Stephen Miller
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Savage Lovecast
Savage Lovecast Episode 938
Hey Dan, 38SysMail here. I got with my partner over a year ago and we dated for a little bit and I decided that she wasn't the one for me and I couldn't fully commit. So we kind of backed off and became friends. Um, we kept hanging out and we were like really good friends.
Savage Lovecast
Savage Lovecast Episode 938
And then, uh, we went to Burning Man together and started hooking up and one thing led to another and we were right back to where we were. Whereas like I needed to, you know, either commit to her or stop, you know, and it was a really hard situation for me, but I ended up on, Hey, what if we, you know, entered into a poly space and I could fully commit to that and like she could move in and,
Savage Lovecast
Savage Lovecast Episode 938
And that's what we did. We took a lot of time to make our relationship foundational and read all the books and podcasts. And we went on a handful of dates. And she has another partner that she sees every once in a while. And I kind of saw some people. But anyway, this summer there was a tragic accident and I accidentally left her dog in my car and he passed away. It's been absolutely brutal.
Savage Lovecast
Savage Lovecast Episode 938
I'm feeling emotions from grief and sadness and hurting her and then also guilt. My whole world's been turned upside down. Anyway, to say the least, she's really been struggling with it because I am the person that did it to her, but also the person that she cares for. She told me the other day that it feels like she's sleeping with the abuser and she's just not sure if she can get
Savage Lovecast
Savage Lovecast Episode 938
over it, which I understand. But I've also been like, let's move forward in this relationship and let's continue along the poly space that we've been in. But she's just not there anymore. And she just wants me to just fully commit to her and show up for her, which I could never do at the beginning of the relationship. That wasn't what we agreed to
Savage Lovecast
Savage Lovecast Episode 938
But I understand that she's going through a tough time right now. And I know I can't fully commit to her. It's a feeling I've had in past relationships. I guess I just have commitment issues or I just don't feel like she's the one that I can fully commit to. But she's an amazing partner. I love her and she loves me and we're best friends. But it's why the poly space just made so much sense.
Savage Lovecast
Savage Lovecast Episode 938
And we were really navigating it until this tragedy happened. And Anyways, I don't really know how to proceed or what to do or how to take it to give her the space and also hold my integrity to what I know I need as well. So I love your show. Any advice would be much appreciated.
Savage Lovecast
Savage Lovecast Episode 938
If you're stuck in a relationship quandary, or if you're looking for sexual harmony, well, there's nothing you can't ask on the Savage Lovecast.
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