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Aware and Aggravated

26. How To Stop Being Weak

Sun, 02 Feb 2025

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People hate when you don't look like what you've been through. Their only option is to blind you to your strength. This is how to see the truth. Substack: https://substack.com/@leoskepi?utm_so... Social Media: https://www.instagram.com/leoskepi https://www.tiktok.com/@leoskepi https://www.snapchat.com/add/leoskepi Merch: https://leoskepicollection.com My App Positive Focus: (Apple) https://apps.apple.com/us/app/positive-focus/id1559260311 (Google) https://play.google.com/store/apps/detailsid=com.positivefocusapp&hl=en_US&gl=US&pli=1 Business Inquiries: [email protected]

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Chapter 1: What is Shopify's role in business growth?

0.049 - 20.141 Advertisement Narrator

When you think about businesses that are selling through the roof, Allbirds, Skims, sure, you think about a great product, a cool brand, and brilliant marketing. But an often overlooked secret is actually the businesses behind the business making selling, and for the shoppers buying, simple. For millions of businesses, that business is Shopify.

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20.561 - 34.863 Advertisement Narrator

Nobody does selling better than Shopify, home of the number one checkout on the planet. And the not-so-secret secret, with ShopPay, that boosts conversions up to 50%, meaning way less carts going abandoned and way more sales going...

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35.985 - 60.434 Advertisement Narrator

So if you're into growing your business, your commerce platform better be ready to sell wherever your customers are scrolling or strolling on the web, in your store, in their feed, and everywhere in between. Businesses that sell more sell on Shopify. Upgrade your business and get the same checkout Skims uses. Sign up for your $1 per month trial period at shopify.com slash audioboom, all lowercase.

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Go to Shopify.com slash Audioboom to upgrade your selling today. Shopify.com slash Audioboom.

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Chapter 2: How can you stop feeling weak in a judgmental world?

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People are always going to hate you when you don't look like what you've been through. And that's not your problem. A lot of people are going to try and teach you to be weak. That's for them. That's not for you. Literally look at most of the advice out there. Oh, meditate, drink a lemon water, love yourself how you are. Yeah, how far did that get you? Exactly where it got them.

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They look exactly like what they've been through. No, not over here. Hi, friends. This is how to stop being weak or feeling weak. Because you're not. Because you would have folded already. There's this weird thing that happens when you've been through things and you've actually experienced hard shit in your life where you see reality. You see the truth of things.

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And there is strong people this side, and then there are fake strong people who are actually very weak. And people who live in reality and have actually survived hard things, not people who are just scared and have so much anxiety they got to medicate themselves to go to the coffee shop.

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Two different types of people we're talking about and listening too much to fake strong people will make you feel weak when you aren't. So I hope I can clear up a lot of the crap that you feel and a lot of crap that you see online. I'm sick of it. I've fallen into all these traps and I felt very weak for the past year.

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But one thing I want to say is strong people are the only ones who can actually feel weak. You ain't no weak little shit, okay? You might feel weak sometimes, but it's not the truth. First thing I want to hit on all this is there are so many reasons you might feel weak, even if you have so much lived experience that you're not. And it comes down to people blinding you to your own strength.

Chapter 3: What is the difference between pity and empathy?

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And we got to talk about empathy versus pity. What you see online is a bunch of people who offer pity to others. They're not actually empathetic. But when you don't look like what you've been through, it makes it real hard for people to pity you. And people seem to only care about and love those that they can pity. People only love you when you're weak or when they see you as weaker than them.

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And a lot of people will confuse you and blind you to your own strength. So let's talk about the difference between pity and empathy. Pitying people, it's like this whole trend of like, do not say anything that will hurt anyone's feelings. They've been through enough. Do not tell them the truth. Because they're already upset. Even if the truth is going to help them, don't say it. That's mean.

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That's so insensitive. They want to pity you. Everybody's running off of pity, and I can't stand it. It makes me want to spit. And if you're someone that can't be pitied, you're going to be treated like dog shit. Hi, we're here with you. But on the flip side, empathy...

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I see it as understanding and seeing how someone feels, understanding where they're at and telling them what is actually going to help them, not just trying to comfort them because they've been through too much. Empathy is giving someone the truth.

