Kezia Noble
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How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
Yes.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
So it's a form of validation, positive validation. A double-sided compliment is a mix, actually, of positive and negative, I should say. So if you say to a woman, I think you'd look better if you wore those kind of shoes, that's kind of like an insult almost. Right. So you've got to...
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
cushion the blow so you say look those shoes look really good on you but if you were wearing and then you put in the type of shoe or it could be dress or anything that you find sexy Then you say to her, if you were wearing these kind of shoes, you know, dot, dot, dot, I would be totally making a move on you or I wouldn't be able to control myself. So it's also a form of sexual escalation.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
You are flirting with her, but you're not saying to her, I want you quite yet. You are titillating her. You are teasing her. And women respond very, very well to that. But you need that cushion to begin with. You need to say you look good first. But you can't just go in straight for you should be wearing this because she can translate that as an attack. And then you get the hostile reaction.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
You don't want a hostile reaction.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
It's doing that, but it's also, Saying, yeah, you've got boxes that need to be ticked and you know what you want sexually. You're just lacing it with, you know, just that it's just that tease. OK, it's very important at the beginning. So, yeah, I love double sided compliments. I think people should use them much more.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
It's also just to go a little bit of a deep dive on it. It's kind of showing the shadow side, which is something I teach about how to use the shadow side to seduce a woman. And it's very important that if you are that kind, great guy, that you show the element of the bad guy, you know, or the very sexual guy. And it's that polarity and contrast that make women go crazy.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
I know of some of the theories, but I know, no, I tried to, I have a lot of friends who've been to psychologists. I have a lot of clients who went to psychologists and most of the times it does not help them. Um,
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
I just don't, I'm interested into it to a certain degree, but I just have learned so much psychology from hanging around strip clubs, from honestly, like ridiculous level of psychology there, from hanging around people who are marketers, salespeople, game, pickup artists. These people know psychology because they practice it. It's not just theory.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
They can look at the things that are theory and go, that's crap. Let's get rid of that. That's good in theory, or it's good in this situation. It's not good in that situation. So I prefer to be with people who understand psychology, but not from a book. They've done it. They've experienced it, and they live through it and go, no, this is bullshit. This does not work.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
You know, like some people that, I'm trying to find a really like basic, like basic psychology would be like, oh, you need to mirror the person. And I'm just thinking it doesn't work. It doesn't not help, but it doesn't work. So waste your time on that. You know, let's work on this instead, if that makes sense.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
Like, for instance, you know, like I have this thing where I don't want to talk about it too much. I've got a video coming out about it, but it's reverse psychology, how to use anti-self. How to sort of go the opposite and undersell yourself on purpose, like try and put the person off you. Now, they would never teach that in a psychology book, but it's fucking powerful when you know how to do it.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
And it's got some rules to it and things, but I've been using it now for about a year. and passing it on like sort of in private with people. And they're like, wow, this stuff is real. It works. But again, you would not find that in a book. Like, oh no, always, you know, oversell yourself and show your best possible self.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
And it's like, no, you've got to use a bit of this other stuff also in the mix, which doesn't make sense on paper, but does work when you do it correctly.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
Well, because women have been on so many dates and what they do is women like to categorize men. And if the man is asking the same kind of tired, unimaginative questions that all the other guys have been asking, then she's not going to be on her toes. She's going to be in, you know, I call it autopilot mode where she's not making the effort because she's She's kind of already been through that.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
She's gone through the motions and she's already kind of got the outcome of how it's going to end. Oh, he's going to ask me this now. And his response is going to be A, B, and C. So it becomes predictable. Women like excitement. They like excitement more than men do. Okay. Men don't want a headache. Men want someone nice, calm, and compliant. Women want excitement much more than men.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
And it has to be they have to feel stimulated emotionally and mentally. That doesn't mean you have to have this very serious highfalutin conversation about something that's very deep. No, I don't mean that. But it just means about making her, forcing her to have to think, forcing her, if she has to think, it means she has to invest.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
And if she's investing, it means that she's trying to impress you on some level. So it's very much pattern breaking is not just about asking an interesting question. It's about your interesting responses. So we could take a very, you know, two things that are always going to come up in conversation is where are you from and what do you do?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
So we know that those two questions are going to come up, and I'm not telling anyone that they shouldn't be asking those questions. But it's very easy for those questions to end up in a boring conversation. So let's say, like, most of my students work in IT. The first thing will be, like, what do you do? He says IT. And she will just give a very polite answer.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
