
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I mean, that's a good story. It's a good.
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I mean, it was a bit anticlimactic for the necessary barbecue alone trip, which seemed like it was truly traumatic. It was a bit like every time you go to the dentist, you get scammed. So it's not new.
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Terry Black's barbecue. These are not ads for Terry Black's, by the way. It's like weird. I don't know why I keep saying that. You just like love the barbecue.
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That's amazing. Okay, so let's start talking about our new nanny. Her name is Maria. So what we had last month was a temp nanny. And we loved this temp nanny so much. Her name was Jane. And whenever Jane went to leave, I was so emotional. I was so sad because they become part of your family. Like they watch your babies. And I loved when she got here in the morning. I loved watching her with Tate.
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it's like a deeply personal thing but i even loved like i love both of their demeanors in the house you know i think that's a big thing because we're existing with them but it's such a personal thing caring for a baby but i think the thing is whenever somebody leaves like our nanny was here for a month and i was distraught whenever she left yeah so i can't imagine if it had been three four years and you feel like they're part of your family and then they go to leave like i couldn't even go downstairs and say bye to her then
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Because the babysitter we had, we ended up having a babysitter who was a college student who had never watched a four month old. And that made us nervous. And I was like texting some of my mom friends and basically like, it's fine to do that. I actually feel fine about doing that. They come early. I loved how when I asked her if she had watched a four month old, she said no.
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And she was like, would that be a problem for you? It would not be a problem. I think that we needed to show her some things. But the thing is, we were just going on a date night, the two of us. It was something so easy that we could cancel. And you kept saying, like, we're just going to be at dinner checking our phones nonstop. And we were too nervous.
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If I can help it, I don't go. But if I have like a cavity or something, I go. You probably think I widen my teeth and go for cleanings, but I don't. I'm just an avid flosser.
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And the closer that the clock got to like the time that she was coming, the more antsy we got. And then Tate started crying a lot and we were like, oh no.
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Honestly, just if she has been – if she's watched a five-month-old and below once. Because I think if you do something once – No. What do you think?
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No, no, no, no, no. No, I would never.
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And you, your head does go to the worst place of like, I don't know if her head, like setting her to lay her, face down while she sleeps. So we don't do that yet. Or like swaddling her. I don't know. Your head always goes to assume the worst, which as with your most precious object on the planet, of course. Yeah.
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So I do think the fascinating thing though, so we ended up wearing sweatpants and we like all went to eat dinner together and it was a blast and Tate like stood on the bar and was like adorable and we had a great time. But two things I want to talk about on the subject. Number one, I think canceling a babysitter etiquette is anything 48 hours or less in advance you need to pay her.
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So like I paid her immediately because I canceled an hour before.
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Really? They've committed a Saturday night?
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S*x, intimacy & date nights post-baby
Okay, I did not know you were going to do a flip-a-roo like that because we had that babysitter cancel three hours in advance. We were going to the game with people, and they had bought us tickets.
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And I think we're all looking at each other being like, are you having sex yet?
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That's crazy. Yeah. Every three months?
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S*x, intimacy & date nights post-baby
Yeah. equality okay i i agree with that i i am though i am saying for myself personally like it is a 48 hour notice policy okay unless we've used you a lot or like you've used us a lot like and you obviously get your one no problem no problem 24 hours 24 hours it's fair too uh here's the thing though also you and i we need to go on a date
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Like the reason we canceled this was because we got cold feet with the babysitter. But you and I, like we were supposed to use this night as date night for the two of us. And when we take her, I know you and I think we're on this date. We're not.
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No, no, no. Plaque buildup actually is hereditary. So I actually don't get plaque buildup ever. I don't think I've ever had plaque on my teeth.
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I'll give you a hint. It's in February. This weekend is going to hit around the 7th. So one week from the 7th would be... No comment. I don't know if you have something planned for Valentine's Day or not. We'll find out.
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Okay, and let's review. Let's review, you guys. He is so mad that I returned these Luke Casey boots. I couldn't get my foot in it. Do you want me to keep it?
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Did you run the London Marathon?
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No, but I know babies have 300 and what, 12?
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No, I think swear, cuss, curse, those are all fair game. Bad, naughty words. No-no's.
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They have more bones than we do.
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Because hers are fusing together still. Hers are fusing.
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Let's talk about Novage because you guys, Tate has had, and I know a lot of babies have had, because tis the season for the colds and the congestion. Now, Novage has made two incredible products that we've actually been using. I pulled them out at 3 a.m. the other day. They have the aspirator and they have the inhaler. So the aspirator...
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is this electronic machine that goes up in her nose and it decongests her. It's a rechargeable aspirator and it uses gentle suction to clear mucus. We've been using that a ton. And the inhaler, it sprays drug-free sterile saline solution to break down congestion while moisturizing the pathways and it soothes baby's upper respiratory system.
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When they put this on, you can just tell the relief they're immediately getting. So we have been using both of these. I'm not kidding when I tell you this aspirator saved me the other night in the middle of the night because the poor little thing, she was so congested and I didn't know how to help her. And I grabbed this and it was so friendly and easy and it was comfortable for her.
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But when do you want to start that? Like you think she can pick up on it now? Her first words, fuck. Her first words is going to be data. It's fine. It's fine. I was walking behind you guys today. You know, I always walk about 15 feet behind you guys because I just love to walk behind people in general. You had your corduroy holder. She was in it.
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And you know what they all do? Apple Pay. And if there's Apple Pay, I'm buying it. Every single time, double click, just trigger happy. It has your address auto programmed and you don't even have to look at your credit card. Your face does it. And then you make the point of how much it costs because you don't have to think about it.
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That's like an expensive one.
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Oh, no, no, no. But do you know what happened? I thought we were going to wear all of her clothes. You pick favorites. And then you blink. Half the time, zero to three months, they're actually meant for a newborn or they're meant for a five-month-old. And the sizes are all messed up. Zero to three or three to six is too wide of a range. Too wide of a range because at three months it doesn't fit.
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So then it goes in the back of the pile. And then you forget to wear it. And then before you know it, you blinked and she's grown out of it.
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$120,000. $280,000 for 15 tickets to see Taylor Swift. $20,000 a ticket.
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You're the math guy.
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18 grand a ticket. Now, only are those numbers happening at a charity event. You know what I mean? You're not buying that for no cause.
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I would be like, I have to be in bed, my phone has to be up, you cannot talk to me past 8, and I need to eat the proper amount of carbs to have enough energy the next day. And you're like, fuck it, I could have some beers.
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I got to confess. Your sister texted me the box price and how much each ticket was.
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I wanted to pretend like I was good at math, but no, I couldn't have backed into that. Um, Say it again. What did you just say? I was too busy thinking about my confession. What did you just say?
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You could buy a brand new G-Wagon. Buy a house. Down payment on a house for sure. You can buy a house, though, in Oklahoma. Probably pay.
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You guys were hanging out and I thought this is her first word is going to be data.
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Probably all four years of college and then some.
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Okay, so P, this is just in from Priscilla. She's saying that the way that Taylor Swift trained was she ran on a treadmill full belting her songs. And that's how she trained for it. And that makes a lot of sense. That makes a lot of sense. Man, you'd be in some good shape. Okay, this is what reminds me. Talking about this. So I was walking on the trail the other day.
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And this like sick G-Wagon turned around the corner. And this guy was, like, dancing. And I thought, what a great day he's having. But he was dancing, looking at this other guy that was standing on the trail beside me. And I thought, oh, they're about to go on a run together, and the cool G-Wagon's going to park. I would have never noticed any of this had he not been in a car that I liked.
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So then I walked, and the guy gets out of the car, and he walks over, and they, like, dab each other up. They hug. They start stretching. They warm up, and off they go. And I saw him running on the trail three different times. They were in a full blown conversation. Like, I think they were having a meeting on the trail running. And I thought I.
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She's not your friend. She is your daughter. You guys are not friends.
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would never I could never I don't even like to go on walks with people because I don't understand the pace that we're going to walk at and who's going to set the pace and then whenever I run I can't I can't talk and run because I lose my breath and so I thought what a luxury for people to be able to book runs with people like it's a social event they get stuff done and they get their workout in
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To go on a run with somebody like, hey, meet me at the trail.
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Do you know what's fascinating about this? You are always saying that the guys are so in shape on the loop. Do you know what I'm always thinking? That the girls are so in shape on the loop.
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And I don't think there are that many guys. I think there is one guy in every 55 girls.
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But I also think we are both noticing that's funny. Like we're not out there looking at the opposite sex. We're identifying. We're like comparing. We're in a comparison state.
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Okay, here's what I want to talk to you about, okay? And we're going to talk about this out loud and I think it's going to be painful for you.
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Number one, it's called a dad bod and it's coined for a reason. But number two is this. So we talked about how Harrison had, and I'm sorry to do this to you, had a race. And Harrison's signed up for and ran a lot of marathons. Correct me if I'm wrong. You've never signed up for one and not shown up.
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Because you're mentally like, you can just kind of roll through these things.
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But what's your quote from your guy, the boxer? The best MMA fighter? He always has a shitty night the night before, like does a bunch of blows. Oh, but that's different.
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Love it. Love it. That's kind of like what you were doing. So anyways, Harrison signed up for this high rocks race the weekend before Thanksgiving and the whole week leading up to it. It was just because I understand signing up. I hesitate to say I'm going to do something because if I say I'm going to do it, come hell or high water, am I going to do it? And you're the same way.
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And you didn't do this race. And it was mental torture for you deciding whether or not you were going to do it. But we have a newborn child. We have got to give ourselves grace.
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Yeah, no, it's so true. This week we have LA, then OKC, a bunch of cities with some abbreviations. So tomorrow we're going to LA, which I'm anxious about, which we'll talk about. And then we're going from there to Oklahoma City, where I was going to see my family. So I'm super excited about that. But I'm also anxious about that. I get anxious traveling with her because she's not a light load.
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I don't really get it.
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But it sounds like a cop-out to say you didn't like the city. You got to own it. It was too much of schlepper up and down and you didn't train for it.
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We weren't going to have fun. We were going for you to run a race.
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Did you run the London Marathon?
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That is so cool. I knew that. I just never really thought about my dad and sister. Yeah. And so the night afterwards, are you on like a runner's high or are you exhausted?
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You, I got it. Like I, this is, I'm, I'm my, my mind is already adjusting. Okay. I'm already, you're a little bit contagious to me in this aspect of like, if I were to sign up for a race, um, What I would do the week leading up, I would be so regimented to the point that I would drive myself insane. Where you're like, one of my best friends lives in Dallas.
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And we were going to see her the night before and the night after. And Harris was like, yeah, I mean, if I go to bed one, two, whatever, like I'm fine. I would be like, I have to be in bed. My phone has to be up. You cannot talk to me past eight. And I need to eat the proper amount of carbs to have enough energy the next day. And they're like, fuck it. I could have some beers. Like, good for you.
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Because mentally, you just know it relies on your mental. That's a compliment. I know you're not responding.
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Oh, there's that about that. You are paying to do it.
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It's not a job. Okay. Don't take that too seriously. No one gets out alive anyways. I've always loved that quote. You live by it though. It's probably why I like you. I probably crave that. Sometimes I really have that in some areas and sometimes I get real regimented though. In other areas. Like right now, the upstairs, I bet it's bothering you 1%. It's bothering me 99%.
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But you just know you're going to clean it.
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Yeah, it's so funny. Okay, hold on. You've got to tell us this. You ran the Cape Town South Africa Marathon.
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Can you just like a little bit about what that was like? Because I can't even ask a question around it because I don't even know what to ask. Isn't that place like apparently like awesome?
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You've been to how many countries?
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And you're going to give Cape Town the most beautiful? Wow.
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How far is that from Cape Town?
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I don't think you get anxious at all. The way you get on this airplane with 17 bags and can put them all on the spot, I'm paralyzed. I just sit there and think, oh my God, I could never.
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Wow. And did your mom, your mom went?
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Did you run the Tokyo marathon?
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So the race is secondary. Yeah. My whole trip would revolve around this race, but okay. Uh, it's an afterthought.
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But did you cry when you crossed the finish line?
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Oh, that's really sweet. Wait, so you ran the whole race together?
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Yeah. Okay. So they ran together. You ran together.
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Oh, you love your brother-in-law.
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You did an anger run?
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And then you didn't care.
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If that doesn't do it, then nothing will.
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That's pretty cool. You got some really cool stories.
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Yeah, well, I love hearing about them, but I feel like, like, I think I know a lot of them, but we got to know each other so fast that, like, I missed, I also, there's a ton I don't know. You know, I don't know all the 52 countries you've been to, nor will I know them when you say them.
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Well, it depends what you say next.
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No, you've not told me that at all. Do tell.
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No, I think they're going to be fun too. I don't know why. I don't know. It would be interesting to realize if I could identify if it was anxiousness or nervousness. You know what I mean? Because there's like a difference. Or aren't those actually right by each other in the emotion wheel? No idea. Anxiety and nerves? I don't know. They're beside each other, aren't they? Yeah. Yeah, I think so.
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Where's it at? What country? What country is the country in? Continent, I guess.
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Italy is a country and Burma is also a country.
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Myanmar. Now, Myanmar sounds like it's on the water.
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I think I have both. And you know anxiety can be like really excited as well.
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No. So you just, what was your mom saying? Was she worried about you or was she just like power through?
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My God. Yeah. So you never want to go back?
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I am. When I'm pumping, I work up a little sweat. I used to be able to plank for days, so I'm trying to get back to that. Welcome back to another episode of Just Alex. It's December. Tis the mother truckin' season. Do we want to cuss in front of Tate? At what age do we not want to cuss in front of Tate, or do you not care? I know that people have shifted on that. Harrison is here. He's thinking.
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Way to go. And it was beautiful? Is Burma pretty?
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So I'm anxious that this is, I guess, want me to paint my worst case scenario.
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Okay. Wow, this is fun. We'll get a story. We can have story time in December with you. Are we going to do Christmas gifts, you and I? How would you like to do that? We haven't discussed it yet. So let's discuss it now. I'm good with whatever. I got a couple ideas of things I would get you.
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That I'm really far away from the hotel and I don't have my pump and she's already drank the bottle and then she gets overtired. And she needs to go down for a nap. All I have are my boobs to feed her, but we need to get in an Uber. And so then I'm a 45-minute drive away. Then I'm stranded, and then I got a crying baby for 45 minutes in the car in a car seat. No bottle. I don't know.
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And see, even Priscilla's got her head in her hands. I get grocery store flowers from Trader Joe's every Sunday.
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Valentine's Day is a special day.
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I had just found out that I was pregnant carrying your child. She's, she's roaring. We can keep that. We can keep that little, and because she says, yeah, mama, you tell him. And I was so excited for Valentine's day. And you forgot about Valentine's day and went to the grocery store and got flowers. And we were still, we were still newly dating. Whoa.
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Hold on. Think about this, though. We were newly dating, and I tried to not say anything, but I was so hormonal and sad that I finally just started crying.
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Well, you did. You scribbled it and I watched you. It's very unlike you. You're very thoughtful.
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I picked it and made it.
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No, and I took you to Face Gym before.
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No, no, no. No, no, no. Okay, I picked where we were going. This sound... I sound crazy in this story, but I need to preface that I...
