The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
Episodes
How to Prepare for a Hard Conversation
23 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you have a conversation coming up that’s already tying your stomach in knots, this episode is for you. I break down how to prepare for hard conve...
How to Shut Down Gaslighting Without Escalating
16 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
One of the most powerful weapons in difficult conversations isn’t yelling, insults, or aggression — it’s confusion. In this episode, I break dow...
Robert Greene: Why People Manipulate & How to Protect Yourself
09 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever felt like other people understand power better than you do — like they know the rules of the game and you don’t? In this episode, I ...
This Is Why Emotional People Hijack Conversations
02 Dec 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever notice how someone else’s bad mood can instantly throw yours off? In this episode, I’m teaching you exactly how to keep negative energy from ...
How To Talk To Someone You Completely Disagree With
25 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m breaking down how to have a calm, productive conversation with someone you disagree with on every level — whether it’s poli...
Good Communication Is Overrated—Try This Instead
18 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I don’t want what sounds nice—I want what’s real. This episode is about stripping away the polish in conversations and showing up with integrity...
From Denny’s Waitress to Billion-Dollar CEO with Jamie Kern Lima
11 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I sat down with my friend Jamie Kern Lima—founder of IT Cosmetics and New York Times bestselling author of Worthy—to talk about turning rejection ...
3 Simple Questions That Put You Back in Control
04 Nov 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you’ve ever felt a conversation slip out of your control, this episode is for you. I’m walking you through exactly how to shift the power dynam...
Top Conflict Coach Shares the Key to Staying Cool Under Attack
28 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When someone comes at you with anger, judgment, or blame, it’s easy to take the bait. But real confidence shows up in your ability to stay calm when...
You’ve Been Talking All Wrong in Difficult Conversations
21 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this episode, I’m breaking down the small language habits that secretly make hard conversations harder. Most of us think we’re being clear or k...
Dr. Becky: How to Stay Patient When You’re Triggered
14 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
This one’s for the parents—or anyone raising little humans. I sit down with Dr. Becky Kennedy, clinical psychologist and bestselling author of Goo...
Being Nice Won’t Save You in Difficult Conversations
07 Oct 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Being nice won’t save you — especially in conflict. Too often, we think if we’re agreeable enough, people will treat us better or listen more. B...
STOP Trying to Be Calm. This Is How You Actually Handle Emotional People
30 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Being told to “calm down” never actually makes you calmer. In this episode, I unpack what “calm” really means in conversation—and why it oft...
What They Really Mean When They Belittle You
23 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
A belittling comment is never about you—it’s about them. In this episode, I break down why people use belittling remarks as a grab for dominance, ...
The Fear That’s Secretly Hurting Your Relationship with Dr. John Delony
16 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I flew to Nashville, sat in Dr. John Delony’s studio, and we had the kind of friend-to-friend talk I wish everyone could hear. We got honest about a...
How To Stay In Control! Even When Conversations Turn Emotional
09 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When someone gets emotional in conversation, it can be tough to know how to respond. In this episode, I share how to keep your cool without shutting t...
How to Stay in Control When Arguing
02 Sep 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you’ve ever felt like a conversation got away from you, you’re not alone—we all lose control sometimes. In this episode, I’m breaking down ...
3 Courtroom Tricks That Work in Everyday Conversations
26 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever find yourself in a conversation that feels more like a battle than a back-and-forth? In this episode, I’m sharing three simple tools I’ve pic...
Body Language Expert: The #1 Cue That Makes People Dislike You
19 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever wonder why some people just click with everyone? In this episode, I sit down with my friend Vanessa Van Edwards—behavioral investigator, author...
Top 3 Signs of Emotional Immaturity
12 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Let’s talk about emotional immaturity—because spotting it early can save you a whole lot of pain. In this episode, I’m breaking down three clear...
How to Talk to Someone Who Doesn’t Like You
05 Aug 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Let’s be real—there are people you don’t like, and there are people who don’t like you. That’s just life. But what do you do when you have t...
What to Say to Someone Who’s Grieving
29 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
When tragedy strikes, most of us go silent—not because we don’t care, but because we don’t know what to say. In this episode, I walk you through...
Happiness Expert: Communication Hacks That Instantly Boost Your Mood
22 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Gretchen Rubin—bestselling author of The Happiness Project and host of the Happier podcast—joins me to talk about how small, everyday choices in t...
