The Candace Cameron Bure Podcast
Allie Schnacky and Natasha Bure - Breaking Up is Hard To Do
Tue, 25 Feb 2025
How can we navigate life’s tough transitions and still have strong family relationships? In this episode of the Girls Under Pressure series, Candace, Allie and Natasha explore the challenges of relationships that don’t always go the way we expect. Allie shares her journey toward getting engaged: "I think that fear of leaving my family... maybe even kept me in a season a little too long." Natasha talks about a recent season of life in Dallas, driven by a desire for growth and community, highlighting the importance of embracing change and finding people to do life with. Candace reflects on the end of "Full House" as a major transition, relating it to a form of breakup. This conversation emphasizes the importance of savoring each life season and trusting in God’s plans, even when it leads to discomfort. Sponsors: - Last Breath Movie: https://www.focusfeatures.com/last-breath/ - Grand Canyon University: http://gcu.edu - Mr. Pen Highlighters: Visit http://candacepens.com/ for 10% off your order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Chapter 1: What is the theme of the podcast episode?
Season nine is Girls Under Pressure, and my guest hosts are Ali Schnacki and Natasha Bure. Come join us. Hi, ladies. Hi. Hey. Today, we're talking about breaking up is hard to do. Breaking up. Breaking up could be in relationships. It could be breaking up with friendships, in school, even your parents. No, don't ever leave, guys. Don't leave. You want me to leave all the time. This is true.
I don't know what she's talking about.
I never leave. She could not get rid of me quicker. Well, you were a little Miss Independent. Yes, I was. You needed to fly. Do you still live at home, Allie?
Chapter 2: How does Allie Schnacky handle engagement and family transitions?
Yeah, I still live at home with all of my siblings and my parents. And honestly, I'm excited for this topic because I feel like it's so... It just fits with what I'm going through right now. Me and my boyfriend have been transitioning into getting engaged and just the whole idea of leaving my family. Wait, so you know you're getting engaged? Do tell, do tell. Okay, guys.
So I'm a little different than the normal girl. Okay. I like wanted him to know that I was ready for him to ask me before he asked me. So I told him, just wait until I tell you that like I'm ready for you to ask me. And so just this last year. And you knew though that he was ready.
You guys talked about this, that you were going to take steps. You were dating towards a goal of marriage.
Yeah. So me and my boyfriend, Austin, we've actually known each other since we were 14. Okay. And he's my brother's best friend. And then 2021, we went on our first date and we've just slowly been climbing since then. But he's been ready to be married to me for a long time. Okay. I'm more of the one I, y'all, this is like such a good topic for me because I'm a transition hater. I hate transitions.
Okay. And so I think that fear of leaving my family and leaving the house and never having that back. Like, you know, everybody always says, once you leave, you never have it back. It's the blink of an eye. And like, I can't even remember what it was like with my siblings. I think that all of that fear over the years, just like maybe even kept me in a season a little too long. Wow.
I think there's probably a lot of people listening going, man, I wish I had kids that wanted to stay home forever. Or maybe they're saying like, well, I wish I felt that way about my family.
Yeah.
I can't wait to get out of here. That's a beautiful thing that you love your family so much. And it's actually the transition because of possibly leaving to get married. Right.
nerve-wracking for you or um what I mean what word would you use to describe it I would say nerve-wracking but honestly as I as I really press in and like pray about what God's called me to do in this next season I really am just so comforted because all of the fears that I used to have about leaving my family and it almost feels like it feels like you're breaking up with them
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Chapter 3: Why did Natasha Bure move to Dallas?
We've already been looking at lots in the neighborhood, but I also have been praying like, Lord, as much as we want this, what do you really want? Because I hear so many things too about, you know, when you get married, moving a little bit away just to establish your new life together, not being able to run across the street to mom's house. Right.
So you're embarking in a new season. Yeah. Soon. We don't know when yet. I know if life can just slow down a little bit, right? I feel like it never does, but I'm really excited. Good. We're happy for you. Thanks. Natasha, what about you? What are some transition times in your life that have been challenging or breakups?
I feel like I went through a pretty big transition season this past year. I moved to Dallas, obviously, as you know. But yeah, I have been... Everyone wants to know why you moved to Dallas. I honestly, I'm such a fan of change. I actually love transitions. I feel like growing up, we moved so many times, so many houses. I've been to so many different schools.
That's like a big part of my life is change. And I feel like when my life is a little stagnant and a little boring, I crave change. which may be unlike a lot of people, you know, growing up in the same place with the same people. But that was just never how I grew up. So this past year, I was coming up on my lease and figuring out if I wanted to resign.
And I had gone to Texas a few times and met some people that I really loved. And I just fell honestly in love with the community and the people out there. And so I started praying about it. And I'm really blessed and fortunate, obviously, that my job can allow me to live and move wherever. So prayed about it and felt really called to just take a leap of faith and move to Texas.