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was newly pregnant and i think extremely hormonal the flowers thing defenseless on except you did go to the grocery store i know the night before and i did watch you scribble on the card so that that was a little like you got to put a little more into because we're like still in the honeymoon phase we had been dating for like four months and i was a month and a half pregnant i thought i killed valentine's day i thought i killed it
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And I could tell that you did. And finally at the end of it, I remember I got like really teary eyed and I just like tears were streaming down my face and he was like, what's wrong? And I was like, I just feel like you, what did I say? Half-assed the day. I just remember being so sad.
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That would be what I would say is the worst that could happen.
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No, I don't like that.
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I explained that this is just where you just say, okay, and next year you just kill it on the flowers. It's not we don't kill the holiday as a whole. It's a great holiday. It's a fun holiday.
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It's a blast of a holiday.
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I'm going to let, you know what I'm going to do? I'm going to let that story stay in.
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I don't even need you to say that.
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Breaking baby “rules”, newborn travel anxiety & dad bods
I was carrying that baby. I'm kidding. Listen.
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Breaking baby “rules”, newborn travel anxiety & dad bods
No, the point is, and this was the learning. The learning was, and listen, he came in for Thanksgiving, and he was like, what kind of flowers are we getting for Thanksgiving? And I was like, I don't know, like fall ones. And he was like, there's not really a flower shop around here. I was like, no, we go to Trader Joe's. We go to Trader Joe's for every flower except on Valentine's Day.
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That's the only time we get them from the flower shop. And he's like, okay, got it. So it was really cute that you were still trying to understand the flower expectations.
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They're great. They're cheap. They last forever. They're the best.
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But the thing is, I sound crazy in the Valentine's Day story, and listen, you guys, I'm human. Sorry, and I was hormonal, okay? And I like flowers on Valentine's Day that aren't from Trader Joe's.
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3, 6, 9, 12, 15, 18.
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Yeah. What is that a day? How many is that a day?
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I think that's low. That's 6.8 a day. Seven diapers a day. I would think you're going more. I guess you're not changing them at night, but you're changing once a feed. So for us, that's every three hours.
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Yeah, it does, I guess. It's on average. Wow. It's a lot of diapers. You can never have too many. We're always out. Except we're lucky. We are always getting a PR box of diapers. We actually have not bought diapers yet.
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Rascal. Millie. We're on Millie's right now. Love them. We're open. Love the Rascals. Love the Millie's. I love the Huggies. Love them all. All right. Let's do this. We love you guys. Thank you very much for listening. We've been upstairs to clean.
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Or we have our car.
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And here's the thing, like just never like have too much milk at all times.
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Thank you. That's why I love you. We, we have, we call her miss milky. She's miss milky.
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Loves her milk. So I made a tick talk earlier about how I was like this baby, you know, they eat every three hours and somehow they, they know three hours on the dot and they Even if she's conked out, she's waking up. And these comments, they were so funny. First of all, moms were like, you get three hours? I mean, I get two. A lot get one and a half.
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And then one was like, you know, how does my baby already know it's 109 on the dot?
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Yeah. Oh, yeah. It's a dead clock. And my tits know, too. I get the milk let down. But you'll never know what that feels like.
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And see, even Priscilla's got her head in her hand. Valentine's Day is a special day.
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Did you know I've also stopped... You said some... She objects. She says no. You mentioned... to me like three or four weeks ago too, that I, when I was pumping, I was on my phone in the middle of the night cause I was pumping every three hours and I was doom scrolling. And did you know, since that moment I have not taken my phone with me to a pump.
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I do planks. I've been doing them for a week and a half. I'm getting stronger.
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No, but you said... Of course you didn't tell me not to be on my phone in the middle of the night. But you made a comment because I said... What did I say? Oh, I said I'm having a hard time going back to sleep after my pumps. And you said, oh, it's probably because you're on your phone. It's like a throwaway comment.
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yeah and i know of course you didn't tell me not to be sorry sorry but if you ever told me not to be on my phone you know i'd say back to you no one is on their phone more than you i'm a big phone guy right your phone guy i'm a big phone guy right now and that's okay my hours are up your hours up it's not a problem there's a time and a place totally but you that that was why you would set in i thought maybe you're right i think the internet is great right now i just think there's amazing there's amazing content it's a good time to be an internet man can i tell you what
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But it's not that. Because I'm enjoying the internet now more than ever. And do you know what it is? We need a brain break. So whatever's on the internet, we are loving. I don't think the internet's better now than it was last year. It's just that I'm obsessed with the internet. I know more that's going on on the internet now than I ever have in my life. It's a brain break for you.
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But anyways, when I'm pumping in the middle of the night, I've kind of lost the time. You know, workouts, they've fallen to the wayside. So what I'll do is I'll do a minute on, 30 seconds off, 45 seconds on, 15 seconds off, 30 seconds on. I've added another 30 seconder. I'll do some squats.
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Oh, I go to the nursery to pump now.
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I am. I work up a little sweat, but I'm able to fall right back asleep, which is fine because I'm not on my phone. Now.
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Oh my God. And this is great because I actually am really proud of myself. I haven't missed a night.
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So it'll be on there. Oh my God, I'm excited. Yeah, so I've been planking and I'm getting a little stronger. I used to be able to plank for days, so I'm trying to get back to that. Yeah, and no phones, which is nice. Oh, and on the feeding thing. So my mom made a comment that like babies come out in the world looking for somebody, looking for them. Like they just really want to be seen.
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So publicly you'd like to say you won't cuss that often, but privately you know you will? That's not what this podcast is about. You be honest. Be honest with the people.
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And I always, I felt that like intuitively beforehand and everything I read too. It was like eye contact with them. Like she doesn't want to eat alone. You know, like she can't control who eats with her. So when we're feeding her her bottle, she's dying for us to be paying attention to her. And the worst thing we can do is tell her that our phone is more important.
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Internet moments. I just feel like the feedings are more purposeful and better and more thorough and happier. I feel... Listen, what I don't like is when I get in bed at night and I think, was there another moment throughout the day that I could have held her or talked to her? And if I focus on the feedings, then I know I really get a bang for my buck.
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This is why HelloFresh is America's number one meal kit. And you guys, it is truly incredible. What do you think about baby rules? Like, there's all these rules, okay? You know, she can't sleep in the bed with you. You can't leave her in the car for one second. You can't leave the house with her upstairs. What would be the one baby rule you would break if you could break one?
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But you don't want to be throwing them around loosely?
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And she could just like cuddle.
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Knowing that she would be fine.
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Yeah. Knowing that like, there's no way we could roll on top of her. She would stop. Yeah. Any of that. Oh, um, what about you? You know, sometimes I feel like, I don't know. No, I do know. Definitely holding her while driving.
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Like if I could breastfeed her while driving or like even while you're driving, if I could just hold her in the back or if I could hold her and give her a bottle, that would be a dream. Yeah. A lot of people I know say like, can I just leave her in the car while I run in to get my Starbucks to-go order? And it's like you can't leave that.
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Well, if you use the F word, I guess I'm not saying it, too loosely, then it does lose its luster. You do need to use your cuss words with ump, and the less you use them, the more power they hold.
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But that's because you and I are in the car a lot.
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But imagine if we like, we live in an area where we can walk everywhere and we don't drive that often.
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Imagine if we like lived in a suburb and we were driving a lot and like we had four stops to go do. And like they're real quick. You're picking up a prescription, you know, X, Y, Z. And it's like you're taking them in and out. Especially when she gets out, grows out of the Duna. And it's not easy to pop her in and out. You have to take her out.
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I was like six. Yeah, P says six. I don't know. Like I have no idea. I know there's like a front seat thing, you know, like that's exciting, but I know it's a weight limit. I don't know. I don't know how old you have to be to let them stay in the car. Somebody said I saw they wanted to pop the baby zits because, you know, you're not allowed to do that. That made me sad.
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Let me look. Can I look at some of the answers on here? I think these would be, and you can tell me yes or no.
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I can tell. I think we both are, which is ironic because I feel like our house is really messy and we need to go tackle that, which I know.
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100%. All right. Leave her in the car while I run in to grab my mobile coffee order. Has 1,500 likes. I think a lot of people agree with that.
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Run errands during nap time. Co-sleep. Leave in the car while I go get my mobile order. That has 400 more likes. That's 2,000 total. Um, yeah, I wish I could just leave the house while she naps. Like I get that. Cause you're like, I know she'll be asleep for an hour, but you got to stay home. Um, oh, that's so funny. Not have to burp her. Just go on a date after bedtime.
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They never wake up and it's like three hours that you get to. Yeah, that's so true. Okay. Well, here's one thing I didn't know. Okay. Coats and car seats. We, she's never worn a coat, so we've never put her in a coat and a car seat, but I guess no coats and car seats.
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What do you call them, curse words? Swear words. Swear words?
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The internet is so helpful. Yeah. This mobile order. I mean, the mobile order is a huge pain point. Holding her while driving. Would love to sleep with.
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Yeah, and you've probably never driven to a coffee shop since we've lived here. I haven't.
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I do love the blend of like kids versus non. Because we have a lot of just couples that their kids are, I mean, one of the people we were talking to, their kids are 21 and 23. Yeah. But then on our block, I can think right now we have five families. And I do like that blend. It's not all kids, but it's not all old people. And we're in a very walkable area.
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Did you guys talk to your neighbors?
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Is that a northern thing?
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Because I still can recite all of my neighbors and their kids' names and the parents' names.
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Did they have kids?
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Wow. Okay. Growing up, did you call adults Mr. and Mrs. or did you call them by their first name?
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Huh. Biggs. Biggs. I like that.
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Why Biggs?
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K-Ups and Biggs. Yeah, we were very much like Mr. and Mrs. Last name. But the most informal version of that would be if it was you, Mr. Harrison. Mr. Harrison. Mrs. Alex.
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But see, if somebody wants to call me Mrs. Alex, I'm going to say no. You got to call me Alex. I want the kids to call me by my first name. Don't you want the kids to call you by your first name?
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I think they'll call you Harry.
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Yeah, I think that that... But I do think that that changes the dynamic from... like authoritative figure to more on the same playing field, which is something Julie was talking about that like her neighborhood had, which was very much so that they would have nicknames or they would call the parents the first name.
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So it's like made it more of an even playing field as opposed to like this authoritative thing I get with the Mr. and Mrs. Yeah, I had a very playful relationship with my friend's parents.
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Right. Yeah, we didn't.
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tate and her friends like i don't want it to be like i'm some like older figure that needs to be yeah no that's not that's not it for me and i definitely you know one thing i also don't want it i don't want it to be like people have to feel so formal around us i want i want us to have it to be a fun house yeah i agree now speaking of houses okay so we're at the crawfish boil and well i made a tiktok and then i get home and i start reading the comments
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Now they're our genetics because Tate will have half mine, half yours, and let's hope she gets my eyes. I love that. Okay, ready?
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And TikTok, they have a special place in our hearts, okay? The comments start saying, renovate your house. You can't buy good neighbors. You can't buy a good street. People were saying they don't even talk to their neighbors. And I started thinking about it.
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Even if we found the best house on the planet in a different location, but we didn't have a good street, I wouldn't love that house like I love this house. I love this house because I love this neighborhood. Don't you agree?
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But the problem was, as much as we love this house, as I've been telling you guys and telling the inner wide web, it was overpriced. So we go. Everything happens for a reason, and I knew it happened for a reason. So we go the next day to Motocross, and they didn't have my credential. So we couldn't go, but we were like already there.
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Okay, are we rolling? All right. Do you want to do it today? I'll do it. Welcome to Two Parents and a Podcast. Big day.
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And I remember thinking like, okay, this is kind of frustrating because we took Tate out there and then we decided we're going to go to brunch as a family. And I was like, there's a reason that it happened and I don't know what the reason is. And then we were at brunch and what did you decide to do?
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Okay, well, so you, we were sitting there, and you were like, I'm going to text the owner of the house, and I'm going to send her an offer on the house. And I was like, I just want it on record. I wouldn't send that text message. And you basically were like, we love the house. Do you want to tell this part?
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We were shocked. We went to the neighbor's for dinner.
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And we don't want to say too much, so we're going to cut it off there. The only thing I will say is it's a more complex situation than normal.
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Yeah, so the pause is now, the update though is the crawfish boil, I think it was the neighbor's effort. To remind us how great our neighborhood is. And it worked. And then TikTok also, the comments. People were just saying, you can love your closet, but you can buy a nice house, but you can't buy a nice street.
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We have had just a rotating door of people coming in and out of here. We got lots of updates. House updates, baby updates, Tate. Okay, so we'll start here. Little Tater Totski slept in her own room last night for the first time. And I thought it was going to be like, I thought I was going to be a wreck. But the best thing that you did was you put her to bed when I was in the shower.
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I just also think even if there's an area where there's most likely a lot of kids and things and you move there, you still don't know what street you're going to get. it's such a gamble and like there's, we have, we have a great street. So I'm really happy we came to that realization and we'll be able, if everything works out, we're going to make some updates to this house.
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We'll fix it up and we'll move right along. I also am so excited to be a homeowner because I really want to plant some pots.
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No, but you just, you don't, you don't have the same like love for it.
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Right.
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Um, okay. So speaking of our neighborhood, the topic that we're going to talk about today is how we build our village because there was this very interesting article. I think it was in the New York times. And they polled... New York Post, I think. New York Post. They polled 2,000 people, 2,000 parents, and their kids were between the ages of zero and six, about their villages, right?
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And the people they have help raise their babies. And 86% of them said that their village was different than their parents' village.
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And I think that's a big thing with our generation.
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Well, quite literally, like two Wednesdays ago when our nanny had to leave at one o'clock. It's like as much as like you talk to your mom, like Kathy can't get here by one when I find out at 9 a.m.
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She's so sweet. She's always like, I am a plane right away. But. And they've just been – your family has been incredible. And I feel like right now – I'll just make the little disclaimer here. I don't want to talk about my family because it's very sad for me. But they're obviously – and I hope they get in the picture more. But right now, we're just not there. And I don't want to like explain it.
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I don't really want to talk about it. I just say when I'm talking about building our village, I do think that's a question mark.
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You can’t buy good neighbors (+ building your village & communication in relationships)
Thank you. Yeah. My motherhood journey has been, um, it's been, don't, it's just been different than I thought it would look like with my relationship with my family. But what's beautiful about that is it really has made me like a stronger person, but it also, I hear him. I'm getting into it. Okay.
Two Parents & A Podcast
You can’t buy good neighbors (+ building your village & communication in relationships)
And that's very sweet of you. Thank you.
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You can’t buy good neighbors (+ building your village & communication in relationships)
Well, okay. So what I think is fascinating about this building of the village is we're really lucky with the neighbors, right? Because at that one o'clock mark when Maria needed to leave, Harrison had a conference. And I was like, oh, no, what do I do? But then I'm so lucky I can just text them and be like, hey, can you take Tate from one to four?
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Right.
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You can’t buy good neighbors (+ building your village & communication in relationships)
Same. It's the same. It's there's a lot of things like we don't give a lot of advice on here because we don't have any advice to give. But one thing that landed in our lap that we weren't seeking but found us was somebody on the same timeline as us. And I think that's a really good candidate for your village.
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You can’t buy good neighbors (+ building your village & communication in relationships)
Well, a big part of the village, too, though, is Maria, who is our nanny for the nanny share. But the thing about it is that we can't ignore. It's like that does – and the nanny share cuts that cost. And we did an episode on exact costs. But there is the component of building your village where when you're not around family, like paying for babysitters.
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You can’t buy good neighbors (+ building your village & communication in relationships)
Speaking of village, I'm loving these new babysitters. Like now I just group text them all and I send them the time. And I just say, like, who can do it? And so that is part of your village, but it's tough when that has an added cost component. So I think that's something to think about.
