Mike Carruthers
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How You CAN Change Other People & Some Interesting Science Explained
I'm speaking with Peter Bregman, and we're talking about how to change other people. Peter is a well-respected consultant and coach and author, and the name of his book is You Can Change Other People. If I asked you what's one thing you'd like to do right now to improve yourself, your health, your well-being, I suspect near the top of that list is drop some weight.
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Additional taxes, fees, and restrictions apply. See Mint Mobile for details. So, Peter, so far we've used this example of you and your daughter, but that kind of relationship is a very close relationship, and as your daughter, she respects you and cares about what you think, I imagine. So, what about, though, in a work situation where you've got somebody who needs to change?
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Maybe they're a member of the team, and... But they don't see a problem. They're hard to align with and be an ally for to solve a problem if they don't see the problem.
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I wonder what it is that if people want to change online, why they need somebody else to help them change, why they need that ally? What happens there that people just don't do it on their own?
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Yeah, well, that makes perfect sense that, you know, you're too close to the problem. It's your problem. It's always easier to help other people. It's always easier to solve somebody else's problem than your own.
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How do you start this process? How do you approach someone who you would like to see change and get them to buy into this?
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Well, yeah, that's a kind of a good way to feather the nest there and make it so that that conversation goes so much better. But I think you have to be very careful not to slip back into critic once the conversation starts. Seems like that would be very easy to do if you're not careful.
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How You CAN Change Other People & Some Interesting Science Explained
But it does get back to the idea that you can't change people who don't want to be changed. You can't solve a problem that the person doesn't think exists.
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How You CAN Change Other People & Some Interesting Science Explained
When I think about trying to get someone else to change, I've always thought of it more of as a, you know, I'm right, you're wrong conversation. kind of problem, that you need to do this because I said so. And what you're talking about is a very different approach that aligns the parties and probably has a lot better chance of success. Peter Bregman has been my guest.
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How You CAN Change Other People & Some Interesting Science Explained
He is a consultant and coach and author. The name of his book is You Can Change Other People, and you can find a link to his book at Amazon in the show notes. Thank you, Peter. Appreciate the insight.
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How You CAN Change Other People & Some Interesting Science Explained
How often have you heard people make a claim about something and say, but it's scientifically proven. There's real science here. Often it involves food, nutrition, or some other health claim that must be true because of the science. Well, not so fast.
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Here to give us all a better understanding about what is and isn't science, and how that word science gets misused in order to mislead, is Dr. Joe Schwartz. He's director of McGill University's Office for Science and Society. He's the author of several books. He's been a guest here before, and his latest book is called Superfoods, Silkworms, and Spandex, Science and Pseudoscience in Everyday Life.
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Hey Joe, welcome back. Merry Christmas. Hi, Michael. So let's start with superfoods, because I hear that expression a lot that, you know, blueberries are a superfood or, you know, pick your food, but that a lot of foods are labeled superfoods.
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Hey there. Welcome to Something You Should Know. When you listen to music, there's a pretty good chance that you listen on headphones or earbuds. I think I, whenever I listen to music, practically, I'm listening on headphones or earbuds. And the question is, does listening to music on headphones or earbuds cause hearing loss? Well, it does for a lot of people.
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So talk about this term biobase. We hear this a lot about fuels like, oh, we need more biobased fuels because that's better for the environment and we're going to run out of fossil fuels. What about that?
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You see, according to experts at Harvard, regardless of the source of the sound, hearing loss is the result of three factors. Volume of sound, the duration of the sound, and how far away the source of the sound is from your ears.
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How You CAN Change Other People & Some Interesting Science Explained
Well, if you're listening to music on headphones, the volume can be pretty loud, the duration can be pretty long, and it would be hard to be any closer to your ear than headphones get. So you see the problem. There's an additional issue. Portable music devices have updated over the years to adapt to higher qualities of digital sound.
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Talk about the science of old book smell. Anybody who has opened an old book, maybe in a library or something that hasn't been opened in a long time, there's a very distinctive old book smell. And you talk about that.
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What's the science behind duct tape or the science about duct tape?
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I mean, I get press releases all the time about, you know, this is the end of the world kind of thing. And I think people don't really know much about it or really know how big a concern it is. So clear that up.
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With old audio devices, when the sound got too loud, the music didn't sound right. The bass would often distort and it would just sound horrible in your ear, so you would naturally lower the volume. But now, with digital sound, you can turn up the volume and it doesn't distort, so there's a tendency to turn up the volume.
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How You CAN Change Other People & Some Interesting Science Explained
Just be aware that listening to loud music for long periods of time on headphones or earbuds will take a toll on your hearing. It pretty much has to. And that is something you should know. I'm sure you've heard the common wisdom that you cannot change other people. That generally people don't change. And if they do change, they have to change themselves.
