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Chapter 1: What kind of restaurants should parents avoid with toddlers?
So I get an email that I didn't ask to receive. Okay. And then I go and I click unsubscribe. Okay. And I need for that relationship to end because I didn't consent to receiving this email. And then when I click unsubscribe, a pop-up appears. Tell us why you're leaving us. Oh, God. A survey and an unsubscribe email. So I'm unsubscribing. I'm breaking up.
And then I'm receiving a survey as to why I'm breaking up, which then I fill out and And then after I've unsubscribed and told them why I'm leaving, an hour later, I receive an email, we're sorry to see you go. And I'm like, the reason I'm breaking up with you is that you're a psycho that can't take cues. That's why this relationship is ending. I never wanted it.
You come into my email box without consent. I try to end it. You're pathetic. You send me a multiple choice question as to why I want to end it. I fill it out. I pick one choice and that's not good enough. Then you go back and violate the original boundary that I drew when I clicked unsubscribe. You violate that boundary even if I told you why I unsubscribed.
Then you said, we're so sorry to see you go. We fucking broke up, you psycho. We're broken up. I'm wanting to ghost you and you are not allowing me to do it. Nobody addresses this. And it is every day I'm battling this, constantly battling this. I didn't sign up for any of this. I didn't even give these people my email address. And here they are all up in my crawl, all up in my email box.
Just terrorism left, right, center, up, down. Why don't you like us anymore? Why are you leaving us? Oh, we're so sad that you left us. You don't even fucking know me, L.L. Bean. We've never met. I've never even been in your store, for God's sakes. Quit stalking me. Stalking. Oh, I've just I've completely had it. Welcome to I've had it. Oh, I'm Jennifer. I'm Angie. Meet my meat curtains.
Kathy's here, which I think now I'd like to start calling her Katarina.
I like it.
Yeah.
Okay, I've got a five-star review for you titled Best ESL Material Ever, which stands for English as a Second Language. As an Asian immigrant living civilly in the States for over a decade, I started constantly using phrases like skirting, racket, yak mouth, and dog shit in conversations after binge-watching all of your amazing episodes. Does this make me sound smarter? No.
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Chapter 2: Why do parents take toddlers to adult restaurants?
Well, he did like you. But then he didn't. And so you saw that as a challenge. So you were leading with your ego. She's an egomaniac.
I'm an egomaniac. I can believe that. I knew it. I knew you were an egomaniac.
Yeah. Now I know. So it's just, you're leading with your ego and you're leading with this. It's like a game. It's a game that you play with yourself, a game that you played with men where it's like, okay, let's see if I can actually like, like, okay, you're going to, you're going to not like me. Let me show you how much you can actually like me.
So you see it all as a game and all as a challenge, but really what you're dancing around or skirting around is emotional intimacy. And that's at the root of it is fear of emotional intimacy.
Oh my gosh, ding, ding, ding, we have a winner. I have the worst intimacy complexes you could ever imagine. It's horrible.
But when you say that, when you say that, you just embedded deep, like you like that. You like identifying with that. I guess I did. Because it actually makes you- I've had a lot of therapy too.
I've had to- What? It started out as emotional entanglement issues. And now I can say- Sure, in childhood. Intimacy issues.
Sure. And I'm sure there's attachment stuff from childhood. But what I'm more interested in is the fact that you are like, oh, I am the most like you almost have some pride over it. Oh, OK. It's the ego. It's the ego. There you go. It's part of the ego.
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