Talia Koren
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How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
How you show up after a first date is really, really important, way more than how you show up on the first date.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
No, Connell. That makes you stand out in a dating culture that's full of flakiness.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
No, you've got to be thirsty. I say this to women, too. I say this to women, too. This is my whole thing. If you're interested, show interest. You need to get over it. You need to get over that. And I'm over here. Guys, I'm in your corner. I'm over here telling women to do the same thing. This isn't like only men need to do this. Everyone needs to do this. Everyone does.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
It's awesome. It's so attractive when you do that. It's really a huge turn on. I also want you guys to know... If she likes you back, it's not going to affect anything. And if she doesn't like you back, it's also not going to affect anything. So if she walks away from the date being like, I hope you ask me out again, she's not going to be turned off by this.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
And if she walks away being like, I don't think that was the right guy for me, it's not really going to change the outcome of her feelings anyway. So you might as well show interest when you're interested.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
I agree. I think the most important thing though, I, I, in addition to what you're saying, is get that next date on the calendar. No one wants a pen pal. I think men and women both do this where we're texting a lot and no one's making the move to be like, so when's our next date? And I do think women want the guy to do that, which I find very annoying.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
But I don't like the general aspect of dating, but I will accept that most women out there who are dating men do want the guy to extend the follow-up invitation for date two if there's interest.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
So we had four virtual dates, basically, because he was a month out of his move. And I would not have pursued anything with him if he didn't already have a job and an apartment in my location. It wasn't like he was exploring. He literally was moving. A lot of people do this. You're about to move, you get on the apps in the city you're moving to to check it out. I did that. It's normal.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
And good on him for actually... making time with me even though it was virtual. So he moved. I planned our first date because he was new to the city. I had already been there for three years, for two years. And we met up at a brewery near my place. And if you're listening in Seattle, it's a Fremont brewery, which is amazing. Great date spot. And we had a beer. Then we took a walk.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
There's a park nearby. And then we got boba after. I wanted to extend the date because I was having a good time talking to him. He made me feel comfortable and safe. He didn't go for a kiss, even though I knew. I think there was a moment where I'm like, oh, he's going to try and kiss me. And I'm so glad he didn't because I wasn't comfortable yet. It takes me a while to warm up, always.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Oh my gosh. It's reminding me of my grandpa who like literally had flashcards with jokes in his wallet.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
So I'm really glad he kind of read the room. He's just really good at reading the room.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Yeah.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Yes. Yeah. But the, I think he was, he, he understood that I was extending the date and that was me showing interest. Right. Like I was like, Oh, let's like, I was like, okay, let's want to go do this. Like want to go for a walk. I'll show you this park. And I think it's like, you don't always need the kiss to show you're interested.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
You know, like there are other ways to be like, I am enjoying this or I'm enjoying your company.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Yeah. So he followed up for a date too. He took me to a tapas place. Tapas is a great, I would say second or third date because you can really get a, you can get like have a menu plan. It's not always fun. Like when you like have a menu and you're like trying to figure out what to order and you can really learn about a lot about someone by how they're ordering. I think, I don't know what you think.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
No, they're all like the typical like jokes you would get. Just open up any joke book and it's like the most obvious, you know, thing you've heard a million times.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Like you can learn kind of like what they're, I don't know, I'm a big foodie. He's a big foodie. So it's like what your food priorities are, what your flavor profile preferences are. Like, are they really healthy? Are they kind of more indulgent? Like, and I also like, do they want to splurge? Do they get the most expensive thing or are they kind of hanging out more on the cheaper things?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Not that that matters to me, but like you can learn a lot. That's true, actually. Also, it's collaborative. At a tapas place, you're doing small plates. You're sharing everything. So it's collaborative.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
I would not enjoy a date with your girlfriend.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Because I'm like, get it away from me, throw it out, I don't care.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Yeah. Yeah. It's a great, it's a great topic to get into. Anyway, at the end of the date, he did go for the kiss and it was definitely surprisingly better than I thought it would be. Because I, again, I wasn't sure about him. I was very like skeptical and neutral and lukewarm on my husband the first three dates. By the end of the third date, I was crushing hard.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Nice. I mean, look, everyone has to start somewhere, right? If that's where you're starting, look at where you are now. I mean, it's okay.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Like it took three in-person dates for me. to feel the spark, to feel attracted to him. I did not think he was ugly. Okay, people think like, oh, you're going on dates with people you're not attracted to. No. Attraction for women just takes a little bit longer sometimes. It's different for women. And I think men really need to understand this.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Yeah.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Um, no, he was, I would say he was actually in the yes relationship material, but it was more like, do I like him? And I had, so my dating journey was focused on my needs. I had a list of five needs that I, that were non-negotiable for me to partner. And so my agenda in the first three dates, again, I wasn't discussing this with the men I was seeing. This is my personal internal decision making.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
