Jay Shetty

You don't know in that moment. your gut's lying to you. It's just plain and simple. It's very unrealistic for anyone to know in the first month of dating whether someone is the one or one of the people they'll be with. Now that person may evolve into the one, but you can't truly guarantee you knew it in that moment.

You don't know in that moment. your gut's lying to you. It's just plain and simple. It's very unrealistic for anyone to know in the first month of dating whether someone is the one or one of the people they'll be with. Now that person may evolve into the one, but you can't truly guarantee you knew it in that moment.

You may say that in hindsight, and a lot of people will be like, and by the way, me and Radhi say that too. I felt like I knew that. By the way, when I met Radhi, I knew in the first week or the first couple of weeks that she was the one. I would have said that then. Now when I look back on that statement, I realize how crazy that was because I didn't even know what was expected of me.

You may say that in hindsight, and a lot of people will be like, and by the way, me and Radhi say that too. I felt like I knew that. By the way, when I met Radhi, I knew in the first week or the first couple of weeks that she was the one. I would have said that then. Now when I look back on that statement, I realize how crazy that was because I didn't even know what was expected of me.

What's been expected of me in the last 12 years has made me realize she's the one every day I could never have known that on our wedding day. And by the way, even if your intuition turns out to be right, that's beautiful. But let's not put that out there as advice. That's what I'm trying to get to. And so I always say to people that you'll fall in love with three people in your life.

What's been expected of me in the last 12 years has made me realize she's the one every day I could never have known that on our wedding day. And by the way, even if your intuition turns out to be right, that's beautiful. But let's not put that out there as advice. That's what I'm trying to get to. And so I always say to people that you'll fall in love with three people in your life.

The first is a firework. It lights up the sky. It's a big bang, but it fades very, very quickly. And we all fall in love with that person. There's a second person you'll fall in love with, which is the candle. It burns not as bright, it's a bit calmer. It burns longer, but you might even put it out yourself because it gets boring. And then the third person is the mirror.

The first is a firework. It lights up the sky. It's a big bang, but it fades very, very quickly. And we all fall in love with that person. There's a second person you'll fall in love with, which is the candle. It burns not as bright, it's a bit calmer. It burns longer, but you might even put it out yourself because it gets boring. And then the third person is the mirror.

And the mirror compassionately holds up to you a reflection of yourself, shows you all your flaws, your weaknesses. And the problem is a lot of us can't handle that. We think the mirror is broken because we don't want to see that. And so we push that away. And that's usually the one. The one's usually the person who can hold up the mirror to you in a compassionate and non-judgmental way.

And the mirror compassionately holds up to you a reflection of yourself, shows you all your flaws, your weaknesses. And the problem is a lot of us can't handle that. We think the mirror is broken because we don't want to see that. And so we push that away. And that's usually the one. The one's usually the person who can hold up the mirror to you in a compassionate and non-judgmental way.

So you'll have people who hold up the mirror to you, but they'll do it by going, look at who you are, don't you see it? That's not the one. You'll have people who hold up the mirror to you, but it's a broken mirror because they're just projecting their brokenness onto you, and that's not the one.

So you'll have people who hold up the mirror to you, but they'll do it by going, look at who you are, don't you see it? That's not the one. You'll have people who hold up the mirror to you, but it's a broken mirror because they're just projecting their brokenness onto you, and that's not the one.

The one is the person who compassionately, non-judgmentally, with love and empathetically holds up a mirror to you and allows you to hold up a mirror to them. And I don't believe that's one person that's out there. It's the person that you both do it for. It has to be a mutual thing.

The one is the person who compassionately, non-judgmentally, with love and empathetically holds up a mirror to you and allows you to hold up a mirror to them. And I don't believe that's one person that's out there. It's the person that you both do it for. It has to be a mutual thing.

And so I think we need to lose this idea of this destined, fated, perfect person, fully formed, fully created that exists and go, who's willing to work for me and who am I willing to work for? Who's willing to learn with me and who am I willing to learn for? Who's willing to grow for me and who am I willing to grow for? And you won't know that in the first month.

And so I think we need to lose this idea of this destined, fated, perfect person, fully formed, fully created that exists and go, who's willing to work for me and who am I willing to work for? Who's willing to learn with me and who am I willing to learn for? Who's willing to grow for me and who am I willing to grow for? And you won't know that in the first month.

You have no idea in the first month whether someone's willing to grow for you, whether someone's willing to learn for you, whether someone's willing to change for you. Go through the challenges, grow through the challenges, make mistakes, see how you respond and live through that. And so you know someone loves you not when you have a great first date, but when you have a great first fight.

You have no idea in the first month whether someone's willing to grow for you, whether someone's willing to learn for you, whether someone's willing to change for you. Go through the challenges, grow through the challenges, make mistakes, see how you respond and live through that. And so you know someone loves you not when you have a great first date, but when you have a great first fight.

You know someone loves you not when they surprise you on your birthday, but when they can deal with you having a surprising or challenging emotion. You know someone loves you not when you have an amazing vacation together, but when you figured out how to be okay when you didn't have one. That's how you learned that you loved each other.

You know someone loves you not when they surprise you on your birthday, but when they can deal with you having a surprising or challenging emotion. You know someone loves you not when you have an amazing vacation together, but when you figured out how to be okay when you didn't have one. That's how you learned that you loved each other.