Two Hot Takes host, Morgan, is joined by guest co-host Justin! You'd think that the people in your life are supposed to love you or at the very least like you but.. sometimes it feels like they just hate you. That's the vibe we got from the stories this week. There is no love lost between someone here.. or are we off base and there are perfectly reasonable explanations?! You tell us your thoughts on these ones! Fill out the google form to submit your audiobook hot takes: https://forms.gle/doTtiE7JD9yd8TQAA Bonus Content on Patreon including new full length episodes: https://www.patreon.com/TwoHotTakes MERCH is here: https://shop.twohottakes.com I can't wait to see you all in these, especially at our live shows!! Our PO Box!! Two Hot Takes. 5042 Wilshire BLVD. #470. Los Angeles, CA 90036 Our SubReddit to Submit YOUR Stories!!! https://reddit.app.link/twohottakes Full length Video episodes available on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/TwoHotTakes Partners: Audible: http://audible.com/tht for all the years best :) Essie:https://www.essie.com/ shop Essie nail polish for the holidays! Shopify:http://shopify.com/tht for $1 per month trial period! Talkspace: Get $80 off your first month with promo code SPACE80 at http://Talkspace.com/THT Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Chapter 1: What is the theme of today's episode?
Here we go. Welcome back to another episode of Too Hot Takes, my friends. I'm your host, Morgan. Hello. Hello.
Who are you?
I don't know.
Oh, I think you know.
Can you guess?
Can the listeners guess? Is that a better question?
Yeah, that wasn't that good.
No? No. Who are you?
Justin.
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Chapter 2: What stories highlight the feeling of being hated?
You must hate them. You must have some resentment here because otherwise.
No, because it's possible. I mean, look at Matt and Amy. They're able to both work, have two young kids that need a lot of attention. You know, it's that age. There's so much going on. building a house, doing all this stuff, and they always are still spending time.
They always prioritize each other and their coupleness.
Some days are busy, but they also spend so much time with their kids.
They're doing it all.
It is possible. It's a choice to not, and it's a choice to do it. This is very deliberate. So it's, I know the way it's written, it's like, it's just not possible. I couldn't possibly go home after work. I have to go work out. Otherwise, I'm going to be a mess and it'll wreck my routine. How could I ever do that?
And I love that his solution and his compromise. I asked her if she wanted me to talk to my mom and sister. So you're going to pass off your emotional presence, your physical labor of helping raise your children onto other women? You're going to just pass that off on other women?
Yeah.
Because you think that's a woman's job? Also to go sit at a cafe that long? What are...
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Chapter 3: How do relationships affect personal belongings?
leave okay like this is way bigger come on now come on now i i mean this is this is trust this is just a total basic mismatch it's not working this doesn't work it's just really hard because i'm a very sentimental person you are but i wouldn't want to be with someone that challenges that all the time
You know, if you want to be with me, be with me for who I am, which includes possessions that I'm sentimental over or that mean a lot to me. And yeah, I mean, you can get over it. It sucks to lose something like that, but... Things could be worse. Things could be a lot worse. But to me, it's a trust issue when you can't leave your partner in your room.
And now you have to go forward thinking like, oh, if anything means a lot to me, I should hide it. Because if he doesn't believe in it, or if he doesn't agree with it, then he'll... Also, why was the ripping up necessary? Like, it's very direct, targeted. There is motive.
I know.
And that's why moving forward, that's why my first statement was be done because you don't need that.
No, this was all happening four months in. They had been together for four months and he felt comfortable enough to go into her room, grab something that was meaningful. It's on a wall next to posters.
Clearly displayed.
and grab it and rip it up. And then when confronted about it says, oh, you're always sentimental. You always want to hold on to things. You always want to hold on to things that I think are meaningless. Guess what? It doesn't matter what you think of them.
The person you're with, the person you're supposed to at least like, if not grow to love eventually, I don't know, you could be in love after four months even. You are literally so disrespectful and you think your opinion matters more than what they want. So much so that you're going to rip up something that's sentimental from a trip to Japan.
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Chapter 4: Why is communication important in relationships?
It's a blessing to get that.
That's a run. That's a run. I don't think he likes her. I genuinely think this person, how can you like someone and do this to them? I wouldn't even do this to people I don't like.
Yeah.
Yeah.
To hurt them in such a way. It's clearly on a wall next to posters they find precious and meaningful. And then to be hit with that slap in the face. You're always holding on to things that are sentimental. You've known me for four months, motherfucker. Four months. I've had that fortune cookie longer than I've had you. So shut the fuck up and don't touch my stuff and get out of my life.
Yeah, I mean, it sounds like he can do no wrong. And he is the alpha. And this is just the start of the control. I'm going to control what you can have and can't have. I'm going to throw it away and rip up your shit and I'm not in trouble. It's because you shouldn't have had it in the first place because you're wrong. And what I believe is right and I will dominate this. I don't know. It's weird.
It's extremely, extremely weird. And I do think it's about control. And I think this is one of those early moves that someone does in an abusive relationship to start pushing boundaries. I absolutely think that's the case.
I hope the comments got there, please.
Top comment. This isn't something you need to forgive. That's wild behavior. I'd say he is probing to see how much bullshit you're willing to take.
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Chapter 5: What happens when family crosses boundaries?
Your brother at least is at fault.
You packed it up. Your brother is 100% at fault. Oh, my God.
What do you... You literally gave your brother the boxes for safekeeping. You said, hey, here's my rock collection in these boxes. Please look after them for me while I'm at college. And your brother decides once you're gone to take those rocks shortly after, mind you, because the yard sale happened shortly after the move. So this was maybe what, a couple of weeks, if not days, time span.
And the brother goes, I'm going to dig through here, take everything good. And then the rest, here you go, mom, sell this shit.
How can you not be mad at the mom too?
I would say the mom likely did not know the significance. Maybe the mom thought they were the brother's rocks since the brother was the one passing off the box.
No, you know. Okay.
If someone, if they're a good involved parent, I think they would know.
Yeah.
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Chapter 6: How can you cope with losing sentimental items?
Reasonable. Yeah.
But all right, I'm going to pre-pack so that they're ready to go to the next place. And then the very targeted shot of the brother just saying, oh, here we go. It's so deliberate.
I guess maybe I'm letting the mom off the hook easy because Opie does say, like, friends gave me rocks as gifts. Family gave me rocks as gifts. That's what I'm saying. They all knew about the collection. So they all knew, right? I mean, these rocks were displayed in two cabinets in Opie's room.
Like, I guess for the mom not to know would be very naive and almost, like, willfully unaware, willfully uninterested in your child's interests. So to then, I guess, get two big boxes of rocks and crystals and whatever, and to not be like, Oh, you know, I wonder if these are Darcy's rocks. Like I know, you know, she just went off to college, but like, this is kind of, let me call, let me just see.
Or I know Darcy likes rocks at least. Maybe I, maybe I asked before I put these in the garage sale.
It's so easy. But there's experience with this within your family and there's many stories about it. Dude. People lack that common sense and or decency to just simply ask.
Yeah.
It takes zero effort.
You just reminded me of that experience, and I totally forgot about it.
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