My agenda was, can I figure out if they can meet my needs? Obviously, figuring that out on three dates is unrealistic, but I wanted to do the best I could. By the end of the second date, he's really funny, so he uses humor to deflect a lot. Cracking into his personality was kind of a challenge for me.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
I think he wasn't opening up a lot. And I think in my head, I was like, okay, if I don't learn what I need to learn about him by the end of this third date, I'm going to move on. But that didn't happen. I asked him very direct questions about what I needed to learn about him. And it ended up being a fantastic date. We got sushi and we went to a comedy show.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
And by the end, it ended with a makeout in his car when he dropped me off at home. And then the next morning, he sent me a Spotify playlist. And I was like, I'm done.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
That's great.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Yes. So my most important one I was looking for was someone who has a desire and the means for novelty. And that could mean travel and bigger trips, but it also could mean trying new restaurants because... In my past relationship experience, I've been with guys who were more homebodies, which is fine, but they didn't want to go try new restaurants.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
I was in a relationship for six years, and my ex just wanted to literally go to restaurants, pick it up, and eat it at home. And that's just not me. So I was really looking for guys who wanted to do fun things locally and also, of course, travel. And had the money to do that too, obviously. That was important. So that was a huge one. And one other big one for me was empathy.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
So I think that's one on every woman's list. Should be on every human's list. Just a guy who could understand or at least acknowledge feelings.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
As a concept.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Yeah. So the one I remember on the third date was specifically I wanted a guy, I really need someone who's ambitious, right? And I think that's another one that a lot of women have. And I just didn't hear him talk about his career that much. And so I made sure on the third date to ask direct questions about his career growth and all that.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
And just like, what do you want it to do with his life outside of his career? And that gave me a lot of clarity.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Ambition could even be like, I want to build I want to learn how to build a couch. I don't know. It could be something that isn't even like for monetary gain, like. It could just be like, I want to learn this. I want to learn language. I want to master this instrument. That to me is ambition as well. It's not just like I want to advance in my career.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Yeah.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
And by the way, I earn more than every guy I dated. Okay. At the time, I owned a different business. I had a completely different thing. And as a business owner, that was just the reality. I didn't really care about salary. I think I cared more about competence in financial. It's way more important than salary.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Yeah.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Look, I can't say it was my husband, but I think that's kind of the point. And look, on my podcast, I usually talk to women. And I think the advice does differ here where it's like sometimes you don't immediately feel the spark or it's just kind of an first date. But that doesn't mean that it's not going to go somewhere.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Look, I have more ambition than him, but that's okay. I think when you are looking for a partner, it's all on a spectrum. It's like no one is going to be 100% what you're looking for in any category. So yeah, I knew that going in.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
No, that was the number I became. I was ready to be single for a long time. So I got out of the six-year relationship. I broke up with him. The day he started talking about rings, I was like, I cannot marry this guy. I know this is wrong for me on many levels. And I wanted to try a different dating approach. That was my goal.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
I was like, I learned a lot in therapy and I have a completely different new view on who I need in my life. So I set out to practice my dating skills and just keep going until I found what I was looking for and then stop. I was ready to go on 100 more first dates. I was ready to be single for a decade. Really?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Yes, I made a plan for my life as if I'd never met anyone. That was what I had to do and that security helped me have the confidence to just keep going until I met someone I liked enough to focus on them.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Did you struggle with that? I didn't because I lowered the stakes. Again, having that mentality of like, I might never meet someone. I might be single for the rest of my life. What would the best version of that life look like? Then going into every date being like, I don't need this to work out because I already have this amazing plan for myself.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
But in terms of if we're just looking at first dates, my favorite first date was with someone I only had that one date with. But he basically planned everything.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
And so when you take that, I need this to work out. I need a partner. I'm so alone. I'm so lonely. Blah, blah, blah. News flash, you can be lonely in a relationship too. Relationships don't solve everything. So I think that was where I just kind of cared less. And that helped me not overthink things and just have fun. Yeah.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
And I don't know how it is for guys, but for women there is that layer, like I said earlier, of the biological clock. I want kids. We are planning to have kids. But I also was ready to not. I was ready to have a version of my life where I didn't meet anyone and didn't become a mom. And cool. You can't control everything.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
No, I think that for men... I feel like in your early 40s is like the prime time because you have the widest range of ages you could date at that point.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
to pick up a bunch of pastries at a cafe he loved and we had a little picnic where we tried all of the pastries and it was just so easy and cute and like it was a nice day he it was his idea and we just got to like talk about the pastries and try different ones and it was very relaxed i loved it that's great you can't go wrong with pastries It was a great idea.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Listen to me. You are a listener to this amazing podcast, How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell. That means you are already...
