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All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
The AI Cold War, Signalgate, CoreWeave IPO, Tariff Endgames, El Salvador Deportations
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All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
The AI Cold War, Signalgate, CoreWeave IPO, Tariff Endgames, El Salvador Deportations
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All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
The AI Cold War, Signalgate, CoreWeave IPO, Tariff Endgames, El Salvador Deportations
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
The AI Cold War, Signalgate, CoreWeave IPO, Tariff Endgames, El Salvador Deportations
Let your winners ride.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
Hurricane fallout, AlphaFold, Google breakup, Trump surge, VC giveback, TikTok survey
All right, everybody, welcome back to the number one science, politics, technology and business podcast in the world for five years running. We're about to hit our fourth anniversary here, episode 200 is coming up. And a bunch of lunatic fans are getting together, you can join them all in.com slash meetups. Holy cow, we got the domain name All In? Fantastic. Go to allin.com slash meetups.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
Hurricane fallout, AlphaFold, Google breakup, Trump surge, VC giveback, TikTok survey
And I am of course, your executive producer for life and some moderate podcast. And if I may just a tiny plug. If you're a founder, we are having our ninth cohort of founder University. It's a 12 week course I teach on starting companies. What are you doing?
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
Hurricane fallout, AlphaFold, Google breakup, Trump surge, VC giveback, TikTok survey
The only good news, Freiburg, is that now people are building the first couple of floors in high rises in Miami and homes on stilts with concrete and with resistant, you know, saltwater resistant material. So there is a counter to this. So we might...
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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Yeah, so it might actually be an opportunity to upgrade all these homes to resistant ones using another set of technologies. But the bailout is really interesting too, Sax, because Florida's got a lot of electoral college votes, doesn't it? Like, I hate to bring this back to politics, but, you know, promising people bailouts is how these politicians seem to be getting votes these days.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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I'm just giving a quick plug for Found University.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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And just for background, FEMA manages something called the NFIP, National Flood Insurance Plan. And it's historically about 50% cheaper than private flood insurance. They have 4.7 million active policies providing 1.3 trillion in coverage. But they instituted a new risk assessment system and that caused rates to increase and
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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Yeah, it's because of all this, the policies have decreased over the last couple years, meaning less people have flood insurance at the same time that these things are getting worse. And so, yeah, this is a really tough issue. I wonder if this is an opportunity, Chamath.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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if you think about historically how insurance worked, it worked in communities where people would help each other out and do barn raising kind of events when somebody had a problem. So if we just put on our entrepreneurial hats here,
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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If you look at the cost of insurance, if 100 different people bundle the cost of their homes together, put money into some sort of platform, like an Uber, Airbnb marketplace, and there was some management structure here of self-insurance, because I know some people are doing self-insurance for healthcare at their companies for this kind of thing. Do you think there's going to be a new...
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
Hurricane fallout, AlphaFold, Google breakup, Trump surge, VC giveback, TikTok survey
business opportunity here.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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Yeah. And Sachs, there's a movement right now A lot of people, even of means, are renting their homes. And so in the real estate market, what are your thoughts on that? Just renting versus buying now becoming something that people in the top half of homeowners or potential homeowners are now electing to not own their home and rent. Have you been monitoring that?
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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at the high end of the range that people were running well if you think about it like there's there seems to be a cap when you have a 10 million dollar home of what you can possibly rent it for and it's it's the the prices are now making more sense to keep more sense to keep your money in the market or in other places and then rent i'm just hearing are you are you long real estate in florida or coastal california if you could or do you treat them differently
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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For Glue.ai.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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Once again, Sachs makes a great trade. Pretty awesome.
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Right. That's awesome for glue AI. And if you haven't tried SuperGut, Freedberg's team literally made an advertisement with me talking about SuperGut and didn't tell me.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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Well done, Sachs. Just like...
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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I lost a place to stay. I mean, the yacht access alone, being able to get out on the bay and get on a boat, the ski dudes, all this great stuff. All right, let's keep the Freiburg train going here. Huge news, AlphaFold creators just won a Nobel Prize in Chemistry. Two members of Google's DeepMind AI research team, Demis Hassabis and John Jumper, received this year's Nobel Prize in Chemistry.
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They both work for Google's DeepMind, as you know. And Freeberg, again, all in getting there first, explained what AlphaFold was back on episode 14 in December of 2020. That was almost four years ago. Freeberg, maybe you could explain.
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I believe you did. We'll go check the receipts using podcast AI search engine.
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Well, it's kind of like winning Sundance or Cannes. You win the Palme d'Or, you become a favorite to win at the Oscars, right, in the Academy Awards. So that's actually interesting. The regional or more industry-centric award could lead to the next one. So, Freeberg, just explain to us why this is so important before we go on.
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Okay, well, there you have it. So go to founder.university to apply for my 12-week program.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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What do you think, Freeberg? Explain to the audience why this is important and what's transpired since we talked about it four years ago.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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Yeah. It would use people's machines and extra CPU, like the SETI at home project to- Precisely, yeah.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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More Xanax to deal with your panic attacks? All right, let's get started, everybody. Enough of the shenanigans. Hurricane season is... Upon us, as Freeburg had predicted, Hurricane Milton made landfall on Wednesday evening along the west coast of Florida, as many of you know. It's been downgraded.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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not to virtue signal here, but those are plus size proteins. Now free, but they don't like being called chunky, plus size proteins, plus size. One, one really difficult technical question for your free bird. Is there any way for you to take this amazing breakthrough and make sacks interested in it?
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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Is there any possible vector here for it to relate to sacks and get him off his BlackBerry right now? Blackberry. I think he's playing chess with Teo and J.D. Vance is watching them play chess. I think that's what's going on right now. It's really hard. I mean, the poor audience here is watching Zach looking down. All right, let's keep this train moving here. Enough of the shenanigans.
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I think in the group chat, Chamath, you had an interesting, hey, maybe there should be a computer science award. for a Nobel Computer Science Award.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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All computer-based. Yeah, all computer-based. And in related news, Benioff just nominated himself. for excellence in CRM management. So congratulations to Benioff on nominating himself for a Nobel.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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It started as a Category 5, potentially, then a Category 3, and then it looks like it's a Category 1 now. So I guess these things are quite random. Leading up to Milton, though, 6 million Floridians across 15 counties were ordered to evacuate. That's a lot of people moving out. And it was a pretty powerful storm. It ripped off the roof of the Tropicana Field in Tampa.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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Benioff has done so much for philanthropy. Just ask him. If you... Oh, my God. Dude, he's doing the best he can.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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I mean... Okay, give me a funnier Nobel. Go ahead. Benioff runs a 300 billion market cap company.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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Now you're piling on. Anybody coming to Dreamforce 2025? Okay, let's move on. Sorry. Anyways, leave Benioff alone, G. Leave Benioff.
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I'd like to shout out my Jaders. They're just jokes, folks. I love you, Mark. I'm penny off. Come on the pod, Zach.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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Why? Well, he just... Anyway, we'll get to it later.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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Just look at Sachs' replies. Community with shared values. Hey, man, if I can get 25% of those ticket sales, I'm in. Let's go. All right. Let's keep the train moving here. We have an update on the DOJ's antitrust suit with Google. Looks like they're going for the breakup, as Chamath predicted. You remember the Bloomberg report back in August. We covered it in episode 192.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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Google was found liable for maintaining a monopoly in search and digital ads. Now the DOJ is working on the remedy, right? Okay, they're guilty. So now comes time for the remedy. And the DOJ is quote is from Bloomberg, considering asking a federal judge to force Google to sell off parts of its business.
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So far, the death toll is at four, but it's expected to rise, sadly. And just two weeks ago, Hurricane Helene swept through six southern states, killing over 220 people, tragically, devastating western North Carolina, and entire towns were wiped out. These are also, beyond the tragic human losses, are economically staggering in terms of the losses.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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And according to this filing, the DOJ is specifically considering structural remedies that would prevent Google from using products such as Chrome, Google Play, that's the App Store on Android, and Android itself to advantage Google search. 32 page document released by the DOJ lays out several options and we'll go through them and talk about them here.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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The obvious one, terminating Google's exclusive agreements with hardware companies like Apple. They're the default search engine there for $30 or $40 billion a year. Samsung, that's a layup. Separating Chrome and Android, my God, that would be drastic, ripping that out of the Google ecosystem, prohibiting certain kinds of data tracking. That's a layup as well.
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Or other behavioral and structural changes for the company. I'm going to pause there, Friedberg, and get your thoughts on this as a former Googler and you interviewed. Sergey at the summit, but I don't think we talked to Sergey about this, because obviously, he would not be able to talk about it. So what are your thoughts here on a potential remedy?
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And hey, subscribe to our YouTube channel. We're going to do some sort of crazy event for the million subscriber party. We're like 300,000 away, gentlemen. This is nuts, huh? Can you imagine this thing made it to 200 episodes?
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You kind of know this one. Pretty good with these predictions. Tell us we'll be sitting here five years from now, what will have occurred?
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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AccuWeather estimating the total economic damage could be between $145 and $160 billion from Helen. And Moody estimates the property damage alone could be as high as $26 billion. Tons to get into here. FEMA, Starlink, saving the day, tons of stuff. But Freeberg, back on episode 182, you predicted this would happen. What's causing all this?
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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I think that's a really good point. observation there about the timeline of this, because if you look at this, I have started now, and I know many people are starting their search journey on Claude and ChatGPT every day. I'm doing 30, 40, 50 queries and follow-ups per day. I force my entire team to do that as well.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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And so just as there's an actual viable competitor to Google, this action has reached, I don't know, the halfway mark, this is going to wind up being completely meaningless sacks. If chat GPT does build a viable competitor coexister that siphons off search, am I wrong here?
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I have one final thought here, a piece of advice for Sergey and the team over there. And I told Sergey directly, they have to get good at making apps. To go use ChatGPT, you take out the app and it's a wonderful, beautiful experience. When you go try to figure out how to use Gemini, it's like shoehorned into search results. And then it's like some subdomain. That's why people aren't using it.
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Go buy the domain in chat.com and make a dedicated app just for Gemini. And make it kick ass.
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Google, you suck at apps.
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And let's just start with the science angle, I guess, before we get into the other political and insurance issues.
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And selling YouTube would be the ultimate. I know that the ad networks you pointed out for your blog are connected, but if they distributed They spun out. I'll give you something about the ad thing. Can you imagine $500 billion going into Google's coffers in YouTube shares? They would have $500 billion in cash, Chamath.
All-In with Chamath, Jason, Sacks & Friedberg
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You know, this is a great setup for M&A. It's a great setup for IPOs starting to look like. And this is a multi-administration case that's been going, right? I think this started under Trump, went into Biden, and is now going to continue on to Trump or Harris. So what are your thoughts here, Sax?