unimaginative response which is like oh you know do you like it and most of the time the guy will go yeah it's okay or it's all right you know and that's it that's already the conversation's gone but if he turned around and just said you know what i love it and i hate it Immediately, she's curious because people don't answer like that. It's an unusual answer.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
It's not a weird, crazy, you know, fucked up answer. We don't want those. It's just a little bit unusual and it's going to just reel her in, her curiosity. Oh, what do you mean? Like, what do you love and hate about it? And then from there, the guy can start talking about things which have nothing to do with his job.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
You know, I love it because I get to do A, B and C and that's a reflection then of something that's positive about him. But I hate it because this is what I really want to do. This is what I'm super passionate about. So we're already taking it from IT, which no one really wants to talk about, to this fun, interesting information, this high value data about myself.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
Why did you hate it? You see it immediately. I want to know. Why did you hate it?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
Yeah, it is unfiltered. And that's very important because women want to have that very authentic, unfiltered conversation with a man. And it just shows that he's just, that's his truth and he's unapologetic for it.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
I think it's important. OK, so I do show guys how to bring their more appealing qualities forward and some of the less appealing qualities like keep them in the back burner. But that's more things such as not like personal achievements and things. Maybe they haven't achieved a lot in their life. Maybe they're still living at home with their parents.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
I don't say to them that you've got to cover that. It's more that you've got, because that's you, that's your reality, that's the position you're in. It's how you communicate it. So if you do anything with shame or embarrassment... then that's going to translate as I'm an ashamed person, I'm embarrassed, I'm not happy. And all these, these are the things that women don't find attractive in a man.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
But if you said, for instance, yeah, I don't really have a very good job, but I've chosen that because... I don't want to be on the rat race like everybody else. I look at everybody else every day, getting on the train, stuck in a little office. No way, not for me. Now, she might think, again, on paper, yeah, well, that guy going in on the train every day, he's, you know, he's got drive.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
He's going somewhere and you're just slobbing about. Sure, sure, she might think that. However, she will not think that you're ashamed or that you are trying to sort of like, get in her good books, tell her what she wants to hear. So you have that pride and that can work.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
That can work more than the guy who's doing all the right stuff, but he's deeply unhappy and he's insecure and all the rest of the stuff. It's better to have both of those things. But if you aren't, I don't say to guys, oh, pretend you've got a fancy job. just tell, like I sit down with them and go, why are you doing this dead end job? Why? Like, what's the reason for it?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
And a lot of the time they come up with a pretty good reason, which is I don't want to be a slave to work. I said, well, that's beautiful. That's interesting. That's wow. Okay. So you're a bit of like one of those kinds of guys. Okay. Sell it. Let's do it. You know, don't be ashamed of it. So that's the way that I try and get them to be authentic and
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
Yeah, and it's very important to always tap into the woman's emotional buying motives rather than her rational buying motives. So again, yes, as you said, speaking with emotional language works better with women. For them, lust and attraction is not rational at all. It's purely emotional. So yeah, I agree. Just tap into the emotional narrative.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
So looks, a good looking guy has to do less at the beginning, way less than a less good looking guy. Just a caveat, though. A lot of good-looking guys doesn't mean that it's going to be every woman's type. Suddenly, I've seen some men, and the women are just, oh, he's so good-looking. I'm like, I don't know what I'm looking at here. Have I missed something?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
So that does happen, just to put that little caveat in. But let's just take the average, very good-looking guy that appeals to most women. He has to do so much less, and he will get away with so much more. I'm sorry to say that, guys. That's the truth. However, he doesn't have the same length of time to make a mistake like a beautiful woman has.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
Okay, he has maybe five, ten, let's just say five minutes he has to ride on his looks, ride that wave. A beautiful woman can ride on that wave for months. and just be a total bitch and not have anything interesting to say because men are much more governed by how a woman looks.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
So yes, it's important, but I don't want men to internalize this and see it from their point of view as, oh, but a beautiful woman, you know, can get away with everything. Yeah, not a beautiful man. So looks are important, but what's more important and how the man makes her feel. I met a man recently, I swear, not my type at all. I wouldn't even say he's good looking, let alone like not my type.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
And I'm thinking about him now. He's got a little bit stuck in my head. And that's what happens with women. You get in their heads, you know, and it's an emotional feeling because male desire and female desire just operate completely differently, completely differently. And so that's something I teach, obviously, to understand how female desire works.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
See, I get into a man's head. I get these young guys, and they, like, ask me out. And then, you know, during the day, I realize they've all got this thing in common, which is they've all got a crush on Jennifer Aniston. Like, oh, we're here again, are we? It's like, yeah, and not when she's in Friends. How she is now, like, oh, I'm like, oh, great.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
So men are very visual. They'll go on a date with me because I kind of look like Jennifer Aniston a bit.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