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
scores above the average guy out there in the dating world if you're in your 40s and you're listening to content like this and you're following what connell says you are in amazing shape like there are so many women i talk to every day in the late 30s early 40s range who are like where all the men so you have every opportunity to stand out in this age range
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
I think also, again, if you're listening and you just did this whole series about approaching in real life, every day I get a message where it's like, where are the men? So if you're listening to this, please follow Connell's advice and go out and practice it because women want you to do this.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Yeah.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Listen, even as a married person, even when I was in a relationship, men still approach me. And I always am extremely, like I'm trying to be nice, kind, approachable because I want to encourage more of it, even though I'm taken. Like I'm not going to shut people down.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
I'm still making eye contact, being approachable because I think if a guy comes up to me and has a pleasant interaction, even though I am in a relationship, hopefully they'll continue to do that until they meet someone. Right.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Thank you.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
I think you should steal it if you're listening and you can eat gluten and you like pastries.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Thank you.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
And he wanted to introduce me to his favorite one. What I loved about dating in Seattle was I'm not from there, I'm from New York. And so dating helped me explore the city more. That was really why I wanted to date. It was part of my social hygiene. It was part of my, like, just how do I get to know the city better? So a lot of guys introduced me to great places that I fell in love with.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Even if it didn't go anywhere, I learned some new great recommendations.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Thank you.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Thank you.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
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How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
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You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
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You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
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You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
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How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Doesn't it make you appreciate it more? Yes.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Yes, it's both. I think both need to step up and step into that space. It's not like an either or. It is both.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Really, the biggest giveaway is anything if they... You can give a physical compliment, but if it's anything sexual or anything about my body unclothed, that's just an immediate no. It's an immediate, okay, you're looking for a hookup, which, hey, no shame in that. I'm just not looking for that, so bye.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
I agree, yes. Yeah, yeah, totally. And I did have hookups off the apps. That is totally fine. No shame in that. No, so I think also making it weird. One time a guy sent me a Spotify playlist in Hinge that, again, I was like, I really don't understand. Is this a joke? It was just a weird playlist. It could have worked if it was like, here are some of my favorite songs right now.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Cool, we could talk about that. But that was weird. We just want normal. We just want a normal, let's just talk about... And I always tell women... You're making small talk. Just see. Just have a couple back and forth messages. It doesn't need to be more than like five to ten messages back and forth before you move to a date.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
I think that's a big frustration I hear from women. They're not asking me out. I can't control what they're doing. I'm talking to the woman in the scenario. I'm like, okay, say that you want to meet. That's all you can do in that moment. Or you just wait forever and be frustrated. Yeah.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Paris, so romantic. That sounds amazing.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Trust that it will get there. I think some guys are like, well, she's not into sex. Just trust that it'll get there. You need to make her feel safe and comfortable first. You need to be trust first. That's the first step is just show that you're a safe, trustworthy person because there are so many creeps out there, people with bad intentions.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Every woman you've talked to, every single one I can guarantee has had a bad experience with a guy. So they're on guard and that's unfortunate. So that's what you need to remember when you're talking to any woman.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Yeah.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
There's nothing wrong with just sticking to the basics of what's on their profile, what's in your profile, what's in her photos. Does she have a cool photo where she's standing on a cliff on a hike or with a horse? I don't know. Just ask about the pictures. Stay away from, what are you doing this weekend? How's your week? Those are boring. You don't want those either.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
No one wants to talk about that. Right. Focus on just the thing. Find a couple things you can connect on. Like, okay, cool, we have two things in common. That's enough. Let's go to the date.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Oh, nice.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Yeah, I have. Yeah, some people, and I always tell women, it's not an immediate red flag if they ask for the date in the first message. You can just say, let's chat a little bit more here, or let's have a phone call, and then... we'll see about the date. Like that's fine. Yeah.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
I don't, but I can share a dumb line that worked on me for a hookup. Even better. Go on. I don't know if this will work on other women, but it worked on me. So I was talking to this guy from Tinder, and he was very attractive. And he was like, I think we made out in a bar one time in the Lower East Side. And he already learned that I was from New York.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
