Alyssa Nobriga
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Healing + Human Potential
Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
So when I was getting my internship and getting licensed to become a marriage and family therapist, I studied Imago psychotherapy, which I know you love. And for those that don't know, Imago, literally the word Imago means image in Latin. So this is the theory that we attract somebody who mirrors the parent or caregiver that we had a hard time with growing up so that we can heal.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
So it's just like that. I love that you say there's new levels of it. And even if we do it, like in my stance, I don't think we can ever be with the wrong one. I think that somebody will like mirror to us what we're tolerating or what, like why we would allow ourselves to be in a certain situation. Yes, of course, anybody that's physically abusive is not like, move on.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
And I would say, try to get the lesson and heal whatever the pattern is, because if you don't figure it out now, it'll be played out with a coworker, a lover, a parent, or somebody else. And so my stance is I'll tend to look at what's in this for me so that I can resolve it and then not prolong and project that moving forward onto whatever other relationship.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
And yes, there's deeper levels of intimacy and love, and that can be vulnerable. And I think kids are Such an initiation for deeper levels of love.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
And it's interesting because I, you talking about it being covert, I don't play it out in my marriage anymore, but I'm starting to see this over-responsible one that is abandoning my own needs for my team so that it just transferred over to team. And I was like, oh, I'm being schooled and initiated with leadership in this way now. So I'm just such a fan. I think both of us are just like rooting for
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
But I know that Shay, you love this work as well. I would love to hear you explain it just to help everybody get on the same page. Like why do we attract who we attract? let's give a little bit of like context for our conversation.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
doing the work. And the more aware we are and the more tools we have, the easier it gets, but the work continues. And for people that are listening, whatever you found are some of the most common blocks or patterns that prevent people from having more conscious relationships. Are there some themes that you've discovered to help people build more awareness?
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
And that would make sense if somebody had a traumatic past, then they would think that trauma is safety unconsciously because that's what they've known. And so creating space for peace and allowing that to be the new set point, I think just bite-sizing that would be really helpful. I love the invitation for somebody to say, like, if my perfect person came in
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
how does my body respond and can I let myself breathe into that and do some of the work so that I can stabilize and allow this to feel like the new norm and the new set point, the safety.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
Beautiful. And it's also cleaning up house, like you're just energetically closing those leaks. And so for people that are with patterns of either chasing or avoiding, right, both being scared, what would be like another practical thing that they can do? Maybe there's a different practice for the different types of what they lean away or lean towards.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
Like avoiding their own experience, not just others, it sounds like.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
Like whatever we repress, our partner will express. And so it's good to then learn. What I'm hearing you say is to learn from your person, whether you're dating or in relationships, so that you can develop more of your range.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
And I think that's beautiful because if you are saying that to somebody that's anxious, that's going to help calm them to be like, they're not just going to leave. They will come back. They're learning to regulate themselves. And if you're both dysregulated, it's not going to be a productive conversation.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
And so what I'm hearing you say is take a pause and really ask yourself, and maybe if you're in a relationship that is both conscious and a bit more mature, you might say, Like maybe put your hand on your heart and your belly and just breathe. It's just questioning, like, can I be with this energy? Not a story, but just a sensation. Can I be with this?
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
And you can both do it together or you can do it on your own rather than just texting or responding right away and creating more of those habits. But to really, what you're saying is self-regulate, create that safety. Or if you need to come back, just speak it so that that other person knows that their abandonment trigger is not going to be activated as well.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
I think it's helpful for people to hear that because no matter what your past was, it does not define what you're capable of and that you can heal and you can have a secure attachment within yourself and with a partner. And I really want to double click on that because your story is such a testament to the work and how it does work.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
And so for people that are going through heartbreak right now, what do you say are some of the biggest misconceptions about heartbreak? And is there any guiding principles that they can navigate heartbreak with more grace?
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
I love that. And I love that you speak to grief as a inseparable from love and that it's like the other side of the coin and this relationship to move towards it rather than be away from it. My brother... whom I love dearly is like, rather than a bucket list, like a reverse bucket list, he's like, if you were to live this human experience, here are the top five things I want you to have.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
And one of them was having your heart broken. And I just thought that was so beautiful because I know it's like, and there's this quote, it's like, when your heart breaks, just keep it open. It's like, there's a tenderness in it. And for me, like I... I find that I dive deeper into levels of love with my husband. It feels vulnerable because there's a part of me that doesn't want to lose him.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
And there's a bigger knowing of myself that can't ever lose him. That's more in the spiritual dimension. And yet holding both simultaneously, I think it's such a beautiful thing. paradox. And so just in closing, is there anything that you feel like we haven't spoken about that you know would really serve people if you shared today?
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
I think this is a beautiful opportunity just to kind of speak heart into love and relationships for people that are either trying to find love or be in the relationship that they really desire. Anything that you want to share with them in parting?
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
So much wisdom. I'm so grateful to connect with you. There's so much alignment with how we view things. And I know my audience is going to want to stay connected. Talk to us about how they do that.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
But for now, I just want to say thank you so much for being an example of what it's like to live with an open heart and mind in the world.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
I love this because then people can hear this and they don't think that having issues or challenges in relationship is bad. It's like, Oh, your partner is mirroring to you. Those score themes that are looking to be healed within you. So I find that there's two schools of thought. There's like the, I'm a hundred percent responsible for my needs.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
And then there's the, if it was triggered in a relationship, it should be healed in a relationship. And I feel like we went from codependence to hyper independence. Like it almost pendulum swung and they're both trauma responses. And yeah, it's innocent, like they're protective mechanisms. I'm like a yes and.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
So I find that having the tools to learn how to heal it at the root inside of me is helpful because like you're saying, we're puzzle pieces. So if my partner's triggered, I might be triggered at the very same time and it'd be really hard for us to overcome and meet each other's needs in that moment. If somebody has the maturity, the willingness, the ability to do that, you can heal in relationship.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
But Like you're saying, it's going to be really hard. So like to ground it for me, my husband, who I have permission to share this, one of his core wounds and triggers is that he didn't feel important growing up because his dad was really busy. So he used to unconsciously try to find that core wound through me.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
And then when that would happen, because I felt overly responsible for my mom's needs growing up and I would get abandoned. it would trigger me because I felt needed. And so that was the puzzle piece of how that was playing out. And if I just went to tend to his needs, I overrode mine. I would have been re-traumatizing myself the way I used to as a kid.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
And so learning to meet those triggers show us what needs tending to inside of us so we can be with it. And then if we have a partner who is willing and available to really heal and support each other's healing, like what a gift.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
What are some practical ways that you found when you are in a relationship where somebody is available? Because for me, it was a non-negotiable to have a partner that would heal and grow with me. Now that may not be true for everybody else, but what do you find are some practical things that people can do in relationship if they are both willing and available to help each other heal?
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
Welcome back to the Healing and Human Potential podcast, where today we're talking about one of my favorite topics, relationships. We're going to be specifically talking about how our past wounds influence love, as well as what is the role with nervous system regulation work? How do we use it for greater self-regulation and connection?
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
And it sounds like it would be an avoidance strategy rather than breathing into the sensation that's being activated to really self-soothe and insource a sense of safety like you were speaking to. So knowing where it's coming from. And I also find that you talked about personal responsibility. I think that's huge because otherwise that blame can create defense and you're not connected. Mm-hmm.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
in addition to just understanding like, oh, these are my patterns and I would play them out whether I'm with you or somebody else, then I'm not blaming. I'm not like, oh, you're the problem. It's like, oh, this is coming up so I can tend to it inside of myself. But I love that you bring in nervous system regulation work because I think it's foundational. I think it's
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
all of it, helpful, emotional mindset, nervous system, unconscious reprogramming. And I know that there's a conversation in, in online that says like, you need to be completely healed to find love. I don't believe that that wasn't my experience. And I was in relationships for three years at a time.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
I noticed I just got itchy when I was with my husband three years in, I was like, there's no problem. This is just a pattern. I was able to see that and breathe through it because I was in relationships for so long. I was like, let me just do my work
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
around healing my mother wound anything that came up with my mom and i didn't even work it out with her i worked it out inside of me it was my projections of her that i worked out and i ended up attracting a partner that i didn't recognize because he wasn't the template of what i'd known before i do want people to know that you can heal outside of relationship i mean i used my best friend.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
We were both reading gang Katie Hendricks, Conscious Loving, and we knew our own wounds. We were speaking microscopic truths. For people that don't know, it's like sharing your inner experience and just you don't even have to have a solution. It's just like when you say that, I just notice I get butterflies. So you're creating more intimacy and Personal responsibility.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
And so we use our friendship to help each other heal, knowing that if we did the core work now, we would play less of that out with a partner when and if they did come, but I wouldn't also settle for anything less than I was offering myself. And so I would love to hear if there's work that you find singles can do. in support of them calling in their ideal partner if they want to do that work.
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Anxious or Avoidant? Heal Your Attachment Style + Find Secure Love | EP 81
And then also, how does the power of self-awareness really shape conscious relationships? Joining us today is Shalena from Rising Women, where we explore transformative insights around how do you know if you should go or stay in the relationship? How do you heal heartbreak with more grace? And how do you create a love that lasts? It is a good one. Let's dive in.
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
And when we're living in alignment with what's true for us and keeping our hearts open, which is really to me being in our power, that's one of the greatest, we are a beneficial presence in the world. We're living in alignment with our heart. And I think that's one of the greatest things we can do. Like my grandfather died when I was three and he was my first memory.
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
I've never felt more seen and loved by someone. I knew exactly everything about being with him when I was three and how adored I was. And it kept a spiritual attunement open because I felt so safe at his presence. And so I love that you're sharing like on the goal line of life, it doesn't really matter on the soul line of just like keeping our hearts open and the frequency and the energy.
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
that's what matters. And so it's such a reassuring thing. I think a lot of people are going to hear the impact that we make.
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
Oh my goodness, I can already feel I'm so embodied in my heart just in your presence. And I know you do these energy updates that people really value. And I'm curious about this year that we're in 2025. Is there any kind of forecast that you can share with us about this year to support us and having a sense of what to expect?
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
Yeah, it's the maturity, which is what you were talking about on the macro, like, and in some ways, as a society, we're still quite young and undeveloped, not bad, but young.
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
And so I think, as we, you know, micro macro, as we are getting older, I think I can also attest to just learning to keep the heart open, even if it's to the closed heart and to hold things in perspective and have less of that personal shame. But that's also what's happening on the macro. as an invitation to really grow beyond like the end of the world. And it's like, okay, this is in service.
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
And you even said choosing partners that mirror what my imprint of love was. And so you not being a victim to saying I'm choosing this and what's another choice and how can I learn from this? So again, just kind of highlighting some of the subtext of what our conversation has been, I think is, is helpful.
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
I know you talked about trust and I think self-trust is such a big challenge for people. Can you talk to us a little bit about what your journey has been or what you recommend for people to really develop their embodied knowing or trust in their deeper knowing?
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
I love that. And I know a big question is, how do you know the difference between fear and intuition? What do you tell people specifically about that?
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
It feels like in right relationship. It feels healthy. And I think we have this authoritarian expert outside of ourselves conditioning that we're coming back into our own power around ourselves. And I do think that when we don't know the future, the mind predicts as a way to try to, like a defense mechanism.
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
And so it can go into worst case scenario to as a way to just think about how it can support itself, but it it creates the very thing it's trying to avoid. And so doing some of the psychological work, like I hear you talking about can really come into right relationship with whatever guidance we're hearing and see if those align.
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
See if it is something that feels true, not just because I heard or I felt a sense. But I love what you're saying about empowering people to test it and really pay attention. Because my experience with intuition is it's, I feel a gut knowing.
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
I don't always trust my mind because once I started hearing things and I can hear things, but if I ask, the ego has really played with that and thrown me off. And I don't mind what way I hear information as long as I get the information that I'm interested in. But mine's more of a gut-based knowing. And it's usually just a fact. And it's usually there's no explanation. It's just this.
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
But I wanted to dive in a little bit more to what you were saying around trust because it sounded like you were saying you can trust the timing of whatever unfolds. Maybe if you're anxious and you're wanting it to happen now – you haven't energetically gotten in alignment or learned certain lessons, kind of like children.
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
Going back to that, sometimes people are like, I want to have this baby and it's not coming. There's all these other things playing out for that child's life to come into alignment, not just when the parents want to have a child. Same thing with our dreams. There's that calling. There's either the energetic that we need to hold.
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
We maybe need to learn new skill sets or other pieces need to come into play. So just for those people that are feeling anxious about having these big dreams, what would you say to them to kind of help settle that anxiety and trust the timing of when things unfold?
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And the intention of this podcast is to give those practical things, stories and practical insights about things that actually help us in our life. And there's so much that you're starting to get into. So there's sometimes we'll feel or hear an intuition, however we experience intuition. And then there's a debate between our head and our heart. And so I think
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
It is a rebellious act to live in our heart in this world. And so much of us are overdeveloped in our mind, or can overly identify with and focus on the fear based mind. And I think you talking about being curious about that from childhood and what we get out of that unconsciously and really tuning into our heart space where there may be something that's more settled.
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
And having the tools to kind of part the clouds from some of that is important. But there there can be this push pull, maybe we know something to be true, but the mind's really arguing with it. How do you suggest people integrate head and heart?
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
Exactly. The more I do this podcast, the more I just come back, whether it's a doctor, it's an intuitive, everybody just comes back to having tools to navigate our inner world because we can't control what happens outside. And I really look at things from a learning orientation. So rather than being a victim, it's like, how can I learn from this? How do I use this for my healing and my growth?
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
Yes.
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
Yeah. You know, so and I see that with business where people are like, I know how to help people facilitate change, but I don't know how to run a company or I don't know how to do sales. I'm like, well, sales can be heart centered. Like there is that integration. So I love that we're speaking of this because it can apply to a lot of different areas of our life.