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You can’t buy good neighbors (+ building your village & communication in relationships)
But I think the handoff is we've gotten really good at taking her places.
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You can’t buy good neighbors (+ building your village & communication in relationships)
You know, we're just like, we're always like, we're just going to bring her.
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You can’t buy good neighbors (+ building your village & communication in relationships)
And I really love our village. Like it's, it's a fun phase of life finding a village when it comes to having the kid component because that's a different type of, does that make sense? It's a different, different type of village. Yeah.
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Yeah. But I do want to, I want people also like that. Yes. That is the importance of where we live. And I, I think that Harrison and I both feel really lucky that we picked Austin because we love the people here.
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I think our community that we've already been able to build in such a short amount of time is something that I don't want people to shy away from moving with young families if they want to because I do want them to know we've been able to build our community and build our village. The only thing is I do want to preface on the Maria thing. We obviously pay her.
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You can’t buy good neighbors (+ building your village & communication in relationships)
exactly yeah small but mighty so is this where we move on to things we damned each other no i want to say one more thing on this with the neighbors one thing you've taught me is like this honest communication component oh wow which is very north versus south yeah i think so we have a group text with them and we'll text in there like can you watch tate at x time
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And one thing that I had to get good at was like, I would rearrange my whole entire day if they asked if we could watch their daughter. And Harrison was like, no, just say no, you can't. Like, and it's, I don't even know why I never thought of it. Just be like, direct back. Like, no, Wednesday doesn't work. We're like, hey, I need you guys to watch her here. You guys know I love Quince.
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These milestones for the first year of a baby are harder than I ever thought as a parent. Like I didn't think that some of these... Moments were going to be hard on me and transition her first food, her six month mark, and now transitioning her from our room to her room. Those they're really sad because it makes you remember that time is fleeting.
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Well, and not so much as I guess what we're actually thinking, but when somebody says, can you babysit our kid? If you can't, just say you can't. Like I will, I'll run around the door instead of just like walk through it. And it's like, you taught me, you were just like, just say, they ask, can you watch her Wednesday or Thursday?
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And I was like, I can watch her both because I can, and Harrison was just like, you can watch her Thursday. Just say you can watch her Thursday.
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What was it? I can't remember it. Did it have to do with food?
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I can't remember, but I think so. But does that... That rings true.
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Yeah, because I'm really obsessed with eating my dinner at a certain time because then I pump. I got this whole protein intake pumping schedule happening. And one thing that I'm noticing that's happening with you is you want to start cooking more. But I don't want your cooking to be... I don't want my mealtime to be collateral damage of the cooking. Okay.
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I could say, do you think you could have it ready by 6 p.m. because that mealtime is really important to me?
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Only if we eat at six. And if we're going to eat a minute past six, I'm making my own food.
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Did you think that was mean?
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Okay. Here's an example. Harrison wants to make ribs on Thursday. This is a good example. So he plans rib night and he plans his sides, which is coleslaw and what? Okra. Very excited. Very excited. He invites the neighbors. They can come. So then I said to him, I need to talk to you.
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Her being in her own room.
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And then we were on a walk and he's like, what? And I'm like, your meal times, they drive me crazy because what happens at five 30 is you remember that the neighbors are coming over for ribs and then you go to the store and then I'm stuck with Tate, not stuck with her, but I have Tate. And then like it derails the whole day. So could we order the groceries the day before?
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And could we start making them a little earlier?
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You said, point received.
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It's okay. You didn't take it away from me, but it's funny because you were the one who was having, you were pressing so hard against it.
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And what do you think you can't meet me on?
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You pulled a bait and switch on me here. When I first went to LA to your house, the very first time I ever came to LA and you picked me up from the airport with roses and took me to your house, you cooked me dinner like one of those nights. And you said, I've always thought a good cook is a clean cook. And I thought, my God, I also thought that. You are the messiest cook I know.
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Okay. This is the problem. Cause I know what happened in here. We just have different definitions of clean. Like you sprayed the olive oil all over the place last night, but like that, that wasn't, that didn't count as you thinking it was dirty. Guys, we have 30% off site wide from Brooklyn Bedding and they sent us a mattress for our guest bed. And let me tell you what, it is unreal.
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She still woke up in the middle of the night. She woke up at midnight and she was like very confused where she was. So we fed her for a bit and then she went back to bed. The key, here's the key though, to moving her to her own room. It's you don't wait till they're fully asleep to put them in the crib. You do it right when they're starting to doze off.
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I think we have a communication miss when it comes to the word clean because I think dirty and you think messy.
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not of like meeting to need needing to meet in the middle and like the clean thing i will do better no no i i'm not i'm never going to meet your definition and the same way i hope you can do better even though you're never going to meet my definition i agree i agree and i where i where i do hope we can meet on this rib night is just just have the meal ready on time and have the groceries here ahead of time and all clean does that sound good
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When have you cleaned the dinner up? I clean it every time. I've been loading and unloading that dishwasher as much as I have been breathing clean.
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I think all of them do, which is why I'm fine having it out loud.
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I think this is just like... But have you ever unloaded the dishwasher?
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When? When?
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No, name a time seriously.
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He never does. Admit this one last thing. You do leave your dishes for me to do them. Just admit it. You take advantage of the system. How do you think that every morning your breakfast plate gets picked up? Who do you think does it? It's just... Who do you think does it?
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But no, answer.
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Then you move them in their crib and then they finish falling asleep in their crib. But if you move them while they're awake or while they're fully asleep, that's when they wake up and it's over.
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No one ever said I was clean.
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My clothes, I got those all. I love to do laundry. No.
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But they're folded. I...
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No, no, no. They're folded in piles. This is where – We'll document it all. This is where I can't get through to it. I fold it all and then it's – but that's kind of a house problem. I don't know where to put it.
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That would be lovely. But I don't need a big – like it's not the beauty of it. It's just like lack of drawer space.
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Okay, well that honest communication, is that what we chalk it up to?
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It's more couples communication styles. don't you think that's where we miss on it? Is it, don't you think it's couples communication styles? Like that's one thing we've really had to learn about each other is like you're, we're saying, we're saying the same thing, but your definition of clean is different than my definition of clean. So like we're, you're always going to think.
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Yeah. You're always going to think I'm messy. I'm always going to think you're messy.
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And I think that, I think that it, we chalk it up to like understanding that. And once I realized that I was just a lot less mad.
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Yes. And I think when it comes to parenting too, I think like you have to realize you have less capacity. So like really pick your battles when it comes to the cleanliness stuff. Yeah. Um, okay. So let's move on to, that was so funny. Let's move on. I think there's a bug on the same, but probably not. Let's move on to things. We DM'd each other. What I DM'd you was breast milk, ice cream flavor.
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Yeah.
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By Frida. Jules, have they announced it as an April Fool's joke yet? Still no.
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Really?
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They haven't said it was a joke yet.
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But it's what time is it?
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No, it is 1.22 a.m.
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It's clearly not real, but they haven't said it's a joke yet. I think it's real because a lot of people today are launching products as a joke. Okay. And they're launching TV shows and they're like doing all they're doing.
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What? Yeah, I think it's real. So we thought freedom might say it was an April fool's joke today, but they're not. My vote is it's real.
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Yeah, I think it's real.
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Yeah, Harrison was talking to me all day yesterday about how brands should do this more. They should launch it the week before. This is real.
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So now what are your thoughts? I'm so here for it. Except I think they're using real – it's just breast milk flavored. I want somebody to have a product that's actually made with breast milk.
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with banana banana and breast milk yeah we've got to make it okay we don't have nearly we don't have the milk for that but maybe i'll try i'll try to get some milk yeah she's gonna love ice cream oh my goodness she's gonna love it because her dad loves it what does pitt say huh what does tom pitt say uh you can't enjoy life if you can't enjoy a good cup of ice cream that is it does he say that about coffee too
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Well, you – we're going to talk about her in a second but you love your girl Mel Robbins. I love her. Like I'm the – I've always loved Mel though. But I was happy to hear you earlier say I like Mel Robbins.
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Well, I think that I think listening to her podcast, like she's just a real one. Like she really says, OK, if I'm a listener, here's where I would challenge you.
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OK.
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OK.
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No question.
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Yes.
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exiting the two parents in a podcast early it feels like we're 95 on the episode i agree and i really want to be respectful to the people's time i think it was really nice that you asked them with me and i think everyone listening is saying let him go take that call now let me do it to you though what's the question do you like the relationship do you want the relationship to work
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We want – I mean and I think too what's interesting is like last night we're calling it a really good night. And she still woke up twice. 12 and 5. Yeah, exactly.
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Do you want the relationship to work?
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The second part, are you willing to put the work in to make the relationship work?
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And I don't believe in keeping score. But I'm sure there'll be something that comes up that I'll need today that I won't hesitate to ask you.
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Go take your call. Who's the call with? I can't say. Okay. Well, good luck.
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Okay. Bye. Thank you for listening. Okay. All right. So I'm going to wrap us up. Oh, we're going to do a kiss. Okay. On the air. Okay. Bye. Okay. What I was going to talk about past that. Oh, it's the comment section. Okay. So sad that my partner has left for this part because it pertains to both of us. But all right.
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So somebody commented on TikTok and they said, I feel like you and dad are the perfect example of like, Wanting the same things in life is so much more important than, in quotes, history. It works because you wanted it. And I was going to read him that. But now I'm just reading it to you guys. And I don't know, what do you think she meant, Jules, by the history part? Like our history? Yeah.
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Okay, I think that's a really cool comment that she wrote that. I agree. And yes, we do want it to work. And it does work because we want it to. Are you saying that because Harrison's upstairs walking?
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Oh, Jules hates talking on the mic. Okay, all right, I got it from here. And then the other comment that I wanted to touch on that you guys left was, you don't have to move your baby out of your room. And I agree with that completely. Because a lot of people were like, if it's too soon, don't do it. Yeah. It just like felt like the day to do it. So we did it.
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But if you still have your baby in your room, like till five years old, great. Do your thing. There's by no means like a milestone at six months where you have to move them. So I didn't want to touch on that. And he was right. We were close to being done. And now we're done, you guys. We love you all. And we will see you next week. Thank you for listening.
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Yeah, 10. Woke up at midnight. And I think she was just confused where she was. And that's an example of when the snoo would have calmed her. Yeah. But I agree, we're going to have some just... And we might have a sleep regression. There's a whole lot of things that'll happen. But overall, I think she liked... We're using the Merlin suit.
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I think she really likes that because she's been wanting to stretch out.
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Yeah, she didn't know where she was. She wasn't in her snooze shaking. Okay, now let's move on to solids, the other update. Okay. Harrison has been deemed chief of solids in this household. Food is his duty. Been delegated to you. I love this thing we're doing where it's like, you own that. We're both owning sleeping.
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Okay, so tell us our meal plan for the week.
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And chicken broth is to get protein?
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Nutrient.
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There's one thing that I want to see. Like I kind of want like a push-up pop. You know, a push pop ice cream.
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Is it a push pop?
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Is it a push pop?
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Does it look like a push pop?
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Okay. I don't want that though.
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Wait, wait.
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Because that's not the act of them eating. Like, they don't need to know how to get food out of a soother.
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Okay, I can get behind that.
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It's the cutest thing. She gets so excited because she wants to put the spoon in her mouth and she realizes there's food on it. Hold on. Do you know? Do you know what a push pop is?
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you push it up and ice cream comes out of it sure don't you want that in like food form so then they can have fun eating off of it and learning how to because they want to like lick and do all these things you actually lost me i have no idea what you're talking about do you know what a push pop is do you want me to google it does do you guys know what a push pop is i think i thought i did but not as it pertains to okay so okay so you push pop and what happens
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And I want it to be like, I don't know, cooked chicken or like sweet potato in there. And so we can push it up a little bit and then she can have fun. Like she loves to gnaw on things and then she can get her food in her mouth and learn to swallow it.
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Because this would be ground. Like she, like, do you know what I mean? It's like ice cream texture. It's like ground up. It's like little spoon, but frozen. Frozen.
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I just think that there's something more fun and they can hold it and they can try to gnaw off of it. But with a real piece of chicken, if she bit too much of it and she swallowed it, it would need to melt in her mouth.
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Um, okay. Well, the only other thing I want to say is I saw this video, which is imagine how frustrating it would be when you're starting to learn solids. And so there's this mom feeding this baby. Okay. And so they get the texture in their mouth and then they get a napkin that comes and wipes it off because it's a real sensory experience and that's really confusing to them.
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Two Parents & A Podcast
You can’t buy good neighbors (+ building your village & communication in relationships)
So you're just supposed to give them the spoon, put the solids in their mouth and then remove it and then not touch them. Because when you start to touch them different places, then they start to think like, okay, they don't, they're not actually triggering the swallowing. Yeah.
Two Parents & A Podcast
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Or you'd want to put your finger in her mouth and it's like, no, you have to let her figure out what to do with the avocado.
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But then you have the bib on her, right? Okay, so then sometimes she doesn't swallow the avocado. And if the avocado comes out of her mouth, we can't go wipe it. You just... And it's hard.
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Self-restraint.
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Okay.
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You just gave us the whole meal plan.
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And that's chicken broth or bone broth?
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Okay, cool. So now let's talk about the nitty-gritty. The main thing that's happening at this household. Our neighbors had a crawfish boil on Friday. Like we co-hosted it with them, but they did the heavy lifting and then it was a block party and we invited our- It was 90-10. 90-10. Yeah, they did 90, we did 10. 95-5. And the five I did. My cookies were a hit. Did you see the dessert table?
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So everyone had to bring something tasty and I took two plates of cookies and guys, I don't want to brag, but my cookies were all gone at the end.
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That doesn't usually happen to me at things like that, so I was really happy. Okay, so we invited our block, the block behind us, and then the block that runs up top of us. Almost thinking about like a pie, you know, like 3.1415. Did you know that was pie?
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I didn't know that I knew that that was pie.
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Horns down. Oh my gosh, we missed Pi Day. Did you guys ever do that? Did you ever have Pi Day in Canada? Did you?
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Yes. We did and we took pies to school. And the whole day was dedicated to pie. I think it's 3.1415.
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Nine. Jules, no. Nine, six.
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And what is the point of pi?
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Yeah.
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Okay. No one had more fun on this crawfish boil and Harrison. Like he, I came home first, me and Tate did. And then he came home. I don't know what time you came home at, but he woke me up and he's like, that was the most fun night I've ever had. And I was like, Oh yeah.
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Yes, I would. I think that I will explain it now. Okay. So basically I counted because asked us how many bleep his name. Neighbor man asked us how many flyers we needed. So I zoomed in on Google earth and counted. There's 75 houses are block that block the pie block. Okay. We'll call it that. And I think of those 75 houses. I truly think 60 of those houses came.
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Maybe.
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So they did it right out front of their house. He set up a tent. His friend came from Houston and they had real light. Like these guys know how to do a crawfish boil. And the crawfish were alive. And then they were bringing them over and they were boiling them. It was a true crawfish boil. They had tables where they spread them out, and these crawfish, they tasted good.
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And it was so – right at 5 o'clock, it was the craziest thing. You just saw everyone come out of their houses and start walking over, and everyone brought cookies, brownies. Somebody brought a popcorn machine.
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It's been forever. I have like 2020 well 2020 is actually not perfect vision a little bit below that is good like 18 Would you ever get lazy guy surgery I wouldn't need it Your eyes fade over time. Well, I would I would get it if I needed it, but right now I don't need it I've got great eyesight Look at your genetics
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Thank you. How did it feel being away from her?