If it works, it works, right?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
It's 100% okay to approach a woman. We've been doing this now since 2006, which is before the Me Too movement and hashtag me too movement after that. The most we've ever had is a girl say, I'm not interested. No slapping in the face, no calling the police, no running down the street screaming, nothing like this. Just literally, sorry, not interested.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
And we even know things to say to make them interested if they say I'm not interested. So no, I think, in fact, it's gone the other way. Women are absolutely dying to meet men this way. They're sick of dating apps. My sister and her friend in their early 30s, they're going to an event called I Hate Dating Apps. They've quit. I'm like, everyone's quitting the dating apps.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
They have had enough of them. They are horrible things, these dating apps. And they're all wanting that story of, hey, you know, I met this guy. He just approached me in the park. They want that story more now than ever. Because during the pandemic, it reached breaking point, the dating apps. I mean, we're doing Zoom now. It's very useful. But everything was on Zoom. Everything was online.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
And it just... hit like peak i can't do this anymore and people are just looking for those organic ways to meet people now hundreds this is the best time actually this is the best time since fading apps came out i would say
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
Especially, you've got more chance if you're not good looking. If you're a good looking guy on the apps, When I say good looking, I'm talking about the top 5% here. Yeah, you'll clean up. You'll clean up. But if you're below average or average even, forget it. It's much better to go to approach a woman because there's so much more she can understand about you from the approach.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
A lot of the guys that I've dated, my first impression of them wasn't great. And then after a few minutes, I was like, okay, things have changed now. And also, if I'd seen a photograph of them online, I would never have agreed to go on a date with them. Really not my type.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
But it was just like the way that they operated the room, the way they spoke to me, made me feel, the way they ordered the drinks. aftershave they were wearing. You know, human beings are multidimensional. So is attraction. And it's all being reduced to a photograph and a photograph that's not even an accurate likeness of us anymore. None of us look like our photos.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
Do you remember like in the old days when we had bad photos and we had to say to the other person, look, they look better than their photo. We were setting up people with dates because we all took bad photographs. Now you have to sit there and go, look, okay, she or he doesn't quite look like that photograph.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
So it's already like you're starting from a down point, like a minus, because you meet the person who's like, oh, you're 10 times bigger than you said you are, 10 times older, whatever it is.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
I'm stuck between two, but I'm going to go for one because I did mention about like, if a woman says I'm not interested, what to say.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
So let's, and we've been doing this for ages and it's had really good response rate. So let's say you see two women and they're chatting in a bar and you approach them and they're like, no, thank you. I'm we're talking rather than just walking off, like feeling sorry for yourself. or apologizing or being aggressive, just say, no problem.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
I just wanted to come over and say, I think you're absolutely stunning. Have a beautiful night and then walk away because you've taken that moment to flip it and show her what she's missing. So you have to say this with regal confidence, regal confidence. She's not expecting you to respond like that, first of all. So that makes her go, huh? And secondly, you're showing how confident you are.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
And she's watching this thinking, oh, shit. oh shit, this one's going now. And then she sees you operating the rest of the room, talking to people. You don't go back to her. Don't ever go back to her. She has a very high chance of coming back to you. She'll either smile, look at you, or she might even, as you're leaving, say, oh, I'm sorry, I was a bit rude. Come join us.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
So that's a good little trick, guys.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
Yeah, just go to the website, kezia-noble.com. You'll find out more information about my seven-day mastery program and my online acceleration home training program. And everything is one-on-one. We don't do boot camps or anything. Okay. It's going to be you, me, or you and the coach, just one-on-one. And yeah, check out all the testimonials we've received over the years.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
And you'll find like at least one of them will resonate with you personally, because we've just helped hundreds of men from across the globe, a range of different sticking points and from different cultural backgrounds and age groups. So yeah, that's my website. Check it out.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
Yes, I do.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
Hello. Hi. Thank you for that lovely introduction.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
Well, it didn't happen like that. I was essentially headhunted, which sounds bizarre, but it's true. That's the closest way I can explain it. This was back in 2006. I was minding my own business and I was in a bar and a guy approached me and he said that he worked for or he was part of a company that helped men
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
pick up women because this was 2006 so pick up was a thing right and we don't you I don't use that phrase anymore but it was then and I was like what is pickup what's a pickup artist and he explained it to me explained look we teach guys like how to pull women essentially how to attract women and I was a complete skeptic I was like you can't teach it either there's chemistry or there's nothing
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
So he said, well, I've actually come over to approach you because I'd like you to come along to one of our workshops and to give feedback. to the guys that are on our program on one of our boot camps, because we're looking for like attractive young women. I was an attractive young woman then. Okay.