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
I remember when I was a therapist, I knew nothing about business. And I would tell myself stories like, I don't know marketing. I don't know digital marketing. I don't know sales. And that really kept me at a victim and stuck in not letting myself feel my power and develop. Well, I realized, well, I know people. And marketing is people and sales are people.
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
So then I started questioning that I didn't know or that I wasn't good at sales. And that let me flower into, well, how would I do it? What feels right to develop a relationship, whether that's through an email sequence online, whether that's through a conversation with somebody. And eventually some of the digital marketing people that I was getting coached by.
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
I said, no, I'm going to actually do it differently. And then they started looking at my numbers that were converting better, birthing this new way. But I had to start by questioning the assumption that I wasn't good at sales or I didn't know to take my authority and my power back to say, well, no, I do know. I do know people and I can trust what feels right for me and test it.
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
So a lot of themes that I just want to make sure people are hearing.
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
And I think that can be really helpful when people are transitioning or going through change. Not to get sucked into it thinking that it's bad, but it's like, okay, if this were here to teach me something, what would that be? Right. Then I don't feel like a victim to it.
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
Yeah. And it just feels like permission then to pave a new way that we get to do things in a new way and to trust that there isn't a manual and that we can just tune into what's needed and and to take steps in that direction. And I know with the wave of AI and automation, things are changing quite quickly.
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And I think that that is exciting for a lot of people, but it also brings up fear for a lot of people. How do you think technology is going to change the collective and Are there any words of wisdom you want to share with people around that conversation?
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And the power is in us. And so the part of my practice is to say, like, what is that reflecting in me? And how do I clean up my part so that I can live more open hearted, open minded? And I wanted to bring this question in just in closing, which is part of this. I know most people know dualistic thinking. They know right, wrong, good, bad, dark, light.
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And yet there's a growing awareness of what's beyond duality. And I would love just to hear your perspective on the shift from duality to multidimensionality.
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Who is enlightened? Who is enlightened, right? So when somebody says, I am enlightened, it's like... Run a mile. Yeah, it's like, who are you identifying as that is enlightened?
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Yeah. And my experience is that when my heart is open, I'm safe. Yeah. And I can choose to keep my heart open, even if my heart closes, like there's a bigger spiritual heart that is open. And that still doesn't mean that I don't have boundaries. So I'm not a doormat, but I can speak my truth in my power with my heart open. And I think that's, again, full circle truth.
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some of the apprenticeship that I've been learning in leadership. And I feel like that's where we're also going collectively. That integrity piece coming up, learning how to be connected in our hearts and speak our truth and use all of it for our healing.
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California, specifically.
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And that's loving.
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How to Trust Your Intuition + The Timing of Your Life - with Lee Harris | EP 77
I just experience you as so in your heart and such a bridge from the mind and the heart. Like there's a way that you're very grounded in yourself. And I think it's such a gift specifically for the spiritual community as well to be able to talk about living with an open heart in a very grounded, practical world and in practical way. And I know you have this incredible book that is out.
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Share with us about what you're up to, your book, where people can find you. I know my audience is going to want to stay connected.
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Beautiful. We will put all of that in the show notes below. Thank you so much for being here. Such a treat to get to drop in with you.
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Yeah. And I love that you mentioned that it's the timing that's also important because we don't want to invalidate somebody's experience. If they had a microaggression, something did happen to them. Yeah. I think there's a place to feel the victim and not to live there.
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But for now, I just want to say thank you so much for being an example of what it's like to live with an open heart and mind in the world.
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But one of the things that I'll do is like to consciously complain or to consciously be the victim, just to allow that part of me full expression without unconsciously living from it. And to meet somebody not invalidating their experience, but then yes, then how can I move on from it? So I don't just unconsciously get something out of it by living in that identity of victim.
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I know you do these energy updates that people really value. And I'm curious, is there any kind of forecast that you can share with us about this year to support us in having a sense of what to expect?
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When we get stuck in that, I think that what you're saying is so accurate about like, I can't actually then evolve beyond it. And so I appreciate you sharing that. I think that the timing of when we address these things is really great.
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Welcome back to the healing and human potential podcast, where today we're diving into the unseen forces that shape our lives through energy, intuition, and the shifts in human consciousness that are unfolding on the planet right now. What if the way that we navigate fear, uncertainty, and even technology could be completely transformed by understanding energy on a deeper level?
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What if our emotions, our relationship, and our purpose were part of a bigger, interconnected evolution? Our guest Lee Harris has spent over two decades offering intuitive guidance, and today he's going to share about the future of humanity and why heart energy is such a key to thriving in these times. He'll also talk about how to stay grounded amidst all of the global changes that are happening.
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You're going to predict it on one thing or another. Yeah. If the ego doesn't shift the root of that perspective, it will project onto team or family or work. And I love that the way that you think is so global. And I love that because I think so micro and it's the same. It's a mere micro macro. And so even just navigating some, I was hearing what you were talking about around integrity.
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Sometimes things need to come to light to really come into alignment. And so looking at different things that I'm going through personally right now, learning about being in my power, which is about having my heart open and being able to speak my truth with connection. I was sharing with you before the podcast started.
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You know, when I was a kid, I would be sent to my room, which would, I would lose connection. And I started playing that out in my team. When something didn't work for me, I was, I would share something, but I wasn't maintaining the connection. I thought, oh, there's a different way to do this. It didn't feel right.
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And so learning about how to have the tough conversations with love, with an open heart feels like, and just again, micro, like how does this play out in a grounded way? And I'll share vulnerably about my own experience. You know, somebody on my team did something that was out of integrity.
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And rather than just pushing them off or staying in my mind, because I didn't want to have the hard conversation, not assuming but having a inviting a deeper conversation with love and sharing what worked and what didn't. without blame, also looking from a higher perspective, there's some wound that they were playing out. There was some wound that I was playing out.
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We were teachers for each other. So we don't need to get lost in the person and judging them. What's the pattern that they're here to teach me? And how do I grow in my leadership as a result of that? And I think that's also part of the growing beyond the victim of not saying like, you did something wrong to me. It's like, oh, we are in each other's lives to help each other heal. And
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So if you're curious about where we're heading as a collective and how to personally align with the most expansive version of yourself, this episode is for you. I'm so happy that you're here.
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evolve if we choose to. And so then it's like, oh, thank you for that. And I still will have boundaries, I'll still share what works and what doesn't work, but with an open heart. And I think, at least for me, that's worked really well. It's also just having the tools to navigate.
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And sometimes that the things that have been pushed down need to come up so that we can see I think also sometimes suffering the challenges that we go through in life, the change, there's intelligence in that suffering. And people have needed that suffering to motivate us to do the inner work because not all of us have been proactive.
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And so having the tools, I just keep coming back to like how valuable that is. And I also love what you're speaking to. It doesn't matter if it's one person or 1 million people. It's the energy that matters.
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I noticed that as soon as somebody is feeling like there's a failure, they look to point fingers to blame. And I think that's really toxic. I think it's a way to avoid feeling something. I fail all the time. People who are successful just keep going. With the learning disability label, I thought something was wrong with me. But now we can see that actually that disability is an ability.
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It stretched my capacity to know what I'm capable of. And I know I'm not co-creating, but it did feel like that at the time.
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Yeah, I think it's like, again, like work the trigger and then the clarity is obvious of what to do when it's aligned, when it's in truth with us.
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You're so good at this, by the way. You are rocking it.
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And so my intention in sharing this conversation is to help you learn about the things that I've navigated through the tough times so that they support you on your journey. I hope it serves you.
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And I know that that got created because I was in grade school. I remember my heart would be beating because the teacher would have everybody read. Everybody learned to read faster than me. They were better at it. I'm not a good reader.
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And I remember we were in class and we would go around reading the next paragraph and I would just sink in my seat and also try to see what's the paragraph that's mine so I could read it, but I was just in a free state. So insecure and scared and publicly ashamed in comparison of what I could do.
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I bought into a lot of misunderstandings about what I was capable of, my self-worth, being pulled out of class. I was in public school, given extra time to get tutoring and support and really thinking negatively about myself because of that or thinking I needed to work harder or prove my intelligence. Like a
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It wasn't really until I went to college that I learned how I learn for one, which is I'm a kinesthetic learner. I like, I learned by doing and sign language, like a visual learning was the only class that I rocked and I didn't have to study for. I know you talk about you, you know, there were classes you didn't have to study for. That was never my experience.
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And I also in college started focusing on things that I really enjoyed. And I know the quote, like, energy is not created or destroyed. And so with the learning disability label, I thought something was wrong with me. I thought that I was limited. But now we can see that I just learned differently and that I started developing more of my intuitive capacities.
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I started developing reading people rather than reading books. That's not how I learned. And I started using that for my advantage in my work. And so I just want to remind people that may have a limitation, a disability, that actually that disability is an ability. You're going to have other abilities developed. And that I want to be a voice for people because I have ADHD. I have dyslexia, mild.
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I also have a learning disability and I run a successful company doing what I love, making an impact in the world. And so I just want to remind people like any of those labels, we can unlearn and we can take our power back from them and use them as a way to share our gifts in a way that's only aligned with how we are designed to do.
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No, I had to do work around it. I think for a while I was like, I think I was telling myself, this is an ability, this isn't a disability. And it was more conceptual. And it was almost like there were different parts on my, my journey that helped me sink into it where I was realizing that, Yes, learning how I learned. Yes, seeing how I was excelling in my business.
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There was a part of me that needed to prove that I could do it for myself. There was something that I needed for me. And then it was almost like doing the work was like watering a plant where it kept seeping in deeper. It wasn't just a head knowing. It was like, oh, I can feel this.
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And then living it in my business helped me settle some part that wasn't fully, hadn't arrived yet at what I was capable of and hadn't shown myself that. But when I did, it settled completely.
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Yeah, I mean, one I don't talk about very much from childhood was when I was in fifth grade, I felt super self expressed, I felt really free. And I was in a, I would say a class of 60. And then in sixth grade moved to a bigger school 600 in my class middle school, and got a lot of attention. I was like the new girl. got a lot of attention, part of this popular girl group.
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And soon after, the girls started realizing that a lot of the guys paid attention to me and started rumors about me. And that was hard for me. I mean, that was something that left a really deep imprint inside of me around feeling like I got the rug pulled out from me, feeling like people were talking behind my back.
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Yeah, close friends. Like people that I, you know, at least for six months, I developed friendships with. And then I remember I was standing at my locker changing for a gym. And one of the rumors that every day I was like, what's the new rumor? One of the new rumors was that I stuffed my bra because I started developing breasts earlier than them.
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And so there were these rumors and just feeling paralyzed, like frozen. And and not having a lot of friends in middle school. And that kind of lasted for like a year and a half of like, yes, rumors, but these girls were pretty ruthless. Like they would take socks and put golf balls in them and beat girls with them.
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And I think one of them is in Harley's Hells Angels, you know, like this Harley Davidson group.
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Thanks for holding space to share support.
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Yeah, there's a lot of physical threat, like meet me at Taco Bell after school. I mean, it was a daily thing. And at that time, on top of that, my family was all going through, my entire family was going through a spiritual awakening at the same time through struggle. Mine was through this, starting to question everything. But I just remember feeling alone, suicidal, scared.
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It was the first time I was trying on different identities in my life of like, am I the rapper, the skater? Where do I belong? Where do I fit? And at that time, I have a lot of compassion for girls because at that time, or kids at that time, were looking for belonging and safety in our identity. And I really, life kept being like, don't identify with this or that. And
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I think I was spiritually connected before that and trying to play in the physical world. Like I was, life just presented me with opportunities to really question my identity and all of that. And so anyway, I just remember feeling frozen and you know, this being so long for having a year and a half, it left a deep impact in my nervous system, my consciousness and
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Usually over here. I feel nervous. I feel nervous because I'm usually more prepared. You fly by the seat of your pants. I'm much more like, okay, make this time valuable for others. I mean, I really got into online in 2017. I did 50 webinars in one year. So I'm very much trained of like making every moment count. And I know podcasting is a very different experience.
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I remember one time I was, the girls were, they had vandalized my house and then they called me often just to threaten me. I think it was like a Friday night. They were having a party. They called me and were threatening to beat me up. And my brother in the other room was so tired of hearing it. He took the phone. He's like, 1017, this is our court name. My sister's going to fight you. Bye.
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Hung up. And I was like... what? I was so scared because for one, these were 30 girls and he didn't realize that. And so I was like, what did you just do? And he, for like 30 minutes, talked me up and I was like, okay, I don't have a choice anymore. I need to face my fear. I need to face the bully. And it was the first time somebody helped me stand up for myself because nothing else was working.
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And I was ready to fight these girls. And I... was waiting and no one came. And I remember Monday morning being like, oh my God, this is going to be it. This is, this sucks. My brother's not here to support me. I didn't have like a, I didn't have that. The school wasn't supporting me and they didn't say a thing. And it was the end of the bullying.
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And it was such a teaching for me around having a voice, having my own back, standing up for myself, even if it required me to fight and not win. I remember when our oldest went to school, to a new school, and girls were bullying her And I don't know if it was like a few days or a week, but she confronted them. She had the courage to confront them.
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Now it wasn't 30 girls, but still like that was courageous and it stopped the bullying. And I was so grateful to know that she had that courage, I think because of her mom. And part of my work has been to be in my power, which has been to be in my power means being in my heart, speaking my truth. having boundaries and confronting the fear.
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And so I think part of that developed me to move towards the things that I was scared of as a way of being. I know you like edges. I like edges. It's not comfortable, but I know how rewarding and freeing my life is because if I if I cower, then my life gets smaller. And so it's not easy, but I think it's harder staying in the fear, like staying in a dysregulated nervous system.
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And it was a really hard time in my life, but I'm really grateful because it supported me in speaking my truth, going towards the things that scare me, and also leading me back on a spiritual path of questioning my identity and questioning reality, everything. It was such a time of... awakening for me and my whole family.
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Yeah. I think there's upper limits and lower limits. I think there's this safe zone, this comfort zone, which is an illusion, but it's what we've known. And part of the work psychologically has been to insource that safety. So to really meet that younger one, to let her know that she is safe, that she can feel exactly as she's feeling, that she doesn't need to be any different.