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No, no, no. We missed you. We missed you. The game plan was, should I talk about it from my perspective? Yeah.
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It's very good. I feel like you are, your emotions right now are like, you're feeling them. Like when I, when we were at that charity event last week, they were doing, it was like, it was called, what was it called? Mac Jack and McConaughey. Mac Jack and McConaughey. Okay.
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You've been, you've been looking at the agenda.
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and they partnered with five different charities that they supported throughout the night and they showed videos of each five charities and what they do.
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And I would actually love to like put what the five charities are in the bio and on the screen here. And I'd look to my right as after the second or third video and Alex is just bawling. Like not teary-eyed, like crying watching these videos.
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It was a very sad story. Now I feel like an asshole for how I kind of brought it up. No, no, no, no.
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No, I was. Because it's okay if you weren't. I was. I was. I paid attention to all the videos. It was a very powerful story. I just... I didn't... It's okay that you didn't cry. I didn't think that we'd get the full...
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I feel like you do a lot of tears. Like, you cry now. Like, oh, I hate how this is coming off.
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That's what I was trying to get at.
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You cried during a movie the other day too.
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Yeah.
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I got a great DM.
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I'm so sorry. I'm trying to find the thing and I just can't. But I think in a very... But did you hear what I said right there about how motherhood changed me? About how motherhood brought out a lot of newfound emotions in you. That's what you said?
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Totally, totally, totally, totally. And I say it in a good way. It's very sweet and... Yeah, it's a side of you that's really nice to see.
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It's going to be more of a brighter note on it.
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Which is, in terms of not just thinking about you, when we were talking about the trip we're planning to take next year and how we're planning to do it.
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Next year.
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I'm going to pivot it back. I'm going to... I was going to go this way. I'm going to go this way.
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There are certain things that are consistently said in life. And one of those things... And sometimes... And I guess until you're going through them, you really just like... They kind of... At least it went over my head. And it was... You've never felt a love until... Like... Well, you've never felt a love... Like having a kid? Oh, come on. Give me the saying.
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No, I'd love to hear your story because I don't know if mine is accurate.
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You didn't know a love like this existed until you had a kid. And it rings as true as it can.
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Mm-hmm. and their charity work does some great cause at supporting, um, different families as they go through hardships.
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So let's hear it.
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It said, like on the topic of what we were talking about last week, on being indecisive with restaurants.
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Yeah, I couldn't believe the airline let you bring the milk back.
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So I don't think that's what happened.
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I love when like things work the way you hope they work. I was waiting for the phone call and they made me throw it all out.
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Where did we go on our first date?
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I'll drive for that. Checking the bag.
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Well, it feels like there was a good content moment there of you taking the milk through.
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Okay.
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We had a very fun time.
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We had a very fun time. What I've learned about my relationship with her is we don't play. We do activities.
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No, like we don't play with the instruments. And, and so what we do is like, yeah, we go for walks and we eat food together and go swimming. Yeah. So, so that's the whole mindset was like, I want to keep her as busy as possible. So that way she doesn't notice that you're not there. Yeah.
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What did we order for our first meal?
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And so like from the moment she wake up, it was like she wakes up, she eats, and then we are right out of the house, like walk to Swedish Hill, did the loop around Lady Bird Lake, got our breakfast tacos at Vera Cruz, up to the pool at Soho House, ripped up to the neighbor's ranch, checked at a crawfish boil. Yeah. Grabbed barbecue. It was just like, go, go, go, go, go.
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It was like she was taking her naps in the car. She was taking her naps in the pouch. So I didn't want her to notice you weren't there.
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Valentine's Day, we went back there.
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Yeah.
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And they were off the menu. And I think that at that point, we started calling her tater tot in your belly. And I think tate came from tater tot.
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yeah loves to look but i've been doing that with her since the first week she was born right like i think the first day that we brought her home she was like she was going for walks i don't know if she was in the pouch that early on but like she was in the pouch as early as the pediatrician let her be in the pouch yeah you loved the stroller though i mean you and your mom took her took her in the stroller every day to swedish hill i think and i think she just laid in there and looked around no she wasn't looking at that point she was too small her eyes were like
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I felt kind of guilty that we had such a good time and you were away from her missing her.
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I didn't want to talk about how much I liked it.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, I'm sure. Well, I've left like that was the first time I've been probably been gone five or six nights.
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Yeah, you were dealing with the hormones. And of course.
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Yeah, I was going to see if my mom could come in last minute. Oh my God, I got my mom a surprise. And you a surprise. And I think she listens to the podcast, so I'm going to tell her now if she's listening.
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So do you know the podcast? It's a surprise for you too.
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Okay. But more for her.
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No, no, no. This is me telling you and her live on the pod.
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The podcast, Kill Tony.
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I got his tickets May 12th.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, she texted saying she wanted to go.
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Yeah, I got the tickets today.
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Yeah, shout out. So we need to figure all that out because we're getting back from... Yeah, it's all going to work out.
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So is my story a gaslight?
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I think that's when we're in Miami. We get back on because that's kind of through the Mother's Day area. So it's going to be a lot of bang, bang, bang.
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I thought Mother's Day was the 11th.
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It is her Mother's Day gift, yes. Oh. It's the Monday after Mother's Day.
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So Sunday's Mother's Day and this is Monday. So we still don't know how the logistics are going to work, but this is her Mother's Day gift. So happy Mother's Day. We still don't know or have your Mother's Day gift.
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I don't need a Mother's Day gift. So I need ideas. Please help. I'm like struggling with this one.
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Yeah.
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Okay, Jules, how do we think that'll go over if I just do flowers?
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There we go. Okay. All right. Perfect. Done.
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I'm open to ideas. I want to do something nice and thoughtful and sweet. You deserve it.
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I said, what I should do is I should say, I'm taking you to one of your favorite restaurants. Can you guess where we're going? And then you'll tell me where you want to go because whatever pops into your head will be your first choice.
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Oh, yeah.
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So, you know, the thing like when kids are allergic to foods, how and that's kind of a pivot, but our kids are allergic to foods like you slowly introduce them to them. So like a friend was telling us about their kid who was like allergic to peanut butter. And so like every day for, you know, a long period of time, a year, two years, three years, they give her half a peanut.
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So do you know what we call that? I'd love to get the word.
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Okay.
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That introducing them to things that they're allergic to.
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I know with like lactose... Someone told us that was a thing.
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Gradual exposure. Great. Okay.
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So I started gradual exposure when you were gone.
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We're doing gradual bug exposure with Alex. Okay.
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So, so what we're doing is every couple of days, even if there isn't a bug, we're pretending there's a bug. So that way we get used to bugs being around.
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I thought there was like, but maybe that was coincidence and so I'm turning it into a story. I don't know.
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And then we're going to do some gradual exposure. So that way when we see a bug, eventually I can't do that. We don't need to bomb the house.
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Part of the flowers that our neighbor got us. Gradual exposure. That's why I wanted to tell Julie. I was like, Julie, come outside. Julie, come outside.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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The light is the exact same level.
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No, the gas light. The gas light. What kind of bug was it? The gas light. The light level is the same.
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Gradual exposure.
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Haley's texting me about this Napa thing that we need to decide on.
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No, it's not. We're gradual exposure with the bugs. She bombs our house, internet. She bombs our house.
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Jules, if there's three bugs in the bathroom and you told her that before telling me, we have such a problem.
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Oh. That is absurd. Absurd. I'm going to take a photo. They're like little moths.
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We need to normalize the bugs.
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Gradual exposure.
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We're going to do some bug toys.
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Oh my God, I do remember.
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Yeah, we're going to get through this. We're going to get through this.
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I forgot to read it.
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Did you?
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Well, the context and why I sent it. It's because a friend of mine was telling me about how his kid would watch Cocomelon, and after watching it, his behavior would just get super, super wonky. And then when he stopped watching Cocomelon, his behavior went back to being the way it was before.
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such a guy gift like do you know that like i'll never forget that gift it was really sweet of you you gotta say what i got you you didn't say you framed the photo of the tater tots yeah no i think everyone knew yeah and then and then how how did you grade i did the flowers from the grocery store i did the tater tot photo i did the whole i took you back to the first date and there was no tater tots there and how did you say the first valentine's day one i said it can only go up from here i thought i did so good
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So very interesting. The other thing my buddy was talking about, which was the harms of YouTube kids because it plays – like the kids – I think the content plays in the same way of like it's short form. It spikes their dopamine and they can just rip through content. And so they're just like getting hit after hit after hit, similar to exactly what –
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happens to to adults on social media and us um but what what he does which he he said works really well so you mentioned bluey and the other one he does long form movies and often movies from like 15 20 years ago so like he'll play mighty ducks
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okay so it's so funny and that way it's like it's a real show there's a proper storyline uh and he's found that like the behavior uh when going like down that that long form movie real storyline uh is like night and day which i thought was was really interesting so i was thinking about how arthur hey arthur back in the day like they didn't have the ability to make um
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Yeah. So I want to give you some flowers right now. And if you want to cut it, then feel free to cut it. I don't know if you remember this, but Cocomelon offered you a big brand deal. I do remember it. And you said no, because you're like, if Tate doesn't watch TV, I don't want to say that she watches TV.
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But when they offered it, like, I think you had no idea about the effects it would have on kids.
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But it's like Miss Congeniality. No. But it's like the difference between a flip phone and a smartphone, right?
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That's literally what it is.
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No, it's what she's watching in front of the iPad and what they're watching. That's what makes sense to me.
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The one where she's a prostitute?
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Oh, come on.
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Moana, I feel like is one that people like.
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I actually think it's crazy. So she said months. At what point do you start putting a screen in front of kids?
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I feel like we should ask the internet this.
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I text him. I was like, hey, we're talking about this on the pod. And he goes, YouTube kids, absolute worst. Gabby's dollhouse, absolute vortex.
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I don't know. I think it's like, I do love like when, like, yeah, I love like hearing these experiences from friends and then being able to incorporate them. So we'll see how it shakes out. Yeah, well, it's good. Does it say when kids normally start looking at screens?
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I'm asking Jules a lot. I hope I'm doing it in a respectful way, Jules. We appreciate you. You're a really great researcher.
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Interesting.
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Love it. Okay.
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Five to eight.
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Two to five. One hour. One hour.
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Oh, two to five. And the reason why I don't do... It would take me forever to research on my phone. I'm a bad researcher on my phone. I need a laptop.
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Yeah. Well, you know, just getting some good updates.
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Would love to. I need to pull up what it was because I do kind of forget.
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Okay, but this was never DMed to me. I've never seen this before.
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Okay. Should we change the segment to things we would like to DM each other? Yes. And then we reveal it live?
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Yeah, I put them in the vases.
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Yeah. I agree with pretty much all this. I completely disagree with no plan is the plan.
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Oh my God, you just are like... No, I put together a framework of a plan and then I will always be open to changing the plan or updating the plan. But there's always like a framework or like an agenda. We're just open to changing the agenda.
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Oh my God. I added a bunch of stuff here.
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Yeah. Tell the class. But none of it's, I added to the wrong section. So we're supposed to do IRL first, but this isn't an IRL thing.
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But we have the gender reveal on Sunday, so... We have a gender reveal on Sunday.
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I do want to go kind of back. I didn't want that last thing to sound like, oh, we have all these plans. I think what I would like about all the plans we have on the Saturdays, it shows the community is really starting to come together.
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No, but I think it's cool to actually call out the communities coming together.
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So why don't we move that to later and we can talk about IRL.
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Yeah. I can't wait.
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Um, I DM'd you something, but I kind of want to save it for next week. I'm not in the mood to kind of go through it. I kind of want to read up a little more on it. Okay. If that's okay.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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I feel bad for this guy.
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He... I saw an interview with him and he was so fucking sad. Oh. And the way he was telling the story was that he had it all planned. And then when the news and media started reaching out to all the people, they got spooked and they walked out. Now, I hope that's the truth. I hope he wasn't fucking lying. But...
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um test of happiness the power went out in spain yeah juicy i'd like to talk about that now okay so did you see that the power went out in uh in spain and portugal the whole grid yeah both no both powers the both country both countries the powers just went off can we please confirm this julie i saw it all over twitter so like i think it definitely happened and i don't know why it happened people weren't going to be able to tweet for long till their phones died
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But I want to have like another three couples. So let's talk it. Yeah.
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Three to four couples in the house.
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And then we all go, like we all go, the kids are there for the pre-drink and then we all go to the festival, have a blast. And when people want to come back, they come back and the kids are just like having a blast at the house of the babysitter. And we plan like a little stage coach at the house. So we do a little stage for them. Oh my gosh. Some music. They can wear outfits.
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Here's the idea.
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I want to build off that, and I want to do a neighborhood art show. Our neighborhood will turn up for an art show.
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Is it cement or cement?
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Cement. Sounds like something my mom would say.
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Um, how are we on time here, Jules?
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Okay. How was this episode?
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Well, thank you very much for listening.
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But I was walking, talking about this with Alex Cost, and I was like, hey, did you hear this happen? And he was like, man, I would love it if the power went out for a few days. And you know what that made me think?
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Yeah. We need a word for like good gaslighting. That's good gaslighting.
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It made me think a great way to test how happy you are with your internal setup is if the power went out for four days, would you be happy or would you be mad or annoyed?
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Exactly. Like, do you need all these external things to keep you happy?
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Yeah. Or like, is what's happening in the house enough to keep a smile on your face?
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I would love it if the pie went out for a few days.
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Trickster. Maybe I don't even know what gaslighting means.
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Hurricane Sandy that hit New York. Jules, can we get a confirmation it was Hurricane Sandy? There was the big hurricane in New York, I think in 2012, 2013.
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We had a 72-hour apartment party.
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I mean, it was just through and through.
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It didn't stop.
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We loaded up ahead of time, and it was a hell of a weekend. I think it was during a weekday, actually. Wow.
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Shout out Cha.
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Oh, no, please educate me. Considering I can't even ever get it right.
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I didn't know tornadoes were a thing. And then the fact that tornadoes exist in Oklahoma. Yeah, it's crazy.
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I think it was like off for quite a while, Jules.
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Of course. What are you going to do? Just go into work? Well, I guess going into work could be a lot of fun. If you don't like your setup at home, you can just go bring some beers and hang at the office.
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Yeah, but I'm not saying like 30 days without electricity. I was saying like four days.
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I apologize to the listener if they're hearing my ice click, but I am drinking out of an unbelievable cup from Aishens, which I think is one of the coolest restaurants I've ever been to in Okarchi.
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Okarchi, Oklahoma.
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Fried chicken.
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Oh, the green things.
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Okra.
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I'm done. The glass is away, but we have a bunch of those glasses. I love them.
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Well, I thought we're going to talk about IRL. We haven't even talked to IRL. That's the big news. What is it?
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Yeah. So today's Tuesday and we closed on Friday. Yeah.
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Well, I think like it's kind of like taking a business mindset into – uh, into real life where like a deal isn't done until docs are signed and money is wired. And like, I've always lived that way because I've seen enough things fall apart at, at the one yard line.
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And so with this, like it was just, it was like, so I don't know, it was such a weird feeling for me because like we talked about it so much online and, And then like the way it was messaged, I do think was, you know, accurate from the perspective of we bought it without an option period because we did, we like did the option period before we actually put the offer in.
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Oh, my God. Yeah. So I gaslight you. I actually gaslight you. With the temperature of our bed.
