Sawyer (Mel's daughter)

So first I'll talk about what I was doing wrong to keep us intertwined. And then I will tell you about what my therapist shared with me to start the unwinding process, which was painful, but very, very effective. So how I kept me and him intertwined in my mind was what I think a lot of us do these days, which is stalking them on Instagram constantly, posting photos of myself that...

So first I'll talk about what I was doing wrong to keep us intertwined. And then I will tell you about what my therapist shared with me to start the unwinding process, which was painful, but very, very effective. So how I kept me and him intertwined in my mind was what I think a lot of us do these days, which is stalking them on Instagram constantly, posting photos of myself that...

So first I'll talk about what I was doing wrong to keep us intertwined. And then I will tell you about what my therapist shared with me to start the unwinding process, which was painful, but very, very effective. So how I kept me and him intertwined in my mind was what I think a lot of us do these days, which is stalking them on Instagram constantly, posting photos of myself that...

with the goal of not, oh, I love this photo of myself, but more so, did he like it? Did he like it? Did he see it? Did he see it? And I think other ways are just thinking about him 24-7. And instead of doing a meditation or trying to switch the channel in my mind or go for a walk or distract myself...

with the goal of not, oh, I love this photo of myself, but more so, did he like it? Did he like it? Did he see it? Did he see it? And I think other ways are just thinking about him 24-7. And instead of doing a meditation or trying to switch the channel in my mind or go for a walk or distract myself...

with the goal of not, oh, I love this photo of myself, but more so, did he like it? Did he like it? Did he see it? Did he see it? And I think other ways are just thinking about him 24-7. And instead of doing a meditation or trying to switch the channel in my mind or go for a walk or distract myself...

I would just spiral in my mind and I would end up sobbing and it would just be, how can I make myself think about his future with other people that's not me? And it's true. It's like, how can I keep our...

I would just spiral in my mind and I would end up sobbing and it would just be, how can I make myself think about his future with other people that's not me? And it's true. It's like, how can I keep our...

I would just spiral in my mind and I would end up sobbing and it would just be, how can I make myself think about his future with other people that's not me? And it's true. It's like, how can I keep our...

relationship alive in my mind while it's not even existing other ways I did it were just constantly looking at old photos of us constantly looking at videos of us writing in my journal about him Obviously, again, that's helpful. It's processing. But to what extent?

relationship alive in my mind while it's not even existing other ways I did it were just constantly looking at old photos of us constantly looking at videos of us writing in my journal about him Obviously, again, that's helpful. It's processing. But to what extent?

relationship alive in my mind while it's not even existing other ways I did it were just constantly looking at old photos of us constantly looking at videos of us writing in my journal about him Obviously, again, that's helpful. It's processing. But to what extent?

Another way that I would keep us entwined in my mind and to not let go of this idea that our future is over is I would bring him up in conversation all the time. So let's say his name is Darren. I would always bring up, oh, me and Darren used to do that. Or, oh, Darren loves that. That's his favorite meal.

Another way that I would keep us entwined in my mind and to not let go of this idea that our future is over is I would bring him up in conversation all the time. So let's say his name is Darren. I would always bring up, oh, me and Darren used to do that. Or, oh, Darren loves that. That's his favorite meal.

Another way that I would keep us entwined in my mind and to not let go of this idea that our future is over is I would bring him up in conversation all the time. So let's say his name is Darren. I would always bring up, oh, me and Darren used to do that. Or, oh, Darren loves that. That's his favorite meal.

Or not necessarily even about our breakup, but just ways to bring him up as if we were still together when we were very much not. And or Darren's mom loves that or she used to get me that sweater. It was every little thing to try to keep him alive in my mind. And I was very aware of it, too. And no one ever brought it up with me or made me feel bad about it.

Or not necessarily even about our breakup, but just ways to bring him up as if we were still together when we were very much not. And or Darren's mom loves that or she used to get me that sweater. It was every little thing to try to keep him alive in my mind. And I was very aware of it, too. And no one ever brought it up with me or made me feel bad about it.

Or not necessarily even about our breakup, but just ways to bring him up as if we were still together when we were very much not. And or Darren's mom loves that or she used to get me that sweater. It was every little thing to try to keep him alive in my mind. And I was very aware of it, too. And no one ever brought it up with me or made me feel bad about it.

But I noticed it myself and realized this is not healthy and I need to stop. myself whenever I have a thought that rises. And instead of just blurting it out, I need to calm it down. I need to let him. I need to move forward.

But I noticed it myself and realized this is not healthy and I need to stop. myself whenever I have a thought that rises. And instead of just blurting it out, I need to calm it down. I need to let him. I need to move forward.