How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
Thu, 22 May 2025
Do you struggle to read women? The fear of making the wrong move—and seeming creepy—can kill your confidence. In this encore episode, dating coach Connell Barrett talks with renowned expert and bestselling author Kezia Noble, who’s helped over 100,000 men. They dive into how to read a woman’s signals, how to make the right moves (and avoid the wrong ones), and create real attraction through authenticity.Kezia and Connell discuss:7:35: How Kezia Learned to Get Great Results for Her Clients15:40: How to Dial Up Attraction Using her “Double-Sided Compliment”18:12: “The Shadow,” the Side of Men that Women Find Seductive21:45: What to Say on Dates to go from Boring to Charismatic23:05: How to Be Authentically Interesting to Women as the Raw, Real You29:05: The Right Way to Talk About Your Career… and the Wrong Way30:45: The Truth about How Much Looks Really Matter to Women33:51: Why Women Hate the Apps and are “Absolutely Dying” for Men like You to Approach Them37:35: How to Get a Woman Who Rejected You to Change Her Mind and Chase YouListen now and start so you can finally understand what women want!TO LEARN ABOUT KEZIA’S 1-1 COACHING PROGRAMSwww.kezia-noble.com/VISIT KEZIA’S YOUTUBE CHANNELhttp://www.youtube.com/@KezianobledatingexpertGET KEZIA’S BESTSELLING BOOK, “THE NOBLE ART OF SEDUCING WOMEN”http://www.amazon.com/Noble-Art-Seducing-Women-Foolproof/dp/1843587629FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO DISCUSS COACHINGhttp://www.datingtransformation.com/contact
Chapter 1: How Can I Read Women's Signals?
Welcome back to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast. I am your host, dating coach Conal Barrett, helping you do just that, get a great girlfriend. Bye. Bye. Bye. Bye. Bye. email me a dating question, email me a dating problem you have, and I will respond to you. So I'm quite literally your dating coach. At least you can reach out to me and I can help you out and I'll respond to you.
And I might even ask your question on an episode. Today I'm doing a really cool interview with Kezia Noble. If you've ever wondered how the heck do you talk to women? How do I read women? How do I know when to make a move? When not to? Well, you know who knows women? Is women. And Kezia Noble really knows women. She's a dating expert. She's based in the UK. She is fantastic.
And she and I spoke for about a half hour with all kinds of great insight from Kezia. So this is a rebroadcast episode, an encore episode from six or seven months ago. But I wanted to rebroadcast it for a very specific reason. She shares a dating tip in this episode at the very end. So about 30 minutes in, she shares one of the best dating tips I've ever heard from another expert.
It's about what to do, what to say when you approach a woman and initially she quote rejects you and how to flip it and how to flip it into actually a successful approach. And I just love the tip, and I had to rebroadcast it. Also, Kezia is just fantastic. She's just a brilliant, brilliant mind in this world. So enjoy this rebroadcast episode with myself talking to Kezia.
Before we get to that, I have a quick story. I want to share with you... woman's point of view on approaching as I began to see it when I started meeting women out in the real world. So here's a quick story. I think you're going to love this. I'm at Barnes and Noble one day, and this is in the late 2000s. So I had just been approaching women for about six months or so off and on.
I was still pretty wobbly doing it, but I was trying my best. And walked up to a woman on the third floor of the Barnes & Noble in Union Square in the magazine rack section. And I walk over and I'm feeling pretty confident. I'm in the zone. I'm in that authentic, confident zone, which does happen once you get some momentum. And I approached a really pretty girl. She had these cool wrist tattoos.
She had tattoos on her ankles. She's kind of like How would you describe her? She was like an edgy kind of rock and roll chick, edginess, and just sort of a bad girl in a good way. Anyway, so I'm feeling confident. I walk up to her and I said, hey, what's up? I just saw you and I had to meet you. You're really cute. I like your tattoos. Something pretty genuine, but also direct like that.
I was being direct. And we chatted for two or three minutes, and it went very well. And her friend was with her, by the way. Her friend was with her. And we chatted, and then I went for the number. I went for the date. And she said, well, I really don't think so. I mean, I live pretty far away from here. I'm in central Connecticut. It's like 100 miles away from New York City.
