Michelle Williams' FX/Hulu series Dying For Sex follows a woman with terminal cancer who decides to pursue her own sexual pleasure. She says the show is about sex, friendship and "being scared and brave at the same time."Learn more about sponsor message choices: podcastchoices.com/adchoicesNPR Privacy Policy
Chapter 1: What is the premise of the series 'Dying for Sex'?
This is Fresh Air. I'm Tanya Mosley. You know, sometimes a show reaches out and grabs you by the collar with its honesty. That's what happened after I watched the first episode of the new FX series, Dying for Sex. I knew immediately that I had to watch the rest of it alone.
I needed to sit with it, to cry without feeling self-conscious, to laugh without an audience, because the show is so intimate, so distinctly human. Adapted from the Wondery podcast of the same name and based on a true story, Dying for Sex follows a woman named Molly, played by my guest today, Michelle Williams.
Molly leaves her marriage after a terminal breast cancer diagnosis and embarks on a sexual adventure. But that doesn't even scratch the surface. Yes, there is sex, sometimes kinky, a little awkward, often hilarious. But the show is really about everything surrounding it. It's about what happens when the fear of dying outweighs the fear of never having truly lived.
Chapter 2: How does 'Dying for Sex' explore complex themes like friendship and trauma?
It's about how trauma gets stored in the female body. It's about reclaiming pleasure, even after we've been told that it doesn't belong to us. In this scene that I'm about to play, Molly has just learned that her breast cancer has returned and is now stage four. She begins meeting with a palliative care counselor for support.
I'm too young, and it sucks, okay? I haven't done anything with my life. I actually don't know what I like or what I want. I've never even had an orgasm with another person.
And now I'm going to die.
Good. Molly. Hey. We have something for your list. Orgasm with another person.
Dying for Sex is also a story about friendship. Jenny Slate plays Nikki, Molly's best friend, who becomes her caretaker after Molly leaves her loving but emotionally unavailable husband. And at times, their friendship feels like the real love story. And did I mention that this is a comedy?
Michelle Williams has spent her career exploring the complexities and inner lives of women, from her breakout role as Jen Lindley on Dawson's Creek to Gwen Verdon in Fosse Verdon and the role of Mitzi, Steven Spielberg's mother in The Fablemans. She's been nominated five times for an Academy Award and has won two Golden Globes and took home an Emmy for her performance in Fosse Verdon.
A warning for those who might have children in the room. We will be talking about sex and pleasure during this conversation. Michelle Williams, welcome to Fresh Air. Thank you so much for having me.
I'm really thrilled to be here with you.
I am thrilled to have you. You heard me say I needed to watch this series alone. You know, me and my husband, the wonderful thing about this job is we get previews and we kind of watch it together, kind of like a date night, you know. And after that first episode, I said I have to watch it alone. I watched the whole series by myself.
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Chapter 3: Why did Michelle Williams choose to participate in 'Dying for Sex'?
And the sweet, very sweet ending to the story is she's moving to Brooklyn where I live and Liz lives.
Wait, you mean Jenny Slate? Jenny Slate. So in real life, right? You all became friends in real life.
Yeah, we're hitching our wagons together.
You seem to be someone who really values friendship, almost in a way that is kind of communal. I've heard you just talk throughout your career about the friends that you've collected over time that have become kind of like your family. That's very true.
I'm thinking of all the friends that I've lived with in what really felt like a commune for a while. There was a period of my life where we had room to share, and my friends came to make our house feel like a home. One of my best friends, Daphne, we slept in the same bed for years, and another friend, Jeremy, lived downstairs, and then their friends would be there.
It was kind of like a real open-door policy to create a sense of community. And those have been the sustaining relationships in my life that have taken me to this place where now I have a growing family and a husband. But it's those friendships that have sort of created a support. And we share this memory of this time together when we all lived under one roof.
I want to talk a little bit more about friendship, but I want to talk about sex for a minute, okay? Sex is a proxy for so many things, although sex in this series is kind of spoken about in a literal sense and, like, the things that you want to do before you pass. One of the things that I think I heard you say is, like, I have never had to do on screen, like, perform self-pleasure. Right.
I wanted to ask you about that because that act is so intimate. We do it without being self-conscious because we're often alone. And here you are in front of an entire crew, right? I can imagine. What was it like? How were you able to get to that truth for yourself in those moments when you had to act out those scenes?
So the thing that I'm always looking for, and I think the reason that I go to work, is to expand my sense of freedom. And that the moments between action and cut, that is a very safe space. Because nothing bad can truly happen there. The worst that can happen to me is that I feel embarrassed. But that's not going to destroy me, nor is it going to stop me.
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Chapter 4: How does Michelle Williams view her friendships and personal life?
I think it's an idea that's been dawning for a while and a place that I've come to think I can have real pleasure. And I think some of it is based in the way that I grew up. I had this section of my childhood where I lived in Montana and there was... So much spaciousness and so much liberation and so much freedom and so much trust. What did that look like?
The sprawling land of Montana.