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How You CAN Change Other People & Some Interesting Science Explained
Well, great, Joe. It's always a pleasure to have you on. I enjoy listening to your scientific explanations because they're unique and they make you think. I've been speaking with Dr. Joe Schwartz. He is director of McGill University's Office for Science and Society. He's the author of several books. His latest is called Superfoods, Silkworms and Spandex, Science and Pseudoscience in Everyday Life.
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How You CAN Change Other People & Some Interesting Science Explained
And there's a link to that book at Amazon in the show notes if you would like to buy it. Thank you for coming on again, Joe. Always a pleasure. I appreciate that very much. Thank you. You've probably heard the theory that having a pet dog is somehow good for your health. And you may have wondered, well, how? Like, how does that work? Well, here's one way it works.
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Scientists took a look at 421 heart attack victims, some dog owners, some not dog owners. They found the dog owners were far more likely to survive the heart attack than the non-dog owners. Dog owners are less obese and more active physically and socially. Another study found that pet owners have to go to the doctor less often than people with no pet.
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The study looked at kids, too, and those kids with pets had stronger comforting and empathy skills and a better sense of overall well-being. So those are just some examples of how having a pet dog is good for your health. And that is something you should know. I assume you've enjoyed this podcast since you made it all the way to the end of the episode.
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And so since you did enjoy it, perhaps you could tell someone you know and ask them to give a listen and help us grow our audience. I'm Micah Brothers. Thanks for listening today to Something You Should Know. There is a fascinating and unique podcast I'd like you to check out, as I have. It's called Only One in the Room.
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A few years back, Laura Cathcart Robbins attended a writer's retreat where out of 600 attendees, she was the only black one. So later she wrote about her experience and the article went viral because people understand what it feels like to be the only one in the room. Only one in the room is for anyone who has ever felt alone in a room full of people. I bet you've had that feeling.
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That trying to change other people is a waste of time. Well, meet someone who disagrees with that. Peter Bregman. Peter is a well-respected consultant and coach who has authored several books, one of which is called You Can Change Other People. And as he'll explain, it's not about manipulating people. And, well, I'll let him explain it. Hi, Peter. Welcome to Something You Should Know.
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How You CAN Change Other People & Some Interesting Science Explained
Listen and you'll hear guests like Hilary Phelps, sister of Olympian Michael Phelps, sharing her story of her secret addiction. Former Fox News reporter Christine O'Donnell, who was fired after one of her social media posts was taken out of context. Only One in the Room was named a top podcast by Reader's Digest, The Manual, and Bustle Magazines.
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How You CAN Change Other People & Some Interesting Science Explained
Today on Something You Should Know, the problem with listening to music with headphones and how to solve it. Then, can you really change other people? Sometimes, if you know the process.
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How You CAN Change Other People & Some Interesting Science Explained
So since there is this common belief that you cannot change other people, explain why you can and why you would and why you'd want to, and what's the point of all of this?
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How You CAN Change Other People & Some Interesting Science Explained
It also seems though that one of the reasons people don't change is that when you try to change somebody, you're trying to change them to fit your needs and wants and desires. It may have nothing to do with them. You want them to do what you want to do.
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And so we've been talking so far in kind of the abstract. Can you give me an example of how you would change somebody so I get a better sense of what you're talking about?
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Also, you've heard that having a pet is good for your health. So how does that work exactly? And some everyday science explained on things like plastics, old book smell, and superfoods.
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How You CAN Change Other People & Some Interesting Science Explained
And so it would seem that if the answer is no, if permission is not granted, that's pretty much the end of that.
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How You CAN Change Other People & Some Interesting Science Explained
So clearly in a situation like that, the person you're trying to change has to value what you have to say. In this case, your daughter obviously is going to value what her father has to say, but that isn't always the case. People have varying feelings about the people in their life who are trying to change them and may not respect what they have to say or advice they have to offer.
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What about the momentum of this? It seems like you could have this conversation with your daughter, but a week later, there might be another plate of cookies again.
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What about though, when you're in a situation with someone and let's just change the nature of the conversation, you walk in your daughter's eating the last cookie of this plate of cookies that she's been up till, till four in the morning and she doesn't see a problem with it. Why don't you just get off her back?
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So, Brian, when you look at this, when you look at all the traditions that we celebrate around Christmas time, what is it about this that really fascinates you the most?
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Yeah. Well, let's talk about the music of Christmas because there are so many Christmas carols and Christmas hymns and Christmas just pop songs. It's almost like its own little industry.
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I like to talk about Christmas food because no holiday has more food attached to it than Christmas. So let's talk about that.