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That has been incredibly powerful for me. Not only is it instant, like securing the insecurity. It's instant, it feels empowering, and then I don't need other things to be okay, which I can't control and manage. But I just go to a deeper sense of being okay with her being exactly as she is, her not needing to be different.
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And one of the things that I love, this is a practice that our therapist taught us, which is sometimes when we have old traumas, we can go back to them to whatever age they were at. and ask if they want to come to our current day self to see what life turns out like. And that's been really helpful. Like there's been so many moments of just being like, wow, look how it turned out.
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And so I'm just learning to share myself more naturally and unscripted. But my intention is to share authentically some of the lessons I've learned in service to other people for sure.
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And to know that, that I'm okay. And that, you know, she gets to be with us as parents in a way that she needed some parenting that, you know, get to reparent her essentially is my job now. And so that prompt and that invitation. So yes, Offering her the assurance that she needed is helpful in sourcing that, but then also taking her along to be like, do you want to see my life now?
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Do you want to be with us now? And it's been something for people to try on. I think it's really beautiful.
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Share anything that you see, honestly.
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Part of my methodology is what I, so working things on five levels. So somatically, emotionally.
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The body. Working at the integration nervous system level, just really presencing the energy. The great thing about somatic work is you don't need to know the story to integrate the energy into your nervous system. So any stuck energy, like if they're
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if you just feel triggered but you don't know why somatic work is really great you can use that to start feeling less of the trigger you can start integrating walk me through that you're angry okay first let me tell the the concept and then i can go into it so so somatic work is one way and however wherever i'm presenting most is where i'm going to start or if a client is with me that's where i'm going to start if they start with tears i'm going to do some emotional mastery work
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If it's really stuck in the mind, I'm going to do mindset work. If it's somatic work, they don't know, or they're really, um, looping and avoidance. I might have the backdoor in of somatic work. So there's unconscious reprogramming stuff like unconscious reprogramming. It's really great for earlier childhood stuff that, um, upper limits. It's really good for, it's
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Some deeper trauma, like that may be ancestral and meaning like more of our lineage for me, like in my lineage over responsibility as a thing that I work with through unconscious reprogramming.
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Sometimes it's just about learning a skill and behaviorally shifting and then unconsciously. So there's five levels and I will, if it's a core wound, it's a core trigger, I will work all five of them. So over time, but unconsciously,
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Or with someone that you're working with. Yeah. And I would highly recommend only working with one trigger at a time. I think it's an ego play to then pull in, you know, like if you and I have a challenge, then be like, oh, in 1940, it was like bringing up all of the things. It's just going to be overwhelming. So one pattern at a time.
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I tend to look at what is, and I think a lot of people get lost in the person and miss what's happening with the pattern. Yeah. So for example, I could help heal my relationship with middle school experience, but what's the pattern? Oh, the pattern is how I'm seen. The pattern is not feeling safe. If somebody is talking about me behind my back, what's the pattern?
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And if I can resolve that at the root, then it doesn't matter where it shows up. I feel a lot freer. It's just more bang for your buck. It's just a deeper way to work. And I think it's like, if you have a weed, you're pulling it at the root rather than to the tops of the weeds.
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So part of my intention with the podcast is offering free tools and perspectives and especially my solo cast so that people can have this accessible. Where I go deeper into it is my certification program so that my coaches, healers, therapists, they do their own embodiment work. They really live the work and then they can more confidently serve others with it.
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But for people that either don't have the budget or just want to practice or try these, the solo casts that I do are really intended on giving people free tools to try on.
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I know that there's different schools of thought around that. I think one of the most important things is to take personal responsibility for what's being triggered inside of me. And to look at what the pattern is, what's the source of that? What's the root? And how can I really heal that from that original misunderstanding when I was a kid reading, not feeling smart enough?
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So if somebody triggers my insecurity, then I know it's not their fault. Maybe I won't put up with the way that they're talking to me and I'll have a boundary. And boundaries are really important to speak to. What I'm going to do to take care of myself, not trying to manage or change them.
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I may speak what a boundary is, but I'm still going to go back to the original wound or misunderstanding to heal that insecurity from grade school.
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I fail all the time. And I think that people who are successful just keep going. So I think that I have a very much a learning orientation to life. And I noticed that as soon as somebody is feeling like there's a failure, they look to point fingers to blame. And I think that that's really toxic. I think it's a way to avoid feeling something.
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Well, ideally, yeah, that tends to be. Otherwise, the most important thing I think is not blaming because people are going to knock on the door and your triggers are going to answer. And if you've done your work so that the triggers resolve, you have a different relationship with it or it's no longer there, people can keep knocking. But there's no more buttons to press.
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There's no one at the house. And so I think that's a better way to go about it. I tend to be really proactive with the work because my life gets better when I do that. And then I use any trigger to get free. I think of those triggers as breadcrumbs to a deeper sense of freedom in life. looking for the learnings, looking and really just doing one thing at a time, developing the toolkit.
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And even if somebody has say like three to five tools, I think that's fantastic. That's it. Like you don't need to have more, but I would say have them on multiple levels because some people really get stuck in the mind. Other people get lost in their emotions or we go through different phases of our life.
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And so the more we've got a integrative framework or a robust toolkit, the easier we can actually go to the root to resolve it.
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You're going to have other abilities developed. I have ADHD. I have dyslexia and I run a successful company doing what I love, making an impact in the world. And so I just want to remind people, any of those labels, we can unlearn and we can take our power back from them and use them as a way to share our gifts that's only aligned with how we are designed. I left everything I knew.
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I try my best not to do that so that I can look at everything from a learning, take personal responsibility. This doesn't always naturally happen, but I definitely have that orientation developed. And I would say I've invested in so many different contractors or people to work with, specifically Facebook ads people.
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So once, usually if the trigger's gone, then yes, the truth, the clarity of what's my truth is there. A time in my life where I just followed my truth and intuition where it made no sense, what you're asking?
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Yeah. I, so before I met you, I remember I was at San Diego state. It was becoming a marriage and family therapist. I had my life perfectly planned out in my mind. I had a beautiful man that I was with who was saving up to buy a wedding ring. I I was doing two master's programs at once. My overachiever was definitely alive. And one was for my head, one was for my heart.
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And I remember just as I started doing some really deep work inside myself, it's almost like I shifted timelines and it didn't make sense to my mind at all. But I left everything I knew. Like, I ended up leaving this relationship. I left San Diego. I left the graduate program to follow an impulse. It wasn't even an impulse. It was a knowing.
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And I wanted to have a story about why, because it was so hard to leave. Because there was nothing wrong. This man was beautiful. My life was planned out in my mind. And I just remember being in my Honda Prelude with my life packed in my car. And I'd gone to an acquaintance that I met. She let me stay at her place for like a week. And her walls were so thin. And I just wanted to cry.
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So we went to my car, sitting in my Honda Prelude with my life in my car and just bawling. And there was a part of me that was confused. And there was a deeper part of me that knew I had to honor this. And I had no idea where it was going to go. And that was one of the most courageous things that I'd done in my life.
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And it opened me to the life that I have now, which is beyond any of my wildest dreams that I could have even... I had so much low self-worth that I wouldn't even dream of the life that I have now. But I followed my intuition. I followed what felt true. I worked with the fears that came up.
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And I feel like, you know, the more I follow my intuition and I test that and I took it with smaller bites, the more I test that, I've never regretted following my truth, my intuition. Like it's always turned out and I had to develop that muscle.
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who have, I would say, not really necessarily had the best decisions around how to manage that budget, like some pretty large budgets, but I never went into blame. I wouldn't necessarily hire them again. I might talk about, you know, what was our agreements, what was mine, but if I go into blame, I know that then I'm stuck.
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Yeah, I think we're all intuitive. I think some of us just pay more attention to it. I think some of us care to develop it. And the way I sense things intuitively is through my gut. Like there's just a gut knowing. And I would recommend people start small where it may be like, I remember I'd be on a run and I'd be like, should I turn left or right?
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So small things that didn't have a lot of consequence to help build it. But one thing that I did that was really helpful was an intuition journal. So kind of like a dream journal, the more you pay attention to it, it helped build the confidence in it. So I would write down how I received the intuition. Was it through a thought? Was it a felt knowing? Was it a seeing?
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And then what was my intuition? Then how did it turn out? I did this for like a month. I didn't always have the result, but it helped build the confidence of saying, oh, actually, I'm already receiving intuition.
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And when I look back, and I think this is really helpful for people to do, like look back at your life at the times where you made intuitive decisions and choices and see how that did work out for yourself or if it didn't use it as feedback to refine. And then you just keep refining. testing. You don't have to trust it, but just small ways that have low impact, it will build that muscle.
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And then you can have that as a superpower in your life. Like there are things that I know that I don't need anyone else to confirm. And I just know, and it's very well developed now.
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I think the biggest thing that has changed my life is self-inquiry, questioning who and what I am. I think most of my life I had this conclusion and story. I was talking about like low self-worth. Most of my life was, oh, I'm not good enough. I'm not successful enough. I'm not smart enough, just not enough to some degree.
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And I remember really, I think with the inner work, if we want to go faster, slow down to really just bring presence and mindfulness. I've started to see that the I'm not enough and that I am enough are both stories that the mind was creating. That who I am is prior to those stories. So thoughts come and go, feelings come and go, people come and go, but there's something that doesn't come and go.
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This presence that is prior to all of that, this presence that is here now. And we've probably been on 20 silent retreats. And for me, the practices of stillness of just like, just being still and then questioning everything, but especially the identity of who I take myself to be has offered a conscious freedom that I, if I could offer it to anyone, that would be it.
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And in terms of like a learning orientation, I remember when we first got this house, I was so excited to be able to host people. This is why a big part of why we got this house, because I wanted to be in person and share my work. But in 2019, I didn't have a large enough organic audience to fill 100 spaces for an event.
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And I think spirituality is beautiful and it's a huge part of And I think we, I could get really lost in the spiritual teachings and all of them are helpful, but the deepest, most important one is identity is, and who is the one that is talking? Who is the one that you think you like moment to moment coming back to that?
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is more of an unraveling that opens a deeper level of freedom beyond any story or life experience. And I have so much to owe to Grace and teachers like Adyashanti, who's an incredible meditation teacher. A New Earth, that book, powerful, is something that I've come back to again and again. And then Byron Katie, who had her on the podcast, her inquiry.
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And I would invite people to do it around self-inquiry. You know, I am Alyssa. Is it true? I am a woman. Is it true? So really going through identity, unraveling and looking at each belief and discovering what's beyond all of that, all of the mind.
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Yeah. I think I've always, the most important thing for me is awakening. And so I've always used relationships or business. as a path to awakening. So any life triggers become the, you know, business is fun, but without that, it's not as valuable to me. Same as relationships. Relationships are everything and beautiful. And I want to share more about relationships because I think it can serve.
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But without looking at where's the source of love, what I am, I think we can get so caught in manipulation and control innocently, the psychological tendencies to look for the safety outside of ourselves versus waking up to the context, like the presence that is rather than getting caught. lost in the content that can be hard for me. I think of my life. I was going to write a book.
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I will see if I ever do, but I was going to call it stillness and stilettos. And so my life journey has always been having a foot in both world, honoring both equally, but from the context of, um, presence from stillness, that being the most important thing.
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So my invitation for people that are interested is to question who you are and you just stay with that long enough to keep coming back to and let it unravel you into the mystery and the miracle of what you already are.
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And I had just synchronistically connected with this group of girls, there was like 25 of us, who were genuinely here to support each other's work in the world. I had been doing Facebook ads before that, but apparently you don't do Facebook ads to fill an event. People come to an event because of a relationship that was already developed.
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Yeah. A few things. One of them is there's a part of me that still cares what people think. And when I don't feel safe or I feel dysregulated, I'll go towards control because control is really a fear-based pattern. And I'll go towards perfectionism. And so again, like
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I think one of the intentions of this podcast and sharing, I'm used to like moving my business online and doing webinars and also being a psychotherapist where you don't share as much of yourself. And so part of the intention of this and more long form podcast, media is to share a bit more vulnerably, meet that edge, and then also just be with the part of me that cares.
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And I feel like there's been so much growth on that psychological because of middle school and some of the trauma that happened from that. And there's other trauma that I'm not speaking to in my past because it's not appropriate to bring up here. And maybe one day I'll do a podcast on it just involves other people to get permission around.
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But the ability to just insource that safety and the sweetness that comes with really seeing that one, I think if I would ever tell myself to just let go, I feel like it's another concept I would use to judge myself. It's never helped to hear let go.
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And when I just hold on to the one that cares to create safety for that part of me, knowing it's not the whole of me that I talk about essence and ego in my certification program. So the essence of who I am wrapping the part of me, the ego that that cares is the thing that's not only instant. But it's so loving and nourishing.
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And it's almost like as the psychological clouds, like fear, insecurity, whatever the trauma is from the past, as I meet all of it with love, with presence, it parts the clouds to open to a deeper safety and presence that's
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here that's always here and for me for anyone for underneath all the insecure thoughts underneath all the insecure feelings but by meeting it with presence with acceptance parts the clouds to feel more of this wholeness the safety and i'll say this again and again but one of the greatest gifts i have found through this work is the thing that i'm afraid to feel holds the key to what i deeply desire and so a big part of my life of not feeling good enough but
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I was trying to run away from it. I was trying to succeed away from it versus just stopping to be with it and to allow it fully. And as I did, it opened me to my wholeness. And it also just makes sense. If I'm pushing a part of me away, I'm not going to feel whole.
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And as I welcome that, that one that cares or just, you know, without getting caught in the story of, I think I used to get caught in the story of, I shouldn't be that way or more identity in these parts of me.
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Warm leads, yeah. So it wouldn't be like cold leads to an event. That's not typical, or at least it wasn't back then.
