The Candace Cameron Bure Podcast
Girls Under Pressure with Allie Schnacky and Natasha Bure- The Comparison Trap
Tue, 11 Feb 2025
Candace is joined by Allie Schnacky (JWLKRS Worship) and Natasha Bure for “Girls Under Pressure” - candid conversations about body image, social media, dating, modesty, comparison and more. Connect with Candace, Allie and Natasha: Candace on Instagram @candacecbure Follow the Podcast on Instagram @candacecameronburepodcast Follow the Podcast on TikTok @ccbpodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Chapter 1: How does social media shape our self-image?
Social media is so trained us to focus so much on ourselves 24-7 and not on others. Number one, it's a good thing we recognized it because that's the first way to change. The Lord is constantly refining that ugly spirit inside of my heart that I don't like. Like, I don't want to be that person. So let me do something to combat it and drive it out. Fill it up with something else.
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I'm here to share open conversations with my friends about life's challenges, celebrations, and everything in between. Season nine of the podcast starts right now and it's called Girls Under Pressure. If you are a teenager or a young adult, or if you have a teenage daughter in your life or a woman in her 20s, this is your season.
My special guests are Allie Schnacki of Chosen and Free and Jay Walker's podcast. And my very own daughter is back, Natasha Bure by popular demand. Come join us. Hi, ladies. Hi. Hey. How are you? Good. How are you? So good. I'm very, very excited about our season. I'm trying to calm the dorky mom vibes down in the sense that, like, I want to be cool.
When I sit here with you and we talk about these things. You are cool. We want the dorky mom vibes. You want the dorky mom? We want it. Bring it on. That's now admitting that I am dorky mom, but I know I am. I think she's cool. I totally am. I've never looked at you and thought you're dorky ever.
I, um, I'm, I'm, well, first of all, before I get into this whole season, which I'm just, I'm very excited about all the things that we're going to talk about because Natasha, you were on with Josh and Christy Straub and we got so many, um, emails and messages from people.
And your episode really impacted people and which caused us to say, there's so many, not only moms out there raising daughters, but so many young women, whether they're high school, they're college age, that related so much to what you were talking about. And they said, can we deep dive on girls right now growing up? And so I was like, Yes, let's do this.
And so I'm so grateful that both of you are here. And Allie, let's just start with you because I can read your bio to everyone. But I think it's better when you guys just share from your heart what you're doing, what you're up to, how people know you, where they know you from or where they can find you.
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Chapter 2: What role does faith play in overcoming personal struggles?
in life in general and that was really eye-opening for me and I remember then when I did watch him I remember crying again because I was so proud of him and I was like this is so awesome like my brother's so talented and he's so you know wonderful at everything that he does but yeah I I certainly do um remember that being the you know one of the first times that it really struck me what um what are the biggest areas that you feel right now at the age you're you're at and
I say this understanding and want the viewer to understand that both of you love Jesus. Both of you have a biblical worldview. So we are looking at the discussion through that lens. But I want to know if you will be as honest as you can be, what are the places right now in your life that as 20-somethings you feel you still struggle with comparison-wise?
What are maybe the triggers or the places that make you feel that way or the insecurities?
I would say for myself, a huge one is probably body image. I think being on camera a lot and putting yourself out on social media, you are just... very aware of the eyes on you. And so I think that's a huge one that I struggle with. And then probably also career wise, you're always comparing yourselves to others around you and the success that they might be having that you're not.
I would say those are my two
Yeah, I would honestly say with being on social media, especially, it's so hard to not go back into that old mindset I was freed from and base how sick, like how worthy I am off of where I'm at career wise. And that's something, honestly, it's crazy, right? Because when God breaks you free, from comparison by knowing your identity. It's not something that you're broken free from once.
Like I literally have to die to the thought of comparing myself every single day. And something that honestly, Natasha, when you were talking, it kind of sparked my mind because I went through that with my brother too, is I hated so much not being able to be happy for the people that I loved most in the world because I was so chained up by comparison.
And it almost made me angry because I love my brother more than anything. And I hated that I couldn't just be happy for the people that I loved, that I couldn't be happy for my friends when, you know, they were succeeding and doing good because I felt like I was, I wasn't good enough, you know? And I think that's,
That's really where knowing your true identity in Christ comes in because you can't ever celebrate someone you're competing against. We have to figure out what that root is.
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Chapter 3: Who are the special guests on 'Girls Under Pressure'?
So how do we how do we combat that? How do we fight that for the for the girl that's out there saying I struggle with comparison in so many different ways? How do you break free?
It's so interesting that you just said that about yourself because all I hear in my mind is comparison is such a lie and it's such a trap that like tries to rob us from actually living with joy. It's so true.
And I was even thinking about me and my sister Ella's conversation when we were encouraging one another and it was so eye-opening to us because the areas that she was comparing herself was to me. And vice versa, like the areas I felt weak, I was comparing myself to her and we were able to look at each other in the eye and say, why would you ever compare yourself to that?
Like you're so great in this area and remind each other of each other's strengths because we're all so different. You might be prettier than me. but God's given me this gift, you know? And I think one of the best ways to combat comparison in my life, besides going to the Bible is honestly speaking truth over myself. Like what, what do I like about myself?
And there have been moments I shared this, I think with you, Natasha, but a defining moment in my life was I had this woman growing up that was I believe the Lord strategically placed in my life when I needed her most. And I was at her house one day, she would disciple me in this group of girls and she had us get this piece of paper and write on one side what we liked about ourself.
And on the other side, we passed it around and everyone else wrote what they liked about us. I sat there for 20 minutes and I could only come up with one thing I liked about myself. And it was that I'm real. Only thing I had to say nice about myself. And then everybody passed it around. They said these nice things.
And like you said, I kind of was like, oh, you guys are so nice, but you had to write something. I wrote it off. But what's so crazy about that is I look at how God's transformed the way I view myself as I've gotten closer to him.
And really, as I begin to dive deep into his word, it's not even God, show me who you've called me to be, but I just dive into getting to know who he is by reading my Bible or by listening to a podcast like this one, he begins to automatically transform the way I view myself. You know? Yeah, he does. I think that's a big one for me.
Also just realizing going back to my thing with my sister is we're all comparing ourself to someone. Not one of us is not doing it. And so just realizing like we do have our different strengths and just glorifying like, Lord, you've given me this. Yeah.
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