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Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
And so we have to give back, we have to give our feedback to the guys and, um, cause we were talking a little bit and he found me very honest and direct and he said, look, that's really what we're looking for. So I went there and thought, okay, let's just give this a go. And there were two things that I noticed pretty quickly, which was the first was that there were indeed
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
practical tools, advice that you could give men that could really make a change. I saw that within the space of the time I was there. And the second thing that I noticed is that there were no women in this movement or industry or community, whatever you want to call it.
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Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
The other women that were there were giving very, excuse me, let me turn off my emails, were giving very wishy-washy advice, you know, like just be yourself, smile more, be more confident.
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Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
vague very vague because i think a lot of women are people pleasers essentially um whereas i've never been a people pleaser i've never felt the need to please other people i think that's probably a masculine trait in me um and so i was just very honest very direct and i left thinking okay um they're gonna come after me with pitchforks these guys but actually they all just were queuing up for
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personal one-on-one. It's like, what's that? I just came in to help today and get paid for a session. Um, but then the owner of the company, his name's Richard Larowina, or some people know him as Gambler back from the day. He said, no, we're really looking for this and we want you to like come next weekend and do the same thing.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
So I was coming more regularly and then I was like listening to what was being taught and I didn't realize that I could really help men, but I realized that I loved human psychology, but not in the way that it's taught today. you know, if you go to university, I like the kind of, I'm not going to lie, I like the manipulation tactics.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
I like reverse psychology, just learning new ideas of how to, can I swear on this or no? I won't if you don't want me to.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
Like how to mind fuck people and stuff. I found it really interesting. I found really interesting is how unattractive women and men got such good looking guys and women. Like I wanted to know that and I'd seen it. I said, this is, it's not looks, it's game. Because that's when I realized I didn't give it a name before. I'd just be like sex appeal, psychology.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
But then I sort of put it all into game. And that's what I got really fascinated about. And I've been really good at it, really good at spotting things, spotting what people were doing and breaking it down, like what the naturals were doing and passing it on. And because I was very honest and I have a very unfiltered kind of presentation of my life and my opinions and everything,
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
I just felt it worked perfectly. And it did because I started getting a name for myself. It's like this is the go-to woman. And then I set up a YouTube channel on the side, which I wasn't really allowed to do, but I wasn't under contract. So I did this YouTube channel and it really took off. And I realized, okay, there's millions of guys out there that want to hear an honest female insight.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
They don't want the bullshit. They want to hear the woman just giving it raw. What do I do? How does it make women feel? And I did that, and then that got a lot of attraction. And then I was approached by a publishing company here in the U.K. They offered me a book deal. And then I left the company and set up my own company around 2011 when I got the book deal and the media attention from that.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
So that's like a very streamlined version of my story and how I got into this.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
Um, I am very success driven. I do want to see results. I'm, you know, I don't get a lot from a guy going, Oh, you know, that really helped me in terms of like theory. Like I get it now, Kezia. I want to see them actually get results and come back and say to me, I got laid last night. Or I met a beautiful woman and we went on a date. I'm very results-focused and driven.
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Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
So I prefer that rather than people just... I do like a compliment when someone says, like, I really value that theory that you've given and I'm going to put it into use. But I prefer it when they actually come back with the results.
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Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
This came yesterday, Tuesday. I don't want to show his name. That's the thing. This came Tuesday, which is. Hello. Don't know if you remember me, says his name. No, I don't remember him. I'm not going to lie, I don't. I worked with you some 15 years ago when I had gone through a breakup. You worked with me and I came out the other side. I doubt you get many people thanking you, but I am.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
I've just gone through my 10th year happily married. Together I am where I am because you worked magic with me. Wow. We have lots of video testimonials of guys going, you know, I dated a model by the end of the seven-day mastery program. But kind of like these little intimate messages that I get on my phone or on my, you know, private, you know, DMs on Instagram mean a lot.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
Weddings, pictures of their babies even. It's really nice. It's great.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
I've got which one?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Scared to Make a Move? How to Read Women & Know When to Go For It (Featuring Kezia Noble!)