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Tell the story of Rudolph, the red-nosed reindeer. Where did he come from?
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Well, this has been really fun. It's really great to hear the backstories of some of our traditions, Christmas traditions, and where they came from, how they developed, and what they mean. I've been talking with Brian Earle. He is a designer, writer, and podcaster. The name of his podcast is Christmas Past, and it's also the name of his book.
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It's called Christmas Past, The Fascinating Stories Behind Our Favorite Holidays Traditions. And there's a link to the podcast below. and to the book in the show notes. Thanks, Brian. Merry Christmas. Thank you. Appreciate that. And you as well. How much do you spend on wireless service? What's your monthly bill?
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Children are a big part of the holiday season for many of us as families get together to celebrate this time of year. So I thought it would be interesting to take a look at how we adults talk with children. Sometimes I think, and I know I've done this, we talk to kids as if they're just little adults.
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Or perhaps we talk to kids as if we're so smart and we need to tell them what we know without really listening to what they have to say. But I know for me that every once in a while you can have an amazing conversation with a child. And so to help have more of those kinds of conversations, whether with our own kids or other kids we come in contact with, I have as my guest Rebecca Rowland.
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Rebecca is a speech pathologist, writer, and Harvard lecturer, and she's author of a book called The Art of Talking with Children. Hi, Rebecca. Welcome.
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So what is it you think we get wrong when we talk to children, especially people who maybe don't have kids or aren't around them a lot? What is it that goes wrong in the dynamic of a conversation with a child?
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And so how do you do that? So let's dive into some specifics here. When you're thinking about talking to kids, what's the shift that goes on in your head that, okay, now we're talking to kids, so things are going to be different here?
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Hello. Welcome to Something You Should Know. I came across this article at HuffingtonPost.com. It's a couple of years old and things may have changed with COVID since we're a little more conscientious. But restaurants, restaurants are public places, so it should come as no surprise that there are a lot of public germs in restaurants.
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So give me an example of that.
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You mentioned that we often have this dynamic of the adult is the expert, but what else do we tend to do wrong when we talk to kids? What else are we missing by not really paying attention to the type of person we're talking to, which is a child?
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And so if someone comes to you and says, I want to have more fulfilling and meaningful conversations with kids, my kids, whoever, what's your advice?
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And unfortunately, those germs are on items that are really hard to avoid. Here are the dirtiest spots in a restaurant. Your seat. The menus. Lemon wedges Salt and pepper shakers The table itself, the rim of your glass, the bathroom door handles, the faucets in the bathroom, ketchup bottles, and the salad bar tongs.
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And yet there are, as you were talking about before, you know, the kid wants to show you his toy and you're saying, you know, where are your shoes? Because sometimes we need to get your shoes and get in the car and go somewhere. And we can't, you know, stop and have a meaningful conversation with the child.
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Well, I think any parent, anybody who has kids in their life knows that so much of the conversation is about, like, let's get things done. You need to clean your room or get dressed or brush your teeth. It's all about getting things done rather than sitting and talking about something deeper or more meaningful.
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And how do you know that? I mean, it sounds like it's probably true, but is there research that supports what you just said?
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What else about these kinds of conversations do you think adults don't get? Because, you know, we were once kids. It seems like we should somehow instinctively know how these conversations should go, and yet we don't.
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Now, as germy as restaurants are, you'd probably pick up even more germs at the gas station. The handles of gas pumps have been found to be some of the filthiest things out there. And that is something you should know.
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Well, I would imagine that how you talk to kids changes as kids age. And so how does that change? How, as kids get older, how should you change the way you talk to them?
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I've noticed that when you talk to a child, it's sometimes different than when you talk to them with their siblings, that the one-on-one conversations tend to be a little different than group conversations. I'm not sure why or if it's important, but it does seem to be the case.
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Are there things or ways that you see or that you know the way people talk to kids that really is headed for trouble that we shouldn't do?
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Christmas is a holiday with a lot of traditions, from putting up the Christmas tree to singing holiday songs, eating holiday food, wearing holiday clothes, wrapping gifts, and on and on and on. Each one of these Christmas traditions started somewhere, at some point, with someone.
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Talk about praise and criticism, because it's very easy to criticize kids when they mess up, and perhaps we don't praise them enough when they do good things. So talk about that and why it's important.
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And criticism?
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When you talk to kids, I mean, I've heard it said that you should get down to their level, physically get down to their level, that you should somehow kind of adopt more of their mindset and try to talk in their language. Are those things valid?
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And those stories behind how they got started are often really interesting, even though they're not always widely known. Here to discuss how many of our Christmas traditions got started is Brian Earle. Brian is a designer, a writer, and a podcaster. He's host of the Christmas Past podcast, which has been around about as long as this podcast has, since 2016.