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Even though it hurts, because you know and you understand, the truth is the only thing strong enough to shatter the fake reality that you're living in. I'm a very, very, very empathetic person. People always say I'm not. I'm an asshole. I'm evil. I'm crazy. Do all those sides of me exist? Yes.

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But when I'm delivering information, I've never said anything online with the sole intention of trying to harm someone or hurt people. They do that to me. I've never just said shit to hurt somebody. That's the difference. These people think that they're empathetic. They're not. They like to pity people because it serves them to see other people as weaker than them. Empathy is I'm a stand here.

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and tell you the truth no matter what because i'm actually looking out for what's best for you if i know something or have experienced something or have advice on something where i know i can actually help you it's not gonna taste good and feel good to face reality and face the truth but the truth is the only thing strong enough to set you free i always say things even if it's gonna hurt

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If it's going to help you, I'm going to help you. I'm not going to sit here and lie to you. It's like these people who are trying to do the whole body positivity shit. People who are 700 pounds are not healthy, but they don't want to tell you that. They want to say, no, science is wrong. You are healthy. You're beautiful. And I love you just how you are.

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You're lying to them to not hurt their feelings. So these people pride themselves off of not sharing anything, truth or not, that hurts people. It's not intentionally hurting someone to tell them the truth, but I'm going to step back from that. You already get the fucking point.

Chapter 4: Why do people resist facing their own truths?

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And they do not want you... even if you're strong enough to actually execute on goals that you have, they don't want you to. Because for people to hear that you've been through worse than them, and you can still do what they've convinced themselves that they can't, They have to face their week.

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562.808 - 582.937 Advertisement Narrator

When you think about businesses that are selling through the roof, Allbirds, Skims, sure, you think about a great product, a cool brand, and brilliant marketing. But an often overlooked secret is actually the businesses behind the business making selling, and for the shoppers buying, simple. For millions of businesses, that business is Shopify.

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583.357 - 597.628 Advertisement Narrator

Nobody does selling better than Shopify, home of the number one checkout on the planet. And the not-so-secret secret, with ShopPay, that boosts conversions up to 50%, meaning way less carts going abandoned and way more sales going...

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598.769 - 623.215 Advertisement Narrator

So if you're into growing your business, your commerce platform better be ready to sell wherever your customers are scrolling or strolling on the web, in your store, in their feed, and everywhere in between. Businesses that sell more sell on Shopify. Upgrade your business and get the same checkout Skims uses. Sign up for your $1 per month trial period at shopify.com slash audioboom, all lowercase.

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623.695 - 631.353 Advertisement Narrator

Go to Shopify.com slash Audioboom to upgrade your selling today. Shopify.com slash Audioboom.

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And a lot of people don't want to see the truth of themselves, especially when it's that, when they're a weak piece of shit. They don't want to see that. You're going to become a walking invalidation as soon as you step into the power that you do have and the strength that you do have. So these are the type people who want you to stay weak or be blind to your own strength.

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because it makes them not have to face what they've decided is true for them. I have anxiety. I have to take antidepressants and I have to take all of these things because I have depression. I can't make myself go to the gym because of how I feel inside. And if you're saying that you feel those things too, no, going to the gym is abusive for us. You don't have to do that.

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The way that they set themselves off the hook and get pressure off of themselves when they see you able to withstand the pressure and still meet the goal. They don't like that. They can't face that. And that leads me to my next point where these people convince themselves that they're special. So with me, there's been periods of my life where I've had to just survive.

Chapter 5: How does societal pressure affect personal strength?

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anxiety and depression were the least of my worries. Yeah, I felt them. But my whole objective and what I had to do, the place I was forced to be in was survive. When you meet somebody whose biggest issue of the day is, oh my God, I just have so much anxiety. I have to go to the coffee shop. Oh my God. Like, I don't know. I'm scared. Yeah. We don't relate to that.

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If you've been through shit, you understand that level of anxiety is nothing crippling to you. That was the least of your worries. Going to get a goddamn coffee when you're trying to over here, survive when the system's failing you, when nobody's coming to save you, no one's coming to help you. You're going through some abusive shit, whatever it is, you're not going to be able to relate.