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That was like part of the weird negotiation that, that we had. Like we had the inspector come beforehand. We had them run title beforehand and uh, surveyor, et cetera, et cetera. Uh, so what was I saying?
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Oh, so like it wasn't like missing. It was just things weren't like the, the official like, and the official close had not happened yet. And I was just, I was nervous. Someone's going to happen.
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and I was shocked you let me put up this video being like we got the house like that's my front door and then like two days later you're like we gotta stop saying that and I was like you were with me when I made that video yeah but like I also don't like realize a lot of like I don't because you make your content so quickly I often don't think that what you're like recording is actually going up online like last night with the ribs was an unbelievable example you're like
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You're like, oh, I can't believe I made a video of the ribs and you made a video of ribs. And my take was like, when did you make a video of the ribs?
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Yeah.
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Yeah. So you're just so good and quick at it. And so often you'll pull out the camera and you'll ask me a question. You'll take that video and you'll send it to family or you'll send it to the neighbors.
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When you tell me you're like, turn it up, turn it down. I say done. And you're like, oh, perfect. So I actually gaslight you.
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So yeah, I just like... I thought you were sending that to like my mom and dad.
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Me. Are we recording?
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No.
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Thank you.
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There's still like a minor secondary transaction that's happening, which we've like discussed, but I think we can save that, that last bit till next week.
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Yeah.
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The never ending, the never ending story. But yes, the house is ours.
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Because it's on auto adjustment. It auto syncs to our sleep.
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Woke up. Her eye was red. I was like her eye was not red when her mother left. Did I do something wrong? And a little combo three. What did I do? I showed. Neighbor girl. Well, I sent it to our pediatrician. Our neighbor, my mom, and then I FaceTimed you because I wanted to tell you live. I wanted you to see it live. And everyone was like, that's a stye.
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Yeah. Yeah.
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Talk about something that like doesn't make sense that it would work.
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I did have the pediatrician come by to look at it.
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We're taking no risks.
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People were like really mad at Vanita on Twitter. So mad at her.
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What did she do? They were mad that she jumped in and then almost drowned. They were like, really? You're barely on this season and then you pull a stunt like this?
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I know. And there's like a part of me that roots for JT, but he really does fuck it up. I'm actually very aligned with Craig on this one, which is like there's like parts of JT. I think that like he has stood up for things like I loved. I loved when he stood up to Austin last season, but it is so performative and there is an insincerity about it.
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And there's definitely you can feel that he's like he is putting on for the cameras. And I have to say on this show, this is probably the Bravo show. That has the least amount of that, like where people are like, it's just I feel like it's like not the Charleston way to to be crazy for the cameras the way like a Brittany Bateman would on Salt Lake City.
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So the fact that JT does it really sticks out, you know, and that's so annoying to me.
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Listen, Ronnie, excuse you. He was standing up for what was good and real. OK, so if that means ghost and Vanita, then it means ghost and Vanita.
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Yeah. So Vanita's asking about last night and she doesn't like that Taylor left the party abruptly. And Sally's like, yeah, I think that she was upset that I said people here said that they don't trust her. And Vanita's like, but she knows that we've all said that to her.
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And she also tells us that, like, after the reunion, everyone basically told her, like, we'll be cordial with you, but because of, like, what Taylor and Austin did behind Olivia's back, it's just not going to be like a, hey, let's hang out, you know? They have to kind of, it has to be earned back.
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Yeah, I mean, although between Shep and Gaston, it's like you have a full wiffle ball set there. I mean, honestly. So, Gaston, yeah. You're like, nope, I will keep look-shaming Gaston. He's a wiffle ball. Listen, there are many pieces of a wiffle ball set that he could be part of. He could be the big red bat, you know? But the point is this.
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Like, is Gaston, is he the most handsome Gaston we've seen in pop culture? Maybe not, but it's hard to live up to Beauty and the Beast's Gaston, because even though Beauty and the Beast's Gaston was a dick, he was pretty hot, and I feel like Gaston has a lot to live up to. When you have a name like Gaston, I think there's like an implication of a certain base level of hotness.
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And like, that's a lot to live up to.
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Yeah, I mean, I think that Gaston has like a cute quality. I actually really enjoy his ears. And you know, he sort of has that kind of like, every now and then someone comes on to Bravo who has kind of like that chicken run kind of vibe. And I always find that to be very endearing, but this guy seems like he's like the worst. And it's time for Taylor to go to therapy or something.
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And like, just like, like you said, work on that picker a little bit, work on the picker, find someone, maybe get out of Charleston, maybe find a man in a different city away from this TV show.
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Establishing a tone for the episode.
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Yeah. And she's like, it's like I wrong one person who knows all these people. And I feel like they're mad at me because this whole situation, kind of a shitty feeling. I'm like, yeah. That's called reputation. That's what happens. If you wrong someone and they have a right to tell their friends, like, this person wronged me.
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And then the friends have a right to be like, yeah, I don't like that person anymore. That's just the way it goes. That's why you don't wrong people.
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It feels nice to give my home a little TLC after all that chaos and hubbub of December.
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I have two new beautiful gray lounge chairs that I have put here into this office for podcasting needs. And they just look lovely. And I got them from Wayfair. They arrived very quickly and they were easy to put together. It was a dream.
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So Taylor's like, I'm trying to build back trust. I lost with the girls because of everything that happened last year. And it seems like Sally is trying to reinforce their opinions of me. I actually am not getting the sense that Sally is really going hard for Taylor. I'm getting the sense that she's going hard for Gaston.
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and that like the running thread here is that gaston is a piece of and he cheats with one person gets with the next person and he's over always overlapping and there's just like an expiration date on this because he's going to cheat soon enough
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We're penis. I might get mad at them. I might get mad at them. I'm like, why are you wearing mittens? It's July. I think that's context. context based, to be honest. But what I will say is, yes, they do have triple overlap, these two women. So they should be friends and they should be drinking martinis together. And maybe they will soon enough once Taylor and Gaston go their separate ways.
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Yeah, exactly. I think you're two-thirds of the way there in the movie example. Not the musical. I meant the regular one. The one that came out last year, right?
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Oh, regular one. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So guess the regular original original flavor. Yeah. So Gaston. So he's so she's does this thing. And Gaston says, well, at the end of the day, you get nothing for nothing.
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You're in the wrong one. I mean, you could sing that song if you want, be our guest, but you're in the wrong musical at the moment. So he's like, well, you apologize and the ball's in their court and you don't need to go there and roll over and be like, pet my belly. So then we go back to Sally's house.
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Vanita's like, yeah, we don't have to be buddy-buddy with everyone, but I'm nervous she's going to try to like...
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not come around like we want her to come around enough that she feels like she's not part of the group but not not enough so that way she moves on from the group we want her to still be on the outside you can only be on the outskirts of the group if you stay within the group and we need her to stay within the group so that way we can show that she's not in with us you know what I'm saying yeah Vanita's like listen I haven't been in this group long but the the length of time I've been here has taught me one thing they need somebody to bully
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So Sally's like, do you think that Gaston doesn't want her around? Vina's like, I think there's something to it. I think that he's very protective over her. And Sally's like, well, I hope she's not getting in trouble for me having his name in my mouth. I mean, she can't control what I said.
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I've literally never seen Taylor happy in like however many years she's been on the show.
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Like when I see her, I just feel like I automatically hear Sarah McLachlan playing in the background.
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Says Craig, who then is mad at JT for the rest of the episode. The reason why he says that is because the boat captain is named Austin. It's insane. The SS, it's insane right now, Madison.
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So they get on the boat and JT hasn't really gone fishing. And Shep is like, how have you never been saltwater fishing? I mean, didn't you go fishing on the yacht you grew up on like every normal child in America? He's like, no, I golf. It's a lot drier there. And he's like, but it's important to cultivate all sorts of new hobbies.
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For instance, my favorite hobby is watching the Vietnam War by Ken Burns. Sorry, I just can't contain myself.
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kitten midder not everyone has access to also fishing holes by the way i mean it's not like it that does like require a certain amount of you know a lot of people do but a lot of people don't can't just like grab first of all you have to have a fishing bowl which is not necessarily cheap and you have to be able to like what you have to go to a lake or you better check your fishing privilege you better check your fishing privilege okay madam
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I have to say, I don't like fishing either. And it's not even a, it's not an ethical thing. Sorry, sorry, animal activists. I literally just ate some smoked salmon right now. It's just like, I don't, I don't find it to be that interesting or like that fun.
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And when you finally catch a fish, it's so chaotic that I actually really find that to be an unpleasant part of it. The flopping around. I'm like, I can't. It's over, fish. Just stop resisting.
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Oh, God, I wish you were on one of these Real Housewives shows. That way you could have had a teary confessional. Be like, I remember what day... watching that fish just slamming its head against the rock.
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Who's that? Jessel trying to relate her album. Who's the callback to last season? That's funny.
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So JT tells us, I mean, if there's water, I get nervous. I mean, some people are scared of hot, not me for obvious reasons, because I'm not there yet, but I'm afraid of deep murky water, not my vibe. And then he's, but now he's, so now he's being silly because now he has to hold the bait, which is like fish. And then he's like, oh, he's being silly and throwing it in the water.
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And they're like, JT, just like grab the fish. I've never given someone more chances in my entire fucking life. I'm like, excuse me, have you seen your two friends, Shep and Austin? This entire show is about you guys squabbling and then becoming friends again sort of the next season.
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So excited. We are doing our first show of the tour tonight in San Francisco. You all better be there because we're talking Salt Lake City reunion part one, part one. Because we are doing the reunion. We're recapping the first half in San Francisco, the second half in San Diego, which is tomorrow. So thanks, everyone, for being patient.
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Yeah. You know, it's just hard. He's like, it's hard to say no to the nice guy, but you just hope the crazy guy stays home. I'm like, well, could we show footage of Craig being sweet and charming and then also Craig on Winterhouse refusing to clean up any of his messes because he feels like there are other people that should do that for him?
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Because, you know, the truth is a lot of us have that nice side and monster side.
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That's exactly right. There's no way they're giving that fish back if their cameras aren't there. You know that pissed Shep off so much.
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Yeah, it's like a garage that he turned into his bar. And he has one of those embedded coffee machines. And this is the thing on Bravo these days. People do not know how to use their coffee machines. I feel like we saw it twice last week. And now here's Whitney, who's like, Mother, the espresso's not coming out, Mother. No espresso, Mother. So Austin comes over.
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Alpha. So Austin's like, Madison, how many girls has Whitney banged on this couch? And Madison's like, I don't know.
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He's like, not near the Papi Van Winkle.
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It's insane right now. So it's time to gossip. So they're like, did you see that photo on Shep's Instagram? And there's a pic of the three guys holding up that fish. And Austin's like, yeah, I kind of took it as like a slap. I'm like, how do you think the fish felt? Okay. He's like, I texted back Shep. And I was like, man, you guys are all assholes. I'm sorry.
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If you're fishing and you catch a fish, The first thing you do is take a photo. I don't think it was a slap in the face. It was like a standard fishing photo procedure.
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I would post it on threads. I don't know. I remember Flickr. Those were the days. Let's post it on GeoCities. So anyway, Austin is very offended because he didn't get to hold the fish or be part of it. And he's like, I took it as kind of like a slap. I take it back. Yeah.
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So Austin is like, yeah, then Craig told me he basically wants to dissolve our podcast, basically. For good? Yeah, I was like, what's going on here? It's insane. And she's like, and Whitney's like, well, and you didn't have an answer. Which is maybe why your podcast is failing. And he's like, well, I didn't, I haven't thought about it.
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criticism so i really feel his pain here um austin has been like and now he's like i'm taking my basketball and i'm going home which is also true so austin's like he's like craig and i have been together for like so long that i just thought that the friendship meant like more to him and it's like becoming increasingly clear to me he doesn't give a about friendship i think he literally sees dollar signs in everything he does god forbid someone on this cast earns a few dollars doing something
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Don't you cut pineapple on your fishing trips? So he's like, dude, I wish we could have cooked the fish we caught, but they were too big. That's what we'll tell people. They needed to be smaller fish because everyone knows the first rule of fishing. You always want the small fish instead of the big fish. Gosh, I can't believe we let that thing go.
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Bring in the writers. No, it's not. It's not a jab. It had nothing to do with Austin. It just had to do with making him feel bad that we're not friends anymore. Well, you know what? He spirals for all the wrong reasons. We went fishing. That's it. It's ridiculous. Gosh. And so now Craig turns on all his like fire pits and Shep's like, Eureka!
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And there, you know, Craig is once again selling his house in the sense of like that it should be like the locus of all activities. Like this is my happy spot. I'm so glad we're here.
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I mean, but she changes her mind a lot about a lot of stuff. One day she'll text me and say, let's build a farmhouse. And then the next day she'll say, I'm going to move to Charleston. And then she'll have a good day in New York and say, no, I love it up here. Why am I even talking to this yokel down in Charleston? Oops, sent that to the wrong person. Sort of messages.
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whatever it turns into like 10 years. And, um, then Craig's like, well, I have this full of decisions and compromise, you know? And like, and by the way, Shep, you're talking to someone in the Bahamas because you like the person. Let's talk about you. And he's like, yeah. And the crazy thing is I don't get into girls that much.
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So for it to happen so quickly after Taylor, who was a bit of a, an epiphany. Oh yeah. And then, uh, by the way,
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you know, when I said it, we were not close. I don't say that. And I also, uh, then I said, gosh, and then she had a lot of saliva on her after that. But this is the first time I've really thought about the future seriously with someone. And then last month we, we see a flashback of Shep talking about her to Austin. And he's like,
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Go down to the Bahamas, have some kids, sit on the beach, buy a little motel on the white sand, just be Jimmy Buffett without the guitar. I'm like, yeah, Jimmy Buffett without the guitar, significantly less interesting. Then you're just a guy in a Tommy Bahama shirt being annoying.
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I just want a cheeseburger and it can be in paradise, but it can also not be in paradise.
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so now we're at molly's house and she gets a call from her mom anne uh because she's got her concert later and molly's stressing out because she has a solo and she doesn't want to mess up and she messed up in rehearsal and she's this is we're gonna get some of her backstory which is i started the two but when i was 10 or 11 and i almost got i got like pretty much a full ride to college for music
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So she rode a tuba to college, which is pretty cool. But then her modeling career took off. So she stopped playing the tuba and then she got lip filler. And now the lip filler is making it harder for her to play. So it's the it's the challenges of being a tuba player.
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when I'm listening to white lions sing when the children cried let them know we tried I'm like tuba it's time for some tuba what about
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I am not. I am not. I'm in a short sleeve. Look, I'm in a short sleeve shirt today. And I don't even know how, how we're going to deal with this freezing ass cold.
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I'm the one who sang, who played Patience by Guns N' Roses on a tuba.
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You know what? I loved it. And then Molly, she shows up at the orchestra and the entire cast, except for Austin and like maybe Madison, they all show up and they take their seats. And then Shep is like, I can't find her. I can't find her. He's like a dog with like object permanence issues. It's like the balls behind the tree. It's gone. She's gone. She's evaporated.
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It's like, look behind the Viola.
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I'm sorry. I'm so sorry. No, go ahead. I was going to say the editors are, I think they're trying to push a narrative that Shep has secret feelings for Molly, right?
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Okay. It was like, I was like looking around for like, where?
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So then it starts, and this is where Shep starts doing his conducting fingers, which is like really embarrassing. And then Jay-Z and Vanita start talking, and I was like, why are you talking during a classical concert? I hate that. Anytime I go to the Hollywood Bowl to see classical music, because in the summers they do classicals on Tuesdays and Thursdays, and it's really fun.
