Danielle
Appearances
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update: Ex-Aversary
I won't compare him with a 12-foot pole.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update: Ex-Aversary
Yeah. Well, I will tell you this. I don't want anything to do with him, so I don't.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update: Ex-Aversary
Well, I don't like people who go through my personal things and make me feel uncomfortable.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update: Ex-Aversary
I don't know what he's told you or whatever happened. But he was in my business, like literally in my bag, my wallet business.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update: Ex-Aversary
I had to use the restroom. So I asked him if he'd hold my stuff for me.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update: Ex-Aversary
While we were waiting, I went to the restroom.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update: Ex-Aversary
So my purse was only out of my possession for a moment, but I think that's when he went in my bag and snatched my stuff. What stuff?
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update: Ex-Aversary
Well, it surely isn't there anymore. And it sounds minute, but for me, it's the principal. What did he take? My Jamba Juice card.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update: Ex-Aversary
It was in my wallet, right in the front of my wallet. So why is it in my purse to even go in my wallet?
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update: Ex-Aversary
Hello, that's what I'm trying to figure out.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update: Ex-Aversary
And why the hell would you take my Jamba Juice card?
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update: Ex-Aversary
See, I knew it. I told you guys. Wow.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update: Ex-Aversary
Why are you in my bag? Does no one see that that's an issue? Why are you in my bag? Yeah, that is also bad. And why are you getting something for your ex?
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update: Ex-Aversary
If your phone's that tight, you probably should not have been going out with me, Kendrick.
Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Second Date Update: Ex-Aversary
This is so weird. We gotta go.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
Yeah. I feel like that's definitely something that has been a challenge. I have been able to make shit happen for people and that's what I've done for CEOs and in these companies. And I know how to do that in the creative realm, and I don't know how to turn that into a business that has perfect product market fit.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
That's theoretically fine. I did try really hard to do that. And the jobs just, you know, I started applying over the summer and stuff like that. And things were just like really tough. And I know a lot of incredible people that got hit with layoffs that are still struggling to get a position. And I struggled then too, with how to kind of like cast myself.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
I have worked across three different industries at least already. And the thing that I do is called a different thing in each one and requires a different background in each one.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
And I know that I can do certain jobs, but when I'm asked if I am the best person for a job or things like that, like that's where it's like, I do know that there's so many people who have really refined their skillset in that one area. And I've been like all over the board. And that was a little bit of a challenge when I was applying for jobs. Mm-hmm.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
I think that when people just like have like cold approach to me, I've been working on how to share my pricing. And the problem is, is that even if someone's been willing to like pay me the full price, I felt bad, like stating it aloud and just said like, pay whatever, just like do a pay what you can more so because like, I know that they're struggling or I think that they're struggling.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
And then I've gotten burned a few times doing that because then I saw them turn around and pay someone 10 times what they paid me without thinking about it. And that kind of like, that kind of, I don't know if it hurts, but it's just like, kind of a bummer, but it's also partially my fault that that happened.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
But yeah, I think that I've been still trying to find out what that product market fit is. It's almost like I've been doing that thing where I'm beginning again in a way and like, oh, I'll just price these lower, just do some of these things just to get my feet wet and just start getting more of a portfolio in this specific area. And that's been a challenge with then going out and
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
I don't really go out and try to find business either. That's one of my problems. I don't know how to like pitch myself necessarily. I don't like to look really eager. And to be honest, like I have to put on a fake version of myself to do that. And I don't know how to just be my, you know, like, yeah.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
I think that money has always been like a little bit of a complicated topic. I grew up with like you know, my parents didn't have much money and they were in service oriented professions, like trying to help other people. And so money was kind of something that if you had a lot, then it was like egotistical or selfish and you weren't sharing with others. I feel like
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
Saying that now sounds a little bit strange. I don't know if I have the best language for it still, but that is actually what I went to college. I went to college to try to be in a profession that was helping other people, but just really geared toward that. I knew I wasn't gonna be making money. I'm not actually in that profession. My life has taken a much different route.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
Yeah, that's actually, I want to avoid that too because I have been the cheap pick before and I don't want to be the cheap pick again because I know how I get treated when I am that. I need to do some more market research around pricing just because there's so many different like possibilities of offerings. And I have not figured that out yet.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
And so whatever way I shake it, I do want to just double check up, but I don't want to be low. And I also, the high I am uncomfortable with for multiple reasons, including the ones that you said.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
Yes, absolutely. When you said that, something did click in me. I do have a question though, because I am someone who I'm a very proud person in certain ways. And one of those ways is even when I was paying full price and not taking any discounts on things. And that is one thing that I don't know what that is within me. I should probably talk to my therapist about that at some point, but I...