One Phrase That Instantly Ends Arguments
15 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
I’ve never regretted saying the kind thing—even when it’s the last thing I wanted to do. In this episode, I’m breaking down how to respond wit...
How to Speak with Confidence at Work
08 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever feel like you’re not being taken seriously at work? In this episode, I’m sharing three tools that will instantly level up how you’re percei...
What to do When Someone Talks Over You
01 Jul 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever had someone start talking over you while you were still mid-sentence? In this episode, I break down exactly what to do when that happens. You’l...
What Serving 7 Years in Prison Taught Damon West About Communication
24 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today’s episode is one of the wildest, most powerful comeback stories you’ll ever hear. Damon West was sentenced to 65 years in a Texas prison. Le...
3 Keys to Shut Down the Silent Treatment
17 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Let’s talk about the silent treatment—because it’s not just silence, it’s control. In this episode, I’ll show you how to spot it, how to sto...
How to De-Escalate a Shouting Match
10 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You ever been in a conversation that wasn’t really a conversation—more like words flying at your face at full volume? Yeah, I’ve been there too....
Outsmarting Narcissists: The Praise or Provoke Trap
03 Jun 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever feel like you’re talking to a wall when dealing with someone who just won’t take accountability? You might be dealing with a narcissist—or ...
How to Talk to Anyone on Edge Without Getting Pulled In
27 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
In this Ask Me Anything episode, I’m answering your real questions—from how to handle a partner who shuts down after work, to what it actually tak...
3 Steps to End a Relationship with Respect
20 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ending a relationship — whether it’s romantic, professional, or personal — is never easy. But dragging it out or softening the blow too much? Th...
Erin McGoff: How to be Instantly More Confident at Work
13 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you’ve ever found yourself wondering how to answer “What’s your greatest weakness?” in a job interview—or how to ask for a raise without ...
How Your Inner Circle Shapes Your Communication
06 May 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Who you're around shapes how you speak. In this episode, I walk you through a personal communication audit—looking at who’s influencing your voice...
Communication Habits That Build Your Reputation
29 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If somebody came and wiped out my entire reputation and communication history — gone, erased — this is exactly how I’d rebuild it. In today’s ...
The 3 Parenting Skills That Shape Future Communicators
22 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
If you're a parent, there’s nothing more important than teaching your kids how to communicate — how to handle a "no," how to disagree without disr...
The Best Way to Shut Down a Narcissist
15 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Have you ever been in a conversation where no matter what you say, it’s clear—there’s no winning? Some people are committed to misunderstanding ...
How to Handle Nervousness Before a Big Conversation
08 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Let’s talk about nerves. I say this all the time—it is totally normal to feel nervous before a conversation. In fact, it's a good thing. It means ...
How to Stay Calm When You’re Disrespected
01 Apr 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You are not a target. Not a punching bag. Not the release valve for someone else’s frustration. In the middle of the book tour whirlwind, I’m ref...
Charles Duhigg: Asking Questions That Build Instant Connection
25 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever feel like you’re talking but not really connecting? Or maybe you’re in a conversation, and you know the other person is just waiting for thei...
Bonus Episode: Chapter 1 from The Next Conversation
21 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Alright, let’s do something different today. This is a special bonus episode where you get to hear Chapter 1 of my new book, The Next Conversation....
The Next Conversation Starts Here
18 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today is a big day, y’all. It’s book launch day. The Next Conversation: Argue Less, Talk More is officially out in the world, and I could not be m...
Chris Voss: FBI-Backed Tactics for Better Communication
11 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever walked into a conversation and felt like you were on the losing end before it even started? Whether it’s a tough negotiation, a disagreement at...
Mel Robbins: How to Handle Difficult People with the Let Them Theory
04 Mar 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Ever find yourself stuck in your own head, overthinking a conversation, or worrying about how someone will react? This episode is for you. Today I si...
How My Parents Raised an Expert Communicator
25 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
How do you raise a good communicator? How do you teach kids to be kind but not a pushover? And what actually matters when it comes to parenting? In t...
My Top 3 Lessons in Communication
18 Feb 2025
Contributed by Lukas
You’re in a conversation, and things get heated. You want to make your point—but so do they. Suddenly, it feels like a battle. And if you "win," ...
