Two Hot Takes host, Morgan, is joined by guest co-hosts Justin and Lauren! We are kicking off 2025 in a bit of a unusual way.. Lauren and Justin are taking over and reading most of these ones. These are all stories that have something shifting and a new journey starting. Whether it's leaving a bad relationship or fostering a child that needs help, the people in these stories are off to a fresh start. Can't wait to hear your thoughts on these ones! Submit your wishlist: https://forms.gle/GNqzTbPQ4gwQZ2U49 Please submit if you've been affected by the LA fires!! MERCH IS ON SALE HERE ! https://shop.twohottakes.com I can't wait to see you all in these, especially at our live shows!! Our PO Box!! Two Hot Takes. 5042 Wilshire BLVD. #470. Los Angeles, CA 90036 Our SubReddit to Submit YOUR Stories!!! https://reddit.app.link/twohottakes Full length Video episodes available on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/TwoHotTakes Partners: Smalls: http://smalls.comPromo Code: THT Lume: http://lumedeodorant.comPromo Code: THT VIIA:https://viiahemp.com/Promo Code: THT Rocket Money: http://rocketmoney.com/tht Index: 00:00 -- Start 3:51 -- Story 1 I need someone to please convince me [23f] to leave my boyfriend [25m] of 7 years. 34:55 -- Story 2 Should I tell my friend we have a kid together? 56:01 -- Story 3 I've been asked to foster my son's best friend, I don't know how to react. 01:21:46 -- Story 4 BF [31M] woke me [34F] up at 2am to make him dinner; i made him leave instead 01:36:34 Story 5 I [M35] am very unattractive and have made peace with being alone. My friends [FM30s] won't give up on trying to set me up with someone. What do I do? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Chapter 1: What is the episode's focus on new beginnings?
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Chapter 2: How can I support a friend in an abusive relationship?
Are you ready? I don't think so.
I'm not ready. Yeah. I have been super, super sick. I'm holding it together. But it's the new year and we got to come on strong.
Show must go on.
Is this the first episode of 2025? First episode of 2025. Scary. That's too much pressure. Well, and it's like I'm sick.
Might be the last. You never know.
Oh, God. It could be if I died. I don't know what would happen. Well, maybe I'd will it to you guys. We'll see. But I'm like, okay. Got to hit this year right from the jump. And I'm really excited about this episode. I've been working on it for a little bit. But because I am so sick, I had to call in the troops today. And so first episode of 2025 is going to be a little different than usual.
I'm going to read the first story and then the rest of them today are going to be bounced between Lauren and Justin, my amazing co-host over here. Okay.
I didn't know that was my cue. Mostly Justin because he has a very nice storytelling voice. Don't sell yourself short, Lauren.
I will give it my best. It's going to be really, really good. And, you know, new year, a lot of big changes for us and our lives. We are officially getting into wedding planning mode. Lauren's got some exciting new stuff happening in her life. People are going to be like, is she engaged? Is she pregnant?
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Chapter 3: What should I consider before fostering a child?
He'd rather accuse me of cheating on him than be in the wrong for this. Sounds like it matches the rest of him.
True fits.
Update three. Three days after the initial post. Mm-hmm. I was planning on any things this weekend, but we had another little argument while I was at work. It was basically about me being so distant. I told him that it's been weighing on me lately, all the names he's called me in the past and all of the mean stuff he's done to me. He literally said, quote, if you can't get over it, then leave me.
Okay. So I said, quote, Okay. Okay. And then I guess he didn't realize the okay meant like, yeah, we should break up. So he was like, quote, so what do you want? And I said, quote, we should break up. I've never threatened to break up with him, but he's always threatened to break up with me over small stuff. So I don't think he really took me seriously.
I left work early and continued to talk to him about it and said he could stay here until he found a place and that obviously I'm keeping our pet because I'm the one who had him and kept him before we even moved in together. He kept blaming and deflecting the whole time and it all kind of confirmed to me exactly why I'm breaking up with him. He even accused me of cheating.
He ended up leaving to go to his mom's house and then came back an hour later and then actually apologized and broke down. The whole time, even while apologizing, he's still shifting blame. He said, quote, you want someone perfect, but nobody is perfect. If I wanted perfect, I would have left you a long time ago. Take the power back. Which, ouch, laughing my ass off.
But he saw that as some type of compliment, apparently. He offered couples counseling. He begged for another chance. He said he had no idea how hurt I was. He didn't think I was serious before. He said if he would have known I was going to break up with him over it, he would have done it to begin with. Done what to begin with? Break up with her.
Oh, okay. He wants to be in control.
Yeah. I said that I offered couples counseling many times throughout our relationship when I felt at my lowest and broken down. And he would always tell me that couples counseling is a waste of time and he'd rather just break up. Oh my gosh, he... sucks. I said that I've always accused him of not taking me seriously throughout the relationship, and this whole breakup just confirms that for me.
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Chapter 4: How do I handle a breakup after a long relationship?