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And thousands of people show up, and there's always people just yammering away. It's like, it's, I don't know. It's just, it's not, this is not a Guns N' Roses concert. It's like for classical music, you're supposed to be like quiet and like listen and be like, you're supposed to be like- Pensive. Pensive and thoughtful.
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But you do want that because you actually need to really kind of like listen in a certain, in a different kind of way. And then JT's like, hey, I really wish I could see you dance to this music, Vanita. I was like, quiet over there. I'm trying to listen to this tuba concerto.
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Southern Hospituba, believe. That's what I would like to see. A spinoff of everyone in the symphony fucking each other. So now it's the post. Listen, post show, post show, post party, post to the party at JT's event space. So everyone shows up and JT's offering drinks when he just pulls the door off of a mini fridge, which I thought was funny. And he doesn't say anything about it.
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He just kind of like puts it back and is like. He's aghast that there is such a mini-fridge, that a mini-fridge even exists. In his life, it's just all sub-zeros. Top of the line, fancy ass fridges. He's like, what is this strange black and decker thing? Oh, mother.
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Yeah, I think it was like there was a door to access the fridge area and then the door itself came. Then the fridge door itself came. Yeah, I agree. It speaks to the workmanship of that Airbnb.
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I also love that having Austin's back ranks higher than his defending his mother's honor. Excuse you. Now with Austin, you do always know what's going to come out of his mouth. It's going to be spit. So then JT is, but to be fair, that's actually half the cast of the show, to be honest.
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They call that tuba a J-tuba.
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That's also how I eat when we're done podcasting. I'm like... Um, so, uh, JT, he's like really like on pins and needles around, uh, Whitney. Cause he knows this is like his reintroduction to the cast. It's like the first time people are willing to hang out with him en masse. So, uh, Taylor arrives and she starts like moving around. There's like a, there's like a chafer of macaroni.
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She's like moving around to get the macaroni, I guess, more integrated, uh,
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uh so um the more people arrive there's like champagne chef offers molly champagne but of course they make it seem like a very romantic moment and jt is just like talking to taylor and he's like you know asking how how she is they're in the kitchen and he's like taking off his blazer she's like oh no Leave it on. He's like, I don't care. It's just us. But your armpits sweat.
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He's like, do you mind? We're just friends. We're just friends who can have armpit sweat or no armpit sweat can go either way. That just speaks to our friendship. And I'm establishing that we have friendship because I'm about to, you know, try to, you know, rock your world in a moment.
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So Shep is like walking around and he's got like a scarf on his neck. And I think it was Leva who goes, Shep looks like a poet today. He looks like he practices tantric sex. And then it comes back to Tay and she's like, yeah, so JT, we haven't seen each other since the horse race. And he's like, yeah, you know, you shady dipped. You didn't even say goodbye. She's like, yeah.
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Well, I'm glad your scab is better, like I said before. And then we cut back to Shep, and he is now talking to Sally and Vidya about tantric sex because they didn't understand Lava's joke.
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Yeah, that is a little odd. But maybe like if you weren't raised in the Sting era, then speaking of the police, maybe you didn't have as much of an awareness of tantric sex.
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Well, it was also really fun to see this entire cast try to pretend like they were civilized by going to a concert hall and listening to classical music or whatever that was they were playing. And they were all just sitting there pretending like they were engaged and they cared. And Shep's doing his little like, he was like conducting with his fingers. I was like, okay.
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Remember when we saw Sting in the airport? Do you remember that at LAX? What was he like? He was like, in my mind, he was dressed like Scrooge McDuck.
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you know what's funny he actually was wearing a scarf like shep now that i think about it and he had like a little hat on and we're like is that sting and i just like imagining that that person having tantric sex is like so strange but now that leva has called out like the scarf tantric sex connection like i gotta say we saw it with our own eyes yeah
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Yeah. What's the opposite of tantric? He's like tantrum. One trick. He's like tantrum. He's a one-trick wonder.
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You can go now. Okay, I'm done. So Molly is all, she's right there with him. She's like, I don't need hours. My vagina will fall off. I mean, that sounds like too much work for me. I want to go to bed at 10 30. Okay. I want my lips around a tuba, not a penis. Okay. I don't want to be up doing all that. Leave me alone.
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So Craig is like, Whitney, what's your favorite sex position?
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no it was month long it was like a really good tantric sex section you know no no it was she was in love with him okay and then he's trying to have this like talk with Taylor and then Shep comes out of nowhere and just barges into their fridge and he's like looking for something it's like it just goes on for like a minute and they're just staring at him waiting for him to leave
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This is diabolical shit that everyone's, this is the diabolical shit that everyone's experiencing with JT. Which, by the way, we know the real reason why Taylor is storming out. It's because Gaston was like, don't go to that party. They're just going to talk shit about me. And if you have any loyalty to me, you should stay home. And she's like, I've got to go to the party. It's my job.
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So she goes to the party and someone talks shit about Gaston. And now she's going to be like, damn it, I'm going to be in trouble with him. So she's so frustrated and upset about that. She now has to lash out at everyone.
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Sally's the only one I trust, honestly, about this. JT... don't know why jt just saying this to taylor is also i think it's actually rude because he doesn't preface it with listen i know you're you're very happy right now with gaston he seems like a cool guy but i just want you to know Like, I just want to as your friend, I just want to warn you. I heard this stuff and I want you to consider it.
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And you can either you can either dismiss it or you can think about it. But I feel like a shitty friend if I didn't tell you this. And I know that he had you with someone like he could. He didn't frame it like from a place of concern. He framed it like a na na na na na. I know something about this guy. And so, like, I kind of get why she's pissed, too.
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Even if it's on camera, I'd like to just take her to coffee and like have an intimate moment of like sharing and vulnerability. But like doing it in the kitchen and Shep is there and everything where she can be set up for like group humiliation, you know, like as much as like I don't think that Taylor should be with Gaston from everything. It sounds like we're hearing about him.
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I know. Anyway, it was a fun episode. It was kind of like a return to JT with the group, and it went as well as you would expect.
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I don't think that JT was correct in the way he handled this at all.
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So here comes a self-congratulatory monologue from JT. Well, I don't know if being an arbiter of truth makes you a bad person, but I do care about Taylor, her well-being, her future. I'm coming at this with no agenda for myself, only to make sure she proceeds with her own decision-making from here and that she has the information. Hashtag truth teller. Yeah, no agenda whatsoever.
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what the hell so when he's like oh did you ask him where he's getting his information because i don't give a shit he's pulling it out of his asshole that's where he's getting it that's not good this is his place and he can be an asshole in his own place and he's like i'm not an asshole i'm just telling the truth no you're not i'm not doing this i'm sorry ronnie i fell in the No, you're not.
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I'm not doing this. I'm good.
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what was the extent of it sally why do you hate him so much well taylor thinks it was a summer fling and sally's like um we said i love you to each other and um and then he's like you know what it was sally and craig's like why does it matter jd what's the point
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I just I really want to know who JT voted for because he talks a lot about truth. So I'm just really I'm really intrigued. So then JT is just trying to be truth social with you guys. I'm about truth and social experiences. So Sally is like- Do your own research. Sally's like, so what are you trying to say that I homewrecked Gaston? He's like, you did.
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#2701 Southern Charm S10E07: It Takes Tuba To Tango
And she goes, look, I went to Royal American with my friend, which I don't know what Royal American is. Is that like a, is that amusement park? Or is that like a cruise that like just only like circles around Charleston?
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It's just a big old steakhouse. I thought it was like a theme park or a cruise. I literally did.
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Sally, Sally, Sally, Sally. So Sally's like, okay, so I went to Royal American with my friend because it was two for one happy hour. We got three steaks, which was crazy. They don't really know how their math there, but it worked out well for us.
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anyway gaston was there and he was touching my leg strange because we weren't at the same table but i had no fucking clue he had a girlfriend except for the girl he was with and so one thing led to another and we were just making out in the parking garage and you know i sucked his dick a little bit kind of tasted like bernie's sauce but hey you know it worked for me rod goes not a little bit i love that rod is just there to give like a little gay thing every once in a while
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Oh my God. So in short, Sally went to this like cheesy, like it's basically like the Saddle Ranch of Charleston, blue gaston in the parking lot. And then she's like, from there I was left. You're right, Sally. Sounds like true love to me. Jeez. I like, she's like, are you saying I was the other woman? I was not the other woman.
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I merely gave him a blow job at the steakhouse and had no idea he was with someone else. And when I did find out he was with someone else, Well, I mean, obviously, naturally, I stayed because that was digmatized. So I'm not the other woman. I was just the digmatized woman.
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But leave Sally alone. Yeah, leave Sally alone. Right. So Sally's like, you know, he broke up with his girlfriend and then me and him had a relationship and he met my dying grandmother at 96 years old. The last guy that she met in my life was him. Ha ha. I pulled the grandma card. Take that. So she basically is like, you don't know how much that guy scarred me. And Shep was like, what?
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what but why would you hook up with him he's not a good looking i like he says he's not a good looking like there's categories for shop of types of people they're a good looking they're an ugly but also chef honestly like like hi hi i don't know pots kettles and they're like what and chef is like i mean i'm just saying he looks mid average me like
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I thought you were going to- I was like, we're just going to sit in the irony of Shep.
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She's like the alpha stage AI. It was like AI from like seven years ago where it's like, okay, well, she can answer the questions. We just haven't animated her yet.
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#2701 Southern Charm S10E07: It Takes Tuba To Tango
Let me tell you something, JT. Taylor has been faced with the truth many, many, many times on the show. Okay. She sees red flags and she's not like a human and says, oh, I better have caution. She's like a bull and charges towards them. At a certain point, you just have to keep the truth to yourself and let her make her own mistakes.
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Yeah. So Craig is like, he's like, you're being such an asshole, dude. And now you're going to make us look bad for going fishing with you. Craig's word about his fishing reputation. It's all back.
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It was Ryan's turn at the school play, and we've been waiting all season. He shows up at things, and he gets like a... His boyfriend, who's not even technically on the show, has had more lines than Ryan, so Ryan's probably like, you're ruining people's lives. And so JT's like, oh, everything you said is eloquent and well-articulated.
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except when it's the truth and then jt's like well here's the deal sorry mr cute fake eyebrows and a shitty hairline guy i'm like you're the one who's walking around with pit stains here jt so let's settle down jt's also a fucking beaver with plugs i don't know who he's talking about either all these guys ugly shaming on this show need to take a good long hard look at themselves okay and
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You say it once and if they don't notice that the car is coming down towards them, then they're done. So Vinita is like, well, she doesn't like it and isn't receiving it. So why do you keep pushing it? And he's like, well, a true friend will tell you the hard truth. But yeah, okay. That's fine. I hate when people say like, I'm just being honest. You can be honest.
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You can tell hard truths, but you can also have a delivery that's a little bit more thoughtful. And that's what's missing here. So Vinita is like,
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Craig is the biggest hypocrite here. Craig is yelling at JT. JT is saying he's an arbiter of truth and he's gonna stand up for the truth. And Craig is mad at JT for saying that when Craig is literally doing the same thing, but just aiming it towards JT. But his delivery is much better. And that's what it's all about. JT has terrible delivery.
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And so Vanita tells us that when JT's alone, she gets Jared, not JT, and tender and quiet. But then in the group, he becomes very performative.
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So JT is like, well, this is a good opportunity for me to speak my side of things. And a lot of what's been said about me and the friend group has been echoed in error. Echoed in error. The JT story. The Jared T story. It's echoed in errors tour.
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So Vanita then, of course, like whispers to Leva, she's like, JT looks kind of yummy on that shirt, which means this is really highlights the fact that there are so such slim pickings in Charleston that Vanita, but at this point, Vanita has lowered her bar so much that she's saying these things on camera.
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And Craig is so messy. So JT's like, well, it does concern me, Craig. Why don't you just have my back? But she asked you not to tell her. It's not up to you. You made Taylor cry and Sally half cry. Yeah.
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It was so animated. I mean, it was like the... You can really see what she's thinking on her face because there's so many expressions at any given time, you know? It's like, Taylor, come on. Poke her face already. Am I right? Yeah.
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Well, you're being a real good lawyer right now because you're protecting something I don't understand. Well, why do you want to tear Sally down?
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I know. So JT's like, oh, Craig, you stick with it. You stick with that. It's like, this isn't the same person that we went fishing with earlier this week. I'm going to be in such trouble for fishing with you now. Oh. JT's like, I am happy, and I am nice, and I am kind, and I'm just telling the truth.
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and so whitney's like craig craig said you did say that and jt's like i did not call your mother the b word i'm getting gas lit so when he's like mother so he leaves because he uh this like would actually also shatter the narrative that he's built in his head i think over the past few weeks so he leaves so shep is like gosh can i say something i think you've told taylor what a lot of people in her life are unable or unwilling to tell her
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Unlike what I'm willing and able to tell my girlfriend, I love you, Sienna. Anyway, so this is the wake that her boyfriend has left. As far as women, nobody's like, oh, he's a good guy. And everyone's like, double middle finger, like, fuck you, you know? So you did that.
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You've never skinned a cat. They can skin cats in Nebraska. Get some hobbies, loser. It really hurt me to have to hurt her. That's what a real friend does though. And Shep's like, that's your takeaway? That you were upset? And Leva's like, Shep is saying it's not serving her right now. Also not serving her any of my staff. Get back to work, idiots.
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um and chef's like but don't be a hammer about it jt's like why is everyone saying don't tell people the truth what is this this facade is it is just a facade where the truth is now like now the truth is the bad guy i live in a world where the truth is welcomed so he's like he's gonna walk outside because his he's as a defender of the truth he just can't bear to be in this house of lies he's such a guy
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vanita's like okay can you give me a second to talk because you're just embarrassing yourself more on camera okay to craig's point you guys had this good fishing trip and now his feelings are hurt because you're doing something you said you weren't going to do it's like i was real i'm so sorry for being real
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And Vanita's like, yeah, Taylor can't handle that. And at what point, like, when do you not make that be the thing that's driving the conversation? He goes, who's my first time telling her? Maybe next time I won't. But this time I told her the truth. I don't tell any good friend that I care about. And Vanita's like, yeah, but like, if Taylor comes back again, are you going to say something to her?
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Like, I'm sorry to clear the air. So you're not outside the group. He goes, I don't care if I'm outside because I love you and I don't care. But I'm going to stand for goodness because that's the kind of guy I am for you and all the people that are real. I will be a martyr for the truth in American cheese. It's so ridiculous.
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Oh, that's real. Thanks, everyone, for listening to this episode. Fun times. We've got Salt Lake City coming out this weekend, so keep an ear out for that. And we will see a bunch of you on the road. Thanks for being here. Talk to you in the next one. Bye, y'allses. Bye.
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She's just like, you know, when you just see like, she's like playing Cheerios. It's like, what? There's so many other Cheerios. Why? Why is playing Cheerios? Why is that still like in a world where we have Honey Nut?
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We could all learn from Jennifer Kearns.
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Knock, knock, knocking on Katie Mannock's door.
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Cast a spell with Shannon Spellman.
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Nobody holds a candle to Jamie Kendall. We got our wish. It's Jen Plish. She's not harsh. She's Jill Hirsch. She's a little bit loony. Junie. My favorite Murdo. Karen McMurdo. We love him madly. It's Kyle Pod Shadley.
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She's like playing Cheerios, like allegedly good for the heart.
