Lester Ryan Clark
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All The Feelings • The Sins & Virtues
Humility: Because Sometimes You Gotta Eat That Pie
Humility, noun, a modest or low view of one's own importance. Humbleness.
All The Feelings • The Sins & Virtues
Humility: Because Sometimes You Gotta Eat That Pie
Or that the 1973 audience members were throwing up and fainting in the theater before they ever got a glimpse of the demon?
All The Feelings • The Sins & Virtues
Humility: Because Sometimes You Gotta Eat That Pie
Ever wonder where Ouija boards came from or how they got their name? How about some history on the Catholic Church or the Roman rite of exorcism? Or maybe we can tempt you with some juicy demonology lore. Did you know that Pazuzu had an ex-wife? Find The Exorcist Minute on iTunes or Spotify or wherever you listen to your shows or at TheExorcistMinute.com.
All The Feelings • The Sins & Virtues
Humility: Because Sometimes You Gotta Eat That Pie
Well, howdy, folks. My name is Lester Ryan Clark.
All The Feelings • The Sins & Virtues
Humility: Because Sometimes You Gotta Eat That Pie
And we're the hosts of The Exorcist Minute, a show where we examine, extrapolate, and excavate the scariest movie of all time.
All The Feelings • The Sins & Virtues
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
No, that all makes a thousand percent sense. And... I like that there's a word for what that is. I'm just... Yeah, that's the kind of thing I'm trying to do. Not about that whole itch thing. That would make anyone insufferable. What if you had to say all of that out loud? And now the toe! And your partner's like, okay, Steve. The idea of someone...
All The Feelings • The Sins & Virtues
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
is looking at their phone at a stoplight, doesn't see that the light changed. You give a little beep beep and then they go. But then you aren't allowed to go through the light. Yes. Your first reaction is, come on, this is unjust. And this is but then that's what I'm catching myself right away. And more and more is, oh, I don't care. Like, yeah, I'm not late.
All The Feelings • The Sins & Virtues
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
one light cycle is not going to change anything. I'm sitting in an air conditioned car, listening to a podcast just because something didn't go exactly as it was supposed to be. Doesn't mean that I need to react or make me upset by it because it's fine.
All The Feelings • The Sins & Virtues
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Yeah, I can't hear what was going on in that car. There could have been two small kids screaming in the background. The parent was just trying to get a moment of peace on their phone. Or they had just been poisoned and were trying to call the hospital. And I'm like, beep, beep! Exactly.
All The Feelings • The Sins & Virtues
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Well, I agree with the Vox Populi in this one because it wasn't genuine. It was using people's emotions. People were really fighting for rights and feeling discriminated on by police. And someone thought that a good idea was to try to sell soda for it. It trivializes it. Yeah. There's something that just trivializes it too much that it's not genuine. There is no genuine. There is no empathy.
All The Feelings • The Sins & Virtues
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
You have a model stepping off of a getting her hair done, walk across the street and hand a Pepsi to... someone who probably was just clubbing someone in the, in the back alley. And everyone is like, thanks soda. That's gross. I hate it. See, I agree. But I mean, that's just not the way to do it. That's, that seems like fake. What's a word for fake kindness. It's virtual disingenuity. Yeah.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
That hurts more than just not having that there or showing two people that like sharing a Pepsi in a hospital waiting room after being beaten by the police. Like that would make me identify with Pepsi a little bit more because at least it's putting things in perspective.
All The Feelings • The Sins & Virtues
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
All the sins, all the virtues, one place, Pete. I mean, we haven't. We still got two. We got two big ones, and we decided to do a twofer today. Why is that again? Oh, right, because neither of us could add.
All The Feelings • The Sins & Virtues
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
It's just words you're saying.
All The Feelings • The Sins & Virtues
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
When was one of the last times you caught yourself being impatient and caught yourself meaning like you had a, oh, I'm doing this, like what I'm talking about, more of like a Vipassana. Vipassana. Vipassana. Vipassana. I tried to write it down.
All The Feelings • The Sins & Virtues
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Okay. Vipassana reaction. Do you know? Do you remember?
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
I love that. And because I learned that maybe your patience would have been running a little bit low or your kindness like this, I started the process of getting ready to record 45 minutes before you showed up because, of course, my mic didn't work and I couldn't open the computer and the volume was down. I started that process last night so I could be ready for you.
All The Feelings • The Sins & Virtues
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
So I'm just curious that I'm still alive.
All The Feelings • The Sins & Virtues
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
It is a kind of love, is it not? How the cup holds the tea, how the chair stands sturdy and foursquare, how the floor receives the bottom of shoes. Or toes, how soles of feet know where they're supposed to be.