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There's also that tendency you sometimes see people where they like almost baby talk a child much below the child's level, like they think the child's an idiot or something.
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I wonder, because as we've been talking, we've been talking about this from the adult perspective of what it's like for an adult to talk to a child. But what's it like for a child to talk to an adult? I mean, is it stressful? Is it hard? Is it something they like doing generally? What's your take on that?
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Well, as I said in the beginning, this isn't one of those topics people think about, you know, talking to children. We just do it. So it's interesting to hear a little more about it and maybe how we can do it better, especially now around the holidays. Rebecca Rolland has been my guest.
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She is a speech pathologist, writer, Harvard lecturer, and the name of her book is The Art of Talking with Children. And there is a link to that book in the show notes. Thanks, Rebecca. Thanks for being here.
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You know, buy one, get half off the second one. Those items are often the ones that don't sell particularly well on their own. And another classic shopping trap is to watch for disorganized or messy sales racks. They're an effective lure to get shoppers frustrated and headed over to the more organized but expensive racks. And that is something you should know.
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If you would take a moment and share this podcast with someone you know and ask them to give a listen, it would be appreciated by... well, by me and by everyone who works here. I'm Mike Carruthers. Thanks for listening today to Something You Should Know. There is a fascinating and unique podcast I'd like you to check out, as I have. It's called Only One in the Room.
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Brian also has a wonderful book out called Christmas Past, the fascinating stories behind our favorite holidays traditions. Hi Brian, welcome to Something You Should Know. Merry Christmas. Hi, thanks so much for having me. So maybe a good place to start is with Merry Christmas. Why do we say Merry Christmas?
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A few years back, Laura Cathcart Robbins attended a writer's retreat where out of 600 attendees, she was the only black one. So later she wrote about her experience and the article went viral because people understand what it feels like to be the only one in the room. Only one in the room is for anyone who has ever felt alone in a room full of people. I bet you've had that feeling.
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Listen and you'll hear guests like Hilary Phelps, sister of Olympian Michael Phelps, sharing her story of her secret addiction. Former Fox News reporter Christine O'Donnell, who was fired after one of her social media posts was taken out of context. Only One in the Room was named a top podcast by Reader's Digest, The Manual, and Bustle Magazines.
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Every week, Laura and her co-host Scott Slaughter invite you to join them for an hour and lose yourself in someone's only one story. Check out Only One in the Room wherever you get your podcasts.
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Today on Something You Should Know, the germiest things you're likely to touch in a restaurant. Then, the backstories of some of your favorite Christmas customs, and how trains completely changed Christmas in the 1800s.
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This idea of, or the concept that we have now of Christmas, of Santa and Christmas tree and presents, when did that really gel? When did what we think of Christmas become Christmas?
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Isn't it also true that department stores and the metropolitan big city department stores also changed the way we do Christmas in some ways?
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And is that roughly the time when Christmas became such a big deal as it is today? I mean, you probably ask people on the street, what's your favorite holiday? Nine out of 10 of them are going to say Christmas. I would imagine that Christmas is a big deal to a lot of people. When did that become the big deal?
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Also, the traps retailers use to get you to spend more money. And how to talk with children. It's not always as easy as you think.
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Certainly our image of Santa Claus has changed over the years. And as I recall, Coca-Cola had something to do with the current version of who we think of when we think of Santa.
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Talk about the idea of giving presents to each other, wrapping the presents, putting them under the tree, that tradition that so many people follow.
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All this today on Something You Should Know. At this point, I think it's just become common practice that if you have a business and you sell online, Shopify is the way to go. Shopify is the global commerce platform that helps you sell at every stage of your business. Whether you're selling holiday gifts or auto parts or gourmet food, it doesn't matter.
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The traditions of Christmas. That's our topic today. And my guest is Brian Earle. He's host of the podcast Christmas Past and author of the book. Christmas Past, the fascinating stories behind our favorite holidays traditions. If I asked you what's one thing you'd like to do right now to improve yourself, your health, your well-being, I suspect near the top of that list is drop some weight.
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So Eric, I've been places where, and been in like hotel rooms or at someone's home, and the room itself, there's something about the room that just makes sleep so much easier. So I imagine that there are a lot of things you could do to your own bedroom to make it more conducive to sleep.
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mess up a night's sleep. People worry that, oh, I'm not going to be able to function. It's going to be terrible. I'm going to be prone to accidents because I didn't get my eight hours. And we did a thing here not long ago on an episode, a quick thing about placebo sleep, that if people think they slept well, they tend to do better. And if they think they didn't, they tend not to.
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But what's the damage done from a bad night's sleep?
