The Let Them Theory | The Messy Podcast
S1 EP3 | Let Them + Let Me – The Two-Step Power Move | The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins
Mon, 24 Mar 2025
Welcome to Season 1, Episode 3 of The Messy Podcast!Tagline: Let Them + Let Me – The Two-Step Power MoveIn this episode, we explore the concept of detachment vs. agency, the neuroscience of control, and how proactive ownership can turn detachment into empowered action.Key Takeaways:Understand why stopping at "Let Them" can lead to isolation.Discover how amygdala hijacks override rational thinking.Learn how to turn detachment into empowered action with the "Let Me" framework.Practice:Action Step: This week, catch yourself saying "Let Them" and add a "Let Me." Share your story with #LetMeRise.Support Us: Visit https://themessypodcast.com to support our mission.Tune in to The Messy Podcast—navigating the chaos of life, one story at a time.
Chapter 1: What are the foundations of the Let Them Theory?
Hey, everybody, and welcome back to The Messy Podcast. If you want to skip the ads and get right into the good stuff, you can sign up to be a premium member on Apple Podcasts. Or you can also head over to our website at themessypodcast.com. We're still in the thick of it with Season 1 Foundations of the Let Them Theory.
Still going strong.
We are, and today we're diving into Episode 3.
Oh, this is a good one.
Yeah. Let them plus let me.
Two step.
The two step power move.
Power move.
And, you know, let them is something we hear about all the time.
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Chapter 2: Why does 'Let Them' sometimes lead to feeling stuck?
It's like, did I do something?
Right, like what's going on?
Am I a bad friend?
Exactly.
All the shoulds start coming out. And that's the thing about let them, it's a great starting point. Like you said, it creates that initial distance, but it doesn't just magically solve the problem or erase the hurt.
Okay, before we get too deep into that, let's pause for a moment to hear from our sponsor.
Sounds good.
Thanks for listening to that. Let's jump back into it. And that's where I think this episode gets really interesting because we're not going to dwell in that hurt. We're talking about what comes next.
Right. It's a launching pad.
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Chapter 3: How can the 'Let Me' framework empower you?
Okay.
What are some examples that come to mind for you?
Well, we talked about, you know, the Friends of the Girls trip. So let them have their fun, I guess. Yeah. Or like let them gossip if you're dealing with, you know, the rumor mill at work.
Exactly. Let them ignore your contributions. Let them cancel plans at the last minute.
Oh, that's a good one.
It's about recognizing you can't control their actions.
Okay. But that almost feels like giving up, doesn't it?
It can feel like giving up, but it's not about giving up. It's about being strategic with your energy.
Okay.
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Chapter 4: What is amygdala hijack and how does it affect us?
Yeah.
You're not at the mercy of their anxiety anymore.
Oh, that's good.
It's a game changer.
Okay, I'm starting to see how this works. Let's try another one.
Okay.
What about a family gathering with those relatives who always have something to say about your life choices?
Oh, yeah, that's a classic.
A classic.
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Chapter 5: How do you implement the Let Them + Let Me power move in real life?
Yeah.
Or even better, let me schedule a meeting with my boss to discuss my role on this project and make sure my contributions are acknowledged.
I like that, turning that frustration into a catalyst for positive change.
Exactly. And it doesn't have to be this huge life-altering action. It can be something small but meaningful.
Small, consistent actions.
Yeah, like setting a boundary with a friend who's constantly complaining or taking five minutes to meditate when you're feeling overwhelmed.
Just little things to take care of ourselves.
Yeah, exactly. Self-care is a form of let me.
I love that. And, you know, one of the most rewarding things I've found about What Them Let Me is that it can actually help us build healthier relationships.
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