Jay Shetty

Yeah, you control it. You have the power. Like, don't live in a world where you're giving them power again.

Yeah, you control it. You have the power. Like, don't live in a world where you're giving them power again.

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Yeah. The first habit for self-worth, I'd say, is take on a daily or weekly challenge. Take on a challenge that you set yourself first. that you set the challenge, the limit, the time limit, how hard it is, the difficulty level, whether it's learning a new language, whether it's a new workout, whether it's a new sport, and your self-worth will grow every time you accomplish a new level.

Yeah. The first habit for self-worth, I'd say, is take on a daily or weekly challenge. Take on a challenge that you set yourself first. that you set the challenge, the limit, the time limit, how hard it is, the difficulty level, whether it's learning a new language, whether it's a new workout, whether it's a new sport, and your self-worth will grow every time you accomplish a new level.

Your self-worth grows when you do hard things, when you do uncomfortable things, when you do difficult things on your own and you see that you can do it. When you see yourself lifting that much more in the gym, when you see yourself feeling that much stronger, all of a sudden your self-worth grows because you get belief that I can do this, this is possible for me. Another way you grow self-worth

Your self-worth grows when you do hard things, when you do uncomfortable things, when you do difficult things on your own and you see that you can do it. When you see yourself lifting that much more in the gym, when you see yourself feeling that much stronger, all of a sudden your self-worth grows because you get belief that I can do this, this is possible for me. Another way you grow self-worth

is undoing and unwiring the trauma and the patterns that hold you back from the past. Now, what is a daily habit? How do you do that as a daily habit? What you want to do is find one thing that you repeat that your parents did that you don't love. Just find one thing. And what you want to do is you want to be conscious of that one trigger and how it shows up in your life. Every day.

is undoing and unwiring the trauma and the patterns that hold you back from the past. Now, what is a daily habit? How do you do that as a daily habit? What you want to do is find one thing that you repeat that your parents did that you don't love. Just find one thing. And what you want to do is you want to be conscious of that one trigger and how it shows up in your life. Every day.

You're not guilting yourself. You're not judging yourself. You're becoming aware of it so you can spot it and transform it. So for me, I'll give an example. I found that a lot of my early caregivers overloved me, but then guilted me for not overloving them back. So they gave me lots of love, But then if I didn't give them back the same level of love, they'd say, you don't love me.

You're not guilting yourself. You're not judging yourself. You're becoming aware of it so you can spot it and transform it. So for me, I'll give an example. I found that a lot of my early caregivers overloved me, but then guilted me for not overloving them back. So they gave me lots of love, But then if I didn't give them back the same level of love, they'd say, you don't love me.

And I found myself doing that to Radhi. I found myself doing that to my friends. I found myself doing that to people in my life. I'd over love them and then guilt them for not loving me. So I found one thing. And I realized that guilting my wife didn't make her love me more. It pushed her away. Guilting my wife made her feel that I didn't love her because I would treat her that way.

And I found myself doing that to Radhi. I found myself doing that to my friends. I found myself doing that to people in my life. I'd over love them and then guilt them for not loving me. So I found one thing. And I realized that guilting my wife didn't make her love me more. It pushed her away. Guilting my wife made her feel that I didn't love her because I would treat her that way.

And all I did for one year was I was aware of that every day. And every time I thought about guilting her, I would remind myself of how guilt didn't make me love that person more. It pushed me away. And so that technique that I'd subconsciously picked up was actually breaking what I wanted. It wasn't actually getting me where I wanted.

And all I did for one year was I was aware of that every day. And every time I thought about guilting her, I would remind myself of how guilt didn't make me love that person more. It pushed me away. And so that technique that I'd subconsciously picked up was actually breaking what I wanted. It wasn't actually getting me where I wanted.

So become aware of just one pattern, get into the details of it like that. The third habit for self-worth I'd say is Ask people that you love and trust what you're really good at and what they notice in you that they appreciate. Because you'll find that often they'll say things that you've never even thought of. Ask them, what do I do really, really well? What skill do I have?

So become aware of just one pattern, get into the details of it like that. The third habit for self-worth I'd say is Ask people that you love and trust what you're really good at and what they notice in you that they appreciate. Because you'll find that often they'll say things that you've never even thought of. Ask them, what do I do really, really well? What skill do I have?

What do you appreciate about me? What do you see about me? These are people you love and trust, so it's not an uncomfortable conversation to have. Just be like, I'm doing a self-worth exercise. I'm trying to learn more about myself.

What do you appreciate about me? What do you see about me? These are people you love and trust, so it's not an uncomfortable conversation to have. Just be like, I'm doing a self-worth exercise. I'm trying to learn more about myself.