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Hi there. Welcome to Something You Should Know. You've probably noticed when you buy a pillow or a mattress or a cushion, there's always a tag on it. And somewhere on that tag is a warning about removing the tag. Now, for years, the warning used to say, do not remove under penalty of law. So how did removing a tag become a federal crime?
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Does it work that if you have a bad night's sleep, does that maybe help the next night go better because you're much more tired because you didn't sleep the night before? Or does it actually make it worse because you're now developing like a pattern of not sleeping at night?
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So there are little rituals people have, you know, when they can't sleep, you know, drink some more milk or whatever they are. Is there any sense that those are effective or not?
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Well, I think everybody has beliefs about sleep and what works for them. It's certainly a universal experience. We all have to sleep. But it's good to hear from a sleep scientist about the science of sleep and what works and what doesn't in getting a good night's sleep. I've been talking to Eric Prather.
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He is a sleep scientist and author of the book, The Sleep Prescription, Seven Days to Unlocking Your Best Rest. And there's a link to that book in the show notes. Thank you, Eric. Yeah, thank you. Thank you.
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Well, it all started when mattresses were a potential host to vermin and disease-carrying materials. Dealers were required to attach labels listing the contents. and the federal government added that warning to discourage dealers from removing it.
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How many times have you looked back on some interaction with someone and said to yourself, I wish I'd stood up for myself. I wish I'd been more assertive. So what does it mean to be assertive? How do you assert yourself without being aggressive or obnoxious? And what are the benefits of being assertive?
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Well, someone who knows a thing or two about assertiveness and has researched the topic pretty thoroughly is psychologist Randy Patterson. He's author of a book called The Assertiveness Handbook, How to Express Your Ideas and Stand Up for Yourself at Work and in Relationships. Hi, Randy. Welcome.
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So I think everyone knows what assertiveness is when they see it in someone, but what is it exactly? How do you define it?
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It was never intended to be a warning for consumers, and in fact, today, while the tag is still on there, the language is a lot softer than it used to be. It reads something like, this tag may not be removed except by the consumer. So, go ahead if you want, remove the label, and the feds won't show up at your door. And that is something you should know.
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And why is that so hard? Why did people have such a problem standing up for themselves and doing what you just said?
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There are people, though, you're probably one of them, there are people who seem to nail this, that seem to be very assertive, you know exactly where they stand, and they tend to be people we admire. They tend to be people that seem confident and assertive, but yet we have trouble doing that.
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But you don't really address the issue of that he's stealing your pencils.
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But what if it's a case of you want to assert yourself about something because the other person agreed to do something and isn't doing it? So I want to be clear. You're not doing what you said you would do. And now I'm addressing the person, not the behavior. Well, I guess I'm addressing the behavior. But you know what I mean?
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There is something about the fact that somebody says they're going to do something and then they don't do it. It's time to talk about the person.
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I can't imagine anyone who hasn't had trouble sleeping from time to time. And you've probably heard the conventional advice, don't drink coffee before bed, get off your phone or computer because the light from the screen messes up with your sleep. But sleeping well and sleeping enough is a little more complicated than that.
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Yeah, that's probably an important point because one of the things I think, I mean, just I can think for myself here that being assertive is going to require that you really explain yourself and it's going to get real heavy and deep here. And I like your way of just make it brief.
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In addition to the words you say, when I think of an assertive person, I can see that person. There's a body language, there's a way they carry themselves. Is that part of it as well, do you think?
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And when you understand some of the complexities, you can really set yourself up to be a better sleeper. And here to explain how is Eric Prather. He's a world-renowned sleep scientist and author of the book, The Sleep Prescription, Seven Days to Unlocking Your Best Rest. Hey, Eric. Yeah, thanks for having me.
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You know what's really interesting to me as I hear you talk is I think one of the reasons that people are afraid of being assertive is that they haven't been. And so because they haven't been with a particular person or in a particular situation, there's been a lot of water under the bridge. And now there's some anger and some aggressive feelings.
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But if they had been assertive in the very beginning... It would have been easier.
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Yeah, because if you don't tell people what your boundaries are, well, then how are they going to know what they are? And also, it seems that, you know, the longer you're not assertive, the harder it is to be assertive, that people kind of peg you as, well, he's a kind of a passive person, so I don't really need to worry about him.
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So do you think, in general, people have a good understanding of how important sleep is and what having a good night's sleep does for you, that kind of thing?
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I would imagine one of the things that keeps people, that holds them back from trying to be more assertive in any situation, is fear. Fear of what will happen if I do this. What will the other person, how will they react? How will I react to their reaction? What will the whole thing get out of control? And if I just stay passive, then no waves are made and everything stays nice and calm.