All The Feelings • The Sins & Virtues
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
I've been thinking about the patience of ordinary things, how clothes wait respectfully in closets, and soap dries quietly in the dish, and towels drink the wet from the skin of the back, and the lovely repetition of stares. And what is more generous than a window? The End
All The Feelings • The Sins & Virtues
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
an extra episode 100% what will we do it's the one line that's keeping us here in democracy safe if we break the 9-12 we end up making a thousand episode season and that would be unsettling we wouldn't know when to turn off and then we would just like feeling friends would see us and we'd have big long beards well that's you during the winter I guess I would have a big long beard yeah
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Foster would have a big, long beard. Can you grow a real big, long beard? I don't think so. I don't know.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
pete live laugh love tom live laugh love pete that's gonna be our uh and and unto you it'll always be like uh yes yes uh live laugh love wine o'clock um pete i want to tell you a tale that i've told before i've told you oh good but the kids love repetition oh okay all right as far as i can remember not on any podcast and there's a chance i told it on this podcast
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
because we stopped writing down on coda all the things we talked about we stopped doing that a long time ago and that was a mistake huge mistake okay yeah so you may remember as the story is going along that it sounds familiar but i want to tell it in a different light are you intrigued oh yeah okay uh yes and harrowed well i was going to say this story can be best described in one word
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Harrowing, Pete. Harrowing. Actually, for once, that's actually not true. What could have been harrowing was rendered relatively harrowless, if that's a word, by the two topics we're discussing today, kindness and patience, and the new word that I just learned, vapapasana. What is it? Vapapasana? That's too many. Vipasana. Vipasana. Vipasana. Vipasana. It's Vipasana. Okay, let's dive in. Yeah.
All The Feelings • The Sins & Virtues
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Let me begin by setting the scene. I'm going to move this over here. For this hero-ish tale, we are going all the way back to November 27th
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
2023 pete to put this bygone era in perspective the number one song on the billboard charts was cruel summer by taylor swift and the number one movie in the country was the hunger games colon the ballad of songbirds and snakes and for me that's still in the dollar theaters 100 this was not very long ago I just wanted to say colon Ballad of Songbirds and Snakes.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
As for me, on that day, I received a call. Did I answer the call? No. What am I, a sociopath? I didn't recognize the number, so I immediately sent it to voicemail. And I listened to it later that day, and there was a pleasant but bored-sounding man who said they were calling from the LADWP. That's the Los Angeles Department of Water and Power. They keep the lights on and the water afloat.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Cannot imagine not enough testosterone. Oh, you know what? That seemed like a little, I was doing my impression of a robot. Should we start this process and kick things off by talking about today? We are talking about kindness and patience or patience and kindness. I say we throw to our good friend robot. Robot, please define kindness.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
He said that they had noticed that my bill was, quote, a little higher than normal. this cycle, and that if I wanted any helpful hints on how to reduce my electrical usage, I should call them. I was like, well, that's nice of them, I thought. I wonder how much higher it could have been. So I hopped online to check.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Pete, as you know, and our avid listeners know, I live in a one-bedroom apartment with my dog, and I pay my water electric bill every two months. Is that how you do it? Is it every month or every two months? I don't know if that's universal. That's how they do it.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Every two months. And my average bill is around $180. I don't honestly know if that's a lot or a little. It goes up in the summer because the San Fernando Valley is built on the sun, but it's usually about $180. And so I got that nice call message from that nice call man, and it was going a little bit over. I was guessing what? Maybe 250, 260? Sure.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
That's just under six times more than my average bill. And that guy called to see if I wanted any tips. This is not where you get. What was his tip going to be?
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Like, sir, have you tried unplugging eight of the nine refrigerators you just bought? Like, I couldn't understand what tip. Like don't use all 300 of the electric blankets you just got from Amazon. So obviously the meter reader guy read the meter wrong or she, my apologies, the meter reader person read the meter wrong. And so I called customer service and I wait on hold for 48 minutes, Pete.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
And I know I'm in the right. And I know this is all annoying and I'm getting a little bit annoyed and And I'm waiting and I'm waiting. And the hold music I remember is somehow insanely loud. Like I turned my phone down, but it's piped in so loud there's distortion. It's like... So it's really hard.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Yes, exactly. I was using my electric phone. I would crank it up. And every 12 seconds, a voice would come on the line telling me that I was on hold. Got it. I'm there. Have you ever had... There's a rash of facilities out here in Los Angeles that they don't say, we'll be right with you. They say, you are currently on hold. But they don't tell you like what place you are in.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
They're just reminding you exactly the purgatory you're in. It's like when I go to an AMC movie theater and there's an ad for, hey, do you want to try AMC? I'm here. I am doing it. So 48 minutes. And I was getting really frustrated. It was, I mean, it turned off my air conditioning because I was afraid that I was going to lose my apartment.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
And then I tried to change my way of thinking, and guess what it was, Pete? It was Vipassana.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
It was Vipassana. Because even though I was in the right and was suffering for reasons I didn't deserve, was it really that big of a deal? I was able to just sort of sit back and be like, I didn't have to cancel a meeting to be on hold right now. I'm sitting in my incredibly expensive, now I know, apartment, just draining electricity into the ground. And...
