The Jamie Kern Lima Show
How to Raise Your Vibration, Get What You Want & Live Your Best Life w/Bumble Founder Whitney Wolfe Herd Pt 3
Tue, 08 Apr 2025
Full Video Available on YouTube @JamieKernLimaOfficial. Are You Ready to believe in YOU?🙌 jamiekernlima.com 👈 Sign up for my FREE Inspirational Newsletter here and you’ll ALSO get special prompt questions to help you grow in your self-worth-building that pair with each episode!🩷 Make sure to click the “Follow” button for the show on your favorite podcast app, so you’ll be the first to get each episode! ____ I’m so glad you’re here for this incredible part 3 episode with Founder and CEO of Bumble, Whitney Wolfe Herd, who shares stories and insights she’s never shared before, and she’s sharing them today, right here with you! If you’re ready feel more connected and alive and get tips, tools and insights on how to raise your vibration to get what you want and truly create your best life, this episode is going to change your life today! And whether you're joining me today for yourself or because someone that you love shared this episode with you, I want to welcome you to the Jamie Kern Lima Show podcast family. And remember this episode is not just for you and me. Please share it with every single person that you know because it can change their life too. Whitney Wolfe Herd is the founder and CEO of Bumble, a platform for dating, friendship, business, mentoring, and connection, launched in 2014. She’s also a co-founder of Tinder and has been named to nearly every major success list—from Forbes’ Richest Self-Made Women to the Time 100. Whitney is a profoundly deep, fascinating, and brilliant woman, a wife, a mama to two beautiful boys—and my dear friend. I’m so excited for you, me, and Whitney to experience this life-changing episode together! Episode Reflection Questions for YOU: Jamie writes prompt questions each episode to spark revelations in your self-worth journey and help you apply the tools and lessons from each episode into your real life right now. Please make sure you’re signed up for Jamie’s free inspirational newsletter jamiekernlima.com 👈 Get my new book WORTHY plus FREE Bonus gifts including a 95+ page Worthy Workbook and more at WorthyBook.com For more resources related to today’s episode, click here https://jamiekernlima.com/show/ for the podcast episode page. Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to The Jamie Kern Lima Show 05:15 How to Make the First Move, in Love, Friendship & Mentorship 8:45 D*ck Pics and Unsolicited Lewd Pics 13:00 Keys to Making Friends as an Adult 17:07 What People Most Get Wrong, When Looking For Love Online 19:54 Keys to Finding a Mentor & What People Get Wrong About Mentorship 22:40 “I’m not a big executive coach gal; it’s not for me.” Whitney Shares Modalities of Therapy and Healing that Work For Her 23:30 Whitneys Exact Meditation Practice and How to Do It 29:55 What Whitney is Manifesting in her Life Right Now 34:40 Whitney Reveals her Vision for the Future of Bumble “we need to learn to love, love, again.” 37:00 Self-Love and Believing You Are Enough & Why We’re Attracted to People Who Hurt Us 40:15 When You think Something is the End, It Just Might Be the Beginning! It’s such an honor to share this podcast together with you. And please note: I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Click Here to Subscribe to the YouTube Channel Follow me here: Instagram TikTok Facebook Website — Sign up for my inspirational newsletter for YOU at: jamiekernlima.com — Looking for my books on Amazon? Here they are! WORTHY Believe IT
Chapter 1: Who is Whitney Wolfe Herd and what will we learn in this episode?
I am so glad you're here for this incredible part three episode with my dear friend and now yours too, founder and CEO of Bumble, Whitney Wolf Hurd, who shares stories and insights she's never shared before. And she's sharing them with you today right here. Coming up in this episode.
Chapter 2: How can you overcome fear to make the first move in life?
What are you afraid of? What are you afraid of? I think when you actually look fear in the face and say, who are you? Like, who are you, fear? What's your name? Why are you here? What are you up to? I think it will help people really understand what's holding them back.
you have gone out of your way collectively to help make the online world a safer place. So I wanna talk about dick pics. Let's talk about dick pics because- Very classy. This is a real online issue. I think I just heard a gasp in the studio. This is a real online issue.
Women were just getting spammed on the internet by these unsolicited lewd images. If you took your clothes off in the streets, you're going to jail. You cannot do that. It's against the law. But for some reason, we're letting everybody do that. online and send it to teenagers. And so we started this kind of crusade to create a law.
Chapter 3: What steps has Bumble taken to combat unsolicited lewd images online?
