Jay Shetty

It's still a together thing to solve, even if it's a one person to raise. This is the biggest thing. If you want this relationship to work, you've got to help your partner help themselves, help your relationship, and you help them. And I think the challenge we have is a lot of us feel like we're the only one doing it. And if you feel you're the only one doing it, there's two things you need to do.

It's still a together thing to solve, even if it's a one person to raise. This is the biggest thing. If you want this relationship to work, you've got to help your partner help themselves, help your relationship, and you help them. And I think the challenge we have is a lot of us feel like we're the only one doing it. And if you feel you're the only one doing it, there's two things you need to do.

The first thing you need to do is something I call a relationship audit, because this has helped me so many times. A lot of us think relationships are who makes the money, who takes care of the house. We look at it through two things. But relationships are physical, who's taking care of the house, the physical surroundings. Financial, who is making the money, taking care of the finances.

The first thing you need to do is something I call a relationship audit, because this has helped me so many times. A lot of us think relationships are who makes the money, who takes care of the house. We look at it through two things. But relationships are physical, who's taking care of the house, the physical surroundings. Financial, who is making the money, taking care of the finances.

It's mental. Who's setting the mindset of this relationship? It's emotional. Who's setting the nurturing of this relationship? And it's spiritual. Who's setting the fate or the spiritual direction of this relationship? Every time I've thought about it this way, I've realized me and Radhi are even leaders. And I think that gives me a sense of strength and confidence.

It's mental. Who's setting the mindset of this relationship? It's emotional. Who's setting the nurturing of this relationship? And it's spiritual. Who's setting the fate or the spiritual direction of this relationship? Every time I've thought about it this way, I've realized me and Radhi are even leaders. And I think that gives me a sense of strength and confidence.

If we only look at it through two things, which is what we do, finance and home, you might feel like you do everything. And it's really important to us for broadening the view. Now, if you look at it as those five metrics, and you're doing four out of the five, that person's complacent. It's just there. It's true. It's really, really, it's hard.

If we only look at it through two things, which is what we do, finance and home, you might feel like you do everything. And it's really important to us for broadening the view. Now, if you look at it as those five metrics, and you're doing four out of the five, that person's complacent. It's just there. It's true. It's really, really, it's hard.

And especially if you're dissatisfied, if you're satisfied, it's fine. I think we have to zoom out when you're feeling that way and really assess it because too many people will say, I do everything.

And especially if you're dissatisfied, if you're satisfied, it's fine. I think we have to zoom out when you're feeling that way and really assess it because too many people will say, I do everything.

So at the beginning of my relationship, I used to feel I did everything, not to realize that Radhi set the mental mood and the emotional heart of the whole relationship and physically takes care of everything. Like the fridge always has food in it. And I've never ordered anything in my entire life. And it's always stocked with the best goodies and everything else.

So at the beginning of my relationship, I used to feel I did everything, not to realize that Radhi set the mental mood and the emotional heart of the whole relationship and physically takes care of everything. Like the fridge always has food in it. And I've never ordered anything in my entire life. And it's always stocked with the best goodies and everything else.

And spiritually, Radhi runs the relationship. So actually, now I'm realizing she's doing four out of five.

And spiritually, Radhi runs the relationship. So actually, now I'm realizing she's doing four out of five.

It's the doing that we put emphasis on. Yeah. But what about the energy? Like, Radhi is like, wakes up and is doing a little dance in the kitchen. I come home tired and moping and moody and she's smiling and giving me a hug. We don't value those things. But those things are huge. But we don't value them because they don't show up on the spreadsheet. They don't show up in the bank balance.

It's the doing that we put emphasis on. Yeah. But what about the energy? Like, Radhi is like, wakes up and is doing a little dance in the kitchen. I come home tired and moping and moody and she's smiling and giving me a hug. We don't value those things. But those things are huge. But we don't value them because they don't show up on the spreadsheet. They don't show up in the bank balance.

So you don't value those things. And I think a lot of us think we overdo. But actually, if you looked at it on the actual spectrum of the five things I've just said, you'd realize we're actually pretty equal. So that's one thing. And the second thing I'd say is that if you do that exercise and then you really feel like you are the one doing everything, then it may be time to leave.

So you don't value those things. And I think a lot of us think we overdo. But actually, if you looked at it on the actual spectrum of the five things I've just said, you'd realize we're actually pretty equal. So that's one thing. And the second thing I'd say is that if you do that exercise and then you really feel like you are the one doing everything, then it may be time to leave.

It may be time to say, I'm not accepting this anymore. It may be time to say, I can't keep doing all of this anymore and I deserve better than this and that's okay too.

It may be time to say, I'm not accepting this anymore. It may be time to say, I can't keep doing all of this anymore and I deserve better than this and that's okay too.