The Let Them Theory | The Messy Podcast
S2 EP2 | Life Isn’t Fair – And That’s Okay | The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins
Tue, 04 Mar 2025
Welcome to Season 2, Episode 1 of The Messy Podcast!Tagline: Why the Right Decision Feels WrongIn this episode, we explore why trusting your intuition often feels uncomfortable, the link between people-pleasing and self-betrayal, and how to act on your needs despite others’ disapproval.Understand why trusting your intuition can feel uncomfortable due to the neuroscience of doubt.Discover how people-pleasing leads to self-betrayal.Learn to act on your needs despite others’ disapproval.Action Step: Identify one decision you’ve delayed due to fear of judgment. This week, say Let Them _______, then Let Me _______.Support Us: Visit https://themessypodcast.com to support our mission.Tune in to The Messy Podcast—navigating the chaos of life, one story at a time.Key Takeaways:Practice:
Chapter 1: What is the main topic of this episode?
Hey everybody and welcome back to The Messy Podcast. If you want to skip the ads and get right into the good stuff, you can sign up to be a premium member on Apple Podcasts. Or you can also head over to our website at themessypodcast.com. We are diving deep into Season 2.
Season 2.
All about relationships, comparisons, and growth. Yeah. And in this episode...
Episode two.
Episode two.
We're tackling a truth.
Oh yeah.
That can be tough to swallow.
Mm-hmm.
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Chapter 2: Why is life perceived as unfair?
Life isn't fair. You know, it's interesting how this idea of fairness, or rather the lack of it, really gets under our skin.
It really does.
It's not just a minor annoyance when things don't go our way.
No.
It triggers something much deeper.
It does. It's like this deep primal thing. Deep down. Totally.
And that's exactly what we're unpacking today.
We are.
Why does the idea of unfairness bother us so much? How does holding on to resentment... actually keep us stuck?
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Chapter 3: How does resentment keep us stuck?
Right.
But in the end, I stayed silent.
It's tough in the moment.
It is. And you know what? I was so resentful afterwards.
Oh, I bet. Yeah, I can only imagine.
It's like that resentment becomes the price we pay for not honoring our own needs in the face of unfairness.
Yeah. I mean, who wants to pay that price?
No one.
Right.
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Chapter 4: What is the 'Let Them Plus Let Me' framework?
It is.
When you realize that, you know you have the power.
Exactly. That's a profound realization.
It is.
It highlights how often resentment is a consequence of our own inaction.
It's true.
Our own choice to stay silent when we should be advocating for ourselves. Totally. So if we're looking to tackle this feeling of unfairness head on, it seems like Understanding why it bothers us so much is a good place to start. I mean, it's not just about being sensitive.
Oh, definitely not. I think there's like a biological reason why we react so strongly to unfairness.
Okay, so tell me more.
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Chapter 5: How does the brain react to unfairness?
I love that.
Or... Let's say you have a friend.
Okay.
Who consistently underpays their share.
Oh.
When you go out.
I've been there too.
Let them. Could be.
Okay.
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Chapter 6: Can we control our response to unfairness?
It's about moving from complaining or blaming to brainstorming solutions.
Yes.
It feels so much more empowering.
It is.
Exactly.
Yeah.
And to help you really put this into practice.
Okay.
We have another exercise for you.
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Chapter 7: How can the 'Let Me' part empower you?
I love that.
I still get chills thinking about it.
Me too.
That is so inspiring.
It is.
It shows that we really do have the power to change our circumstances.
We do.
Even if it feels scary or uncertain at first.
It's scary, but we can do it.
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