Two Hot Takes host, Morgan, is joined by guest co-host... oh wait there isn't one. For the first time ever, I'm being joined by only YOU! After almost 4 years and 199 episodes we're here at 200, and I don't have the words to express how truly grateful I am to everyone listening. This episode is a wild ride--From someone's partner pretending to be his friends to a baby being named after a dog to someone telling her husband he can't control his own body. But I am so happy I have you all here to help! Share your takes in the comments.. let's dive in. Special thanks to my Patreon family for helping create this episode. Truly a labor of love! Help support our THT community here: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1arinXNGBgzO656_ROdpVxp-oWGHj8rOEDLGUtKKSnx8/edit?usp=sharing MERCH IS ON SALE HERE ! https://shop.twohottakes.com I can't wait to see you all in these, especially at our live shows!! Our PO Box!! Two Hot Takes. 5042 Wilshire BLVD. #470. Los Angeles, CA 90036 Our SubReddit to Submit YOUR Stories!!! https://reddit.app.link/twohottakes Full length Video episodes available on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/TwoHotTakes Partners: Rocket Money: http://rocketmoney.com/tht LiveGood: http://livegood.com/tht for 10% off! Talkspace: Get $80 off your first month with promo code SPACE80 at Talkspace.com/THT Shopify: http://shopify.com/tht for $1 per month trail period! Index: 00:00 -- Start 02:07 -- Story 1 21:37 -- Story 2 33:02 -- Story 3 52:03 -- Story 4 01:08:59 -- Story 5 01:25:34 -- Story 6 01:39:59 -- Story 7 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Chapter 1: What is the significance of Episode 200?
Whew. Okay. This is really, really weird. This is the first time I've ever done an episode without someone sitting in a chair next to me. It feels a little goofy, but that is episode 200. I have no guests today. It is just me and you guys. If you're on our Patreon, you already know, but episode 200 is really about getting the takes from you guys.
The amount of people I meet at live shows that tell me they pause the story after I'm done reading and then give their takes or talk to their friend or their partner. It gave me the idea of starting to do fan cam reactions. You guys are really the whole reason this show exists, truly.
Chapter 2: Why is the first story so shocking?
I am not going to cry off the jump, but I am just so grateful for each and every one of you listening and watching and sharing this show. And I really wanted to highlight your takes, really hear you guys this episode, because there wouldn't have been more than five, for sure, 10 episodes if you guys didn't start chiming in. This community has turned into something so, so special.
Thank you.
Okay, how crazy do we want to get off the jump? One to 10. We thinking a seven or a 10? Okay, okay, I hear you. Let's get into this first one. So this one is coming from r slash am I overreacting? It is titled, am I overreacting after I found out my boyfriend's online friend group I became a part of two years ago has been just him the whole time?
I guess I should have been less obvious, but since a little before we started dating in 2022, I was added to my boyfriend's, just friend at the time, three-person Instagram group chat with what he explained were some of his closest online friends.
The two other accounts seemed like real people because they had real followers and comments on their posts and drastically different aesthetics slash looks to them. We eventually made a Discord server for us, and that alone was convincing enough, since multiple times we'd all be active at the same time. We never voice chatted, but I used to never voice chat either, so I didn't think twice.
The group got closer, though, as more and more time passed since I was first added to their group chat. And last month, we got together and planned a research trip to Hawaii for August. We live on the East Coast of the US. Like, we booked everything.
So imagine my surprise when I'm over at his house tonight and his computer is open and I just want to log into my Google Docs when I accidentally stumble across, first of all, follower bot sites and also him logged in and chatting with me as one of the individuals I thought I'd become close with. And I just got this sinking feeling. I didn't jump to the idea that they could be fake.
I was like, maybe he just has their login since they're all so close and is way too interested in their messages. But then I noticed their only chats were the group chats and the server. And the real kicker was the email address it was signed up under was his backup email with his full name. I quite literally snooped until he got out of the shower and caught me.
which I'm not saying was right of me, but I couldn't help myself. During my snooping, I gradually became devastatingly confident that he was behind not just one, but both accounts. I've never seen his face so red, and he just absolutely panicked and started shouting at me to get out of his business. I couldn't even form the right words to say to him.
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Chapter 3: What can we learn from the boyfriend's deception?
And so he just made up this entire girl's profile. And then like all of a sudden one day text me back and it was like on her profile. I was like, haha, bitch, you thought. I think she needs to leave him because I think if he's lying about that, I think he's lying about a million other things in her life. Yeah, you can't trust him after that. And you never know.
You never know what he's lying about. Like, oh, what's in this food? Or what my job is? Or, like, so many different things to create friends like that is, like, insane. It is insane. That's insane behavior.
Let's get into the top comments, shall we? Top comment on this one. Yeah, this is... Not okay. I'm blown away that this is actually real because what? How could someone do that to you? Your partner of all people. And like, was he ever planning on telling you or just letting it ride out? What does he gain from this?