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Absolutely. I am going to be printing money in a Trump administration. It is going to be obscene how many M&A deals and IPOs are going to occur. There is such a huge backlog. But I do think the Democrats want to get this moving as well. And I was talking to Reid Hoffman and you and Peter Thiel in the Illuminati meeting, and they voted 190 to 2 to replace Lena Kahn in the Illuminati meeting.
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Chamath, why didn't you make the Illuminati meeting last week? I'm shocked that you weren't there.
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Oh, really? They don't understand that I'm joking about the Illuminati?
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Shipelsha?
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Chamath, it looks like between the time we mentioned it on the pod, it's actually happening. Here it is. The jader's ball is happening. There it is. Lena Kahn, David Sax.
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Because you're a headliner. You're organizing. I think you're the host.
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Look, there's Zuck Nasty and there's Palmer Lucky. You guys don't know this bit from Chappelle? The Hater's Ball from Chappelle? Oh my god, it's the funniest bit On Chappelle's show, it's literally... I mean, I saw a lot of Chappelle's show.
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Just show the real picture, Nick. On the Chappelle's show, they have all of these pimps who have a yearly convention, which is their player haters wall.
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And all they do is sit there with like a toothpick in and they hate on each other and make fun of each other. I've seen this. It is the funniest bit in the history of the Chappelle's show. All right, let's keep the train moving here. CRV is... giving back or maybe not calling down 275 million from their LPs, Charles River Ventures, shout out to my pal, George Zachary and Greek brother from CRV.
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Historically, they invest in early stage startups, they did DoorDash, Airtable, Twitter back in the day. They had two funds that they raised back in 2022 billion dollar early stage fund and a 500 million growth fund. Sometimes people call that an opportunity fund or a select fund.
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The New York Times reported CRV is going to give back about half of that $275 million to investors or technically probably not call it down. The four partners at CRV gave an exclusive to the New York Times. So either getting ahead of this story or maybe, you know, who knows what the motivation here is.
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But the reason they gave is that the market conditions for late stage have worsened dramatically and that the valuations are still too high. Yes, the rent is too high. And that there aren't any exit options, as we just talked about, with the administration, no IPOs, no M&A. And that VC map doesn't work in the late stage. So I'll just stop there. There's a bunch of other notes here.
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Obviously, this isn't the first time this has happened. I think Founders Fund cut the size of its eighth fund in half from $1.8 billion to $900 million. They didn't actually give the capital back to VCs like they're saying CRV did here. Again, I'm not certain if that's what's happened or not.
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They put the extra $900 million into its ninth fund if they decide to raise that, which I'm assuming Founders Fund will. Chamath, do you have any thoughts on this, I guess, trend? We got two stories here, so I don't know if it's a trend or not.
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Peanut butter getting spread a little bit thin there. Any thoughts, Freeberg, on this trend, if we can call it that? Or is this like maybe they're reacting right as the market is changing and valuations are getting more reasonable and the exit opportunities are getting more reasonable? It seems like this was the right reaction two years ago, but maybe it's the wrong reaction now.
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What do you think, Freeberg?
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And to just explain this math before I get Sax's thoughts on this, if this was a $500 million fund, let's say they were putting $25 million into each, we'll take management fees out of it, $25 million into each opportunity at a billion dollar valuation, they would own 2.5% obviously of those firms.
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They need to get probably a $30 billion power law exit of 30x SACs in order to just return the fund. There'll be some dilution, obviously, along the way. That's why it's not 20x. And the number of companies that go from a billion to 30 billion per cycle is incredibly low. Uber, Coinbase, Airbnb. It's a really short list, huh, SACs in recent history?
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The Tigers and that sort of cohort, SoftBank, Masayoshi-san.
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They've been right-sized. They're not violently doing, I mean, the Tiger deal is my understanding was they weren't joining the board in a lot of the cases and they were outsourcing the diligence. And that was a pretty violent pace. I don't know.
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Count them on two hands the last cycle, like I just did. You got Uber, you got Robinhood, you got... Coinbase, Stripe will eventually come out. You got SpaceX. Well, that was two cycles ago.
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Moving on, Pew just published some really interesting research on TikTok. If you don't know the Pew study, they've been doing it for decades. It's very well respected and bipartisan or nonpartisan. Four in 10 U.S. adults aged 18 to 29 are now regularly getting their news from TikTok. Here's some charts for you to take a look at.
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As you can see, the younger generation is really spending a lot of time on tik tok and getting a lot of their news there. I know this because, yeah, I've talked to a bunch of kids about this. And people that use tik tok 52% are regularly getting their news from the platform. And that number has skyrocketed compared to other social platforms. Take a look at this chart.
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Here's x 59% of people say they get their news at x, it's really a news platform. So that makes total sense. You look at Facebook, it's, you know, 48% right now, Reddit 33%, YouTube 37% in 2024, Instagram 40%, but TikTok 52, up from 22%. So it's no longer just dancing. And this is the reason I think many people in the government
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were concerned about the attack vector that the CCP would have in the United States since they still control the company. For services like Snapchat, LinkedIn, and WhatsApp, and Nextdoor, it's below 20, below 30% get their news from there. There's your Truth Social there, SACS, 57% of people get news there and Rumble, 48%. So what's your takeaway from this, just SACS?
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looking at it and this impact that TikTok has, is this concerning on a national security level since the algorithm's a black box and you could tweak it if you really wanted to, to really change sentiment and young people are obviously very impressionable on this platform and they're big users of it.
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Okay, that's posting and the main reason, right?
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This is new information.
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Who's your favorite? Are you a Hulk Hogan guy? Are you an Undertaker guy? Vince McMahon?
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Wait, wait, hold on. Have you gone to a wrestling event in person?
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I'm a big Andy Kaufman wrestling fan. That was my only interest is when Andy Kaufman came in there. And trolled them.
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It was the late 80s. Remember he was on David Letterman with Jerry Waller. And he comes to a wrestling match, Sax, in the South.
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Right. So he goes there and he gets in the ring and he says, all of you rednecks, I want to show you some new inventions. This is called soap and this is called the washcloth and you use it to clean yourself. And he's just mocking the Southern accent and Jerry Lala. I remember Jerry Lala smacks him on Letterman. Oh, it's the greatest bit ever.
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Let me pause there for a second just to make sure people understand what you're saying. Emissions from cargo ships block sunlight, which then of course reduces the heat absorbed by the oceans. And so we're now choosing between pollution of the air or overheating of the oceans. Am I correct in summarizing that?
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You also had probably like some state fairs or, you know, like best goats, best sheep or something.
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I mean, the intergender champion, Andy Kaufman.
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I don't watch wrestling. Okay. Very good. And TikTok survey, anything? Where are you now? Any thoughts? Looks like they gathered some reasonable data. Okay. There you go. There's, there's your hard hitting.
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I negotiated it. I got it. It took me two years and I got a sick deal on it. I don't even want to say because I, you know, I don't want to change it, but I think I got it. Don't say, I'll just say you bleep it out. I got it for, And that's a million dollar domain, just so we all know. Five letters in the dictionary. So good for branding.
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Maybe it's 100% certain that the CCP is using it because they this people have tracked already journalists using it. So if they've already done it, it's 100%. I don't know about the passive listening, but any thoughts on 50% plus of young people getting their news here? Chamath, any news on that?
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I mean, obviously, we don't have evidence that it's being used currently to manipulate people, but it's over 50% of young people are now getting their news there. Or say they're getting their news there.
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There are a lot of people who think this show is a TikTok show. And they don't know it's a big show.
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It probably wouldn't swing an election, but it would cause chaos. And we just had the Southern District of New York Target, that Russian, Russia Today was giving $10 million to four podcasters. They didn't even know they were getting paid by the Russians. They just picked them because they liked their opinions. And they gave them $100,000 an episode to promote pro-Russian positions.
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Yeah, the goal is not to win any specific argument. It's to create mistrust in the entire news ecosystem, in the information system, so that people give up trying to figure out what the truth is. And that's what the Russians and the KGB- I think the mainstream media is doing that on their own.
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As are the Russians paying off podcasters.
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Great question. Great question. May I answer it?
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Not a conspiracy theory at all. These were very low-level, mid-tier B, C, D podcasters. If you give them $100,000 per episode, they can spend more money buying cameras, promoting their shows, hiring people. So you're just finding people and dropping money on their heads so they can do more of the same. So it's a very smart strategy, in fact, I think.
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Yes, it was. It was just more about getting the money to produce more content.
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Oh, there's a puppy. Oh, here he goes. Freebird trying to win more people over with his puppy love. Unbelievable. This guy is absolutely ridiculous. Unbelievable. All right, listen, let me give Saks some red meat here. He got he got his little steak ta ta with my Russia Today story. You got your little amuse bouge. And now I give you your tomahawk. You ready, Saks? You want your tomahawk?
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You want it rare? Here it comes. 2024 election update, the betting markets and polling indicate a really tight race, but maybe Trump is surging this week. Polymarket, which is a betting market, has Trump 55 to 45 versus Kamala. Kalshi, another betting market, 52, 48 Trump. Bovada and points bet those are offshore booking and Polly market is also offshore.
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5248 Trump, Nate Silver, friend of the pod. His algorithm has it 5347. Kamala real clear polling. That's an algorithm has Kamala with a two-point lead. New York Times-Siena, Kamala with a three-point lead. Reuters-Ipsos, pretty well-trusted, three-point lead for Kamala. NPR-PBS, Marist poll has Kamala with a two-point lead.
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So sport books and betting markets are favoring Trump slightly, while the polls are slightly favoring Kamala. Saks, I sliced it up nice for you. You got nice 10 slices of meat here. Which slice are you going for?
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I've never heard of Fabrizio.
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Or is it the other way? Is it that her Howard Stern interviews or whatever are causing her to lose votes?
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Because I don't know when, I don't have the dates of all these polls versus that.
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Spanners?
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What does it mean? Brent, what do you call it wrench in the system? You mean like an October surprise? You mean like some crazy turn of events? Okay. Freeberg, any thoughts here? Would you like to Rorschach test this and see what you want in the numbers? Or do you have some objective thoughts here? What do you what's your what's your take?
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Oh, yeah. Where we're at in the election. You're pretty open ended here. You can look at the you can make a note on overall what you see between the betting markets and the polls and that disparity. You could just talk generally about where you think we are. You could talk about Kamala on Howard Stern and doing a bunch of interviews with friendlies. Where are you at right now?
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She definitely did the most favorite shows. I wish she would do some challenging shows. I think she's got to do Joe Rogan, All In, and what would be another good podcast for her to do, Jamal, if she really wanted to do the adversarial thing or something more?