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Um, anyway, um, so yeah, Taylor is like playing off brand Cheerios. So, um, Craig, then the Madison says, and Craig kicked his feud with Austin into high gear. And Craig is like, how much would I have to give you to sign papers that say Craig owns pillows and beer right now? Are we doing this? Wow. Wow. Craig. Wow. Wow.
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Just start a podcast called Pillows. Pillows and Pillows. Pillow Talk. Why is it not called Pillow Talk? Does he have a podcast called Pillow Talk? He's got to have one.
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Well, you know what's so funny about that is that we got a press release about Amanda, Betula, and Ciara doing some sort of, like, bed thing. And it's like, they were doing some sort of tie-in with beds. And I just kind of felt like, that's cool that you guys are capitalizing off of this, but I kind of feel like the bed is sort of like Paige's thing.
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And it's like, maybe Ciara, although Ciara has famously the messiest bed on Bravo. But I don't see Amanda, I just never think of Amanda as, like... As like, as bed forward, even though she's often in bed, but it's like she goes there to sulk and retreat. Whereas the others go there for like gossip and chit chat, you know?
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Well, this is okay. I'm reading the press release. Congratulations, PR people. You did your job. But like, this is such a strange headline. It says, Summer House duo, Sierra Miller and Amanda Betula embrace bed rotting with kind snacks. Is that what that's called when you hang out on your bed? Bed rotting? Bed rotting? I don't like that.
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I don't feel like that's a term I want to associate with my food, my kind bar. Yeah, me neither. What about like bed surfing?
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Yeah. The queens of bed rotting. I just think of like bed sores. Yes.
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It is a thing. This is a phrase. Okay, look how young and hip we are. Bed rotting is a phrase from social media. We're in a person stays in bed for an entire day without engaging in daily activities and chores. So my friend, remember Diana from Sweden? She says that in Sweden, they call that a duvet day. And I think that's a much better phrase than bed rotting.
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Duvet day, where you hang out under your duvet all day long and have a wonderful day.
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Yeah. Honestly, I want to really – I really want to recommend saying duvet day. It feels nice. It actually feels like you're not just hanging out in bed and having like a marination. When you say you're having a duvet day, you actually feel like you're doing something a little elegant and slightly European.
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I will never say that I'm bed rotting because the last thing I'm doing is rotting.
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Yeah. I'll tell you, I will tell you exactly when I rock the most is when I watch Amanda and Sierra on Summer House. That is called brain rotting. For sure.
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Yeah. Relatable. And then we land on Molly and she's playing her euphonium, a.k.a. her mini tuba. And her dog, her golden doodle is just not impressed. Golden doodles like unless you're walking me or feeding me, I don't really care what you're doing over there.
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#2701 Southern Charm S10E07: It Takes Tuba To Tango
So we now go to Vanita. Vanita had full-fledged scenes this episode. I was so proud of her. She was not part of the watering houseplant montage that we got just now. She actually has multiple scenes where she got to engage with people and not drown. So she goes to Sally's house and it's still they're doing that thing.
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I wonder Bravo tells people after you have a party, you're not allowed to clean up because this is like a Bravo thing that the day after the party, all the shit is left out. And I swear to God. I'm not like, listen, I'm not like Emmy on Southern hospitality.
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I am not spick and span, but I am tidy enough that like, even if I have a party, I'm going to put away the food because we don't want the bugs to come in. And there was shit all over the place. And I'm sorry when you like between Sally and her mother, Charlotte, I just don't believe they're leaving that food out.
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I just don't see Charlotte. I don't see Charlotte letting that food. Listen, that entire party went by, and I guarantee Charlotte was sitting at the window saying... Can't wait for these people to leave so I can soup into action and clean it up like a good mom. Like, I feel like this was Charlotte's moment was to clean up that half-eaten muffin that they focused on.
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Don't do that. Well, maybe they had to leave it out because they were shooting Fly Southern Charm. The fly was like, hey, so I decided to have a pool party at Sally's. So I invited everyone.
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Oh, God. There's a smaller fly that comes by. They're like, well, we decided to let JT fly back into the group.
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And are you going to also watch Severance season two? Because everyone's talking about that one.
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The fly statue, of course, in this case, is just like a breadstick that's been left out. They have a totally different. The chef flies like, gosh, there's my old house. It's just a carrot stick in a cup.
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Yeah, I was embarrassed.
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The Call Came from the Inside with Love is Blind's Marissa & Alex
I don't know if I protect black men, do I?
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The Call Came from the Inside with Love is Blind's Marissa & Alex
Correct. Yeah. As you should. What about you? Who are you protecting these days? Myself. Me, myself, and I. And Tim. Oh, not anymore. You're not protecting Tim anymore? No. No.
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Protection number two. Protection number two.
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The Call Came from the Inside with Love is Blind's Marissa & Alex
His actions would ruin it, not you.
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The Call Came from the Inside with Love is Blind's Marissa & Alex
Please don't have this trending.
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The Call Came from the Inside with Love is Blind's Marissa & Alex
Just be more mindful.
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The Call Came from the Inside with Love is Blind's Marissa & Alex
No? Anyone? No. Are you seeing someone now? No. No. She's single. Okay. Ready to mingle, boys.
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The Call Came from the Inside with Love is Blind's Marissa & Alex
You want to do something different.
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The Call Came from the Inside with Love is Blind's Marissa & Alex
Too cute. They're like the golden couple. They are. They're so cute.
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The Call Came from the Inside with Love is Blind's Marissa & Alex
Because he's a dick. Yeah. Yes.
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The Call Came from the Inside with Love is Blind's Marissa & Alex
Was he shown? Yeah. Alex with Madison. Oh, yeah.
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The Call Came from the Inside with Love is Blind's Marissa & Alex
I wouldn't have gotten engaged. No, I wouldn't have gotten engaged. No.
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The Call Came from the Inside with Love is Blind's Marissa & Alex
That's what I'm waiting for.
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This is new news. Okay.
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Come on, update.
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The Call Came from the Inside with Love is Blind's Marissa & Alex
And you know what?
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The Call Came from the Inside with Love is Blind's Marissa & Alex
I did. They just didn't show it.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
I know it. I know it now.
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Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Are you going to tell me her cringy story?
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Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Wait, it's both cringy. No, wait, I was on a date.
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Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Okay, take me through this. Oh, this is... Take me through it. Okay, so I... On the show, and it's no secret, on the show, I... announced that I was a little bit dishonest with Lino in the beginning of our relationship. So I was seeing Lino and I was seeing another guy and we weren't like boyfriend, girlfriend, but I was lying and saying I was exclusive with both guys.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Okay, so yeah, that's like, it wasn't like my boyfriend, like they never asked me to be their girlfriend or anybody, but like.
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Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Yeah, I met him before Lino, then I met Lino, I was spent with Lino, and then I was like, which one do I choose? Yeah, yeah. And I went on a date with this guy, and as I'm walking in, the hostess is like, okay, for two, like we had a reservation. I all of a sudden hear, Alexa, Alexa, Alexa. And I look over in the corner of my eye, I'm like, oh my gosh, there's Lino. Oh my gosh, I'm on another date.
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Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
This is not good. And it was all of Lino's best friends.
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Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Are you thinking you guys are exclusive at this point? Yeah.
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Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Oh no. This is sad. This makes me sad. But it's like, this was so long ago. We laugh about it now. It's like humorous to us now. But I was on the date. The waiter was like, so there's a guy over there that is sending you this nice glass of wine and sent me the wine on my other date. And I look over and it's like from Lino. And I wanted to accept it because I liked Lino. I wanted to be with Lino.
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Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
And the guy across from me was like, no, we're not taking that. Like, that's from a different guy. This is weird. Like, who's that guy, Alexa? And I was like, I don't know. I don't know that man. Just my future fiance. I know. I wonder if you watch the show. Oh, my gosh. I know. That was a bad story. That is insane.
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Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Good for you. I love that. Looking back, I'm like, good job, Lino. Yeah. That was good. That was a power play.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Yeah. So the biggest takeaway that I got, especially when you are in a relationship that you want to commit to, is just choosing each other in every single thing. So even though we were far apart from each other, our villas were like an hour and a half away. I didn't talk to him for a month.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
For the people on the show, they probably can't relate with it, but... It's been interesting, like, going out to the grocery store, going to Irwan, and people coming up to take pictures with us.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Every single thought and every single word, things that I was saying to the single guys, things that I was saying to the girls, my actions, every single thing that I did, I was thinking of my partner that I was choosing. I think that's really, really important for couples to figure out is when you are choosing somebody, it's not just you're choosing them when they're around.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
You're choosing them when they're also not around. I love that. And so even though he wasn't around. Like I was never going to say anything bad about him to the single guys when they'd ask about our issues. I was never going to do anything that was disrespectful to him. And I think that has made us so much stronger. And I still do that on a day to day basis now.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
And yeah, I think it's just choosing, like truly choosing each other, even when you're not together.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Can you write that down in text?
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Yeah, I truly felt like afterwards, I think there's a scene like in the middle of our proposal or something. You say it and you're like, there's nothing we can't do now if we can get through this. Because that was so... Oh, that's just giving me chills. It's so like abnormal to experience as a couple. It's so emotionally charged.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
And, like, you know, asking to see the ring, and, like, asking about the wedding, and it just feels weird because we haven't told anybody about it for 10 months until now. And then it's just, boom, out there in the public. But life has been really, really good.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Yeah, I feel like a lot of them are, like, what, single dating stuff? Yeah, or, like, I feel like it's, like, dating or challenge. Challenge.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
We're competitive people, and, like, none of that aired on the show. Really? We're very, oh, yeah. Even with each other. We play ping pong and we, like, scream at each other. Not at ping pong. Not at ping pong. I know it was just a random thought that I had. Um, but I heard like the battle camp show is coming out. It is. Yeah. I would die to do that.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Definitely a show that's not as emotional as ours.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Would you guys go on Survivor?
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Oh my gosh.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
I feel like I say that I could do it. But I don't know, like eating coconuts every day.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
it's been interesting having your life on blast.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
First season, yeah.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Tell me about it. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Everyone has an opinion, you know, but for the most part we've gotten so, so much love. I love that. So I'm grateful. Your engagement photos are fire. Thank you.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
So good.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Yeah. We're friends with all of them. Yeah. Okay. I feel like, We're like Switzerland.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
I feel like, okay, so if you watch the reunion, you'll see, like, you know, there's definitely some sides with the boys' villa, girls' villa. Yeah, yeah. And then me and Lena are kind of like, what do we do? But, like, I support my girls no matter what. Right. So we have a group chat. We're all friends. I love that. I love it.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Yeah, because people make those, okay, the choices that Grant and Brianne made, like, people make those choices outside of reality TV.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Every day.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Who are we to judge, you know?
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
We thought it was a scam. So we just got a DM saying, hi, I've seen some pictures of you and your boyfriend. And Lino got some, I see pictures of you and your girlfriend. Are you guys having any relationship problems?
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
But when we got that DM, actually, we were in the middle of a pretty big fight. It kind of came at like, it was like a godsend for some reason. We were fighting about moving again for the millionth time because of my job. And so then we got that DM. We're like, is this like a sign? Like, are we supposed to do the craziest thing we've ever done just to test our relationship? Yeah.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
And so we got on one phone call with them and then turned into like multiple interviews. And then we decided to go. Yeah. So we never applied for this at all. Like it wasn't like a, you know, we didn't seek it out. Right, right.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
So we definitely toyed with it for a while. Like, is this a good idea? Cause this could really shake our world. If this doesn't work out the way that we want it to. But then we kind of had like this basically like come to Jesus moment with each other. And we were like, if we can't get through this, then maybe we weren't meant to be together. And it was a really tough pill to swallow. Um,
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
But there's definitely some times where I was like, I don't know if this is the best decision, but let's just try it because life is going to feel like you're just going to end up where you're meant to be, if that's cheesy. But you know what I mean? Right. What about you, Lena?
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Yeah, honestly. I love it. Life has been really good. We've just been finally enjoying being engaged. That was a hard secret to keep. Congratulations. And you too. Congrats, girl.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Well, that's news to me. Really? Okay. Wait, really? Yeah. Wow. Okay. You already knew.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
I think it just like strengthened our clarity that we needed.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
I think that Mark was very insightful. Okay, so maybe something people don't know. The first few bonfires, it was at least hard for me with the girls. It was hard for us to, I think, open up the way he wanted us to.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Like me, Ashley, Taylor, and Shantae would get in the car and we're like, this is really hard for us because he feels like a stranger, but he's trying to dig into the deepest depths of our feelings. And so at first... I don't know. We were a little bit like not standoffish, but a little bit timid. And we had a guard up. Yeah.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
But he did a good job with like really breaking us down, especially in a reality TV. Like, you know, your emotions are heightened every single day, especially talking about emotions all day. Right. So eventually, like he definitely broke our walls down. But at first we were all like, OK, you're a host. You know what I mean? But he does care. Like, I think he does care. I love that.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Twinning. Yeah, so we kind of put a lot of the wedding planning on hold because we couldn't really announce anything. But we finally got a date. So we're getting married October 2nd, 2026. Yay! In Italy. In Italy.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Like it looks, I think you guys only see like what, five minutes of each one, but they were like hours.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
And it would be like, it's humid, it's hot, we're emotional.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
When we would watch those videos. The biggest problem this couple had is the back support. We would have like the speakers behind us of the videos. That shit was hard. Like listening to the shower scene and like, and it was just a speaker behind us with all the cameras over here. I'm like, this is really hard to watch.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
And how long do you film? we filmed for about four weeks okay like a month yeah a month oh also mark told us that i didn't know this but mark told us that when he sees the bonfire clips for the first time he sees it with us so he doesn't get to react in real time in real time and like has to process it with us in real time oh wow which is interesting sometimes he's just as shocked as we are yeah
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Like there was times where I would like look up at his face and he's looking at me and I'm looking down. Raw reactions.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Oh God.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Thank you.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Yeah, not our place to say names. We don't have names.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
But definitely singles hooking up with other singles.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
That could have been a whole show itself. Just the singles and the singles. Like we heard that when people were eliminated.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
They were just all tempted by each other. And they all stayed at the same hotel in Hawaii where we were filming.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
oof so you told me you're in a girl chat so i am i know there's something in there yeah um shantae's been getting a lot of hate online and that's so sad really really really hard i really hate to hear that yeah um we call each other like weekly i call her just to make sure she's okay and she is she's a strong girl but you know people are really mean i'm sure you like know social media is hard and
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
And I think it was just the past four weeks have really shaken her world a bit. All I really know, I don't know much details, truly I don't. But all I know is that she's having a tough time and that her and Breon need a break. And that was as of a couple days ago. Yeah, like Monday or something. Yeah, it was pretty recent. And I found out...
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
maybe two or three days like me and the girls found out two or three days before she posted it because she just wanted to tell us girl to girl right before we were there for her yeah that's me ashley taylor we were all texting her and like calling her so i don't know much details have you heard from brianne i haven't heard from brianne actually after this i'll definitely reach out because i should but
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Yeah, it's hard though. Like they're they're good people, right? They are good people, right?
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Shante sent me a screen recording of some crap.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Yeah. Yeah.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Yeah. Yeah. It's tough. It's hard for us to watch because we're like trying to be happy, you know, especially like on the island. Right. I remember like the girls would be really upset. And I mean, I was I was upset, too, because I wasn't with Lino. But it's hard to like be happy, but also like hurt with your friends at the same time. Right. Right. It's a weird place for us to be.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Yeah. I feel like when we were all filming though, they were good friends. Yeah. But I could never see them being more. Yeah. I don't know.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Maybe because I haven't seen her with anybody else. And on the show, she was so locked in.
