Jay Shetty

In five to 10 years, you'll want someone who when they're traveling, don't forget to call you because they want to make sure that you've checked in. But for the first three to six months, you kind of want someone who's giving you two things. You want someone who's giving you a feeling of excitement and a feeling of stress. Because that's ultimately what chemistry is, right?

In five to 10 years, you'll want someone who when they're traveling, don't forget to call you because they want to make sure that you've checked in. But for the first three to six months, you kind of want someone who's giving you two things. You want someone who's giving you a feeling of excitement and a feeling of stress. Because that's ultimately what chemistry is, right?

Will they give me their number? That's the stress. The excitement is, I got their number. The stress is... oh my God, what should I text them? The excitement is, oh my God, they just text me back. The stress is, oh my gosh, are they going to say yes to a second date? The excitement is, yes, they just said yes.

Will they give me their number? That's the stress. The excitement is, I got their number. The stress is... oh my God, what should I text them? The excitement is, oh my God, they just text me back. The stress is, oh my gosh, are they going to say yes to a second date? The excitement is, yes, they just said yes.

And so this kind of oscillating feeling of stress and excitement is what creates the spark, is what creates chemistry. Now, when you've been in a long-term relationship like you and Tom have, or slightly shorter than me and Radhi have had, now you don't get stress and excitement. most of it just becomes peace.

And so this kind of oscillating feeling of stress and excitement is what creates the spark, is what creates chemistry. Now, when you've been in a long-term relationship like you and Tom have, or slightly shorter than me and Radhi have had, now you don't get stress and excitement. most of it just becomes peace.

I don't need to stress whether Radhi's going to be at home tonight, because I know she's at home tonight. So the problem is we've got to make ourselves realize that what you want now and what's right for your future are not the same thing. And if you want to live in this bubble of excitement and stress, that's going to go anyway.

I don't need to stress whether Radhi's going to be at home tonight, because I know she's at home tonight. So the problem is we've got to make ourselves realize that what you want now and what's right for your future are not the same thing. And if you want to live in this bubble of excitement and stress, that's going to go anyway.

So why not find someone who doesn't give you stress, who doesn't bring you anxiety, who doesn't make you feel nervous, Now, I'm not saying you shouldn't feel excited to see that person, but there's a big difference between excitement and anxiety.

So why not find someone who doesn't give you stress, who doesn't bring you anxiety, who doesn't make you feel nervous, Now, I'm not saying you shouldn't feel excited to see that person, but there's a big difference between excitement and anxiety.

So this, again, a really, really interesting thing happened at this event. I found out in my teens that a lot of my guy friends had a technique they used. And their technique was to pick on women or notice something that was a flaw about them.

So this, again, a really, really interesting thing happened at this event. I found out in my teens that a lot of my guy friends had a technique they used. And their technique was to pick on women or notice something that was a flaw about them.

So every other guy would come up to you and be like, I really liked your shoes or you have a beautiful smile or I really like your eyes and they'd get looked over. And one guy would come up and he would say, there's something off about you today. I'm not sure the energy around you is just, I don't know, it feels like there's something, but I don't know, you're like holding back.

So every other guy would come up to you and be like, I really liked your shoes or you have a beautiful smile or I really like your eyes and they'd get looked over. And one guy would come up and he would say, there's something off about you today. I'm not sure the energy around you is just, I don't know, it feels like there's something, but I don't know, you're like holding back.

And all of a sudden that woman is spending the whole evening thinking about that guy. This happened to one of my team members a couple of months back and someone came up to her and said, that coat you're wearing today just feels like you're scared of opening up. And she was thinking about that guy the whole night.

And all of a sudden that woman is spending the whole evening thinking about that guy. This happened to one of my team members a couple of months back and someone came up to her and said, that coat you're wearing today just feels like you're scared of opening up. And she was thinking about that guy the whole night.

And there were other men who came and told her positive things and beautiful things and whatever, and she couldn't think about it. And so I think a lot of men have used that technique to get attention. And it sounds crazy, because when you hear it, it logically doesn't make sense.

And there were other men who came and told her positive things and beautiful things and whatever, and she couldn't think about it. And so I think a lot of men have used that technique to get attention. And it sounds crazy, because when you hear it, it logically doesn't make sense.

But when you think about it in the moment, you're like, yeah, of course that makes sense, because you feel they sense something about you. You feel they noticed your energy, but they didn't. They were just trying to find a way. And when you were six years old, that was pulling your hair. But this is the updated version that women experience today. And so we love that mystery.

But when you think about it in the moment, you're like, yeah, of course that makes sense, because you feel they sense something about you. You feel they noticed your energy, but they didn't. They were just trying to find a way. And when you were six years old, that was pulling your hair. But this is the updated version that women experience today. And so we love that mystery.