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It also seems that underlying a lot of the lack of assertiveness is the thinking of, well, what's the point? If I bring this up, it's going to cause all kinds of problems. Why bother? It's just not worth it.
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Do you find in working with people that the more they do this, the easier it gets? Or is it really always a bit of a very conscious, hard effort?
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What about when you want to be assertive with someone who is also being assertive back at you and your assertivenesses don't mesh? So now you're kind of in an assertiveness struggle.
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What's the connection, do you think, between the lack of assertiveness, the difficulty or inability to be assertive, and the lack of confidence? Are they intertwined?
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When somebody wants to be assertive, in the moment, when they're trying, what is it that they should keep in mind about what they're trying to accomplish here?
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Well, it's a topic I think everyone has thought about. And I like how you made the differentiation because I think what you said was that people sometimes think that being assertive is kind of a watered down aggressive. But as you pointed out, those aggression and assertiveness are two mutually exclusive things. I've been talking to Randy Peterson.
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He's a psychologist and author of the book The Assertiveness Handbook, How to Express Your Ideas and Stand Up for Yourself at Work and in Relationships. And there's a link to that book in the show notes. Appreciate you being here, Randy. Thanks. Well, thanks, Mike. This has been really fun. If you're the boss, you may want to hand out some more compliments today.
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there is a study that revealed that employees who receive positive feedback are more successful. For the study, adults were divided into three groups and asked to perform the same task as fast and accurately as possible. Once completed, the first group received praise and compliments individually.
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The second group had to watch others receive compliments, and the third group was on its own to self-evaluate. When asked to perform the test again, the group who had been praised individually significantly outperformed the other two. The researchers explained that the brain perceives that compliment as like a mental paycheck. Most people tend to work harder when they feel valued.
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And that is something you should know. Ratings and reviews for podcasts are kind of like the fuel, and we always appreciate more fuel. So please, whatever platform you're listening on, you can probably leave a rating and or review, and it would be greatly appreciated. I'm Mike Carruthers. Thanks for listening today to Something You Should Know.
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There is a fascinating and unique podcast I'd like you to check out, as I have. It's called Only One in the Room. A few years back, Laura Cathcart Robbins attended a writer's retreat where out of 600 attendees, she was the only black one. So later she wrote about her experience and the article went viral because people understand what it feels like to be the only one in the room.
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Only one in the room is for anyone who has ever felt alone in a room full of people. I bet you've had that feeling. Listen and you'll hear guests like Hilary Phelps, sister of Olympian Michael Phelps, sharing her story of her secret addiction. Former Fox News reporter Christine O'Donnell, who was fired after one of her social media posts was taken out of context.
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Only One in the Room was named a top podcast by Reader's Digest, The Manual, and Bustle Magazines. Every week, Laura and her co-host Scott Slaughter invite you to join them for an hour and lose yourself in someone's only one story. Check out Only One in the Room wherever you get your podcasts.
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Do you have a sense, I don't know if you've looked at the numbers, but in terms of how many people have trouble sleeping and how often they have it, is there any sense of how big a problem this is?
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Today on Something You Should Know, why are there tags on pillows and mattresses that say, do not remove? Then, if you've ever had trouble sleeping, you'll want to hear the very latest on how to sleep better.
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Why? What is it that happens? Is it that they can't stop thinking about something? Is their mind racing? What's preventing them from just falling asleep?
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It's not doing something. But if people are not sleeping, then what is it they're doing? What is it that goes through their mind or what is it that they're doing that keeps them from sleeping?
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I imagine everyone has heard the warnings about the connection between screens and sleep, that the blue light from your TV or your iPad or your computer or your phone, that if you are looking at those things before you go to bed, that that will interfere with your sleep. Can you talk about that?
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Also, why employers should be handing out a lot more praise and compliments. And if you ever wish you could be more assertive but have trouble speaking up, I have some great advice.
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You know, I've often thought that when people have trouble sleeping, they kind of approach the problem the wrong way in the sense that they think about, what am I doing wrong? What's the thing I need to avoid in order to sleep better? Rather than look at the question of, okay, if I really want a good night's sleep, what are the things I need to do to facilitate a good night's sleep?
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So, Sarah, it's interesting to think about it as we were discussing how one of the best ways to deal with or solve a problem is to get away from it, to not try to solve it, to think about something else, that it is in the getting away from it that the clarity comes.
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It also seems to me that when you're handling those day-to-day hassles, what you're saying to yourself, particularly about yourself, can have a real impact on how you view the problem, how you solve the problem. And trying to be conscious not to beat yourself up in your own head is probably a real helpful strategy.
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So far we've talked mostly about dealing with trouble, with hassles, with problems of everyday life and strategies to do that. But you had mentioned in the beginning of this conversation about vitality, about living life with, I guess, like a sparkle. So let's talk about that.