Oh, yeah. Okay, fine. We wrote that a long time ago, yeah.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
Well, because women have been on so many dates and what they do is women like to categorize men. And if the man is asking the same kind of tired, unimaginative questions that all the other guys have been asking, then she's not going to be on her toes. She's going to be in, you know, I call it autopilot mode where she's not making the effort because she's She's kind of already been through that.
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She's gone through the motions, and she's already kind of got the outcome of how it's going to end. Oh, he's going to ask me this now, and his response is going to be A, B, and C. So it becomes predictable. Women like excitement. They like excitement more than men do. Okay? Men don't want a headache. Men want someone nice, calm, and compliant. Women want excitement much more than men.
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And it has to be – they have to feel stimulated emotionally – And mentally, that doesn't mean you have to have this very serious, highfalutin conversation about something that's very deep. No, I don't mean that, but it just means about making her, forcing her to have to think, forcing her. If she has to think, it means she has to invest.
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And if she's investing, it means that she's trying to impress you on some level. So it's very much pattern breaking is not just about asking an interesting question. It's about your interesting responses. So we could take a very, you know, two things that are always going to come up in conversation is where are you from and what do you do?
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So we know that those two questions are going to come up and I'm not telling anyone that they shouldn't be asking those questions. But it's very easy for those questions to end up in a boring conversation. So let's say like most of my students work in I.T., The first thing will be like, what do you do? He says, I.T.
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And she will just give a very polite, unimaginative response, which is like, oh, you know, do you like it? And most of the time the guy will go, yeah, it's OK. Or it's all right. You know, and that's it. That's already the conversation. But if he turned around and just said, you know what, I love it and I hate it. Immediately, she's curious because people don't answer like that.
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It's an unusual answer. It's not a weird, crazy, you know, fucked up answer. We don't want those. It's just a little bit unusual and it's going to just reel her in, her curiosity. Oh, what do you mean? Like, what do you love and hate about it? And then from there, the guy can start talking about things which have nothing to do with his job.
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You know, I love it because I get to do A, B, and C, and that's a reflection then of something that's positive about him. But I hate it because this is what I really want to do. This is what I'm super passionate about. So we're already taking it from IT, which no one really wants to talk about, to this fun, interesting information, this high value data about myself.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
Why did you hate it? You see it immediately. I want to know. Why did you hate it?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
Yeah, it is unfiltered. And that's very important because women want to have that very authentic, unfiltered conversation with a man. And it just shows that he's just, that's his truth and he's unapologetic for it.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
I think it's important. OK, so I do show guys how to bring their more appealing qualities forward and some of the less appealing qualities like keep them in the back burner. But that's more things such as not like personal achievements and things. Maybe they haven't achieved a lot in their life. Maybe they're still living at home with their parents.
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I don't say to them that you've got to cover that. It's more that you've got – because that's you. That's your reality. That's the position you're in. It's how you communicate it. So if you do anything with shame or embarrassment – then that's going to translate as I'm an ashamed person, I'm embarrassed, I'm not happy. And all these, these are the things that women don't find attractive in a man.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
Well, it didn't happen like that. I was essentially headhunted, which sounds bizarre, but it's true. That's the closest way I can explain it. This was back in 2006. I was minding my own business and I was in a bar and a guy approached me and he said that he worked for or he was part of a company that helped men pick up women because this was 2006, so pick up was a thing, right? Right.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
But if you said, for instance, yeah, I don't really have a very good job, but I've chosen that because... I don't want to be on the rat race like everybody else. I look at everybody else every day, getting on the train, stuck in a little office. No way, not for me. Now, she might think, again, on paper, yeah, well, that guy going in on the train every day, he's, you know, he's got drive.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
He's going somewhere and you're just slobbing about. Sure, sure, she might think that. However, she will not think that you're ashamed or that you are trying to sort of like, get in her good books, tell her what she wants to hear. So you have that pride. And that can work.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
That can work more than the guy who's doing all the right stuff, but he's deeply unhappy and he's insecure and all the rest of the stuff. It's better to have both of those things. But if you aren't, I don't say to guys, oh, pretend you've got a fancy job. just, just tell, like, I sit down with them and go, why are you doing this dead end job? Why? Like, what's the reason for it?
