Jay Shetty

We love that feeling of like, oh, well, if he's being mean, that's just his way of flirting with me. But do you want someone who's mean when they flirt with you? Like, is that what you want? Is that how you want to feel? So I don't want someone who notices my weaknesses before they notice my greatness. And so I think it's a matter of priority, but it does come from childhood and it continues on.

We love that feeling of like, oh, well, if he's being mean, that's just his way of flirting with me. But do you want someone who's mean when they flirt with you? Like, is that what you want? Is that how you want to feel? So I don't want someone who notices my weaknesses before they notice my greatness. And so I think it's a matter of priority, but it does come from childhood and it continues on.

I think a big part of it is also we've never seen positive change. relationships mirrored for us. Like when did you grow up? If you could remember one positive relationship growing up, I don't think I saw that. And so people are mirroring what they saw on TV. They're mirroring what they saw at home. They're mirroring what they saw in magazines.

I think a big part of it is also we've never seen positive change. relationships mirrored for us. Like when did you grow up? If you could remember one positive relationship growing up, I don't think I saw that. And so people are mirroring what they saw on TV. They're mirroring what they saw at home. They're mirroring what they saw in magazines.

I mean, me as an Indian boy growing up in London, grew up, if you asked me who I was attracted to, I was attracted to blonde head women with blue eyes. But I'd never probably even met someone with blonde hair and blue eyes. But that's what I was told to fall in love with. That's what was marketed to me. And so I think we underestimate how much marketing has an impact on us.

I mean, me as an Indian boy growing up in London, grew up, if you asked me who I was attracted to, I was attracted to blonde head women with blue eyes. But I'd never probably even met someone with blonde hair and blue eyes. But that's what I was told to fall in love with. That's what was marketed to me. And so I think we underestimate how much marketing has an impact on us.

When I was going to propose to Radhi, I asked my brother-in-law how much I should spend on an engagement ring. And he said, you should spend about two to three months salary. I was like, okay. So I went and spent two to three months salary, and I'd spoken to a couple of other men who'd said the same thing. Thankfully, I didn't make a lot at that time, so it wasn't that much of a expense.

When I was going to propose to Radhi, I asked my brother-in-law how much I should spend on an engagement ring. And he said, you should spend about two to three months salary. I was like, okay. So I went and spent two to three months salary, and I'd spoken to a couple of other men who'd said the same thing. Thankfully, I didn't make a lot at that time, so it wasn't that much of a expense.

I bought the ring, proposed, obviously. Riley said, yes, we got married. Now, what's really interesting is years later, I looked into that, because I was like, how is that so specific? Two to three months seems like a really thought-through plan. And I spoke to a lot of other men who all concurred with me that they spent two to three months salary, no matter how much they made.

I bought the ring, proposed, obviously. Riley said, yes, we got married. Now, what's really interesting is years later, I looked into that, because I was like, how is that so specific? Two to three months seems like a really thought-through plan. And I spoke to a lot of other men who all concurred with me that they spent two to three months salary, no matter how much they made.

I started looking at it online. I found a De Beers commercial from the 1980s. I'm not kidding you. You can go and find it on YouTube.

I started looking at it online. I found a De Beers commercial from the 1980s. I'm not kidding you. You can go and find it on YouTube.

I went onto YouTube in the 1980s. There's a commercial. Which I remember it being like a silhouette of a man and a woman. And I'm not kidding you, at the end of the commercial, it says, what better way to spend two to three months salary?

I went onto YouTube in the 1980s. There's a commercial. Which I remember it being like a silhouette of a man and a woman. And I'm not kidding you, at the end of the commercial, it says, what better way to spend two to three months salary?

It literally says that. And I couldn't believe it. I was like, wow, we've all been brainwashed. That I proposed 25 years after that commercial came out. I've never even seen that commercial like before that. And I'm following this advice and so is everyone else. And I think it also comes from our hunter-gatherer days that you wanted someone who could protect you.

It literally says that. And I couldn't believe it. I was like, wow, we've all been brainwashed. That I proposed 25 years after that commercial came out. I've never even seen that commercial like before that. And I'm following this advice and so is everyone else. And I think it also comes from our hunter-gatherer days that you wanted someone who could protect you.

You wanted someone who could fight off the lions and the snakes. You wanted someone who could build a home from scratch. And today our modern day version, which makes no sense, our modern day version is, well, that's what a bad boy can do. A bad boy can protect me. A bad boy can do this. A bad boy can do that.

You wanted someone who could fight off the lions and the snakes. You wanted someone who could build a home from scratch. And today our modern day version, which makes no sense, our modern day version is, well, that's what a bad boy can do. A bad boy can protect me. A bad boy can do this. A bad boy can do that.

But that doesn't actually add up and it doesn't make sense because protection in modern day is very different to protection in ancient days.

But that doesn't actually add up and it doesn't make sense because protection in modern day is very different to protection in ancient days.