Jay Shetty

All you realize is that you start trusting your own voice inside. You start trusting your choice. Or you start realizing when you could have learned a little bit, when you could have got something better. There was something that was editable. And now you realize it's all doable. It's not life or death. So you've got to start with the small stuff.

All you realize is that you start trusting your own voice inside. You start trusting your choice. Or you start realizing when you could have learned a little bit, when you could have got something better. There was something that was editable. And now you realize it's all doable. It's not life or death. So you've got to start with the small stuff.

And the reason, Lisa, I say start with the small stuff is because that voice, that inner voice that you and me have has got so quiet. It's got so weak. That's what that inner child, that inner voice is like inside of us. You can barely hear it. So that's step one. Step two, like you said, now you realize it's actually your voice.

And the reason, Lisa, I say start with the small stuff is because that voice, that inner voice that you and me have has got so quiet. It's got so weak. That's what that inner child, that inner voice is like inside of us. You can barely hear it. So that's step one. Step two, like you said, now you realize it's actually your voice.

You're sitting there on your own and your voice says, I hate being alone. I hate being alone. I hate being alone. There's three things that are important when you hear the words, I hate being alone. The first is all the studies show that when we make a decision because we don't want to be alone, we pick the wrong person.

You're sitting there on your own and your voice says, I hate being alone. I hate being alone. I hate being alone. There's three things that are important when you hear the words, I hate being alone. The first is all the studies show that when we make a decision because we don't want to be alone, we pick the wrong person.

All the studies show we stay with the wrong person when we're scared of being alone. And thirdly, we settle for less than we deserve. We have to realize that the person you're going to pick when you're alone is almost guaranteed to be the wrong person. You're going to accept behavior you never would. You're going to settle for language you never would.

All the studies show we stay with the wrong person when we're scared of being alone. And thirdly, we settle for less than we deserve. We have to realize that the person you're going to pick when you're alone is almost guaranteed to be the wrong person. You're going to accept behavior you never would. You're going to settle for language you never would.

You're gonna accept actions that you never would because that's where your decision's being made. Now that's logic. But the voice I'm being alone is not logical. The voice I'm scared of being alone is emotional.

You're gonna accept actions that you never would because that's where your decision's being made. Now that's logic. But the voice I'm being alone is not logical. The voice I'm scared of being alone is emotional.

I think so many people today who are desperate and scared of being single don't realize that that pain of being single is far less than the pain of being in a relationship and wanting a divorce or a breakup. When you're in that position, you can't get out of it. It's a lot harder than the pain of, will I find someone?

I think so many people today who are desperate and scared of being single don't realize that that pain of being single is far less than the pain of being in a relationship and wanting a divorce or a breakup. When you're in that position, you can't get out of it. It's a lot harder than the pain of, will I find someone?

If you've got the courage, and I really believe everyone gets to this point in their life, you have to sit with yourself and ask yourself, why? Why am I scared of being alone? Where did that come from? Is it because everyone in my family always told me that marriage was the pinnacle of life? Is it because all of my friends are getting engaged and proposed to?

If you've got the courage, and I really believe everyone gets to this point in their life, you have to sit with yourself and ask yourself, why? Why am I scared of being alone? Where did that come from? Is it because everyone in my family always told me that marriage was the pinnacle of life? Is it because all of my friends are getting engaged and proposed to?

Is it because I grew up in a big family and I like being surrounded by people? Is it because I don't have someone to go to movies with or I don't have someone to go out to brunch with on the weekend? What is it? And then what you do is for each need that you think a partner is gonna solve, you find another person in your life who can solve it.

Is it because I grew up in a big family and I like being surrounded by people? Is it because I don't have someone to go to movies with or I don't have someone to go out to brunch with on the weekend? What is it? And then what you do is for each need that you think a partner is gonna solve, you find another person in your life who can solve it.

So make a list, brunch, watching movies, going out, vulnerable talk, whatever it is that you think a partner is going to provide, go and find one friend that solves it. And all of a sudden your life starts to feel full. All of a sudden you're not alone anymore. because you've found friendship, you've found connection, now you're in a position of peace. I'll give an example actually, Lisa.

So make a list, brunch, watching movies, going out, vulnerable talk, whatever it is that you think a partner is going to provide, go and find one friend that solves it. And all of a sudden your life starts to feel full. All of a sudden you're not alone anymore. because you've found friendship, you've found connection, now you're in a position of peace. I'll give an example actually, Lisa.

So I became Match.com's relationship advisor a year ago. And the goal was I wanted to create a platform where I could create my philosophy but make it practical. Anyway, the reason I say that is we did an event for 100 singles in LA just two, three weeks ago. Everyone came with open minds, it was really interesting.

So I became Match.com's relationship advisor a year ago. And the goal was I wanted to create a platform where I could create my philosophy but make it practical. Anyway, the reason I say that is we did an event for 100 singles in LA just two, three weeks ago. Everyone came with open minds, it was really interesting.