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Why not just see it for the ridiculousness that it was? So I took a deep breath and just decided to go through it with as much kindness and patience as possible. And this is going to have a reason that this exists. Well, the next step is I met Janelle. Janelle finally came on the line. And in a bit of a monotone, she introduced herself and asked how she can help.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
And as cheerfully as I can, I explained that I believe there's a problem with my bill and I'd like to see what the options are to help with it. And with all due respect, Pete, Janelle is ready for me. And I don't mean ready to help me with open arms. I mean, she is ready to explain exactly that the only problem is me and there's nothing to be do about it. And.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
instead of becoming defensive or cutting her off or coming back at her because I was in this Vipassana type of mood, I was like, she just must be yelled at all the time.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Every day. No one says, thanks for the water. Click. Why would you do that? That's what a crazy person would do. No, she just deals with people. She is like the LADWP customer service must be like every airport person that like sits at the different gates. Like all you're doing is Hurting cattle. Taking problems. Taking problems that you did not cause and you are not in charge of.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Oh, yep. Fair enough. I did not see that one coming. Okay, please define kind.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
And so, and yeah, so obviously her defenses were up very high. So again, patience, kindness for Basana. I didn't talk over her, shut her down. I let her say her whole piece. And then I very calmly and very cheerfully asked, do you mind, could you just pull up my bill so we can look at it together? Yeah. And she starts typing away. I can hear her typing.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
And she starts a new speech about how bill fluctuations happen. And they're almost always accurate representations of usage. And other than payment plans, there isn't a lot they can do. And whoa, that's what she says. She stops at mid-sentence and goes, whoa. And she says, yeah, that is certainly a jump, huh? And I laugh and I say, that's why I was calling. And that's when everything turns.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
This is a very simple Aesop fable involving the LADWP. But because I was patient and kind, she was extremely patient and kind in turn. Here's what she did. She thanked me for my patience. And because I was in such a ridiculous situation, she went out of her way. She said the next step was to have someone come out and reread the meter. But that could take a really long time.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
And I would keep getting notices about bills. And I'd be worried about collections. It was hard to jam that up. She said, instead, let's just take care of it together while you're on the phone. She walked me where to go to read the meter. I knew where the meters were, but she helped me find... It's like a blizzard of cords and weird dials and everything.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
She helped me find my actual meter that belonged to my particular apartment. She had me take a photo of...
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
of it with my phone and send it directly to her while i was on the phone she forwarded it to another department who immediately confirmed that the guy read it wrong he read it backwards yeah they kind of looked like clocks he read it backwards so instead of some power i used all the power and it got solved that afternoon yeah So you've apostatized your way right through that.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Or that the 1973 audience members were throwing up and fainting in the theater before they ever got a glimpse of the demon?
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
But I'm not if this isn't supposed to be a story of, hey, check me out being a real sweetheart. It was, I guess, a karmic situation that because I didn't, if I went in hot, and then she was forced to sort of apologize. And I was like, yeah, you're right. That wouldn't have been solved for a week or two. But instead, she stopped everything. So
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
i think it's just how kindness and patience can be instantly rewarded with more kindness and patience kindness and patience seems like something so altruistic but you also get something from it like if you want if it helps you to be greedy about being kind and patient fine as long as it leads to more kindness whatever you need whatever weird backflips you need to do as long as you don't
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Perfect. Now let's close it off. Please define patience and we'll get started.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
beep back at someone that beeps at you and you're in the wrong and they're in the wrong. I mean, just every day. Don't even get me started on Ralphs. Have I mentioned Ralphs in the last three minutes?
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
If we were just all able to just take a deep breath and see the absurdity around us for just that and show kindness and patience, so many things, as we said in the very top of the episode, so many things would fall into place. And that's it. That's my fable, Pete. I love that. I almost had to pay a bunch of money and then I didn't. It's not that great of a story.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
But I really wanted to give a shout out to Janelle. I just sort of went through the story again in my head and I'm like, that maybe didn't need to exist.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Yeah. Well, no. Yeah. Do it to Netflix. They'll drag it out to 12. Yeah. They'll do me staying on hold in real time as a whole.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Noted racist and adulterer Roald Dahl.
