How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
The New Way to Confidently Approach and Connect with Women (Part 4 of 5)
21 Nov 2024
Odds are, you see women you’d love to meet at bars, grocery stores or the gym, but you never approach them. Fear holds you back. You don’t know what to say, and you don’t want to seem creepy. It’s frustrating… but fixable! In this episode, host Connell Barrett—who has approached thousands of women in his 12 years as a dating coach—shares a new way to confidently meet women IRL. His Authentic Approach Technique will teach you exactly what to say to women, so you can get numbers and dates and find an incredible girlfriend. And you’ll talk to women with charm and authenticity, NOT with sketchy pickup tricks.In this episode, dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett will discuss:(2:35) The 3 Simple Ways to Approach Women Almost Anywhere(6:30) Why Women Hate Scripted “PUA” Tactics(7:15) Why Connell’s Authentic Approach Technique is Basically Rejection-Proof(8:05) The Night Connell Got 3 Numbers from 3 Wonderful Women(11:50) The Approaching Mistake that Gets You In Your Head(12:50) How to Meet Women Using a Power Compliment(16:42) The Mindset Shift that Destroys Approach Anxiety(19:42) How to Meet Women by Asking the Perfect Question(22:30) A Great Approach Opener to Use at the Gym(27:53) How to Meet Women with A Funny, Flirty Icebreaker(36:30) How to Be Authentically Attractive, NOT Creepy(41:15) How Connell’s Client Taylor Approached and Made Out with a Woman in Under 10 Minutes(43:49) Your Approach Mission for this EpisodeAre you ready to confidently meet women and get numbers and dates? Listen now!Quotes"Be the charming, authentic man who confidently sparks conversations anywhere. Your natural charm will have her telling her friends." - Connell Barnett"Use a genuine compliment, relevant question, or unique observation to initiate conversations." - Connell BarnettFOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO CONFIDENTLY FLIRT WITH WOMEN BY BEING AUTHENTIC (NO SKETCHY PICKUP MOVES NEEDED):http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” 30 CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
Full Episode
I'm pretty sure I started puberty watching Jennifer Beals dance in Flashdance. Welcome back to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast. I'm your host, dating coach and author, Conal Barrett. I'm here to help you confidently flirt with women and attract your dream girlfriend all by being authentic. No toxic pickup tricks needed.
Thank you for being here with me and for letting me be your dating coach for the next 30 minutes or so. And I'm wondering, do you sometimes struggle to approach a girl you might see out in the world? You'd love to talk to her, but you're just not sure what to say. Maybe you're like me back in the day where you see a woman who just catches your eye at the gym or maybe at a bar or coffee shops.
Back in the day for me, grocery stores. But you never or rarely ever approach because you just don't know what to say. You're not sure what to say to have it go well. And you're also afraid you might come off as awkward or maybe even creep her out. And I have been there. Let me tell you, I used to have the worst approach anxiety in the world.
There's a story that opens my book, Dating Sucks But You Don't, about the very first night I ever went out to approach women. This was back in 2009. And I was so nervous, I actually had to go into the men's room stall at this club before talking to any women because I had a panic attack. I started hyperventilating. I was so afraid of rejection.
I was so afraid of not knowing what to say and how that was going to get me rejected. And I was just full of fear. So I know how you feel. And... The good news is, though, that if I can get great at approaching and flirting with women, then so can you. And you don't need to be a dating coach with 12 years of coaching experience either to do it. You can just do it very, very soon.
Like tomorrow, tonight, this weekend. In this episode, I want to help you do that. I want to give you a really elegant, simple way to confidently talk to women anywhere. And I'm going to give you three simple approaching options. I'm not going to tell you exactly what to say, but I'm going to give you three options. It's like choose your own adventure.
When you see a woman, you're going to have three simple options. You can choose the approach to approaching that you think is best for that moment. And this is going to make it easy for you to have conversations with women. And it's going to make it actually hard to get rejected. It's going to be difficult to get rejected. So you're always going to be able to know what to say.
You'll be able to approach with growing confidence and not having to use these scripted, planned, pickup artist type lines. I'm actually going to give you a really elegant sort of three-option framework that's going to teach you how to break the ice in a charming and spontaneous and, of course, authentic way. Because women don't want a pick-up guy. They don't want good game.
They don't want some robot who's reciting something they found on the internet. They want a spontaneous, real, genuine, present moment with a great guy like you where sparks can just fly naturally. So let's do it. I call this authentic approaching. When you see a woman you want to meet, authentic approaching, as I'm about to share with you, this lets you choose from three ice-breaking options.
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