How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Stuck in Your Head at the Bars? How to Confidently Approach and Talk to Women—Even if You’re Shy (Live Coaching with Eric!)
11 Dec 2024
Are you shy? Do you want to approach attractive women at bars, but you freeze up, unsure of what to say? So you stand there and do nothing, while outgoing guys chat up the women you wish you could meet. You’re not alone. For shy guys, starting a conversation can feel impossible. In this live-coaching episode of “How to Get a Girlfriend,” dating coach Connell Barrett helps his introverted client Eric get out of his head and confidently talk to women in bars. Discover proven techniques to start conversations, dodge awkward silences, and become the guy others watch approaching—and charming—wonderful women.Here are some highlights from Eric’s coaching session with Connell:6:45—How to Talk with Women Authentically—Not Like Some Weird Pickup Artist10:50—Connell’s Go-To Icebreaker for Approaching ANY Woman11:30—The “Karaoke Opener,” Which Gives Shy Guys Instant Charismas19:10—The Wrong Way to Approach Women (Never, Ever Say This!)29:00—How to Be Bold, Not Timid, in Your Approaches31:23—The One Word That Instantly Sparks Attraction39:30—What Women REALLY Find Creepy (It’s Not What You Think!)46:20—3 Playful Ways to Start Conversations that Lead to Numbers52:01—The Word Every Woman Wants to Hear when You First Meet Her1:03:08—Learn the “Push-Pull,” the Flirting Move to Keep You Out of the Friend Zone1:09:02—How to Text Her and Get Dates (and Not Get Ghosted)1:12:17—The 2 Kinds of Photos You Need on Your Dating Profile to Get Good Matches1:20:00—Why Women LOVE “Interview Mode”… When You Do it Connell’s WayAre you ready to get out of your head in bars and get into some flirty conversations? Hit play and take one step closer to finding your dream girlfriend.FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE GREAT FIRST DATES:http://www.datingtransformation.com/contactTO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30WANT A FREE COPY OF CONNELL’S NO. 1 AMAZON BESTSELLING BOOK, “DATING SUCKS BUT YOU DON’T”? EMAIL CONNELL AND WRITE “FREE BOOK” IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND YOU’LL GET IT INSTANTLY:[email protected]
Full Episode
If a woman's at a bar, at a club, she is not out to just hand her phone number out to anybody. You have to earn it. Welcome back to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast. I'm your host, dating coach, Conal Barrett. I'm here to help you learn to flirt, get a great girlfriend, and do it all with authenticity. No sketchy, weird pickup artist moves needed. And I love doing these coaching episodes.
Today is an episode for you if you ever get tongue-tied when wanting to approach a woman, especially in a bar or club. You're just not sure what to say. You get in your head. Or maybe you do occasionally talk to women, but you just can't keep the conversation going. And that's really frustrating. And that's what my client, Eric, came to me battling. So you're going to meet Eric today.
This is our very first coaching session that we are doing. He came to me with a very specific challenge, getting in his head, struggling with approaching, and struggling just to keep the conversation going. So we're mainly going to be talking about that. And Eric is a really common case. He's a biologist, or rather he's studying biology. He's in his mid-20s. He's a grad student in biology.
And a lot of men, maybe you, have logical analytical jobs, like grad school, engineering, software developing, finance. And in this case, biology, science. So if you struggle with science, if you struggle with flirting with women and what to say, a lot of it is because you can be overly logical and not create that fun, playful vibe that women like. So listen to today's episode.
I have so many great tips that I shared with Eric. I think a couple little moments you want to go to. At the 17 minute mark, roughly 17 minute mark, I talk about the wrong way to approach women. And then, oh, this is great. There's a really good story at the 39 minute mark where I talk about the truth about what women really find creepy with men who approach them.
Basically, it's not what you think. The thing that you think is creepy is actually not creepy at all. And something that you might not know is creepy is super creepy. So that's at about 39 minutes in. So enjoy this coaching session with Eric. Here we go. Eric, what's up, man? How's your day? Good to hear from you. I'm well. Let's get to some coaching. What is top of mind for you today?
How can I help you, bro?
um i guess just talking to potential dates and then in a um in a in a live setting you know like in um at a bar or something is something that i i tend to struggle with i guess if you can help me out with that um you know whoever's listening yeah also on top of that
Tell me a little bit about specifically what you're struggling with. And if you have a story, an anecdote from the recent past about a time you wanted to talk and didn't or couldn't keep the conversation going, feel free to elaborate.
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