And I'm like, that could have happened in my head. Like that definitely could have happened. I used to go out in Lower East Side.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Who did it? And I was like, I don't know. And that totally worked on me.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
No, it was like a little bit more in the conversation.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
But I was like, did we? it was definitely a line, but like, yeah, it was, you know, it was, I was definitely in, I think some women are going to be in the mood to have that kind of conversation and some won't be, and that's okay. He probably, you know, whatever.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
I really think it's about the profile. Show us you've read it and show us you have read the things we wrote, not just the pictures, but the Be like, oh, you mentioned you love horror movies. Have you seen, did you see the new Nosferatu? Like, I don't know. um, whatever. So that, that's the, I think the winner don't say, Hey cutie, don't say, Hey beautiful.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Um, I think you can use the name like, Hey Charlotte, whatever. Um, everybody loves their name. The names is fine, but like, don't come in with a, Hey beautiful. It's like, and also the more specific you make it, like women are getting, women are getting copy pasted message first messages. So just if you, it needs to be specific. So make sure you read it back to make it
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Oh my gosh. I'm not a resolution girl. I'm a mantra person. So I, every year, have a little mantra to keep in mind. And this year's mantra is very simple. It's, what if I can? Question mark. Okay. What if I can do that? What if I can do the thing I am wanting to do? And that's been a very powerful... Even at the gym, I'm adding on weights to my squat. I'm like, what if I can?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Be like, okay, is this specific to her profile or could I have sent this to anyone? If you could have sent it to anyone, that's a no-go.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
And yeah, like you were saying earlier, you can't tailor your profile to what someone else wants. I think you've got to tailor your profile for the person you're trying to attract. Also, my view on profiles is that they're a conversation starter. They're not supposed to encapsulate your entire personality. You can't.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
So pick three things that you enjoy talking about that you care about, and hopefully you'll attract people who care about those things to you or have opinions on them.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
I'm ready.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Oh, my gosh.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Stanley Tucci.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
He's got it all. He's attractive and he's a foodie. I mean, he's traveled. He's classy. I think he also has like a bunch of content about going down on women. Really?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Yeah, I think so. Or there's some kind of meme about that. So that's what, that's what came to mind that, you know, so he'd be a good lover probably. So that's, that's the first person that came to mind.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
I'm going to pass. I really can't think of anyone that I would really want. I'm not a rock star person. I wouldn't want to date a rock star. Those are the people that come to mind who are dead and attractive. I'm not a party girl. I'm more like Austin.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Yes, I'm into it.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Right.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
I mean, the Great British Baking Show is such a fun, easy background watch. I'm into it.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Also, pause here. My computer is very low on battery, so we should wrap it up soon.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Because I couldn't plug it in with this, and I don't want to kill it.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
What if I can just do this extra 5, 10 pounds? I love that. And it really gets me through. Yeah. Yeah.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Yes, you are welcome to slide into my DMs anytime at dating.intentionally on Instagram.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
I can talk to you on my podcast soon.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
I want to grill you.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Be ready.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Yeah. So that's my resolution this year. I...
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
to go into things being like, what if it fails? But then you have to get into the practice of like, let's flip it. Let's just for every what if it fails, do the counter. What if it works though?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
What if?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Yeah.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Exactly. What if you get married?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
For sure. So my worst first date, in contrast, see, okay, the best one I described was, like, short and sweet. I love a short first date, and that's usually what I recommend to people for the first date. Keep it, like, more like a vibe check. It shouldn't be longer than, like, an hour. I mean, you can always extend it, but go into it being, like, this will be an hour. Yeah.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
The worst first date I went on was a dinner first date. And this was someone I had a phone call with before. Like we had a screening call. So we chatted for like 45 minutes before we had our first date. And then he took me to a restaurant. He wanted to get drinks, appetizers, dinner, dessert, the whole thing. I broke my own rule and said yes to this. And he didn't ask me one question.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
No, he asked me one question when we had drinks and didn't ask me another question. Not only did he not ask me another question, every time I asked him a question, he would start taking a bite of food. And I had to... It was so awkward. I had to start trying to time my questions around his eating, but it's still like he would, I'd be like, so like, do you have any siblings? Whatever.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
And then he'd like eat and I was just like hanging in the air. It was so awkward. It was the most exhausting.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
And then at the end of the date, we were sharing dessert. I was so ready to go. I'm like, God damn, he wants dessert. We're sharing these churros. And there was a little left. We had a whole dinner and drinks. I was full. And he's like, are you going to finish that? I'm like, no, no, I'm good. And he started doing that food pushing thing on me. And I hate that. Oh, don't waste it. I'm like...