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Why would she do an adversarial? Just come to All In. Come and have a conversation. Come and have a normal conversation here, yeah.
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No, I mean, if you look back on every single presidential-related one we did here, they were all respectful, and they were all conversations. I think the Cuba one dipped, because of both of you, into a bit more of a debate, and it was a lot more crossover than the other ones.
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That's what he wanted. That's his style.
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If you look at all the other ones, I'm trying to think of a moment where it If you look at the other, Dean B. Phillips, Chris Christie, Vivek. Boring, gotta go. Love you guys.
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That's the paradox here, is that it was creating a blocker for sunlight, and to your point, Chamath, exactly. Like, shouldn't we just be going back to what was normal? But at the same time, in the same system, we had heated things up. So this is a multifactored system that we're dealing with Friedberg.
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And I guess the takeaway from all of this is that we got to be really careful with what we do with the environment, right?
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Ooh, I love it. Exactly, exactly. And you can yum yum. I got you sax.com, didn't I? You have the domain name sax.com. I negotiated that for you.
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The origin of this, though, Freeberg, is people have done experiments for decades on trying to control the weather or you know, alter the weather. And they're doing that in the Middle East by seeding clouds and creating more rain. We saw that with the Dubai floods, they said that that might have been caused by overseeding of clouds, which they're doing there.
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And then there have been experiments, just to, you know, for the crazy laser people conspiracy there, it's there a sun x, there actually have been experiments with lasers, you know, being shot into hurricanes and storms, correct?
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I'm just saying that's the origin of where people are kind of building on this. There have been the amount.
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The amount of teeing it up for you to debunk is what I'm doing here.
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Oh, the new website?
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I think a lot of the conspiracy theories are built on actual experiments that happened. This one, Project Storm Fury, I'm sure you know about, was to try to modify hurricanes by putting in some chemicals that would freeze them and dull them. So they're kind of building on this.
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Yeah, break it apart. There have been experiments here with altering weather, altering hurricanes, but that doesn't mean it's Putin, Pelosi, or the Illuminati.
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I think the worst case is you never figuring out if it was a yes or a no. You'll never know because you didn't ask them. When you know that something is hitting the fan, when you know that things are going wrong, you are often left with the decision that you have to make. oftentimes that decision is uncomfortable.
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But if you live in that kind of reality in your mind where all the time things won't work out, all the time, you know, things will just not flow in your favor and you think that way and you're always like, oh, the worst case will happen. Even if you don't define what the worst case is, it's like you are stressing over things that you have no control over. That you just don't know about.
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You just don't. Right? Right? So then it comes down to verbalizing what the worst case is. What is your biggest fear? What do you think would break you in this situation? Say it out loud. And look at it. Examine it. Write it down. I'll even do that when I journal sometimes. I'll write it down. I'll be like, okay, what would be the worst thing that could happen? Okay, it would be this.
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Sometimes I think like, okay, well, what if I committed so much time into this relationship and then this person, they cheat on me or they leave me for somebody else. Well, okay. What can I control in that? Not much. If it happens, would it suck? Yeah, of course it would suck. But would I still be living? Would I still be alive? Chances are, yeah. Unless it went really bad. Chances are, yeah.
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I'd be chilling. And then I really think about it and it's like, okay. I'll do what I can. I'll control what I can. But at a certain point, I know what the worst case is. It's really not that bad. I'll be okay. I will be okay. And maybe there's a worst case out there that you're really, really afraid of and you know would just be the end all be all. And I get that. Hey, I have fears too.
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We are so quick to immediately be like, no, no, no, no, I don't want to do that thing. No, no, no, get that away from me. Instead of asking ourselves, well, what's the worst case? I mean, do I even need to give this example? Like when you see someone you want to talk to and you think is cute and they're in your class and you're like, well, ah, ah, ah. Ask yourself, what's the worst case?
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But it's no way to live. It's no way to let these kind of things rule over the decisions that you make for yourself. It's not right. Because you're human, you're gonna make mistakes. You're gonna have a lot of things go wrong in your life. They go wrong on a daily basis for me. But as long as you persevere, as long as you realize that this is just a course of the way things go.
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You are paying your dues. as a human being, and that you will be okay in the end. The worst case, it really isn't. That bad Zerky show, it's really not that bad. Tackle that fear, do that thing, because the worst case, it never outweighs the best case, the upside. And if you think of the upside, if you think of the good, in my opinion, you're priming yourself
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You can watch it, you can scroll it, you can stream it. The Zerky Show is everywhere, bro. So if you want to tap in, tap in. We're here every day for you, and that will not. change. Do the things that bring you joy. There are so many things in this world for you to do. There are so many things for you to explore. Will some of them frighten you? Yeah, of course. Duh.
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But you won't know until you try it. So if you want to try carpentry, do it. If you want to try swimming or water polo, try it. Well, but I'm like a junior in high school. Who cares? Do it. Just do it. Well, I'm 28. Yeah. Okay? And you're going to be 29. So try it. What do you have to lose? Always ask yourself, what do you have to lose? Oftentimes, not much. I love you. I believe in you.
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What is the worst thing that can happen? What is genuinely the worst case in that kind of situation? Because I think that the worst case is you not knowing. I think the worst case is you never figuring out if it was a yes or a no. You'll never know because you didn't ask them. It's the same thing, hey, in school, I had some tests that I knew
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Ain't no way I was studying for, and it was, you know, I was in too deep. I was on my fourth YouTube rabbit hole of the day, and respectfully, I wasn't going to stop. I had to ask myself, like, okay, I mean, I'm going to put in this time to do this thing, but is this a good use of my time? This might be bad educational advice, but like what is the worst case? Right?
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You mess up one of your exams, okay? Do you have another exam that you can do better on? Yes, okay. Can you pass the class? Yes, I can. The worst case is that I won't be able to apply for this scholarship. And you've been good at keeping up with that scholarship. That's not good. Study for that exam. But weighing your options in a situation is so important.
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Let's say you are finally realizing that your hinge date is not cool and actually the small things that you thought were quirky are super annoying and you don't want them in your life and they keep texting you every single day. Shocker. It's almost like those red flags were there from the start. But whatever. I won't judge. I'm not one to judge. But now you have a decision.
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Weighing your options as to why something is happening and what are the potential outcomes of that situation is incredibly important because then you at least know the risk that you're taking and what could go very, very wrong. Because listen, we like to romanticize potentially the good. For a lot of us that are super optimistic, we like to be like, well, there's no way that this doesn't work.
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Oh, I don't know about that. What's the worst case? Well, I mean, if I do this thing and I put my time into this and I start this business with my friend, I mean, the worst case is that we don't make a couple bucks and, you know. No. What if the worst case is your business friend, friend, decides to turn on you and take all of the money? I didn't think about that.
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That's why you got to think about these things. Now, I'm going to eat my own words because recently I full-sended something. I did something that on textbook you should not do. Like, bad idea, stranger danger, online person telling you to go visit them. Kind of crazy. But I asked myself in that moment, what was the worst case?
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And the worst case, when I really thought about it, is I would just go home. Or, I mean, they would kidnap me. That was the other option. And they didn't. So, hey, we're chillin'. But you should know what you're getting yourself into before you do something. Now, I don't think you need to think about this every time you go to a restaurant.
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Well, what's the worst case if I don't get, you know, a quarter pounder this time and I only get the Big Mac? Okay, like, yeah. Okay, the worst case is it's not as tasty, right? The stakes are not that high for that. But when you're making a decision that requires resources, time, emotion, money, you have to ask yourself, what is the worst case?
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This will at least give you peace of mind, which is so important because in your life, you will make a lot of decisions. You will make a lot of mistakes. That is something that you will have to do if... you decide to go and ignore decisions that are important in your life, they will come to bite you. They will decide on their own.
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If you do not take the reins of your own life and whip them into shape and guide your life in the way that you want, it will be guided for you. That's what happens to a lot of people. They decide, well, you know, well, I'm not going to do that. I'm not going to do this. Well, the worst case is I don't even want to think about that. Whatever.
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And that's how you have people who are bitter and old and angry. And when you're working at your retail job, you have people that are like, just they hate being in the store. They just hate themselves. I don't know about you. I don't want to be that kind of person. But I get the fear. I get the fear.
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You making a decision about where you want to go to college seems like there is so much on the line because potentially, you know, you could be choosing a university that will give you a certain kind of opportunity. You could be choosing, you know, a university that will potentially make you meet some of your best friends, maybe even the love of your life if you're lucky.
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You can either drag this out Or you can probably send a text that will take you, I don't know, 10 minutes to draft up. You ever do that? You draft a text in the notes app and then you copy and paste it. You know what I'm talking about. Real recognizes real. But you are afraid to do anything. You are paralyzed in fear.
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But like, what is what is the worst case? The worst case is you make a decision and maybe you mess up and you have to make another decision. You have to try again. People really underestimate just trying. Just giving something a shot. Just seeing what will happen. What happens if I go to community college for a year? Let's just see what will happen. I mean, is it the end of me? No.
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No, not at all. What will happen if I try to make, you know, a song on GarageBand? What's going to happen? I don't know. Experiment. Try to just see. Honestly, I've found some of my favorite friends and my favorite hobbies and pastimes by just being like, okay, what's the worst case scenario if I try this thing? Okay, I'm going to embarrass myself. All right, who cares?
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It's going to last 20 seconds and then it will be a funny story that I can tell for the rest of my life that I embarrassed myself and that it was, you know, it was mid that I went on a date to Chili's for $60 and it was embarrassing that I spent that much money. Who cares? Who cares? Who cares? There's a lot of, I think, paranoia around making bad choices.
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And the truth is that we almost like don't give ourselves any kind of grace for making mistakes anymore. It has to be perfect. It has to be the best. So much pressure. You have to know what you're going to do right away. When you get out of college, you're going to have an A to Z plan of your life. No, you will not. Nobody does.
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Nobody does I promise you I've talked to people who they have lived incredible lives They have done incredible things and every time they just asked themselves when they were trying something new. What is the worst case? it's the worst thing that can happen and Oftentimes the worst thing that could happen was I Make a mistake.
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I realize I don't like it which actually works in my favor because now I know I But it's easier said than done because let's say you get another perspective from somebody else who's telling you, okay, that's a cool idea. You should go visit that person that you don't know on the internet. You should go do that.
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But have you considered that maybe that person has been lying to you the whole time and they're not being truthful and you don't even know them? Yeah, okay, that's a pretty bad worst case. Let's say you go to somebody else and they tell you, hey, you know that college you want to apply for? Well, I heard a friend of a friend of a friend of a friend of a friend who went to that college.