All The Feelings • The Sins & Virtues
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Peace, sins, and virtues.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Because these are words, kind of like you said, kindness and patience are words we use, but we don't think about it. I can put every single episode, every single word on that list. That I would just use the word wrath and not think about it. I would use the word envy, but not think about how it related back in the day to religion.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
All of those things was really exciting and really fun for me because these are such backbones. We think of them as just seven deadly sins, but you're really only thinking about the David Fincher movie. You're not thinking about them being sins. And so, yeah, I was really enjoyed this. I thought this was fun. I like themes.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Robot, you understand that I don't want you to define words by using the same words, right?
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Yeah. Splash around. My biggest takeaway was I learned what the seven heavenly virtues were and that there were heavenly virtues behind them. I legitimately had no idea that there was an offset. Of course there would be, but to all the seven deadly sins. So yes, to say, did I learn something? I learned about the existence of an entire canon of thought. So that's very exciting.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Sorry. Sorry. Well, guys, good news, bad news. Yes, we are. And yes, we are. We do not know in exactly what capacity, if there's going to be a new theme, if we're going to stick with all the feelings. We don't know. It's Willie Nails, baby.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
We're shooting from the hip here.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Yeah, so now is the time. If you're still thinking about becoming a feeling friend, now is the time to lock those in because we're probably going to be eating and drinking weird things with our friend Mandy Kaplan. One would assume we're going to have all sorts of check-ins. We will get you through this dark podcast-less winter together. It might be insects. Nope. Nope.
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I have been incredibly clear. I am never eating insects. I don't care what type of road warrior situation we end up at.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Thank you all so, so, so much for downloading and spending the season with us. It is an honor to be able to do this. Thank you for coming along. Until we speak again, I'm Tommy Metz III.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Yeah, okay, now I see what's happening here. Is there an adjective near there?
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Great. Well, that's all the time we have for this episode. Thanks, Robot.
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Yeah, we are going to find a new draft of that next time. All right, so patience and kindness. Pete, where do you want to start? Where would you like to start?
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Ever wonder where Ouija boards came from or how they got their name? How about some history on the Catholic Church or the Roman rite of exorcism? Or maybe we can tempt you with some juicy demonology lore. Did you know that Pazuzu had an ex-wife? Find The Exorcist Minute on iTunes or Spotify or wherever you listen to your shows or at TheExorcistMinute.com.
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I did. I watched quite a bit of it. And I was surprised they didn't get the hot girl. I'm further dating us. I was assuming that the Hawk girl would be all over the DNC, but nope.
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Of course. It seems so optimistic and it seems so rallying. It's really energizing. And it doesn't seem like I mean, I liked it a little bit more before people started using their speeches to criticize the other side. I liked it when it was just more of a I know this is not Harris's thing, but more of a yes, we can less of a no, they can't. And here's why I get it.
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They've been poking fun at the other side for a lot. So they have it coming. But still, I like it when it's just straight up positivity. And here's what we're going to do. And here's how we can do it. With that in mind, you asked, what do I think about kindness and patience?
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
I think if you had to boil everything down, these are the two things that I think are the most important for what we always need and what we need now. Because if you have kindness and patience, everything else seems like it falls in line. I mean, you can keep a little bit of lust on the side. But kindness and patience, kind of by definition, cancels so much bad stuff out.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
So it's a nice time to have that.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Oh, that's interesting. Right. Yeah, that if the – and we won't say who. I don't even remember which side it was. But just continually saying we're a nation in decline, everybody's in trouble, nobody's safe, that starts to get really numbing. Yeah. Or it has for me. I'm just not even hearing those words, and instead I am on this surge of positivity, which is really interesting and exciting.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Well, howdy, folks. My name is Lester Ryan Clark.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Yeah. Yeah. That is – I like what you just said though. In my desperate effort to hear my voice, I just started immediately talking. I like that you say that usually you would think that fear would be the bigger motivator and I think for a long time it was, that it has been. It worked. For lack of a better word, fear works. Yeah.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
uh i'm still on green um but maybe that that button can only be pushed so long and then it just doesn't work anymore because nothing has burned down i am right my nation is not in decline and i was just outside on a walk i didn't catch fire once like not like that
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Right. Yeah. This line, someone just remembered their print coupons and they're hidden somewhere deep in their purse. And I'm already line committed. So I'm not going to go somewhere.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
No. No, I see what you're saying. No, it's not the way that I think of it. That would be more restraint.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
No. But that's – yeah, I feel that patient is a very passive reaction to a fairly passive situation. It's more just like it's not – holding yourself back from beating someone up. It's just try not to get so annoyed at Ralph's. Like, that's it. Can you tell that I spend too much time at Ralph's?
