I used to sit on snapchat on my free time, peering into the lives of people I barely knew. in my mind, it felt like I was going through a never ending hell while they lived their best lives.the fear of missing out drove me to seek out things I felt I deserved. it drove me to do things that were completely out of my character. it wasn't until my second semester of college that I realized... this wasn't who I wanted to be.I urge you to address your fear.sending you lots of love and peaaaaaace!!!https://linktr.ee/thezurkieshow
What is the fear of being unlovable and how can it be addressed?
For a while I had a fear of being unlovable that I just, I wouldn't find anybody who found me worthy, not even one person. And I think that a way of tackling that fear and addressing that fear was putting myself out there.
I feel as if when you meet somebody who's really meant to be in your life, or they're meant to be your friend, or you go through an experience that is sometimes unsettling, the best thing you can do is address the fear. Every time I have addressed the fear in my life, I have met the coolest people, I have done the coolest things, and also
I have come out the other end with so many experiences that were just like bizarre and life-changing. For me, like a big thing that I guess I have like a fear of is not doing enough in my life. Like I really, really, really want to live a good life. And I mean... I really don't know what that is.
I used to think when I was younger, that meant that I needed a lot of money, that money meant a good life. And sure. I think that having resources is important, right? Like you need a place to live. You need a place to sleep. You need good Chili's meals to eat for 60. Okay. Let's hold off on that. I don't want to get too worked up already, but that fear,
of not accomplishing enough while I'm still around on this planet, and that fear of not being able to meet people that I feel as if are going to bring experiences and moments into my life that will teach me so many new things, I feel like that has been a driving force in my motivation.
in my motivation to get up every morning, in my motivation to put myself out there in front of people and see what happens, fear is one of the best feelings that if we lean into it can bring us some of the most incredible, incredible things. It can bring us stability. It can bring us accomplishments. It can bring us this feeling of content. If we address the fear in our life, we almost...
dumb it down a little bit we almost make it palatable sometimes like the fear is is not readily accessible it's gatekept it's like a uh a bonus level in a video game you have to get the dlc for it and oftentimes we might feel as if oh i think i know what my fear is but you don't really know it Until you kind of have a conversation with yourself and try to pinpoint it.
For a while, I had a fear of being unlovable. That I just... I wouldn't find anybody who found me worthy. Not even one person. And I think that a way of tackling that fear and addressing that fear was putting myself out there. What does that mean? What does it mean to put yourself out there? I think it means...
championing your personality, your quirks, your weirdness, your awkwardness, your tendencies to not feel social, your tendencies to want alone time, your tendencies to want to fit in and knowing that that's not, that's not why somebody is going to accept you. They're probably going to accept you for the person that you are. And I think that was a big realization for me.
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