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They couldn't get a job and they were a loser. Then you make the decision of are you going to listen to other people? And I think you should have different perspectives on
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on a problem on something in your life that you're trying to figure out absolutely it doesn't hurt right two heads is better than one but there comes a point where you have to really really trust yourself with the decision because at the end of the day you are the one living with it it's not the people around you it is like see you and i think what's really underrated is being selective with who you ask for advice because not all advice
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You are standing in the middle of a road that splits two different ways and you don't know where to go. I want you to always ask yourself, In these kind of situations, what is the worst case? If you do this, you prepare yourself for the worst scenario. Potentially. There is no guarantee.
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is created equal. It's really not. There are a lot of people who will not look at your situation objectively. They will put their own spin or their own agenda or their own mishaps and project it on you. They are going to think that you are going to act the same way they did. When in reality, nobody really knows how you're going to act. Only you will know when you act.
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When you do it, when you're in the moment and you decide to check the box next to University of Georgia, cause go dogs. But it's, it's when you're going to make the decision to finally like break up with that toxic ex, then you're going to know what you, you know, how you act and how you grieve. Like, You will have to make the decision on your own to understand what will happen.
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You can play out any kind of scenario, any kind of, well, okay, this will happen and then maybe I'll have an opportunity here. But you don't know that. That's prepping yourself. That's great. And you should be well prepared. But don't let that be the barrier to you doing something. Don't let that be the thing that just like keeps you from ever trying something new. Because what is the worst case?
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The worst case is that you don't do it. That's the truth. Now, maybe there are other things you're thinking of doing that you're like, wait a minute, this might not be, well, legal. Don't do that, obviously, right? But just be on the same page with yourself and know, is this something I want to do? And do I know what the risk is? Do I know what the worst case scenario is?
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Do I know what it will look like if I'm trying to start a business and I lose all of my money in it? Am I okay with that? Am I okay with potentially getting rejected from this if I put time into this? Am I cool with that? Yeah, I'm cool with that. I mean, it is what it is. Great. Take that risk. Are you cool with potentially that friend, you know, that you... They're not your friend.
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They're your crush. But you say they're your friend. Going up to them and telling them how you feel. Are you okay with potentially it being a little bit awkward afterwards or things happening that you have no control over? You know what? You live once. I'm going to do it. What about that other friend? That other crush? No. No. Why? Because no. Because I don't want to risk it. And you know what?
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Things are as good as they're going to get. And I like where we're at. That's a good answer too. Don't pressure yourself into anything you don't want to do. When I started asking myself what was the worst thing that could happen or what was the worst case, I found so much freedom in being able to pursue something and just try something.
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And oftentimes in our minds, we make something way worse than it actually is. We make it into this insane, convoluted problem when really it's a simple solution oftentimes. We're in this crazy argument. Oh my goodness, I don't know what to do. Oh, we're at each other's throats. A 15 minute conversation later, you're friends again. Oh my goodness.
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Oh, I have so many of these exams I need to study for. I just like, no, I'm going to put it off. I'm going to put it off. An hour into studying, you realize this isn't that hard. I actually got this. And actually it's a repeat of last chapter. So I already know most of this, right? Making this monster out of our problems, I think, is what buries a lot of people into a hole of regret.
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They can't get out of. Because it just compounds and it builds into this thing that just feels so much bigger than you and you have no control over it. When in reality, you do. You do. And... I've had to be very patient with myself and be able to talk to myself and be like, okay, I know I'm afraid. I know I'm scared. I know I am anxious about this thing, but what is the absolute worst case?
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Sometimes you might think that the worst scenario is, yeah, they're going to get kind of mad and, you know, they'll be like, well, why did I pay for four of your dinners? Whoopsies. But thinking of the worst case gives you so much peace of mind as to following through with your decision and taking a risk. Oftentimes, we are so quick to talk ourselves out of things.
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What is the worst thing that will happen when I step on this stage? The worst thing is if I get pantsed. Okay. Getting pantsed would suck, but would I be able to laugh about it? Yes, I would. So it's not that bad. Realistically, what would be the worst case if you were public speaking in front of people?
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That you forget your lines and you have to look down at your paper and remember them or you have to make something up. Is that scary? Of course. Will you be anxious and be afraid? Of course. But at least you know when you kind of say it out loud, when you say the thing that is bugging you out loud, it doesn't really make it that bad. it kind of takes the oomph out of it.
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When we synthesize and actually verbalize our fear, the thing that really, really just irks us or makes us think that we can't believe in ourselves because something will go wrong, we realize that we're really stressing over things that we have no control over. We don't know.
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If you've prepared as good as you've prepared for something, it comes down to the thing, to the test, to the speech, to the date. That's what it comes down to. You can do all the prep work that you want, but maybe things go wrong. Maybe it doesn't go right. Maybe you were going to close a deal with somebody, you know, your salesman, you want to close a deal and you don't close the deal.
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Even though you prepped, even though there were signs that things were going to work, some times things don't work out. They just don't. There's nothing, there is nothing you could do about it. It was out of your control. They just don't, they just didn't work out. Right?
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For a while I had a fear of being unlovable that I just, I wouldn't find anybody who found me worthy, not even one person. And I think that a way of tackling that fear and addressing that fear was putting myself out there.
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the best way to address fear is by honestly just being open about fear. I found that when I started to open up, and, you know, not in a sense of, like, trauma dumping on somebody or just being like, oh my gosh, this is bad, this is bad, but I more started to be just honest of, like, Yo, hey, I'm reaching out to you. I'm a little afraid that maybe I said something that upset you.
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I'm a little bit wary of our last conversation. I just want to check in and make sure everything's good. Once I started leaning into that fear, it really just gave me solace. It gave me peace. Talked about friends earlier, right? I had a friend reach out to me and ask to kind of get some closure. And I remember when I saw the text, I was like, oh my goodness. I was afraid. I was afraid.
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Because I knew I had to do it. I knew. Because when the fear was there, I'm like, this is something that needs to be done. I need to address this. And I need to be honest about my mistakes and my shortcomings. And that's a hard thing to do. That's not a comfortable thing to do. But I was so willing to just kind of do it.
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I was so willing to let this fear temporarily kind of sit on me and, you know, just be like, okay, this is really weighing me down right now. This feels like it's a lot of pressure. I'm not going to feel comfortable when I do this, but I know that afterwards, like the fear is temporary and worst case, it doesn't work out.
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worst thing she can say is no bro I mean worst thing you know she could chew me out on the phone and she could be like you're terrible and you know insult me but that's also listening to the fear that's also letting the parts of the fear that are like the scariest you know hyper fixating on that it's not seeing the other perspective at all which is like you know the faith of a certain situation
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And being like, well, you know what? Yeah, yeah, I'm afraid that things might go wrong, but what if it went right? What if I just go at this at an angle of honesty? I have nothing to hide. What if we come to a agreement? What if we actually hear each other out and we rekindle a friendship?
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in my motivation to get up every morning, in my motivation to put myself out there in front of people and see what happens, fear is one of the best feelings that if we lean into it can bring us some of the most incredible, incredible things. It can bring us stability. It can bring us accomplishments. It can bring us this feeling of content. If we address the fear in our life, we almost...
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what if i choose to be honest about how i feel about things and i don't run away from it that was a big fear for me too i used to be very avoidant growing up i i felt like a lot of disagreements and a lot of like arguing was was kind of not a good thing at least in my eyes which i think you you need to argue sometimes you need to have disagreements now
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there's a healthy way of doing it and i think a lot of the times we let emotions kind of just like take control of what we say and we end up saying some really messed up things i think a lot of hurtful things can be attributed to just people who are overly emotional and they were they were they were um digging deep into their bag and like finding other other things you know to throw at you they wanted to throw a marble at you
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You know, it was going to cause you to be like, oh, you know, I heard a little bit. But instead they reach into their bag. They took out a brick and a hammer and they just chucked it at you. And you're like, where is this coming from? Like, how is this even fair? You know. But I've learned that. My fear of addressing certain situations is.
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It was, it was causing me to run away from those situations. It was causing me to like, not want to, to avoid it. It was causing me to entirely avoid it. And that just, that was really, really detrimental because there were a lot of moments in my life where I wish I could have stood up for myself, where I wish I could have been like, Hey, I don't like this. Where I just chose to be silent.
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I just chose to let it build up in the background and then eventually it just burst. And that's not healthy. I don't think it's healthy. I can sit here and be like, oh, that's just the way that I do things. But I don't want to do things that way. I'd rather I talk through something that happens immediately than just like let it kind of burrow and simmer. I don't want it to boil over.
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I'd rather cook, you know, consistently. Literally let him cook. Like on some, let him cook consistently. And I think that's become a fear of mine. It's avoidance. I am really fearful that I will avoid things. And it's sometimes very scary for me to confront a partner or a friend or a family member. Because I'm like, well, in the past when I was honest, it would cause discomfort.
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And we want to be comfortable. Because in the past, when I would address these kinds of things with honesty, it would cause discomfort. And I want people to be comfortable. You know, we all want to be comfortable. So when it's uncomfortable, it's, oh, it's odd. Why would we want to lean into that? But on the flip side, it's like so important because that fear is temporary.
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When I go and lean into it. And when I do actually address a problem, I feel so much better. I feel like a Like a whole weight has been lifted off my shoulders, right? Like I said before, it's like the different type of fear kind of dissipates and you're like, oh, wow. I just, I made that in my mind so much bigger and worse and scarier than it actually was. It's actually not that bad.
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It's really not that bad. It's the same thing right now. Maybe you feel like you are missing out on experiences in your youth because of the way the world is, because of certain decisions that you made right earlier on in your life. And you're like, man, everyone has a cooler life than me. And maybe you suppress that. Maybe you're trying to run away from those thoughts. And I think that
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That's not the way to solve it. If you want to really stop feeling that way, I think you need to address the fear. You have to lean into it. You have to be like, well, why am I feeling this kind of fear of like my path not working out? Why do I... Why do I feel this? Like, if I genuinely want to do this, why do I feel like I need to do it before I'm age, you know, 18, 25, 28?
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Why do I feel like I have this clock on me when I have my entire life to figure this out and to make things work? The last thing I'll say is just I've witnessed a lot of people in my life where fear ruled their life. And comfort was the only thing they understood. It is a choice. It is a choice.
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dumb it down a little bit we almost make it palatable sometimes like the fear is is not readily accessible it's gatekept it's like a uh a bonus level in a video game you have to get the dlc for it and oftentimes we might feel as if oh i think i know what my fear is but you don't really know it Until you kind of have a conversation with yourself and try to pinpoint it.
