Unnamed Caller 3

Hi, Dan, Nancy, and the tech-savvy at-risk youth. I'm a straight male, mid-40s, living in the West. I was in a committed heterosexual relationship for most of my adult life, which ended in an amicable divorce in 2022. Since then, I've dated a few different women.

Hi, Dan, Nancy, and the tech-savvy at-risk youth. I'm a straight male, mid-40s, living in the West. I was in a committed heterosexual relationship for most of my adult life, which ended in an amicable divorce in 2022. Since then, I've dated a few different women.

I've been exploring Tantra, King, BDSM, learning about desires and boundaries and communicating clearly and generally having a blast and a sexual awakening. The reason I'm calling is that I've had a couple short-term relationships with women who are mothers, and I found that I was less likely to have an orgasm with them when we had PV sex.

I've been exploring Tantra, King, BDSM, learning about desires and boundaries and communicating clearly and generally having a blast and a sexual awakening. The reason I'm calling is that I've had a couple short-term relationships with women who are mothers, and I found that I was less likely to have an orgasm with them when we had PV sex.

Making love without an orgasm hasn't been a significant problem for me. I've been learning how to focus more on pleasure than getting off for the first time in my life, and this means longer lovemaking sessions. It seems like my partner and I both experience more pleasure as a result.

Making love without an orgasm hasn't been a significant problem for me. I've been learning how to focus more on pleasure than getting off for the first time in my life, and this means longer lovemaking sessions. It seems like my partner and I both experience more pleasure as a result.

I was turned on by both of these women, and I don't have issues with getting erections or orgasms through masturbation. Meanwhile, both of these women expressed concerns about my not having an orgasm, They said it impacted their sense of being a good lover. One woman expressed body shame about her vagina being looser after giving birth. And the situation seemed to add tension to each relationship.

I was turned on by both of these women, and I don't have issues with getting erections or orgasms through masturbation. Meanwhile, both of these women expressed concerns about my not having an orgasm, They said it impacted their sense of being a good lover. One woman expressed body shame about her vagina being looser after giving birth. And the situation seemed to add tension to each relationship.

I'm so aware that there's shame that society puts on women about their bodies in general, and especially after changes with pregnancy. And I don't want to add to that in any way. I tried to empathize and affirm that their bodies are beautiful. And here's what I've considered so far in trying to troubleshoot the issue.

I'm so aware that there's shame that society puts on women about their bodies in general, and especially after changes with pregnancy. And I don't want to add to that in any way. I tried to empathize and affirm that their bodies are beautiful. And here's what I've considered so far in trying to troubleshoot the issue.

So I did notice less friction when we were having PV sex than women I've dated who haven't given birth. But I'm not assuming that that's the reason for the orgasm issue. I've read how our brain is the greatest erogenous zone. I think of myself as demisexual, and these two relationships both ended after a few months. I've been wondering if my subconscious...

So I did notice less friction when we were having PV sex than women I've dated who haven't given birth. But I'm not assuming that that's the reason for the orgasm issue. I've read how our brain is the greatest erogenous zone. I think of myself as demisexual, and these two relationships both ended after a few months. I've been wondering if my subconscious...

held back the orgasm because it's such a vulnerable experience of connection with a new partner. I'm wondering if my penis might be decreasing in sensitivity or if it's harder to have orgasms as men age. I'm having some of the most satisfying sexual experiences of my life and finding so many new ways to experience pleasure.

held back the orgasm because it's such a vulnerable experience of connection with a new partner. I'm wondering if my penis might be decreasing in sensitivity or if it's harder to have orgasms as men age. I'm having some of the most satisfying sexual experiences of my life and finding so many new ways to experience pleasure.

But these experiences leave me wondering what might be getting in the way of PV orgasms.

But these experiences leave me wondering what might be getting in the way of PV orgasms.

Hi, Dan. I have just gone through a breakup in the last couple of months and have entered a few beautiful poly relationships, having a great time. However, there is an issue that has arisen that I can seem to not come without my vibrator. These guys are giving me exceptional oral and I cannot come. There is a serious mental blockage there. I don't know if it's a mental blockage.

Hi, Dan. I have just gone through a breakup in the last couple of months and have entered a few beautiful poly relationships, having a great time. However, there is an issue that has arisen that I can seem to not come without my vibrator. These guys are giving me exceptional oral and I cannot come. There is a serious mental blockage there. I don't know if it's a mental blockage.

I don't know if it's a fantasy thing. I don't know if it's like a desensitization thing. But the thing is with my ex, I could definitely come. And I think the reason was, I think it's more of like a psycho psychological thing where I am clearly, uh, I think I'm a pretty big cuck or cuck queen.

I don't know if it's a fantasy thing. I don't know if it's like a desensitization thing. But the thing is with my ex, I could definitely come. And I think the reason was, I think it's more of like a psycho psychological thing where I am clearly, uh, I think I'm a pretty big cuck or cuck queen.