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I shouldn't care or I should let go or whatever the shoulds or stories are. But as I just embrace that and allow it and feel it, there's a softening, there's a relaxing, there's a naturalness. And I think people can feel that. Yeah. And it's always available for all of us when we have the courage to just meet it. But feel it as a sensation, not a story. We can loop in the stories again and again.
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The somatic, to just drop into the energy of the thing I've been avoiding, the energy of not good enough, the energy of failure, the energy of rejection. And part of what I teach on this is like, for example, rejection, if I'm avoiding rejection, I'm rejecting that part of me and that will show up in my sales conversations. It will show up in relationships and dating.
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And again, as we work it at the root, we don't reject the one that's feeling rejected. We welcome that. We feel it's not only magnetic. People are attracted to that, but which is what we wanted those things anyways with the sales or the partner, friends, but those things matter less because again, life's a mirror. And so we feel more of that integration and that wholeness.
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And so I just share any of that because those are some of the things that I've discovered that I think can really help people along the way. Things that I've taken my whole life to realize that I hope serves people in coming home to themselves.
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Okay. Last time I had my husband interview me. No, I love it. Cause I did this with you when one time where I was like, I wanted you to say something to me and then I said it to me and then you called me and that didn't matter by that point. But I think just in my vulnerability.
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Goodness, so many things. And so in 2019, I got connected with this group of girls and we were all genuinely supporting each other. And I got on some of their podcasts. I was able to fill it and I got creative to say, why don't each of you bring a friend? And I just got creative with the marketing. So- I filled this event. I'd never done an event with 100 people. I was nervous.
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That feels tender. I want to hear, um, Thank you for having the courage to share yourself, to do something that's uncomfortable. Thank you for wanting to help me. And I can see that you're human and it's helping me accept the parts of me that are human too. And you don't have to be perfect to be loved. There's space for you to be exactly as you are.
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As I see you offer it to yourself, I'm learning how to offer it to myself. Thank you.
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Yeah. Thank you.
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And I think it's just about me accepting those parts of me. And I'm really grateful for the people that I, you know, I know that like my, I'm a mirror for people. I'm a mirror for people's shadow and light and people will project. And I know when I give myself permission for them to have their experience of me, regardless, I'm free.
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And so I don't need part of my philosophy is I don't need other people to be different. And I will do my work to find freedom because that's what I'm committed to in this life. Yeah. And it doesn't mean that it's easy because it still hurts sometimes, but I know when it hurts, it's pointing to something in me that I feel insecure about that's needing tending to.
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And so rather than trying to get other people to be different, I will keep using it as a mirror. And I know, and I'm a mirror for, you know, a lot of my students positively project. Like I will hold that mirror until they step into themselves and their greatness and see that I've always just been that, a mirror. Thank you.
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Thank you for creating safety for me to be able to share myself more organically and authentically, especially when storytelling and linear thinking is not my natural way of orienting. I love you.
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And I was pitching my mastermind. I remember I was going to pitch on, I don't know if you remember this, I was going to pitch on stage. I had never pitched in public before. I was going to pitch on stage and invite these women to courageously stand if they wanted to join the mastermind. And I was so scared thinking that what if no one stands?
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And you were like, didn't you tell people to stand just in case? I'm like, no, I didn't do that. And I was like, no, I didn't do that. And I knew that I was inviting these women to be courageous, to invest in themselves, to go for their dreams. So I knew I needed to embody that. I needed to lead the way. And I like meeting my edges.
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It's not always comfortable, but I like how my life gets bigger by doing that. And so I pitched the mastermind on stage and it was incredible. We had more women stand, like they stood and I brought them up on stage. There was not enough space on stage. That's how many women joined. It was amazing.
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And so then friends of mine found out about how successful this was and they were like, let's, let's do that again. I'm like, great idea. So this time it was 350 women in the state on the, in the audience. And I had no doubt about this entire experience. And so it was like, we split the pitch between three of us and I was like, and stand. And then no one stood.
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I was like, oh, they just didn't hear me. It wasn't even in my realm of possibility thinking that they wouldn't have signed up. So I was like, and stand. And they still didn't stand up. And then I think I said it again. And one person stood up. And that's when I knew it was a flop. And I, in the past, before having the tools, would have gone down a shame spiral.
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I ended up leaving this relationship. I left San Diego. I left the graduate program. I followed my intuition. I worked with the fears that came up and I wanted to have a story about why, because it was so hard to leave. And I just remember being in my Honda Prelude with my life packed in my car. And there was a part of me that was confused and there was a deeper part of me that knew
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I would have really been caught in, I'm not good enough. The ego really wants to make it personal and mean something about ourselves and And I would have missed the opportunity to see that at the end of the event, there was a bunch of women lined up in the back asking questions.
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And what that told me, because I didn't go into that shame spiral, and I really did, you know, I had feelings about it, but I didn't stay there. I really offered myself compassion and self-forgiveness.
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and because of that i was able to stay creative and really see the evidence of what was happening that a lot of people had questions they were interested so instead of not pitching the next day and feeling shameful i went back up on stage and i made a clearer pitch i still needed to have a lot of conversations afterwards because it wasn't such a clean pitch the way that it first was but i didn't give up i stayed in conversations serving people until we filled the mastermind so it took a little bit of work at the end but again i think
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I think having a healthy relationship with failure, meaning it doesn't mean anything about us, maybe our skill about pitching or sales or whatnot, but it doesn't mean anything about us has been really helpful. And to not give up when it's hard.
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It's like, okay, if this is true for you, still go for it and know that you can actually have the success you want if you don't give up, if it's really alive and aligned.
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Yeah, it's a lot easier when the personalization of who I am, I'm not a failure, it failed. It's just a lot easier to do that. And of course, like the mind can get caught up and then it's just having the tools to come back to what's true. I found to be most helpful.
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Yeah, I think it's a great question. So I'll make a decision around if I keep going or not based on, is it my truth? Not from a trigger. So meaning like if I'm triggered, I won't make a decision about completing a program or a friendship or...
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I tend to work the trigger first. And when I work the trigger, then I know. It's almost like it takes the static off and it becomes more clear and obvious. No, this is still in alignment with my truth.
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We can dive into that as well. First, I'll work the trigger. And then if it's really connected with what's true for me, I'll keep moving forward. But I don't recommend people make a decision when they're triggered. I think that it can lead to a lot of...
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escapism and avoiding and i'll tend to face the very thing that i'm afraid of and that i'm scared to feel as a way to integrate into my nervous system it almost like parts the clouds and then my the clarity of what's true for me is revealed so i'll share a different story just to keep it fun and vulnerable so most of my professional life was just geared towards getting good at what i do so i love learning
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I had to honor this. And that was one of the most courageous things that I'd done. And it opened me to the life that I have now, which is beyond my wildest dreams. Welcome back to the Healing and Human Potential podcast, where today's episode is a little different because I'm not the one asking questions. My husband's actually interviewing me. And I have to admit, this one feels extra vulnerable.
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And I have two master's degrees, a gazillion certifications. Like after I stopped going to school, I started a school. I just value learning. And so I got good at what I did. And then I really poured my entire body of work into my certification program. I gave it my heart and soul. I didn't hold anything back.
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I was like, this is my love letter back to the universe to support up leveling the coaching industry. And I remember it was about three years in to the certification where I was launching it. And I recommend every time you're doing online marketing, track your metrics, know exactly where you are. And I had poured, I think 50 over, over $500,000 into ads.
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It was a month before I was about to launch the program. It was the only program that my company was, it was not smart as a business move, but it was the only program. financial revenue that we had as a company. It was this program and it was January. The program started in February. And so it was a risky moment, a risky way to run business. Now I've learned since.
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But I went all in and I was tracking the metrics and where we were meant to be, how we tracked it for three years prior, the day that it was meant to be our biggest sales weren't there. And I was deflated. And I remember just feeling like, wow, like I had poured everything into it.
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I couldn't, you know, I couldn't, I had also never felt more spiritual energy for anything that I'd created in my life than doing this program. Like it took a lot out of me and it also gave me so much. Like I'm so proud of it. I'm so proud of my students and what they do, but launching it really challenged me at this year. And so the numbers weren't there. And I remember I, I,
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normally would have gone into strategizing and like really trying to change the numbers so that it worked. And I love that part of me. I think it's great to really be resourceful and not give up like we were talking about, but I could tell that I would have been doing it from a place of avoiding feeling failure.
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And so because I know better and I know that even if this was a success, I would have taken that patterning and that programming with me and felt anxiety because I was trying to manage and control things outside of me. And so it was a Friday and I just took the weekend off. I was like, let's go to Ojai. And I just stopped tracking.
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And I remember I did the work to really find a deeper place of peace with whatever happened. And I already knew like whoever was meant to be served by this offering would be, but I really got to come to a deeper sense of peace of like, this is out of my control to a degree.
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And I need to come to a sense of just feeling failure as a sensation, not a story, but really just allowing myself to meet failure. And so I did. And I genuinely got to a place of peace with it. I was like, okay, I'm okay regardless. And I gave it my all. And I remember I got back Monday morning and I looked at the numbers and they just started coming in.
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And they had never come in that late in previous years. It ended up being the most successful launch we had had to date, but only after I had really given up control and surrendered to what was. And I really value somatic work. I really value feeling the thing that I was afraid of, which was failure.
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And I value feeling it as a sensation in the body, not getting caught up in the story, which can loop us over and over again. And so I created a podcast episode to guide people through just like a really powerful, that exact process that I did. I'll link it in the show notes below for people, but it was transformative. And then it was like, oh, I can have my power now.
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I've spent years coaching and supporting others through their challenges. But in this episode, I'm pulling back the curtains of my own struggles and And so I'll be sharing moments that didn't go as planned, the failures, the doubts, the lessons that I've learned along the way. And I know we all face setbacks and while they can be tough, they also have the power to shape us.
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over this sensation, knowing that I'm okay regardless. And then I was more creative and resourceful and less trying to manage out there so that I didn't feel a certain way. I was like, no, I can feel uncomfortable. I can stretch the capacity to be with the range of my human experience and still find a sense of peace and safety regardless.
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So I got the lesson and then, you know, since been changing my business model too, so I don't have to put myself through, you know, kind of riskier moves.
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Yeah, life's a mirror.
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I specifically feel light on my back. It's almost like, imagine if I were to have wings, like there would be light energy on and it's almost like tingling. And it just felt like it was fueling my body and just pouring through. And I felt like there was this co-creative force where I was doing deep listening.
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I knew the material I wanted to share, but it was also leading by listening just, and like insights would come in or I'd hear something and I would add it. And I've really continued to optimize this program because I think it's great to hear feedback and just continue taking care of your people.
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So it still feels like this co-creation, but in that time of real building it, I was working a lot of hours and I have never felt more fueled by it. an intelligence, a life force energy, just that was moving from like essentially the back of my heart through my hands and moving out. And it was energizing. It called me forward. It pulled me in different ways. And I feel like it almost matured me.
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No, no, it's beautiful. And I really hear it comes back to safety and survival. And the unconscious thinks is familiar. It thinks it's safe, even if it's not. And so part of this, I'm hearing you say, get to know yourself and get to know your partner. And I'm just curious about the one that feels controlled and the one that feels neglected. Do you find that those pairs go together?
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Like as in partnership, you wouldn't really attract to neglected, right? It would typically, it'll be a partnership of one of the opposite because I'm seeing that with my husband and I.
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That makes sense. And you guys are opening up so many conversations I want to get into, and this is already so rich and valuable. And there's a conversation online right now that I'm hearing, which is like the most important decision you will make is who you marry. And then it stresses people out because they feel worried about choosing the wrong partner or making sure to choose the right partner.
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I love this body of work, and it shares practical ways that you can use the Imago dialogue to rebuild trust, to create connection, to move through any difficult relational conversations, whether it be with your kids, whether it be with your partner, your coworkers. It's a really beautiful framework that we're going to dive in today. It is a good one. Enjoy.
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What is your perspective on this?
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And let's talk about that. And I love what you're saying because people get so tripped up about making the wrong decision picking. And I think that gets us up into our head. And then we have a fight between our head and our heart versus trust, life's intelligence. Obviously, don't be with somebody that's physically abusive. There's tolerances.
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toxicity and that, but you can be with somebody because your heart, it's almost like nature's way of bait and switch, get you all drunk on cocktails of oxytocin and like getting in love so that then you're committed to do the work to get free, whether you end up staying with them or however that feels true for you, but do the work to grow, to find peace inside of yourself.
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I love the Imago dialogue. So I found an Imago therapist to be my supervisor when I was a marriage and family therapist intern, because I wanted to go deeper into your guys' work and I wanted to get feedback and really immerse myself in a new way of relating. And I know the dialogue is powerful. It's extremely valuable.
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And so for people that don't know the structure, and obviously the Imago process goes much deeper than just the dialogue. But just for people that want to have a conversation, that structure creates so much safety.
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Can you break down what the Imago Dialogue is and then how do you use it to avoid a fight so you can have a difficult conversation but really still stay connected with each other emotionally?
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I first found your work when you were on Oprah. I think you guys were on Oprah for a few times. And I was like, this is going to change the game for people relationally. I didn't have any good models. I really wanted to learn how to do relationships in a new way. And so I could feel the power of the work that you did when I first learned about it.
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And I want to recognize you guys because you have made something so... common now mainstream because of your work. So this idea that we attract somebody who's going to near the childhood wounds and all of the things that we have with our partner relate back to the parent that we had harder times with growing up, not getting our needs met that came from you guys.
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And that has changed thousands of people's lives. I want to make sure you guys get credit for that because even just that concept, is remarkable. So it's not like I'm with the wrong person or this is bad. It's like, oh, no, these are things that are looking to be healed inside of me.
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And so I want to just acknowledge you guys for your body of work, that being one of the things that is now mainstream and has changed the game for so many people internationally. But I would just love to hear from you guys just what like so that I can hear from you. Why do we unconsciously attract a partner that will near the parent or caregiver that we had our unmet needs from most?
