Marie
Appearances
Campus Files
The Hazing of George Desdunes
Don't come and sing that song to me, boys will be boys. I lost my child. Those kids, they get to go home. They get to be whoever they want to be. Well, my son wanted to be a doctor. He wanted to be a neurosurgeon. You just cut it up like that. And then what happened? Nothing. Nothing. And I have to take it like that? No. I lost my child. My one and only child. My good son. My beautiful son.
Campus Files
The Hazing of George Desdunes
And I remember he was five years old. One day he says to me, Mommy, will I ever have a father? I said, you had a father. Your father was big. Your father loved you very, very much.
Campus Files
The Hazing of George Desdunes
I have a big plaque for George. He did say hazing is the cause of death. And Cornell put it in the wall where all the students have to pass that wall to go sign up to become a brother or a sister to be part of the sorority. And they can read it. I want them to think because it's a crime. No parent should bury their children. Not when they are healthy.
Campus Files
The Hazing of George Desdunes
No parent should send their kids to college and not to have the police come and tell them something like that. Sometimes I walk on the street and I still hear the police voice in my head.
Campus Files
The Hazing of George Desdunes
He was the captain of the soccer team. Once George set his sights on a career, his dream school quickly became clear. Cornell was his choice from the beginning. When he got the letter from Cornell and he took it, went to his room, closed the door, and when he opened it, I just heard a scream. And I went and I said, what's going on? He said, I got accepted.
Campus Files
The Hazing of George Desdunes
What do brothers do for brothers? What do sisters do for sisters? We help each other. We talk.
Campus Files
The Hazing of George Desdunes
When it first happened, the humiliation that I went through, because everybody looking at me like, you know, oh, he was drinking, he was drinking. As a mom, I felt like I failed him. Maybe there is something I didn't tell him. Maybe there is something I forgot to say for him. But George did exactly everything he was supposed to do. He called the chaperone car to pick him up.
Campus Files
The Hazing of George Desdunes
And they decided that because they were planning a kidnapping to make their big brother happy. and my poor child become dead.
Campus Files
The Hazing of George Desdunes
The first person who called me, she called me from California. She said, Marie, I'm sorry for what you went through. If you want to talk, I'm here for you. I'm sorry you joined our club.
Campus Files
The Hazing of George Desdunes
And I still can hear his screams still today. He was so happy because that was the school he wanted to go to. And then when he find out they were going to give him all those scholarships, it was, to me, I was so happy.
Campus Files
The Hazing of George Desdunes
We spoke about drugs, we spoke about alcohol, we spoke about sex. I said to him, I know I'm not there, but please do not drink. Because when you drink, you drink to get drunk. I said, just be careful. And remember, because you have a goal, you cannot play with your life doing all those things.
Campus Files
The Hazing of George Desdunes
As for the fraternity, I didn't know anything about the fraternity. This is not something that came in my mind at all. This is that one conversation that I didn't have with him. And then I said, that's the only thing I didn't know anything. Because if I knew, I would ask questions. I would talk to him about it.
Campus Files
The Hazing of George Desdunes
He only told me about it after he did it, when he came home in December. And he says to me, I'm one of the brother now. And he explained to me, this is why he said, you see, I'm okay.
Campus Files
The Hazing of George Desdunes
We always talk every week. This is what was important. So he can call me anytime. I said, call me as you're going to your dorm or as you're going to school, to a class. This is the way he was. He never missed one Friday, except for that dreadful Friday.
Campus Files
The Hazing of George Desdunes
He was getting ready. He had two interviews because he had two internships coming. So he needed to prepare himself for the interview. He went to his girlfriend because she knows how to do interviews and he was practicing with her.
Campus Files
The Hazing of George Desdunes
I saw two police officers. I got a call from the police at Cornell to say that my son died in his sleep. And I said, no, that's not true. I spoke to him yesterday. He's fine. And they just said they couldn't look at me. And I think I fell on the floor and I was screaming. And then the next thing I know, they took me to the ER. And I still didn't know what happened.
Campus Files
The Hazing of George Desdunes
George, he was a child who wanted to learn everything. As a young age, he loves to read, love math and science.
The Ramsey Show
Go Slow: Never Invest in What You Don’t Understand
it's still in a negotiation we offered like 3 000 less than we had originally offered if they're not going to include the appliances but we're still waiting to hear back i think that since we're just at that five percent i think i'm just like nervous that your border your borderline i mean you're not you're not stroking a big check here you know i the other thing you could do is say uh i don't have to buy this house
The Ramsey Show
Go Slow: Never Invest in What You Don’t Understand
Hi, I'm doing good. Thank you guys for taking my call.
The Ramsey Show
Go Slow: Never Invest in What You Don’t Understand
So me and my husband just finished up Baby Step 3D, and we are buying our first home. So we just put in an offer for a house that we really like. It was very reasonably priced. We have about 5% down that you guys recommend for the first home. And in negotiations, the sellers weren't willing to give up their appliances because And so that was going to be an extra $3,000 cost.
The Ramsey Show
Go Slow: Never Invest in What You Don’t Understand
We have like the 5% down, a little bit extra for closing costs, and our emergency fund. And I'm not sure if that $3,000 should come from taking a little bit less down, our emergency fund, or if it's a sign that we're just not ready to buy a house yet.