How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Thu, 27 Mar 2025
Odds are, you struggle to read women and you miss subtle signals. This can cost you real romantic connections and leave you second-guessing yourself. In this episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett talks with insightful dating expert Talia Koren, host of the “Dating Intentionally” podcast. Talia reveals how to recognize when a woman is into you, how to avoid “nice guy” mistakes that kill attraction, and why first-date follow-up is more important than the date itself.You’re About to Learn:03:15: The Best First Date Talia Ever Had—and What the Guy Did Right!07:15: How to Avoid a Huge First-Date Mistake10:15: The Easy Way to Escape “Interview Mode”12:30: How to Show Interest in a Classy, Non-Creepy Way16:09: Why Following Up After a Date is So Important to Women34:40: How to Instantly Feel Confident41:43: How to “Read the Room” and Decode Her Signals42:57: The Green Lights Women Give You to Approach50:59: Exactly How Many Texts to Send Her on Hinge Before Asking Her OutFOLLOW TALIA ON INSTAGRAM:@Dating.IntentionallyLISTEN TO TALIA’S PODCAST, “DATING INTENTIONALLY, ON APPLE, SPOTIFY, OR WHEREVER YOU GET YOUR PODCASTSBOOK A FREE, 1-1 DATING CONSULTATION WITH CONNELL TO SEE IF COACHING CAN HELP YOU ATTRACT YOUR DREAM GIRLFRIEND:http://www.DatingTransformation.com
Chapter 1: What makes post-first-date follow-up crucial?
How you show up after a first date is really, really important, way more than how you show up on the first date.
All right, welcome back to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast. I'm your host, dating coach, Connell Barrett. I'm the real life Hitch, if Hitch was a skinny, nerdy ginger who has never slapped Chris Rock. I like to help guys date with confidence, make real connections with women, and do it by being authentic. No sketchy pickup artist moves needed.
And today, I'm always excited to talk to a fellow dating expert. And I love talking to women who either have dated, are dating, or in the case of my guest today, have gone through the gauntlet of dating and have found somebody wonderful because women know so much about what women want. I'm thrilled to welcome Talia Koren to the podcast.
She hosts the Dating Intentionally podcast, which is a really great podcast. Go check it out on Spotify or wherever you get your pods. And Talia shares very insightful, no-nonsense advice to help people like you navigate the complexities of the dating world. to not overthink, to have some fun, have some success, and look at dating as an experiment, which I want to talk with her about.
She also has some great yarns to share about going on 64 first dates in under a year. So we're going to get into that. Talia, welcome to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast.
I'm so excited to be here, and thank you for that lovely introduction. I'm excited to get into it.
Yeah. We were just talking before I hit record and you said, oh, I just want to help people not think so much and underthink and have more fun. So I'm going to try to take that advice on this podcast. I'm going to get rid of all my 84 questions I planned for you. I'm going to read them all. Actually, no joke. I used to go on first dates back in the day when I was really bad at this. And I had...
pieces of eight and a half by 11 paper with all these like lines and stories and things to say, I would go into the men's room in the middle of a break from the date and look at stuff.
Oh my gosh. It's reminding me of my grandpa who like literally had flashcards with jokes in his wallet.
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Chapter 2: Who is Talia Koren and what dating advice does she offer?
What if?
Right. What if she likes me?
Yeah.
What if I make her laugh? What if it goes great?
Exactly. What if you get married?
Right. Or what if it's a disaster, but you have a hilarious story?
Yeah.
Which I'm sure you have some. Any good disaster stories or just, boy, that guy was weird stories from your 64th?
For sure. So my worst first date, in contrast, see, okay, the best one I described was, like, short and sweet. I love a short first date, and that's usually what I recommend to people for the first date. Keep it, like, more like a vibe check. It shouldn't be longer than, like, an hour. I mean, you can always extend it, but go into it being, like, this will be an hour. Yeah.
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Chapter 3: How can you tell if a first date went well?
Okay. No, this is great. I think a lot of men get caught up in the surface level things about, well, what do I say? How do I keep the conversation going? How do I not be boring? And those are all understandable things to make sure you have handled.
But the bigger, what I call the big life stuff, the big things that we need to be on the same page about that are basically like deal breakers in terms of things that meet your needs, or it could be things like children or no children. Yeah. Same religion or not. I mean, everybody's got their own blueprint.
So I tell them, hey, look, you can't really, really, you can't, you can control to an extent how well you flirt. You can improve your conversation skills. But in terms of like who you are, what you bring to the table, it is what it is. And there's ways to amplify it, but you can't change that inherently or else you'd be a fraud.
Exactly.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And it's just sort of like, well, this is who I am. This is my ambition, hopefully, or lack thereof, which would be bad.
Look, I have more ambition than him, but that's okay. I think when you are looking for a partner, it's all on a spectrum. It's like no one is going to be 100% what you're looking for in any category. So yeah, I knew that going in.
Nice. A couple more questions about the 64. Did you set out to do that, or was that just the number it became?
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