Wasn't there even like one senator or something that was like in trouble for it and it still passed unanimously? Yes. Yes. Yes. Yeah. What do people most get wrong when they're looking for romantic relationships?
I think where people go wrong looking for love online is I think what you just said is the most important thing for all of us. I think we have fallen out of love with falling in love. I think we've fallen out of love with ourselves. Yes, we have. We are totally online, but we are so offline. We're so online, technically online, so spiritually offline. Totally offline.
We are unplugged while we are the most plugged in ever. I just see the love company being a force for helping people learn to love love again. How do we love again? Love ourselves, love our friends. Like you said, you want to manifest beautiful friendships. What is a friendship rooted in love?
Yeah.
We are all so much more connected and so much more loved than we realize. There are these secret languages of the universe that we can tap into. When you think it's the end, it might really just be the beginning. So never, never think something's over. It's just the beginning of a new thing. Thank you for having this beautiful forum for women to come together and learn and enhance and elevate.
You really are the embodiment of worthiness and i do have to give jamie a big shout out for those of you that don't know jamie personally but feel like you know her jamie is the kindest person i've ever met you are always sincerely so genuinely kind to everyone and all around you deeply deeply authentic and kind and compassionate and you want the best for people
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Chapter 4: What are effective ways to make friends as an adult?
So I think it's like, instead of just going out there and me preaching to a bunch of people saying like, make the first move, just do it, just do it, just dive, dive, dive, dive. Maybe get self- Go inward. Get a bit self-reflective.
Yeah.
And understand, like, why don't you make the first move? Is it because you were told culturally that you shouldn't make the first move? But why? Yes. And I think that is a really interesting moment for people in their lives. Yes. When they say, I'm stuck. I can't get anything to work. I'm not going to go move to that city I kind of want to move to. Why not?
Like, I think people need to really have conversations with themselves and understand what limitations they're putting on themselves that are holding them back.
That's so good from, oh, I'm afraid of rejection or, oh, I'm afraid what people might think or, oh, my self-doubt or whatever. And then you're saying like, inquire about that. Wait, well, what is this rejection? What does that mean to you? And work through it because then it probably shrinks right after. Exactly.
So good. And you get to know yourself better. Yeah. Yeah.
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Chapter 5: What common mistakes do people make when looking for love online?
Yeah.
Because that's what this is all about. All of us are just like on a lifelong journey of knowing ourselves, right? And it's so funny. I'm in the business of helping people know other people. And I do think our next horizon is really about love in three ways. Self-love, romantic love, and love of community and friends. Yeah.
You know, I want to make sure I don't miss this part because I have a couple questions I'm definitely going to ask you, especially about making adult friends and about building connection and things like that. But this, we talk about the greater good. You have... gone out of your way collectively to help make the online world a safer place. So I want to talk about dick pics.
Let's talk about dick pics. Very classy. This is a real online issue. I think I just heard a gasp in the studio. This is a real online issue. And I mean, it's wild in the sense of... Well, first of all, I don't really understand it. But some people just think people just want this unsolicited. I understand the people that want them. Okay, I get that.
But like all the unsolicited ones where people just think this is a good idea, don't get that. But it is a real thing. And it's, you know, a thing in schools right now. It's a thing where kids' brains aren't even developed and they don't realize some of this stuff could be permanent. But anyhow, at the adult level, it's also a real issue. And you've done a lot of work You've done a lot of work.
You've gotten laws passed. I want to commend you for everything you've done to help reduce the harassment of people getting unsolicited. But that's been a passion, I think.
Well, and listen, it all stemmed from, again, we come back to intention. The intention was just to create a kinder, safer space. right? You created like an AI tool that can detect them, right? Yeah. So our team built something called Private Detector. It was an AI tool. This was like, by the way, we've been using AI for so long. It's, you know, obviously it's
progressed monumentally in the last couple of years. But we built a tool that essentially, when someone sends an image to someone, it essentially scans it for anything that could be unsolicited or lewd. So body parts, it's very sophisticated.
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Chapter 6: How can you find and approach a mentor successfully?
So with like 99% accuracy, it will give you a heads up not to open the photo and it comes blurred so that we kind of deter you from looking at whatever that is. And what I realized was we can build all the tools in the world but it still wasn't solving the fact that there was no consequences here. Like I can block and report these people, but they're gonna go to another platform.