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And it's beautiful because like you were speaking of just now, Helen, it's like we go in, if we're in a fight, usually we're going into our reptilian brain. We're not functioning from our higher cortex and prefrontal cortex. We're not rationally thinking clearly. And so having the dialogue creates that safety so we feel seen and heard.
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and we calm down, we both feel, we've got this template so we don't have to think about, what do I say? It's literally plug and play with any conflict or any misunderstanding to really regulate your nervous system. And one of the things I remembered is that my kids' school took your guys' imago dialogue and they called it the peace path.
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And so you have, and most of us didn't learn this in childhood, but my kids' school have, where you take one step up the ladder and you say, the thing I did to contribute problems in this dynamic was, and you take personal responsibility, And you keep taking one step up. So you learn conflict resolution and personal responsibility.
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And you really join making that ladder, that physicalizing it, which is so helpful and beautiful. And I know that nowadays, you know, you guys have worked with hundreds of couples, a lot on the brink of separation. And in 2024, just last year, the divorce rate for first time marriages is 40 to 50%.
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And so I'm just wondering if there's something that couples, either a myth you want to debunk that's in the mainstream now, or if there's a misunderstanding or something that they're doing that's quietly killing the relationship, what would you say that is?
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Well, I love it. I love that you guys have used your relationship as a laboratory, that you have really listened to your clients to hear what is the framework that's going to create that safety so people can find and use conflict to grow closer together, that it's not bad, but it really can be a way to understand ourselves and help each other heal at the root.
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Whatever the missed childhood experience that we didn't get, of course, we're going to be attracted to the very person that doesn't give it so that we can stretch ourselves to develop more of our full spectrum and offer ourselves in our
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partners healing which is so beautiful and just in closing for those that may have lost faith in love maybe they're single and they don't know if they're going to find the right person or they're in relationship but they're feeling disconnected what would you guys want to say to them well
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Yeah. Thank you guys for your body of work. Thank you for helping more couples become conscious and have peace and connection by understanding themselves and normalizing some of these things, growing closer together, more intimate and connected. I am deeply grateful for your work and we will make sure to add the links below.
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Thank you for your love and thank you for being so authentic in your willingness to find true love in the misunderstandings and the fear-based states that we all go through. And what a gift you two are.
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Same.
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I want to pause because that is so important what you just shared. So it's like the negativity triggers the brain's survival. It doesn't feel safe in that environment. And so negativity can be the first killer of real connection and intimacy and safety is what I'm hearing.
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Welcome back to the Healing and Human Potential podcast, where today we're going to be talking about why do we attract partners who mirror the childhood wounds that we had. The creators of this theory that has revolutionized relationships since the 80s are here on the podcast today.
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They're also going to be sharing about how to turn conflict into connection and what some of the biggest destroyers are that silently ruin relationships and what you can do differently because of it. So I first discovered Harville Hendricks and Helen Hunt on Oprah. They are the founders of Imago Psychotherapy. I got trained in it.
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I'm curious in terms of like Western medicine and Eastern medicine and the law of entanglement. I know you talk about the three of those things and how those relate together before, just to start us off, like what, what is the law of entanglement for people that don't know? And then how do you see those worlds coming together and how do we use that for challenging times?
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I think I have, yeah.
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You can be in the right place at the right time and it doesn't feel like it. And how did you come to this?
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And I want to see how we can use that for navigating life's challenges.
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And it kind of comes back to the first question, which is like, if we're here to evolve in consciousness, we're here to open our hearts and minds more fully to wake up to the truth of who and what we are, then the illness or different experiences that we go through can be used in service to not only our healing, but also awakening if we choose to use it that way.
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And so knowing about ancient wisdom, modern science, quantum entanglement, Like, how do we just for people that want to be able or maybe they're even just stuck and they're listening to this and they're like really either going through an illness or break up or have some block that they're currently working with.
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What would you say one thing that they can inquire into to support them and having more peace in their life?
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That's how I like it.
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One of my spiritual practices is to stretch the capacity to be with the range of my human experience. I think a lot of people with emotional well-being, people or emotions, people will avoid or indulge. There's like two camps. And so rather than doing either of those, really allowing the energy to come up without... And even if it's just for 90 seconds, right?
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We know now that neuroscientists say that you can feel an emotion fully for 90 seconds as a sensation and it moves through the body. We have 90 seconds. And so if I feel...
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loneliness, if I open to that, ironically, it moves through and then I am open to a piece that's underneath it or a presence that's underneath the feeling because feelings come and go, thoughts come and go, actions come and go, but there's something that doesn't come and go, right? The context of life. And so ironically, by what you were saying earlier is by accepting what
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Whatever this moment is presenting itself as fully with an open heart, open mind, curiosity, acceptance, presence. It parts the clouds to feel that deeper foundation of well-being that is always here that we can learn to tap into. But it comes through. It's like love that's unconditional. It says yes to grief. and joy the same, sadness and happiness the same.
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And I invite people never to believe me or anybody else, but to test it for yourself to find out what's your actual truth and to have an open mind. Obviously, you're listening to a podcast like this, this far in. Again, for me, what's really important is the sensation, not the story, because when we get lost in the mind, it's a way to avoid feeling something.
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As a therapist, I used to have people come to me and tell me elaborate stories. I'm like, okay, and what are you feeling in your body? And can we be with that? And so those are some grounded practical ways to start testing this and exploring and trying it on in your own life.
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And I think people understanding that they have the remote control and here's some practices to learn to navigate so that we stay within the window of tolerance and we are healthy so that if we do a practice where we're feeling a raw sensation, we're doing it from a place of safety. We're doing it from a place of.
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having resource because you need safety and whatever the shadow stuff to be equal rather than being overwhelming, which can then put you into a trauma response. And so wanna make sure that I note that. And we're not avoiding the pain. I think sometimes, at least for myself, I used to take that practice that I was speaking of 90 seconds as a way to avoid feeling something.
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And then something dropped in a little bit more mature was like, oh, there's a love that again is indiscriminate That is my true nature that welcomes the grief without trying to love it so that it moves on, but just genuinely says yes and presences that grief. Because I was doing it as a way to avoid feeling grief. I was like, now I've got this thing and let me do it so that it moves away.
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But I'm like, oh, that's the ego finding some really great wisdom and then trying to manipulate rather than having a deeper sense of freedom. And so just calling that out. But I want to come back to you being a hypnosis because we've not had a hypnosis on the podcast. And I love that you studied with Brian Weiss. I love his work.
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Share with us, for those that don't know much about hypnotism, what is it? Who does it benefit? What should we be aware of? Talk to us about the power of this work.
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Is there a practical, simple thing that people can use in their own life, like through hypnosis that they can administer to themselves?
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Yes, 100%.
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Yeah, I love the term earth school. It's like there's feedback in all of it, and there are deeper lessons in who we become in the process of Answering the call. And what I hear you say around the perfect time, it's like, there's nothing else true other than what's being projected in your mind. And so this is to trust the intelligence that holds the stars in the sky is also orchestrating your life.
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Yeah. But it's not the situation that hurts us in relationship. It's the mind. And so the mind goes to fear, lack, and separation as a way to...
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predict as a way to protect right it goes to a worst case scenario and yet it creates that more of the same and so what i love that you're sharing with hypnosis in this work is that we're using the mind rather than the mind using us we're taking dominion over it and these are tools to do that i find hypnosis manifestation things like visualization these things are incredibly helpful for people who have a lot of fear anxiety so that you're reprogramming you're re-scripting what did it like i've heard this quote why not win in your own fantasy
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It's like, okay, we're using our energy anyway. And I find the law of assumption, people that assume it's going to happen, not only is it more likely that it does because they're looking for the evidence of that, but also in the gap between where they are and when it happens, they're just happier. And so why not reprogram more of... working out or choosing to hold things that way.
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That's at least my biased opinion. And so I love that this is a practice that people can feel more empowered. And I love that you led us through that. So thank you.
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Oh, my dad's a shaman. I was dating a tantric man.
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Yeah, I love the conversation about identity. And a lot of what you're talking about is up-leveling identity from not enough, low self-worth, inadequacy to being enough. And then for those, then having a healthy integrated ego. And then for those that are interested in something more, waking up out of all identity of into what we are, not who we are, right? There's no observer, it's observing.
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Yeah, it's what we are. Yeah. And so, yeah, deeper realizations for people that are interested. And those are those are other conversations also we go into in the podcast, which is really fun.
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That's part of the psychological identity.
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Yeah.
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I love this. I love this. This is the power. This is really tapping into our innate power and personality persona comes from the Greek word persona. So that's where we got like in Greek theater, we would put on a persona. And so what I hear you saying is I want to walk without the limp. I'm in full acceptance and that would be a nice human experience.
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You also talk about synchronicities. And I think of synchronicities as a little wink from the universe, like keep going in that direction. Talk to us about if there was maybe a sign that came into your life that changed the direction that you thought you were going in or how people can trust the synchronicities that come into their life, some guidance.
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And so let me play with having that identity now and seeing how my body reacts. Yeah.
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Fun. Yeah. Yeah. If you're going to play with identity, why not try on the one that feels most fun? You know, it feels light and most in terms of the human experience you want to have. I know you talk about higher vibrational states and I always say that life is a mirror. So it's like we smile in the mirror and the mirror smiles right back.
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And so talk to us about these higher vibrational states and what that does for us in our life. Assuming we're not running from, negativity or shadow work.
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And I know people talk about gratitude and I have a commitment right now. I'm going to have a gratitude journal for 30 days because I know the value of that. And to cultivate, especially because the mind goes to worry, I want to reprogram to gratitude, which is more in alignment with our natural state. And fear and worry get to be there. They get to be accepted, but we can also cultivate.
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So this is my commitment to myself that I'll do for 30 days.
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Okay. You choose. All right.
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Okay.
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Yeah.
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Beautiful. Okay, great. Yeah. I love this. It's really those simple things that we do daily that make the biggest impact. And I love the invitation to really cultivate what it is I want to experience more because it's less about thinking that the outside world is going to give me something.
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For me, my spiritual path has always been about questioning everything and sitting in stillness as stillness. And so... And I love the psychological, which is more the gratitude, which helps us feel that extra sparkle in our day. So thank you for inviting that.
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And the other thing I just wanted to share is with this work, I remember you were asking about, or you brought up this tantric lover that I had before I met my husband. And I remember that I would feel so high in his presence. I want to share this because I think it's going to serve people. I didn't eat. I didn't sleep. I was just... elevated so high.
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And I realized that I went on this on the spiritual journey, I was on this like, I've got it, I lost it. Thinking like I was chasing states to try to get back to this high again. And I just want to name that because it can be a cul-de-sac in our spiritual evolution. And
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thinking that it's in a state it's like what sees all states what's already here now no matter what and so what's the foundation and and that's a deeper freedom than anything that comes and goes so i just want to plant that for people because it was a got stuck there for a little while chasing states it's kind of like an addiction like you would to a person or to any outside thing and so just taking our power back and how do you know what's the remedy to that
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questioning that the state is it. Like the more I look for something, the less I'm aware that I already am it. So it's the chasing a person, a spiritual state, anything outside versus pointing it back to the source of what I am, which is what is looking. My favorite quote is from St. Francis of Assisi. He says, what you are looking for is what's looking. is what's doing the looking.
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Yeah, yeah.
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And so it's a deeper inquiry. For me, it's been the medicine of everything. And I think suffering has intelligence in it. It's feedback to wake up to a deeper truth beyond the story our mind is making up, the nightmare our mind is making up.
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Using Pain and Struggle as Your Greatest Strength - with Jim Curtis | EP 79
And so talking about fear and kind of like the root of scarcity, I know that that can show up in relationships, in finances, in self-worth. What have you discovered that really helps people embody and shift from fear into abundance?
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Yes.
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Yeah. And I really, part of how I orient around that is like creating safety for that part of us or that energy of fear, because that is the redemptive love that like moves towards to embrace fear. And then we feel our wholeness, you know, wholeness. Like I used to feel not good enough. That was such a core story of, of, then my mind would make that mean about everything.
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And what I realized was when I was identified as a separate self, of course, I wouldn't feel enough because my identity was from ego. And so waking up to who am I that is enough or not enough, which both stories that the mind was making up, it was a reclamation of claiming and opening to that part of me, which was a part of me, not the whole of me.
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And so even like the not enough is a claim for love, is a claim for embracing all of it.
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Using Pain and Struggle as Your Greatest Strength - with Jim Curtis | EP 79
And I want to talk to you about entrepreneurship because you have been such a successful entrepreneur and coach. I think conscious leadership, especially in business, is really important. I don't find that we have a lot of examples.
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And so I would love to hear about your professional life being an executive in some big health companies and some of the wisdom or any nuggets you've discovered as being a conscious entrepreneur and coach.
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Yeah, it's almost like we're confronted with our core fears projected onto business, onto love, onto health, whatever. It's the filter through which we're looking at life from. So might as well proactively clear, clean the lens and work it at the core now so that we can live more open-hearted and open-minded. Yeah, I know with sales, which is a big thing that I love teaching on as well.
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I think also that it's like, who we are being separate than what we do. Like we can mentally know it, but do we feel it?
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And then in our gut really live that and, you know, being confronted with this fear of rejection, thinking that like, if you, if you are inviting somebody to work with you, that they say, no, it's a personal rejection versus they're not ready or it wasn't a fit, or you need to train better with your sales skills, but not about us.
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Using Pain and Struggle as Your Greatest Strength - with Jim Curtis | EP 79
And that's when it can feel when it's the ego makes it really personal. That's where it can be really hard to,
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reiterate but i love that you're sharing do the inner work have a clear vision and take consistent action so just in closing i know your book the stimulati experience i want to hear from you directly what is the core message that you would love people to walk away with what do you want them to embody know or experience having connected with this body of work from your own journey
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Using Pain and Struggle as Your Greatest Strength - with Jim Curtis | EP 79
So encouraging. Thank you for your open heart, for really living your life in a way that can be of service to others. It's been delightful connecting with you. I know my audience is going to want to stay connected. Talk to us about where they find you.