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Maybe you grew up a certain way that was uncomfortable, you didn't like it, and you find that having peace and quiet and having no fear gives you peace of mind. I'm not one to say that you shouldn't have that. I think that every case is nuanced.
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But if you do feel as if you have been letting fear make decisions in your life over your own volition and your own desires, you are on a long road to regret. That's where it's going to take you. Regret. And it only takes shifting one degree off of that angle to go someplace completely different.
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You don't have to be someone who's like, you know, seeking the fear where you're, you're jumping off a cliff in Norway with those, you know, those like wing suits gliding through the sky because you want adrenaline and it scares you. So you're doing it. You don't have to do that. You don't have to change that much. But maybe something you've been fearful of is opening up to someone in your life.
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Maybe something you've been fearful of is believing in yourself and being like, I can do this. I can get paid more for what I'm worth. Maybe something you've been fearful of is getting in front of a camera and sharing your story. And you have two options. You can continue down that path. And probably what you're experiencing right now is what you will continue to experience.
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So at least you know that's the trajectory. Some things might change, right? Results vary. But there is another reality where you do address the fear. Where this becomes true. But there is another reality where you do address the fear. And you do lean into it. And you do... Look at fear as a challenge, as something to welcome, something to nurture and be like, ooh, that scares me a little bit.
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Let's lean into it. Let's see why. Is it the thing that scares me or is it me being judged that scares me? Is it the person that scares me or is it the fact that that person will really learn who I am that scares me?
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And that alone, just having that go through your mind alone will make you realize that, wait a minute, there are certain things that scare me that I really want to do, that I actually would really want to do. And if that's the case, Zerky Show, you already know what you have to do. You have to address the fear and go after it. Go after it, Zerky Show. Come on. Notification. I have made a P.O.
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Box. If you want to be featured on a brand new show that I'm working on called Mail Time with Cirky, this is the way to do it. Send your questions, letters, whatever you would like on your own volition, of course, to this P.O. Box. Hope to see you there. Did you know that the Zerky Show is everywhere you go? What? Yes, this is true. You can watch it. You can scroll it. You can stream it.
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The choice is yours. So if you want to tap in, tap in. But just know the Zerky Show is here to stay every day and that will not change. I missed all of you so, so much. It's good to be back. I hope you all are doing super, super good. And if you're trying something new and you need someone to believe in you, I believe in you. That is a reason to go out and just try it.
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Zerky Show, I am sending you lots of love and peace.
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For a while, I had a fear of being unlovable. That I just... I wouldn't find anybody who found me worthy. Not even one person. And I think that a way of tackling that fear and addressing that fear was putting myself out there. What does that mean? What does it mean to put yourself out there? I think it means...
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I feel as if when you meet somebody who's really meant to be in your life, or they're meant to be your friend, or you go through an experience that is sometimes unsettling, the best thing you can do is address the fear. Every time I have addressed the fear in my life, I have met the coolest people, I have done the coolest things, and also
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championing your personality, your quirks, your weirdness, your awkwardness, your tendencies to not feel social, your tendencies to want alone time, your tendencies to want to fit in and knowing that that's not, that's not why somebody is going to accept you. They're probably going to accept you for the person that you are. And I think that was a big realization for me.
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Like I am running away from the person that I am and I'm trying to craft a skin of a person that I'm just not, I'm just like not that person. And that was another fear. Oh, my goodness, right? Like, you would think that that would solve the problem. Okay, you feel unlovable. Change yourself. Get swole. Get alpha. And then you're going to have the baddies in Dubai. Oh, you're good. Go ahead.
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It kind of just, like, stops you in place. You're like, okay, that's what's going to address the problem.
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But once you start changing in that realm and it's not authentic to who you are, then you have another fear that pops up and you're like, wait a minute, I'm not being myself. And what I'm doing instead is I'm attracting people into my life that are attracted to this character of who I've become, but they're not attracted to me. They don't like me. They like the show I'm putting on.
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The Zerky show you're putting on. Oh, weird, weird thought to have. The relationships that scare you the most because of how easy they are or how different somebody is, I feel like entertaining them is so important. The experiences that you know if you did them, you would challenge yourself. You would challenge who you think you are. Those are the experiences that change your life.
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Fear, fear comes in different forms. I don't think it's a one shoe that fits all, right? It's not like a slipper. It comes in different types of shoes like Jordans. It comes in different, there's Jordan 1, 2, 3, 4s. I used to always want the Jordan 4s. One day, please. It is so different. There are so many different kinds of fears. Maybe you have a fear that looms over Your day-to-day.
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Maybe that fear is letting yourself down. You're like, I really don't want to let myself down. I feel like in the past I've done that. Maybe that fear is the fear of letting others down. And that looms over, it looms over like a lot of the conscious decisions that you make. Because there's also fears like, you know, okay, I have a fear of being gone tomorrow and being like, no, I wanted to, ugh.
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I still wanted to try a Dubai chocolate bar. I didn't even have a chance to do that. I wanted to try the lava cake at Chili's. I didn't even get to try that when I went, you know, but that fear isn't one that is like consciously like in my frontal lobe where I'm like, Ooh, like I'm, I'm not thinking about it every single day. It's more of in the back of my mind. It's kind of a, in an archive.
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I have come out the other end with so many experiences that were just like bizarre and life-changing. For me, like a big thing that I guess I have like a fear of is not doing enough in my life. Like I really, really, really want to live a good life. And I mean... I really don't know what that is.
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And there's also like fear that we just get, I think, when we compare ourselves to other people. Oh gosh, like the fear that I'm not doing enough, I'm not good enough. There's like a standard maybe that you see amongst your generation, amongst people that look like you. And you feel almost like You feel like you're missing out. Oh, that's what I'm trying to say.
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You need to address the fear of missing out. The fear of missing out ruled over my life. It ruled over my life for a good four years. It started when I went to community college, when I graduated high school in 2020, which was awesome. Not really. I had one of those graduations, like a car parade. Bruh. It was an interesting time.
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And I remember after I graduated high school, I went to community college because I had no idea what I wanted to do. I had zero clue. And I kind of used community college as like a buffer zone. I'm like, oh, I'm going to take a gap year and stack my money. I don't know one person who took a gap year and stacked their money. No, no, no. A lot of people have done that.
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But I was like, okay, I'm going to be different. I'm actually going to take community college seriously. I'm going to grind this. I remember when I... When I would, like, go to sleep, I would go on Snapchat and just, like, watch some of my friends' stories. I would just see, like, what's up, you know? And everybody seemed like they were having such a, oh my gosh, such a blast, such a good time.
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Meanwhile, my life was all online. Like, I had all of my classes online. I never stepped foot in my campus, like, ever. And also, I worked, like... 20, 30 hours a week. So when I wasn't doing school and I wasn't doing coursework, I was just grinding at like a retail job, which it was fine. It was okay. Mentally, it was a little bit rough.
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There were moments where I really just like, I felt like I was going to be trapped there forever. Like I needed to get out, like the movie. Get out. I needed to get out of there, man. Great movie, by the way, if you haven't seen it. I just had this... this looming feeling that everyone except me was having a party in their life every single day.
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That everyone except me was just doing things that they were jotting down in their journals and being like, this is what it's like to have the best college experience. Oh my gosh, I'm having, I'm meeting my best friends. I'm doing all of these things that are making me become a better person that I'm like having so much fun in. Meanwhile, I am like struggling to,
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to just like find a reason to get out of bed in the morning. And I don't feel alone on this. I think that there is such a pipeline of people who graduate high school. They don't really know what, what to do. So they kind of take up a job or something and then everyone they know goes off to college and it seems like they are enjoying their life and it's like you are working something
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and trying to figure your own stuff out, you have less time to do so because you're working and maybe your situation is different. Maybe you actually have people that you have to like, you know, provide for. You have family members. You are a huge part of the working family group. It sucks, man.
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It sucks seeing people like have the time of their life and you're kind of just like, why is that not me? Like, why am I not balling out? And man, I can only imagine how many of you out there are maybe listening to this and you are right now living at home. Maybe you just graduated high school, you're about to. You don't know what you want to do with your life, which nobody ever does.
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I used to think when I was younger, that meant that I needed a lot of money, that money meant a good life. And sure. I think that having resources is important, right? Like you need a place to live. You need a place to sleep. You need good Chili's meals to eat for 60. Okay. Let's hold off on that. I don't want to get too worked up already, but that fear,
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Nobody ever does, but... You're working some kind of job and you're just like at night seeing all of your friends living a lifestyle that you wish you could have. Maybe their parents are able to, you know, send them off to a school, not have them work. And it feels unfair. And it is. It is unfair. But that fear of missing out, I don't think that people understand that it's not actually...
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Doing that thing that is going to solve it because I did that thing. Oh, I did it. I remember I saw so many people having the college experience that you see on TV. I was like, okay, I'm going to do that. That's what I need to do. Everyone's doing it. I addressed the fear and I thought I addressed it in the right way. I'm like, I'm going to go to a school. I'm going to try to, you know, fit in.
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why does it feel like I’m missing out?
I'm trying to go out, meet people, you know what I'm saying? Live that life. And I went to a college. And I felt more of it. I felt more FOMO. How is that even possible? I went to the place. I was there. But then I realized what the FOMO actually meant for me. It was the fear of It was the fear of not believing that what I was doing and that my path was important.
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why does it feel like I’m missing out?
That was really where this fear stemmed from. Because I liked what I was doing at the community college. Yes, it was rough at times, but I had so much time to focus on my own projects. I had so much time to journal, reflect, and actually ask myself the questions that were necessary in order to know, okay, where do I want to go in five years' time? Where do I want to go in 10 years' time?
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I had so much freedom to travel and go around. And the things that I... you know, utilized while I had this experience, I took them for granted because now in this new place, I had to succumb to this college lifestyle. I couldn't travel as much. I couldn't go and visit my friends all across the country whenever I wanted to. Uh-uh.
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why does it feel like I’m missing out?
All of that was gone because I had school, because I had classes, and they were in person. Then it became... a realization of, okay, this fear, this fear is just me doubting myself. That's really what it is. It's me doubting that my path is mine and that it will work out. And instead what I am doing is I'm taking this doubt. I am internalizing it.
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why does it feel like I’m missing out?
I'm looking at somebody else and being like, dang, they seem to have it figured out. Dang, that's what I want. A good bit of them now are wandering through their lives aimlessly. They don't have any idea of what they even want to try. There's no clue. No, no clue. Because a lot of that time was spent indulging in a lifestyle that That delays any kind of thinking. That's like the truth.
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why does it feel like I’m missing out?
I'm just giving one perspective. I think it's so important to live up your youth and like do those things. I do those things. I love it. I love going to a good party. I love hanging out. I love, you know, doing some dancing, some impromptu trip planning. I love all of that. But I also do love knowing that I'm doing something for me at the end of the day.
