Jay Shetty

Chances are they have followed through, but we're invalidating it. Now what are we arguing about? We're arguing about the mathematical accuracy of how often I've washed the dishes versus when I haven't, which was not the conversation. Now everyone's like, all right, tell me one. Come on, tell me one. Prove me one.

Chances are they have followed through, but we're invalidating it. Now what are we arguing about? We're arguing about the mathematical accuracy of how often I've washed the dishes versus when I haven't, which was not the conversation. Now everyone's like, all right, tell me one. Come on, tell me one. Prove me one.

And then they're like, yeah, I did it last Thursday and the Thursday before and the last Friday. Now we're arguing about mathematical accuracy. And I think the point is when we're having a disagreement, we're never really arguing about the disagreement. We're arguing about affection. We're arguing about power. We're arguing about attention, love, validation. That's what we're arguing about.

And then they're like, yeah, I did it last Thursday and the Thursday before and the last Friday. Now we're arguing about mathematical accuracy. And I think the point is when we're having a disagreement, we're never really arguing about the disagreement. We're arguing about affection. We're arguing about power. We're arguing about attention, love, validation. That's what we're arguing about.

But now we think we're arguing about the dishes. We think we're arguing about the birthday. That's not what we're arguing about. And so the more we can actually focus on what we're actually talking about, which is what we were just talking about. Let's talk about the transition. We're not arguing about whether you achieved your dreams and I didn't. We're talking about how does this change now?

But now we think we're arguing about the dishes. We think we're arguing about the birthday. That's not what we're arguing about. And so the more we can actually focus on what we're actually talking about, which is what we were just talking about. Let's talk about the transition. We're not arguing about whether you achieved your dreams and I didn't. We're talking about how does this change now?

And that's what we need to win for.

And that's what we need to win for.

Adjusting and abandoning.

Adjusting and abandoning.

Yeah.

Yeah.

The difference between love and lust is that lust is that excitement, exhilaration of connection. Love is how you handle disconnection. If there's only lust, then when there's an argument or a disagreement, you don't know how to get on the same page.

The difference between love and lust is that lust is that excitement, exhilaration of connection. Love is how you handle disconnection. If there's only lust, then when there's an argument or a disagreement, you don't know how to get on the same page.

That's why we call it makeup sex or breakup sex because you resort to an activity that's fueled by passion to solve a problem that can't be healed by it. Right, if you've had a disconnection or if you've had a problem or if there's a challenge and you don't like the way the person behaves with you, then there's no love because that's what you're looking for.

That's why we call it makeup sex or breakup sex because you resort to an activity that's fueled by passion to solve a problem that can't be healed by it. Right, if you've had a disconnection or if you've had a problem or if there's a challenge and you don't like the way the person behaves with you, then there's no love because that's what you're looking for.

You're looking for, can someone bring love to a place where there isn't any or where we're lacking it or where we've run out of it or where we've lost it? That's what love is. Love is something that exists within both of you and when you're disagreeing, you're distant. If there's love, you'll become closer through it. If there isn't love, you push yourselves away through it.

You're looking for, can someone bring love to a place where there isn't any or where we're lacking it or where we've run out of it or where we've lost it? That's what love is. Love is something that exists within both of you and when you're disagreeing, you're distant. If there's love, you'll become closer through it. If there isn't love, you push yourselves away through it.

So when I meet a new couple, I like to ask them, what was the last disagreement you have? And do you like the way your partner and you came to a conclusion or came to a solution? It's how we deal with the tough stuff that makes all the difference.

So when I meet a new couple, I like to ask them, what was the last disagreement you have? And do you like the way your partner and you came to a conclusion or came to a solution? It's how we deal with the tough stuff that makes all the difference.