Passion Struck with John R. Miles
Dr. Emily Falk on How to Rewire Your Brain for Better Choices | EP 596
Thu, 10 Apr 2025
In Episode 596 of Passion Struck, host John R. Miles sits down with Dr. Emily Falk, a leading neuroscientist and expert in the science of behavior change. Falk is the Vice Dean of the Annenberg School for Communication at the University of Pennsylvania, and the author of the Next Big Idea Club Must-Read book What We Value: The Neuroscience of Choice and Change.This powerful conversation explores how our brains weigh choices, how our values shape behavior—often unconsciously—and what it takes to truly live in alignment with who we want to become. From decoding the “value calculator” in our brain to understanding how identity, connection, and purpose influence decision-making, Falk offers deeply practical insights on how to shift your behavior and build a better life.Full Shownotes here: https://passionstruck.com/emily-falk-rewire-your-brain-for-better-choices/What You’ll Learn in This Episode:How your brain calculates value—and why that system often favors short-term rewardsWhy your future self can feel like a stranger, and how to build empathy toward themHow self-transcendent values like compassion and purpose reshape behaviorWhat brain synchrony is and how we build it in conversation, relationships, and societyThe psychological toll of “not mattering”—and how to fix itTools to overcome defensiveness and embrace growth, including values affirmationHow seemingly small changes—like biking to visit a loved one—can reshape identityWhy connection, not control, is the key to lasting behavior changeConnect with Dr. Emily Falk: https://www.asc.upenn.edu/research/centers/communication-neuroscience-labSponsors:Factor Meals: http://factormeals.com/factormeals50off and use code “FACTOR MEALS 50 OFF”Rosetta Stone: Unlock 25 languages for life at “ROSETTASTONE.com/passionstruck.”Prolon: Reset your health with 15% off at “ProlonLife.com/passionstruck.”Mint Mobile: Cut your wireless bill to 15 bucks a month at “MINT MOBILE dot com slash PASSION.”Hims: Start your journey to regrowing hair with Hims. Visit hims.com/PASSIONSTRUCK for your free online visit.Quince: Discover luxury at affordable prices with Quince. Enjoy free shipping and 365-day returns at quince.com/PASSIONNext on Passion Struck:In the next episode of Passion Struck, John sits down with Anne Marie Anderson, an Emmy Award-winning broadcaster, sports journalist, and leadership expert. Anne Marie has spent years breaking barriers in sports media, navigating high-stakes environments, and coaching top athletes and executives on leadership, resilience, and communication. In our conversation, we'll dive into the mental frameworks of high performers, the art of storytelling, and how to build confidence in any field.For more information on advertisers and promo codes, visit Passion Struck Deals.Join the Passion Struck Community!Sign up for the Live Intentionally newsletter, where I share exclusive content, actionable advice, and insights to help you ignite your purpose and live your most intentional life. Get access to practical exercises, inspiring stories, and tools designed to help you grow. Learn more and sign up here.Speaking Engagements & WorkshopsAre you looking to inspire your team, organization, or audience to take intentional action in their lives and careers? I’m available for keynote speaking, workshops, and leadership training on topics such as intentional living, resilience, leadership, and personal growth. Let’s work together to create transformational change. Learn more at johnrmiles.com/speaking.Episode Starter PacksWith over 500 episodes, it can be overwhelming to know where to start. We’ve curated Episode Starter Packs based on key themes like leadership, mental health, and personal growth, making it easier for you to dive into the topics you care about. Check them out at passionstruck.com/starterpacks.Catch More of Passion Struck:My solo episode on 4 Powerful Trust-Building Exercises for Strong Teams and RelationshipsCan't miss my episode with Gabriella Rosen Kellerman on Thriving in the Future of WorkMy episode with Ethan Mollick on the Impact of AI on Life and WorkCatch my interview with Morgan Housel on How to Use the Past Wisely to Forge the FutureListen to my interview with Jacob Morgan on the Vital Power of Leading With VulnerabilityIf you liked the show, please leave us a review—it only takes a moment and helps us reach more people! Don’t forget to include your Twitter or Instagram handle so we can thank you personally.How to Connect with John:Connect with John on Twitter at @John_RMilesFollow him on Instagram at @John_R_MilesSubscribe to our main YouTube Channel and to our YouTube Clips ChannelFor more insights and resources, visit John’s websiteWant to explore where you stand on the path to becoming Passion Struck? Take our 20-question quiz on Passionstruck.com and find out today!