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Amazing. I appreciate you. Thank you for what you are doing in the world. And I'm so grateful to have a new friend through this podcast. I appreciate you, thank you. Thanks. Thank you so much for doing this work that changes the world starting with yourself. It truly does make a difference. And if you're finding value in this podcast, a cost-free way to support us is by following us.
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But for now, I just want to say thank you so much for being an example of what it's like to live with an open heart and mind in the world.
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Using Pain and Struggle as Your Greatest Strength - with Jim Curtis | EP 79
Yeah. Like building that trust in your body's intelligence and that attunement you're saying is being present to be able to hear it more clearly. Is that right?
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And I know a big part of your journey has been around having an undiagnosed illness. And so you're talking from experience and really learning to attune to your body. I know that for people that are going through illness, and especially when it's chronic and undiagnosed, that can be not only isolating, but also really exhausting.
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Can you talk to us a little bit about how to navigate uncertainty during that time and share a bit of your story so people have a sense?
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welcome back to the healing and human potential podcast where today we're talking about trusting life's timelines shifting from our unconscious thought patterns for emotional well-being and how the spiritual context of life can support us in challenging times around our relationships business and health we're joined by jim curtis who's an author speaker hypnotist and leader in national organizations like webmd and he's here to share with us practical insights and tools including a self-hypnosis journey that you can listen to on the podcast
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So many beautiful nuggets in that. So it sounds like a direct correlation with your body starting to have more mobility through the acceptance, whether you had mobility or not. Is that what you're saying?
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The more I do this podcast and the direct correlation with not only everything being an inside job, but we can't choose if we are walking or not. Some level of that not being up to us, but we can choose how we hold it. We can choose to be compassionate with ourselves regardless.
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We can choose to open our hearts to even our closed hearts or to find a deeper acceptance, even if the ego isn't accepting. I could talk about essence and ego. So if the ego is saying no to something, just noticing that there's a larger awareness that already accepts and allows.
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And the more we tune into that, open the aperture of that larger perspective, there's a peace that's always here underneath the thoughts of resistance or againstness, and it softens us. Imagine having a fulfilling career, doing what you love, working from anywhere in the world, setting your own hours while making good money, and a big impact.
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So let's dive into it. I'm so happy that you're here, Jim, and it's so beautiful to connect with you. And I wanted just to dive right in. I know that you've talked about that you can be in the right place at the right time and it doesn't feel like that. And I think a lot of people feel disoriented in their life. What did you mean by that?
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And this is really about creating lasting transformation from the inside out so that you can share your gifts and serve the world in all the ways that you're called to. And I've seen firsthand the power of what happens when you have the community to collaborate with, but you also have the right tools and resources to really thrive.
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The Truth About Women’s Hormones: What Doctors Aren’t Telling You - Dr. Sarah Daccarett | EP 75
And so I'm curious just to hear your opinion, why there's a lack of research and understanding about women's health and how that actually affects the care that we get in the long term.
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It's like 80% more are women. Yeah.
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The Truth About Women’s Hormones: What Doctors Aren’t Telling You - Dr. Sarah Daccarett | EP 75
So what I keep hearing you're sharing is like, get your hormones in balance and it will support. And I also know when you test your hormones, it takes a minute to get those back, right? So what are some of the practical things that women can do to check how their hormones are doing and yeah, just get feedback.
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Oh, normal.
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The Truth About Women’s Hormones: What Doctors Aren’t Telling You - Dr. Sarah Daccarett | EP 75
And I love that you are empowering clients to know their body and their truth. Cause I've been to doctors, Western medicine, where it's like your thyroid, you're fine. I'm like, I'm telling you, I'm not fine. They're like, no, you're fine. I'm like, no, no, I, you're not listening to me. So I found a new doctor, but it's good.
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It feels empowering to know that there's different measurements for men and women and to trust your body and to know that you have alternative options to test things, to find out what actually is true and how to help yourself.
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That's right. Thank you for listening to your patients and empowering people because yes, because sometimes people abdicate their authority and they give it to the expert, the doctor. It's like, no, this is your body. You're more in touch than anyone else. I also want to talk about perimenopause and menopause because I consider myself an incredibly healthy person.
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I have no idea the symptoms or when I am going to be approaching perimenopause or when I'm in menopause. Talk to us a little bit about this so we're on the same page and more informed.
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Oh, okay.
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But that'd be great if you could prevent wrinkles and hair loss and weight gain. And slow down that process. So what I hear you saying is that by using natural hormones can help make that transition smoother.
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Yeah. And it's good for us to know that so that when we're hearing different research and studies, we can actually apply, does that actually true for me? Is this, does this feel right for my body? Right. So that, you know, I heard somewhere, I don't know if this is accurate that men's hormones are within a 24 hour window and women's are more through the month. Is that accurate?
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The Truth About Women’s Hormones: What Doctors Aren’t Telling You - Dr. Sarah Daccarett | EP 75
I did not think you were going there. I had no idea that that was even a possibility. That's exciting though. That's exciting. Yes.
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The Truth About Women’s Hormones: What Doctors Aren’t Telling You - Dr. Sarah Daccarett | EP 75
Wow. I just wasn't expecting that. I love that, that you went there. Okay. That's good. And yes, I want to feel vibrant and healthy as long as I am alive. And so why not look into different options and find, I guess, testing what is the right dose for you and where are you low and high and probably continuously checking in on that to monitor it, I imagine, right?
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The Truth About Women’s Hormones: What Doctors Aren’t Telling You - Dr. Sarah Daccarett | EP 75
I'm laughing because I took a testosterone at one point and I broke out like a teenager and I was so agitated and so turned on. I was like, my husband's like, thank you. What? I'm confused.
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I was like, too much for me.
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Yeah. I felt so much compassion for teenage boys. I was like, wow. Okay. It was a humbling experience.
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Yeah. And I think it's good that you just keep inviting people to listen to their body and test different things out. And I know that we were talking about sexuality and that obviously hormones can affect our libido and our sexual health and that sexual shame can also be a big part of our culture, especially for women. And so in terms of
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The Truth About Women’s Hormones: What Doctors Aren’t Telling You - Dr. Sarah Daccarett | EP 75
your work with women, what have you seen support their healing journey physically, emotionally around sexuality?
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Yeah, it sounds like there's a huge opportunity.
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I'm going to talk to you today.
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I'm going to show you how to do it.
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Thank you. Thank you for watching.
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The Truth About Women’s Hormones: What Doctors Aren’t Telling You - Dr. Sarah Daccarett | EP 75
It's crazy. It feels like that would be the foundation to get started on hormone research. Yeah. And I know that doctors oftentimes will prescribe birth control for various types of reasons without really talking about the long term implications of what that does to your hormones. I mean, I got put on birth control because I had cramps at 13, and there's a lot that that does.
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The Truth About Women’s Hormones: What Doctors Aren’t Telling You - Dr. Sarah Daccarett | EP 75
I'm just curious to hear why you think this is so common. And then what are some of the hidden risks for us doing that?
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The Truth About Women’s Hormones: What Doctors Aren’t Telling You - Dr. Sarah Daccarett | EP 75
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And it makes sense. Anything that's natural, there's an intelligence in nature. And so when we're just pushing it down so we can skip a period or to help our acne, like you're saying, there's other options for people. I know that there's so much infertility.
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Talk to us about infertility and why you think there's so much going on right now or what the current research says about it.
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Yeah, I'd love to hear.
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How do we support our hormones?
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The Truth About Women’s Hormones: What Doctors Aren’t Telling You - Dr. Sarah Daccarett | EP 75
Yeah. So it sounds like, cause I imagine there's lifestyle things that people can do. Maybe you can share some. I also imagine there's some herbs, but I also know for other people that might need more support. Can you kind of list off a few practical things that people just so that they can see their options?
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The Truth About Women’s Hormones: What Doctors Aren’t Telling You - Dr. Sarah Daccarett | EP 75
The only difference is... Welcome back to the Healing and Human Potential podcast, where today we're going to talk about how birth control might be affecting your bodies in ways that you're not even expecting. We're joined by Dr. Sarah Dacorette to dive into all of these topics.
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The Truth About Women’s Hormones: What Doctors Aren’t Telling You - Dr. Sarah Daccarett | EP 75
Yeah, and it's good just to see what our options are so that we can think about and just test things. What actually works for me? Why not try the different things and maybe start with some mindfulness or having less stress and seeing how the body can find its own homeostasis.
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The Truth About Women’s Hormones: What Doctors Aren’t Telling You - Dr. Sarah Daccarett | EP 75
I still need to do everything else. And you get to. You get to do it because life is so much better when we are more centered and healthier and happier. And that's so much of what this podcast is about. And so we won't go too much into that, but I'm such a fan of that as being the foundation because everything else is better when we are healthier and vibrant from the inside out.
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The Truth About Women’s Hormones: What Doctors Aren’t Telling You - Dr. Sarah Daccarett | EP 75
And so if you're ready to understand your hormones, connect with your body and take actionable steps towards living a more vibrant, healthy life, this episode is for you. Amazing. I'm so happy that you're here. And I'm just going to like drive right in because there's so many questions I want to ask you. I'm curious because I know hormone health can be like a mystery for a lot of women.
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The Truth About Women’s Hormones: What Doctors Aren’t Telling You - Dr. Sarah Daccarett | EP 75
Imagine having a fulfilling career, doing what you love, working from anywhere in the world, setting your own hours while making good money and a big impact. If that lights you up, then I'm super excited to share with you today's sponsor, the Institute for Coaching Mastery.
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This is my robust, accredited, year-long certification program for newer seasoned coaches, therapists, leaders, and those just looking to up-level their life in a profound way.
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The Truth About Women’s Hormones: What Doctors Aren’t Telling You - Dr. Sarah Daccarett | EP 75
we have an amazing community of students from all around the world who have really started their journey to expand with us both personally and professionally and this experience is designed to give you the three things that you need to thrive so first you have all of the tools and support you need to move past what's been holding you back so that you can completely change the trajectory of your life
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The Truth About Women’s Hormones: What Doctors Aren’t Telling You - Dr. Sarah Daccarett | EP 75
And then you learn how to masterfully and confidently facilitate transformation with your clients or your team, regardless of your niche. If you want to do health, business, relationship, or you just have no idea yet, we hold your hand through that. And then lastly, you'll receive my six figure and beyond signature roadmap that's customizable to meet you wherever you are.
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The Truth About Women’s Hormones: What Doctors Aren’t Telling You - Dr. Sarah Daccarett | EP 75
So whether you want to do high ticket sales, online marketing, or you just want to hit six figures without ever needing to go on social media, we've got you covered. And this truly is the most rewarding work in the world. We have new students now who have a wait list of dream clients in under a year. We also have seasoned students who are doing $80,000 months.
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The Truth About Women’s Hormones: What Doctors Aren’t Telling You - Dr. Sarah Daccarett | EP 75
And this is really about creating lasting transformation from the inside out so that you can share your gifts and serve the world in all the ways that you're called to. And I've seen firsthand the power of what happens when you have the community to collaborate with, but you also have the right tools and resources to really thrive.
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Let's talk about progesterone a little bit, because I know this also plays a crucial role in our health and it's oftentimes overlooked. What is the connection between progesterone and various health concerns? And then how do we even know when our progesterone is low?
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The Most Powerful 10 Min Meditation: Who Am I? | EP 83
Welcome back to the Healing and Human Potential podcast. This is a special episode where I'm going to guide you on an embodied inquiry into the truth of who you really are. And so rather than giving you more concepts, this is an invitation to discover for yourself what remains when you question all your identities. It's a meditation inspired by Dorothy Hunt, and let's dive into it now.
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And I'll be asking you a series of questions that you're just invited to answer for yourself based on the experience that you're having right now without going to memory to find the answer. And so based on your present experience right now, how many toes do you have?
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without relying on an image of the past to tell you just tuning into your direct experience in this moment, find out if you don't go to memory to tell you what's your address. Explore what's here and now to discover the answer fresh in this moment. Without going to the mind to tell you where were you born? Without referencing a past image to show you an answer, what shape are you?
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The Most Powerful 10 Min Meditation: Who Am I? | EP 83
Do you have a shape without memory? We can find any shape from memory, but is it available to you right now based on your present experience? Beyond the pattern of the mind projecting a past or anticipating a future just here now, what job do you have? Without memory, what color is your skin? What color are your eyes?
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The Most Powerful 10 Min Meditation: Who Am I? | EP 83
So go ahead and find a comfortable position, gently letting your eyelids fall shot, taking a nice slow, deep breath in through your nose, holding on the inhale, just sipping a little bit more breath in and releasing any tension or worries.
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The Most Powerful 10 Min Meditation: Who Am I? | EP 83
All these ways that we've defined ourselves without the benefit of a past, are they here now? If you don't go to a memory to tell you what's your name? Do you have a name? Based on your direct experience right now, how old are you? When all these things aren't here because of not going to memory to tell you, what's your actual experience? Who are you? What are you?
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The Most Powerful 10 Min Meditation: Who Am I? | EP 83
the answer won't come in thought so instead of looking for an answer in the mind just discover what's here behind the thoughts or in between the thoughts All images, ideas, and judgments of who you are are only passing stories that come and go. But what do they come and go within? They're not actually here when you're not thinking them into existence.
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The Most Powerful 10 Min Meditation: Who Am I? | EP 83
So who are you when you're not referring to a thought to tell you what's piercing through your eyes right now, even with them closed, notice what's noticing. Without labels telling you who you are with a name, an occupation, an address, a shape, or even gender. Without any of these ways we've identified ourselves, what's still here? Deeper than all of those.
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The Most Powerful 10 Min Meditation: Who Am I? | EP 83
When all those fall away, what still remains? What's still present underneath all of them? none of us have the experience of completely disappearing something's still here this felt sense of i am not i am joe or i am sarah just i am Now drop the eye and drop the am. Be here as what you truly are. This awake, vast, spacious awareness.