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What are some of the other science-backed strategies that people could possibly use to live their life, to have that vitality that you're talking about that we haven't talked about so far?
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So often, though, it seems that doing those things, doing something for somebody else or trying to develop relationships, those are all the things you don't want to do when things aren't going well. It's like you said earlier, it's exactly the opposite of what you should be doing is what you feel like doing.
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You know, that's so true. And you know, the perfect example is the thank you note. Nobody sends thank you notes. And one of the reasons is that it's like overstating it. It's like, you know, I'm grateful, but I don't want to sound like too gushy. And yet the person who gets the thank you note is like, oh, my God, that's great. That's great. Thanks for sending the thank you note.
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It makes them feel wonderful. But people don't send them because they don't want to seem like they're too gushy.
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Well, you know what stands out to me in what you're saying is that, and this kind of ties a bow around all we've been talking about, is you really have to be intentional because it's so easy for life and the little hassles of life to knock you around, push you down, if you let it.
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And if you're a little more intentional about keeping those things in perspective, handling them in a way where you don't get... absorbed by them, and just doing the things that you're talking about that help you keep the right attitude as you work through the day makes a big difference. I've been speaking with Dr. Sarah Boardman.
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She's a clinical instructor in psychiatry and attending psychiatrist at Weill Cornell Medical College. She's founder of PositivePrescription.com, and she is author of the book, Everyday Vitality, Turning Stress into Strength. And you will find a link to that book at Amazon in the show notes. Thanks, Sarah. This is fun. Good conversation. Thank you.
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When you walk into an Italian restaurant, you pretty much know what's going to be on the menu. Same thing with an Indian restaurant or a Chinese or Thai or Japanese restaurant. We have a sense of what the foods from those cultures and countries are. And we have those kinds of restaurants all over the U.S.
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But if you go to other countries, do you see a lot of restaurants that call themselves American restaurants? And if you did find one, would you be able to predict what would be on the menu? Is there an American cuisine? What is American food? Well, that's what Paul Friedman set out to discover. Paul is a history professor at Yale University.
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He's author of a book called Ten Restaurants That Changed America, and his more recent book is called American Cuisine. Hi, Paul. Welcome to Something You Should Know. It's a pleasure to be here.
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When you go to other countries, I haven't really thought about this and I don't do that much international travel, but do you see countries that have, quote, American restaurants?
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There are foods that I can think of that to me signify American food, you know, meatloaf, chocolate pudding. I mean, it just, there's something very American about it, that there is something that is American food.
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But are there foods that are rooted in America just because the ingredients are very American? I mean, there is a phrase about American as apple pie. Did apple pie start here?
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Do Americans, and I guess people in general, you typically eat as adults what you grew up eating, what you ate as a kid?
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Various studies have been published with headlines like, Your cell phone has more germs on it than a toilet seat. Which is likely true. But of course, not all germs are harmful. Still, when you think about it, your phone has a lot of opportunity to pick up germs and bacteria because...
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That's interesting. I never thought, because I have kids that like barbecue sauce and liked it from a fairly young age. That's
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When you look back at what Americans were eating in the 50s or the 60s, it seems very meat and potatoes, that there wasn't a lot of adventurous eating going on.
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And they changed in the 1970s because why? What happened? What caused the change?
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You take it everywhere, you put it down in all kinds of places on all kinds of surfaces, so it's exposed to a lot of germs that can hitch a ride. There was a video put out a while ago that showed that, for example, a toilet seat has about 1,200 bacteria per square inch, a kitchen counter has about 1,700, a checkout screen at a supermarket has 4,500 bacteria per square inch,
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I remember it. And you can look back and see, because people post ads, old print ads on Facebook and stuff of food from the 50s and the 60s, you know, jello molds and fondue. And my recollection is a lot of that stuff, TV dinners, was all horrible.
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Is there anything, like when you think of Italian food, you think of pasta, and it's all over the world, and you think of Japanese food, you think, I don't know, rice. But is there anything that Americans have exported to the world that is truly American? I'm thinking something like breakfast cereal or something.
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It's interesting that you say that a lot of things like breakfast cereal have not caught on in the rest of the world and yet our exports of fast food have. There's McDonald's everywhere. There's Kentucky Fried Chicken everywhere. That worked. That's right.
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A doorknob has about 8,600 and a cell phone has about 25,000. So it's really important to clean your phone and clean it often. There are products specifically designed for this job, or you can just use a gentle cloth with a mixture of 60% water and 40% isopropyl alcohol.
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You mentioned a few minutes ago pot roast. And I remember my mother used to make pot roast. We used to have it all the time. And so did everybody I knew. But if you wanted pot roast today, I don't know anybody that has. I don't know anybody that eats it.