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why does it feel like I’m missing out?
Like, I have some kind of goal or some kind of aspiration that is very much entrenched in what I want to do. Because the biggest fear that I addressed, right, was not... living up to my full potential. That's the biggest fear. And I think a lot of us share that fear. A lot of us maybe have this kind of voice in our head that's telling us, no, no, no, we're a little bit different.
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why does it feel like I’m missing out?
of not accomplishing enough while I'm still around on this planet, and that fear of not being able to meet people that I feel as if are going to bring experiences and moments into my life that will teach me so many new things, I feel like that has been a driving force in my motivation.
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why does it feel like I’m missing out?
Maybe we feel like we can provide something, do something that's unique. And that's a great thing. If you recognize that and that speaks to you right now, that's a good thing. You should not push that away because maybe that voice is pushing you to build something for the rest of us to make something that's going to improve all of our lives.
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why does it feel like I’m missing out?
Maybe that voice is actually something that's going to help you break a toxic cycle within your family. Maybe that voice is telling you that, you know what? I really want to focus on learning more about myself and actually trying to come to peace with some of the turmoil and some of the fears that I have within me. And I think sometimes
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why most people never see change
I used to be convinced that the power of consistency was utter BS. I used to think that people would just say that as a, oh, well, how did I get successful? Oh, consistency. Even though they got lucky or they had some kind of nepo baby situation where they were getting millions of dollars. But I remember that my opinion on this changed.
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why most people never see change
And momentum is truly power for yourself. That's really where it's powerful. And there are a lot of admiring things about being able to stay consistent with something. And in a lot of ways, consistency really does build freedom in your life. And it does make you feel like you are in control of a lot of things.
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why most people never see change
Because there is a certain degree of your life that you can absolutely build control over.
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why most people never see change
But it's up to you whether, you know, you allow yourself to build that momentum. And for a lot of us that might be doing stuff that we find cringe or embarrassing or doing things that go against the grain of what other people would tell us or doing things that aren't. with the grain.
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why most people never see change
Maybe we have been lying to ourselves that we want to be this, you know, entrepreneur, solo artist, whatever it is, athlete. But really, we just want to have a family and we want to sustain ourselves and we want to live a good life and be able to, I don't know, in the future, take our date to Chili's for $60. Why not? Let's throw it in there. Okay, if that's the case, that's fine.
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why most people never see change
You can do whatever you want, but if you genuinely want to change and you have these feelings about your body, you should do something about it. And that really caught me off guard. I was like, dang. No, no, that's not true. You know, it's just I can't really change because and I started to list a whole bunch of excuses. I was like, I don't know, my body is different.
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why most people never see change
There's no guilt in that. But build that momentum. Figure out what you got to do to get there. You get me? Because I find a lot of people just deprive themselves from doing anything because they are afraid of the consequences of doing anything, of choosing the wrong thing. So they choose nothing. Why? Why? Why?
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Wouldn't it be better to just see and understand, at least know that that thing was worth your time or it wasn't worth your time? I think so. I absolutely think so. But it's easier said than done. It's easier said than done. But building momentum will bring you so much power, Zerky Show. It will bring you so much power. You will be happy that you stayed consistent.
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You will be happy that you did something for yourself. And this can be the smallest of things. I make my bed every morning. I know, like, that's... Oh, really? You make your bed every morning even though you're going to sleep in it? Yeah, but I like it. I like to know that I've done something already. I make coffee every morning for myself. Just tapped into decaf, by the way.
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why most people never see change
It's been interesting. I don't know. I definitely can't wait for the next time I have a cup of coffee, which might be concerning, but it is what it is. Either way, you know, I do these small things because they allow me to build that momentum throughout the day. Now, does this mean that your momentum is a cold plunge at 5 a.m.? I mean, maybe. Yeah, that's cool.
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why most people never see change
If that's what you want to do, absolutely. Be my guest. But your momentum can be something as simple as just writing down what your dream was from the night before. If that's something that you want to do. Or... calling somebody that you haven't talked to in a while, you know, once a week. That's how you build momentum. And it is important that we build these things.
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why most people never see change
And, you know, oh, well, I'm eating really good. It's only a matter of time. And he's like, yeah, you are eating really good when you get invited to go out somewhere and you're ordering an appetizer, an on course and a dessert. Of course, you're eating very well, but you're not eating good. And I tried to argue with him. I was just like, what are you talking about, bro? Like, no, you're a hater.
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Because, listen, you will have times where you will not be able to smile, where things will kind of suck. So we have to enjoy the good times while we have them. Maybe the good times are pulling up to a park with a couple of homies from your hometown, catching up with them, throwing a pigskin around. Why not? There are so many good things in this life that are free to enjoy.
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There are a lot of ones that cost money. I've definitely done my fair share. But either way, find passions, find interests. Those are the things that genuinely matter in your life. Zerky Show, I believe in you. Try something new. You got nothing to lose. Sending you lots of love and peace.
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Like, why are you hating on me? And I remember he was like, listen, I don't care what you do, but I think that if you really want it, you would do it in a way that was sustainable and good. And you would do it in a way that built momentum. What are you talking about? One, you don't know me. Two, momentum for what?
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why most people never see change
And he explained to me, he's like, dude, I try to eat the same kind of thing every single day just so I have some kind of predictability. I try to build my diet in a way that gets me the most protein and I don't have to think as much as when I don't have a plan. And it was observing him the next couple of days when he went through his routine that made me realize, wait a minute. Momentum is power.
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why most people never see change
Momentum is power. Respectfully, there are a lot of people that give up on their goals, give up on other people, give up on themselves because they're not consistent enough to build momentum. And momentum is important because that is the evidence that whatever you're doing is working. And I think that one of the problems is we try to create a very complicated explanation for what working is.
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why most people never see change
It's that, oh, if I don't make a certain amount of money this month, it means it's not working. And although that might be true, okay, sure, it's not the end-all be-all. Or, oh, if I don't lose X amount of pounds this month, it means that my journey is not working. And I think that it's important to keep stock of how you're doing. You should definitely...
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Keep tabs and have a number, have a metric that you're going after for your goals. But sometimes it's about just showing up every day. even when you don't see the results and having faith in what you're doing. And I get it. If you keep doing the same kind of thing and you're not seeing different results, you might have to change the way that you're doing the thing.
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why most people never see change
When honestly, my friend checked me about my constant complaining about my weight. I was, you know, making really self-deprecating jokes about how I was fat. I was ugly. I'm never going to find love. The whole nine yards. And I really believed it. Because I was just like, I was just not happy with the fact that I was not treating my body in a very good and sustainable way.
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why most people never see change
But the power in momentum is that once you get a little bit of it, it's so easy to use for the rest of it. Once you break through Two, three weeks at the gym, it's easy to just keep going because you've already built that in. You already have the momentum, right?
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why most people never see change
If you are a little bit more conservative in the way that you play a certain sport and one game, you start just trusting your gut and you ball out. You take that fadeaway three when you weren't supposed to, technically, right? But you did it and it goes in. You build that confidence. You build momentum. It's why... Honestly, in the sports world, you fear a player that's in form.
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why most people never see change
You fear somebody that you know has had game after game after game where they've been playing fearlessly. You fear somebody that's just been on top of their game. Why? Because of momentum. And momentum comes in all different kinds of forms. It's not binary to one thing. Maybe your momentum isn't physical. Maybe it's mental.
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why most people never see change
Maybe it's the fact that even though, yes, you haven't reaped the rewards of doing your triathlon training yet, you're going to after you have put in that second month and you're like, oh, I'm committed to this. I'm in this. It's the same thing with lifestyle changes, right? Like when you do actually commit to wanting to walk more, for example, because you feel like you haven't walked enough.
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why most people never see change
It's after you walk after a while when it's boring, when you're like, why am I doing this? That you build the momentum to be like, wait a minute, I want to keep going with this. I think instead of focusing on the outcome entirely, you should focus on the momentum. You should focus on building something that you feel like you can show up for every single day that feels good.
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why most people never see change
I think it's the same thing with your relationship with people. Shocker, right? But if you have momentum in a relationship, that is something that is very strong. If you talk to somebody every single day, if you keep them in the loop, if you build and build and build on certain connections, you'd be surprised as to what will come out of them. but a lot of us give up before we even see anything.
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why most people never see change
And it's easy because sometimes like if we set the bar super high and we're like, well, I want, you know, I want my videos to start taking off. I want them to look like a movie right away. It's like, it's not gonna happen. But if you're putting in a little bit of work each day and you have the mindset of like, I'm going to build on each single day, right?
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why most people never see change
I'm going to learn at least one little thing that's new so I know for the next day and I can take it over. That's momentum. That is powerful. That is so powerful. In the same way of just applying something that you read about or something that you watch every day just a little bit, even if it's a small amount, the momentum in that is so, so good and important.
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why most people never see change
I remember I had a substitute teacher once in one of my high school art classes, and she talked about how there is a momentum to life. And respectfully, my substitute teacher was a little bit crazy. You can tell when someone's a little, you know, Screws a little bit loose, but I was I liked her. I liked her. She was being real.
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why most people never see change
I was binge eating a lot. I was, you know, man, I would buy like a family, family size Chex Mix and down it, you know, while watching YouTube. And do I have any complaints about that time? No, that was like awesome, bro. Coming back to your dorm room and Eating a whole family bag of Chex Mix is like top five human experiences of all time. I'll say it. I'll sit here and say it.
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why most people never see change
And she's like, listen, right now is the time where you get every you know, you build up your train, you build up all the skills, you build up your wagons and wagons. And respectfully, I have a wagon. So. Yeah. With that being said, when you start to go down life and you start living life, it's the train, it's the momentum that keeps on going.
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why most people never see change
And if you don't have the skills to, you know, harness this momentum, it's just going to go to waste. And what a shame, right? In a similar vein, I remember I had a really good conversation with somebody who I was trying to connect with. Connect, connect, right? And he was this engineer that worked abroad in London. Got my beat from London, right? And the really cool thing was he told me,
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why most people never see change
You know what? I believe that the laws of thermodynamics, like they apply to life, to goals. And that when you have something super, super small, when you like build, you know, for example, a snowball on the top of the hill and you kind of scrunch it up and it's really small.
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When you start to roll it, it'll start to pick up snow and the weight of that snowball will just continue to build and build and build until you have an unstoppable force. And in a similar vein, that's basically what being consistent builds. It's packing the snow. And the momentum is that speed going down that hill.