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The Most Powerful 10 Min Meditation: Who Am I? | EP 83
taking another slow, deep breath in through the nose, holding on the inhale and releasing, letting go and just become more present to the sensations that are still holding on in your body right now. Maybe there's some tension in your brow, your belly, And just releasing it, letting yourself really be held by the chair that supports you, the bed, wherever you are.
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The Most Powerful 10 Min Meditation: Who Am I? | EP 83
There's nothing you need to do to be more of what you already are. Just notice this peace and freedom underneath all the thoughts and identities. Perhaps you've felt even briefly what it's like to simply be this open space of awareness.
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The Most Powerful 10 Min Meditation: Who Am I? | EP 83
And in a few moments, I'm going to invite you to very gently and slowly begin to open your eyes, to take in the images of the world around you from this same vast presence. So often when we open our eyes, we start labeling things from our past conditioning. But whether the mind is active or not, there's a deeper spacious awareness that's always available beneath the surface of thought.
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The Most Powerful 10 Min Meditation: Who Am I? | EP 83
So go ahead and gently open your eyes from this place. Letting in the sounds and the sights of the environment around you. And just begin to feel into your own experience how it's possible to be here even when thought and memory return.
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The Most Powerful 10 Min Meditation: Who Am I? | EP 83
And bringing your attention more fully present to this moment, just leaning into what's actually here now, outside your mind, in your body. Just feeling the aliveness that's pulsating through your hands and your feet, letting it expand in your awareness and just letting go, resting more fully in this moment.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
Welcome to this special edition of the Healing and Human Potential podcast. So one of the main intentions I have for doing this podcast is to share some really practical tools that will help you more easily navigate your life. And having coached thousands of people over the years, I see a lot of people doing the work but not really getting free.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
But you might not have noticed that trying to get rid of unwanted feelings doesn't actually work. It kind of traps us. And there's nothing wrong with chasing desires and avoiding fears, but it causes suffering. So I want to make sure you have a different orientation to life if you choose to try it on.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
And just breathing into it as pure energy in the body directly in this moment. Just ask yourself, can I be with this energy just for right now? Allowing whatever's happening in this moment to happen. Giving an infinite space to be here exactly as it is. Full permission, breathing in and letting go.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
And if resistance comes up in any form, maybe thinking, just meet that with acceptance, fully allowing that too. You can ask yourself, can I make space for resistance to be here just for this moment? Notice that resistance is already allowed, even if you can't. Just relaxing back, noticing this awareness that unconditionally allows all of it to be here exactly as it is.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
And if at any point it feels overwhelming, just come back to the nourishment, breathing into what's alive in the body as pure energy. And when you're ready, you can go back to the contracted or avoided feeling, bite-sizing it to digestible ways of being with it. Just breathing in and letting go. Noticing this open, loving presence that already allows it to be here.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
You are this open, loving presence that receives and allows all of it to be here without any agenda, any expectation. Allow yourself to embody and be that. Breathing, receiving, allowing, letting go.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
Because what I've discovered is ironically, the last place that we would be willing or wanting to go holds the key to our freedom. I call this the paradox of transformation because the very thing we've been avoiding is actually the doorway to what we deeply desire. when we're courageous enough to face the things that we've been afraid of, we free ourselves from the power that it's had over us.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
you might feel called to stay here a little longer you could be feeling a deep sense of peace or you may want to allow this energy to become a new blueprint in yourselves in your body but you'll know when the energy has been integrated since it will move on and you'll feel lighter and more present
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
But if you've been resisting and pushing down energy your entire life, it might feel like it's getting worse for a moment. But know that it's just thawing out. Or if you don't feel lighter, then it might be feedback that you were in your mind thinking about it versus allowing that. And it's totally okay. Be gentle with yourself.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
This is a practice that you're invited to do regularly, especially when hard emotions come up. This is a guide for you. There can be layers to this work, so just stay curious. Notice your heart that is already and always open. And make sure to nourish yourself. Do something that fills you. So you can call a friend. You can go on a walk. Anything that you know that fills your cup.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
This work only works when you balance bringing light to some of the heavier energy. So nourishment is incredibly important. And I just want to honor you for prioritizing yourself in this time to get free. May you move with softness and compassion for yourself, knowing that this is always a choice. May you trust the unfolding of your journey and may you know that you are freer than you think.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
So it's kind of the game of opposites. Let me ground this for you. So if you wanna feel confident, it's through embracing insecurity. If you wanna feel worthy, it's through embracing unworthiness. If you wanna feel free, it's through embracing feeling stuck. And if you wanna feel connected, it's through embracing loneliness.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
So again, the game of opposites, what you've been avoiding is the doorway to what you deeply desire. And so in this way, the energy that we've been avoiding as it's welcomed and integrated into our nervous system, it's no longer driving the car unconsciously in our lives, making decisions for our businesses and for the rest of our life.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
And I love this framework from my meditation teacher, Adyashanti. He talks about freedom to versus freedom from. So freedom from is really escapism. So it's like, I need this thing to get out of my life so that I'm free versus freedom to is real freedom. It's being free enough to meet all of life.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
And so I want to give you an advanced tool and training here that can help you resolve the thing you've actually been struggling with your entire life. So here in this episode, I'll teach you briefly what somatic work is. And for those that don't know, my clinical degree was as a licensed somatic psychotherapist.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
It's saying yes to whatever arises in the moment, knowing that I'm free enough to navigate my human experience, all the thoughts, all the feelings, all the sensations. And so we can either try to manage and control things outside of ourselves so that we don't feel certain things, but then we feel anxious because we can't control what's outside of us.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
Or a more empowering way to live is to stretch the capacity to be with the range of our human experience and learn the art of letting sensations move through the body. And when we do it this way, it frees up all the energy that we were using to control and avoid, and it opens us to new levels of vitality, creativity, and aliveness.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
then we don't have to try to manipulate our lives to avoid feeling certain things because we now know we're free and that we can handle whatever sensation arises in the moment. And so what if instead of running away from something, you turn towards it? What if instead of trying to escape it, you discover the freedom of being with it?
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
Real transformation comes by meeting life fully exactly as it is. And then no matter what's happening, we can access a deeper peace that doesn't come and go, right? It's always available underneath the fearful thoughts and the fearful feelings. As we meet them with acceptance, it parts the clouds so we can experience that peace that's underneath it.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
Plus, it's just a lot more intelligent to do because I don't know if you've noticed, but what we avoid, we actually create. Let me ground this for a moment. So let's take relationships. Let's imagine that there's somebody that is afraid of abandonment. And so they become really clingy. And then their partner feels smothered by their clingy behavior and their partner starts to pull away.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
That creates the very abandonment that the person was trying to avoid in the first place. I'll share another example of what you avoid you create, but in a sales context. So let's say somebody is avoiding pitching to work with them because they're afraid of rejection. And so they end up hinting at their offer because they don't want to feel pushy.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
And instead of confidently presenting their work, their potential client senses the hesitation and lack of confidence. And so that potential client is unsure about the value of the offer. And that leads them to say no, creating the very rejection that person was trying to avoid. Can you see that?
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
So to be clear, the goal of this work is to allow energy to move through the body versus what most people try to do is they either avoid it or indulge it. And they avoid it by thinking about it or talking about it versus feeling it. But the body knows how to take care of itself. It knows how to move energy through if we don't interrupt it with our mental activity. We just allow it to flow through.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
So even if you know somatic work, what I'll be sharing with you is part of my body of work. So it'll probably be new for you. I'll share one of the deepest ways that I've discovered using this work that I also teach in my certification program so that my coaches know how to powerfully facilitate it since it's that transformative.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
Or they indulge in it thinking that deeper is better. They start ruminating in it and it creates this like spin cycle, not becoming aware of what the thoughts were that were creating the contraction in the body in the first place. And neuroscientists have found that it only takes 90 seconds to feel an emotion in the body before it moves through.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
And so that means if you're feeling something longer than that, you're not allowing it to be in your body as pure sensation. And so that's the key to feel the emotion as a sensation, not looping in the story. And so as we open to and allow this old stuck energy, it starts to integrate into our nervous system. We feel more present. We feel lighter. We feel more free.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
And then that's how you know it's working. And you can think of this like a teapot that's boiling. You want to open the top to let some of this steam out so it's not overflowing and feeling overwhelming, right? Just bite-size opening to the sensation that you've been avoiding versus feeling really overwhelmed by trying to go for it all at once.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
And then over time, you'll be letting out the pressure and that tea kettle starts to settle. And so when life triggers you, you're just working with the present moment experience versus projecting all the repressed energy that you've projected from the past onto the present moment in addition. And so this is a practice. You want to be gentle with yourself.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
And I'm going to guide us on an experience in a moment, but I want to invite you to have a new relationship with the energy that's coming up so that you feel more empowered and whole as a result. And again, the work is not about controlling life so that we never feel uncomfortable. It's about developing the capacity to meet the discomfort without letting it run our lives.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
And this is the power of somatic work. It's not about fixing, it's about feeling. And when we do, we free up all that energy that was spent avoiding and we redirect it towards creating something that feels much more aligned and expansive. And so just to give you some context about somatic work, it's also known as embodiment work. So soma means body.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
I find that somatic work is really helpful for almost everyone, but especially for intellectual people because they have overdeveloped minds, as well as those who have been doing personal development work for a long time. Maybe they know all about their past, but they're still feeling stuck.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
And so I find somatic work is like this backdoor that bypasses the intellect and it helps integrate this energy and you don't feel as stuck in the past. But I also find it's great for people who are anxious, fearful, and stressed since those are all activated by stories we create in the mind about the future.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
And so it helps you break the habit of consistently thinking by bringing your awareness into your body, right? And that's the power of this work. So you don't need to know this story that helps you integrate this old stuck energy. So even as you're listening to this right now, just take a deep breath into your heart space, feel your feet, feel your hands.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
I'm giving you a taste of it here, but I need to set you up with how to use it in a safe and productive way so that it really supports you in navigating the winds of life, learning how to surf the waves versus getting tumbled by it. And then I'm actually going to take you through a guided somatic process that will change your life if you do it regularly.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
So you're starting to bring your attention down into your body and really started tuning to what's actually here beyond the mind. And to set us up for the process I'm about to lead us through, I recommend working with a feeling or a sensation that's a five to eight out of 10 in terms of intensity level so that you can really save the big stuff for trained professional.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
And so you always want to make sure that you're resourced, meaning you have some level of nourishment and safety before doing an advanced tool like this. And so I'll guide us through that in a moment, but I want to make it really clear. Sometimes with somatic work, it can activate trauma.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
And so if you have big T trauma, whether it's diagnosed or not, meaning you can't hold the present moment with love, with presence, you always want to take care of yourself and work with a trained specialist versus doing a process like this that I'm about to lead you through. So you want to work with somebody who can hold and help you integrate that big stuff.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
You get to have that and there is support for you. And just to be clear, this isn't meant to replace working with a trained professional. And so as you go through the process I'm about to take you through, resistance might come up. That's totally normal. Welcome it. Create safety for it. There is wisdom in all of it.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
And if you're not judging it, you're not resisting resistance, which just adds another layer of resistance, you'll start to hear that wisdom. And so my invitation for you is to be like water. The goal isn't to get rid of resistance. The goal is to welcome and be with all of it. Resistance isn't bad. It's just trying to protect you.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
And so give resistance infinite space to be here exactly as it is, breathing into it and notice what happens. I'll share a quick story. So I had a client who I was working with and she wanted to hide from some of the challenges that were coming up in her life. And she really judged herself for that. I had a blanket nearby, so I supported her resistance rather than judging it.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
And I gave her the blanket to hide behind. I told her it was really okay to just take as much time as she needed. And she looked a little confused, but she trusted me. And so she tried it and she just wept. She hid under this blanket. I told her to stay there as long as she needed to. And then ironically, it was only two minutes later and she was like, I feel ready to come out now.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
And this was because the energy was seen and accepted and so it moved on. And so she could see this energy just needed to be honored and allowed. And to the degree resistance or any other emotion doesn't feel received, it will defend both within us and with others. I'm going to say that again because I think it's really important.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
So to the degree that an emotion doesn't feel allowed, it will defend inside of ourselves and in others. The principles apply the same way. And so when we learn how to work with resistance, everything changes. But I don't want to just talk about it and I don't want you to believe me. Just be willing to test it and find out for yourself.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
So I'm going to guide us through a process somatically so you can work with any block that may be coming up in your life or any stuck energy you feel in your body if you don't know the story about it. Again, we're just kind of clearing out this dam, this reservoir of old energy so that it starts emptying out. You feel lighter, more present, and more free.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
It'll help you release physical and emotional tension in your body and access more peace and freedom in your life. And so I encourage you to listen to the guided part of this process for 30 days and notice how powerfully your life shifts.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
And so if you're in a safe place to do so find a comfortable position, sitting or lying down, gently close your eyes, allowing yourself to really arrive in this moment, feeling the weight of your body resting, noticing your breath naturally moving in and out. There is nowhere to be nothing to do. Just be here in this moment. This is your time. This is space to soften and to meet yourself fully.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
Just allow your mind to sink into your heart. Taking a nice, slow, deep breath in through your nose. And gently exhale longer than the inhalation, relaxing your belly, your shoulders, your brow. And breathing in and out naturally. I want to invite you to bring your attention into your inner body. Just feeling the sensations running through your hands and your feet in this moment.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
Noticing this percolating alive energy that starts to magnetize as you pay attention to it and notice in your direct experience right now, what feels peaceful? Where in your body do you notice a sense of safety or nourishment? Maybe you feel a sense of warmth around your heart or you feel supported and held by the chair or the ground.
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And once you find that, take a moment to appreciate that sensation, allowing it to expand in your awareness, knowing that this is a resource for you that you can come back to any time you want. And if it's hard for you to find something nourishing, you can think of someone that you love. This could be a friend, a partner, a four legged friend,
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
I also want to encourage you to share this episode with a friend so that you hold each other accountable to using it as a daily practice, since one of the best ways to create change and to be consistent is in community. So whether we're conscious of it or not, we're often moving away from what we fear and chasing what we believe is going to make us happy, accepted, worthy, and loved.
