the romanticization of overachieving is so real. I feel like success used to be measure in consistency and focus, not in how many college club meetings you can attend in one night.I think we have to learn our limits and we have to know when it's time to just scale back what we do. It's better to do less and do it exceptionally well than fail at doing way too many things.sending you all love and peaaaaaaaace!https://linktr.ee/thezurkieshow
Chapter 1: Why do we feel the need to overachieve?
You don't need to be everybody's friend. You don't. Actually, I would urge you to really look around at the people that you befriend and ask yourself if you actually like them. Do you feel like you are willing to put in effort to be their friend? And would they reciprocate that effort? You don't need to be the most successful person in your grade. You don't have to be top of your class.
You don't. Who's telling you that you need to? Your parents? Okay. Is that a motivation that's intrinsic? Is that something that you want? No. You want to be an artist? Cool. You don't need to be the top of your class. You don't need to be the best in some kind of comparison, in some kind of race. You just have to be you. And still, I struggle to realize that it's just okay to be me.
And oftentimes, as a compensation for that, I find myself doing too much. And that's when I lose my motivation. It's like I wake up in the morning, I don't want to do anything because I've piled so much onto my plate because I want to prove to everyone that I can do it, that I'm worthy of it. But the truth is, you're doing too much. You're doing too much to
And maybe what you're doing too much of is you're putting these expectations that are just unrealistic. I know, I know, you want them to be true. And maybe if you were a robot, they would be true. But you're not. You're not a robot. You're a person. Maybe one day, you know, AI will be able to integrate with my body and I'll be like,
calculating calculating yes i will be spending sixty dollars at chili's credit card inserted but until then no no you are a human being sorry that's the card that you were dealt you were born into this world and you are a human like all of us they not like us no they are very much like us
We're all very same in our patterns and in our sometimes ability to piss ourselves off because we had plans, because we had aspirations, we had things we wanted to do, and we let ourselves fall short. And I think that, you know, motivation is something that a lot of people talk about as this thing. Oh, you need to be productive. You need to be motivated all the time.
And maybe you're in a position right now where you kind of feel like you don't have a lot of motivation to do anything. And you're kind of in this rot era, this rot phase of your life. And...
I used to really hate that I used to hate when I couldn't like get out of bed or I just like didn't feel inclined to do anything I felt like something was really really wrong with me until I started to like realize that wait a minute no this is just my my mind and my body telling me I need a break You're doing too much. I need to relax. I need to watch something on YouTube.
I need to scroll a little bit. I need you to take me on a walk. I need you to read a book. I don't know what it is, but I just cannot do what you are asking me to do right now. And instead of getting angry at that, because I know that, that I have a certain standard and I want to reach that standard. I want to be right there. Instead, I've learned to be like, all right, respect.
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Chapter 2: How can you find intrinsic motivation?
And when I kind of took a step back and I was like, wait a minute, I am I am doing way too much. Especially when it started to hinder my creativity, I didn't even want to pick up a camera because I was like paralyzed. I really went back to the drawing board and I'm like, is this even why I like to create? Is this really why I have an interest in connecting with people?
Or am I just like being OD with it? I was being OD with it. Spoiler alert, I was. And maybe there's something similarly in your life right now that you feel this way. Maybe you grew up playing a certain sport. Everyone has told you you're super good at that sport. But deep down, you know that You could care less. But it's that image, right? It's that image that you've been good at it.
You don't want to just throw that away. I get that. But if it's starting to impact your day-to-day and you are really feeling like you're kind of suffering through this and it's not fun, it's not enticing, and it's not a challenge that feels... like it is really developing you as a person, then why would you do it? Like why?
It's the same thing as if, you know, you have a friend that you keep reaching out to and they don't reach back out to you. They're not reciprocating that feeling. And it's different when you have a friend that is busy, right? They're doing their thing. You're doing your thing. And you know, though, that you can count on them. And when it's time to reach out, it's time to meet up for coffee.
They're going to be there. And they're gonna be like, what's up? And you're gonna be like, what's up? You know, it's so interesting. I feel like we pack a lot on our plates because it's almost as if we have a standard of being perfect. Like you, you cannot make a mistake anymore. And I, I, I'm, I'm Still kind of figuring that balance out. I don't like making mistakes. I really don't.
Admitting to making a mistake is embarrassing. Admitting that I cannot do something is embarrassing. But I started to let go of those feelings of embarrassment when I started to champion the things that I'm good at. And I feel like I have a talent to and I feel like I have a calling to. It's almost like, yeah, you know, OK, I'm not the best at, you know, freestyle rapping. I wish I was.
I wish I had bars and I could do a 16 and I could do my best. Some of the bars might be kind of mid, but you give me a, you know, a Summers type beat. You give me a D Savage type beat. Oh, I'm there. I'm going band for band. Why are you taking pictures of that lamb if you don't own one? Shut up, Plackboy Max, one time. But you might be doing too much, you know?
You might be doing too much and you might feel like you are hyper-fixated on your weaknesses, on the things you're not good at, and you are not giving that same kind of focus to your strengths, to the things that actually make you you. And I think it is important to recognize weaknesses. Like, let's say you're terrible. You are terrible at reaching out to people. You're so bad at that.
You just kind of like wait for things to come to you. Right. I get that. It's like, I mean, dude, I sometimes suck at that, too. I'll be like, oh, my gosh, this person texted me two months ago and I just read it. I read it. But I like the red receipts, though, because it's like honest. I'm being transparent because people who keep their red receipts on delivered.
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Chapter 3: What happens when you do too much?
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Don't forget that oftentimes the rough days are worth to tough out because then you'll look back at it and be like, I did that. We eat those. Famously, we eat those. Other than that, take it easy sometimes. Yes, there will be moments in life where things will be mid, but it's worth it for the highs and the lows. Zerky Show, I believe in you. I trust you. And also, I am sending you plenty of love.
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