So many things running through my mind, but the most disgusting factor is how he responded to it and honestly sounds so manipulative and like he's deflecting instead of owning up to his actions. I'm sorry you're going through this. Next comment after that, letting it ride out. I mean, what was the end game here? I can't even begin to figure that out.
Like night of the rehearsal dinner, hey babe, about my groomsmen, they were driving here and all died in a freak accident involving a flock of geese. It's killing me. Oh well, show must go on. Which, good points, good points. This next comment has a big yellow box. The why is my biggest question here. Pathological liars, though. There's typically no real slash logical reason.
Next comment down, also yellow box, 4K upvotes. I just want to point out that this level of premeditated and targeted manipulation complete with textbook example of gaslighting when discovered by the target is an extremely concerning behavior. If this is indeed real, then OP should be very concerned for her own safety and put as much distance as possible between themselves and this individual.
Yeah, very concerning. Comments really go on too. Someone goes, it immediately made me wonder if it's a tactic to cut her off from everyone in her life while maintaining the illusion that she has her friends still. I'm baffled. Like, I'm honestly, it is so scary.
Like, I cannot even imagine having two years of friends, people you've told things to, confided in, grown to love, are just fake and created by your partner. Do you have any hunches on why he was actually doing this? Or do we just genuinely think he was ill?
I definitely agree with the top comments. One, it's weird, but it definitely feels very controlling and manipulative in a way that is...
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Chapter 4: How should one handle naming conflicts in families?
As of right now, I'm not sure if I'll ever remarry, but chances are I will adopt before I do. Adopting a child and naming him after the man I'd always planned to adopt with seems like the best way to honor him and keep his memory alive. Thank you everyone for your comments and so sorry if there's a long edit with quite a few spelling errors.
You guys, why didn't OP include that context at the beginning? For me, totally changes things. Totally changes things. But I want to hear from you first.
That was a lot of information to leave out. I'm just going to say that. Screw that brother. You had us in the first half. Screw that brother. No.
He didn't even go to the funeral. I hope OP adopts a baby and is able to name this baby Mark before her sister-in-law gives birth and then Mark is already used. And if they want to be the one using the name twice, then they can go ahead and be the one using the name twice. But I hope OP steals it right out from under their feet because this just makes me so mad.
if he hasn't even had a relationship with mark no screw that that all goes out the window yep bye opie needs to name her child mark and you know what actually go ahead and name said child mark middle name last name the second like now we're not only using mark this is mark jr like i don't we're going all the way there i'm using every single one of his names and the rest of you can kiss my butt
Now none of the names are available. That's how I feel. Yeah.
I'm so flabbergasted at the second edit of that one. Hasn't spoken to him in years and now wants to use his name. That just seems like an attention-seeking kind of thing. Like, oh, it was needed for my deceased brother.
Oh, it makes me so angry. They do not deserve to use the name of someone and act like they're honoring them if they literally have had no contact in years and didn't even come to the funeral. You just want to say you're honoring him. so that it looks like you care when it's very obvious they don't.
I'm going to play devil's advocate here for Ethan. I can't remember if she mentioned how long it's been since her husband passed, but what if Ethan is feeling guilty and remorseful and is now reminiscing on their childhood and he feels that naming his son Mark is a way to almost like make up for lost time, make up for the things he now feels guilty for.
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Chapter 5: What constitutes a betrayal in relationships?
What your role is, what you should do with your time. No, no. Absolutely not. Split the fucking chores 50-50.
It's already my way or the highway. Even before he mentions the word housewife, or even before he mentions as a woman, or even before he mentions any of that, those immediate red flags that say, oh, I know who this guy is. Even before all of that, it's just saying, you expect to get your way regardless of how the situation affects anybody else.
Yeah. I'm just going to say run. I'm just going to say run. Honestly, at this point. OP's wife wants to be able to work. She wants to be able to do things that she's working. She wants to do all these different things. And so this whole thing just draws me the wrong way.
Just saying that, oh, you should... And also the fact that you should have a house or you should be responsible for having a clean house or whatever that he said. That shit is absolutely wild.
I'm confused. If he makes triple what she makes, if he really wants her to do these things, can he just not be like, hey, you can be a stay-at-home whatever. I know they don't have kids, right?
I would gladly stay at home and clean if you were going to pay all the bills. Exactly. With no kids.
That's fair.
I don't think it's the asking of the wifey material thing because they are sharing space and he is doing more financially. It's not about that. It's kind of the disrespectful way he's asking it. And then if she... And then kind of like allowing him to... grow a mess. It's like, okay, does he leave his dishes? Does he not rinse his coffee cup out? And, you know, she keeps asking him to do it.
It's a little thing. I feel like there's a lot of little things that I feel like we're missing, like hours that they're both doing, what types of jobs do they have, how much is the rent, how much of the mess is actually, like, the mess. Is it, like, constantly leaving Giant piles of clothes outside the hamper? Or is it like, I have to pick up a pair of socks outside the hamper?
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