Like, do we build off each other? Do we have the same communication style? Do we have this, like... Do our defense mechanisms... like clash too much like what I don't I think that's actually a really good point because it's like yeah, no one's perfect. And then you're getting these narratives online back and forth where it's just like, you're not going to love every part of someone.
And then it's also like, you know, don't settle. And so it's confusing. And I think that it's a really good place to start to just be like, am I happy? What matters to me? And are we aligned? Because there's so many people in this world and there's so many different ways of viewing things and so many different truths like that people hold.
And so it's like if you're not matching with somebody, it doesn't have to be an abusive relationship for you to just be like, I'm not happy.
Yeah, I completely agree.
And relationships can change. You should check in over time just because it's really good right now or when you first meet because it's always really good right at the start. Check in every once in a while and ask yourself those questions again because, I mean, it can go downhill fast sometimes.
It can. And it can sneak up on you sometimes too without even realizing it. It's like they've been together seven years and she's grown and he hasn't. And I think there's so many little things that kind of like you said, Lauren, like you can ask yourself, like, are we matching up? Are our styles and this, this the same? Are we driven and, you know, working towards the same goals?
And you saw it in little things too, like a vacation or even dates. Together seven years. And he didn't plan one date. And she was putting in all of this effort for dates or vacations or whatever. And he would complain or find a reason to get upset. One of the reasons being there's pickles on my burger.
Either pick them off or if you're that averse to them, send it back to the kitchen and ask, hey, can, you know, I said no pickles. Can you please redo it? I have a phobia, whatever it is. Like, you're an adult. Grow the fuck up. Like, You have to take control of your life. And I'm so glad that the little holes were poked and she saw the light because look at what she did. In that amount of time.
In that amount of time. Yeah. 299 days. Yeah. That's not even a year. Yeah. Met an amazing guy, promotion, learned how to fly a fucking plane. In less than a year, her life did a complete 360. 180. 360 would be like she's back at the same place. Bad at math. Bad at... What the... I went like this too, didn't I? I'm like, that's only 180. My hand signal here. I look like I'm directing air traffic.
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Chapter 5: What are the benefits of open adoption?
What if it's really juicy, though? Like, what if it's like, you did what? I'm going to, like, whatever.
I love when people are working. I had a lawyer next to me reviewing contracts and stuff. And I was like, this is so fun. This is what it would be like to be a lawyer.
Sometimes you'll be with Morgan somewhere, restaurants or, yeah, restaurant. Let's use that example. You're sitting, you're having a romantic dinner, just...
having conversation all of a sudden morgan's eyes will kind of like glaze over and she'll just start looking at you kind of like she's listening and you ask a question and she's still kind of just nodding oh my god and then you if you get quiet you can realize she's eavesdropping on someone's conversation
That's what being in a relationship is, though. Oh, my God. Getting to the part where you're comfortable enough to go to eat and sit there and enjoy a nice meal and people watch. Yeah. Because there is nothing better than getting some juicy tea from strangers. That doesn't affect you.
Me and Brian, we sat down to dinner, and it was one of those tables where you, like, share a booth, you know? Yeah. And we're sitting right next to this couple or business work friends or, oh...
it's a sugar daddy it was so fun this is what i live for me and brian did literally not talk the entire dinner and we were just like eating and listening to their conversation this is my thing yes well see it's good to tune in you know once i realize she's tuned into something but before it just feels like what's happening here what are we doing
All right, here we go. Okay. Gotta keep the show moving.
Yeah, where's this next one coming from?
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Chapter 6: How can I help a child in need?
Yeah.
So let's... Buddy! I mean, if that tears apart a family, then that family isn't very secure to begin with.
I was going to say, like anyone that would be threatened by a kid he had accidentally way before you and didn't know about, you would be absolutely goofy for being upset about that. Yes. I think you can be upset, but... Not... But, like, not... Can you be surprised? Yeah. Yeah. But upset in a way where it's like, fuck you. I'm mad at you. Yeah. Blah, blah, blah. Right. He had no idea.
He had no idea. It was way before he knew you. It wasn't, like, an affair. Right. Out of wedlock, baby, bad situation. Like...
shocked surprised yes feelings are valid but it would be very weird and goofy take it out on him yes but my question is is that didn't didn't he come to her saying that he's in love with her or am i yeah okay so then later down the road right so then wife should have a reason to be mad he's in love with her
Yeah. And I don't I don't think there's still any feelings. It seems like they're both very happy and moved on. And now this is just kind of coming up because of what sounds like an open adoption and her having a relationship with, you know, her son. But yeah. Yeah.
We have an update. We have an update. Multiple updates, actually.
Multiverse, multi-updates. Okay. I'm sorry. I've gotten into Marvel lately, so. Oh, I love that for you. Thanks.
Update number one. I just got off the phone with my friend. I told him everything. Apparently, he knew that I was pregnant. What? My friend had let it slip one time. He thought it was his since he knew that I was only sleeping with him. He didn't know that I had the baby, but said he was happy that there's a part of us together out in the world.
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