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
What would be an example? And then how does that differ from restraint?
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
The interesting thing about kindness... Kindness slaps.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Well, it's exactly what you were talking about of fear only works so long that you can scare people into doing something. Or if you're nice to them, hopefully that will cause more empathy. And that just spreads and spreads because you are forced to realize it's not just you against the world.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
I think it happens a lot more than we think it does. Mm-hmm. And I also think that showing a TikTok of someone being quiet and kind isn't as interesting as showing someone screaming at someone else in an airport. And so it makes it seem like society is coming apart at the seams all the time. And it's just really not.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
There's something, I mean, there's something kind of nicely boring about being just sort of everyday positive. You don't have to be running around like Mr. Beast and buying Hummers for people. I don't actually know who Mr. Beast is. Does he like give away a bunch of money or something?
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
That's wonderful, but you don't even have to do that because that is such a concentrated thing. But one of the things, speaking of patience, and if we're saying that kindness is an offset of this, that I've been really trying to explore recently, not just because of this episode, is I guess it's mindfulness.
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
I don't know, like saying that word in myself, I don't seem like a very mindful person, but is when I start to feel impatient or start to feel like I'm getting frustrated, to step outside of it and go, wait, am I actually frustrated or am I just thinking I should be frustrated? Meaning, just because this line, someone butt in front of me, is that really making a deal?
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Or is my sense of weird justice making it seem like I have the right to be mad, so I should be mad? Or who cares? Do I really, really feel this emotion? Or is it just that I'm supposed, that I'm afraid I'm supposed to feel it? I'm making it into a riddle. Does it make sense what I'm saying?
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Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk
Oh, I guess I don't know.
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Lust: The Guiltiest Party
Or that the 1973 audience members were throwing up and fainting in the theater before they ever got a glimpse of the demon?
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Lust: The Guiltiest Party
Ever wonder where Ouija boards came from or how they got their name? How about some history on the Catholic Church or the Roman rite of exorcism? Or maybe we can tempt you with some juicy demonology lore. Did you know that Pazuzu had an ex-wife? Find The Exorcist Minute on iTunes or Spotify or wherever you listen to your shows or at TheExorcistMinute.com.
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Lust: The Guiltiest Party
Well, howdy, folks. My name is Lester Ryan Clark.
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Lust: The Guiltiest Party
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Greed: The Dopamine of Desire and that New iPhone Smell
Or that the 1973 audience members were throwing up and fainting in the theater before they ever got a glimpse of the demon?
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Greed: The Dopamine of Desire and that New iPhone Smell
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Greed: The Dopamine of Desire and that New iPhone Smell
Ever wonder where Ouija boards came from or how they got their name? How about some history on the Catholic Church or the Roman rite of exorcism? Or maybe we can tempt you with some juicy demonology lore. Did you know that Pazuzu had an ex-wife? Find The Exorcist Minute on iTunes or Spotify or wherever you listen to your shows or at TheExorcistMinute.com.
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Greed: The Dopamine of Desire and that New iPhone Smell
Well, howdy, folks. My name is Lester Ryan Clark.
All The Feelings • The Sins & Virtues
Greed: The Dopamine of Desire and that New iPhone Smell
And we're the hosts of The Exorcist Minute, a show where we examine, extrapolate, and excavate the scariest movie of all time.
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Temperance: A Surprisingly Progressive Crusade
Or that the 1973 audience members were throwing up and fainting in the theater before they ever got a glimpse of the demon?
All The Feelings • The Sins & Virtues
Temperance: A Surprisingly Progressive Crusade
Ever wonder where Ouija boards came from or how they got their name? How about some history on the Catholic Church or the Roman rite of exorcism? Or maybe we can tempt you with some juicy demonology lore. Did you know that Pazuzu had an ex-wife? Find The Exorcist Minute on iTunes or Spotify or wherever you listen to your shows or at TheExorcistMinute.com.
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Temperance: A Surprisingly Progressive Crusade
Well, howdy, folks. My name is Lester Ryan Clark.
All The Feelings • The Sins & Virtues
Temperance: A Surprisingly Progressive Crusade
And we're the hosts of The Exorcist Minute, a show where we examine, extrapolate, and excavate the scariest movie of all time.