Paige

I'm home alone with the kids all day long and he's at work and then he comes in and then something tiny goes on and he's like, okay, it just goes out to the wind.

Hi, Dr. John.

I'm okay.

So, how do I tell my husband that I don't want to raise our kids the same way he was raised?

So we have three kids ranging from five to almost nine months.

And I was raised with the new year.

I was kind of reflecting on how I wanted to parent and what I wanted to change and everything.

And I was raised in a split household.

Both of them were abusive in their own ways.

And my husband was raised in a single household, but there was some things that I see as abusive, but he is just oblivious.

The main one is any time that my kids or that our kids do something that's like, okay, well, let's redirect them, he just automatically goes to thinking.

And that's the big one.

And I'm home alone with the kids all day long and he's at work.

So it's kind of like I've managed the kids the way that I have all day.

And then he comes in and then something tiny goes on and he's like, okay, it just goes out to the wind.

Um, I tell him to stop, but he does not.

Oh, um, like it just, it throws me back to whenever I was a kid and, um, both, both of my dads were just one less than the other.

Um,

but like, it just throws me back to that.

And I thought I had managed it, but there's like triggers.