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Appearances
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update Classic: Whack Beach Wedding
Oh, I rarely I rarely asked her about it. I was I was just so on the fence about it. And I wanted extra help. determining where I should go, and so I went to my aunt.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update Classic: Whack Beach Wedding
So I could end up with cement shoes at the bottom of a river? No.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update Classic: Whack Beach Wedding
Calm down. Calm down. I know how this works. Like, you know, you just point a finger and someone gets killed, so I don't want to be involved.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update Classic: Whack Beach Wedding
Well, he's clearly upset now, and I don't think I should do that for my own well-being. No!
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update Classic: Whack Beach Wedding
Yeah, this is her. Who's this?
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update Classic: Whack Beach Wedding
Is this a prank call? I don't understand.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update Classic: Whack Beach Wedding
Well, yeah, I did, but I did kind of get a little mixed vibes from him.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update Classic: Whack Beach Wedding
Yeah, I don't know if he told you, but we crashed a wedding together. Yes!
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update Classic: Whack Beach Wedding
Well, I thought it was exciting. It was fun. And we ended up going to a photo booth.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update Classic: Whack Beach Wedding
Well, he ended up kissing me on the cheek on, like, the third picture. And to me, that was, like, a little quick, too forward, and, like, I don't know. It was, like, really sudden for me.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update Classic: Whack Beach Wedding
Not really. So what happened was I did keep the photo booth picture.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update Classic: Whack Beach Wedding
So you did like him. I do kind of like him, but I'm also not really sure. Okay. Like I said, I kept the picture, and I have an aunt who's a psychic.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update Classic: Whack Beach Wedding
Yeah, she's a psychic. She, like, reads.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update Classic: Whack Beach Wedding
And then I went to see her, and they brought the picture with me, and she did a read on it.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update Classic: Whack Beach Wedding
Well, my aunt can. I don't know about all the other psychics. Okay.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update Classic: Whack Beach Wedding
She said that Noah was a monster in his past life. A monster? A monster? A monster. A monster.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update Classic: Whack Beach Wedding
No, he committed horrible crimes in his past life. Like, that's scary.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update Classic: Whack Beach Wedding
Yeah, it's still inside him. We are who we were in our past life. And I think it explains a lot. It explains his dangerous side.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update Classic: Whack Beach Wedding
another kind of mixed feelings because he's a killer in his past life. And I'm not sure what to feel about that.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update Classic: Whack Beach Wedding
Noah's on the line?
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update Classic: Whack Beach Wedding
I have a good source. And like, I am, I am attracted to you, but it's also, I can't risk my, my own life like that.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update Classic: Whack Beach Wedding
Well, I didn't even know that you were on the line. Why would I be messing with you? This is my truth.
The Ramsey Show
Big Life Changes Demand Bold Money Decisions
Okay, so we've been married for 17 years. And we have five kids and another on the way. Oh, wow. Um, first 10 years he was active duty in the military. That was really, really hard on our relationship. And we made choices. He chose to get out because our family is more important and that stability is more important. And we made choices. Like I gave up my career.
The Ramsey Show
Big Life Changes Demand Bold Money Decisions
I'm a preschool teacher, um, by trade and gave that up to be with our kids. And, um, We, I just, he's underemployed. He's working like. Yeah, what's his situation now job wise? He took a job that guarantees him 30 hours a week as a school bus driver. He has two degrees that we already did the hard work of getting. Like he got those since we've been married.
The Ramsey Show
Big Life Changes Demand Bold Money Decisions
Um, it's really hard. He does get some disability, um, but it's not like complete or anything.
The Ramsey Show
Big Life Changes Demand Bold Money Decisions
He's such a sweetheart. I think he really likes what he does. And he loves working with the people he works with. He's job hopped. He's experienced a lot of job loss because he left the military. And he finally has found a job that he really likes or the people really seem to appreciate him. But it doesn't make up for the fact that he's underpaid. And we're hustling. We're on baby step two.
The Ramsey Show
Big Life Changes Demand Bold Money Decisions
We're like really working the debt snowball to the best of our ability. I have been working like 50 hours a week trying to open my own daycare, which didn't go well because of other things. But I've been working and bringing in as much as I can. And the problem is that all these side hustles brought our income up to a point where we're bringing in almost $10,000 a month.
The Ramsey Show
Big Life Changes Demand Bold Money Decisions
But I'm due soon, and most of my students have left because of my pregnancy.
The Ramsey Show
Big Life Changes Demand Bold Money Decisions
I didn't grow up with money or anything. It doesn't matter to me what he does. I don't care about his title. Okay. And I've been a stay-at-home mom off and on, and that's what I would prefer to do.
The Ramsey Show
Big Life Changes Demand Bold Money Decisions
But I'm fine with making sacrifices for our family. I'm not asking him to do anything that I haven't done. And I think he sees what I do and acknowledges it and is very grateful. I don't think it's a comparison thing for me. I think it's just that I'm scared because we're about to lose. Half your income.
The Ramsey Show
Big Life Changes Demand Bold Money Decisions
Well, I tried to have that conversation and he's like, well, maybe I want to be a teacher, which means he has to go back to school. And then if you look at the salary that it's starting pay for teachers in our state.
The Ramsey Show
Big Life Changes Demand Bold Money Decisions
Right. Well, we live outside of Portland in a much cheaper area, but he thinks we can make up the gaps with the side hustles, which we've been doing.
The Ramsey Show
Big Life Changes Demand Bold Money Decisions
And he's up against time. He doesn't have any more hours in the day to do another side hustle. He already has two part-time gigs plus his bus driving.
The Ramsey Show
Big Life Changes Demand Bold Money Decisions
Hi. I have a difficult question, and I'm really glad that I get to talk to both of you about it.
The Ramsey Show
Big Life Changes Demand Bold Money Decisions
Okay. I have to have a really hard conversation with my husband. I have to basically tell him in a loving way that I really don't care what his dreams and aspirations are, that I really just need him to get a better job.