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
just do not ever want to be seen as weak or fragile or powerless or also like incapable in that way, like unable to pay the full price. And I think maybe because I wanted people to respect me without demanding it, I have wanted to pay their full price or more. And sometimes I will do that. Like sometimes I will be obnoxious and like paying more always like I think it's an ego thing.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
I just don't know why I do that.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
But I did spend time post-grad. My first post-graduate job after my bachelor's degree, I only made $19,200 a year. And I also had a kid that year and spent time on food stamps, Medicaid, which truly saved my life because... I would be drowning in death if not, just due to a lot of unforeseen circumstances.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
Mm-hmm. I don't know. That's a good question. I feel like I would need to dig into that. Yeah, I think that I am an idealist to my own detriment. And I know that I would have had millions of dollars in medical debt. But on principle, I support stuff. But I guess that is a contradiction.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
I ended up in jobs where I was making six figures, worked my way up in the creative realm, mostly as a creative director at a tech company for my last full-time position until this past July when I was forced to go out on my own, but it was honestly the best nudge. I had been needing to quit the job that I was at for a while, but it was like the golden handcuffs. I made too much to feel
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
Yeah, it does lend itself. I have got some internal work to do around social media and putting myself out there clearly because it's very uncomfortable for me, as I know it is for a lot of people.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
So like, I don't know, like what version of myself, like is the one that I'm supposed to be putting out there because the one that is like holistically me isn't, Like I also am a writer and I also love like writing weird shit and I just want to be able to be myself. And it's not like this polished, like, you know, business forward image.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
like I could easily step away. And I was honestly too overwhelmed and stressed there to even thinking about doing something else. So I got hit in layoffs and that really propelled me into where I am now, which like I had begun by applying for a bunch of jobs and the jobs just weren't opening up. And my partner was like, well, what if you could actually do the thing that you wanted to do?
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
And I don't know how to be my weird little self and also what version of myself people pay me to do. I don't know what I'm saying. Do you know what I'm saying?
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
So now I'm here, maybe trying to do the thing that I actually want to do. I have no idea how to actually take care of my family in a productive way. So it's kind of this tension. I started my own company kind of broadly thinking that if I could take all of my creative wheelhouse and turn it into a company that supports other people, then I'm wondering if I could make good money that way.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
No, I just appreciate you. Thank you for sharing all that. And there's some things that you said that I want to sit with a little bit more, especially one of the things that you were saying about more for me isn't less for them. And that's something that I think I have a lot to unpack in that regard. And I feel like that with a lot of the things that we discussed.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
So I really appreciate your insight and your time.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
Instead, I've ended up working with a lot of people that I love working with. The people that I'm drawn to work with are mostly women who cannot afford to pay. And I love working with them and I do not feel right charging them. And I do not know how to also be responsible and take care of my family and have boundaries when it comes to money as well.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
Yeah, I think that I have every couple year burnout cycle. That's my tendency. So hopefully I'm off of it for a little bit.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
No, not at this point in my career, which I'm in my mid thirties and So much of my career has just been hustling and hauling ass to try to get better projects or get better income or things like that. I don't think that I've been able to do that, be at ease, but also feel respected by the income that I'm making.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
I don't mean to be cynical, but Honestly, I think that is a point of frustration for me right now because the only people that are immediately coming to mind and the people that I have been witnessing, especially recently are mostly men who are consultants who have ended up being able to charge exorbitant amounts and make that money.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
And I think that that's kind of one of the things that's been really frustrating me is knowing how many like, extremely overqualified women I know who are not getting that and not being able to just like sit around and just rake the money. And, you know, someone, I was just talking to a friend this morning who was talking about hearing someone brag that he was making $4,000 a day doing nothing.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
And it's just like the assholes that end up raking in the money. And it's really frustrating to me, just like our society in general, in so many ways that is not working for the people. And so many people, extremely overqualified people than I know.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
And I'm not actually even referencing myself in that regard, but just how hard it is to like, God, if she can't do it, then like, if she is like so extremely overqualified, like so much more qualified than me, you know, has 15 more years of experience on me, but she is also begging for scraps like that. that pisses me off. And that's one of the frustrating things is like, I know that this exists.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
I don't know how to make that a reality for people, let alone for myself.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
I guess I fucking hate the game. I wish that we didn't have to play the game. I wish like I didn't have to like vomit every time I opened LinkedIn. I just am trying to figure out how to be an authentic person and like still be true to myself. And I would love further to be a way where like, I can still feel fulfilled, but also still put food on the table.