And basically, she started to turn me down. She was doing it politely, but she turned me down. And I said, wait, you're going to break my heart here at Barnes & Noble? Well, I'm going to go down to a different floor. And maybe I'm going to buy a poetry book and write a poem called Why Stacey broke Connell's heart? I made some joke like that. And she giggled and laughed.
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Chapter 2: What is the Double-Sided Compliment?
Anyway, I just wanted to share that story. Okay, let's talk to Kezia Noble. Enjoy. All right, welcome back to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast. I'm your host, dating coach and author, Conal Barrett. I'm here to help you confidently flirt with women and attract your dream girlfriends all by being authentic. No toxic pickup tricks needed because women like you for you.
And let me ask you a question. Do women confuse you? Do women ghost you? You ever struggle with what to say, what to talk about? Well, today's very special guest is here to help you truly understand what women want and how to give them what they want in the dating game so that you can get a great girlfriend. Kezia Noble is the leading female dating and attraction expert for men.
Her videos have received over 72 million views on YouTube, and she wrote a best-selling book called The Noble Art of Seducing Women. Kezia has helped over 100,000 guys, just like you, overcome their sticking points, their limiting beliefs, to achieve some pretty fantastic success with women, which you're going to hear about. The kind of success that guys never thought was possible.
Chapter 3: What Makes Men Attractive to Women?
And you can learn a lot more about Kezia on her website at kezia-noble.com. And that's K-E-Z-I-A. Kezia, welcome to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast.
Hello. Hi. Thank you for that lovely introduction.
You're very welcome. It's a long intro because you've done a lot. You've achieved a lot. By the way, dear listener, hang out to the very end of the episode because Kezia is going to share a very powerful tip, a powerful insight about women that you're going to want to hear. So stand by. Okay, Kezia, here's the first question I want to ask you.
Chapter 4: How Can I Be Charismatic on Dates?
Before we get into some advice on helping men flirt and date, can you tell me a little bit about your journey to becoming a dating expert? Was there a moment or a time in your life when you had an aha moment and said, oh, I really need to help men? I'm going to become a coach and an expert and a guide. How did that happen?
Well, it didn't happen like that. I was essentially headhunted, which sounds bizarre, but it's true. That's the closest way I can explain it. This was back in 2006. I was minding my own business and I was in a bar and a guy approached me and he said that he worked for or he was part of a company that helped men
pick up women because this was 2006 so pick up was a thing right and we don't you I don't use that phrase anymore but it was then and I was like what is pickup what's a pickup artist and he explained it to me explained look we teach guys like how to pull women essentially how to attract women and I was a complete skeptic I was like you can't teach it either there's chemistry or there's nothing
So he said, well, I've actually come over to approach you because I'd like you to come along to one of our workshops and to give feedback. to the guys that are on our program on one of our boot camps, because we're looking for like attractive young women. I was an attractive young woman then. Okay.
And so we have to give back, we have to give our feedback to the guys and, um, cause we were talking a little bit and he found me very honest and direct and he said, look, that's really what we're looking for. So I went there and thought, okay, let's just give this a go. And there were two things that I noticed pretty quickly, which was the first was that there were indeed
practical tools, advice that you could give men that could really make a change. I saw that within the space of the time I was there. And the second thing that I noticed is that there were no women in this movement or industry or community, whatever you want to call it.
The other women that were there were giving very, excuse me, let me turn off my emails, were giving very wishy-washy advice, you know, like just be yourself, smile more, be more confident.
vague very vague because i think a lot of women are people pleasers essentially um whereas i've never been a people pleaser i've never felt the need to please other people i think that's probably a masculine trait in me um and so i was just very honest very direct and i left thinking okay um they're gonna come after me with pitchforks these guys but actually they all just were queuing up for
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Chapter 5: How to Discuss Your Career with Women?
personal one-on-one. It's like, what's that? I just came in to help today and get paid for a session. Um, but then the owner of the company, his name's Richard Larowina, or some people know him as Gambler back from the day. He said, no, we're really looking for this and we want you to like come next weekend and do the same thing.
So I was coming more regularly and then I was like listening to what was being taught and I didn't realize that I could really help men, but I realized that I loved human psychology, but not in the way that it's taught today. you know, if you go to university, I like the kind of, I'm not going to lie, I like the manipulation tactics.
I like reverse psychology, just learning new ideas of how to, can I swear on this or no? I won't if you don't want me to.