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And just bring them to mind and feel your care for them. Notice what that feels like in your body to care for them. And as you place your awareness there, it will expand. And when you're ready, find a feeling that you've been avoiding or find a contraction in your body right now. Once you've identified it, just notice where it lives in your body.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
You might want to place your hand there to help you hold presence with it. And for a moment, let's stop trying to get rid of this feeling or imagining our life without it. Let's stop pushing it out. That's never really worked anyway. And together, let's discover what happens in this moment when we change our relationship with it.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
Notice what happens when you silently say this to this energy in your body right now, repeating after me. I'm sorry that I've judged you. I didn't know how to be with you before. but I'm learning to open to you now. Thank you for teaching me how to keep my heart open regardless. You can stay here as long as you want. Just breathing in, opening, allowing.
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The Most Powerful Somatic Tool + Guided Process | EP 78
So now let's drop in to get even more intimate with the sensation, letting go of the story, bringing curiosity and openness. Notice what size this energy is. Is that the size of a grapefruit or a soccer ball? Just notice. Is it inside of your body or does it also move outside? This breathing into it with curiosity. Notice if it has a color. See if it's dense or transparent.
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Secrets for More Energy and Less Stress - with Lee Holden | EP 74
Yeah. And as people are listening, just also notice for me, when you were guiding us through that, I listened from my heart and I think that's great, but I also want to develop some of my range so that I can have that mastery in each of the centers. And like you're saying that integration, I think is the most important part.
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Secrets for More Energy and Less Stress - with Lee Holden | EP 74
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Secrets for More Energy and Less Stress - with Lee Holden | EP 74
I know with the Datien, so it's interesting because I was doing a little research for our conversation and I love the point between the eyebrows and I found out that's the upper Datien and there's a mid and then there's a lower. And I only knew about the lower Datien.
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And it's interesting because that in somatic work and healing work, oftentimes we hold the deepest core wounds in our belly and it's really connected to identity, to survival, to existence. And so I'm just curious if in your work with acupuncture and this Qigong and all of this, it's like, have you noticed some of these centers activate more healing for people emotionally?
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And I want to kind of dive into what I know people are really wanting, which is more energy. They want to feel more alive. And with most of us in our modern day life, a lot of us can feel stressed out or have this endless to-do list. And so leading busy lives, it can lead to burnout. But I remember when I was getting my second master's degrees was in somatic psychotherapy.
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Yeah, and I often find that when people are overthinking, which most of our society is so overdeveloped in the mind, we didn't learn in school how to feel our feelings and navigate some of our inner world. And so, but when we're caught in overthinking, not only does it create stress, but it's oftentimes an avoidance strategy not to feel.
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And so part of the work is to learn how to feel and then move it through the body as well. Like we want all of it in systems. And so if we're not prioritizing slowing down and we have a lot of stress that gets built up and the body shows it right. Like, tension in the shoulders or the jar, there's burnout and fatigue. And I know that somatic practices can be really helpful.
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And it's also very popular nowadays, somatic work to move through that energy. And you do a lot of different ones. I also read specifically you do vagal breathing and primal shaking. Are there some practices that you could lead us through or show us quickly to just help us kind of release some of the tension that we can hold on a more somatic way? Or-
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Secrets for More Energy and Less Stress - with Lee Holden | EP 74
And my professor said something that just stopped me in my tracks. She said, if you want to go faster, slow down. And I know you're big. This is you. This is what you are about. I know you are big about the power of slowing down and how by slowing down, we can actually be more productive. And I think people want to believe this, but I would love for you to share more.
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We got it behind the scenes here.
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I want to pause that real quick because it's also really empowering to realize that. And some of us may get that mentally, but I really want to just invite people to let that land. It's like the thing you want, there's a deeper feeling that you're wanting.
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And before you go looking for that thing to give it to you, question, do I not already have access to what I think it will give me, to what I think I will feel when I get it? Because then we become a victim to the goal versus waking up out of that paradigm and realizing, okay, Oh, I want the partner. So I feel loved. Okay.
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Can I be absolutely certain that love isn't already here and then access and source that love now or the freedom, whatever it may be that you're looking for. So just conscious goals, which is some of the work that I do is like awaken to it here and now, and then still create and move forward to honor buying a fun car.
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If that feels true for you or going for the job or whatever it may be, but from your power.
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So talk to us about how this can actually be true in our lives.
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Yeah. Before we go into the practice, because I think this is another important part that I just had this realization where the techniques and the tools are so empowering and so helpful and beautiful. And, but where we're coming from when we use them is even more important.
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So am I using this to get rid of something or am I using this to just embrace what's actually here because that's what love does. And it feels so much more true and aligned when I welcome all of it. Am I trying to use a technique or a tool because I think I'm broken and I need fixing?
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Or is this just because this feels true and I feel more present and alive and I'm not trying to run away from life? So I think where we come from, the intention is really important and the tools are extremely powerful. So where we come from and yes, and.
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Yeah. Yeah.
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Yeah. Yeah. And I love that you kind of started this out with like, there's gifts of both, you know, having a surgery, Western medicine's great at things like that, but there's some of this preventative stuff, some of the ancient practices and traditions had it right.
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And so finding the gifts within both of it and feeling empowered to know and check in with our bodies, what feels right and what's actually helpful and Thank you. Thank you.
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Thank you.
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Yeah, and I think about it from, if I'm creating the pattern of frantic doing, then I'm just further creating that pattern. Even if I hit the goal, then I have this more deeply ingrained and I'm not as happy. And I think there's also research that shares around you have less dopamine when you're multitasking.
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It makes sense. I mean, yeah.
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I mean, it makes so much sense. I mean, people don't talk about sexuality being such a somatic practice and that can be with yourself or another, but just, and I'm hearing the more like karma sutra, like different body positions to support the energy centers opening. Is that accurate?
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Yeah. And that intention, just going back to that is the most important thing. Am I using this to avoid or just to fully open to and allow? And yeah, you'll get a different experience from it. I'm curious in your work, whatever you've seen are some of the biggest challenges people have to integrating physically, mentally, and emotionally. What are the things that block people?
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I don't know if that's true, but share with us some of the research, because I do think people are like, I want to believe this, but Leigh, tell me more. Where are we at in terms of proving this?
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That's beautiful. That's beautiful. That's poetry. All right.
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And I'm curiously just in closing, like if you really want people, cause I know you have this new book that just launched. We'll talk about it in a moment, but if you really want people to walk away with something and that you really want them to know and embody and experience that, what would that be?
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That's right.
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I really hear that you're mastering energy to work in harmony. And so you're not pushing uphill, but you're just surrendering and feeling that aliveness and that vitality through this work, through Qigong, through the acupuncture, all of it, just to come into balance and harmony with what's naturally wanting to happen. So beautiful. Talk to us about your book. Congratulations.
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I know it just came out. Tell us all about it. Where do we get it?
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I love it.
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We need more messages like this to counter some of the unconscious conditioning that we've inherited. And so thank you for the work that you're doing. We will put links in the show notes so people can get the book, dive in. What a gift you are in the world. Thank you so much, Lee.
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I love that.
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You can also hear more of those intuitive downloads, that wisdom that comes through when you're fully focused and present and you hold it lightly and then it may guide you in a direction that you didn't think to go instead of just grinding from more of like bottom of the mountain versus top of the mountain.
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And it's healthier for us. And so I think a lot of us want it, but then we're, and I can hear people saying inside myself, like, well, I won't be as productive. So you're saying slow productivity. Tell me more about that concept. I'm curious.
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And I think some of that industrial revolution, like the bigger, faster, better, bigger, more, that kind of thinking can go, if it's not unchecked, can lead us in a way that not only is it not healthy for us, but then it's unconscious. And so I think in the creation process of honoring whatever's true and alive in our hearts to say yes to and...
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and step into in our lives, letting that life force energy move through us in whatever form is our art, whether it be, you know, as a practitioner, as an art, like an artist, a dancer, even making sushi or surfing, like letting that aliveness, that chi, that energy move through is so powerful. I think that's part of the experience that we're also craving because it's healthy.
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It supports our nervous system. But what we create from that level of consciousness, from that vitality is so much different than from the grind.
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And so, yeah, just again, so much more nourishing and, you know, from kind of Chinese medicine. So one of my, my meditation teachers kind of woke up out of Zen and, um, taught me about some energy centers, the head, heart, and gut. And I thought it'd be fun to do an experiment even just while listening right now.
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So like, as people are listening, just notice what it's like to listen from the head and just take in and notice what that's like. For me, I feel some pressure in my temples and most of us are very top heavy in our world. I talk a little faster from the head versus like kind of dropping down into the heart and And just putting all of your awareness as you're listening in the heart.
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And for me, there's some warmth there. There's like the breath goes a little bit deeper. I can feel I'm much more connected. And then dropping even deeper, feeling a sense of in the gut, like all the attention, just listening from the whole body, from the gut. And I feel a sense of my belly expands. I am fuller. It does feel a little bit uncomfortable, but also natural.
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And I feel like as I'm more embodied fully in my body, there's more access to intuition. And I'm curious, some of the work that you do, have you found a connection with people either for you or your clients when you're more in your body, how you're more tapped into your intuition?
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It's like the source of life force energy, right?
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two inches below your belly button, is that right?
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Welcome back to the Healing and Human Potential podcast, where today we're going to be taking you through somatic practices that you can use to cultivate more energy and ease in your life. This is actually an embodied practice. We're joined by Lee Holden, who is a Mindvalley speaker, an author, an acupuncturist, and a renowned Qigong master.
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to make decisions, to really feel our knowing. So even before we go there, as you're listening, just notice what it's like to be listening as Lee's talking or I'm talking from your gut, like from your .tien. Just take that in to see what that's like.
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The Hidden Power of Water: How to Use it to Heal in Unexpected Ways | EP 82
Amazing. I know that part of your work has really evolved and it sounds like you've taken some of like walking on the shoulders of others like Emoto and those who have done some of this. But what's been one of the most fascinating things that you've discovered in your work with water?
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And I wanted to give people a context to, I know you have a really powerful and fascinating story, how you got into this work with water and healing yourself. Can you share with us a little bit about how you got into this? Sure.
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I love that you honored and are a servant to water. And then rather than using what seemed logical, you were given another way that was more in alignment and honoring. This is a beautiful example of that. Thank you. Yeah. Imagine having a fulfilling career, doing what you love, working from anywhere in the world, setting your own hours while making good money and a big impact.
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And I want to hear more. Please say more.
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Wow.
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I'm just so blown away. And I love that you've stayed with one inquiry. What is water? Something so assumed. And you took such depth into it. And do you feel or have you heard in your research, because I know the observer effect, but it sounds like you're really studying the consciousness of water itself. And so it sounds like it's more than just we're not just influencing.
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It sounds like it has its own consciousness. Is that what you're saying? Yeah.
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I love that you're saying start with yourself with the healing and that influences the environment and also consciously putting ourselves in environments that are healing. Yes, 100%.
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Where my mind is going is that we're made up of water. Yeah. And this water is an intelligent force with consciousness. And so there's this – like you can call it telepathic or you can call it beyond whatever we've learned or known to measure that there's this intelligence with all of it. It's all one. It's all essentially back to water. Yeah.
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I think that we haven't even begun to discover the power that we have. And I love the curiosity that you bring and the scientific backing to bring to just hold diving in deeper and deeper and deeper. I think anything we have curiosity about, anything that we go so deep into, we find the same thing.
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And I'm wondering like some of the practical ways that we can use this because you've spoken to so many, but I'm wondering if you could share and kind of ground some of the practical ways through your research that we can start to shift our daily lives with water and be a bit more intentional to learn from your studies.
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Wow.
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It's like a freeze state. It's like a dysregulated nervous system. And when you're speaking of the belly, it's this safety. Because I watch when I facilitate someone, I watch if their belly is expanding because that is a signal of safety in their nervous system. So I can see how that also ties. Yeah.
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linen has a high hertz frequency and it keeps the water out of the light i love those there's simple little things you can do you know i love the practical yeah and i i feel like i can i just i'm so fascinated i just i'm listening to you and i'm just mesmerized by all of the research and the artistic expression of how you share and so many new things and
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And just in closing, I'm wondering if there's anything we haven't spoken about that feels like it is important to bring up in this conversation, maybe the work that you're excited about that you're moving towards or whatever you feel would actually really benefit people to hear.
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So beautiful. I know that my audience is going to want to stay connected, and I know you're going to dive into another book, right? Tell us how they stay connected.
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And we'll put all the information in the show notes below. It's really beautiful to see some of your research and the images on Instagram, so I do encourage people to check it out. Thank you so much for your openness, your curiosity, your commitment to staying with one thing so deeply and listening. You are such a gift, and I'm so grateful to have connected with you. Reflecting you right back.
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someone with depression or someone who wants to expand their joy i'm wondering if you could share in some of the practical ways that we can start to shift our daily lives with water there's a few things i'll share welcome back to the healing and human potential podcast where today we're exploring one of the most mysterious and life-giving forces on earth water.
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So what if water isn't just a passive substance, but an intelligent, responsive force that remembers reflects and even designs? What if it holds the key to understanding consciousness, emotions and the unseen. So joining us today is Veda Austin, who is a water researcher and author and a speaker whose groundbreaking work challenges everything we thought we knew about water.
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Yeah, I have so many questions. One, just on a practical level, with the water that you were using with your dad, I think that was part of the healing spring water. Is that right? And then with other people that you've tested, what was the, just on a practical level, what was the water that you guys were using? Was it the high alkaline water?
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Yeah, I mean, whatever you feel like would be most valuable for people to hear.
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The Hidden Power of Water: How to Use it to Heal in Unexpected Ways | EP 82
She'll be sharing her discoveries on how water interacts with consciousness, why it may be far more than just a passive element and how we can deepen our connection with it in our everyday lives. Let's get into it. There's so much I'm excited to dive in. I'm so grateful that you're here.