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So your anxiety that you feel is, Shit's on theirs, but they can't see that. They want to feel comfortable with allowing their anxiety and all of their issues to be justification for why they can't do something. They have to be special. Well, my anxiety is different. You just don't get it. What the fuck you been through, girl?

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You were going through a talking stage and somebody ghosted you and now you all traumatized about it. That's your biggest trauma you've been through? Right, okay. So somebody who's actually been through really hard things, it's gonna cause this giant like, Fight, basically. Because like I said, you've experienced real anxiety. They've experienced TikTok anxiety. They ain't real.

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They over here eating antidepressants for what you got to be depressed about. What are these people actually got issues with? And the whole thing with the autistic trend going on, and I'm going to call it a fucking trend because everybody's jumping on this trend trying to say that they're autistic. Why? Why? It's like people get off on diagnosing themselves with shit.

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And these people scream and yell and cause a fuss that you're crazy. You don't get it. You don't actually know what anxiety is just because you overcame it. And you dealt with struggles that didn't allow you to cripple and fall. You were forced to be resilient. And they don't understand that. And they're gonna have to demonize you. They're gonna have to be special.

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It's like when you use the example of Losing weight. You don't defy physics. You don't defy human biology. These people want some kind of secret trick or secret hack to it. When I say it's a fucking numbers game, They don't want to hear it. They don't want to accept it. It's a calories game. Calories in, calories out. What happens if you don't fucking eat? You lose weight.

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But for whatever reason, they can't accept that. They can't face reality and the truth. They've convinced themselves they're special. No, my anxiety is different. I have to take these antidepressants. No, my body is different. I can't lose weight. It's not just a numbers game for me.

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They like lock themselves in this perspective where they're special and they need some kind of like new secret way of doing shit. You don't defy basic biology and physics. If you want to lose weight, it's a fucking numbers game. But they can't accept that. People who actually like are based in reality and you've been checked, life hasn't allowed you to be delusional.

Chapter 6: What is the importance of discipline in overcoming challenges?

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Maybe I am helpless and powerless. They teach you to complicate shit. to make you weaker so they don't have to face the fact of how weak they actually are. It's a bad dynamic. So if you know the truth, you know the way that things are, you know how it is. What you over here questioning if you're weak for? Why you over here living life by their rules and their guidelines? Look at them.

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They can't even fucking take a shower, most of them. Please. Another thing that will make you start to question yourself is when people can't convince you that you're wrong. They attack your tone. It's the way you said it. You're insensitive. That's the whole pity thing. You want me to not tell you the truth or not be so animated about certain shit because that's the only arguing point you got.

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Like, that's the only point people have to fight is like, I don't like what you said, even though it's true. So what can I still attack the way you said it? Because I don't like it. You think I give a fuck how I say certain things? People don't have time to sit here and nitpick to everybody's feelings.

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And when I tried to do that, it ruined my relationship with myself and made me feel even more weak, where I had to attend to every single feeling of myself and everybody else. That shit does make you weak. When you are living in a world where nobody can handle the truth and just straight shot coming out of your mouth,

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It makes you feel weaker because you're constantly having to dial yourself back and overthink and hold yourself back and exhaust the fuck out of yourself to try and cater to everybody's feelings. If they can't handle it, they can't handle it. People don't want to watch me because I'm too harsh. I don't give a fuck. People don't want to watch me because I'm bow-headed. Valid.

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That had nothing to do with nothing. But people have all these criticisms about me. I'm this. I'm that. And they will discredit any good that I've done in this world. No, you're just the evil, bald piece of shit. Okay. To you, I'm not. But to everybody else who's living in reality on this side of the fence, they get it. So if you don't get it, shut the fuck up and go on.

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If you do get it, hang out with me.

1220.282 - 1240.346 Advertisement Narrator

And you think about businesses that are selling through the roof, Allbirds, Skims. Sure, you think about a great product, a cool brand, and brilliant marketing. But an often overlooked secret is actually the businesses behind the business making selling, and for the shoppers buying, simple. For millions of businesses, that business is Shopify.

1240.746 - 1255.014 Advertisement Narrator

Nobody does selling better than Shopify, home of the number one checkout on the planet. And the not-so-secret secret, with ShopPay, that boosts conversions up to 50%, meaning way less carts going abandoned and way more sales going...

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