Welcome back to Father Knows Something! Real People. Real Stories. Real Dad advice with a dash of ADHD, and maybe a couple of millennials chiming in from time to time to add their takes. This weeks episode has dad, Justin, and Morgan trying to figure out where the bar is.. As in is the bar high, is it low, or is it just right? It may feel like goldilocks and the 3 bears but we all have to have be happy with the standards we set. Whether it's trying to sort new living arrangements with a partner or getting your partner to "check back in" after not putting in effort.. step one is locating where the bar is. Going to need your help on these ones! Submit your write-in ! https://forms.gle/8G2e4ockyZLNoiuX7Bonus Stories on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/fatherknows !!Our P.O. Box: Father Knows Something. 5042 Wilshire BLVD. #470. Los Angeles, CA. 90036Follow up on Instagram @ Father Knows SomethingUPDATE US!! If your story has been read respond here: https://forms.gle/6CP9KoWvJ4NMKewa7Video version available on YouTube: YouTube.com/fatherknowssomething Be sure to subscribe and tell us what you would give for advice! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Chapter 1: What is the theme of today's discussion?
we are in the front yard a regular episode today when we're in the front yard is the grass really green and it's warm outside and we just watch the neighbors walk by and those people watching it's nice yeah very peaceful happy you might see a dog or two kid on a bike good vibes i like that hi everyone and uh we are all here together Look at the gang all back together.
The gang's all here. Sing it. Hail, hail, the gang's all here.
Is that a real song?
I do believe it. Why'd you make that face? I don't know. Did I make a face? Yeah. Hi, guys. So, Morgan, what do you have for us this evening?
Well, as we just went to Costco and got some guests, I put together a little theme for us.
And the theme is?
Where's the bar? Is the bar low? Does it need to be raised? Raise the bar? Lower the bar? Hit the bar? Where's the bar?
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Chapter 2: Where's the bar and what does it mean?
And what does it really mean when you lower the bar? Or raise the bar. Because I look at a bar two different ways. Usually when you raise the bar, you make it tougher for somebody. You make it a tougher person to get past the bar. However, when you lower the bar as you are doing limbo dancing, you lower that bar, it's
Yeah, no, in this context, if the bar is low, your standards might not be very good. You might be doing yourself a disservice.
One may equate the level of the bar to standards.
Yes, we like to raise our standards, not lower our standards. Yeah. Okay, I'm with you. I say to everybody, raise your standards globally.
Yeah. The phrase, the bar is low, means that the standard or expectation for something is not very high.
Well, I think that we should have a, at least if it's up to a level 10, no one should be lower than a level 5.
Okay, yeah. So, you know, where's the bar? We're going to find out today, guys. You know, I might think the bar's low, but you might say it's fine and average, and that's what it takes here, a village, to come through for these people.
So dad's going to say, honey, raise the bar a little bit.
Maybe.
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Chapter 3: What happens when standards are lowered?
You got to see really, you got to decide. what you want internally. And then you go and deal with the situation, but not the feelings. Cause you shouldn't be like stuck with those feelings and then living with that forever with regrets or resentment, or maybe it ends up being a deal breaker down the line. And then you, you, you know, you regret then I,
You got to determine where your bar is, but you don't have to lower it if you don't want to. That's what I wanted to hear.
And that's important for you. That's what I wanted. My next question, where are we going to go with the bar kids?
I know, I know. I mean, it is an interesting age for him. He's 29. I will say like Justin and I, we started really talking about marriage. Year three, I would say. And then I was kind of like, you know, I really want to be engaged.
If we're together after, you know, five years and we're still not engaged, like that is something that would bother me because there's certain things I want to accomplish in my life. And... You know, that's just something to be considerate of. And I didn't feel like that was ever an ultimatum. It felt like that was just us talking. But Justin had a lot of feelings around marriage.
He was really scared about proposing and marriage just because of the relationships he's seen in his life. So that, you know, maybe he's got some feelings there. But a conversation will surely sort this.
Don't lower your bar.
Moving on to number two, but keep us posted. We want an update from you.
I really do.
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