They're gonna go to another app. And I'm not here to just make Bumble great. Like I want connecting to be healthier and safer and kinder across the board. And so we kept hearing in droves, just negative, negative feedback about how women were just getting spammed on the internet by these unsolicited lewd images. So I called up a local, legal
you know, someone in my network that I'm very close to, that's very close to the legal kind of state of the world in Texas. And I said, is there a law for online indecent exposure? So indecent exposure is a law where you cannot go in the street right now on Coast Village Road and expose yourself. If you took your clothes off in the streets, you're going to jail. You cannot do that.
It's against the law. But for some reason, we're letting everybody do that online and send it to teenagers and in mass, like this does not feel right. Like, how are we not, you know, everybody is online all day long. How are we not creating more accountable spaces? And I'm not saying I don't believe in free speech.
I'm not saying I don't believe in using your phone to, you know, navigate life the way you want, but come on, there's like decent behavior that we uphold people to in the real world. And that should be mirrored on the internet. And that's all. And so we started this kind of crusade to create a law and we got it passed 100% unanimous yes vote in Texas. So it became a law.
I signed it in with the governor. And then we passed it in California. We've passed it in several other states. And then, you know, this year is big for a lot of policy work we're going to be putting out there into the world to create safer relationships, both on and offline.
Uh, wasn't there even like one Senator or something that was like in trouble for it and it still passed unanimously? Yes.
Yes. Yes. Yeah. I mean, are we in a simulation? Perhaps. Yeah. Right. Um, progress.
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Chapter 7: What is Whitney's meditation practice and how does it benefit her?
Um, what are the best tips for making friends as an adult?
I would say really embracing your true passions and your quirks. So if you're like super into making sourdough bread or like you've taken up knitting or you're like a super fanatic on Mahjong or, you know, you've got like some obsession with reading fantasy books, like own those things. Like those are your passions. Those are your hobbies, right?
And there are other people out there that love the same things as you. You just have to like find them. But how can you find someone if you don't put a signal out? Like you can't be found if you don't put a flag up or use a flashlight or like put a beacon out there. And so I would say like shine your light bright And make a Bumble for Friends profile and like put your whole self out there.
Like what are you into? What are you looking for? Like what kind of like random buddies are you looking for to do? Like, you know, do you want to go like to crystal shops together? Are you obsessed with astrology? Like just own it. Like be authentically you. And like your vibe, this is going to sound cheesy, but like it attracts your tribe. Like it really does.
So like operate on your true frequency and like you will be met where you are, like what you said earlier.
For the person, actually, what do people most get wrong when they're looking for romantic relationships? Yeah. I think where people go wrong looking for love online is... There's so much more coming up in this episode. You are not going to want to miss it. But first, I wanted to share this with you. In life, you don't soar to the level of your hopes and dreams.
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Chapter 8: What is Whitney Wolfe Herd manifesting for her life and Bumble's future?
It's so hard, I think, in this world where there's filters and there's this and there's that. And we want to get a bunch of people that like all the things. And then you're just wasting your time because there's like a barrier of disconnection between you and the other person if it's not fully you. So then someone's interested, but then it's not who you are. And then it's a whole just like cycle.
Cycle. That's right.
Mm-hmm. But you know what I'm talking about? And this predates online. Like, did you ever get into a relationship where you felt like you needed to impress the person and then you get into it? Like their movies. Yeah. And you're like, wait a second. Why like that TV show? You're like, I don't know. And then you're three months into it and you're like, I am miserable. Yes.
But that's because you weren't true to yourself. Yes. Again, intention is everything. Intention is everything. Authenticity.
So full, real picture, all the things. Speed you. No filter. The right person will love you. All the quirks. And that's like- That's it. The right person will come. The secret recipe. That's it.
The shortcut. As like- predictable as it sounds and as like cheesy as it sounds, like be yourself. Yeah.
Yeah. Be you. It sounds that way, but no, you know, most people are not. That's right. Right. So that's like, that's the big thing. What are the keys to finding a mentor?
Oh, goodness. I mean, you know what I think is such a great spirit of like mentorship is godmothers here in our community. Like what Jennifer and Victoria have built with godmothers is so beautiful. This like the spirit of like the fairy godmother that is there to have your back. So I think with mentors, you know, it's interesting. I would say don't be scared to put yourself out there.
Who cares if the person doesn't respond to the email? Email twice. Email three times. And maybe they never respond, but you know what? You know what that mentor would have told you to do? That. So like by putting yourself out there and pushing yourself, like you actually kind of inadvertently mentor yourself by trying to find a mentor, you know?
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