Chapter 1: How does social connection influence human behavior?
So we're sensitive to signals of potential rejection or actual rejection because it then motivates a bunch of useful behaviors to help us reconnect either with the person if we've done something that causes harm or with other people if we've been excluded or rejected.
Welcome to Passion Struck. Hi, I'm your host, John R. Miles. And on the show, we decipher the secrets, tips, and guidance of the world's most inspiring people and turn their wisdom into practical advice for you and those around you. Our mission is to help you unlock the power of intentionality so that you can become the best version of yourself.
If you're new to the show, I offer advice and answer listener questions on Fridays. We have long-form interviews the rest of the week with guests ranging from astronauts to authors, CEOs, creators, innovators, scientists, military leaders, visionaries, and athletes. Now, let's go out there and become passion struck. Hey, passion struck fam, welcome to episode 596.
Whether you've been with us for a while or you're joining us for the first time, thank you so much for being here. You're now part of a global community of changemakers committed to living with purpose, leading with intention, and igniting a life that truly matters. Let me ask you this. Why do we share the things we do?
Why do some ideas spread like wildfire while others fall flat, no matter how important they are? And what if the key to lasting behavioral change isn't more willpower, but understanding how the brain assigns value? That's exactly what today's guest, Dr. Emily Falk, explores in her groundbreaking new book, What We Value, The Neuroscience of Choice and Change.
Emily is a pioneering neuroscientist at the University of Pennsylvania. She's also the Vice Dean of the Annenberg School of Communication, Director of the Communication Neuroscience Lab, and leads the Climate Communication Division at the Annenberg Public Policy Center. Her work sits at the intersection of psychology, communication, and the science of change.
In this fascinating conversation, we dive into the hidden processes that shape our decisions, how self-relevance and social connection influence everything we share, and what it really takes to inspire change from individual habits to global movements. Emily's insights are essential for anyone who wants to understand, influence,
improve communication, and create messages that move people, not just in theory, but in the real world. We also explore how small acts of sharing are foundational to human connection, how algorithms and culture shape our values and attention, what neuroscience teaches us about motivation, empathy, and identity, and how to align what we value with the change we want to create.
But before we dive in, let's reflect on my episode earlier this week. On Tuesday, I was joined with Humble the Poet to unpack one of the most widespread and misunderstood emotional experiences of our time, anxiety. It's an unfiltered look at identity, self-worth, and finding calm in a chaotic world.
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Chapter 2: Why is understanding brain's value calculation vital for decision making?
But you were asking me about what does this tell us about the speed of our decisions? And what I think Jenny really highlighted when she told the story was about the ways that the people trying to be helpful can be exploited for these other kinds of means. And as we think about our own experiences as individuals, like think about interacting on the internet, most people.
in the world are kind and good. And often when you read news, it's by journalists who are very dedicated to hunting down the truth, but our tendencies, our natural tendencies can also be exploited to sell us false information or to have us fall prey to bots or other folks who don't have our best interests at heart. Right.
I will also say in terms of your past experience that you were describing, I'm married to a cryptographer.
Well, there you go.
Privacy and data security are salient in my mind as well.
Oh, it also made me think of how does our perception of others values, especially in not only the environment you talked about on the web, but in social media environments, distort the choices that we make about who we are and how we show up.
I think so much evidence that what we think other people's preferences and behaviors are shape ours. So our social relevance system helps us understand what other people are thinking and feeling. And what other people are thinking and feeling influences our value calculation.
So there've been a number of brain imaging studies that have looked at, for example, when people look at photographs of other people's faces, we might think that we have our own unique tastes and preferences.
Like for example, that when we fall in love, it's really unique, but scientists have shown that when people are given information about who other people think are more or less attractive, that shapes
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