Money Rehab with Nicole Lapin
"I Feel Guilty Asking For More Money. Am I Wrong? Coach Me!" with Claire Wasserman
And then I would also love to give that way to other people too. And I, that's like one of the things is like, if, I wish we could build a new game and then invite everyone that I know who is also struggling with this to be part of that.
Something You Should Know
Why We Forget & The Amazing Story of Your Body’s Atoms - SYSK Choice
I had Danielle and Megan record some answers to seemingly meaningless questions. I asked Danielle, what insect song is typically higher pitched in hotter temperatures and lower pitched in cooler temperatures?
Something You Should Know
A Paradox That Makes You Miserable & How We Amplify Our Own Stress
I had Danielle and Megan record some answers to seemingly meaningless questions. I asked Danielle, what insect song is typically higher pitched in hotter temperatures and lower pitched in cooler temperatures?
The Bald and the Beautiful with Trixie and Katya
A Blueberry Bayou Adventure with Trixie and Katya
Before that? Yes. You have? Yes. Were you intimate before that? Yes. You have. Okay, so you've kind of consummated the relationship.
The Bald and the Beautiful with Trixie and Katya
A Blueberry Bayou Adventure with Trixie and Katya
Was there any intimacy after the wedding at all?
The Bald and the Beautiful with Trixie and Katya
A Blueberry Bayou Adventure with Trixie and Katya
Yes.
The Bald and the Beautiful with Trixie and Katya
A Blueberry Bayou Adventure with Trixie and Katya
Can you tell us what he's talking about? He has told people that I smell and I peed on him.
The Bald and the Beautiful with Trixie and Katya
A Blueberry Bayou Adventure with Trixie and Katya
You know what? I don't even want to know. Thank you very much.
The Ramsey Show
It’s Our 2024 Annual Giving Show!
Okay, so my husband and I are both educators in a small school. And in 2018, there's a theme I've noticed today in the show, but
The Ramsey Show
It’s Our 2024 Annual Giving Show!
Unfortunately, we lost two students to suicide, and it was one of the hardest things as an educator that we've had to go through, and we decided we were on baby step six, and we decided to go ahead and take a goal that we had for baby step seven, and we went ahead and started a college scholarship in the name of my brother. His name was Evan, and we give, we raise money, and we give
The Ramsey Show
It’s Our 2024 Annual Giving Show!
scholarships to students at our high school. And so far to date, since then, we've been able to give 15 scholarships, ranging from $750 to, actually, I'll pause real quick and say that where we get the funds is
The Ramsey Show
It’s Our 2024 Annual Giving Show!
Um, we don't, I have an annual fundraiser in the summertime and the students at the school will help me to put on the fundraiser and we sell, um, food burritos and salsa and the community is extremely generous.
The Ramsey Show
It’s Our 2024 Annual Giving Show!
And so, um, I'll, I'll tell people that, um, you know, the, the food costs a certain amount, but they'll tip me like crazy cause they know that every dollar that they give to us will go straight to the college scholarship, straight to the kids. And, um, The reason why we wanted to do the scholarship is because the loss felt really real to us and we wanted to have change in the community.
The Ramsey Show
It’s Our 2024 Annual Giving Show!
But we also knew that we would prefer that the scholarship be more about going to school without loans than mental health. And so our focus is on teaching kids also on how to go to school without any loans.
The Ramsey Show
It’s Our 2024 Annual Giving Show!
We have given out 15 so far, and we've awarded over $64,000 in scholarships. I love it. Yeah, it's a community. The community is very generous, plus we have some really generous donors. And how the kids will qualify for the scholarship is they have to
The Ramsey Show
It’s Our 2024 Annual Giving Show!
listen to the borrowed future or watch the documentary and they have to come up to us and let us know how they're going to school without loans and so our scholarship renews every year for up to $10,000 and I'm proud to say quite a few of these kids, I know it's made a difference in them going to school.
The Ramsey Show
It’s Our 2024 Annual Giving Show!
We changed their mindset and they go to school without any loans and that makes me very proud and it's the only positive thing I can say that came from the losses that we had.