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why most people never see change
And if you already have that speed going down the hill and you know, okay, even this day it's a little bit hard, but if I pack just a little bit of snow on, you're going to be so much more motivated to do that. And I think that's the problem though, right? It's so easy to make our goals or our aspirations just super insanely difficult to obtain.
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why most people never see change
We don't even work with the confines of what we have at our disposal. And instead we set these metrics or we set these things that are just like not really realistic to who we are as people or what we want to do. And I sound like a broken record saying that. I've been saying that for a lot of videos. But I think the main thing I just want you to understand is that momentum is really your friend.
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why most people never see change
You know what I'm talking about? Or is it the iPhone with like the, it looked like candy. You know what I'm talking about? The iPhone 6C or 5C? Real ones will know what I'm talking about. But like the battery would die super, super, super fast. So you had to get like a morphine case. I don't know. My mom had one and I just like have a memory of like, what is, what are those? What is that bro?
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why most people never see change
But I guess they were kind of cool. And I guess that we have the, the cases now that are just like more sleek and have a battery attached to them and charge wirelessly. Anyways, momentum is really the battery that's going to charge.
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why most people never see change
Your forward pursuit it is going to be the thing that keeps you moving forward and it's always good to get external momentum It's good to be recognized by your peers and by people that you respect and you love But you cannot rely on that being the single thing that keeps you going if like The idea of somebody liking what you're doing is solo the thing that keeps you going like you will stop eventually because You know the praise will will one day drop off and then you'll be like well I fell off
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why most people never see change
When in reality, you didn't. You didn't fall off. It just wasn't as good as something else. That's fine. But maybe that thing will help somebody else. Who knows? Momentum has become such a key thing in my life and I've seen it work for me and against me. I see the momentum when I mess up my sleep schedule, I mess up my entire schedule in general of my life. It seeps into everything.
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why most people never see change
Everything is derailed by it and it builds momentum and I have to catch it and I have to cognizantly be like, no, I will not be staying up today. I will be going to sleep at a reasonable time and it takes everything in me to do that.
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why most people never see change
You don't want to admit it, I'll admit it. It's goaded. And in the same way that it's goaded, it is so detrimental to your mental and to who you are as a person. Because... Sucks it sucks when you realize that you can't have you know boundaries You can't set real boundaries for yourself, and that's how I knew it was a problem So one day my friend was like listen.
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why most people never see change
But in a similar vein, there's something to be said about consistently being like, I have a goal, I have something I'm going after, I'm going to show up every single day and make something for the people that appreciate what I make, that it helps, and also for me because it's a form of expression for me that I feel like is very healthy.
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why most people never see change
So momentum is power, and it really can be used for you or against you. In a similar vein of if you have really negative thoughts, people don't understand that those thoughts will begin to continue to spiral and spiral and build. And if you don't catch it, it can really... get you down, down, down in the dumps. Now, it's one thing to have a feeling that you're like, I don't feel good. I feel bad.
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I feel upset. Totally valid. I'm not going to sit here and be like, don't be sad. No, you should be sad when it's time to be sad. Absolutely. But if you are just unpromptly, you know, letting yourself spiral with these negative thoughts and you're not thinking of like, okay, what is something I can do to at least address it? At the very least, you don't have to change it.
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why most people never see change
You can just address where these thoughts are coming from. And you will find that it will just continue to bog you down and it's just gonna, for some people, it becomes the cornerstone of their life is this just negative downfall that they've created themselves.
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why most people never see change
Maybe it was one thing that somebody told them and they believed it and then it's just snowballed into something really ugly that they cannot accept about themselves. I mean, that's where I was going down with my weight, right? And at a certain point, I had to catch myself and be like, okay, no, I accept the way I look and instead of complaining about this, I'm going to accept myself.
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It's an uncomfortable thing to do. I don't like to do it, but I'm going to accept myself. This is where I'm at. Cool. Now let me try to build a lifestyle for myself that's more active. Let me try to, instead of sitting on the couch, go for a walk when I call somebody. Let me try to be more active. Let me try to be cognizant of what I'm putting in my body.
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Does it mean that I don't enjoy Panda Express orange chicken once in a while? Absolutely not. Of course I enjoy those things. Of course, geez, it's awesome. But I know now that, okay, there are consequences for my action. And if I choose to build good, healthy momentum in my life, it will carry me over the moments that naturally are just going to suck.
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But I'll have the evidence of like, I've done this before. We're chilling. Let's keep going. Let's keep going. Yes, this is going to suck, but let's keep going because I have this evidence. I have this momentum that is proof that I can do it. I can. Why? Because I've done it before.
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And in a similar vein, if you don't build this kind of momentum with like any kind of, you know, goal that maybe isn't super defined or, you know, even like trying to apply for a job or something, right? If you don't build this kind of momentum, it'll be easy to burst, you know, give all your energy into one thing.
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And when you don't get that same energy reciprocated, you're going to be like, okay, this is cooked. I'm done. Whatever. I'm giving up. But that's not the way to do things. At least I have lived both experiences. I've lived the experience of trying to burst my way into making something happen.
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And I can tell you right now, I live a life now where in the things that I love to do, I do just a little bit of them each day. And it's awesome. It is awesome. So much better. I've lowered the threshold on a lot of things and I've accepted that some days I will get out of bed late, but I still have my non-negotiables for the day and it is awesome. It is awesome.
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I don't like the fact that you keep making these jokes about yourself It's really making me concerned that you know you feel bad about your weight, and I was like well I do I I don't care, but I do. And he's like, yeah, but I think that this is ridiculous that you just keep making fun of it and you don't do anything about it. It's one thing.
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And that's because I have momentum. It's because I started something and I'm like, I'm not going to stop. I'm not. If it doesn't work, I'm going to change it. I'm going to figure it out. But I will not stop doing things for myself because that is important. The relationship you have with yourself is so important. It is so important. And it comes from a level of solitude too.
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You have to be able to kind of be alone. And everyone has their own threshold. I've talked about that too. But...
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do we really spend time alone enough for us to understand that we're feeling this momentum that we're feeling good because sometimes you know it's easy to not acknowledge that you're doing good things for yourself especially if you kind of have like a self-sabotage mindset i've had that it's easy to just be like yeah i guess whatever i don't care you have to celebrate that momentum too because if you don't that power is going to slip away
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You don't need to be everybody's friend. You don't. Actually, I would urge you to really look around at the people that you befriend and ask yourself if you actually like them. Do you feel like you are willing to put in effort to be their friend? And would they reciprocate that effort? You don't need to be the most successful person in your grade. You don't have to be top of your class.
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why you're so worn out (and how to fix it)
Imagine one day you wake up and you realize everything you worked hard for, you poured blood, sweat, and tears into, it's not yours. It's not. Yeah, that's not a good place to be. So I'm trying to avoid that. I'm trying to plan my days and plan my life in a way that doesn't feel like I'm trying to force feed something down my throat. It feels as if this is my font on my life.
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I am writing my life the same way as a lot of other people before me, but I'm doing it with a little flair, with my own flair, because that's the only way I know how to do it. Well, what if you don't know what your flair is? What if you don't know how to make something your own or how to live something your own? Good point.
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I think you'll find comfort in looking at what you do and genuinely asking yourself if any of those things bring you joy or if it's something to fill the time, right? Is it something that someone told you at a career fair you should do because it'll look good on your resume? Because there is a lack of passion in our world today. There is. There's a lack of
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calculating calculating yes i will be spending sixty dollars at chili's credit card inserted but until then no no you are a human being sorry that's the card that you were dealt you were born into this world and you are a human like all of us they not like us no they are very much like us
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urgency because why would you be urgent about something you don't care about it doesn't matter and i'm getting paid for it you know there is kind of this lack of purpose behind a lot of our lives and it's it's getting difficult like i'm not gonna sit here and be like i have to figure it out no dude every day i'm like reminded of like why why should you know we even continue there's so much going on that's out of our control that that is just like it's it sucks it really does suck but
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We cannot let that crush us. We can't. I mean, in my opinion. If you feel a different way, that's okay. I respect your opinion and I totally see why. But I think that a lot of the change that we want to see does really start with ourselves. It starts with being honest with ourselves. how we feel about things and how we feel about ourselves.
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why you're so worn out (and how to fix it)
And then we can start to be honest to each other because I think we're just trying to keep up. We're trying to keep up with things that are being sold to us, different archetypes of a person, right? I've talked about that before of just people, people don't really know who they are. So they buy into a skin on the Fortnite store and they become Jim bro. And there's nothing wrong with that.
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Dude, there's nothing wrong with that. Like, that's great. You want to stay healthy. You feel good. That's awesome. But just know, if you feel like you have a lack of motivation, if you feel like recently, you have not been able to figure yourself out. Maybe it is because you need to give yourself time. And you need to give yourself space. And it's not that you're...
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unmotivated it's not that you're i'm lazy it might be that you're doing too much and you're doing too much of the thing you don't want to do and not enough of the thing that you do want to do ask yourself this because once i caught on to this it really changed and shifted my perspective And I was able to reallocate a lot of time doing what I liked. And yes, we have things we have to do every day.
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why you're so worn out (and how to fix it)
A lot of us have jobs. A lot of us have responsibilities. We have things we got to do. We got school. We have a streak on Snapchat. We got to check it. Oh, do people still have those? That's cute. I miss Snapchat streaks. Real talk. And. Maybe we just need to sacrifice some of that time to things that we do genuinely like.
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why you're so worn out (and how to fix it)
And that will bring us more clarity as to how we're supposed to move forward. And maybe less is more. Maybe instead of having 500 things that you're doing, having two that you're genuinely passionate about and that you love. That will speak volumes. That will speak volumes. Not only to other people, but to yourself.
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why you're so worn out (and how to fix it)
Because you'll build that evidence that, yeah, I have this passion and I like this thing. And that is something very, very special, Zerky Show. Did you know that the Zerky Show is everywhere you go? You can watch it. You can scroll it. You can stream it. The choice is yours. So do with that what you will. Tap in. Who's calling my phone? It's the Zerky Show. And guess what?
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why you're so worn out (and how to fix it)
We're all very same in our patterns and in our sometimes ability to piss ourselves off because we had plans, because we had aspirations, we had things we wanted to do, and we let ourselves fall short. And I think that, you know, motivation is something that a lot of people talk about as this thing. Oh, you need to be productive. You need to be motivated all the time.
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why you're so worn out (and how to fix it)
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why you're so worn out (and how to fix it)
Don't forget that oftentimes the rough days are worth to tough out because then you'll look back at it and be like, I did that. We eat those. Famously, we eat those. Other than that, take it easy sometimes. Yes, there will be moments in life where things will be mid, but it's worth it for the highs and the lows. Zerky Show, I believe in you. I trust you. And also, I am sending you plenty of love.