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
I'm good. I'm not hungry anymore. Why don't you eat it?" And it was the worst. And he had the audacity to ask me out again. And I was like, how are we on the same date?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
He was barely talking. He would answer the question very succinctly and not even be like, what about you? So I would just pick it up as if he did ask me that and just start sharing my answer. I'm a pretty good conversationalist. I can pretty much talk to anyone and I can feel comfortable pretty much talking to anyone. But sometimes it is a struggle and... It wasn't fun.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
I think my whole thing with dating is I want it to be fun, even if it doesn't go anywhere. I think with women, we put a lot of pressure on ourselves. We have our biological clock. There's a lot of pressure to make sure it goes somewhere. But I figured out that if I just focus on being in the moment, having fun, I don't have to worry about that as much and I can still just enjoy my time.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Yeah. I mean, even now with my husband, it is, I think, really talking about things I like talking about and also finding the common threads that we both like talking about is the fun part. Also just being in the environment, being in the moment, noticing what's going on around you, talking about that. I think...
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
And dating is not fun when you go into that interview mode, when you're trying to figure out, okay, what's not going to work about this? Where's the thing? Where's the red flag? Where's the deal breaker? It's the search for what's wrong with us? When it could just be, what are we going to bond over? What's a weird thing that most people wouldn't know about you? That's what makes it fun for me.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Yeah. And even with my husband now, like I'm going to on our dates and we still date, you know, we're married. We still date. I'm going to bring up things like Star Trek and things like things that he's interested in because I want to make sure he's having a good time too. And I don't like, you know, I want to make sure we're connecting on things.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
You don't have to just have these deep conversations about our relationship all the time, which is a trap. I think a lot of couples fall into talking about the relationship. And the future.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Yeah.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
That's one of the, I think, most underrated way to show interest in someone is by showing interest in their interests. And I think that's a really great way for anyone listening to show interest in someone without going over the top. It's such a warm, fuzzy feeling.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
I bet you felt amazing when she was bringing these things to you about Paul McCartney and the Beatles because you're like, wow, she listens to me and she's engaging with me. This is a bid for affection right now.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Yes, I think having the awareness is really important. It's a tricky balance, right? Having the awareness of both being present in the date, what you're talking about, and also realizing, oh, we've been talking about Bitcoin for 30 minutes or whatever.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Then it's probably time to switch it up, ask a question about them or bring up something you are really excited to talk about that's something different. Yeah, I agree. I mean... When I had my first date with my husband, we talked a lot about his work and my work. I published a book. He has a PhD. We were kind of comparing notes on the things we've done.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
But that's all I remember about our first date. You know what I mean? When we had our first date, I literally thought I would never hear from him again.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
I don't know. I think... It was a virtual first date. So it was like how we're talking right now. It was literally on a computer like this. And he was moving to Seattle from the Bay Area. And I just had this image in my head of him just lining up a bunch of virtual first dates, just kind of to dip his toe in the water to see what's going on in the dating pool out here.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
And I'm like, I'm never going to hear it. I just had that feeling. But he was very persistent.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
And yeah, I love talking about this. I think it's a great example for guys because he was – we texted after. I think how you show up after a first date is really, really important, way more than how you show up on the first date. So we were texting after. He didn't text me every day, but he did like – He did text me every few days and I was like, oh, I guess he's still interested.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
I was just kind of surprised and I was rolling with it. I wasn't sure. I was like, I don't know if I like this person yet, but he's persistent. I didn't see any red flags. So let's keep going. And then he kept asking me on these phone call dates until he eventually moved. It was like a month of that. And I just really appreciated his confident persistence.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
I'm so excited to be here, and thank you for that lovely introduction. I'm excited to get into it.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
He didn't try to move things forward too quickly. He didn't bring up sex, which was a huge green flag. Huge. And he just kept asking to spend time with me, which was awesome.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
Yep. Keep going.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
So here's the thing. I think anyone can do the first date song and dance. You know what I'm talking about. It's like you show up and you're charming and you can ask questions and you have your story about yourself and all those things. You can be like, oh, this was so fun. I can't wait to see you again or whatever. Okay, then women want to see follow through on that.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
You’re Missing Her Signals! Dating Expert Talia Koren on How to Tell When a Woman Likes You
So if you're ending a date and you say, this is great, let's do it again, you need to follow through on that and you need to send a text within... Ideally, within like an hour after the date, up to 24 hours is fine. It says like, hey, that was great. Let's do it again. That's it. That's the text.