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I find that sad.
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I have such fond memories of my mother and my grandmother cooking in the kitchen and I cook. And, you know, there have been lots of people who have tried to push that and reinforce that, you know, the galloping gourmet. And then more lately, you know, Chris Kimball at Cooks Illustrated and Milk Street has really tried to.
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push the idea that cooking isn't as hard as you think, you can do it quickly, and it can really taste good. But it doesn't seem to really catch on.
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uh you would think they would cook at home more but that's just logical and not the way you know psychology is not all logic and i've heard things like you know more people watch cooking shows than actually cook and that a lot of cookbooks and cooking instruction has had to get so simplified because like it used to say you know
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butter the bottom of the pan and people were turning the pan over and buttering the bottom of the pan and putting it on the fire and it would light on fire. And all of that is so strange to me.
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I wonder why cooking shows on TV are so popular and yet cooking is not so popular or not as popular as it used to be. Because you would think that if you're watching this food be prepared on television and it looks so good and, you know, the people taste it and say, oh, it's wonderful, that that would inspire people to want to say, I'm going to make that.
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Do we know, and since you're an historian, was American cuisine, has it stayed more or less the same over the time America's been here, or did people in the 1800s eat vastly different food than we eat today?
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Yeah, there are those big events that come along and hit you hard, but what I'm talking about today are the little things, the daily hassles, those things that happen that shouldn't happen, but they happen anyway. And they're irritating, and they take up your time, and they create frustration and anxiety and... And you know what I mean.
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Well, this has been fun to take a look at what American food is, how people around the world perceive it, and how it's evolved over time. Paul Friedman's been my guest. He's a professor at Yale University. He's author of a couple of books. His most recent one is called American Cuisine, and you'll find a link to that book in the show notes. Thanks, Paul. Okay, thanks so much for having me.
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Well, it appears that unhappiness causes chronic stress, which can suppress the immune system, and so people get sick. Happy people are also more likely to adopt a healthy lifestyle. So cheer up. Happiness appears to be strong, preventative medicine. And that is something you should know.
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Most of us likely don't have much of a strategy to deal with these inevitable, seemingly minor events. So meet Dr. Sarah Boardman. Sarah is a clinical instructor in psychiatry and attending psychiatrist at Weill Cornell Medical College. She's founder of PositivePrescription.com and author of the book, Everyday Vitality, Turning Stress into Strength. Hi, Sarah. Welcome.
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Today on Something You Should Know, what's the dirtiest thing you come into contact with every day? I'm sure it's close to you right now. Then, the importance of coping well with the little hassles in life.
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Why should we worry about and talk about the seemingly small hassles that we all face every day? I mean, it's part of life. We deal with them as best we can. So as a psychiatrist, what do you see as the problem with all these hassles?
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well, who hasn't woken up in the morning, and it's a great day, and then life starts happening, and then this happens, and then this goes wrong, and the car won't start, and by noon, that great day sucks.
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Well, and you say that the antidote for this is vitality, which seems to be the thing that all these little hassles suck away from you. So what do you mean by that? And what do you mean by vitality? What is it?
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Yeah. Well, don't you think, though, that how you perceive your day is a lot of that is in your head, that if you're one of those people who just complains and complains about every little thing that happens and you see your day through that very negative lens, well, then that's your day. Somebody else could be having the same day and think it's a great day.
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It really depends on, don't you think, on how you perceive it.
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Also, can being happy improve your health? Sort of. And what is American cuisine? It's kind of hard to define.
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Well, it's interesting as we discuss this and zero in on it, I don't think people necessarily realize the toll that these hassles take because by their nature they're small and any one of them is probably not the end of the world and we deal with them individually and we don't realize the cumulative effect of these everyday hassles.
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And so you're suggesting that we create these uplifts in life to counteract and to fend off the wear and tear of all the hassles of everyday life by doing specifically by doing things like what?
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So I want to get a better sense of the timing of all this, just because it's my personality that if I have some hassle going on, if I just discovered, for example, that my credit card was billed for something it shouldn't have been billed on, it's hard for me to get up and go for a walk because I want to go solve that problem first. Then I maybe could go for a walk. What's the timing of this?
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Do you fix the problem and then go for a walk? Do you go for a walk and fix the problem while you're walking? Or do you just push everything aside, go for a walk and come back? What's your sense of that?
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Yeah, well, that truly is my experience, that if I sit here and try to hammer out a solution, it's a lot harder and probably a worse solution than if I go take a shower and then things just pop into my head. Psychiatrist Dr. Sarah Boardman is my guest. The name of her book is Everyday Vitality, Turning Stress into Strength.
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