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why you're so worn out (and how to fix it)
And maybe you're in a position right now where you kind of feel like you don't have a lot of motivation to do anything. And you're kind of in this rot era, this rot phase of your life. And...
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why you're so worn out (and how to fix it)
I used to really hate that I used to hate when I couldn't like get out of bed or I just like didn't feel inclined to do anything I felt like something was really really wrong with me until I started to like realize that wait a minute no this is just my my mind and my body telling me I need a break You're doing too much. I need to relax. I need to watch something on YouTube.
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why you're so worn out (and how to fix it)
You don't. Who's telling you that you need to? Your parents? Okay. Is that a motivation that's intrinsic? Is that something that you want? No. You want to be an artist? Cool. You don't need to be the top of your class. You don't need to be the best in some kind of comparison, in some kind of race. You just have to be you. And still, I struggle to realize that it's just okay to be me.
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why you're so worn out (and how to fix it)
I need to scroll a little bit. I need you to take me on a walk. I need you to read a book. I don't know what it is, but I just cannot do what you are asking me to do right now. And instead of getting angry at that, because I know that, that I have a certain standard and I want to reach that standard. I want to be right there. Instead, I've learned to be like, all right, respect.
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why you're so worn out (and how to fix it)
It's like top 10 respect moments in football, you know. It's always like the photoshopped messy, like, you know, doing that. So I respect, you know, myself and my mind and my body. And I go, okay, it's not happening right now. Motivation is, I think, something that is very achievable when you lower the amount of work that you feel like you need to do, when it feels easy. Now, don't get me wrong.
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why you're so worn out (and how to fix it)
I think that there are a lot of things that you can do that are hard and they actually
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why you're so worn out (and how to fix it)
require you to put some brain power into it like studying for an exam or you have a certain project in mind that you want to create you have a certain design you want to bring to life you have a certain place you want to go travel to as this plane flies over my head right now you have to plan it out right all of that takes effort but but but but but but but but if you feel
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why you're so worn out (and how to fix it)
kind of this overwhelming mountain of resistance. Maybe you are doing too much. Maybe it's not for you. And I've learned that there are certain things I would much rather fight the resistance of on a daily basis than others, right? I'm not really somebody... who likes to go out a lot. I'm not somebody who's like, I need to be at this party. I need to go to this event. Oh my gosh, sign me up.
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You know, I love being social. I love going out when I can. Yes. But also I kind of like chilling on my own. It's a big, I mean, I'm a big chiller. And I found that, like, the feeling I would get when I would go out would be one of, like, resistance. Like, oh, my God, I really don't want to be doing this right now. Like, oh, man. And I think it was because I had a lack of control.
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why you're so worn out (and how to fix it)
Like, maybe the places I was going to, I didn't really care to go there. They weren't in my scope of what I liked, and they weren't around the people I found interesting, right? And I learned that, okay, I still want to be social. I think being social is very important. I still want to meet people who inspire me. But I can do it my own way. I can find my own spin on it.
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why you're so worn out (and how to fix it)
Maybe I have to be the person who's hosting. And yes, there will be more effort I have to put into it because I've got to clean my house. I've got to make sure there's food. What are we eating? Where are the snacks at? I've got to be in charge of that. I've got to make sure that we have beverages so we stay hydrated.
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You know, but that's a level of of, you know, doing that I'm willing to do because I know that the payoff is going to be so worth it. But sometimes like the idea of like, oh, we're going to go to this place and then that place and then this place like, oh, my goodness, I just want to chill. I want to relax. Right. Similarly, honestly, I felt this kind of pushback when it came to filmmaking.
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I was so convinced I needed to have the perfect look, the perfect camera, the perfect sound. Everything needed to be perfect until I just felt this pressure of like a mountain of I didn't want to climb. I was like, I'm not interested. There is nothing that calls me to this. It feels like it's a prerequisite that I need to do these things or else like I am not in the playing field.
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And when I kind of took a step back and I was like, wait a minute, I am I am doing way too much. Especially when it started to hinder my creativity, I didn't even want to pick up a camera because I was like paralyzed. I really went back to the drawing board and I'm like, is this even why I like to create? Is this really why I have an interest in connecting with people?
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Or am I just like being OD with it? I was being OD with it. Spoiler alert, I was. And maybe there's something similarly in your life right now that you feel this way. Maybe you grew up playing a certain sport. Everyone has told you you're super good at that sport. But deep down, you know that You could care less. But it's that image, right? It's that image that you've been good at it.
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And oftentimes, as a compensation for that, I find myself doing too much. And that's when I lose my motivation. It's like I wake up in the morning, I don't want to do anything because I've piled so much onto my plate because I want to prove to everyone that I can do it, that I'm worthy of it. But the truth is, you're doing too much. You're doing too much to
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You don't want to just throw that away. I get that. But if it's starting to impact your day-to-day and you are really feeling like you're kind of suffering through this and it's not fun, it's not enticing, and it's not a challenge that feels... like it is really developing you as a person, then why would you do it? Like why?
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It's the same thing as if, you know, you have a friend that you keep reaching out to and they don't reach back out to you. They're not reciprocating that feeling. And it's different when you have a friend that is busy, right? They're doing their thing. You're doing your thing. And you know, though, that you can count on them. And when it's time to reach out, it's time to meet up for coffee.
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They're going to be there. And they're gonna be like, what's up? And you're gonna be like, what's up? You know, it's so interesting. I feel like we pack a lot on our plates because it's almost as if we have a standard of being perfect. Like you, you cannot make a mistake anymore. And I, I, I'm, I'm Still kind of figuring that balance out. I don't like making mistakes. I really don't.
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Admitting to making a mistake is embarrassing. Admitting that I cannot do something is embarrassing. But I started to let go of those feelings of embarrassment when I started to champion the things that I'm good at. And I feel like I have a talent to and I feel like I have a calling to. It's almost like, yeah, you know, OK, I'm not the best at, you know, freestyle rapping. I wish I was.
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I wish I had bars and I could do a 16 and I could do my best. Some of the bars might be kind of mid, but you give me a, you know, a Summers type beat. You give me a D Savage type beat. Oh, I'm there. I'm going band for band. Why are you taking pictures of that lamb if you don't own one? Shut up, Plackboy Max, one time. But you might be doing too much, you know?
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You might be doing too much and you might feel like you are hyper-fixated on your weaknesses, on the things you're not good at, and you are not giving that same kind of focus to your strengths, to the things that actually make you you. And I think it is important to recognize weaknesses. Like, let's say you're terrible. You are terrible at reaching out to people. You're so bad at that.
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You just kind of like wait for things to come to you. Right. I get that. It's like, I mean, dude, I sometimes suck at that, too. I'll be like, oh, my gosh, this person texted me two months ago and I just read it. I read it. But I like the red receipts, though, because it's like honest. I'm being transparent because people who keep their red receipts on delivered.
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I just feel like you're hiding something. That's all because you know that you have the power. Now, have I read messages and then like did the unread on Instagram? Yeah, of course. I've read things and I'll be like, I don't want them to know I read that. You know? Yeah, of course. Like, duh. But. At the same at the same time.
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Oh, at the same time, you know, maybe you do feel like you wanna get better at reaching out to people, right? That's something that's important to you. You wanna build more friendships and connections. But maybe your strength is calling somebody. Maybe it's not texting them. It's actually just giving them a call out of the blue and you feel more comfortable doing that. Like, do more of that.
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That's a form of it. Sometimes we set the standard of doing something because everyone does it a certain way. But there's so many ways to be... Just to be a person there's so many different ways right there's like so many ways that you can be a good communicator there's so many different ways in which you can find your strengths and know your weaknesses and notice your weaknesses and I think that.
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Part of that is just realizing, hey, let's say you're bad at reaching out to people, but you're really good at showing up to things. You're really good at being at people's events. You're really good at just calling someone out of the blue and being like, hey, I was doing this thing. I was at TJ Maxx and I saw...
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You know, I was in the snack aisle because the snack aisle always be having the heavy heaters. But those like growing up, I would beg my mom. I'd be like, Mama, in Polish. And she'd be like, no, no, we are not buying it. We have we have food at home. Meanwhile, food at home was ketchup and mustard. That was food at home and buraki. Shout out the Polish people one time.
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anyways like we set the standard of doing things based on like how a lot of people do things or like maybe what's what's the most romantic what's the most whimsical what's the most convenient okay that's great that's awesome but what if we just focused on what is the easiest thing for us to do like if you are someone who struggles with reaching out to people but your strength is you know when events are you know when to pull up to things and you feel like oh like i know you know
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And maybe what you're doing too much of is you're putting these expectations that are just unrealistic. I know, I know, you want them to be true. And maybe if you were a robot, they would be true. But you're not. You're not a robot. You're a person. Maybe one day, you know, AI will be able to integrate with my body and I'll be like,
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I know when to call someone out of the blue. I really have a good sense about that. Then do more of that. Do more of that. That will attract people who respect your way of communicating. I'm somebody who, oh my goodness, I'm bad at responding, which everyone is bad at responding. We respond to people who we want to respond to, but I always pick up a phone call. That's my rule.
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So if somebody calls me, I pick up. Famously, John Pork was calling, picked up. So it's the same kind of energy you have to, I think, give yourself grace and the things that you might not feel the best at and just be like, okay, I'm just going to, I'm going to focus on doing this my way.
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I'm going to focus on figuring out how can I, how I can function in like my own strengths and like, how can I do this? That might be, you know, it might feel like I'm doing too much and it If I actually do it in this way, I feel totally in control of things. It is so easy to kind of close yourself in as a person.
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And when you see other people doing something and they'd say, oh, that's, I mean, that is the productive way of doing things. You immediately think, well, okay, I want to be somebody who's productive, which means that I need to mimic that behavior. I need to do that. And maybe the behavior is one that you can mimic. It's one that you can
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Draw inspiration from but it doesn't have to be that exact thing, you know You hear a lot of people talk about like career advice and you know, if you want to have a successful future It's like lawyer doctor, you know entrepreneur But the reality is that there are so many people in this world that are making a living and doing really well for themselves Doing things that they like right and they've just become creative in the way they've been able to monetize those things or they
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Don't have that same kind of need for money, for example, and they're happy having certain cuts to their lifestyle because they really just their passion lies somewhere else. It's I think when we put these standards on ourselves and we start kind of, you know, just pushing ourselves down because we find everything that is wrong about the way we naturally are. That's when we're doing too much.
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why you're so worn out (and how to fix it)
That's when we come off as insincere. We don't come off as authentic. We become people pleasers. We become people who focus on everybody except ourselves because we're doing too much. And the real breaking point is when you come to a point where you realize that everything you have done in your life has not been of your own want. Imagine that.