The Let Them Theory | The Messy Podcast
S2 EP5 | Creating Unshakeable Friendships | The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins
Sun, 30 Mar 2025
Welcome to Season 2, Episode 5 of The Messy Podcast!Tagline: Creating Unshakeable FriendshipsIn this episode, we explore why adult friendships require intention rather than convenience, the science of vulnerability, accountability, and shared values, and provide practical frameworks to deepen or rebuild connections.Key Takeaways:Understand why adult friendships require intention rather than convenience.Discover the science behind vulnerability, accountability, and shared values.Learn practical frameworks to deepen or rebuild connections.Practice:Action Step: Pick one friendship this week and take action to nurture it. Tag us with #LetMeConnect.Support Us: Visit https://themessypodcast.com to support our mission.Tune in to The Messy Podcast—navigating the chaos of life, one story at a time.
Chapter 1: What is the focus of Season 2 of The Messy Podcast?
Hey, everybody, and welcome back to The Messy Podcast. If you want to skip the ads and get right into the good stuff, you can sign up to be a premium member on Apple Podcasts. Or you can also head over to our website at themessypodcast.com. For season two. Season two. Relationships, comparisons, and growth. And I am so excited to be diving into this season with you all.
Me too. I think there's so much to unpack when it comes to human connection and personal development. I really do. Yeah.
And so for this deep dive, we're going to be tackling friendships.
Yeah.
Specifically how to create those unshakable bonds that last a lifetime.
Yeah.
But you know what's interesting? Even though I think we all crave that deep connection, friendships can feel really, really tricky to navigate.
Oh, absolutely. And, you know, I think a lot of it is we have this idea in our heads of like this idealized version of what friendship should look like, you know, constant communication, shared interests, effortless support. And the reality is it's usually so much messier.
It is. It's like we get busy. Life throws us curveballs and sometimes those close connections just start to fade. And it's so frustrating.
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Chapter 2: Why are adult friendships considered complex?
It's about acknowledging the current reality and allowing the relationship to unfold organically. But that doesn't mean that we sit back and do nothing. That's where the second step comes in. And this is called let me.
Let me.
Let me.
Okay.
And this is where things get really interesting. The let me step shifts the focus inwards. It's about taking responsibility for our role in the friendship and asking ourselves, what can I do to nurture this connection?
Yeah, I love that.
So what are your thoughts on this so far?
I think it's brilliant. You know, instead of focusing on what the other person is doing or not doing, it's about taking ownership and becoming an active participant in the relationship.
Exactly. And one of the first tools within the, let me say, it's called the friendship audit.
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Chapter 3: What is the 'Friendship Reset' and how does it help?
Yeah.
They do evolve and they do require effort. And the friendship reset embraces that reality.
It does.
Right.
It encourages us to let go of those unrealistic expectations and instead focus on building authentic connections based on mutual respect, shared experiences, and yes, even a little bit of conflict.
Yeah, because conflict doesn't have to be a negative thing.
Right.
It's often through those difficult conversations that we learn and grow the most.
It is. It's about approaching those disagreements with curiosity and a willingness to understand the other person's perspective and recognizing that even the strongest friendships can weather storms.
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