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
And a lot of the time they come up with a pretty good reason, which is I don't want to be a slave to work. I said, well, that's beautiful. That's interesting. That's wow. Okay. So you're a bit of like one of those kinds of guys. Okay. Sell it. Let's do it. You know, don't be ashamed of it. So, um, that's the way that I try and get them to be authentic and,
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
Yeah, and it's very important to always tap into the woman's emotional buying motives rather than her rational buying motives. So again, yes, as you said, speaking with emotional language works better with women. For them, lust and attraction is not rational at all. It's purely emotional. So yeah, I agree. Just tap into the emotional narrative.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
So looks, a good looking guy has to do less at the beginning, way less than a less good looking guy. Just a caveat, though. A lot of good-looking guys doesn't mean that it's going to be every woman's type. Suddenly, I've seen some men, and the women are just, oh, he's so good-looking. I'm like, I don't know what I'm looking at here. Have I missed something?
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
So that does happen, just to put that little caveat in. But let's just take the average, very good-looking guy that appeals to most women. He has to do so much less, and he will get away with so much more. I'm sorry to say that, guys. That's the truth. However, he doesn't have the same length of time to make a mistake like a beautiful woman has.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
Okay, he has maybe five, ten, let's just say five minutes he has to ride on his looks, ride that wave. A beautiful woman can ride on that wave for months. And just be a total bitch and not have anything interesting to say because men are much more governed by how a woman looks.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
So, yes, it's important, but I don't want men to internalize this and see it from their point of view as, oh, but a beautiful woman, you know, can get away with everything. Yeah, not a beautiful man. So looks are important. But what's more important is how the man makes her feel. I met a man recently, I swear, not my type at all. I wouldn't even say he's good looking, let alone like not my type.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
And I'm thinking about him now. He's got a little bit stuck in my head. That's what happens with women. You get in their heads, you know, and it's an emotional feeling because male desire and female desire just operate completely differently, completely differently. And so that's something I teach, obviously, to understand how female desire works.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
And we don't, I don't use that phrase anymore, but it was then. And I was like, what is pickup? What's a pickup artist? And he explained it to me, explained, look, we teach guys like how to pull women, essentially how to attract women. And I was a complete skeptic. I was like, you can't teach it. Either there's chemistry or there's nothing.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
Yeah, I get into a man's head. I get these young guys and they like ask me out. And then, you know, during the day, I realize they've all got this thing in common, which is they've all got a crush on Jennifer Aniston. Like, oh, we're here again, are we? Yeah, and not when she's in Friends, how she is now, like old. I'm like, oh, great.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
So men are very visual. They'll go on a date with me because I kind of look like Jennifer Aniston a bit.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
If it works, it works, right?
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
It's 100% okay to approach a woman. We've been doing this now since 2006, which is before the Me Too movement and hashtag Me Too movement after that. The most we've ever had is a girl say, I'm not interested. No slapping in the face, no calling the police, no running down the street screaming, nothing like this. Just literally, sorry, not interested.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
And we even know things to say to make them interested if they say I'm not interested. So no, I think, in fact, it's gone the other way. Women are absolutely dying to meet men this way. They're sick of dating apps. My sister and her friend in their early 30s, they're going to an event called I Hate Dating Apps. They've quit. I'm like, everyone's quitting the dating apps.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
They have had enough of them. They are horrible things, these dating apps. And they're all wanting that story of, hey, you know, I met this guy. He just approached me in the park. They want that story more now than ever. Because during the pandemic, it reached breaking point. The dating apps and Zoom. I mean, we're doing Zoom now. It's very useful. But everything was on Zoom. Everything was online.
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So he said, well, I've actually come over to approach you because I'd like you to come along to one of our workshops and Um, and to give feedback to the guys that are on our program on one of our bootcamps, because we're looking for like attractive young women. I was an attractive young woman then. Okay. So we have to give back, we have to give our feedback to the guys.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
And it just... hit like peak i can't do this anymore and people are just looking for those organic ways to meet people now hundreds this is the best time actually this is the best time since fading apps came out i would say
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
Especially, you've got more chance if you're not good looking. If you're a good looking guy on the apps, When I say good looking, I'm talking about the top 5% here. Yeah, you'll clean up. You'll clean up. But if you're below average or average even, forget it. It's much better to go to approach a woman because there's so much more she can understand about you from the approach.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
A lot of the guys that I've dated, my first impression of them wasn't great. And then after a few minutes, I was like, okay, things have changed now. And also, if I'd seen a photograph of them online, I would never have agreed to go on a date with them. Really not my type.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
But it was just like the way that they operated the room, the way they spoke to me, made me feel, the way they ordered the drinks, the aftershave they were wearing. You know, human beings are multidimensional. So is attraction. And it's all being reduced to a photograph. And a photograph that's not even...
