The Jordan Harbinger Show
1148: Face Father's Fury or Fund Future Fortune? | Feedback Friday
Fri, 02 May 2025
Your dad denies ever hitting you when you were a kid, but your trauma says otherwise. Risk the inheritance to speak your truth? It's Feedback Friday!And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now let's dive in!Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1148On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:You're torn between confronting your abusive father about the violence he inflicted on you and your siblings growing up (which he now denies ever happened) or staying silent to protect your inheritance — money that could secure your daughter's future. He has a business worth over a million dollars and plenty of assets, but he's threatened to write people out of his will for far less. How do you balance authenticity with practicality?As head of technology, you championed a vendor partnership that turned out to be a disaster. They misrepresented key elements, costs are rising, and you've lost control of critical infrastructure. The worst part? You might be stuck with them for three to five years. While your CEO and board remain supportive, you're drowning in shame, dreading meetings, and questioning your leadership. How do you move forward?You're a disciplined 32-year-old investor who allocated over $8,000 to a real estate crowdfunding platform that has ghosted its investors. The company appears insolvent, withholding dividends and refusing to refund invested capital. Though the amount won't significantly impact you financially, the principle bothers you deeply. What options do you have for recovering your funds? [Thanks to bankruptcy attorney Erin Hoskins for helping us with this one!]Your 70-year-old fiercely independent mother is showing concerning signs of decline — forgetting bills, ignoring serious home issues, and recently was found driving her car in the wrong direction 40 minutes from home. You live in Florida while she's in rural Canada, and your sister nearby has her hands full. What legal options and practical measures can you take to keep her safe? [Thanks to senior services expert Pam Dukes for lending her expertise to this one!]Recommendation of the Week: RippedBody.comTwo years ago, you survived a suicide attempt following your wife's affair and abandonment. Since then, therapy and new relationships have transformed your life. On the first anniversary, you celebrated with the few people who knew about the attempt. Now approaching year two, you're wondering: should you expand this celebration to include new friends? Is this strange to commemorate?Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]!Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi.This Episode Is Sponsored By:No Story Lost: $350 savings: nostorylost.com, code JORDANAura Frames: $35 off: auraframes.com, code JORDANSkims: skims.com, survey: podcasts: JHSLand Rover Defender: landroverusa.comNomadic Matt: nomadicmatt.comLike this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Chapter 1: What should I do about my father's denial of abuse?
Chapter 2: How can I recover funds from a fraudulent investment?
Totally, because listen, this stuff happens to all investors at some point. Basically, there's a saying in investing, timing the market is less important than time in the market. So this is also a terrific lesson for you as an investor and a relatively low stakes one. You're doing all of the macro stuff right. You're dollar cost averaging. You started investing early.
Don't sweat the micro stuff too much. You're not wildly gambling out there trying to regain your losses. You're doing all of the right stuff and you've hit a little speed bump. at five miles per hour too quickly, not a big deal in the scheme of things. This is not gonna be like, now I can't retire at age 65. That's not gonna happen to you.
So take the L, the very light L, figure out what you got wrong, learn, don't make this mistake next time, and I know you'll continue to succeed. Love that you're into taking such good care of yourself as well, and good luck.
One thing I learned, I did all kinds of crypto investments and funds and real estate and da-da-da, and then I just was like, you know what, screw it, index funds, man, because when you really compare all this stuff, If you are not hyper-interested and you don't have a financial manager, it's just better to get rid of all of this fancy stuff and invest in index funds.
By the way, this is not financial advice. This is just a little thing I've embraced in my own life. Set it and forget it. Don't spend your life thinking about how you can get a 0.1% higher return on whatever. Just don't make big mistakes. Have a good credit score so your mortgage isn't super high interest.
Stuff like that is going to be way better than trying to eke out an extra half percent return on a risky real estate platform that only exists online in Estonia. And I think he's learned that lesson.
But for everybody else out there, there's a reason that investment advice is generally put this in a S&P 500 and then go about your day and do it again every month for the rest of your life until you retire. That's good advice because it actually works. The returns are about as good as it gets. The end. You know who doesn't need our sponsor codes? The shady bastards who stole your money.
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Chapter 8: What is the impact of childhood trauma on adult life?
They're both very reasonably priced at rippedbody.com. They're really easy to read. There's drawings in there. All the concepts are really easy. Tells you the stuff that's important. And then he's like, here's how all this other stuff works. Basically, you can forget about it, worry about this one or two things. And so I did that.
And like I said, I lost 40 pounds of fat and I gained 10 or 20 pounds of muscle over the time that I was dieting. And I reread these books every year. I skim them. And if I'm gaining weight, I read that part. And if I'm losing weight, I reread that part. And I sent them to Jen and she read them. She's like, wow, I actually understand nutrition for the first time in my life.
So I highly recommend that if you're going to try to gain muscle or you're trying to lose weight, start at rippedbody.com. He offers coaching and stuff too, but honestly, just grab the books. It'll be a massively educational experience for you. Even if you already lift weights all the time, it's not about weightlifting.
It's about the food that you eat and how it all works in your body and why your body loses weight and loses muscle and keeps muscle. It's really interesting. And that's it. Rippedbody.com. We'll link to it in the show notes. Also, in case you didn't know, there's a subreddit for the show if you want to jump into discussions with other listeners about specific episodes or whatever.
If there was an episode you liked, an episode you didn't like, a lot of episode-specific conversations happening there. There's also memes and funny stuff and just general conversation that I think is really cool. It's all on the Jordan Harbinger subreddit. All right. Next up.
Dear Jordan and Gabe, Two years ago, I went through the most traumatic experience I could imagine. My wife of 15 years cheated on me and left me for another man. I watched her fall in love with this guy right in front of my face, all while she blamed literally everything on me. She took no accountability for her actions. To say that I was devastated would be an understatement.
Oh my god, my heart is racing hearing this. Oh my god. After a few minutes and further breaking down, I called a friend, gave him my pistol to hold on to, and went to visit my grandma four hours away, who, at the time, was dying of cancer.
I'm so glad that you did that, man. Way to listen to that voice telling you to stay alive. What a miracle. I am very proud of you, and I'm glad that you're with us. I'm sorry about your grandma.
Since then, I have gone to so much therapy, made new friends, and gotten new hobbies, and my relationship with my kids is better than it's ever been. I've accepted that I'm not the terrible person my ex-wife made me out to be. I'm truly living the best life I've ever lived. Incredible.
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