The Last Word
07 Jan 2025
Contributed by Lukas
Today’s podcast is a little different. It’s personal. I’m wrapping up season 1 of the podcast, sharing some big highlights from 2024, and givin...
Best Communication Advice from 2024
31 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
To wrap up 2024, I’ve pulled together my top 3 podcast episodes of the year—all in one place. You’ll get tools to handle rude comments, navigate...
How to Never Struggle with Small Talk
17 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Small talk can be so awkward. You’re trying to fill the silence, but the conversation just isn’t clicking. What do you do? In this episode, I’m ...
How to Handle People Who Dominate Conversations
10 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You’re in a conversation, and someone turns it into their personal monologue. They just keep talking and talking—totally dominating the conversat...
What to Say to a One-Upper
03 Dec 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You’re excited to share something you’re proud of, and then someone jumps in with, “Oh, that’s nothing—I’ve done [insert bigger, better th...
What to Say to Dismissive Replies
26 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Someone brushes off their rude comments with, “It was just a joke.” Or they tell you, “Don’t take it personally,” or, “You’re too sensit...
How to Not Get Defensive
19 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Someone says something that hits a nerve, and before you know it, you’re on the defensive. Defensiveness is a normal reaction. But it can quickly...
How to Accept a Compliment
12 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever feel awkward when someone compliments you? You’re not alone. It’s easy to downplay, dismiss, or deflect compliments. But there’s a better w...
How to Respond to Gaslighting
05 Nov 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever been in an argument where someone twists your words, denies things that happened, or makes you doubt your own reality? Gaslighting can be one of...
How to Handle Liars
29 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever had that nagging feeling that someone isn’t being honest with you? It’s frustrating when you know something’s off, but you’re not sure ho...
How to Handle Inappropriate Questions
22 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever been caught off guard by a question that feels too personal, invasive, or just plain inappropriate? You’ve probably found yourself scrambling f...
How to Respond with Confidence
15 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Find yourself using filler words like “um” or “uh,” or ending your sentences with uncertainty? You want to sound more confident, but you’re ...
How to Argue with Strong Personalities
08 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever found yourself in a heated argument with someone who just won't back down? Arguing with strong personalities can feel like you're constantly bei...
How to Handle Unwanted Conversations
01 Oct 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You’re stuck in a conversation that you wish you could escape. Maybe it’s office gossip, someone oversharing, or a topic that doesn’t interest...
What to Say When Someone Belittles You
24 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever had someone put you down, but you weren’t sure how to respond? You don’t need to get defensive or fire back. There’s a better way. In thi...
My Top 3 Argument Responses
17 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever find yourself in an argument where the other person gets defensive, no matter what you say? In this episode, I’m sharing 3 easy phrases that c...
How to Talk to a Narcissist
10 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
No matter what you say, a narcissist either wants praise or want to provoke you into frustration. It’s a tricky game—but there’s a way to handl...
How to Stand Up for Yourself
03 Sep 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You want to advocate for yourself more. But you’re not sure how to do that. You know you deserve to be heard, but finding the right words—and th...
How to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence
27 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
We all have moments where our emotions get the best of us. Maybe it’s a tough conversation at work or a heated discussion at home. If you want to ...
What to Say When You Cry in an Argument
20 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You’re in a heated argument, and suddenly, tears start to well up. No matter how hard you try, you can’t stop them from falling. What do you do wh...
How to Handle Bad Apologies
13 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Ever received an apology that didn’t feel genuine? How do you react and what do you say? In this episode, I’m revealing 3 types of bad apologies...
How to Handle Interruptions
06 Aug 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You want to handle interruptions kindly, but you're not sure how to assert yourself without escalating the situation. In this episode, I'm revealing ...
How to Respond to Rude Comments
30 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
How should you respond to rude comments? Do you say something? And if so, what do you say? In this episode, I’m revealing 3 ways to respond to rud...
How to Sound Assertive
23 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
You want to sound more assertive. But you’re not sure what to say or how to say it. In this episode, I’m revealing 3 simple ways to instantly sou...
How to Have a Difficult Conversation
15 Jul 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Need to have a difficult conversation, but you're not sure what to say or how to say it? In this episode, I’m revealing 3 simple steps to confident...
Welcome to The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
28 Jun 2024
Contributed by Lukas
Communicate with confidence and make your next conversation the one that changes everything. Every episode of The Jefferson Fisher Podcast is packed...