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accurate likeness of us anymore none of us look like our photos do you remember like in the old days when we had bad photos and we we had to say to the other person look they look better than their photo setting up people with dates because we all took bad photographs now you have to sit there and go look okay she or he doesn't quite look like that photograph so it's already like you're starting from a down point you know like a minus because you meet the person's like oh you're 10 times bigger than you said you're 10 times older or whatever it is you know
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
I'm stuck between two but I'm gonna go for one because I did mention about like if a woman says I'm not interested what to say yeah what do you say when she says that so let's and we've been doing this for ages and it's had really good response rate so let's say you see two women and they're chatting in a bar and you approach them and they're like she goes no no thank you I'm we're talking rather than just walking off like feeling sorry for yourself
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or apologizing or being aggressive, just say, no problem. I just wanted to come over and say, I think you're absolutely stunning. Have a beautiful night and then walk away. Because you've taken that moment to flip it and show her what she's missing. So you have to say this with regal confidence, regal confidence. She's not expecting you to respond like that, first of all.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
So that makes her go, huh? And secondly, you're showing how confident you are. And she's watching this thinking, oh, shit. oh shit, this one's going now. And then she sees you operating the rest of the room, talking to people. You don't go back to her. Don't ever go back to her. She has a very high chance of coming back to you.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
She'll either smile, look at you, or she might even, as you're leaving, say, oh, I'm sorry, I was a bit rude. Come join us. So that's a good little trick, guys.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
And, um, cause we were talking a little bit and he found me very honest and direct and he said, look, that's really what we're looking for. So I went there and thought, okay, let's just give this a go. And there were two things that I noticed pretty quickly, which was the first was that there were indeed practical tools, advice that you could give men that could really make a change.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
Yeah, just go to the website, kezia-noble.com. You'll find out more information about my seven-day mastery program and my online acceleration home training program. And everything is one-on-one. We don't do boot camps or anything. So... It's going to be you, me, or you and the coach, just one-on-one. And yeah, check out all the testimonials we've received over the years.
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And you'll find like at least one of them will resonate with you personally, because we've just helped hundreds of men from across the globe, a range of different sticking points and from different cultural backgrounds and age groups. So yeah, that's my website. Check it out.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
Yes, I do.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
I saw that within the space of the time I was there. And the second thing that I noticed is that there were no women there. in this movement or industry or community, whatever you want to call it, the other women that were there were giving very, excuse me, let me turn off my emails, were giving very wishy-washy advice, you know, like just be yourself, smile more, be more confident. Vague.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
Very vague, because I think a lot of women are people pleasers essentially, whereas I've never been a people pleaser, I've never felt the need to please other people, I think that's probably a masculine trait in me And so I was just very honest, very direct. And I left thinking, okay, they're going to come after me with pitchforks, these guys.
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But actually, they all just were queuing up for a personal one-on-one. I was like, what's that? I just came in to help today and get paid for a session. Um, but then the owner of the company, his name's Richard Larowina, or some people know him as Gambler back from the day. He said, no, we're really looking for this and we want you to like come next weekend and do the same thing.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
So I was coming more regularly and then I was like listening to what was being taught and I didn't realize that I could really help men, but I realized that I loved human psychology, but not in the way that it's taught, um, you know, if you go to university, I like the kind of, I'm not going to lie, I like the manipulation tactics.
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I like reverse psychology, just learning new ideas of how to, can I swear on this or no? I won't if you don't want me to.
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Like how to mind fuck people and stuff. I found it really interesting. I found really interesting is how unattractive women and men got such good looking guys and women. Like I wanted to know that and I'd seen it. I said, this is, it's not looks, it's game. Because that's when I realized I didn't give it a name before. I'd just be like sex appeal, psychology.
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But then I sort of put it all into game. And that's what I got really fascinated about. And I realized I was really good at it, really good at spotting things, spotting what people were doing and breaking it down, like what the naturals were doing and passing it on. And because I was very honest and I have a very unfiltered kind of presentation of my life and my opinions and everything,
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
I just felt it worked perfectly. And it did because I started getting a name for myself. It's like, this is the go to woman. And then I set up a YouTube channel on the side, which I wasn't really allowed to do, but I wasn't under contract. So I did this YouTube channel and it really took off. And I realized, okay, there's millions of guys out there that want to hear an honest female insight.