It was a place where a child could be unattended to and still have the parents feel like the child was safe because the child was in nature. in a field, on a dirt road, in a big backyard. And so it allowed for this kind of exploration.
And recently it's kind of dawned on me, oh, I think that's the thing that I would relate it to most in my life, is this feeling that I had of a child sort of following my own hands and feet to a place that I didn't know anything about, but there might be a discovery to be made there. And I think...
Those two experiences, how I feel about my work and how I felt about my early childhood, are related to each other.
Was it your great-grandparents or your grandparents in Montana that you spent a lot of time with? My great-grandparents, Bessie and Herb. Yeah. How did they foster that sense of freedom and play for you, too?
Well, they also had a real open-door policy. They were Democrats, and so they would take in travelers. I remember a summer that we took in a family, and they had children our age.
And we played together and we would lay down a blanket in the middle of the living room and it would become a stage and we would put on this show that we had been working on while our parents were busy doing things that parents do, cooking and cleaning and tasks and chores. And we were free to do what we wanted with our time.
And that would be looking for arrowheads or snakeskins or riding horses. But really, our parents and grandparents believed that nature was a safe place for us. And so that was our playground. And I think about this as it relates to my own children, because I think nature was really my first teacher. And nature is impartial. It doesn't care about you.
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Chapter 5: What is Michelle Williams' approach to balancing her career and motherhood?
Without it, I really had nothing to show for myself. I had no institution behind me that said, I accredit you in this particular way. And so then where do you get a good feeling about yourself? So my work has meant so much to me because it's been, it was where I got to know myself.
And I thought, well, maybe if I could get a little bit good at this thing, I could get a little bit of that self-esteem.
One of my favorite movies that you mentioned of yours is Blue Valentine, for which you were nominated for an Academy Award. It stars you and Ryan Gosling. And just to set it up for folks who have not seen it, it's about the disintegration of a young couple's marriage. And it cuts between their early relationship when everything was just beautiful and rosy to the painful unraveling years later.
And you describe this as one of the most painful and rewarding experiences of your life. It helped you get a sense of the kind of work you wanted to pursue. Can you say more about that?
Yeah, I really burned for this one. I wanted this job so badly. I had read this script and made my case for it and my pleas to the director. And we went on walks and we exchanged books and music and other things that we related through this piece of material. And I was just on fire to make this thing for two, three, four, five, six years. It was just all I could see was making this movie.
And then the process of making the movie was such a throwback to how I had read that people used to work and what an experience that was. You know, never before, never again. We had these immense rehearsal periods where we were not working on the specific scenes or the specific dialogue, but we were building a memory bank together. and building experiences as these characters.
Okay, because the director, Derek Cianfrance, he would have you guys just ad-lib in many instances. How would he do that? Give me an example. Yeah, he organized our chaos.
He would have us do these family tasks like do a budget. Now decorate a Christmas tree. Okay. Now take your daughter to an amusement park. Now get into a fight about why the sink isn't fixed. So we were creating a shared experience. Because it's going into our bodies and our psyches, we're experiencing it as though it has happened to our characters.
And so then when it came time to shoot the second half of the film, when they are older and cleaving from each other, We had the built-up frustration of trying to make something work and failing at it.
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Chapter 6: How did Michelle Williams' early career shape her understanding of acting?
Oh, I would love to be I would love to bring that aspect out in myself so that my children experience that from their mom.
Let's take a short break. If you're just joining us, I'm talking to award-winning actor Michelle Williams. We're talking about her new limited series that she stars in called Dying for Sex. Back after a short break, this is Fresh Air. Another character that you played that I really enjoyed was Marilyn Monroe in My Week with Marilyn.
And what I found so fascinating, you know, I was one of those kids just like you, fascinated by Marilyn Monroe, how strong she was in her art. That was like where her strength came from, but how fragile she was at the same time. Were there any insights or aha moments you had about Marilyn? her and that sitting and embodying her.
Because one of the other things about this role is that you had to construct a Marilyn outside of the persona.
Yeah, it was, boy oh boy, I was 30 when I made that movie, and that was just the hardest thing I'd ever done. I think I cried every morning and every night. Why was it the hardest thing? Because I'd never tried anything so audacious, and I'd never tried anything that was so far from my idea of myself. And... I don't know how I was crazy enough to say yes to that.
Why was it crazy?
Because I had zero evidence that it was something that I would be capable of. But again, I have this drive and maybe it is because... I lack formal education. I have this real need to learn new things. And so when I looked at that role, I just thought, well, there's a lot of learning there. And I was right because it landed me in London and it landed me with these master teachers.
And so it gave me this kind of crash course to a way of working that I hadn't experienced before, this physical reinvention. to have to learn how to completely remake my own body with my own habits and propensities and holdings, to let go of those and to allow a new structure to emerge that was more similar to Marilynne. And that was very painful.
It was like breaking me down bone by bone and then building me back up. What kind of stuff did you have to do? I mean, because you have to mentally get there, but physically get there too, right? but you have a start date for a movie that's telling you at a certain point you have to drop your pencil and you have to just be ready.
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