Hell yeah, you can.
Chapter 6: Why Do Women Dislike Dating Apps?
Like how to mind fuck people and stuff. I found it really interesting. I found really interesting is how unattractive women and men got such good looking guys and women. Like I wanted to know that and I'd seen it. I said, this is, it's not looks, it's game. Because that's when I realized I didn't give it a name before. I'd just be like sex appeal, psychology.
But then I sort of put it all into game. And that's what I got really fascinated about. And I've been really good at it, really good at spotting things, spotting what people were doing and breaking it down, like what the naturals were doing and passing it on. And because I was very honest and I have a very unfiltered kind of presentation of my life and my opinions and everything,
I just felt it worked perfectly. And it did because I started getting a name for myself. It's like this is the go-to woman. And then I set up a YouTube channel on the side, which I wasn't really allowed to do, but I wasn't under contract. So I did this YouTube channel and it really took off. And I realized, okay, there's millions of guys out there that want to hear an honest female insight.
They don't want the bullshit. They want to hear the woman just giving it raw. What do I do? How does it make women feel? And I did that, and then that got a lot of attraction. And then I was approached by a publishing company here in the U.K. They offered me a book deal. And then I left the company and set up my own company around 2011 when I got the book deal and the media attention from that.
Chapter 7: What Should I Do If a Woman Rejects Me?
Chapter 8: How Can I Approach Women Confidently?
Welcome back to the How to Get a Girlfriend podcast. I am your host, dating coach Conal Barrett, helping you do just that, get a great girlfriend. Bye. Bye. Bye. Bye. Bye. email me a dating question, email me a dating problem you have, and I will respond to you. So I'm quite literally your dating coach. At least you can reach out to me and I can help you out and I'll respond to you.
And I might even ask your question on an episode. Today I'm doing a really cool interview with Kezia Noble. If you've ever wondered how the heck do you talk to women? How do I read women? How do I know when to make a move? When not to? Well, you know who knows women? Is women. And Kezia Noble really knows women. She's a dating expert. She's based in the UK. She is fantastic.
And she and I spoke for about a half hour with all kinds of great insight from Kezia. So this is a rebroadcast episode, an encore episode from six or seven months ago. But I wanted to rebroadcast it for a very specific reason. She shares a dating tip in this episode at the very end. So about 30 minutes in, she shares one of the best dating tips I've ever heard from another expert.
It's about what to do, what to say when you approach a woman and initially she quote rejects you and how to flip it and how to flip it into actually a successful approach. And I just love the tip, and I had to rebroadcast it. Also, Kezia is just fantastic. She's just a brilliant, brilliant mind in this world. So enjoy this rebroadcast episode with myself talking to Kezia.
Before we get to that, I have a quick story. I want to share with you... woman's point of view on approaching as I began to see it when I started meeting women out in the real world. So here's a quick story. I think you're going to love this. I'm at Barnes and Noble one day, and this is in the late 2000s. So I had just been approaching women for about six months or so off and on.
I was still pretty wobbly doing it, but I was trying my best. And walked up to a woman on the third floor of the Barnes & Noble in Union Square in the magazine rack section. And I walk over and I'm feeling pretty confident. I'm in the zone. I'm in that authentic, confident zone, which does happen once you get some momentum. And I approached a really pretty girl. She had these cool wrist tattoos.
She had tattoos on her ankles. She's kind of like How would you describe her? She was like an edgy kind of rock and roll chick, edginess, and just sort of a bad girl in a good way. Anyway, so I'm feeling confident. I walk up to her and I said, hey, what's up? I just saw you and I had to meet you. You're really cute. I like your tattoos. Something pretty genuine, but also direct like that.
I was being direct. And we chatted for two or three minutes, and it went very well. And her friend was with her, by the way. Her friend was with her. And we chatted, and then I went for the number. I went for the date. And she said, well, I really don't think so. I mean, I live pretty far away from here. I'm in central Connecticut. It's like 100 miles away from New York City.
And basically, she started to turn me down. She was doing it politely, but she turned me down. And I said, wait, you're going to break my heart here at Barnes & Noble? Well, I'm going to go down to a different floor. And maybe I'm going to buy a poetry book and write a poem called Why Stacey broke Connell's heart? I made some joke like that. And she giggled and laughed.
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