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Chapter 4: How does Natasha Bure view change and community?
figure it out when I got there. There wasn't really like a huge rhyme or reason other than I just wanted to grow. And I feel like you're only growing when you're put in a position that's a little bit uncomfortable. And I will say the first few months were pretty uncomfortable. And it was actually very funny because I had a very similar transition season, I would say, when I got out of high school.
And that was actually very tough for me because I I didn't go to college and all of my friends that I graduated high school with went off to college and I didn't have any community. And when I was sitting around working a job and all my friends were away, I resorted to a group of people that definitely just kind of led me astray and weren't the best. And I think that it
was very, it was very tough on my relationship with my family at the time and my brothers. We like weren't as close, which is just so polar opposite to how we normally are. But I just really, I just really took a different path. And so this time around moving to a whole new state, moving across the country by myself, My parents didn't go.
Literally, because I moved Natasha with the U-Haul from the house to her apartment.
In Los Angeles. From apartment to apartment.
She's moved me before. But Natasha did everything herself for her move to Dallas. Literally packed up the pod herself.
I just made the decision. I really felt called. Packed it up and drove. Drove her car. The pod got there. Unloaded it. Found an apartment. Unloaded it by myself.
ordered furniture they didn't come visit me or see my place until i was like six seven months into living there um so very guys that's crazy i know i want you to finish your story but i'm just gonna add because of the dallas thing a lot of people ask me well how is that transition for you are you so sad that natasha moved yeah that's what i'm wondering She wanted me to go. I really did.
You know why? Not because I don't love you and wouldn't miss you, but I know Natasha. Right. And one thing about her that she's a very determined person. And so I wanted to see her spread her wings and fly because she's never lived anywhere other than with us or near us. But
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Chapter 5: What was Allie Schnacky's high school relationship experience?
But for me, I actually really loved it because I felt like a lot of the shame and bad decisions I probably would have made, I didn't just because I had a rule in my family. And I also got to form really cool connections with people and learn what I did and what I didn't like from the people that I was close to. But
What I love about what you were saying about Natasha was that when you really love somebody, you want them to go, even if it hurts you. And it's been cool watching my parents transition through that and how they're genuinely wanting me to step out now and to what God has for me next. But
It reminds me so much of this friendship that I had in high school with this guy who I wouldn't say we're dating because we really weren't. I wasn't allowed to, right? But he was like my best friend for probably a year and a half, close to two years, which is a long time. We were facing all the time, hung out all the time, like seriously, just one of the best people that I knew.
And even still to this day, it's one of the greatest people And I remember it was one of those things, and I'm sure some people can relate to this, but when you're that close to the opposite gender, somebody is going to catch feelings a majority of the time when you're that connected, that close. And so that was our story.
I felt like I knew in my heart, even though I loved him as a person, I didn't think he was the person God had for me. And I kind of knew that in my heart. And I thought as long as I communicated that to him, even though I knew that he liked me like that, As long as we were on the same page, you knew where I was at. I could keep him in my life. I didn't have to lose my best friend.
But time after time, the same conversations would happen. And it finally got to a place where it was just hurting both of us too bad to be in the air that we had a conversation. And I really had to say like, God, Is this the person you have for me? And if not, I have to love him enough to let him go find what you do have for him.
And that was honestly probably one of the hardest conversations in my life, especially when you're young, too. You don't really. Of course. And that's so mature, too. It was rough. But you know what? It felt so right. It felt so right. And that next year, it hurt me so bad. I did not talk to anybody that next year. I was friends. I was done with guy friends, done with everything.
Just Lord, next guy I'm close to, please let it be my husband. You know, we all pray that and just pray God, please. And sometimes it works like that. Sometimes it doesn't. But yeah, that was probably one of the hardest things in my life. But I grew so much through it because the truth is, is love really does want you to like go.
Yeah. You know, I feel pretty similarly just with my brother Lev having gotten married, which is so beautiful. And I love his wife. I truly adore her. But in the beginning, it was a little bit weird of a transition just because our family is so close. And so then to have somebody else come in and then him not be at all of our dinners or things like that, it's just it feels weird and different.
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Chapter 6: How does Natasha Bure cope with family changes?
You were 18? How did you, like, how did you, you were on set, I'm pretty sure like every single day almost. Yeah. For eight years. Like a school season and then you get the summer off.
How did you deal with that transition? Like now you don't have anywhere to go. It was a hard transition because it is. It's like a lot of so much love that you have that just suddenly comes to an end. But that transition was eased in the sense that I had met Val and we had started dating. And I knew at that moment, this was just a new season of life.
Just like when you get out of, you graduate from high school, you get to decide what you want to do. You can go on and have a career. You can get a job. You can go to school. Right. You can go take a couple years off and go tour Europe. You know, whatever you choose to do, but it's a new season.
And that's where that break was from the show in my life, which made that transition a little bit easier. But nevertheless, it was still like a sad one for me. Mm-hmm. Grand Canyon University, a private Christian university in beautiful Phoenix, Arizona, believes that we're endowed by our creator with certain unalienable rights to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.
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