What's the Reality?
Surviving Temptation Island with Alexa and Lino and Love is Blind ASMR with Yahné Coleman.
Maybe that's what she needs right now. Yeah.
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I had a very similar, and I've told it on the pod, so I won't tell the story, but very similar where it was like phone stolen and just ended up getting it back with no hassle. Really?
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Oh, yeah. Flip turn, anyone? No. Cool. I don't know who they are, but nope.
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Nope. Anyway, it was fun. And this guy was there that's like Billy and Chet's high school buddy that just moved out here. His name's Jack. Good fella. And I went up to get a drink, and he was ordering drinks. And he was like, oh, what do you want? I got you. And I was like, are you sure? He's like, you know, like concert beer is a big thing.
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And I don't know this guy that well, but he's like, yeah, I got you. I got you. What do you want? I was like, I'll do a Modelo. And he's like, all right, can I get him a Modelo too? And the guy brings it up and it's $20 because we're at a concert. It's one of the big ones too. And he goes, oh, and he turns, he's like, I didn't know it was going to be $20. And I was like, oh, oh, that's fine.
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We can just take it off or I'll Venmo you. And he's like, no, no, it's fine. Just, Just can you Venmo me $10? Because I thought it was going to be like $10.
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It was like a $24 beer. It was a $24 beer. $20 is crazy. More than $1 an ounce. Have you ever bought a $30 beer? Probably a $28 beer.
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You would have paid $40. Okay, but then I take this said beer and I go up. I go like where we're sitting, and then there was kind of like an outdoor area that I walked out to and met some just random people. And long story short, there was a random person that I met whose name was Jackie Pizza.
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Oh, that's when the second thing comes into play?
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It's like an old actor. It's the right age. Right? What? Nick Nolte? Yeah. It's like an old actor?
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They're all named Steve Smith?
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I heard about it. Orlando and then Fort Lauderdale.
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Right between Intercourse and Blue Balls. Those are two Pennsylvania towns. The Pennsylvania towns are Intercourse. They sell hats at our farmer's market. They'll be like, Lancaster, PA. Halfway between Intercourse and Blue Balls. And they're both Amish towns. Which is a weird irony.
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My favorite thing about Amish people is that you find out they can hitchhike.
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Oh, you know what? I actually haven't watched it, but I've seen it. That's okay. I'm not going to lie to your face here. I appreciate that. I've seen that it exists, and the premise of it seems like I would like it. I just haven't clicked it. You will like it.
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They would bring all their food into the market to sell. They had some good food. They had great produce.
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But then I was talking about it with my mom recently, and she was like, no, dude, like, I don't know if we, like, but, like, they're all, it's, like, inbreeding.
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No, no. Maybe that's not her name, but we had a good family friend. It was Amish? No, I think he was like Mennonite, but his name was Merv. Oh, whoa.
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I feel like a Nazi having a pink convertible.
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Yeah. Oh, wow. Until I was 11. Gotcha.
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Pretty cool. And they make a mean oat.
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That'd be pretty bad. I want it to land, like, in the middle of, like, the Amazon so we can, like, see what the impact... Oh, I guess that would fuck up, like, birds.
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When I was in college, I took a theater class in college, and there was a part where we had to all pick a play and then act out a scene. And I picked this play off a list. I didn't know what it was. I was like, I don't know. I'll do that one, I guess. And then I get the scene, and it was a play about Roy Cohn, where I had to play Roy Cohn, which is like Trump's mentor. Yeah.
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The scene I had to act out was me screaming at my doctor. And I do this in front of my theater class.
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And I had to go like, I'm not fucking gay. It's not fucking AIDS.
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There's no more seats. On the plane.
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No, on the baseball. At the baseball game. It's all sold out.
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Wait, how long are you here for?
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I know. He technically owns... These couches. Yeah, well, this seat specifically. Oh, well. You're in his realm.
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Some like beer garden on the side of Manhattan.
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So long people literally can't finish one episode before the next one comes out.
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My mom's maiden name.
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None of us give a shit. I know there's people who are picky about the AC. None of us give a shit.
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Yeah, I'll open the windows if it's hot or cold or whatever and adjust accordingly, but I don't ever... Come on, man.
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Like nowadays, I put sweatpants on in the evening typically anyway. Yeah. And then I – especially now when it's like a little chillier, I wear a hoodie and sweatpants.
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yeah that makes sense the text already five minutes to white um i did just look at my phone and i have breaking news yep sam darnold has signed with the new york giants wow good thing good thing is that like if you're listening google when that happened i think yeah we're pre-recording for this big trip we have so this is gonna come out like two weeks a week and a half
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Wait, can I say something? You guys just got giants. He signed with the Seahawks.
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Yes. Sam Donald? Yes, he's like insane chiseled jawline.
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Really? It was awesome. I was finding myself. Nice, dude. Yeah. Don't hate.
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Josh Brolin? No. Oh, I wasn't going to name the actor, but like Dianne Feinstein is like one of the characters in it.
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We could do that milk and cookies night. I would love that.
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They are so much smaller than me. I thought, like, for their little wings, I thought that was impressive. But it's not even true. No, they can fly up to 60 miles a day. That is true. They don't go 60 miles from their nest. That's not what she Googled is not or what that first thing said is not. Dan, how far can you fly into that?
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So it's space and the oceans and us. And then us, yeah.
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Yeah, the true depths.
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This is Matt Garapik.
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There you go bragging again. Part of the family tree, I like to say. Say that five times fast. Shovelhead alumnus.
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I've never seen someone order slices of pizza delivered.
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I got excited. That was unnerving. These are more sayings that don't exist. You want to start us off?
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Closing the blinds won't stop the sun.
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I like that a lot. Very nice. Noodles and ice cream. It's spaghetti with ice cream on top of it. Okay. And then chocolate sprinkles, maybe, like a garnish.
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It's sort of a fun dessert. You get it at a restaurant and it's in a dish and it's spinning around and it's whipped cream.
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You just stick your spoon in and get a little on there.
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Yeah, but it's in a circle. It's like a tornado.
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That's beautiful. Yeah.
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yeah honestly respect yeah they come out with like a briefcase um all right now we gotta we have one last thing we do which is we say whose personality we're stealing this weekend whoa okay so like like from ourselves or just in general yeah just like who are you trying to emulate this weekend i don't know if you have any specific plans that might cater to that this weekend i'm flying so maybe mark walberg
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life as shaq's illegitimate son (the dan carney story)
No wonder he hasn't fucked me.
Will & Rusty's Playdate
life as shaq's illegitimate son (the dan carney story)
Fuck, dude. Because your huge magnum don.
Will & Rusty's Playdate
life as shaq's illegitimate son (the dan carney story)
Whoa. My favorite number. Is that right? Yeah. Is that your favorite number? It is. That's the guy who's lying to your face right now.
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life as shaq's illegitimate son (the dan carney story)
I will say, homeless encampments can be intense.
Will & Rusty's Playdate
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How's everyone doing? I'm really good, honestly. I'm having one of those Wednesdays that just makes you want it.
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We, uh, yeah. I gotta rewrite. We have, like, a Thanksgiving play we do every year. On Thanksgiving.
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There's some funny jokes. One of the classics is, put your faith in Providence, my dear. And then my sister goes, isn't that going to be the capital of Rhode Island?
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Do you guys... Oh, never mind. What? No, it was just like a whole new Rizzler song that came out.
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It's like, I'm shopping for these toys on a Christmas time.
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yeah I've always wondered like writing like all like the great love songs you know yeah and it's like about like if they had like a shitty name I wish that I was oh wait that's about a boy wait
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Will & Rusty's Playdate
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Okay, he's 19. Oh, really? Oh, wait, wait. Go back there. Go to all. Just hit all. He has worn multiple numbers.
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No, not age. No, he was 62. I'm over this. I'm over this. No, I'm going to get ready. I'm just going to hit one home run and we'll walk out on top. A swing, a slung, a little bit of wrong. And it, show me, show me. People like this segment.
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I got to look up who's at number 68. I just have to find one now.
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Richie Incognito episode. Yeah, but the episode came out already. Yeah, it was.
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It'd be genius. I'm a genus. I'm a species. I'm gonna order class and file them. What you thinking?
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Should we do another pitch? Can I actually run to the restroom? Yeah. Want to tell Lauren someone died when she was picked?
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Yeah, I'm the star, Lauren. Yeah, that's right. I'm kidding. I'm sorry. I'm mean.
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I will move on to my next piece. And then following that will be my third piece. I don't think that... What are you talking about? If they're earbuds, then you can just wear regular earmuffs on top of them. And if they're that kind of headphones, that already is covering your ear. What are we talking about here?
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It's like 911, but not that. Like... 43611. No, I think that's for digging.
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Yeah. What do you mean, digging? There's like a number. There's like one of those, a version 911 for digging.
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The phone number for digging is 8-1-1. If you want to dig somewhere, you call 8-1-1 and they tell you if you're allowed to.
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And then I got fucking, we almost got killed, dude.
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Oh, yeah. So this would be 7-1-1 maybe. Or maybe honestly we replace the digging. It's when you're in bed and you forgot to brush your teeth. You call this number and they come and they brush your teeth in bed. And you're just like into a cup and then they leave.
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Oh. Yeah. Or maybe it's the same number and it's just like, thanks for calling 811. Is this for, press one for digging, press two for in bed toothbrush.
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I'm a little nervous. Yeah, you got one last year.
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When we were in Vegas, they were like, if you do man-on-the-street interviews for an hour, you can expense $250 worth of gambling losses. So, of course, I was like, I'm not doing fucking Man on the Street. But then I kept losing money, and I was like, well, worst case scenario. So I ended up down $750.
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last evening upon conclusion of our writing for the day me and the fellow team sketchers uh watched harry potter and the philosopher's stone sorcerer's stone well i prefer the original well the philosopher's stone is the british version so right which is the original right which is wrong it doesn't make any sense
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Well, it's relevant to this particular Teach Me Something because there's a character in that movie and his name is Nicholas Flamel.
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He was a French guy that was maybe not even an alchemist and just kind of like a well-off guy, normal dude. And then after he died, people started like... Some like story started coming about that. He was like this alchemist that had created the philosopher's stone, which granted eternal life in real life. Like the philosopher's stone is a real thing in real life, or it's a real like myth.
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And it was all about this guy. And he, it sounds like he was just a kind of a regular guy. And then like this legend built about him after his death. And then they incorporate, I thought it was interesting that like in Harry Potter, where everything is all made up, there's one guy that's like a real guy. Yeah.
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Imagine being her son. Like, oh, God. I'd be like, oh, Gorp. All right. Ready? Ready?
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No, no, I've never seen this video. When I went to use the bathroom, I realized I didn't have one, and someone had DM'd me this today.
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Like, you have that Maine accent. Lauren has that Midwestern shiz.
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Freaking water, dude. Look up Delco accent. It's horrible. Dude, I'm drinking freaking water. Right? Am I doing it? Go to that YouTube video. I'm going to freaking Burge, dude. Philadelphia.
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All right, this lady sucked. Get her off the screen. But it's like, didn't you get it? Yeah. A freaking bruh.
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Did you come up with this one? You must have, right? The canoeing everyone one makes no sense. Wait, don't... Wait, was that it?
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What? That's why I pictured that one being like, oh, y'all got to meet my poopy and clit.
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Drainium. It instantly drains you of all matter, like any poop or pee in your body. So you can just drain other people so they don't go in the bathroom after you, or you can drain yourself so you can flush it right away before the stink gets everywhere.
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These are what I had. It instantly replaces the toilet with a brand new one that smells great. So you don't have to worry about any lingering smells. Why is that not good?
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Because it does it from birth, too, so even her TERF ass can't say anything about it. Huh? It does it from birth too. So even her turf ass can't say nothing about it. What's turf ass?
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You ever been to Aldi? Yes. I used to shop there. I've never shopped there.
Will & Rusty's Playdate
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We have the play still Saturday, but I'll probably come back early. I think since I'm finally in LA this weekend, I'm stealing LeBron's personality. King of LA. You want to hang out? Check my schedule. I'm kidding, yeah. Let's hang out.
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Are you going to get like a tree in your hotel room? I don't know. We used to get like an inflatable one.
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Who's that? Oh, from Star Wars. That's Kylo Ren.
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And now we're just going to do the word association game until we run out.
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Lauren is still walking dogs in the middle of the workday.
Will & Rusty's Playdate
I used pull my finger to save my relationship
Zwei zu drei ist der süße Spot.
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I used pull my finger to save my relationship
Isn't that insane? Yeah. Das ist nicht... Ich verstehe nicht, was so lustig ist. Ich denke, sie haben eine Geschichte darüber geschrieben.
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I used pull my finger to save my relationship
Google Peter ate so many burgers.
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I used pull my finger to save my relationship
Whippin' a Honda Civic with a Jewish dude, his name is Christian.
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I used pull my finger to save my relationship
But it's weird because it's almost like China is weird in that sense where it almost felt like you had to be a fan of his.
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I used pull my finger to save my relationship
We are going to hear your pitches followed by our pitches. And then we are going to do everyone's favorite segment. Teach me something. Everyone's on their phone. No one said it with me.
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I used pull my finger to save my relationship
And then we are going to do, this guy rocks, this guy rocks, this guy rocks today.
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I used pull my finger to save my relationship
I will have a Roy Rogers and for the lady a Mint Romney. Perhaps a Mint Romney. Sorry. Continue about the substance.
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I used pull my finger to save my relationship
It's gonna be like a huge hog. It's gonna make that naked guy on the bed. What do you think that guy's up to?
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I used pull my finger to save my relationship
All right, pull up this, Lauren. Don't play it yet. This guy rocks. This guy rocks.
Will & Rusty's Playdate
I used pull my finger to save my relationship
I mean, if someone did that for your spending, it would be outrageous, but it wouldn't be negative. You're not losing money. Right.
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I used pull my finger to save my relationship
Am I the asshole? Find out if I'm the asshole.
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I used pull my finger to save my relationship
Lauren, were you ever chubby? No.
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I used pull my finger to save my relationship
Like you're on a road trip and it's like, let me pee, let me pee. I like that. Let me pee, let me pee. I like that a lot. I will pee a fountain, let me pee.
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I used pull my finger to save my relationship
We found Doug in a hopeless place. We found Doug in a hopeless place.
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I used pull my finger to save my relationship
Hitting those high notes? That note did not sound pretty. I'm trying to decide which one I want to do. Do them all.
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I used pull my finger to save my relationship
I need a guy to fill my caffeine. My bonus ones, I haven't decided if this is about asking, it's like when you order a tequila soda and the bartender doesn't give you a lime and it's, Oh, just give me one more lime.
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I used pull my finger to save my relationship
Or this one's about like a classy, a classy rodent. It's called Uptown Skunk You Up. Uptown Skunk You Up. I like that.
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I used pull my finger to save my relationship
Ich werde einfach überrascht, dass ich traurig bin, wenn ich trank bin.
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Hast du das Video gesehen, wo Will nicht, dass Will sich nicht mehr mit seinem Cowboy-Hat aus dem TSA verabschiedet hat und die Maschine weitergeht?
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Lauren, welches Lied bist du am meisten aufgeregt für unser Rhino Hair Konzert?
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I used pull my finger to save my relationship
We love you guys. Have a great rest of your week. And a great weekend. And we will see you guys next Wednesday. And then the week after that, we'll see you twice a week.