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They don't want the bullshit. They want to hear the woman just giving it raw. What do I do? How does it make women feel? And I did that, and then that got a lot of attraction. And then I was approached by a publishing company here in the U.K. They offered me a book deal. And then I left the company and set up my own company around 2011 when I got the book deal and the media attention from that.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
So that's like a very streamlined version of my story and how I got into this.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
I am very success-driven. I do want to see results. I don't get a lot from a guy going, oh, that really helped me in terms of theory. I get it now, Kezia. I want to see them actually get results and come back and say to me, I got laid last night. Or I met a beautiful woman and we went on a date. I'm very results-focused and driven.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
So I prefer that rather than people just... I do like a compliment when someone says, like, I really value that theory that you've given, and I'm going to put it into use. But I prefer it when they actually come back with the results.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
This came yesterday, Tuesday. I don't want to show his name. That's the thing. This came Tuesday, which is...
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two days ago hello don't know if you remember me says his name no I don't remember him I'm not gonna lie I don't I worked with you some 15 years ago when I had gone through a breakup you worked with me and I came out the other side I doubt you get many people thanking you but I am I've just gone through my 10th year happily married together I am where I am because you worked magic with me wow
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
We have lots of video testimonials of guys going, you know, I dated a model by the end of the seven-day mastery program. But kind of like these little intimate messages that I get on my phone or on my, you know, private, you know, DMs on Instagram mean a lot. Weddings, pictures of their babies even. It's really nice. It's great.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
Oh yeah. Okay. Fine. We wrote that a long time ago. Yeah.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
Yes.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
So it's a form of validation, positive validation. A double-sided compliment is a mix, actually, of positive and negative, I should say. So if you say to a woman, I think you'd look better if you wore those kind of shoes, that's kind of like an insult almost.
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So you've got to... cushion the blow so you say look those shoes look really good on you but if you were wearing and then you put in the type of shoe or it could be dress or anything that you find sexy Then you say to her, if you were wearing these kind of shoes, you know, dot, dot, dot, I would be totally making a move on you or I wouldn't be able to control myself.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
So it's also a form of sexual escalation. You are flirting with her, but you're not saying to her, I want you quite yet. You are titillating her. You are teasing her. And women respond very, very well to that. But you need that cushion to begin with. You need to say you look good, but you can't just go in straight for you should be wearing this because she can translate that as an attack.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
And then you get the hostile reaction. You don't want a hostile reaction.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
It's doing that, but it's also- Saying, yeah, you've got boxes that need to be ticked and you know what you want sexually. You're just lacing it with, you know, just that, it's just that tease. Okay. It's very important at the beginning. So yeah, I love double-sided compliments. I think people should use them much more.
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It's also just to go a little bit of a deep dive on it. It's kind of showing the shadow side, which is something I teach about how to use the shadow side to seduce a woman. And it's very important that if you are that kind, great guy, that you show the element of the bad guy, you know, or the very sexual guy. And it's that polarity and contrast that make women go crazy.
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I know of some of the theories, but I have a lot of friends who've been to psychologists. I have a lot of clients who went to psychologists. And most of the times, it does not help them.
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I just don't, I'm interested into it to a certain degree, but I just have learned so much psychology from hanging around strip clubs, from honestly, like ridiculous level of psychology there, from hanging around people who are marketers, salespeople, game, pickup artists. these people know psychology because they practice it. It's not just theory.
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They can look at the things that are theory and go, that's crap. Let's get rid of that. That's good in theory, or it's good in this situation. It's not good in that situation. So I prefer to be with people who understand psychology, but not from a book. They've done it. They've experienced it, and they live through it and go, no, this is bullshit. This does not work.
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You know, like some people that, I'm trying to find a really like basic, like basic psychology would be like, oh, you need to mirror the person. And I'm just thinking it doesn't work. It doesn't not help, but it doesn't work. So waste your time on that. You know, let's work on this instead, if that makes sense.
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Like for instance, you know, like I have this thing where I don't want to talk about it too much. I've got a video coming out about it, but it's reverse psychology, how to use anti-self. How to sort of go the opposite and undersell yourself on purpose, like try and put the person off you. Now, they would never teach that in a psychology book, but it's fucking powerful when you know how to do it.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
And it's got some rules to it and things, but I've been using it now for about a year. I'm passing it on like sort of in private with people and they're like, wow, this stuff is real. It works. But again, you would not find that in a book. Like, oh no, always, you know, oversell yourself and show your best possible self.
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Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
Hello. Hi. Thank you for that lovely introduction.
How to Get a Girlfriend with Connell Barrett
Approach Her with Easy Confidence: Top Dating Expert Kezia Noble on How to Attract Women In Real Life
And it's like, no, you've got to use a bit of this other stuff also in the mix, which doesn't make sense on paper, but does work when you do it correctly.