Tammy
Appearances
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
Yeah, and then I'll follow your plan of 25% of my income. That would be nice. That's right.
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
Um, that's complicated. Our company is going through a lot of changes, so I'm not sure.
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
I have started looking. I'm a loyalist, so we'll see. But maybe it is time. Maybe I need to dig into that further.
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
No, I just graduated, so I think I could leverage that.
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
Hi guys. Thanks for taking my call. I am 34 and I had a couple of houses. I went through a nasty divorce a couple of years ago, bought a house, sold it and bought this one. And this is where I'm in a little bit of trouble. I bought this house debt free. So I had a paid off car. I did put 20% down. I thought I was in good shape. Yeah.
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
Until one thing after another kind of broke and I was fixing things. And now that I've been watching you guys for the last six months, I know that I should not have taken this large of a mortgage because it's about half of my income.
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
Sure. So I have a few jobs now. So my first income is about $4,000 a month. That's my primary job. And I see that keep going up and I'm trying to get promotions and doing well. And then I also bartend on the side. So that helps. Um, and then I'm about to start doing taxes on the side. So coming up here, I'll hopefully. Okay.
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
Um, about 400, 500. I try to be conservative with that number.
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
I'm wondering if I should sell my house because it is a lot or if I just keep hustling because what it did was it put me into debt. I was also paying for school and I made the mistake of putting that on my credit card.
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
Is that all credit cards? One is a personal loan and the rest is credit card.
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
Um, I just hit two years, uh, last summer, so I'm good on the capital gain side.
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
It did. I live in a crazy area. Okay. I'm more in the suburbs. Yeah. But it definitely did, and I put a lot down, and I think that might have been another thing. Yeah, that's true.
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
I kind of assumed it'd be around that $100,000 just because of real estate.
The Ramsey Show
If You Live Fake Rich, You Will Become Real Broke!
Yeah. I mean, I've paid off like $5,000 in the last six months ever since following your baby steps, which is great, but I don't know if it's enough. Right, right. And I don't want to work 80 hours a week. Yes, totally, totally.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Other People's Problems Ruin Your Finances
Well, I'm just needing some assistance with stopping giving my ex-daughter-in-law money.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Other People's Problems Ruin Your Finances
Well, I did. I've been giving her money for a long time trying to help her because she's a single mom.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Other People's Problems Ruin Your Finances
Since my husband died in September and probably about $4,000.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Other People's Problems Ruin Your Finances
Yeah, I've paid her rent since January. It's $800 a month.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Other People's Problems Ruin Your Finances
He is not in the picture at all. So he is paying support.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Other People's Problems Ruin Your Finances
He's paying her child support $25 a week.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Other People's Problems Ruin Your Finances
He's in North Carolina, and he's dropped out of her life or everyone's life.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Other People's Problems Ruin Your Finances
Not addiction. He's a transgender.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Other People's Problems Ruin Your Finances
He's just not in the picture at all.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Other People's Problems Ruin Your Finances
A lot of it is, yeah. Well, because she's a single mom, I don't want her to go under. And this is your grandchild still.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Other People's Problems Ruin Your Finances
Yeah, she's raising my grandchild. I gave her a car. I gave her my car, and then I bought a car so that she would have a reliable vehicle. because she was going under with the used car dealership. Sure.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Other People's Problems Ruin Your Finances
I don't have it anymore. There you go. I'm 59. I want to retire someday, and I can't just keep giving her money. But the latest was Sunday night when she messaged me that she's going to be evicted if I don't help her pay her rent.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Other People's Problems Ruin Your Finances
She works two jobs. She gets food stamps, child support. She no longer has a car payment. I mean, I don't know where her money's going.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Other People's Problems Ruin Your Finances
Yeah. Thank you. Yeah. Yeah.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Other People's Problems Ruin Your Finances
That's sort of correct. I don't understand. She works like two towns over. It's an hour away. Why not get a job closer to home? Why not? I just don't know where her money's going, and it's always an excuse, and I'm just tired of the excuses. I just don't want my granddaughter out on the streets, and now she's going to be evicted in three days.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Other People's Problems Ruin Your Finances
I've told her, yes, she can come stay with me. I mean, I haven't done anything legally. I'm not sure what I need to do legally, but I've told her I can put up my granddaughter. I just can't have her in my house.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Other People's Problems Ruin Your Finances
I'm waiting for a response. I just sent her a long message today saying no more financial help.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Other People's Problems Ruin Your Finances
I like that. I think I agree with that.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Other People's Problems Ruin Your Finances
That's what I want. I just want her to be safe. And I'm not trying to take her child away. I just want her to get on her feet and stop wasting money.
The Ramsey Show
Stop Letting Other People's Problems Ruin Your Finances
Yeah. I mean, it's, you know, I think that maybe it's just being taken advantage of since my husband's passed.